Well, of course it doesn’t apply to every girl, but you see some of them use the weirdest excuse in saying “it’s like dating my brother”. What? You never see any other race say something that stupid. You don’t see Latinas say dating Latinos is like dating family.
Exactly especially white people! I saw Asian people confide in white people telling them how they don’t date their own because they’re not attracted and prefer blondes! While the white person looks uncomfortable because they can’t relate! I got second hand embarrassment witnessing that
"not every" is just a lazy excuse used to deny the overwhelmingly obvious statistical pattern. Because anything less than 100% is technically "not every", LMAO XDD
Asian men are rated the least preferred men to date whereas white men are at the top in the west. This whole “he looks like my brother” is a cop out Asian women uses to say they just don’t like Asian men. Imagine if white, black, or Hispanic women said that about their male counterpart. Big whoop. Asian men needs to also learn and exercise to date outside their culture like their female counterpart too despite the heavy stigma from their parents. Why restrict yourself to just one buffet when you have many buffet to choose from? At the end of the day, the biggest takeaway is to choose those who chooses you; don’t spend time on someone who’s not interested and don’t reciprocate.
I know someone who is black and doesn't date black women because they remind them of their mother. Smh sucks more because that person is my family member.
It's the go-to excuse for self-hating people of any race. It's an attempt to mask internalized racism, but it actually backfires because it suggests that they believe all people of a particular race look or act the same, simply because they belong to that race. Can you imagine a white person, in a non-dating context, telling an Asian person that they all look and act alike? That would be the very definition of racism.
The reason why there's such a discrepancy between how an Asian girl being with a non-Asian man vs. an Asian man being with a non-Asian woman are treated is because it's much more difficult for an Asian guy to date interracially which is why it's deemed "impressive" whereas it's relatively easy for an Asian chick. Asian men already have it hard enough as it is in terms of how they stack up to men of other races. When the odds are so stacked against us already, being an outlier to that trend is praised.
I never got the double standards. When white women prefer non white men it's seen as fine and in fact preferable. When a non white women prefers white men it's seen as internalized racism and some kind of problem. It almost seems like white men are not supposed to date anyone but each other. The only white male relationships social media seems to like and support is two gay white dudes together.
yes the leftover white (should be incels that are naturally selected out of the white girls dating pool) with the asian girl cause he couldn't get himself a avg skinny white girl
@@MrPurge11 I fully agree. I’m saying the propaganda would make you think it’s black man white woman. That’s what pops to most people’s mind when they hear IR dating
Maaan stop the bs. Most Asian women are with Asian guys. Same with black men and white women. Stop spreading nonsense. Asian guys are holding their own out here.
The lamest shit is that there are people who say some feel good stuff like "love shouldn't be confined to race" and "anyone can date anyone" but they turn around and have a hard time empathizing with people (mostly guys) who prefer to date within or adjacent to their race and have a hard time finding a partner. Like you want to seem so morally outstanding to believe in free love but you look down on people who can't find love? okay lol.
@@MrPurge11 Is "I like the way people of my own race look the best" a lame or shallow reason? I'm kinda at a loss for what reason would be considered bad.
@@3ndeavor Yeah, that can be a lame reason if you only value the person because of their looks or race, there must be more to love than just looks alone. I think if you are comparing against other races and think our race is best because they look better then you are sliding into idealism similar to what the nazi's used to think. Not saying people are like nazis, but we need to becareful.
@@MrPurge11 people can definitely take it too far, but aren't you just essentially describing preference? I don't think the overwhelming majority people will ever marry for one reason alone.
@@3ndeavor I dont know. We all have preconceived ideas about others. People also do have lazy assumptions about other races, so it is not too far from the truth. Racism and discrimination are still quite widespread. It is not helped by people judging others via biased media, judging others by history and misunderstandings. I think marriage is a different matter, but many a good relationship was missed because people judge more than try understand someone.
Tough times show who is with whom. When tough times came Asian (non Indians) became pimps and their women started going to whites while most Indian women didn’t. You can’t go to india and duck little kids like whites do in Thailand. I know you will feel sad reading this but this is the reality . Culture is everything and Indian cultures ensures that girls don’t leave you in tough times, Why else india through buddhism dominated Asia not the other way around. Proud to be Indian.
I am Asian girl and I would date a TRADITIONAL man who will be a good husband and a father,also able to provide. I don't care about his race, he MUST be traditonal, respectful and caring man.
Sure. But in Asia, we have to deal with all these weird, creepy men who are obsessed with "Asian culture" (which is code for Asian women). Many are sex tourists. A large % like how young Asians look - leading to a serious problem with underage girls. Another problem is they think are superior and that gives them the right to behave badly here.
More Asian men need to be in the media and in movies playing star roles so the world can see that Asian men are spectacular and full of so much charisma. I blame the media for downplaying Asian men and portraying them as just smart nerds or without personalities. Asian men are a blessed gift to the world.❤️
Exactly. Asian women will pick the most ugly, serial killer looking, out of shape white guy over Hispanics and blacks just because hes white. Its extremely weird and speaks to brainwashing.
I live in NYC and have NEVER SEEN an Asian Woman with a Black or Hispanic man. Shit I hardly see them with Asian Men. Though I see them with White Guys most of the time.
@doomvictor3934 depends where you live. Plenty of Asian women are with Black and Mexican dudes on California and Texas. Many Asians are generally brought up to worship white people.
A lot of black guys ain’t really like Asian wemen, they like Hispanic of white chicks. But you still see more blacks with asains than with their own men. It’s sad tbh. Usually 70% of all race are tribal and will prefer their own but not asain wemen.
Hello from Northern Japan! I'm Japanese-Chinese mix, born in the Philippines and grew up in NJ. I'm in Japan for work reasons. I'm single. I never grew up in "the Asian bubble." Maybe it's partly of my interests (martial arts, crossfit/fitness, Dungeons & Dragons, heavy metal and Goth music) and growing up in a white area. Yes....I had problems in dating. Then I started working on myself. I traveled (due to military deployments and fun). This is what I found.....Asian with Asian dating is dominant in the West Coast compared to the East Coast and Europe. BTW... I met many Eastern Euro women like Asian dudes FYI when I was in Germany. My first Asian date was after moving to Japan. These are my experiences.
It's reality that Asian men are at the bottom of males in the dating marketplace. Asian women are near the top, if not #1. A whole lot of dynamics come from this. As an Asian man, you need to use your advantages to level up. Yes, you have advantages. Smarter, better family structure,. You're RARE if you're a masculine, competent, successful, Asian male. Do the work.
no asian women are 3rd or 4th they are behind white women, hispanics (white passing), middle eastern and then asian girls lol. They are #1 for being the most easiest for white men lol. White, hispanics (mix with white) and middle easterns all have better skull shape then your typical flat wide face no eye brows flat nose and chinky eye asian girl. Asian girls are more #1 in desired but just #1 in most easy for non asian men. #1 will always be white women who are most desired and also most picky
@@MrPurge11 it’s usually that they are perceived as EASIER compared to white women. You have to remember that these dating statistics are really about what white men and white women prefer since they form the majority. On a dating app (hook up) context, white men know Asian women will be easier for them
@@MrPurge11 simple imo. White women are also white, so that doesn’t hold value to them the way it does to non-white women. Meanwhile, Asian women are from a culture that worships white skin + European features to a different level.
Ironic, because Alabama is one of the most racist places on earth..but bigot white men are fine dating other races as long as they are only ones doing it
Yes, fetishization, at first it can be a GOOD thing, then suddenly after a while, it becomes a curse. It is best to be loved for what you stand for, rather than what you look like alone.
@@MrPurge11 There was a video about asian men being fetishize during the kpop boom and boy did the asian women hated that and were up and arms on telling women that its wrong to fetishize. I'm kicking myself for not saving that video.
He does have a point, usually parents are not fond of those dating on the darker side. I guess older generations hold horrible beliefs, but glad to hear that you are happy.
I'm 39 and in my years of living Asian women with white men have always been a thing but even I got a bit surprised by that statistic. Asian women are so attached to the hip of white men that it can't even be considered "interracial dating/marriage" anymore.
it is very true that asian guys get more praise. as a disclaimer, im an adopted asian so i didn't grow up in any asian circles or even know any asian people let alone think about this topic. a guy literally told my bf he was going to high five him because he thought i was white. (he saw my white adopted name) in front of his own asian fiance. anyone who says asian girls get more praise is capping hard. they DO get some praise, but often its overshadowed by the vitriol. BUT what these asian girls don't ever bring up is how colonialism inherently changed the dynamics between white men and asian women. and if they do bring it up, they often either dismiss it or are even PROUD to engage in it. so honestly, they deserve some of that vitriol. its because of this history and these asian women that i can't walk around with my own dad without someone assuming im his mail order bride. so i sympathize with the anger. also none of their excuses make any sense. you grew up in a PWC? so did i. but i didn't use that to justify a legacy of self hatred and white worship and demonization of asian masculinity. they remind you of your brother? well, for me he could ACTUALLy be my brother but am i going to dismiss all asian men because of the possibility i found a long lost brother who has the same dna?????? no. i am literally more whitewashed than all these asian women just by having white parents and yet i still date asian guys. no matter how many logical hoops they try to jump through to justify their self hatred, they are still pathetic.
For Asian men especially born in the U.S., you should date outside your race, and with Asian women they'll lower the bar for white guys and black guys, but for Asian men, the Asian women jack the bar so high, you have to be like a doctor/lawyer, make a certain amount of money, and then maybe they will date within their race. So if they are going to play that game, more Asian men should not date Asian women and should date outside their race. The Asian women started that trend so why not? Now we don't have the media as a guide for this, you don't see any Asian men dating western women in film and you can forget seeing Asian men and white women in mainstream porn because that industry is so racist to Asian men that genre doesn't exist. Why should only Asian women get the exclusivity of dating outside their race? And you know, even if you date a Asian women, the chances of her cheating on a Asian guy for a white guy is just too high. So if there's even a chance of cheating, then just date a western woman, at least it won't be a surprise. And also it's pretty f*ed up that there's institutionalized racism with universities and affirmative action. So if a Asian women marries a American guy, she gets his last name and the kids don't get blocked by their choice colleges, but if a Asian woman marries within her race and the kids have the Asian last name, then they're going to have a harder time because of the affirmative action. So this is a injustice to the Asian men in America who can't date anyone because they don't want that last name and the kids having to score higher just to get into school.
Another topic should be "why do introvert white men prefer asian women" , Asian girls have less of an attitude than other girls usually. they are more approachable. Maybe Asian women from foreign countries see white men as more aggressive and romantic and White men are attracted to asian women because they are less problematic
I asked an Asian Girl why they prefer White Guys and her answer was that in her Country The Media Promotes them as Successful. Like the Original "Magnum P.I." Series Vs. "Menace to Society" Mentality. It's Not necessarily their Fault but the Media. Many immigrants Come to this Country for a Better Life not Drugs, Violence and Poverty!
@@MerkySnick Culture is generally more creative like the arts and humanities, custom, tradition. Masters of Business are not unique to europe they therefore not part of any culture its universal like mathamatics, and given our numeric system is hindu- arabic commerce underpinned by financial structure could be seen as more eastern than european. Laugh however your a tad ignorant of few facts.
Every race mostly dates within their race. However Asian girls/white guys is probably the number 1 mixed rate combo (or White guys/Mexican girls possibly in USA). People never notice same race couples, the diff race couples stand out. Hence that's why you get the stereotype. If you look at actual stats though. Asians girls overwhelmingly date.. Asian guys.
Might be the most accurate statement ever even tho I have never seen a white guy with a Mexican girl but I always see a white guy with Asian girl & black guy with white girl
Honestly this isn't exclusive to the Asian community. It's all over. Women prefer white dudes, and they don't have to b all that. Thanks to great marketing/propaganda. The fact that this is a repeated topic is evident of a collective recognized pattern.
@@fgcpeak9591 Despite their legacy of obtaining generational wealth via theft, oppression, colonization, establishing institutional racism, and even dropping an Atom bomb on innocents in Hiroshima and Nagasaki, it's clear that money talks and bullshit walks.
Single and Filipino and have primarily date Asian women. Grew up in a hella white city and had lots of influence from black culture from neighboring towns and media and friends. Yes, I heard the whole “I don’t date Asians cause they look like my family”. Also heard the tiny pp stereotypes a lot. Did it affect me growing up, yes. It definitely made me feel a type of way, but after a while you really just gotta get over it. All it ever did to me was warp my perception of half of my own people, some of my friends and even family. It even affected my own confidence in myself and made me see myself as undesired by Asian women. I got scared to make the first move and approach an attractive Asian woman because of this. But over time you really gotta get over the stereotypes. The stereotypes on Asian men and the stereotypes we as Asian men place on Asian women. Literally that shit essentially turned me into an incel, and what’s worse than being alone? Being a fucking incel. We gotta be the change. It can be tough, but hey, in the end it’ll just make us stronger. Like Joe said, its a numbers game. We are severely outnumbered in most areas of America. Plus we gotta initiate, that’s just how our society operates.
I dont know, you cant just put the Asian mans emancipation down to being an incel, it is much bigger than that. You have a history of persecution, poor media representation, racism, bigotry and to top it all off you get some Asian women mouthing off against their own brothers. Some girls even show off their white boyfriends as if they have made the big time. In the end asian men just get put off by it all and go do something creative or make money. Why should Asian men or men of colour be labelled incels from that?
I almost commiited suicide lol. Is not even funny. I hate white people so much and you can't blame me for that because it was white men who created this negative stereotype about asian men being the loser. I have the right to hate. We will see how bad my depression go, hopefully I don't shoot up schools.
Its not your fault that women act super judgemental and picky but get pissed at men for doing the same thing. So I don't think you are in the wrong man for expecting women to not be hypocritical. I'm a white guy and I think the whole situation is fucked, women who discriminate against their own race are fucked.
We are Brain washed by Social Engineering. Asian men get your Ph.D's and join the CCP as the problem is without China then there is no Asia or Asian men. The CCP Counter Balances the Imperial Gaze and the brainwashing. A WAR maybe the only way to change this. As the US Government promotes it and so too does the White controlled media. Japanese people are disappearing as the US Controls trade in Asia and the Japanese Educational System in secret. To win we may need to throw our efforts to counter balance the Western Hegemonic Imperial Gaze or Social Engineered Processes against all Asian men. Remember IF there is NO China then there is NO Asia. Western Colonialism has not stopped! It just changed its shape in the Invasion of Asia! Ask yourself this? Why are there no Chinese Military Bases around the USA? Why are there bases around all th Asian Countries? Because they want to take our land and resources. Those resources include the Asian Women! As in all battles from all civilizations they take the women! FIGHT! Quit complaining and FIGHT! Step up and work out but do not think that joiniung the US Military will make you American. My cousin has a Silver Star and was a US Marine. Francis B. Lai held the US Medal of Honor from WWII. Did it matter? NO! We are being emasculated and IF China loses then we will lose as well. They may be Authoritarian but they are the Counter Balance to our own suvival. As these White men on here make racist comments and take American born Asian Women then you should understand what happened to American born Japanese too. The women married the gaijin and the Japoanese males all died alone! Is this what YOU want as Asian men? I do NOT think China is our total enemy as Asians. The real enemy is the white guy who says you are American and then stabs you in the back!
I believe it's the the demographic of Asians in the US vs the demographic of white in Asia. Asians that are born in the US tends to date white person because you see more white. On the other hand, white that are born in Asia tends to date Asian more often than white.
even in Asian, the most common mixed couples are Asian women with white men. white women even in Asian don't date Asian men that much because if the white fetish Asian men have for white women. Asian men in Korea always say they love Eastern European women. basically Russian ans Ukrainian women. blonde hair and blue eyes fetish.
In my experience asians in phillipines or thailand date caucasians more than say asian women would in Australia whom actually mix less, in white social cliques.
I'm half Chinese, half Black so always very interested mixed couples. In my part of California, all the Asian women I know(Chinese, Koreans, Indians) are married to White guys. Many of them have sisters, all married to White guys. At parties it's a bunch of Asian ladies and a horde of their White privileged guys being fawned over. In fact they even joke about it among each other, how they took an oath to marry a White guy. Not to mention the Asian women White guy couples i see in the street. I have seen one Chinese lady Black guy couple over the last 10 years(yes my Black/Chinese radar is finely tuned and always on) and less than 5 Asian women, non-White man couples. My male Chinese cousins are dating other Asian ladies, but it seems to be the exception to the rule. From observation White men are the goal for Asian women. After all, it's not as if the spouses of Asian women are a mix of different non-Asian races. They're almost exclusively White men. So it's not a matter of just marrying outside of their race, which is great, i'm the product of that and i'm married to a mixed race lady. But White men are specifically cherished.
Bingo. It's very apparent to me even as a black guy. Many East Asian women pedestalize white men, I feel for my East Asian brethren. But I still say, it seems Indian women are fiercely loyal to Indian men, which is good to see
I find it wholesome. I'm glad asian women like us. They truly are the most beautiful and just easiest to talk to IMHO along with black women but black women white men has a huge complication. Anyway why u hate it?? I think it's good for the country.
@@michael43567 they are. It's east asian that are into white guys. Even in my experience I've met many of them and there's always a general attraction that's unspoken but it seems same with black men and white women. I hardly ever see white on white couples any more
Would that not be worse? It would look like anyone could get the asian females except the asians themselves🤐I have seen very few cases of asian girls with negros, indians, arabs and other no white and my reaction was always: What? Why? What´s the point? It just does not make sense because i just can´t see what they are getting from that other than trouble. Even though its exceptional cases it still is bothering because it should not exist. If they are dating outside asians then it should be for something better and in those cases it simply is not.
@@anticommyalwaysbarker82 I got interested in asian females as pre adolescent and it had nothing to do with white woman not liking me or anything since i was kid. It was like back in 84 probably when in the room of older cousin i found a Playboy magazine that had the playmates of playboy from all the playboy magazines around the world. Most were beautiful blond and brunet woman but in the middle was this asian woman with this amazing hair that literally covered her and she had this exotic facial features that were totally outside of what i was used too. It said there that she was from Hawaii and that triggered immediately my interest in the pacific and island and the years following i would try to read about as much as i could and this long before the internet was even thought of. A few pages ahead there another picture of another asian woman this time from japan and she had the same features but a little different and this case short hair but beautiful anyway and something really intriguing and rare that would only see one time many years later on another asian woman and that was inverted nipples😃A very rare thing to find. I was so fascinated with that that i said: i can´t leave this pictures here i will probably never see them again since my cousin would not allow. I ended up ripping the pages and it took a few weeks for him to find out and get really pissed😆 Well that´s where it all began and over the years many other episodes reinforced that. As for african woman always hear that they were hornier and so on but in my experience i never saw that, even in porn most of them are pretty lousy. The only african/latina that ever lived to that standard was a old pornstar from the 80´s called vanessa del rio which i remember looking and waiting for many years for another one to show up but it never happened. Also i agree that relations with black woman are o problematic in so many levels because of the baggage they have that it is not worth the trouble.
30:37 - 30:50 Pretty much sums up the mentality Asian men should have. If Asian women are exogamic, then the only solution is for us to be just as exogamic as them. That way it all balances out.
How does the white community view this white male asian female pairing, if you don’t mind me asking? Surely white women and men have some thoughts about Asian women trying to enter your community and gene pool.
As a Hispanic male, it would be cool to see more asian women give black/hispanic men a chance. I feel that Asian families would see dating latino/black men as dating down. Some of the most attractive girls I have met in my life were Asian. I have asked out 4 Asian girls in my life and have struck out every time (0-4). I still think I can pull it off, but I do admit my losing record with asking out Asian women have made me less willing to mingle with them.
As pointed out by the comment, the online survey you brought up in the beginning of the video is self-reported. Qualitative rather than quantitative. Sources such as government marriage record or Census data are usually cited for these studies. I believe that survey like these are what brings out the bitterness in men. The inconsistency bring to light the fact that people may say one thing but act completely different in real life. In fact if you were to look at the official data, the numbers are essentially flip-flopped from the self-reported claims. People complain because they are told one thing but experience the opposite. Overall, I agree it's not good to focus on the negativity. But rather channel the frustration into positive actions in self-improvement. That said, our actions should be based on observable reality. It's important to know why it's easy to go into negative spiral since that would be guaranteed failure. As men we need to know how to overcome these limitation and develop our unique advantage, since it is inevitable that we must compete with other men.
It’s true some of the time but not all of the time and their is white women who only like Asian men and Asian men who only like black or white or Hispanic women . Everyone can date anyone .
@@hette457 Actually, statistically, white women go for white men, but white men do go after Asian women. Only black woman go for black men. Black men also go for Asian women, but Asian women don't like black men at all. See "The uncomfortable racial preferences revealed by online dating" and "Study reveals just how much Black people are penalized on dating apps".
That poll is cap… lumping all Asian Americans together is already skewed. Chinese/ Korean/ Taiwanese/ Japanese Asians have way different cultures/ values/ expectations than Thai/ Cambodian/ Vietnamese/ Filipino Asians.
but the dating market lumps all asians together, as the lowest in the dating pole. are there some good looking asian guys that pull chicks? absolutely, but its like 0.5 percent The avg asian guy is screwed.
After you dated a bunch of Asian American women, you have a sixth sense of whether or not they are a Twinkie. Someone who is yellow on the outside but is really white on the inside and it's that inside they are trying to find a match with. I know some Asian women are so embarrassed of their culture they don't even speak their native language, and they see every Asian man as their "cousin" aka "friendzoned."
Some Asian women prefer non-Asian men for various reasons. 1) Cultural differences. In western culture women traditionally have had more say in what goes on. In some Asian cultures the man is in charge and contradicting them would make them “lose face”. 2) Physical size/looks. I’ve spoken to many Asian women that prefer “white guys” because of their height, skin color, nose, etc… They want lighter skinned babies with western features such as height and nose. 3) Social status. In Asia if you have a foreign husband/boyfriend they are seen as some sort of prize. I’ve gone to the Philippines a few times with my Filipina girlfriend. I’m 1/2 Filipino and 1/2 white. I’m really a big deal in her old hometown. 4) Economics. The wealthier guy usually has access to more girls. Yes there are some extremely wealthy Asian guys, but out of 4 billion or so Asians how many are as wealthy as the average westerner?
Its also influenced by population numbers, like most of the population is white. Also whether you believe in yellow fever or not, the historical part of america fetishizing asian women and negative propanganda of asian males is a part of american history. Also not just pointing the finger at america but even in asian cultures we sometimes see white features as good. One example is paler skin being seen as more pretty, and there are many more. So the cutural cognitive perception of both sides make this a very deep and complex issue. Not all but an increased amount of asian american women have internalized racism and issues compared to other females in other minority groups. There is a very informative report in the national library of medicine showing how some asian american women have internalized racism and its strong enough to effect mental health. Personally in my life there are a few interracial asian women relationships that are clearly built on truly loving each other. Which is a good thing. White guys and asian girls should be allowed to date. The problem with the whole wmaf is the fact that its influenced consciously or unconsciously by values that are seen as stereotypical and/or racist from both parties. At the end of the day it is what it is, and until a majority change happens in all groups collective beliefs and actions, this will still be an issue.
It’s not just Asian American women, it’s all groups of non white women. The difference is just that the Asian women can exploit it easier since they are white mens second choice
@@themarathoncontinues4211 u are disgrace because i hope u are NOT Asian. If u are….its self explanatory why u end up on this video or single. Cuz u r how u speak as Character. How u talk is NOT hot, if u are white, Asian whatever. Good luck in finding yr Stacy. Fingers crossed.
They don't have internalized racism. How so? When there are Asian women with good careers. Majority of these white and Asian mixed races occurred because these Asian women work in a corporate world and basically bang the highest salary white male. Also, Asian women tend to work in industry where white males who were nerds had a fetish for Asian women and so end up marrying Asian coworkers. However, Asian males in the same company would be rejected by other Asian women because these women want their white knight to move up.
It's just never been bad for me if I see an Asian guy with a European woman or something - who cares anymore? My wife is Japanese and you can believe me that the stories that some people tell are even worse because I'm a German guy. This whole race thing was never really a problem. I got together with this woman because of behavior and shared interests. People have to finally start to understand that the internet and the media are full of propaganda and that the actual population doesn't really think badly of others but of course this kind of thing continues to be pushed.
I really appreciate your well rounded thoughts Joe! And I agree with you that while I hear from a lot of my older Asian ladies that I shouldn't marry within the culture bc the guys can be very controlling, I also say that 1. the way the older generations mindsets are, are different from younger generations, and 2. each culture has its fair crop of overly controlling people 😬😬 that being said, I am an Asian woman who is attracted to Asian men, but have had much more success with men from non-Asian backgrounds. I'm also a plus sized women, so my experience is that Asian men ignore me more often than non-Asian men. Thanks for the discussion Joe!
I think it's hypocritical and ironic, that when a Asian women who meets the Asian parents of her boyfriend, she gets the expectation of being a good housewife doing the homemaking, cooking, etc, and that triggers her so deeply enough, her brainwashed feminist core, that she breaks up the relationship with a Asian man, but then will happily be a dutiful housewife for a white guy, as soon as the baby comes out, she wants to just quit working and just be a homemaker, just as the Asian parents of her Asian exboyfriend had wanted for her, and she is doing it for the white men. How can you not see that as racist on the Asian woman part? She ended up doing the one thing that she ran away from in that the only variable that changed was she is now with a white or black guy. This kind of shit should be called out because why wasn't she willing to be a homemaker for the Asian guy? I don't know what Asian men did to deserve this blanket racism from their women. But that shit is not cool. Imagine growing up in America, and being one of the smallest race, less than 6%, and like half that population is racist towards their men, and then they act all surprised that they are incels or something, that's just pure gaslighting. But the jokes on them, they are missing out on the majority of the economically attractive single men in America today! Sucks to be you. Hope they Enjoy their dinners at McD's with their white husband who is definitely got a side piece they don't know about, they could've had Asian guys take them to Nobu in expensive cars.
You just added black guys but Asian women don't go for black guys often unless the Asian woman is really ghetto, or the black guy is really smart/geeky and into academics.
@@ChocolateFlavor2112 To be fair to Asian men, your mother definitely loves you more than your wife. In that sense, a man's mother is more valuable. Other women "love" conditionally. Lose your status/wealth or hit a rough patch for too long... Gone.
It’s not about that. It’s about the reality behind it. The reality is that these Asian women are classist, colorist and racist. They view dark skin or skin of color to be low class and inferior. They believe fair skin is attractive and superior. No one cares what ethnicity someone chooses or is with, but if the reasoning behind it is demeaning then yeah, we’re gonna speak up
I live in Bangladesh, a small country in the Indian subcontinent. We don't have practiclally any diversity here. Everyone is pretty much an Indian descent. So, the concept of interracial relations or marriages ispretty much non-existent here. From a daing and relationship perspective, you're not going to find many schools of thoughts. I'll not state percentages but the majority has the same perspective on dating. You pretty much can't do it publicly, unless you're over 25 and have reached a stable phase of life. SEX? forget it before marriage. You can't hold hands in public without a bunch of random people staring at you. As for women, the majority are conditioned by their mother/other female figures in the family who have been following the traditional gender norms. They were conditioned by their mothers. And my generation is conditioned by their mothers. The role is to study hard (often outperforming men in terms of grades), get married by the age of 24 maximum, and start your famiy, usually as a housewife. Of course, there are communities who don't follow this tradition blindly. They do live freely and in their own terms. But statistically, that demographic mostly belongs to the top 5% wealthiest people in the country, who all happen to be living in the capital City, Dhaka. Their dating and our dating are completely different. For me personally, I'v withdrawn from getting into relationships. I've always been very influenced by wester culture. I've been watching this channel and JK for almost 9 years. So, my perspective on dating doesn't match with any communities that I have reach to. And I'm not okay with accepting things I don't relate to, just because I need love in my life. Yeah it gets cold at times, but I prefer inner peace, as long as I'm living here. If I can manage to move out to country where the mass is more liberal, it's a different story.
I disagree with what you wrote.... I know many bangladeshis and in many parts such as chittagong, cox bazarr many of them look and have burmese and or sino-tibetan blood and alot of people in that region of Bangladesh do actually look chinese but with darker skin. You are correct that Bangladesh ethnically are basically indians. However, Bangladesh has plenty of diversity because people come in all shades, colors, and different looks. I have traveled to Bangladesh and livedthere for 6 months!
@@tropicalbeach9225 yes the people you're talking about are Burmese. Not sure if you've heard of the Rohingya influx few years ago. Over 800,000 people of that descent live in Cox's Bazar and Chittagong. Also yes, it's part of the Indian ethnicity game to be of all different shades, colours, heights, and whatnot. Talk about all the colonies we've been part of in the last 300-400 years. If you're going by looks only, India/Bangladesh is one fo the most diverse places on earth. thanks for your commnent though.
White men have more money, so you will see more of white men, non-white women relations in general, cause a lot of them could be having more than one woman in general.
Indian men in the US out earn white men by a significant margin. Why arent Indian dudes dominating the dating game? Its because of JustBeWhite. White priveledge exists JBW is the strongest proof of that. There is a 400lb youtuber who is very broke and he said he has one night stands with over 400 girls in Asia, he credits him being white as one of the reasons.
@@wilkesmcdermid7906 Yeah, but it helps a bit if you have money. Its also about resources as well. I do admit though it is foolish to find love if they only want your money or status. Its not really love at the end of the day.
Joe, good video and insights. See I dont have a problem with Asian women wanting to date or marry white men; afterall, I am mixed half white/half asian ( but I look more Asian). I agree that people should be able to date or marry and mix with whoever they want, but here is the problem... The issue that I have with Asian women dating and marrying white men is that most of the time; these white men are bottom of the barrel or low class types. There is an imbalance and inequality in the relationship. I remember back in the days, I knew and saw many asian women who were beautiful, rich, attractive, and educated; who would end up dating white men who were uneducated, lower class, criminals, bums, unattractive and or average looking at best. I'm not trying to sound classist, but if a rich asian woman wants to date or marry a rich white man ( then I have no problem with it). If a asian woman doctor wants to marry a white doctor, then I have no problem with it. However, if a rich asian woman or asian female doctor wants to marry a white guy who is a bum, uneducated, or school drop out; then it bothers and scares me because it basically shows the racism, self hatred, and obsession with white men.Yes, I have been betrayed and thrown under the bus by Asian women. Yes, one of my ex-Asian girlfriends prioritized and valued her white friends over me. One of her white friends told her to break up with me, then the asian g/f ends up dumping me. I would basically say that Asian women have internalized self hatred, they suffer from an inferiority complex, secretly wish they were white, and probably find white people to be prettier and superior to them and the Asian race. This is what Asian men are trying to decipher...? why are Asian women puppets to whites. What did the White people do to turn Asian women into their slaves? was it colonialism? was it southeast Asian turned into a prostitute house during the vietnam war and pol pots time in Cambodia. I can understand if Asian women appreciate white peoples beauty and attraction, but many of these Asian women are not dating and marrying white brad pitts or white gorgeous male models. They are marrying white guys who look dumber and uglier than beavis and butthead! I still love most of my ex Asian girlfriends very much; but I can never take them back after they betrayed and cheated on me ( you guessed it... with White men of course!)
@Leo sun Aqua moon I have dated a few women who were mixed half white half asian. However, keep in mind that this is a rare mix and many times if a woman is half white but looks more Asian ( it is hard to tell and sometimes they will keep this secret). But it does not make a difference because HWHA females still tend to date and go with white men the majority of the time just like full Asian females. Actually, one of my ex g/f’s who was HWHA female ended up dumping me for another white guy. So yeah… Lol; White guys still have monopoly on the dating, sex, relationships ladder!
Hm, that is in fact crazy. I'm a white Slavic woman, and can tell for at least European countries that the majority of people like to date within their culture or even solely within their nationality: like Greeks ONLY marrying Greeks, Italians only Italians, and especially the entire Eastern Europe and Southeast only marry their own people, because of the culture and since they have a lot in common. I think it's interesting that some Asian women put white people on a pedestal and I read in many comments, how the British are to blame for everything. "The British colonies are responsible for the colorism in India, they are responsible for the same in China, and Africa", but I kind of cannot believe, that colonialism can create this alone. I'm Croatian for example, and the Balkan region (where I'm from) was also several hundred of years under the Ottoman empire, yet nobody today puts "them" on a pedestal. The only thing left from that empire is Islam, which some people adapted in order to get a beneficial life. So there is no "Stockholm syndrome" in our people, just because we were under the Ottoman empire. I really don't understand why anyone would put people or men of another race on a pedestal and look down on their own, since Asian men are workers and providers, I guess? They ain't bad men who don't care for their families. You know - I would understand, if Asian men were bad providers, very lazy, or criminals that women would start to reject them, but if that's not the case, what's the issue? o.0 So far I know, Asian men in US are even better earners than WM, and are educated. Don't women desire men with higher salaries? Something is really wrong with those Asian women who act like you describe.
@@EnteleiEchein I do somewhat agree with you, that it is no secret the majority of people only tend to date within their race, class, ethnic group, and culture/nationality. Mixed racing is still somewhat in the minority of frowned upon by different groups because they want to preserve or protect their culture. America is a heavily eurocentric society and culture meaning that white people run, control and own everything such as wealth, power, resources, assets, financial sectors. All the white people have systematic, institutionalized, political, and social power. I believe one of the main reasons to why Asian women are obsessed with Whites are due to the racist culture and wanted to experience, reap, and possess the social benefits, privileges, advantages and luxuries like White people. Let’s be honest for a minute, even if you are a rich educated, talented, skilled, and successful minority; you will still face alot of social racism, exclusion, alienation or not have the same advantages or privileges as White people in society. Like for example, you have a poor uneducated white person and a black surgeon who is a millionaire; if both of them walk into a store ( being unaware of both parties socio-economic status). If a crime is committed, more likely the black guy will always be the first one to be accused or looked at with suspicion of the crime. In the midwest, if you are a nonwhite ( ethnic group does not matter). It does not matter how rich, successful, or if you own a mansion or luxury sports cars’ many people will still not want to date or associate with you; if you are not white. I personally knew this rich Asian couple ( chinese) they were millionaires and bought a huge house out in affluent rich neighborhood in Texas; both were ivy-league educated and hardworking good people. However, when they moved into the affluent neighborhood that was majority white; none of the neighbors would talk to them, acknowledge them nor include them in their groups or circles. They would talk about how all the neighbors would have dinner every night in other peoples houses or they would all meet up at least 1x a week in a social center that was exclusive to the neighborhood; but they would never invite the chinese couple despite the fact that everyone is all millionaires, have good jobs, and big houses/mansions. So this is an example of social racism and keep in mind the chinese couple were born and raised in USA while speaking perfect english. Also alot of Asian women ( east Asian specifically) they want to protect their groups, interests, and people by not considering or associating and recognizing other ethnic groups as Asian. For example, I have met many ignorant east Asian women who do not consider India, pakistan,burma, or bangladesh Asians! They refer to them as being “Indians” or from the “Sub continent”; but they don’t want to recognize them as Asians because they dont want to marry,date, mix or get intimate or sexual with them ( there are always exceptions of of course). But Mainly, it has a lot to do with being influenced by White supremacy because many racist white Americans dont consider nor like to consider Indians as Asians due to racism, colorism, and to separate them from East Asians/orientals-mongoloids. Basically my point is, ( even if it sounds trivial); Asian women are always trying to take advantage of all the social privileges, benefits, advantages, luxuries, or whatever it is that white people monopolize, control, and enjoy; so they don’t feel left out or discriminated against! They just want to be white or mix with white people; so they have a better life. I understand everyone wants to fit in and not be alienated.
I met my wife in Korea when we both 25. We were married for 47 years till a stoke took her to Heaven. I didn't love her because she was Asian but because we were compatible! Guys, don't hook up with an Asian girl because you have a fantasy or unreal expectations. Even the best relationship requires work and compromise. I went into the marriage after talking to many people including her mom and pop as to how she was raised and there norms are. For example in many Asian cultures, the woman is the undisputed Queen of everything having to do with the home and family matters. The man is responsible for everything outside the house. Koreans and Japanese woman are raised to run the household and are in control of the money, This is one of the most difficult cultural things for American men to understand. I say let them do it, they are trained by there mothers from birth to do this AND THEY ARE MUCH BETTER AT IT THAN YOU, no matter what you think!
As a black woman - I feel like the same can be said for black women and the idea/stereotype that black men only date white women, etc. I think this video really helps us realize that we can be in a relationship regardless of our race, and focusing on what isn’t happening for our specific racial group in terms of dating actually KEEPS you alone. Thanks, Joe.
No. It’s not the same. Asian American women are more likely to marry white men than their own men. Less than 15% of married black men marry white women. These are two completely different scales of issues, not even remotely comparable. Vast majority of black men date and PREFER black women. As is the case with all men of color and their women. Meanwhile, for all women of color, they tend to prefer WHITE men. The book “Dating Divide” explains this very well.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 It depends. If you're a black women in Western Europe a lot of black guys will fetishize white women and ostracize black women and put them down but in America I agree they're more likely to date each other bc of their struggle/identity since the dawn of America
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Black men don’t marry anyone so the marriage stats don’t even matter, I mean yeah black men and white women have the highest divorces, but that still does not mean a lot of them aren’t in dysfunctional relationships because they’re.
I'm a white Irish woman married to a HK man. He moved here to Northern Ireland when he was 4 knowing no english. We grew up in a civil war where Catholics/Irish & Protestant/British were killing eachother in the street. My husband was the only Asian in school besides his sister until he was in university. His parents were very open to us dating and his sister also married a white man. I have observed many of my Asian friends who grew up in a very strong Asian community, there was more of a precieved drive to marry the same race. These were the people that praised me for dating an Asian man over my white friends (they have commented on how handsome he is) I feel because my inlaws weren't as active in the Asian community, this has helped my husband and sister in law be open to all races.
Send u hugs. As being Chinese. I find Irish Scotish ppl extremely attractive. Its funny cuz LARGE part of Chinese population with short button nose, small chin, small mouth, downward chin than forward chin, no gum showing, baby cheeks. I find Irish n Scotish ppl often has more similarity to my own family/cousins/uncles/grandparents. Lol all my childhood best freinds are 5’10-6’2. Same as my cousins, uncles, grand uncles. I find Majority of Europe especially Nordic, n Meditranian have HUGE gum. Irish celts have the opposite. If u go to England u will see a LOT English ppl have much larger nose wider gum. Same with Meditranian , and often Nordic ppl have square face n wide jaw. Yeah ….anyways. I find Irish ppl n Scotish, maybe Russians have a lot more similarities with East Asian . Than South EAST Asian (HUGE gum, wide nose, short, n HUGE TEETH. Shorter face) They look MORE foreign to me than a lot of white ppl. Which took me so long to understand. How ASian do NOT look like other Asian. That i used to find some whites look more similar to me (not completely) but the 1/3 1/3 1/3 facial 3rds, pointy chin small nose small mouth thing that is so common in mainland china, only commonly exist in Northern Ireland n scoltland, maybe bit Russia/ Poland (which i think a LOT of Celts/Picts) ran over when the Roman Empire n Vikings were in the war n in plan to take over.
yes and no. black guys that are in shape that are decent looking that have swag pull a lot of women. espeically the good looking guys. Ive seen them with gorgeous white women at the gym. now, black guys that dont have swag are screwed. pretty much equal to an average asian guy in terms of getting chicks. which is very limited. it sucks but it is what it is.
No True. Black guys get a lot of girls. They are more manly than white. Also black guys are not really attracted to Asian women. What is crazy is that Most of the white men the Asian women (many times hot Asian) date are the white ugly skinny nerdy men who can't get good looking white women or good looking women from other races.
@@mitch20003brother FACTS!!!! I see it at the gym all the time, hell, I even see fat or straight up out of shape black men with gorgeous white women at the gym all the time, just about any time I go to the gym it’s almost a new couple of a black man and white woman.
All I heard from this video (and many others in this same topic), is a chain of one disingenuous argument and gaslighting excuse that dances around the real issue, "Internalized Racism". Hypothetical arguments and anecdotal experiences does not address the signicifant statistical phenomenon of Asian women/white man couplings throughout the world.
It is what it is but from what I've seen, of all the white dudes Asian girls date. They never really pick the lookers it's always some average looking dude, why is that?
it’s the mid and low grade white men that can’t bag a white girl that end up catching the yellow fever. because asian women end up being the lightest skinned mate that they can match with.
Interalized racism. Just matters that they are white lol there is a video of an Indian guy talking about this. His mom would chose beautiful dark skinned women and then uglier lighter skinned women but..'their skin is fair' 😂
really? maybe in honolulu i see a lot of hot couples, good bodies, athletic, people tend to match their partners level in attractiveness or i just horny and focus more on good looking girls so biased
@@JoeJitsukawa You have not heard of JBW before? They are 400lb white men banging Asian models in Asia and the US. There is a video of a white guy who is extremely overweight talking about how much "slaying" he does of Asian pinup models.
well this double standard cannot be compared apples to apples because of the ability to attract the opposite sex; its hard for a man to attract any women, let alone getting into the specifics of races. Asian woman, or any woman will be able to attract any type of guy easier than a man can attract a woman, and if we go into races, its even harder for an asian man to find an interracial relationship, because most women find men unattractive in the first place. So this double standard is irrevelant based on the ability of a woman vs a man, in order for them to attract a mate.
If you are a young, heterosexual Asian man who grew up in America and you are 5' 4" or less, then it is extremely probable that your dating life is in very poor shape. I see two viable options: 1) Undergo limb lengthening surgery. This can increase your height by 2"-6" inches. It is a process though. Make sure you do your research beforehand. 2) Find a wife from the Philippines. Sidenote: If you know your native language (i.e. your are Korean guy who knows how to speak Korean) then your dating life is in better shape.
@@cindymmm11 If you are a short man who is attracted to slim to slender girls then my comments apply. However, if you are a person who places a strong emphasis on an emotional and mental connection then my comments don't apply. I personally know a person who is 5' 3" and is in a relationship with a girl who is 5' 3" and 200 lbs. He weighs about 145 lbs. He appears to be happy too.
To say you prefer is one thing versus actually doing it. Asian women can say they prefer Asian men. However, if you look at the stats or better yet, the streets of cities like SF, NYC, Seattle, Toronto, etc, you see something else. I'm not going to say Asian women don't prefer their own men. They do. However, their in-group preference is the weakest among all other groups including Asian men. Something like half of all Asian women who are dating or married are with non-Asian men, mostly White. You don't see the same happening with Asian men or other minorities. There's nothing wrong about calling that out.
This topic is honestly so toxic, asian men being bitter/hateful toward asian women is not productive or helpful for anyone. Celebrating asian men dating outside their race but denigrating asian women for doing the same is straight up hypocritical and it devalues everyone involved. I understand that asian men feel hurt and rejected but lashing out at asian women online doesn’t do anything to change their situation and it makes it difficult to emphasize with them.
its the asian women that are always bitter/hateful to asian men, when the rare occasion a white woman or asian man date each other or express interest. also its usually the asian women that have self hatred and make up excuses to lash out on asian men. get that right
Here are my thoughts on this phenomena and why it occurs. I believe the reason for this phenomena is largely due to the way in which western individualistic culture and asian collectivistic culture manifests in the development of masculinity vs femininity. I also believe Asian cultures emphasis on social status, and it's reverence of the west during post colonial times, also has an affect, i will discuss. In the US, there is a culture around doing everything for yourself. Pulling yourself up from your bootstraps as it is often said. This mentality can be seen in how kids particularly sons, are expected to move out of their parents house when they become legally adults. Often getting a job when in high school is a requirement, as part of fostering independence. Independence is extremely important in the US, to the point that they call their nation 'the land of the free and the home of the brave.' Due to their individualistic lives, relationships are of lesser importance for Americans. Rather than getting fulfilment from quality relationships with family, extended family, and community members, all from a shared sense of responsibility for each other, Americans receive their fulfillment by inflating their achievements and comparing themselves to others. This can be seen in how US media often portrays people, as almost godlike. In the US, sex is a status symbol, almost akin to money. The more women a man can get, and the earlier he gets them, the higher status he appears. Once again, Americans don't have the same communal mindset east Asians and others have. They live individualistic lives. They have less interpersonal responsibility, which is why in the US any time you see someone homeless, that person is usually white or black American. America is essentially a giant business and not a country with an ancient culture and traditions. Contrast this now with Asian culture. In Asian culture, it is normal for a man to be 35 and still living with his parents. In fact, moving away from them is often shamed and seen as a kind of betrayal towards the family. The sense of interpersonal responsibility and family values structure in Asian culture, makes Asians not just live with but by their parents. Their parents have much more influence in their lives. If they happen to come from a dysfunctional family, moving away and self differentiating, all of which is encouraged in the west, is intensely scrutinized. In Asian culture, adult children often live for their parents, and families. If their parents don't approve of a relationship, it will have a significant influence since their family of origin is just as important to them as whatever family they create later on in life. In Asian culture, achievements like all else is done with respect to the broader group. One derives all of ones fulfilment from relationships, often resulting in people pleasing or presenting oneself as 'am I good enough?' It is very common for Asians to compare their kids to others. Child prodigies among Asians are achievements in the name of their family of origin. Their achievements in a 'am I enough? Am I acceptable enough?' manner. By contrast in the west, such achievements would be like 'i can play this, I can do that, I can do that.' One is with regards strictly to self and a form of confidence boost, albeit largely superficial, the other is only a confidence boost if their family approves of it. Once again, producing on one end, more at least on the surface, confident men, whereas on the other less. This doesn't mean more competent on one end, just on the surface confident. As such, collectivistic culture produces more submissive people, both women and men alike. The only caveat to this is if the collectivistic society is deeply impoverished or wartorn, as is the case in Africa. Societies there are just as collectivistic as they are in Asia, but they don't enjoy the prosperity of the last few decades Asian cultures have enjoyed. Look at older generation men from Asia and they are significantly more masculine than their younger counterparts. This is also true between older generation men in the US vs younger generation. American societies obsession with liberty and freedom, produces people often averse to tradition. Feminism in my opinion is a byproduct of frontiersmen American culture, with its emphasis on independence, and the protestant work ethic culture with its emphasis on work. This has made western women largely anti traditional, which can be seen throughout western society. Western men, particularly American men, seek a more traditional, ie submissive woman. Asian women see western guys who on the surface appear more masculine due to the influence of individualism on them and western media portrayals. Combine that with Asian societies reverence for the west, and given the fact that physically Europeans and Asians look quite similar to each other, and you can see how white men and asian women fit together like two pieces of a puzzle.
Maybe, bizarre idea, its the way Asian men treat their women (on average) - bit of introspection here... and on the flip side, how bad Non-Asian women (especially "AWFUL"s) treat the men - "toxic masculine threat that they are" --- so you get a situation where neither of the aggrieved parties can be bothered with the bs of the other sides and that's one reason they get together - its not rocket science... incidentally, the protagonists in this situation rarely get together bc "intersectionality:" lol and har har.. you reap what you sow...
This is so bizarre (idk if it's an American thing, I'm from Melb/Sydney). Lots of people here date interracially and rarely do people in these cities bat an eye, let alone angry over it lol ... in my circles, asian girls here usually date asian guys or mixed asian guys. At least in my group, we are quite wary of white anglo guys bc of the level of fetishisation... there is less judgement I guess for non anglo white dudes since they went through discrimination during the 80s and 90s, so theres a level of understanding e.g. Italians, Greek, eastern european.
White guys and Asian women is by far most common IR couple in Aus too. Italians, Greeks etc are all white, just because they aren’t Norwegian doesn’t change that. And people do bat an eye if a non-white man dates a white girl.
I agree , ppl are allowed to date what they allowed to date. PPL having dogs/puppies. They are PARTiculare with BREED/size/gender/color. Particular shape . Me n my dude got YORKIE puppies. He made clear he did NOT want like sloppy ears. He wanted UP ears. He did NOT want long face ugly yorkie . N he did not want long leg yorkie. (Yorkies are known to have short legs long spine). Can’t force it. After owning first yorkie. We got 1 more puppy, upon meeting. My dude first thing:”omg long legs looks like spider”. N I was like :”omg i saw that too”. Like ppl’s perception are shaped by experience. If we saw hot kid in school , bus, public , movie, when we were young we develop perception what is hot. Subconsciously its baked in. There douche bag guys here throwing shades. In face a lot of dudes talking shade on this topic is their own down fall. When i was in school the Rude guys would come up in group to bully me as “tease” n laughing at me as group so loud n they enjoy making women feeling sick. Then thry turn around blame women dating Japanese, Arab, Muslim , white… JSUT see how the guy commenting on yr stuff. That utter annoyance n pushy self rightness will push anyone away. Cuz its not hot character. Not gracious not wise, full of spite.
As someone from 🇯🇲 we don't even kno what this concept is, everybody dates everybody,, Asians whites blacks ect our country motto is OUT OF MANY, ONE PEOPLE for a reason
It somewhat does boil down to racism. They always say Asian women are the race more likely to date and marry outside their race. However, they will only make this exception with White caucasian mem! I dont see AF dating mexicans, mixed races, blacks, middle easterns, native americans or other Asian ethnic groups such as Indians, Pakistanis, and Bangladeshi/Burmese! ( South Asians to be exact)
Cooping. Maybe u are not tall? Most mix guys who are taller they are usually thought after. Human are black pilled. Its preminitive its not by choice. Jus like in subway..d moment u walk in yr eyes wil scan n do 2 things:” 1 look at who’s dangeous, any thug sitting around. To avoid sitting near a thug. 2 to see anyone hot, to sit near someone hot” So thats like constant thing. By visual nerve that brain is like AI at background doing filtering all day . Its NOT something ppl can dictate. If not a race thing its more like “are u hot enough for me “ thing. Do not make it about race. Cuz if that is to blame, u are blaming yr own mom. If u are thing in that way categorizing women in general , that thinking pattern of over analyzing is going to set u up for epic pain. Because if u ever meet women u are going to judge her “is she liking me or cuz i am half white” this type of toxic thinking is going to make u feeling arrogant yet not happy with who u are with. U need to find more therapy to be accepting before going out because u are in pain or some sorts. Hugs . Not all Asian women cheat. Not all white men are hot. 70% white men are NOT HOT at all.
@@birdtj82 uhhh I'm 6'3! and my mom is White, Dad is asian. it depends on the culture, society, and what part of the region of USA you live in. I live in the midwest and yes race matters alot out here. I'm not in pain, just stating facts of the ugly reality we live in. I never said all white men are hot. however, white men do tend to have a monopoly on the dating/relationship/sex pool. but that does not matter, I was not making it all about race,, but the class issue involved as well. I want to understand why Asian women are so obsessed with White men. I'm not obsessed with White women.
@@tropicalbeach9225 HEy first of all thank u for taking the time to read my comment n also the respectful response. I get to know the genuine side of struggle more, that is effective communication. I am sure we all go thru life thinking who we are. Sometimes analyzing others is just journey of us know who we are. Do we attach us to this or that. Long ago in college. At end of business school , accounting . Last classs instead of doing schooling our professor asked us to share our experience living in North America. Just to learn from 1 another. I was SHOCKED SHOCKEd SHOCKED….that my CHINESE friend born locally, raised his had. He’s like 20 yr old baby face NOT ugly, fresh looking cute guy. N what he said was so SADDENING. To this day. That he shocked our professor. Cuz he looked like the peak of the world its the North American dream but he felt empty. he said:”i dont know who i am, i am born here. But I don’t feel like i am part of main steam, I know i am chinese but i dont speak their language, i have never gone to china. I know I am Canadian but i am NOT white. Its not something i can connect like flawlessly. I am NOT Canadian, but i am Canadian. I am chinese but I am not chinese. I don’t know who i am. I am 20 yr old but I feel strange. U just coasting. I d try to be more white but i know i am Asian. I can do more Asian things but i know i will never be Asian thing Asian. I feel empty unlike ppl form Asia they feel proud of where they are from. I just feel weird i cant explain.” That hurt. To this day. I realize most Asian immigrants, or parents of Mix ppl never would prepared that type of ON GOING struggle that they do NOT intent to cast on them. That as human, we need to feel like belong to community. Thats d primal need. N feeling confused who we are is extremely devastating…especially if at very young age,,,that d parents did NOT cozy, guide coach the kids to deal with internal struggle but to talk :”oh u look more white, oh u dont look Asian at all. U look 100% white. “ or “ are u gonna marry white or Asian ? When u grow up?” In fact that I unfortunately HAD a roommate (half chinese/half white). She had the MOST complex when she was in ther 20s. Becauee she knew nothing about Chinese, she just wanted to be white. But she LOOK less “white” than me when i had like blond hair highlights, brown hair later (just party phase trying something for once) that i alwys was mistaken as Spanish. She was always mistaken as 100% Asian. She did NOT like that. Even tho she freshly moved to my city, i helped her to get around everything introduced her to all the parties n supported her. Never msg back d guys that she was hanging out with ,,,that were secretly back door DM me, n i actually came to genuinely warned her. But she was just MORE ANGRY. Accusing me lying even i offered to show her the DM. She really did NOT like that I would date Asian or white. N its NO obcession, but its equal compitition. Ppl cant understands--in China in Beijing….AVERAGE male hight 2022 5’10” (in the city, not in the farm etc). That’s including old short ppl. 2022 Beijing WOmen average hight- 5’6.5”. My cousin looks like CHAD 6’0.5” went up for university came back telling me :” ah I am like the 3rd shortest guy in my dorm. My roommate 6’3, then 6’2” i am like 3rd one down, women were average 170cm. N there some women like 5’10 6’0. HUGE”. Ppl in North America CANt understand that. Even as ASian. I was enlightened by some Italian guy a few days ago. When he said :”i am 100% Italian” he looked NOTHING like NORTH American Italian. Its shocking. He looked more like Australian/German Irish Celt. He was like :”yeah in Italy 40% look like those, then in the middle is all mix. Then where in USA…MOST ppl from Italy are from UTTERR southern Italy Meditranian/Greek type of look. Most ppl think Italians look like Rob Denaro in those mafia movie. But thats like 15%-20% Italians look like. In fact like Leonardo Dicaprio , Rudy Julianni, lady Gaga..etc. he’s like kinda half Italian thats like the Main stream look in Italy. “ So d NONE main stream look became the MAIN stream look of Italian in North America” so like YES…then the MOST Italian girls born native in USA will still pick pretty boy German Austrian or Italian that looks like Chris Evans over ppl look like the young Rudy Juliani. If she happens having cousins , uncles, childhood friends back home all like tall hot male they are NOT gonna come half way cross the world looking for MUCH shorter bigger nose bigger gum. meditranian . EVERYONE does that. Especiallly white. ITs just same thing with Asian. But ASian is more OBVIOUS. Except Asians got shorter n shorter n shorter over the 200 years in North America. Especially Chinese. Because d Main stream chinese ppl at culture , polical centre Developed area never came to USA or canada. Most ppl were like southern desprite migrants seeking job, got lured to come to North America n stuck. Then could NOT go back home so they were forced to marry someone NOT their own culture, like they marry Thai, Flipino, Cambodian…..(NATIONAL women average like 4’9- 4’10) back then. So their son got short, n marry someone short just got shorter n shorter n shorter. So in USA …EAST ASian decent are average 3”-4” minimal shorter than than EASt Asian back home. I am NOT LYING. So if there Asian arrived here last 20-30 years like :”what did my parents send me to this place with ppl so short, every time i go back home to visit …just landed in a place full of Tall Asians, every time i go back to USA n CAnada, i go back to short Asian land. “ Its not Asian obcession with white. Ppl do NOT Mary down. Its unfortunate situation that North American ASiasn just gotten shorter n shorter n shorter. U are welcome to look it it up: on google, “2022 Beijing AVERAGE male hight, 2022 shanghai Average Male hight, 2022 Beijing aVERAGE FEMALE hight.” Then the korean. My friends my chines gf just married a 5’11” Japanese, my other pretty chinese gf married a 5”11 Arab musline, professional computer engineer who has white ish look but def not pale. The thing is ASiasns marry anyone attractive n smart that they can connect. In fact ONLY the ones with white are Noticable n acknowledged. Its NOT fair call that as “obsession” yet I understand why ppl echo chamber .suddenly it formulated “yeah thats true” its not. Also depends what type of ASian they are from. For example. East ASian-- Chinese , Korean. Have SMALL NOSE, small mouth, small chin, Short nose, small nastrils that’s NOT exposed or stretched when chewing or laughing. Or NO gum when laughing. No Agressive portusion of teeth. When South East ASian look MUCH darker, arounder scalp, shorter face, Portusion of lower face bone/jaw, 1.5-2X size of mouth n nose n lips . Usually ppl with that trait when they laugh, will form a very appearance deep wrinkle looks like ‘ ( ) “ around the nose n mouth. But if East Asian with small chin they will not have that deep wrinkle as teen or 20s at all. Because their mouth n chin so small. So seeing some SOUTH EAST Asian in the teen 20s with that structure. Suddently is like as if we see a men in their 40s in china/Korea. Its not something we see daily back home. Yeah so i would see how Scottish Picts, Irish celts with small nose, small chin, small mouth , short nose , 1/3 1/3 1/3 facial 3rds have more similar side face profile to me n more familiar . Than someone look like South East ASian because they are MORE related to JOSE. Ppl seek comfort in the ones that they look familiar to themselves. My childhood cousins, best friends all Look lilke Keanu Reeves in Matrix. N they were like 5’10-6’.05” if they look like that in USA n Canada, they would get some white girls into them. Asians in USA look VERy different than ASIANS. Even if their parents move here, their stands do NOT change.
@@birdtj82 i don't mind if it's abkut height. Hut sometimes even when the asian and white are the same height, earn the same amount of money, have the same attitude and humor, the asian woman in US would still prefer the white
Yeah, but there is a movement where some girls just show off their white boyfriends and then cuss off those who dont look successful. Sure, consenting is great, but why take a beating as well if you are the asian guy?
yeah a lot of toxic racist people here. They love bashing white people and they love to make everything about race. Most people in general aren't as racist as many people might think. Not everything in the world is about race
I think my attraction to Asian women began by being around mostly Asian women the majority of my life. As a teenager i grew up watching China made martial arts/ kung fu & Old school Godzilla movies where the heroines was Asian. But my community was 99% black. After the Navy, i ended up in Socal which had a very small black community. Was really hard to find sistha. Also after college, i chose a medical career. So most of the people i was around at work were Asian girls. It was also when i first got hit on by non black: whites women and Asian. I did date a few white & fillapinas but we didn’t fully connect… not because of their race but because of their parents. I ended up falling in love with a Japanese girl i helped learn English i met in college. We were married for 20 years before getting divorced. I took 5 years to no dating as my kids finished college.When I started dating again, i tried a sistha my age but she was going through things and not ready. I ended up meeting another Japanese lady close to my age(3 years than me). She had never been married and she was Christian. We dated for 3 years and just got married a few months ago. We had our honeymoon and reception in her hometown of Osaka( Osaka Ben/ Kansai dialect was so hard for me)! I was worried about my mom accepting because she always wanted me to marry a black Christian woman. But she accepted my new wife because she was Christian. I think you are right people need to just worry about themselves and let people date who they fall in love with. My son once asked me who should he date, someone black or someone Japanese? My answer to him and my daughter was, “date whoever you love and returns that love to you.”
@8:54 Negative Perspective? Thats a Realistic view of the situation....and im a Black dude! All i ever seen is AW and BW say that about their own male groups!
I am an Asian man living in the U.S. sine 60s, but I was born in China. I was married several times. My first wife was Filipina and she was the only Asian I married. Others were all Latinas. I have dated different races of women in my life. I had an Asian girlfriend briefly. I was never attracted to Asian women because most of them were short and skinny. I am 5’11 and I didn’t like any woman under 5’3. There was not many Asian where I went to school either. So I dated mostly White and Latina. Here are my opinions on women of different races: I mainly dated women with professional jobs. This summarized my over 50 years of dating experiences ***Asian women in U.S. - Most women preferred white men. Perhaps wanted to assimilate more into American culture. ***White women - Not surprising, most are liberal and career oriented. They were not family oriented nor were they domesticated. I also did not trust their faithfulness for long term relation. **Most white women preferred not to date outside their race. Unfortunately, those who dated Asian man also were opened to other races including black. I met some white women thru dating site, and some thru professional organization and activities. I was not 100% successful but I had several advantages: I am not that short at 5’11, I have a muscular body, and I had a professional job and my own home.. I do have several disadvantages as many Asian men - I am shy, introverted, and do not drink and not very outgoing, and did not fit the party bad boy image. ***Latina in U.S. - They were not racist like some white women. Not many had higher education. Most had children at young age, and had responsibilities for their parents. Some had families in their own country to support. Their values have changed if they have been in the U.S. for some time. ***Black - I was not attracted to their culture. ***Asian women in Asia - Most are gold diggers. They just wanted a green card. ***Eastern European whites - Poor and desperate, gold diggers. Eastern Europe are not safe laces to travel to. ***Latina from Latin America. After several failed marriages, I eventually discovered paradise from foreign dating site, and went on group tours and private trips to Latin America - Peru, Colombia. I speak good Spanish, and found my current wife in Bogota, and we have been married for over 15 years. She had 2 gown children remained in Colombia. NOTE: Latinas in Latin America were not discriminated against Asian men. To them I was another American. I think Latinas are the most beautiful and sexy women. Latina from outside U.S. would make better partners and had not influenced by negative culture in the U.S.. However, most had children at young age so be prepare to support them. So this may be harder for younger man to accept..
@@JoeJitsukawa Joe, I wanna meet u dude. Been watching u guys since forever. Love urs and Bart’s vibe. I taught my kids, “every day, go to skoo…” And congrats on ur marriage! Wishing u guys the best!
I dated all races but preferred to date asian due to food culture and traditions. I like dim sum, sushi, thai food, Vietnamese food over all other food. Non asians i dated were more reluctant to try the food i grew up with or criticize it.
You didn't touch on its also where you live. I live in Minnesota. I know 3 asian men that are with non asian women. I know at least 30 plus asian women that date have kids and or are married to white and black guys. And I know a lot of people.
Just looking in from the outside watching the situation, YES those Asian ladies love white dudes! It’s obvious. My coworker too is Cambodian and Vietnamese and she only loves white men and is always hard at work looking on her dating hookup apps for a white dude.
Preferences when it comes to race create some sort of racial hierarchy which perpetuates and entrenches white privilege and supremacy. Asians themselves are the source of the problem. Instead of redefining the system and developing confidence in themselves, they consciously or perhaps subconsciously aspire to belong to a white dominated world. Through these preferences they are giving some sort of credibility to the idea that eurocentric standards are the pedestal that the world must aspire to attain. While some people may claim that preferences are harmless, they should better understand the history of racism, colonialism, slavery, and white privilege. Only then they will understand that preferences actually maintain such inequality.
I am not even sure how this became relevant to me, or why I ended up searching those key words, but Negl at least where I am I see mainly Asian Women and White men and Asian mean with Asian women, I am Melanatedly overdosed so I am out of the strike zone for this stuff, not long ago I was definitely in the camp of love who you wanna love but as I have also learnt the historical implications of These relationships The power dynamics of it all is pretty different tbh Man to woman Vs Woman to Man But I won’t lie I grew up with dudes like Jet Li and Jackie Chan, so I was actually surprised to find out the Stereotypes on Asian guys I get some of them are bad but tbh I still wish those where the stereotypes my people got
I’m ok with this! It’s their preference, but I just wish they would just be honest and say what they truly feel. They feel they are better than their race! Well, you aren’t! I was told “we totally click, but I can’t see myself with an Asian guy! I like white guys!” I appreciated her honesty, I didn’t like it, but it’s her preference. But, be honest, and tell us that you think you are better than us. I, actually, feel sorry for them, to hate your heritage that much that you wouldn’t even date your own race because you feel you are too good for your own race. Good luck to you! I’ll be content with a woman who knows where she comes from! God Bless!
My had two fiancées. My First one was a Qingdao girl who was either a Half German, Half Chinese or Half Russian and Half Chinese. She was bilingual in Mandarin and English and had long Red Hair and White skin and an hourglass figure. Worked as a hair stylist. My second and current fiancée is a Polish girl with long Blonde hair and fair skin. She dyes her hair often. Is an Art student at Art school and likes Citrus and My Hero Academia and Breaking Bad.
Most of it is overblown. I dated Asian women for almost twenty years before I met my wife. None of them only dated white men, and I never heard them say anything bad about Asian men. It seemed like they had dated both Asian and white men.
I’m black and I been noticing this as a guy who dated Asian women. The whyte guy don’t gotta be super handsome or rich or anything just whyte. They will date down so hard just to secure some whyte skin. They wanna be whyte themselves.
Well, of course it doesn’t apply to every girl, but you see some of them use the weirdest excuse in saying “it’s like dating my brother”. What? You never see any other race say something that stupid. You don’t see Latinas say dating Latinos is like dating family.
I mean whites would say that if they didn't prefer dating their family so...
Exactly especially white people! I saw Asian people confide in white people telling them how they don’t date their own because they’re not attracted and prefer blondes! While the white person looks uncomfortable because they can’t relate! I got second hand embarrassment witnessing that
"not every" is just a lazy excuse used to deny the overwhelmingly obvious statistical pattern.
Because anything less than 100% is technically "not every", LMAO XDD
@@牛奶面包-p8s
The f**k u talking about? Lol
Look at it as a positive that let's you know to avoid them.
Asian men are rated the least preferred men to date whereas white men are at the top in the west. This whole “he looks like my brother” is a cop out Asian women uses to say they just don’t like Asian men. Imagine if white, black, or Hispanic women said that about their male counterpart. Big whoop. Asian men needs to also learn and exercise to date outside their culture like their female counterpart too despite the heavy stigma from their parents. Why restrict yourself to just one buffet when you have many buffet to choose from? At the end of the day, the biggest takeaway is to choose those who chooses you; don’t spend time on someone who’s not interested and don’t reciprocate.
I know someone who is black and doesn't date black women because they remind them of their mother. Smh sucks more because that person is my family member.
It's the go-to excuse for self-hating people of any race.
It's an attempt to mask internalized racism, but it actually backfires because it suggests that they believe all people of a particular race look or act the same, simply because they belong to that race.
Can you imagine a white person, in a non-dating context, telling an Asian person that they all look and act alike? That would be the very definition of racism.
I think its black men are the most avoided, but asian men are not far behind? Yes, I think Asian women tend to prefer white men.
@@Raebrained that’s more of a black American thing, because a lot of the boys are traumatised by their mothers/female family members.
@@MrPurge11 nope
The reason why there's such a discrepancy between how an Asian girl being with a non-Asian man vs. an Asian man being with a non-Asian woman are treated is because it's much more difficult for an Asian guy to date interracially which is why it's deemed "impressive" whereas it's relatively easy for an Asian chick. Asian men already have it hard enough as it is in terms of how they stack up to men of other races. When the odds are so stacked against us already, being an outlier to that trend is praised.
Most men in the West are struggling, regardless of race. That's what the stats say anyway
Yo soy peruano y mi tio es asiatico y es pequeño. Aca si te rechazan probablemente no es por ser asiatico.
Not for me. White women love me
It's stupid easy for a black man to be with a white woman. Would you say the black man or the white woman has internalized racism? Both?
I never got the double standards. When white women prefer non white men it's seen as fine and in fact preferable. When a non white women prefers white men it's seen as internalized racism and some kind of problem. It almost seems like white men are not supposed to date anyone but each other. The only white male relationships social media seems to like and support is two gay white dudes together.
It's literally the most common interracial couple, white man and asian female.
yes the leftover white (should be incels that are naturally selected out of the white girls dating pool) with the asian girl cause he couldn't get himself a avg skinny white girl
Nearly 75% of all interracial couples in the US are WMAF. WMAF outnumbers 7x more than BMWF.
The propaganda would make you think it’s another couple.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Stats show Lucian is correct.
@@MrPurge11 I fully agree.
I’m saying the propaganda would make you think it’s black man white woman. That’s what pops to most people’s mind when they hear IR dating
8/10 asian women I've met in the US are dating a tall, skinny white dude 😂
We know why 😂
@@supaclipzAs a tall white guy, i am really curious… why?
@@SuperReyandBWC, mixed children, and status. At least most of the time, especially In the US.
Maaan stop the bs. Most Asian women are with Asian guys. Same with black men and white women. Stop spreading nonsense. Asian guys are holding their own out here.
Could it be because 8 out of 10 men she has access to are white?
The lamest shit is that there are people who say some feel good stuff like "love shouldn't be confined to race" and "anyone can date anyone" but they turn around and have a hard time empathizing with people (mostly guys) who prefer to date within or adjacent to their race and have a hard time finding a partner. Like you want to seem so morally outstanding to believe in free love but you look down on people who can't find love? okay lol.
Most people do date and marry within their own race, but depends on their reasons for it. Some reasons I admit are really lame and shallow.
@@MrPurge11 Is "I like the way people of my own race look the best" a lame or shallow reason? I'm kinda at a loss for what reason would be considered bad.
@@3ndeavor Yeah, that can be a lame reason if you only value the person because of their looks or race, there must be more to love than just looks alone. I think if you are comparing against other races and think our race is best because they look better then you are sliding into idealism similar to what the nazi's used to think. Not saying people are like nazis, but we need to becareful.
@@MrPurge11 people can definitely take it too far, but aren't you just essentially describing preference? I don't think the overwhelming majority people will ever marry for one reason alone.
@@3ndeavor I dont know. We all have preconceived ideas about others. People also do have lazy assumptions about other races, so it is not too far from the truth. Racism and discrimination are still quite widespread. It is not helped by people judging others via biased media, judging others by history and misunderstandings. I think marriage is a different matter, but many a good relationship was missed because people judge more than try understand someone.
Well said. We Asian men have to think more positive. Less excuses. We have to be courageous and go for what we want.
Tough times show who is with whom. When tough times came Asian (non Indians) became pimps and their women started going to whites while most Indian women didn’t. You can’t go to india and duck little kids like whites do in Thailand. I know you will feel sad reading this but this is the reality . Culture is everything and Indian cultures ensures that girls don’t leave you in tough times,
Why else india through buddhism dominated Asia not the other way around. Proud to be Indian.
I am Asian girl and I would date a TRADITIONAL man who will be a good husband and a father,also able to provide. I don't care about his race, he MUST be traditonal, respectful and caring man.
@@vimanaarchitects2151 , that is cool.
Sure. But in Asia, we have to deal with all these weird, creepy men who are obsessed with "Asian culture" (which is code for Asian women). Many are sex tourists. A large % like how young Asians look - leading to a serious problem with underage girls. Another problem is they think are superior and that gives them the right to behave badly here.
More Asian men need to be in the media and in movies playing star roles so the world can see that Asian men are spectacular and full of so much charisma. I blame the media for downplaying Asian men and portraying them as just smart nerds or without personalities. Asian men are a blessed gift to the world.❤️
when is the last time you seen a asian woman with a black or hispanic guy?
Exactly. Asian women will pick the most ugly, serial killer looking, out of shape white guy over Hispanics and blacks just because hes white. Its extremely weird and speaks to brainwashing.
I live in NYC and have NEVER SEEN an Asian Woman with a Black or Hispanic man. Shit I hardly see them with Asian Men. Though I see them with White Guys most of the time.
@doomvictor3934 depends where you live. Plenty of Asian women are with Black and Mexican dudes on California and Texas. Many Asians are generally brought up to worship white people.
Japan you see a lot of Asian/white and black/asian it’s rare but it’s there just look it up
A lot of black guys ain’t really like Asian wemen, they like Hispanic of white chicks. But you still see more blacks with asains than with their own men. It’s sad tbh. Usually 70% of all race are tribal and will prefer their own but not asain wemen.
Hello from Northern Japan! I'm Japanese-Chinese mix, born in the Philippines and grew up in NJ. I'm in Japan for work reasons. I'm single. I never grew up in "the Asian bubble." Maybe it's partly of my interests (martial arts, crossfit/fitness, Dungeons & Dragons, heavy metal and Goth music) and growing up in a white area. Yes....I had problems in dating. Then I started working on myself. I traveled (due to military deployments and fun). This is what I found.....Asian with Asian dating is dominant in the West Coast compared to the East Coast and Europe. BTW... I met many Eastern Euro women like Asian dudes FYI when I was in Germany. My first Asian date was after moving to Japan. These are my experiences.
It's reality that Asian men are at the bottom of males in the dating marketplace. Asian women are near the top, if not #1. A whole lot of dynamics come from this. As an Asian man, you need to use your advantages to level up. Yes, you have advantages.
Smarter, better family structure,. You're RARE if you're a masculine, competent, successful, Asian male. Do the work.
Remember some of the reasons why Asian women are sort after is usually fetishization
no asian women are 3rd or 4th they are behind white women, hispanics (white passing), middle eastern and then asian girls lol. They are #1 for being the most easiest for white men lol. White, hispanics (mix with white) and middle easterns all have better skull shape then your typical flat wide face no eye brows flat nose and chinky eye asian girl. Asian girls are more #1 in desired but just #1 in most easy for non asian men. #1 will always be white women who are most desired and also most picky
@@MrPurge11 it’s usually that they are perceived as EASIER compared to white women. You have to remember that these dating statistics are really about what white men and white women prefer since they form the majority.
On a dating app (hook up) context, white men know Asian women will be easier for them
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Yes, but why is it that Asian women are easier for white men? There must be specific reasons
@@MrPurge11 simple imo. White women are also white, so that doesn’t hold value to them the way it does to non-white women.
Meanwhile, Asian women are from a culture that worships white skin + European features to a different level.
Asian women are the easiest specially for wyte men it’s not a debate
they are brainwashed by social media.
Easiest for what they hardest because they play endless mind games about when relationship really starts and extremely sexually prudish.
Facts
They are Neo Nazis.
That just isn't true
I see Asian women in Alabama with white men predominantly .
Ironic, because Alabama is one of the most racist places on earth..but bigot white men are fine dating other races as long as they are only ones doing it
Yes, fetishization, at first it can be a GOOD thing, then suddenly after a while, it becomes a curse. It is best to be loved for what you stand for, rather than what you look like alone.
@@MrPurge11 There was a video about asian men being fetishize during the kpop boom and boy did the asian women hated that and were up and arms on telling women that its wrong to fetishize. I'm kicking myself for not saving that video.
im an asian male and date a black chick. we are very happy
Ur family isn’t happy tho. Don’t be selfish
He does have a point, usually parents are not fond of those dating on the darker side. I guess older generations hold horrible beliefs, but glad to hear that you are happy.
@@MrPurge11 My parents are actually chill.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Japanese accent: "You dishonour your famiry"🤣
what ethnicity are you?
I'm 39 and in my years of living Asian women with white men have always been a thing but even I got a bit surprised by that statistic.
Asian women are so attached to the hip of white men that it can't even be considered "interracial dating/marriage" anymore.
basically they want fat white losers who are always broke...
it is very true that asian guys get more praise. as a disclaimer, im an adopted asian so i didn't grow up in any asian circles or even know any asian people let alone think about this topic. a guy literally told my bf he was going to high five him because he thought i was white. (he saw my white adopted name) in front of his own asian fiance. anyone who says asian girls get more praise is capping hard. they DO get some praise, but often its overshadowed by the vitriol. BUT what these asian girls don't ever bring up is how colonialism inherently changed the dynamics between white men and asian women. and if they do bring it up, they often either dismiss it or are even PROUD to engage in it. so honestly, they deserve some of that vitriol. its because of this history and these asian women that i can't walk around with my own dad without someone assuming im his mail order bride. so i sympathize with the anger. also none of their excuses make any sense. you grew up in a PWC? so did i. but i didn't use that to justify a legacy of self hatred and white worship and demonization of asian masculinity. they remind you of your brother? well, for me he could ACTUALLy be my brother but am i going to dismiss all asian men because of the possibility i found a long lost brother who has the same dna?????? no. i am literally more whitewashed than all these asian women just by having white parents and yet i still date asian guys. no matter how many logical hoops they try to jump through to justify their self hatred, they are still pathetic.
For Asian men especially born in the U.S., you should date outside your race, and with Asian women they'll lower the bar for white guys and black guys, but for Asian men, the Asian women jack the bar so high, you have to be like a doctor/lawyer, make a certain amount of money, and then maybe they will date within their race. So if they are going to play that game, more Asian men should not date Asian women and should date outside their race. The Asian women started that trend so why not? Now we don't have the media as a guide for this, you don't see any Asian men dating western women in film and you can forget seeing Asian men and white women in mainstream porn because that industry is so racist to Asian men that genre doesn't exist. Why should only Asian women get the exclusivity of dating outside their race? And you know, even if you date a Asian women, the chances of her cheating on a Asian guy for a white guy is just too high. So if there's even a chance of cheating, then just date a western woman, at least it won't be a surprise. And also it's pretty f*ed up that there's institutionalized racism with universities and affirmative action. So if a Asian women marries a American guy, she gets his last name and the kids don't get blocked by their choice colleges, but if a Asian woman marries within her race and the kids have the Asian last name, then they're going to have a harder time because of the affirmative action. So this is a injustice to the Asian men in America who can't date anyone because they don't want that last name and the kids having to score higher just to get into school.
Yet those same colleges would hound an Asian male graduate for donations for years and years.
Asain wemen don’t like blacks bro, that couple is rare. It’s mostly whites they like because of social status. Asain wemen are extremely hypergamous.
Another topic should be "why do introvert white men prefer asian women" , Asian girls have less of an attitude than other girls usually. they are more approachable.
Maybe Asian women from foreign countries see white men as more aggressive and romantic and White men are attracted to asian women because they are less problematic
Not problematic until you marry them. Then no more sex and they take your entire paycheck.
I met a Asian girl at college they are very standoffish
I asked an Asian Girl why they prefer White Guys and her answer was that in her Country The Media Promotes them as Successful. Like the Original "Magnum P.I." Series Vs. "Menace to Society" Mentality. It's Not necessarily their Fault but the Media. Many immigrants Come to this Country for a Better Life not Drugs, Violence and Poverty!
They like European history and culture....so what?
Asian women are very brainwashed in narrow minded I’m a black male saying this.
@@MerkySnickhistory and culture i doubt it they like MBAs and being thought of as big earners, and high achievers, its similar to the jewish mindset.
@jeffpliskin Yeah and MBAs are part of European culture lol
@@MerkySnick Culture is generally more creative like the arts and humanities, custom, tradition.
Masters of Business are not unique to europe they therefore not part of any culture its universal like mathamatics, and given our numeric system is hindu- arabic commerce underpinned by financial structure could be seen as more eastern than european. Laugh however your a tad ignorant of few facts.
Every race mostly dates within their race. However Asian girls/white guys is probably the number 1 mixed rate combo (or White guys/Mexican girls possibly in USA). People never notice same race couples, the diff race couples stand out. Hence that's why you get the stereotype. If you look at actual stats though. Asians girls overwhelmingly date.. Asian guys.
Might be the most accurate statement ever even tho I have never seen a white guy with a Mexican girl but I always see a white guy with Asian girl & black guy with white girl
Honestly this isn't exclusive to the Asian community. It's all over. Women prefer white dudes, and they don't have to b all that. Thanks to great marketing/propaganda. The fact that this is a repeated topic is evident of a collective recognized pattern.
Facts... not just marketing and propaganda though, also they are the most economically attractive. White = rich
@@fgcpeak9591 Despite their legacy of obtaining generational wealth via theft, oppression, colonization, establishing institutional racism, and even dropping an Atom bomb on innocents in Hiroshima and Nagasaki, it's clear that money talks and bullshit walks.
@@kickassets6414 Women in WW2 forsook their French husbands in favour of the Nazis. Women only go where the winners are.
@@fgcpeak9591 that's why I'm focused on creating and building while I watch the world burn. I'm no longer invested in what people don't value.
@@kickassets6414 Somebody drank the woke koolaid. Half the thing you said don't even exist, except int he minds of hit twitter users..
I love hearing Joe speak, he is perceptive and thoughtful and excellent 🎉
Single and Filipino and have primarily date Asian women. Grew up in a hella white city and had lots of influence from black culture from neighboring towns and media and friends.
Yes, I heard the whole “I don’t date Asians cause they look like my family”. Also heard the tiny pp stereotypes a lot. Did it affect me growing up, yes. It definitely made me feel a type of way, but after a while you really just gotta get over it. All it ever did to me was warp my perception of half of my own people, some of my friends and even family. It even affected my own confidence in myself and made me see myself as undesired by Asian women. I got scared to make the first move and approach an attractive Asian woman because of this.
But over time you really gotta get over the stereotypes. The stereotypes on Asian men and the stereotypes we as Asian men place on Asian women. Literally that shit essentially turned me into an incel, and what’s worse than being alone? Being a fucking incel.
We gotta be the change. It can be tough, but hey, in the end it’ll just make us stronger. Like Joe said, its a numbers game. We are severely outnumbered in most areas of America. Plus we gotta initiate, that’s just how our society operates.
I dont know, you cant just put the Asian mans emancipation down to being an incel, it is much bigger than that. You have a history of persecution, poor media representation, racism, bigotry and to top it all off you get some Asian women mouthing off against their own brothers. Some girls even show off their white boyfriends as if they have made the big time. In the end asian men just get put off by it all and go do something creative or make money. Why should Asian men or men of colour be labelled incels from that?
I almost commiited suicide lol. Is not even funny. I hate white people so much and you can't blame me for that because it was white men who created this negative stereotype about asian men being the loser. I have the right to hate. We will see how bad my depression go, hopefully I don't shoot up schools.
Its not your fault that women act super judgemental and picky but get pissed at men for doing the same thing. So I don't think you are in the wrong man for expecting women to not be hypocritical. I'm a white guy and I think the whole situation is fucked, women who discriminate against their own race are fucked.
We are Brain washed by Social Engineering. Asian men get your Ph.D's and join the CCP as the problem is without China then there is no Asia or Asian men. The CCP Counter Balances the Imperial Gaze and the brainwashing. A WAR maybe the only way to change this. As the US Government promotes it and so too does the White controlled media. Japanese people are disappearing as the US Controls trade in Asia and the Japanese Educational System in secret. To win we may need to throw our efforts to counter balance the Western Hegemonic Imperial Gaze or Social Engineered Processes against all Asian men. Remember IF there is NO China then there is NO Asia. Western Colonialism has not stopped! It just changed its shape in the Invasion of Asia! Ask yourself this? Why are there no Chinese Military Bases around the USA? Why are there bases around all th Asian Countries? Because they want to take our land and resources. Those resources include the Asian Women! As in all battles from all civilizations they take the women! FIGHT! Quit complaining and FIGHT! Step up and work out but do not think that joiniung the US Military will make you American. My cousin has a Silver Star and was a US Marine. Francis B. Lai held the US Medal of Honor from WWII. Did it matter? NO! We are being emasculated and IF China loses then we will lose as well. They may be Authoritarian but they are the Counter Balance to our own suvival. As these White men on here make racist comments and take American born Asian Women then you should understand what happened to American born Japanese too. The women married the gaijin and the Japoanese males all died alone! Is this what YOU want as Asian men? I do NOT think China is our total enemy as Asians. The real enemy is the white guy who says you are American and then stabs you in the back!
@@Nikotheleepictell white girls that bc atfer asian women and u white guys its white girls and black guys on the second runner up😭😭
Over 13 thousand views in two months. This topic must resonate with people.
I believe it's the the demographic of Asians in the US vs the demographic of white in Asia.
Asians that are born in the US tends to date white person because you see more white.
On the other hand, white that are born in Asia tends to date Asian more often than white.
even in Asian, the most common mixed couples are Asian women with white men.
white women even in Asian don't date Asian men that much because if the white fetish Asian men have for white women.
Asian men in Korea always say they love Eastern European women. basically Russian ans Ukrainian women.
blonde hair and blue eyes fetish.
In my experience asians in phillipines or thailand date caucasians more than say asian women would in Australia whom actually mix less, in white social cliques.
I'm half Chinese, half Black so always very interested mixed couples. In my part of California, all the Asian women I know(Chinese, Koreans, Indians) are married to White guys. Many of them have sisters, all married to White guys. At parties it's a bunch of Asian ladies and a horde of their White privileged guys being fawned over. In fact they even joke about it among each other, how they took an oath to marry a White guy. Not to mention the Asian women White guy couples i see in the street. I have seen one Chinese lady Black guy couple over the last 10 years(yes my Black/Chinese radar is finely tuned and always on) and less than 5 Asian women, non-White man couples.
My male Chinese cousins are dating other Asian ladies, but it seems to be the exception to the rule.
From observation White men are the goal for Asian women. After all, it's not as if the spouses of Asian women are a mix of different non-Asian races. They're almost exclusively White men. So it's not a matter of just marrying outside of their race, which is great, i'm the product of that and i'm married to a mixed race lady. But White men are specifically cherished.
Bingo. It's very apparent to me even as a black guy. Many East Asian women pedestalize white men, I feel for my East Asian brethren. But I still say, it seems Indian women are fiercely loyal to Indian men, which is good to see
I find it wholesome. I'm glad asian women like us. They truly are the most beautiful and just easiest to talk to IMHO along with black women but black women white men has a huge complication. Anyway why u hate it?? I think it's good for the country.
@@michael43567 they are. It's east asian that are into white guys. Even in my experience I've met many of them and there's always a general attraction that's unspoken but it seems same with black men and white women. I hardly ever see white on white couples any more
Would that not be worse? It would look like anyone could get the asian females except the asians themselves🤐I have seen very few cases of asian girls with negros, indians, arabs and other no white and my reaction was always: What? Why? What´s the point? It just does not make sense because i just can´t see what they are getting from that other than trouble. Even though its exceptional cases it still is bothering because it should not exist. If they are dating outside asians then it should be for something better and in those cases it simply is not.
@@anticommyalwaysbarker82 I got interested in asian females as pre adolescent and it had nothing to do with white woman not liking me or anything since i was kid. It was like back in 84 probably when in the room of older cousin i found a Playboy magazine that had the playmates of playboy from all the playboy magazines around the world. Most were beautiful blond and brunet woman but in the middle was this asian woman with this amazing hair that literally covered her and she had this exotic facial features that were totally outside of what i was used too. It said there that she was from Hawaii and that triggered immediately my interest in the pacific and island and the years following i would try to read about as much as i could and this long before the internet was even thought of.
A few pages ahead there another picture of another asian woman this time from japan and she had the same features but a little different and this case short hair but beautiful anyway and something really intriguing and rare that would only see one time many years later on another asian woman and that was inverted nipples😃A very rare thing to find. I was so fascinated with that that i said: i can´t leave this pictures here i will probably never see them again since my cousin would not allow. I ended up ripping the pages and it took a few weeks for him to find out and get really pissed😆
Well that´s where it all began and over the years many other episodes reinforced that.
As for african woman always hear that they were hornier and so on but in my experience i never saw that, even in porn most of them are pretty lousy. The only african/latina that ever lived to that standard was a old pornstar from the 80´s called vanessa del rio which i remember looking and waiting for many years for another one to show up but it never happened. Also i agree that relations with black woman are o problematic in so many levels because of the baggage they have that it is not worth the trouble.
Trust me, not dating these days is a hack better than dating. I don’t want to deal with an extra person in my life. Time has changed.
30:37 - 30:50 Pretty much sums up the mentality Asian men should have. If Asian women are exogamic, then the only solution is for us to be just as exogamic as them. That way it all balances out.
How about the fact that a lot of white men prefer white women. Yes that's right, we actually prefer women with the same background (european).
@@darko783 That also is true.
@@darko783 It's a fact that most women are with their own ethnicity.
I don't, I prefer Asian women by far.
How does the white community view this white male asian female pairing, if you don’t mind me asking? Surely white women and men have some thoughts about Asian women trying to enter your community and gene pool.
@@Mehbs-p9b most white men who date Asian women dislike are conservatives who dislike blacks or they are cornball liberals who are weakly built.
As a Hispanic male, it would be cool to see more asian women give black/hispanic men a chance. I feel that Asian families would see dating latino/black men as dating down. Some of the most attractive girls I have met in my life were Asian. I have asked out 4 Asian girls in my life and have struck out every time (0-4). I still think I can pull it off, but I do admit my losing record with asking out Asian women have made me less willing to mingle with them.
tf u mean. i’ve seen plenty of hispanic and especially black men with asian girls.
Asian women hate all men of color.
From which Hispanic/Latin country are you from?
Yeah, these asian women should leave some white guys for the rest of us. They should try other flavors too.
u dont want these gold digging trash...latinas are the best
As pointed out by the comment, the online survey you brought up in the beginning of the video is self-reported. Qualitative rather than quantitative. Sources such as government marriage record or Census data are usually cited for these studies.
I believe that survey like these are what brings out the bitterness in men. The inconsistency bring to light the fact that people may say one thing but act completely different in real life. In fact if you were to look at the official data, the numbers are essentially flip-flopped from the self-reported claims. People complain because they are told one thing but experience the opposite.
Overall, I agree it's not good to focus on the negativity. But rather channel the frustration into positive actions in self-improvement. That said, our actions should be based on observable reality. It's important to know why it's easy to go into negative spiral since that would be guaranteed failure. As men we need to know how to overcome these limitation and develop our unique advantage, since it is inevitable that we must compete with other men.
It’s true some of the time but not all of the time and their is white women who only like Asian men and Asian men who only like black or white or Hispanic women . Everyone can date anyone .
The disproportion is still visible. Everyone can date anyone is oversimplifying it
Exactly. It's such a naive, hand-waving response that doesn't even address the real issues involved.
Bring out the stats. Interracial dating shows white men are top targets. Most avoid men of colour.
@@zzhang33i m sorry for that, friend.
@@hette457 Actually, statistically, white women go for white men, but white men do go after Asian women. Only black woman go for black men. Black men also go for Asian women, but Asian women don't like black men at all.
See "The uncomfortable racial preferences revealed by online dating" and "Study reveals just how much Black people are penalized on dating apps".
That poll is cap… lumping all Asian Americans together is already skewed. Chinese/ Korean/ Taiwanese/ Japanese Asians have way different cultures/ values/ expectations than Thai/ Cambodian/ Vietnamese/ Filipino Asians.
but the dating market lumps all asians together, as the lowest in the dating pole. are there some good looking asian guys that pull chicks? absolutely, but its like 0.5 percent The avg asian guy is screwed.
@@mitch20003definitely true its a sad reality but spot on
Joe, you made some valid points. Confidence in oneself without being overly cocky is more attractive that complaining and making excuses.
he never said that. stop fishing for likes
@The Wandsmen she's not at all. Tfoh.
@@Dave_of_Mordor @28:20 Try again. 😏
@@GYSMelanie5 Thank you, Melanie. Hope you are having a wonderful day. 💐
@@bethnichols2875 thank you, you too.
After you dated a bunch of Asian American women, you have a sixth sense of whether or not they are a Twinkie. Someone who is yellow on the outside but is really white on the inside and it's that inside they are trying to find a match with. I know some Asian women are so embarrassed of their culture they don't even speak their native language, and they see every Asian man as their "cousin" aka "friendzoned."
No, the twinkies are the only good ones and if they don't have insecurities.
Dude just stop. Everyone is an AMERICAN regardless of where they come from!
lol I’m gonna use this term Twinkie for wanna be white Asians lol thank you
Some Asian women prefer non-Asian men for various reasons. 1) Cultural differences. In western culture women traditionally have had more say in what goes on. In some Asian cultures the man is in charge and contradicting them would make them “lose face”. 2) Physical size/looks. I’ve spoken to many Asian women that prefer “white guys” because of their height, skin color, nose, etc… They want lighter skinned babies with western features such as height and nose. 3) Social status. In Asia if you have a foreign husband/boyfriend they are seen as some sort of prize. I’ve gone to the Philippines a few times with my Filipina girlfriend. I’m 1/2 Filipino and 1/2 white. I’m really a big deal in her old hometown. 4) Economics. The wealthier guy usually has access to more girls. Yes there are some extremely wealthy Asian guys, but out of 4 billion or so Asians how many are as wealthy as the average westerner?
Agree 100 with you I also experience the same.. am over 60 european male..but to get asian GF . Is easyer than get a white...much essyer
Its also influenced by population numbers, like most of the population is white. Also whether you believe in yellow fever or not, the historical part of america fetishizing asian women and negative propanganda of asian males is a part of american history. Also not just pointing the finger at america but even in asian cultures we sometimes see white features as good. One example is paler skin being seen as more pretty, and there are many more. So the cutural cognitive perception of both sides make this a very deep and complex issue.
Not all but an increased amount of asian american women have internalized racism and issues compared to other females in other minority groups. There is a very informative report in the national library of medicine showing how some asian american women have internalized racism and its strong enough to effect mental health.
Personally in my life there are a few interracial asian women relationships that are clearly built on truly loving each other. Which is a good thing. White guys and asian girls should be allowed to date. The problem with the whole wmaf is the fact that its influenced consciously or unconsciously by values that are seen as stereotypical and/or racist from both parties.
At the end of the day it is what it is, and until a majority change happens in all groups collective beliefs and actions, this will still be an issue.
It’s not just Asian American women, it’s all groups of non white women.
The difference is just that the Asian women can exploit it easier since they are white mens second choice
@@themarathoncontinues4211 u are disgrace because i hope u are NOT Asian. If u are….its self explanatory why u end up on this video or single. Cuz u r how u speak as Character. How u talk is NOT hot, if u are white, Asian whatever.
Good luck in finding yr Stacy. Fingers crossed.
I will say that “yellow fever” sounds wrong and even gross in my opinion. Sounds derogatory and fetishized. It also sounds like a disease lol
They don't have internalized racism. How so? When there are Asian women with good careers. Majority of these white and Asian mixed races occurred because these Asian women work in a corporate world and basically bang the highest salary white male. Also, Asian women tend to work in industry where white males who were nerds had a fetish for Asian women and so end up marrying Asian coworkers. However, Asian males in the same company would be rejected by other Asian women because these women want their white knight to move up.
It's just never been bad for me if I see an Asian guy with a European woman or something - who cares anymore? My wife is Japanese and you can believe me that the stories that some people tell are even worse because I'm a German guy. This whole race thing was never really a problem. I got together with this woman because of behavior and shared interests. People have to finally start to understand that the internet and the media are full of propaganda and that the actual population doesn't really think badly of others but of course this kind of thing continues to be pushed.
I really appreciate your well rounded thoughts Joe! And I agree with you that while I hear from a lot of my older Asian ladies that I shouldn't marry within the culture bc the guys can be very controlling, I also say that 1. the way the older generations mindsets are, are different from younger generations, and 2. each culture has its fair crop of overly controlling people 😬😬 that being said, I am an Asian woman who is attracted to Asian men, but have had much more success with men from non-Asian backgrounds. I'm also a plus sized women, so my experience is that Asian men ignore me more often than non-Asian men. Thanks for the discussion Joe!
I am already attracted to you just from your description.would you be interested in talking?
Those stats are wrong. It's actually 55% of asian women who date white or black. That's only in the USA although it's in Asia too.
There are much more white women asian men couples in tge east then tgere are asian women white men couple in tge west.
Always found Asian women to be more attractive for me anyway
Joe is 101% correct. Don't take the rejection seriously.
Don't most people prefer their own kind? Yes there are some that would like to marry other races but they are often minorities of the population
too many people live online & consume red pill content, they forget how to live outside. the struggles of boom of the internet.
I think it's hypocritical and ironic, that when a Asian women who meets the Asian parents of her boyfriend, she gets the expectation of being a good housewife doing the homemaking, cooking, etc, and that triggers her so deeply enough, her brainwashed feminist core, that she breaks up the relationship with a Asian man, but then will happily be a dutiful housewife for a white guy, as soon as the baby comes out, she wants to just quit working and just be a homemaker, just as the Asian parents of her Asian exboyfriend had wanted for her, and she is doing it for the white men. How can you not see that as racist on the Asian woman part? She ended up doing the one thing that she ran away from in that the only variable that changed was she is now with a white or black guy. This kind of shit should be called out because why wasn't she willing to be a homemaker for the Asian guy? I don't know what Asian men did to deserve this blanket racism from their women. But that shit is not cool. Imagine growing up in America, and being one of the smallest race, less than 6%, and like half that population is racist towards their men, and then they act all surprised that they are incels or something, that's just pure gaslighting. But the jokes on them, they are missing out on the majority of the economically attractive single men in America today! Sucks to be you. Hope they Enjoy their dinners at McD's with their white husband who is definitely got a side piece they don't know about, they could've had Asian guys take them to Nobu in expensive cars.
Like that La Felina wrestling executive who stole That Restaurant Impossible/Dinner Impossible guy from his childrens mother in 2009(14 years ago).
That’s sad, honestly.
You just added black guys but Asian women don't go for black guys often unless the Asian woman is really ghetto, or the black guy is really smart/geeky and into academics.
White husband will always appreciate what his asian wife will do to him, while asian husband will complain that his wife is not as good as his mom.
@@ChocolateFlavor2112 To be fair to Asian men, your mother definitely loves you more than your wife. In that sense, a man's mother is more valuable. Other women "love" conditionally. Lose your status/wealth or hit a rough patch for too long... Gone.
Nobody should get praised or brought down because of the race of the person they are dating lmaooo
It’s not about that. It’s about the reality behind it. The reality is that these Asian women are classist, colorist and racist. They view dark skin or skin of color to be low class and inferior. They believe fair skin is attractive and superior. No one cares what ethnicity someone chooses or is with, but if the reasoning behind it is demeaning then yeah, we’re gonna speak up
These podcasts are great to workout to
I live in Bangladesh, a small country in the Indian subcontinent. We don't have practiclally any diversity here. Everyone is pretty much an Indian descent. So, the concept of interracial relations or marriages ispretty much non-existent here.
From a daing and relationship perspective, you're not going to find many schools of thoughts. I'll not state percentages but the majority has the same perspective on dating. You pretty much can't do it publicly, unless you're over 25 and have reached a stable phase of life. SEX? forget it before marriage. You can't hold hands in public without a bunch of random people staring at you.
As for women, the majority are conditioned by their mother/other female figures in the family who have been following the traditional gender norms. They were conditioned by their mothers. And my generation is conditioned by their mothers. The role is to study hard (often outperforming men in terms of grades), get married by the age of 24 maximum, and start your famiy, usually as a housewife.
Of course, there are communities who don't follow this tradition blindly. They do live freely and in their own terms. But statistically, that demographic mostly belongs to the top 5% wealthiest people in the country, who all happen to be living in the capital City, Dhaka. Their dating and our dating are completely different.
For me personally, I'v withdrawn from getting into relationships. I've always been very influenced by wester culture. I've been watching this channel and JK for almost 9 years. So, my perspective on dating doesn't match with any communities that I have reach to. And I'm not okay with accepting things I don't relate to, just because I need love in my life. Yeah it gets cold at times, but I prefer inner peace, as long as I'm living here. If I can manage to move out to country where the mass is more liberal, it's a different story.
wow never knew that was how relationships were like in Bangladesh thanks!~
I disagree with what you wrote.... I know many bangladeshis and in many parts such as chittagong, cox bazarr many of them look and have burmese and or sino-tibetan blood and alot of people in that region of Bangladesh do actually look chinese but with darker skin. You are correct that Bangladesh ethnically are basically indians. However, Bangladesh has plenty of diversity because people come in all shades, colors, and different looks. I have traveled to Bangladesh and livedthere for 6 months!
@@tropicalbeach9225 yes the people you're talking about are Burmese. Not sure if you've heard of the Rohingya influx few years ago. Over 800,000 people of that descent live in Cox's Bazar and Chittagong.
Also yes, it's part of the Indian ethnicity game to be of all different shades, colours, heights, and whatnot. Talk about all the colonies we've been part of in the last 300-400 years. If you're going by looks only, India/Bangladesh is one fo the most diverse places on earth.
thanks for your commnent though.
White men have more money, so you will see more of white men, non-white women relations in general, cause a lot of them could be having more than one woman in general.
Indian men in the US out earn white men by a significant margin. Why arent Indian dudes dominating the dating game? Its because of JustBeWhite. White priveledge exists JBW is the strongest proof of that. There is a 400lb youtuber who is very broke and he said he has one night stands with over 400 girls in Asia, he credits him being white as one of the reasons.
@@wilkesmcdermid7906 Yeah, but it helps a bit if you have money. Its also about resources as well. I do admit though it is foolish to find love if they only want your money or status. Its not really love at the end of the day.
They don’t care about money, they want that white skin
That just isn't true and that is a racist thing to assume
Joe, good video and insights. See I dont have a problem with Asian women wanting to date or marry white men; afterall, I am mixed half white/half asian ( but I look more Asian).
I agree that people should be able to date or marry and mix with whoever they want, but here is the problem... The issue that I have with Asian women dating and marrying white men is that most of the time; these white men are bottom of the barrel or low class types. There is an imbalance and inequality in the relationship. I remember back in the days, I knew and saw many asian women who were beautiful, rich, attractive, and educated; who would end up dating white men who were uneducated, lower class, criminals, bums, unattractive and or average looking at best. I'm not trying to sound classist, but if a rich asian woman wants to date or marry a rich white man ( then I have no problem with it). If a asian woman doctor wants to marry a white doctor, then I have no problem with it. However, if a rich asian woman or asian female doctor wants to marry a white guy who is a bum, uneducated, or school drop out; then it bothers and scares me because it basically shows the racism, self hatred, and obsession with white men.Yes, I have been betrayed and thrown under the bus by Asian women. Yes, one of my ex-Asian girlfriends prioritized and valued her white friends over me. One of her white friends told her to break up with me, then the asian g/f ends up dumping me. I would basically say that Asian women have internalized self hatred, they suffer from an inferiority complex, secretly wish they were white, and probably find white people to be prettier and superior to them and the Asian race. This is what Asian men are trying to decipher...? why are Asian women puppets to whites. What did the White people do to turn Asian women into their slaves? was it colonialism? was it southeast Asian turned into a prostitute house during the vietnam war and pol pots time in Cambodia. I can understand if Asian women appreciate white peoples beauty and attraction, but many of these Asian women are not dating and marrying white brad pitts or white gorgeous male models. They are marrying white guys who look dumber and uglier than beavis and butthead! I still love most of my ex Asian girlfriends very much; but I can never take them back after they betrayed and cheated on me ( you guessed it... with White men of course!)
@Leo sun Aqua moon I have dated a few women who were mixed half white half asian. However, keep in mind that this is a rare mix and many times if a woman is half white but looks more Asian ( it is hard to tell and sometimes they will keep this secret). But it does not make a difference because HWHA females still tend to date and go with white men the majority of the time just like full Asian females. Actually, one of my ex g/f’s who was HWHA female ended up dumping me for another white guy. So yeah… Lol; White guys still have monopoly on the dating, sex, relationships ladder!
Hm, that is in fact crazy. I'm a white Slavic woman, and can tell for at least European countries that the majority of people like to date within their culture or even solely within their nationality: like Greeks ONLY marrying Greeks, Italians only Italians, and especially the entire Eastern Europe and Southeast only marry their own people, because of the culture and since they have a lot in common. I think it's interesting that some Asian women put white people on a pedestal and I read in many comments, how the British are to blame for everything. "The British colonies are responsible for the colorism in India, they are responsible for the same in China, and Africa", but I kind of cannot believe, that colonialism can create this alone. I'm Croatian for example, and the Balkan region (where I'm from) was also several hundred of years under the Ottoman empire, yet nobody today puts "them" on a pedestal. The only thing left from that empire is Islam, which some people adapted in order to get a beneficial life. So there is no "Stockholm syndrome" in our people, just because we were under the Ottoman empire.
I really don't understand why anyone would put people or men of another race on a pedestal and look down on their own, since Asian men are workers and providers, I guess? They ain't bad men who don't care for their families.
You know - I would understand, if Asian men were bad providers, very lazy, or criminals that women would start to reject them, but if that's not the case, what's the issue? o.0 So far I know, Asian men in US are even better earners than WM, and are educated. Don't women desire men with higher salaries? Something is really wrong with those Asian women who act like you describe.
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I do somewhat agree with you, that it is no secret the majority of people only tend to date within their race, class, ethnic group, and culture/nationality. Mixed racing is still somewhat in the minority of frowned upon by different groups because they want to preserve or protect their culture. America is a heavily eurocentric society and culture meaning that white people run, control and own everything such as wealth, power, resources, assets, financial sectors. All the white people have systematic, institutionalized, political, and social power. I believe one of the main reasons to why Asian women are obsessed with Whites are due to the racist culture and wanted to experience, reap, and possess the social benefits, privileges, advantages and luxuries like White people. Let’s be honest for a minute, even if you are a rich educated, talented, skilled, and successful minority; you will still face alot of social racism, exclusion, alienation or not have the same advantages or privileges as White people in society. Like for example, you have a poor uneducated white person and a black surgeon who is a millionaire; if both of them walk into a store ( being unaware of both parties socio-economic status). If a crime is committed, more likely the black guy will always be the first one to be accused or looked at with suspicion of the crime. In the midwest, if you are a nonwhite ( ethnic group does not matter). It does not matter how rich, successful, or if you own a mansion or luxury sports cars’ many people will still not want to date or associate with you; if you are not white. I personally knew this rich Asian couple ( chinese) they were millionaires and bought a huge house out in affluent rich neighborhood in Texas; both were ivy-league educated and hardworking good people. However, when they moved into the affluent neighborhood that was majority white; none of the neighbors would talk to them, acknowledge them nor include them in their groups or circles. They would talk about how all the neighbors would have dinner every night in other peoples houses or they would all meet up at least 1x a week in a social center that was exclusive to the neighborhood; but they would never invite the chinese couple despite the fact that everyone is all millionaires, have good jobs, and big houses/mansions. So this is an example of social racism and keep in mind the chinese couple were born and raised in USA while speaking perfect english. Also alot of Asian women ( east Asian specifically) they want to protect their groups, interests, and people by not considering or associating and recognizing other ethnic groups as Asian. For example, I have met many ignorant east Asian women who do not consider India, pakistan,burma, or bangladesh Asians! They refer to them as being “Indians” or from the “Sub continent”; but they don’t want to recognize them as Asians because they dont want to marry,date, mix or get intimate or sexual with them ( there are always exceptions of of course). But Mainly, it has a lot to do with being influenced by White supremacy because many racist white Americans dont consider nor like to consider Indians as Asians due to racism, colorism, and to separate them from East Asians/orientals-mongoloids. Basically my point is, ( even if it sounds trivial); Asian women are always trying to take advantage of all the social privileges, benefits, advantages, luxuries, or whatever it is that white people monopolize, control, and enjoy; so they don’t feel left out or discriminated against! They just want to be white or mix with white people; so they have a better life. I understand everyone wants to fit in and not be alienated.
Are you half Khmer?
I am Asian and my top pick is Asian guys.
I met my wife in Korea when we both 25. We were married for 47 years till a stoke took her to Heaven. I didn't love her because she was Asian but because we were compatible! Guys, don't hook up with an Asian girl because you have a fantasy or unreal expectations. Even the best relationship requires work and compromise. I went into the marriage after talking to many people including her mom and pop as to how she was raised and there norms are. For example in many Asian cultures, the woman is the undisputed Queen of everything having to do with the home and family matters. The man is responsible for everything outside the house. Koreans and Japanese woman are raised to run the household and are in control of the money, This is one of the most difficult cultural things for American men to understand. I say let them do it, they are trained by there mothers from birth to do this AND THEY ARE MUCH BETTER AT IT THAN YOU, no matter what you think!
As a black woman - I feel like the same can be said for black women and the idea/stereotype that black men only date white women, etc. I think this video really helps us realize that we can be in a relationship regardless of our race, and focusing on what isn’t happening for our specific racial group in terms of dating actually KEEPS you alone. Thanks, Joe.
No. It’s not the same.
Asian American women are more likely to marry white men than their own men.
Less than 15% of married black men marry white women. These are two completely different scales of issues, not even remotely comparable.
Vast majority of black men date and PREFER black women. As is the case with all men of color and their women. Meanwhile, for all women of color, they tend to prefer WHITE men. The book “Dating Divide” explains this very well.
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@@themarathoncontinues4211 It depends. If you're a black women in Western Europe a lot of black guys will fetishize white women and ostracize black women and put them down but in America I agree they're more likely to date each other bc of their struggle/identity since the dawn of America
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Black men don’t marry anyone so the marriage stats don’t even matter, I mean yeah black men and white women have the highest divorces, but that still does not mean a lot of them aren’t in dysfunctional relationships because they’re.
@@themarathoncontinues4211 Exactly
I'm a white Irish woman married to a HK man. He moved here to Northern Ireland when he was 4 knowing no english. We grew up in a civil war where Catholics/Irish & Protestant/British were killing eachother in the street.
My husband was the only Asian in school besides his sister until he was in university.
His parents were very open to us dating and his sister also married a white man.
I have observed many of my Asian friends who grew up in a very strong Asian community, there was more of a precieved drive to marry the same race. These were the people that praised me for dating an Asian man over my white friends (they have commented on how handsome he is)
I feel because my inlaws weren't as active in the Asian community, this has helped my husband and sister in law be open to all races.
Send u hugs. As being Chinese. I find Irish Scotish ppl extremely attractive. Its funny cuz LARGE part of Chinese population with short button nose, small chin, small mouth, downward chin than forward chin, no gum showing, baby cheeks. I find Irish n Scotish ppl often has more similarity to my own family/cousins/uncles/grandparents. Lol all my childhood best freinds are 5’10-6’2. Same as my cousins, uncles, grand uncles. I find Majority of Europe especially Nordic, n Meditranian have HUGE gum. Irish celts have the opposite.
If u go to England u will see a LOT English ppl have much larger nose wider gum. Same with Meditranian , and often Nordic ppl have square face n wide jaw.
Yeah ….anyways. I find Irish ppl n Scotish, maybe Russians have a lot more similarities with East Asian . Than South EAST Asian (HUGE gum, wide nose, short, n HUGE TEETH. Shorter face) They look MORE foreign to me than a lot of white ppl. Which took me so long to understand. How ASian do NOT look like other Asian. That i used to find some whites look more similar to me (not completely) but the 1/3 1/3 1/3 facial 3rds, pointy chin small nose small mouth thing that is so common in mainland china, only commonly exist in Northern Ireland n scoltland, maybe bit Russia/ Poland (which i think a LOT of Celts/Picts) ran over when the Roman Empire n Vikings were in the war n in plan to take over.
This dude is weak! He completely dogged the subject.
I agree!
I'm that guy who doesn't do anything and therefore, is not getting the asian woman LOL
We are all humans and we all bleed red, no hate! ❤
My Asian wife approached me twice before I dated her and then in time we got married 30 years ago.
Maybe it's white fever 😊
@@willclouded Ah yes White men with Asian Wives, the only group you can be 100% racist towards..
they always do the approaching
It's not just with Asian guys. Black guys go through a lot too.
35 inches BBCs getting it super easy .. not Asians
yes and no. black guys that are in shape that are decent looking that have swag pull a lot of women. espeically the good looking guys. Ive seen them with gorgeous white women at the gym. now, black guys that dont have swag are screwed. pretty much equal to an average asian guy in terms of getting chicks. which is very limited. it sucks but it is what it is.
No True. Black guys get a lot of girls. They are more manly than white. Also black guys are not really attracted to Asian women. What is crazy is that Most of the white men the Asian women (many times hot Asian) date are the white ugly skinny nerdy men who can't get good looking white women or good looking women from other races.
@@mitch20003brother FACTS!!!! I see it at the gym all the time, hell, I even see fat or straight up out of shape black men with gorgeous white women at the gym all the time, just about any time I go to the gym it’s almost a new couple of a black man and white woman.
@@arnarnie6844 haha yeah those out of shape obese black guys have swag though, I see them with cute chunky/fat white chicks sometimes.
All I heard from this video (and many others in this same topic), is a chain of one disingenuous argument and gaslighting excuse that dances around the real issue, "Internalized Racism". Hypothetical arguments and anecdotal experiences does not address the signicifant statistical phenomenon of Asian women/white man couplings throughout the world.
It is what it is but from what I've seen, of all the white dudes Asian girls date. They never really pick the lookers it's always some average looking dude, why is that?
it’s the mid and low grade white men that can’t bag a white girl that end up catching the yellow fever. because asian women end up being the lightest skinned mate that they can match with.
Interalized racism. Just matters that they are white lol there is a video of an Indian guy talking about this. His mom would chose beautiful dark skinned women and then uglier lighter skinned women but..'their skin is fair' 😂
really? maybe in honolulu i see a lot of hot couples, good bodies, athletic, people tend to match their partners level in attractiveness or i just horny and focus more on good looking girls so biased
@@JoeJitsukawa You have not heard of JBW before? They are 400lb white men banging Asian models in Asia and the US. There is a video of a white guy who is extremely overweight talking about how much "slaying" he does of Asian pinup models.
@@Raebrained that’s their own beauty standard
well this double standard cannot be compared apples to apples because of the ability to attract the opposite sex; its hard for a man to attract any women, let alone getting into the specifics of races. Asian woman, or any woman will be able to attract any type of guy easier than a man can attract a woman, and if we go into races, its even harder for an asian man to find an interracial relationship, because most women find men unattractive in the first place. So this double standard is irrevelant based on the ability of a woman vs a man, in order for them to attract a mate.
If you are a young, heterosexual Asian man who grew up in America and you are 5' 4" or less, then it is extremely probable that your dating life is in very poor shape. I see two viable options:
1) Undergo limb lengthening surgery. This can increase your height by 2"-6" inches. It is a process though. Make sure you do your research beforehand.
2) Find a wife from the Philippines.
Sidenote:
If you know your native language (i.e. your are Korean guy who knows how to speak Korean) then your dating life is in better shape.
Una mujer latina no estadounidense tiene mas probabilidad de aceptarte.
Worse advice
@@cindymmm11 If you are a short man who is attracted to slim to slender girls then my comments apply. However, if you are a person who places a strong emphasis on an emotional and mental connection then my comments don't apply. I personally know a person who is 5' 3" and is in a relationship with a girl who is 5' 3" and 200 lbs. He weighs about 145 lbs. He appears to be happy too.
As an asian i don't mind if it's bc we are short. 😅 But sometimes when everything is equal, height, money, Humour, etc, they would still prefer white
To say you prefer is one thing versus actually doing it. Asian women can say they prefer Asian men. However, if you look at the stats or better yet, the streets of cities like SF, NYC, Seattle, Toronto, etc, you see something else. I'm not going to say Asian women don't prefer their own men. They do. However, their in-group preference is the weakest among all other groups including Asian men. Something like half of all Asian women who are dating or married are with non-Asian men, mostly White. You don't see the same happening with Asian men or other minorities. There's nothing wrong about calling that out.
This topic is honestly so toxic, asian men being bitter/hateful toward asian women is not productive or helpful for anyone. Celebrating asian men dating outside their race but denigrating asian women for doing the same is straight up hypocritical and it devalues everyone involved. I understand that asian men feel hurt and rejected but lashing out at asian women online doesn’t do anything to change their situation and it makes it difficult to emphasize with them.
its the asian women that are always bitter/hateful to asian men, when the rare occasion a white woman or asian man date each other or express interest. also its usually the asian women that have self hatred and make up excuses to lash out on asian men. get that right
Here are my thoughts on this phenomena and why it occurs.
I believe the reason for this phenomena is largely due to the way in which western individualistic culture and asian collectivistic culture manifests in the development of masculinity vs femininity. I also believe Asian cultures emphasis on social status, and it's reverence of the west during post colonial times, also has an affect, i will discuss.
In the US, there is a culture around doing everything for yourself. Pulling yourself up from your bootstraps as it is often said. This mentality can be seen in how kids particularly sons, are expected to move out of their parents house when they become legally adults. Often getting a job when in high school is a requirement, as part of fostering independence. Independence is extremely important in the US, to the point that they call their nation 'the land of the free and the home of the brave.'
Due to their individualistic lives, relationships are of lesser importance for Americans. Rather than getting fulfilment from quality relationships with family, extended family, and community members, all from a shared sense of responsibility for each other, Americans receive their fulfillment by inflating their achievements and comparing themselves to others. This can be seen in how US media often portrays people, as almost godlike. In the US, sex is a status symbol, almost akin to money. The more women a man can get, and the earlier he gets them, the higher status he appears.
Once again, Americans don't have the same communal mindset east Asians and others have. They live individualistic lives. They have less interpersonal responsibility, which is why in the US any time you see someone homeless, that person is usually white or black American. America is essentially a giant business and not a country with an ancient culture and traditions.
Contrast this now with Asian culture. In Asian culture, it is normal for a man to be 35 and still living with his parents. In fact, moving away from them is often shamed and seen as a kind of betrayal towards the family. The sense of interpersonal responsibility and family values structure in Asian culture, makes Asians not just live with but by their parents. Their parents have much more influence in their lives. If they happen to come from a dysfunctional family, moving away and self differentiating, all of which is encouraged in the west, is intensely scrutinized.
In Asian culture, adult children often live for their parents, and families. If their parents don't approve of a relationship, it will have a significant influence since their family of origin is just as important to them as whatever family they create later on in life.
In Asian culture, achievements like all else is done with respect to the broader group. One derives all of ones fulfilment from relationships, often resulting in people pleasing or presenting oneself as 'am I good enough?' It is very common for Asians to compare their kids to others. Child prodigies among Asians are achievements in the name of their family of origin. Their achievements in a 'am I enough? Am I acceptable enough?' manner. By contrast in the west, such achievements would be like 'i can play this, I can do that, I can do that.' One is with regards strictly to self and a form of confidence boost, albeit largely superficial, the other is only a confidence boost if their family approves of it. Once again, producing on one end, more at least on the surface, confident men, whereas on the other less. This doesn't mean more competent on one end, just on the surface confident.
As such, collectivistic culture produces more submissive people, both women and men alike. The only caveat to this is if the collectivistic society is deeply impoverished or wartorn, as is the case in Africa. Societies there are just as collectivistic as they are in Asia, but they don't enjoy the prosperity of the last few decades Asian cultures have enjoyed. Look at older generation men from Asia and they are significantly more masculine than their younger counterparts. This is also true between older generation men in the US vs younger generation.
American societies obsession with liberty and freedom, produces people often averse to tradition. Feminism in my opinion is a byproduct of frontiersmen American culture, with its emphasis on independence, and the protestant work ethic culture with its emphasis on work. This has made western women largely anti traditional, which can be seen throughout western society. Western men, particularly American men, seek a more traditional, ie submissive woman. Asian women see western guys who on the surface appear more masculine due to the influence of individualism on them and western media portrayals. Combine that with Asian societies reverence for the west, and given the fact that physically Europeans and Asians look quite similar to each other, and you can see how white men and asian women fit together like two pieces of a puzzle.
Im an asian guy. Never had problem with asian woman
Mainland chinese, Taiwanese, Philippinas. Cantonese, Vietnamese, woman .love me
Maybe, bizarre idea, its the way Asian men treat their women (on average) - bit of introspection here... and on the flip side, how bad Non-Asian women (especially "AWFUL"s) treat the men - "toxic masculine threat that they are" --- so you get a situation where neither of the aggrieved parties can be bothered with the bs of the other sides and that's one reason they get together - its not rocket science... incidentally, the protagonists in this situation rarely get together bc "intersectionality:" lol and har har.. you reap what you sow...
This is so bizarre (idk if it's an American thing, I'm from Melb/Sydney). Lots of people here date interracially and rarely do people in these cities bat an eye, let alone angry over it lol ... in my circles, asian girls here usually date asian guys or mixed asian guys. At least in my group, we are quite wary of white anglo guys bc of the level of fetishisation... there is less judgement I guess for non anglo white dudes since they went through discrimination during the 80s and 90s, so theres a level of understanding e.g. Italians, Greek, eastern european.
White guys and Asian women is by far most common IR couple in Aus too. Italians, Greeks etc are all white, just because they aren’t Norwegian doesn’t change that.
And people do bat an eye if a non-white man dates a white girl.
What’s the ratio of AF-WM to AM-WF in Australia again? About 15-1?
@@theinternational397 that might be an underestimation.
Notice how she tried to act like Hapas + Italians/Greeks can be lumped in with full Asian men
I agree , ppl are allowed to date what they allowed to date. PPL having dogs/puppies. They are PARTiculare with BREED/size/gender/color. Particular shape .
Me n my dude got YORKIE puppies. He made clear he did NOT want like sloppy ears. He wanted UP ears. He did NOT want long face ugly yorkie . N he did not want long leg yorkie. (Yorkies are known to have short legs long spine). Can’t force it. After owning first yorkie. We got 1 more puppy, upon meeting. My dude first thing:”omg long legs looks like spider”. N I was like :”omg i saw that too”. Like ppl’s perception are shaped by experience. If we saw hot kid in school , bus, public , movie, when we were young we develop perception what is hot. Subconsciously its baked in.
There douche bag guys here throwing shades. In face a lot of dudes talking shade on this topic is their own down fall. When i was in school the Rude guys would come up in group to bully me as “tease” n laughing at me as group so loud n they enjoy making women feeling sick. Then thry turn around blame women dating Japanese, Arab, Muslim , white…
JSUT see how the guy commenting on yr stuff. That utter annoyance n pushy self rightness will push anyone away. Cuz its not hot character. Not gracious not wise, full of spite.
Drop your skincare routine immediately!!!
Lmao you obviously don’t know Joe 😂😂😂
As someone from 🇯🇲 we don't even kno what this concept is, everybody dates everybody,, Asians whites blacks ect our country motto is OUT OF MANY, ONE PEOPLE for a reason
Complete lies. Otherwise there wouldn’t be a cakesoap epidemic over there. You people are VERY aware of race, color and features. Like everybody else
@@themarathoncontinues4211what’s cake soap?
Someone is jealous they can't get a woman.
It somewhat does boil down to racism. They always say Asian women are the race more likely to date and marry outside their race. However, they will only make this exception with White caucasian mem! I dont see AF dating mexicans, mixed races, blacks, middle easterns, native americans or other Asian ethnic groups such as Indians, Pakistanis, and Bangladeshi/Burmese! ( South Asians to be exact)
Cooping. Maybe u are not tall? Most mix guys who are taller they are usually thought after.
Human are black pilled. Its preminitive its not by choice.
Jus like in subway..d moment u walk in yr eyes wil scan n do 2 things:” 1 look at who’s dangeous, any thug sitting around. To avoid sitting near a thug. 2 to see anyone hot, to sit near someone hot”
So thats like constant thing. By visual nerve that brain is like AI at background doing filtering all day . Its NOT something ppl can dictate. If not a race thing its more like “are u hot enough for me “ thing. Do not make it about race. Cuz if that is to blame, u are blaming yr own mom. If u are thing in that way categorizing women in general , that thinking pattern of over analyzing is going to set u up for epic pain. Because if u ever meet women u are going to judge her “is she liking me or cuz i am half white” this type of toxic thinking is going to make u feeling arrogant yet not happy with who u are with. U need to find more therapy to be accepting before going out because u are in pain or some sorts. Hugs . Not all Asian women cheat. Not all white men are hot. 70% white men are NOT HOT at all.
@@birdtj82 uhhh I'm 6'3! and my mom is White, Dad is asian. it depends on the culture, society, and what part of the region of USA you live in. I live in the midwest and yes race matters alot out here. I'm not in pain, just stating facts of the ugly reality we live in. I never said all white men are hot. however, white men do tend to have a monopoly on the dating/relationship/sex pool. but that does not matter, I was not making it all about race,, but the class issue involved as well. I want to understand why Asian women are so obsessed with White men. I'm not obsessed with White women.
@@tropicalbeach9225 HEy first of all thank u for taking the time to read my comment n also the respectful response. I get to know the genuine side of struggle more, that is effective communication. I am sure we all go thru life thinking who we are. Sometimes analyzing others is just journey of us know who we are. Do we attach us to this or that.
Long ago in college. At end of business school , accounting . Last classs instead of doing schooling our professor asked us to share our experience living in North America. Just to learn from 1 another. I was SHOCKED SHOCKEd SHOCKED….that my CHINESE friend born locally, raised his had. He’s like 20 yr old baby face NOT ugly, fresh looking cute guy. N what he said was so SADDENING. To this day. That he shocked our professor. Cuz he looked like the peak of the world its the North American dream but he felt empty.
he said:”i dont know who i am, i am born here. But I don’t feel like i am part of main steam, I know i am chinese but i dont speak their language, i have never gone to china. I know I am Canadian but i am NOT white. Its not something i can connect like flawlessly. I am NOT Canadian, but i am Canadian. I am chinese but I am not chinese. I don’t know who i am. I am 20 yr old but I feel strange. U just coasting. I d try to be more white but i know i am Asian. I can do more Asian things but i know i will never be Asian thing Asian. I feel empty unlike ppl form Asia they feel proud of where they are from. I just feel weird i cant explain.”
That hurt. To this day. I realize most Asian immigrants, or parents of Mix ppl never would prepared that type of ON GOING struggle that they do NOT intent to cast on them. That as human, we need to feel like belong to community. Thats d primal need. N feeling confused who we are is extremely devastating…especially if at very young age,,,that d parents did NOT cozy, guide coach the kids to deal with internal struggle but to talk :”oh u look more white, oh u dont look Asian at all. U look 100% white. “ or “ are u gonna marry white or Asian ? When u grow up?”
In fact that I unfortunately HAD a roommate (half chinese/half white). She had the MOST complex when she was in ther 20s. Becauee she knew nothing about Chinese, she just wanted to be white. But she LOOK less “white” than me when i had like blond hair highlights, brown hair later (just party phase trying something for once) that i alwys was mistaken as Spanish. She was always mistaken as 100% Asian. She did NOT like that. Even tho she freshly moved to my city, i helped her to get around everything introduced her to all the parties n supported her. Never msg back d guys that she was hanging out with ,,,that were secretly back door DM me, n i actually came to genuinely warned her. But she was just MORE ANGRY. Accusing me lying even i offered to show her the DM. She really did NOT like that I would date Asian or white. N its NO obcession, but its equal compitition. Ppl cant understands--in China in Beijing….AVERAGE male hight 2022 5’10” (in the city, not in the farm etc). That’s including old short ppl.
2022 Beijing WOmen average hight- 5’6.5”.
My cousin looks like CHAD 6’0.5” went up for university came back telling me :” ah I am like the 3rd shortest guy in my dorm. My roommate 6’3, then 6’2” i am like 3rd one down, women were average 170cm. N there some women like 5’10 6’0. HUGE”.
Ppl in North America CANt understand that.
Even as ASian. I was enlightened by some Italian guy a few days ago. When he said :”i am 100% Italian” he looked NOTHING like NORTH American Italian. Its shocking. He looked more like Australian/German Irish Celt. He was like :”yeah in Italy 40% look like those, then in the middle is all mix. Then where in USA…MOST ppl from Italy are from UTTERR southern Italy Meditranian/Greek type of look. Most ppl think Italians look like Rob Denaro in those mafia movie. But thats like 15%-20% Italians look like. In fact like Leonardo Dicaprio , Rudy Julianni, lady Gaga..etc. he’s like kinda half Italian thats like the Main stream look in Italy. “
So d NONE main stream look became the MAIN stream look of Italian in North America” so like YES…then the MOST Italian girls born native in USA will still pick pretty boy German Austrian or Italian that looks like Chris Evans over ppl look like the young Rudy Juliani. If she happens having cousins , uncles, childhood friends back home all like tall hot male they are NOT gonna come half way cross the world looking for MUCH shorter bigger nose bigger gum. meditranian . EVERYONE does that. Especiallly white. ITs just same thing with Asian. But ASian is more OBVIOUS. Except Asians got shorter n shorter n shorter over the 200 years in North America. Especially Chinese.
Because d Main stream chinese ppl at culture , polical centre Developed area never came to USA or canada. Most ppl were like southern desprite migrants seeking job, got lured to come to North America n stuck. Then could NOT go back home so they were forced to marry someone NOT their own culture, like they marry Thai, Flipino, Cambodian…..(NATIONAL women average like 4’9- 4’10) back then. So their son got short, n marry someone short just got shorter n shorter n shorter.
So in USA …EAST ASian decent are average 3”-4” minimal shorter than than EASt Asian back home. I am NOT LYING. So if there Asian arrived here last 20-30 years like :”what did my parents send me to this place with ppl so short, every time i go back home to visit …just landed in a place full of Tall Asians, every time i go back to USA n CAnada, i go back to short Asian land. “
Its not Asian obcession with white. Ppl do NOT Mary down. Its unfortunate situation that North American ASiasn just gotten shorter n shorter n shorter.
U are welcome to look it it up: on google,
“2022 Beijing AVERAGE male hight, 2022 shanghai Average Male hight, 2022 Beijing aVERAGE FEMALE hight.”
Then the korean.
My friends my chines gf just married a 5’11” Japanese, my other pretty chinese gf married a 5”11 Arab musline, professional computer engineer who has white ish look but def not pale. The thing is ASiasns marry anyone attractive n smart that they can connect. In fact ONLY the ones with white are Noticable n acknowledged. Its NOT fair call that as “obsession” yet I understand why ppl echo chamber .suddenly it formulated “yeah thats true” its not.
Also depends what type of ASian they are from. For example. East ASian-- Chinese , Korean. Have SMALL NOSE, small mouth, small chin, Short nose, small nastrils that’s NOT exposed or stretched when chewing or laughing. Or NO gum when laughing. No Agressive portusion of teeth. When South East ASian look MUCH darker, arounder scalp, shorter face, Portusion of lower face bone/jaw, 1.5-2X size of mouth n nose n lips . Usually ppl with that trait when they laugh, will form a very appearance deep wrinkle looks like ‘ ( ) “ around the nose n mouth. But if East Asian with small chin they will not have that deep wrinkle as teen or 20s at all. Because their mouth n chin so small. So seeing some SOUTH EAST Asian in the teen 20s with that structure. Suddently is like as if we see a men in their 40s in china/Korea. Its not something we see daily back home.
Yeah so i would see how Scottish Picts, Irish celts with small nose, small chin, small mouth , short nose , 1/3 1/3 1/3 facial 3rds have more similar side face profile to me n more familiar . Than someone look like South East ASian because they are MORE related to JOSE.
Ppl seek comfort in the ones that they look familiar to themselves. My childhood cousins, best friends all Look lilke Keanu Reeves in Matrix. N they were like 5’10-6’.05” if they look like that in USA n Canada, they would get some white girls into them. Asians in USA look VERy different than ASIANS. Even if their parents move here, their stands do NOT change.
@@birdtj82 i don't mind if it's abkut height. Hut sometimes even when the asian and white are the same height, earn the same amount of money, have the same attitude and humor, the asian woman in US would still prefer the white
@@birdtj82 nice explanation on this one
As long as both parties are consenting... Who gives a $#!+??? Never let your happiness be constrained by the approval of other people.
Yeah, but there is a movement where some girls just show off their white boyfriends and then cuss off those who dont look successful. Sure, consenting is great, but why take a beating as well if you are the asian guy?
"As long as both parties are consenting"
I guess Stockholm syndrome isn't a problem then.
Does it matter? Don’t be jealous.
Bruce Lee had Married an White Girl for his Wife
yes ofc because he doesn't wanna date asian girls
I have a preference , also, everyone is racist deep down. I rather everyone to be honest than being politically correct
These comments are hilarious!
yeah a lot of toxic racist people here. They love bashing white people and they love to make everything about race. Most people in general aren't as racist as many people might think. Not everything in the world is about race
Mainly because of a few reasons, Money, Visa and Social Status. Once you have all of these, you can pick whatever woman you want even if you are pink.
Last time I was this early she never called back 😅
I think my attraction to Asian women began by being around mostly Asian women the majority of my life.
As a teenager i grew up watching China made martial arts/ kung fu & Old school Godzilla movies where the heroines was Asian. But my community was 99% black.
After the Navy, i ended up in Socal which had a very small black community. Was really hard to find sistha. Also after college, i chose a medical career. So most of the people i was around at work were Asian girls. It was also when i first got hit on by non black: whites women and Asian.
I did date a few white & fillapinas but we didn’t fully connect… not because of their race but because of their parents. I ended up falling in love with a Japanese girl i helped learn English i met in college. We were married for 20 years before getting divorced. I took 5 years to no dating as my kids finished college.When I started dating again, i tried a sistha my age but she was going through things and not ready. I ended up meeting another Japanese lady close to my age(3 years than me). She had never been married and she was Christian. We dated for 3 years and just got married a few months ago. We had our honeymoon and reception in her hometown of Osaka( Osaka Ben/ Kansai dialect was so hard for me)!
I was worried about my mom accepting because she always wanted me to marry a black Christian woman. But she accepted my new wife because she was Christian.
I think you are right people need to just worry about themselves and let people date who they fall in love with. My son once asked me who should he date, someone black or someone Japanese? My answer to him and my daughter was, “date whoever you love and returns that love to you.”
Let see that same energy when a black man wants to date an Asian girl.
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@8:54 Negative Perspective? Thats a Realistic view of the situation....and im a Black dude! All i ever seen is AW and BW say that about their own male groups!
Joe speaking nothing but facts ❤
they're opinions...
I am an Asian man living in the U.S. sine 60s, but I was born in China. I was married several times. My first wife was Filipina and she was the only Asian I married. Others were all Latinas.
I have dated different races of women in my life. I had an Asian girlfriend briefly.
I was never attracted to Asian women because most of them were short and skinny. I am 5’11 and I didn’t like any woman under 5’3. There was not many Asian where I went to school either. So I dated mostly White and Latina.
Here are my opinions on women of different races: I mainly dated women with professional jobs. This summarized my over 50 years of dating experiences
***Asian women in U.S. - Most women preferred white men. Perhaps wanted to assimilate more into American culture.
***White women - Not surprising, most are liberal and career oriented. They were not family oriented nor were they domesticated. I also did not trust their faithfulness for long term relation.
**Most white women preferred not to date outside their race. Unfortunately, those who dated Asian man also were opened to other races including black.
I met some white women thru dating site, and some thru professional organization and activities. I was not 100% successful but I had several advantages: I am not that short at 5’11, I have a muscular body, and I had a professional job and my own home..
I do have several disadvantages as many Asian men - I am shy, introverted, and do not drink and not very outgoing, and did not fit the party bad boy image.
***Latina in U.S. - They were not racist like some white women. Not many had higher education. Most had children at young age, and had responsibilities for their parents. Some had families in their own country to support. Their values have changed if they have been in the U.S. for some time.
***Black - I was not attracted to their culture.
***Asian women in Asia - Most are gold diggers. They just wanted a green card.
***Eastern European whites - Poor and desperate, gold diggers. Eastern Europe are not safe laces to travel to.
***Latina from Latin America. After several failed marriages, I eventually discovered paradise from foreign dating site, and went on group tours and private trips to Latin America - Peru, Colombia.
I speak good Spanish, and found my current wife in Bogota, and we have been married for over 15 years. She had 2 gown children remained in Colombia.
NOTE: Latinas in Latin America were not discriminated against Asian men. To them I was another American. I think Latinas are the most beautiful and sexy women.
Latina from outside U.S. would make better partners and had not influenced by negative culture in the U.S.. However, most had children at young age so be prepare to support them. So this may be harder for younger man to accept..
The fung bros disagree with you
So what. Joe is allowed to voice his own opinion and perspective on the subject.
@@bethnichols2875 and so can they...
@@bethnichols2875 LOL he's joking im sure
@@JoeJitsukawa Joe, I wanna meet u dude. Been watching u guys since forever. Love urs and Bart’s vibe.
I taught my kids, “every day, go to skoo…”
And congrats on ur marriage! Wishing u guys the best!
I dated all races but preferred to date asian due to food culture and traditions. I like dim sum, sushi, thai food, Vietnamese food over all other food. Non asians i dated were more reluctant to try the food i grew up with or criticize it.
You didn't touch on its also where you live. I live in Minnesota. I know 3 asian men that are with non asian women. I know at least 30 plus asian women that date have kids and or are married to white and black guys. And I know a lot of people.
Just looking in from the outside watching the situation, YES those Asian ladies love white dudes! It’s obvious. My coworker too is Cambodian and Vietnamese and she only loves white men and is always hard at work looking on her dating hookup apps for a white dude.
Preferences when it comes to race create some sort of racial hierarchy which perpetuates and entrenches white privilege and supremacy. Asians themselves are the source of the problem. Instead of redefining the system and developing confidence in themselves, they consciously or perhaps subconsciously aspire to belong to a white dominated world. Through these preferences they are giving some sort of credibility to the idea that eurocentric standards are the pedestal that the world must aspire to attain. While some people may claim that preferences are harmless, they should better understand the history of racism, colonialism, slavery, and white privilege. Only then they will understand that preferences actually maintain such inequality.
actually alot of these are not true, you guys are not getting the traditional Asian. alot of these are more western Asians.
I am not even sure how this became relevant to me, or why I ended up searching those key words, but Negl at least where I am I see mainly Asian Women and White men and Asian mean with Asian women,
I am Melanatedly overdosed so I am out of the strike zone for this stuff, not long ago I was definitely in the camp of love who you wanna love but as I have also learnt the historical implications of These relationships
The power dynamics of it all is pretty different tbh Man to woman Vs Woman to Man
But I won’t lie I grew up with dudes like Jet Li and Jackie Chan, so I was actually surprised to find out the Stereotypes on Asian guys I get some of them are bad but tbh I still wish those where the stereotypes my people got
I’m ok with this! It’s their preference, but I just wish they would just be honest and say what they truly feel. They feel they are better than their race! Well, you aren’t!
I was told “we totally click, but I can’t see myself with an Asian guy! I like white guys!” I appreciated her honesty, I didn’t like it, but it’s her preference. But, be honest, and tell us that you think you are better than us. I, actually, feel sorry for them, to hate your heritage that much that you wouldn’t even date your own race because you feel you are too good for your own race. Good luck to you! I’ll be content with a woman who knows where she comes from! God Bless!
i feel it really depends on the area you grew up with and what you are exposed to. And also physical features / physical traits
I am white, European and i am extremely attracted to asian girls. 🤷🏻♂️
My had two fiancées. My First one was a Qingdao girl who was either a Half German, Half Chinese or Half Russian and Half Chinese. She was bilingual in Mandarin and English and had long Red Hair and White skin and an hourglass figure. Worked as a hair stylist. My second and current fiancée is a Polish girl with long Blonde hair and fair skin. She dyes her hair often. Is an Art student at Art school and likes Citrus and My Hero Academia and Breaking Bad.
please leave out the fair skin description. It is always creepy
Most of it is overblown. I dated Asian women for almost twenty years before I met my wife. None of them only dated white men, and I never heard them say anything bad about Asian men. It seemed like they had dated both Asian and white men.
Married to an Asian (Japanese), myself being Latin (Colombian) (kind of whitetish?).
If you werent whiteish. She would have never agreed to date you. Its better to lie to say your French or from Italy than to say your Colombian.
@@wilkesmcdermid7906there are no mestizos in france nor italy lmao
@@wololeiro2364 you clearly don’t understand my comment.
@@wilkesmcdermid7906 you clearly have no idea how a dark frenchman or italian is different from a latino mestizo
@@wololeiro2364 My point in Asia you have to be white to date.
Not your business just because she is Asian she has to date Asian it's her choice. You don't police her choice. You don't own her
I’m black and I been noticing this as a guy who dated Asian women. The whyte guy don’t gotta be super handsome or rich or anything just whyte. They will date down so hard just to secure some whyte skin. They wanna be whyte themselves.
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