Hi S.T. Excellent. Your examples harmonize with the wisdom of the "Desiderata". "As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons". This resembles Paul's "as far as it depends on you be on good terms with all persons" (Rom 12:18), but Paul misses the Stoic principle of setting boundaries explicit in the Desiderata's words "without surrender". For the Stoic, the Bible is a prompt for further discussion, not an end to all discussion. Cheers, P.R.
I didn’t feel “Guilty”, I saul “The Family May visit after 4:00 PM. That.s how I learned, intuitively., the Divorce had already begun. The Heir to the Family, meant, I was no longer “Needed”
1. Sign 1: Guilt-tripped for setting boundaries (01:27) 2. Sign 2: Blocking personal growth (04:46) 3. Sign 3: Everything is your fault (07:26) 4. Sign 4: The bad outweighs the good (10:06) 5. Sign 5: No contact unless they need something (12:43) 6. Sign 6: Energy vampire (15:18) 7. Sign 7: All efforts lead to nowhere (18:01)
Hi. Unfortunately there are no "perfect people" that we can exclusively make into our friends. Even if there were, they might not want us as their friends. As Marcus Aurelius said, we've just got to make do with the reality we have. Let's be totally honest, we can all display these traits, so our first responsibility is to monitor ourselves as much as others. "He who would have a friend must himself be friendly" (Prov 18:24). Cheers, P.R.
You're absolutely right-none of us are perfect, and self-awareness is key. As Marcus Aurelius and Proverbs suggest, we must strive to be the kind of friend we'd want for ourselves. Cheers to growth and understanding, P.R.!
@@StoicTraining Hi S.T., and thanks. You're putting markers along the road we must all walk, giving us a good measure of both ourselves and our journey. Cheers, P.R.
Sometimes, walking away is an act of self-respect. Cutting contact doesn’t mean hatred; it means valuing your peace and well-being over relationships that drain or harm you. Protecting your energy is essential for growth.
I've committed to a group for a two year term as president. I am doing a great job, I hear, from my other officers, upper officers, and the majority of the group. There is a handful creating chaos, bad circular behind the scenes talk, undermining my efforts and being downright disrespectful. I would like to fulfill my term and I am about halfway thru. I enjoy the work, but this situation is a real challenge and can be draining. Stoicism helps, though I am quite taken aback by these people. Should I stay?
There are those that are nothing but a nuisance in life.For the sake of peace you tolerate so much but you get nothing in return. Even though its painful and understanding comes late,remove them from your life and many times God will do the same. They cause you nothing but hardship and its not worth it.
Absolutely past associate but has a relationship where both are hoarders, came first assistants, but reality not genuine won’t get professional help, total denial. Religious differences not working out. Feeling drained differently need to walk away🙏🙏🙏😱
Recognizing the toll a draining relationship takes on you is the first step to reclaiming your peace. Walking away can be the healthiest choice when efforts to mend things aren't mutual. Prioritize your well-being-sometimes letting go is the best path forward. 🙏
If you’re talking to somebody and they don’t look at you while you’re talking to them can that mean they don’t like you this was somebody that came into my house and made a not so nice comment about the way I looked
It could indicate discomfort or disinterest, especially paired with unkind comments. Trust your instincts-if their behavior feels disrespectful, it’s okay to set boundaries. 🌟
See things as they are not as you wish them to be is the crux of the matter. We so want to believe that our family and friends have our best interests at heart but sometimes it is not so, I have learned to listen to my inner self that something is wrong and to not ignore it. I am on that journey and it is not easy, I have guilt and loneliness which is difficult to contend with but that is better than being convinced that I am useless. I feel more power now in rejecting that attack and have peace knowing that I can find more positive connections. Thank you for the stoic training.
It really makes you reflect on the relationships in your life and prioritize your mental health
Every video that you upload is full of wisdom. You are empowering people to move away from toxic relationships
Thank you so much, I believe you will be a much better version in the future. ❤
Hi S.T. Excellent. Your examples harmonize with the wisdom of the "Desiderata".
"As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons".
This resembles Paul's "as far as it depends on you be on good terms with all persons" (Rom 12:18), but Paul misses the Stoic principle of setting boundaries explicit in the Desiderata's words "without surrender". For the Stoic, the Bible is a prompt for further discussion, not an end to all discussion. Cheers, P.R.
Thanks so much, super information and wisdom which so many of these things I will be applying to my life! ❤
You're so welcome!
I didn’t feel “Guilty”, I saul “The Family May visit after 4:00 PM. That.s how I learned, intuitively., the Divorce had already begun. The Heir to the Family, meant, I was no longer “Needed”
1. Sign 1: Guilt-tripped for setting boundaries (01:27)
2. Sign 2: Blocking personal growth (04:46)
3. Sign 3: Everything is your fault (07:26)
4. Sign 4: The bad outweighs the good (10:06)
5. Sign 5: No contact unless they need something (12:43)
6. Sign 6: Energy vampire (15:18)
7. Sign 7: All efforts lead to nowhere (18:01)
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Thank you for this video clarifying audibly that which my spirit already knew. Painful… yes. Necessary…..also yes.
You're welcome. Trusting your spirit and making those tough but necessary decisions is a powerful step toward peace and growth. Stay strong! 💪
Hi. Unfortunately there are no "perfect people" that we can exclusively make into our friends. Even if there were, they might not want us as their friends. As Marcus Aurelius said, we've just got to make do with the reality we have. Let's be totally honest, we can all display these traits, so our first responsibility is to monitor ourselves as much as others. "He who would have a friend must himself be friendly" (Prov 18:24). Cheers, P.R.
You're absolutely right-none of us are perfect, and self-awareness is key. As Marcus Aurelius and Proverbs suggest, we must strive to be the kind of friend we'd want for ourselves. Cheers to growth and understanding, P.R.!
@@StoicTraining Hi S.T., and thanks. You're putting markers along the road we must all walk, giving us a good measure of both ourselves and our journey. Cheers, P.R.
Sometimes, walking away is an act of self-respect. Cutting contact doesn’t mean hatred; it means valuing your peace and well-being over relationships that drain or harm you. Protecting your energy is essential for growth.
I've committed to a group for a two year term as president. I am doing a great job, I hear, from my other officers, upper officers, and the majority of the group. There is a handful creating chaos, bad circular behind the scenes talk, undermining my efforts and being downright disrespectful. I would like to fulfill my term and I am about halfway thru. I enjoy the work, but this situation is a real challenge and can be draining. Stoicism helps, though I am quite taken aback by these people. Should I stay?
There are those that are nothing but a nuisance in life.For the sake of peace you tolerate so much but you get nothing in return.
Even though its painful and understanding comes late,remove them from your life and many times God will do the same.
They cause you nothing but hardship and its not worth it.
Absolutely past associate but has a relationship where both are hoarders, came first assistants, but reality not genuine won’t get professional help, total denial. Religious differences not working out. Feeling drained differently need to walk away🙏🙏🙏😱
Recognizing the toll a draining relationship takes on you is the first step to reclaiming your peace. Walking away can be the healthiest choice when efforts to mend things aren't mutual. Prioritize your well-being-sometimes letting go is the best path forward. 🙏
My homework…How to support Masons Beach Citizens Association or the Deale Volunteer Fire Department…in a healthy way!
If you’re talking to somebody and they don’t look at you while you’re talking to them can that mean they don’t like you this was somebody that came into my house and made a not so nice comment about the way I looked
It could indicate discomfort or disinterest, especially paired with unkind comments. Trust your instincts-if their behavior feels disrespectful, it’s okay to set boundaries. 🌟
See things as they are not as you wish them to be is the crux of the matter. We so want to believe that our family and friends have our best interests at heart but sometimes it is not so, I have learned to listen to my inner self that something is wrong and to not ignore it. I am on that journey and it is not easy, I have guilt and loneliness which is difficult to contend with but that is better than being convinced that I am useless. I feel more power now in rejecting that attack and have peace knowing that I can find more positive connections. Thank you for the stoic training.
@@StoicTraining thank you ❤️