Helping a Loved One Who’s Hurting | Pastors Shawn & Jill Johnson | Red Rocks Church
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- In week 4 of our Let's Talk: Relationships series we hear from Pastors Shawn and Jill Johnson about relationships when life gets complicated. They give us real examples of how to love those we care about most when they are deeply hurting.
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Sometimes all your best intentions and prayers and love still isn't enough to help someone who doesn't want help. I believed for healing, but my husband walked away (with another woman). I'm struggling to understand why I did all the same things as Jill, while experiencing much of the same realities with my husband, but didn't receive the same results. Sometimes God allows a person to leave so that we can walk with Him on our own journey of healing. I experienced ALOT of what you speak of. Most church family avoided me for lack of knowing what to say or do. The loneliest, most painful season of my life! I've withdrawn from church and really trying to look to Christ alone for what I need. I'm still healing, but would appreciate faithful prayers of believers.
I will pray for you KH
@@kathleen9346 WOW!!! Thank you!!!
KH we have a zoom gathering to fellowship. We are strong women of faith.
Feel free to get in touch with me if that would help you. United, we can do more
same as what I experienced thought I'm alone too struggling
I thank the LORD for the strength, power, and ability HE gives to me to support my lovely wife ALL the time.
Thank you pastor Shawn God bless you and your ministry family and everyone Amen 🙏🙏
Please can there be a part 2 to this?? I would love to hear a more in depth conversation from Jill. As someone who’s gone through something like this I could never find the words to express how I felt. Thank you Jill for being a voice for those of us on the other side of being in a relationship with someone suffering from depression & anxiety. Such a blessing!
Re2 ease were eee
Your honesty is so redeeming. We’re learning that we can make it on broken pieces. Thanks for showing us we can make it with God no matter how uncertain.
Oh, God. Yes. I'm truly seeing that broken can make it, even in christ, all the way there.
Our brokenness and us being honest about it opens doors for ministry and allows our hearts to show understanding towards others who are hurting.
We often ask God to use us not realizing that brokenness is a method in which He may choose to do it.
In Christ through Grace, the broken are able to shed light through cracked vessels.
Great message ❤
Praise the Lord 🙏
This really hit home as I’ve battled anxiety and depression to core of my soul my whole life. Unfortunately, my wife of 11 years couldn’t comprehend it and we divorced. I’m a single father of two and it’s a struggle everyday but I stay positive and thanks to this channel I’m finding my faith again. Pastor Shawn and Jill you are such an inspiration! I hope someday to find a woman that understands mental illness and that is as supportive as Jill. ❤️🙏
Psalm 37:7 "Quiet your heart in his presence and pray; keep hope alive as you long for God to come through for you." I was blessed by this spirit filled message from Pastors Shawn & Jill Johnson.
You guys are awesome.
Awesome. It's not by accident that I am here. It's The mighty move of The Lord to bring me here. To hear this precious message. My hats off to your loving n persistent wife. Praise God what The Lord has joined together. No one can tear it apart. Thanks thanks for sharing. And praying for us all. God bless n luv you both. ❤️
What a beautiful Godly woman 🙏🏼 I look up to her so much 🙏🏼 Thank you for this couple Lord ❤️🙏🏼
Look at his face when he looks at her. He's madly in love with her. It's so awesome to see such love.
So beautiful! Thank you for sharing and what a beautiful testimony. Thank you, Lord.
Pastor Jill I just started going to red rocks Lakewood. Maybe like a month or so. But since I have been going it’s been a blessing from listening to pastor Shawn sermon but also his struggles. I am also battling slot of health issues including three months ago I found out I have Alzheimer’s. I’m just 58 years old. Male but god has me listening to your guys going through the same thing that me and my wife is going through. But let me tell you pastor Jill you are awesome and I mean it. I hope that you will see this message. I would love to meet you both. I know you guys probably have no time. Cause you probably got a lot on your guys plate. But may god almighty keep you wrap in his mighty wings. God bless Lee romero.
Hi Lee! Thank you for reaching out to us here! We would love to pray with you and for you! Feel free to head to redrockschurch.com/prayer where we have a whole team ready and willing to pray with you. You can also reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com, where we can connect you with a pastor. God Bless!
My spouse n I have been going through so many struggles. Please pray for us, that God bless our union and helps us through these battles. Amen. 🩸🩸🩸
Hi vyuperez! Thank you for reaching out to us and we would love to pray for/with you! If you go to redrockschurch.com/prayer, we have a whole team ready and willing to pray with you! You can also reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com to connect with a pastor. God Bless!
Thanks for this very honest video, I have been there where taking my own life looked like the only option, the best for everyone around me, God provided a miracle and I did not die that day and today I can tell my story to help others. I am working in His service, not because I am perfect but because I was broken, but saved by His grace. I had to go thru that so that I can help others, I know how it feels when you are at the lowest, darkest place ever, and I also know that God can lift you out of that place and I am not ashamed to tell my story, I rejoice I a mighty Saviour and that He thought that I was worth saving. Rember Jesus died to save anybody who would accept him into their lives, even the broken.
Elaine you are blessed for telling your story.
Bless you for sharing!!
Restoration of my faith and hope , wasn't a good partner now that I'm alone got the same reaction, please pray for a miracle of healing in my heart. Amen
Amen🙏🏾
Thank you for your message especially about hurting I'm watching from Dubai like the way you teach God bless you
😭😭😭😭😭. GOD SEES EVERYTHING!!!!🙏
I just really wanted to say thank you so much for this message. My finance and I needed this so much. He's struggling says he knows God as his saviour but sometimes I'm not so sure. I go to church everytime the doors are open and watch every preaching show I can find on tv. But I can't get him to go to church. He sometimes watches the preaching I watch on tv. But he sometimes gets mad says I'm pushing God in him. I don't know what to do. If you could preach a sermon on how to lead a loved one to God for salvation, that would be awesome. But either way I love y'all keep doing what you're doing it truly helps! God bless!
Hello! Thank you for reaching out to us! We are so sorry that you are going through this tough time right now, but we don’t want you to go through this alone! Feel free to head to redrockschurch.com/prayer where we have a whole team ready and willing to pray with you. You can also reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com, where we can connect you with a pastor. God Bless!
I needed this right now . My husband is currently dealing with anxiety. It’s hard for me at times when my hubby isn’t himself !
I really miss him …if that makes sense.
This is when I pray even harder and ask the lord to give me strength . I know this will be temporary…
Hi Audrey! We are so sorry to hear what you and your husband are going through right now! We would love to connect with you and pray with you. Feel free to go to redrockschurch.com/prayer where we have a whole team ready to pray with you or reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com and we can connect you with a pastor. God Bless!
Wow, this is awesome the way he talks about her.
Amen. God gave you your wife for a good reason. To God be the glory.
Wow Revelation knowledge (golden nuggets), powerful. I love it! Going into the secret place.
God is silent but he is not still. Love meditating on this!
Thank You pastor for these videos, I was up late listening to music when I found you, your video on past hurts still hurting I learned so much from, I was going thru pain of considering breaking up with a girlfriend who addicted to opiate's and hurting, this was the 14 or 15th, I wanted to end our relationship because I found her passed out in a mess, the last time she took 3days to come out of it and I felt she was killing herself and would argue about rehab, we argued and argued, I was afraid of going to apt and finding her gone, she promised this would be the last time she would use she didn't want rehab, on the 18th I called police to do a welfare check, they found her passed away
I will pray for you 🙏
keeping you in prayer.
@@thefleuriste4598 THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
how long does it hurt when you lose someone you gave your life and love to, I want so much to torture to hurt to destroy the person who sold her fentanyl laced percocets I am having a hard time accepting god's plan to take the burdens I have to bare here,
It's not your fault .. God bless 🙏🏻
That's a great gift from God. Great work friends. Bless you and all who let Him work through them.
I'd like to hear more of her speak!
26 years ago, my youngest child died at the age of 5 of heart disease. My grief was so bad I was in the stage of anger and I was hurting my family with my anger. I knew I needed grief counseling but we could not afford it. In my distress, I prayed asking God for a solution. I knew a professional Christian Counselor but I could not afford to pay her. I asked God for a solution and He told me that the counselor was also a store house, (Malachi 3:10). I went to my Pastor and I told him what was going on with my grief and I needed help that our church couldn’t give me and he released me to go and get the counseling I needed and pay it with my tithes. This Counselor is a right hand person for the Olsteen Family at Lakewood Church in Houston and has been since the church started with John Osteen. That was in 1994 and to this day I still go to her for guidance and prayer. She is my Spiritual Mother. My point is that God made a way for me to get my healing.
Hi from New Zealand..PRAISE THE LORD
I've been ignoring to play this message but it was in my playlist. This stopped me in my tracks and just listened. Found me at the right time, especially the ending.
She is truly a spirit from God. Jesus help me in my marriage. Give me wisdom and strength to get through this painful process. In lord Jesus's name Amen.
Am so inspired by your words
Thank you for your powerful word of God iam blessed
Thank you. God bless you guys. You are beautiful, you are a blessing to me and I am sure to many more people out there. God spoke to me through you guys. Thank you.
This was so raw & vulnerable. Thank you for sharing. This shed a whole lot of light onto my life. I am forever grateful for both of you guys❤️
o man, anxiety and panic attacks are the worst. So glad you're doing well Pastor
Such a beautiful soul you are, Jill ❤ I suffer from depression and anxiety but my family would not help me, in fact; they slammed the door in my face. All I needed was for someone to understand, a safe place, someone to talk too. Even my own doctor laughed and said "Its called tough love, figure it out on your own" - Very humiliating and painful. I was rejected from those who I thought I could trust. It still hurts and I still suffer. 😢 I live alone, am old, and am beyond sad. I pray, and do my personal best to live my life for Jesus in everything I do and say, but my faith is weak. Please pray for me. Thank You for being the hands and feet of Jesus. ❤
This is so helpful...thank u so much. God bless your ministry ❤❤
Wow, what a couple, strong story, wow sister Jill, I am speechless just wow hehe, your a great example 😊
Thank you You both are a Beautiful Team!! God bless you your household 🌈🌈🌈🌈
I needed to hear this.
Both r strong!!!!🙏
What I hear you say what you deals with. Sounds like the same things my grandson is dealing with he’s 20 years old and he does have a alcohol problem. The difference is he’s drinking so please pray for my grandson Jasiah. I don’t know what else to do to help him please pray🙏for him GOD Bless you thank you 🙏
Hi Rose, I can only imagine what you must be going through. Stay grounded in God's Word. I'm a recovering alcoholic.
Hi Rose, Bless you for reaching out and asking for prayer. It is so difficult to want to help but not be able to get through to those who drink. Lean into God for your freedom or you too will struggle right along with your grandson and other family members. I have been in your shoes and sought the help of Al-Anon (in every city) which changed my life AND the relationship with the drinker in my life (for the better). I will pray for you and your grandson.💗💗
Rose, we’re in this thing together, praying for each. Thank God we’re standing in the gap to show our ❤️ 1s we aren’t giving up on you because Gid is bringing you out & turning your test into a testimony.
I love this segment Pastor pls relax we need to hear your wife's 💜... I understand times but people need to hear this I needed to hear this because both my husband and I dealt with this..
This is the good stuff. Their candid rapport is sweet and honesty soooo refreshing. I Love that he recognizes her commitment and deep faith. Respect. God Bless!
Great message Jill & Shaun 😭💜🙏🏼🥰 I suffer from anxiety, depression & suicidal thoughts 💭 I am single & I have a hard time letting my Daughter & Son know…. I am in counseling 💜🙏🏼🥺 I am dependent on God getting me through this💜🙏🏼🥰
Hi Beverly! Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story with us! We wanted to give you some resources. If you want to submit prayer requests to our prayer team, you can do that at redrockschurch.com/prayer. You can also reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com to connect with a pastor. God Bless!
Talk to your children, I am sure they would love to be there for you as you go through this trial. You need their love and support and most importantly understanding
Thank you both for being transparent. I needed to hear this. God bless you both! ❤️
Thank you
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I have a special kind of spouse on my hands from every video and every testimony I hear. I have been given the test of a lifetime and after 27 years I can’t even believe that I am here this moment. A liar a cheater a deceitful man full of lust and then to top it off self righteous. He is so closed up I have given up. I want nothing to do with this man I can’t get away fast enough. 3 councilors and therapist all lied to by him and for what reason I never will know. He loves to see me broken he broke me and can’t fix me or even allow me to fix myself because he brings so much hatred up in me. He has had several affairs. Not one 2 or even 5 maybe more like 100!!!! He didn’t want me didn’t let me in but didn’t let me go. Please pray for me. He left me with a rope around my neck left to die and he wanted to see me go he said so he wouldn’t have to come clean with who he is.
It sounds like he is a narcissist… so you will need a therapist that specializes in this. 🙏
My Christian counselor told me to "Run, and don't look back!" I pray that God will restore what the locusts stole. I am back to my happy self. God's speed on your healing journey.
This message has really blessed me today thank you both can you please pray for me I am struggling in my marriage I’ve wanted to leave he drinks he does drugs it has been even harder for me since we lost our son last year to murder at 20 he was doing better when he got baptized in 2018 then it’s like the enemy start him back drinking and smoking and our marriage has been attacked since I’m still Bible study every day listening to worship music fellowship in at my church I volunteer in kids ministry I’m still hurting if lost of my son also .🙏🏽
Lord I lift this person to you in Jesus name
When does it end? I have been praying and battling for over 18 years. But I know if it wasn't for God's grace and mercy I would not be here. I am tired and some days honestly don't know why I continue with this life. I just continue to pray and remind myself that tomorrow is a new day
Hello! We are so sorry to hear what you are going through! We want to encourage you to go to redrockschurch.com/prayer where we have a whole prayer team ready and willing to pray with you!
I was in a violent relationship with my husband and the police had to come and get me. I made myself homeless and I could cope as I'd just lost my mum.
I'm now alone and he has someone else. I wanted God to help me through. I tried to take my own life, as I thought everyone didn't want me so I tried to commit suicide. I woke up next day , I cry everyday as I am also disabled.
Six years since we parted ,three weeks after I was away from my husband he had a new woman. But if he came to me I would go back to him as he gave me my precious son who is my little miracle.
I find it hard to trust men after everything I've been through over the last 18 year's.
I pray everyday and might that my husband will come back to mr.
I feel lost
I’m sorry to hear this Dianne, I pray God feels you with his Love today, He is with you and loves you and The Lord is your husband, I pray The Holy Spirit comforts you today. You are not alone.
Just started watching and hahaha--tell your pretty little wife that black and camo goes with anything!!! Camo is the new beige
I have a lot after anger I want to get rid of it
How do I join a small group?
Hi Rosa! We want to encourage you to reach out to our team at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com for more information on how to get more connected. God Bless!
And what if you did this and they married partner keep doing what cause the problem. I kept taking him back but it always goes back to “I’m a have too marriage “ and be treat like that. So now I forgive again but not ready for reconciliation
Hi Jude! We are so sorry to hear that you are walking through some tough things in your marriage! We would love to process through anything and pray with you as well. You can email our team at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com and we would love to connect with you!
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How to help someone when they get so angry at issues and they have abandonment and trust issues?
Hi Debbie! Thank you for reaching out to us! We would love to connect with you further and process through anything you may need. You can reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com, where we can connect you with a pastor. God Bless!
What about when your husband struggles of bipolar depression and gets abusive during his episodes and you don’t feel safe? Do I still stay there? Please answer? I feel lonely in this .
Hi Norma! We would love to chat more about this with you! Email our team at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com and we can connect you with a pastor. God Bless!
She gave up everything to help the pastor and he has the audacity to humiliate her infront of everyone at the beginning. He doesn't love his wife very much and doesn't know what love is. He still has issues he hasn't given to God and is holding onto.
I've had an abusive marriage of 27 yrs. And he has always been extremely lustful & has had multiple affairs. He is a very bad alcoholic. And as far as sex goes... non existent because it's all he cared about. And I have no desire or passion for it any more. I'm even afraid of snuggling up to him just for comfort because he always turns it into sex. And now my health problems makes it harder for me also (Fibromyalgia & heart problems & etc.). The stress made my health problems 100 times worse. I've had no support from family or friends. Just constant verbal abuse from so many other people because they think he walks on water so to speak. I pray constantly but yet I still feel so alone & lost.
Hi Charmd7785! Thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry that you are going through this tough time right now, but we don’t want you to go through this alone! We want to encourage you to go to redrockschurch.com/prayer where we have a whole team ready and willing to pray with you. You can also reach out to our team directly at onlinecampus@redrockschurch.com, where we can connect you with a pastor so you can process through more of this with someone. God Bless!
Listening to this, it would seem you’re missing the most important ‘event’ in a person’s life. There are all types of problems in this world, starting in Genesis 3, all because SIN entered into the world and death by sin. All have sinned. This seems like putting the cart before the horse. We need God’s salvation, that He provided through HIS SON on the cross. Without Salvation, we’re Lost. I’m not saying being saved through God’s Grace will take care or erase life’s troubles…definitely troubles will appear. But John 3:16 will be the beginning of a true Christian’s life. Life in Him, the hope of glory. We’ll always have difficulties but the Holy Spirit will guide the way. Receiving God’s salvation and taking all to God in prayer is the answer to a happy Christian life. There are bumps along the road, of course. Satan is always present. Christ is coming, receive Him as Lord and Saviour. God is Love. I’ve known Him for 62 yrs. Sometimes marriage hurts but Take it to the Lord in prayer. Someday soon all tears will be over. We’ll be HOME! What a hope!’
Desperately need a small group
Hi Dusty! You can find a home group or an online group to join here: www.redrockschurch.com/ministries/group-life/
This man very selfish and ignorant, she babied him tooooo much, all he needed is to get a hard few slaps to wake him up to reality and understand that this world is about give and take.. not just take take take.. what he is doing. Even in this conversation he is cutting her off, ...just everything for him and about him.. Dear husbands don't be babied by ur wives, baby ur wives and kids, don't switch places with wives, and ur strength is coming from the time u spend with Jesus not from poor wives crying and comforting " I'm here, I'm here", pls be the real man.
As I read you comment I knew u had to be from a former USSR. Very hard and harsh. Anxiety does exist! Slapping him around is not the answer!
@@tinah8816 Agreed
He was struggling with anxiety.. Not normal every day anxiety.. Obviously he would not have needed INPATIENT council if so. Good for you for being made of stone 🙄 shes his wife & she wanted to be there for him & she was in a BIG way.. You didn't watch the whole thing either or your comment might not have sucked so bad
@@tinah8816 🤣 yes, I am from ussr. Well, if u want to baby those that are sucking ur life out of u than do so. But if ur subconscious mind will burst the words" ..and the worst" before u would think with ur mind to suppress these thoughts or words, than fine, live this life.
I have another understanding, indeed anxiety exists, just like anger exists, but we learn to control it, so we can try to control anxiety, maybe with meds, maybe with therapy, but it shouldn't be taken out on the poor wife. I live around ppl that like to play victim all the time, I grew up with such father, now my brother, and guess what I told my male friend that has 1 PhD and 1 masters, I told him that I'm done with this emotional abuse, and I told my brother to stop raping my brain, I also want to have peace and quiet. And as I was telling him this he was becoming so " anxious, so frustrated ", but what about me... to listen to this shit for at least 30 years. I feel like prisoner in the cage that I can't escape from and they are pounding my head over and over with their fear, anxiety, frustration, victimization... Sick of it, sick 😫
I feel so bad for this wife, poor thing
@@amberparker9883 my answer to u is gonna be the same as I just wrote to Tina. H
Thank you so much for being vulnerable. This is a powerful message and extremely helpful.
Was listening to The Gael over and over because I was hurting. Saw a thumbnail and Pasteur Shawn and he looked like my son who I was hurting over and the talk was on past hurts and forgiveness. Of course I listened. I have nothing to forgive my son for, he is going through some ptsd wether from his service in the Marines or just from life I do not know. He is on some journey of the mind and out of state right now and I love him so much and the agony I feel isn't doing anyone any good. My prayers feel inadequate so that's why I listen to the Gael and it helps. I really like this teaching and so I signed up. I will keep you in my prayers also for I have no job or anything at the time to pay the workman his dues. Now I need to get back to this video and see what it's about. SHALOM
Good Afternoon! I kinda have a question if someone can answer it for me. I would like to know if any broken relationship could possibly be restored repaired or fixed with the Love of God through True Real Love?
Hi Adriane, we believe God is big enough to redeem any situation, but sometimes we require help. We would love to connect you with a campus pastor to answer more of your questions please email info@redrockschurch.com and also visit our resources page at redrockschurch.com/resources.