Ro, your patreon link isn't hyperlinked. You wanna fix that so more ppl will engage! Love you, please don't think I'm hateful. I'm going full "Big Sister" mode.
i think hating without a reason can be because of unconscious biases, so i try to understand why exactly i dislike something and if i don’t arrive at a conclusion i just leave it alone
for me i noticed i become extra hateful when im sad in general (either because of my mental illness or just life) i use hate to chanel my frustrations a lot. i also have unconscious biases because of my toxic family and i cant let go of them because in some ways i use them to feel better about myself.
Agreed, I think there's value in at least attempting to understand the *why* behind not liking certain things while still allowing yourself to feel that way even if you don't come up with answer. It's a healthy process. You realize things about yourself that you might not have otherwise. I think a lot of people view inquisitively examining your emotions as the same as overpathologizing or punishing yourself for having them, but they're really not. I'm at a point where I'll feel unreasonably petty, angry, resentful or envious (or insert whatever other antisocial emotion) without instinctively trying to repress it or feeling like it makes me a terrible person- instead just trying to understand where it came from. It's acknowledging the feeling without endorsing it. Moreover, it's acknowledging the feeling and validating the hurt/starved part of yourself it comes from, but not allowing it to influence you into treating others cruelly or unfairly. I am totally okay with me feeling any of the above emotions- why, I'll allow myself to revel in them even- as long as I don't make it "anyone else's problem", so to speak. It's never a waste to try and figure out what makes you tick, as long as you do it with empathy as opposed to judgment.
To me, I feel like being a hater (and specifically hating things for reasons that you can't really explain" is only good for you when you balance it out with enjoying things whole-heartedly and without irony. You can't be a healthy hater without being a lover (or a thing-enjoyer or whatever). There are absolutely things that I hate for no good reason or for reasons that are completely personal and not objective, but there are more things that I just love and love to love. Forming your entire identity, publicly or privately, around being "a hater" is corrosive when you don't have healthy love of things to balance it out.
I hated Seinfeld for pretty much my whole life, and it was partly just to be contrarian. This year at age 31, I decided I'd actually sit down and watch it for realsies. I was dumb and wrong, and I can't believe I went this long without Seinfeld. It is now an obnoxious part of my personality. That's my anecdote about hating something.
Just found out I was a hater recently without realizing lol. I guess I was hating on something and my friend was like “you’re kind of always being a hater”, and the rest of the friends in the group were like “yeah we don’t talk about it around you but is occasionally really pisses us off/gets annoying”. I’ve been checking myself more recently but it’s wild how you can just get into the habit of being casually negative/pessimistic about everything without realizing. Turns out it was only happening a lot during my depressive episodes so it’s something I need to work on further.
This is interesting, I think I get the same haha. But once the episode passes you start to think, "huh, maybe it's not so bad" 🤷 (I have to watch myself too because I don't want to put my friends interests down )
I think being a hater I quite like other intoxicating emotions, like melancholy, or nostalgia. These are neutral emotions but with enough detachment to reality they can rapidly corrupt our world view. But if you understand that these are fleeting emotions that should not be held onto and left to fester. They can be ok, even enjoyable or thought provoking.
This is such a great way to explain it, I wasn't sure how my perspective had changed in the past couple years but it's exactly that. I understand that these feelings won't last, and its a lot of fun to embrace that. Just be a hater for a while and then move on.
i dont remember the exact quote, but i always think about this tweet i read like one million years ago that said "im tired of people reaching for reasons to accuse something of being problematic when they really just hate it cus it's lame or annoying" idk if this really applies here but this whole "hating" discussion brings it to mind
absolutely so true honestly. the idea that you need to have deep reasons for hating something (or liking something, for that matter) is so destructive and really trivializes the things that can make a work truly "problematic"
Its incredibly frustrating to have friends that hate for absolutely no reason though. Plus its sad when something regarding that thing reminds you of them but you can't share it with them bc you know they'll get irrationally angry.
so real. Growing out of being "that friend" [after coming to the incredibly painful realization you mentioned in your spot-on second sentence] was like my one big early 20s growth moment.
this is what i was thinking throughout the whole video. yes, we dont have to be perfect and likeable all the time as ro said, but we should aim to be introspective about our hate enough to realise when we’re being insufferable to those around us. my hating everything period was just cringe and you could see the insecure source of it from a mile away
ok this exact thing happened to me omg im autistic and i sometimes bring stim toys in public bc i want to. my friend told me to put it away bc it was "embarassing" and i took it to heart (i still had them in my bag). anyway like a month later i was with my other friend and she saw them in my bag and asked why i had them and i told them but she was super nice sorry about long comment LOL
@@alena3464 I'm literally so embarrassed to stim in public. I don't even bring my fidgets and stim toys out of the house anymore now. It's hard man, you have my sympathy and I'm glad you have at least one supportive friend :)
I have no problem w people hating / disliking something for any reason, just like you said in the video ! You don't have to have some like "correct" or "good" reason to dislike something. Sometimes you just don't vibe with something, it doesn't align with your personality. and that's fine. Honestly what I have a problem with is the self proclaimed "haters" that specifically go into spaces where people love something just to be loud about hating it, or make fun of them. I feel like that's where it becomes shitty. I experience this a lot in the fandom space unfortunately, where people will make posts about hating xyz thing, (which is fine) but then literally put it in the tag, where people go to enjoy the thing. Like, why
yeah as someone who loves to hate on things, i think it's really important to be mindful of how and where we express those thoughts. there's a huge difference between ranting to my friends about how dumb something is and publicly posting uncritical hate on someone's page or something. there are lots of people and things i find annoying for no intellectual reason and it's fun and okay to talk about it but i would never express that TO those people because i don't want to cause or contribute to any undeserved suffering.
too right. im in the same boat. i love bitching about the smallest most nonsensical snippet of a video of someone’s with my best mate. like laughing about like 7 shirtless “alpha males” making thirst trap videos together in the bathroom for whatever reason or that one guy who sexualises the food he’s cooking and spanks the dough and spits on the counter and shit like LMAO BRO WHAT. but we would n e v e r publicly spread the nonsense we start joking about bc at the end of the day it genuinely doesn’t matter. bc we know in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter, what the person was doing in the video doesn’t matter. it was just funny joking about cringey teens on the internet drawing freckles on their face to go to a doctors appt. like hating things so genuinely pointless for fun vs hating someone bc of their appearance/ disability which a lot of cringe accounts on tiktok and instagram do.
You’ve said it so succinctly! Honestly, when I find out that I hate something I’ve learned to disengage from it. I’ve been taught “if you really hate something you would disengage from it.” Which can turn narrow minded pretty quickly, but in terms of entertainment and pieces of media works in maintaining a relatively alright internet experience. Alternately, I do love a bit of gossip and drama, it can get really funny and infuriating when there’s no basis for it to stand on.
oh god, sorry for the long message but ur absolutely right!! though i'm curious about ur thoughts on the 'regina george' complex thats been gradually creeping on social media, as its similar to 'being a hater' but the hate is more malicious and wants to actually evoke shame/a response. personally i think its why im conflicted of the 'being a hater' attitude online as it can easily slip into this complex
I remember the fake plays I used to do with my friends on my deck when I was in elementary school and it was so much fun and I know we looked absolutely ridiculous but it was fun. Now it’s also fun to kinda make fun of how ridiculous it was too. That’s how I feel about the guitar boys. It reveals something about myself that I find ridiculous, too. Another banger from Rose Nation
Just found your channel yesterday, have been going thru your backlog as some nice de-stressors during finals. Was actually watching one when I got this notif- wonderful channel, keep up the great work! :)
@@appleblossonkim Agreed! That’s how I feel with most videos of this type though. Well made, lovely messages but my god can I only handle so much at once 😅
Perfect timing for me to receive this message. Last night, I commented on an indie music snarky/joke account's post about Taylor Swift. It showed her dancing awkwardly in one of her music videos and the caption said "you all broke ticketmaster for this?!" I thought it was hilarious and I so happen to be in the camp of Tswift dislikers, so I felt compelled to respond with my own snark. So I commented, "thank u. I do not understand and will never understand. she is the most mid artist of the century and people lose their minds". I also shared the post to my own story. Shortly after doing so, the comments came in. My own cousin who I never interact with online took the time to DM me and ask why I'm hating so much on Taylor Swift and her fans. People in the comments of the post where basically saying I'm one to talk because I like the 1975 and Twilight. (they could see from my bio). At this point all my comment did was create this worse reaction of hate and the wrath of anonymous trolls, so I learned that from now on, I probably have to keep my mouth shut publicly about my dislikes , especially Taylor Swift since she seems to be such a hot topic. Honestly the very reason I dislike her is the behavior her fans display if you so much as make one joke about her, or you just say you dislike her. I am not stopping them from liking her. I recognize her as a songwriter and an artist, just not one that I recognize in my perception of taste to be "good" and not one that people should be paying 1000s of dollars to see her for one night for 2 hours. I am not a fan. End of story. I don't think expressing this should be a crime, but we have to be cordial, and express it in the right context and time.
I actively go out of my way to avoid people who express "hate" while simultaneously refusing to critically engage in the conversations that follow: You can say "I dislike it" or "it's not my vibe" but ascribing negative qualities to something just because makes my blood boil.
honestly i needed this video. I’m a lowkey hater of techno/edm and a couple months ago it actually got in the way of me having a good time with my partner at a rave. I tried to enjoy it and get into the music but just found myself going down a thought hole nitpicking every part about it I disliked and trying to figure out WHY it bothered me the way it did. By the end of the night when my partner excitedly asked how I liked it, I was grumpy n couldn’t help from sharing rather negative“revelations” that just made their face fall. Immediately I wanted to take it back but the damage to the night was done, and this incident has been on my mind as we’ve been trying to find a NYE event that we’d both actually enjoy (I like heavier music, my partner much prefers more upbeat sounds). We decided on a rave that has art installations i can look at if I can’t get into the music, but I’ve been keeping our last experience in the back of my mind as a reminder that hyperfocusing on my criticisms of the rave scene will only give me the least charitable lenses to see it thru. This time around I’m determined to let the negative thoughts go more easily so there’s room to appreciate the parts I can enjoy. Like I don’t have to force myself to like the things I don’t, but i think it def becomes a problem when it overshadows everything else.
I would rather people just express unjustified dislike than start with an ad hoc moral outrage over what's really a matter of taste. Thinking about what you don't like is cool and good, but I say start with an honest assessment of your own feelings, then if you care enough about a thing to evaluate the thing you can keep that in mind. Also, yeah, imo 90% of the time the thing to do when encountering something you don't like on social media is ignore it.
I have not watched the video, I may not even get to watch it ever I have, however, cliked the push up very fast Her mind control is strong She has a grip on my thoughts I already like this video, and if she tells me to end someone I will do so
The Pontius Pilate comment at 7:26 ish is absolutely incredible and I wish I could say shit like this in front of my religious parents but they don't know what the hell a quote tweet is.
Y'know I have one friend that I ALWAYS think of when these kinds of discussions come up. She told me one day that she hated Pheobe Bridgers. Of course, I asked why, assuming she'd done something bad or was wrong in one way or another. My friend literally just said to me "There doesn't have to be a reason. I just think she's annoying." We ended up getting into a longer discussion about it, and I kinda began to realize that I'd been conditioned (probably by the internet. Definitely by the internet.) to think that I need a reason, some sort of argument against everything I dislike. Now don't get me wrong, dislike like this can sometimes come from unconcious biases, the way we were raised, etc, but it doesn't always. In my personal experience, I had just never been told that I can just...hate things. I was always expected to have some kind of justification for it, ever since I was little, so I think it's really important to just hammer it into people's heads that they don't have to make an obnoxiously long Twitter thread or 1,000 word tumblr post every time they don't like something. Hate/dislike is just as much a part of the human experience as love is and, like it's more pleasant counterpart, it doesn't always need explaining.
Hating is fun! But I do think it's good to be cognizant of where and why you're hating. I think people don't feel free to just be like "Yeah, I just don't like it" about things these days and feel like they have to come up with "legitimate" reasons. Like a movie can't just be unenjoyable to you, it has to be "problematic", and I think that's a bad and slippery slope. Obviously everything isn't going to appeal to everybody and that's cool! Complaining about inane things can be cathartic when there are so many actual shitty things happening. But like Ro said, I do think it's important to not cross the line into being an asshole by shitting on things that are important to someone just for the heck of it.
@@gotmilkbutt No, but it is true that a lot of people these days overstate harm or distort what's actually wrong with a piece of media or a creator just to justify the hate they can't explain. It just becomes clear that these people don't actually care about the issues at hand, cause they're not seeking to spark meaningful and productive conversations that make us learn and move forward, what they're doing is try to get everyone else to hate on something with them because they simply don't like it
True… like, I’m a hater of the movie Romeo + Juliet, and I mean I do have reasons I hate it, but I’m not gonna shame someone for liking it. I ranted to a friend about how much I hate it, but they like it, so I voiced how I was a hater of it without going too far and being rude or accusing them or anything like that. There’s certainly a difference between being a hater of something and being toxic. There’s a line somewhere that you shouldn’t cross, yknow?
great viddddd i feel like recently ive tried to be more understanding of certain things that i would normally be adverse to because of that feeling of not understanding it; the "ick" i guess you'd also call it. i think why ive kinda gotten sick of "hating" is because of the reasons you brought up, pointless hating can be unproductive and even come with consequences. at the same time, i do hate that a lot of people wanna contextualize any sort of criticism as "hate" especially with scenarios of creators/influencers getting criticised.
I think people like to act like hating and criticism are the same thing when they are _clearly_ not. Criticism is just being critical of something while hatred is an extreme dislike of something. I make a distinction between disliking something and hating something. I reserve hatred for something that's actually harmful but if something doesn't fit my tastes, I just dislike it. To me, it's a more clear, and precise way to look at things you don't like. So for me, you were describing criticism and disliking as being morally neutral while hating just for hatred sake as being morally bad, which I agree with.
Every single time I watch a video on this the production value goes up it is so clear you are mastering your own style of video making and producing ive been watch watching you since you you were just on tiktok i am INCREDIBLY proud of you and and cannot wait to see what you do next. i am a hater at heart but i can’t hate on people who don’t waste their potential.
''shame has been used for many things. if you'll recall Pontius Pilate quote retweeted Jesus onto the cross, where Jesus proceeded to private and eventually, delete his account.'' im crying. love u Ro
I think some mild hating can be very cathartic, providing you do it mostly privately, examine any biases that might be causing the hatred, and don’t delude yourself into thinking that there is actually anything wrong with the thing you’re hating if it’s just people doing something harmless
I found you through theserfstv streams, you are so talented & hilarious with the descriptive insults, keep up the great work! If you ever get asked to be a guest, do it, we love you!
“Akinator had to go to his therapist after he met me” is such a raw line, it made me laugh in context, but out of context it gives strong edgy Shadow The Hedgehog energy in the best possible way!
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very timely video for me. i am going through a hater arc at my school (being a bit of a bully to freshmen) and am coming to terms with learning to hate healthily and privately. i never hated through my whole life and only now at 17 am learning whats acceptable and unacceptable levels of being a bit of a hater. probably something to do with being autistic and having a shit father. thank you for letting me recap my therapy session in your comment section.
interesting take as always yet glad you put that counter-point at the end because it's definitely a nuanced issue - personally i see my sometimes pointless cynicism and negativity as a byproduct of my depression so i'm more critical of its presence in me. also as someone else in the comments mentioned it can be because of unconscious biases. i need to be very certain of why i hate something in order to talk about it to others
Being vocally harsh and mean about small creators for reasons of taste is unnecessary and hurtful to the online experience. We can all agree going up to a performer and saying “that was stupid and I hated it” is a shitty thing to do. Well, it is online too. Even if it’s not addressed to the creator, it will undoubtedly reach them. Is proclaiming that you hate something worth the harm you inflict on another person? Is a moment of communal scorn worth scaring creative people away from sharing their art? I don’t think so. Life is hard enough. You don’t and shouldn’t have to support everyone, but the least you can do is not publicly shame someone for something they created with creativity and hard work.
i igree with this so much. i think you can dislike something but you dont have to put others down while expressing that. "is wasn't for me, but i can see how someone else might like it"
in my anecdotal experience, pointless, over-the-top, vocal hating is almost exclusively bred out of unaddressed insecurity and latent self-loathing. It’s mostly harmless but usually says a lot about the person doing it
the ancedote about your friend hits hard. i have a friend who gets obsessed with a lot of stuff, and one time i made fun of something they liked. even if you dislike something your friend really likes, as long as it's harmless, don't say anything. it'll only upset them. it's also rude if they have liked that thing for a long time
Hating really relies on the anonymity of social media. Ro really touched on the real life effects of hating. Thanks for the reminder to think before we speak.
I don't recall another Ro Ramdin video where the delivery was slow enough that I understood practically everything. It's a cool change. I like understanding things, including Ro.
A few years ago when the anime for Dr. Stone came out, my best friend said she didn't like it, and thought it looked weird. I was intrigued by it, but after hearing that, I squashed those feelings in order to fit in, and agreed with her. A few years later, which is now, I finally got to watching it, and it's one of my absolute favorite shows!! I talk about it all the time with my friends now!
I DID click that Link, and I also appreciated your wise conclusion on this. I agree, it's rather exhausting to be too hateful without any reflection, giving in to that violent strong emotion and isolate yourself that way.... it's not worth it, and saddens other potentially equally vulnerable or sensitives peeoples moments and days and sometimes.. lifes? well ...
i was always legitimately understanding of peoples preferences and never hated on something just cause it's trendy but after this mf year, that has wrung me dry, i've become a hater fr. my tolerance levels are subterranean but i still don't express it on the internet i just hate in the privacy of my own home
I think one of the problems lies in how saturated the algorithm is with stuff like this, at least for me. If I'm going to be bombarded with things I dislike, I will start expressing how much I dislike them in an attempt to be one of enough people who demand change. I don't think it's the main reason people hate, I just think it's reasonable to be irritated by something you feel is subpar to your tastes when it pops up and then express your frustration once it happens to occur more times than you're comfortable with. If I could personalize the basis for my own recommendations on social media I wouldn't be half as annoyed by it as I am now.
you're honestly right though, I think "because it's popular" is totally a major reason why people end up hating things. It might've been something that already caused them mild irritation, but having that thing shoved in your face constantly by social media or even traditional media can turn a dislike into a full hate
I can’t explain why I hate things sometimes but neither can I usually fully explain why I like something. I think that people forget that they often don’t have a reason why they like something other than “well I just like it.” The same goes for disliking things.
There is great power in seeing something online made by like 3 random people, saying to yourself "this is dumb. I don't like this," and then blocking that account without saying anything to anyone so you never see it again.
I feel like in our society there‘s too much desire for constant justifications and such. Sometimes you just hate something or love something. But there doesn‘t always have to be an explanation. When can feels just be feels? Like ppl are so occupied with the rationalizing of things. Its like some ppl wanna appear to be a mentally perfect being with always correct and rational thoughts and feelings and that‘s just so silly. Being a human isn‘t all about being a perfect rational being. Life is chaos. The universe doesn‘t care about anything and sometimes dislike is just dislike. Ans needs no justification. If preferences don‘t lead to ppl getting hurt like bigotry does for example, having said preference or not liking something isn‘t wrong or something. It‘s just a humam quirk of a person. Some ppl hate hawaiian pizza. Some people dispise brussel sprouts. But i also do agree that whenever ppl need to justify their hate of a thing it becomes really cringe and idiotic. Like with ppl insisting art is objectively bad cause they didn‘t like it for certain reasons. Subjectivity to some is just so much of a fake concept that they have to see anything subjective as a objective instead. And so you get ppl trying to mansplain to you why death stranding is bad cause it doesn‘t go „shooty shooty bang bang!“ for the majority of the game, totally ignoring the deep emotional experience ppl have with it. Someone once said to me: „if somethings really good, ppl will love it and dispise it.“ and that is imo the case for a lot of stuff. Sadly though those that do dispise it often times think their take on something is the only valid one and from there wanna pretend like their takes are the only true one that isn‘t dumb. Like, I personally don‘t like a lot of disney movies for their basic lukewarm predictable plot but who would I be to be rude about someone finding a lot of value in them? I mean sometimes someone who likes a thing a lot made me actually appreciate it a lot more once they have helped me see it from their perspective and that is also really valuable. Art is so subjective and honestly, hearing ppl talk about how much it moved them is just so much better than the typical critic tearing a thing to shreds. Like sure that can be fun too sometimes, but i‘d always favour a love letter to a game from Hbomberguy as a video over some critic snobbily trying to convince me that something they didn‘t likw is therefor objectively trash and shouldn‘t be enjoyed. Like, sometimes you just don‘t enjoy something cause it doesn‘t resonate with you. It‘s the same with ppl calling evangelion pretenchious because it is very abstract at times and deals a lot with emotional issues specifically depression and also japanese social issues while also trying to be a subversion of a populat genre. And yet when someone doesn‘t relate to it they go on those tirades trying to call it all fake deep just cause they have never been in this emotional state and can‘t relate to it. Or with steven universe future where ppl were like: „steven‘s sudden depression and breakdown is so unrealistic for his character omg!“ and like: „i‘m struggling with depression and ptsd and this is nothing like my reality so it‘s objectively wrong!“ like no, it‘s not. It‘s just that not everyone experiences it like you do. It actually felt really close to home for me though cause i often feel very left alone with my issues while i help everyone else and get no help or care back in my life sometimes and it also makes me go deep into delusional depressive episodes and causes some mental breakdowns that also makes me become very destructive as well unintentionally ofc so it is very accurate for me. But apparently that doesn‘t matter that it resonated with my experience cause if someone experiences mentall illness differently then the show couldn‘t possibly be still a good portrayal of these things cause obviously it‘s all about the ones that hate it and they are always right and always the perfect judge for the thing they hate apparently. Like it‘s so infuriating cause it also shows just how dumb some ppl are. Like how rose being a morally grey character broke ppl‘s brain cause they couldn‘t fathom a cartoon character being a complex being with flaws while only a few years ago they were calling every female fan character a mary sue because many ppl struggle writing complex people cause it‘s really difficult to do so so tge cocky haters just had to tear every aspiring writer a new one basically cause they had to posture so hard about good writing while they literally get mad over a character that isn‘t a mary sue now cauE they actually prefer mary sues in reality cause they are easy to understand and very dumbed down. Wich also leads to ppl expecting shows to like literally baby sit them wich is so pathetic as well. Like imagine demanding that fiction media educates you and treats you like a toddler all the time that has to be explicitly told what is good and bad as if moSt of them wouldn‘t already know. I‘d want ppl to actually think for themselves as they watch a show so they can actually engage with it in a better way. But no! They have to ecpect the show spoonfeeding them their own worldview and a perfectly moral utopia and so when they are faced with complex writing and characters, they get all angry over it and irritated cause they can‘t understand that shows can include moral ambiguity without „romantisizing“ something or „endorsing“ it. Like no! It doesn‘t mean the writers agree with the villian! They just want you to think about this and come to your own conclusion. Stop it with these constant moral panics over media and learn to enjoy things without trying to constantly morally grandstand over it. It‘s the same with fandoms too imo. Where you got these ppl that cry over fanfics being „problematic“ if they are obviously just a fantasy of the writer to get off or if they deal with heavy topics for whatever reason. Ppl need to stop thinking that you can censor art hard with moral frameworks and grandstanding. You can‘t say that art should be free and liberated while also being the morality police over controversial art that makes you think harder than usual. I‘m honestly so done with those ppl tbh. They are so childish and preachy. And it wouldn‘t surprise me if they were children too. Cause I hardly ever meet adults that do this kind of thing. Cause most know that entertainment isn‘t there to dumb down everything and treat you like a toddler. And that not everything is always problematic or „romantisization“ i literally heard ppl harrassing artists for drawing deeply emotional vent art and they were like: „omg cancel them! They are romantisizing abuse and depression!“ while they are literally trying to opress and censor someone of the group they try to protect so hard over them venting in artistic ways. It surely is very entitled of these moral police ppl to literally censor and harrass vulnerable people with trauma or issues for venting. It‘s like ganging up on gay people writing gay romances cause they aren‘t „realistic for gay ppl“ or something like that. Its honestly just really nasty entitlement and i also think many of these ppl are just overcompensating their own flaws with that to some extent.
I watched this video because the title disturbed me. It sits contrary to my personal philosophy at this stage in my life, and I wanted to see what kind of challenging perspective would be expressed. I'm at a point in my life where I've experienced and am continuing to experience extreme amounts of trauma. I used to believe I was the unluckiest person alive and that my life absolutely sucked. Objectively, I have been unlucky, and my life has been fill with higher than average amounts of suffering. I realized eventually that healing from and moving past trauma would recquire me to detach from negativity as much as possible. It was clearly just making me latch onto the bad things in my life, and to lose hope for a better future. I found myself fully believing that I would never be happy, and that scared me. So I decided to fabricate my own happiness. I did so by removing as much unnessecary negativity from my life as possible. I realized there's no need to publicly insult people I don't like for arbitrary reasons, like if I don't like their fashion sense or their voice or something. There's no need to engage at all with things I don't like, as long as they aren't hurting anybody or causing suffering. When I do engage with, for example, ideologies that I don't agree with, or opinions and behaviors that I feel are harmful, I do so in the most constructive way I possibly can. It's a skill, and I'm still refining it. It's helped me learn to set healthy boundaries instead of pushing people away and isolating myself. It's helped me accept parts of myself and past actions of mine that I found disgusting and unforgivable. It's helped me avoid putting energy into unnessecary drama and arguments that go nowhere. It has been a net positive on my life. That said, I understand the need for negativity sometimes. There's a need for balance, and some things really deserve to be hated. I hate capitalism, because I believe it's one of the main sources of not only my suffering, but the suffering of people in my community. I love myself, and I love my fellow humans, and so my hate for capitalism comes from a place of deep love. Capitalism is inanimate, and can't feel the pain of my hate or insults. At worst I'm causing some people who disagree with me a bit of discomfort. It's an okay form of hate. I think I also now see some value in privately expressing negativity among friends. If I disagree with an ideology, I might browse social media posts about it and feel angry. Since engaging with people to change their ideology even in a polite way is usually unproductive and exhausting, I would instead rant to a friend who agrees with me so we can both feel invigorated by our hate. That's okay too. I think there's ways to feel the catharsis of expressing negativity without causing a net negative impact on the world. In fact there's ways to channel it that can only end in positive outcomes. It's about balance, and it's about engaging with negativity in a calculated way. I won't carelessly throw negativity out into the world. When in doubt, I'll keep it to myself. If I really want to change something that I believe is harmful, I can try to engage in a constructive way. If my body is filled with hate about something to the point that I absolutely must have a physical reaction, I can yell about it in a private place or go for a run or even rant to a friend. I would never label myself as a hater and make it a part of my personality just because being negative feels good. It can feel comfortable, and it can feel right, it can even feel logical. But if my life has taught me anything, it's that love and positivity are much more fun in the end. Maybe it's just me. This stuff is just how I feel. Maybe engaging with negativity in the measured way I do isn't for everyone, but that's just my take. I appreciate this video for making me think about this stuff and put it into words. I expected to be challenged, but my views on the way I approach the world have just been strengthened.
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Clicked. It's the yelling that did it for me 💕🥰 That memory will linger longer than any scent. 😂
Ro, your patreon link isn't hyperlinked. You wanna fix that so more ppl will engage! Love you, please don't think I'm hateful. I'm going full "Big Sister" mode.
i think hating without a reason can be because of unconscious biases, so i try to understand why exactly i dislike something and if i don’t arrive at a conclusion i just leave it alone
This is exactly how I feel you literally explained it perfectly
It's almost always because of unconscious biases. Look into Buddhism for more reasons to stop hating.
for me i noticed i become extra hateful when im sad in general (either because of my mental illness or just life) i use hate to chanel my frustrations a lot. i also have unconscious biases because of my toxic family and i cant let go of them because in some ways i use them to feel better about myself.
I guess...
Agreed, I think there's value in at least attempting to understand the *why* behind not liking certain things while still allowing yourself to feel that way even if you don't come up with answer. It's a healthy process. You realize things about yourself that you might not have otherwise. I think a lot of people view inquisitively examining your emotions as the same as overpathologizing or punishing yourself for having them, but they're really not. I'm at a point where I'll feel unreasonably petty, angry, resentful or envious (or insert whatever other antisocial emotion) without instinctively trying to repress it or feeling like it makes me a terrible person- instead just trying to understand where it came from. It's acknowledging the feeling without endorsing it. Moreover, it's acknowledging the feeling and validating the hurt/starved part of yourself it comes from, but not allowing it to influence you into treating others cruelly or unfairly. I am totally okay with me feeling any of the above emotions- why, I'll allow myself to revel in them even- as long as I don't make it "anyone else's problem", so to speak. It's never a waste to try and figure out what makes you tick, as long as you do it with empathy as opposed to judgment.
To me, I feel like being a hater (and specifically hating things for reasons that you can't really explain" is only good for you when you balance it out with enjoying things whole-heartedly and without irony. You can't be a healthy hater without being a lover (or a thing-enjoyer or whatever). There are absolutely things that I hate for no good reason or for reasons that are completely personal and not objective, but there are more things that I just love and love to love. Forming your entire identity, publicly or privately, around being "a hater" is corrosive when you don't have healthy love of things to balance it out.
yes!!
This!! Life’s about balance.
the most perfect comment ever
Yeah
I hated Seinfeld for pretty much my whole life, and it was partly just to be contrarian. This year at age 31, I decided I'd actually sit down and watch it for realsies. I was dumb and wrong, and I can't believe I went this long without Seinfeld. It is now an obnoxious part of my personality. That's my anecdote about hating something.
what is the deal with hating!?
I ❤️ Seinfeld bc it is a show about haters (like me)
@Ruth Payne this is so real
Now that’s the Constanta method
Me, thinking you meant the star of the show:
Why wouldn’t you hate Seinfeld? He’s the worst part of the show.
"Two young men dressed like mac dimarco's pedal chain" fucking sent me well done ro
Just found out I was a hater recently without realizing lol. I guess I was hating on something and my friend was like “you’re kind of always being a hater”, and the rest of the friends in the group were like “yeah we don’t talk about it around you but is occasionally really pisses us off/gets annoying”. I’ve been checking myself more recently but it’s wild how you can just get into the habit of being casually negative/pessimistic about everything without realizing. Turns out it was only happening a lot during my depressive episodes so it’s something I need to work on further.
This is interesting, I think I get the same haha. But once the episode passes you start to think, "huh, maybe it's not so bad" 🤷
(I have to watch myself too because I don't want to put my friends interests down )
Good for you for being mature enough to take the criticism ^_^ many fully grown adults can’t even do that so good on you!
I think being a hater I quite like other intoxicating emotions, like melancholy, or nostalgia. These are neutral emotions but with enough detachment to reality they can rapidly corrupt our world view. But if you understand that these are fleeting emotions that should not be held onto and left to fester. They can be ok, even enjoyable or thought provoking.
This is such a great way to explain it, I wasn't sure how my perspective had changed in the past couple years but it's exactly that. I understand that these feelings won't last, and its a lot of fun to embrace that. Just be a hater for a while and then move on.
i dont remember the exact quote, but i always think about this tweet i read like one million years ago that said "im tired of people reaching for reasons to accuse something of being problematic when they really just hate it cus it's lame or annoying"
idk if this really applies here but this whole "hating" discussion brings it to mind
absolutely so true honestly. the idea that you need to have deep reasons for hating something (or liking something, for that matter) is so destructive and really trivializes the things that can make a work truly "problematic"
Its incredibly frustrating to have friends that hate for absolutely no reason though. Plus its sad when something regarding that thing reminds you of them but you can't share it with them bc you know they'll get irrationally angry.
As a fan of the dsmp and some of its members I relate to this on a molecular level
so real. Growing out of being "that friend" [after coming to the incredibly painful realization you mentioned in your spot-on second sentence] was like my one big early 20s growth moment.
this is what i was thinking throughout the whole video. yes, we dont have to be perfect and likeable all the time as ro said, but we should aim to be introspective about our hate enough to realise when we’re being insufferable to those around us. my hating everything period was just cringe and you could see the insecure source of it from a mile away
ok this exact thing happened to me omg im autistic and i sometimes bring stim toys in public bc i want to. my friend told me to put it away bc it was "embarassing" and i took it to heart (i still had them in my bag). anyway like a month later i was with my other friend and she saw them in my bag and asked why i had them and i told them but she was super nice sorry about long comment LOL
@@alena3464 I'm literally so embarrassed to stim in public. I don't even bring my fidgets and stim toys out of the house anymore now. It's hard man, you have my sympathy and I'm glad you have at least one supportive friend :)
I wake up early just to have more time to hate
"It is good for the soul to microdose being a hater....as long as one remembers to always macrodose minding ones own business."
I have no problem w people hating / disliking something for any reason, just like you said in the video ! You don't have to have some like "correct" or "good" reason to dislike something. Sometimes you just don't vibe with something, it doesn't align with your personality. and that's fine. Honestly what I have a problem with is the self proclaimed "haters" that specifically go into spaces where people love something just to be loud about hating it, or make fun of them. I feel like that's where it becomes shitty. I experience this a lot in the fandom space unfortunately, where people will make posts about hating xyz thing, (which is fine) but then literally put it in the tag, where people go to enjoy the thing. Like, why
Absolutely
accidentally had this playing over a compilation of bugs bunny cross dressing on mute was confused as hell
'girl what does this MEAN'
meeeee
I LOVE THINKING CRITICALLY!!! CRITICAL THINKING IS MY BEST FRIEND
yeah as someone who loves to hate on things, i think it's really important to be mindful of how and where we express those thoughts. there's a huge difference between ranting to my friends about how dumb something is and publicly posting uncritical hate on someone's page or something. there are lots of people and things i find annoying for no intellectual reason and it's fun and okay to talk about it but i would never express that TO those people because i don't want to cause or contribute to any undeserved suffering.
YAS to everything you said
too right. im in the same boat. i love bitching about the smallest most nonsensical snippet of a video of someone’s with my best mate. like laughing about like 7 shirtless “alpha males” making thirst trap videos together in the bathroom for whatever reason or that one guy who sexualises the food he’s cooking and spanks the dough and spits on the counter and shit like LMAO BRO WHAT. but we would n e v e r publicly spread the nonsense we start joking about bc at the end of the day it genuinely doesn’t matter. bc we know in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t matter, what the person was doing in the video doesn’t matter. it was just funny joking about cringey teens on the internet drawing freckles on their face to go to a doctors appt. like hating things so genuinely pointless for fun vs hating someone bc of their appearance/ disability which a lot of cringe accounts on tiktok and instagram do.
You’ve said it so succinctly! Honestly, when I find out that I hate something I’ve learned to disengage from it. I’ve been taught “if you really hate something you would disengage from it.” Which can turn narrow minded pretty quickly, but in terms of entertainment and pieces of media works in maintaining a relatively alright internet experience. Alternately, I do love a bit of gossip and drama, it can get really funny and infuriating when there’s no basis for it to stand on.
oh god, sorry for the long message but ur absolutely right!! though i'm curious about ur thoughts on the 'regina george' complex thats been gradually creeping on social media, as its similar to 'being a hater' but the hate is more malicious and wants to actually evoke shame/a response. personally i think its why im conflicted of the 'being a hater' attitude online as it can easily slip into this complex
I remember the fake plays I used to do with my friends on my deck when I was in elementary school and it was so much fun and I know we looked absolutely ridiculous but it was fun. Now it’s also fun to kinda make fun of how ridiculous it was too. That’s how I feel about the guitar boys. It reveals something about myself that I find ridiculous, too. Another banger from Rose Nation
So cool to see you here!
Just found your channel yesterday, have been going thru your backlog as some nice de-stressors during finals. Was actually watching one when I got this notif- wonderful channel, keep up the great work! :)
I’m so jealous that you find Ro’s channel relaxing. I adore her videos but maaaaan do I have to take breaks due to mind-spinning
@@appleblossonkim Agreed! That’s how I feel with most videos of this type though. Well made, lovely messages but my god can I only handle so much at once 😅
welcome! i love ro’s videos i HAD to binge watch when i found her
ro explaining hip hop from any place of knowledge challenge (hard difficulty)
explaining "player hater" to white people (IMPOSSIBLE)
Perfect timing for me to receive this message. Last night, I commented on an indie music snarky/joke account's post about Taylor Swift. It showed her dancing awkwardly in one of her music videos and the caption said "you all broke ticketmaster for this?!" I thought it was hilarious and I so happen to be in the camp of Tswift dislikers, so I felt compelled to respond with my own snark. So I commented, "thank u. I do not understand and will never understand. she is the most mid artist of the century and people lose their minds". I also shared the post to my own story. Shortly after doing so, the comments came in. My own cousin who I never interact with online took the time to DM me and ask why I'm hating so much on Taylor Swift and her fans. People in the comments of the post where basically saying I'm one to talk because I like the 1975 and Twilight. (they could see from my bio).
At this point all my comment did was create this worse reaction of hate and the wrath of anonymous trolls, so I learned that from now on, I probably have to keep my mouth shut publicly about my dislikes , especially Taylor Swift since she seems to be such a hot topic. Honestly the very reason I dislike her is the behavior her fans display if you so much as make one joke about her, or you just say you dislike her. I am not stopping them from liking her. I recognize her as a songwriter and an artist, just not one that I recognize in my perception of taste to be "good" and not one that people should be paying 1000s of dollars to see her for one night for 2 hours. I am not a fan. End of story. I don't think expressing this should be a crime, but we have to be cordial, and express it in the right context and time.
if u ever feel like hating again, what i do is turn off all comments notifications so i can hate wo repercussions
I actively go out of my way to avoid people who express "hate" while simultaneously refusing to critically engage in the conversations that follow: You can say "I dislike it" or "it's not my vibe" but ascribing negative qualities to something just because makes my blood boil.
honestly i needed this video. I’m a lowkey hater of techno/edm and a couple months ago it actually got in the way of me having a good time with my partner at a rave. I tried to enjoy it and get into the music but just found myself going down a thought hole nitpicking every part about it I disliked and trying to figure out WHY it bothered me the way it did. By the end of the night when my partner excitedly asked how I liked it, I was grumpy n couldn’t help from sharing rather negative“revelations” that just made their face fall. Immediately I wanted to take it back but the damage to the night was done, and this incident has been on my mind as we’ve been trying to find a NYE event that we’d both actually enjoy (I like heavier music, my partner much prefers more upbeat sounds). We decided on a rave that has art installations i can look at if I can’t get into the music, but I’ve been keeping our last experience in the back of my mind as a reminder that hyperfocusing on my criticisms of the rave scene will only give me the least charitable lenses to see it thru. This time around I’m determined to let the negative thoughts go more easily so there’s room to appreciate the parts I can enjoy. Like I don’t have to force myself to like the things I don’t, but i think it def becomes a problem when it overshadows everything else.
I would rather people just express unjustified dislike than start with an ad hoc moral outrage over what's really a matter of taste. Thinking about what you don't like is cool and good, but I say start with an honest assessment of your own feelings, then if you care enough about a thing to evaluate the thing you can keep that in mind. Also, yeah, imo 90% of the time the thing to do when encountering something you don't like on social media is ignore it.
I have not watched the video,
I may not even get to watch it ever
I have, however, cliked the push up very fast
Her mind control is strong
She has a grip on my thoughts
I already like this video, and if she tells me to end someone
I will do so
But will you join the Patreon? 🤔
@@blinkfilms1 What no of course not I don't have money to pay her AND buy pcp
The Pontius Pilate comment at 7:26 ish is absolutely incredible and I wish I could say shit like this in front of my religious parents but they don't know what the hell a quote tweet is.
Y'know I have one friend that I ALWAYS think of when these kinds of discussions come up. She told me one day that she hated Pheobe Bridgers. Of course, I asked why, assuming she'd done something bad or was wrong in one way or another. My friend literally just said to me "There doesn't have to be a reason. I just think she's annoying." We ended up getting into a longer discussion about it, and I kinda began to realize that I'd been conditioned (probably by the internet. Definitely by the internet.) to think that I need a reason, some sort of argument against everything I dislike.
Now don't get me wrong, dislike like this can sometimes come from unconcious biases, the way we were raised, etc, but it doesn't always. In my personal experience, I had just never been told that I can just...hate things. I was always expected to have some kind of justification for it, ever since I was little, so I think it's really important to just hammer it into people's heads that they don't have to make an obnoxiously long Twitter thread or 1,000 word tumblr post every time they don't like something. Hate/dislike is just as much a part of the human experience as love is and, like it's more pleasant counterpart, it doesn't always need explaining.
Hating is fun! But I do think it's good to be cognizant of where and why you're hating. I think people don't feel free to just be like "Yeah, I just don't like it" about things these days and feel like they have to come up with "legitimate" reasons. Like a movie can't just be unenjoyable to you, it has to be "problematic", and I think that's a bad and slippery slope. Obviously everything isn't going to appeal to everybody and that's cool! Complaining about inane things can be cathartic when there are so many actual shitty things happening. But like Ro said, I do think it's important to not cross the line into being an asshole by shitting on things that are important to someone just for the heck of it.
It's not hating to avoid problematic content lol
@@gotmilkbutt No, but it is true that a lot of people these days overstate harm or distort what's actually wrong with a piece of media or a creator just to justify the hate they can't explain. It just becomes clear that these people don't actually care about the issues at hand, cause they're not seeking to spark meaningful and productive conversations that make us learn and move forward, what they're doing is try to get everyone else to hate on something with them because they simply don't like it
True… like, I’m a hater of the movie Romeo + Juliet, and I mean I do have reasons I hate it, but I’m not gonna shame someone for liking it. I ranted to a friend about how much I hate it, but they like it, so I voiced how I was a hater of it without going too far and being rude or accusing them or anything like that. There’s certainly a difference between being a hater of something and being toxic. There’s a line somewhere that you shouldn’t cross, yknow?
great viddddd i feel like recently ive tried to be more understanding of certain things that i would normally be adverse to because of that feeling of not understanding it; the "ick" i guess you'd also call it. i think why ive kinda gotten sick of "hating" is because of the reasons you brought up, pointless hating can be unproductive and even come with consequences. at the same time, i do hate that a lot of people wanna contextualize any sort of criticism as "hate" especially with scenarios of creators/influencers getting criticised.
Hating is actually my favorite (and only) hobby
Rose´s single curl was my favorite character this episode
I think people like to act like hating and criticism are the same thing when they are _clearly_ not. Criticism is just being critical of something while hatred is an extreme dislike of something. I make a distinction between disliking something and hating something. I reserve hatred for something that's actually harmful but if something doesn't fit my tastes, I just dislike it. To me, it's a more clear, and precise way to look at things you don't like. So for me, you were describing criticism and disliking as being morally neutral while hating just for hatred sake as being morally bad, which I agree with.
Every single time I watch a video on this the production value goes up it is so clear you are mastering your own style of video making and producing ive been watch watching you since you you were just on tiktok i am INCREDIBLY proud of you and and cannot wait to see what you do next. i am a hater at heart but i can’t hate on people who don’t waste their potential.
''shame has been used for many things. if you'll recall Pontius Pilate quote retweeted Jesus onto the cross, where Jesus proceeded to private and eventually, delete his account.''
im crying. love u Ro
I think some mild hating can be very cathartic, providing you do it mostly privately, examine any biases that might be causing the hatred, and don’t delude yourself into thinking that there is actually anything wrong with the thing you’re hating if it’s just people doing something harmless
I saw the title and immediately knew that this was the video I needed in these troubled times
I appreciate the genuine nuance that you present here. Thank you for putting all this into words
Psy in cardigans OMG already- in the first few minutes- your jokes, I just love them so much
ro looks so fresh in this video shes looking radiant
I'm gonna subscribe to Ro in Patreon cause I'm the Alpha Gay and only betas don't pay Ro for her time and hard work
wow the zoomed in face appeal right when the video hits the pavement really compelled me. just subscribed to the patreon.
Who needs to resort to hate? "For those who like that sort of thing, that is the sort of thing they like." Does for me.
I found you through theserfstv streams, you are so talented & hilarious with the descriptive insults, keep up the great work! If you ever get asked to be a guest, do it, we love you!
“Akinator had to go to his therapist after he met me” is such a raw line, it made me laugh in context, but out of context it gives strong edgy Shadow The Hedgehog energy in the best possible way!
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This is so anti-clickbait omg
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Dude those moms whose kids are stuck under cars are so annoying and they aren't even funny.
I wasn't really listening until u started talking about Scentbird! my favorite product and/or service!!! Watching your videos makes me want to buy more!
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This is certainly one of the comments I’ve ever seen
very timely video for me. i am going through a hater arc at my school (being a bit of a bully to freshmen) and am coming to terms with learning to hate healthily and privately. i never hated through my whole life and only now at 17 am learning whats acceptable and unacceptable levels of being a bit of a hater. probably something to do with being autistic and having a shit father.
thank you for letting me recap my therapy session in your comment section.
interesting take as always yet glad you put that counter-point at the end because it's definitely a nuanced issue - personally i see my sometimes pointless cynicism and negativity as a byproduct of my depression so i'm more critical of its presence in me. also as someone else in the comments mentioned it can be because of unconscious biases. i need to be very certain of why i hate something in order to talk about it to others
Being vocally harsh and mean about small creators for reasons of taste is unnecessary and hurtful to the online experience.
We can all agree going up to a performer and saying “that was stupid and I hated it” is a shitty thing to do. Well, it is online too. Even if it’s not addressed to the creator, it will undoubtedly reach them.
Is proclaiming that you hate something worth the harm you inflict on another person? Is a moment of communal scorn worth scaring creative people away from sharing their art?
I don’t think so. Life is hard enough. You don’t and shouldn’t have to support everyone, but the least you can do is not publicly shame someone for something they created with creativity and hard work.
i igree with this so much. i think you can dislike something but you dont have to put others down while expressing that. "is wasn't for me, but i can see how someone else might like it"
in my anecdotal experience, pointless, over-the-top, vocal hating is almost exclusively bred out of unaddressed insecurity and latent self-loathing. It’s mostly harmless but usually says a lot about the person doing it
This video is ro’s academic companion piece to her Bonfire saga
as long as someone isnt spreading unecessary negativity to those who dont deserve it I think hating is perfectly fine
You are hands down the funniest person I’ve ever heard 🤣❤️
2023 is the year of fair and balanced ro
Some shit sucks most the time people are just Vibing though I hate things pretty selectively I guess but I still hate things
Thanks for putting urself out there it changes stuff more than you think
Steven universe is awesome
the ancedote about your friend hits hard. i have a friend who gets obsessed with a lot of stuff, and one time i made fun of something they liked. even if you dislike something your friend really likes, as long as it's harmless, don't say anything. it'll only upset them. it's also rude if they have liked that thing for a long time
I love you, Ro!
All your videos are the best
outro music goes insane
Hating really relies on the anonymity of social media. Ro really touched on the real life effects of hating. Thanks for the reminder to think before we speak.
Miss you Ro, hope you're doing alright and I'm looking forward to ur next vid!
I don't recall another Ro Ramdin video where the delivery was slow enough that I understood practically everything. It's a cool change. I like understanding things, including Ro.
the restraint to not mention bonfire by childish gambino as one of the hip hop artists is truly commendable
I was hoping Weird Al would get mentioned lol
A few years ago when the anime for Dr. Stone came out, my best friend said she didn't like it, and thought it looked weird. I was intrigued by it, but after hearing that, I squashed those feelings in order to fit in, and agreed with her. A few years later, which is now, I finally got to watching it, and it's one of my absolute favorite shows!! I talk about it all the time with my friends now!
"two young men dressed like mac demarco's pedal chain" lmfao
“Bae, wake up. Ro just dropped a new vid”
Alright, haven't even watched your video yet, but I KNOW it's made for me rn ^^ Thank you for creating and sharing!
I DID click that Link, and I also appreciated your wise conclusion on this. I agree, it's rather exhausting to be too hateful without any reflection, giving in to that violent strong emotion and isolate yourself that way.... it's not worth it, and saddens other potentially equally vulnerable or sensitives peeoples moments and days and sometimes.. lifes? well ...
babe wake up new ro ramdin vid just dropped
i was always legitimately understanding of peoples preferences and never hated on something just cause it's trendy but after this mf year, that has wrung me dry, i've become a hater fr. my tolerance levels are subterranean but i still don't express it on the internet i just hate in the privacy of my own home
Damn you lettin all that hate go to waste. Harass conservatives
@BanquetOfTheLeviathan a noble use of hater energy, and my personal favorite. good suggestion
@@californikaitlin thanks, i give credit to my mom
I'll be looking forward to your video essay on Pathologic 2 :]
Yooooo new ro just dropped
i love hating things then liking them after a while cause i learn more about it
i hate that youtube isn’t recommending your videos to me anymore even though i love your uploads :(
hating bad things is good, some things deserve hate
*stares unblinkingly at ben shapiro*
I needed this today
15 mins of “ go touch grass “ love it and thank you 😂
obsessed w the outro song
Your hair looks so goooood!
I think one of the problems lies in how saturated the algorithm is with stuff like this, at least for me. If I'm going to be bombarded with things I dislike, I will start expressing how much I dislike them in an attempt to be one of enough people who demand change. I don't think it's the main reason people hate, I just think it's reasonable to be irritated by something you feel is subpar to your tastes when it pops up and then express your frustration once it happens to occur more times than you're comfortable with. If I could personalize the basis for my own recommendations on social media I wouldn't be half as annoyed by it as I am now.
you're honestly right though, I think "because it's popular" is totally a major reason why people end up hating things. It might've been something that already caused them mild irritation, but having that thing shoved in your face constantly by social media or even traditional media can turn a dislike into a full hate
when you wear that white turtleneck it looks like you're sat at the hairdresser with one of those capes around you
I MISS YOUR VIDEOSSSSS
Love the outro song, wish more of your music was on Spotify!
Do you know where can I find this song?
I have never liked saying same but when you said that even akinator couldn’t understand your gender that touched my soul.
RO RAMDIN YOU ARE SO SILLY!!!!! i cant take it. I cant take the silly.
I can’t explain why I hate things sometimes but neither can I usually fully explain why I like something. I think that people forget that they often don’t have a reason why they like something other than “well I just like it.” The same goes for disliking things.
The disjointed ad read made me laugh
great video!! best bday present ever
I’m convinced watsky was somewhere between a collective fever dream or a delivery medium for an activation code
Being negative has always been seen as cool though
There is great power in seeing something online made by like 3 random people, saying to yourself "this is dumb. I don't like this," and then blocking that account without saying anything to anyone so you never see it again.
Someone pls explain the Jesus joke to me at 7:30. It completely flew over my head and I must understand every one of Ro’s jokes, please and thank u
Seconded, like I thought I understood it but I really didnt
I really needed to hear this Ro thx
Hating is good in small doses, like brie cheese. maybe
So, it's not blueberry vanilla goat cheese? Because I have to really stop myself from eating that everyday.
I feel like in our society there‘s too much desire for constant justifications and such. Sometimes you just hate something or love something. But there doesn‘t always have to be an explanation. When can feels just be feels? Like ppl are so occupied with the rationalizing of things. Its like some ppl wanna appear to be a mentally perfect being with always correct and rational thoughts and feelings and that‘s just so silly. Being a human isn‘t all about being a perfect rational being. Life is chaos. The universe doesn‘t care about anything and sometimes dislike is just dislike. Ans needs no justification. If preferences don‘t lead to ppl getting hurt like bigotry does for example, having said preference or not liking something isn‘t wrong or something. It‘s just a humam quirk of a person. Some ppl hate hawaiian pizza. Some people dispise brussel sprouts. But i also do agree that whenever ppl need to justify their hate of a thing it becomes really cringe and idiotic. Like with ppl insisting art is objectively bad cause they didn‘t like it for certain reasons. Subjectivity to some is just so much of a fake concept that they have to see anything subjective as a objective instead. And so you get ppl trying to mansplain to you why death stranding is bad cause it doesn‘t go „shooty shooty bang bang!“ for the majority of the game, totally ignoring the deep emotional experience ppl have with it. Someone once said to me: „if somethings really good, ppl will love it and dispise it.“ and that is imo the case for a lot of stuff. Sadly though those that do dispise it often times think their take on something is the only valid one and from there wanna pretend like their takes are the only true one that isn‘t dumb. Like, I personally don‘t like a lot of disney movies for their basic lukewarm predictable plot but who would I be to be rude about someone finding a lot of value in them? I mean sometimes someone who likes a thing a lot made me actually appreciate it a lot more once they have helped me see it from their perspective and that is also really valuable. Art is so subjective and honestly, hearing ppl talk about how much it moved them is just so much better than the typical critic tearing a thing to shreds. Like sure that can be fun too sometimes, but i‘d always favour a love letter to a game from Hbomberguy as a video over some critic snobbily trying to convince me that something they didn‘t likw is therefor objectively trash and shouldn‘t be enjoyed. Like, sometimes you just don‘t enjoy something cause it doesn‘t resonate with you. It‘s the same with ppl calling evangelion pretenchious because it is very abstract at times and deals a lot with emotional issues specifically depression and also japanese social issues while also trying to be a subversion of a populat genre. And yet when someone doesn‘t relate to it they go on those tirades trying to call it all fake deep just cause they have never been in this emotional state and can‘t relate to it. Or with steven universe future where ppl were like: „steven‘s sudden depression and breakdown is so unrealistic for his character omg!“ and like: „i‘m struggling with depression and ptsd and this is nothing like my reality so it‘s objectively wrong!“ like no, it‘s not. It‘s just that not everyone experiences it like you do. It actually felt really close to home for me though cause i often feel very left alone with my issues while i help everyone else and get no help or care back in my life sometimes and it also makes me go deep into delusional depressive episodes and causes some mental breakdowns that also makes me become very destructive as well unintentionally ofc so it is very accurate for me. But apparently that doesn‘t matter that it resonated with my experience cause if someone experiences mentall illness differently then the show couldn‘t possibly be still a good portrayal of these things cause obviously it‘s all about the ones that hate it and they are always right and always the perfect judge for the thing they hate apparently. Like it‘s so infuriating cause it also shows just how dumb some ppl are. Like how rose being a morally grey character broke ppl‘s brain cause they couldn‘t fathom a cartoon character being a complex being with flaws while only a few years ago they were calling every female fan character a mary sue because many ppl struggle writing complex people cause it‘s really difficult to do so so tge cocky haters just had to tear every aspiring writer a new one basically cause they had to posture so hard about good writing while they literally get mad over a character that isn‘t a mary sue now cauE they actually prefer mary sues in reality cause they are easy to understand and very dumbed down. Wich also leads to ppl expecting shows to like literally baby sit them wich is so pathetic as well. Like imagine demanding that fiction media educates you and treats you like a toddler all the time that has to be explicitly told what is good and bad as if moSt of them wouldn‘t already know. I‘d want ppl to actually think for themselves as they watch a show so they can actually engage with it in a better way. But no! They have to ecpect the show spoonfeeding them their own worldview and a perfectly moral utopia and so when they are faced with complex writing and characters, they get all angry over it and irritated cause they can‘t understand that shows can include moral ambiguity without „romantisizing“ something or „endorsing“ it. Like no! It doesn‘t mean the writers agree with the villian! They just want you to think about this and come to your own conclusion. Stop it with these constant moral panics over media and learn to enjoy things without trying to constantly morally grandstand over it. It‘s the same with fandoms too imo. Where you got these ppl that cry over fanfics being „problematic“ if they are obviously just a fantasy of the writer to get off or if they deal with heavy topics for whatever reason. Ppl need to stop thinking that you can censor art hard with moral frameworks and grandstanding. You can‘t say that art should be free and liberated while also being the morality police over controversial art that makes you think harder than usual. I‘m honestly so done with those ppl tbh. They are so childish and preachy. And it wouldn‘t surprise me if they were children too. Cause I hardly ever meet adults that do this kind of thing. Cause most know that entertainment isn‘t there to dumb down everything and treat you like a toddler. And that not everything is always problematic or „romantisization“ i literally heard ppl harrassing artists for drawing deeply emotional vent art and they were like: „omg cancel them! They are romantisizing abuse and depression!“ while they are literally trying to opress and censor someone of the group they try to protect so hard over them venting in artistic ways. It surely is very entitled of these moral police ppl to literally censor and harrass vulnerable people with trauma or issues for venting. It‘s like ganging up on gay people writing gay romances cause they aren‘t „realistic for gay ppl“ or something like that. Its honestly just really nasty entitlement and i also think many of these ppl are just overcompensating their own flaws with that to some extent.
Opposite of a hater here - please release your music on Spotify. I love it every time I hear it!
I watched this video because the title disturbed me. It sits contrary to my personal philosophy at this stage in my life, and I wanted to see what kind of challenging perspective would be expressed.
I'm at a point in my life where I've experienced and am continuing to experience extreme amounts of trauma. I used to believe I was the unluckiest person alive and that my life absolutely sucked. Objectively, I have been unlucky, and my life has been fill with higher than average amounts of suffering. I realized eventually that healing from and moving past trauma would recquire me to detach from negativity as much as possible. It was clearly just making me latch onto the bad things in my life, and to lose hope for a better future. I found myself fully believing that I would never be happy, and that scared me. So I decided to fabricate my own happiness.
I did so by removing as much unnessecary negativity from my life as possible. I realized there's no need to publicly insult people I don't like for arbitrary reasons, like if I don't like their fashion sense or their voice or something. There's no need to engage at all with things I don't like, as long as they aren't hurting anybody or causing suffering. When I do engage with, for example, ideologies that I don't agree with, or opinions and behaviors that I feel are harmful, I do so in the most constructive way I possibly can. It's a skill, and I'm still refining it. It's helped me learn to set healthy boundaries instead of pushing people away and isolating myself. It's helped me accept parts of myself and past actions of mine that I found disgusting and unforgivable. It's helped me avoid putting energy into unnessecary drama and arguments that go nowhere. It has been a net positive on my life.
That said, I understand the need for negativity sometimes. There's a need for balance, and some things really deserve to be hated. I hate capitalism, because I believe it's one of the main sources of not only my suffering, but the suffering of people in my community. I love myself, and I love my fellow humans, and so my hate for capitalism comes from a place of deep love. Capitalism is inanimate, and can't feel the pain of my hate or insults. At worst I'm causing some people who disagree with me a bit of discomfort. It's an okay form of hate.
I think I also now see some value in privately expressing negativity among friends. If I disagree with an ideology, I might browse social media posts about it and feel angry. Since engaging with people to change their ideology even in a polite way is usually unproductive and exhausting, I would instead rant to a friend who agrees with me so we can both feel invigorated by our hate. That's okay too.
I think there's ways to feel the catharsis of expressing negativity without causing a net negative impact on the world. In fact there's ways to channel it that can only end in positive outcomes. It's about balance, and it's about engaging with negativity in a calculated way. I won't carelessly throw negativity out into the world. When in doubt, I'll keep it to myself. If I really want to change something that I believe is harmful, I can try to engage in a constructive way. If my body is filled with hate about something to the point that I absolutely must have a physical reaction, I can yell about it in a private place or go for a run or even rant to a friend.
I would never label myself as a hater and make it a part of my personality just because being negative feels good. It can feel comfortable, and it can feel right, it can even feel logical. But if my life has taught me anything, it's that love and positivity are much more fun in the end. Maybe it's just me. This stuff is just how I feel. Maybe engaging with negativity in the measured way I do isn't for everyone, but that's just my take.
I appreciate this video for making me think about this stuff and put it into words. I expected to be challenged, but my views on the way I approach the world have just been strengthened.