ALL OF MY PETS IN ONE VIDEO 2020 | EMZOTIC (And Huge Life Updates)
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- All of my pets in one video! (2020)
This years 'All My Pets' is a little different due to some extremely extraordinary circumstances, that's why this video is extra long. I have some explaining to do about where the other animals you're used to seeing are, and why I disappeared for so long in the spring and summer of 2020.
Timestamps are below so you can navigate the video.
00:00 - Intro
1:38 - Ferrets!
08:10 - Snakes!
15:48 - Invertebrates!
20:32 - Lizards!
24:38 - Black Dog!
29:36 - Birds!
30:23 - Rabbit!
30:31 - White Dogs!
33:30 - PART 2 (Trigger Disclaimer)
35:38 - Where is Grinchy?
39:59 - Elopement
43:27 - The Skunks
43:45 - The Restraining Order
47:31 - Back to The Skunks
51:13 - Court
53:06 - Escaping My Marriage
55:51 - Trauma & Processing
1:00:51 - Understanding Narcissistic Ab*se
1:16:46 - How I'm Doing Now
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IMPORTANT PLEASE READ - Welcome to my 2020 All My Pets Video. It's a LONG video because today's video is 2 videos in 1. It starts off with All My Pets, and then there's a break and we go into life updates. I have taken the months I needed to process and protect myself, and I'm finally ready to start talking about what happened at the end of 2019 and early this year (why I disappeared, what happened to the other animals, etc..). I have added time stamps so you can navigate this video. Please feel free to ask questions, but understand that there is still a lot I cannot say because I have a long legal road ahead and I cannot jeopardize my case in my quest to getting free of my abuser and finding true safety. Please do not send abuse to my abuser. Nothing can be said or done to change what happened to me, but we can spread love instead and learn from my experiences. I love you all so much. Thank you for your patience with me this year while I got back on my feet and processed everything I went through. Life knocked me for six, but I am doing so well. I feel happy, healthy and surrounded by love and support. The Creature Crew are a huge part of this. Thank you. I love you. AND we're 700K strong!! YAAAS!
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💖💖💞I hope you and all of your amazing pets are doing well 💖
We love and care for you Em
I’m so sorry about Danny and grinchy!!
@@ameliacrane2881 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
"you can never pour enough of yourself to fill a cup that is broken"
... that hit me like a freight train
Right?
Omg, I know. I was speechless...
When you said “I’m not afraid anymore” you literally were the vision of empowerment. Thank you for sharing your story. 💜
When she said that, I actually started to cry. It’s so beautiful❤️
Did you see her smile after she said that? That. Was pure. Empowerment. I’m so proud of her.
that hit me so hard
I think you all need to look into the other side of this story is all im saying.
@@countryboycitylife3482 Both sides make some sense, but there is a LOT we cannot see.
today we fight for all the women who are trapped in a house with their abusers during quarantine🖤
Let's fight for all women AND men who are trapped in a house with their abusers during quarantine :) ♥
@@anexxshady Thank you for bringing up men. As a man who was in an abusive relationship, men CAN be abused too. Abuse does not discriminate.
@@anexxshady I was gonna comment this :)
@@flamingsalamander4974 Yes, definitely, men can be (and are) also victims of domestic violence. Sadly that's often forgotten, not taken seriously, and even mocked when they speak up and try to seek help. It breaks my heart how often it occurs and that a lot of men won't talk about it because of how they're treated. I commend you for sharing that it has happened to you.
@@CarrieP1981 Thank you ☺️
My mom has been with my dad for 22 years and the entire time I was listening to your story I was nodding along because it was what he's done to her for my entire life. Today they hit breaking point and I sent her this video with the time stamp for your story and it finally helped her realize what my dad has been doing for years. She is financially stuck with him and things are hard but I wanted to thank you for being the wake-up call for her. I'd rather she know and understand what is being done to her and be able to prepare for the blowup than get blindsided. It is frightening how nice they can be to their children when they treat their spouse so poorly, and I say this as the child of a narcissist. I'm so happy you got out of there and are doing well. It gives me hope for my own mother and my siblings being okay if things go the way I fear. Love you Em, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life.
Ok drama queen
Side note: the fact that she was able to go through her story and information on domestic violence without tearing up AND in chronological order that is put together just shows the amount of reflection and thought she went through. AND meanwhile giving advice on how to take care of animals while under stressful situations (showing how animals are just always a priority for her). And you can just tell she went from someone who has in denial into someone that is so informed of the signs of domestic violence and the terminology (ex. The stage of isolation, stone walling, gaslighting, etc). Regardless if anyone has faced domestic violence, this video is just so empowering as everyone can take and learn something from this. How we have been blessed with such an amazing person idk. Also bless Kait for being THAT friend that everyone needs.
I want to like this comment twice. I agree strongly.
everybody here is so respectful and kind omg i love this
Yep
"Sometimes when things don't add up, you have to subtract yourself."
I really like that
Beautiful!
Omg, I know!
Em, I'm in a situation like that right now. I've been thinking if I stay here and help him get control, but you just made me realize I can't stay here. I'm miserable! I am going to get help. Thank you! 💖 I'm so sorry you went through this. I'm sending you love! You are so brave!!
I hope you did get the help because you cant help someone who is abusive. It takes a long time for them to change and they wont change when they have someone there they can abuse.
I wish you the best♡♡♡ I'm sending you so so much love because you deserve it♡
Wishing you love and safety, no one deserves to be hurt
Be careful with posting. When you leave, you don't want the abuser to know. It causes more issues.
I lucked out--mine realized I was not happy, and was starting to realize that I was going to leave. He kicked me out because I went to a funeral and may have gotten covid. He took the dog, and gave me the ashes of my cat that died a month before. I'm still fighting to get the paperwork done for the divorce, but I am in a much better place.
It's painful and hard, but keep yourself safe. If they learn that you can leave, then they will try to sabotage you at every step.
Lori how are you doing now??
It makes me anxious to think of how many stars had to align to get you out of that situation right before quarantine. So happy you had a friend looking out for you!!
@@moakristiansson5257 Honestly thats where my brain went the immediate second the "stay at home" orders were made. Mostly because I know I'd be screwed if this happened during my childhood.
That “i’m not afraid anymore” said with that smile, those strong glowing eyes, that bravery and empowerment... it gave me the chills. I am completely spechless right now
I read this right when that happened.
i watched it over a few times and cried each time because she is so empowered and strong and it just makes me so so so so happy for her and proud of her
1:14:42 no, Em, we're not worried about how you're going to keep us entertained. We're glad you're getting through a horrible situation.
True!
@samantha ?
@samantha what are you having trouble understanding?
Yeah we’re here to learn :D and know more about you
@samantha I know. I was asking what part of the sentence was giving you trouble.
"is anybody still here?.." we're all still here Em. we love you and you've helped a lot of us, we're here to help you too. we're an online family and we stick together. love you em❤️ 🐾
I have a special needs ferret and he was abused in his last home, he gets stressed and Sick very easily. I went 8 hours away (I’m 14) just to get him. I love him with all my heart ❤️
Hope he's settled 😊
This went from me watching the cutest animals to a "heart crushing" story and I'm sorry that you had to go through this because you are without a doubt, such a grest person
Sorry. This video is a roller coaster. Love you xxx
@@Emzotic please don't apologize for telling your story. Everyone who watched it was given ample warning and chose to do so anyway. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know I watched it to support you. And also to tell you that I am one of three children of an abusive father and though it may take a while for the little ones to figure it out- they will all come to understand the reasons why you had to leave the way you did. Thank you for sharing, wishing you endless love and the best of everything...
@@Emzotic thanks for making this amazing content em
The bit about rehoming animals hit me really hard. When I was in an abusive relationship I was so scared because he would threaten my hamster and so I got a friend to find someone to take them in. He got so mad when he saw I had rehomed them. But I knew for sure then that they were safe. And I was finally able to get myself out without worrying that he would hurt them in retaliation.
I'm so proud of you.
Glad you’re safe from that person, I wish you well
I knew as soon as you left what happened. He reminded me so much of my sons dad. I didn’t connect the dots until you said you moved without him. Without all those pets. It just broke my heart to hear grinchy died. I hope you continue to grow and heal. I’ve been out for 9 years and it’s still hard.
I love your content. Thanks so much for sharing
When you said “I’m not afraid anymore” I got chills.
I was a child that was hurt and confused, I forgive you, and I forgive all the mothers who have to leave. You're all so strong.
yes. that thought process was something that narcissistic abuse kind of encourages as well and victims or narcissistic abuse are greatly empathetic. These kids would have had to deal with the instability either way. And staying longer would be well terrible for all partys.
You rescued Grinchy from a terrible fate of being stuck in a cage in an exotic bird store so at the very least, Grinchy's last years were much better and he knew he was being loved. It is sad there aren't enough animal rehabilitation for reintroduction into the wild these days. You did what you could, my condolences.
The "I'm not afraid anymore" face, was the face of a warrior queen. I'm so proud of you Em and I'm so grateful to Kait for being there to get you! xoxox
Please don’t apologize to us. This is about YOU, and YOUR healing journey. You had enough courage to tell all of us, and you get to tell us as much or as little information as you wanted to. You need to process these emotions, and nobody has the right to hinder them or tell you otherwise.
Kiba looks like a small bear, he's a beauty!
You’re everywhere 😶
Oh I thought it was a girl lol
@@esmen292 I have seen your channel on infinite and caylus.
he really is.
so cute
The part about Grinchy: Thank you so much for what you did and are doing for Grinchy. I was not aware of the plight of hornbills before you made your videos about him, and I'm so much better prepared to stand against the abusive practices of wild caught animal exporters. You did everything you could reasonably have done for him, and at great cost to yourself, both financially and psychologically, and on an ongoing basis. Not everyone has the strength to do that, but thank you for doing it anyway
Thank you Tremolo. Wild caught birds are just... it’s heartbreaking. I really did try everything for him..
@@Emzotic You did well! You did everything you could for him and gave him an amazing life. He was happy, cared for, and truly loved. The bond between a human and animal is what’s so beautiful and I know he was happy to be with you. You’re such an amazing person and I thrive to be as caring and strong as you are. You deserve so much happiness just as Grinchy did and received. Take care 👍
@@Emzotic yeah the wild is special for its untapped Nature.and we should keep it that way
@@Emzotic your plan to scatter his ashes in Africa is fantastic; I'm confident it will bring you the closure you need and honor his life in the best way possible. On the 1 year anniversary of my first cat's death, I went on a road trip to scatter some of her ashes at each of the places where we had lived together. It was a long road trip, as we had travelled a lot together, but that trip really brought me out of the darkness. It was a great opportunity for me to relive my greatest memories of her, rather than being stuck in the moment of her passing. In the same way, I hope that you can go to Africa and experience the beauty and freedom that Grinchy experienced before his capture, and free yourself from the suffering you know he went through.
As a domestic violence survivor of a narcissist ( I prefer the term survivor not victim ) thank you for sharing your story Em. You have helped and possibly saved lives with your story. The way you were able to beautifully articulate your story while giving advice and lesson learned shows just how far you have come. I am so proud of you for putting you and your animals first.
you should name the hissing roaches "Hiss" and "Pssst" ..or "You left you water running" and "That cat is angry"
omg- how'd you come up with these?! x,D
pffft- That cheered me up
Amazing names :)
"that cat is angry" is probably the best pet name
"A person who is a broken cup has to choose to fix themselves"
This hit home for me. I developed a substance abuse issue while dating my ex girlfriend because I felt like I had to be everything for her. A therapist, a partner, a parent, a wallet. The whole time she would put me down and undermine my self confidence.
gonna send a lot of good vibes for you, hope u doing well now
Thank you both so much, I'm definitely healing.
“Sometimes when things don’t add up, you have to subtract yourself.”
Probably the most powerful statement I’ve heard. I’m so happy you’re taking care of yourself and your animals like always. I’ve always know you as the female Steve Irwin because of how well you treat your animals. I’m so sorry for your loss with some of your previous animals. Thank you so much for sharing what you can. You’re so strong and so amazing and you deserve the world. You’re a shining light of heaven above and I truly love you and what this channel entails. We’re here for you and ready to give all our love and support to you! 💚
I know I’m late to this video, but I hope you still see this, Em. As a fellow step-mom, that role is one of the most difficult and thankless jobs out there.... but it sounds to me that you took all the steps possible to take care of them despite the difficult decisions you had to take to take care of yourself. There are a lot of step-moms out there who totally understand what you went through and are still going through... please, if you ever want to vent anonymously to people who get what you’re going through, post on r/stepmoms on Reddit. We’re here for you ❤️
I literally wish I could just give her a hug 🥺 it’s unbelievable the strength she and other have to go through and leave those situations.
when you took a sip of your drink and shouted “that is disgusting!” in the middle of a serious conversation i just laughed at the comedic relief. life sure is a lot sometimes; thank you so much for sharing and cheers to happier times
Em and everyone else who has survived such terrible things are such strong, beautiful, worthy people. Have a great day to anyone who reads this
"I'm not afraid anymore". I believe you. You're an absolute inspiration, Em.
"You can never pour enough of yourself to fill a cup that's broken" .... I felt that.
Today I donated 50 dollars to the domestic violence campaign when I saw this video. I am so sorry about what has happened in the past year
Niffler slithering like a snake on the carpet while you were talking about dobby killed me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 had to rewind and watch it a few times. Lol silly boy
Hahahahaa!! He loves to drag his belly around!
i was coming to comment the same thing haha
yes! he really seems to like that carpet
"Sometimes if things don't add up, you just have to subtract yourself"- Emzotic
I just saw this now and I'm awed at how much I relate to your situation. I have never been in an abusive narcissistic relationship, but my father is a narcissist. He's been in and out of many failed relationships, and whenever one of them ends, he calls the sweet, smart, loving, totally undeserving women "angry women". I'm incredibly close with my mother, and I was close with my stepmother. Coming from the child of a narcissist, I want you to know that when those kids grow up, they will totally, completely understand and will hold absolutely no grudges against you. You did what you needed to do to protect yourself. My stepmother is so much happier now, and I'm grateful that she was able to get out of her horrible situation! As for my mother, the stories I've heard from her of when she left (when I was 3 and my sister was 1) she felt the exact same as you: terrified about leaving, free when she finally got out. She had to have her amazing dad and brother-in-law come to protect her from his wrath. He hasn't been physically abusive since a court case when I was around 5 or 6 years old, but he's been emotionally and verbally abusive. Luckily I have places to go to escape when I'm at his house, and I have about 8 months to go until I'm 18. I just wanted to say that you are not alone and that you are so, so strong, and that those children that you loved will know why you did what you did. They may not understand today, but that will support you when they know how horrible he was to you. It makes me so, so happy to hear that you and all your animals are safe!! I'm so proud of you and it makes me feel triumphant to know that you are a survivor! Sending you so much love and support ❤️❤️❤️
I also forgot to mention that my mother is in a loving relationship now and has been for 10+ years! If you want another relationship just know that there are people out there who are loving and understanding and can really, really help you through anything. There is hope! And also I'm so so glad you have the "I'm not afraid anymore" and "it's not my fault" mindsets because those each are so valuable. I respect and admire you so much! Best wishes ❤️
Everyone needs a friend like Kate in their corner. No matter what’s happening it’s so important to drop everything to help a friend out before something happens that can’t be taken back
My dad is a narcissist and while he is no longer in my life i get how something like this would take so long to heal, sending you love and support to anyone in a narcissistic or abusive relationship.
My mother is a narcissist, it's awful, I hope you can get through this whole thing safely, don't worry about us being entertained, we just want you to be safe and happy
I’m brand new to your channel but can I just say that I made it through your whole video and you my dear are strong and amazing!! Thank you for sharing your story with all of us
I suffered years of emotional/domestic violence in my childhood home until about high-school. It never stops infuriating me to find out how many other people are in the same situation. I truly hope this video can inspire anyone in the same situation to know you have options. You can get out and you deserve to be safe
Thank you Steph. I’m so glad you’re out of that situation. How cruel...
I wanted to point out that my counselor told me something that will always stick with me:
Mental illness or even substance abuse can be a reason but it’s not an excuse, those two things are not the same and using it as an excuse is not taking appropriate responsibility.
Thank you so much for addressing this. And for being such an amazing example of growth from your experience. I had a similar experience years ago and to see and to hear the validation that I did the right thing, and I'm not the only one out there has uplifted me again. "You're not yourself for a long time" really hit my heart, because even now I'm still bringing parts of myself back that I lost in that relationship.
You are so strong, and so amazing. I'm so glad you got out of there and you are here for the world, and I am here to see you. Thank you
You'll probably never see this, but I gotta say, you have a lovely voice/accent. I could listen to you talk for hours. Plus you know what you're talking about so I'm glad I found your channel! I wish you all the best in your new chapter in life and I hope you're still doing well in 2022. Your dog Keba is beautiful! Cheers
I agree, don't bother trying to defend yourself against a narcissists claims. Say goodbye to the mutual friends who don't denounce the behavior of a narcissist because you don't need those friends.
I couldn't go no contact because we coparent, but I can absolutely shut off the level of communication we are currently at. After years of having left, we get along much better.
Am I gonna be jealous of most of these pets: yessss
Jealous that you want them or jealous that you aren't one of Em's pets? 🤣🤣🤣
They’re kind of awesome ❤️🦦❤️
@@MorticiaAttoms Hahaha! They do get very spoiled!!!
@@MorticiaAttoms I want them soo badly 😂 unfortunately I can’t really have any pats rn because we have little space and it would be unfair to them
Summer Bell that’s probably a mix I would want to be kiba or niffler
Your friend is amazing for just swooping in to come and get you. I'm so glad to hear that you have people there to support you! ❤️
Em: Can keep over 50 pets healthy and happy
Also em: ALL MY PLANTS ARE DEAD!!!!!
I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through, Em. We miss you, but I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels like you need to take care of yourself before you can put everything into your videos again. As always, I love seeing your animals! 😍 Thank you for the explanation of everything, too. Xoxoxo
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As someone who have gone through abuse I can say that it's important to seek professional help after to deal wit the trauma. And the types of therapy that have helped me most are ACT, DBT and Compassion. And make sure you have people around you who know what you have gone through so they can help you to be safe from both others and yourself.
And if you are struggling just know you are not alone ♡
I really don’t think the “justice system” actually gives justice to victims most of the time.
rest in peace Grinchy we miss him/her was chi's gender ever confirmed?
Grinchy was how i found your channel and i am so glad i did
Actually no, but I’m 99% certain based on coloration and behavior that he was boy
You are definitely not a victim, you’re a warrior and a survivor. I send you a lot of love and wish you all the best!
Aw I’m so happy for you! That’s awesome that you see yourself stronger. I wish you the best. I hope you’re doing better and remember all the animals and people that love you. Thank you for your amazing content.
I’m so proud of you Em. Been watching you ever since you were filming back in the UK and loved you ever since. And I will say seeing you like this and hearing about what you’ve went through, it totally breaks my heart. I’m so so so so glad and happy you’re out of there and left him. You deserve love. You deserve a fulfilling life. We love and support you no matter what.
And I’m totally heartbroken about grinchy. I will definitely miss all the animals we got to see but at least you’re not overwhelmed with the ones you have know, and you get to focus on your little babies even better now.
So proud of you, sending lots of love.
I left a narcissist 7 years ago, and I still get random emails from him, "just wanting to talk" to the one mode of communication he hasn't been blocked on. He has tried getting people to talk to me for him, has created fake social media accounts to try and follow my private accounts, even tried talking to my sister on a dating site, trying to play the trope he thought she was me. I have had no contact with him, and it feels amazing. You're so strong and I'm so proud of you ❤ it's so hard to leave, but such a weight is lifted once you do. I'm glad you're no longer living in fear 💕
Em, you're amazing. You don't have to feel like you owe it to us to tell us about your life, you can keep things private-- none of us are going to worry about it or be upset or angry about it or anything. It's really brave of you to share everything with us, we love you
Thank you so much. I understand, but I wanted to give some clarity because I know the community was confused for a while. 💜❤️
Gosh, I'm so happy for you that you got out of that situation. I was in one like that a while back, and it took immense mental prep for me to even begin thinking about leaving. We love you, too, Em! Keep goin' strong, girl!
i am so sorry for having to go through all of this, and i cant even imagine how you feel. its wonderful to see you already started recovering.
i just want to thank you, watching this was the first time i have have ever told my self i am worth it.
The smile when you said, "I'm not afraid anymore," was so empowering, I could feel it. You ARE healing, you ARE succeeding, you ARE amazing❤ you're a beautiful, courageous person, and life teaches you lessons in strange ways, look how much stronger you are after this experience. You put those pieces back together so strong that nothing will be able to shake you❤
I was suddenly discarded after a narcissistic ex and made homeless. To this day its the best thing that ever happened to me. It wasn't until MONTHS later that I realised how broken he had made me, that I didn't even recognise myself. Three years later I am STILL recovering. Do im so proud of you xxx
Recovery takes time. I left my abuser 5 years ago and I'm still dealing with the effects. I didn't realise how broken i was until i started dating again. I don't think I'll ever fully recover, i think ill always carry those scars. But I'm not scared anymore. I'm proud of how far you've come. its a long and difficult road but you're doing amazing.
It’s pretty unfair that you can go through something like that and have it effect you for so long. Really makes you realize how much damage people can do to each other.
It takes time. Just left mine. Can't see the light yet, but I know it there and I'm safe
@@cathydemuth8241 you'll get there. The light is there. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, it makes it easier.
Going on ten years for me and unfortunately some things don't really go away, they just get easier to cope with, I guess. It's weird, I still have ingrained responses almost a decade later. Therapy is the best thing ever.
OMG IM SO PROUD OF YOU FOR GOING THROUGH THIS ALL AND COMING OUT OF ALL OF IT SO STRONG!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I've never wanted to hug you more! You are so so brave and you are so inspirational. I wish past me that had gone through an abusive relationship could hear you, this couldn't have been easy for you to share but thank you for sharing! It's helped me to hear other people get out and heal through this situation, and I'm sure it's helped other people that follow you, or even people that stumble upon your video on their recommended like I did! Thank you, you're so amazing and I truly wish you the best
Edit: hearing you say "I'm proud of you" at the end has me crying! Haha I wasn't expecting to get emotional
I love how she posted this, and how she talked about it. Personally I have struggled with "narcissistic abuse" from my ex bestfriend. Yes, it can be from a friend, family member, and or spouse. We were very close because he was dating my friend and in the beginning he was really nice but it turned into hurtful words, and statements that made me doubt myself and my existence when he didn't get something he wanted. If you are ever going through something like that please know that you aren't the only one and get help or if you can LEAVE. Nobody should have to go through that.
I had this experience too. It was a really close friend, he seemed so empathetic and charming and loving at first. As time went on he slowly showed more and more disrespect, putting me down, making me question my reality. It was a slow enough progression that I didn’t realize what was happening until I was already stuck in an abusive loop. Thank god I had other good friends who helped me see that as much as I wanted him to be the person I thought he was at first, he just wasn’t.
idk why but the first names that came to my mind for the cockrouches are : sushi and dumpling. \ ('-') /
Those are great names ❤️❤️❤️
@@Emzotic omg hi em! i just wanted to say that you are so Barve and so strong. you're such a inspiring person ❤️
Sally and Jack (nightmare before Christmas). Halloween time I guess it's on my mind 😘
I have 2 called cabbage and meatball 😅
Thank you for sharing, I've been following you since you lived in the UK and I will continue to support you, I have big respect for your animal care and for how strong you have been through all of this ❤️
Just seen the second half of this, absolutely feel for you. Keep yourself strong! You'll get through it!
also i think dobby thinks her name is “DOBBY NO NO NO NO NO”
Ha maybe he is a naughty boy but oh so adorable.
Dobby is a girl, niffler is the boy
Like how Jenna and Julien's dog Bunny is actually named "Yes!"
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Em, I can't thank you enough for being so brave and sharing your story. I've been following you for years and went through an abusive relationship as well. I relate so much to many of the things you went through. The narcissistic abuse, not being able to have friends, the gaslighting and self doubt, the fear of what they might do if you spoke up about it, and the liberating feeling of finally leaving. I put up with the physical and emotional abuse for a year and a half before I finally had enough. My mother and I went to the house we were living at while he was at work, packed up my entire life into a single trailer in 2 hours and left without a word. Driving away from that house for the last time was my freedom ride, and the most liberating feeling I've ever had. When he realized I was gone he went to great lengths to harass me for months and try to find me or keep tabs on me. He would flip flop between telling me he couldn't live without me, begging me to come back, threatening to harm himself if I didn't give him another chance, to telling me all kinds of disgusting things to try and hurt or scare me. I was too scared to even try to get a restraining order. I blocked him and his friends and family everywhere and locked down all my social media to make it as hard as possible for him to contact me, and after 3 months he finally gave up. When I think of who I was in that situation vs who I am now, I feel like a completely different person and it's the most amazing feeling. 2 year later I still deal with a lot of the mental damage and PTSD that he caused me, but I am getting better every day and doing so much better for myself. I also now have an amazing partner who has been so kind and supportive to me, and showed me a love that my ex made me feel I didn't deserve. I'm so proud and happy that you are out of that situation and beginning to thrive, and thank you again for sharing your experience
Our experiences are so, so, so similar.. I can’t..
I’m sending you a massive digital hug. Thank you for being so giving and open with your story too. We did it. We made it out. We survived xxxxx
These videos literally never get old
I recently lost one of my guinea pigs and I understand everything you must have gone through with Grinchy's passing. It's been a few weeks since my piggies passing but I still don't fully understand it and I don't know how to respond to people who talk to me about and I get you, Em. Pet loss is difficult and I can't imagine how difficult it must have been when Grinchy left you after everything you went through together. You're such a strong person to be able to talk about it on social media and you are such an inspiration to me. Thanks for being amazing.
Thank you Jack. I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your beautiful Guinea pig... may they Rest In Peace
@@Emzotic Thank you
Grinchy knew you loved him so much, Em. He was an amazing bird that I think really brought all of us together. And I think scattering his ashes in Africa would be absolutely amazing. He’ll finally be going home.
You’re so strong, and I am so proud of you for being able to get through this.
Edit: I’d also like to add that I love you brought up that it’s okay to rehome an animal if you can’t care for the animal anymore. When I was very depressed, I thought about rehoming my rabbit, but was shamed for bringing it up. Now, I am grateful I didn’t rehome him, because I love him SO much. He’s best friends with my cat, and he’s family to me.
You are such an inspiration for others who have been through similar situations. You are so strong and empowering. Thank you for being here, Em. You truly are amazing.❤️
You are so strong, i’ve been watching your videos for awhile and i’m so glad your healing and doing what you love❤️
I’m very sorry that you’ve gone through abuse no one deserves it. I was abused as a child and I know how that is. I’m so glad that you’re finding clarity and healing. Love you so much I hope you’re doing better personally❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry.. that must have been so confusing as a child. I’m glad you’re (hopefully) ok now :) xx
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@@Emzotic niff is like a banana
I’m a survivor too, Em. It was a year and a half long. Making my ferret training channel has helped me heal so much and focus on something else. We have to support each other and realize we’re not alone! Hugs to you! 🥰
Oh my gosh.. thank you so much. I will check out your channel. Thank you for sharing this, and I am so, so, so glad that you’re out xxx
@@Emzotic thanks! I love my channel even if it’s a bit amateur compared to yours! You’re very brave. I almost posted something for domestic violence awareness month but chickened out. My ex got a 30 yr sentence so at least I don’t have to worry about him now. It was one of the hardest and scariest things I’ve ever been through, and I’m still afraid to speak out. Maybe one day I won’t be afraid.
This hits hard, especially after watching your Story Time and wishing you’d never have to go through hardship again. I know you’re an amazing, strong person but I hope you can find true love where some appreciates you for the wonderful human being you are! If it’s any consolation, your channel has helped save me from a toxic relationship with myself.
After years of depression, suicidal thoughts, and complete loneliness, your love for animals has helped me realize what I need and I’m finally in the process of healing and happiness. I can only desire the same for you, who deserves all the unconditional love and support that your animals give you. Not that I know you or anything, but I’m just saying that my heart is with you and so are all of yours fans!
I cannot even begin to express how proud I am for how far you've come. You are doing amazing and I'm so happy you've had such a fantastic support system to make sure you're safe, and help get you to where you are now. You are so strong and even as someone new to the channel, you have my full support and will have for the foreseeable future. You are amazing, you're animals are amazing, and I can't wait to see what wonderful things the future holds for you.
What you are doing is invaluable. Thank you for showing more people that it is okay to talk, thank you for being here. Here is to a new chapter!
Thank you so much.. it was hard to do 🥺
@@Emzotic I know, I still haven't told my story - but you inspire me to keep going, and I know that there are many others on this channel going on this journey too. 💖
I suffered through physical, emotional and mental abuse it took a long time for me to heal and even now I'm not fully healed maybe I never will be so for you to be able to talk about this shows so much bravery you should be proud of yourself for getting on the path of healing
I’m so sorry you had to do through that, JM. But I’m proud of you! Xxx
@@Emzotic thankyou. Honestly you're strength throughout has been inspiring and empowering to so many people you should be proud of yourself to go through so much and yet still make so many people smile is a beautiful thing
Haven't watched you in quite a while, this video has me a bit shocked.
However PREACH to you and I just need to say that you're extremely strong and you deserve the world
You are such an amazing person. You can hear the strength in your voice, it moved me to tears. Not tears of sadness but tears of triumph. I’m so excited to see what content you put out in the future. ❤️❤️
YOU ARE A STRONG INCREDIBLE WOMAN, and to anyone who has survived domestic and narsassitic abuse your all so incredible as strong and I love you all , keep fighting you can get through this❤️❤️❤️
my dog heard your voice cracking and tried giving my phone many cuddles. we love you Em. you have shown me a love and passion for animals i didnt know i had. I know it's difficult to move past, but you are so brave for taking those steps.
2:50 niffler sliding across the floor with such a lazy face was too cute😭❤
Your story is so empowering, great to hear how strong you feel after experiencing all that. Can't wait to see your future videos knowing the strong person behind them! ♡
I'm so sorry for your loss of grinchie. I think that the spreading of grinchies ashes in africa is a beautiful idea. We will be here with you for that journey and with your recovery from the domestic abuse sittuation. Stay safe and well, I hope the future is better and brighter than this past year year or so.
wait danny abused her??
I’m proud of you, Em ❤️ I know that sentiment doesn’t mean much from a stranger on the internet, but I mean it with every bit of my heart! Thank you for opening up, I know it’s incredibly hard and you still have a lot to go through but I’m wishing you nothing but love ❤️
It means more to me than I can possibly say. Thank you so much... 💜💜💜💜
I’m so sorry for the loss of Grinchy, you loved that bird and gave him his best life after all he had been through. I’m also sorry for all you went through and while you didn’t owe an explanation I hope by telling us it frees a part of your soul. I also hope you see you aren’t alone and I’m proud of you for getting yourself and your animals to a safe place. Sending love and hugs♥️
Em, for whatever it is worth coming from an internet stranger, you did the best possible for Grinchy given the situation you found him. While the life you gave him was no where close to what he had, it was likely the best case scenario for him being wild caught. So while he didn't survive as long as you would've liked he lived a longer and happier life because of the love and dedication you gave him.
My dad is a narcissist. It's what I was raised with. It's been 5 years since living at home and I'm re- learning to live and love and I get stronger every day ❤ I'm so happy you got away! Virtual hugs Em!
having those succulents in her enclosure is adorable omg
Em, honestly I cannot thank you enough for being so brave and speaking up about this. It has truely trruley helped me a lot so thank you once again. 💖💖💕💕
Thank you Em. I always had a strange feeling when I watch him appear in earlier videos, but I couldn't put my finger on it. I am sad that it happend to you. But now I'm happy to see you happy. I wish you a wonderful life. Lots of love from Bo, in Sweden. ❤️
Sending love. I related to this so hard. I had an abusive partner in my 20s. She (were are both female) had a disability, couldn't drive and was chronically unemployed, so from the outside it looked like I had all the power in the relationship. She was also smaller and weaker than me, so even though she was physically violent, I refused to call it abuse for a long time because she didn't "really hurt me." But someone that loves you doesn't hit or shove or otherwise physically assault you, whether it does any actual damage or not. I've been out of that situation for a long time now. I'm glad you got out too. Here's hoping for good things in the coming year.
This is Dobby’s world and we’re just living in it 😂
And nifflers😂
I only knew bits and pieces about the situation just because of whatever got around but hearing your entire side of it just made my heart ache for what you went through. I’m so proud of you for getting out and doing what you needed to do. We’ll be plenty enough entertained with whatever you choose to put out. Shout out to Kait for being such a wonderful friend and dropping everything to help you get out of such a horrifying situation. Love you Em! I hope you get all the clarity and happiness that you need in due time. Stay strong. 💜
Thank you for your story. It warms my heart hearing you got out of that situation and have gotten stronger from it.
Watching this video made me realize that my ex-boyfriend did all of this to me, and I'm a bit taken aback by just how insidious it really can be.
I love you, Em. I'm glad you're in a better place in life.
Thats why this video is incredibly important. Please please educate yourself to protect yourself. Im glad this person is your ex. Stay safe friend