Don't Chase Girls, Chase Guitar (Here's Why!)
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- Опубліковано 3 вер 2020
- A cautionary, real-life, tale for any aspiring musician. Feel free to replace "Girls" with whatever you prefer, and "Guitar" with whatever your passion is. It's a flexible concept. :)
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Thanks peoples. :)
Despite him talking about 'magic age' don't think that you're too old to start practicing something. You are never old to find a passion and pursue it. Yes, at older age it might be bit harder but as long as you put the time in and keep at it you'll climb over the initial bumps. Just don't let the setbacks set you back permanently. Shit happens to everyone. Just keep going and move onwards!
Also, of course, this doesn't mean you cant date and go out and such while working on you'r passion. The point is: don't stop pursuing your passion just for a girl, or worse yet, stop pursuing your passion to date and chase girls. Life isn't a binary thing, either or, you can have both as long as prioritize correctly and put the right ammount of energy into each thing in you'r life!
Amen!
The right girl alone will show up
And yeh your right ive started electric guitar a month ago and im in my 20s in a year ill become a mechanical engineer im really mad that i didnt start the guitar when i was young cuz it needs time plus instructor
The-Art-of-Guitar mike how old are you just wondering
im 60 soon i borrowed from a friend two days ago a guitar as i want to learn to play hard on the fingers with cramp but i'll get there
ah yes. women are temporary but the joy of 6 strings is eternal
7 ;)
Or 4 strings 🤘
unless u play djent, then its 69420 strings
@@seanoconnor5730 9 >:)
12 strings 🤘🤘
Don't look at her. Look at me ... touch my strings ... feel the sustain ... she's not worth your time ... relationships are temporary but guitar is forever.
Unless you end up having to pawn it. Then you have neither.
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@@MKDumas1981 never underesitmate the power of the dumpster acoustic, no excuse for not owning at least one guitar in your home
♥️
This
"I've had three wives and three guitars. I still play the guitars." - Andrés Segovia
Underrated comment
@@ethanwestmusic_ ...amen....Crossbow(USA)
That should be on tshirts.
I'mma remember this for a while
In Spanish sounds a lot better
"his only friend is his guitar and amp" well now we has 515K friends
im pretty sure if i had a gibson sg and a fender tube amp my bf would also be my amp
Frrrrriends.
Now 516k. 1k in few hours damn
Damn!!😳😳😳
I bang my amp
My ex-girlfriend got so fed up with my guitar playing that she cut off the strings on my Fender Stratocaster and Gibson Les Paul Studio with scissors and then THREW my stringless guitars outside into the deep January snow ( we were living in a basement apartment in Toronto at the time ). I had to go outside and fetch them in the freezing cold at midnight! That was about 30 years ago. We broke up not long after that and I have been single ever since and playing lots of guitar......the best 30 years of my life!
Wow that lady’s crazy
That's not a girl, that is a MONSTER
that's insane, thank god you got away from her.
That would've been an instant break up to me. Not talking about cutting her hair, stripping naked and throwing through window onto snow cause that would've ended bad for me but damn that's a dealbreaker. Anyone who disrupts anybody's road chase for perfection is an obstacle that needs to be removed from their life because there's nothing wrong with chasing perfection.
what a dog that chick is
The anti-SIMP has spoken...wait a minute.
I honestly didn't know about No Simp September, just a coincidence. haha.
this guy is a massive simp crying over girls’ problems
@@asdfghjkldfghjhgcgyuigfyui9792 No, he's only doing this *because* of the boys who were simping.
@@asdfghjkldfghjhgcgyuigfyui9792 Lol guess you can't even walk past a girl without a twelve year old like you calling you a *Massive Simp*
Guitar simp lmao
"Welp, I wanted to go home and learn that new Megadeth song anyway." This is my reaction to rejection 100% of the time. More free time to myself is always welcome! :)
Dave is a Friend of Mine..
GO GET EM!!!😜
@@williamchiusano3185 woah really??
LUCRETIA. Only one I need
@@aayushkhare656 lol, I think he meant that Dave helps him out with his music, not that he actually knows him
Megadeth cured my depression after my first breakup. Last October, i got my heart broken, "In my Darkest Hour" felt like Dave Mustaine coming to me and saying "You dont need that bitch, you need metal!"
that is exactly what that song feels like
@@thegamingfish547 Hell, I'm pretty sure that's what that song is about. Maybe not the metal part, but it's definitely a metal breakup song.
"My skin still craaaawls as I breathe your name
All these years, I thought I was wroooong, now I know it was YOU!"
when I first heard this song, I thought, "its like he knows exactly what I just went through"
Who needs to chase girls when you have all the smashing pumpkins albums on vinyl😎😎😎
I want to die
😂😂
@@yourpersonalhatecomment2025 dude that string of comments was the funniest shit ever. but thats cool to have the smashing pumpkins vinyls.
I’ve got em too dude don’t worry we’re totally cool 😎😎😎😎😎
Absolutely lovely!!! Now you’re a person I want to be with!
I'm blessed to have the best case scenario where my girlfriend, now wife loved to accompany me when I was practicing guitar and she would support me to practice more and would even insist on setting up my gear for me to play. Come to find out that she sings really well and now we have recorded some covers together. This has united us more through the beautiful art of music. I wish this upon every musician out there and if the person you are with is not interested in your love for guitar and music then it may be time to reconsider because playing guitar is part of who you are
You got that right compa👍
Lucky man
Man’s won
Wow. I could never practice with someone watching me. That’s interesting
I need this in my life. A beautiful woman that sings would be a dream come true.
Had this (slight drunk) conversation with my then girlfriend, now ex:
She: "Do you love me?"
Me: "Of course."
She: "More than anything else?"
Me: "No"
She: "Why not?"
Me: "Because I love music more than anything else."
What was her response?!?!
@@d-ro3266 She is now his ex. Work it out ;)
I'd reply: can you guarantee me you would you stay no matter what if there's no music in my life? No. But I can guarantee you music will be always there for me when you're gone. (BTW. I get the 'joke')
You should never compare those things. I have a girlfriend who I love and I also love music. Both have a very significant importance in my life
Those women who think guys should leave everything for them are stupid and selfish... Music is forever your girlfriend is until she dies or leaves you...
Even Jimi Hendrix said it in Red House "Ah thats alright I've still got my guitar" 🎸🤘
Make a second channel called The-Art-Of-Love where you give advice to find someone 😂
I'd never give love advice. Never ever unless it's loving your guitar. hehe.
No make the art of drums
@@TheArtofGuitar this reminds me of Tomo Fujita's "Guitar wisdom"... Guitar or music in general ... teach us a lot of things in life!!!
ギタリストMohamed i love tomo!!
no simp september themed video
I had broken up with my girlfriend back in December of 2019 due to her playing games and messing with other guys but anyway I got a guitar for my 20th birthday in January, didn't know where to start and I remember looking up beginner lessons and finding this channel along with Carl Brown, Marty Music, and many others with such good explaination and passion teaching the guitar. As I play everyday getting better watching lessons and what not I felt growth within my guitar playing and understanding of what its like to be happy and not rely on someone else for it. I will say ever since me and her broke up I filled that void of emptiness and hurt with my long love of music that made me feel good. Also despite how shitty and negative the year we have experienced I still somehow feel happy and found peace through playing the guitar that no matter what we go through, how bad our mental health can get, or any struggle we go through. The guitar will always be there for me to express myself and control my emotions through hitting every single note. This video hits home big time so I hope people that are reading understand to invest your time, love and energy into something you love because you will always feel truly connected to what matters and thats peace and happiness.
Triads and voicings. Did it for me. Rock on bro. Finally finished the puzzle
Carl Brown is awesome!
Lol we're in the same boat except I started playing at 8 and quit at 9 till now. Did your ex come back too?
@@bobravenscraft5376 yes! Triads
@@OriginalKingRichTv Nah she didnt but lowkey glad she didn't because I have more time to practtice the guitar and do some boxing 😂
As a seventeen year old aspiring guitarist, I chase after girls a lot. I think that it's only natural, but music is my life and I love guitar. This video is a real wake up call for me, and is helping me realise the importance of my instrument. Thank you so much for inspiring me and reminding me to maintain my discipline of practice.
"Girls can leave you at any time but guitar will always be with you" I wish I knowed this two years ago... You are the best man 😉
I'm 16, and I'm glad I've already been following this advice for a while. A lot of my friends and peers don't seem to get why I'm choosing to not date anyone during high school, but I know that I need to use this time I have to develop my skills and talents as much as possible. Finding love eventually is a bonus, but above all else, I'll always be a musician and that will always be the most important thing for me.
Dude do it you wont regret
In 10years they will have ex girlfriends. You will have an amazing skill that will never leave you
I'm only 3 years older than you and I wish I was that mature like you when I was 16 too
Same here man
I'm 16 and so far I've had no luck with girls. I feel like I'm getting more and more passionate about guitar everyday, even tho I just started like 7 months ago.
Guitar skills are for life brother 💪
Bruh this is so relatable. I’m 17 and have had 0 luck or experience with girls ever. The only thing I really care about is music, guitar and songwriting
with my friends. I feel lonely but I’m just sticking to music because it’s my passion and no one can convince me to live my life differently . I love it.
‘If My Baby Don’t Love Me No More/I Know Her...Sister Will’, Jimi Hendrix
Can anyone point me to a video of this studio vs of red house?
Good choice Hendrix is the best of all time
Yep Next Verse That's ok I still got my guitar.
Red House!!!!
Thanks for posting.
As Steve vai said he'd practice so much that he hardly went out and if anyone invited him out to hang out his mum would say just go Steven, get out of the house you spend to much time cooped up in the house. He'd be out hanging with his friends and he'd be thinking about the guitar the whole time and wouldn't enjoy himself as he just wanted to go home and practice.
That's one of the reasons why I admire Steve Vai, made me see that staying inside and doing nothing but guitar and video games is a road to success. I do prefer alone time and I'd much rather stay home and practice practice practice than hang with a bunch of fools that will only bore me.
@@Coles-bootleg-vids Just make sure you don't let the isolation get to you ala Steve Terreberry. He did what Steve Vai did and he may have godlike technical skills but staying inside and playing all day detracted from his social skills to the point where he had to turn down an offer to tour with Dragonforce. He put in the time and got to the level where Dragonforce wanted him to tour with them, but he focused so much on getting to that level that he knew he didn't have the social experience to handle touring with them. I worry about my ability to handle playing onstage more than I worry about my guitar skills themselves sometimes.
Well said...whether it's girls, drugs/alcohol, food, etc. it's all about filling the void. Unless we happen to live a charmed life, I believe we all experience that feeling at some point. And diving into a hobby with a passion can change your life for the better...as you said, you don't give off the "needy" vibe amymore. Great topic and good advice!
When did you become a guru? Seriously this is very inspiring Mike
His name is Mikefromtheartofguitar.
@@bencummings5304 😂
I'm from India and our culture is whole lot diffrent in India we are not teached to think creatively at younger age so when we become mature and find guitar then personally i got to know that there was no creative backing to my thinking and when i picked up guitar or music in general i realised how creative we can be with music but i didnt have the creative way of thinking so I had to devlop my creativity which till now I'm trying to.THANKS FOR THIS advice it was very helpful.
Creativity is super important and can be trained just like everything else, congrats on finding and working towards it!
I'm not sure where u come from, but I was definitely taught how to think ceatively and the culture I have been a part of has also allowed and encouraged it.
Even im from India man. I think it's just because people in India don't give importance to guitar lot of people do, but not the majority of people and this has been going on for decades, so lot of people see the guitar as just a normal instrument, which has some chords and few scales. And you know how people are over here, they'll call electric guitar playing noise and then they just shut you up, also that's the reason why a good, renown rock/metal band from India has never been world famous, all because of the audience.
@@aayushkhare656 India
Aayush Khare I was explaining my case cause in school we had music classes but in those we only had to sing rhymes and the school band was there but only limited student were allowed on it and it is also that I grew up in a very strict environment in which I was rewarded mostly when I excelled academically but whenever I would like try to write something creatively I was told not to do that and get back to getting good grades . Then to I did try to study creatively by applying various ways to study. But I was so much pushed into competition that I was not realising that I was being feed in a system which was created 100 years back to keep the student always do what the system wants and not what the country needs.
I am a girl that during my college days didn’t chase guys or party, I was such a nerd and I loved my guitar. I can’t relate with girls that get chased after 🤷🏻♀️
Don’t dream of women, cause they’ll only bring you down - Ronnie James Dio
Underrated Lyric by the man himself.
Lady Evil, evil,
She's a magical mystical woman
Lady Evil, evil on my mind
She's queen of the night
I’m 15 and spent my whole summer in my room doing Steve Vai’s 30 hour guitar workout instead of worrying about high school and all the stuff that comes along with it. I’m a lot happier than during the school year.
Tbh i wish i could do that instead i worry about high school/learning how to drive etc i rlly wanna learn to play Megadeth songs but i always worry about school.
@@lunahetfield thats why i stopped going to school
It's simple: chasing guitar gets you a skill, chasing girls gets you a migraine/empty bank account/shattered dreams/maybe herpes/etc. 😂
LoL 😂
Sound advice..I'm 63 and didn't even pick up my axe during a ten year marriage. We broke up, it was really really heart wrenching, and I dove into guitar 110% and it saved my ass. I have to have guitar in my life daily. Still don't do well with women. :-/
Have you tried performing infront of an audience? Listen to what Mike said. That is the difference, believe me. Every freaking time i show up and play any virtouso fast type of licks infront of girls, you could tell they know "he's here girls". Probably only works if you look decent tho and do it casually. On a date forexample you have to set it up so the guitar is available CLEARLY visible and the girl says "oh you play guitar". Oh, i don't play anything special, you'd say. You have any favourite song? She tells you one, go to youtube, when the song starts playing. Usually its basic major or minor chordprogressions = minor pentatonic or major pentatonic. Pickup the guitar, strum it so light only you can hear when you search for the right scale. Once you've find it, play along to her song. I did that. Do you need to hear the climax too? It's not so hard. Get going old man! ;)
Don't forget guys, it's No Simp September. Only simp to your guitars!!
As a man working on your body and hobbies and financial status will attract the best possible women you could ever imagine. Focus on yourself and learn delayed gratification. No SIMP SEPTEMBER !
Best fucking advice for a man along with the video!!! IF I CATCH YALL SIMPS LACKIN YOUR GUITAR WILL START CRACKIN
"Sometimes you get invited to the party, and sometimes you don't..." paraphrased, John Mayer
Great advice!
Such great life messages in this video!
I am in my 40s, a really lonely period, I am not so much into personal relationships at the moment.. not just girlfriends, but people in general...
My Telecaster gives me such a smile whenever I lay eyes on her, that everything is alright, and I don't have to worry about people acting weird or walking in and out of my life. In fact, it's me who is keeping them at a distance now...
Funny thing? I wanted to start playing the guitar, subconciously, to be more popular to girls. But I always dropped it... I couldn't stay committed..
Not anymore. I listen and play to the blues because that's who I am. And if noone likes that or can stand that, I am ok with that too.
Music and guitar playing is my priority now. It's where my soul finds comforting, it's where I find my balance.
Thanks man, great, great video. Music is soooo important for our sanity in these weird times.
I only wish people could just realise that, the world would be so much better.
Now I like you and your channel even more. I admire you for your honesty. Such a rare trait nowadays...
Take care, man. You rock!
There was a girl I liked several months ago and she didn't like me back. I've always practiced for about 4-5 hours a day, and when she didn't like me, I had practiced for around 6 or 7 hours. Playing guitar helped me get out of a depression. Not only that but it has also improved my confidence. Thanks for making this video because I feel like someone finally understands
I'm now 69 and used to teach guitar when I was a teenager. This week I taught via zoom into my daughter's middle school. She's a public music teacher so I help her teach in her beginning guitar class. I try to inspire the students to practice and I mentioned trying to write songs with the chord progression I just taught. Then I said, "By the way, for you guys - if you write a song for a girl that you like and you play it for her, she'd probably go out with you at least one time."
Write a song about her! That's brilliant!!
Writing poetry/songs about women is the lesbian move. Lmao. Especially when the girl is straight.
That Office scene where Dwight and Andy play to impress the Pam replacement and then completely forget about her while jamming is the best illustration of Rock n roll history.
I met my first proper gf when I was 18, and she told me that it was seeing me playing guitar that got her interested in me. Then I kind of neglected guitar and spent way too much time partying and chasing women. Many years later, I stopped partying and chasing women and got back into guitar. My current gf and I share a love of music and playing guitar, which makes me happy but also a little regretful that I neglected the guitar for so long.
I’m 53 but didn’t start guitar till my mid 30’s. So it’s been awhile, but I often wish I had started earlier. I think you’ll see that sentiment from a number of your older viewers.
Man, I can relate to this message so much. Started playing guitar in my early teens, it has been my main reason to get out of bed ever since and I'm in my early 40's now. When I was in the most awkward and lonely phase in my life music became my soul mate. It has stayed by my side throughout all of life's letdowns and tragedies and given me the confidence and positive outlook that no other human being could give me. While I may be a lone wolf I know as long as I have my guitars I am never truly alone.
Awww 🥰 this one is sweet, I am 3 years late for this video but better late than never.
I lived most of my life - raised kids went through divorce ended up still happy after finding my passion in guitar. I love your videos and it teaches me well I am seeing my self as beginner I have a classical guitar and a acoustic it’s harder to remember everything and understand but it’s something I just don’t want to give up.
Every day I can’t wait to pic up my guitar and feel exited about what I want to learn it takes longer but I love it and I see my dogs next to me enjoying it no matter how it sounds.
The relationship with you and your guitar over time becomes unbreakable. People all of the sudden look at you and go "Wow that guy can really bang those tunes out." Once you get to that point of your playing, whatever you were chasing before, starts chasing you.
You really love to hold that g chord 😂 and that's every girl's favorite chord. Great vid btw.
Subconscious G. Pretty basic of me. I should train myself to hold a jazz chord. :)
Ultimately, people have the right to choose their friends. Worrying about accumulating, having, taking etc. is an error. Better to invest in yourself. Be useful, interesting, skilled, valuable.
I used to go to piano lessons and my teacher was always saying these kinds of life lessons connected to music somehow. And I think it is really important to realize how much can music change your life even if you play just for yourself, just for fun.
When I stopped going to piano lessons I started learning guitar and later joined guitar lessons. The lessons were so boring that I was really unmotivated. You could see that the teacher was annoyed and did what he just had to do. I quit the lessons after a few months and started watching your videos and I love them, this is exactly what I missed.
Now that I am self-teaching myself I can see much bigger progress than before. And it is because of the passion for music.
At 22 and almost 4 years single, I've felt lonely but the guitar HAS always been there. Sure sometimes I didn't want to play cause I decided to be overdramatic. But I always end up playing it later. It always helps keep my mind clear too. PS Powerage is my favorite Bon Era album so here's hoping we get that track by track vid!
I'm 13. I can definetly relate to this video. Others my age or younger, here me and him out. Don't get trapped in the relationship group, especially in this day and age. Have fun, play your instrument, and don't care about what anyone thinks of you. I tried with 2 girls, one said she liked me but actually didn't, and the other was at least honest and didn't like me. That's when my guitar practice routine went from 4 to 5 hours a day to 30 to 45 minutes. I didn't get better. But after all that I got back in to the routine. I have been playing since I was 6, so I have been really lucky. In 5th grade I played Link Wray's "Rumble" at a talent show and that got me moving in the popularity leagues. But I also play soccer which helps a lot too. Then in 7th grade I played "Crazy Train" with my friend Sawyer in front of 2 combined music classes with to broken down acoustic guitars they used for lessons. I played the solos and he played the rhythm. We also played "Under the Bridge" "American Idiot" and "Master of Puppets" Girls were FLOWING to me after that. More to me because I played all the solos. I had about 7 to 8 girls come up to me in 2 minutes. I knew 2 of them liked me but with the corona virus we never got to talk and I don't think I'll ever see them again. Moral of the story is stick to your guitar, and you'll get chances when love comes. Thanks if you read this. I hope you respond or even pin this comment. Thanks again.
13 or 31?
This is the video I needed right now 😂
Big same. I needed this reminder
Same
The more you chase the ladies, the crappier at playing the guitar you'll become.
The 5 P's = Practice, Plus, Passion, Produces, Perfection. \m/
perfection doesn’t exist in the artistic medium of music. i think proficiency is a better word :-)
Perfect practice makes perfect.
Ya but you got chase a girl every now and then if she’s good looking and you like her, say it how you will but a guitar doesn’t have sex with you.
michael angelo batio's three P's: practice, practice, practice!
Biggest piece of advice: if you play guitar, you won’t need to chase girls. They will naturally be drawn to you and your musical sexiness.
I'm not first,
I'm not last,
But I sure did,
Click as fast
@Shane Rutherford hahaha lol
Today is Teachers day in India, and thanks for these tips by my Fav Teacher.
Thank you so much for your efforts......
Best wishes to the best teacher;-) Love Live Rock n Roll
PS, don’t date band mates. That almost always goes bad.
and never goes bed
Major exemptions include Arcade Fire, New Order and Skillet
I’ve already taken this advice.
So instead he focused on his "hand exercises"
hehe.
Nice story Mike ! First year out of high school and already looking back and cringing at my young self. Had a heart wrenching break up from my first gf and felt the world had collapsed, took a while to shrug it off and now really into my bass ... my new partner haha ! :)
Love the video. I just jumped back into playing the guitar after 10yrs and your videos are part of the reason. Thanks!
As a 14 year old... My mom would always say: STUDIES FIRST!
It's important to learn what you love in school :)). For instance, if you love biology, study the heck out of it. If you hate math, it's ok to just get a grade that will let you graduate :D. Good luck with your guitar journey!
She still believes in how things used to work before the pandemy or any recession we had in the last 12-13 years!?!
In the back of the bentley
Nearly every guy who plays has been there at some point, me included. I'm however an introvert by nature so being alone doesn't bother me most of the time. I think it's best to just meet someone that's compatible with your greatest interests in mind. I met my previous ex at a metal festival in maryland 2 years ago, it ultimately ended for her rooted issues. If you're a rock/metal guy going to shows, gigs, bars, etc is probably one of the best ways to meet someone cool and compatible music wise at least. I don't go looking for it, it just happens I come to find. Anyway music is something that will always be there for you like you said. You shouldn't give up on playing after finding someone. If she doesn't respect that I'm a musician, then she's not for me.
Nah, the key is to find a musician to date. That way she actually gets impressed when you play Flight Of The Bumblebee to her 👍
Right on point! An inspirational speech. Exactly how I have often felt about my main creative instrument: the camera. Your creative instrument, your art are your faithful companions no matter what, people changing, coming or going around you in your life. Stick to your passion! A great life lesson!
I came for the lessons. But this is why I STAY subscribed. Thanks for the regular positivity and perspective Mike!
okay so became good friends with a girl, we went to the cinema and shit together all the time before covid, and we've kept in contact since. we're both musicians into different music, so not gunna be falling into the dating bandmates trap. I see it as my priority is guitar and music, but when I want to chill out we'd go for some games of pool, go for a meal or something. all my friends tell me that we are basically dating, but even though I'd like that, I don't think thats true.
this video has come at the perfect time, because we're on the same uni course together and will soon be seeing eachother more often in a couple of weeks. whilst I have feelings for her, my dream is to follow music, so I see it as the right person is out there, but will only come along if I follow my passion and am happy in myself first. maybe she is the one but I think I need to just throw myself at becoming the best version of myself, then I can reevaluate from a more real perspective
so basically this video has given me a better perspective on my priorities
And if she's "right" for you she'd probably support your love for music and the same from you to her. My 2 cents.
@@TheArtofGuitar totally agree. even as friends I think thats the best mentality anyway
also keep in mind that male-female friendship exists too! if you both don't end up a couple you might as well be best friends for the rest of your life. It's also worth noting that the strongest relationships are built upon friendships
Let it be natural but always be honest and indirectly direct.
Have no heart for approaching the path of love. - Miyamoto Musashi
Thank you for your little story about finding a love... and the uplifting real life advices.
My nephew needs some of your wisdom.
Thank you again!
I'm 13 and I picked up bass 2 years ago and this is now giving me inspiration to practice more. Thanks!
He took that "guitar vs gf" meme way too serious. Which i like.
I took 2 things from this:
1) cultivate your skills and become the person you can be. Being a cool person who has aspirations and skills is attractive to other people.
2) don’t be a desperate creep. If a girl says she doesn’t like you like that then she means it. It’s not cool to hound women.
I’m already married and I have a huge guitar collection so I’m probably not the target audience for this video but I think it’s a very important video for young men to watch.
I’ll add to that...learn to read the signs (accurately) of whether a girl is interested or not. They often won’t flat out tell you to buzz off. Don’t be clueless and desperate at the same time.
The issue is the irrational compulsion behind their pursuit. It starts out that they want a girlfriend just so they dont feel left out. Which is not a rational basis. They HAVE to have a Girlfriend NOW, and It ends up becoming desperation, which leads to frustration and becomes an endless loop . They end at the point where the sense of urgency disrupts common sense. What drives them is ultimatley what fails them.
number 2 is so important i dont get why guys become desperate after 1 or 2 nos
I have not lived many years but I'm an old soul.
I love this video. I really felt the emotions when you told your story. I identified with a lot of what you said. The best thing I can think of when it comes to finding a good woman is always have the mind set of "is she right for me?" That will immediately dissolve the aura of neediness and will filter out any girl who doesn't line up with what you are looking for. Working on your passion is extremely attractive and when you find a good woman, she will want to see you happy and she will encourage your guitar playing. If you like a woman and she doesn't like you back then I would say she isn't right for you. If you like a woman and she doesn't like your passion I would say she isn't right for you. If you like a woman and she likes you and she likes that you play guitar or she supports your passion then she is a better option to pursue. You can grow in a relationship with her and you won't have to let go of what you love. You can have both. Always think both. You can be successful and humble. You can be wealthy and generous. You can be healthy and eat tasty food. You can find love and pursue your passion. I will be praying for you and that you find joy and happiness in everything that you do. Thank you so much for the content that you put out. You are an excellent instructor. I've learned a lot from you.
0:37 don’t worry man I love you
Always focus on yourself first and everything else will fall into place.
This is a strange video, but a really good one.
These are weird times to grow up in, I think. Not just the pandemic, but with technology and just general cultural changes, things seem a lot different than when you and I grew up. On the other hand, some things never change. People are people.
I was a reasonably smart kid. Reasonably good looking. But I wasn't great in school and was kind of weird. I had kind of a shitty childhood and it took a while to shake it. Music is one thing that helped me do that. I was able to make progress on something that I loved to do. I found friends through playing. I became more confident. I didn't play to get girls, but girls and everybody else can see it when you're miserable and it's an unattractive quality, for sure. You have to be into something. You gotta have your own thing. You find people with common interests, and that means you define your social life. Your social life doesn't define you.
I haven't been teaching long, and the pandemic really screwed everything up. I lost several students because their parents lost their jobs, and I really don't like teaching through video conference. How are you handling this? And on another unrelated note, how do you deal with kids who just aren't into it? Do you drop them or just stick with it as long as they keep showing up? I think it might be interesting if you'd do a video about teaching. Maybe people wouldn't be interested in that, I don't know.
Seriously, perhaps one of the most profound “guitar” vids ever💪🏽😎🙏🏽🏝️
Great video, Art of Guitar Mike. I learned guitar late, but have been blessed with the most beautiful wonderful women that I don't deserve at all who I met 20 years earlier. I see her first thing in the morning and my heart still goes BAM! BAM! BAM! We have been married 34 years now and there is nothing that can replace her. A gift from God and our marriage is a sacrament. Good luck when you find that wonderful soul that is out there looking for yours. And she will lover your guitar playing too.
I'm 17 I've been playing for 2.5 years and it's changed my life a lot. I've decided to pursue music as my career but honestly with girls this quarantine is having a toll on me. I've done almost nothing but play guitar at home since March and I haven't done much socializing, and haven't talked to girls hardly at all. I haven't been playing guitar as much lately because my mind can't seem to focus as well without going to negative things. I finally decided to apply for a job(the thing I didn't wanna do so I could play guitar more) so I can finally see people again and get girls. I don't know what the point of this comment was but thanks Mike👍👍
In the immortal words of Dewey Finn, you were the “bees knees” after learning guitar!
Great video Mike and very relevant to something I'm experiencing right now. I'm in my early 30s and don't have much relationship experience. However, I had started seeing someone a few months ago and while I kept playing guitar, I started chasing her a bit too much and she eventually broke things off a few weeks ago. Since then, I've been sad and disappointed that things didn't work out with her but time and perspective has taught me to keep playing guitar and focusing on music to stay grounded. As a result, I'm handling my current break up better than any before and while some days are still difficult, it's good to be at a point in my life where I actually can look in the face of negativity and despair and know that I'll be ok rather than sit and wonder like I used to in my 20s. And I firmly believe that Guitar has helped me the most in developing that perspective.
For any younger players, please take Mike's words and wisdom at full value. Who cares if someone else (girl or not) thinks it's sad or lame that you play guitar so much? If it's enjoyable for you and you're playing a ton because you truly want to and it makes you happy, that is all that matters.
Grateful to have a girl that supports me and my playing ♥️
"Girls can always leave you, at any time. But guitat never leaves you"
thanks for the wise words, im bringing back my uncle's guitar to life and that will be my life
EDIT: GUITAR*
The Art of Guitar? Heck, this is the Art of Life Advice.
That's TRUTH...what you said. 'think we can all agree....he NAILED it !!! ....Crossbow (USA)
I’m 54 , Long story short. Started at 3 , played all through school , Army , (kept up as much as possible ) got out and traveled , met a girl settled down had a kid (she didn’t like me playing sold everything) , she left , went back out on the road as a stage hand , worked my way up over 20 years (while acquiring new equip and loads of knowledge from the BIG BOYS AND GIRLS ) quit looking for women and looked for myself , second wife found me (loves and learned the same business so we worked together for 10 of those years ) , I retire after injury (so does she ) after I recoup I join a band and go back to playing full time (6-8 a day gigs whenever wherever ) Life’s GOOD if you let it be..
And all you have to do to find yourself is remember who you were before the world got ahold of you .
🤠🎸🎶🙏🇺🇸✌️
I relate to this video so much, it brought me to tears. I was a pretty awkward kid. My parents took me out of public school at 6th grade and homeschooled me for the rest of my youth. I didn't get out a whole lot and lived in kind of a controlled bubble. I started playing guitar at the age of 12 for two reasons. One was because of Guitar Hero and the other was because I thought it would impress a girl a really liked (it didn't work). I was OBSESSED with playing guitar and music. I literally feel exactly how you feel when you mentioned how guitar was your first love/best friend that could never leave you. I've always felt that way about music ever since I started playing and man am I glad I did. Music means everything to me and just a few weeks ago I joined a cover band and now play music as my main source of income. It blows my mind that I'm getting paid to jump around and have fun on stage! It's just what I was born to do and it comes so naturally, others can feel my happiness when they watch me. Even though it wasn't necessarily by CHOICE, I'm glad I was obsessed with playing guitar as opposed to wasting my time partying and trying to fit in with the cool kids, because now, I feel like I am the cool kid when I'm playing on stage and everyone is having a good time! Thank you for this video :)
"I was kind of the weird Asian kid in class"
*John Mulaney has joined the chat*
I left a girl for guitar, she never let me play and i had to make a decision
I just want you to know how happy you made me feel after watching this video! I've been feeling down lately about various things in my life and somehow like fate this video came up as a recommendation. It was just so inspirational and refreshing. I have always enjoyed your videos, and for me, guitar is just a side hobby, what I truly like about your videos is your authenticity, personability, and passion for what you do. I'm about the same age as you give or take so I can relate to your music taste, other things (like NES - love the Goonies game too!), etc. You seem like someone who would be really cool to hang out with. I was always considered an outsider because I've always just been absorbed in my hobbies, now I'm scorned in a different way than in high school because I'm not married and don't have any children while most of my peers and siblings do. This video was about being true to yourself and for that I commend you! P.S. LOVE the video where you analyze Curt Mitchell's Nirvana covers, hope you can talk to him someday!
This was exactly what I needed to hear, much love brother.
Good advice. Being chased relentlessly by random males is uncomfortable, stressful, draining, off-putting, unattractive, etc. It can be really scary when guys get angry/hostile with me due to their sexual frustration and entitlement complex.
Side note, What is this beautiful white/gold Gibson SG with the half face pick guard and Grover tuners?
I understand it can be stressful and uncomfortable but dont try and act like you understand where we’re coming from. You dont like how it makes you feel, say that and leave it at that.
@@actuallymario7676cool suggestion: unfortunately, she probably already does that, and it often doesn't work (there's a whole subreddit dedicated to this phenomenon called r/whenwomenrefuse)
What you said about your friends and everyone around you having a girlfriend; I feel you man xD (in Germany we have up to 13 years of school, the last three being on a different type of school than 1-4 and 5-10. I just finished my 13th year, so this "just" happened) in 12th and 13th grade, I often times was kinda the 3rd wagon wheel (dunno if that's a proper saying in America aw, but you get the point) in a lot of situations because all my friends had boyfriends (I mostly had female friends at that time for some reason but never a girlfriend, though). Only 3 wasn't really enough. There was a long time where I'd be the 7TH wheel on the wagon and I really felt like I was doing sth wrong xD I never felt out of place or unwanted though, my friends are all great. We would just joke about me being in several three way relationships and that was it.
Fun times :)
As for guitar: like you, I use it as kind of a place of comfort. If my mind wanders way too much I'll just go play guitar and everything in my head just disappears for a while. Also, I used to be really shy and awkward around people I didn't really know (which has changed, fortunately) but the guitar always gave me a little more confidence. Though I must say I chose "weird" and big guitar shapes so I could hide behind them a lot better. I have a V-, explorer- and an RD-shaped guitar and they are just perfect eye catchers for people to look at instead of myself and have huge bodies to physically hide behind. It doesn't *really* make sense but I always feel like no one can touch me (if I knew the song I was playing ofc) when I play these guitars.
Anyway, cheers everyone!
This man just described my past and made me aware of how I've been feeling lately and how I can change for the better. I think I know what I need to be doing. Thanks for your story, these videos are great!!
Dude, thank you for making this. I've been playing guitar for 4 years, and I've had times when I've neglected it. Even now, I've found that I've been doing something else. Now, I won't leave it again. Thanks mate.
Keep being amazing
Well known divorce lawyer here. 7:04 sums it up beautifully. “A girl can leave you at any time but a guitar will always be with you”. Take good care of your guitar(s) !!
Mike I used to love playing guitar like you talked about. I’d always get my work done early in math so I could go to the band room and play guitar. I’d stay after for hours so I’d just practice, but now I barely have any motivation. I’ve tried finding songs that excite me to learn, but then I just get bored so quick. I think I’m depressed but if you have any tips to help me break through that, I’d greatly appreciate it
Enjoy nature. Play among the trees or near a creek. Be human
Write a song.. hell when we are at the highs and lows in our lives, we are most inspired. let the sh*t flow and write it down then play to it.but yeah, I def am having a lot of low days lately so focusing on learning more stuff with music and guitar... Good luck! Stay strong!
I usually do improv when that happens to me
I have been through a similar issue. It took me years to decide to challenge myself and become a better player. That helped with my motivation. Now I am just glad to be playing at all.
play your own stuff evolve to the next step!! and set a goal you want to achieve. Best of luck bro i believe in you
Wow man. Your story and your burning passion are so incredibly relatable. Respect!
Mike you are not only a great guitar teacher but a great person in real life as well , you inspire so much of us out here ... thank you ❤️
The art of guitar is asian? That's even cooler 🤟☺️
In the guitar world there’s no simps 😤
But in the metal world for sure
@@mariovomhof2775 in blues world, audiences become simps
@@yoooboyitsdas25 I mean, there's plenty of Blues songs about feeling hurt by the object of your affections, often taking the pleading forgiveness angle - lord knows the Blues didn't give us 90% of "Ooh baby" lyrical cliches for no reason. It's all about that constructive outlet, there's tons of great music about longing for a relationship - but they're making great music out of it, so clearly something positive came of it.
I think your advice is spot on! I just loved the sound of big guitars, thumping bass, and loud drums but I never picked up a guitar at a young age because I played sports. When I tore my knee my senior year of high school I lost my confidence and soon after I lost my girlfriend at the time. I was super distraught and I was listening to sad music for a couple months and I just heard Fade to Black by Metallica for the first time (idk how thats possible but it's true) and that outro solo blew me away and I called my uncle the next day and he gave me his first bass. Literally bass and guitar saved my life and sparked a flame in me that will never die. I switch off between the two because why not learn both? But now I'm not out there looking for girls, I'm out here trying to become a better version of myself.
So fellas, girls will come when you reach that level of confidence, but it takes work and dedication to find out how to love yourself because if you don't love yourself...you won't be able to love anyone else and you just aren't attractive. So whatever you do, do it 100%, learn from your failures, and life will play out in incredible and unexpected ways! Rock on my guys!
Thanks for this lesson Mike! I definitely needed to hear it, it's been a very rough few weeks for me and I've often felt like I have nothing in life, nothing to hold on to (and not just these few weeks but honestly for 15 plus years). But I had never considered guitar in the way you describe here, that it's something to come home to and it stays with you forever. The thrill I get when learning a new song (simple ones, I've only been playing for about 5 months) is awesome and something I don't wanna give up. Anyways thanks for the change in perspective and helping me realize that I DO have something to ground me and have a passion I can and am pursuing!
_"If you reach for something too much, you'll never get it."_
I guess I now know never to work hard at something in my life.
To me reaching out is an act of desperation where as cultivating your skills is an act of power.
@@TheArtofGuitar YO, I ACTUALLY GOT A REPLY.
(The comment was a joke BTW)
Great Topic. Very Redpilled.
Lol was thinking the same thing
Talk about relationships, but my father, as a great acoustic player has given me the insight: at 16 I was not a great guitarist. It was clear to me that it was time to consider another carreer to start. So I dropped the Jrock band I was and started MedSchool at a public university in Rio. After I got my degree I was not able to reach guitar with the same intensity as before. It was only after depression came by and work was giving me too much sadness to process as a young doctor working in the slums. Poetry started thriving again and guitar seemed like a bridge I needed to cross. I'm still a doctor, but for me, singing, writing and playing guitar are core constituents of my deeper self, and will never leave me as long as I live, even when I can no longer play, like my dad, who had 2 strokes and cannot play acoustic, but now has a piano as part of his recovery. Cheers from Brazil.
decades older than yourself, and I can confirm that what you have said is the truth, and is pure gold !