Oohh please like my pics because I'm too insecure about myself which is causing a major depression on me and I can't live like this! People need to know about me!
Don't forget youtube is social media too, fam. Don't be clicking all the suggested videos without thinking about it first, next thing you know your whole day is gone
I deleted all my social media accounts , change my number & deleted all toxic people they wasn’t empowering my life and my life has been so peaceful ... this year is my time to be more control and focus in my life as well as myself ..
Amen ! I’ve been away almost a year now and people will write me ( I check back on randomly for messages) and ask me if I’m still alive ? Lmao! Ugh I’m so much happier without it!
Respect. Deleted every social media last year after a breakup except LinkedIn for work, and my income has doubled in 1 year, and about to break the $100k mark this year. It’s amazing for the soul
I deleted the apps. Still have the accounts but use them mainly as contacts. It’s a waste of time to seek validation from others. Just do your own thing and good will come. Stay blessed and believe in the goodness that is within us all.
Mr.GoodFriday Man I’m on the same exact boat as you. Stopped using Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat back in October. Only use Reddit and UA-cam and let me tell you.. It feels great.
I'm a photographer and just yesterday to focus on my craft I decided to delete all my socials and focus literally after watching this video. The same day I went out to shoot cause I was bored and a random ass guy saw me with my camera and decided to talk to me and book me for a shoot for next week. Crazy
That's dope! Crazy thing is we're probably missing a lot of opportunities without knowing just because we're wasting time distracting us with media consumption.
I know this is 10 months ago but I know I was meant to see this video because I was just thinking to myself "im about to get so drunk" then I click on this and he's talking about how much of a pull alcohol had on him and I'm like...okay god I hear you nevermind lol...
It has memes and sayings that degrade all body types, races, etc and makes a lot of ppl feel worthless, it's very toxic Facebook and Twitter are sites you should stay off of even if your single still harmful.
He’s talking about self reflection and knowing yourself, and finding out why you do the things you do. A lot of people don’t do this. It’s so incredibly important to be self aware and reflect on yourself. He is so right
@blank men I have no form of social media outside of UA-cam and I read a hour or more a day mannnneeee👌🏿 this man doesn’t even read he said it himself and you call tell by how he has trouble at certain points articulating himself
Social media is like a blessing and a curse. I've made great connections online, inspired many and made thousands 💰. It's great for business & networking. It's all about how you use it. But protect your energy
I think if you can limit yourself to using it for business purposes and networking, it's definitely the best way to use it, especially if you're not doubled down for hours analysing it and keeping your life balanced. I'd love to be able to abandon social media completely because I know I waste time on it, but maybe it's just a case of that I need to manage my use of it better.
So true. I use to be into social media and was so jaded by it that I dropped it all cold turkey. I was tired of the fakery, the egos (including mine), the wanna be philosophical messages, keyboard relationships, and the DRAMA. I don’t concern myself with other people’s lives more than mine anymore. I don’t measure myself to what people think is cool or fun. I live in reality. It’s been 5 years now and I don’t miss it one bit.
Yeah i dropped social media 3 years and it almost feels surreal living in a world of reality while most people around you are living in a fantasy world. It almost makes me feel like IM normal. And its actually helped with anxiety knowing i can deal with things without having to have social media. And i like the fact that im not just exposing my life to people. I remember going to turks and caicos after deleting my social media and it felt so good to not be on my phone, worrying about taking the best pictures, etc. i was enjoying myself and everyone around me. Thats when i knew i didnt want to download social media again. you really get to live YOUR best life with those your surrounded by when youre not held down by your phone/social media.
J. Cole, AN EVOLVED HUMAN: The pull and the tug... Everytime I said no and was successful I was empowered. I don't like something pulling my strings. I want to be in full control.
Dennis F. aka M.A. Dennis because Jesus is not in the church but in us-when you ask for Him to actually come in. Do your research to learn and understand scripture “interpretation” was manipulated because people do not read for themselves: it DOES NOT VALIDATE SLAVERY. The history of biblical stories are in AFRICA. Jesus is written as feet of BRONZE hue. You study to show yourself approved before God and man. He’s coming soon; seek fast.
You gotta pull the strings to be the boss, but don’t forget he is traumatized and still dealing with it he needs time to recover to feel empowered about being a “slave” to something else. Cut the crap delete the apps smh
Je suis Parte 😂lol life’s funny that way sometimes...personally I don’t think social media is bad...I took a break because I have goals and had to sacrifice social media to prioritize more time for my goal. But generally I think what EVER you spend your time doing that’s in alignment with a personal growth is good. And watching this is👍
“I know life without it “ so much truth in that statement. These kids coming up into this new age with technology And young kids with their tablets it’s a cause for screen addiction.
Not just that I worry for them they seem to be so weak and easily moved everything lead them into depression and suicide is a real life option. Because of something someone said. I watched a video of a lady telling her story of surviving the Rwanda genocide and witnessing her family being killed in front of her and fake her own death for hours just to get out of it alive and she still kicking what is really not right with these kids.
Donique Whonder that’s so traumatic to go through wow ! Hope she healed well . As far as this screen issue I work with younger kids and I see it everyday . It’s not how it used to be but with more awareness we can teach our youth if they choose to listen or not .
It's sad because SM and the internet has the power to be such wonderful tools to our growth and progression but if youre just thrown into it with no real direction to go and companies spending $$$ on ads to be above the rest its overwhelming
Find the “pull” and try to understand what you’re trying to gain out of this negative response. Figure out what your trying to replace or fulfill with that bad habit. I was waiting for him to mention that. I’m also going thru a social media cleanse and this just reminded of that! 🙏🏾
I'm also going through one too. It's been 4 months since I've been on Facebook. Last year, I kept taking breaks from it and decided to delete my fb account before moving into the new year. So far, it's been great. I even deleted my IG and Twitter accounts 2 months ago
I’ve been off for 11 months now. My deactivation has made people call me to ask me questions like, “Are you ok, why haven’t you posted in a while, what’s going on?” Like you’re not alive if you’re not on social media! Smh
Facts...it's crazy..I just permanently deleted my FB..Nov 21st was the 30th day....I thought about logging in Nov 20th but stayed strong now it's GONE 🤗🤗💪🏾!!!
I feel you, as soon as I took off social media. People thought the negative. People don’t check for you until you delete and deactivate your social media accounts.
Stephen A. Austin 😂 not Alive if you not on social media ahahahah...that’s so funny Are we? Lol it’s funny how we live in a world in which things don’t seem real unless it’s been recorded... plastic souls🙏
Ridding myself of social media was one of the best decisions I’ve made thus far in my life. I’m only on UA-cam for yoga, music, work outs and dance. Lol. I ain’t seeking validation anymore. Don’t need anyone’s approval. It’s a waste of time. And it’s not private, I could probably figure out where someone lives Lmao, images have data. Be wise, put you first instead of others.
@@crimzonrayz3274 No disrespect because its 4 months old but you commented "I need social media because no one will contact me" Even if you just disappear without deletion, if your "friends" or close ones don't notice it's a chance they weren't friends to begin with.
Wow. I deleted my Facebook account for 2 years. Made a new account because a few family members died and I needed to contact people I had no numbers for. Worse thing I ever done. I want to delete my account again but no one I know communicates outside of it. It's sad.
It’s so weird I was thinking about this the other day. I quit social media for like a month now, there was something that just made me feel so negative about my life, I decided to just quit. When I think deeply about it, social media makes you care about such materialistic things(girls, money, status, clothes), it creates fabricated relationships with people ( you think you know someone because you follow a them and see their stories) but in real life you have nothing in common with that person anymore and lastly, social media executives invest millions of money into researching how to keep people addicted to their apps. It’s why we love constantly refreshing our page to see the amount of likes or comments we get under a recent photo for example, or how many followers we have. It’s how social media make money. The more they can keep you on their app or constantly checking on their app, the more advertisers would pay them.
Social media = my income ... my business and my brand is online / social media ... social media can be bitter sweet .. a lot of us consume too much time on it .. so I usually do a social media detox .. a week with no social media every month and self care is also really important .. I’ve also cut the amount of time I spend online .. social media can be toxic at times
Self discipline and the Social Media Menu you choose to consume through your eyes are a couple of the issues more so. It can be and is in fact a tool if you choose to use it that way. It's how often you use it and how you use it. It's like a good many things in life. If you cannot moderate usage then it's going to become a problem and an 'addiction' it's a huge part of many businesses these days and that's really positive in the realms of money making and such. It's the non-productive scrolling and the avoidable clashes between people whose values obviously don't allign with your own is where it starts being detrimental. Nice to hear you make it work for you! Keep it positive!
i feel like if you have an online business, great example. you have intentions and goals to achieve on social media to promote and advertise yourself and your brand. what you're talking about is balance, rather than as you said, spending too much time on socials and it almost being a life line.
No. Not social. Just the things that you choose to entertain on it. I took a 4 month social media break and when I got back on I created an entirely new account and only follow things that positively feed my spirit
I’ve literally been off social media for three days and it feels like it’s been a week. The peace and more effective use of my time benefit are so worth this break. I gotta stay strong and stay off.
This is all facts, when I graduated college, I went off social media to focus on myself for a year, start making money, working out, hooping, doing my chores, being a better uncle, you are so much more productive doing things that will benefit you for that day or for tomorrow instead of looking for validation all the time, now I am back on it but I'm not constantly I need this in my life. When people would ask me or tell me I can't find you on FB or IG or Twitter anymore why? I would tell them why and they would say oh I can't do that or look at me crazy. Point being, social media does not run your life unless you let it.
Black Psalm Music no the world needs more individuals who act like themselves and not some dumbass celebrity. Stop looking to media for role models, be your own role model.
@Purebred Shekelberg exactly, they literally have brain scientist working for their companies, Studying The brain to see what keeps our attention, the more they discover the more they'll improve the phones until we're pretty much slaves to our technology
@S. Jay sis look it up. I actually watched a 30min video about it in school. Search it up love, I promise you, you'll find plenty of people working for them snitching on their phone companies
the world was in the making a long time ago for today's time social media, look how it's set up to even have a business, which is now prioritized as your Brand, we're programmed to go to the phone or computer to check emails, check social media messages and most times we get side tracked into being distracted and it seems to tie us all to the World Wide Web
Working from home being all alone all day got me here. I constantly find myself scrolling for no particular reason. The work gets done regardless because I'm used to it by now but the phone demands more attention than the stuff that's on the computer screen. I got off social media just for the sake of feeling what it's like and it was hard at first. You want to see what's going on and what the people are doing. It's subconscious most of the time and it effects your perception and your mood. Can you imagine ? Other people's posts influencing how you feel about yourself, nah man you can keep that shit.
I felt every inch of wisdom that this man spoke about drinking and social media because I was battling the same addictions. I'm good on drinking but the social media is more of a challenge for me. I feel the strings he's talking about. It's insane
@karin tofs congratulations on your sobriety! Yeah social media is tough. I just take small steps and try to reshift my focus. I use it for my art only
My 2 biggest issues when it comes to addictions or needless waste of time are glancing at my phone too much and sugar consumption. I'm slowly starting to get better with both, but I think I probably need to go on a full social media detox and just make use of the time I have. Life is both long and short and it's all about perspective.
This man gave me insight on trying to be a better person. I stopped keeping up with people/apps and worried about what's in front of me. It's a great feeling once you start to notice you're so much stronger by yourself than worrying to see what people think about you. ps. If you read this try it sometime! the feeling is great
i was a slave to weed, smoked daily for over 7 years! Wanting to be accepted into a nursing program was enough to make me put down the bong and blunts. Been clean for over a month. Free at last! I miss it though.
My Bohemian Groove weed has benefits tho, the thing with weed is to do it every now and then that’s the best way to do it, cause you always get a good high and you realize, you don’t want to feel like that daily. take it in spans of time.
Taylor Brown y’all making weed look bad bruh there’s plenty of people who can be responsible and still smoke. Not everyone oversmokes and fries their brains lol
I’m vibing with this talk man! I haven’t had alcohol for 1 year and 5 months and seeing this is soooo dope. Totally get how it’s empowering when you’re in control of things that your flesh would have been a slave to! Literally facing your demons head on! Stay conscious of why we turn to specific thangs respect!
I’ve noticed the best times of my life were when I wouldn’t be on social media a lot. I always have accounts but would focus on my life and goals overall and would hardly ever go on social media unless it was to get some information.
I’m about to take another social media fast. When I did I had a better peaceful life. Things were so much better. Many folks are addicted to social media. I get more accomplished when I’m not on social media lol the time.
being conscious of that urge like he said is key!! the kids growing up with this cant tell much of a difference b/c that's all they know. They have a low attention to detail b/c of it and they're being guided MORE than they know. When u cant control that urge, u allow the things that draw you in to do exactly what they're intended to do. The people that created social media have studied dopamine and the effects the brain. They are aware of the mind-control and addiction and its serious. It creates a habitat of being oblivious to a lot of other things around you as well.....more in touch with A.I. than the physical the world...
I always liked J. Cole. He's very unique with his music. I believe that everyone goes through the same type of trials and tribulations that he's talking about. I don't get on social media like that anymore but I used to have that same problem that he was talking about. The Lord took me out of that urge.
Social media, for the average superficial users, is only the highlights. Its fake, just like that one minute you spend watching the highlights of a sports match, you dont see the other 99% of the game where they struggle, fall, get back up or not, win or lose. Sooner you realise thats all it is, sooner you come to grips that its a waste of a medium that should be used for something better.
I feel him!!!! Also, when God needs the holy spirit to relay a message to us he will isolate us in different ways. He will allow people to walk away from ud, snatch EVERYTHING away from us and PUT US ON OUR FACE in order to isolate us . We can't hear him in chaos or with a cloudy mentality. Jay Cole is a great artist but speaking realness to the masses may be his TRUE calling. Much love to ALL🙌🙌🙌😇😇❤❤🙌🙌
@@wawerumaina6147 ALL distractions! Your absolutely right! I'm dealing with distractions right now and they come in all different angles. Satan is so smart that when we master a certain distraction, he will send it in a different form. We are human so we may get distracted for a minute and that's okay but it's important to catch it and get right back to it!
RealTalkWithKizzyRock and here we are with the carona virus social distancing....if you look at the good side to this...and use this isolation well ...we can all. Come out at the other side of this really being a strength and inspiration to others because we took the time to be still and love ourselves ...we can more abundantly spread love ❤️(not the virus )
Ive been on break from social media since this whole quarantine started and ive been feelin peacefully bro. No more toxic people, not many distractions, etc etc. i feel like a new person no cap
I feel this so much right now, for years I have had this addiction to social media, and it having control over me. Checking on people that don’t care to check on me. Today is my first step to getting myself back, I have so many things I want and need to do but I waste my time on social media instead.
I loved this interview! Being off of social media is very liberating! I honestly feel sorry for those that have been the daily "puppets" for the social media "puppeteers". That pull that Cole speaks about is real. You have to be courageous, strong-willed, and spiritually centered to resist the pull. Social media is an outlet to feed the ego and desires of those that crave to be seen and heard.
Brynn_luv_ Gaza There are definitely supernatural spirits associated with alcohol intoxication. People do the worst crimes and say the most vile things while under the influence. It also has the power to destroy lives and relationships via addiction.
I’m currently taking a break from social media, & honestly I’m ina whole different head space, like a weight is lifted off me almost. You realize what’s important when your not influenced from something you see everyday & I really love this feeling
Social Media got me in relationship trouble with a girl I knew I couldn’t lose. Just being young and dumb really but I had to give that shit up, was not worth losing the love of my life. 6+ years strong.
I know I do it for the same reasons I use to read, write, and draw... boredom, loneliness, the desire to connect. But unlike reading and creating social media produces nothing for me. Instead, I feel more of the same.
Friend Of ilāh highly doubt it. He’ll instead make music of his own choice and move towards owning his music. Such as with KOD, a project around drugs and general addiction. Educating listeners on drug abuse, meditation, social issues etc. I think he’s recognised the negatives, but also the positives if used correctly, such as the power to positively impact people’s lives so he’ll actually continue not stop.
Here’s a few tips about the balance of social media. As JC mentioned it’s a addictive site that’s meant to control you but you have to conscious about how to not let it. 1. Commit a time once in your day where you allow yourself to go on social media for max 10-15 mins. 2. Detox your social media by removing people who don’t inspire you, and filter your social media with only close family, friends, goals of which you want to achieve (fitness sites, recipes, art, design) 3. Stay away from mainstream sites like baller alert/hood clips 4. Avoid clicking on things which are unhealthy for your mindset because once you like or pause for 2 seconds it will filter it those settings. (I know that you can’t stop or control everything but do as you can) 6. If you do come across something that’s tempting or unhealthy for you. Acknowledge it, and move on.
or you can stay off it period. I agree with what you’re saying and i’m not trying to take anything away from what you’re saying. but i’ve tried doing these things and somehow things/ppl i don’t want to see or deal with pop up in my suggestions. and depending on the person it may have different effects. do what’s best for you. social media is not a necessity unless its for a business.
J Cole is me and I have been saying it forever... The Great ones check out of the Matrix. But I’m weird for checking out and that’s fine with me. The Kind of peace you get from keeping your business to yourself is worth protecting at ALL Cost. I knew he was tribe ♥️
I love J. Coles realism he doesnt think hes better then anybody else, he tries to spread knowledge and love but maybe cos hes not street enough people find it hard to go with it. but everyones on their own journey i suppose
I don’t use any social media and I’m 19 ...... born in the illusion of “ validation “ and “ likes “/ “views “ ... man fuck that been off for the last two years and I’m slowly moving away from distractions to be more aware on a higher level , a level where I’m in my own dimension ....
I’m literally so in love w J.Cole. He really is so evolved as a human & as a man. When he said he don’t want no one or nothing pill his string & how he wants to be in control, I really felt that.
@@Crystal-dr2xi he definately could be. im just saying i hope his heart is surrendered completely to jesus as to not do things that a follower of Jesus wouldnt do.
JayFlaxh bc she’s judging people based on whether they’re “covered in tattoos” or not. even if he was tatted up i’d still have the same love and respect for him.
I havn't used social media for around 4 months now. For me, the transition was easy, implying I didn't really have a problem, but I can empathise with those who do struggle. Mastering yo mind is the most important battle we fight, which is why it's the hardest. Keep fighting.
He also speaks on how he impowered himself which was to say no to things. Being able to say no to things that dont serve you a healthy purpose is self love. Self love is the key to happiness
Its all about finding a balance and recognizing that there are limits to everything, whether if it’s drinking too much or being on social media too much...... #stay woke ya’ll it’s a beautiful world outside of our phones
Eckhart tolle speaks about this concept, the enslavement of your behavior and actions by the mind. Tolle describes this as an "unconcious" person. A person going through the motions without being fully aware of his/her behavior. You have to be fully present "conscious" to get out of the grip that the mind has on you.
I've been avoiding watching this video because I was going through the same thing and just wanted to ride the wave. For j.cole to mention drinking the way he did is really reflective on how I feel about alcohol now too, especially after bad experiences. I have taken many breaks from social media and have now realised that the best way for me to use it is as a tool. I wish i could click reset on all platforms, remove previous follows and grow and develop from the beginning. but in a way im happy to ignore those who im already connected with and continue with my life journey through posting things i connect with. My generation grew up with the introduction to this social media digital age and i understand the generations younger than me use social media completely different from how i do and how we once did. One question i have come to wonder is that do the younger generation choose social media over reading books? it may seem crazy, i may be old school but for me, i find it better to go be aware that im about to scroll aimlessly and instead pick up a book, or do something more productive. I understand the internet is a world full of knowledge, but I also see that books (if choosing the right one) can change your life and ultimately make you realise you don't need validation from those on social media who are just as lost as you. Books have been key to communicating for generations and I fear that if we lose that we may lose sense of some form of knowledge. To write a book takes time effort, research, development but maybe now social media is that process through different means? There is a lot of good content out there like this video for example, but there is a connect with books that is unique to our personal development and experience. J COLE NEEDS TO WRITE A BOOK TBH! thank you if you read this mini essay and i would love for people to comment and make questions on it. Im not saying in anyway shape or form that im right, im just curious and have ideas
Remember how life was BEFORE social media? Trying to get that feeling back
Yes I do remembered. #80s baby here
Same. 💙
Me too
Yet here you are.
Oohh please like my pics because I'm too insecure about myself which is causing a major depression on me and I can't live like this! People need to know about me!
No big chain, no Louis Vuitton dress shirt, no Roley or Gucci belt in sight --respect that.
O. G. He is amazing
O. G. 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Roley*
I know he has at least one of these items you listed
What’s wrong with those things?
Don't forget youtube is social media too, fam. Don't be clicking all the suggested videos without thinking about it first, next thing you know your whole day is gone
Yep lol
True I planned on doing some work,I end up postponing because of UA-cam
On god
Clicked on the video for advice brother
Need that rn lol
I deleted all my social media accounts , change my number & deleted all toxic people they wasn’t empowering my life and my life has been so peaceful ... this year is my time to be more control and focus in my life as well as myself ..
Amen.
Amen, respect and power to you. Theres more to life then what meets the eye. All the best on your life journey
Amen ! I’ve been away almost a year now and people will write me ( I check back on randomly for messages) and ask me if I’m still alive ? Lmao! Ugh I’m so much happier without it!
Respect. Deleted every social media last year after a breakup except LinkedIn for work, and my income has doubled in 1 year, and about to break the $100k mark this year. It’s amazing for the soul
Good luck
Notice how he will pause to think before he speaks.
Y his music is perfect
Because it's not everything that's in your head that you must let out your mouth
Plus that is a trait of a good listener.
I just love j cole he is so intelligent
Think be you speak...thats a lost art.
I deleted the apps. Still have the accounts but use them mainly as contacts. It’s a waste of time to seek validation from others. Just do your own thing and good will come. Stay blessed and believe in the goodness that is within us all.
Randy Hendrix me too I stopped in February 2018. I just use Reddit and UA-cam. I get a lot of shit from ppl for doing it but idc
Mr.GoodFriday Man I’m on the same exact boat as you. Stopped using Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat back in October. Only use Reddit and UA-cam and let me tell you.. It feels great.
100 percent agreed. Attention engineers at hard at work ...all is designed to keep your thinking skills analog..
Randy Hendrix amen
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I'm a photographer and just yesterday to focus on my craft I decided to delete all my socials and focus literally after watching this video. The same day I went out to shoot cause I was bored and a random ass guy saw me with my camera and decided to talk to me and book me for a shoot for next week. Crazy
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Power to you, my man. Hope you make it big.
That's dope! Crazy thing is we're probably missing a lot of opportunities without knowing just because we're wasting time distracting us with media consumption.
Awesome 👍
Benji Benji that’s what happens when you live your passion for you and not others! Keep doing that!
I really feel like God wanted me to see this.
bell hooks I hope and pray for you come and pray to god and good things come 💯💯
I know this is 10 months ago but I know I was meant to see this video because I was just thinking to myself "im about to get so drunk" then I click on this and he's talking about how much of a pull alcohol had on him and I'm like...okay god I hear you nevermind lol...
bell hooks check out pastor Gino Jennings
bell hooks me too !
Me toooo ....
I take looong breaks from social media as well because it brings such negativity to my life. I do understand what he means.
Lulu Bati so true
It has memes and sayings that degrade all body types, races, etc and makes a lot of ppl feel worthless, it's very toxic Facebook and Twitter are sites you should stay off of even if your single still harmful.
Same here.
I just got back on ig after not being on since January 2017 ....... I wasn't missing shit
Lulu Bati it really does
Social media is the new crack.
The internet is the new Crack. ..
Fax
It really is
@@B-Rai87 exactly
i swear i can quit anytime, i just dont wanna right now
He’s talking about self reflection and knowing yourself, and finding out why you do the things you do. A lot of people don’t do this. It’s so incredibly important to be self aware and reflect on yourself. He is so right
Yup
So true. Know thyself. People don’t even know themselves and WANT to actually be with other people. Sad.
This man is such a philosopher. You gotta love it when someone is speaking something genuine
Robert Shields he just speaks on common sense topics..
@blank men I have no form of social media outside of UA-cam and I read a hour or more a day mannnneeee👌🏿 this man doesn’t even read he said it himself and you call tell by how he has trouble at certain points articulating himself
@blank men I’m 25 the world itself will probably end before I make a tik tok. Social media is cancer
What ?? No he ain't..
@@rjm809 foreal
Social media is like a blessing and a curse. I've made great connections online, inspired many and made thousands 💰. It's great for business & networking. It's all about how you use it. But protect your energy
I think if you can limit yourself to using it for business purposes and networking, it's definitely the best way to use it, especially if you're not doubled down for hours analysing it and keeping your life balanced. I'd love to be able to abandon social media completely because I know I waste time on it, but maybe it's just a case of that I need to manage my use of it better.
Very true! I’ve used it to speak life into people when they needed it. THINGS are not evil... PEOPLE are...
This.
Facts
couldn't have said it better myself, spot on
The fact that “stepping away from social media” is newsworthy is already kind of a red flag
Some people can’t last 10 minutes without checking their social media.
That's me
I need to change
Me no cap it’s honestly sad
Truth. I was one of them, it was awful
most not some
Social media gives me anxiety... right there with you J. Cole.
Me too, my anxiety is off the roof on social media. It's been 8months of social media god it was hard but loving it now
@@emmanuel_j612 same bro, keep the same energy.
It’s not really Social media in general but what your doing with it.
@@justinmoore3217 social media in general cause you still see bs regardless
Yeah
So true. I use to be into social media and was so jaded by it that I dropped it all cold turkey. I was tired of the fakery, the egos (including mine), the wanna be philosophical messages, keyboard relationships, and the DRAMA. I don’t concern myself with other people’s lives more than mine anymore. I don’t measure myself to what people think is cool or fun. I live in reality. It’s been 5 years now and I don’t miss it one bit.
Facts on the wannabe philosophical quotes and subliminal shit people post. Some try to look “woke” and be a guru in pep talk 😅
Especially the wannabe philosopher part claiming woke😪
Yeah i dropped social media 3 years and it almost feels surreal living in a world of reality while most people around you are living in a fantasy world. It almost makes me feel like IM normal. And its actually helped with anxiety knowing i can deal with things without having to have social media. And i like the fact that im not just exposing my life to people. I remember going to turks and caicos after deleting my social media and it felt so good to not be on my phone, worrying about taking the best pictures, etc. i was enjoying myself and everyone around me. Thats when i knew i didnt want to download social media again. you really get to live YOUR best life with those your surrounded by when youre not held down by your phone/social media.
Sam R you speak facts much respect
J. Cole, AN EVOLVED HUMAN:
The pull and the tug...
Everytime I said no and was successful I was empowered.
I don't like something pulling my strings. I want to be in full control.
Dennis F. aka M.A. Dennis 🤨; Jesus breaks us free from that fully
Dennis F. aka M.A. Dennis i felt that
Dennis F. aka M.A. Dennis because Jesus is not in the church but in us-when you ask for Him to actually come in. Do your research to learn and understand scripture “interpretation” was manipulated because people do not read for themselves: it DOES NOT VALIDATE SLAVERY. The history of biblical stories are in AFRICA. Jesus is written as feet of BRONZE hue. You study to show yourself approved before God and man. He’s coming soon; seek fast.
You gotta pull the strings to be the boss, but don’t forget he is traumatized and still dealing with it he needs time to recover to feel empowered about being a “slave” to something else. Cut the crap delete the apps smh
Dennis F. aka M.A. Dennis deep!!!
Wanted to take a break from social media. Ended up watching a video from j cole talking about stepping away from social media. On youtube.
Same here
Je suis Parte sameeee
UA-cam is different though. We don’t post our pictures, we don’t interact with our own social networks and we [can] watch productive content
Je suis Parte it’s a sign
Je suis Parte 😂lol life’s funny that way sometimes...personally I don’t think social media is bad...I took a break because I have goals and had to sacrifice social media to prioritize more time for my goal. But generally I think what EVER you spend your time doing that’s in alignment with a personal growth is good. And watching this is👍
I don't listen to his music but the man is spot on
Love you’re vids bro respect
Don't listen. Feel it.
I never thought I would see you here. 😂
you should.
His music is great. Give it a go.
“I know life without it “ so much truth in that statement. These kids coming up into this new age with technology And young kids with their tablets it’s a cause for screen addiction.
Not just that I worry for them they seem to be so weak and easily moved everything lead them into depression and suicide is a real life option. Because of something someone said. I watched a video of a lady telling her story of surviving the Rwanda genocide and witnessing her family being killed in front of her and fake her own death for hours just to get out of it alive and she still kicking what is really not right with these kids.
Donique Whonder that’s so traumatic to go through wow ! Hope she healed well . As far as this screen issue I work with younger kids and I see it everyday . It’s not how it used to be but with more awareness we can teach our youth if they choose to listen or not .
It's sad because SM and the internet has the power to be such wonderful tools to our growth and progression but if youre just thrown into it with no real direction to go and companies spending $$$ on ads to be above the rest its overwhelming
@@rayshipooki Parenting and proper guidance and discipline (or lack thereof).
@@rayshipooki not everyone is built for that
Find the “pull” and try to understand what you’re trying to gain out of this negative response. Figure out what your trying to replace or fulfill with that bad habit. I was waiting for him to mention that. I’m also going thru a social media cleanse and this just reminded of that! 🙏🏾
Maddd exact same here, already feeling much better
Me too it’s been 2 weeks without no social media and i feel great I even pulled out of a negative group chat I was in with homies god got my back
Karlie Thornton I’m doing the exact thing
Karlie Thornton yes, I just did a 40 day social media detox! I posted my result on UA-cam tell me what you think!
I'm also going through one too. It's been 4 months since I've been on Facebook. Last year, I kept taking breaks from it and decided to delete my fb account before moving into the new year. So far, it's been great. I even deleted my IG and Twitter accounts 2 months ago
I’ve been off for 11 months now. My deactivation has made people call me to ask me questions like, “Are you ok, why haven’t you posted in a while, what’s going on?” Like you’re not alive if you’re not on social media! Smh
Facts...it's crazy..I just permanently deleted my FB..Nov 21st was the 30th day....I thought about logging in Nov 20th but stayed strong now it's GONE 🤗🤗💪🏾!!!
Stephen A. Austin lol, same! I went off of social media (facebook) for 2 months and i got an inbox asking if i died . smh
Nestle Black I wish i had the strength to do that.. i’ll deactivate it now and log back onto it tmm morning .
I feel you, as soon as I took off social media. People thought the negative. People don’t check for you until you delete and deactivate your social media accounts.
Stephen A. Austin 😂 not Alive if you not on social media ahahahah...that’s so funny
Are we? Lol it’s funny how we live in a world in which things don’t seem real unless it’s been recorded... plastic souls🙏
Ridding myself of social media was one of the best decisions I’ve made thus far in my life.
I’m only on UA-cam for yoga, music, work outs and dance. Lol.
I ain’t seeking validation anymore.
Don’t need anyone’s approval.
It’s a waste of time.
And it’s not private, I could probably figure out where someone lives Lmao, images have data.
Be wise, put you first instead of others.
Who cares if u know where someone lives
@@crimzonrayz3274 No disrespect because its 4 months old but you commented "I need social media because no one will contact me" Even if you just disappear without deletion, if your "friends" or close ones don't notice it's a chance they weren't friends to begin with.
Cole is such a real individual. This is a struggle many people won’t even acknowledge they have. Dope!!
yeah man one love man blaze up man stay sleep man
every one is real....wtf....real pieces of shit...real nigga...real person....real this, real that...doesn't make any sense
I’ve been off social media for 4 years now😊
Chardae Harvey is UA-cam considered social media?
Don't rub it on our phone's screen...share the secret.
Chardae Harvey ❤️❤️
@@siddhant365 She UA-cam Relapse
Wow. I deleted my Facebook account for 2 years. Made a new account because a few family members died and I needed to contact people I had no numbers for. Worse thing I ever done. I want to delete my account again but no one I know communicates outside of it. It's sad.
It’s so weird I was thinking about this the other day. I quit social media for like a month now, there was something that just made me feel so negative about my life, I decided to just quit. When I think deeply about it, social media makes you care about such materialistic things(girls, money, status, clothes), it creates fabricated relationships with people ( you think you know someone because you follow a them and see their stories) but in real life you have nothing in common with that person anymore and lastly, social media executives invest millions of money into researching how to keep people addicted to their apps. It’s why we love constantly refreshing our page to see the amount of likes or comments we get under a recent photo for example, or how many followers we have. It’s how social media make money. The more they can keep you on their app or constantly checking on their app, the more advertisers would pay them.
Social media = my income ... my business and my brand is online / social media ... social media can be bitter sweet .. a lot of us consume too much time on it .. so I usually do a social media detox .. a week with no social media every month and self care is also really important .. I’ve also cut the amount of time I spend online .. social media can be toxic at times
Self discipline and the Social Media Menu you choose to consume through your eyes are a couple of the issues more so. It can be and is in fact a tool if you choose to use it that way. It's how often you use it and how you use it. It's like a good many things in life. If you cannot moderate usage then it's going to become a problem and an 'addiction' it's a huge part of many businesses these days and that's really positive in the realms of money making and such. It's the non-productive scrolling and the avoidable clashes between people whose values obviously don't allign with your own is where it starts being detrimental. Nice to hear you make it work for you! Keep it positive!
i feel like if you have an online business, great example. you have intentions and goals to achieve on social media to promote and advertise yourself and your brand. what you're talking about is balance, rather than as you said, spending too much time on socials and it almost being a life line.
When they press that reset button, you better have a parachute.
@@StevenRobertsJr oh shut up
Social media destroys ur soul ,
I want sauth äfrica movie
YASS so toxic how fake friends are! @Eric Vlahos
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No. Not social. Just the things that you choose to entertain on it. I took a 4 month social media break and when I got back on I created an entirely new account and only follow things that positively feed my spirit
Facts it already destroyed my mental and my trust and my relationship
I’ve literally been off social media for three days and it feels like it’s been a week. The peace and more effective use of my time benefit are so worth this break. I gotta stay strong and stay off.
U can do it
This is all facts, when I graduated college, I went off social media to focus on myself for a year, start making money, working out, hooping, doing my chores, being a better uncle, you are so much more productive doing things that will benefit you for that day or for tomorrow instead of looking for validation all the time, now I am back on it but I'm not constantly I need this in my life. When people would ask me or tell me I can't find you on FB or IG or Twitter anymore why? I would tell them why and they would say oh I can't do that or look at me crazy. Point being, social media does not run your life unless you let it.
I quit social media 6 months ago and have never felt so good!
Why you felt so good ?
The first step is being AWARE! AND CONSCIOUS OF WHAT YOU FEELING!
Nicole Jordan without a doubt; not doubting that “pull”.
Facts 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Cole's very influential and uplifting... nice breakdown interview
Searching for validation in Fake hearts on social media ,will not bring you true happiness in REAL LIFE 💯 -B.Cthoughts
Truth 💯
There are things I had to overcome to become a better person. - J. Cole 🙌🏾💯
Wow, just wow, the world needs more people like J
Black Psalm Music no the world needs more individuals who act like themselves and not some dumbass celebrity. Stop looking to media for role models, be your own role model.
You're right.
But that can be us.
Become the change you wish to see in the world.
This dude reminds me of myself.. but the difference is fame, status, and outgoing. Lol
Journey to the 1990's.. This was the norm to see.
@@glitchinthematrix555 Yes, i understand what you say, but every succesfull person has influences.
On a social media fast now, & loving it!!!
Talya C. So How Tf You Seen This Video
Ronny Buxaplenty 😂😂
@@SharRonDaDon LMAOOOO
Me too, UA-cam the only thing I been on
@@SharRonDaDon youtube is not directly SM... She means FB, instagram ect x
He is so WISE, we need more people like him. Appreciation for who you are and your path. Thank you.
*"I got stronger because I faced it head on"*
Bro I read your comment the same exact time as Cole said that, lmao that was crazy
@@MaciasOfficial great minds think alike lol and I am a woman lol. Take care❤💯✊🏾👌🏾✌🏾
Get off the apps and i see how much more productive and freeing and creative my life is 😩🙌🏾
Saphira yes especially on creativity
I read 3 books in a week😏. I honestly didn't realise how much of a slave I'd become to those apps.
Amen i’m dtf lmk
Man shut yo dumb ass up using them
Weak ass emojis
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Phones are now designed to keep your attention mentally. That's why
@Purebred Shekelberg exactly, they literally have brain scientist working for their companies, Studying The brain to see what keeps our attention, the more they discover the more they'll improve the phones until we're pretty much slaves to our technology
@S. Jay sis look it up. I actually watched a 30min video about it in school. Search it up love, I promise you, you'll find plenty of people working for them snitching on their phone companies
@Brandy Byas exactly🙄🤧! I'm glad somebody is woke
@Brandy Byas and work on their character
the world was in the making a long time ago for today's time social media, look how it's set up to even have a business, which is now prioritized as your Brand, we're programmed to go to the phone or computer to check emails, check social media messages and most times we get side tracked into being distracted and it seems to tie us all to the World Wide Web
Working from home being all alone all day got me here. I constantly find myself scrolling for no particular reason. The work gets done regardless because I'm used to it by now but the phone demands more attention than the stuff that's on the computer screen. I got off social media just for the sake of feeling what it's like and it was hard at first. You want to see what's going on and what the people are doing. It's subconscious most of the time and it effects your perception and your mood. Can you imagine ? Other people's posts influencing how you feel about yourself, nah man you can keep that shit.
It’s true you definately get more powerful the more disciplined you are.
I felt every inch of wisdom that this man spoke about drinking and social media because I was battling the same addictions. I'm good on drinking but the social media is more of a challenge for me. I feel the strings he's talking about. It's insane
@karin tofs congratulations on your sobriety! Yeah social media is tough. I just take small steps and try to reshift my focus. I use it for my art only
My 2 biggest issues when it comes to addictions or needless waste of time are glancing at my phone too much and sugar consumption. I'm slowly starting to get better with both, but I think I probably need to go on a full social media detox and just make use of the time I have. Life is both long and short and it's all about perspective.
@@mattnorris7124 I agree.
I deleted all my social media and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done.
Is UA-cam not considered social media?
Nappi A. ssassin I honestly don’t consider it in my opinion. I only use it to watch movies and shows and get information
J cole is so inspirational and humble Mann sheeesh ❤️❤️❤️
Man… Cole always had a straight road to my heart… man hearing him taking about stuff I’ve been thinking about, wow so glad he talked about this
Social media is an addiction
Audience of One definitely
Social media is whatever you choose it to be
Audience of One true
It’s gay in reality no one cares
just like a lot of things, everything you consume should be done in small doses
Inconsequential learned a new word, thank you J.cole❤️.
I had to look that word up also 😊
Really?? 103 people learned that from J Cole?? Smh, the world today.
Mad_Intalect what’s wrong with that?
@@josephineblom People should read books and learn this kind of stuff at an earlier age, in school, not on UA-cam. But that's just me.
Mad_Intalect yeah its just you.. life in general teaches us things not specifically school
I loveeee his spirit and the fact tht he fine & uber talented just adds it....wht a MAN😍😍😍
This man gave me insight on trying to be a better person. I stopped keeping up with people/apps and worried about what's in front of me. It's a great feeling once you start to notice you're so much stronger by yourself than worrying to see what people think about you.
ps. If you read this try it sometime! the feeling is great
Very wise young man. He has a beautiful mind.
i was a slave to weed, smoked daily for over 7 years! Wanting to be accepted into a nursing program was enough to make me put down the bong and blunts. Been clean for over a month. Free at last! I miss it though.
My Bohemian Groove weed has benefits tho, the thing with weed is to do it every now and then that’s the best way to do it, cause you always get a good high and you realize, you don’t want to feel like that daily. take it in spans of time.
same here sis, same. I am 2 months clean and Im not feeling depressed like I used to when I misused weed.
Taylor Brown y’all making weed look bad bruh there’s plenty of people who can be responsible and still smoke. Not everyone oversmokes and fries their brains lol
Taylor Brown ur gonna miss it, but keep pushing sis. God’s got you. Ask him for help. 💜💜💜
Treat yourself don't cheat yourself 🔥up
I’m vibing with this talk man! I haven’t had alcohol for 1 year and 5 months and seeing this is soooo dope. Totally get how it’s empowering when you’re in control of things that your flesh would have been a slave to! Literally facing your demons head on! Stay conscious of why we turn to specific thangs respect!
I deleted my IG and FB apps two days ago , I got this 💪🏼
Itachi Uchiha how do u delete ig
The only thing I’m on is UA-cam and thats bad enough
ChappyChapChaps because it highlights everything in this world an on social media it’s just another outlet
At least UA-cam can be informative. It’s much better than watching TV in my opinion.
Same here! @ChappyChapChaps
YES @Blockchain Baller
Just look at educational videos or videos that can help you out....otherwise it too is a waste of time
J. Cole is so insightful and aware!! ❤
I’ve noticed the best times of my life were when I wouldn’t be on social media a lot. I always have accounts but would focus on my life and goals overall and would hardly ever go on social media unless it was to get some information.
This is why I became a fan of J.Cole years ago. He is so real and genuine. I wish I could just have a conversation with him about life.
The only way to control it fully is to stay away from it or use it for your benefit like business Etc
I’m about to take another social media fast. When I did I had a better peaceful life. Things were so much better. Many folks are addicted to social media.
I get more accomplished when I’m not on social media lol the time.
being conscious of that urge like he said is key!! the kids growing up with this cant tell much of a difference b/c that's all they know. They have a low attention to detail b/c of it and they're being guided MORE than they know. When u cant control that urge, u allow the things that draw you in to do exactly what they're intended to do. The people that created social media have studied dopamine and the effects the brain. They are aware of the mind-control and addiction and its serious. It creates a habitat of being oblivious to a lot of other things around you as well.....more in touch with A.I. than the physical the world...
I always liked J. Cole. He's very unique with his music. I believe that everyone goes through the same type of trials and tribulations that he's talking about. I don't get on social media like that anymore but I used to have that same problem that he was talking about. The Lord took me out of that urge.
Social media, for the average superficial users, is only the highlights.
Its fake, just like that one minute you spend watching the highlights of a sports match, you dont see the other 99% of the game where they struggle, fall, get back up or not, win or lose.
Sooner you realise thats all it is, sooner you come to grips that its a waste of a medium that should be used for something better.
E M #preachhhhhh!!
I like that sports analogy. Really good.
You are smart wit this comment
I feel him!!!! Also, when God needs the holy spirit to relay a message to us he will isolate us in different ways. He will allow people to walk away from ud, snatch EVERYTHING away from us and PUT US ON OUR FACE in order to isolate us . We can't hear him in chaos or with a cloudy mentality. Jay Cole is a great artist but speaking realness to the masses may be his TRUE calling. Much love to ALL🙌🙌🙌😇😇❤❤🙌🙌
Word....@Kizzy Rock thank you for the reminder that when God has his eyes on you all distractions got to go.
@@wawerumaina6147 ALL distractions! Your absolutely right! I'm dealing with distractions right now and they come in all different angles. Satan is so smart that when we master a certain distraction, he will send it in a different form. We are human so we may get distracted for a minute and that's okay but it's important to catch it and get right back to it!
Facts!
RealTalkWithKizzyRock and here we are with the carona virus social distancing....if you look at the good side to this...and use this isolation well ...we can all. Come out at the other side of this really being a strength and inspiration to others because we took the time to be still and love ourselves ...we can more abundantly spread love ❤️(not the virus )
Ive been on break from social media since this whole quarantine started and ive been feelin peacefully bro. No more toxic people, not many distractions, etc etc. i feel like a new person no cap
I feel this so much right now, for years I have
had this addiction to social media, and it having control over me. Checking on people that don’t care to check on me. Today is my first step to getting myself back, I have so many things I want and need to do but I waste my time on social media instead.
I respect him, he has an old soul
His hands are beautiful 😂
Zakiyyah Johnson i notice small things like that too 😂
yeah they are! you're very observant 😌
Just like George Castanza! He should be walking around with oven mitts for them Knucks.
No Hand Modelz ~ 😂✌️
Haha i noticed too
Cole is teaching us how to free ourself from any addiction🙏
100% understand what he’s explaining about alcoholism and social media addiction.
I loved this interview! Being off of social media is very liberating! I honestly feel sorry for those that have been the daily "puppets" for the social media "puppeteers". That pull that Cole speaks about is real. You have to be courageous, strong-willed, and spiritually centered to resist the pull. Social media is an outlet to feed the ego and desires of those that crave to be seen and heard.
Facts
Truth liquor is damaging to your body... love your body and it will love you back
Another name for liquor is Spirits. Think about that.
I drink and take drugs daily in perfect health it’s all luck YOLO
Brynn_luv_ Gaza There are definitely supernatural spirits associated with alcohol intoxication. People do the worst crimes and say the most vile things while under the influence. It also has the power to destroy lives and relationships via addiction.
🖤❤️ I love J. Coles hobo, homeless, rasta man lookin ass. He's so pure🙏🙏
I’m currently taking a break from social media, & honestly I’m ina whole different head space, like a weight is lifted off me almost. You realize what’s important when your not influenced from something you see everyday & I really love this feeling
I love that he’s so mindful. N.C. forever💙
Awareness is power
^ doesn't awareness come naturally?
Social Media got me in relationship trouble with a girl I knew I couldn’t lose. Just being young and dumb really but I had to give that shit up, was not worth losing the love of my life. 6+ years strong.
I know I do it for the same reasons I use to read, write, and draw... boredom, loneliness, the desire to connect. But unlike reading and creating social media produces nothing for me. Instead, I feel more of the same.
It won’t be long before he quits music. And I don’t blame him.
I see that, he is a different kind
It’s a vile industry...
Friend Of ilāh ikr
Friend Of ilāh highly doubt it. He’ll instead make music of his own choice and move towards owning his music. Such as with KOD, a project around drugs and general addiction. Educating listeners on drug abuse, meditation, social issues etc. I think he’s recognised the negatives, but also the positives if used correctly, such as the power to positively impact people’s lives so he’ll actually continue not stop.
Leslie Latchman Very interesting point. It may be, but I’m hoping he shocks the world for the greater good of God.
Gosh I love himmmm up and down inside and out. His mind is so beautiful! 😍
I felt like he was rappin' through the entire video. The way he phrases and says things... amazing.
We were born in an era where we have so much of everything that that is a double-edged sword.
Here’s a few tips about the balance of social media. As JC mentioned it’s a addictive site that’s meant to control you but you have to conscious about how to not let it.
1. Commit a time once in your day where you allow yourself to go on social media for max 10-15 mins.
2. Detox your social media by removing people who don’t inspire you, and filter your social media with only close family, friends, goals of which you want to achieve (fitness sites, recipes, art, design)
3. Stay away from mainstream sites like baller alert/hood clips
4. Avoid clicking on things which are unhealthy for your mindset because once you like or pause for 2 seconds it will filter it those settings. (I know that you can’t stop or control everything but do as you can)
6. If you do come across something that’s tempting or unhealthy for you. Acknowledge it, and move on.
Done ✔
or you can stay off it period. I agree with what you’re saying and i’m not trying to take anything away from what you’re saying. but i’ve tried doing these things and somehow things/ppl i don’t want to see or deal with pop up in my suggestions. and depending on the person it may have different effects. do what’s best for you. social media is not a necessity unless its for a business.
This!!!
J Cole is me and I have been saying it forever... The Great ones check out of the Matrix. But I’m weird for checking out and that’s fine with me. The Kind of peace you get from keeping your business to yourself is worth protecting at ALL Cost. I knew he was tribe ♥️
I love J. Coles realism he doesnt think hes better then anybody else, he tries to spread knowledge and love but maybe cos hes not street enough people find it hard to go with it. but everyones on their own journey i suppose
Vanessa U. Check out Gino Jennings, it’s deeper than the matrix
I don’t use any social media and I’m 19 ...... born in the illusion of “ validation “ and “ likes “/ “views “ ... man fuck that been off for the last two years and I’m slowly moving away from distractions to be more aware on a higher level , a level where I’m in my own dimension ....
I’m literally so in love w J.Cole. He really is so evolved as a human & as a man. When he said he don’t want no one or nothing pill his string & how he wants to be in control, I really felt that.
J.Cole Jesus is talking to you love. ❤️
Ashley Morgan so true 🙏🏽
amen he is. its insane jesus is even working through music stars. pray people like cole will come to him completely
❤️
@@nathonfleming6631 why do you think that he's not already with Jesus completely?
@@Crystal-dr2xi he definately could be. im just saying i hope his heart is surrendered completely to jesus as to not do things that a follower of Jesus wouldnt do.
We need more people like this making music that impacts how people think and act.
💯 he's an amazing human.. i love this man
I love how he's not covered in tattoos
No one cares.
If youre that superficial youre part of the problem.
J. H. How’s that superficial? Like serious question
JayFlaxh bc she’s judging people based on whether they’re “covered in tattoos” or not. even if he was tatted up i’d still have the same love and respect for him.
@@anishasunkara4542 respect
I havn't used social media for around 4 months now. For me, the transition was easy, implying I didn't really have a problem, but I can empathise with those who do struggle. Mastering yo mind is the most important battle we fight, which is why it's the hardest. Keep fighting.
Life is so peaceful without social media.
He also speaks on how he impowered himself which was to say no to things. Being able to say no to things that dont serve you a healthy purpose is self love. Self love is the key to happiness
Its all about finding a balance and recognizing that there are limits to everything, whether if it’s drinking too much or being on social media too much...... #stay woke ya’ll it’s a beautiful world outside of our phones
Eckhart tolle speaks about this concept, the enslavement of your behavior and actions by the mind. Tolle describes this as an "unconcious" person. A person going through the motions without being fully aware of his/her behavior. You have to be fully present "conscious" to get out of the grip that the mind has on you.
I'd really like to believe that Cole has read some of Eckhart's work.
Eckhart Tolle changed my life foreveeeerrrrr
I love JC such a beautiful mature man ❤️🌸
NOW, I understand why I like his music so much. I bet I could talk to him for hours. I can relate to soooo many things he had mentioned!
I've been avoiding watching this video because I was going through the same thing and just wanted to ride the wave. For j.cole to mention drinking the way he did is really reflective on how I feel about alcohol now too, especially after bad experiences. I have taken many breaks from social media and have now realised that the best way for me to use it is as a tool. I wish i could click reset on all platforms, remove previous follows and grow and develop from the beginning. but in a way im happy to ignore those who im already connected with and continue with my life journey through posting things i connect with. My generation grew up with the introduction to this social media digital age and i understand the generations younger than me use social media completely different from how i do and how we once did. One question i have come to wonder is that do the younger generation choose social media over reading books? it may seem crazy, i may be old school but for me, i find it better to go be aware that im about to scroll aimlessly and instead pick up a book, or do something more productive. I understand the internet is a world full of knowledge, but I also see that books (if choosing the right one) can change your life and ultimately make you realise you don't need validation from those on social media who are just as lost as you. Books have been key to communicating for generations and I fear that if we lose that we may lose sense of some form of knowledge. To write a book takes time effort, research, development but maybe now social media is that process through different means? There is a lot of good content out there like this video for example, but there is a connect with books that is unique to our personal development and experience. J COLE NEEDS TO WRITE A BOOK TBH! thank you if you read this mini essay and i would love for people to comment and make questions on it. Im not saying in anyway shape or form that im right, im just curious and have ideas