Infertility: The Hidden Struggle | Jessica Bourke | TEDxDunLaoghaire
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- Опубліковано 9 гру 2019
- With fourteen years of clinical experience dealing with fertility issues, Jessica has gained a reputation for helping people to conceive where everything else has failed. Jessica is co-author of the ‘Guilt Free Gourmet’, and regularly features in Irish media. She has also featured as the ‘Ask the Expert’ on herfamily.ie and rollercoaster.ie. As your ‘Fertility Detective’, Jessica’s goal is to help her clients get pregnant and stay pregnant!” With fourteen years of clinical experience dealing with fertility issues, Jessica has gained a reputation for helping people to conceive where everything else has failed. Jessica is co-author of the ‘Guilt Free Gourmet’, and regularly features in Irish media. She has also featured as the ‘Ask the Expert’ on herfamily.ie and rollercoaster.ie. As your ‘Fertility Detective’, Jessica’s goal is to help her clients get pregnant and stay pregnant!” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Loved this! We certainly need to be talking about infertility in schools and beyond. There is much work to be done!
I’ve had 6 miscarriages sense I was 16. I’m now 32 and still dreaming about my husband and I having a baby
It will come :-)
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Maybe you’re not supposed to be a parent...
@@mrs.germain4911 how do you know?
We are struggling to conceive for the last 5yrs. We've tried every fertility treatments even left my jobbt resulted in 3 failed IVF cycles. I have lost all hopes and stopped socialising bcoz of blunt comments. This talk is really encouraging... ❤️
Sending you love energy !
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I'm someone who has endometriosis and have been trying to have my own child for a long time now. It may not be meant to be. This talk helped. ❤️
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I also have endometriosis. Have you changed your diet ? That helped me and I got off the meds the doctor gave me . I’m stage 4
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
So insightful and passionately said. If only there was more people like Jessica. She’s worth her weight in gold! 😊
After trying to get pregnant for 3 months, I made the decision that I would to try a different treatment. fruitfully, I gave a shot on the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* The plan is great at assisting you study your menstrual cycle and signs to discover your body`s imbalances. I’m heartening my friends to consider to plan. You could get more by visiting Google.?
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
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"We all have hidden struggles but the real issue is our fear of jugment"
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I have been really scared to get in to a relationship with anyone again, because i never got pregnant for 7 years till and i got cured,Thanks to Dr Okubi channel for helping me.
I just got my ticket to the early hysterectomy club.
I wanted to be a mother more than anything is the world and that's gone.
I don't know what to do with myself.
I'm so sorry. You deserve a chance just like everyone else. I'm so sorry your feelings in this are valid.
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I know what I'm about to write sounds crazy, but I'm glad the world is falling apart, because knowledge of what's headed our way is the only thing that helps me find comfort with infertility. Knowing I don't want to bring a child into this world...
same here
This was a lovely talk. My partner and I have been going through IVF for 2 years and I'm just nearing 40 now. I relate to so much of what she talks about, but I was thrown off a bit by her daughter talking to her about trans people. I don't understand how that relates to infertility at all. Living the life you are comfortable with requires you to have a chance at life in the first place, which is what the infertility struggle is about.
Same. I'm slightly younger than you and am currently taking a break from IVF and trying naturally. It's such a horrible thing to go through. It doesn't even seem to be a genetic thing because parents on both sides had no trouble conceiving. Whatever happens, I have faith that everything will work out for the best.
She gave a great speech that was encouraging. I just didn't like the trans comment and global warming comment. Unnecessary and virtue signaling.
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
@@Sarah-mg3gg God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I'm so bitter that I was encouraged to be everything BUT a mother. It's all I ever wanted to be, but even as a former ward of the state I felt the need to complete (and go into debt) for a college degree. I'm too depressed to use that degree at this point. I'm about to be 38 soon, have had multiple miscarriages, and infertility treatments aren't working.
Hi Betty, you can adopt a baby and still bring a mother
by of 45, I now have a gorgeous 5 year old daughter. I was informed by a fertility doctor from the West that I could not conceive with my egg. The announcements were very dispressing, although with the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* I managed to become a parent. I adopted the directions in the formula and my parental condition has highly improved. A little search with Google will help you get much information concerning this remarkable plan.?
Hugs...
Sending hugs 🫂
Anyone that says just adopt is talking from a privilage place. Adoption is a separate thing.Yes , you can adopt but you cant treat it thr same way.
Well said, I completely agree with the view shared, Thank you.
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I had 2 miscarriages when I was in my early 20s, now just turned 31 and my husband and I are still struggling with my infertility. I believe for some reason it wasn't meant for me but I cant help but feel like there's a huge chapter missing from my life and it feels so incomplete. As if I'm stuck in this chapter unable to move to the next despite how much I try. I pray anyone else struggling makes it through another day 💜🤍🙏🏻
Instead of leaving her... can't we keep loving her,stay with her....... she's not a machine who's duty is to give birth so that our family lineage continues.... I'll still love her instead of leaving her just because due to some medical issues she can't bear baby... brothers don't leave her ..in such situations all you do to her is leaving them is not good...be with her in this tough period❤
Good for you 💚
I feel a big elephant in the room to trying to educate about fertility and fertility problems to have them more accepted and not ashamed is religion. I grew up Catholic. I have many family members that have experienced miscarriage and recurrent miscarriage, but since Catholicism prohibits IVF have never taken that path. Well, for my husband and I it was the only path to fulfill my calling to be a mother. But I can never tell my family. This led to a massive shift within myself, and I cannot justify baptizing my son into a faith that believes he should not have been created via IVF. I still field questions about when his baptism will be. I try to have patience, and tell myself it is not my job to make someone agree or support me. But I still wish I could have their support.
Thanks
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After trying to get pregnant for 3 months, I made the decision that I would to try a different treatment. fruitfully, I gave a shot on the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* The plan is great at assisting you study your menstrual cycle and signs to discover your body`s imbalances. I’m heartening my friends to consider to plan. You could get more by visiting Google.?
She had me until I found out she had a kid. People w children can’t relate..
Same, they just don't get it :(
Took me 7 years to finally be pregnant.. I though I couldn't be pregnant
She can still talk about this important topic.
It actually shows that she empathetic because sometimes suffering people don't have a platform to speak
That’s massively insulting and a toxic perspective. Imagine you get pregnant finally and someone says “Well hey now that your pregnant your struggle you had is irrelevant” that’s awful.
This Ted Talk absolutely gave me no insight into infertility. Waste of time to listen to.
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
How can I share my Infertility story on Ted Talk? I got pregnant after years of struggling, 6 IUIs, 5 IVF's, and doctors giving me less than 1% chance of getting pregnant (just because I am almost 40).... THREE months later I was pregnant..."JUST" by changing and shifting my mindset.
If changing and shifting mindset was all that it took, infertility treatments and clinics would not exist.
For every story that says "we stopped stressing, and then we got pregnant", there's another that's "we were the most miserable we'd ever been, and then we got pregnant", or more importantly "we stopped stressing, and it didn't help at all", because no one mentions the stories where they changed something, and it had no result!
By saying that was all it took in the end, you're basically telling the rest of us it's all in our heads, or our fault we can't get pregnant.
@@Aethuviel clinics are not going to help you if you don’t believe (shifting your mindset) that you can get pregnant.. it s hard.. I know first hand, but at the point where ‘I gave up’ (shift my mindset) I ve had nothing to lose.. what I was doing and ‘trying’ and pushing to GET what I wanted did NOT work! I was loosing myself.. and had to change my mindset.. and it happened.. But you do you ☺️
@@Aethuviel and no one is blaming you trust me ❤️
@@danijelastrauss7069 plz share how your able to shift your mindset
We have male factor infertility, we been ttc for 3 years I’m 26 he’s 43
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
Surrogacy is different than a kidney donation actually. Bc unless someone is volunteering, as is the only legal option in the UK and much of Europe, there is the unjust element of wealth inequality. The only way someone would go thru sthg as life threatening as pregnancy for a stranger is bc they r too poor to afford what they need in life otherwise. This is especially immoral as surrogates are required to be mothers beforehand. So this is essentially their way of making ends meet for their families in a hyper capitalist country. U gotta ask yourself if a rich mother would do that? I haven't seen a single example to date. It's so obviously about $$
Amazingly Dr igho Transformed my life in all Ramification. i really Appreciate you doctor for helping me Cure my infertility naturally with your super herbs and putting a pretty smile on my face, God bless you Doc.
Because of my faith I have received my healing thanks dr omoh your medicine works well on me..
This talk made me feel worse. Ivf and surrogacy is not the same as cancer treatments and you know it. Its okay if we dont want to do that. We need to value mothers and stop lying to young girls that their job is the pinnacle of fulfillment
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
Scented
Thank you doctor Edoba for the time you took to make the best herbal medication and also give me the best treatment ever. You are the best doctor and no words can describe how grateful I am.
People with children speaking about fertility 😂😅✨
God bless you hun God the farther is the only one who can give children for we are his creation. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
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After making efforts to get pregnant for 3 months, I resolved that I need to give a shot something new. luckily, I gave a shot on the *ThePregnancyFact. Com* The plan is great at assisting you learn your periods and symptoms to detect your body`s imbalances. I am encouraging my friends to try to plan. You might get further by visiting the website
I found my way back to Health the moment DR okonofua took my health issues as his own burden, he cured me from infertility and gave me hope to live again. words can't express how grateful I am doc keep the good work up
No one deserves infertility
if she only starts having a baby in her 20s, yes she does
@@prizma45what?
Account made in 2020
Girls should start in their teens @@Lilita971
@prizma45 what century do you think we're in?
shut up j3w then blame your new century if you want infertility
masturbation can cause infertility.
And blindness.
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Is this from new research 🧐?
Everyone is not supposed to be a parent, if you’re infertile just accept your fate and get on with your childless life.
Rightly said besides there is no advantage by having babies
Yes, having children is expensive and the planet can no longer support more people taking up resources. Or if you want to be a parent why not adopt.
Said by someone who never adopted.
@@theneedle6785 exactly!
@@Android-ds9ie No advantage? What about having someone who would care for you in your old days, so you wouldn't feel lonely?
Adopt a child!
Please, you and anyone else reading, don't EVER again say "just adopt" to people experiencing infertility. You're bringing absolutely nothing to the table. Do you think they've never heard of adoption before? All of us know adoption exist, and everyone struggling with infertility must hear it suggested to us MANY times.
Adoption doesn't work like "couple pops into adoption agency one day, has a background check, and comes back in for a healthy, well-adjusted newborn 6-12 months later". It's absolutely nothing like that. Read up on it, it's a long and potentially heartbreaking journey for those who choose to take it.
And many of us simply don't want to adopt. We want our own. It's natural to want our own. All power to those who do end up becoming great adoptive parents, but a child should NOT be a replacement.
"Oh, we tried for years to have our own, but we couldn't, so here you are, second choice". Of course no one says that, but it's the impression the child might get. You should only adopt if that's what you want REGARDLESS of your fertility. Not as an "instead of".
Not the same
haha @@Aethuviel
I found my way back to Health the moment DR OKONOFUA took my health issues as his own burden, he cured me from infertility and gave me hope to live again. words can't express how grateful I am doc keep the good work up