9 year olds helping Faith learn Korean and giving her life advice [Part 3] | K-DOC
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This episode hits home for me. I grew up in a Kenyan household and I know for a fact I barely heard the words "I love you" "sorry" or "thank you" from my parents. Now that I am older, I realize how important is for parents to verbally and physically love their children. I don't blame my parents either, it's just the way they grew up, which is why I sympathize with Faith's mother. I know she is trying to hold onto her roots and impart her knowledge of African traditions onto Faith without realizing sometimes it does more harm than good. However, I am glad that Faith's mom is open and willing to change for the sake of her daughter. Every new chapter in our life, will require a new version of ourselves.
I also am Kenyan, and this is so true. It's so important for parents to show love to their children, and it's sad that in Kenya it's such a rarity, but again it's because of their upbringing. Personally, my ancestors are Indian but I was born and have lived in Kenya my whole life, and it still applies because generally in Kenya parents rarely show affection, but I understand that it's from their upbringing and them trying to hold onto their culture. But it really is great to see Faith's mom becoming open minded and taking Faith's feelings into account and trying to change. Also, just wanted to say I love how you phrased your thoughts, it sounds eloquent and yet concise :)
You hit the nail on the head, I completely agree as a Ghanaian! My mum has definitely become more lenient as I've grown, but having that loving reinforcement from a young age is key. Thankfully, us second gen kids are mindful of that and will be able to carry on a more affectionate approach to our children
Kenyan here! I wasn't always the best kid and my mom had a lot more trouble with me than my brother, i admit. and there wasn't always an 'i love you' or 'thank you', it's very rare. most of the time when that happened, it was when I did well in school. then there would just be random times where my mom would call me down just to tell me she loves me no matter what, then again it was sparse, but I appreciated it. mostly African parents, in general, don't show the most affection and I don't blame them, it's different from how they were brought up and all it needs is a little adjusment. :)
Wait how does a mother trying to teach her daughter about her African roots bad this girl faith must be attached to her roots as an African even if she lives in Asia,America, Europe she must never forget her roots for an African person roots is their identity if they lose their roots they lose themselves and their identity and will not know where they come from or who they are
No trying to be mean but look at African American they lost their roots because they got put out of Africa and their parents nerr tough their kids their roots Soo look what happened they don't know what country in Africa they come from, they don't also onow who they are or their root
Your roost are your identity once you lose them you will lose yourself and get lost and the last thing you will be doing to get back at your roots is too do a DNA test and it don't always help
I get maybe why the mother is like this, one the girl was 9 and she just went to a friend’s house, the mom didn’t know which friend, what if something happened to her the mom would not know where to look. At 15 the child knows more and is able to defend herself a little more. The mom didn’t say she couldn’t hang out at all, just when the time is right
Faith was so out going when she was younger, she seems very shy and reserved as a teenager now.
Where’s the video of her as a teenager, then? I think I do remember her from My Neighbour Charles.
@@BeautyBySilence there were some episodes where she went with other teenagers to a camp, you can watch them in this channel😙
Watch some of KDOC’s videos and you’ll see Faith and her younger sister Angel.
Cuz she got bullied 😭😭😭
@@dikapurnama5812 or maybe it’s her mother?
6:30 that teacher is amazing. They don't live in a nice neighborhood but to have a teacher who cares and is able to communicate in English like that is EXTREMELY rare and lucky for Faith.
Right 😍😭
Bless that teacher ~~ he's very patient with Faith and it was nice to see the interaction between him and her mom, it's clear that he's very supportive of her and wants her to do well in school
In America we have special teachers like this for foreign students like Chinese sent by the government. They come to your home and give special tutoring.
I feel that Faith's mom is being too hard on faith but I also think she is also trying to protect her from the discrimination, unfair treatment and all those things because she is too young for this cruel world. It's understandable that faith must be back home before it's dark, just give her a time limit maybe 3 or 4 hours after school where she can visit friends and lastly show love to faith and all your kids.
yes yes exactly, i had the same situation with my parents when i moved to another country, i didn’t know how to speak the language too. it was hard but now it’s fine and faith is really smart and nice so she will go through that!
If the parents do not know the family there is no way a girl child can go there
A child cannot visit their friends during the week, maybe weekends but not on a school night. I don't think that is being harsh. Also like the comment above said; if Faith's parents do not know the friend's parents, she cannot visit that house. That's just common sense.
nope, its definitely the mum. Sadly, i've seen many African mums like this forcing their daughters to do too much housework when they are very young. P.S. I am an African who lives in Africa and see this a lot especially on the eldest daughters. Always breaks my heart seeing it happen.
@@academicessaya2128 my mom is like Faith's mom and I'm an african living in america. I never was allowed to go out and I've had to clean all the time
As much as people don't like it I kind of understand the mom's mindset, especially having immigrant parents. Faith was really young, she was alone and it was already dark out. It might just be a cultural difference but it can be really hard to adjust to that, especially when it comes to the safety of you're child. You can really see she's trying and she loves her children.
Yeah I agree 100%, I think she is just being cautious.
I feel like the friend's parents should have walked her home
@@honeymelon6177 - Yes. In hindsight that would have been a nice solution. But hindsight always has perfect vision.
Yh this is actually true u right u right
@@Dokemoni I don't agree with everything she did, but I get it it's hard to change habits especially when you're taught that's the correct way. But I agree being able to integrate into the society your in is important.
I know different nationalities follow different cultures but I think it was too harsh for 9 year old Faith.
I hope Faith is now enjoying as a 15 year old teenager ❤
bro and the thing is, she only nine in KOREAN AGE, even worse
@@LovesMango everyone is different. Just bc you liked it doesn’t mean everyone will.
She's 15 now? I'm confused
@@tama3442 yea this is old clips
@@LovesMango she is doing chores and getting scolded for nothing, while her mother is just sitting around giving orders,
The kid with glasses damn he's so wise.
Ikr!
I need to seek him out to get some life advice 🙃
I KNOW RIGHT
He’s so adorable
exactly damn
The mom constantly saying "we don't do that in Africa" when they are in another country and loving a new life... Let Faith actually BE A KID... you don't have to be so harsh on her and treat her like an adult... Ugh this portion is making me so frustrated 😩😩😩 even the teacher said SHE'S TIRED...
“We don’t do that in Africa” I’m sorry but are we near Africa?!?!
She is very young. Being from Korea I know how dangerous it is to be outside the house when it's very dark.
@@eriao05 Worst thing of all is that we don't do that in Africa😂😂😂. Africa is a continent but she talks as if it's a country.
I feel like anyone can have their opinion but only when you in the situation you’ll full understand….Everyone is doing their best. You can see both mum and Faith have an understanding and are willing to understand each other.💪🏽🥰😍
It's tradition they don't let girl children around people house till they are older it's a safety thing
Too much responsibility for a 9 year old .. The mums just too tuff on her … she needs to be a kid at that age .. faith is such a sweet girl and deserves some time with friends and acting silly like girls her age should normally do…faith is going to grow up to be a gem of a girl .. sending her tons of hugs ..
bro and the thing is, she only nine in KOREAN AGE, even worse
@@miraaaaaaa9769 yeah I knowwww 9 is soooo young … When I see things like this … I am like damn I had a fantastic childhood… at the age of 9 I used to play with friends all the time and the only thing my parents asked me for was to 1.finish my food 2.study ( that to just an hour a day )
@@miraaaaaaa9769 she's 15 now
Cultural difference. Its hard growing up in a place where everyone lives by diff standard. If she was in Africa many girls would be like and she probably would have more friends to hang abou with
Though I do agree its a lot
Even the teacher sense that faith is so tired. Ugghhh. I am crying. 😢
The teacher was soooooo nice!
He actually gave a very helpful feedback and advice:)
The teacher is amazing!
There is a drastic personality change in Faith. She was more sociable and outgoing as a child. I watched a more recent show where she grew up ... currently she is quite an introvert. And now seeing a little of his upbringing, now I understand the reason for his current personality. Parents and our upbringing are fundamental, sometimes overprotection brings fear and insecurities in children. In addition, overloading them with responsibilities and restricting them to certain activities, can make them grow without going through their childhood stage correctly.
I identify a lot with Faith's life.
Aonde posso assistir a esse vídeo????
@@alinnelovesgou Here ua-cam.com/video/ioyFyDOStO8/v-deo.html ... but also look at the suggested videos, there are several clips from that show. It is the coexistence of several foreign children who reside or were raised in Korea.
Exactly and even if mom promised to be better here it just shows that mum really didn’t change that much if faith acts the way she is now. I hope angel or new friends empower her and show her, her old bubbly kid self, honour her inner child.
Me too :/
@@alinnelovesgou It's here: ua-cam.com/video/ioyFyDOStO8/v-deo.html
I really don't know what bothers me more :
1. The mom's way of making us Africans look bad
2. The way she always talks about "In Africa we don't do this or that" as if Africa is a country and not a whole ass continent
3. I grew up in Senegal, West Africa and I can say that we were even encouraged to go play at friends' house, you don't even have to telle them before hand, you just pop out of nowhere lmao 😂
4. After watching this, I now know where Faith's lack of social skills comes from. It makes me so sad because she used to be such a bubbly child 😥 and hopefully she remained friends with the boys ND girls she was playing with ❤️
Faith fighting, you got this ! May all your wishes come true 🙏🏿
Same. I'm Nigerian, and kids always play with other kids and stay over at their house, especially if they are from the same family or social gathering (church, school, neighbourhood etc). The only thing Nigerian parents might not be open to are sleepovers. It's not really our thing lol.
@@sweetlemonade6925 So true😂. Nigerian parents will allow you to stay at a friend's house, but God forbid you sleep over at their house. They'll say "Don't you have a bed?" Or they'll want the sleepover to be done at their house and not at your friend house😂. But I do understand why the mum was kind of worried, Faith came home late at night. So that can cause her to be worried. Anyways, the mum doesn't speak for the whole of Africa. Maybe this is done in Liberia, but certainly not all of Africa.
Exactly, im sierra leonean and we went out all the time and had fun.
I'm Kenyan and I also don't understand which part of Africa she's referring to 😅.
Given the significant number of comments with negative feedback on the parents (mother being too strict and too demanding; father for having kids while being poor and his not speaking Korean), I hope that the next segment provides more insight into the family's history and background. Definitely, I believe that Faith's parents do care for her and want her to do well. I think that they want her to know her culture, too. I am not saying that I necessarily understand or agree with how her parents do things, but I do not feel that they act without a sense of love for the family. In a way, the really harsh put downs of the parents strike me as much as the obvious stress and sadnes that little girl expresses.
Faith’s mother has honestly played a huge role in the way her daughter’s personality has been snuffed out and dampened. She simultaneously raised Faith to be a parent to her younger siblings while restricting her from making choices (about friends and how she spent her time). Basically parentification and infantilisation at the same time.
Plus this woman doesn’t represent specific or even general African culture! Many (not all) African cultures and communities operate from a perspective of communitarianism-children are raised in the community, so me coming home and having lunch at my neighbour’s house doesn’t require prior planning or permission. In Central Africa my cousins and I used to spend hours of our summer away from the family home without phones or anyone checking on us.
Faith’s mother uses Africa and her false representation of Africanness to withhold her daughter from being her own person. It’s disappointing.
They're from Liberia which was in civil war (and was hence quite dangerous) for decades until her parents came over, so that's probably a different context.. Idk
How old were you when your parents allowed to spend summer away from them, without them even checking on you?
Agreed. I'm half Liberian, not all Liberians are like this. It's partly the war, but it is also because she came home after dark. Liberian parents will make sure they are introduced to the friend's parents, then it's ok to hang out. Her mother is likely insecure about not knowing how to speak Korean, so is restricting Faith's assimilation. This happens in immigrant families the world round. Girls, in particular, are the mediators and crutch between home culture and the new host culture/society. They help parents navigate the new culture. Patents have to allow them to participate in the host culture (i.e. attend school, be inoculated), but they also want and feel the need to control how the socialization and social participation is done.
'This woman'? Thats a tad disrespectful now😔
Yes her mother is putting boundaries, but can you not see she has a heart and is trying to change after becoming aware of her daughter's struggles. If she was as 'disappointing' as you paint her out to be she wouldn't have even cared. Please try to be understanding, she had multiple children to care for, let alone an infant, multiple jobs, whilst also taking care of the home. Yes, saying 'in Africa we do this/that' isnt representative of the entire continent, but she grew up there and so can speak on her experience as an African woman, from her own culture. You show that you agree, because you're able to explain a situation in which her words arent applicable. By the same logic, if in her area they grew up the way she said then its just as valid no?
I dont mean to cut into you as a person or hurl insults, you are a person who has a lived experience and i hope you are kept safe from harm! But please dont dismiss a mother like that who is trying her best, making mistakes, and trying to change when shes told about it. May God bless you dear
Coming back to your comment due to the notifications, I would also say your armchair commentary in the first sentence now stands out to me as presumptuous. (The rest of your comment is quite interesting though.)
Faith herself might disagree :/ The sisters have spoken about how their mother constantly reassured them they were beautiful after people bullied them for the colour of their skin. I'd say the latter probably played a bigger part in any dampening of Faith's personality, and in fact Faith and Angel themselves have heavily implied so. Blaming one woman for all of this seems awfully reductionist.
Also, you use some sociology-esque terms tbh and it's worth considering parents fleeing from civil war in that generation did not have the benefit of reviewing extensive literature or (crucial as it is) Internet navel-gazing beforehand like you did.....
You simply don't have enough info to write off her whole motherhood based on a dated 10 year old
Even though I respect the fact that the mom is trying to raise Faith according to African culture, I think she should also realise that she is seriously harming the kids' social lives by not allowing them to go out after school. Kids meet friends in schools, but build friendships after classes. If a kid never hangs out with them after class they end up being left behind by their friend group.
I think they should allow their kids to hang out after school, but have them always inform the parents where they will be and have a decent curfew.
agree
My parents never let me go out once I went to the pool and just cause I came back 15 min late I got hit bad .: today I don’t socialize I’m more of a loner .. my parents never verbally said ilove u or anything like this more of a toxic setting where parents don’t have to say thabk u to the child .. so know with my daughters it hurts but I am passing that to them and idk how to change it because I lived this way my whole life it sucks
@@esmevelasquez5617 I think you should go to therapy for yourself and for your children because the cycle should not be continued. No matter how difficult it is, try to remind yourself to be understanding and kind to your kids. It's fine to be strict and have rules, but remember how it was for you growing up.
So it's okay to let kids unsupervised? Hanging with their friends without even knowing where they live or where they are going? She is totally right to tell her to go home after school so she knows where she is; and if they want to hang out, they can plan it before hand and at least know the contact info of the children's parents. No one wants their kids roaming around tryna get kidnapped
@@maramra393 if you'd read my full comment you'd have realised I made the point that the parents should always be made aware beforehand that the child will be going to a friend's and the child should be able to be contacted by the parents to check in on them.
The Point of this video, however, is not that Faith could not go out to her friend's that day, but that she is NEVER allowed to meet up with friends after school, because she is supposed to stay busy doing her mother and father's jobs. That is why I said she should have been able to go out and meet friends outside of school.
Letting her hang out with friends actually helps her with her Korean so the mom needs to let her play and learn with her friends 💕
i understand that their situation right now is really hard considering that the parents are always so busy but i really hope they stop being so strict with faith. It doesnt matter if children in africa only goes out when they turn 15 because faith is born and raised in korea. Plus,shes only a kid so please let her have fun. This will cause her trauma mentally. making her do chores at such a young age and pressurimg her in school alone will ruin her childhood. Please, let her be a kid. She never asked to be born in the first place, it was simply the parents' desire to have children. Stop giving your children unendless pain and trauma. They do not owe you anything.
It must only be in liberia cos i was in sierra leone and we went out all the time
It's kinda already too late faith is now a teenager
She's 15 now
Exactly. She’s old enough to do chores and things of that nature but she’s not allowed to play with friends. It makes me a little sad. Healthy balance is key.
@@armymydaycaratnctzenatinyaroha lol I’m Sierra Leonean too but I live in Texas I’m literally turning 18 next month but I still have to be home by 9 :( and literally all of my friends have party’s late go out later and have fun while Im stuck at home
Faith's teacher is a wonderful person! This is what teachers should be like!
AWWW the friends are so cute toooo hahahaaha She defo had a blast. To think she have genuine friends that would invite her over. I dont have that kind of childhood so it makes me really happy when I see kids living their life
Man that teacher of Faiths, what an amazing guy. I think that teacher deserves to be praised he goes above and beyond not only to help the kid with her school work but to advise her mum to try and help her more ... that guy is my hero (and he doesn't have a cape)
It seems the child is like a maid instead of a child. I do agree she is too young to stay out late or stay in a friends home. But after school activities can help with mental and emotional stimulation. Going to the park to jump and run for 30 minutes can improve on energy. 🥰
Hi favorite editor!! *waves aggressively (but respectfully)*
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He's so funny tho. I saw his small edits I was laughing alone lmao
@@wheresmykookiesat I agree 😭
THE YUMMY EDIT IM CRYING
I really think that's nice of him, hopes she gets its,,
Respect to the teacher for making her mother understand that her daughter needs love and learn not alot of chores
Their hair is killing me 😭😭😭 just want to come through the screen and fix it up
💀🤣 it’s been through so much
Same 😭😭😭
Yooo me too 😭
Fr
no fr😭
All i need in life is someone to take proper care of this little angel's hair
The little boy at 9:31 😂💕 Like he’s someones wise old grandfather.
The edits and the captions. Bruh the editor is HILARIOUS.
who me? 🤡
I know!! Is not the same as watching my neighbor Charles
@@k-doc467 hahahahaha
@@k-doc467 yes you homie 😭🖐🏾
Agreed! Just began watching these today and the captions are so funny haha 😆
That dog looks like he’s been through so much…
needs saving
Lol did you see the way it looked at the camera like it was on an episode of The Office. The poor thing was like get me out of here.
@@OutrageousGlamour 🤣 😂 😆 💀
#saveme
Nobody have heard about timestams??
Her teacher is so patient with her ♥️♥️♥️ that’s awesome
This is definitely a eye opener. I really love these episode and especially this one, because you see Faith her mom opening up and showing a weak side of herself. You can clearly see that she really cares for her children and the fact that she took time to go towards Faith her school and talk with her teacher says a lot to me. I cried when she cried. And she really openend up for her to make her happy. Faith’s friends are also adorable and really considerate of her and tries to help her as much as they can. So sweet I wish these episodes could be longer
8:29 WTH was that?!?!🤣🤣🤣🤣
I can't with the edit. For real, the editor never disappoints 👏❤️
I feel like I can relate to Faith a lot, my parents are also immigrants to America and every time I ask to do something like hang out with my friends outside of school they bring up the fact that I’m African and should not try to act American. I’m almost 15 and I’ve never hung out with any of my friends outside of school, I understand that we have to stick to our roots but at the same time it doesn’t hurt to try and adjust to the norms of the country ur living in.
As I’m growing older I’m noticing myself becoming more quite and reserved because all I do once I go home is take care of my siblings just like Faith I remember being in the 4th grade and having to come home to my 10 month old baby brother and having to take care of him instead of doing my homework or hanging out with my friends. Even now I still have to take care of my siblings like I’m their parent. I understand that my parents do a lot and helping them is ok but at the same time helping and actually having to take on that role is a huge difference.
I never really tell my parents about the way I feel because of the way I was brought up. I can’t even hug them, even the thought of it makes me cringe. I feel that because my parents try so hard to stick to our roots and imply this on me they lose any and all affection towards me.
sorry, thats tough...didnt realized how strict Africans are to their children.
@@kimckawa I’m not implying to all African parents just mine and majority of them. There are still a few of them who aren’t like that.
@@aishaba2809 Well you sound very smart, mature for 15yrs old. My advice to you as someone whos much older is that when you're ready for relationship ensure your partner's family is open, affectionate, generous..also be kind and patient with yourself, it will take time. thats one way to heal from it and be happier. Wish you well.
Normally don’t reply, but I can relate to this so much and I assume, because of your last name, we are from the same background. I encourage you to find safe spaces outside of your home to focus on school (i.e. college prep programs that you can attend after school, staying at school after classes to do homework and participate in after school programs). While hard, don’t use your parents’ irresponsibility as an excuse for not achieving success in education, which as children of immigrants is our main means of making a decent living in the West and not living off of welfare. Be respectful, but REBELLIOUS. I graduated 2nd in high school, attended an Ivy League college, and now work at one of the largest tech companies. I lived in a house with 13 people before I left home. It was chaotic. The same parents who called me selfish still call be selfish because I will never go in to debt for them, but at the same time they speak highly of me in our community and tells my siblings to be more like me. Focus on school and getting into a college where you can live on campus. Don’t give into the pressure of getting married young as a means to escape home. Or you will repeat the same cycle of behavioral poverty of our parents. Set high standards for yourself.
The kid with glasses is so wise and kind
I thought the same like he’s a 50 year old man trapped in a kids body lmao
I love how her friends came over and taught her about Korean which she finds hard to understand in school. I thought for a sec that they'd go and play after sharing a meal together - considering they're only 9.💗
So many here slamming the mother for not letting Faith hangout with friends and have fun. Lets be real here, any parent wouldn’t be happy with their kids just taking off after school to play till it is dark outside. Anything can happen to them even in the safest of countries.
You're misunderstanding my friend. Yes, she pointed out how late in was, but she also referred back to her African culture which I've noticed she does quite often. That's the issue people have. Now there's obviously nothing wrong with that, but she has to remember she's in a country with an entirely different culture and you have to assimilate. She can absolutely raise her kids in the African culture, but she also needs to embrace the Korean culture as well seeing as they're living there. Otherwise you get a culture clash which will make it very difficult for them to assimilate and to make friends. You need balance.
I'm from Jamaica and when I was younger my mom wouldn't allow me to go to my friends house, even now that I'm a teenager Im still not allowed, every household and culture is different
@@Hhaggot I only leave my house to go to shop school or a day out
Thats not even it she literally told her she cant hang out with friends till 15… not even the same thing anymore
It’s the work for me. So many chores for child. There is no balance. Add the ridicule and mom has stripped away her very essence.
She is working so hard at such a young age, lots of respect for her.
I felt bad when her mom scolded her but i understand that she herself is helpless
taking care of house and working outside is not easy and accepting when she was wrong, respect for her mom!!
Her friends were so nice. They really wanted to help her!
I’m on the verge of tears. I think part of the reason I keep binge watching these videos of the kids and their parents is because I’ve been trying to heal my childhood traumas and seeing myself in fate when she’s 9 and silly to the camping video and she clearly has baggage going on, really hits home for me . I was always bullied by my teachers in elementary school for being different and my mom would get mad at me for them bullying me bc she saw teachers as almost high rank officials. Seeing this teacher understand and see fate rly makes me 😢😭😭 I’m wishing fate confidence and happiness 😭😭💛
It was sweet watching Faith play with her friends. I hope that she realises her wish to become a model.
my heart melted really hard for these kids (the family and Faith's friends) and the moment of her mother and her teacher
Whoever was doing the subtitles need a raise🤣🤣🤣 the ‘cries in dog’ and ‘go off queen’ got me😂😂🤧
Her friends are my favorite.. Children just have a way of making the world seem a little less dark❤❤☀️☀️🌞🌝
I'm sure she will fulfill all her dreams ☺️☺️
A mom's love for her kids is the most complex, deep and POWERFUL thing.
I don't know the editor is girl/boy but I think he/ she is kind person with zero racist behavior🙂
Racism is a serious global issue that needs to be talked about deeply more often. I just hope one day we will see a world without discrimination! ❤️🩹
@@k-doc467 I love your comment 💓 You're right.
Children thrive better when they’re happier and their bellies are full! Faith keep up the great work!
That mentor kid 😭😁he is so mature
I think I understand how when Fate went to the camp with the other kids she didn’t talk much because she wasn’t allowed to visit with her friends as a kid and had to do chores at such a young age not being interactive with other kids
I see a lot of people bashing Faith's mom. People have different upbringing, although Faith seems to be taking alot of the brunt in the circumstances we've seen. But she's obviously doing her best amd teaching from her experiences. She was clearly remorseful at the end and is trying ro adapt
She can't even comb her child's hair she's not a good mother
Now we are beginning to see where the timid part of faith started from... she has shot herself in ... too much burden to bear as a first child you know... it’s common in all family... I hope she finds herself back
wow who are u to say that, that is why she is timid now, I'm also a first child and more or less went through wat Faith went through in terms of practically helping to raise my siblings...and from wat I've heard in the comment section she also went through bullying and other things so I don't think her mom is the sole reason for her timidness, wat she goes through as the oldest daughter is not exactly a new thing and many oldest daughters in Africa(and other parts of the world) can relate, especially if ur from a single-parent household or both parents are constantly working to make ends meet. I admit it's not a great thing for such a young child to do all that but given some situations there aren't always many options especially if the other siblings are still too young to help out... this superiority complex some people in this comment section have is baffling me, maybe it's just ignorance on you alls part
@@jessidiary4884 what exactly is your point?
@@zeezona939 my point is that u and many others in the comment section have assumed things u dnt know about and it's another case of many people in the comments acting as if they are all psychologists
@@jessidiary4884 - Agreed. Unless they have hidden video equipment, no one knows precisely what goes on in a home. Those comments are nothing more than speculation.
I understand the culture difference and different ways parents raise their children but Faith is still a baby😭 I wish she could experience the fun of childhood while time passes by. I know her mother is trying her best and I wish them the best
هذا الأستاذ حقا رائع وأمل من كل أولياء الأمور ألا يقسو على أبنائهم في الصغر لأنهم بحاجة إلى اللعب والدراسة و الأشغال المنزلية يمكنهم تعملها عندما يكبرون لأن سنهم الصغير هذا بحاجة إلى الحب والدفئ وأنا أيضا ممتنة لأمها لأنها تسعى للأفضل لأطفالها . أتمنى لكل شخص السعادة كونوا سعداء 💙
Oh I’m crying. I understand how a mom hurts when she feels like she’s failing her child.
Her mom reminds me of my Afghan mom. She would never let me go to my friends house, or even walk outside anywhere. She said it’s a bad habit and it’s unsafe. Now i’m older, I have bad anxiety going to other people’s houses lol. I went to my friends house for her bday, and I left after 1 hour.
I feel like anyone can have their opinion but only when you’re in the situation you’ll fully understand….
I feel the same way about my mum and now I realize how adulthood is hard for everyone despite people’s backgrounds especially financially and time-wise. I still wonder how they managed to raise us without going crazy.
Everyone is doing their best. You can see both mum and Faith have an understanding and are willing to understand each other. Her mum feels so bad that she’s been overworking Fate but she tries to improve and reminds herself she’s just a kid💪🏽🥰😍Seeing that is relieving and sure they’ll learn to live happier. It’s not the most ideal situation but this is life. It’s different and harder for most , especially when you’re dark skinned.
“Go off queen”😂✋ please I love the captions , I wanna be friends with the editor
This hit me right in the chest. I feel for both mother and daughter. I was in that same position as faith. And now that I’m 26, I see what her mom is going through bc that’s what I saw my mom experience.
The kids are getting smarter these days. Glad to see the boy mentoring Faith. So sweet ❤️. He seemed wiser than his years. A mini grown up. 🙏
editor never disappoints 😏☝️
i was gonna comment that looool he or she is ENJOYING the damn video
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Awe she has such good friends, this video made me cry a little. Gave me flash backs of my horrible childhood as well, unfortunately my mother didnt care that she hurt me and put me in a child mental hospital saying I was depressed. She blamed me for everything that happened, even in her "adult life" in which I knew nothing about. Now I'm in my 30s, happily married with 2 sons of our own. I tried to allow my mother into my life just so she could know the children, the first thing she did was say foul things about our son and his down syndrome and neglect him while baby sitting. We were livid, she hasn't been allowed to visit or home without being chaperoned by my grandparents. She wasnt even at my wedding and told people to pray something would stop us because I was marrying a white man. Glad this baby doesnt have an evil mother like I did. Our community seems to have a pattern of being cruel to their children and calling us disrespectful or ungrateful if we mention it.
The teacher is amazing so patient
Bless Faith’s teacher for giving her mother another perspective and hopefully open her heart to Faith’s need to be shown love and giving her a chance to be just a child. I understand the parents struggles in life and the pressure this has put on the oldest child. I understand as I was that child many decades ago, cleaning, cooking and helping with groceries. Very tough. I hope Faith, Angel and siblings grow to have wonderful happy and fulfilling lives. I hope she becomes a model as her heart desires! She is beautiful inside and out ❤️🙏
Aww faith actually tried to tell her mom that she’s different than the kids raised in Africa 😭 children should be heard more when it comes to stuff like this
Its like im watching my childhood. I used to be really outgoing and really confident, but being the eldest daughter in a household that had parents who were to busy to “parent”, never let me hang out with friends outside of school, expected me to know how to do everything without instruction, let out their frustrations on me.. it kinda breaks a part of ur spirit. im not blaming anyone, its just an unfortunate situation. and whats worse is when ur older, u dont even realize how much you’ve changed.
kids are so pure, it's this time and age where you dont care about how another looks, their gender and stuff as long theyre fun to be and play with. It reminds me when i was a little kid 🥺🥺
i remember having friends of all kinds as a little kid and being the jokester type (kinda)... _now im that loner quiet kid with social anxiety_
There is one thing I’ll like to talk about. That child is having a normal African education. I’ll take my country’s example, Senegal 🇸🇳. We girls are taught house work from childhood, at her age I used to do the same chores as her. Parents do it so as not to let the child grow lazy, and for her to know how to do something with her 10 fingers. I’ll forever be grateful to my mum for teaching me all those basics
Faith’s friend lecturing lolol
Wish everyone has a teacher like him!
I love seeing this so much, it’s reminds me of my younger times. I grew up with multi cultural people and this just bring me back to the older days for some reason 🥰
I actually think it’s the reverse of what the mom said.
Childhood is the best time for social learning and development. It’s the time to make friends and grow in the knowledge of how to interact with people.
And then when you’re 15 you take on responsibility and hit the books 😆
Kids are literally the cutest 🥺💖💖
Soft life, I wish for faith & her siblings a soft life.
Poor baby. No wonder she became too withdrawn when she grew up 😢. I really hope she gets to find herself, be happy and achieve her dreams.
Competition in Korea is very high and even as Koreans, it is not so easy. So it must be much harder for her as foreigners.
The kid at the end of the video is right. Faith needs to be more exposed to other Korean kids and hang out with them more.
If she will continue to live is S.Korea, it would be the best way for her to learn Korean and cultural things.
Also, the friends she will make along the way in her childhood would be the most valuable assets to her in terms of adapting to the Korean society.
Really.. it was a good decision for her mother to allow Faith to hang out with her friends more.
I’m on the verge of tears watching faith and her friends eat, then the editor takes me out. 😂😂😂 I need to know who edits these, they need a raise!
Truly made me emotional I know the feeling being the oldest of five all I ever wanted was to give my mom a better life five kids on your own living in Chicago in the projects life wasn’t easy this truly hit home I helped her by working care for my siblings
I can understand why her Mom is very protective ..
As someone who was raised by African parents and born in another country (Canada) my parents let me hang out with friends but I couldn’t just go without asking first and telling them where I was, who I was with, and when I’d be back. I don’t agree with Faith’s mom that kids don’t hang out with friends until they’re 13 or 14. I’ve never really heard that from other African parents before. One thing I do know that many African diaspora kids aren’t allowed to do is sleep overs. I went to a few growing up but it was only ever with families that my parents knew really well. As an adult I understand why they weren’t comfortable with us going to sleep overs but hanging out with a friend is another thing entirely. I think it’s important for Faith to have close friendships that she establishes from a young age especially with middle school and high school approaching. That’s such a rough time for many and it’s important to have a good groups of friends to help you through it. Especially considering immigration in Korea is still rare and bullying will probably be an issue she and her siblings will face.
They keep saying, “that’s not how we do things in Africa.” And I understand wanting to keep tradition because it’s a comfort thing for the parents. This is a new culture for them, so falling back on what they know is what’s comfortable, but they did come to Korea for a better life. And part of giving the kids a better life is adjusting to the new culture. Having friends is a good thing. It’s a good thing that she can go play with those little girls. Not only is she building those bonds for life, but you never know where those friendships can lead her in life. Friends are important for kids. They give them a support system. Let her hand out with her friends. The parents should get to know her friends and their parents too. It’s part of building a village. I say all this as a kid who grew up in a foreign country with an immigrant parent. I wish I were allowed and encouraged to have friends. I wish my mom made an effort to know my friends and their parents. I’m sure I would have had a much different life than I have today. It would have made the burden and trauma of being poor a little better. My heart breaks for Faith. I see a lot of my self reflected in her.
i relate to faith. ive always been quite shy with teachers and adult strangers, but could be quite expressive, energetic, and outgoing when i was with my friends and family. when i got to middle school, i became a complete recluse. for me it was the new social pressures, but also a gradual compilation of traumas and expectations from both peers and my parents. my friends would get annoyed by my energy and weird comments they used to laugh at, and i would internalize that and stop talking to them completely. they hated how i dressed, who i hung out with, and what things i was interested in. and my parents wanted me to be their molded version of their ideal child. you cant please everyone. but the pressure to do so can definitely be soul crushing.
I feel soooo sorry for Faith🥺 she's a kid. Let her have some fun with her friends!!!! She needs that to help her grow and be social!!!!
Aww so cute her friends were helping her write her words 🥰
This is an interesting role reversal. It's usually Asian (esp Korean) immigrant parents in the West who are strict. You see Asian American or British East Asian kids being like "why do I have to work in the shop, and why can't I go to my friends' house to play like all the other kids?!"
Here, it's an immigrant parent being strict in an Asian country. For both Faith's mum and Korean parents in the West, they are strict because they want to respect their home culture. But most of all, they desperately want their kids to succeed as 2nd gen immigrants, instead of staying dirt poor like they currently are. They believe being strict will help their kids break the poverty cycle.
Faith's mum clearly cares a lot about her and is trying to improve. We are all learning as we go along :) and that plump lil naggy boy is so cute and helpful lol
In Korea, it's very dangerous to be outside the house after it gets really dark. Her mom is really worried.
@@Whattherockiscooking perhaps, but I meant the general context of her strictness in all aspects of Faith's life
@@TheHothotheatlive ahh then yes, I agree with you
What is interesting to me at least is that African parents are known for being as strict as Asian parents in America it’s just that for most people in North America(or the west) don’t necessarily witness that because they are outside of that culture lol. Most people who grew up in an African household will most likely agree. I think the difference comes with the identification of black people in america. A lot of the time, black people are generalized as African Americans although not every black person in America is subjected to African culture. Also, of course the obvious part is that not every black person is from Africa haha. Black culture is completely different to the many parts of African culture which is different from the many part of the Caribbean islands and so on, although there are similarities.
@@ashwam604 - Very true. Black people are not a monolith. It took my leaving home and then associating with Black people from around the world to fully realize that although we share genetic origines from Africa, culturally speaking I am no more "African" than I am "European".
This reminds me of my parents. I didn't visit my friends house until I was at least 14 years old. My parents did not let me go hang out afterschool. After school, it was straight home and homework. Rinse and repeat. I was thankful for my parents because they're upbringing help me become to what I am today. I had seen many of my classmates drinking and doing drugs at a very young age. most of the girls in my school were pregnant by 14.
It's one thing to expect your children to do chores. It's another thing to expect ONE child to do chores. (#notcool) When I was in elementary/middle school, I wasn't allowed to go IN to people's house unless my mom had already approved them. I agree that this is a good safety rule but there was always a family or two that my mom approved.
That said, I think what all of us have to remember is that the mom and dad are refugees from a war torn country. They're in survival mode. They haven't been to counseling to process their PTSD. They haven't learned about child development. They're also under financial and social strain living on a foreign continent. Nearly every parent thinks their kids are "soft" because they have a life that's "better than we did." This is just a more extreme example then most of us are used to seeing.
The commentary just makes everything better
Fact : faith has more friends than me
i relate 😀
@@k-doc467 Editorssi, i think you are a lovely person 💜
This makes me cry because I am an adult now raised in an African household . Iam afraid to fail. This video really resonated with me.
Growing up in African households, it is hard to experience affection. At one point you may think your parents don't love you but they do through their actions.You barely hear words like I love you or i believe in you. I believe it is due to the fact that our parents went through hard times that toughened them up so they are not verbally affectionate.
Please stop generalising
Faith has a fun and outgoing personality☺️. Hope mama will let her have her time to have fun because her happiness counts too🥺.She’s just a child even tho you need to teach her about chores but every time you ask her to do something will get yourself spoiled.
Why she's so harsh to Faith? 😭
I understood her worries because Faith came up late from her friend's house but treating her like that is just too much for me.. 😔
Thats how african mothers are, they want they child to succeed and know how to do basic life skills, like cooking and cleaning but they go about it the wrong way, cuz of they way they were brought up
@@vibewitjoy Not all African parents are like this, I am Nigerian myself. Faith's mom is especially strict because she is from Liberia which had a serious war for many years recently.
I was born and raised in America but I am also Liberian. I truly believe Faith’s mother wants the best for faith as well as all of her other children. I just think faiths mom needs to be more easier on faith and let her know she’s loved. I am grateful that my parents who are Liberian always let me be a kid and I always felt loved no matter the circumstance. I wish faith and the rest of her family love and happiness.
This editor😭🖐🏾 I need them in my life
Her Koreans friends are just adorable. I feel sad for Faith, she seems to carry a lot of her age. You can tell she is energetic but because all the works she does, she get tired at school.
선생님 너무 좋으시다.
This episode just hits. Im glad she has the friends she has theyre so sweet and they find her fun
Editor, I love your captions. You make me smile 😆
Idk about y’all but I was BALLING my eyes out when the mom started crying
Honestly it’s sad that a whole other person has to tell you that YOUR child is not feeling well. Like, I would be devastated if someone else told me what was wrong with my kid, because they couldn’t come to me and talk about it.
Even now, my aunt and my grandparents have to talk to my mom just for her to agree to something, because she rarely lets me do anything.
I'm glad those children have accepted her