Narcissus (Greek myth) was so in love with himself that he fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. He died just looking at himself. That’s where the word Narcissism came from and they failed to mention it and it should give you a better understanding of it.
...doesn't tell why Narcissus evolved like that. I mean: you must be stupid if you only let others define yourself and you loving them unconditionally...no matter how bad they treat you in return.
@razr wave usually stems from childhood trauma from parents. Or at least with me that's what I've learned through therapy. I was that guy who would try to make it work till my entire world was upside down.
As an INFJ myself, I can relate because I met a covert narcissist and it heavily damaged me. According to C.S. Joseph, we highly empathetic people have a deep need to identify and get rid of bad people in our lives; this "door-slam" mechanism should be reserved for the Cluster-B people as it protects us from internal damage. Do you know your MBTI type?
@@cringesh1t427 I found it! Search for "INFJs, they’re also mirrors. They mirror behavior. If you put an INFJ in a group of bad people, they will become bad." in the transcript mentioned previously.
Interesting, I used to think I was a dark empath, bc of my dark thoughts, but I hate lying, and manipulation. I prefer to get what I want through brutal honesty, then at least in this why you can't say I lied or manipulated you, plus usually I don't want to use other people, I like to do things myself. People most of the time disappoint me. I expect a lot out of myself, and in turn my close friends, but it's usually too much pressure.
of course they would. If they have an understanding of their narcissism deeply, which they do cause theyre fucking dark empaths, they would be ble to manipulate them quite easily. Especially if they know what their weak points r
@@temueraclones Narcissists also have a extreme sense of self importance and feeling of superiority over others, anyone can be manipulated it's just a matter of who is more socially intelligent.
Dark empath manipulates to PREVENT… not to control… the bottom line reason is not simply to control.. we don’t care to control anyone.. but we care that you don’t try to set me up…
I was married to a narcissist. I knew within six months that it a mistake. He tried to project what he was doing onto me, but I always knew it wasn't me. So, divorce was the only option.
Huh, my Ex often told me I'm a narcissist and try to gaslight her. She did this in an effort to gaslight me tho - I never screamed, she did as soon as she disliked a discussed topic. I never got handsy, she liked to push me when she got irritated. In reality, I'm closer to a twisted Dark Empath. Twisted because I don't get annoyed by people selflessly and/or innocently doing good - while I take freedom to judge, counter and manipulate those that would do bad without any higher reasons. As for relationships, I don't truly understand love and I want to experience it - in that effort, I can nod my head for a time and try my honest attempt at talking about problems, but when a calm and communicative approach gets instantly demolished by a partner, there is a point where I look in their face and suddenly realize - it's not worth it and my intention of trying to find happiness to share has failed, at which point I try to quickly and safely end the relationship. Just logical, the more hatred is around the more likely it gets for someone to try and sabotage my life, and I can't have that. Essentially, I play a near constant good person to fit in a calm environment, trying to achieve happiness somehow and function as a person. Any actual dark urges, I take out on those doing negative stuff to others in an effort to seem justified in the eyes of others, boosting their trust in me and thus making life even easier overall. I love/hate this life.
I’m a dark empath. I use my attractiveness and charisma to get connections and help from people, but Im not cruel (unless it’s revenge, and I’m working on that). I hold strong boundaries with friends and acquaintances because I know I’m not a reliable friend unless it benefits the both of us equally. I’m aware of myself and no longer feel guilty, I was the result of a narcissistic father and people-pleasing mom, both codependant and conservative Haitian immigrants and I’m making my own way and re-programming myself.
@@sandrashane677 I’m really flaky with people which is why I have a tough time keeping friends (being unreliable). It might not be the worse but it’s not the best
When someone says, I Use... All I see is someone manipulates using fleeting beauty. What happens when you become sick, deformed? This seems a shallow pointless attempt to seek attention with no true self love. 😳😿💦 Just my view for what it is ty. 🥰🙏I avoid people such as this like ebola is coming. I have no tolerances for such a person. Shallow as a bowl of water pretense of being a lagoon.🌚🙏
Agreed! I don’t easily trust people who call themselves empaths. Sometimes they’re harmless & well meaning. But that’s something I have to sort out before I give them access
My psychopathic father was such an excellent dark empath that, while he was severely abusing me, he had everyone convinced that he was one of the sweetest and most sensitive people they'd ever met. In addition to this charm, he managed an amount of charisma that was only undercut by his flakiness, alcoholism, and slips into open self-pity. Nevertheless, people have always been captivated by this deeply and compulsively cruel man, calling him "impressive" and "quite something." Despite the horrors of his psyche, which I know well, his immediate presence can overtake people with a joie de vivre that's hard to find in life. In the moment, they will pay anything for this, and they may pay dearly if they get too close to him... I joke that I am Satan's daughter.
@@N.asper02 Child abuse by parents is surprisingly common. Children are far more likely to be abused by people they know, including relatives, than by strangers. Part of the reason for this is that predators realize that it's easier to control close relatives and, say, parishioners and students and keep them quiet.
My father did the same thing…it’s so crazy that the traits you just said 10/10 is what he was…but would say the nicest things abt me to the outside world…I think it was tactic of controlling narrative and environment for manipulation, while he continuously dished out abuse at home
@@NavidKhan84 I agree about controlling the narrative and the environment. In my father, there was an element of narcissism that isn't always present in psychopaths, but he, too, would talk up us kids to strangers and colleagues. Control seems to be important to both psychopaths and narcissists, which I imagine they find convenient. If I read him right, my father gaslighted us both for fun and for the challenge, as if it were a sport.
they play the fassade on the outside and are demons on the inside. My father was known for his poetry and generosity to all. He passed last year and I have a difficult time telling members in my extended family what the truth was. He was not authentic because his outside life did not reflect his home life. But they all think they can continue to hold their love for him dear, when at the same time 'understanding' my pain. Well no, folks. Once you are told the demon someone was, you have to make a choice. Either you trust me and start seriously reviewing the world you have lived in with my father or you ignore what I said and you continue living in your fantasy world in which my father was a 'good' man. Its horrible to see that others can't face the truth. I am losing people who are good people because my father played a fassade of love and care with them.....
My psychologist once told me that I show all of the traits and signs of dark empathy. I am currently in therapy once every month and trying to change myself. This video helped me to understand myself more.
Question: Can someone be a "part-time" Dark Empath? What I mean is; can one be deeply Empathetic as a rule yet, in order to deal with a burdensome individual or get through a difficult situation, turn to the "dark side" just to resolve these obstacles, then return to "normal"?
No , i have empathy yet my pain is higher than my empathy ,yet i have not despite the pain tried or attempted to inflic pain on another i just live with the pain instead . Some may though
I don't quite know. I have told my family recently exactly what I think of them and made fun of their nonsense trying to gaslight me. In my view they fully deserved what they got. Mother, brother and sister all narcs in variations. I showed their schemes and mentioned how they were saying things to me but doing other things and how they were manipulating me. I wrote this in emails so each one could see what I thought of the other. I would not do that normally with anyone, but these people have manipulated me so badly over the decades, they needed to be told in my view. If that hurt their sensitivities/feelings as a narc, I am sorry, that is not on me, but them. I have gone no contact with them now. So in my view, as an empath, it doesn't take my empathy away if I occasionally fend for myself and in the process it hurts someone (who frankly as a narc is constantly oversensitive to anyone daring to criticise them anyway). I did it in full and open view of each one of them, because I can't stand manipulation. I don't think that is dark empathy. And if someone is a narc now I just let them go straight away. I don't have time for counter manipulation or something like that
The love of my life and I are both very intelligent, narcissistic and empathic as a result of childhood traumas. But both of us determined to adhere to truth and honor. It was on when we met. Took us about four years to be comfortable committing fully. But in spite of our difficult personalities, we have grown together and have had more with each other than we thought existed. We added Death Before Dishonor and Word Is Bond to the traditional wedding vows. Some of us dark and selfish personality types are also victims, often from earlier in their lives. The point is we both hold ourselves to a higher standard and we recognize that we will inevitably not always agree. So conflict resolution and willingness to say sorry are indispensable. Otherwise we would each have one Vd more divorce. Instead we are still with our best friend and lover. It’s not so much the type of energy that you have. It’s more how much you are willing and able to harness your dark side instead of letting it destroy what you want and have. -Matt’s dad😮
The amount of people acting like they are a super villain in here is cringe. Great dude you called your wife a narcissist. A regular Bonnie and Clyde power couple ur super interesting and deep apparently. Us mere sheep stand no chance.
Can I know what makes a dark empath? From a young age, I lied almost about everything, only because I feared I'd get into trouble if I didn't. I stole a lot, but never from family members and friends, because I wanted to preserve their trust, I was violent as a child, fighting often, and being liable to anger. I am better at controlling this now, but it has now transformed into resentment. For years I have spent time alone, away from family and friends because I feel like an outsider. My complicated childhood made connecting with people difficult. I never had the same people around me for long. When I felt I had made a connection with a person, I'd be moved away. I know a few of my close friends and work bosses are narssacists. I've realized dark personalities take to me, from my friends who are involved in the street life, selling drugs, violence, etc; to my people in high positions. I'm very manipulative, often not to people who I believe are trying to be good, but to those who I feel have a dark personality I'm manipulative and tend to act vulnerable. This I believe is a tactic I learned because of my dad. I went from living with my mother from birth till the age of six, to living with my father from the age of six till the age of ten, to then living abroad with cousins of mine. I believe I'm a little bit of a narcissist because I was always praised from a young age by my mother, she'd promise I'm destined for greatness, and even today after not seeing her for 18 years of my life she still promises me these things. Living with my father was different. He had me through an affair, so I was always treated differently by my half-sister, his oldest child. During the early stages, I'd fight with her whenever I felt she went too far, but my father would always take her side, so I stopped. This is when I became her punching bag. I won't go into detail, but I was admitted to the hospital because of how she'd treated me; my dad never seemed to care much when things like this happened. She loved control, but would always act like the perfect child to my father and others. I think she loved picking on me because I was the youngest in the house, she probably saw that as having power over me. Because I was made through an affair, in the eyes of everyone around I was a burden/bad omen, so no one seemed to care when my sister would do these things. My culture is quite narcissistic, we were made to care about how we appear to others, but not in a healthy manner. We had to act like we were perfect to others. My dad and stepmom would fight, throwing things at each other, and my dad would threaten to throw me out into the harsh streets of Nigeria and never allow me to return. When my father wasn't home my sister would lock me out of the house until he was on his way back, my sister would wake me up at 5am in the morning, beat me, and tell me to do her chores before she came home later that day, all while telling me she loves me and showering me in affection. There is more to go into, but I won't. There are a good 14 years I will skip. Today at the age of 24, I've realized I don't trust easily. I push people away often, and I'm good at recognizing lies. I can be intimidating, only when I feel a bloodlust, which doesn't happen often. I like walking through graveyards at night, often I'd sit, and eat in them. Academically am challenged, but I am emotionally intelligent and have common sense. I don't believe I am intelligent, but I am told I am intelligent once I open up and talk about my interests; socially I am awkward, I am bad at small talk, I am observant, I participate in not-so-good things because I am bored and they give me a rush, I am often used as the muscle by my street friends because in the world of crime, I'm not stupid and I am willing. I think I only do these things, in a rush, and for someone to owe me one. I don't like people doing me favors, or owing people things, I feel vulnerable if I do. My pain tolerance is high. I am unstable in relationships, often leaving first and I don't know why. I feel I can't be myself around others, because I don't know my true self. People I have grown closer than usual to often have autism, ADHD, PTSD, etc. My dream is to build a community or family where I feel like I fit in. I box, I can punch hard, and I am skillful, but I often hold back from punching. I sometimes enjoy being punched in the ring, and because of this, I am good at taking punches. I crave power and wealth, I have observed how people treat others when they have these things and I like it. I understand there is a pecking order, but I don't care much for figures with powers, like the police. I have been arrested, and I acted innocent (I was), which made them willing to trust me. I can be brutally honest, but family members seem to like it. I am impulsive. There is a lot more to write, but I don't want to share those here. I also don't see the need for therapy but would like to try. People come to me with their problems, because I am good at understanding when they explain. I give people my time and listen to their problems, even if I don't want to. I don't seem to care much unless I imagine myself in the person's shoes. It doesn't matter who they are to me. I see getting arrested, or in trouble as annoying, but nothing more. I can be very calm under pressure. I break the bones in my hands to make them grow back thicker, I often experiment like this on myself. I feed cats in my area, and I love animals. I get along with animals better than I do with people, but I have urges to dissect dead birds when I see them laying around. That began to scare me after the Dharma documentary. This is all for now. 13:34 GMT 26/01/23
The first step in the journey of improvement is self reflection. You are on the right path. Don't be scared. Building takes time. And u are literally building yourself from scratch because you never had anyone to build u. So be kind to yourself (always talk to yourself as you would to a loved one who means a lot to u) and be gentle with yourself (give yourself the benefit of a doubt; you're only human).
We have a lot in common your not alone. Your step sister was horrible and I’m sorry you went through that torture😢. I can’t even imagine the stuff you don’t want to talk about. Give therapy a chance and find the one best fit for you. I think your human and having human experiences and your expression a lot of shit ppl don’t speak about out loud. Thanks for sharing.
Why is this so true TvT.. the manipulation game between my narcissistic ex and i was interesting since that was my first relationship.. it made me realize how i manipulated her by letting her manipulate me in order to make her open up to me ,but she was hella guarded she'd only 'open up' by using emotional manipulation on me whenever she thinks I'm being distant, which made me angry yet i did nothing but boost her ego and played along since i have more patience than her and my goal was to keep her.. but by the end of it, i genuinely want to form a real connection with her ,which made her dumped me almost immediately, after i showed her that I'm not gonna play along anymore by pointing out her obvious manipulative tactics.. all she did was deflecting taking zero accountability.. I only find out that she's a narcissist and i might be the dark empath after the breakup.. after i stopped letting my feelings blinded me.. i knew all along.. but i wasn't aware of the whole dynamic.. i knew she'd be the one to sabotage the relationship that's why I've been playing along stroking her ego but my desire for genuine honest connection ruined the dynamic 😅 she was surprised when she knows that i know , she raged like never before but due to her covert narcissistic behaviour, she ended turning into the victim as usual, and it was my fault for making her rage but we never actually get to addressed what she did prior to that
I know a 17 year old girl who is the very definition of a psychopath and a narcissist. (Not related to me thankfully) Her boyfriend I believe is a dark empath. It seems like he has her wrapped around his finger. Which has perplexed me until now. It would also explain how the relationship has lasted this long.
This is possible, but he may also be an Invert Narcissist (aka a Covert Narcissist 9, look up those profiles and see if that gives more insight. Basically, covert narcissists are only happy in relationships with another narcissist.
If she's 17 years old and living at home, there's a chance you're not seeing genuine psychopathic behavior. She could be mimicking a parent's behavior, as kids do, thinking that their parents' behavior must be the right way to do things. It's uncommon for two psychopathic types to be in a relationship together because psychopaths prefer to have an easy mark or victim. However, there are the occasional "Bonnie and Clyde" type pairings. It would be more typical for the partner of a dark empath to be narcissistic.
You're so educational, you made me go from not ao conscious to being completely aware of my surroundings so much more often than I used to and I can't stop learning. Thanks man
I was close to this one guy for a few years, and we quickly became friends after meeting in my junior year of high school, he was super charismatic, he seemed to be able to talk his way into basically any group and sort of just shrugged off the ones that he didn't, he loved talking about himself and his achievements as well. over time I started to see a lot of the things he had bragged about or whatever to just be lies I just kind of rolled my eyes at a lot of them. I eventually called him out on one super obvious lie that I was able to easily prove, it was interesting to see how he legitimately seemed to believe his own Bullshit, even with evidence to clearly show he wasn't telling the truth he stood by his statement and eventually changed the subject.. at this point I started watching him pretty closely seeing as he was heavily connected to a lot of my good friends and a huge influence on them and other people as well, and this is when I noticed he wasn't only a chronic liar he was also a thief, he would go to the store and he would come back with way more than he actually paid for (what was listed on the receipt ). we both played trading card games and Peoples cards would go missing a lot of the time when he was around and later he would have the same cards that had gone missing claiming either traded for it with someone or pulled it from a pack. given the nature of trading card games it wasn't an easy thing to prove and anytime someone would call him out on it , he would talk his way out of it and or get pissed and leave, he also liked using the things he stole as gifts for people I noticed seemingly to gain favor or whatever. the only time I ever caught him stealing something that he stopped was when I caught him trying to steal my DSI, he played it off with something like "Oh hey I think this dropped out of your bag". my ultimate breaking point was when we were all over at a friend's house for the weekend and for said friend's birthday party and the guy I have been talking about was there as well, we all had a great time but then a week later the friend who's birthday it was had been asking people if anyone took/borrowed some games from him listing off a list of a good number of games, but I had remembered that I saw the guy at gamestop a few days prior trading in those exact games from that list...a lot of which I was sure he never owned considering they were not his type of game the dude was into RPG's and a lot of the games in question were FPS games .... what really sucks is that when I told my friend I litterally saw the guy trading those games in towards a copy of skyrim he went and talked to the guy and just bought his lies, he then turned it around on me and made it sound like I was just out to get him and I was just a toxic person who shouldnt be trusted... they are still friends with eachother to this day the guy even leached off him for a while moving in with my friend and a couple other people... one of the guys who lived with them even tried to call him out on stealing a large sum of money from him once and my friend once again took the guys side its disgusting how wrapped around his finger he has him... anyways safe to say I have ended ties with both of them at this point I wish my friend the best and I just hope he eventually wakes up and see's the guy for the asshole he is..
My best friend is a narcissist and I'm a dark empath. We've been friends for more than 10 years and grew into these personalities. Instead of butting heads, we're just a force to be reckoned with.
If true, and accurate, then you two are not "friends"... more like symbiosis between two parasites... not so much a friendship, because friendship is based on loyalty, selfless actions/sacrifice, authenticity, and an unconditional love/emotional connection... which a true narcissist (as in the actual personality disorder) isn't capable of, I was married to a covert narcissist for too long, I can see right through them and spot their nonsense. I used to hate my ex, but after seeing her for what she really is... I sincerely feel sorry for people like her with NPD/PD's.
Why the need to manipulate, either ask or say what needs to be done. Being truthful without an agenda. Maybe some people are so busy planning and scheming that they forget to ask themselves why do I need to do this?
Thank you for your good work. I am happy to say that after listening to 6 of your videos, I conclude that I suffer with co-dependent issues and most definitely do not have dark empath issues. 🌝
8:18 No part of the connection is genuine? How could you ever determine that? What if a person has a dynamic personality and can adjust to his surroundings, is that being fake or emotionally adaptable? Sounds like a witch hunt to me. You’re going to end up incorrectly labeling someone innocent and turning them into a dark empath.
Me personally It doesn't make sense, but doesn't mean it's not possible. Im Still skeptical though But from my experience and understanding, a lot of narcissists and sociopaths started out as empaths or HSP but had been abused so badly they developed a personality disorder.
No IMA real dark empath I'm like a bully to a narcissist. The narcissist think 🤔 I'ma Empath 🪄 I am but play schizophrenic mind 🎯 games 💔. It's like playing Freeze 🥶 tag with Freddie Krueger. IMA Schizophrenic Dark 🌑 empath. IMA only child that don't have any Rules .I knew I was Different from other people at a very young age we just didn't have the Label Dark 🌑 empath, or Dark 🌑 Triad. emotionally adapt is Tru but somethings I just don't like such as jail. schizoaffective disorder and jail don't work for me I need to be Free.
I think I teeter on the edge of dark empath, but I'm not ambitious. I've displayed some traits in stressful situations of living conditions but not super sure about today. I will say, I think growing up around a strong narcissist makes it easy for someone to develop empathetic traits and use them as need be to keep safe. planting arguments, building confidence and supposed understanding, subtle thought planting, etc. Might have just been using simple behavioral patterns and psychology to my advantage as a defense mechanism or maybe dark empath? I don't twist my friends though, so I know "teetering" is the closest i could be, not a real dark empath.
@@oraculoobeso9939 that's scientifically inaccurate, but what's more odd is the strange nerve this seems to touch to you that you'd poorly comprehend my comment and reply so strongly.
you hit the nail on the head there for me. Its the intention. when I am away from my family of origin, all narcs, I feel liberated and dont' feel like I have to hide myself or enter into games. I brought my family up quite normally, have a few lovely friends, which was only possible because my husband is as straigthforward as it will get. That tells me if I had grown up in a normal family, I would never had the needs to shout at others or make sure i am competitive enough to hold my own, all those narc behaviours that were necessary to survive in my family of origin. I am 59 now, have gone through decades of soul searching and it has taken me that long to have recently gone no contact with the narc mother, brother and sister. The father, also a narc, recently passed. He was authoritarian and I have finally been able to free myself from all of them.
I knew someone who was a grandiose narcissist; and she really had dark empathy. She was quite able to read people. She would rake people over the coals, and gaslight. On the other hand, telling her of the slightest mistake (she made) would send her into a nuclear meltdown.
I think it's important for us to further our understanding of personality types and disorders so that we can get people the help they need in order to avoid being menaces to society. I want there to be more and maybe better help available because... maybe I have a dangerous personality type. I don't necessarily want to always be viewed as an outsider, an outcast, an enemy or a target. I want to live... just not the same as the norm.
@ruledbyvenus1859 my point was that we could prevent people with dangerous personality types from victimizing anybody in the first place if we could get them the help they need early on in life. Are you seriously so short-sighted that you're content to allocate resources to damage control rather than addressing the actual root of the problem? 🤨 Yeah... let victims keep piling up because there's no point in attempting to guide/counsel people born with a predisposition to some negative character traits. 🙄
@@carlschultz3970 I like your comment. And the openness with which you approach this. Very raw and endearing. Your point about the root cause of the other commentator was brilliant. Early days are the key here, early development for children in broken families or in my case children born with illnesses that cause issues later in life, especially by parents. We live and we learn.
Having to heal from a dark empath or the dark triad is difficult and a very vulnerable place to find yourself. If another finds you , they have a field day with you , letting you think you are safe and healing in their care, when nothing could be further from the truth. THese types of people are so dangerous and will have you questioning everything about yourself. The emotional toll it takes on you and your family is disgusting, because the stress can take away some of those members of your family, which you then believe is your own fault.
i think that there is no such thing like a dark empath or the narcissist is the dark empath because narcissists do feel cognitive empathy but not affective empathy ( sympathy ) and cognitive empathy is all about understanding other's emotions and thinking that's how exactly the narcissists manipulate I mean how tf can someone manipulate you if they don't understand your thoughts and emotions and the thing you are talking about in the end seems like a covert narcissist because the end signs are about covert narcissist
These were my thoughts too, there is no such thing as a "Dark Empath"... ask any psychologist, or look in the DSM-5... you'll find no such thing. And don't get me started on the ridiculous label of "Super Empath" lol.
Desperation brought out the dark empath in me . Faced with homelessness and 2 babies to care for , one having asthma, I found a woman who was a soft hearted soul and worked on her , made myself indispensable to her then b4 she knew it I moved in with her . I still help her as much as I can, and I live in her large comfortable home and my 3 and 4 year old are safe and healthy and not surrendered to the harsh welfare system .
Just tell your kids that she is your sister or aunty/cousin that way your kids will listen to her if you ever need to go out or get a job for extra money to raise because kids not cheap.
LOL @5:37 "your kindness will go a long way," every narcissist watching this just subscribed. Something which seems to be overlooked is narcissists prioritize reputation over controlling people because they know that reputation establishes trust which is a component in manipulating people. People who babble on about how concerned they are for others are narcissistic when they don't actually believe in the hardships that they are claiming they have empathy with are accurate or even relevant. The problem with this is that narcissists in particular will lie as to whether or not they actually care about the unfortunate circumstances of others. So if the say they care about an identity group because they feel that group is socially persecuted, you can just assume that they don't really care about that whether it's true or not because their motivation revolves around their reputation established by an appearance of caring. Social media rewards these people as often status is an integral feature in these platforms with "likes" or an echo chamber of comments, the ability to delete comments, sharing posts, as does politics, as does philanthropic gatherings. Their primary interest is how people perceive them, therefore we should not be surprised to see narcissism being discussed more as the importance of reputation in society seems to be ever increasing. And though a dark empath and a narcissist might not associate well, it's well established now that narcissists will actually work together to build each others reputations in society, this falls under the concept of mass formation psychopathy which has at times formed subcultures.
He just describes me very well. its shocking how all of my traits are like the ones he explained. Im not proud to be like that, because the process is so natural to me thats its just a norm. and sometimes insensitive enough to recognize that i am being toxic and manipulative to others.
I personally am proud of the darkness in me, helps initiate and see more clearly the light that is also there. So what if I'm manipulative, and sometimes violent I'm also charming, reliable, and (for all that is mine) caring.
@@captainalex157 i dealt with these types. It's not edgynesss, some people are born inherently good and some are born inherently evil and I learn from old age and wisdom and experience.
LOL, I thought I was a good guy with a dark inner, but this video made a lot of sense to me. I do the things said there, and I'm really good at reading people's intent and emotions, but I never resort to lies, looks to easy getting what I want through lies, I'd rather convince with facts and comparations/examples.
My youngest sister is a dark empath. She knows me in and out and attacks me with my own weaknesses- which she enjoys. Same with my grown daughter. I got too old and exhausted to be able to deal with them and their attacks, and finally I had to walk away in order to recover. Too bad.
I’m an empath with 90% narcissistic friends. Most of these narcissists are grandiose, some covert and some malignant towards me. Being around them has just made me aware of who they are. Lack of empathy, inability to own their mistakes. It has given me a spiritual awakening to see they don’t see the world the same way I do but has made it easier to not waste my energy on their negative agenda. I can walk through their world without abusing my empathy for power. That hasn’t changed. I still just want to help people but would rather help fellow empaths who are being destroyed by these narcs, clouding this world with negativity
I am a dark empath and I married a narcissist. What happened? I left him when he least expected. He had no supply lined up to take my place so he was lost. He recovered now but the harm was done. I don’t feel guilty bc he is a horrible person who hurt many people before me, and will continue to harm people. I feel sorry for the empaths. Yes, ido have empathy.
I think i am empath 100%. I read peoples good or bad intentions very fast, sometimes not even fully understand what their intention is but simply if its honest or dishonest. But if i am dark empath or not is a very hard to analize about myself. I know for the fact i manipulated people even those i love to get what i want. But overal, over many many years, meeting many many bad people with really bad intentions made me hate any sort of manipulation. Therefore i think i have changed since being a teenager. I simply started to hate injustice more and more as i kept seeing it everywhere. And thats why i believe no type of character never stays the same, its dynamic of how you percieve the world as you are learning about it and experiecing it.
I think we have too many labels for personalities. I think the bottom line is, anyone has the potential become any personality, everyone has the power to change, I think its best to not worry about how you are but just be yourself let the rest sort it out, cause for me seeing all these videos its easy to find pieces and parts I fit in, but were all unique individuals, we've had our traumas etc. I say, just do you, life isnt so serious, get into meditation and just exist lol.
Until you get traumatized or someone realizes you SAY one thing (this) but then you DO another (psychotic narrcissist that probably eats people in their musty crawlspace. Or not, maybe you are just a program living life on the information superhighway looking for your AI match? WHO AM I TO JUDGE?
in truth however these personalities are less then 20 to 10% percent of the human population, however, they are all in positions of high power, as normal people have too much empathy and break under pressure. But monsters? monsters don't break. However, society have to keep these monsters under control for our own ends. They are tools, without them we are leaderless. Our species work in strange ways and only God knows why we're like this.
I am sure that I have empathy, because I can easily read peoples emotions and feel quickly when something is wrong with them. Mostly I just kinda avoid talking to them so they have some time alone or I just don't care. Sometimes I even provoke them a bit if they are in a bad mood. I honestly don't feel bad about it, I feel nothing. When people cry I have to act that I care so that I don't seem like heartless and careless. Last sommer I swam in the pool with my cousin and some friends of her. I talked a bit with her friends next to the pool and I was fully dry. But then my cousin splashed the water to make me wet. Out of revenge I jumped in the pool and pressed her under the water. After 1-3 secounds I pulled her above the water, told her to breath and pushed her down again. I did that two or three times and I had fun. But then I looked at her friends and they looked kinda shoked. I panicked, so I pulled her up again and said: "I am so sorry. That was to much. Are you okey? Sorry. " The thing is, I didn't mean what I said. I just acted like it because I didn't want them to think I was crazy. Another case is. I was watching ski sports with my parents and someone had an accident and fell down the hill. Everyone looked shoked but I wasn't. I felt nothing. I know there is something wrong with me but at the same time I don't care
It's all about labelling soulless monsters. I don't care how you call them; psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, machiavellists, dark empaths or whatever. They all lack souls, are pure evil. We must learn to detect them and stay away from them. They aren't human. Take care, brothers and sisters!
they are great tools to use as surgeons, lawyars, and Politicians/CEOs. People with souls will break under pressure in this positions and seek a normal life. So monsters are needed to instill power as they lack fear, but we the people have to keep these monsters under watch.
You’re actively trying to segregate whilst people come here to learn; nobody deserves to be dehumanized by a society that fears them. That’s how the holocaust happened and why we will learn from it.
After some research, I think I have schizoid personality disorder, (def none of these dark empaths or whatever) or at least all of the symptomes line up. I do also have some traits from psychopathy as well though. Hard to pinpoint anything, can't even put proper words on what I experience. Not trying to be edgy, im just reserching because my personalty is causing problems in my family. I don't really care but I can't afford to be potensially thrown out. They ask "are you like this at work too?" No, at work/school im not real at all. Nice, quiet, polite and easy to get along with. When im relaxed im indifferent and cold, maybe rude? This was not a problem till my mom got a boyfriend for the first time, who pointed out some thing that were unusual, that made them more aware of it I guess. They also don't seem to realize whatever it is im doing wrong may not be a concious decision. Pisses me off when they continue lecturing me, and each time I can't see whats so wrong. I do my housework, and I try to keep to myself, where im most comfortable. Gotta move out when I earn enough to rent
Tbrh, I think I don’t attach to anyone cause I’ve learned from a young age that people are horrible. Personally, I try to fake being happy and stuff but like I end up still being crushed so in the end I just implode with the stuff I just stuff inside my storage. Idk, I’ve given up caring about narcissists and all that stuff. Cause in my eyes, everyone is.
I actually am a dark empath. First figured it out like three years ago. Very informative video. I have actually shared this video with people who say that I am a narcissist. Nope. Lol
It's a lot more fun to manipulate others with the truth than with lies. Plus, people will find less fault when you use the truth. Even when they do, it's usually not enough anyway.
I'm a sadist & have clinical lycanthropy, gives you sometimes the feel of a wild beast , for instant a wolf, both can be controlled Dealt with a covert narcissist, no contact for 3 years, saw the mask dropped after 24 years, looked like a total stranger, didn't knew that those disordered people existed before '20
Well I can't say what I'am, I never was good at deep and maintain relationships, though in every move I make I'm thinking which will be the best way to attain to my goals
I found out a few years ago that my dad was a narcissist. I always knew there was something off about him because our relationship never seemed genuine. I've never had to ask myself if my mom loves me, but I've always had to ask myself if my dad loves me and I don't think I'll ever know the real answer. He used religion to control me and my sisters growing up and when we had our falling out, he used it and every one of my mistakes and character flaws against me while deflecting responsibility of what he had done. It actually blew my mind especially when I realized that I had never heard him apologize for anything ever. I apologize to wife all the time, even for stupid shit like clumsily stepping on her foot or bumping into her because I wasn't paying attention. I've never seen my dad do anything like. His punishments were always extreme and I wonder if he was projecting on me or if it was he didn't want me to be like him. I've cut him completely out of my life and abandoned my faith because it feels like it's just something he can use against me and it also feels like he gets what he wants if I keep my faith and I refuse to allow him to have anything over me.
I’m a mix of a normal and dark empath I can turn off my feelings and still understand how someone feels but I won’t put others above my own stability. Most empaths give away too much or don’t know how to gain power so being a bit of a dark empath helps.
My mom is a dark empath, she's a "giver" but will always talk about it behind your back and she is always the victim in every situation. She loves and thrives off of gossip, she is not trustworthy at all.
I only found you because of the algorithm of an unsubscribed non profiled account. Anyway I have been diagnosed with ADHD major depressive disorder antisocial personality disorder bipolar 1 and bipolar 2 post-traumatic stress disorder however now I realize that it is borderline personality disorder that accumulates the sum of my mental health. However watching your programs now I've come to realize that I do bear personality traits of both a narcissist and the dark empath. And it can also be quite psychopathic. I try to be a good person and I think genuinely I am. I make a conscious effort many times over the days course to not give in to various behaviors I would consider Denigrating or excessively manipulative of a negative consequence to others. I can be very charming even witty. I am divorced I've only just recently been able to follow through with things, from building a model airplane to making an appointment and keeping it. And that's not steady endeavor. I try be like everyone else that seems happy. I don't try to pretend to be happy I'm a finlander this is how we are however the innocent traits of innocent souls is what I try to embody I t shouldn't be a matter of try. I come from a nuclear family with two loving biological parents I was never abused or beaten or who-knows-what so I guess I'm kind of at a loss for how I ended up this way. Yeah life's a funny thing
I admit it. I was a dark empath when I was younger....but I know the difference..... Manipulation. I use to be a bully but I stopped. I stopped intimidating people. It's not nice. Dark Empaths know what they are doing.
@@SimplyCapped My concious does not allow me to get "dark" because I truly believe in karma; all your wrong doings will come back to you in one form or another.
@@SimplyCapped I believe that there are more dark empaths who can switch to be empaths depending on the situation that they are in and how people have treated them in the past.
@@zoraidita2022 thanks for the reply. I categorize myself as empath and the people who run into me view me as a saint of some sort. Those same people have also used and abused my soul… I believe their actions over a decade have pushed me more to the dark empath side. I don’t like that at all. It is actually difficult to even talk about myself but honestly I’m seeking something to better my life. Being an empath has made it really difficult and it’s insane how much I and prolly other empaths have done for others but we are not fulfilled. I have looked into my soul and I am able to see the dark empath come out. I’m going to try to my best to leave the dark empath side because I acknowledge it now. I’m a successful single good looking man. I am not boasting, but my whole creation of who I am has been a blessing and a curse in my adults years. Is that understandable?
Is it bad that I find this more fun and educational, than something to become aware of? Lmao. I like learning more about myself and how others might describe how I think. At least it's not like all the times that people try, yet get it wrong. Not the biggest fan of psychiatrists, but this was a fun video.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. He was no amateur, I assure you. The game was so well made that I bet the devil wanted some tips. I got depressed, but I was kind of fascinated by this person. Like, how can he lie, use, manipulate, cause pain and be so indifferent? After the scare, I started to pretend empathy. I gave him some cookies. Told him what he wanted to hear. But I noticed that I'm always one step behind, there's no way I can compete with a mind that is just mathematics - no feelings or emotions - in which the focus is just winning and hurting. I know he wouldn't feel anything even if his mother died, but I still managed to "play" with him a little... I made him prove, even if just a little, what it's like to face manipulation, inconstancy, indifference, superficiality and deception. I became something like a dark empath, in which I found myself laughing like a maniac after planning and carrying out each of these actions. I noticed that a narcissist doesn't get sad, just bored and angry, but that's something, isn't it!? 😋 and they never give up on you! Then you can play around with each of your attempts. Sit down and plan, make him/her surprised and, in the end, give him your (fake) pity and... Dignity recovered!
I just figured out that I was a dark empath I'm in a relationship but I actually love her with all of my heart and it's genuine sure I may have used a few tricks to get her but she is my everything
You can't "love" someone whom you deliberately have not been honest with and who does not really know you. I don't really care, but it's an illusion, a lie you tell yourself to feel good. You're not alone though. It's nothing new.
Narcissists are either oblivious to, or otherwise don't care for others emotions and also outwardly behave like so. Dark emphaths on the other hand understand and respond to others emotions on the outside but only to their own gain as they couldn't care less either.
Im definitely a dark empath But I learned long time ago it's a lot easier to win people with sweet little truths and little biter lies i call it a mask i can turn on and off my emotions and always feel others and i can carm dam near everyone lol I spoke to my boss 3 times before he started talking to me about his alcoholism and about how much crap is going on at his house
This is sort of bogus. What's being described as a "dark empath" is a narcissist with cognitive empathy. It's understood and can be faked but it's not real because it's not felt. Someone truly feels empathy would not want or attempt to regularly lie, dominate or manipulate others. So this "dark empath" sounds like what HG Tudor refers to as a "greater narcissist" who has self-awareness of their narcissism along with cognitive empathy.
in other words: all bathrooms have a toilet but not all toilets have a bathroom. the toilet being the narcissist and the bathroom being the dark empath. time stamp 3:20
Considering a dark empath is a combination of the 3 triad traits mixed with empath you more then likely have some narcissistic traits in there but the main one is Machiavellian. Narcissists tend to not be able to empathetize
So in school last semester I encountered this dude that I met through my bestfriend. He would always make jokes about how strong, smart and better he was in every aspect as a joke. He was always trying to prove that he was the best at everything. Me and him would clash heads on the daily, especially since I had my UA-cam thing going on, and doing good for myself. He would make rumors and tell me bad things in hope that I would stop. I then realized he is a very narcissistic person (or dempath), correct me if I’m wrong, and now we wait until the next time we meet…
Is it possible to be a dark empath and be fully aware of it? Like the person is able to verbally and mentally accept it. Or is this trait is only considered when the person is in that bliss state of not self awareness or acceptance? Im slowly self learning about these topics in psychology i always enjoy reading others opinions on the matter. Ive learn that psychology helps big time in our lifes
Imma like and reply to this comment because I don’t know the awnser but I want this comment to be seen by more people, it is a very interesting question.
@@Whoisashotn yea man. The best example i can give is when people are in a toxic relationship and are blissful to that fact. They put up with alot they wouldnt usually. Then when the relationship is over the snap of the bliss and realize everything. That bliss state could be a key factor is most personality traits. If maybe that could be the key to prevent extreme consequences in the long run. My example isnt the best but i hope it gets my msg across.
Just as everyone has good, everyone has bad too. There are no absolutes, we all have these traits on a range. We all have a touch of ADD but some people have more on the range/scale and need special learning skills or medications. Everyone has narcissism or dark empathy just some have very little while others have too much.
Oh man, AI suggested this video to me😅 are you trying to tell me something? Maybe I’m an empath that got sick of narcissists and decided to embrace my power ❤
@@tablescissors I’m going to make sure that Andrew and Tristan tell the truth for once and face what they are really doing. They drew too much attention. It’s their own fault. They wanted to play ball with the big boys. Just another big fish 🐠 to me 🤨
@@tablescissors The AI algorithms are what I’m referring to . But thanks for thinking you need to put me in check. That’s what I don’t like about people 🤨
@@loriann1506 What you don't like about people is what you see in yourself, in actuality YOU are trying to hold others "in check". I would suggest that trying to do so, particularly via such online remarks, is fruitless and absurd. Although, of course, you are free to keep pursuing such actions.
@@tablescissors are you a life coach or something? Obviously you think you know everything, but know nothing of which you speak. My guess is that you are a sociopath.
I just have quit to a job where my exboss had exactly these two personalities mixed up, i feel really free quitting that job cuz it had truned so toxic and stuff and my exboss was having a really bad behavior, my mother died last week and the dude was so desperate and almost trying to forced me to show up to job when the law also gives me 3 days of mourn and rest for me to later show up to work, dude kept up calling me and also coming to my home (wich obviously i didnt come out) i told him that he was harrasing me and disrespecting my time, personal space and situation, i ended up quitting cuz that was on my plans before, but maybe i didnt want things happen like this but well, a clearly example of somebody who doesnt care about other heavy or really bad situations like this my mothers death, im ok with that and all, thats life and we must go on, ill start working again on my new job on monday but honestly, cutting relation with that type of people is the best thing we can do for our mental and physical health.
Uhm. I know 2 narc and one of them stole A LOT of money from his family members, only ever rly cares about his looks (literally), is a cheater and a huuuuge crybaby. And he can manipulate the living hell out of you, is emotionally abusing his gf (he does whatever he wants & doesn’t care about her feelings, but if she tries to do that, she already knows he’ll make her regret it). You never know where you’re at with that person, because they can seem really flattering too. The other one is extremely manipulative and a chronic liar as well, you think you’re close to them but when given the chance they won’t mind hurting you & lying about things you’ve said and done to put you in a bad light and themselves in a better one. You’re not a narcissist if you’re simply insecure. Everyone is insecure. Do you excessively manipulate the ones you care about and don’t mind hurting them (and not feeling bad about it afterwards) because it benefits you in some way?
@@theonpointheavy4401 ok good I thought I might be a narcissist without knowing it but I don’t put myself before others, I guess I’m just a very messed up kid
@@michellekarst3537 thank you for the very in depth explanation, I would never hurt or steal from my family in any way so I do believe that I am just insecure thank you again for this it has helped me a lot
Does troubled people are necessarily bad? Do narcissists can do and be good? If you’re doing good things and behave yourself in a good manner but from your ego… does that mean you are bad? Does one need to be empty to being “good” or you have to be “someone” to do good?
I am working on changing my personality type, as a dark empath my behaviour has led me to a lonely life, everyone has left me and i can not maintain a romantic relationship. I have now isolated myself and I am working towards a healthier mindset.
I understand your irritation with these videos and it's true some don't talk about this stuff in the right way. Also the game of life isn't as simple as it used to be. There are new things, beliefs, ideas, etc that makes the world more complicated. So do you think that most people have the natural ability to navigate the world or do they need to learn and be taught how to?
I agree. I wish those who call themselves followers of Jesus would truly follow his example, teachings and revere his suffering for us. There is no greater love, no greater source of peace, no greater guide from the darkness, if we merely reach out.
It's a strange feeling when i hear content about Drak Empath. Why? because it sounds like me a bit. The only thing that makes me feel that i'm one; is because i could see myself doing some of those 'things' to naricissist. Like a kind of a 'judo' move when they cross the line. And it really scares the 'f*&#' out of them. Like they thought they were messing with an 'ant' and see that they woke up a 'deadly dragon'. And it always come out of intuition never because of pre-calculated behaviour. I was raised in a very harsh enviroment: war, physical and mental abuse. Had to learn to fend for myself and help out my parents who had suffered plenty to raise me. It's like the environment carved me to what i am. I'm a big believer in God, whatever brought me here will bring me home. And i believe God never makes mistake...if i'm the way i am it's God's plan. I was carved by his hands. If any know about the sacred book the 'Bhagavad Gita' - the Song of the Lord. I'd be someone like Arjuna when it's time to engage in battle, i do what i have to do and the outcome is God's will. The environment i was brought up made me see many things at a very young age...i used to think it was a curse until it came out to be a blessing. The inner strenght is so vast, it's scary.
A narcissist finds it very difficult to think poorly of themselves although they may put on a show of doing so for others, and will change their behavior only to get what they want, but will stop caring when they no longer can. They want to be in the limelight and do what they have to do before anything else, to maintain a charming external image towards others. Whereas a straight narcissist can become overly cocky and expose themselves with too much of a hero/Victim spychology and potentially aggressive outbursts, a dark empath from my experience will adjust themselves moment to moment to reflect and mirror and guilt trip according to your emotions .i think if there's a way to catch a dark empath narcissist, it's guilt tripping, subtle manipulation, trying hard again to keep you only when they think they're about to loose you, and changes in how they interact with other people, and maybe catching subtle but important changes in their story from you to the next person. As well as words that don't add up to their actions frequently. Also look to see how much energy they expend outwardly in public verses in private when they don't think they have to win you over. Play hard to get suddenly and see what happens. Either they charm you or they guilt trip you.
Narcissus (Greek myth) was so in love with himself that he fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. He died just looking at himself. That’s where the word Narcissism came from and they failed to mention it and it should give you a better understanding of it.
That's how I was taught as well. Years ago. Like 15 years ago.
...doesn't tell why Narcissus evolved like that. I mean: you must be stupid if you only let others define yourself and you loving them unconditionally...no matter how bad they treat you in return.
@razr wave usually stems from childhood trauma from parents. Or at least with me that's what I've learned through therapy. I was that guy who would try to make it work till my entire world was upside down.
@@Recovery-Dawg Definitely.
ive learned something new thank you.
I demonstrate cognitive empathy and false empathy to those who exhibit characteristics of narcissism, which has almost turned me into a dark empath.
exactly
As an INFJ myself, I can relate because I met a covert narcissist and it heavily damaged me. According to C.S. Joseph, we highly empathetic people have a deep need to identify and get rid of bad people in our lives; this "door-slam" mechanism should be reserved for the Cluster-B people as it protects us from internal damage.
Do you know your MBTI type?
@@k.c.sunshine1934 how do I find that?
@@cringesh1t427 I found it! Search for "INFJs, they’re also mirrors. They mirror behavior. If you put an INFJ in a group of bad people, they will become bad." in the transcript mentioned previously.
That's right, dark empaths are meant to be able to counter narcissists, and usually aren't bad.
Interesting, I used to think I was a dark empath, bc of my dark thoughts, but I hate lying, and manipulation. I prefer to get what I want through brutal honesty, then at least in this why you can't say I lied or manipulated you, plus usually I don't want to use other people, I like to do things myself. People most of the time disappoint me. I expect a lot out of myself, and in turn my close friends, but it's usually too much pressure.
What do you call this then
I’m kinda in the same boat
Same
@@behemoth2887 you call this a human being. we are all complex
Are you Virgo Sun?
Some Narcissists are so focused on themselves that they're unaware of their actions as opposed to Dark Empaths
I feel like a Dark empath would very easily manipulate a narcissist, especially a naive one
of course they would. If they have an understanding of their narcissism deeply, which they do cause theyre fucking dark empaths, they would be ble to manipulate them quite easily. Especially if they know what their weak points r
Not wrong lol, I know from experience.
@@temueraclones Narcissists also have a extreme sense of self importance and feeling of superiority over others, anyone can be manipulated it's just a matter of who is more socially intelligent.
@@Rs2Hackzltd tru
Right
Narcissism is more ego-driven, dark empath is manipulating 2 control. .
No difference.
@@sana-cm7ocdifference
@@sana-cm7oc no narcissist or more for self where dark empaths tend to be introverts
@@sana-cm7oc you can sacrifice your ego for control
Dark empath manipulates to PREVENT… not to control… the bottom line reason is not simply to control.. we don’t care to control anyone.. but we care that you don’t try to set me up…
I was married to a narcissist. I knew within six months that it a mistake. He tried to project what he was doing onto me, but I always knew it wasn't me. So, divorce was the only option.
Period girl 💯
I was too but too long over 15 years
Huh, my Ex often told me I'm a narcissist and try to gaslight her. She did this in an effort to gaslight me tho - I never screamed, she did as soon as she disliked a discussed topic. I never got handsy, she liked to push me when she got irritated.
In reality, I'm closer to a twisted Dark Empath. Twisted because I don't get annoyed by people selflessly and/or innocently doing good - while I take freedom to judge, counter and manipulate those that would do bad without any higher reasons. As for relationships, I don't truly understand love and I want to experience it - in that effort, I can nod my head for a time and try my honest attempt at talking about problems, but when a calm and communicative approach gets instantly demolished by a partner, there is a point where I look in their face and suddenly realize - it's not worth it and my intention of trying to find happiness to share has failed, at which point I try to quickly and safely end the relationship. Just logical, the more hatred is around the more likely it gets for someone to try and sabotage my life, and I can't have that.
Essentially, I play a near constant good person to fit in a calm environment, trying to achieve happiness somehow and function as a person. Any actual dark urges, I take out on those doing negative stuff to others in an effort to seem justified in the eyes of others, boosting their trust in me and thus making life even easier overall.
I love/hate this life.
That's not a real reason to get a divorce.
You're just weak.
Same story like fr
I’m a dark empath. I use my attractiveness and charisma to get connections and help from people, but Im not cruel (unless it’s revenge, and I’m working on that). I hold strong boundaries with friends and acquaintances because I know I’m not a reliable friend unless it benefits the both of us equally. I’m aware of myself and no longer feel guilty, I was the result of a narcissistic father and people-pleasing mom, both codependant and conservative Haitian immigrants and I’m making my own way and re-programming myself.
Ok, this does explain my dad then.
that doesnt sound dark
@@sandrashane677 I’m really flaky with people which is why I have a tough time keeping friends (being unreliable). It might not be the worse but it’s not the best
When someone says, I Use...
All I see is someone manipulates using fleeting beauty. What happens when you become sick, deformed? This seems a shallow pointless attempt to seek attention with no true self love. 😳😿💦 Just my view for what it is ty. 🥰🙏I avoid people such as this like ebola is coming. I have no tolerances for such a person. Shallow as a bowl of water pretense of being a lagoon.🌚🙏
"Attractiveness", bahahahahahaha.
'I'm an empath' is usually a sign that the person is emotionally dysregulated and projecting this onto others.
Agreed! I don’t easily trust people who call themselves empaths. Sometimes they’re harmless & well meaning. But that’s something I have to sort out before I give them access
if a kid says it, I assume they just learned the word and are trying to build up their identity. When a adult says it, I immediately know they're sus.
I'm an empath.@@caseyb1346
Bingo
People that claim virtues are usually the opposite, the abilities should be apparent.
My psychopathic father was such an excellent dark empath that, while he was severely abusing me, he had everyone convinced that he was one of the sweetest and most sensitive people they'd ever met. In addition to this charm, he managed an amount of charisma that was only undercut by his flakiness, alcoholism, and slips into open self-pity. Nevertheless, people have always been captivated by this deeply and compulsively cruel man, calling him "impressive" and "quite something." Despite the horrors of his psyche, which I know well, his immediate presence can overtake people with a joie de vivre that's hard to find in life. In the moment, they will pay anything for this, and they may pay dearly if they get too close to him... I joke that I am Satan's daughter.
I bet every ASIAN DAD is the same...lol . pretty weird you got abused as a daughter
@@N.asper02 Child abuse by parents is surprisingly common. Children are far more likely to be abused by people they know, including relatives, than by strangers. Part of the reason for this is that predators realize that it's easier to control close relatives and, say, parishioners and students and keep them quiet.
My father did the same thing…it’s so crazy that the traits you just said 10/10 is what he was…but would say the nicest things abt me to the outside world…I think it was tactic of controlling narrative and environment for manipulation, while he continuously dished out abuse at home
@@NavidKhan84 I agree about controlling the narrative and the environment. In my father, there was an element of narcissism that isn't always present in psychopaths, but he, too, would talk up us kids to strangers and colleagues. Control seems to be important to both psychopaths and narcissists, which I imagine they find convenient. If I read him right, my father gaslighted us both for fun and for the challenge, as if it were a sport.
they play the fassade on the outside and are demons on the inside. My father was known for his poetry and generosity to all. He passed last year and I have a difficult time telling members in my extended family what the truth was. He was not authentic because his outside life did not reflect his home life. But they all think they can continue to hold their love for him dear, when at the same time 'understanding' my pain. Well no, folks. Once you are told the demon someone was, you have to make a choice. Either you trust me and start seriously reviewing the world you have lived in with my father or you ignore what I said and you continue living in your fantasy world in which my father was a 'good' man. Its horrible to see that others can't face the truth. I am losing people who are good people because my father played a fassade of love and care with them.....
My psychologist once told me that I show all of the traits and signs of dark empathy. I am currently in therapy once every month and trying to change myself. This video helped me to understand myself more.
Bro your number iam a narcissist
How are you doing now
Good luck changing your brain. I'm sorry you are this way.
Bizarre a psychologist would use such a term.
Question: Can someone be a "part-time" Dark Empath?
What I mean is; can one be deeply Empathetic as a rule yet, in order to deal with a burdensome individual or get through a difficult situation, turn to the "dark side" just to resolve these obstacles, then return to "normal"?
Using empathy to manipulate is messed up in any situation regardless of the excuses you give yourself
It makes sense to me. I often like to say that I'm a nice person, just not a good one. The inverse can be true too. A good person, but not a nice one.
No , i have empathy yet my pain is higher than my empathy ,yet i have not despite the pain tried or attempted to inflic pain on another i just live with the pain instead . Some may though
Can you be a part time narcissist, sociopath or psychopath? 🤔
I don't quite know. I have told my family recently exactly what I think of them and made fun of their nonsense trying to gaslight me. In my view they fully deserved what they got. Mother, brother and sister all narcs in variations. I showed their schemes and mentioned how they were saying things to me but doing other things and how they were manipulating me. I wrote this in emails so each one could see what I thought of the other. I would not do that normally with anyone, but these people have manipulated me so badly over the decades, they needed to be told in my view. If that hurt their sensitivities/feelings as a narc, I am sorry, that is not on me, but them. I have gone no contact with them now. So in my view, as an empath, it doesn't take my empathy away if I occasionally fend for myself and in the process it hurts someone (who frankly as a narc is constantly oversensitive to anyone daring to criticise them anyway). I did it in full and open view of each one of them, because I can't stand manipulation. I don't think that is dark empathy. And if someone is a narc now I just let them go straight away. I don't have time for counter manipulation or something like that
These kinds of videos make me question how humanity still exists...
Same 😢
The love of my life and I are both very intelligent, narcissistic and empathic as a result of childhood traumas. But both of us determined to adhere to truth and honor.
It was on when we met. Took us about four years to be comfortable committing fully. But in spite of our difficult personalities, we have grown together and have had more with each other than we thought existed. We added Death Before Dishonor and Word Is Bond to the traditional wedding vows. Some of us dark and selfish personality types are also victims, often from earlier in their lives.
The point is we both hold ourselves to a higher standard and we recognize that we will inevitably not always agree. So conflict resolution and willingness to say sorry are indispensable. Otherwise we would each have one Vd more divorce. Instead we are still with our best friend and lover.
It’s not so much the type of energy that you have. It’s more how much you are willing and able to harness your dark side instead of letting it destroy what you want and have.
-Matt’s dad😮
well said… bad intentions dont need to result in bad results if your willing to change your ways
@@robmartin5401 yep. Mid course correction.
It's kind of like my relationship too. It's crazy how well things work after a while
The amount of people acting like they are a super villain in here is cringe. Great dude you called your wife a narcissist. A regular Bonnie and Clyde power couple ur super interesting and deep apparently. Us mere sheep stand no chance.
Can I know what makes a dark empath? From a young age, I lied almost about everything, only because I feared I'd get into trouble if I didn't. I stole a lot, but never from family members and friends, because I wanted to preserve their trust, I was violent as a child, fighting often, and being liable to anger. I am better at controlling this now, but it has now transformed into resentment. For years I have spent time alone, away from family and friends because I feel like an outsider. My complicated childhood made connecting with people difficult. I never had the same people around me for long. When I felt I had made a connection with a person, I'd be moved away. I know a few of my close friends and work bosses are narssacists. I've realized dark personalities take to me, from my friends who are involved in the street life, selling drugs, violence, etc; to my people in high positions. I'm very manipulative, often not to people who I believe are trying to be good, but to those who I feel have a dark personality I'm manipulative and tend to act vulnerable. This I believe is a tactic I learned because of my dad. I went from living with my mother from birth till the age of six, to living with my father from the age of six till the age of ten, to then living abroad with cousins of mine. I believe I'm a little bit of a narcissist because I was always praised from a young age by my mother, she'd promise I'm destined for greatness, and even today after not seeing her for 18 years of my life she still promises me these things.
Living with my father was different. He had me through an affair, so I was always treated differently by my half-sister, his oldest child. During the early stages, I'd fight with her whenever I felt she went too far, but my father would always take her side, so I stopped. This is when I became her punching bag. I won't go into detail, but I was admitted to the hospital because of how she'd treated me; my dad never seemed to care much when things like this happened. She loved control, but would always act like the perfect child to my father and others. I think she loved picking on me because I was the youngest in the house, she probably saw that as having power over me. Because I was made through an affair, in the eyes of everyone around I was a burden/bad omen, so no one seemed to care when my sister would do these things. My culture is quite narcissistic, we were made to care about how we appear to others, but not in a healthy manner. We had to act like we were perfect to others.
My dad and stepmom would fight, throwing things at each other, and my dad would threaten to throw me out into the harsh streets of Nigeria and never allow me to return. When my father wasn't home my sister would lock me out of the house until he was on his way back, my sister would wake me up at 5am in the morning, beat me, and tell me to do her chores before she came home later that day, all while telling me she loves me and showering me in affection. There is more to go into, but I won't. There are a good 14 years I will skip.
Today at the age of 24, I've realized I don't trust easily. I push people away often, and I'm good at recognizing lies. I can be intimidating, only when I feel a bloodlust, which doesn't happen often. I like walking through graveyards at night, often I'd sit, and eat in them. Academically am challenged, but I am emotionally intelligent and have common sense. I don't believe I am intelligent, but I am told I am intelligent once I open up and talk about my interests; socially I am awkward, I am bad at small talk, I am observant, I participate in not-so-good things because I am bored and they give me a rush, I am often used as the muscle by my street friends because in the world of crime, I'm not stupid and I am willing. I think I only do these things, in a rush, and for someone to owe me one. I don't like people doing me favors, or owing people things, I feel vulnerable if I do. My pain tolerance is high. I am unstable in relationships, often leaving first and I don't know why. I feel I can't be myself around others, because I don't know my true self. People I have grown closer than usual to often have autism, ADHD, PTSD, etc. My dream is to build a community or family where I feel like I fit in. I box, I can punch hard, and I am skillful, but I often hold back from punching. I sometimes enjoy being punched in the ring, and because of this, I am good at taking punches. I crave power and wealth, I have observed how people treat others when they have these things and I like it. I understand there is a pecking order, but I don't care much for figures with powers, like the police. I have been arrested, and I acted innocent (I was), which made them willing to trust me. I can be brutally honest, but family members seem to like it. I am impulsive. There is a lot more to write, but I don't want to share those here. I also don't see the need for therapy but would like to try. People come to me with their problems, because I am good at understanding when they explain. I give people my time and listen to their problems, even if I don't want to. I don't seem to care much unless I imagine myself in the person's shoes. It doesn't matter who they are to me. I see getting arrested, or in trouble as annoying, but nothing more. I can be very calm under pressure. I break the bones in my hands to make them grow back thicker, I often experiment like this on myself. I feed cats in my area, and I love animals. I get along with animals better than I do with people, but I have urges to dissect dead birds when I see them laying around. That began to scare me after the Dharma documentary. This is all for now.
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The first step in the journey of improvement is self reflection. You are on the right path. Don't be scared. Building takes time. And u are literally building yourself from scratch because you never had anyone to build u. So be kind to yourself (always talk to yourself as you would to a loved one who means a lot to u) and be gentle with yourself (give yourself the benefit of a doubt; you're only human).
This 🙌🏼
We have a lot in common your not alone. Your step sister was horrible and I’m sorry you went through that torture😢. I can’t even imagine the stuff you don’t want to talk about.
Give therapy a chance and find the one best fit for you.
I think your human and having human experiences and your expression a lot of shit ppl don’t speak about out loud.
Thanks for sharing.
I'd suggest seeing a psychiatrist if you feel like you might have a personality disorder. It helps to know which one for treatment.
Dark empaths do it bc they enjoy it not from survival response
Thank goodness I'm Filipino, I'm only a light brown empath.
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Narcissists can read everyone really well.
Except their own though.
Why is this so true TvT.. the manipulation game between my narcissistic ex and i was interesting since that was my first relationship.. it made me realize how i manipulated her by letting her manipulate me in order to make her open up to me ,but she was hella guarded she'd only 'open up' by using emotional manipulation on me whenever she thinks I'm being distant, which made me angry yet i did nothing but boost her ego and played along since i have more patience than her and my goal was to keep her.. but by the end of it, i genuinely want to form a real connection with her ,which made her dumped me almost immediately, after i showed her that I'm not gonna play along anymore by pointing out her obvious manipulative tactics.. all she did was deflecting taking zero accountability..
I only find out that she's a narcissist and i might be the dark empath after the breakup.. after i stopped letting my feelings blinded me.. i knew all along.. but i wasn't aware of the whole dynamic.. i knew she'd be the one to sabotage the relationship that's why I've been playing along stroking her ego but my desire for genuine honest connection ruined the dynamic 😅 she was surprised when she knows that i know , she raged like never before but due to her covert narcissistic behaviour, she ended turning into the victim as usual, and it was my fault for making her rage but we never actually get to addressed what she did prior to that
@@LeNoir2411why do women diagnose everybody with mental health labels? Every ex is an adhd narcissistic projecter etc etc
I started to realize my ex was a narcissist but now I realize he is a dark empath. He has it but only uses it for his benefit. Cold hearted really
I know a 17 year old girl who is the very definition of a psychopath and a narcissist. (Not related to me thankfully) Her boyfriend I believe is a dark empath. It seems like he has her wrapped around his finger. Which has perplexed me until now. It would also explain how the relationship has lasted this long.
This is possible, but he may also be an Invert Narcissist (aka a Covert Narcissist 9, look up those profiles and see if that gives more insight. Basically, covert narcissists are only happy in relationships with another narcissist.
If she's 17 years old and living at home, there's a chance you're not seeing genuine psychopathic behavior. She could be mimicking a parent's behavior, as kids do, thinking that their parents' behavior must be the right way to do things. It's uncommon for two psychopathic types to be in a relationship together because psychopaths prefer to have an easy mark or victim. However, there are the occasional "Bonnie and Clyde" type pairings. It would be more typical for the partner of a dark empath to be narcissistic.
You're so educational, you made me go from not ao conscious to being completely aware of my surroundings so much more often than I used to and I can't stop learning. Thanks man
I was close to this one guy for a few years, and we quickly became friends after meeting in my junior year of high school, he was super charismatic, he seemed to be able to talk his way into basically any group and sort of just shrugged off the ones that he didn't, he loved talking about himself and his achievements as well. over time I started to see a lot of the things he had bragged about or whatever to just be lies I just kind of rolled my eyes at a lot of them. I eventually called him out on one super obvious lie that I was able to easily prove, it was interesting to see how he legitimately seemed to believe his own Bullshit, even with evidence to clearly show he wasn't telling the truth he stood by his statement and eventually changed the subject.. at this point I started watching him pretty closely seeing as he was heavily connected to a lot of my good friends and a huge influence on them and other people as well, and this is when I noticed he wasn't only a chronic liar he was also a thief, he would go to the store and he would come back with way more than he actually paid for (what was listed on the receipt ). we both played trading card games and Peoples cards would go missing a lot of the time when he was around and later he would have the same cards that had gone missing claiming either traded for it with someone or pulled it from a pack. given the nature of trading card games it wasn't an easy thing to prove and anytime someone would call him out on it , he would talk his way out of it and or get pissed and leave, he also liked using the things he stole as gifts for people I noticed seemingly to gain favor or whatever. the only time I ever caught him stealing something that he stopped was when I caught him trying to steal my DSI, he played it off with something like "Oh hey I think this dropped out of your bag". my ultimate breaking point was when we were all over at a friend's house for the weekend and for said friend's birthday party and the guy I have been talking about was there as well, we all had a great time but then a week later the friend who's birthday it was had been asking people if anyone took/borrowed some games from him listing off a list of a good number of games, but I had remembered that I saw the guy at gamestop a few days prior trading in those exact games from that list...a lot of which I was sure he never owned considering they were not his type of game the dude was into RPG's and a lot of the games in question were FPS games .... what really sucks is that when I told my friend I litterally saw the guy trading those games in towards a copy of skyrim he went and talked to the guy and just bought his lies, he then turned it around on me and made it sound like I was just out to get him and I was just a toxic person who shouldnt be trusted... they are still friends with eachother to this day the guy even leached off him for a while moving in with my friend and a couple other people... one of the guys who lived with them even tried to call him out on stealing a large sum of money from him once and my friend once again took the guys side its disgusting how wrapped around his finger he has him... anyways safe to say I have ended ties with both of them at this point I wish my friend the best and I just hope he eventually wakes up and see's the guy for the asshole he is..
My best friend is a narcissist and I'm a dark empath. We've been friends for more than 10 years and grew into these personalities. Instead of butting heads, we're just a force to be reckoned with.
Undefeatable Dimigods are what I'm looking for, but I get what you're saying.
Stf your best friend friend you both are just Rough skin Hippopotamus admit it
That's my order " 🥀🕵♂️
If true, and accurate, then you two are not "friends"... more like symbiosis between two parasites... not so much a friendship, because friendship is based on loyalty, selfless actions/sacrifice, authenticity, and an unconditional love/emotional connection... which a true narcissist (as in the actual personality disorder) isn't capable of, I was married to a covert narcissist for too long, I can see right through them and spot their nonsense. I used to hate my ex, but after seeing her for what she really is... I sincerely feel sorry for people like her with NPD/PD's.
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Yeah well im a sociopath and i do not care
Why the need to manipulate, either ask or say what needs to be done.
Being truthful without an agenda.
Maybe some people are so busy planning and scheming that they forget to ask themselves why do I need to do this?
Fact! Just be honest
It's not that easy for them.
Thank you for your good work.
I am happy to say that after listening to 6 of your videos, I conclude that I suffer with co-dependent issues and most definitely do not have dark empath issues. 🌝
8:18 No part of the connection is genuine? How could you ever determine that? What if a person has a dynamic personality and can adjust to his surroundings, is that being fake or emotionally adaptable? Sounds like a witch hunt to me. You’re going to end up incorrectly labeling someone innocent and turning them into a dark empath.
Me personally It doesn't make sense, but doesn't mean it's not possible. Im Still skeptical though
But from my experience and understanding, a lot of narcissists and sociopaths started out as empaths or HSP but had been abused so badly they developed a personality disorder.
No IMA real dark empath I'm like a bully to a narcissist. The narcissist think 🤔 I'ma Empath 🪄 I am but play schizophrenic mind 🎯 games 💔. It's like playing Freeze 🥶 tag with Freddie Krueger. IMA Schizophrenic Dark 🌑 empath. IMA only child that don't have any Rules .I knew I was Different from other people at a very young age we just didn't have the Label Dark 🌑 empath, or Dark 🌑 Triad. emotionally adapt is Tru but somethings I just don't like such as jail. schizoaffective disorder and jail don't work for me I need to be Free.
@@alexmorefield5573 what's HSP?
@@jazz2313 highly sensitive people
@@alexmorefield5573 that makes a lot of sense actually
I have encountered 2 to my knowledge. both were Russian. one on a ski lift in VT the other in rural CO. Both were mind bending experiences.
please can you share your experience i am keen to hear about it :)
what is it with people disliking Russians-
@@Champion_of_VlaakithWhat is it about you people jumping to conclusions without affirmative information/anecdotes?
I think I teeter on the edge of dark empath, but I'm not ambitious. I've displayed some traits in stressful situations of living conditions but not super sure about today. I will say, I think growing up around a strong narcissist makes it easy for someone to develop empathetic traits and use them as need be to keep safe. planting arguments, building confidence and supposed understanding, subtle thought planting, etc. Might have just been using simple behavioral patterns and psychology to my advantage as a defense mechanism or maybe dark empath? I don't twist my friends though, so I know "teetering" is the closest i could be, not a real dark empath.
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@@misfitmaniac3084 edging
Dude stop boasting that you are a psycho-maniac-dark empathy we know it clear that you are not that person, all human beings are the same
@@oraculoobeso9939 that's scientifically inaccurate, but what's more odd is the strange nerve this seems to touch to you that you'd poorly comprehend my comment and reply so strongly.
you hit the nail on the head there for me. Its the intention. when I am away from my family of origin, all narcs, I feel liberated and dont' feel like I have to hide myself or enter into games. I brought my family up quite normally, have a few lovely friends, which was only possible because my husband is as straigthforward as it will get. That tells me if I had grown up in a normal family, I would never had the needs to shout at others or make sure i am competitive enough to hold my own, all those narc behaviours that were necessary to survive in my family of origin. I am 59 now, have gone through decades of soul searching and it has taken me that long to have recently gone no contact with the narc mother, brother and sister. The father, also a narc, recently passed. He was authoritarian and I have finally been able to free myself from all of them.
I knew someone who was a grandiose narcissist; and she really had dark empathy. She was quite able to read people. She would rake people over the coals, and gaslight. On the other hand, telling her of the slightest mistake (she made) would send her into a nuclear meltdown.
I think it's important for us to further our understanding of personality types and disorders so that we can get people the help they need in order to avoid being menaces to society. I want there to be more and maybe better help available because... maybe I have a dangerous personality type. I don't necessarily want to always be viewed as an outsider, an outcast, an enemy or a target. I want to live... just not the same as the norm.
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I prefer to focus on getting help for the VICTIMS of manipulating narcs who will never change and serve no purpose.
@ruledbyvenus1859 my point was that we could prevent people with dangerous personality types from victimizing anybody in the first place if we could get them the help they need early on in life. Are you seriously so short-sighted that you're content to allocate resources to damage control rather than addressing the actual root of the problem? 🤨 Yeah... let victims keep piling up because there's no point in attempting to guide/counsel people born with a predisposition to some negative character traits. 🙄
@@carlschultz3970 I like your comment. And the openness with which you approach this. Very raw and endearing. Your point about the root cause of the other commentator was brilliant. Early days are the key here, early development for children in broken families or in my case children born with illnesses that cause issues later in life, especially by parents. We live and we learn.
I’ve tried, and it would be easier to get my cats to become helicopter pilots.
Having to heal from a dark empath or the dark triad is difficult and a very vulnerable place to find yourself. If another finds you , they have a field day with you , letting you think you are safe and healing in their care, when nothing could be further from the truth. THese types of people are so dangerous and will have you questioning everything about yourself. The emotional toll it takes on you and your family is disgusting, because the stress can take away some of those members of your family, which you then believe is your own fault.
i think that there is no such thing like a dark empath or the narcissist is the dark empath because narcissists do feel cognitive empathy but not affective empathy ( sympathy ) and cognitive empathy is all about understanding other's emotions and thinking that's how exactly the narcissists manipulate I mean how tf can someone manipulate you if they don't understand your thoughts and emotions and the thing you are talking about in the end seems like a covert narcissist because the end signs are about covert narcissist
These were my thoughts too, there is no such thing as a "Dark Empath"... ask any psychologist, or look in the DSM-5... you'll find no such thing. And don't get me started on the ridiculous label of "Super Empath" lol.
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@Mikhael Grigoryev that's so cool i'd like to talk to you about it more
Ditto.
This is the most interesting vídeo that I Ever watched . Thx for the knowledge
very well written
Desperation brought out the dark empath in me . Faced with homelessness and 2 babies to care for , one having asthma, I found a woman who was a soft hearted soul and worked on her , made myself indispensable to her then b4 she knew it I moved in with her . I still help her as much as I can, and I live in her large comfortable home and my 3 and 4 year old are safe and healthy and not surrendered to the harsh welfare system .
Just tell your kids that she is your sister or aunty/cousin that way your kids will listen to her if you ever need to go out or get a job for extra money to raise because kids not cheap.
Hmmm worked on her 😮??? Not so good eh
@@Purpleiciousbabe I had to . I could survive homelessness but my little boys couldn't especially the one with bad health.
You used that poor woman that's fucked up
LOL @5:37 "your kindness will go a long way," every narcissist watching this just subscribed. Something which seems to be overlooked is narcissists prioritize reputation over controlling people because they know that reputation establishes trust which is a component in manipulating people. People who babble on about how concerned they are for others are narcissistic when they don't actually believe in the hardships that they are claiming they have empathy with are accurate or even relevant. The problem with this is that narcissists in particular will lie as to whether or not they actually care about the unfortunate circumstances of others. So if the say they care about an identity group because they feel that group is socially persecuted, you can just assume that they don't really care about that whether it's true or not because their motivation revolves around their reputation established by an appearance of caring. Social media rewards these people as often status is an integral feature in these platforms with "likes" or an echo chamber of comments, the ability to delete comments, sharing posts, as does politics, as does philanthropic gatherings. Their primary interest is how people perceive them, therefore we should not be surprised to see narcissism being discussed more as the importance of reputation in society seems to be ever increasing. And though a dark empath and a narcissist might not associate well, it's well established now that narcissists will actually work together to build each others reputations in society, this falls under the concept of mass formation psychopathy which has at times formed subcultures.
Glad I was raised with love.
I have a bit of split personality
My empathy is on hyper over drive
Sometimes light sometimes dark
He just describes me very well. its shocking how all of my traits are like the ones he explained. Im not proud to be like that, because the process is so natural to me thats its just a norm. and sometimes insensitive enough to recognize that i am being toxic and manipulative to others.
bruh, come on stop being edgy. dark empath sound slike something out of D&D lmao. Just live your life and dont worry about labels.
I personally am proud of the darkness in me, helps initiate and see more clearly the light that is also there. So what if I'm manipulative, and sometimes violent I'm also charming, reliable, and (for all that is mine) caring.
@@captainalex157 i dealt with these types. It's not edgynesss, some people are born inherently good and some are born inherently evil and I learn from old age and wisdom and experience.
Raven from teen titans comics books. You want to be a super hero if you think you're a dark empath. Because you're secretly a little narcissist.
LOL, I thought I was a good guy with a dark inner, but this video made a lot of sense to me. I do the things said there, and I'm really good at reading people's intent and emotions, but I never resort to lies, looks to easy getting what I want through lies, I'd rather convince with facts and comparations/examples.
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My youngest sister is a dark empath. She knows me in and out and attacks me with my own weaknesses- which she enjoys. Same with my grown daughter. I got too old and exhausted to be able to deal with them and their attacks, and finally I had to walk away in order to recover. Too bad.
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We Dumped you funky and moody sensitive evil Devil
Have you ever stopped to consider that you raised them to act that way?
@@binkiedinkieLiterally! Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Original commenter needs to do some inner work
Everyone has a motive in a relationship. Just some are weaker than others mentally
I’m an empath with 90% narcissistic friends. Most of these narcissists are grandiose, some covert and some malignant towards me. Being around them has just made me aware of who they are. Lack of empathy, inability to own their mistakes. It has given me a spiritual awakening to see they don’t see the world the same way I do but has made it easier to not waste my energy on their negative agenda. I can walk through their world without abusing my empathy for power. That hasn’t changed. I still just want to help people but would rather help fellow empaths who are being destroyed by these narcs, clouding this world with negativity
I am a dark empath and I married a narcissist. What happened? I left him when he least expected. He had no supply lined up to take my place so he was lost. He recovered now but the harm was done. I don’t feel guilty bc he is a horrible person who hurt many people before me, and will continue to harm people. I feel sorry for the empaths. Yes, ido have empathy.
I think i am empath 100%. I read peoples good or bad intentions very fast, sometimes not even fully understand what their intention is but simply if its honest or dishonest. But if i am dark empath or not is a very hard to analize about myself. I know for the fact i manipulated people even those i love to get what i want. But overal, over many many years, meeting many many bad people with really bad intentions made me hate any sort of manipulation. Therefore i think i have changed since being a teenager. I simply started to hate injustice more and more as i kept seeing it everywhere. And thats why i believe no type of character never stays the same, its dynamic of how you percieve the world as you are learning about it and experiecing it.
I think we have too many labels for personalities. I think the bottom line is, anyone has the potential become any personality, everyone has the power to change, I think its best to not worry about how you are but just be yourself let the rest sort it out, cause for me seeing all these videos its easy to find pieces and parts I fit in, but were all unique individuals, we've had our traumas etc. I say, just do you, life isnt so serious, get into meditation and just exist lol.
Until you get traumatized or someone realizes you SAY one thing (this) but then you DO another (psychotic narrcissist that probably eats people in their musty crawlspace.
Or not, maybe you are just a program living life on the information superhighway looking for your AI match? WHO AM I TO JUDGE?
Only two personalities exist slave or boss/master you either a slave being used for someone else's gain or using other people as being master/boss.
@@basillah7650 Brittany Spears predicted this back in 2002!!!! WOW
You have a very good point there though I disagree about the medication. Never worked for me.
in truth however these personalities are less then 20 to 10% percent of the human population, however, they are all in positions of high power, as normal people have too much empathy and break under pressure. But monsters? monsters don't break. However, society have to keep these monsters under control for our own ends. They are tools, without them we are leaderless. Our species work in strange ways and only God knows why we're like this.
I am sure that I have empathy, because I can easily read peoples emotions and feel quickly when something is wrong with them. Mostly I just kinda avoid talking to them so they have some time alone or I just don't care. Sometimes I even provoke them a bit if they are in a bad mood. I honestly don't feel bad about it, I feel nothing. When people cry I have to act that I care so that I don't seem like heartless and careless. Last sommer I swam in the pool with my cousin and some friends of her. I talked a bit with her friends next to the pool and I was fully dry. But then my cousin splashed the water to make me wet. Out of revenge I jumped in the pool and pressed her under the water. After 1-3 secounds I pulled her above the water, told her to breath and pushed her down again. I did that two or three times and I had fun. But then I looked at her friends and they looked kinda shoked. I panicked, so I pulled her up again and said: "I am so sorry. That was to much. Are you okey? Sorry. " The thing is, I didn't mean what I said. I just acted like it because I didn't want them to think I was crazy. Another case is. I was watching ski sports with my parents and someone had an accident and fell down the hill. Everyone looked shoked but I wasn't. I felt nothing. I know there is something wrong with me but at the same time I don't care
It's all about labelling soulless monsters. I don't care how you call them; psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, machiavellists, dark empaths or whatever. They all lack souls, are pure evil. We must learn to detect them and stay away from them. They aren't human. Take care, brothers and sisters!
they are great tools to use as surgeons, lawyars, and Politicians/CEOs. People with souls will break under pressure in this positions and seek a normal life. So monsters are needed to instill power as they lack fear, but we the people have to keep these monsters under watch.
You say that like we're doing it intentionally. For a lot of us, it's just the natural way a relationship works.
@@nerdycookiegirl8423thats just lack of confidence any empath can do it tbh
You sound like a victim...
You’re actively trying to segregate whilst people come here to learn; nobody deserves to be dehumanized by a society that fears them. That’s how the holocaust happened and why we will learn from it.
I'm a Narcissist, I'm Leading and Manipulative
After some research, I think I have schizoid personality disorder, (def none of these dark empaths or whatever) or at least all of the symptomes line up. I do also have some traits from psychopathy as well though. Hard to pinpoint anything, can't even put proper words on what I experience.
Not trying to be edgy, im just reserching because my personalty is causing problems in my family. I don't really care but I can't afford to be potensially thrown out. They ask "are you like this at work too?" No, at work/school im not real at all. Nice, quiet, polite and easy to get along with. When im relaxed im indifferent and cold, maybe rude? This was not a problem till my mom got a boyfriend for the first time, who pointed out some thing that were unusual, that made them more aware of it I guess. They also don't seem to realize whatever it is im doing wrong may not be a concious decision. Pisses me off when they continue lecturing me, and each time I can't see whats so wrong. I do my housework, and I try to keep to myself, where im most comfortable. Gotta move out when I earn enough to rent
Your channel is actually so useful, I subscribed.
Awesome, thank you!
Shout out to all my narcissists! Stop abusing your loved ones!
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Your either a slave or the boss not both live by yourself or others will freeload off your kindness making you a slave.
They probably deserved it
I'm happy with the way it is. Preparing for the next challenge helps a lot 😀
Tbrh, I think I don’t attach to anyone cause I’ve learned from a young age that people are horrible. Personally, I try to fake being happy and stuff but like I end up still being crushed so in the end I just implode with the stuff I just stuff inside my storage. Idk, I’ve given up caring about narcissists and all that stuff. Cause in my eyes, everyone is.
@@jenniferchrystan6252 it is hard, thank you for narrowing down what the hell is wrong with me. Got a lot of self work to do, thank you again
I actually am a dark empath. First figured it out like three years ago. Very informative video. I have actually shared this video with people who say that I am a narcissist. Nope. Lol
It's a lot more fun to manipulate others with the truth than with lies. Plus, people will find less fault when you use the truth. Even when they do, it's usually not enough anyway.
I'm a sadist & have clinical lycanthropy, gives you sometimes the feel of a wild beast , for instant a wolf, both can be controlled
Dealt with a covert narcissist, no contact for 3 years, saw the mask dropped after 24 years, looked like a total stranger, didn't knew that those disordered people existed before '20
Well I can't say what I'am, I never was good at deep and maintain relationships, though in every move I make I'm thinking which will be the best way to attain to my goals
Basically most humans
I found out a few years ago that my dad was a narcissist. I always knew there was something off about him because our relationship never seemed genuine. I've never had to ask myself if my mom loves me, but I've always had to ask myself if my dad loves me and I don't think I'll ever know the real answer. He used religion to control me and my sisters growing up and when we had our falling out, he used it and every one of my mistakes and character flaws against me while deflecting responsibility of what he had done. It actually blew my mind especially when I realized that I had never heard him apologize for anything ever. I apologize to wife all the time, even for stupid shit like clumsily stepping on her foot or bumping into her because I wasn't paying attention. I've never seen my dad do anything like. His punishments were always extreme and I wonder if he was projecting on me or if it was he didn't want me to be like him. I've cut him completely out of my life and abandoned my faith because it feels like it's just something he can use against me and it also feels like he gets what he wants if I keep my faith and I refuse to allow him to have anything over me.
I’m a mix of a normal and dark empath I can turn off my feelings and still understand how someone feels but I won’t put others above my own stability. Most empaths give away too much or don’t know how to gain power so being a bit of a dark empath helps.
My mom is a dark empath, she's a "giver" but will always talk about it behind your back and she is always the victim in every situation. She loves and thrives off of gossip, she is not trustworthy at all.
5:28 ur literally using empathy to achieve personal gain. observation not judgement
I only found you because of the algorithm of an unsubscribed non profiled account.
Anyway I have been diagnosed with ADHD major depressive disorder antisocial personality disorder bipolar 1 and bipolar 2 post-traumatic stress disorder however now I realize that it is borderline personality disorder that accumulates the sum of my mental health. However watching your programs now I've come to realize that I do bear personality traits of both a narcissist and the dark empath. And it can also be quite psychopathic. I try to be a good person and I think genuinely I am. I make a conscious effort many times over the days course to not give in to various behaviors I would consider
Denigrating or excessively manipulative of a negative consequence to others. I can be very charming even witty. I am divorced I've only just recently been able to follow through with things, from building a model airplane to making an appointment and keeping it. And that's not steady endeavor. I try be like everyone else that seems happy. I don't try to pretend to be happy I'm a finlander this is how we are however the innocent traits of innocent souls is what I try to embody
I t shouldn't be a matter of try.
I come from a nuclear family with two loving biological parents I was never abused or beaten or who-knows-what so I guess I'm kind of at a loss for how I ended up this way.
Yeah life's a funny thing
Do you ever think about anything other than yourself? lol
I admit it. I was a dark empath when I was younger....but I know the difference..... Manipulation. I use to be a bully but I stopped. I stopped intimidating people. It's not nice. Dark Empaths know what they are doing.
How did you correct that behavior?
@@SimplyCapped My concious does not allow me to get "dark" because I truly believe in karma; all your wrong doings will come back to you in one form or another.
@@SimplyCapped I believe that there are more dark empaths who can switch to be empaths depending on the situation that they are in and how people have treated them in the past.
@@zoraidita2022 thanks for the reply. I categorize myself as empath and the people who run into me view me as a saint of some sort. Those same people have also used and abused my soul… I believe their actions over a decade have pushed me more to the dark empath side. I don’t like that at all.
It is actually difficult to even talk about myself but honestly I’m seeking something to better my life. Being an empath has made it really difficult and it’s insane how much I and prolly other empaths have done for others but we are not fulfilled. I have looked into my soul and I am able to see the dark empath come out. I’m going to try to my best to leave the dark empath side because I acknowledge it now. I’m a successful single good looking man. I am not boasting, but my whole creation of who I am has been a blessing and a curse in my adults years. Is that understandable?
I cant decide if my sister is a dark empath or a narcissist. Yes narcissism does get thrown around far too much.
Is it bad that I find this more fun and educational, than something to become aware of? Lmao. I like learning more about myself and how others might describe how I think. At least it's not like all the times that people try, yet get it wrong. Not the biggest fan of psychiatrists, but this was a fun video.
I was in a relationship with a narcissist. He was no amateur, I assure you. The game was so well made that I bet the devil wanted some tips. I got depressed, but I was kind of fascinated by this person. Like, how can he lie, use, manipulate, cause pain and be so indifferent? After the scare, I started to pretend empathy. I gave him some cookies. Told him what he wanted to hear.
But I noticed that I'm always one step behind, there's no way I can compete with a mind that is just mathematics - no feelings or emotions - in which the focus is just winning and hurting. I know he wouldn't feel anything even if his mother died, but I still managed to "play" with him a little... I made him prove, even if just a little, what it's like to face manipulation, inconstancy, indifference, superficiality and deception. I became something like a dark empath, in which I found myself laughing like a maniac after planning and carrying out each of these actions. I noticed that a narcissist doesn't get sad, just bored and angry, but that's something, isn't it!? 😋 and they never give up on you! Then you can play around with each of your attempts. Sit down and plan, make him/her surprised and, in the end, give him your (fake) pity and... Dignity recovered!
I just figured out that I was a dark empath I'm in a relationship but I actually love her with all of my heart and it's genuine sure I may have used a few tricks to get her but she is my everything
You can't "love" someone whom you deliberately have not been honest with and who does not really know you. I don't really care, but it's an illusion, a lie you tell yourself to feel good. You're not alone though. It's nothing new.
@@tablescissors dude I live in America me can do what I want 💀
@@tablescissorsit will crumble eventually
@@Thaport_boyz Your President is actively working to change that lol
I’m a INFP and have had dealt with a insecure narcissistic wife for 12 years.
I am all narcissist , psycho path , sociopath , dark empath and more
I’m sure
i feel u homie
And more 😂
he's an anime character
@@mechanicalbreathing589lmao
Narcissists are either oblivious to, or otherwise don't care for others emotions and also outwardly behave like so. Dark emphaths on the other hand understand and respond to others emotions on the outside but only to their own gain as they couldn't care less either.
Im definitely a dark empath But I learned long time ago it's a lot easier to win people with sweet little truths and little biter lies i call it a mask i can turn on and off my emotions and always feel others and i can carm dam near everyone lol I spoke to my boss 3 times before he started talking to me about his alcoholism and about how much crap is going on at his house
I agree. Telling half truth and giving small necessary flattery is really work at general society
I just become whoever they want me to be. I shape my opinions around their world view
..stay away from me ..😮
Therapeutic intervention 😮😮 ..get away fast
@dcotai2902 dont act like its not how everyone is most just dont realize they do it
This is sort of bogus. What's being described as a "dark empath" is a narcissist with cognitive empathy. It's understood and can be faked but it's not real because it's not felt.
Someone truly feels empathy would not want or attempt to regularly lie, dominate or manipulate others.
So this "dark empath" sounds like what HG Tudor refers to as a "greater narcissist" who has self-awareness of their narcissism along with cognitive empathy.
in other words: all bathrooms have a toilet but not all toilets have a bathroom. the toilet being the narcissist and the bathroom being the dark empath. time stamp 3:20
Considering a dark empath is a combination of the 3 triad traits mixed with empath you more then likely have some narcissistic traits in there but the main one is Machiavellian. Narcissists tend to not be able to empathetize
Jejeje you are totaly right
I am a dark empath with a narcisit father
Thank you brother in the struggle
Lets just say we’re all screwed up it’s just that some are more screwed up !
So in school last semester I encountered this dude that I met through my bestfriend. He would always make jokes about how strong, smart and better he was in every aspect as a joke. He was always trying to prove that he was the best at everything. Me and him would clash heads on the daily, especially since I had my UA-cam thing going on, and doing good for myself. He would make rumors and tell me bad things in hope that I would stop. I then realized he is a very narcissistic person (or dempath), correct me if I’m wrong, and now we wait until the next time we meet…
Is it possible to be a dark empath and be fully aware of it? Like the person is able to verbally and mentally accept it.
Or is this trait is only considered when the person is in that bliss state of not self awareness or acceptance?
Im slowly self learning about these topics in psychology i always enjoy reading others opinions on the matter. Ive learn that psychology helps big time in our lifes
Imma like and reply to this comment because I don’t know the awnser but I want this comment to be seen by more people, it is a very interesting question.
@@Whoisashotn yea man. The best example i can give is when people are in a toxic relationship and are blissful to that fact. They put up with alot they wouldnt usually. Then when the relationship is over the snap of the bliss and realize everything. That bliss state could be a key factor is most personality traits. If maybe that could be the key to prevent extreme consequences in the long run. My example isnt the best but i hope it gets my msg across.
They can be aware. narcissists are the ones that usually aren’t aware
Trust no one, not even yourself.
Narcissists never feel guilty for hurting you, and same goes for dark empaths, who are logically also just narcissists.
Not really, dark empaths are closer with ADHD than narcissism.
Just as everyone has good, everyone has bad too. There are no absolutes, we all have these traits on a range. We all have a touch of ADD but some people have more on the range/scale and need special learning skills or medications. Everyone has narcissism or dark empathy just some have very little while others have too much.
True!
What if.. a dark empath merged with a narcissist
@@nobodylmportant ADUN TOREDAS
What a great player and person. Thanks
Oh man, AI suggested this video to me😅 are you trying to tell me something? Maybe I’m an empath that got sick of narcissists and decided to embrace my power ❤
Is there so little in your life that would prevent you from doing so? Are you that powerless or incapable of positive changes?
@@tablescissors I’m going to make sure that Andrew and Tristan tell the truth for once and face what they are really doing. They drew too much attention. It’s their own fault. They wanted to play ball with the big boys. Just another big fish 🐠 to me 🤨
@@tablescissors The AI algorithms are what I’m referring to . But thanks for thinking you need to put me in check. That’s what I don’t like about people 🤨
@@loriann1506 What you don't like about people is what you see in yourself, in actuality YOU are trying to hold others "in check". I would suggest that trying to do so, particularly via such online remarks, is fruitless and absurd.
Although, of course, you are free to keep pursuing such actions.
@@tablescissors are you a life coach or something? Obviously you think you know everything, but know nothing of which you speak. My guess is that you are a sociopath.
I just have quit to a job where my exboss had exactly these two personalities mixed up, i feel really free quitting that job cuz it had truned so toxic and stuff and my exboss was having a really bad behavior, my mother died last week and the dude was so desperate and almost trying to forced me to show up to job when the law also gives me 3 days of mourn and rest for me to later show up to work, dude kept up calling me and also coming to my home (wich obviously i didnt come out) i told him that he was harrasing me and disrespecting my time, personal space and situation, i ended up quitting cuz that was on my plans before, but maybe i didnt want things happen like this but well, a clearly example of somebody who doesnt care about other heavy or really bad situations like this my mothers death, im ok with that and all, thats life and we must go on, ill start working again on my new job on monday but honestly, cutting relation with that type of people is the best thing we can do for our mental and physical health.
Is being a narcissist just being a genuinely good person with a huge ego and fragile self image?
Or am I just a wierd person
If you would harm others to protect your own ego and image, than no, you are not a good person.
Uhm. I know 2 narc and one of them stole A LOT of money from his family members, only ever rly cares about his looks (literally), is a cheater and a huuuuge crybaby. And he can manipulate the living hell out of you, is emotionally abusing his gf (he does whatever he wants & doesn’t care about her feelings, but if she tries to do that, she already knows he’ll make her regret it). You never know where you’re at with that person, because they can seem really flattering too. The other one is extremely manipulative and a chronic liar as well, you think you’re close to them but when given the chance they won’t mind hurting you & lying about things you’ve said and done to put you in a bad light and themselves in a better one.
You’re not a narcissist if you’re simply insecure. Everyone is insecure. Do you excessively manipulate the ones you care about and don’t mind hurting them (and not feeling bad about it afterwards) because it benefits you in some way?
Narcissists are not genuine.
@@theonpointheavy4401 ok good I thought I might be a narcissist without knowing it but I don’t put myself before others, I guess I’m just a very messed up kid
@@michellekarst3537 thank you for the very in depth explanation, I would never hurt or steal from my family in any way so I do believe that I am just insecure thank you again for this it has helped me a lot
Does troubled people are necessarily bad? Do narcissists can do and be good? If you’re doing good things and behave yourself in a good manner but from your ego… does that mean you are bad? Does one need to be empty to being “good” or you have to be “someone” to do good?
great now everyones a dark empath
I am working on changing my personality type, as a dark empath my behaviour has led me to a lonely life, everyone has left me and i can not maintain a romantic relationship. I have now isolated myself and I am working towards a healthier mindset.
I feel like a dark empath is less committed to being a narcissist
Dark Empath vs Narcissist, either could be dominant of the other depending on their intelligence and other traits that would facilitate.
I don’t like these vids 😂 why can’t we just all play the game of life we don’t gotta break it down 😭😭
I understand your irritation with these videos and it's true some don't talk about this stuff in the right way. Also the game of life isn't as simple as it used to be. There are new things, beliefs, ideas, etc that makes the world more complicated. So do you think that most people have the natural ability to navigate the world or do they need to learn and be taught how to?
About me a lot of people have made a lot of excuses to work against me just for pointing out the truth.
Jesus Christ is the only way to everlasting life. He loves you, and He is with you no matter what. He will never abandon nor forsake you.
I agree. I wish those who call themselves followers of Jesus would truly follow his example, teachings and revere his suffering for us. There is no greater love, no greater source of peace, no greater guide from the darkness, if we merely reach out.
what happens when a dark empath and an empath are in a relationship?
I am dark empath
Is it your name ?
u are only 12
Nice name
It's a strange feeling when i hear content about Drak Empath. Why? because it sounds like me a bit. The only thing that makes me feel that i'm one; is because i could see myself doing some of those 'things' to naricissist. Like a kind of a 'judo' move when they cross the line. And it really scares the 'f*&#' out of them. Like they thought they were messing with an 'ant' and see that they woke up a 'deadly dragon'. And it always come out of intuition never because of pre-calculated behaviour. I was raised in a very harsh enviroment: war, physical and mental abuse. Had to learn to fend for myself and help out my parents who had suffered plenty to raise me. It's like the environment carved me to what i am. I'm a big believer in God, whatever brought me here will bring me home. And i believe God never makes mistake...if i'm the way i am it's God's plan. I was carved by his hands.
If any know about the sacred book the 'Bhagavad Gita' - the Song of the Lord. I'd be someone like Arjuna when it's time to engage in battle, i do what i have to do and the outcome is God's will. The environment i was brought up made me see many things at a very young age...i used to think it was a curse until it came out to be a blessing. The inner strenght is so vast, it's scary.
Pseudoscience word salad, you're talking about traits every human has.
Yes you just made it up!
A narcissist finds it very difficult to think poorly of themselves although they may put on a show of doing so for others, and will change their behavior only to get what they want, but will stop caring when they no longer can. They want to be in the limelight and do what they have to do before anything else, to maintain a charming external image towards others. Whereas a straight narcissist can become overly cocky and expose themselves with too much of a hero/Victim spychology and potentially aggressive outbursts, a dark empath from my experience will adjust themselves moment to moment to reflect and mirror and guilt trip according to your emotions
.i think if there's a way to catch a dark empath narcissist, it's guilt tripping, subtle manipulation, trying hard again to keep you only when they think they're about to loose you, and changes in how they interact with other people, and maybe catching subtle but important changes in their story from you to the next person. As well as words that don't add up to their actions frequently. Also look to see how much energy they expend outwardly in public verses in private when they don't think they have to win you over. Play hard to get suddenly and see what happens. Either they charm you or they guilt trip you.