I work at a hospital and I notice healthy people have plenty of desires, but our patients have only one desire - to be healthy. Just pause for a moment and enjoy how amazing feeling it is to be healthy ❤️
@@hugeloads I am sorry ❤️ It is a hard time I am sure. Just please try to take it as a part of your life experience and remember for the future what really matters in life and I hope it makes you stronger and wiser ❤️
I used to feel like there's something wrong with me... for not wanting what others want... for wanting to live a simple life with people around me living in an extravagant life (at least for me)... for not wanting romantic relationships and to have children. Because of your videos, I learned about these philosophers and I am so grateful to you. I tried to leave a comment to help you out with your algorithm. The least I can do to thank you. I hope you're in good health as you read my comment
“I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.” - Mahatma Gandhi. Gratitude destroys pain. Thank you for the inspiration. Great topic and beautifully presented. Blessings to you and everyone here. 💜
Gratitude destroys pain OR it continues it's existence. If you are grateful for something, but that thing is terrible or worse in comparison to something else, then you will still be in pain. Especially if you are convinced to be grateful for something that is harming you.
Don’t stop for anything, these vids keep me enlightened, aware, mindful, and ready for growth. It’s a beautiful thing, so much love to you brother. Much
If he stopped uploading today, it wouldn't matter. Because of the value of what he's already put out, there would only be reason to be thankful that he ever uploaded in the first place.
@@lumpymilk8280 agreed, but I’ve watched almost all of his videos and it’s nice to get new info to deepen the knowledge. I just wanted to reinforce to him how much of an incredible impact he makes on his viewers and I think it made him feel good
Just in case no one has told you lately, I'm proud of you ❤️For moving through the mess no matter how hard it is at times . For building resilience and strength every single time you get back up after a long and treacherous fall . For getting up every day despite the heaviness that has settled into your heart . For having the courage to persevere through the storm . For holding on to the hope that something better is awaiting you on the other side of the mountain . For continuing to cradle that hope when everything around around you is unknown . That takes strength, bravery, courage, & that is something worth being proud of ❤️👑
Totally agreed! I noticed recently that many of my subconscious self sabotage mechanisms were intended to cause "predictable pain", which I could consciously work hard to remove. How sick is that? P.S. - Feel better mate! :)
I think you could apply this to wanting new partners as well. People lusting after others while still in a relationship. They feel the void, they're not willing to work through their issues, so they follow their instinct of wanting something else to soothe the pain. It's a never ending cycle of using people and never truly being happy
When got into Buddhism and martial arts I started training myself to ignore desires until I forget about them. I can control most of my wishes very well now, living a strict and simple life without consuming anything I don't need or highly value. But the problem is, I don't enjoy going shopping or receiving gifts anymore, I don't enjoy going out with friends as I could do something more useful in that time. I kind of became like a soldier in my mind. So I think it's very important to find a middle way and still honor our desires. We're not in a war or in dept all the time, so enjoying what we can do should be a valid option as well🙏🏻
I really dislike how people says "Shopping is my therapy" or "my starbucks coffee gives me happiness". No, happiness and pleasure are not the same thing. You can experience pleasure all day long and still feel empty by the end of the day. They are doping themselves to stay away from pain rather than purchasing these things for an authentic happiness or a real need. It´s not bad to give yourself nice things, but pursuing pleasure 24/7 leads to be slave to the things that give those nice feelings and distract yourself of the uncomfortable ones, and because of that, you don´t know how to deal and cure your pain, because you don´t longer know where it comes from. Knowing where your pain comes from and allowing yourself to feel it, it´s the first step to transform it and heal
At a certain point in my life I had nothing, I learned to be happy with the simple things; eating well, sleeping well and not wanting anything. I needed things but I let the universe bring them to me. For example I needed a new door for my house which I could not afford to buy new. One day I crossed a man that had one outside his house. He gave it to me. Sometimes it’s just easier to let things happen instead of searching for ways to MAKE things happen. Or to WANT these things to happen. Just an experience I hope that everybody can find peace ✌️
I always feel at my unhappiest when people say to me that I should strive for more. I was completely content until up until that point. "Happy" was John Lennon's answer when asked what he wanted to be when he grew up. The teacher said "I don't think you understand the question" he replied "I don't think you understand life"
Once when I told my mom how interested I was in philosophy she told me in a jokingly manner: "no don't go on a philosophy college, you'll end up smoking weed and only talking about life with no action." And I agree that there is not that much jobs to do as a philosopher, but I'm glad I kept that interest in philosophy since gems like these videos give me some food for my thoughts and actually make me learn something valuable! Love your videos!
The problem with philosophy as a job is that philosophy is something we should all practice in our daily lives to better understand ourselves and the world around us. Philosophy as a structured profession is a fraud, because paying someone to tell you what to think is antithetical to the discipline.
Hi, i smoke weed and talk about life with no action. To me, when i started to see, it created a feeling of not wanting to participate in this mess. Especially, in my lifetime things started to change for the worst and i dont agree with those changes. I have nothing against my fellow humans, we are in the same boat. But to me, society is a play of pretend and manipulate, hamsters in a wheel that run until they die without ever having lived. To me, that sucks. I wish it was different. He who doesnt comply cant be ruled, is my philosophy I know this sucks. But to me, it sucks less than being someone's "hamster". Its not ment as a insult, so, no offense
Right now , someone is grateful for the impact you've had on them . Someone is staring at your soul - filled art in their homes and tearing up at the magic your hands created . Someone is reading your heartfelt words and feeling less alone in this world . Someone is laughing uncontrollably at the memories you share . Someone is remembering the kindness of a stranger and praying that you are healthy and whole . Someone is blessed to have known you , to have felt your love in its entirety even if it was for a brief moment in time . Someone is in awe of you and the imprint you leave on the world . Someone is inspired by your courage and strength and using it as a catalyst to dig into their own hearts , their own healing . Right now , someone out there is thankful that you exist 🙏🏻❤️
Very true. If you were to just endure the desire, and don't act out of it, then you can truly see its true color. This is why having a moral code or precepts is so important. To wisely set a limit for ourselves is to come closer to actual freedom.
Exactly. When I have an intense desire for something of great cost I clear my mind and imagine that I already bought it and go through the pleasure of owning it and all that those feelings mean. Most of the time I realize that I want the item because I believe it will provide something that is not relevant to its purpose like people liking me solely because I own it, Most of the time in the end I realize that I didnt want the item at all, I just wanted the status I believed it would bring...and I lose the desire for it. But if after going through this mental exercise I still find a need for it then I start giving it some real consideration.
I think its important to note when considering this, that even the monks that devoted their lives to removing desire from themselves ultimately never really managed to do it, even with employing all kinds of strategies to try and be rid of desires. I think in the end, the most important thing is to cultivate how you think about yourself and your desires, and where they come from. And dont be hard on yourself for your wants. These desires are there for a reason, you just need to figure out why is it there and if thats the course to get to the underlying goal. And sometimes it is.
I saw you upload, sighed, then closed all of the naughty tabs. I made the decision to watch your video first, then wonder whether I really want to open those tabs back up and indulge in that filth again.
Damn man, please don't do it, I know it's hard I have encountered what you just said many times and I usually go back it to it but then, wished I didn't do it 😓. Don't feel too bad because it won't make you not to do it, just stop that moment I say it again it will be hard, if you are a religious person go read the Bible or you can try talking to someone who can hear you out
Better than watching/climaxing to pr0n is knowing that you've conquered yourself. If I've managed to abstain from such pleasure, despite the temptation and craving, I feel awesome when I wake up the next day: a joy much deeper and profound. You might want to try this today (just a suggestion).
Many thanks for the kind comments. It was a moment of weakness, and I would have regretted looking at that crap further. There will be more moments like this. Slowly but surely, I will overcome.
Also, it is important to separate one's own needs from the needs that were advertised. Advertised needs are those with a lack of individuality (though it looks like they have it), which means it is for the masses, not for individuals. Thus, individualism means expression of oneself and understanding one''s own needs, not the needs of others. And it doesn't mean that one should be a jerk. Helping others may be one's own need, why not?
When we suffer, we have the opportunity to improve our endurance. To master the art of pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone. This is the place for true development!
This is right for emotional suffering. if you have some kind of (physical) condition that causes a constant fight or flight mode, the body is physically in a state that makes developing yourself impossible.
@@RA-el6zj.....whats your physical condition that makes it impossible? .. or do i miss understand...never thought? of my[or anyonelses] emotional suffering have had at 18 lots of my body removed including rt arm. 80 yr old richard richards ....you make me wonder.....thnx
@@MethodePyro That sound kind of like a depressive thought really. If you look for short term pain/suffering, (as in fitness, cold showers etc.) you will experience pleasure in your life. if you mostly do things that give you short term pleasure (as in, sugar, porn or whatever) you will experience suffering. So do the hard thing, it's worth it.
@@RA-el6zj those are simple challenges. Not really suffering. Suffering is what really hurts the most like a coworker stealing your projects or your boss moved you in another office that takes 5 hours of commute everyday. Say you manage to get through it and what you get? Only bitterness and a huge waste of time and energy. There's a difference between self imposed challenges and massive setbacks out of nowhere.
These days I feel myself screaming for spiritual guidance, for a source of divinity to follow--but capitlism, consumerism, and human nature makes the gurus hard to find. The society I exist in suffocates me. My wrists throb with stigmata. I feel deep sadness. I want someone to make me a nutrituous meal of healthy foods with love and kindness, to sit with me by the fire and eat it together, and then to hold each other while the stars dance for us both. This desire will never be sated.
I typically refrain from writing comments anywhere online, but wow, this is such a well-timed video, thank you very much for it! I was pondering this topic for a while now, and lack pf any meaningful answer drove me crazy.
As an artist I would like to mention that to me satisfaction is that brief moment you step back from your art and marvel at the evidence of our hard work taken shape. Our thoughts made real by our own hand.
Very, very thought-provoking. I'm currently struggling with the pain of "lacking", due to hardship. Normally, I'm well equipped to deal with life's ups and downs.. but I'm currently being touched a little again by that "black dog" (anxiety/depression).. brought on, I think, by the extreme stress I've suffered in the past year, and the past 3 months in particular. So when I saw the title of this video, my mind immediately reminded me of a quote I invented some years back: "Isn't the absence of pain what happiness makes?!" My quote touched on what you're talking about.. you take it much farther.. thank you for that. From studying the Buddhism and Taoism, I've known for some time that desires and attachments often lead to suffering. Currently, dealing again a bit with the black dog - I just want the pain to stop. Yeah. I'm coming at this from a slightly different direction, tempered by my mental state.. but listening to these words helps nevertheless. I find personally that when I'm experiencing hardship and suffering, moral support - such as offered by this video message - is most welcome, helpful, and soothing. So, thank you, Einzelgänger.
I have seen a lot of people lately blaming social media for making their product addictive, blaming corporations for tricking us into buying stuff on the assumption that the stuff will satisfy us. They put the blame on 'capitalism', when -- in fact -- the blame lies in the bottomless craving in the human heart. Capitalism and social media are just the most efficient means we have devised of trying to fill that bottomless hole.
Fantastic video. I think we really need to stop comparing our lifestyles with our neighbors, friends or relatives to experience more joy and fulfillment. Besides, balance and moderation is the need of the hour!
I suggest you make a video specifically about coping with the desire for junk food and binge eating. Given your philosophical perspective, it would be very interesting to see how you approach this topic.
Pleasure and desires are just forms of addictions to avoid working on the pain that is clouding the key to long term happiness. But it's so tempting and easy, not many take the road of doing the hard work, even if they say they want happiness. Great Video
Always satisfying our desires, and indulging in them, only makes these desires stronger. But if we learn to moderate our desires or even reject them altogether, they will weaken. When our desires weaken, we experience less dissatisfaction and, thus less pain. We feel less in debt and more content. If we don't experience the pain of discontent, we don't need pleasure to end it.
This is the most amazing channel on UA-cam before coming across such amazing content I used to question myself why am I watching such shallow stuff that will never help me, but this is very important because you have changed my mindset and you have change my life
The problem with hedonism is that it relies on not living past 30, and then makes about fifty years real unfun when people realize they are made of more resilient stuff than they anticipated
Suffering is the amount of hours that we have to go to work every week where sometimes you're working 60 or 70 Plus hours a week, so we gamble, emotionally eat and have lots of sex to numb the pain of being tired all the time and not having enough energy to pursue social life family life exercise or just to relax and kick back.
OMG, this is wisdom, it should be taught in elementary, and it should be encouraged in our families... This video puts into the right words the feeling I've always had towards the capitalist culture and the slavery system in which we waddle and crawl. I give my lifetime to a company so that company gives me currency, a currency that I will use to make someone else my slave for a few moments.. call it the restaurant chef, the store guy, a mechanic... you pay them to do things you don't want or don't know how to do. At that moment we accept that our lifetime is sellable, and we can measure how much a year of our life is worth... this is so fucking wrong in so many ways.
@@officialjohnforce when did it become so damn hard to find balance... so many distractors, so many temptations fabricated for us to keep on spinning the wheel :c
@@chuchui666 hm dunno.. I got so many questions from coworkers why I work reduced time and my simple answer was always that I want more time for me and my hobbies.. They were baffled and thought I needed the time for starting my own business.. ;)
One thing to notice is how your videos are getting more and more concise around the essence and substance of all philosophies, while addressing their questions at the same time. You're amazing. Thank you
Great vid. You pretty much summed up the reasoning I have been adhering to for over a decade now. The main struggle that remains is the judgement of people, as they perceive my lack of chasing satisfaction as "a lack of living", ironically. Oh, and it kinda kills the motivation to work. Thank God.
Your videos are still so grounding! I truly respect your work 💙 I feel grateful that I don’t have the desire to want things that I can’t have or don’t need. I eat simply and taking walks w/my friend is my favorite thing but I had to learn to enjoy walks alone as well. I’m trying to learn another language bc it’s free and fulfilling. I say all these things bc listening to your videos over the years has had a positive impact in my life so TY 🌟
Its not "pain" that we want, its struggle, challenge and adversity. But here's the thing; studies have shown that we want battles we can win, not impossible ones we cannot. This also applies to the growth of civilisations themselves; give an early Mesopotamian no way to make paper, and he will invent and use clay tablets.
I stopped wishing for happiness long ago as it's not under my control just like how sadness isn't both depend on outside factors I can control only one thing and that's peace in my mind which helps me get through things
your pfp and words actually reminded me of a quote from fallout New Vegas by Colonel Hsu "Calm is what you have to be when people look to you. And it's all you can be when things are out of your hands.”
Within this perspective of We Don't Want Pleasure; We Just Want the Pain to End lead me to a huge realization about something I been trying to let go. I think something has change this was very helpful. Thanks 🙏🏽 for this upload
I'm in the same situation. It's a comfortable life and I stay very grateful but I don't think I would of even got here on my own but I think that I may of had a happier time struggling to make rent
This video reminded me to appreciate more of the things I already have. It doesn’t mean don’t pursue your goals and dreams. Gratitude and working towards goals doesn’t contradict each other, but rather both are helpful in your wellbeing
Not only helpful, it is essential. So be thankful for your job, your friends, your relatives... even your enemies and problems. They put things in perspective. Appreciation is definitely the path to more.
Man I love philosophy sm, you guys break it down really nicely too. The Wu Wei video sticks with me as someone with emotional instability and personality disorders. It's helped me start tackling that. Thank you!!
Thank you so much for making these easily understandable videos I feel like it makes it so much easier to start conversations about philosophy with people from different backgrounds
It's worth noting that there are biological explanations for that - look for articles explaining the difference between the ways dopamine and serotonine make us feel, the difference between pleasure and satisfaction.
Your videos are so helpful. Do share self help knowledge from Bhagavad Gita, Arthashastra and other Sanskrit Subhashit also. These books too have immense wisdom.
Yes yes yes I needed this today. Very well written Sir! So many realizations and advices in one video. Mine is always my favorite quote of Epicurus, I repeat it to myself whenever I'm craving for something unnecessary.
I’ve been following your channel for a long time. I hope your e-books can be dubbed with your voice. It sounds so calm. I always listen to your specific videos like musashi miyamoto and marcus aurelius. You are like a mentor to me. I will keep on following and supporting your channel. I’m still on the path of growing as an individual. It’s an everyday practice of having discipline and mental fortitude. Keep it up!
Excellent topic to discuss about. I think pleasure is the illusion we use as a quick fix. Something that temporarily sustains what we refer to as hope or just a way of coping with ongoing suffering.
5:31 "the moment you want something is the moment you experience the lack of it." well of course, for example we feel hungry, it is because our body tells us we need to replace the energy that we spent through food. this whole thing is just natural as a living being. so if you do not want to experience it then do not live.
I came to the conclusion that I would train to avoid consumerism the most I can, trying to live with the less without being affected, but I'm conflicted with this way of thinking because I might think like that because I'm lazy to get things I desire. So I love stoicism, and philosophies like the one presented in this video but I fear that this kind of mindset makes me just lazy to act. In other hand why would I act, since I don't know what I'm here for? As of right now I don't have drives in life, but I find value in virtue and strenght in solitude, trying to avoid the vices, instant pleasures etc... keep myself pure. Marcus Aurelius said, "you're not here to stay in your bed, wake up and do your duty of man", but he was an Emperor, he had a duty, big duty, but me I live in a world where it seems that there's no duty.
"A little bit of self inflicted discomfort or the right kind of stress in the day goes a long way." Over the years, I've come to feel as though it's why doing a great workout, one which skyrockets the heart rate and gets a good sweat on is proper meaningful. And getting out of a nice warm bed and jumping into a freezing cold shower where you're solely focussed on your own breathing is a wonderful kick up the arse to start the day. Society as we know it moves at like a thousand mile an hour, and it rarely slows, and never stops. But it's the little things that helps us to step back from that crap for a short while and just gather our own positive thoughts 😉
Everyone's a little masochistic: spicy food, for example. Stretching is a really good example. Slightly painful, but you know that the release feels good.
Just don’t caring a burden….it is the impermanence of our existence that we have to know. Being happy and or being sad you can’t choose between the two of being that state. Excepting that both come and go. Stillness is a blissful state. No desire no fear or pain.
Maybe , when it comes down to it , love is not about chasing another human being . Maybe , love is about chasing yourself . Chasing your growth . Chasing your hope Maybe love is about learning how to be gentle with yourself , how to believe in the way the Universe has removed certain people from your life . And maybe love grows within you when you learn how to trust your own heart , when you learn how to walk away from the things that have not cared for it Maybe , love is about learning how to accept that sometimes even beautiful things end , that sometimes the timing isn't right . And maybe love is about learning that endings aren't something to regret ; maybe it is about learning how to let go , how to appreciate the things you experienced at the hands of caring that were real and hopeful and light in a world that sometimes fails to be soft . Maybe , love is about learning how to be alone . Maybe it is about learning how to wake up in the middle of the bed . How to make just one cup of coffee in the morning . How to hold your own heart , how to take up space . Maybe there is beauty to be found in falling in love with your growth , in learning how to stop filling voids with other human beings , and instead , in slowly having the courage to heal those voids yourself . Maybe love is about learning how to be proud of the person you are stretching into , is about embracing the beauty and the depth that exists in trying for something while you are here . And maybe within that , love is about honoring your heart . Maybe the truest , and most honest , extension of love exists in the way you learn how to love yourself , exists in the way you learn how to be compassionate towards the parts of yourself , and your journey , that no one else claps for Maybe , love exists in the way you fight to be here , in the way you crash your heart into this world . Maybe , love is about you - being your own strength , being your own safe place . Maybe , when it comes down to it , love is about finally learning how to give yourself the same love you so beautifully give to others . Maybe , love is about embracing the person you are becoming , and believing in your heart , on even your hardest of days
This is soo true, when i have school I looked forward to having the summer holiday and i thought this is going to be so fun, and then i am halfway in and gaming no longer feels fun and i get grumpy and when im not gaming i felt bad.
Thank you for this video! I have felt intense pressure because I want the simpler and more efficient things in life while some people around me are becoming a slave to capitalism, this video made me hold my ground even harder.
your so wise bro. ur vids give me a whole different perspective on things, they’re short and filled with info and all the concepts are rly interesting. ur also rly good at explaining stuff like this. i love ur page bro❤
Bro i recommend you to make a video series on Bhagvad Gita,most of the self help books are derived from Gita,this video's concept is also explained in it. Please don't see Gita by a religious perspective it's the best and oldest self help book ever written.
It's like looking at old picture's and seeing the haircuts and clothing fads and you laugh and say what were we thinking lol. Or were we, were we really thinking or just going along with the fads at the time.
Great video, we are blessed that you made and shared it with us. Most people are just slaves, believing the lies of what will keep them happy. Consumerism has become synonymous with patriotism, it is a sick, sick world we live in.
I work at a hospital and I notice healthy people have plenty of desires, but our patients have only one desire - to be healthy. Just pause for a moment and enjoy how amazing feeling it is to be healthy ❤️
My father is dying right now. He would give anything to be healthy. And I would give anything to see him healthy
@@hugeloads I am sorry ❤️ It is a hard time I am sure. Just please try to take it as a part of your life experience and remember for the future what really matters in life and I hope it makes you stronger and wiser ❤️
@@One-Ring-To-Rule-Them-All thank you so much ❤️
Word!
This is one the strongest lines iv heard in a while 🙏🏻
I used to feel like there's something wrong with me... for not wanting what others want... for wanting to live a simple life with people around me living in an extravagant life (at least for me)... for not wanting romantic relationships and to have children. Because of your videos, I learned about these philosophers and I am so grateful to you. I tried to leave a comment to help you out with your algorithm. The least I can do to thank you. I hope you're in good health as you read my comment
God bless sir
Bless same here
You aren't alone, my friend. I hope you're in good health, as well.
+1 :)
I, myself, thought I was also alone with these ideas and feelings. I'm glad I found your comment to know I'm not anymore
“I don’t want the cheese anymore, I just want to get out of the trap.”
- Spanish proverb
“I cried because I had no shoes, then I met a man who had no feet.”
- Mahatma Gandhi. Gratitude destroys pain. Thank you for the inspiration. Great topic and beautifully presented. Blessings to you and everyone here. 💜
This !!! This what keeps me going man 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨💯💯🙏🏾omg!!!!!
”If I didn’t own boots I wouldn’t need feet. I come from a nation of heat.” - Joe Pug
Gratitude destroys pain OR it continues it's existence. If you are grateful for something, but that thing is terrible or worse in comparison to something else, then you will still be in pain. Especially if you are convinced to be grateful for something that is harming you.
@@Fuar11 If you are grateful that have a pair of shoes instead of wanting the air jordans ultra pro max premium you may stop pain
:3 Fresh video! :3
A Doctor once said to a patient, "Some people never find happiness, so, you just have to learn to be happy without it." Peace be unto you.
Don’t stop for anything, these vids keep me enlightened, aware, mindful, and ready for growth. It’s a beautiful thing, so much love to you brother. Much
I agree 100%
Sente prazer assistindo...
Estou brincando 😃
If he stopped uploading today, it wouldn't matter. Because of the value of what he's already put out, there would only be reason to be thankful that he ever uploaded in the first place.
@@lumpymilk8280 agreed, but I’ve watched almost all of his videos and it’s nice to get new info to deepen the knowledge. I just wanted to reinforce to him how much of an incredible impact he makes on his viewers and I think it made him feel good
Are you craving for enlightenment, aware, mindfulness?😄
Just in case no one has told you lately, I'm proud of you ❤️For moving through the mess no matter how hard it is at times . For building resilience and strength every single time you get back up after a long and treacherous fall . For getting up every day despite the heaviness that has settled into your heart . For having the courage to persevere through the storm . For holding on to the hope that something better is awaiting you on the other side of the mountain . For continuing to cradle that hope when everything around around you is unknown . That takes strength, bravery, courage, & that is something worth being proud of ❤️👑
Thank you! 🙏
Fresh video! :3
I thought you didn’t notice.
Aww this is so sweet. ❤️
Thank you brother 🙏 I really needed to hear (in this case see) that... life as of late feels like survival rather than living 🥲
I hurt me leg yesterday and now I just want my pain to end. Makes me realise that absence of pain is the most underrated pleasure. 😏
I hope your leg gets better and hurts less.
@@rodneyshackelford7529 Thank you. It is getting better, possibly due to the wishes of kind internet strangers. :)
Totally agreed! I noticed recently that many of my subconscious self sabotage mechanisms were intended to cause "predictable pain", which I could consciously work hard to remove. How sick is that?
P.S. - Feel better mate! :)
AGREE!!
@chuck 8094 omg same
I think you could apply this to wanting new partners as well. People lusting after others while still in a relationship. They feel the void, they're not willing to work through their issues, so they follow their instinct of wanting something else to soothe the pain. It's a never ending cycle of using people and never truly being happy
No one is happy
When got into Buddhism and martial arts I started training myself to ignore desires until I forget about them. I can control most of my wishes very well now, living a strict and simple life without consuming anything I don't need or highly value. But the problem is, I don't enjoy going shopping or receiving gifts anymore, I don't enjoy going out with friends as I could do something more useful in that time. I kind of became like a soldier in my mind. So I think it's very important to find a middle way and still honor our desires. We're not in a war or in dept all the time, so enjoying what we can do should be a valid option as well🙏🏻
can u recmonned any utube channels where they teach martial arts
From someone dealing with chronic pain, yes, I can tell you that pleasure is just not being in pain
God bless you, Trent. 🔥
God bless you both
I’ve forgotten what it feels like not to be in pain.
@@gladius2489 God bless you, I'm not in your shoe, just try to accept it with love and kindness to yourself. Surrender is the key
I really dislike how people says "Shopping is my therapy" or "my starbucks coffee gives me happiness". No, happiness and pleasure are not the same thing. You can experience pleasure all day long and still feel empty by the end of the day. They are doping themselves to stay away from pain rather than purchasing these things for an authentic happiness or a real need. It´s not bad to give yourself nice things, but pursuing pleasure 24/7 leads to be slave to the things that give those nice feelings and distract yourself of the uncomfortable ones, and because of that, you don´t know how to deal and cure your pain, because you don´t longer know where it comes from. Knowing where your pain comes from and allowing yourself to feel it, it´s the first step to transform it and heal
Facts
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At a certain point in my life I had nothing, I learned to be happy with the simple things; eating well, sleeping well and not wanting anything.
I needed things but I let the universe bring them to me. For example I needed a new door for my house which I could not afford to buy new.
One day I crossed a man that had one outside his house. He gave it to me. Sometimes it’s just easier to let things happen instead of searching for ways to MAKE things happen. Or to WANT these things to happen.
Just an experience I hope that everybody can find peace ✌️
I always feel at my unhappiest when people say to me that I should strive for more. I was completely content until up until that point.
"Happy" was John Lennon's answer when asked what he wanted to be when he grew up. The teacher said "I don't think you understand the question" he replied "I don't think you understand life"
Yeh😅😅😮
Once when I told my mom how interested I was in philosophy she told me in a jokingly manner: "no don't go on a philosophy college, you'll end up smoking weed and only talking about life with no action." And I agree that there is not that much jobs to do as a philosopher, but I'm glad I kept that interest in philosophy since gems like these videos give me some food for my thoughts and actually make me learn something valuable! Love your videos!
The problem with philosophy as a job is that philosophy is something we should all practice in our daily lives to better understand ourselves and the world around us.
Philosophy as a structured profession is a fraud, because paying someone to tell you what to think is antithetical to the discipline.
Hi, i smoke weed and talk about life with no action.
To me, when i started to see, it created a feeling of not wanting to participate in this mess. Especially, in my lifetime things started to change for the worst and i dont agree with those changes. I have nothing against my fellow humans, we are in the same boat. But to me, society is a play of pretend and manipulate, hamsters in a wheel that run until they die without ever having lived.
To me, that sucks. I wish it was different.
He who doesnt comply cant be ruled, is my philosophy
I know this sucks.
But to me, it sucks less than being someone's "hamster".
Its not ment as a insult, so, no offense
One of the top human development channels on UA-cam. Thanks Einzelgänger crew, love you guys
What are other similar channels?
@@pazuzuxxSisyphus 55 I guess
Right now , someone is grateful for the impact you've had on them . Someone is staring at your soul - filled art in their homes and tearing up at the magic your hands created . Someone is reading your heartfelt words and feeling less alone in this world . Someone is laughing uncontrollably at the memories you share . Someone is remembering the kindness of a stranger and praying that you are healthy and whole . Someone is blessed to have known you , to have felt your love in its entirety even if it was for a brief moment in time . Someone is in awe of you and the imprint you leave on the world . Someone is inspired by your courage and strength and using it as a catalyst to dig into their own hearts , their own healing . Right now , someone out there is thankful that you exist 🙏🏻❤️
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thank you. i needed this so much right now...
“All human behaviour is spurred by the desire to escape discomfort.” - Nir Eyal
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Very true. If you were to just endure the desire, and don't act out of it, then you can truly see its true color. This is why having a moral code or precepts is so important. To wisely set a limit for ourselves is to come closer to actual freedom.
Exactly. When I have an intense desire for something of great cost I clear my mind and imagine that I already bought it and go through the pleasure of owning it and all that those feelings mean. Most of the time I realize that I want the item because I believe it will provide something that is not relevant to its purpose like people liking me solely because I own it, Most of the time in the end I realize that I didnt want the item at all, I just wanted the status I believed it would bring...and I lose the desire for it. But if after going through this mental exercise I still find a need for it then I start giving it some real consideration.
I think its important to note when considering this, that even the monks that devoted their lives to removing desire from themselves ultimately never really managed to do it, even with employing all kinds of strategies to try and be rid of desires. I think in the end, the most important thing is to cultivate how you think about yourself and your desires, and where they come from. And dont be hard on yourself for your wants. These desires are there for a reason, you just need to figure out why is it there and if thats the course to get to the underlying goal. And sometimes it is.
I saw you upload, sighed, then closed all of the naughty tabs. I made the decision to watch your video first, then wonder whether I really want to open those tabs back up and indulge in that filth again.
Dont do it man, its only pain and empitness afterwards, you can do this!
Damn man, please don't do it, I know it's hard I have encountered what you just said many times and I usually go back it to it but then, wished I didn't do it 😓. Don't feel too bad because it won't make you not to do it, just stop that moment I say it again it will be hard, if you are a religious person go read the Bible or you can try talking to someone who can hear you out
Better than watching/climaxing to pr0n is knowing that you've conquered yourself. If I've managed to abstain from such pleasure, despite the temptation and craving, I feel awesome when I wake up the next day: a joy much deeper and profound. You might want to try this today (just a suggestion).
Many thanks for the kind comments. It was a moment of weakness, and I would have regretted looking at that crap further. There will be more moments like this. Slowly but surely, I will overcome.
@@mirceazaharia2094 you've got this! “Once you have it ( the freedom) it's forever!".
Also, it is important to separate one's own needs from the needs that were advertised. Advertised needs are those with a lack of individuality (though it looks like they have it), which means it is for the masses, not for individuals. Thus, individualism means expression of oneself and understanding one''s own needs, not the needs of others. And it doesn't mean that one should be a jerk. Helping others may be one's own need, why not?
When we suffer, we have the opportunity to improve our endurance. To master the art of pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone. This is the place for true development!
This is right for emotional suffering.
if you have some kind of (physical) condition that causes a constant fight or flight mode, the body is physically in a state that makes developing yourself impossible.
all of that for what? To endure more suffering? It won't bring you anywhere. There's no sugar coating for that bruh
@@RA-el6zj.....whats your physical condition that makes it impossible? ..
or do i miss understand...never thought? of my[or anyonelses] emotional suffering
have had at 18 lots of my body removed including rt arm.
80 yr old richard richards
....you make me wonder.....thnx
@@MethodePyro That sound kind of like a depressive thought really.
If you look for short term pain/suffering, (as in fitness, cold showers etc.) you will experience pleasure in your life.
if you mostly do things that give you short term pleasure (as in, sugar, porn or whatever) you will experience suffering.
So do the hard thing, it's worth it.
@@RA-el6zj those are simple challenges. Not really suffering. Suffering is what really hurts the most like a coworker stealing your projects or your boss moved you in another office that takes 5 hours of commute everyday.
Say you manage to get through it and what you get? Only bitterness and a huge waste of time and energy. There's a difference between self imposed challenges and massive setbacks out of nowhere.
I don't find pleasure in much these days the only thing I've come to appreciate is time that I don't have to spend with others
These days I feel myself screaming for spiritual guidance, for a source of divinity to follow--but capitlism, consumerism, and human nature makes the gurus hard to find. The society I exist in suffocates me. My wrists throb with stigmata. I feel deep sadness. I want someone to make me a nutrituous meal of healthy foods with love and kindness, to sit with me by the fire and eat it together, and then to hold each other while the stars dance for us both. This desire will never be sated.
The videos on this channel have literally changed my entire mindset on how to live life. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Same
I typically refrain from writing comments anywhere online, but wow, this is such a well-timed video, thank you very much for it! I was pondering this topic for a while now, and lack pf any meaningful answer drove me crazy.
This is so true. When you’re in a positive state there is no good or bad and no desires
As an artist I would like to mention that to me satisfaction is that brief moment you step back from your art and marvel at the evidence of our hard work taken shape. Our thoughts made real by our own hand.
Very, very thought-provoking. I'm currently struggling with the pain of "lacking", due to hardship. Normally, I'm well equipped to deal with life's ups and downs.. but I'm currently being touched a little again by that "black dog" (anxiety/depression).. brought on, I think, by the extreme stress I've suffered in the past year, and the past 3 months in particular. So when I saw the title of this video, my mind immediately reminded me of a quote I invented some years back: "Isn't the absence of pain what happiness makes?!" My quote touched on what you're talking about.. you take it much farther.. thank you for that. From studying the Buddhism and Taoism, I've known for some time that desires and attachments often lead to suffering. Currently, dealing again a bit with the black dog - I just want the pain to stop. Yeah. I'm coming at this from a slightly different direction, tempered by my mental state.. but listening to these words helps nevertheless. I find personally that when I'm experiencing hardship and suffering, moral support - such as offered by this video message - is most welcome, helpful, and soothing. So, thank you, Einzelgänger.
I have seen a lot of people lately blaming social media for making their product addictive, blaming corporations for tricking us into buying stuff on the assumption that the stuff will satisfy us. They put the blame on 'capitalism', when -- in fact -- the blame lies in the bottomless craving in the human heart. Capitalism and social media are just the most efficient means we have devised of trying to fill that bottomless hole.
Fantastic video. I think we really need to stop comparing our lifestyles with our neighbors, friends or relatives to experience more joy and fulfillment. Besides, balance and moderation is the need of the hour!
I'm following you from Sudan,...
You may not know Sudan, but I know that I send you peace and love..
I suggest you make a video specifically about coping with the desire for junk food and binge eating. Given your philosophical perspective, it would be very interesting to see how you approach this topic.
Pleasure and desires are just forms of addictions to avoid working on the pain that is clouding the key to long term happiness. But it's so tempting and easy, not many take the road of doing the hard work, even if they say they want happiness. Great Video
If you manage to find pleasure from pain, there will be no limit of pleasure.
Always satisfying our desires, and indulging in them, only makes these desires stronger. But if we learn to moderate our desires or even reject them altogether, they will weaken. When our desires weaken, we experience less dissatisfaction and, thus less pain. We feel less in debt and more content. If we don't experience the pain of discontent, we don't need pleasure to end it.
Definitely true. I don't really much care about being Happy anymore, though it's nice when it happens.
That pretty much sums it up for me to.
This is the most amazing channel on UA-cam before coming across such amazing content I used to question myself why am I watching such shallow stuff that will never help me, but this is very important because you have changed my mindset and you have change my life
This was eye opening. I guess it might help with my addiction quiting.
Me too
The problem with hedonism is that it relies on not living past 30, and then makes about fifty years real unfun when people realize they are made of more resilient stuff than they anticipated
I’m broke right now. I have unpaid credit card. I’m just so happy I watched your vlog. Big help for me.
Suffering is the amount of hours that we have to go to work every week where sometimes you're working 60 or 70 Plus hours a week, so we gamble, emotionally eat and have lots of sex to numb the pain of being tired all the time and not having enough energy to pursue social life family life exercise or just to relax and kick back.
OMG, this is wisdom, it should be taught in elementary, and it should be encouraged in our families... This video puts into the right words the feeling I've always had towards the capitalist culture and the slavery system in which we waddle and crawl. I give my lifetime to a company so that company gives me currency, a currency that I will use to make someone else my slave for a few moments.. call it the restaurant chef, the store guy, a mechanic... you pay them to do things you don't want or don't know how to do. At that moment we accept that our lifetime is sellable, and we can measure how much a year of our life is worth... this is so fucking wrong in so many ways.
I really don't like that you're soo damn right..
That's why I chose to work less hours and get more time for myself and loved ones..
@@officialjohnforce when did it become so damn hard to find balance... so many distractors, so many temptations fabricated for us to keep on spinning the wheel :c
@@chuchui666 hm dunno.. I got so many questions from coworkers why I work reduced time and my simple answer was always that I want more time for me and my hobbies.. They were baffled and thought I needed the time for starting my own business.. ;)
Sure beats communism or socialism. Free will should never be taken for granted.
We work jobs we hate to purchase things we don't need. Pleasure is not the solution to pain, but it's source
One thing to notice is how your videos are getting more and more concise around the essence and substance of all philosophies, while addressing their questions at the same time. You're amazing. Thank you
This channel is my source of inner peace. Please continue to make such amazing content!
Same
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Great vid. You pretty much summed up the reasoning I have been adhering to for over a decade now. The main struggle that remains is the judgement of people, as they perceive my lack of chasing satisfaction as "a lack of living", ironically. Oh, and it kinda kills the motivation to work. Thank God.
Wow, what a deep topic. How complex the human mind is.
Consumerism is built on making people feel inadequate or less than. Imagine if you could maintain a state of reasonable contentment everyday.
Your videos are still so grounding!
I truly respect your work 💙
I feel grateful that I don’t have the desire to want things that I can’t have or don’t need.
I eat simply and taking walks w/my friend is my favorite thing but I had to learn to enjoy walks alone as well.
I’m trying to learn another language bc it’s free and fulfilling.
I say all these things bc listening to your videos over the years has had a positive impact in my life so TY 🌟
Mental health is plummeting, this is getting close to Great Depression levels, goodluck out there everyone 🙏🏻
But we’ve never had more stuff.
@@piperian3962 exactly the point, less is more
Avoid plastic. Its messing with your hormones big time
There is good or bad, you only think it so.
@@patinsley so people becoming more depressed could be a good thing?
You hit the nail straight on the head with this one!💯💯💯
Its not "pain" that we want, its struggle, challenge and adversity. But here's the thing; studies have shown that we want battles we can win, not impossible ones we cannot. This also applies to the growth of civilisations themselves; give an early Mesopotamian no way to make paper, and he will invent and use clay tablets.
I stopped wishing for happiness long ago as it's not under my control just like how sadness isn't both depend on outside factors I can control only one thing and that's peace in my mind which helps me get through things
your pfp and words actually reminded me of a quote from fallout New Vegas by Colonel Hsu "Calm is what you have to be when people look to you. And it's all you can be when things are out of your hands.”
@@pickle2144 I remember that haha and I try to live by that quote everyday
“Happiness doesn't last forever, peace remains"
Thank you for posting. You've been the voice I need to hear for roughly a year now.
Within this perspective of We Don't Want Pleasure; We Just Want the Pain to End lead me to a huge realization about something I been trying to let go. I think something has change this was very helpful. Thanks 🙏🏽 for this upload
All I have is earned by my dad. So Desire for me is must for me to stand on my own legs.But I got what this video wants to convey.
I'm in the same situation. It's a comfortable life and I stay very grateful but I don't think I would of even got here on my own but I think that I may of had a happier time struggling to make rent
Him:"thank you for watching".
Me: "it was a pleasure"
Thank you for this...
Watching your videos eases and renews the spirit... stoicism is my religion, and you are a great preacher...
This video reminded me to appreciate more of the things I already have. It doesn’t mean don’t pursue your goals and dreams. Gratitude and working towards goals doesn’t contradict each other, but rather both are helpful in your wellbeing
Not only helpful, it is essential. So be thankful for your job, your friends, your relatives... even your enemies and problems. They put things in perspective. Appreciation is definitely the path to more.
Man I love philosophy sm, you guys break it down really nicely too. The Wu Wei video sticks with me as someone with emotional instability and personality disorders. It's helped me start tackling that. Thank you!!
Einzelgänger, where have you been ? It’s good to see you upload 🙌🏼🤙🏼🙏🏼
Wish he would make more!
Thank you so much for making these easily understandable videos I feel like it makes it so much easier to start conversations about philosophy with people from different backgrounds
It's worth noting that there are biological explanations for that - look for articles explaining the difference between the ways dopamine and serotonine make us feel, the difference between pleasure and satisfaction.
U should make a video on: why we don't do what we ought to do??
Well put! I find myself purchasing things to distract from the pain and discomfort. It never really satisfies.
I’m so grateful for this new video! Your channel is one of my simple pleasures in my journey…wisdom. Thank you.
I have simple desire and life debt to my last ten years. I don't wish this on anyone, it is cruel.
Your videos are so helpful. Do share self help knowledge from Bhagavad Gita, Arthashastra and other Sanskrit Subhashit also. These books too have immense wisdom.
Yes yes yes I needed this today. Very well written Sir! So many realizations and advices in one video. Mine is always my favorite quote of Epicurus, I repeat it to myself whenever I'm craving for something unnecessary.
I’ve been following your channel for a long time. I hope your e-books can be dubbed with your voice. It sounds so calm. I always listen to your specific videos like musashi miyamoto and marcus aurelius. You are like a mentor to me. I will keep on following and supporting your channel. I’m still on the path of growing as an individual. It’s an everyday practice of having discipline and mental fortitude. Keep it up!
I really agree about Einzelganger’voice. He has a calm voice, charming.
Excellent topic to discuss about. I think pleasure is the illusion we use as a quick fix. Something that temporarily sustains what we refer to as hope or just a way of coping with ongoing suffering.
I will give your channel to my friend on his birthday.
5:31 "the moment you want something is the moment you experience the lack of it." well of course, for example we feel hungry, it is because our body tells us we need to replace the energy that we spent through food.
this whole thing is just natural as a living being. so if you do not want to experience it then do not live.
Not me I keep asking for pain cause sometimes that's all you can feel that makes you feel alive.
Wow, what a person! I'm glad I saw someone who's a little different 🥺
I think there is something wrong with me because I never want anything lol. I can spend a whole life reading and be the happiest
Please, make a video on Stoic friendship. It would be wonderful! Thank you for all your amazing works!
I came to the conclusion that I would train to avoid consumerism the most I can, trying to live with the less without being affected, but I'm conflicted with this way of thinking because I might think like that because I'm lazy to get things I desire. So I love stoicism, and philosophies like the one presented in this video but I fear that this kind of mindset makes me just lazy to act. In other hand why would I act, since I don't know what I'm here for? As of right now I don't have drives in life, but I find value in virtue and strenght in solitude, trying to avoid the vices, instant pleasures etc... keep myself pure. Marcus Aurelius said, "you're not here to stay in your bed, wake up and do your duty of man", but he was an Emperor, he had a duty, big duty, but me I live in a world where it seems that there's no duty.
Genuinely my favourite video from this channel. Certainly one that you have to watch more than once to ensure everything is absorbed
Simple pleasures, productive sources of pain, and willingness to cycle between the two without lingering on either.
"A little bit of self inflicted discomfort or the right kind of stress in the day goes a long way." Over the years, I've come to feel as though it's why doing a great workout, one which skyrockets the heart rate and gets a good sweat on is proper meaningful. And getting out of a nice warm bed and jumping into a freezing cold shower where you're solely focussed on your own breathing is a wonderful kick up the arse to start the day. Society as we know it moves at like a thousand mile an hour, and it rarely slows, and never stops. But it's the little things that helps us to step back from that crap for a short while and just gather our own positive thoughts 😉
Pinhead: "Why not have both the pleasure AND the pain?!"
Everyone's a little masochistic: spicy food, for example.
Stretching is a really good example. Slightly painful, but you know that the release feels good.
Thank you very much for uploading this video! Much appreciated...
Keep it up and have a nice weekend!
With so much advertisements around us it's hard to not experience desire for ads are built to get into our brains.
Just don’t caring a burden….it is the impermanence of our existence that we have to know. Being happy and or being sad you can’t choose between the two of being that state. Excepting that both come and go. Stillness is a blissful state. No desire no fear or pain.
Pain is an old friend. But I'm tired of him visiting.
Maybe , when it comes down to it , love is not about chasing another human being . Maybe , love is about chasing yourself . Chasing your growth . Chasing your hope
Maybe love is about learning how to be gentle with yourself , how to believe in the way the Universe has removed certain people from your life . And maybe love grows within you when you learn how to trust your own heart , when you learn how to walk away from the things that have not cared for it
Maybe , love is about learning how to accept that sometimes even beautiful things end , that sometimes the timing isn't right . And maybe love is about learning that endings aren't something to regret ; maybe it is about learning how to let go , how to appreciate the things you experienced at the hands of caring that were real and hopeful and light in a world that sometimes fails to be soft . Maybe , love is about learning how to be alone . Maybe it is about learning how to wake up in the middle of the bed . How to make just one cup of coffee in the morning . How to hold your own heart , how to take up space . Maybe there is beauty to be found in falling in love with your growth , in learning how to stop filling voids with other human beings , and instead , in slowly having the courage to heal those voids yourself .
Maybe love is about learning how to be proud of the person you are stretching into , is about embracing the beauty and the depth that exists in trying for something while you are here . And maybe within that , love is about honoring your heart . Maybe the truest , and most honest , extension of love exists in the way you learn how to love yourself , exists in the way you learn how to be compassionate towards the parts of yourself , and your journey , that no one else claps for
Maybe , love exists in the way you fight to be here , in the way you crash your heart into this world . Maybe , love is about you - being your own strength , being your own safe place . Maybe , when it comes down to it , love is about finally learning how to give yourself the same love you so beautifully give to others . Maybe , love is about embracing the person you are becoming , and believing in your heart , on even your hardest of days
This is soo true, when i have school I looked forward to having the summer holiday and i thought this is going to be so fun, and then i am halfway in and gaming no longer feels fun and i get grumpy and when im not gaming i felt bad.
I was thinking about getting plastic surgery, but this video has helped me be a little bit more content without it. Thanks!
Thank you for this video! I have felt intense pressure because I want the simpler and more efficient things in life while some people around me are becoming a slave to capitalism, this video made me hold my ground even harder.
your so wise bro. ur vids give me a whole different perspective on things, they’re short and filled with info and all the concepts are rly interesting. ur also rly good at explaining stuff like this. i love ur page bro❤
Bro…
This is sooooo good 💯. I could sit at a round table all night by the fire just talking philosophy like this
I can be miserable in want or richer than the billionaires. Gratitude is magic.
Always insightful.
This was very, very well put, well done.
Thank you Sir.
Bro i recommend you to make a video series on Bhagvad Gita,most of the self help books are derived from Gita,this video's concept is also explained in it.
Please don't see Gita by a religious perspective it's the best and oldest self help book ever written.
Your videos keep me alive
It's like looking at old picture's and seeing the haircuts and clothing fads and you laugh and say what were we thinking lol. Or were we, were we really thinking or just going along with the fads at the time.
Thank you for your awesome videos friend. I'm glad you uploaded just now when I was watching some older ones.
Great video, we are blessed that you made and shared it with us. Most people are just slaves, believing the lies of what will keep them happy. Consumerism has become synonymous with patriotism, it is a sick, sick world we live in.