What a great Q&A! Tammy, it was so sweet to “see” you talk about Dharma and the impact she had in your life. It’s always a great feeling when you hear people say your baby’s name💖 Danielle gave wonderful advice for other providers👏👏👏 Dharma would be 14 in March and she is STILL touching lives🥰
Memories 💙 December 30, 1982 I was giving birth to my son, during the Lunar Eclipse. Ya, Dad & Grandpa were outside watching the moon. Thanks Ladies for the stories 💜💗💜💗💜
Thanks for leaving in the bit about the 4th degree tearing. I just had my post-partum assessment of my 3C tear, which apparently is healing beautifully. My third child was 10lb and I pushed for maybe 8 minutes. It's nice hearing we're not alone. (Also how wild is it we're strong enough to do that kind of damage with our stomach muscles?)
Women (and anyone else with a uterus) are so cool! Awesome that you are healing well, not only could you do damage to yourself but you can repair it too. Superwoman!
My daughter was OP and I tried to push her out for 3 hours after being in induced labor for 43 hours. 😭 Ended in a C-section... I'm due with my son in April and hoping I can try a VBAC... Knowing that if he is facing the right way I won't have to push so hard is so encouraging for me. 😂
Your mom is so humble and sweet. I can just tell how amazingly selfless she is. She seems like the kind of person who always thinks of other people before she does anything, and she clearly loves you so much. You're very lucky to have such a wonderful mother. It's also very clear that you're both very intelligent and driven people. Something for the rest of us to strive for.
Just wanted to add, as an auxiliary medical team member (hospital phlebotomist), I would absolutely love working with either of you. Granted the amount of interaction I have with an OB/GYN is relatively small, but I do often interact with L&D nurses. And your mom sounds like she'd be absolutely fantastic to work with. Also, the hand delivering amnio samples to the lab just makes me think of all the stuff I receive currently when working downstairs in the lab from L&D nurses (mostly covid test samples, with an occasional fFN (fetal fibronectin) sample). Just wanted to give some love from the basement dwellers that we lab techs often are (don't know if it's only my hospital has the lab in the basement, but the point remains) Also, as a bit of an aside, not sure if anyone knows, but did the fFN test replace the amnio test described in the video? The goal of each test (determining preterm labor) seems to be about the same, but I'm not yet a physician/don't yet have the knowledge base to know the intricacies of the two tests. They merely appear to have the same goal (with fFN tests being significantly less invasive/probably less risky), at least from a person whose education level on the topic is just enough to be dangerous but not enough to actually know what I'm talking about lol
Love your channel. This is such a cute video. I was so nervous when I went into labor and I was hoping my aunt was working as she is a labor and delivery nurse. I made it through just fine but she was not able to make it, actually my doctor almost didn't make it as my delivery was very fast. I was 37wk +2days, my water broke at 4:30am and I delivered at 5:49am. The hospital is about 30/35 minutes from where we live. I was fully dilated on arrival and had already needed to push during the drive. 4 pushes and my son was born.
So when I placed my order of 4 shirts it only gave me black to pick from but now it has all kinds of colors 😭 of course I had to do super rush shipping cause I’m inpatient lol
As soon as your mom said op baby… I said like oh she was a sunny side up baby ☀️ I saw one during clinicals and the lady also tore really bad but it 3rd not 4th
I am an ICU nurse… I KNOW your mom is a PRESENCE on her unit. Everyone breathes a sigh of relief when she’s working even when it’s a crazy day. The compassionate, calm, kind, fair, super experienced nurse, but can also get things done and nicely tell someone off if necessary. Every unit needs a nurse like your mom!!!
I was just thinking, I'd love to see her in the room if I was in labour! Reassuring presence, for sure. Plus. she'd have noticed my pre-eclampsia if she'd done my pre-natal care, but that's another story! lovely to see you both together. Thank you!
I appreciate that your mom kept the part in about the 4th degree tearing, and why it’s important to manage your pushing. Back when I was a first time mom, I had tearing (nothing terrible, but both inside and outside) and I’m confident had I not been such a overly aggressive pusher I wouldn’t have probably torn at all. Even during crowning I was pushing instead of pausing. I feel more women need to hear this!
Yer I was the same. Near the end I was just super excited for the baby to be born. The midwife told me to slow down but I ignored them. Kinda wish I'd listened but I only had a 2nd degree tear which healed well.
I was the wierdo where my baby catapulted himself out I didn't push at all the doctor wasn't even able to get gloves on i had no epidural it felt like I got shredded down there 🤣 but had zero tearing nothing 😂 when I asked the doctor if I had torn and he said no i didnt even really believe him cuz how it had felt 😂 was not my first baby thoughso that helped. But I also did not tear with my first and got him out in 15 min with an epidural that worked so good I felt nothing even as he came out and he was a good 7 pounds
I tore 2nd degree from 20min of pushing, I was solely following the OBs direction. In those moments you're so scared of anything going wrong so you just follow what they say...
My dad weighed exactly 12 lbs when he was born. At the time they didn’t let men into the delivery room, story goes that when my Papa (a farmer) came into the room he goes “Damn R’Veda! That’s not a baby, that’s half of Holsteen calf!” My grandmother did not have any more children
My dad was the last of my grandmother's 14 children (all delivered vaginally without drugs bc mexico) and he weighed 13 pounds. Grandma was unconscious for four days. His birth legit put her in a coma
If you can't make the situation better, don't ever be the person who makes it worse. DUDE. This is so powerful. I try to live by these words in ALL scenarios. I learned it years ago from a woman in a Facebook group when we were defending another woman and how she chose to handle...believe it or not...a doomed pregnancy. I've never forgotten those words. They apply to anything ❤
Ugh yes! I remember when I was miscarrying, close to 12 weeks, I was 20 and so scared and sad and in pain. My OBGYN and the nurse confirmed the miscarriage and left me alone bloody on the table. When I came out they didn't even let reception know I miscarried and they asked when my next appointment for an ultrasound would be and I burst out in tears. I also live in Texas which is why I love MDJ, I wish she was still in Texas because I would move to where she was to have her be my doctor! Now I have a healthy daughter at 27 but man the heartbreak I felt and the lack of concern for me and judgment was awful.
@@clarissathompson0103 Oh Clarissa I am SO SORRY that this happened to you! I'm sorry that you lost a wanted pregnancy and that you were in fear and didn't get the medical or emotional support that you needed and deserved at that time. Please accept my love from across the internet because it is real and genuine and you have my full support behind you. I'm so happy to know that you have a healthy child now. Be well! 🥰❤👑
I never comment on UA-cam videos, but just had to say your mom seems like a genuinely kind and compassionate human. We need more people like her! Thanks for all the wonderful content and sharing your delightful Mom with us.
I actually got to deliver my grandson!!! L&D nurse for 28 years… I worked with the now Midwife as a RN …. She said do you want to catch? I almost broke my neck to get the gloves on! I was acting as a Doula for all my grandkids Births!
I got to baby catch for my sister! I was working when she was laboring and my couplet had been transferred to mother/baby just in time for the main event and for me to catch for my nephew! First time I cried at work.
Your comment about your mom calling your preeclampsia cracked me up. It takes a lot of practice and knowledge to look at someone in a picture and call their diagnosis. I love y’all so much. Such a beautiful relationship and i understand now why Dr.Jones is an absolutely amazing human- her mom is just as amazing!! Thank you for posting!
I had my son at 17 years old... I know I was a young and naive kid and shouldn't have been having a child but I made my choice to grow up and be responsible, the nurses were so mean to me! I wish I had you two amazing women in my room! My son is now 18 and graduated high school a year early cause he's a freaking wiz kid and guess what I freaking did it all alone even as a young mom! I feel like you two would have believed in me and treated me well and I'm so glad that there are Doctors and nurses like you out there for the girls that aren't as strong and need some kindness and encouragement! Love you both! Thank you for what you do! 😍
Angel Marsh Congratulations! You should work with pregnant teens to teach them they CAN do a good job as a parent, and be a role model. It is sad that the nurses were not kind to you and they should have tried to be guides for you and instilled confidence in you. Maybe you can be a positive spirit for someone in that position some time. I am sure your son is proud of you!
Teen moms deserve support so they can make the best life possible for themselves and their baby, it's sad that even medical professionals sometimes don't realise that... Congrats on being a great mom!
Every woman of every age needs good nurses, but especially young women. I was 23 when I had my twins and was so grateful I had a c-section because I had to be in the hospital for a few days, whereas if I had delivered vaginally I probably would have been discharged very quickly. I had support from my mom, mother in law, husband, but I still was so grateful for the information the nurses gave me, all of the help and stuff, it was really useful. I think that any woman that decides to keep her baby deserves respect and as much help as possible, especially if she is going against the odds like you. Also, your only 35, if your son does have kids imagine how much of your life you get to spend with your grandkids! My mom was about 46 when my boys were born, not as young, but still really young especially for a grandma. It's rough, and definitely not how most people do it, but there are a lot of perks to having kids young and getting to enjoy your family.
@@juliee593 every teen should get support, no matter how different they are from "the norm". When I was a teen, practically every adult pressured me to have sex to discover my sexuality, while my boyfriend refused to even discuss contraception. My obgyn wasn't any help either, she deemed the pill "too risky" for me, and I was deemed "too immature" for other contraceptives. Not to mention her attempts to "fix" my sexuality (I'm asexual, which wasn't considered an option back then) I'm so glad I'm not an only child, I might have been a teen mum without my sister's support
Miss Tammy is AWESOME! Can you have her join you for an "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" episode? I'd love to hear both of you have fits about what's missing and incredible in that show.
You got me through my first pregnancy with your answers to awkward questions and humor... I am pregnant with my 2nd now and I would give anything to have a Dr like you! I think you are funny and insightful and I thank you for Uploading! ❤️
Oh same! I started watching when pregnant with my first and we only discovered I was pregnant with our second (at nine weeks) because I had unusual spotting and I was like, "oh odd, whatever" then I remembered I had just watched one of her "I didn't know I was pregnant" reaction videos and she's being like, "unusual period activity, take a test." And I had one on hand, plus I was planning on drinking the next night, so I figured might as well be safe. Well, I didn't get to drink. My doctor is pretty good, I just hope he makes it for the birth this time. (Was on vacation) Her video's made me feel better the first go around and I'm looking forward to watching more this time too
@@Nevertoleave congratulations!! I am due in May... And it's a girl I couldn't be happier lol I got a son last time and a girl this time... Although after this one... Someone is getting spayed and/or neutered!!! 😂
This was great to watch! My oldest sister was an L&D nurse for over 10 years before she went into pediatrics. She's told many stories, but one of the best was actually her own. She ended up giving birth on the side of the road 10 minutes from the hospital at like 2:30 am. Her friend, also an L&D nurse (who was at the time waiting for her Certified Nurse Midwife certificate to arrive in the mail), and our mother, who has 12 kids, were there with her. No one wants to have a roadside baby, but if you gotta do it, that's like the best crew to have right there! Lol.
A calm nurse is the best! My first baby was rough and my OB walked in and said “you have my favorite nurse” as we were getting situated. She also said (specifically to my husband who was in IM residency) that “if she says something going down, she’s right and we’re all ready to run with it.” It was so good to know from my OB that our nurse was who she wanted at her babies deliveries. I had an abruption in labor as well as some other complications but our nurse was so calm and protective over both me and my freaking out husband. Literally a great nurse can make all the difference.
As someone who worked with both her parents at some point, the cringe of "what should I call them at work?" 😬 is so relatable lolll Thank you both, that was amazing
Wow, MDJ looks like her mama. Interestingly, my favorite mom (my step mom) was a labor and delivery nurse for 30 years. When she retired, she got bored and when into hospice nursing and working another ten years. Her L&D process went into the the late 80s, so horrifies many peoples with the norms of the day. She says she caught more babies than most of the doctors she worked with. Granted, she worked in a very working class hospital, so there could be doubles on doctors, and other procedures going on. We love you Miss Tammy. Come back soon, even if it's Zoom.
Two absolutely amazing educated women. I strive to be like both of you. Thank you for educating with no bias, judgement and using medical terminology, and then explaining the meanings of the terms. I have learned so much, and l have loved getting to know you all!
My mom and I work for the same hospice company. She's the night nurse and she is exactly the right person to help families in the middle of the night. I'm so proud of her. I'm a chaplain and work days. We don't overlap very often either, but you're absolutely right that the professionalism takes over when it's needed.
Just want to say your mom is an absolute angel for doing what she does. I love seeing you two together! Please make more videos like this in the future ❤️
Both you and your mom are amazing and it is cool that you guys work in a field that you sometimes can work together. Your mom calming, explaining, and wonderful attitude is something the world needs more of.I bet she is a blessing to all the mother she helps at work and I appreciate it.
Your mom rocks! I used to be an OB nurse and I was nodding at lots of things she said. And I lost 2 pregnancies. The spontaneous a. was more difficult because of the complete lack of grief care. And the fact that every staff member walked in and asked where my baby was.
Oh my gosh , what an appalling lack of communication on their behalf. I'm sorry you had to go through that inconsiderate professional neglect on their behalf. Xxx
I had 2 nurses that haunt me to this day when I lost my daughter, when I was waiting for the sonographer as the bedside ultrasound couldnt find a heartbeat (and for my partner to arrive as he was home with our other children) one nurse told me I must have already known otherwise I wouldnt have come in (I went in because I had a stomach cramp that wouldnt go away and couldnt remember when my baby last moved, so thought I may need to deliver early again) and then 1 whilst in labour as they refused my request for a c-section, she stood at my foot and kept telling me 'don't worry it's all going to be over soon' like yeah thats what i need to hear while trying to deliver my baby you told me 2hrs ago was no longer alive... If I hadnt been in active labour I may have just punched her at that point, I remember wanting to
I’m watching this while tracking contractions, pretty sure I’m in early labor and going to have my little guy soon. The part your mom said about how her favorite part of L&D is getting the mom from being scared to enjoying her delivery made me tear up, I’m SO hoping the nurses at my delivering hospital are as sweet and compassionate as her🥺❤️
My moms a retired labor & delivery nurse of 37 years and she reminds me so much of your Mama! The cutest ever, such a fun video. We're going to need a part 2 ❤️
Much respect for what your mom does. My second baby, my water broke at 27 weeks and 4 cm dilated. I was hospitalized on the high risk floor until she was born at 31 weeks. The nurses were the only people I saw every four hours. My third baby was an emergency cerclage at 16 weeks, born at 39 weeks with a brief period of shoulder dystocia during delivery. Much thanks to both of your professions. My kids are doing amazing today.
I wasn't expecting to cry at this video, but I totally did when your sweet Mom talked about how she cares for her grieving patients. MDJ, thank you for sharing her with us
Hey there, MDJ! My own mother (deceased last year) was a L&D hospital nurse for many years in New England, before going into elder care down in FL. I used to read her old nursing reference books when I was a boy, if you can believe that! Great to see you (and your mum) speaking out like this together. And yes, vaccination... Because Science! :)
Easily believable! My mum invested in an encyclopedia set shortly after I was born, so I grew up reading about EVERYTHING. Some of us are just naturally inquisitive, and the desire for knowledge doesn't care about gender. I think it's so cool that, even as a guy, you wanted to learn, regardless of the subject matter 🤗 Plus, as my husband says (if you're hetero) there's no reason not to know about the bodily functions of the opposite sex. Guys that know how the female body functions, especially without freaking out about the most mundane aspects, are far too rare.
Edit: I also remember the AWFUL CNA I had who was about 5 m herself. Would go on & on about how Anti C section she was, I had had my 2nd. My 1st was birth injured. I should've filed a complaint
One of my neighbours lost her pregnancy quite late. I saw her right after it happened, and didn't know yet, so I thought she'd just given birth. I almost asked her where the baby was, but then I got a bad feeling. I remembered your episode about the TSA being dumb about you transporting your breastmilk, and your discussion about grieving mothers, and I decided it would be better to be safe than sorry. So I didn't say anything to her about it. I'm so glad that I didn't, because my mom told me afterwards that she'd lost the baby. I'm so grateful for your videos, and the compassion they overflow with.
This is so sweet! I love how y’all can compliment each other and have such a great time together! ❤️❤️❤️ your mom is awesome! Oh and btw when I was born I weighed 10.8 lbs…🙈 and it was vaginally….my biological mom had a lot of damage to her nerves, tissue, and muscles around the rectal canal and lost all function for using the bathroom and had a lot of bleeding. (I’m adopted so that’s why I say biological mom)
“It was a Bucees to be quite honest.” Omg she is precious protect her at all costs! And bring her to New Zealand for a visit as soon as it’s safe to do so!
I have the deepest appreciation for people who work in the medical field, but nurses that have worked the NICU hold a special place in my heart. My son was born at 24 weeks and spent 143 days in the NICU. That was almost 6 years ago and I can still name every single nurse, NNP, and doctor that cared for him.
This was awesome - I really enjoyed watching you two answer questions and talk about your experiences in your fields of work. What a dynamic duo! When the video was done I was disappointed since it seemed so short. You two are great at what you do and how you do it - smart, empathetic, confident, and skilled. I'm hoping there will be another collab between mom and daughter again. All the best to both of you and your family.
My mom was my English teacher in grade 10, and navigating if I should use Mrs.so-and-so or Mom was so awkward we just agreed it was going to be mom since the whole class was kids I'd grown up with as well, so it just worked for us all haha. You guys clearly have such a fantastic relationship, it's so much fun to listen to you guys talk.
Y’all are so fun to watch. What a great mother/daughter relationship! I love how you two are in the same field of work… my mom suggested that I become a teacher like she was and I was just like NOPE, no thank you 😂
I love this! As a mom of an angel baby I really appreciate that you take your role so seriously. Most of my nurses were great and I honestly feel like nurses are superheros. They are care givers, janitors, wait staff, and therapists and so much more! Sorry MDJ doctors are cool too!
Aww that was so sweet when she recognized Jennie and Dorma. Make my heart swoon 🥰 I could see the calm and just ease in your mom from the start of the video I would be happy to have her as my nurse and happy to have you as my doctor lol
Haha, I had a similar experience to your mom. My son took such a long time to be born because he was sunny side up. And yes, pushing against a brick wall is a good definition. I pushed for two hours with no meds until finally my OB said he thought I was too tired and it was time to intervene so he gave me a spinal and then used the vacuum and he was out in a couple minutes. I was also 21. In contrast with my surrogate baby I had last year (weirdly my son was 7 too, so also similar age with second pregnancy by the sounds of it) I gave birth 3 weeks early (24 hours before her poor parents had planned to get on the plane to my city in BC from their city in Ontario), she was in the perfect position and it only took 4 hours between my water breaking in bed at 2am and her 3-push delivery. I was floored with how quick it was. Mind you, my son was also 8lbs 9oz while surrobabe was a tiny, in comparison, 5lbs 11oz...I also tore though. I think he said third degree. All was perfect. We had to test her blood sugars and I ended up being the one to do skin to skin while we waited for her mama to get there (12 hours after delivery).
Mama Dr. Jones, your mom is awesome! My mother in law and my sister in law are both pediatric nurses. I love them both. My mother in law was a God send when I had my little one. I was calling her daily the first few weeks.
I love you two so much!! What an amazing relationship to have. That must be so enriching to be able to talk in-depth about your professions and really understand each other!
Your mom is just precious. I was thinking while watching this, how I would have loved to have had her as a nurse for any/all of my four non medicated deliveries. She seems so sweet, calm and encouraging. I had great nurses (from what I remember) but your mom just seems so great!
Hi MDJ (and Mama's MAMA Doctor Jones)! Out of curiosity, how frequently do nurses graduate with their BSN and get inspired to go to medical school to be a doctor as opposed to a nurse? Have you known anyone like that?
Many years ago, I had a primary care doc who started out as a nurse and actually put herself through med school while working as a nurse. Best doc I ever had.
My friend's sister started as a nurse and is now finishing up residency to be a doctor. She said she felt that she couldnt do enough for patients as a nurse so chose to go back to become a doctor to better advocate for patients.
This video was such a delight! I'd love to see a full video about preeclampsia. I had preeclampsia during my first pregnancy and was induced at 35+6. It makes me nervous about my next pregnancy, but my OB has told me that past preeclampsia shouldn't stop me from pursuing another pregnancy.
Yes, mama Jones' mama is a sweetheart! A friend of mine was 14 pounds, & her mother did deliver vaginally! My mother mumbled about it when cooking all evening. LoL 😆
Thank you Tammy for letting the part about the tear stay in. I don't think a lot of people know that this is such a problem and needs thorough, proper management too, in order to get a good result. Also, I loved hearing about your side of things too, and I can totally imagine MDJ sitting on the floor asking how dilated you were. 😂
I've had 5 c-sections, I can't get pain meds in my spinal because it makes me sick, so I rely on good pain meds after the spinal wears off, especially the first 12-16 hours, it feels like someone is holding a fire to the incision site, I had a nurse who literally shamed me for asking for my pain meds, and told me there were women who had c-sections and they only needed ibprofin ... So I just cried all night in pain, no meds, and asked to go home as soon as my Dr got there in the morning to check on me. It was terrible.
I think I'd be fine with my Dr. calling their mom Mom at work, or a mom calling them by their fist name, anything else would be weird for you. Unless you're dealing with something super serious and scary of course.
My daughter was sunny side up. 30 hours of back labour ending in c section. I never got past 4cm. So I can't say how the nurses would have been. The nurses I had for the 5 days I was in recovering were mostly not great. Didn't believe I was in as much pain as I was. (Turned out it was an infection in my incision). I had a couple great nurses ..one was a student actually. They all had different suggestions on breastfeeding,and most of them would scold me for doing what the previous nurse told me to do. I tend to have a low opinion of nurses since then. I have to keep reminding myself that there are great nurses...like the student and the head nurse in my experience, the nurses I had when I had my hysterectomy. The nurses my dad had in Hospice care.
I really sympathize with you - bad experiences can totally block out any positive experiences. And on behalf of nurses everywhere, I apologize for folks not recognizing/treating pain or discomfort. Unfortunately, people’s previous experiences with pain or pain med seeking patients can color how they deal with future patients. I wish that more people would stop and take a “re-set” on their assessments/expectations before dealing with new patients.
Aww your mama is lovely ❤️ my parents live in NZ and I’m in the UK, covid has been hard as it stopped all visits but you guys will make it work. Technology helps! Xxx
Love this! Your mom is amazing! I really love what she said about you moving away, how she was sad but how important it was for her that you are able to do these things with your life.
Your mom def needs her own channel or to be a fixture on yours (if she wants to)! I'm just sad you cut off the best part, HOW did she know you were gonna have pre-eclampsia from a picture? So interesting!
That was amazing! Thank you for doing this video with your mom! She seems just as wonderful as you momma Jones! Maybe another Q&A with her? That would be fabulous. You make an awesome team :)
Awww this is such a wholesome, feel good video. I love this 😊❤️ I’m going to go call my mom now. Edit: I just got to the part where Nurse Tammy described her 4th degree tear while pushing MDJ’s sister, and I SCREAMED😱!
Your mom seems like a delight to have in a delivery situation. it can be such a nerve wrecking intense time and having someone like her as a nurse must make people feel safe and calm 💜
Love this video, but the answer about your mom's favorite parts of a birth make me sad. I didn't get to have either one of those. There was no enjoying any of it. I had undiagnosed HELLP (even though I went to the ED with a three hour nose bleed two weeks prior). And I had to be under for my C section. I almost died and had a second surgery. Then I had the OB about 12 hours later telling me they were going to do everything possible not to let that happen because I was still pretty bad even then. Because I had twins and because of the HELLP there will be no more babies here. I live with it, but I don't think I'll ever be "over" that I had such a terrible experience, which did not get better after they were born, as I was then over medicated for bp from 24 hours until discharge because they kept treating white coat syndrome at that point and it took me six days to get that day's OB to believe me. Yaaaaay. When I went to MFM outpaitnet a week postpartum, not on bp meds I knew I didnt need he told me to throw them away because I was right. They overmedicsted me for days in the hospital with one point making me near syncopal for... hours. 🤦🏻♀️ They also didn't notice on mom/baby while I was on perinatal that one of my twins was having apnea with each feed. Three days they couldn't figure out why he was a poor feeder. As soon as I got to mom/baby my twins were then sent to the NICU. No part of the week I was in was good, and that's my one birth ever. A shitshow. At the network I work for, as the cherry on top.
What a great Q&A! Tammy, it was so sweet to “see” you talk about Dharma and the impact she had in your life. It’s always a great feeling when you hear people say your baby’s name💖 Danielle gave wonderful advice for other providers👏👏👏 Dharma would be 14 in March and she is STILL touching lives🥰
You picked such a beautiful name for your angel daughter!
I am so sorry for your losses, what a sweet story that was about you. Rest in peace sweet Dharma ❤
It was really heartwarming to see what an impact you and Dharma had on Tammy! I love how safe and therapeutic this community is. Be well! ❤
Your story was incredibly touching, thank you so much for sharing ❤️
From one mom who’s Lost a baby to another May Dharma’s memory be eternal ❤️
My mom will probably read every comment, tell her if you think she’s amazing! I do. 🥰
Your mom is amazing for sure!!!
Memories 💙
December 30, 1982
I was giving birth to my son, during the Lunar Eclipse. Ya, Dad & Grandpa were outside watching the moon.
Thanks Ladies for the stories 💜💗💜💗💜
you gotta love mom
I'm so happy u are back. I was so worried about you after your last short. Your mom is as amazing as u 😊
She's did an amazing job! I love your mom!! Does she want another daughter?? 😂
Thanks for leaving in the bit about the 4th degree tearing. I just had my post-partum assessment of my 3C tear, which apparently is healing beautifully. My third child was 10lb and I pushed for maybe 8 minutes. It's nice hearing we're not alone. (Also how wild is it we're strong enough to do that kind of damage with our stomach muscles?)
Women (and anyone else with a uterus) are so cool! Awesome that you are healing well, not only could you do damage to yourself but you can repair it too. Superwoman!
The story of your mom and the hospital bag nearly made me cry! That's real love.
My daughter was OP and I tried to push her out for 3 hours after being in induced labor for 43 hours. 😭 Ended in a C-section... I'm due with my son in April and hoping I can try a VBAC... Knowing that if he is facing the right way I won't have to push so hard is so encouraging for me. 😂
this is one of my favorite videos! not kidding. Watchung you and your mom together is so heartwarming and I can tell how you got your caring heart 💚
Your mom is so humble and sweet. I can just tell how amazingly selfless she is. She seems like the kind of person who always thinks of other people before she does anything, and she clearly loves you so much. You're very lucky to have such a wonderful mother.
It's also very clear that you're both very intelligent and driven people. Something for the rest of us to strive for.
Y’all are the cutest and sweetest and most talented duo! 💖 Your love and respect for one another just shines through! So glad I found your channel 💖
Your mom is so cuuuute! We must protect her! 💕
This video was so sweet it made me tear up a few times. It always gets to me seeing people love each other so much
I love your mom and the relationship you two have! It reminds me of my relationship with my mom. We are so lucky to have amazing moms!
That was so awesome!! Love your Mom!! Much love to you and Tammy! 🥰🥰🥰
Wow! This was great! I so enjoyed you and your mom together.
You guys look so much like each other ♥️ And thank you for your answers ♥️
Omg only 2 mins in and you two sound SO much a like! Like my mum and I. Love it 😍
This was the 💛 best! So much 😁 fun and super informative 🤔 Love your Mom...she's beautiful and you look so much like her 💛💛💛
Just wanted to add, as an auxiliary medical team member (hospital phlebotomist), I would absolutely love working with either of you. Granted the amount of interaction I have with an OB/GYN is relatively small, but I do often interact with L&D nurses. And your mom sounds like she'd be absolutely fantastic to work with. Also, the hand delivering amnio samples to the lab just makes me think of all the stuff I receive currently when working downstairs in the lab from L&D nurses (mostly covid test samples, with an occasional fFN (fetal fibronectin) sample). Just wanted to give some love from the basement dwellers that we lab techs often are (don't know if it's only my hospital has the lab in the basement, but the point remains)
Also, as a bit of an aside, not sure if anyone knows, but did the fFN test replace the amnio test described in the video? The goal of each test (determining preterm labor) seems to be about the same, but I'm not yet a physician/don't yet have the knowledge base to know the intricacies of the two tests. They merely appear to have the same goal (with fFN tests being significantly less invasive/probably less risky), at least from a person whose education level on the topic is just enough to be dangerous but not enough to actually know what I'm talking about lol
Love your channel. This is such a cute video. I was so nervous when I went into labor and I was hoping my aunt was working as she is a labor and delivery nurse. I made it through just fine but she was not able to make it, actually my doctor almost didn't make it as my delivery was very fast. I was 37wk +2days, my water broke at 4:30am and I delivered at 5:49am. The hospital is about 30/35 minutes from where we live. I was fully dilated on arrival and had already needed to push during the drive. 4 pushes and my son was born.
Any chance you can expand some of your merch apparel sizes to be more inclusive of larger sizes? I'd love to see at least 3X and 4X. Thanks!
Yeaaa! Happy you are back 🙏💖
Plus, your mom is super cool 😀
So when I placed my order of 4 shirts it only gave me black to pick from but now it has all kinds of colors 😭 of course I had to do super rush shipping cause I’m inpatient lol
As soon as your mom said op baby… I said like oh she was a sunny side up baby ☀️ I saw one during clinicals and the lady also tore really bad but it 3rd not 4th
Dr jones you look like your mama!
I loved this!!
I am an ICU nurse… I KNOW your mom is a PRESENCE on her unit. Everyone breathes a sigh of relief when she’s working even when it’s a crazy day. The compassionate, calm, kind, fair, super experienced nurse, but can also get things done and nicely tell someone off if necessary. Every unit needs a nurse like your mom!!!
She truly has an aura
Thank you, Rachel, for being a nurse
I totally agree.
This is so sweet. I'm from a health care family too...its so loving to see your mom and you interacting. Love the tshirt!!!!
I was just thinking, I'd love to see her in the room if I was in labour! Reassuring presence, for sure. Plus. she'd have noticed my pre-eclampsia if she'd done my pre-natal care, but that's another story! lovely to see you both together. Thank you!
I appreciate that your mom kept the part in about the 4th degree tearing, and why it’s important to manage your pushing. Back when I was a first time mom, I had tearing (nothing terrible, but both inside and outside) and I’m confident had I not been such a overly aggressive pusher I wouldn’t have probably torn at all. Even during crowning I was pushing instead of pausing. I feel more women need to hear this!
It would be great to watch a video on this topic
Yer I was the same. Near the end I was just super excited for the baby to be born. The midwife told me to slow down but I ignored them. Kinda wish I'd listened but I only had a 2nd degree tear which healed well.
@@kristinagruzdeva3848 omg yes, i am going to be a first time mom this year and i am kinda afraid of tearing.
I was the wierdo where my baby catapulted himself out I didn't push at all the doctor wasn't even able to get gloves on i had no epidural it felt like I got shredded down there 🤣 but had zero tearing nothing 😂 when I asked the doctor if I had torn and he said no i didnt even really believe him cuz how it had felt 😂 was not my first baby thoughso that helped. But I also did not tear with my first and got him out in 15 min with an epidural that worked so good I felt nothing even as he came out and he was a good 7 pounds
I tore 2nd degree from 20min of pushing, I was solely following the OBs direction. In those moments you're so scared of anything going wrong so you just follow what they say...
My dad weighed exactly 12 lbs when he was born.
At the time they didn’t let men into the delivery room, story goes that when my Papa (a farmer) came into the room he goes “Damn R’Veda! That’s not a baby, that’s half of Holsteen calf!”
My grandmother did not have any more children
Your grandma has a cool name and a funny husband X)
After a 12 pounder I would have said no thank you to anymore delivery's too!
My first baby girl weighed 10 lbs and I gave birth vaginally. She was the heaviest baby in the hospital at that time.
My dad was the last of my grandmother's 14 children (all delivered vaginally without drugs bc mexico) and he weighed 13 pounds. Grandma was unconscious for four days. His birth legit put her in a coma
I was a preemie and apparently I was 3 lbs 3 oz and holy heck I was a smol bean
If you can't make the situation better, don't ever be the person who makes it worse.
DUDE. This is so powerful. I try to live by these words in ALL scenarios. I learned it years ago from a woman in a Facebook group when we were defending another woman and how she chose to handle...believe it or not...a doomed pregnancy. I've never forgotten those words. They apply to anything ❤
Ugh yes! I remember when I was miscarrying, close to 12 weeks, I was 20 and so scared and sad and in pain. My OBGYN and the nurse confirmed the miscarriage and left me alone bloody on the table. When I came out they didn't even let reception know I miscarried and they asked when my next appointment for an ultrasound would be and I burst out in tears. I also live in Texas which is why I love MDJ, I wish she was still in Texas because I would move to where she was to have her be my doctor! Now I have a healthy daughter at 27 but man the heartbreak I felt and the lack of concern for me and judgment was awful.
For real. Such a powerful statement! You might not be able to make it better but you can make sure to not make it worse. ❤
@@clarissathompson0103 Oh Clarissa I am SO SORRY that this happened to you! I'm sorry that you lost a wanted pregnancy and that you were in fear and didn't get the medical or emotional support that you needed and deserved at that time. Please accept my love from across the internet because it is real and genuine and you have my full support behind you. I'm so happy to know that you have a healthy child now. Be well! 🥰❤👑
I never comment on UA-cam videos, but just had to say your mom seems like a genuinely kind and compassionate human. We need more people like her! Thanks for all the wonderful content and sharing your delightful Mom with us.
I actually got to deliver my grandson!!! L&D nurse for 28 years… I worked with the now Midwife as a RN …. She said do you want to catch? I almost broke my neck to get the gloves on! I was acting as a Doula for all my grandkids Births!
This is awesome!
How precious! What an incredible bond to have with your grandchildren! 💕💕🤗
I got to baby catch for my sister! I was working when she was laboring and my couplet had been transferred to mother/baby just in time for the main event and for me to catch for my nephew! First time I cried at work.
Your comment about your mom calling your preeclampsia cracked me up. It takes a lot of practice and knowledge to look at someone in a picture and call their diagnosis. I love y’all so much. Such a beautiful relationship and i understand now why Dr.Jones is an absolutely amazing human- her mom is just as amazing!! Thank you for posting!
You two probably have stories that would go on for hours... and we'd all be right here listening to every single one of them :)
I had my son at 17 years old... I know I was a young and naive kid and shouldn't have been having a child but I made my choice to grow up and be responsible, the nurses were so mean to me! I wish I had you two amazing women in my room! My son is now 18 and graduated high school a year early cause he's a freaking wiz kid and guess what I freaking did it all alone even as a young mom! I feel like you two would have believed in me and treated me well and I'm so glad that there are Doctors and nurses like you out there for the girls that aren't as strong and need some kindness and encouragement! Love you both! Thank you for what you do! 😍
Angel Marsh Congratulations! You should work with pregnant teens to teach them they CAN do a good job as a parent, and be a role model. It is sad that the nurses were not kind to you and they should have tried to be guides for you and instilled confidence in you. Maybe you can be a positive spirit for someone in that position some time. I am sure your son is proud of you!
Teen moms deserve support so they can make the best life possible for themselves and their baby, it's sad that even medical professionals sometimes don't realise that... Congrats on being a great mom!
Wow it’s so sad you were treated badly. Well done for choosing to raise your son!
Every woman of every age needs good nurses, but especially young women. I was 23 when I had my twins and was so grateful I had a c-section because I had to be in the hospital for a few days, whereas if I had delivered vaginally I probably would have been discharged very quickly. I had support from my mom, mother in law, husband, but I still was so grateful for the information the nurses gave me, all of the help and stuff, it was really useful. I think that any woman that decides to keep her baby deserves respect and as much help as possible, especially if she is going against the odds like you.
Also, your only 35, if your son does have kids imagine how much of your life you get to spend with your grandkids! My mom was about 46 when my boys were born, not as young, but still really young especially for a grandma. It's rough, and definitely not how most people do it, but there are a lot of perks to having kids young and getting to enjoy your family.
@@juliee593 every teen should get support, no matter how different they are from "the norm". When I was a teen, practically every adult pressured me to have sex to discover my sexuality, while my boyfriend refused to even discuss contraception. My obgyn wasn't any help either, she deemed the pill "too risky" for me, and I was deemed "too immature" for other contraceptives. Not to mention her attempts to "fix" my sexuality (I'm asexual, which wasn't considered an option back then)
I'm so glad I'm not an only child, I might have been a teen mum without my sister's support
Miss Tammy is AWESOME! Can you have her join you for an "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" episode? I'd love to hear both of you have fits about what's missing and incredible in that show.
You got me through my first pregnancy with your answers to awkward questions and humor... I am pregnant with my 2nd now and I would give anything to have a Dr like you! I think you are funny and insightful and I thank you for
Uploading! ❤️
Oh same! I started watching when pregnant with my first and we only discovered I was pregnant with our second (at nine weeks) because I had unusual spotting and I was like, "oh odd, whatever" then I remembered I had just watched one of her "I didn't know I was pregnant" reaction videos and she's being like, "unusual period activity, take a test." And I had one on hand, plus I was planning on drinking the next night, so I figured might as well be safe. Well, I didn't get to drink. My doctor is pretty good, I just hope he makes it for the birth this time. (Was on vacation) Her video's made me feel better the first go around and I'm looking forward to watching more this time too
@@Nevertoleave congratulations!! I am due in May... And it's a girl I couldn't be happier lol I got a son last time and a girl this time... Although after this one... Someone is getting spayed and/or neutered!!! 😂
Imagine being such a good nurse that you look at a picture of your daughter and predict her pre-eclampsia. Love this beautiful relationship.
This was great to watch! My oldest sister was an L&D nurse for over 10 years before she went into pediatrics. She's told many stories, but one of the best was actually her own. She ended up giving birth on the side of the road 10 minutes from the hospital at like 2:30 am. Her friend, also an L&D nurse (who was at the time waiting for her Certified Nurse Midwife certificate to arrive in the mail), and our mother, who has 12 kids, were there with her. No one wants to have a roadside baby, but if you gotta do it, that's like the best crew to have right there! Lol.
A calm nurse is the best!
My first baby was rough and my OB walked in and said “you have my favorite nurse” as we were getting situated. She also said (specifically to my husband who was in IM residency) that “if she says something going down, she’s right and we’re all ready to run with it.” It was so good to know from my OB that our nurse was who she wanted at her babies deliveries. I had an abruption in labor as well as some other complications but our nurse was so calm and protective over both me and my freaking out husband. Literally a great nurse can make all the difference.
As someone who worked with both her parents at some point, the cringe of "what should I call them at work?" 😬 is so relatable lolll
Thank you both, that was amazing
Wow, MDJ looks like her mama. Interestingly, my favorite mom (my step mom) was a labor and delivery nurse for 30 years. When she retired, she got bored and when into hospice nursing and working another ten years. Her L&D process went into the the late 80s, so horrifies many peoples with the norms of the day. She says she caught more babies than most of the doctors she worked with. Granted, she worked in a very working class hospital, so there could be doubles on doctors, and other procedures going on. We love you Miss Tammy. Come back soon, even if it's Zoom.
They look so similar!
Mama Doctor Jones and Mama Doctor Jones' Mama? 😱😱😱 I love it
Two absolutely amazing educated women. I strive to be like both of you. Thank you for educating with no bias, judgement and using medical terminology, and then explaining the meanings of the terms. I have learned so much, and l have loved getting to know you all!
My favorite UA-camr/content creator of all time! I want to be an obgyn as well and I love the combination of comedy and the medical stuff together
My mom and I work for the same hospice company. She's the night nurse and she is exactly the right person to help families in the middle of the night. I'm so proud of her. I'm a chaplain and work days. We don't overlap very often either, but you're absolutely right that the professionalism takes over when it's needed.
Both yourself and your mom are incredible!
Just want to say your mom is an absolute angel for doing what she does. I love seeing you two together! Please make more videos like this in the future ❤️
Both you and your mom are amazing and it is cool that you guys work in a field that you sometimes can work together. Your mom calming, explaining, and wonderful attitude is something the world needs more of.I bet she is a blessing to all the mother she helps at work and I appreciate it.
You are so like your mum 🥰 she’s clearly so proud of you as well 😊 two gorgeous amazing women! ♥️
Your mom rocks! I used to be an OB nurse and I was nodding at lots of things she said. And I lost 2 pregnancies. The spontaneous a. was more difficult because of the complete lack of grief care. And the fact that every staff member walked in and asked where my baby was.
Oh my gosh , what an appalling lack of communication on their behalf. I'm sorry you had to go through that inconsiderate professional neglect on their behalf. Xxx
I had 2 nurses that haunt me to this day when I lost my daughter, when I was waiting for the sonographer as the bedside ultrasound couldnt find a heartbeat (and for my partner to arrive as he was home with our other children) one nurse told me I must have already known otherwise I wouldnt have come in (I went in because I had a stomach cramp that wouldnt go away and couldnt remember when my baby last moved, so thought I may need to deliver early again) and then 1 whilst in labour as they refused my request for a c-section, she stood at my foot and kept telling me 'don't worry it's all going to be over soon' like yeah thats what i need to hear while trying to deliver my baby you told me 2hrs ago was no longer alive... If I hadnt been in active labour I may have just punched her at that point, I remember wanting to
@@shantalberg4214 That’s horrible on a professional level, not just have compassion for your patient.
I can see where you get your kindness, honesty and positivity from. Your mum is incredible!
Thank you for talking about how to treat pregnancy loss. How the doctor reacts and breaks the news to the patient makes a huge difference.
I’m watching this while tracking contractions, pretty sure I’m in early labor and going to have my little guy soon. The part your mom said about how her favorite part of L&D is getting the mom from being scared to enjoying her delivery made me tear up, I’m SO hoping the nurses at my delivering hospital are as sweet and compassionate as her🥺❤️
i need your mom to drop her skincare routine 🤩❤️❤️
Word. It’s basically just moisturizer. 😆
My moms a retired labor & delivery nurse of 37 years and she reminds me so much of your Mama! The cutest ever, such a fun video. We're going to need a part 2 ❤️
Much respect for what your mom does. My second baby, my water broke at 27 weeks and 4 cm dilated. I was hospitalized on the high risk floor until she was born at 31 weeks. The nurses were the only people I saw every four hours. My third baby was an emergency cerclage at 16 weeks, born at 39 weeks with a brief period of shoulder dystocia during delivery. Much thanks to both of your professions. My kids are doing amazing today.
I wasn't expecting to cry at this video, but I totally did when your sweet Mom talked about how she cares for her grieving patients. MDJ, thank you for sharing her with us
Science moms raising science women 💕❤️💕❤️
Hey there, MDJ! My own mother (deceased last year) was a L&D hospital nurse for many years in New England, before going into elder care down in FL. I used to read her old nursing reference books when I was a boy, if you can believe that! Great to see you (and your mum) speaking out like this together. And yes, vaccination... Because Science! :)
Easily believable! My mum invested in an encyclopedia set shortly after I was born, so I grew up reading about EVERYTHING. Some of us are just naturally inquisitive, and the desire for knowledge doesn't care about gender. I think it's so cool that, even as a guy, you wanted to learn, regardless of the subject matter 🤗
Plus, as my husband says (if you're hetero) there's no reason not to know about the bodily functions of the opposite sex. Guys that know how the female body functions, especially without freaking out about the most mundane aspects, are far too rare.
I read my mom's nursing textbooks as a child as well.
I'm sorry for your loss, Joel. It sounds like you have learned some wonderful knowledge from your mother and her books! She'd be proud of you'!
I still remember 2 of mine my kids are 16 & 20 now :)
Edit: I also remember the AWFUL CNA I had who was about 5 m herself.
Would go on & on about how Anti C section she was, I had had my 2nd.
My 1st was birth injured.
I should've filed a complaint
One of my neighbours lost her pregnancy quite late. I saw her right after it happened, and didn't know yet, so I thought she'd just given birth. I almost asked her where the baby was, but then I got a bad feeling. I remembered your episode about the TSA being dumb about you transporting your breastmilk, and your discussion about grieving mothers, and I decided it would be better to be safe than sorry. So I didn't say anything to her about it. I'm so glad that I didn't, because my mom told me afterwards that she'd lost the baby. I'm so grateful for your videos, and the compassion they overflow with.
This is so sweet! I love how y’all can compliment each other and have such a great time together! ❤️❤️❤️ your mom is awesome! Oh and btw when I was born I weighed 10.8 lbs…🙈 and it was vaginally….my biological mom had a lot of damage to her nerves, tissue, and muscles around the rectal canal and lost all function for using the bathroom and had a lot of bleeding. (I’m adopted so that’s why I say biological mom)
“It was a Bucees to be quite honest.” Omg she is precious protect her at all costs! And bring her to New Zealand for a visit as soon as it’s safe to do so!
I have the deepest appreciation for people who work in the medical field, but nurses that have worked the NICU hold a special place in my heart. My son was born at 24 weeks and spent 143 days in the NICU. That was almost 6 years ago and I can still name every single nurse, NNP, and doctor that cared for him.
You two are my all time faves! Love your dedication to your jobs! ❤️
This was awesome - I really enjoyed watching you two answer questions and talk about your experiences in your fields of work. What a dynamic duo! When the video was done I was disappointed since it seemed so short. You two are great at what you do and how you do it - smart, empathetic, confident, and skilled. I'm hoping there will be another collab between mom and daughter again. All the best to both of you and your family.
Can see resemblance and love when see children follow their parents footsteps. Must be nice to have a similar talent 🙂
My mom was my English teacher in grade 10, and navigating if I should use Mrs.so-and-so or Mom was so awkward we just agreed it was going to be mom since the whole class was kids I'd grown up with as well, so it just worked for us all haha. You guys clearly have such a fantastic relationship, it's so much fun to listen to you guys talk.
Y’all are so fun to watch. What a great mother/daughter relationship! I love how you two are in the same field of work… my mom suggested that I become a teacher like she was and I was just like NOPE, no thank you 😂
Your mom is as lovable as you are. Great video.
I love this! As a mom of an angel baby I really appreciate that you take your role so seriously. Most of my nurses were great and I honestly feel like nurses are superheros. They are care givers, janitors, wait staff, and therapists and so much more! Sorry MDJ doctors are cool too!
Aww that was so sweet when she recognized Jennie and Dorma. Make my heart swoon 🥰
I could see the calm and just ease in your mom from the start of the video I would be happy to have her as my nurse and happy to have you as my doctor lol
Haha, I had a similar experience to your mom. My son took such a long time to be born because he was sunny side up. And yes, pushing against a brick wall is a good definition. I pushed for two hours with no meds until finally my OB said he thought I was too tired and it was time to intervene so he gave me a spinal and then used the vacuum and he was out in a couple minutes. I was also 21. In contrast with my surrogate baby I had last year (weirdly my son was 7 too, so also similar age with second pregnancy by the sounds of it) I gave birth 3 weeks early (24 hours before her poor parents had planned to get on the plane to my city in BC from their city in Ontario), she was in the perfect position and it only took 4 hours between my water breaking in bed at 2am and her 3-push delivery. I was floored with how quick it was. Mind you, my son was also 8lbs 9oz while surrobabe was a tiny, in comparison, 5lbs 11oz...I also tore though. I think he said third degree. All was perfect. We had to test her blood sugars and I ended up being the one to do skin to skin while we waited for her mama to get there (12 hours after delivery).
Omg I love this! I loved my OB but I still get tears in my eyes remembering my L&D nurse. L&D nurses are literally sent from the heavens. ❤️
I love this video so much. The relationship you have with your mother is awesome and she seems like a really wonderful woman.
Mama Dr. Jones, your mom is awesome! My mother in law and my sister in law are both pediatric nurses. I love them both. My mother in law was a God send when I had my little one. I was calling her daily the first few weeks.
I am watching wearing my "you don't get to be offended by science" shirt. Hi Tammy 👋👋👋 and Hi sister.
Your momma is amazing. I love how she embraces your decisions in your career!
I love watching the two of you interact. You mom seems so sweet!
You and your mother are adorable. She’s great! Thank you for posting this video! I’d love to see more of her.
Wow, before you moved, aw? Also, this was so cuteeee! Love seeing videos with tammy!
Yes, filmed before we left. 😭♥️
I love you two so much!! What an amazing relationship to have. That must be so enriching to be able to talk in-depth about your professions and really understand each other!
Your mom is just precious. I was thinking while watching this, how I would have loved to have had her as a nurse for any/all of my four non medicated deliveries. She seems so sweet, calm and encouraging. I had great nurses (from what I remember) but your mom just seems so great!
Hi MDJ (and Mama's MAMA Doctor Jones)! Out of curiosity, how frequently do nurses graduate with their BSN and get inspired to go to medical school to be a doctor as opposed to a nurse? Have you known anyone like that?
Many years ago, I had a primary care doc who started out as a nurse and actually put herself through med school while working as a nurse. Best doc I ever had.
@@B7eema that's great to hear!
My friend's sister started as a nurse and is now finishing up residency to be a doctor. She said she felt that she couldnt do enough for patients as a nurse so chose to go back to become a doctor to better advocate for patients.
@@Lemonade_Stand_ that's so wonderful to hear!
This video was such a delight! I'd love to see a full video about preeclampsia. I had preeclampsia during my first pregnancy and was induced at 35+6. It makes me nervous about my next pregnancy, but my OB has told me that past preeclampsia shouldn't stop me from pursuing another pregnancy.
She is great, we need to see her more often 🤣💖
Yes, mama Jones' mama is a sweetheart! A friend of mine was 14 pounds, & her mother did deliver vaginally! My mother mumbled about it when cooking all evening. LoL 😆
This was adorable. I wish I had a loving and supportive parent when I was growing up and having kids and going to college. Your mom did a great job!
Thank you Tammy for letting the part about the tear stay in. I don't think a lot of people know that this is such a problem and needs thorough, proper management too, in order to get a good result. Also, I loved hearing about your side of things too, and I can totally imagine MDJ sitting on the floor asking how dilated you were. 😂
I've had 5 c-sections, I can't get pain meds in my spinal because it makes me sick, so I rely on good pain meds after the spinal wears off, especially the first 12-16 hours, it feels like someone is holding a fire to the incision site, I had a nurse who literally shamed me for asking for my pain meds, and told me there were women who had c-sections and they only needed ibprofin ... So I just cried all night in pain, no meds, and asked to go home as soon as my Dr got there in the morning to check on me. It was terrible.
?!?! That's awful. Unacceptable.
Your mother seems absolutely wonderful. ❤️ I love seeing such loving and supportive mothers. 🥹❤️
I LOVED this video!!! I love your relationship with your mama. Such respectable , strong and caring women
I think I'd be fine with my Dr. calling their mom Mom at work, or a mom calling them by their fist name, anything else would be weird for you. Unless you're dealing with something super serious and scary of course.
The situation we were discussing was quite serious. In normal passing it’s ok. ♥️
Thanks for all the work you've done, Mama Doctor Jones' Mama, and thank you for creating such a wonderful human!
My daughter was sunny side up. 30 hours of back labour ending in c section. I never got past 4cm. So I can't say how the nurses would have been. The nurses I had for the 5 days I was in recovering were mostly not great. Didn't believe I was in as much pain as I was. (Turned out it was an infection in my incision). I had a couple great nurses
..one was a student actually. They all had different suggestions on breastfeeding,and most of them would scold me for doing what the previous nurse told me to do.
I tend to have a low opinion of nurses since then. I have to keep reminding myself that there are great nurses...like the student and the head nurse in my experience, the nurses I had when I had my hysterectomy. The nurses my dad had in Hospice care.
I really sympathize with you - bad experiences can totally block out any positive experiences. And on behalf of nurses everywhere, I apologize for folks not recognizing/treating pain or discomfort. Unfortunately, people’s previous experiences with pain or pain med seeking patients can color how they deal with future patients. I wish that more people would stop and take a “re-set” on their assessments/expectations before dealing with new patients.
Aww your mama is lovely ❤️ my parents live in NZ and I’m in the UK, covid has been hard as it stopped all visits but you guys will make it work. Technology helps! Xxx
Love this! Your mom is amazing! I really love what she said about you moving away, how she was sad but how important it was for her that you are able to do these things with your life.
Your mom def needs her own channel or to be a fixture on yours (if she wants to)! I'm just sad you cut off the best part, HOW did she know you were gonna have pre-eclampsia from a picture? So interesting!
Omgsh! Your chemistry and relationship is so amazing! I love it!! I see how much you each respect the other!
Retired nurse! Love the content and both of you. Great t-shirt, mom!
That was amazing! Thank you for doing this video with your mom! She seems just as wonderful as you momma Jones! Maybe another Q&A with her? That would be fabulous. You make an awesome team :)
Awww this is such a wholesome, feel good video. I love this 😊❤️
I’m going to go call my mom now.
Edit: I just got to the part where Nurse Tammy described her 4th degree tear while pushing MDJ’s sister, and I SCREAMED😱!
Your mom seems like a delight to have in a delivery situation. it can be such a nerve wrecking intense time and having someone like her as a nurse must make people feel safe and calm 💜
Love this video, but the answer about your mom's favorite parts of a birth make me sad. I didn't get to have either one of those. There was no enjoying any of it. I had undiagnosed HELLP (even though I went to the ED with a three hour nose bleed two weeks prior). And I had to be under for my C section. I almost died and had a second surgery. Then I had the OB about 12 hours later telling me they were going to do everything possible not to let that happen because I was still pretty bad even then. Because I had twins and because of the HELLP there will be no more babies here. I live with it, but I don't think I'll ever be "over" that I had such a terrible experience, which did not get better after they were born, as I was then over medicated for bp from 24 hours until discharge because they kept treating white coat syndrome at that point and it took me six days to get that day's OB to believe me. Yaaaaay. When I went to MFM outpaitnet a week postpartum, not on bp meds I knew I didnt need he told me to throw them away because I was right. They overmedicsted me for days in the hospital with one point making me near syncopal for... hours. 🤦🏻♀️ They also didn't notice on mom/baby while I was on perinatal that one of my twins was having apnea with each feed. Three days they couldn't figure out why he was a poor feeder. As soon as I got to mom/baby my twins were then sent to the NICU. No part of the week I was in was good, and that's my one birth ever. A shitshow. At the network I work for, as the cherry on top.