@@Jessthebes no offense but idgaf abt someone feeling “honest” about their cheating 😂 live w your sleezy guilt in silence no one wants to hear your excuses
@@opaliatzs That’s your opinion. My point goes back to the original comment. People can do wrong things, have remorse for what they did, and use platforms to speak out about it. Not everyone chooses to live in the shame of their past.
I just don't understand cheaters. I would never cheat. Just break it off or have a consensual polyamorous relationship. But don't cheat, trust, loyalty and honesty are just too important.
@@TheAmazingCoochini most of the time, they want to *have* their cake and *eat* it as well. Most of the time, casual cheaters see it as a momentary escapade, doesn't mean jack.
And I don't understand why people think becoming polyamorous would be a solution for cheaters. Usually people don't cheat because they want to sleep with more people at the same time, they do it because they have some problem within their relationship and they don't have the courage, or the tools, to address that directly. Cheating is the symptom, not the illness. Cheating means breaking an implicit pact of mutual trust and respect. And that is something people can do in every kind of relationship, even poly ones.
There are plenty of way worse things, like domestic abuse, different types of manipulation, and many other things that can truly harm you physically and mentally, but cheating is a selfish act, but often not meant to hurt someone, it’s just a weakness some people have, or they probably haven’t learned monogamy is not for them
It’s not that it’s being normalized it’s just being talked about. Cheating is bad but also it’s something that you can and should grow from and do better about
i hate how it's portrayed as forgivable in tv shows. like nah u chose to cheat. dont start crying to the protagonist that you didnt mean to hurt them and shit lol
i’ve been cheated on multiple times and it was actually traumatic in hindsight. i have severe trust issues, i worry about my partner constantly, the memories flash into my head at random, i can still picture everything vividly, and i breakdown whenever i think about it too much. it can be shattering for the person who was cheated on. i immediately blamed myself, thought i wasn’t good enough, felt i deserved it or could’ve done something to change things, and i lost a friendship from it. please don’t cheat on people. if you feel the need to do something with someone else, express that with your partner and if they’re not comfortable with that, break up.
I think if the cheating led to sexual activity (like you slept with somebody then slept with your partner after) then it 100% needs to be admitted to at least for health reasons, like putting aside the betrayal of trust that's also just putting the other person at risk of possible STIs. I can see wanting to just spare somebody's feelings in any other case but tbh I'd rather know than not know. I suspect one of my exes cheated and I wish he'd just been honest about it
My ex had sex w another girl and gaslighted me until I found out from his best friend he had sex w my co worker. My ex said he never told me bc he got tested and was fine and never wanted me to find out.
@@jand8303 that's not how guilt works lmao, yeah some people only regret it once they're caught but people also regret it because they know its bad and that they shouldn't have done it
Absolutely, whenever you see him or Curtis you know the episode is gonna be awesome lol That being said the women with the dope hair and flannel really killed it this episode too, imo she might have been the star of the show this time
I think you should tell your partner if you cheated on them because it shows that the reason you’re breaking up with them has nothing to do with their faults, it has to do with your own
I agree!! I also think it's funny that even with that information some people will still stay with ppl that cheat (who may/may not cheat again) and wont leave no matter what, very interesting 🤔
😂😂 most people’s first reaction when they find out someone cheated on them … ‘what’s wrong with me’ - as in why am I not good enough that this person cheated on me Or secondly - that’s most cheaters excuse for why they cheated … They say to their partner you didn’t give me what I wanted or needed so you made me cheat 😂😂 This is such a dumb comment. Everyone handles trauma differently and most people - will think it’s about them if their partner cheated (even if it obviously isn’t)
@@barbarella.artist I think you’re right, the first reaction is to question why you (the person that got cheated on) is inadequate for your partner, but over time, you can realize that the other person has faults. If you got broken up with, you’d also question why you weren’t good enough. Learning that you’ve been cheated on still makes you question why you weren’t good enough, but gives you a reason to doubt the judgement of your partner. In the long run, knowing you’ve been cheated on is probably better than being confused why your relationship ended
@@taytaygurl09 I never think it’s fair to blame the victim of cheating for staying with the person. If you’ve been with someone for a long time, you tend to be so attached that it’s not worth giving up on the relationship even for something so major. When couples communicate and overcome their issues, they often emerge even stronger. Cheating shouldn’t be what it takes to make a relationship stronger though
@@SuperMustache555 My comment was not aimed to shame victims of cheating. Rather when the cheating occurs early on in a superfluous relationship, it's funny how SOME people stay no matter how much disrespect they receive. I understand leaving is more difficult especially when time, love, children, etc. are involved. Anyways I was high last night when I left this comment, so don't pay me any mind.
Im very monogamous, and the people who take cheating as a casual topic is kinda scary to me. Im scared to get into a relationship because everyone of my friends has been cheated on, and I was in high school.
Don't worry . I assume you are a man from your name . There is a lot of faithful monogamous women . Women are known for loyalty and commitment more than men anyway . So yeah just be loyal too
@@philipsparks6089 yeah, men cheat a lot because society encourages them to do it while it punishes women for the same behavior. I have a lot of gay friends and cheating is pretty common amongst them, so idk
They obviously all feel remorse about it. But at a certain point you just learn from it and move on and be a better person. No point beating yourself up over something you did that was shitty like ten years ago
So icky. Can’t be pretty & be a cheater at the same time. Only ugly people cheat. & I’m definitely not just talking about looks…how you treat people ultimately determines everything
I feel like when people say this they want to reaffirm that their morality is better than someone else's because at least they didn't do what that person did. Wouldn't it be better to let them grow around that choice instead of shrivel up and not grow from it? People talking about their bad choices is more improvement than just hiding it away and pretending it didn't happen or staying in a state of shame their entire lives for it. If you want them to be riddled with heavy shame and crying every single time they talk about it then that's just kinda sadistic.
As a senior girl who goes to a "party school", there has never been one single moment where I considered cheating on my partner. You can go out without them, you can dress scandalously, you can have the full experience WITHOUT breaking the commitment that you made to them. There have been plenty of times that I've gotten a feeling that made me icky, and decided "nope, need to leave the situation because they're getting the wrong idea". You have full autonomy over your choices. This is absolutely NOT including SA, which is no one's fault and should be taken extremely seriously, but if you cheated just because you were drunk and thought it was worth it? Then you should feel ashamed.
People should just be honest and open. If they are into open relationships be honest about it. Find someone likeminded you can really be your true self
@@tacobell1299 true. I don’t know all the nuances (is the right word), but whatever the case people should just be honest. There’s so many different people in the world.
I'm actually both surprised and glad people brought up communication so much in this video. Yes, this is 100% how people should be, talk to a person and tell them what you want and how you see things, sadly there are still people who think touching a pp automatically puts them in a monogamous relationship😞
that’s the thing tho. usually cheaters are selfish and want other people for themselves, but not for their partners. being poly doesn’t work for cheaters.
There is no way I could cheat and not tell my partner. I would absolutely hate myself every second of the day and for the right reason. The person you've made a committment to has a right to know.
You would hurt regardless though. This way if they never found out you would save them from the hurt and trauma. IMO it's better to not tell them. Telling them when you didn't get caught feels selfish like you're trying to get relief and validation.
It's interesting how they are referring to cheating as "being open". Cheating is NOT the same as polyamory. Cheating is the most selfish thing you can do and is only done by insecure people
@@MarcoAce13 volunteering to be in this video is sort of a reflection of conscious. Cheating is a horrible thing to do, so why would you volunteer this information. Of course people change over time, and you shouldn’t have to suffer to what you did ten years ago, but the lack of remorse combined with the willingness to participate in this video is unsettling.
@@tophat7735 didn't most of the cheaters cheat at a young age? I feel like whenever people talk about remorseful expressions with cheaters, they really just are saying that they want to look absolutely ashamed and humiliated in order to even get any forgiveness. Lowkey, it kinda sickens me when people talk about how people should look when admitting to something like that because to me it just sounds like people want to feel reassured that they're better people, which imo makes them not as good as they think they are. Shouldn't people want them to grow to a point of not feeling utter shame and humiliation so they can grow around that bad choice instead of remain half grown because of it? Plus, the audience is not owed the apology or the shame.
"Sparing their feelings" by not confessing is most often mainly about sparing their own feelings & not having to go through seeing the damage they caused to unfold. Avoiding the guilt, the shame, the consequences, the tainted public image, all that. Let's not pretend it's some selfless, "caring" act just because it delays the pain. The truth comes out sooner or later anyways. And keeping it a secret robs your partner of the ability to make an informed decision about their future. What kind of partner they have. Risking their health (STD-risk!). Wasting their time. Creating even bigger trust issues - just imagine them finding out one day & looking back on all the years they didn't have a clue & felt happy & trusting while their partner disrespected them left & right by cheating behind their back.
Tell the person that you cheated on them. The only reason I can figure people don’t is so they don’t feel massive guilt and like a rotten person. They basically want to save their own image.
I hope everyone who's cheated can recognize the way that damages the other person. You've voluntarily chosen to traumatize another person, fuck with their ability to trust and that's fucking shameful. If your needs are being met, grow up and communicate that and if that means leaving the relationship, do that. I'm all for consensual poly relationships, it's not cheating if all party's know what's happening and are fine with it.
People always forget what it can mean for those that got cheated on. To the cheater its always just a "that was wrong, dont do it again" but most of the time its the person that got cheated on that has to deal with the consequences, feeling hurt, betrayed, the insecurities... no sympathy for people that make these things seem like nothing.
Polyamory means a relationship with multiple people, it's still a relationship, whether open or closed one, depends on the people involved. People, please, don't confuse those
I kind of disagree with her saying that you shouldn't tell someone that you've cheated on them (I do see where she's coming from though), because of a few things - 1) If they find out by someone else or later on, they'll feel much more betrayed and hurt as opposed to being told directly. 2) If they had doubts and suspicions about their partner cheating, but the partner never admits to it, it'll be low-key gaslighting and the person will not be able to trust their instinct again. 3) This ties into point 2, but if the partner never admits, the person will never learn what the signs are, and might be oblivious next time too, if it were to happen. 4) If there has been cheating, there's a good chance that the other person might be at risk of STDs if they were to engage in activities with the cheater, so it's paramount to know (Amazing point made by the commenter Kay [@K.UA-cam2]) So while yes, it's painful, I think it's very necessary.
Oooo…excellent points. I would want to know no matter how emotionally painful. Authenticity is important for the healing process of ALL involved parties.
@@K.UA-cam2 oh you're absolutely right! Because if you're carrying a disease, the sex is non consentual if the other party doesn't know about this. I'll add it to my main comment :)
Poly isn't cheating... And you can cheat in poly. Cheating isnt sex/romantic relationships with multiple people. Cheating is breaking an agreement that is understood in the relationship.
I could never cheat on my husband. First of all, I don't want nor need anyone else but him, and second, betraying him would be the same as betraying myself. If one day I started somehow considering someone else, I'd know something is wrong with my marriage, and it's time for a serious conversation or divorce.
I don't understand cheating, but what I don't understand even more is your best friend sleeping with your partner like what kind of demonic shit is that ☠️☠️☠️
It is way worse to be cheated on and the person not be respectful enough to tell you that they did that, than to have your feelings temporarily hurt by the person who cheated when they admit what they did. From someone who has had BOTH those situations happen - the former only left me with no closure and a general dislike for that person, lying to preserve their own face. At least the latter had the balls to own up to their mistakes.
Lmao I think we need to normalize shaming again😂 y’all getting too comfortable with what y’all put on the internet and how serious of an offense cheating is in a relationship, like y’all really snitching on y’all self on the internet (which WILL stay on the net literally forever, doesn’t matter if it’s deleted or not) for nothing but a couple laughs and likes that’s kinda crazy
I had the same exact thinking. Like, being a cheater means you’re a shithead that needs to be avoided yet it’s being confidently shown here. No shame when there should be tons of it.
Yep. In an open relationship, people have their main partner but can sleep with other people random outside of it and it's not a big deal. In a poly relationship, there are multiple genuine partners involved so everyone knows about everyone and organizes together. That's why cheating can still happen in poly relationships, if they sleep with someone outside the partners without them knowing.
i mean the ex himself thought they were on a break lol, there was nothing wrong with realizing she was getting feelings for someone else. she also thought they were completely broken up, so even more justified. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ if you actually listen to her she said nothing even happened, he just assumed she cheated. if you want to doubt a stranger it's not like i can stop you, but that's an incredibly bad faith take.
I've never cheated and I never will but I think the ONLY forgivable form of cheating is like, when you're literal children. Still shitty and inexcusable, but kids make those kinds of impulsive decisions. You should know better as an adult.
I hate when people like the person with the blue hair try to perpetuate that it's weird to not want to be in a poly relationship. There is literally nothing wrong with not wanting your partner to be fucked by somebody else lmfao. As long as you don't expect to fuck other people and the respect goes both ways, that's a healthy relationship. It feels like blue hair was trying to make it sound "weird" ...
Just "catching feelings" for someone else isn't the same as emotional cheating as long as you don't flirt with the other person etc. Weird reasoning from that guy, not everyone has sexual fantasies about every crush either
It absolutely is necessary to admit to cheating so the cheated on partner can get tested and if anything does happen they catch it early??? common decency???
The way the person with the fedora casually talked/joked about being a serial cheater, as if it’s just another silly little quirky personality trait as opposed to a despicable betrayal of someone’s love and trust (and a clear indicator of deeply rooted mental issues) left me dumbfounded af
The way those filthy cheaters are PROUD if what they’ve done. They have the courage to show up and be like “i cheated” as if it’s not that serious or bad. Absolutely disgusting cheaters deserve 0 respect or any human decency towards them
Not them trying to convince us they had good reasons to cheat. There is never a good reason, if ur bored and u want to fuck someone else, break up first and give ur partner their freedom to find someone who will treat them right :)
Cheaters only feel remorse when they get caught and have to deal with consequences that are not just hurting the person they cheated on. Cheaters are vile and in my opinion don't change. They thought it is ok to do it once. They probably would do it again.
I will never understand how someone could have the courage to show up to thousands of people watching and say they are cheaters 💀
I know right?! It’s pretty crazy to see people who have made mistakes and are honest about it
They think it’s cool
@@Jessthebes no offense but idgaf abt someone feeling “honest” about their cheating 😂 live w your sleezy guilt in silence no one wants to hear your excuses
@@Jessthebes it ain't a simple mistake unless they were influenced by some drug. mistakes are excusebale, cheating isn't.
@@opaliatzs That’s your opinion. My point goes back to the original comment. People can do wrong things, have remorse for what they did, and use platforms to speak out about it. Not everyone chooses to live in the shame of their past.
I just don't understand cheaters. I would never cheat. Just break it off or have a consensual polyamorous relationship. But don't cheat, trust, loyalty and honesty are just too important.
Too old school
Ong. Maybe I’m just too dumb but I don’t get how anyone could.
@@TheAmazingCoochini most of the time, they want to *have* their cake and *eat* it as well. Most of the time, casual cheaters see it as a momentary escapade, doesn't mean jack.
And I don't understand why people think becoming polyamorous would be a solution for cheaters. Usually people don't cheat because they want to sleep with more people at the same time, they do it because they have some problem within their relationship and they don't have the courage, or the tools, to address that directly. Cheating is the symptom, not the illness. Cheating means breaking an implicit pact of mutual trust and respect. And that is something people can do in every kind of relationship, even poly ones.
I'm not in favour of cheating whatsoever but it's also not black and white, sometimes things happen unintentionally
the girl in the black shirt just came on here to tell everyone what happened with her and her ex and hopes that he sees it fr
You think she's lying, that she's not nervous and doesn't want them to find out? Why?
“I like toxic men” girl just leave him fr lol
@@bela-sofia34 she just wants validation and reassurance from the internet by airing out her ex in some sketchy ass story lmao
@@YashPatel-yy7gs Yeah, someone else posted earlier that they think she's lying etc.
Fr I feel like she just wants attention and maybe a proper apology from him lmao not a good look
“Burnt orange”? 🤣 🤣 🤣 Sebastian kills me
Literally always makes me laugh, I adore him
Fr hahaha what a guy
He low-key is overtaking Curtis' spot
@@crashnebula7i'm here for it
It blows my mind how indifferent so many people are to cheating. It's one of the worst things you could do to your partner imo
Imo at that point just make your relationship open, that way it's at least consensual
It’s one of the worst things you could do to a person period
Everyone here seemed pretty consistent that cheating was bad.
No one in the video was indifferent about cheating. Don't make stuff up.
There are plenty of way worse things, like domestic abuse, different types of manipulation, and many other things that can truly harm you physically and mentally, but cheating is a selfish act, but often not meant to hurt someone, it’s just a weakness some people have, or they probably haven’t learned monogamy is not for them
Lol cheating is not a thing that should ever be normalized
Sadly, it is stupidly common.
@@c.johnson1789 yeah definitely not right though, it’s sad
It’s not that it’s being normalized it’s just being talked about. Cheating is bad but also it’s something that you can and should grow from and do better about
@@MarcoAce13 yeah you can only hope! Then people say they’ve cheated many many times .. it’s like cmon now…
i hate how it's portrayed as forgivable in tv shows. like nah u chose to cheat. dont start crying to the protagonist that you didnt mean to hurt them and shit lol
i’ve been cheated on multiple times and it was actually traumatic in hindsight. i have severe trust issues, i worry about my partner constantly, the memories flash into my head at random, i can still picture everything vividly, and i breakdown whenever i think about it too much. it can be shattering for the person who was cheated on. i immediately blamed myself, thought i wasn’t good enough, felt i deserved it or could’ve done something to change things, and i lost a friendship from it. please don’t cheat on people. if you feel the need to do something with someone else, express that with your partner and if they’re not comfortable with that, break up.
So sorry you went through that :( I hope you found someone who respects your trust.
its some war ptsd shit girl. its the WORST. ESPECIALLY THE STOMACH PAINS
Yup recently ended one just because I couldn’t trust them, it sucks
Alright
@@PinkShawty149 I wish to have the strength as u sister, one day
I think if the cheating led to sexual activity (like you slept with somebody then slept with your partner after) then it 100% needs to be admitted to at least for health reasons, like putting aside the betrayal of trust that's also just putting the other person at risk of possible STIs. I can see wanting to just spare somebody's feelings in any other case but tbh I'd rather know than not know. I suspect one of my exes cheated and I wish he'd just been honest about it
You could use protection though, or get tested afterwards. Just playing devil’s advocate here
So .did ur ex give u a sti?
@@justayari or just not cheat
@@venusfoo9667 Exactly, and protection doesn't gaurantee you won't catch anything either
My ex had sex w another girl and gaslighted me until I found out from his best friend he had sex w my co worker. My ex said he never told me bc he got tested and was fine and never wanted me to find out.
There is not ever an excuse or mistake when a person cheats. They will always be conscious of it.
it can be a mistake since a mistake is something you regret, it however is never an accident
@@ancient.venus_ people regret from cheating when they get caught
@@jand8303 that's not how guilt works lmao, yeah some people only regret it once they're caught but people also regret it because they know its bad and that they shouldn't have done it
@@ancient.venus_ no one said it was guilt! Are you slow or something? Stop reaching!
@@ancient.venus_ guilt and regret is two different things! Atleast know what you're talking about! SMFH!
I cheated by skipping through the video to find who the cheater is, *Checkmate*
Who was it?
Yeah I don't know why they are romanticizing cheating for views.
@@sabrinakingsley798 how are they romanticizing it? Your comment came out of no where
@slasher master BWAHAHAHAHA!
Tbh I didn't think the last woman would even have the chance let alone the ability to cheat.
Sebastian is the best 😂😂😂
Absolutely, whenever you see him or Curtis you know the episode is gonna be awesome lol
That being said the women with the dope hair and flannel really killed it this episode too, imo she might have been the star of the show this time
I missed him!!
Whats his insta account??
I love him lol
@@jinUAE that’s what I am saying!!! I cannot find him
Can’t believe he actually got someone right from their favorite color 😭
I think you should tell your partner if you cheated on them because it shows that the reason you’re breaking up with them has nothing to do with their faults, it has to do with your own
I agree!! I also think it's funny that even with that information some people will still stay with ppl that cheat (who may/may not cheat again) and wont leave no matter what, very interesting 🤔
😂😂 most people’s first reaction when they find out someone cheated on them … ‘what’s wrong with me’ - as in why am I not good enough that this person cheated on me
Or secondly - that’s most cheaters excuse for why they cheated …
They say to their partner you didn’t give me what I wanted or needed so you made me cheat 😂😂
This is such a dumb comment.
Everyone handles trauma differently and most people - will think it’s about them if their partner cheated (even if it obviously isn’t)
@@barbarella.artist I think you’re right, the first reaction is to question why you (the person that got cheated on) is inadequate for your partner, but over time, you can realize that the other person has faults. If you got broken up with, you’d also question why you weren’t good enough. Learning that you’ve been cheated on still makes you question why you weren’t good enough, but gives you a reason to doubt the judgement of your partner. In the long run, knowing you’ve been cheated on is probably better than being confused why your relationship ended
@@taytaygurl09 I never think it’s fair to blame the victim of cheating for staying with the person. If you’ve been with someone for a long time, you tend to be so attached that it’s not worth giving up on the relationship even for something so major. When couples communicate and overcome their issues, they often emerge even stronger. Cheating shouldn’t be what it takes to make a relationship stronger though
@@SuperMustache555 My comment was not aimed to shame victims of cheating. Rather when the cheating occurs early on in a superfluous relationship, it's funny how SOME people stay no matter how much disrespect they receive. I understand leaving is more difficult especially when time, love, children, etc. are involved. Anyways I was high last night when I left this comment, so don't pay me any mind.
"What do you think about cheating? Like, is it a deal breaker for u?"
Bruh 💀💀💀
🤣🤣 LIKE NO SHIT
@@nee6195 fr 💀
lol it's definitely a valid question tho? knowing that a lot of people forgive their partners who cheat
@@diegonelli9872 so u go into ur relationship telling ur partner "oh btw cheating isnt a deal breaker for me cause ill forgive u" 💀
@@maxim7293 some people actually work through it or believe in open relationships aswell
imagine this is how one of their partners found out
Im very monogamous, and the people who take cheating as a casual topic is kinda scary to me. Im scared to get into a relationship because everyone of my friends has been cheated on, and I was in high school.
Don't worry . I assume you are a man from your name . There is a lot of faithful monogamous women . Women are known for loyalty and commitment more than men anyway . So yeah just be loyal too
what is monogamous
@@ghitarakik8508 well im not into women, but I appreciate that advice. Im a very faithful person, if im unhappy or seeking others then I leave.
@@philipsparks6089 yeah, men cheat a lot because society encourages them to do it while it punishes women for the same behavior. I have a lot of gay friends and cheating is pretty common amongst them, so idk
Sebastian is genuinely so funny but also very connective and likable, i love when hes on these!
These cheaters really be loud and proud about it. No remorse no matter how much they say it’s wrong.
They obviously all feel remorse about it. But at a certain point you just learn from it and move on and be a better person. No point beating yourself up over something you did that was shitty like ten years ago
So icky. Can’t be pretty & be a cheater at the same time. Only ugly people cheat. & I’m definitely not just talking about looks…how you treat people ultimately determines everything
I feel like when people say this they want to reaffirm that their morality is better than someone else's because at least they didn't do what that person did. Wouldn't it be better to let them grow around that choice instead of shrivel up and not grow from it? People talking about their bad choices is more improvement than just hiding it away and pretending it didn't happen or staying in a state of shame their entire lives for it. If you want them to be riddled with heavy shame and crying every single time they talk about it then that's just kinda sadistic.
@@yagadoobigidibobbibigabiga38 exactly!! Thank you
Cheaters are the devils of romantic relationships, they don't deserve to be in relationships.
As a senior girl who goes to a "party school", there has never been one single moment where I considered cheating on my partner. You can go out without them, you can dress scandalously, you can have the full experience WITHOUT breaking the commitment that you made to them. There have been plenty of times that I've gotten a feeling that made me icky, and decided "nope, need to leave the situation because they're getting the wrong idea". You have full autonomy over your choices. This is absolutely NOT including SA, which is no one's fault and should be taken extremely seriously, but if you cheated just because you were drunk and thought it was worth it? Then you should feel ashamed.
People should just be honest and open. If they are into open relationships be honest about it. Find someone likeminded you can really be your true self
This has been my experience, it's hard to breakup, but we really should find partners who we can be our true self around.
Also poly and open relationships are different
@@tacobell1299 true. I don’t know all the nuances (is the right word), but whatever the case people should just be honest. There’s so many different people in the world.
I'm actually both surprised and glad people brought up communication so much in this video. Yes, this is 100% how people should be, talk to a person and tell them what you want and how you see things, sadly there are still people who think touching a pp automatically puts them in a monogamous relationship😞
that’s the thing tho. usually cheaters are selfish and want other people for themselves, but not for their partners. being poly doesn’t work for cheaters.
There is no way I could cheat and not tell my partner. I would absolutely hate myself every second of the day and for the right reason. The person you've made a committment to has a right to know.
Okay, so you don't have a problem with cheating, it's just that you can't hide it from your partner. Alright 👍
@@Rudi_Mentary723 😆😆😆 if that is what you've read...no, cheating is a character flaw. I don't cheat.
You would hurt regardless though. This way if they never found out you would save them from the hurt and trauma. IMO it's better to not tell them. Telling them when you didn't get caught feels selfish like you're trying to get relief and validation.
It's interesting how they are referring to cheating as "being open". Cheating is NOT the same as polyamory. Cheating is the most selfish thing you can do and is only done by insecure people
Both the male guessers are magnetic AF
*How can you be so effing proud cheating?*
I don’t think anyone in the video sounded proud
@@MarcoAce13 volunteering to be in this video is sort of a reflection of conscious. Cheating is a horrible thing to do, so why would you volunteer this information. Of course people change over time, and you shouldn’t have to suffer to what you did ten years ago, but the lack of remorse combined with the willingness to participate in this video is unsettling.
@@tophat7735 didn't most of the cheaters cheat at a young age? I feel like whenever people talk about remorseful expressions with cheaters, they really just are saying that they want to look absolutely ashamed and humiliated in order to even get any forgiveness. Lowkey, it kinda sickens me when people talk about how people should look when admitting to something like that because to me it just sounds like people want to feel reassured that they're better people, which imo makes them not as good as they think they are. Shouldn't people want them to grow to a point of not feeling utter shame and humiliation so they can grow around that bad choice instead of remain half grown because of it? Plus, the audience is not owed the apology or the shame.
"Sparing their feelings" by not confessing is most often mainly about sparing their own feelings & not having to go through seeing the damage they caused to unfold. Avoiding the guilt, the shame, the consequences, the tainted public image, all that.
Let's not pretend it's some selfless, "caring" act just because it delays the pain.
The truth comes out sooner or later anyways.
And keeping it a secret robs your partner of the ability to make an informed decision about their future. What kind of partner they have. Risking their health (STD-risk!). Wasting their time. Creating even bigger trust issues - just imagine them finding out one day & looking back on all the years they didn't have a clue & felt happy & trusting while their partner disrespected them left & right by cheating behind their back.
you should bring in phsycic mediums and get them to guess things about people
PLEASE
That would be so embarrassing 😭😭
Dam you want to expose them? Don’t do them like that lol
that would be so interesting
I think they have a video like that ....
“There might be one that slipped in there” 💀 AYO
me with cheating trauma : *still watches video*
Same 🫠
I just dumbass out loud I'm sorry
Y’all got cheated… wow that sucks
Same here hahaha
I've missed Sebastian!! Glad to have him back!! 😅
Do tell your partners you cheated on them. It might 'hurt' but it probably validates their intuition and everyone needs that.
I really love the persons guessing. I enjoyed this video so much and as usual Sebastian is definitely a vibe.
My man had to fist bump himself. 4:31
Tell the person that you cheated on them. The only reason I can figure people don’t is so they don’t feel massive guilt and like a rotten person. They basically want to save their own image.
Who wouldve thought someone doing smth incredibly selfish like cheating would also try to dodge the consequences.
0:29 “have you ever been cheated on? what’d you do?”
“joined in“ 😭😭
I hope everyone who's cheated can recognize the way that damages the other person. You've voluntarily chosen to traumatize another person, fuck with their ability to trust and that's fucking shameful. If your needs are being met, grow up and communicate that and if that means leaving the relationship, do that.
I'm all for consensual poly relationships, it's not cheating if all party's know what's happening and are fine with it.
People always forget what it can mean for those that got cheated on. To the cheater its always just a "that was wrong, dont do it again" but most of the time its the person that got cheated on that has to deal with the consequences, feeling hurt, betrayed, the insecurities... no sympathy for people that make these things seem like nothing.
This had to be the most " Seattle" looking group of ppl on Cut I have ever seen lol
Oh boy Sebastian is just drop dead GORGEOUSSSS I'm in love with his perfect bone structure and energy 😂😂
0:29 😂 could you imagine!?
-"What's your type?"
"-Toxic men!!"
-Just why?...🤨
I asked myself the same question
Because she's so quirky
At least she admits it
sounds like self-deprecating humor
I asked myself the same question 2
"I was a serial cheater" Dude that's not something to be proud of 🤷♀️
Polyamory means a relationship with multiple people, it's still a relationship, whether open or closed one, depends on the people involved. People, please, don't confuse those
Sure, sure.
This was my FAVORITE group of “guessers” ever!! I love that guy that used to be a gang banger. He’s so sweet and humble! I can’t imagine his old ways!
I kind of disagree with her saying that you shouldn't tell someone that you've cheated on them (I do see where she's coming from though), because of a few things -
1) If they find out by someone else or later on, they'll feel much more betrayed and hurt as opposed to being told directly.
2) If they had doubts and suspicions about their partner cheating, but the partner never admits to it, it'll be low-key gaslighting and the person will not be able to trust their instinct again.
3) This ties into point 2, but if the partner never admits, the person will never learn what the signs are, and might be oblivious next time too, if it were to happen.
4) If there has been cheating, there's a good chance that the other person might be at risk of STDs if they were to engage in activities with the cheater, so it's paramount to know (Amazing point made by the commenter Kay [@K.UA-cam2])
So while yes, it's painful, I think it's very necessary.
Oooo…excellent points. I would want to know no matter how emotionally painful. Authenticity is important for the healing process of ALL involved parties.
This a thousand times over!
Number should be HEALTH! You owe it to the person if they agreed to a monogamous relationship so they can get tested.
@@blessingsoutlaw Legit same. I'm a very emotional person but I'd rather have this
@@K.UA-cam2 oh you're absolutely right! Because if you're carrying a disease, the sex is non consentual if the other party doesn't know about this. I'll add it to my main comment :)
Please do a line up for Myers Briggs personality types
Such a fun idea!! :)
Won't work because they'll only find INFPs, INFJs, INTPs and edgy 18 year old INTJs as contestants.
I love the energy of the black guy that was guessing… they should give him his own segment or something 😂
My girl in the black top living her Ross/Rachel fantasy
I love the lineup series
4:31 the feast bump 🥺
Poly isn't cheating... And you can cheat in poly. Cheating isnt sex/romantic relationships with multiple people. Cheating is breaking an agreement that is understood in the relationship.
Watching this right after handing out the christmas presents. Perfect time.
"I like tall women and short kings."
Saaaaaaame.
I could never cheat on my husband. First of all, I don't want nor need anyone else but him, and second, betraying him would be the same as betraying myself. If one day I started somehow considering someone else, I'd know something is wrong with my marriage, and it's time for a serious conversation or divorce.
Ok
I don't understand cheating, but what I don't understand even more is your best friend sleeping with your partner like what kind of demonic shit is that ☠️☠️☠️
8:20
“I still trust- nobody”
‘Oh NOBODY?? So youre fine, huh…”
😂
It is way worse to be cheated on and the person not be respectful enough to tell you that they did that, than to have your feelings temporarily hurt by the person who cheated when they admit what they did. From someone who has had BOTH those situations happen - the former only left me with no closure and a general dislike for that person, lying to preserve their own face. At least the latter had the balls to own up to their mistakes.
give the poor guy a fist bump
Lmao I think we need to normalize shaming again😂 y’all getting too comfortable with what y’all put on the internet and how serious of an offense cheating is in a relationship, like y’all really snitching on y’all self on the internet (which WILL stay on the net literally forever, doesn’t matter if it’s deleted or not) for nothing but a couple laughs and likes that’s kinda crazy
I had the same exact thinking. Like, being a cheater means you’re a shithead that needs to be avoided yet it’s being confidently shown here. No shame when there should be tons of it.
Agreed. I hate that UA-cam deletes comments. For videos like these and many others that this channel uploads, shaming actually should be the norm.
The 4th guy giving himself a fist bump 😭
Honestly Sebastian always kills these Vids!
I'm sorry but once a cheater, always a cheater idgaf🤷♂️
and the fact they all decided to go on video and say they're cheaters is insane
Their all laughing about it too
Who hurt y’all? Lmao
@@victormartinez6974cheaters.
@@victormartinez6974You're definitely a cheater
How has cheating become such a norm?
4:32 Homie fist bumped himself 😭
People really confuse poly relationships with open relationships..it is different
Yep. In an open relationship, people have their main partner but can sleep with other people random outside of it and it's not a big deal. In a poly relationship, there are multiple genuine partners involved so everyone knows about everyone and organizes together. That's why cheating can still happen in poly relationships, if they sleep with someone outside the partners without them knowing.
I need a playlist of episodes with Sebastian.
Being poly is not synonymous with cheating, wish the guessers wouldn’t conflate the two.
No but I know a lot of cheaters who went "poly" after it became a trend lol
Surprised they didn’t ask about open relationships instead of being poly
No its just that people might go to poly after they get the memo that cheating ain’t okay.
@@Jackson-qi4rw that’s probably because they were always poly and should have been in open relationships from the start
@@MarcoAce13 that's just a fancy way of saying they struggle with commitment. Childish
it’s probably just me but this video felt so dry
no its not you, its getting pretty boring
Why was the girl in black raising her hands like that at 6:38 - like when you’re in class & you really want your teacher to call on you lmao💀
LMFAOO HER FACE 💀💀
She's so cute!
This video should have been titled: cheaters validating cheaters
Already hilarious. I thought the exact same thing about burnt orange
You should do, Match twin to twin, I think that’d be really fun to watch😊
agree
but its a given though cuz they LOOK ALIKE :P
@leinaelgazali80 not all twins are identical
Lol the classic “we were in a break!”
i mean the ex himself thought they were on a break lol, there was nothing wrong with realizing she was getting feelings for someone else. she also thought they were completely broken up, so even more justified. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ if you actually listen to her she said nothing even happened, he just assumed she cheated. if you want to doubt a stranger it's not like i can stop you, but that's an incredibly bad faith take.
Omg !! I loooove Sebastian. Always had such an amazing energy !! And made the episode, super entertaining commentary !!
You should definitely tell someone if you cheat...you owe them that truth for them to decide what they want to do next.
The serial cheater sounds like Phyllis Smith from the office
Sebastian needs his own show/podcast/Ted talk 😂😂😂😂😂
Dropping the cheater video on Xmas eve is very on brand
That girl on some friends shit
"We were on a break" 😂
I want to be Sebastian friend IRL he is so funny yo 😂😂😂
4:30 poor guy fist bumps himself 😢
I've never cheated and I never will but I think the ONLY forgivable form of cheating is like, when you're literal children. Still shitty and inexcusable, but kids make those kinds of impulsive decisions. You should know better as an adult.
THE PINK HAIR GIRL’S HUSBAND CHEATING WITH TWO OF HIS BEST FRIENDS’ WIVES??? What in the Wattpad
why everyone in this vid so zesty💀
if this is zesty then what is gay💀💀💀
it's just Cut my guy
cos that's life🤷
no fr
Saying zesty is cringe af
"burnt orange?!?" GOD he's my favorite !!
the guy in the black jacket get me DOKI DOKI, his smile damnnnn boi i cant 😭
I'm not really an expert but aren't they confusing polyamory and open relationships throughout the video?
The whole line just swaying together for most of the video
I hate when people like the person with the blue hair try to perpetuate that it's weird to not want to be in a poly relationship. There is literally nothing wrong with not wanting your partner to be fucked by somebody else lmfao. As long as you don't expect to fuck other people and the respect goes both ways, that's a healthy relationship. It feels like blue hair was trying to make it sound "weird" ...
Also we love you Sebastian please have him on here more it's been so long since the last time he was on an episode
Just "catching feelings" for someone else isn't the same as emotional cheating as long as you don't flirt with the other person etc. Weird reasoning from that guy, not everyone has sexual fantasies about every crush either
It absolutely is necessary to admit to cheating so the cheated on partner can get tested and if anything does happen they catch it early??? common decency???
The way the person with the fedora casually talked/joked about being a serial cheater, as if it’s just another silly little quirky personality trait as opposed to a despicable betrayal of someone’s love and trust (and a clear indicator of deeply rooted mental issues) left me dumbfounded af
This guy Joking about it makes me sick
There is thin line between being loud and having a big personality. My girl, Sebastian, has a big personality. Love him ❤
I gagged at burnt orange, too!
The girl in the black shirt just didn’t need to go into full detail like that
Man I liked that she did
HAHHAH she's going thru it
Idk his name but the guy with the hat and Cali shit guessing the cheaters is amazing! PLEASE bring him back on other videos he's so funny 😂🥰
The way cheaters are surprised when they later get cheated on 😭
The way those filthy cheaters are PROUD if what they’ve done. They have the courage to show up and be like “i cheated” as if it’s not that serious or bad. Absolutely disgusting cheaters deserve 0 respect or any human decency towards them
Not them trying to convince us they had good reasons to cheat. There is never a good reason, if ur bored and u want to fuck someone else, break up first and give ur partner their freedom to find someone who will treat them right :)
Fr
Sebastian is such a performer. This guy lol.
Cheaters only feel remorse when they get caught and have to deal with consequences that are not just hurting the person they cheated on.
Cheaters are vile and in my opinion don't change. They thought it is ok to do it once. They probably would do it again.