The Key to Happiness in a Distracted World

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  • @katiebear14050
    @katiebear14050 5 років тому +5016

    I hate the duality of my life, watching a bunch of content like this while distracting myself with the exact thing telling me to stop

    • @theblackjacobin3974
      @theblackjacobin3974 5 років тому +46

      Well get to it

    • @VinnyTheory
      @VinnyTheory 5 років тому +40

      I’m just gonna hop off my phone for the rest of the day after this

    • @sofiatryhub7106
      @sofiatryhub7106 5 років тому +48

      We all do it, but it still works. Subcutaneously it influences our decision making constantly , maybe not 100% as we would want it to, maybe its only about 1% or even less, but its still more than it was before ;)

    • @sashamotovylets1753
      @sashamotovylets1753 5 років тому +84

      Change is very gradual. There is a lot of talk in personal improvement sphere about these measurable changes you make in your life (I.e. not using your phone for 15, 30 and and then 6” min in the morning). This approach never worked for me. For me it’s more like try and fail, try again and fail, fail, fail, fail until one day I realize I have transformed from a person who dreaded doing a 20 min workout to being a person who runs 12 miles on a Saturday morning

    • @Splend9
      @Splend9 5 років тому

      Same here

  • @mrsenor5233
    @mrsenor5233 5 років тому +2296

    "You can't fix internal issues with external accomplishments."
    Wow, I like that a lot

    • @yliu7945
      @yliu7945 5 років тому +7

      my brain got electric shock hearing this

    • @jules6856
      @jules6856 5 років тому +2

      You maybe should read his books if you like his ideas :)

    • @jesusdavidcardenasangulo7955
      @jesusdavidcardenasangulo7955 5 років тому +3

      That's amazing one. Surprisingly that's one of those things we know but always forget

    • @DSemedoVideo
      @DSemedoVideo 5 років тому +3

      wrote it straight away in my notebook!

    • @princessthyemis
      @princessthyemis 4 роки тому +2

      ME TOO!

  • @Dreamcatcher3012
    @Dreamcatcher3012 5 років тому +3835

    this reminds me of that saying “we buy shit we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like”

    • @Ruylopez778
      @Ruylopez778 5 років тому +88

      @ismini that's largely what social media is; trying to impress others

    • @Quazima115
      @Quazima115 5 років тому +65

      In tyler we trust

    • @SleeplessInLasVegas
      @SleeplessInLasVegas 5 років тому +23

      Was that Matt? I keep picturing Gary Vee saying that. Haha

    • @shahadatali74
      @shahadatali74 5 років тому +28

      All hail Tyler Durden !

    • @fightinandirish
      @fightinandirish 5 років тому +23

      @ismini I don't think it's necessarily out of stupidity, just a deep and misguided desire to derive happiness from others, to impress our "tribe". It is sad though.

  • @RupeeNL
    @RupeeNL 5 років тому +662

    The part at 17:24 reminded me of a quote by Jim Carrey: “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.”

  • @zojirushi1
    @zojirushi1 3 роки тому +158

    Key takeaways on how to be happy in a distracted world
    1. Practice stillness. Stillness is NOT idleness and nothingness. It’s about slowing down time, appreciating the little things, think about what truly matters, and be at a state of zen.
    2. Don’t use your phone until at least 1 hour after you wake up. Also don’t look at the clock or your watch every second when meditating.
    3. Don’t get too attached to your screen and looking and responding to emails the whole day.
    4. Don’t listen to the if then statements in your head. Like if I get xyz I’ll become happy. When you do get xyz the happiness won’t last long.
    5. Do things since you want to not because you want to get your parents to be proud of you. There’s no amount of anything that will make you feel better about yourself if you don’t feel good about yourself in the first place.
    6. In order to be still Make sure your mind, body, and soul are all in check and taken care of
    7. Don’t compare yourself with others. Stop negative thought patterns.
    8. Deprecation is when you try taking away things or pushing yourself past your limits so when things actually get hard you know how to deal with it better. Preparation for a contingency Ex: putting yourself in a position where you’re not anxious about losing what you have because you know you can handle that thing without it. You’ll be better prepared when you don’t have something. More examples preparing for a bad review, your item not selling too well, or an angry email.
    9. If you’re a person who is dependent on your current way of living and can only live that lifestyle and salary if everything goes south you’re more vulnerable to the swings of fate.
    10. Enough isn’t weak or settling it’s actually an extreme form of power

    • @sobol2929
      @sobol2929 3 роки тому +6

      Thanks you a lot for this comment. You have done a great job of understanding a main sense of this conversation. Also a good tips.

  • @AasthaHingar
    @AasthaHingar 5 років тому +5191

    Matt has blessed us with a 36 minute long content. Let's appreciate everything about this video: the videography, Matt's biceps and the topic

    • @marcogil5092
      @marcogil5092 5 років тому +233

      And don't forget Matt's biceps

    • @Sephonix
      @Sephonix 5 років тому +157

      forgot to mention matt’s biceps

    • @blahber222
      @blahber222 5 років тому +167

      sorry what does this say? too focused on matt’s biceps

    • @MrKitharo
      @MrKitharo 5 років тому +126

      Sorry, couldn't see the video, Matt's biceps filled all of the screen.

    • @TaraWagner
      @TaraWagner 5 років тому +23

      Not necessarily in that order. 😂

  • @caseyeverett9874
    @caseyeverett9874 5 років тому +2520

    So cool seeing Matt D'Avella with a beard interviewing Matt D'Avella without a beard

    • @adikaarga2068
      @adikaarga2068 5 років тому +13

      😂

    • @Cekeshe
      @Cekeshe 5 років тому +18

      Screaming

    • @meinkanal7443
      @meinkanal7443 5 років тому +5

      Casey Everett 😂😂😂

    • @tonicaffierro2549
      @tonicaffierro2549 5 років тому +5

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @bridgettewilliams27
      @bridgettewilliams27 5 років тому +16

      I literally thought this when I saw the other dude 😂😂😂

  • @mardiana.x
    @mardiana.x 5 років тому +811

    things i learnt from this video:
    1. stillness doesn't mean actually being still or idle, it's more of the moments that you experience no distractions and you are mentally/emotionally/physically connected with what you're doing.
    2. happiness is fleeting. i've been struggling with this for a while now - being happy one day and being downright depressed the next. but hearing you guys talk about how nobody is happy all the time - it makes me realize that i shouldn't dwell on why i'm unhappy most of the time, but try to put that energy to productivity instead.
    3. finding contentment really stems from knowing how much is enough. and knowing exactly what is enough for yourself and your happiness - that is powerful.
    thanks for such a thought-provoking interview, matt! i learnt more from this video than from a whole semester of philosophy class lol.

    • @jamesfzj2495
      @jamesfzj2495 5 років тому +8

      I can definitely agree with number two, When I feel down I will just tell myself I'm alright, and tomorrows another day, the main thing is being able to wake up in the morning, or going to bed thinking of something that makes you smile, whether that's something you done that day, or looking forward to etc... Idg why i seems easier to dwell on bad things more than good

    • @VeritableVagabond
      @VeritableVagabond 5 років тому +2

      Buddhism 101. Check out r/streamentry on Reddit and meditate daily.

    • @HoloScope
      @HoloScope 5 років тому

      You're really pretty and I watched one of your videos and your voice sounds harmonious good luck with your UA-cam channel 👍👍

    • @mardiana.x
      @mardiana.x 5 років тому

      Holo Scope thank you so much! :)

    • @BharathKumar-zu2rh
      @BharathKumar-zu2rh 5 років тому

      That's deep ✌

  • @AugustusCardoso
    @AugustusCardoso 5 років тому +228

    The key to happiness is realizing that there's no key to happiness.. there will be happiness and sadness and we just have to learn to live with and appreciate both sides for what they are.

    • @davidd4696
      @davidd4696 5 років тому +3

      part of being human👍.

    • @aaronsmith2929
      @aaronsmith2929 4 роки тому +3

      Yes, the ebbs and flows of life come and go like the weather ... humans can not control everything. Nature has its course as well and we are all very much a part of nature.

  • @ADAMBLAZEVIC
    @ADAMBLAZEVIC 5 років тому +331

    Interestingly my quiet and still time is when I'm running. My legs are moving, my heart is beating faster but my mind is resting, I'm concentrating on myself, on my thoughts. My best ideas came to me while running, for example 'I have to ask my gf to marry me' and now, 10 years later here we are with 3 kids and a very happy life.

    • @dovydasgrigas441
      @dovydasgrigas441 5 років тому +7

      its the same for me when i'm walking and skateboarding. Its the fact that i'm moving that isolates me from the outside world. There's a nice amount of solitude when you go out for a walk/run/skate especially at off peak hours where i feel i can just think and not have fears until i go back into my house.

    • @Ben14102
      @Ben14102 5 років тому +2

      When I’m running I’m just focused on the run but I think a lot when walking

    • @minge9
      @minge9 4 роки тому

      @Ob Oshiete oshiete yo sono shikumi wo
      I feel you brah

    • @manictiger
      @manictiger 4 роки тому

      I do a lot of manual work these days and I get lots of self-reflection time. When I get in the zone when painting, it's almost exactly like meditating. Calm, but alert and... content, somehow.

    • @hassosigbjoernson5738
      @hassosigbjoernson5738 3 роки тому +2

      "my quiet and still time is when I'm running" ... I wonder if that is some kind of "movement meditation" that is not as hyped as meditation in a room or yoga but is still practiced by many, many people!
      Let it be swimming a few round before work, cycling after a hard day thru a wood or as you said running.
      It seems like the body is occupied enough so that the mind can concentrate on things you have to sort out for yourself ...

  • @antonios25
    @antonios25 5 років тому +411

    I close my eyes for 15 minutes every day to just listen the world arround me, its some kind of stillness, its beautifull

    • @site.x9448
      @site.x9448 5 років тому +18

      In this case you're practicing mindfulness. You just switched object of your focus from breath to sounds :)

    • @gemsstr7933
      @gemsstr7933 5 років тому +6

      Thats cool! it removes you from your current world into a another world.

    • @EdWood1EW
      @EdWood1EW 5 років тому +8

      I think I will try that. Thanks

    • @blu3niverse536
      @blu3niverse536 4 роки тому +2

      That’s how you develop balance ( inner balance )

    • @djr1003
      @djr1003 4 роки тому +2

      STILLNESS IS THE KEY ☺

  • @landerlaurits
    @landerlaurits 5 років тому +707

    "you can't make your parents proud of you" ouch.

    • @r.i.psteez929
      @r.i.psteez929 5 років тому +52

      Lien you also don’t need their validation to feel good about yourself or to be happy which is what he was saying, you can control your thought and actions not others

    • @landerlaurits
      @landerlaurits 5 років тому +21

      @@r.i.psteez929 oh i know, i purposely took the sentence out of its context simply because people often say they want to make their parents proud of them

    • @its_my_my
      @its_my_my 5 років тому +7

      Therapy helped me unpack that.

    • @shaiyehezkelsy
      @shaiyehezkelsy 5 років тому

      Tru tho

    • @IncredibleMet
      @IncredibleMet 5 років тому +7

      Making that into a T-shirt!

  • @sanket0002
    @sanket0002 5 років тому +1211

    For me minimalism mean using iPhone 6 in 2019

    • @JroqFord
      @JroqFord 5 років тому

      Sanket Gupta 😂😂😂

    • @povilaskirna4108
      @povilaskirna4108 5 років тому +39

      That is true it's one of the pillars of digital minimalism. If one doesn't get enough value out of upgrade s/he shouldn't upgrade.

    • @RachelNicole
      @RachelNicole 5 років тому +6

      I record All My videos on a 7 🤫

    • @NightmareMan83
      @NightmareMan83 5 років тому +69

      I’m rocking an iPhone SE 💪🏻

    • @cliffordduhh45
      @cliffordduhh45 5 років тому +20

      Same. Phones just aren’t interesting enough to justify upgrading anytime soon.

  • @nathanlambert813
    @nathanlambert813 5 років тому +132

    "Be still and know that I am God" - Psalm 46:10. There's no point getting worked up in the busyness of life. Great video btw

  • @PauloNideck
    @PauloNideck 5 років тому +307

    That’s certainly one of the best videos on your channel, thanks Matt!

    • @bernardobila4336
      @bernardobila4336 3 роки тому

      Fico feliz por saber que também és fã do Matt.

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 5 років тому +195

    We become so lost by the abundance of options and forget that *happiness is an inside job*

    • @stevensanchez2032
      @stevensanchez2032 5 років тому +1

      So true

    • @cb2645
      @cb2645 5 років тому +1

      O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me I am also subbed to your channel and is gives me confidence to take your advice because you watch tmf and matt

    • @osse1n
      @osse1n 5 років тому

      Salutations

    • @Afflictamine
      @Afflictamine 5 років тому +7

      just like 9/11

    • @2legit2Kwit
      @2legit2Kwit 4 роки тому

      O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me beautiful

  • @fabulouspolyp
    @fabulouspolyp 5 років тому +365

    stillness = mental minimalism
    in a way 💆🏽‍♂️

    • @yomomshouse100
      @yomomshouse100 5 років тому +2

      Stillness equal dead?

    • @VeritableVagabond
      @VeritableVagabond 5 років тому

      Read Mastering the Core Teachings of Buddha

    • @jennys9043
      @jennys9043 5 років тому +1

      Oo I like that. I think maybe mental minimalism is something to practice/ work towards. When I first start meditating my mind is running at 100 mph, but after about 10 minutes (often 20) I can finally rest a little.

    • @nataliaivashkina
      @nataliaivashkina 4 роки тому +1

      Wow mental minimalism, i kinda like it.

  • @jackcrump557
    @jackcrump557 5 років тому +126

    Ryan is one of the most intelligent and articulate people i've heard talk on this topic judging from this video

    • @CarftCrO0K
      @CarftCrO0K 5 років тому +8

      Every single book he has authored was worth the read, that's all I can say :)

    • @VeritableVagabond
      @VeritableVagabond 5 років тому +1

      Buddhism does the same thing and goes quite a bit further. Awakening is real. You can ask about it over @ r/streamentry on Reddit. Happiness is a practice. And meditation everyday is the path there. You want to stop being moved by distractions? Sit for 30 minutes a day and just watch your breath cycle. Read The Mind Illuminated if you want more knowledge. Be blessed

    • @callistomoon461
      @callistomoon461 5 років тому +1

      Very articulate sure.... using the word „like“ far too often.

    • @magdalenakurtyka4020
      @magdalenakurtyka4020 4 роки тому +1

      He says many thought-provoking things, however most of the time I couldn't focus because of his constantly repeated "do you know what I mean?"

  • @keeprockloud
    @keeprockloud 5 років тому +34

    "Once you accept that which is out of your control, you can control that which you accept"

    • @robertog8008
      @robertog8008 3 роки тому

      Damn those are some real wise words

  • @kourtneywiththekurls814
    @kourtneywiththekurls814 4 роки тому +19

    I was born in the mid 80s and grew up in the 90s and early 2000s. Back then, the Internet wasn’t a big thing. Well, not big enough to become a distraction. And these days, I find myself so stimulated ALL the time with technology, that I could cry. It’s like my brain is always ON. That coupled with not getting enough sleep is a recipe for disaster. I often long for the days of the past. I have been working to put down my phone while watching tv or working. Also, I try harder to put it down before bed. I deleted all Social Media and I can already feel a difference in just being still.

    • @kissepurr
      @kissepurr 3 роки тому +1

      And to make things worst.... Most companies want you to use social media at work. My kid had to make a Facebook when she was in high school by her coach. She told the students they needed one because it would be the only form of communication between the team outside of school hours. Game schedules and everthing were posted there. Sucks

    • @nuggetsss2526
      @nuggetsss2526 2 роки тому

      I agree . I couldn’t caught a break these days . Life is too fast paced and I’m always distracted . To counter this I only follow certain Instagram accounts . We are over stimulated

  • @WayofRamen
    @WayofRamen 5 років тому +101

    This was by far the best interview I've ever seen with Ryan holiday and I've been a fan of Ryan since before his first book on stoicism came out. Fantastic questions that provoked amazingly thoughtful answers.

  • @jonash.2851
    @jonash.2851 5 років тому +700

    The only thing that grows faster than your biceps is your beard

  • @rahuldkkk
    @rahuldkkk 5 років тому +156

    I usually take my little daughter to man made small forest near my home in Mysore Karnataka India (its called Salumaradha Thimmakka Udhyavana) for a walk with no gadgets with us. we walk and talk and play with small tree stick and all the natural stuffs available their. and i ask her to sit for 10 mins without doing anything. its difficult for both of us seating quite, but we are learning.

    • @pradyumnasadgir2477
      @pradyumnasadgir2477 5 років тому +25

      That's great man. It is heartening to see someone make a conscious effort to inculcate these values and more importantly, practice them himself. I'm sure you are a great father. Your daughter is lucky.

    • @rahuldkkk
      @rahuldkkk 5 років тому +6

      @@pradyumnasadgir2477 Thank you for your kind words.

    • @praveenh6288
      @praveenh6288 4 роки тому +3

      Happy to know @Pradyumna Kulkarni Namma Karnataka ......

    • @ys-kv3ug
      @ys-kv3ug 4 роки тому

      So cute

  • @harryheadland
    @harryheadland 5 років тому +337

    Anyone: grabs banana and coffee leaves home in the morning, drives for 17 minutes and arrives at work
    Matt: grabs banana and coffee leaves home in the morning, drives for 17 minutes and arrives at his house

    • @amwhik
      @amwhik 3 роки тому +5

      This did not age well

  • @abnormalspider7360
    @abnormalspider7360 5 років тому +18

    Quit social media folks!
    I deleted every social media app from my phone and it feels great to not care about people who live their lives trying impressing others through social media. The less you care, the happier you get!

  • @TaraWagner
    @TaraWagner 5 років тому +194

    15 years ago, before smartphones took over the world, I cancelled cable for “more quiet”. I never anticipated how overwhelming phones would be. Mine is on silent most of the time, I get almost zero notifications, and I’m forced to be so self disciplined with when and how it gets used. Because, quiet. And also because, I apparently have either no self control or all of it. 😆 We are undeniably influenced by our environment. Which means we need to be in control of that environment even more today when so many more people have the ability to interrupt or influence us.

    • @MasculineIdeal
      @MasculineIdeal 5 років тому +5

      Oh youre so self disciplined heres a pat on the back

    • @sophiagray3191
      @sophiagray3191 5 років тому +7

      Notifications kinda give me anxiety, so I turned off almost all of them and keep my phone on silent most of the time. Still addicted to UA-cam though, I could keep videos playing in the background all day long.

    • @TaraWagner
      @TaraWagner 5 років тому

      Einz2 😂😂😂

    • @capybara6810
      @capybara6810 5 років тому +4

      True! Mine is on silent too and the only notification I have is for whatsapp and not to everyone. Phone rarely buzzes.. happy that way.

    • @UnbrandedLifestyle
      @UnbrandedLifestyle 5 років тому

      So true. I spent a good chunk of time deleting my subscription emails recently. I feel like having an inbox is also another environment to be in control of 😂

  • @hannahbuske
    @hannahbuske 5 років тому +215

    “You can buy a Lamborghini - but you can’t make it impress people” is my new favourite quote.

    • @Quazima115
      @Quazima115 5 років тому +3

      I like Ferrari or Porsche better😉

    • @itsmelilsteve
      @itsmelilsteve 5 років тому +14

      Let's not kid ourselves, a lambo always makes an impression

    • @HoloScope
      @HoloScope 5 років тому +3

      @@itsmelilsteve nah i would be more impressed with someone who used their intellect to upgrade their car when I see a lambo I just think about rich snobs (I know I probably should get rid of that relation)

    • @somedudeinatunnel3102
      @somedudeinatunnel3102 5 років тому +4

      I thought that was a bad analogy. We live in a consumerist culture, why wouldn't one of the most expensive things you can buy impress people?

    • @arzoo82
      @arzoo82 5 років тому +1

      Yes you can

  • @skylar141
    @skylar141 5 років тому +325

    The key to happiness and success is wearing a dark grey shirt

    • @TruffleSeeker54
      @TruffleSeeker54 5 років тому +2

      Oh shit my shirt is dark grey

    • @Leo_Inclan
      @Leo_Inclan 4 роки тому +6

      Damn it!
      I just went and bought 24 black shirts.... I already fucked up!

    • @ZapatosVibes
      @ZapatosVibes 4 роки тому

      hahaha TRUE!

    • @jjhassy
      @jjhassy 4 роки тому

      Skylar McLerran LMAO

    • @lucolyx
      @lucolyx 4 роки тому +1

      And biceps :)

  • @LandOfAnatopia
    @LandOfAnatopia 4 роки тому +8

    I like how they don’t interrupt each other to get their point across, you don’t see that enough during interviews.

  • @poizonali
    @poizonali 5 років тому +48

    "You earned [their affection] at birth and [your parents] just decided not to give it to you."
    Hit me really hard..

  • @snakonec
    @snakonec 5 років тому +141

    Matt added ads to this video and I watched them entirely because I can’t afford Patreon but appreciate the quality of his content. :)

  • @Katielovegood44
    @Katielovegood44 5 років тому +674

    I kept reading the title as ‘key to happiness IS a distracted world’ thinking that’s not right... then realised I was trying to watch the video while doing three other things 😒🙈
    What were u saying Matt?

    • @Ironathor
      @Ironathor 5 років тому +11

      Exactly. I thought it's gonna be some dark guide of manipulating distracted people or reaching a goal while everyone else is distracted. Something twisted.

    • @gerard7417
      @gerard7417 5 років тому

      @@Ironathor um que ?

    • @Phoenix-Brah
      @Phoenix-Brah 5 років тому +3

      While scrolling through comments...

    • @siddharthsingh370
      @siddharthsingh370 4 роки тому

      SAME DUDE !!

    • @aaronbegon2092
      @aaronbegon2092 4 роки тому

      @@Ironathor reaching a goal while others are distracted is twisted? Huh?

  • @sarahbethyoga
    @sarahbethyoga 5 років тому +121

    Wow this was an incredible interview. Thank you so much for everything put into creating this thought provoking content 🙏🏼

  • @KiranKumarYT
    @KiranKumarYT 4 роки тому +4

    Enough isn't weak , it isn't settling , it's an extreme kind of power .
    That's the best part of the video .

  • @Jakesmusings
    @Jakesmusings 3 роки тому +4

    As a mental health clinician, I use many of these same ideas to help my patients/clients with their anxiety and depression. Really great talk, I enjoyed it very much! Thank you

  • @UnbrandedLifestyle
    @UnbrandedLifestyle 5 років тому +208

    Scrolling through the comments while watching a video about distractions 😂

  • @amandamiller5243
    @amandamiller5243 5 років тому +67

    I just deleted My Facebook and Instagram apps lately. I feel so much better. Love the content on your channel!

    • @ClassyLife
      @ClassyLife 5 років тому +1

      I Appreciate 🙌🏻

    • @ohdagee
      @ohdagee 5 років тому +9

      I found that the key is not walking away from the "problem" but rather facing it and finding ways to strengthen your stance to actually overcome and control it. Yes, I also closed my social media for about a year and a half, but I had to face it with a new mindset. That shit doesn't control me, I control myself in regards to it. Self control and self knowledge are the key to every problem. "You control the problem, the problem does not control you" and by deleting apps, it's somehow still controlling you. Get what I'm saying?

    • @grominwithrob1339
      @grominwithrob1339 5 років тому +8

      OHDΔGEE I closed mine because they just had no true worth in my life. Your mileage may differ. If you really care about people, give them the most valuable thing you have. Your time, not a like. I honor people with my attention. When you truly give your attention the world truly comes to life.

    • @uetmk4184
      @uetmk4184 5 років тому +1

      Same and it's amazing.

    • @c-los8144
      @c-los8144 5 років тому

      If social media is a problem to you take a break and get ready to fix and face that social media problem and make it something good and loving, I really wish I could take my own advice but it happends to everyone.

  • @TheRunningTips
    @TheRunningTips 5 років тому +62

    The discussion about "enough" reminds me of this Sterling Hayden quote-
    "What does a man need - really need? A few pounds of food each day, heat and shelter, six feet to lie down in - and some form of working activity that will yield a sense of accomplishment. That's all - in the material sense, and we know it. But we are brainwashed by our economic system until we end up in a tomb beneath a pyramid of time payments, mortgages, preposterous gadgetry, playthings that divert our attention from the sheer idiocy of the charade.
    The years thunder by. The dreams of youth grow dim where they lie caked in dust on the shelves of patience. Before we know it, the tomb is sealed.
    Where, then, lies the answer? In choice. Which shall it be: bankruptcy of purse or bankruptcy of life?"

    • @VeritableVagabond
      @VeritableVagabond 5 років тому +1

      Damn that quotes sums it all up right there.
      Buddhism does the same thing and goes quite a bit further. Awakening is real. You can ask about it over @ r/streamentry on Reddit. Happiness is a practice. And meditation everyday is the path there. You want to stop being moved by distractions? Sit for 30 minutes a day and just watch your breath cycle. Read The Mind Illuminated if you want more knowledge. Be blessed

    • @mays_alpha
      @mays_alpha 4 роки тому +1

      That was amazing 👏🏼😯 Islam basically says the same thing, and it goes into detail as well. It’s very beautiful 😊❤️☪️

  • @zaradezign8100
    @zaradezign8100 4 роки тому +2

    Freedom is better defined as an opportunity for self discipline

  • @StarlingofAzerath
    @StarlingofAzerath 5 років тому +2

    Oh my God...I needed this. I never say this in videos, but this came on a fated day. Today I was stuck in a rut, trying to recover from burn out. And worried about my mistakes and future consequences. But then Ryan said, "you can't make people respect you, you can't make your parents proud of you... it's out of your hands." So true. So many things in life are out of our hands. We can fret and worry and be ambitious as we want, but if we continue to be driven by the approval of others, we will never be satisfied, fulfilled or happy. We need to stop doing things cause X person approves/disapproves, we should do things that align with our own goals and wants. Not to gain the approval of someone who will never be impressed no matter how much we do.

  • @Christian12345asdf
    @Christian12345asdf 5 років тому +134

    Matt driving around in a circle to make us believe, he's now somewhere else...we know, brother, we know😉😂

  • @henryduong4728
    @henryduong4728 5 років тому +38

    This must be a dream when my favorite author and favorite youtuber are in the same place.

  • @michaelsaenz380
    @michaelsaenz380 5 років тому +8

    Wholeheartedly agree with this, and i'm glad you posted it on youtube. These are the people that need to see it most.I recommend going for a 5 or 10 min walk without your phone - it feels weird, but it's extremely refreshing.

  • @davidpaez3231
    @davidpaez3231 5 років тому +263

    Matt “do you have any Napoleon esque tactics when it comes to email” D’Avella

    • @Iquey
      @Iquey 5 років тому +1

      Unsubscribe from all spam unless you actually like the brand and read the newsletters. Check email(s) once a week or once a month if you don't run a business on a sit-down computer (besides your main email linked to your phone) and get good at remembering your passwords.

  • @g-cellatwork5406
    @g-cellatwork5406 5 років тому +4

    A bit messy TIMESTAMPS:
    0:00 Introduction on how distracted we are 0:50 Introduction to Ryan Holiday
    2:08 STOICISM: Powerful Philosophy to Living a Good Life
    ⭐️ practical life advice
    ⭐️focusing only on the things you can control
    5:02 STILLNESS: Importance to People Today
    7:16 Difference (or the Similarities) of the Ancient People to People Today
    ⭐️ Stoics experience the same dilemmas
    ⭐️ Preferred indiffererents
    10:01 Napoleon Mail
    14:04 Creating Rules for Ourselves
    ⭐️Pre-make more decisions as possible
    16:30 Accomplishments
    ⭐️ Conditional Happiness & If then statements
    ❤️ "You can't fix internal issues with external accomplishments."
    20:55 Chasing Happiness
    22:08 Making Stoicism a Daily Practice
    23:45 Parts of the Book: (Balance of the) Mind, Body & Soul
    25:04 Physical & Mental Stillness
    26:18 Voice in the Head:: Meditation
    ⭐️ Stillness ≠ Idleness
    29:47 Stoic Challenge
    ✨ "It's not the deprivation is a virtue" ... "it's about putting yourself in a position you are not anxious about losing what you have because you know you can handle that thing."
    33:56 Contentment: How Much Is Enough

  • @doesntmatter6854
    @doesntmatter6854 5 років тому +28

    Can we just appreciate how his videos are just superb! This is ART!

    • @Hasan-cq1sz
      @Hasan-cq1sz 5 років тому +1

      zoozy 999 agreed it’s so clean looking know what I mean?

    • @Bern-a-hot-sandwich
      @Bern-a-hot-sandwich 5 років тому +1

      taking the words out of my mouth.. Matt crushes it on the filming.

  • @briancrouse9506
    @briancrouse9506 5 років тому +29

    "People are able to go off in a cabin in the woods, they've reduced all external noise and then they find the noises in here", is just slightly off the plot of a Steven King novel/Stanley Kubrick screenplay. - Haha, kidding. Your quality in content keeps going up, thanks much, man I appreciate what you're doing!

  • @maskedmotion1199
    @maskedmotion1199 5 років тому +44

    I remember when every adult or even people my age at the time use to come up with something random and pretty cool when having a bath or on the toilet and now even that is taken up by your phone

    • @mikebolton2388
      @mikebolton2388 5 років тому +3

      I know what you mean

    • @yonabon
      @yonabon 5 років тому +2

      Wow that is crazy i would always have awesome ideas in the shower or toilet still do sometimes but maybe it was connected with our younger mind

    • @jurino
      @jurino 4 роки тому +3

      Exactly this! A friend of mine still swears he gets his best ideas in the shower. If you ask him a difficult question, he'll often reply: "Whoa, that's hard - I guess I'll have to shower at least 3 times to be able to answer that!" ;)

    • @maskedmotion1199
      @maskedmotion1199 4 роки тому +2

      @@jurino sounds a cool and very clean person 😂

  • @alfieswalks7021
    @alfieswalks7021 2 роки тому +3

    “You’ve earned it at birth, they just decided not to give it to you” - so true!

  • @deserthobo
    @deserthobo 5 років тому

    i read the title and clicked on this video expecting it to be some kind of buzzfeed lecture style video where they tell you "THIS IS WHAT YOU'RE DOING WRONG!" but instead i got a very easygoing and informative discussion between two intelligent people who don't point the finger and say "THIS IS WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!". Thank you for this great video!

  • @NickPeitsch
    @NickPeitsch 5 років тому +86

    We are the same as our ancestors.
    Just with a bit more technology!

    • @pamlibey4581
      @pamlibey4581 5 років тому +3

      Investing Engineered truth brother

    • @TJ_Travels1
      @TJ_Travels1 4 роки тому +2

      A lot of the time the older generation acts like they were better than the younger generation when in reality they were the same or worse

  • @RyanLawless
    @RyanLawless 5 років тому +73

    Same haircut. Same shirt. Same dreamy blue eyes. Different pants. I'm not sure what it means, but it means something. It definitely means something...

    • @hwitte73
      @hwitte73 5 років тому

      Ryan Lawless Both are into stoicism...so they are not interested in your opinion probably 🤔

    • @nathanf300
      @nathanf300 5 років тому +2

      @@hwitte73 "I don't think that word means what you think it means."

    • @hwitte73
      @hwitte73 5 років тому

      Nathan Folkman I read Seneca’s book about inner peace and the Encheiridion of Epictetus. The philosophical meaning of the clothing is ‘not to keep up with the Johnsons’ Am following Matt quiet a while now...Matt’s reason to lend one of his shirts is because the clean visuals. Tres simple.

  • @funnyvideos-funnyoutloud2618
    @funnyvideos-funnyoutloud2618 5 років тому +9

    The key to happiness: Do your job, become good at it, try finding a job that you ike doing, learn ways to improve, *DON'T watch videos about someone telling you how to become happy*

    • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385
      @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 5 років тому +2

      Smh nah I hate doing work😅

    • @yonabon
      @yonabon 5 років тому +1

      Live freely and Wonderfully in fun. Then you’re doing the wrong career path my friend

  • @walkitoff.
    @walkitoff. 5 років тому +2

    I've only read Ryan's "The Obstacle is the Way." It was one of the books I read when I was at my lowest and it kicked off a massive personal journey out of depression and addiction. I read this and Andy Weir's "The Martian" at more or less the same time and they taught me that the only way forward is to just get on with it and no one can save you if you won't work to save yourself. I got in touch with Andy to thank him.
    So Ryan... Thank You. I can't fully articulate how much you have helped me.

  • @scubawithatuba
    @scubawithatuba 5 років тому

    The amount of value you provide in free videos on UA-cam is fucking amazing. I respect what you do and what you stand for! Love from New Mexico

  • @1618-b2p
    @1618-b2p 5 років тому +142

    Matt needs to get into his car in order to arrive at his desk next door.

    • @szonjacook
      @szonjacook 5 років тому +11

      I remember he has a separate apartment for work now, but it’s funny to imagine that he drives for 20 mins around his block and gets back to the room next door 😂😂

  • @rahimmitha973
    @rahimmitha973 5 років тому +4

    Absolutely wonderful video! I love how Matt really lets the guests speak and does not cut them off prematurely!

  • @EarthStory
    @EarthStory 5 років тому +7

    Thanks Matt and Ryan! I feel so privileged being able to listen in on these kinds of conversations.

  • @yanelylopez6074
    @yanelylopez6074 4 роки тому +3

    damn. no ads except one. i didn't realize how long this was until after. i was really captured the entire time and having no ads made me really truly think. thank you

  • @ahmadhama1981
    @ahmadhama1981 3 роки тому +1

    I keep coming back to this video over and over again

  • @IssamMbarek
    @IssamMbarek 5 років тому +24

    Anyone else noticed that the video is 36:36 long? Well done Matt 🙋‍♂️

  • @GrandGrady
    @GrandGrady 5 років тому +16

    There's only one thing better than Matt's content...His arms, like my guy teach me your ways.

    • @gizmodelacruz
      @gizmodelacruz 5 років тому

      He does actually talk about the importance of constant physical activities and what he does on one of his podcasts and I believe also in videos.

  • @AndreiLucaa
    @AndreiLucaa 5 років тому +10

    Many christians don't understand the essence of praying, it's the stillness these two are talking about. I find it amuzing he didn't mention judaism or christianity, yet these preach and promote stillness all the time. Great video tho! Thanks for making this free, Matt!

    • @investyourmoney6348
      @investyourmoney6348 3 роки тому +1

      Pray well Live well.

    • @AndreiLucaa
      @AndreiLucaa 3 роки тому +1

      @@investyourmoney6348 well said

    • @investyourmoney6348
      @investyourmoney6348 3 роки тому +1

      @@AndreiLucaa I stole that from a Pastor. Lol I just have never forgotten it. I need to be in prayer even more. Jesus said to seek his kingdom first & everything else will be added. The Beautitudes are amazing!

  • @SI-ef3om
    @SI-ef3om 5 років тому +1

    There arent really very many things that can comfort me at this stage in my life, but your videos always manage to. Heres from me and my anxiety and my depression. Thank you 😊

  • @frontdeskstaff9359
    @frontdeskstaff9359 4 роки тому +1

    The key to happiness. I heard someone say, "Happiness comes from growing and giving." I've found this to be true over and over and over again.

  • @prashant1571
    @prashant1571 5 років тому +18

    THE KEY TO HAPPINESS IN A DISTRACTED WORLD: A 35 MIN MATT D'AVELLA VIDEO

    • @anab0lic
      @anab0lic 5 років тому

      most people probably won't even the to the 35 min mark because they will be distracted by another video haha.

  • @AllTheArtsy
    @AllTheArtsy 5 років тому +32

    He's kind of abusing that quote from Pascal. In fact, he believes the opposite. The real meaning to it, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone," is because without distraction, man is given to thinking about life and life's purpose (or the lack thereof) and is then driven into melancholy, of which the only answer is a) more distraction, b) despair or c) suicide. As a believer, his proposed answer of course is not to find distraction or despair, but to find happiness in god. But, essentially, the lengths at which man will go to in order not to think about his own humanity and existence is our greatest skill-- it's what birthed entire civilizations.

    • @aaronsmith2929
      @aaronsmith2929 4 роки тому +2

      All The Artsy there really is no true purpose to be alive at all. We are like chickens with our heads cut off. We can create, we can live, we can procreate, we can experience... but in the end it means nothing, it’s just a pursuit of emotional , chemical indulgence. And each lifetime is just a set of information stored in the databanks of the universe to help drive the evolution of the Earth.

    • @angelicamata1823
      @angelicamata1823 4 роки тому

      Love this. Reminds me of Solomon’s conclusion in the book of Ecclesiastes. “All is meaningless a chasing after the wind” The conclusion is honor God and keep his commandments. That is the duty of mankind.

    • @AllTheArtsy
      @AllTheArtsy 4 роки тому +3

      @@angelicamata1823 I'm coming at this from the point of a non-believer, mind you. I'm just stating facts about what Pascal thought. But it's one of the best explanation for religion: it feels better to believe in stories than accept the reality of meaninglessness in an uncaring and random universe.

  • @Apoetsnature
    @Apoetsnature 5 років тому +4

    “They have reduced all external noise , it’s the noise in here” something about that just really hit me

  • @mattfromtarget8653
    @mattfromtarget8653 5 років тому +5

    I've never been able to watch 2 guys talk on a coach for 30 minutes. I was able to watch this with full attention no problem

  • @kandacenoire
    @kandacenoire 4 роки тому +19

    “You can’t MAKE your parents proud of you” me: *damn, really* lol

  • @chasin2098
    @chasin2098 5 років тому +195

    Matt: "I'm not a maniac"
    Sure...sure... your monthly challenges prove otherwise

    • @szymonklimann3184
      @szymonklimann3184 5 років тому +4

      shut the fuck up

    • @scorebatgaming
      @scorebatgaming 5 років тому +11

      @@szymonklimann3184 he was joking lol

    • @szymonklimann3184
      @szymonklimann3184 5 років тому +1

      @@scorebatgaming shut the fuck up

    • @epicgamer0007
      @epicgamer0007 4 роки тому +1

      I've done one of his monthly challenges! They are good! Very hard but quitting addictions for example caffeine I'd easier than forcing yourself to do something(like going to gym 4times a week)

  • @sockswitheels
    @sockswitheels 3 роки тому +4

    "it was never yours to win, you've earned it at birth and they've just decided not to give it to you" damn that hit HOOOME

  • @globohobo
    @globohobo 4 роки тому +4

    Stillness is the essence of Life, even emotions are distractions.

  • @taylorjanegreen1
    @taylorjanegreen1 5 років тому +1

    This guy is one of the most brilliant minds and most accessible and most relevant that I have ever heard. Thank you!

  • @rumahmainan2016
    @rumahmainan2016 5 років тому +1

    I've read a book about Stoicism and the Conclusion is
    " Just control of what you can control either it's your action or your thought other than that don't get bother from it" and also " it's better when you have it for example Money , Nice Apartment or a Good Business ,etc but wise enough to think that those stuff can be taken away from you so don't get bother even if you lost it start to think that you can get it back cause you know how to get it in the past"

  • @MickStephenson-g9l
    @MickStephenson-g9l 5 років тому +14

    I've read 2 of Ryan's books and this is my first time seeing him 😂 kinda trippy. awesome video matt, keep up the good work

  • @nicholasrose1169
    @nicholasrose1169 5 років тому +33

    The more we try to "find" what we need, the more we distance ourselves from happiness. In other words we tend to live in a conceptual illusion of time, when really its all happening now.

    • @papacold996
      @papacold996 5 років тому

      Explain better

    • @nicholasrose1169
      @nicholasrose1169 5 років тому +9

      @@papacold996 The constant desire to "find" something is what causes dissatisfaction because we wouldn't need to feel the desire to change anything if we didn't feel uneasy to begin with. This is not to say we can't have goals, but this moment right now is all that will ever occur, any objections, ideas, fantasies, dreams, fears, emotions, thoughts all occur right now. And most of the time thoughts aim to take us away from our experience because we believe we can change reality if we "think enough" but ultimately honoring our discomforts and finally learning to "sit still" as they mentioned in the video can bring a greater sense of peace and satisfaction with simpler things in life. Its counterintuitive but I have found that the more I accept whatever comes up in each moment of reality and relinquishing the desire to control reality through thinking, the less stressed I have become. In other words our thinking is often compulsive and just happens, if you asked someone why are you worrying so much? They would say because x, y, and z is stressing me out, but if you asked them "do you want to be thinking those thoughts" they would most likely say no. So essentially learning mediation and mindfulness allows us to accept all aspects of reality, including the thinking and times of stress and they eventually integrate which eliminates their compulsive nature. They loose the grip they once had, and after many months of meditation anything that is a habit generally looses its power to dominate our mind, its basically the rewiring of our brain.

    • @VeritableVagabond
      @VeritableVagabond 5 років тому

      I agree man. Buddhism does the same thing as stoicism and goes quite a bit further. Awakening is real. You can ask about it over @ r/streamentry on Reddit. Happiness is a practice. And meditation everyday is the path there. You want to stop being moved by distractions? Sit for 30 minutes a day and just watch your breath cycle. Read The Mind Illuminated if you want more knowledge. Be blessed!

  • @ozzi2856
    @ozzi2856 5 років тому +9

    Being happy watching your video as I'm being distracted from the exam I have tomorrow

  • @wowieeitme7714
    @wowieeitme7714 5 років тому +2

    The difficulty reveals itself when you start to get the impulse to MOVE. Get up, find your phone, have your tv on for background noise, a podcast when you clean, etc. the fact that it starts to feel like an impulse that these things have to be occurring while I’m awake is what scares me the most. It’s uncomfortable to goes against it, and the goal is to find a sense of stillness within a comfort zone.

  • @shirleypeters
    @shirleypeters 5 років тому +1

    Thanks for interesting discussion! Here is my motto: "what other people think is none of my business" Being self sufficient encourages happiness.

  • @imherelul
    @imherelul 5 років тому +21

    I find it funny he’s wearing an Apple Watch lol

    • @arzoo82
      @arzoo82 5 років тому

      imherelul flexing like there’s no tmr

  • @youcansoften
    @youcansoften 5 років тому +6

    This is one of my fav interviews you ever had !
    I also, strongly suggest you to invite Sadia from the channel Pick up limes, she is great and might help you with inner peace and mindful living, her content and edits are delightful as yours ! Her vibe is just ugh what you aim in life .
    I would to see you both collaborate ❤️🥺

  • @TimeFliesTimeManagement
    @TimeFliesTimeManagement 5 років тому +14

    Thanks Matt!! Can you continue doing more long format like this?? 🙏💙 love it!

  • @SurajSharma-qp5oj
    @SurajSharma-qp5oj 3 роки тому +1

    Philosophy is a lifelong practice, it's not a something you understand and everything is fixed from then on. Wow! I liked it alot

  • @ArchieThomas3seesea
    @ArchieThomas3seesea 3 роки тому

    Serenity Prayer- Grant me the power to change the things I can, accept the things Ican't & the wisdom 2 know the difference(paraphrase).

  • @offbeatkiki
    @offbeatkiki 5 років тому +22

    36 minutes! We're being fed today :)

  • @leosbaboguerra
    @leosbaboguerra 5 років тому +17

    36 min THANK YOU GOD!!!!

  • @ourtwistedkitchen8315
    @ourtwistedkitchen8315 5 років тому +13

    This reminds me of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People class that I'm taking. They talk about principles being timeless, objective, and at work even when we don't realize it. I believe that comes into play a lot in this video. I love Ryan's mentality around being still & focusing on what's really important to become your best self & achieve what you want in life. As Gary Vee says, Fuck the Joneses, BE YOURSELF! Also, huge shoutout to Matt for always covering such relevant topics that we could all use more information about. UA-cam is an amazing platform to show off these talents! If you wouldn't mind checking out and/or subscribing to my channel, we create vegan meals while we're tipsy, because being vegan can be fun if you do it the right way. 😉

    • @Lindsweightloss
      @Lindsweightloss 5 років тому +1

      I loved reading the book 'The 7 habits of Highly effective people' ! Everything should read :)

    • @jassykat
      @jassykat 5 років тому

      naw...

    • @ourtwistedkitchen8315
      @ourtwistedkitchen8315 5 років тому

      @@Lindsweightloss Agreed! It's so valuable, especially if you're not sure how to begin changing your life for the better. Wishing you a successful future!

    • @ourtwistedkitchen8315
      @ourtwistedkitchen8315 5 років тому

      @@jassykat No problem, have a great day :)

    • @ourtwistedkitchen8315
      @ourtwistedkitchen8315 5 років тому

      Ashvin Vaidyanathan Same here! How often do you have your class?

  • @niloofar.jafari.m
    @niloofar.jafari.m 4 роки тому +1

    dear matt, thanks for your videos, i could control my anxiety with your videos, and i became minimalist after following your channel , it’s about 2 months that i follow you. wish happiness and success for you and your beautiful wife. keep going, i am your big fan from italy! grazie matt, sei bravo!

  • @jonihaworth7016
    @jonihaworth7016 3 роки тому +1

    What I really appreciate about Matt's podcasts are that he lets his guests take the reins and he doesn't take over talking about himself.

  • @MooGCS
    @MooGCS 5 років тому +4

    I'm so minimalist I've began living in the woods. I wear no clothes. I sleep on the ground. I eat no food. I've learned to be so minimalist that I myself do not exist.

    • @anab0lic
      @anab0lic 5 років тому +2

      and by doing these things you have developed the super power of being able to post youtube comments using only your mind.

  • @PonyundSchleichfan
    @PonyundSchleichfan 5 років тому +15

    16:58 "If I get 15.000 subscribers, then I'll never have to worry..."
    -Matt, has almost 2 Million subscribers

    • @iceBlade777
      @iceBlade777 5 років тому

      and he is still worry? :D

  • @ArizonaWillful
    @ArizonaWillful 3 роки тому +3

    The key to happiness is being young, having a buff body, a handsome face and quick mind like Matt. But I know we all have to deal with what we've been given. LOL

  • @itskagiso
    @itskagiso Рік тому

    Man this guy is a gem - This is by far my favorite channel! Great guest as well.
    I know this is old but I only recently discovered Matt and Im catching up on the older vids

  • @shvonned.burkemsncrnpagpcn619
    @shvonned.burkemsncrnpagpcn619 4 роки тому +1

    Great video. I’ve been practicing some aspects of stoicism and Buddhism for some time now, as they are similar. Not exact. It feels amazing because you, yourself learn how to do more of what comes naturally. Sometimes what comes naturally requires really hard work, while some other things just need to be let go. Finding stillness helps to delineate these things. However, it is challenging working for some organizations where many are always on GO about everything, before letting it sit with us for a while to consoider its success. It then becomes practice to accept and let the chips fall where they may. Outside conditions give us the oportunity to practice these philosophies in real time, real life.

  • @enby-girl5020
    @enby-girl5020 5 років тому +28

    I did the travel oh that would make me feel better thing and I learned that I was running away from my abusive home life so I relocated across the country and it didn’t happen over night but over the couple years since I have been feeling a lot better in staying where I am/working through mondaine things

    • @IncredibleMet
      @IncredibleMet 5 років тому +2

      enby-girl Wherever you go, there *you* are

  • @StarrMerrie
    @StarrMerrie 5 років тому +71

    42% of life looking at a screen! Depressing!

  • @WiWillemijn
    @WiWillemijn 5 років тому +5

    ... moving from one thing to the next
    I clicked on another video JUST when you said that
    Felt embarrased and came back

  • @markneff9251
    @markneff9251 4 роки тому

    This might be the best video I've ever watched on UA-cam. Thanks Matt & Ryan.

  • @mrs.marken4609
    @mrs.marken4609 2 роки тому

    It’s not what we do, but why we do it. Like whatever you like, do what you want, but if the why comes from outside of yourself, it will never be enough.