A Wife Finally Finds Her Voice in Her Toxic Marriage | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network
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- After Lamar announces that he's leaving the set without finishing the process of healing his toxic marriage, his wife, Vakhara, makes a decision of her own. For more on #FIXMYLIFE, visit WatchOWN.tv/Iyanla
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The amount of strength it took that woman to say those words out of her mouth!
Andrew She spoke so eloquently. It was heartbreaking, yet empowering. And I would feel the same if the roles were reversed because it's about self worth.
I know right. You can tell she's been holding it in
Right. I got chills
It only took that much strength because she doesn't know her worth. A virtuous woman wouldn't have to say a thing. She would let her actions speak for her instead. It's called leave. These type of women are rare. If you find one, you better not lose her.
I felt bad about how he acted like those words meant nothing to him, though. What a senseless douche!
When he said, "Time to go", I heard "I can't manipulate this one anymore so I'm off."
EXACTLY! STRAIGHT UP NARCISSIST
Exactly
YEEEEEESSSSS!!!!!!!SOOOO TRUUUEEE!!!!!
Right, smh
To be fair, she did say she didn't want to continue the marriage. Was he supposed to beg her to stay?
Wow his god complex has lost him a good woman
She is not a GOOD woman
Shasmeen Muhammad I️ have a feeling she’s not actually “leaving”.
To
Walter James she's better than him
maria brown LIKE attracts LIKE
Nothing like a made up mind. 🙌🏼🙌🏼
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Roger day!!!
DreamAngel123 PFW Yes Lord!!! You said a mouth full then...
You ain't neva lied!!!!!!! It feels good!
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Ladies,
This is what happens when the man in the relationship thinks HE is the “prize”.
In my opinion I believe the man is the prize as well the problem is in this case he didn't just see himself as the prize he thought he was the only one worth value period.
TASconfidential the man is the prize .no offense at all but women get up 5 to 6 options a week. So we u finally choose won he should feel like he’s WON
Hallulejah, Im in a toxicrelationship and he sees no wrong in his eyes.Finger always pointing at me but 7 years disrespect and criticism, but i may an choice I'm done......
TASconfidential yup, that’s exactly what I thought when I watched them smh
TASconfidential a lot of these men have that mentality, and they will try to convince weak women to believe that nonsense.
A man like him, she HAS to see this divorce through. Public rejection like this will fuel his vindictive nature. If she stays he will make her "pay" for this perceived embarrassment for the rest of her life. He has such a coldness in his eyes, I don't think anyone but himself and whatever higher being he prays to can fix him. He's only partially physically present and completely absent emotionally.
MajPsch83 Whitfield what you've described is Narcissistic personality disorder and she is suffering from the abuses
Tracie Brown I totally agree!!!!
MajPsch83 Whitfield You are so right. Interesting.
MajPsch83 Whitfield Agreed 100%... I noticed his absence in the room. We need a follow up episode.
MajPsch83 Whitfield amen
That man was weak
Leroux Leroux boy not man lol. Men are stronger than boys
He's a narcissist. They are weak individuals who always have to feel like they have control over someone.
Sure is
Since we boys y'all girls.
Leroux Leroux weal asl
A little concerned for her safety...
Are they still married
Me too...Let’s pray for her..
No not a little....im overwhelmed with concerns...the looks he gives her speaks "wait til we get home" and she looks terrified as hell
@@ejenkins6071 i thought it was just me omg
Buy a gun soon ...real soon ..
This brotha has never loved that woman. He is not ignorant or confused just a narcissist!
He's in the closet! Keeping up the facade is making him crazy.
Yup
He absolutely is gay.
He love his self and the things she did for him.He dont care about no one else but self and how he used others for his needs.
@@AkireMaru Oh okay we have different views, just an opinion.
She deserves better. He needs to get himself together
Shesaid it26 lol black don't crack
Layman’s Society Three Three she may feel the same about you tubby 😋
Layman’s Society Three Three and she looks beautiful! You probably couldn’t get her if you tried
He needs to go.
Layman’s Society Three Three trash
"the devil is a lie" = I think I've lost control of her.. he probably was thinking "we gotta get outta here before she thinks Iyanal is her new God". We really need role models, healthy examples of relationships.
TheZogie you hit that nail on the head
You sum it up so beautiful especially with the opening lines
TheZogie Your comment was like a dictionary😂
YES!
Narcissistics don't like getting exposed
When people wonder why black women seem so angry or untrusting. When men want to know why black women sometimes put up walls or do not walk through the world light & airy with very open hearts I hope that someone points them to these episodes.
MANY (black) women have lived through this EXACT SAME thing where a black man will literally refuse to communicate and will simply walk out of a woman's life as if she means nothing. Lamar walked away from his wife like she was nothing more than a blind date. He didn't even want to fight for his marriage. I could feel her pain through her dignified stance. So sad.
Chrissy G i assure you white women go through it too
sue she Sorry but "your blues ain't like mine."
💔💔
Chrissy G~ I understand where you're coming from but keep in mind, as a woman, you are responsible for yourself, for your own decision to remain in an unhappy relationship. Unless a gun is pointed at your head, you can choose to leave at anytime. Easier said then done, yes, that is true, but nothing worth having comes easy.
Do what's hard and your life will be easy. Do what's easy and your life will be hard.
Women needs to learn to accept responsibility for themselves. At a certain age, women have to stop blaming their parents, childhood, or their partners. Take some self responsibility.
You choose the man. You choose to stay. Accept that fact. Blaming other people gets you nowhere in life. Once your relationship no longer serves you or both of you, that's when you make the difficult decision to leave. If you continue to stay, then there is no point in complaining about it when you're not going to do anything change it.
Certain men aren't capable of love. Point black period. No amount of love, patience or understanding on your part is going to fix that. That's when you gotta let him go. Learn to choose your future partner more wisely.
Some men are good at hiding their true colors, yes, that's true, but once they've shown you their true colors, why'd you continue to stay?? Hence, be accountable for your own choices. You play a part in the relationship. You choose to remain. Take ownership of that. I noticed alot of women (not all) fail to grasp this fact.
We are talking about black women, not white
19 years of her life she spent with a man who can’t face any unsavory truth about himself and can only accept flattery about himself. Which is commonplace across the planet. So women have to learn to see when a man can’t face truth about himself from the very beginning to avoid getting involved. Because when a man is living in denial of the fact that he has no capacity for a relationship with a good mature woman, no amount of love and support from such a woman will change it.
If Iyanla wasn’t there taping the session, he probably would have exploded in fierce fury at the statements she made, but since the situation didn’t allow for that he automatically walked away. Completely unwilling to face himself, which is how he was the day she met him. So ladies, you got to learn to recognize that from the jump because the years down the road that you suffer will change nothing until it you brake it off and leave him. You never should have been with him first place, but it took you how ever long that it did for you face that.
Always remember, that truth is the glue that holds anything real together, and anytime a person is in denial of truth, you don’t want to get involved with because are immature. A child.
Preach
Bonnie Cotman but they r good fakers until they know they got u sucked in.
Bonnie Cotman so true....
Bonnie Cotman she knew how he was when she married him
Kelvin Morris Not really because people are fake and they pretend.
You know your ready to move on when you can verbalize your feelings calmly, eloquently, and without hesitation. It was time to set herself free.
He literally walked out while she was speaking to him, proving her EXACT point
It won't take him long to realize he made a mistake. He probably will apologize and ask to reconcile. If she takes him back, he might cheat on her to pay her back, and he will get an ago boost by keeping it from her. No way will he tell on himself.
Let him go. He will never change so don't waste your time on him
Selfish, Narcissist, Ego Maniac. Let this boy go!
Kitso Ntuli he’s a manipulator
Kitso Ntuli ....key word...BOY
Damn facts
His response makes me believe he feels like he's lost control and he wants to get her home away from people who give her that power. He wants to keep her weak. He seems like he hits hee
He never grew up and became a man. He talks and acts like he's 17.
Aja Arrow
For realllll, the way he moves, speaks, everything reminds me of a teenage boy!!!!
He never learned how.
More like 10 years old! He's underdeveloped emotionally, cognitively, and never, like most AA men, learned how to care for others except their own complex! EGO she was only a supply!
The crazy thing about this, is that there a man walking around just like Lamar every day. Many of them in relationships. The next woman he dates or cheats with, will have no clue of his past or narcissistic tendencies. Be careful of who you date people. Who you date, is who you marry!
Your right it happened to me and been in it for 4yrs and I'm trying to find myself now I didn't know what this disorder was until I met him but boy do I regret it
Giirl you said it! And many of them put on the charm first..until they get u hooked
He looks like a big kid being chastised for the first time.....standing there with his red shoes and head phones. I don't understand why he's so upset. Not once he kissed or hugged her... or showed any remorse .
MattsBooks &Bites see that's the thing-he shows no remorse no emotions no love, he probably never loved her, she's just his meal ticket, probably don't even have a job, he just seems like a user
MattsBooks &Bites Narcissistics know nothing about remorse and if they do apologize most of the time it's not sincere bc they do not change
What does he need to show remorse for exactly?
He did not fight for her. You only fight for something worth it. He does not find her worth his time.
She ended the marriage so elegantly. He realized she took back her control button, and he walked away like a coward. She still keeps her crown.
The devil is a lie??? Not you cheating on her for twenty years? Black people lovessss to blame the devil for bad behaviour. The devil isn't that busy.
The devil is busy all day !
He is, but you don't have to buy what he's selling.
jacpppp sorry mis but he is more busy than u can understand even while everyone literally sleeps he is watching u to see how to keep breaking u down and away from God
amen
Kéle H. Thank you
"When a woman's fed up.. there ain't nothing you can do about it"
Goldz ESM aint that the truth !!!
Ruth Tyus yes mam
Not a Damn Thing.
R. Kelly said it best!!!!! Love that song....it speaks volumes!
I'm thinking this man cannot take rejection. I'm not sure he truly loves her, but just likes the idea of her. Maybe she's something like a security blanket for him. A narcissist can't take rejection and/or not being wanted. He didn't flinch when she said she didn't like the way he was treating her; but he couldn't handle her saying she didn't want to be with him anymore.
k Smith Narcissist do not love! They are incapable of love! They use, manipulate, calculate, pretend, and abuse! He will only miss the control he had over her. Narcissist don't even love their own children.
When your mind is made up!!! OMG!
Wow. He’s in his own way of happiness. Something is fundamentally in disarray within him. He has to face himself. He needs to heal. Whatever it is, is eating at him from within. It’s become septic. She can’t help him. Only he can help himself, perhaps with the guide of Iyanla in privacy. The camera in his face is not gonna work for him. He wouldn’t be vulnerable in front of the camera. The Ego is weak. His ego is broken, he feels naked. He’s not comfortable in his nakedness.
Vanessa U. he seems to has sexuality problems he doesn't look at her like a man who knows his wife. He looks at her as though sje doesnt exist and is in his way
+Novina Wright
Finally someone said it. Something is definitely off with him. At least the other couples are connecting. Lamar acts like his wife is a roommate!
Vanessa U. Because he's a narcissist, Sociopath and psychopath!
Vanessa U. GIRL IF YOU DON'T PREACH!!!!
I think he's gay and on the DL.....my gay radar is going bananas...... His wife isn't crazy he just confused about his sexuality and probably feels trapped abd doesn't know what to do.
Moral of the story: Ladies, it doesn’t matter how good of a woman you are. A man will not change unless he wants to for himself.
A lot of ladies make the same mistake, allowing your man to disrespect and degrade you again and again. Don’t think he will change for you. You are not God, so what makes you think he will actually change for you? Run, sis..RUN!!
The use of silence to control and manipulate = failure.
He was so use to having his cake and eating it and took advantage of her for so long. The look in his eyes said a lot. GOD bless you sweetheart, you deserve better.
Regina Jackson Yes I said the same thing. The look in his eyes say girl your not going anywhere you are not strong enough.
Cold, dead, disgusting eyes. Marriage, women, life dont mean nothing to him. He needs to desperately go to God.
0:37-0:41 is a beautiful moment of a person being afraid and still deciding to stand up for themselves. I pray I'm that brave in a moment as intense as this!
She’s been with this man since she was 17 years old old. It’s hard to leave a man no matter how horrible he is to you if you don’t know any better.
I can't comprehend staying with someone that says and does things that demolishes your self worth.
I've been there, and I'm out quick... U can't touch me, or anything after u deeply betray or hurt me
I didn’t like this dirt bag from the start of the show. She must accept some responsibility for allowing him to go this long. You haven’t lost anything sister because it was a total lost when you met him. Ppl give you warning signs open your eyes and pay attention
Exactly
His Face n Actions Tell It ALL! EXACTLY 💯 She Must Accept Her Part...To Heal ...FACTS Sets U Free. If Not It's Going To Happen Over n OVER......
She needs to run! This type of ego can not accept rejection, admit defeat or lose control especially this publicly. Where he goes when he shuts down or walk off is a dark place wher he needs to fester his thoughts and manipulate to regain power. He can't respond when impulse or on instinct confronts him because he's not prepared, not in control and he feels weak he has to go restore before he responds or reacts.
And if they were home he may have hit her in retaliation from her speaking up
He cant respond on camera because his narcissistic mask will slip. A hint of it did already.
@ Bronica R- AGREE 💯
This guy hates himself and takung it out on this precious women.
@ Beverly C- AGREE 💯
He's a BS Artist... Selfish, Silly & Insecure... I pray she divorces his butt... & clears the way 4 the right man... This is a boy in a man's body... So SAD!!!!
Right have men and women who are children in adults bodies
Yup
He might be battling who he really is inside,if you know what i mean...
My exhusband! Was just like this man! She needs to let him go! Only for him to find himself! Because the more she mommys him! He will not become man! 🙄
Delvonna Dailey It's not about him finding "himself or becoming a man" He is a Narcissist these people are EVIL and NO they do not change!!! Do not make any excuses for these cruel monsters wearing human form. He is cold emotionally absent and it is exactly how he feels. He is a grown man who is EVIL. Narcissist are sociopathic, they thrive on hurting people mainly thru domestic relationships. Emotional/Mental torture is what anyone will receive if they are not aware of this type of person. These people do not wake up one day and see the light, become saved or mature. This is a Vile personality type. Classic NPD!
Delvonna Dailey I would bounce also. But it is not fair to her. Some men like him are not meant to be in marriage. He has a lot of muturing up to do. He juzt aint ready.
Whodrankmyapplejuice? They can Not be helped they pretend in therapy so they manipulate people into thinking they changed. They are pure Evil. You have no idea hun! Everything with them is a plot twist! They are all sociopaths.
I am sorry! If i tried to express myself of what i went through as the same as this women! Trust me! I lived 14 yrs like this! I carried that weight! Is it fair! No! I just wanted to express that she's not going though this alone ! There are some women going through this! I am one of them! I didnt want to start drama! I was just saying! I suffered like her! She is not alone! I agree! I was in a toxic marriage! For 14 yrs! Until june 2017! It was time to depart ways! I am hurt! My family saw that! Please! Dont attack me! I am not perfect! Thank you
Whodrankmyapplejuice? Narcissistics can't be helped smdh they can't even truly see how their toxic behavior affects other in order to to heal and be cleanse you have to admit there's a problem
He is crazy as hell.
Facts
This guy seems like the guy a lot of women wanted and then he chose her in the midst of knowing about all these women who wanted him. So in his mind, she's supposed to be eternally grateful& accept whatever crumbs he hands her…& maybe that's part of her struggle in just letting him go. Her payoff might be "he chose me" & what's her ego going to do without that payoff? Mh mh mh, Lord let my smack at his face reach over this screen!
Girl u are so right!!! And the pain this causes us hit different.
He's doing it again, someone is speaking to him, and he is zoning out, what is that, where does he go? You're Lady is speaking to you, trying to have a meaningful conversation, and you can't even focus. I don't get that.
This is how my baby's father was. Disrespected me , verbally, mentally , physically abusive. And when I left , he made it seem like I was the problem
You can tell he abused her throughout their relationship. She seems broken and afraid. Hopefully she truly has dropped him and found someone worthy.
Baby I know the feeling ! I wasted 17 year's of my life & brought 4 children into a very toxic marriage ! Self love is the best Love
The devil is a lie....ummm and he is using you brotha.God wants peace and prosperity in a person's life .And he will send signs if the relationship isn't ordained by him.He gives and takes away so be careful trying to use spirituality to hold a person.
I just HATE when the black community uses “the devil!” As an excuse for everything. In situations like this it’s so disrespectful and just a scapegoat for not facing facts. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I wonder if he was saying, "the devil is a lie" when he was treating her wrong. SMH !!!
Too many boys and not enough Men
I would love an update on her. I really hope she was able to stay away.
Something is seriously wrong this person who actually thinks he is superior. Girl run for your life.
Yes girl! Know your worth & scream it.
Black men first reaction RUN smh
Hopfully she keeps her word and follow through. She has a history of taking him back.
He's selfish. He doesn't know how to love. He's emotionally damage. No one can fix him. Not even her. Only he can fix himself.
If she keeps taking him back, then it's hard to feel sorry for her. She has to realise that a man like that can't be changed. Unless he choose to change for himself.
That’s all I saw in this clip. A weak woman frontin for the camera. She showed zero confidence to speak up to him. Like she didn’t mean what she was saying. Then she literally watched him leave hoping he would turn back. She isn’t goin anywhere
He's a narcissist. There's absolutely no hope for her. Run. Don't look back girl.
I still can't believe he said I'm her pastor
HE MEANT "I'M HER GOD"! BCUZ THAT'S HOW NARCISSIST THINK
I pray for her🙏🏾this man is the master manipulator💯
And this is exactly why looks isn't everything. Smh go for the person's heart
Act like a boy, get treated like a boy. In the famous words of K Michelle, " You can't raise a man". So relevant for these grown boys that act arrogant and childish. With a strong woman behind her, Vakhara received the support she needed to find her confidence and confront the problem head on. As women, we need to do this for one another when we see our fellow sister in a toxic relationship with someone. Support and remind her of her inner light!
Nisha Perez she has to want to see the mess she is in too, otherwise they'll turn on you for trying to help.
"The devil is a lie" LOL that made me laugh. This man cannot be accountable or responsible for his own actions. wow
Thank you. GET👏🏽A👏🏽DIVORCE👏🏽
Iyanla said you can't change how someone loves you but you can control if you will except it or not!
I have a feeling that she will have a hard time getting rid of this man. He does not plan to "let" her leave him. I can really see him turning physically violent toward her too. She needs a restraining order right quick. He is too unpredictable. Actually he is not unpredictable at all. He is doing all the things and can do the other things that match up with his personality disorder - narcissistic personality disorder.
ToyaRR
I was thinking the same thing. If she does go through with what she says about the divorce then seems as though he will make it very difficult. He gives off a "you AREN'T gonna get ME" or "you are NOT gonna try me" vibe. I will have the last laugh.
Need A DANG....GUN! If She Said That Private...Whoa!
If she live... she'll be 80 years old still waiting on him to change and being disrespected if she stay! Every marriage (God didn't join nor put together), forgive yourself and move on, and don't look back sister! It's very obvious he's not welcoming Iyanla's coaching help. I can imagine the distasteful, nasty words he'd like to say to I.V., especially after saying he don't want to be there.
I truly hope his negative response and reaction towards his wife is her ultimate wakeup call to LEAVE this joker! --He's waisting your precious time and valuable life! I hope you can find COURAGE to leave and start your life fresh and new without him. Simply put, he's full of himself on the deep!! *creepy.
He must be scared at this point to see that she really is leaving him I hope she gets a restraining order because she just killed his ego and he may turn crazy either way it's sad how this whole thing has gone all three couples are getting unmarried and that's a shame
Brittany Blessed Your comment is real talk. I hope the show thought about this crucial point. Is it the best or safest way to tell your spouse the marriage is over in front of TV cameras rolling?
At the end of the episode we found out that she's the only one who plans to go through with the divorce. The other couples are trying to work it out.
@cutiepie8030 Her husband has been so disrespectful towards her, I can see why she's ready to release him and their marriage. Look how disrespectful he was on the show. Imagine how poorly he treated her during the marriage.
Brittany ok
He's not about that life!
Watching this gave me chills. I’m SO grateful to be free from this. Never will I return to this type hell again. I’d rather die single, free and happy.
That guy must have had a horrible childhood to act in such a way !! That's( or isn't now) your wife man, treat her with respect and kindness. She isn't a damn object you own. If you're unhappy with her, get a damn divorce. I hope she's followed through with a divorce.
That girl is so pretty. Ahhh, the guys some women choose. 🤦🏾♂️
Very true Tyrell....to both your statements...especially the 2nd one.
@trinityc1970 some women aren't at all, but just sweet souls that get sucked in by wicked men. Trust me!
She’s so precious. I wish her the very best.
She'll go back! There was no conviction in what she said - only the crutch of Iyanla being there. Sad but I truly believe that she'll go back!
he always got that dum look on his face
It seems like he is already plotting revenge on her...I’m glad this woman is finding peace for herself, her sanity, and overall health.
It's true, you don't need to force yourself just make your partner stay with you. If he/she gives you a sign that's hes not interested anymore then let them go. They're not worthy enough to be in our life.
Wooh!! This is so uncomfortable for me too watch. I’ve been in a relationship before with a man like that and as much as it hurt me I’m so happy I let that go!
Sad that, in this world and in various societies, there are men emulating his behaviour and women condoning men wishing to be their "pastors". Mr. Lamar may have been heavily influenced by a group of individuals supporting his behaviour and so that's how he thinks he should progress in the marriage. (How societies produce psychopaths). He's definitely not the worst and, even though he might not be, he has abandoned a wonderful and compassionate spouse...
He got someone else he wants. He wants her to be the one to say it's over so he can feel better about being with someone else . He doesn't want her any moore. He's not attracted to her for whatever reason anymore.
My opinion I think Lamar is Confused wit his Sexuality, Thas jus my opinion ok
Sweet Azz Ought to Know....A Wannabe Jealous...Lady Hater.
What a weakling. Too much ego without reason
He doesn't have control of his wife's words actions of decisions as he does at home. He's fleeing!!
Glad I'm single
The bible says “he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing” a lot of these guys are little boys nowadays. He comfortable living that way manipulating her. I’m picking up narcissistic qualities.
I can guarantee yall that in his mind he's thinking, I can't believe this b embarrassed me on national tv. Typical narc response how dare you do this to ME😡
WOW! How can someone be so religious yet so disconnected? Interesting. I really hope she left him and not put on a good face foe tv
So proud of her though .. me and my bf just broke up because it got toxic and when that happens sometimes leaving is best
Childish men can't handle rejection!
At all. It's they mammy fault lol
Nah and I don't feel sorry for him at all!! hell no
What a weak whimp only got strength to bully his wife at home. Whoosh be gone ➡
He is completely detached from loving her the way she needs to be loved. I hope he has changed, but if not, I hope she has found peace.
this man talks in riddles and then doesn't explain he is a nar coz he used word salad to get u tripping
i also think he is gay
what is that whit mark on the lady face
Woow no emotion whatsoever he urks my soul she definately deserves way better 👏
Esther Onala Girl, I'm just watching clips and i can't stand him lol.
"The Devil is a Lie, that's all I got to say"??? ha Wow! Ladies we got's to be more careful!
why fight for someone who has stop fighting for you. why keep giving your all. when your all is not good enough. why keep believing you can't do any better than the person you are trying to hold on too. why do you keep thinking you could never love again . if someone can walk out of your life let them walk. it's not that their a bad person , it's just that you too fail to become one and that's ok. it's funny how the person you are giving so much love to can turn their back on you and give their love to someone else, that's life so you got to make peace with it and move on. love is too beautiful, to keep crying over it. so go in peace , go to the one that makes you happy . go to the one that makes you want to give your all to . go to the one that makes you say please stay a little longer. love is too beautiful to keep crying over it so please just go. I'll be ok I just need to rest a little, this journey with you left me emotionally and financially depleted. I am healing.
She’s beautiful on the inside and out ... she’s not weak but she loves him so he knows he can control her. I’ve been there and I know what it feels like... I pray only Gods best for this woman and her family.
She’s weak. She’s not stupid. She’s not naive. She knows how he is. She knows the right decisions, but she DOESNT WANT TO take them. Her choice. That’s called weakness. It’s called stubbornness.
He slow asf,selfish n self center.
What a narcissistic self-centered sociopath!
I fault women for men like this. You have so much influence but you give your power away to men because of your fragile egos and insecurities. You need to learn to really lean and depend on God for real. Not just a cliche', actually live it
D Goshay~It takes two to tango. The blame is on both parties. She allowed him to disrespect her for 19 years with zero consequences and is just now fed up with his disrespectful behavior and expects him to change. Why would a man like him change when a woman like her keeps taking him back, time after time?
He's also to blame because he's a disrespectful coward and he dishonored himself by cheating on her again and again. His actions shows he's not a man of his words, he can't keep his vows.
He's also very emotionally damaged. Probably from childhood experiences, how he was raised. No matter how tragic his childhoods were, it's still not an excuse to behave so poorly. Others have worst childhoods but grow up a great person. So no excuses.
No amount of love or patience on her part is going to fix him. He needs to do the work to fix himself.
As women, we need to learn to choose our partners more wisely. This decision is the most important decision women can make in their life. A bad partner will make your life miserable, especially when kids are involved. A good partner will enhance your life and your happiness. So ladies, choose wisely. In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we are willing to tolerate.
Exactly the point I was trying to make. I don't think women realize how much power they have in their relationships. Men were created to need the woman. We settle and men give what we tolerate..constantly taking him back is only reinforcing negative behavior on his part, and for that you are accountable for what you allow him to do to you. It's self destructive to keep letting others disrespect you. I think women are afraid of being alone and think that they need to be in a relationship to be important. This is the furthest from the truth. I've learned to be single and celibate for over 4 years and it's the best decision I could have ever made in my life. Doors opened when I removed everything that disturbed my peace. It brought me so much joy, and I think the reason why women continue to settle is because they have not had enough pain and suffering from these men so they wait for potential that may never come. .Eventually you will have to leave, because he is going to drive you out of his life someway somehow because men need challenge, not an easy ride. Why stay?,It's only going to get worse; and the longer you stay the harder it gets to leave him. It took swallowing my pride and ego to be where I am, and once you do it you will realize it's not so bad after all, and that it actually makes you stronger. I think it's instinctive for us to want to please a man, but we must grow up and realize that only a grown man and not a grown boy deserves satisfaction from a woman.
😂 She didn't even look him in his eyes when she said that lat sentence 😳😶😏 She don't even believe herself 😔 He didn't hear nothing she said until the last sentence 😕 Those words cut his throat 😶 He had to shuffle out the room because his knees was to weK to walk, he had to play it off 😭 Looking around the room, for what? For who? 😭😭😭 We need an update!!! I hope she really got the Mental and Physical Courage to Divorce him and Leave!!!
I'm proud of you! I truly am very proud of this woman! 👸This video was recommended to me the guy looks a lot like my ex and the video was released on my birthday! My ex is reappearing in my life, Oh boy does this video speak to me.. literally!
Lol it means he wasn’t listening to her smfh
He is an egomaniac. Thinks he’s so good looking that he can treat her any way he pleases. I hope she followed through and left him.
This ni**ga is crazy
PERFECT LOVE CAST OUT FEAR~ That’s WHY he had to GO, he Chose NOT To STAND in TRUTH.
KUDOS, To the Young Lady- ABUNDANT LIFE awaits her😇👍🏽
When a women says “period” they’re FOR REAL! Period 😂 I’m glad she ended that relationship
PERIOD.
When a woman’s HAD ENOUGH OF THE BS!!!👋🏾😌📦