Why You Obsess About Your Ex

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  • Why do we often obsess over an ex even when we're in a relationship? Listen to find out why and how to stop yourself from this thinking.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 53

  • @melaniecummins
    @melaniecummins 6 років тому +25

    "Chemistry is wound based" and "Eroticisation of pain"...fucking brilliant! Whoa, thank you that actually makes sense!!!

    • @localasbestosremoval8392
      @localasbestosremoval8392 4 роки тому +1

      Chemistry is wound base ...wow never heard it that way before but as I look back ..its true

    • @Cre8Fire34
      @Cre8Fire34 Місяць тому

      Yeah...those phrases struck me, as well as many others. I'm a writer-director and am a little jealous!

  • @deerlow1851
    @deerlow1851 Рік тому +2

    This is the first out of 50+ videos that made me realize I'm obsessing over her because she constantly made me anxious and fearful.

  • @philiprsmith5716
    @philiprsmith5716 3 роки тому +2

    I love the bit about being the director, the producer and others and to just fire the ex! Replace them!

  • @Cre8Fire34
    @Cre8Fire34 Місяць тому

    You are an amazing speaker: insightful, funny, grounded, and on fire. Pharma's loss is the world's gain.

  • @aimee4436
    @aimee4436 3 роки тому +4

    Honestly Mark, you are just AWESOME. The way you just say things as they are is so inspiring yet so funny at the same time! Thank you for your wisdom, knowledge and sharing your personal growth. It has really helped me kick start my self growth journey 💪❤️

  • @Angelbaby23444
    @Angelbaby23444 3 роки тому +7

    It's a strange place to be when you start realizing you have extremely porous boundaries due to an insane amount of parental issues and childhood traumas and then grow up to have so much trouble getting into emotionally abusive relationships... and then your parents end up criticizing you for why you always end up in emotionally abusive relationships on some "I taught you better than that" and "how can you let someone treat you that way" type shit....

    • @chilloften
      @chilloften 3 роки тому +2

      Indeed. My mother is extremely abusive on many levels and in fact shows the world how to treat me. Ugh
      So evil. She denies of course and just blames me. Thank god for internet, to become aware.

  • @lauramonteiro702
    @lauramonteiro702 4 роки тому +3

    LOL no Adele or Boys II Men. Truth! ❤️ All of this is such profound wisdom. Thank you!

  • @monishadaga3186
    @monishadaga3186 3 роки тому +2

    When I let people love me they.....
    And when I love people they ....
    Was so powerful! Thank you so much 🙏
    Your videos are absolutely amazing! Thank you

  • @DOTTIE25
    @DOTTIE25 3 роки тому +1

    Mark is hands down the greatest connection expert out there. His energy is truly remarkable.

    • @Cre8Fire34
      @Cre8Fire34 Місяць тому

      Just discovered him and I agree.
      Aside: Black Rebel Motorcycle 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @emmasutphen2521
    @emmasutphen2521 4 роки тому +3

    Everything you say resonates. So unbelievably grateful to have found you and this content!

  • @charisse234
    @charisse234 3 роки тому +2

    I will say this regarding my ex I found it hard to let go so what I decided to do is get in touch with him and I started watching him and I could see how he was always on messenger talking to someone I started noticing what a liar he really is and I started seeing how totally selfish he is.i needed to see all of it for me to finally let go.he was never ever worthy of me but at the time I couldn't see that.i see it now.the point I'm making I had to get in touch with him for closure.that may not work for everyone but it worked for me.thank you for your video.peace and love 💛

  • @RaheelaBarkat
    @RaheelaBarkat 6 років тому +2

    That was bloody amazing! I loved the resentment part, putting the onus back on us; we're in charge of boundaries

  • @teodora6195
    @teodora6195 3 роки тому +1

    I know
    Its over
    For you it
    Never began
    But in my heart
    It felt so real

  • @Nickwehrli
    @Nickwehrli 4 роки тому +4

    You’re a legend mark. Helped me more than you know

  • @shamayim2001
    @shamayim2001 4 роки тому +1

    Wow. Thank you ! I let my ex go but I needed to hear this . Thank you 😊

  • @MusicSpounge
    @MusicSpounge 5 років тому +3

    Oh boy I need to digest this video... It's about me..

  • @lestermatos2989
    @lestermatos2989 Рік тому

    This is brilliant! This is literally what is happening to me right now… I cannot give myself to my new partner if I have that heavy weight still!!!!

  • @abes2758
    @abes2758 9 місяців тому

    I did laugh at the ‘stop listening to Adele’ , laughing through tears. Thank you for your videos. Appreciate you !

  • @HeatherRobinsononeshotbeyond
    @HeatherRobinsononeshotbeyond 4 роки тому +1

    This is my favorite video of yours. It has so many nuggets of wisdom and said so simply. I appreciate your content.

  • @abes2758
    @abes2758 9 місяців тому

    Gosh this is so hard Mark. It’s so true we always think of the good parts, that’s so fucked isn’t it?

  • @Student-kz2by
    @Student-kz2by 3 роки тому +1

    amazing content. this plus my therapy has helped me move on from a non-healthy past relationship.

  • @mjby26
    @mjby26 4 роки тому +2

    I love how much you say fuck, really helps me feel grounded and intact. Lol, great stuff.

  • @kellyjedele6933
    @kellyjedele6933 6 років тому +3

    Oh my gosh I love this video! I love your content! This one hit s NERVE!! Awesome! Thank you!! ✨⭐️✨

  • @Cre8Fire34
    @Cre8Fire34 Місяць тому

    This is brilliantly insightful and FULL and deep. I can't believe this was impromptu! Where can I find the webinar on BOUNDARIES that you mentioned mid-way thru?

    • @markgroves
      @markgroves  Місяць тому

      Hey hey! you can get all my courses for free when you're part of my community! The dating webinar is now Dating 101 - a course. Boundaries is in there too! And I do monthly calls -- all included! markgroves.com/aligned

  • @Sam-yc3fl
    @Sam-yc3fl 2 роки тому

    Your relationship advice is the most helpful! It helped me learn more about myself. Thank you!!

  • @SGRealEstateGuy
    @SGRealEstateGuy 6 років тому +3

    Brilliant work Mark. Took a ton from this.

  • @Linda08_
    @Linda08_ 6 років тому +11

    Your videos have helped me so much ! Hence I’m currently going through a break up . I wanted to ask you a question .. how would you gain some sort of closure when you left off on a bad note With someone you love , and have no sort of communication with that individual ?

  • @localasbestosremoval8392
    @localasbestosremoval8392 4 роки тому +2

    subscribing ... really good info here, shit you describe me childhood and ya describe me blow ups ..where the webinar ?

  • @TheErika711
    @TheErika711 3 роки тому +1

    This hit hard I soooo needed this

  • @aussieas.9296
    @aussieas.9296 2 роки тому

    Hey Robyn if you’re watching 😉x

  • @benbander4838
    @benbander4838 4 роки тому +4

    when the red flags rise to half-mast ts time to say phoque this

  • @RoadtoRechah
    @RoadtoRechah 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for this.

  • @yourstrulycoral
    @yourstrulycoral 6 років тому +1

    How do I access the webinar you mentioned on Communication?

  • @meidanrrustemi8322
    @meidanrrustemi8322 5 років тому +6

    I broke up with my ex few months ago but because of where we live and work we’ve seen each other a few times, and it makes it really difficult for me to get over her. We don’t talk or hangout or anything and we’ve blocked each other on social media and our phones but I keep seeing her and it keeps me thinking “I could still be with her if I wasn’t so dumb/useless/etc.” It makes me think of what potentially could have been, and it hurts to think about because she led already gotten with another guy.
    I just don’t know what to do with these thoughts, like I feel good and like I’m getting over her for a time until I see her and my mind spirals into the “what could’ve been” mentality.
    Because of all this stuff I feel like I’m just obsessing over her again and again, just like a damn drug.
    I need help.

    • @r-ex2945
      @r-ex2945 4 роки тому +6

      Im going to give you idea which might help you:
      When a man and woman love each other and break up something happens.
      Men - don’t care what they do, but they do care with who they are doing it with.
      Women - care what they do and less with who.
      That’s why as a men you feel a void when a woman leaves you. Cause everything you do makes you think about doing it with her.
      Take time for yourself again. Do stuff with yourself. Go do stuff with yourself and be happy with yourself as your person of doing stuff with. This will help replacing your ex with yourself and gee happy with yourself.
      Exercise, read, walk, play games, go to the beach, a cafe or coffee center and be there with yourself. Your best partner is you.
      Also think about what you can provide in a relationship and work on your weakness and see your strengths. The more you see what your worth is the more you can see what you deserve.
      If you deserve a low value woman don’t go for that and improve yourself to be worthy of a better partner. Keep increasing till you on a level for a good partner and make sure to only be fysical with that level of woman and before you do discuss your boundaries and your weaknesses and find out if they can help you grow. If not don’t waste your time cause you yourself are enough trust me

    • @dracarys3137
      @dracarys3137 4 роки тому

      @@r-ex2945 This is truly something i cant relate to ... Thanks!

  • @petefrancisco3267
    @petefrancisco3267 Рік тому

    What ex? A lover will always be a lover! A lover never becomes EX!! 😂😂😂 SSHH!

  • @rebeccaenn6281
    @rebeccaenn6281 3 роки тому

    Amazing thank you so much

  • @isabella6826
    @isabella6826 Рік тому

    Omg. That explains alot 😢

  • @Nurdbrowski
    @Nurdbrowski Рік тому

    Spot on..

  • @allisonmccallum3598
    @allisonmccallum3598 2 роки тому

    Brilliant!

  • @shannonkinnick5213
    @shannonkinnick5213 2 роки тому

    What do you suggest when the person you are attracted to states they took a "vow" with their ex and cannot let them go?

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +1

      Absolutely respect people's marriages and stay away from married people. People only dating is fair enough game, but if you develop an interest in a married person, squash it quick and don't entertain it. You never want to find yourself as a homewrecker.

  • @frontlineshopping3802
    @frontlineshopping3802 Рік тому

    Facts

  • @abes2758
    @abes2758 8 місяців тому

    Mark I wish I could marry you lol I feel like life would be so much less anxious. You just get people and women. lol we need to clone you!

  • @anabellelefebvre7059
    @anabellelefebvre7059 2 роки тому

    🤍🌿🙌listen to this every month