"They Bully Me at School" - Cute Kid Asks Important Question | Q&A 2 with Nouman Ali Khan
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- Опубліковано 24 лип 2023
- The brave and brilliant young Yaqub asks Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan a really important question about bullying at the Quran Week program in Stuttgart, Germany.
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Reply to this comment with positive words of encouragement for Yaqub and anyone else who is experiencing bullying 🤲
Allaah bless you Yaqub for your bravery. And a wonderful answer by the ustaadh. The following framework may potentially helps deal with some bullies:
A - Articulate their behavior to you
B - Bullying - use the word
C - Condemn it as wrong and out of character for them
D - Disclose how it made you feel
E - Empathise with what may be going on behind the bullying - ASK
F - Follow-up with offering them help for any undisclosed, hidden, trapped emotions they're keeping surpassed
Remember the producer of this framework in your du'aas
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The kid knows how to talk. And Yaqub, you are very brave.
Yaqub is my nephew and im very proud of him alhamdullilah At this young age he is very interested in learning about islam.May Allah make the learning of the holy quran and sunnah of the prophet(SAW) for him and all of us easy and reward us abundantly .Aameen
Ameen
Assalamalaikum due to hurry and laziness in internet revolution, we dont pay much attention to english rules.
but atleast we should be cautious about Islamic principles.
So please write,
Allah - not allah
Qur'an - not quran
Muhammed - not muhammed
peace be upon him/SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam - not pbuh/saws
Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala- not swt
Its not about sin and haram but about respect towards our Rabb!
Aameen ❤
Aameen🤲🏻
Thank you so much Majid❤
Allahumma Amiin
Noman Ali Khan always has something really relatable and profound to say. His angle of perception is amazing MashaAllah
@maryammiraz..I totally agree.Everytime I listen to him, I am amazed.
So true🙌.
@@namirasiddique6165thank you for agreeing 🙂
@@alishahahmed4774 thank you for agreeing 🙂
Yaqoob if you are reading this, ma sha Allah you are one of the most well mannered muslim boys iv seen. Ma sha Allah. Best thing you can do is out do them in knowledge and manners. And its useless hating the ignorant people. Those who dont know the truth will hate you. Not just in school but also in family and work place. And this will happen in all muslim communities as well. So just get a strong bond with Allah. So people become small and insignificant.
Well,one of his cousins is reading your comment.
so true, All these kind and encouraging words will definitely inspire him. Bonding with Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala is the key.
@@gigachad5095 same applies to his cousins also - Bonding with Allah Subhanahuwa Ta'Ala is the key.
A boy like Yaqoob must learn martial arts to teach these kind of cowards a lesson I am a Pakistani right now I’m in Pakistan but when I was in uk and in my high school a lot people made fun of Islam and pushed me and I gave them a response with the help of martial arts and they didn’t touch me or talked rude about my religion again. Every boy or girl who is at Yaqoob’s age must learn Martial Arts.
@@aayanschannel2280 they are speaking, force can be used in self defense. One must fist tell parents, parents must speak with authorities, who must do sth abt it and if they dont consider changing School even.
Prophet sa migrated too. Fighting and using force isnt the first or best option and shouldnt be taught as one. But yes every child should be strong and able bodied. Allah bless you n yours and all ummah and all humanity.
"My emotions are too expensive to spend on this useless person". What a line!!👏
Young brother, you have a beautiful name!
I was called many names at school- never my actual name.
It will all pass.
You have the name of a prophet- could there be any names more beautiful than those of our prophets? 😊
Keep your head up young one. ❤
Absolutely
I also got bullied at school by few Greeks because l was Turkish It does affect you, but if you have good family, and other good friends don't worry about them that bully they only hurt themselves in the end unfortunately. You will later forget it all and become stronger in character and it's an experience that you will learn to deal with problems in life. After every struggle comes peace elhamdülillah stay strong
Agree with you completely family and friends support system and belief on Allah will get you thru this.
Their existence itself maybe a test from Allah so that you seek refuge from Allah and make you more mentally and spiritually strong.. may Allah always make it easy for you and face the ignorant with the most calm and dignified manners only😊. They Will eventually get tired of it and just be ashamed on themselves at the end. Especially if you still treat them kindly😂.
Beautiful comment
Everytime I hear him, his words are like a therapy. May Allah grant him more power to help people through his knowledge and words . 🤲 Ameen
Your name is as good and cute as you. Ignore those who bully you as Nauman sb told. May Allah bless you.
Today only I attended a webinar on Emotional habits. Ustaad Nouman rightly said that such people don't deserve any space neither in our thoughts nor in our heart. Whatever they speak or behave is as per their own mental map of the things. Simply just ignore them bcoz they don't mean anything in our life.
The best gift you could give to them is your attention. And why would you if they give nothing useful to your life. Think smart.
What nouman sir said is right..I did this method and it worked..
Took me the hard way to learn but yea this works. Alhamdhulilaah❤
What a beautiful young man, if ever the world needs people like this it's now.
I can relate to bullying.
The problem is the easiest way to solve the problem is to stoop down to their level.
It takes maturity not to do that.
May Allah protect our children❤
The same happened to me when I was young at school, I didn't answer them not because am strong😅but I didn't know how to express my feelings but it hurts😶,and when I went to college it happened again, here I didn't answer them,because I recognised my name is so precious and unique in beautiful way, when they know me well, they apologised and we become friends later الحمدلله❤
Kids expression is very cute & priceless
SubhanAllah I was just thinking that today that if we get a chance to attend your lecture in Dublin,I want my kids to ask you this very same question as we were having a conversation last night for this typical issue children facing day by day. Brother! May Allah reward you in abundance and grant you long life and Janna tul firdous here after. Ameen.
The last advice!! This is what I've always done, tbh My inner circle is only my close family (my parents and my siblings), none other than that and I've this thing of having litr 0 expectations from people- if they do good I always appreciate it but if they do bad It never even matters because I keep everyone in that bubble knowing that not everyone is going to be the way I would want them to be and for my ownself I always always make sure to treat people the best way yet have no expectations of a return!!! (Except for some people obvio)
But no matter how much you try it is human nature that we get attached to people which leads us having expectations
Allahoma barek. Beautiful advice. Thats what I teach my kids, only my 9y old son, who is on the ASS spectrum, cant really deal with his emotions.
Its infuriating and hurtfull to hear what he endures on the playground, kids can be cruel.
May Allah Almighty help us in protecting them.
very well said. you can always think negative thoughts but it will be more benefical to you to think positive thoughts.
True words! I've experienced it
У меня на русском не включается автоперевод, как я хочу его понять
@@user-mn5gc3fz2rgo to settings, click on auto translate and then chose your language! Russian right?
Yaaqoub you are the best don't let them bother you at all and stay strong 😊💖You are the best Muslim boy ever💖😊
MashAllah..comprehensive and very well said! A little advice to the brothers who take videotape.. please don't show sister as long as there's no need. In Islam, we should always protect the privacy of our sisters and I don't see any need for showing them. JazakAllahu Khairan.
Wow Mashallah am just so out of words! At such a tender age he had the gutts to ask publicly about him being bullied. And ontop of that with a cute smile. I would have burst out crying if it was me. You really do have the patience of Yaqub A.s😊 May Allah continue guiding u and protecting u my boy. You have just given me some motivation and strength i was looking for. Subhanallah!
Thank you from Yaqub 😊
Jazakallahu khair for every thing you do
Needed it جزاك الله خيرا
Subhanallah! There's so much wisdom behind the answer. Alhamdulillah, Ustad Nouman Ali Khan, you are a truly inspirational figure for young people to learn and practice Islam. May Allah bless you abundantly in both worlds.
SubhanAllah, great response ustad Nouman.
Alhamdulillah really needed this❤
Absolutely Brilliant advice, masha Allah as always.
Tabarak Allah
jazakAllah brother Nouman. Love your effort and content
Yaacob...you r so brave to ask question!
You r so good looking and very nice boy!...thats why they r jealous of you. Very good advice from Mr Nouman
Thank you, exactly what I needed to hear today 🙏
What a well raised young man
Great job parents
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant you relief my dear
JazakAllahu Khair
Jazak Allah khair for the beautiful advice
May Allahtala protect all of us from the prohibitions and help us to follow the right path
Great video, I think it's quite important to discuss this issue nowadays.
Thank you ❤
Can't wait for next year in Stuttgart with Ustad Noman! Thank you Sir for a wonderful week and also looking forward to meeting all the brothers from Stuttgart once again!
It's my first time watching you directly from your channel. Ma Sha Allah. I'm in love with the brightness of the video. Baraka llahu fikum, bro.
I feel bleesed to hear your lectures.masha Allah, they are all enlightening!
Its amazing how Allah sends the right video at the right time! Alhamdullillah! Jazakallahukhair!
What a wonderful multilayered answer. Props to Sheilh Nouman Ali Khan. Allahumma baarik
beautiful helpful not only for children but for adults too.
Always worth watching and learning from u
Yacoub you are a very brave young man. Don’t worry you have this, I believe in you bro..
Yaqub reminds me of my little cousin. He is going through the same thing . I pray for him and all Muslim kids out there. Nouman Ali is always an excellent speaker.May Allah bless him.
JazakalLaahu Khairan ya Sheikh...This is really helpful not jst to the kid but even must of the adults today, we allow several times ppl that doesn't deserve our anger to earn it. AlhamdulilLaah!..#Lets be our best self regardless of ppl reactions towards us🙏...
Wow what a positive coping mechanism.
Thank you so much for the wisdom
May Gods Blessings with you and generations
Excellent! Going through the same problem but really your answer brought change in me. I am 63 years old. May Allah grant you more "hikmah" and all the good wishes
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters! I so agree with our ustadh!
Wa Aleyküm salam wa rahmatullahu wa berekatuh 😊
May Allah gives you more ability to teach us and make ourselves more closer to Allah ❤
Thank you 🙏
May Allah bless you Sheikh
JazakAllah Nauman sahib.
I showed this vdo to my 12 year old son going through something similar at school.
I understood each and everything you said. I hope he will start his new session with courage InshaAllah
I learn something from every lecture I listen to from ustaad Nu’man Ali Khan , Algamdu lillaah. May Allah continue to bless this wonderful imam with strength to continue his blessed and enlightening work ameen thumma ameen 🤲🏼🪷🪷🪷
Yaqub,
All I will say, is be patient.
I have been teased over many similar things. wrong spelling and pronunciation of my name
But in the end, patience leads to something beautiful and In Sha Allah in the hereafter.
May Allah help us all and lead us to Jannah.
Ameen
Wallahie he is an asset for Ummah...Oh Youth be his Army, get up for larger change..
They don't have to live in our head rent free yaqub
This is the state in every school. There will always be good people and bullies anywhere you go. We all need to be careful whom to give mental space in sha Allah
this vedio is really helpful, it makes easy for me to talk to my dearest daughter!!
thank you.
Allahu Akbar for the Innocence Courage n Wisdom Yaqoob has Mashallah
Allah SWT Keep him n his a respected parents under HIS kind Blessings Ameen
JazakAllah U Qairann Mohtarram Brother Ustad Nouman I needed these words dearly at this time to share with my team SubhanAllah #Respect
جزاك الله خير الجزاء
Allahumma Barik ❤
How cute he's, his smile may ALLAH bless this Children ♥️
Thanks brother it helped my kids
0:03 Preach Ustad! Same here. Even since I made that decision, Allah's peace has reached me. Alhamdulia!
Such videos are so so helpful Alhamdulillah Jazak Allah khair❤
Indeed
I really learned well from Khabib vs McGregor pre fight press conference, that how to just completely ignore someone's trash talk and destroy someone psychologically.
The way Khabib maintained his calm and completely ignored him , McGregor got really heated badly . then we all know what happened in the fight , what Khabib has done to him🤷🏻♂️😂 from that day (i.e 8th October 2018) till this day Khabib living rent free in his head. McGregor still makes comments and disrespects him , cultures etc but Khabib just don't gives him any attention.
Feels good that what Ustadh nouman has explained here , i was also able to witnessed😁
BarakAllahu feek
MashaAllah Yaqob, good job. May Allah ta'ala always keep you in His safety
Aameen
Ma shaa Allah, extremely adorable boy.
Thank you from Yaqub ☺
Duas for whole team
ماشاء الله يعقوب سؤال جيد والاجابة مقنعة
I was going through the same situation and my students JazakAllah ustaad for this
Love you dear brother, salamat rahaen.
Best advice ever on this topic. Jazak Allahu Khair 🙏🏼🌺
So true. I would say best advice so far on this topic/ question. It covers all the perspectives.
@@ishaqmd1416 Thank you. Yes you're correct. Simple & to the point 😉
Thanks beta Yaqub for asking this question. Very helpful, helped my son as well
From Yaqub - Happy to hear that and glad it helped your son. 🤲
Sending loads of love to noman ali
This boy reminds me of my brother when we were his age. I was a very protective sister and always made sure nobody picked on him. I wanna give this kid a hug😢. Ustadh's right dont give people that attention. They would stop being obnoxious once they realize they have no power over you.
True, they should try harder :) no attention . 🤲😊 Thank you from Yaqub
Jazak Allah khair
JazzakAllah ❤
جزاك الله الخير
Ohhh i miss auxh events in germny if only I knew I would have travelled to Stuttgart for this. Would need to have a look at your website to see where these talks are taking place
جزاك الله خيرا
دائما هناك أفكار جديدة ولامعه في خطابك
Very well explained
Love from Kashmir India ❤❤❤❤
Jazakallah, brother, this video really helped me support my son and help him to how to deal with bullying and his behaviour , he finds it very hard sometimes to deal with children that have a habit of instigating other children. I sometimes feel I give him the right advice and I have explained things just like you did in this video, but I don't understand what else I can do. I would be happy for you to make more videos like this to help younger children. Simpl advice.
MashaAllah ❤
Great video really liked 👍
Beautiful explanation
At 3:34 Nouman Ali Khan tells us a story about the Prophet (S.A.W). Does anyone know the narration relating to it? Just want to know for my own sake.
Assalamu Alaikum, these are the only narrations I found :
- Narrated Abu Huraira :
Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Doesn't it astonish you how Allah protects me from the Quraish's abusing and cursing? They abuse Mudhammam and curse Mudhammam while I am Muhammad (and not Mudhammam).
أَلاَ تَعْجَبُونَ كَيْفَ يَصْرِفُ اللَّهُ عَنِّي شَتْمَ قُرَيْشٍ وَلَعْنَهُمْ يَشْتِمُونَ مُذَمَّمًا وَيَلْعَنُونَ مُذَمَّمًا وَأَنَا مُحَمَّدٌ
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 3533
In-book reference : Book 61, Hadith 42
And a similar narration :
- Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Look at how Allah diverts the insults and curses of Quraish from me. They insult 'Mudhammam' and curse 'Mudhammam' -but I am Muhammad."
انْظُرُوا كَيْفَ يَصْرِفُ اللَّهُ عَنِّي شَتْمَ قُرَيْشٍ وَلَعْنَهُمْ إِنَّهُمْ يَشْتِمُونَ مُذَمَّمًا وَيَلْعَنُونَ مُذَمَّمًا وَأَنَا مُحَمَّدٌ
Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 3438
In-book reference : Book 27, Hadith 50
@FlufFCloudy I am very grateful for sharing with us these beautiful narrations.
While I totally agree with everything Ustadh said, I just wanna highlight a phrase he menitoned regarding *inner* and *outer* circles. It's true that you should only give your full emotional and social space of your heart to the inner ones, and not care much of the outer circle, I just wanted to clarify that it by no means you disrespect and demean them nor consider yourself superior, for two reasons:
1) You need to be a better person than them, knowing that Allah SWT will take your side.
2) Allah SWT doesn't like prideful people; all pride belongs to His Majesty.
Have a good day :)
Love you sir from Bangladesh 💙🇧🇩
Ma shaa Allah.......
Ustadth so enjoyed
Thank you
Love it ❤
Of course, we enjoy it
May Allah make it easy for the kids that deal with social adversity and guide them to Islam.
Thank You :)
💙 well said
Masha Allah
Wa Allah- bullying should be dealt with strictly!