Why Meeting Women Just Got Way Easier
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2024
- Yes, you heard that right.
It's actually getting EASIER. Is that controversial to say?
...well, if you disagree after watching the video, feel free to share your strongly-worded opinion in the comments :)
And if you want to make cold approach really easy, check out The System: systembytodd.com
There are dating coaches, and then there is Todd. This man deserves a Nobel Prize in dating
I respect how Todd stick to teaching game. He didn’t go soft and cuck out down into a weird rabbit hole like rsd
@@LeadLeftLeon I appreciate the way he keeps improving himself. I also follow other dating coaches to learn something and get better, but I'm becoming better than them because they do not update themselves, instead Todd comes up always with something new and I can never get better than him
Honourary PhD for sure!!! Not kidding!
I bet Todd could set up a University study to make it official that his System of game is what scientifically works; just to make it official.
The final answer to the science of getting dates/relationships 🧪🧪🧪.
@@LeadLeftLeon Yeah, mad respect to him for that.
how many black shirts do u have?
todd: yes
Thing is a lot of girls these days are socially awkward and even antisocial partly because of social media apps which makes it harder to run game against them and have a conversation. It’s like talking to a wall some of them dont contribute to a conversation at all. I havent approached in over a year so idk if anything has changed.
I know the burden on leading conversations fall on men so maybe im projecting, but i’m certain more and more girls suck at contributing to conversations or dont want to which makes them less receptive. I’d be curious to know if Todd thinks girls are more antisocial/awkward then in the past.
Not only that. Tiktok has ruined their ADHD brains even more. A number at this point has like a 0.01% success rate. Because after you leave their presence they will instantly forget about you. Instadate and pull is the only thing that works right now.
Regardless, men are the ones that want to clap them cheeks, so it's on men to make it happen, no matter how awkward things can get, focus on the end goal.
No, there’s some truth to that. But many are trying to get off the dating apps and less social media. Gen Z girls that grew with it and some places that could be more superficial are probably worse though too
Just started doing cold approaching again, not new to it either and have gotten results. I can say this is true, however occasionally you will run into some where conversations are a lot smoother than others by a lot. Just a numbers game
I mean, running game "against" a girl is probably a bad way to think of it anyway...idk. I've found that socially awkward girls like handsome, charming men as much as the next girl -- they just require a different approach with a bit more confidence and a bit more...chill is maybe the right word.
Something I've noticed about Gen Z girls in particular is that although they can be awkward, they are often very okay with awkwardness in general. As long as it doesn't scare you away, it probably won't scare them away.
Numbers say people are having less sex these days…
Yeah, that's all very contradictory. On one hand people say we are an oversexualised society where everyone has random casual sex and on the other hand the numbers show that younger generations have less sex than ever before and birthrates are dropping like crazy.
@@JugglernautNr9 Todd is a game coach so he's going to affirm whatever feeds the narrative of a society where everybody is hooking up left and right therefore YOU should too. an oversexualized society with dating apps and all of that doesn't equal more casual sex being had or any sex being had. here in italy i swear people do not have that much sex anymore. don't fall for people's egotrips on social media or false perceptions, it's all make-believe
woman are having sex more than ever, man not so much...
More people as a percentage of the population are not having sex. More women are open to/having casual sex at the same time.
I think both may be true. We're hooking up with more people, but less often.
TLDR: lot of one-night stands
Old guys remember: first gen PUAs were peacocking like crazy and asking every girl for a female opinion. Early 2000s were an insane time - canned lines everywhere. The shift to inner game and red pill helped a lot in that respect.
I still think opinion openers are the best. As otherwise you’re just getting an immediate yes/no.
The 00s era was the best, an average guy could easily get hundreds of lays before everyone figured out what was going on
Your interpretation of history is likely distorted unless you really lived it.
Of the OG's the only good teachings were a little of RSD from Todd and Julien, and some of David D'Angelo's cocky comedy except for it teaching you to pretend rather than be a little arrogant. But what actually got me laid back then was Alan Roger Currie's Mode One. R.I.P.
I know the M3 model gave me a huge leg up when I was getting started around 2010 so it was still relatively fresh then. Was a good decade.
Cold approach is the game
the point at 6:21 should have been the whole video from the start, women are tired on online dating because all the wannabe puas on there think they can swindle the girl into bed instantly with their mystery tricks. guys, when you genuinely like a girl don't hesitate go up and talk to her, if she's not interested don't let it ruin you, if she is interested exchange info and set up a date. if you're comfortable with yourself she will be too, there is no need for all this "intel" it will just make you a creep like every other dude because it sets a frame of lack, fear, and deception.
Been a longtime fan of Todd's content. I have to say, after being an old geezer myself, I absolutely love the way you can communicate almost all audiences. The thing that gets me, is that even after years, and in your case TWO decades of first hand experience; many women will deny all your data, the process, and everything surrounding dating and mating. It leaves me with one deep question... why do women deny all this ? Food for thought
I like Todds positive attitute
It's kind of true. I actually approached a good few women this year. I made the goal of doing this. The truth is that not once did I get my head bitten off like many red pill communities say. I didn't get the numbers because of other reasons. One for sure has a boyfriend as I saw her talking with him after I talked with her. One thing you have to make sure is that you don't have any goals other than making the approach. If you get rejected or she tells you that she is taken, that's already a win because you made the move.
Yeah I'm at the plateau phase where I've gotten some flakey numbers (the numbers from online dating made it much easier to close since the girls texted more reliably, so I'm figuring how to adapt), still haven't gotten laid, but the interactions I've been having that don't end fast seem qualitatively a lot better. I've learned the basics of how to flirt and tease in person and gotten the balls to tell a girl she's cute. I've had a couple of long sit down sets lately where I didn't pull (definitely should have at least tried, but I also still have work to do on the basics of approaching, I still get conditional anxiety) but executed a handful of game skills and got numbers at the end and at least got responses vs total flaking. I haven't been going out enough to get quick results or improvement, but the last fucking thing I want to do is quit now.
That’s exactly where I’m at. Getting numbers and to a lesser extent dates has gotten a lot easier and my interactions with women go better, but I’m still not closing
@@Nick-cw9my I'll message a friend of mine who's been doing pickup for like 10 years about my experiences in the field and he always tells me you just have to get the reps in, it's supposed to take a long time. Gives me hope.
I think once you get sexual experiences for the first time or first few times, it probably gets a little easier. I think part of what holds me back in my approaches is I feel like I'll be super awkward escalating towards sex, lol. Actually managing to do it a few times will probably make it easier to put your full weight behind an approach, having the confidence that you can at least give a girl a decent sexual experience w/o feeling like a golden retriever behind the wheel of a semi.
Meh... she wants your attention, they all want. It is just a matter of how much she is willing to do for it.
It was only after I realized on a Dutch train during travel that the cute local girl sat next to me for a reason. Truth is since asking her for directions on the next station, I realized how extremely awkward women are when they're attracted.
Only since then I noticed women staring, awkward half-assed grins from them, stuttering when not even speaking directly to me, loudly bragging about smth in front of other people while looking directly at me, not being able to hold eye contact etc etc.
Thanks to this random Dutch local girl on the train I realized I need to cold (or rather warm) approach these girls. I only realized she sat right next to me for a reason after being forced to ask a local (her) for directions. Now I know I don't just do it for me, the women I am attracted to are just helpless and are literally unable to make the first move.
Furthermore (if you needed any more reason) I also noticed that at least for me, the women I have been looking for are not only extremely awkward with men the don't know, but are in the library or at events out rather than at the bar or on tinder. This type of girl also always needs the approval of her peers before she even considers you worth pursuing, so why not approach the entire group at once? She'll feel a lot safer and will have some direct bragging rights (or whatever the female equivalent may be anyway).
Thanks Todd for providing us with such quality material!
These poor lasses really need a hand when it comes to dating.
At the beginning of this year I got out of a relationship, where I was pretty much dumped. I hadn't been online dating in quite a while, and after 4months of being single, I decided to make an online profile. I connected with a girl on the first day, took her out two days later, brought her home and had her soaking in her jeans on our first night of meeting. Was that a success?
Hey Todd, I saw your video on bar game. I was wondering if I actually need to be able to dance to get girls at a bar? I get some very overt choosing signals from really hot girls at the right bars (results from 2 years of FashionMaxxing). But I’m not sure what the other steps are. I think you need to make a lot more videos on bar game TBH. Thanks, and I appreciate your assistance, brother!!
People are or were hooking up, but now realising it doesn't bring them joy.
Todd is In a league of his own.
23+ years!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Very wise and correct overview Todd! Pandemic made cold approach near impossible. I'd say its still not as easy/good as 2010-2020, but getting there.
What are the benefits of game?
2000s were far behind the local players in every city. People thought getting a phone number was an accomplishment then. These guys were pure game and nothing else. Bad clothes poor physique
For me personally it got harder throughout years, cause every time I got rejected, I've become more and more frustrated. No therapy, nothing has ever helped me with that. I'm like a volcano and I cannot afford doing approaches anymore
its the same for me. after 10 rejections in a row, it can be harmful to the self esteem even if it feels like you did everything right. Many times the rejection comes immediately with "i've got a boyfriend" or "sorry, gotta go"
Its only hard because of your weak mind and spirit
@@jialian93You guys need to aim for little wins. You will only be disappointed if you expect a big outcome. Make your win something like being able to stay in a convo for 30 seconds or being able to compliment a girl and she accepts the compliment. It will be a long path before you get serious results with attractive girls.
Work out to blow of some steam.
learn to deal with rejection and not let it bother you. or better yet, think you'll get rejected and try anyway
Honestly just doing it just so I can say I tried, I'll try my best to learn how to do it but the game isn't important, that's just the navigation tool once you are eligible.
@Todd V Dating Can you make a video about the myths, that you learned and debunk them?
But there is an arguement to be made that it is harder, as there seems to be a higher importance on looks now then there was in the past.
Sssh, don't let the stats of less men having sex now distract you from the wonders of holy Cold Approach.
whats your bodycount?
Todd is great, but I did cold approach back in the 80’s. I had what I called stupid confidence. I was too stupid to know I had no reason to be so confident. Now that I’m single again after 28 years of marriage, I still do some cold approaches, but I prefer a visual connection first. Eye contact, smile/smirk. Women my age are less open to cold approaches. At least that’s been my experience. Maybe I just need to work on it more. At least I’m having fun.
80 to 20 rule
Not every guy is hooking up 😂
When I was walking at the mall, sometimes I see guy walk up to women that are walking, I felt a creepy vive seeing myself bother people doing their business. The only time I may actually talk to someone is at a bookstore and extremely nervous too >.
And I'm sure some of those guys with "creepy vibes" who are "bothering people doing their business" have gotten multiple dates/lays from that strategy. I'm also sure that they don't give an iota of a fuck about what you think of them. That's the whole point of game/improving yourself as a man; knowing your worth, being able to express that worth, and not giving a shit what low-value, nervous wrecks at the mall think about you (and to be fair, some of the people that do that shit at malls are actually creeps, don't misunderstand me).
Sorry to be so harsh, but I really, truly believe that your mindset is fundamentally flawed, so much so that you will never go beyond just saying "yes" to the first woman willing to fuck you. Instead of going out and choosing the girls you want to have sex or relationships with, you will take whatever is available at school/uni/work, because you let your anxiety/fear of failure control you (and simultaneously rationalize it to yourself by saying that the guys who are going out and doing the thing you're too scared to do are just "creeps"). That's totally fine, most of the human population follows that formula to some extent. But if you're on this video, something tells me you actually *don't* want to live your life like that. In that case, you need to reframe your fear/anxiety as a positive. When you get butterflies in your stomach before doing something (anything, not just approaching women), you need to think to yourself, "this feeling proves that this thing is worth doing." You will still be nervous, but the point is to overcome a mental hurdle. Because that's all it is, a mental hurdle.
Oh, and working out will multiply your self-confidence by 100, if you don't lift weights, you need to start asap.
Grow a pair
Feelings are not facts.
They're merely a result of your current convictions - which may be wrong.
Feelings prove nothing and say nothing about the world - except that you're having them and there are some beliefs that cause them.
"Emotions are not tools of cognition," as Ayn Rand put it.
Hi Todd, been watching you since you, Owen, Alex, etc were old school peacocking (yet you had the exact same shirt styles lol, good stuff).
1. Stop 1 night stands. If she's not worth dating for 3+ months, then you're fucking up and talking to ugly chicks. You've already qualified her with questions.
2. Rule #1 is "leave her better than you found her, and be able to walk away quickly at the start even if she's hot"
3. Rule #2 is "approach her, then that is a success. Do it as soon as you see her, duh"
bonus 4. Be present, make all your lines on the spot. If you don't know what to say, say "I don't know what to say"
Thanks
How does that haircut affect your SMV brother?
Instagram changed the game. Now it’s important to look good in addition to talking to a lot of girls and being a fun guy
and having a great instagram profile. it's all about image and women know that very well for a long time, guys were slow to catch-up.
It did change it for good. Guys who were getting laid from CA and know how to run IG are now getting exponentially more with a far less time commitement.
How do you view the toxic femininity/masculinity that is so prevalent that's paralyzing so many people?
i've felt this way for years now, the way a man talks and behaves, acts, in a conversation or interaction with a woman, is what either makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around. Another way to put it, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to women, not the other way around.
True or False?
A woman doesn't need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with men, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with women.
Or another way to put it, the way the man talks, acts, behaves, in interactions or conversations is what ultimately matters, thats what determines if the woman is gonna be attracted, interested or not, not the other way around. Am i right or wrong?
Men are always the ones in position of where they can make a mistake or mess up an interaction that causes it to be boring, unattractive or make the other person uncomfortable, etc.
I do really well with online matches, get tons of numbers etc. But the chicks are super flaky. I totally outperform all my friends online. The level of numbers need online to convert to dates and some fun is starting to not be worth it. Cold approach has to be the best. It breaks down that online separation instantly. The number is much stronger too.
One big drawback, STD's are becoming more and more prevalent due to the hookup culture. Having multiple hookups per week not using thorough protection is STD roulette
Fax, people catching things on the regular
@@HussRisingYT The young people I talk to have no idea what thorough protection is.
Men are having less sex than ever statistics show this and dating apps women all go for top 10% of men I think the rise in stds would be more from lgbt hookups
Im thinking about buying The system, Todds dating program. Do any of you guys have any advice? Is it worth the $400? Will it give me what i need to implement out there? Are there better programs?
Its a really good program I havent gone thru all of it I got it on a promotion, but it has really great content. If you are a committed action taker and want to learn game it is 100% worth it.
My two cents, it's not worth the money but I'm considering it as my tribute to Todd who's created a bunch of useful videos for free
Hello Todd, I wish if you create an online program, that sums up everything about the game the old school way and back it up with online/infield coaching based on the program for those who want to accelerate the process.
You see, the battleground is now free for you, since your competitors in this realm gave up. As a young man, I really don't have but you left to escape the circle of frustration and irritation of becoming good with women and there's many other young men looking for it.
Guys please do like my comment so todd notice it and maybe finally gets us out of this hamster wheel of not knowing, how and what to do.
Thanks in advance
Im 27 never had a girlfriend only had sex at 21 i know im good-looking but i was psychology abused as a child just now realising i also quit weed is it to late to make up for lost times how far behind am i pls reply??
its not over yet king
make sure your bodyfat skin and hair is on point then go out and slay
@@rottedyouth thanks but I bet you've no idea how I feel I mean put yourself in my shoes I am a decent looking guy but all the years of failure and your own family thinking your gay is soul crushing would u not feel the same in my situation like how would u feel imagine it
@@shanecorr1694 yea mate it sounds awful but stop being a whiney victim just get on with your life all you have left is the future. I'm 28 and I was 27 when I finally got back on the dating market, I wasted a lot of time and its a pity but all thats left is the future dont waste anymore time
@@shanecorr1694why would your family think you're gay if you are not. I am 33 and single and I don't care what my family thinks.
@@shanecorr1694im in a similiar boat its not too late to improve. tbh there probably isnt making up for lost time as u cant regain time u already spent. just enjoy the time you have left with a dating life ur happy with if you want it.
It hasn't. This is just a typical thing marketers say, regardless of the industry they're in. First they'll recognize new challenges have risen in THIER business, and to fight it , they'll say the polar OPPOSITE of the reality out there to continue THIER business
Women want you to approach as long as you meet their minimum looks standards first. If you don't, find a way to cope or make it a numbers game.
Love the videos.
keep the long hair bro, it really suits you!
please consider making shorts out of your videos for people who are in a hurry.
Im a good looking dude, tall, fit, etc. i have no problem talking to gorgeous women but i absolutely DREAD putting the effort of small talk to actually go and talk to a random hottie i find out there just to get her number. if its not through my group of friends i rarely talk to strangers…..
EVERYTHING you said...I am with you on that one hundred percent
Same here, minus the good looks, height and fitness.
Cold approach is a skill, ofc u will be nervous initially. With enough reps you get used to it, the first approach after a break is always the hardest.
Todd is my favorite
You should write a book
I approach only when I see 9 or 10 or feel that girl has great characteristic traits. I can go from 0 to 100 wen it comes to 10s and smart, kind ones. Otherwise I have to push myself into conversation, it just fees mostly like waste of time...
It's extremely frustrating and sad that PUA has fallen out of favor and everyone is instead obsessed with being born with the right genetics, or at best, trying to be some kind of amateur bodybuilder so they can meet a 5/10 girl, which is their "looksmatch."
I started pickup around 2012 when I was in college. For guys who have done it for at least 2 years or haven't lost their passion for it, cold approach in this time really is the easiest it has ever been, particularly since so many other guys aren't willing to shoot their shot in 2024.
It's only fallen out of favor on the internet. Keyboard jockeys have never mattered and never will. All that matters is reality in the field
@@razzdiamond6447 Yeah this past November I approached a girl at a burlesque show bar and pulled same night. Even the girls I haven't pulled seemed mostly receptive. I think people are starved for actual face to face communication.
Not sure what kind of game are you running buddy but cold approach PUA has fallen simply because it is less efficient. You don't have to "looksmax", you just have to know how to run a funnel. And TBF even those guys who get a 5/10 probably get it in far less time than what it takes via cold approach to an average joe.
And I'm saying this with 10 years of cold approach and lays from it under my belt. Thinking you'll win with just PUA/cold approach is nonsense. The most important aspect of game is not even related to cold approach, and that is logistics. That alone will skyrocket your results vs sharpening your cold approach skills.
@webdiv8406 How do you figure cold approach is less efficient? Than online game or what? IRL the girl is right in front of you. You don't have to beat an algorithm or match her app preferences to just show up. Zero chance the girl is a bot either. And plus you immediately standout whereas any Joe Blow can make a dating app profile and match her.
It was the hardest around the metoo era, maybe it’s starting to relax a bit now
23 years ago did you first start dating when you where 7?
He is 42 or something
Todd V
Hey Todd, can you heart this comment if you like the bio for a dating profile? "I'm actually very nice, but also kind of an asshole."
Btw it sounds a bit better in my own language lol. I don't want to come across as too gamey as you put it yourself.
too late.
the garden has been used as a waste-dump for years now.
forgive me for refusing the "fruit".
plus lets be real ; women " over 30" want men to cold approach because it's not "as sweet" to block a DM.
Now up to 12 first dates in two and a half weeks through online dating and they have all disagreed to a second date. I'm thinking my voice is hurting me. I've recorded myself and I sound nasally. Don't know how I can fix that unless I spend thousands on speech therapy that could take years.
todd lookin' way too older as I'm watchin' his oldest videos these days
The autists are here, people...
All the “I Tried” losers in the comments…Be a winner by learning and failing. It takes time. You adapt by engaging in social activities like an exercise class, dance class, yoga class, book club, places where women are and doing a mutual beneficial activity…you’re welcome
100%. Everyone who says “I tried” I can guarantee you if you did an audit of their strategy, you’d realize they didn’t actually “try” correctly and had several blind spots that they aren’t even aware of.
This happens on bootcamps all the time which is why they can be so valuable because you get immediate feedback.
Yeah actually doing social stuff outside of cold approach helps a ton. If you can actually hold a conversation you can slip game into it and you'll actually be used to talking to people in the first place. If you can't hold a conversation approaching is much much harder
Yep do stuff you're interested in.
There's no downside.
I've been involved with social dancing for a long time (salsa etc.)
It is a great scene whether you want to pick up or not.
Most are single.
But be prepared to put some work into getting competent.
Women only want men who follow their own selfish narratives and agendas. They are master manipulators that only care about dating for looks, money, and status while divorcing the men after the fact, and will never look into your inner beauty and personality as a whole. Anyone that call those that have tried in the game losers because the game was rigged against them do not understand the vast majority of other people's perspectives, nor do they seem to care.
Sounds like a sunk cost fallacy.
more chess, please. 1. e4
Dating coaches are bs, srsly getting women is common sense dont need pick up coaches for that. Just approach her talk to her if she likes you just ask her for a coffee if doesnt move on not rocket science.
No woman is worth the investment, though.
Cold approaches can get you in jail or blasted on social media.
That’s why I don’t do it bro. Last thing I want is to be accused of harassment.
insane copium, neither will happen to you in 99.99% of cases
@@Blazervitchdepends
Kids these days are shockingly immature
Not if you're able to read the situation. Don't touch her titt as you say hi...
Or laid
Wow dude! The bags under your eyes are getting worse. Also, sadly, this video is about a year behind. At one point, I could appreciate the content but this one just feels like it was a grind out in desperation to cover the coke habit. Please look inward and come back to the quality over quantity.
I don't believe any of this.
Rich become richer, poor become poorer.
It is much easier for attractive guys, and much harder for normal guys. Yes, if you get an average, it became easier, but you are likely not a person who benefits from it.
genx are a small generation + girls like older guys + millennial and zoomer guys are addicted to video games and / or incel women haters = genx guys have huge opportunities now
Ah, so you want to be one of those creepy 40 or 50 year olds who goes around hitting on young women.
Not true. I have never been successful with cold approach. I have been successful with other techniques. With cold approach I always get the resting b*tch face. And it always looks like this emogy 😒. But you have to imagine she looks at you with the same expression as in the emogy and then goes away while she looks exactly like the emogy previously mentioned.
Have you talked to 30 or more women in a single week?
Skill issue. I got laid doing cold approach.
I prefer 'warm approach' where there's some kind of indication of interest from the woman &/or you're both in a situation where there's natural close proximity - not chasing after her on the street.
Or some context of shared involvement.
When I look back at my pickup attempts, I'm honestly a bit surprised at the success rate.
At the very least a pleasant interaction, but more often than not leading to a date.
I guess partly because I was mostly just taking advantage of a situation when it was there, rather than going out purely to run game.
In fact, I think going out just to cold approach...is innately unattractive.
To have so little going on, that you would give pursuing women that much time and priority.
And I'm sure they can sense that about a guy, whether it's conscious or not.
It's like setting yourself up to fail.
This is why I can't stand the idea that you should get used to rejection cos it'll be the norm.
F that!
Occasional rejection is acceptable, but if it's mostly rejection...
try something else.
A lot of what is being asserted here is not actually true. Keyboard Jockey content.
No its from irl.
😂this guy above even replied in keyboard jockey acronym…
@@IHatePikeys The whole initial comment was in keyboard jockey acronym lol
@@martinsvensson6884 👍🏻
Night game > Instagram > Social Circle > Sexting Apps > Day game
night-game taking place in alcohol-fueled sweaty clubs is exaclty what led to daygame in the first place. so that is NOT the better context by any means
Cold approach definitely works better in many cases if you are not particularly physically attractive to a lot of girls because you don't intimidate them and make them too nervous to talk or stick around right off the bat. Most girls are attracted to me physically immediately so when I approach them and try to be natural and have casual conversations they lock up, get extremely nervous and want to escape immediately. Not ALL girls but a lot. Also, women are not impressed by an attractive man being confident in himself, they expect it actually, and some are actually offended by a hot guy's confidence. It too easily comes off as arrogance and narcissism. Fine line. Just an observation.