While it kind of grosses me out how "Black Friday" has come to encompass more of November every year, I do also like the fact that in some cases that means having a larger window to consider a sale, rather than feeling like I need to buy something the instant I see it.
I actually really agree with this. It allows me time to think about what purchases are truly wise, whereas if I only have one day, the Trance hit me like a bus.
Yes! I hate it when I have 24h or less to decide or I’m going to miss the discount. I think more time actually helps you have time to ponder your purchases.
What a phenomenal resource you provide for us Hannah. I can honestly say I've saved myself hundreds, if not thousands of dollars by regularly returning to your Sales Survival playlist, especially when I feel the trance "shark music" coming on.
My approach is to focus on my house, microwave blew up, old toaster, coffee maker died. I used saved gift cards & replaced these needed items on sale. Also reminded myself & the family, being housed, fed, warm & together with our beloved cat were Christmas gifts aplenty. No Lisa Eldridge palette can replace that!
I plan for Black Friday deals all year and hold off purchasing items for Black Friday sales, pre shop and have a plan for when it comes. It’s a big help and I save a lot of money on things I need.
The “am I looking for something to want” is dead-on, such a good way of describing what Black Friday sales do to you mentally. It’s such a good deal, there must be something I need to buy.
I must say….I’m pretty freaking proud of myself. I received a mini IT Hero mascara about a year ago, and absolutely loved it. I have never purchase a high end mascara in my life. After using the mini mascara, I thought about, and wanted, a full sized IT mascara so badly. Every time I put on my makeup I would crave that high end mascara. I literally stopped myself from buying that mascara several, several times, because I couldn’t imagine spending 28-30 bucks on mascara. I waited patiently for it to go on sale, and it did for Black Friday! Yay! I just ordered it for 12 bucks! I’m so excited to get this order, and I’m so proud I fought the urge for so long, saved money, and avoided a lot of guilt if I would’ve paid full price. 🙏🏼
I love this. In a video a while back, you said something like, “You could save 100% by not buying anything,” and I still hear that in my head every time I browse a sale.
My strategy is to set a budget weeks before the sales start so I'm calm and rational about it And then make a list without looking at the emails If I didn't remembered wanting a thing before seeing them there is probably a reason I also try to focus on needs because my budget is pretty tight and it helps to free it a little in future months 🤷🏻♀️ May all of us do what is best for us this sales season 💪🏻
When I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks I started a budget for baby gear: stroller, monitor, car seat, etc. I set specific savings goals: $209.13 for the Dagne Dover diaper bag after taxes. I put $36.74 towards it every month. I just caught it on a Black Friday sale for $161 allowing me to move the extra money towards other savings goals. I’ve been tracking sales all year only buying registered products when they’re 25% off or more. I have $1,207.64 saved specially for Black Friday baby sales and I’m pretty psyched about it in a calm and intentional way. I was telling my husband that the act of “spending” $36.74 on a bag every months gives my the same thrill as buying that bag 8 times.
Oooh! This is brilliant. Half the fun is in the planning, and I love that you get joy from each act of saving. Great mindset. Congrats on your expected arrival!
I was feeling guilty that I bought a ton of hair care on Black Friday because it was 40% off, but literally I don’t buy haircare for 6-10 months at a time because I do this. this video helped me feel like my decision making is more strategic rather than overly speedy. Thanks for the thoughtful video!
My strategy is always to add what I like to my wishlist and then edit it throughout the year and then take advantage of Black Friday sales. Fortunately I haven’t been sucked into any brand or items this year I’m only on a reformation choke hold lol
This is one of my skip years and I’m loving the freedom of not looking at any of the sales. I feel freed of a big job and the anxiety of making good decisions this weekend. I love listening to the way you break these things down.
For the last 3 years I’ve been buying all my core skin care and haircare products during Black Friday sales and then I don’t purchase anymore for the rest of the year. This works for me for these items and also for things like a major appliance purchase such as the Samsung bespoke vacuum that we just purchased yesterday but I have to stay away from clothing and jewelry websites because those are things that I would just find something to want. For me it Hass to be something that I was already thinking about getting and actually planned to buy or truly need.
Thank you for always reminding me that I really don‘t need anything, just because it’s on sale. Especially because I already bought all of the clothing I needed for winter a month ago. Now I only look out for things that I already wanted to give as christmas gifts, but I try not stress myself too much. If I happen to miss it on sale, the world doesn‘t end 💕
I decided to only shop a necessary vacuum cleaner, because my old one died a few weeks ago, and with the sales going on I can afford a good one. Now I luckily don't have to finance it. But oh girl, the Lethal Cosmetics collection reveal from today has me in a chokehold. But a necessity has priority to fun stuff. Your videos definitely have helped me in understanding, that these sales often enough lead to more spending than what I'd spend if there wouldn't be so much sales. I talked myself out of a lot of shiny things. Thanks for that. 😊
I always appreciate your "back away from the sale" videos. This year I put myself on a replacement only no buy September 1st - Jan 1st because of how I know how easily I get pulled into sales. It's nice having a video reminding us that we're not "missing out" if we skip the sale!
So helpful! I've been trying to "sleep on it" before any purchase, reviewing what in my closet I would wear instead, and weighing its cost against something I know I want, such as a vacation :) It is always helpful to hear you talk through as an echo to what I am trying in my own journey!
Yes. Can I lend my wholehearted support to this great comment?? Sleeping on it, I find actually ends up with me only purchasing about 50% of what I otherwise would have. It’s a great way of breaking “the trance”. Love this ❤❤❤
I literally only use BF discounts to repurchase things I use regularly that I’m running out of that I would’ve bought anyway. I used to be so out of control with sales and makeup buying. Love videos like this!
Hannah, I recently found your channel and you have helped me immensely. I can totally identify with having a shopping prblem. I did a no-buy in October and am trying to do the same in November. I've been watching whatever videos show up. The universe never ceases to amaze me. It gives me exactly what I need at the right time. The last video I just watched was 11 months ago, about Sadie. My heart went out to you! The 14th of this November we lost our cat of 21 years. She was a stray who came out of the shadows at night while we sat in the breezeway. We started feeding her. She was a little black cat with big green eyes. Her fur was like velvet. We named her Shadow. But she became my shadow! Followed me all over and slept with me every night. She was the last of our pets. We had 2 dogs, 3 cats, and my son's ferrit. Part of owning a pet is knowing when it is time to let go and it is the hardest thing to do! They don't live as long as we do. I had cried & grieved for the last 10 days she was still with us. I knew what was coming. The next day I said to my husband the house was empty and there was such a void. He gently said, no pressure, no expectations. Just see what's at the pound. I felt like I was dishonoring Shadow by getting another. My family and friends all said no, you're honoring her by giving your love and home to a stray. When my son's cat died he did wait a month. Said he regretted that. So I don't know how I did it but I went! Found a 4 month old stray with a tortoise shell coat. We bonded right then! We named her Magic & she is! I will always miss Shadow but it's OK to love again! And we do love Magic already. I believe Shadow had a hand in all this! She's alot like Shadow in many ways. Yes, the universe amazes me! PS. I'm taking your video on the gentle shag with me my next haircut! I've been growing in my shorter shag. Love yours!
Keep track of your spending. That’s the only part I was missing. I have been taking advantage of the sales for Xmas gifts. It’s the most shopping I’ve done at once in this, my no buy year. As I head out of it in 2023, I’m actually considering repeating it (or at least low buying it) and I’ll be adding the tracking component to my financial New Year’s resolutions. Thank you Hannah. An excellent level headed discussion, as per usual 👍🙏
Meanwhile I'm over here placing one more order of the year calmly giving phytosurgence my money full price bc their products are worth it regardless of any bonuses, and I can try girlcult next year. If you haven't seen their IG or past work, sit down, they very much went to town hahaha
Big event sales like Black Friday definately encouraged me to buy and hoard more than I needed. Along the same line of thinking, I have stopped bulk buying a lot of things and buying mini/smaller sized items instead of the full size. I used to be a couponer and picked up hoarding from my mom so I was spending a lot of money on things I felt (at the time) I was saving tons of money on that I would definately use at a later time. But the reality is, I would have saved more money by buying things when I needed them (even at full price) since I was not able to use things up before the expiration date. For example, I got a good deal on Aquaphor so I bought a bunch, not realizing that it takes me over a year to use up a single 1.75oz tube. I only used up 2 tubes before the rest of my stash expired. I know it's just petroleumm jelly but I'm a bit of a germaphobe and the idea of putting an expired product on my face grossed me out so much, I just avoided it until the products were many years past the expiration date that I had to throw them away, making it a big waste of money. And even in my 20s when I was wearing makeup every day, I never really used up items with a shorter shelf life like mascara before the expiration date. So even though you save more by buying the full sized version for certain items, what works better for me is to stick with the mini size since I know won't be wasting money or product this way.
I’m still circling the drain on a Misha and puff sweater that’s not on sale, and I keep saying to myself “nothing bad is going to happen to you if you don’t have this thing.” What a thing. This whole video!!! Thank you
thanks, Hannah! I have been tempted to fill shopping carts of makeup that's on sale because "it's a great deal", but at the same time I am in a phase of my life where my makeup tastes seem to be changing towards more simple looks that don't even require all the makeup that is still on my wishlists. Buying one high-quality product that I know will work hard in my collection makes a lot more sense than buying as many things as I can because they're pretty and on sale. Your channel always helps me with pulling the brakes before I make stupid purchases that will do nothing to change my life anyway.
I don’t know where I saw this but I read a comment of someone saying “before you spend money on anything (let’s say something costs 30$) just consider whether you’d rather get that thing as a gift right now or those 30$ in cash”. Made a lot of sense to me for figuring out if something is actually worth the money.
I just want to say thank you for your content. I’m on a no buy until January and after watching all the “sales videos” on my feed I felt tempted by a lot of the sales and wanted to break my no buy. After watching this videos I realized that I don’t need anything right now and it doesn’t make sense to me to buy just because it’s on sale.
There was a one hour flash sale on a small jewelry brand Rare Romance yesterday around 4PM pst, and I have wanted some earrings from them since February, like black spiked heart hoops, and some silver flame drop designs. They were finally 50% off, and they say it's not gonna be done again, at least this year, so I took advantage of the sale because it was a big discount. I found myself looking for other things I might want, but their mini gold spiked hoops (the only other thing I wanted) were sold out. I almost settled for something else, but I knew it wasn't exactly what I wanted, so I held firm.
This video came at the perfect time. The way that I feel is like anxious about missing sales and I have to hurry because what if the sale is over. I have caught myself a couple of times but it has been rough. thank you for the tips because they will come in handy 💖💖
You’re so right about the level of false scarcity messaging and how it creates a (false) sense of urgency. This video has really helped me; thank you very much.
I love your two questions! My grandparents taught me to ask myself “Do I need it, or do I have something else that can do the job?”. I am trying to lean into that and I think your two questions are going to help me do a better job! 💕
Tysm for explicitly pointing out “capitalism” :) there’s so much talk about conscious consumerism, without pointing out the big bad guy!!! Let’s be explicitly anti-cap y’all!!!!!!!!!!!!
As someone seeking an ADHD diagnosis and have a long time issue with impul purchases, this resonates while also finding extremely hard to exit the trance.
I’ve been laid up with a broken foot for the past 2.5 weeks, during which I’ve watched COUNTLESS hours of makeup UA-cam. I’ve added and removed dozens of items from my Ulta, Sephora and Colourpop carts, and favorited dozens more on thredUP. I’m on a Low Buy - technically it’s a No Buy but with $15/week to use for all of the fun stuff, because that’s just a little bit of money no big deal OR it’s $700 in a year if i don’t waste it. So I had a little bit to spend, all kinds of stuff in my carts, and THE SALE breathing down my neck. Turns out, the only items I want that were affected by the sale were 2 Colourpop palettes. Nothing else is discounted or a high enough priority to make it worthwhile. Now, that brick red Babaa turtleneck sweater has me completely entranced but thankfully it’s no longer on their website!!
I use Black Friday for most of my clothes shopping for the year. I live in a place where the climate is pretty stable year round (hot as hell) so buying when summer clothes are on discount is great for me.
Me and husband have always had a deal that we buy the kid’s Christmas gifts before each or anything for us during Black Friday. Some years the shopping is done or almost done. Other years far from it. It helps me skip on the sales during years that our budget was tighter.
Instead of getting myself something for black Friday simply because it was on sale and I didn't even need/want it.. I took the $50 i would've spent (at least $50) and I got on salvation army website and went to their angel tree and got $50 worth of baby toys from the registry for sweet babies that don't get things for christmas... so maybe that's an idea for other people to do.. if you find yourself looooking for something to want.. take even just $20 go to the angel tree online and buy some toys for kids. Chances are you don't need whatever you're looking at getting anyways. Just an idea for people to spend money that way!
I am really not a typical person when it comes to shopping and sales. Hear my story: during the second part of a year a delay buying some items because I believe I can shop for it on Black Friday. I just put items on the list (my husband and I do that collectively, actually). Then when sale starts I notice that buying everything from the list will be more then I want to spend. So I filter the list and some things leave behind. For the past 3 years I want to by NU Face on sale but I just cross it from the list because there are other things more important to me. And this is not a problem of money, I can afford everything from the list but I get overwhelmed when I see long list and realize that I can not possibly NEED all that.
What a brilliant video Hannah! Sharing some additional things that help me: 1. Recalling the # of items I own in that category / realizing the number of times I've used it once. For e.g., I was super tempted by the Pat McGrath sale this year, but I stopped myself from buying any Mothership palette. My rationale: I bought the Midnight Sun palette in June this year but I have used it only twice so far! Suddenly, I wasn't tempted any more :) 2. Allowing myself to buy only those products that I have wish listed for at least 6 months. So even though I am shopping this year, I know I am buying products that I've wanted for a while and not losing myself "in a trance" like you say. Lots of love; for you and your amazing channel.
All we are getting for our friends and family are bed socks, flowers, and food. Also we will be giving to our local food and heating banks. I am very anti spend when it comes to the Advent-Christmas holidays. Such an overly commercial and consumeristic season, when it should be a spiritual time, no matter what faith you believe (Advent historically was, and still is for some, a time of reflection, preparation, and of fasting and prayer), and a good time to reflect on the blessing of being human and to be able to cherish the love and friendship of significant others. Happy Thanksgiving Hannah and Joe!❤🦃
I needed to hear this. I’m new to this mindset. I just found your channel today through a redditor’s suggestion. today was the last straw. this store is advertising a “regular price” of $65, on “sale” for $27. on the manufacturers website and all the other stores’ sites selling this item, the regular price is cheaper than their sale price! ugh I’m so disgusted, because I bought it!! only to realize afterwards. I will be returning, and will be much more mindful from now on! and I’ll definitely keep watching your videos because this is no joke.
With BF there's always next year! 😅 throughout the year I put a list together with what I need or really want to own and coming October I put together my budget. I prioritise and ask myself questions like: "do I really need this NOW? what if I wait for next year or another sale? what if I spend the whole budget and later I find something I need more? do I already own something similar?" etc
This video prevented me from getting a random sweater dress I saw somewhere on UA-cam. I was burning for a new dress. But your video brought down my heart rate and I remembered I have clothes spilling out of my closet and I don't even have a clear vision for what that perfect, warm dress will be. I can't even decide on a neckline. Plus I am EXTREMELY picky about the feeling of fabrics and loathe making returns!!
I really had to hold back this year. Everything was calling me and I've been home sick for 2 weeks with nothing to do. I splurged on 2 beauty bay hauls right before November ($60 & $80) spent. I did ok in November...I only shopped oden's eye and spent $72 in terms of makeup. The rest ($350) was spent on a t.v. my husband and I have been wanting for our room for years. Overall, my restraint could have been better but could have been worse. I really didn't need 14 eyeshadow palettes in 2 months considering I already have 50+. I'm looking to be better in the new year. I just saw a youtuber who only bought 2 palettes all year and I thought to myself "what am I doing?" I could have saved so much more.
Thank you for this video. This year Black Friday has been trying me. I so far resisted and only bought a few Christmas gifts for family that were on my list and not bought just because it’s Black Friday and I had to buy something. It is freeing to not succumb to capitalism and not buy things just because there’s a sale. You’ve been an inspiration to me the past few months because “things” do not fill holes in my life. But having a friendly resource and a community that also has a love of beautiful things and the will power to resist the urge to buy buy buy does fill a hole in my life. Thank you.
Fantastic topical content and due to your elequent and articulate vocab I also learnt a new word - compunction; a feeling of guilt or moral scruple that prevents or follows the doing of something bad. Great word! Your a breath of fresh air Hannah and clearly a smart cookie, thanks for making me a bit smarter and also making me think twice for the sales and Xmas shopping 🙏🏼😘
For me, black friday is just for buying things I've wanted for a while but know I can get a good deal on. I don't really add things to my basket just because it's on sale, these are things that have been on my wishlist for a while (sometimes even years). So far this year, my black friday wishlist/planned spend is less than £100 including shipping but would have been closer to £200 otherwise. I'm willing to buy these things full price but I don't want to do that if I can save money, especially for things I repurchase regularly. I put in a lot of thought about how to prioritise the things I want and how not to overspend. I try to be objective with my purchasing decisions so I don't have repeats and only buy things that fill a hole in my collection. Over the last few years, I've really honed in on what kind of products I don't like using and just appreciate them from afar instead.
i think this is my new favorite video ever long story (sorry) i'm sixteen and i just landed my first job a few months ago so my mom let me open a checking account with her. i got my first debit card and all of a sudden its sale and holiday season so i have spent more money than i have maybe ever? even though every package that arrives home never seem to make me happier, i get so excited to get an email from a brand announcing a new sale, reward or coupon etc. i get fomo and the last chance urgency because my family didn't have the means to buy much "stuff" so i always felt like i was missing out on hobbies or the latest trend everyone in my area was wearing for the next few weeks. its a big relief for me to see an adult explaining how to help manage these emotions, sustaining previous purchases and reaffirming "think before you buy" . this video is so helpful and came right at the perfect time for me so thank you so much hannah
Ulta is having a Black Friday sale with many mascaras half off. One of my favorites, Tarte Maneater, is on sale. I went to Ulta today, bought two tubes of Maneater and left, (didn’t let myself wander around looking at the gift sets or other Black Friday deals). I will defiantly use these up before I buy more mascara, so I left feeling good about my purchase. These two tubes of mascara may be the only Black Friday purchase I make.
This was such a great resources that I will keep coming back to! This year has been particularly odd because as I am doing my no- buy year I actually have had to buy more things than I ever had before. I have been working on my mental health and body image etc and found that I had no clothes other than my high school clothes that barely fit and were falling apart, on top of just the fact I hadn't been taking care of myself. So as I have had to rework my budget because of all the unexpected things I needed to actually care for my body I've had to keep reminding myself "You don't need everything all at once" and I've been trying to break it down into sections (ex buying all my basics in sizes that actually fit, then moving on to playing with fashion/makeup etc etc) and being kind to myself as I accept the fact that I am not a particular size etc and I suppose breaking down my own smoke and mirrors for how I think I should look/ how society advertises people should look. So I've been re-watching a lot of your reviews and what's cheering me up videos because they have honestly been such a good starting point for me to break down this large task of essentially building up my self care.
This sale season I risked "the trance" quite often but managed to make just a few well thought purchases. Practical example: I've been wanting the glass skin primer from Natasha Denona for months and I waited, thinking that I'd get a reasonable deal with the Sephora sale or even Black Friday. Of course ND rarely goes on sale so, the second I saw the primer was on sale I added it to cart immediately. A combination of circumstances resulted in me not buying it, because in the end, despite the codes and discounts, the price was still too high for me to justify the buy. Now I'm thanking whatever entity stopped my hand from adding it to the cart because I just realized the bottle is only 20 ml. TWENTY ml! I never really checked but I thought it was at least 30 or even 50 ml like other primers. Glad I didn't buy it! And I also realized I already have a similar (not a proper dupe) product in my collection that deserves more love.
Well...this is a pretty great episode. I am not sure what or if my decision process will be but I carried around a few items and put them down. So interesting to see how people think about shopping. Thanks! Xo J
I needed this video, but I already did some damage. I had decided on a sale I wanted to shop weeks ago, but other sales happened first. I was so excited that I shopped them, too. It wasn’t a tragedy, but also not ideal.
Love this! Over my years of shopping, I noticed if I’m sure about something I’ll order it right away. Whereas if I don’t reaaaally want it I’ll sit on it and end up not buying it Will admit I love a good deal
Fantastic video as always, Hannah. Your distill common experience down into easy to follow and logical algorithms that the rest of us can reference while shopping!
A few months ago I found myself interested in a product. I signed up for notifications. I figured if they offered a sale I might take advantage. Beginning at midnight on Thanksgiving they sent no less than a dozen texts and emails. I unsubscribed. Fomo has been my biggest hurdle with Black Friday and I finally feel like I'm gradually getting through it. I keep a few companies' updates on for specific items I'd like at some point, but no more just for its own sake, and it feels good.
Haven't watched yet but I wanted to say thank you for continuing to make this kind of content! You have helped me so much in changing my buying habits, and this Black Friday I allowed myself to buy 5 pieces of makeup and I only bought 4! And I have no desire to buy anything else at this moment. Your content is invaluable for a lot of people and I know I'm not alone in appreciating the work you do here in the beauty space ❤️
I somehow missed this!? 🥺 I'm super proud of myself during this bf frenzy tbh. Not only have I only broken my nobuy from end of august ONCE but I managed to place just three very small orders from three different brands, of items that have been on my wishlist. I ended up spending a total of $100 (across three indie brands) which is in stark contrast to previous years. 🤗🙌
I participated in black friday this year for the first time in a while, and felt a little weird about it (because it's usually a bit of a point of pride for me to NOT get involved) - but, after watching this video, I'm proud to say I was generally following the philosophies you outlined here :) I bought 2 things I'd been needing and was glad to save money on (a vacuum and a new phone case), and a new watch I'd been thinking about for over a year but hadn't felt ready to pull the trigger on until it fit into my budget better (which, thanks to a sale, it did!). I really enjoy the way you distilled these 2 great questions to ask oneself during The Frenzy; they'll definitely help me be more mindful in the future!
I know this wasn’t the point of the video, but I also ordered linens sheets from Parachute home after watching this! 😆 but to the actual point - I sat on it for three days, asked myself all the questions (linen bedding has been on our list for awhile), and decided not to partake in any other Black Friday deals. Thank you once again for another amazing resource!
Oh yeah.. helpful! In California we pay 10% sales tax, so 20%.. or even 30% isn’t really that deep of a sale.. I tend to stalk items, so if they go on sale I’ve already done some research.. I also stalk up on skincare during Black Friday or Cyber Monday. One thing I have cut WAY down on is Impulse purchasing. I don’t feel like I’m missing out at all.
This was brilliant. I'd been thinking about some of those behaviors in myself but the way u put it made it all click. Thank you for this. Excellent job.
I watched you on TFD months ago and what you said really resonated with me. I watched this and yesterday it stopped me in my steps from buying something I truly didn’t want. I was looking for something to want. Turns out I just wanted to look at things and I was able to appreciate it without buying it. I just wish I saw this video during black friday and not after 😂 oopsie! Luckily the most expensive thing I bought is refundable. However, I still feel shame about it even though it perhaps would be an investment in my hobby. I just don’t like seeing my balance go under a certain amount. (Even though that amount I have left is more than liveable, perhaps 5 months of rent lol) Also, as an artist, i find that when i feel disatisfied with my art i start buying clothes or stuff. It’s like what you said. Idk, you’re just so spot on! Thank you
I am so grateful for you. Your ability to put words to the consumer mindset and break it down into digestible bits of relatable content...I'm just in awwhhh.
This year's sale got me so bad...I'm very happy with everything that I purchased and got some things I have been wanting for a while at insane discounts, but oh man did I buy more than I thought I would.... Will definitely be using this advice for next year and for any time there's a huge sale!
So wise! I notice you have a Tara Brach playlist. I love how this is applying her teaching around trance. I had never connected that fomo, find something you like feeling as being in trance. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
My rule of thumb for Black Friday, or any big "savings event" is that I only purchase items that have been on my wish list for over 6 months. And even then, I'm not buying everything on my wish list, only those couple items that I've reeaaalllly been patiently waiting for to buy. Splurge purchases have led to nothing but regret, because it wasn't something I actually needed or wanted - it was something that seemed like a "good deal" at the time. But "good deals" are only good deals if you would have bought that item at full price. A good deal isn't something that you buy on sale that you never had any intention of purchasing to begin with - that's just wasted money. NOW. That being said. Yes, I did just buy a Pat McGrath lipstick for $17 (Canadian site) because free shipping and it's something I would never ever buy unless it was heavily discounted.
This is such a helpful video, Hannah, thank you! I had a couple of items in my shopping basket for a couple of days now, waiting for me to decide if I really wanted them or if I would just be buying them because of the sale. I was having a hard time with it, but your questions have helped me to figure it out. (Spoiler alert: I deleted most of them from my shopping basket right after watching this video.)
Love this kind of content, especially from you! Unlike the last black Friday before meeting you(virtually) I bought a replacement for my favorite eye primer since I only had one I hated left and a replacement liquid eyeliner 'cause I opened the last fresh one last month and I tend to run one of them dry every 3-4 months. I may buy a replacement blush but most likely won't cause I'm a new mom, I still have some of it left and plenty other blushes. Plus...other sales will come again. If I don't buy it now I'll buy it in a few months, and if I wait till the next black Friday nothing will change in my life. I know I will buy a fresh one eventually but the power of personally controlling when that will happen is freeing
I'm going to make a list today with Christmas gifts and a few things for myself to buy tomorrow. I hope that will keep me from spending the entire day on scrolling through sale sections tomorrow
I made a list of 3 shops where I have wanted items but wasn’t willing to pay full price, I even gave myself a discount minimum. For example I wanted some desk items from muni and said if it was 30% or more I would get them. While I did see a many other emails come through I resisted and stuck to my list. So I didn’t buy anything I wasn’t already eyeing for months and I didn’t get anything outside my budget. I did at one point feel all the trance items you mentioned but managed to click away ❤
and I thought I had total control on my shopping....... so much to learn. I did just get 19 pairs of primaloft level 7 pants but they will go to people who are homeless :) christmas shopping done!
I find I get better discounts outside of Black Friday tbh. I have a cart with Xmas presents that I need to buy anyway. The store announced its “Black Friday discounts”. The items I wanted were discounted to…..the same price as before.😂😂😂
Ooh thank you for this - the babaa sale starts tomorrow and I’m literally feeling queasy trying to decide whether or not to get something and what to get. How crazy, feeling nauseated over a sweater - these events make me feel nutso and I just need to opt out before i truly go bananas. But i still might buy a sweater 🫣
Hmmm the most perfect birthday gift for myself. I will line one whole drawer in cedar just to store it….I think it will need one for itself. I know which one I want….
My birthday is next month and BF is always the starting point for treat yourself behavior. I’m very disciplined and thoughtful about my purchases during the rest of the year, but there’s just something about this season that makes me throw caution to the wind. Just a few hours ago I literally stopped myself before hitting the purchase button on a Celine handbag I found a deliciously good deal on via eBay. I was In the Trance! (I might still purchase but gonna give it a few days, and if it’s gone by then, welp it’s gone.)
a little too late to stop me spending a tenner in the steam sale but the perfect time to stop me getting distracted when looking for undercrackers this weekend as i'm sure every clothing site will be enticing me to buy tops i'll never wear instead
While it kind of grosses me out how "Black Friday" has come to encompass more of November every year, I do also like the fact that in some cases that means having a larger window to consider a sale, rather than feeling like I need to buy something the instant I see it.
I like it when small businesses do this so that their dispatch and shipping systems aren't overwhelmed.
Agreed. It bothers me that it's earlier and earlier each year
I actually really agree with this. It allows me time to think about what purchases are truly wise, whereas if I only have one day, the Trance hit me like a bus.
Yes! I hate it when I have 24h or less to decide or I’m going to miss the discount. I think more time actually helps you have time to ponder your purchases.
What a phenomenal resource you provide for us Hannah. I can honestly say I've saved myself hundreds, if not thousands of dollars by regularly returning to your Sales Survival playlist, especially when I feel the trance "shark music" coming on.
the trance shark music!!! I love that
Yes to the shark music! It is loud!😂
Girl same!!!
I wholeheartedly agree!
My approach is to focus on my house, microwave blew up, old toaster, coffee maker died. I used saved gift cards & replaced these needed items on sale. Also reminded myself & the family, being housed, fed, warm & together with our beloved cat were Christmas gifts aplenty. No Lisa Eldridge palette can replace that!
I plan for Black Friday deals all year and hold off purchasing items for Black Friday sales, pre shop and have a plan for when it comes. It’s a big help and I save a lot of money on things I need.
The “am I looking for something to want” is dead-on, such a good way of describing what Black Friday sales do to you mentally. It’s such a good deal, there must be something I need to buy.
I must say….I’m pretty freaking proud of myself. I received a mini IT Hero mascara about a year ago, and absolutely loved it. I have never purchase a high end mascara in my life. After using the mini mascara, I thought about, and wanted, a full sized IT mascara so badly. Every time I put on my makeup I would crave that high end mascara. I literally stopped myself from buying that mascara several, several times, because I couldn’t imagine spending 28-30 bucks on mascara. I waited patiently for it to go on sale, and it did for Black Friday! Yay! I just ordered it for 12 bucks! I’m so excited to get this order, and I’m so proud I fought the urge for so long, saved money, and avoided a lot of guilt if I would’ve paid full price. 🙏🏼
This is clever consumerism!
I love this. In a video a while back, you said something like, “You could save 100% by not buying anything,” and I still hear that in my head every time I browse a sale.
My parents would always tell me, “you don’t save money by spending money”
another one of my favorite sayings
My strategy is to set a budget weeks before the sales start so I'm calm and rational about it
And then make a list without looking at the emails
If I didn't remembered wanting a thing before seeing them there is probably a reason
I also try to focus on needs because my budget is pretty tight and it helps to free it a little in future months 🤷🏻♀️
May all of us do what is best for us this sales season 💪🏻
When I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks I started a budget for baby gear: stroller, monitor, car seat, etc. I set specific savings goals: $209.13 for the Dagne Dover diaper bag after taxes. I put $36.74 towards it every month. I just caught it on a Black Friday sale for $161 allowing me to move the extra money towards other savings goals. I’ve been tracking sales all year only buying registered products when they’re 25% off or more. I have $1,207.64 saved specially for Black Friday baby sales and I’m pretty psyched about it in a calm and intentional way. I was telling my husband that the act of “spending” $36.74 on a bag every months gives my the same thrill as buying that bag 8 times.
Oooh! This is brilliant. Half the fun is in the planning, and I love that you get joy from each act of saving. Great mindset. Congrats on your expected arrival!
I was feeling guilty that I bought a ton of hair care on Black Friday because it was 40% off, but literally I don’t buy haircare for 6-10 months at a time because I do this. this video helped me feel like my decision making is more strategic rather than overly speedy. Thanks for the thoughtful video!
My strategy is always to add what I like to my wishlist and then edit it throughout the year and then take advantage of Black Friday sales. Fortunately I haven’t been sucked into any brand or items this year I’m only on a reformation choke hold lol
My first black Friday with Hannah Louise Poston; most definitely not my last.
This is one of my skip years and I’m loving the freedom of not looking at any of the sales. I feel freed of a big job and the anxiety of making good decisions this weekend. I love listening to the way you break these things down.
For the last 3 years I’ve been buying all my core skin care and haircare products during Black Friday sales and then I don’t purchase anymore for the rest of the year. This works for me for these items and also for things like a major appliance purchase such as the Samsung bespoke vacuum that we just purchased yesterday but I have to stay away from clothing and jewelry websites because those are things that I would just find something to want. For me it Hass to be something that I was already thinking about getting and actually planned to buy or truly need.
This is the black Friday video that is REALLY useful for us!
Thank you for always reminding me that I really don‘t need anything, just because it’s on sale. Especially because I already bought all of the clothing I needed for winter a month ago. Now I only look out for things that I already wanted to give as christmas gifts, but I try not stress myself too much. If I happen to miss it on sale, the world doesn‘t end 💕
I decided to only shop a necessary vacuum cleaner, because my old one died a few weeks ago, and with the sales going on I can afford a good one. Now I luckily don't have to finance it. But oh girl, the Lethal Cosmetics collection reveal from today has me in a chokehold. But a necessity has priority to fun stuff. Your videos definitely have helped me in understanding, that these sales often enough lead to more spending than what I'd spend if there wouldn't be so much sales. I talked myself out of a lot of shiny things. Thanks for that. 😊
Same here! Got needed household things & went to my vanity to revisit my current makeup collection
I always appreciate your "back away from the sale" videos. This year I put myself on a replacement only no buy September 1st - Jan 1st because of how I know how easily I get pulled into sales. It's nice having a video reminding us that we're not "missing out" if we skip the sale!
I bought Moonlit Seduction on deep discount as I’ve been eyeing it off since launch. That’s it . Kaput, no more . Cheers Hannah 👍
So helpful! I've been trying to "sleep on it" before any purchase, reviewing what in my closet I would wear instead, and weighing its cost against something I know I want, such as a vacation :) It is always helpful to hear you talk through as an echo to what I am trying in my own journey!
Yes. Can I lend my wholehearted support to this great comment?? Sleeping on it, I find actually ends up with me only purchasing about 50% of what I otherwise would have. It’s a great way of breaking “the trance”. Love this ❤❤❤
I literally only use BF discounts to repurchase things I use regularly that I’m running out of that I would’ve bought anyway. I used to be so out of control with sales and makeup buying. Love videos like this!
Thank God for this. I’ve been in the trance since yesterday. It’s ridiculous how susceptible I am to Black Friday sales.
Hannah, I recently found your channel and you have helped me immensely. I can totally identify with having a shopping prblem. I did a no-buy in October and am trying to do the same in November. I've been watching whatever videos show up. The universe never ceases to amaze me. It gives me exactly what I need at the right time. The last video I just watched was 11 months ago, about Sadie. My heart went out to you! The 14th of this November we lost our cat of 21 years. She was a stray who came out of the shadows at night while we sat in the breezeway. We started feeding her. She was a little black cat with big green eyes. Her fur was like velvet. We named her Shadow. But she became my shadow! Followed me all over and slept with me every night. She was the last of our pets. We had 2 dogs, 3 cats, and my son's ferrit. Part of owning a pet is knowing when it is time to let go and it is the hardest thing to do! They don't live as long as we do. I had cried & grieved for the last 10 days she was still with us. I knew what was coming. The next day I said to my husband the house was empty and there was such a void. He gently said, no pressure, no expectations. Just see what's at the pound. I felt like I was dishonoring Shadow by getting another. My family and friends all said no, you're honoring her by giving your love and home to a stray. When my son's cat died he did wait a month. Said he regretted that. So I don't know how I did it but I went! Found a 4 month old stray with a tortoise shell coat. We bonded right then! We named her Magic & she is! I will always miss Shadow but it's OK to love again! And we do love Magic already. I believe Shadow had a hand in all this! She's alot like Shadow in many ways. Yes, the universe amazes me! PS. I'm taking your video on the gentle shag with me my next haircut! I've been growing in my shorter shag. Love yours!
Keep track of your spending. That’s the only part I was missing. I have been taking advantage of the sales for Xmas gifts. It’s the most shopping I’ve done at once in this, my no buy year. As I head out of it in 2023, I’m actually considering repeating it (or at least low buying it) and I’ll be adding the tracking component to my financial New Year’s resolutions. Thank you Hannah. An excellent level headed discussion, as per usual 👍🙏
Your videos are so helpful in a world full of UA-camrs constantly pushing sales!!
Meanwhile I'm over here placing one more order of the year calmly giving phytosurgence my money full price bc their products are worth it regardless of any bonuses, and I can try girlcult next year. If you haven't seen their IG or past work, sit down, they very much went to town hahaha
"in the trance" = genius. Hannah is my new BFF to whom I'm a complete stranger
Big event sales like Black Friday definately encouraged me to buy and hoard more than I needed. Along the same line of thinking, I have stopped bulk buying a lot of things and buying mini/smaller sized items instead of the full size. I used to be a couponer and picked up hoarding from my mom so I was spending a lot of money on things I felt (at the time) I was saving tons of money on that I would definately use at a later time. But the reality is, I would have saved more money by buying things when I needed them (even at full price) since I was not able to use things up before the expiration date. For example, I got a good deal on Aquaphor so I bought a bunch, not realizing that it takes me over a year to use up a single 1.75oz tube. I only used up 2 tubes before the rest of my stash expired. I know it's just petroleumm jelly but I'm a bit of a germaphobe and the idea of putting an expired product on my face grossed me out so much, I just avoided it until the products were many years past the expiration date that I had to throw them away, making it a big waste of money.
And even in my 20s when I was wearing makeup every day, I never really used up items with a shorter shelf life like mascara before the expiration date. So even though you save more by buying the full sized version for certain items, what works better for me is to stick with the mini size since I know won't be wasting money or product this way.
When you listen to Hannah and start removing items from your cart and close certain tabs...
I’m still circling the drain on a Misha and puff sweater that’s not on sale, and I keep saying to myself “nothing bad is going to happen to you if you don’t have this thing.” What a thing. This whole video!!! Thank you
thanks, Hannah! I have been tempted to fill shopping carts of makeup that's on sale because "it's a great deal", but at the same time I am in a phase of my life where my makeup tastes seem to be changing towards more simple looks that don't even require all the makeup that is still on my wishlists. Buying one high-quality product that I know will work hard in my collection makes a lot more sense than buying as many things as I can because they're pretty and on sale. Your channel always helps me with pulling the brakes before I make stupid purchases that will do nothing to change my life anyway.
I don’t know where I saw this but I read a comment of someone saying “before you spend money on anything (let’s say something costs 30$) just consider whether you’d rather get that thing as a gift right now or those 30$ in cash”. Made a lot of sense to me for figuring out if something is actually worth the money.
I just want to say thank you for your content. I’m on a no buy until January and after watching all the “sales videos” on my feed I felt tempted by a lot of the sales and wanted to break my no buy. After watching this videos I realized that I don’t need anything right now and it doesn’t make sense to me to buy just because it’s on sale.
There was a one hour flash sale on a small jewelry brand Rare Romance yesterday around 4PM pst, and I have wanted some earrings from them since February, like black spiked heart hoops, and some silver flame drop designs. They were finally 50% off, and they say it's not gonna be done again, at least this year, so I took advantage of the sale because it was a big discount. I found myself looking for other things I might want, but their mini gold spiked hoops (the only other thing I wanted) were sold out. I almost settled for something else, but I knew it wasn't exactly what I wanted, so I held firm.
OMG!!! "In the trance"! I love it! You articulate everything perfectly!
This video came at the perfect time. The way that I feel is like anxious about missing sales and I have to hurry because what if the sale is over. I have caught myself a couple of times but it has been rough. thank you for the tips because they will come in handy 💖💖
You’re so right about the level of false scarcity messaging and how it creates a (false) sense of urgency. This video has really helped me; thank you very much.
I love your two questions! My grandparents taught me to ask myself “Do I need it, or do I have something else that can do the job?”. I am trying to lean into that and I think your two questions are going to help me do a better job! 💕
Tysm for explicitly pointing out “capitalism” :) there’s so much talk about conscious consumerism, without pointing out the big bad guy!!! Let’s be explicitly anti-cap y’all!!!!!!!!!!!!
As someone seeking an ADHD diagnosis and have a long time issue with impul purchases, this resonates while also finding extremely hard to exit the trance.
I’ve been laid up with a broken foot for the past 2.5 weeks, during which I’ve watched COUNTLESS hours of makeup UA-cam. I’ve added and removed dozens of items from my Ulta, Sephora and Colourpop carts, and favorited dozens more on thredUP. I’m on a Low Buy - technically it’s a No Buy but with $15/week to use for all of the fun stuff, because that’s just a little bit of money no big deal OR it’s $700 in a year if i don’t waste it. So I had a little bit to spend, all kinds of stuff in my carts, and THE SALE breathing down my neck. Turns out, the only items I want that were affected by the sale were 2 Colourpop palettes. Nothing else is discounted or a high enough priority to make it worthwhile.
Now, that brick red Babaa turtleneck sweater has me completely entranced but thankfully it’s no longer on their website!!
'The trance' is a perfect way of putting it!
I use Black Friday for most of my clothes shopping for the year. I live in a place where the climate is pretty stable year round (hot as hell) so buying when summer clothes are on discount is great for me.
Me and husband have always had a deal that we buy the kid’s Christmas gifts before each or anything for us during Black Friday. Some years the shopping is done or almost done. Other years far from it. It helps me skip on the sales during years that our budget was tighter.
Instead of getting myself something for black Friday simply because it was on sale and I didn't even need/want it.. I took the $50 i would've spent (at least $50) and I got on salvation army website and went to their angel tree and got $50 worth of baby toys from the registry for sweet babies that don't get things for christmas... so maybe that's an idea for other people to do.. if you find yourself looooking for something to want.. take even just $20 go to the angel tree online and buy some toys for kids. Chances are you don't need whatever you're looking at getting anyways. Just an idea for people to spend money that way!
Yes, yes,yes and yes. If anything buy in February.
I am really not a typical person when it comes to shopping and sales. Hear my story: during the second part of a year a delay buying some items because I believe I can shop for it on Black Friday. I just put items on the list (my husband and I do that collectively, actually). Then when sale starts I notice that buying everything from the list will be more then I want to spend. So I filter the list and some things leave behind. For the past 3 years I want to by NU Face on sale but I just cross it from the list because there are other things more important to me.
And this is not a problem of money, I can afford everything from the list but I get overwhelmed when I see long list and realize that I can not possibly NEED all that.
What a brilliant video Hannah! Sharing some additional things that help me:
1. Recalling the # of items I own in that category / realizing the number of times I've used it once. For e.g., I was super tempted by the Pat McGrath sale this year, but I stopped myself from buying any Mothership palette. My rationale: I bought the Midnight Sun palette in June this year but I have used it only twice so far! Suddenly, I wasn't tempted any more :)
2. Allowing myself to buy only those products that I have wish listed for at least 6 months. So even though I am shopping this year, I know I am buying products that I've wanted for a while and not losing myself "in a trance" like you say.
Lots of love; for you and your amazing channel.
All we are getting for our friends and family are bed socks, flowers, and food. Also we will be giving to our local food and heating banks.
I am very anti spend when it comes to the Advent-Christmas holidays. Such an overly commercial and consumeristic season, when it should be a spiritual time, no matter what faith you believe (Advent historically was, and still is for some, a time of reflection, preparation, and of fasting and prayer), and a good time to reflect on the blessing of being human and to be able to cherish the love and friendship of significant others. Happy Thanksgiving Hannah and Joe!❤🦃
I love this. Can you please do more of these types of videos?
I'm proud of myself, I bought one thing during the sales, and it was something I needed. I attribute that to watching you, Hannah! 💚💜
This is such a fantastic valuable video. But damn that Pat McGrath sale 😂😅😅
I needed to hear this. I’m new to this mindset. I just found your channel today through a redditor’s suggestion. today was the last straw. this store is advertising a “regular price” of $65, on “sale” for $27. on the manufacturers website and all the other stores’ sites selling this item, the regular price is cheaper than their sale price! ugh I’m so disgusted, because I bought it!! only to realize afterwards. I will be returning, and will be much more mindful from now on! and I’ll definitely keep watching your videos because this is no joke.
With BF there's always next year! 😅 throughout the year I put a list together with what I need or really want to own and coming October I put together my budget. I prioritise and ask myself questions like: "do I really need this NOW? what if I wait for next year or another sale? what if I spend the whole budget and later I find something I need more? do I already own something similar?" etc
The 'looking for something to want' gets me often. Most of the time I realise this before I buy anything.... luckily. Its so crazy how it sneaks up.
Boy do I need this. I've got full shopping carts all over the internet.
This video prevented me from getting a random sweater dress I saw somewhere on UA-cam. I was burning for a new dress. But your video brought down my heart rate and I remembered I have clothes spilling out of my closet and I don't even have a clear vision for what that perfect, warm dress will be. I can't even decide on a neckline. Plus I am EXTREMELY picky about the feeling of fabrics and loathe making returns!!
I really had to hold back this year. Everything was calling me and I've been home sick for 2 weeks with nothing to do. I splurged on 2 beauty bay hauls right before November ($60 & $80) spent.
I did ok in November...I only shopped oden's eye and spent $72 in terms of makeup.
The rest ($350) was spent on a t.v. my husband and I have been wanting for our room for years. Overall, my restraint could have been better but could have been worse. I really didn't need 14 eyeshadow palettes in 2 months considering I already have 50+.
I'm looking to be better in the new year. I just saw a youtuber who only bought 2 palettes all year and I thought to myself "what am I doing?" I could have saved so much more.
Girl have I been feeling the trance... I'm so glad you gave me a word for that feeling.
Also something to add to this list to battle FOMO: If it isn't available when you're ready to buy, it wasn't meant to be.
Thank you for this video. This year Black Friday has been trying me. I so far resisted and only bought a few Christmas gifts for family that were on my list and not bought just because it’s Black Friday and I had to buy something. It is freeing to not succumb to capitalism and not buy things just because there’s a sale.
You’ve been an inspiration to me the past few months because “things” do not fill holes in my life. But having a friendly resource and a community that also has a love of beautiful things and the will power to resist the urge to buy buy buy does fill a hole in my life. Thank you.
Fantastic topical content and due to your elequent and articulate vocab I also learnt a new word - compunction; a feeling of guilt or moral scruple that prevents or follows the doing of something bad.
Great word! Your a breath of fresh air Hannah and clearly a smart cookie, thanks for making me a bit smarter and also making me think twice for the sales and Xmas shopping 🙏🏼😘
I feel like I won today. I bought my $160 usual workout shoes for $80 today because of an early black Friday sale!
For me, black friday is just for buying things I've wanted for a while but know I can get a good deal on. I don't really add things to my basket just because it's on sale, these are things that have been on my wishlist for a while (sometimes even years). So far this year, my black friday wishlist/planned spend is less than £100 including shipping but would have been closer to £200 otherwise. I'm willing to buy these things full price but I don't want to do that if I can save money, especially for things I repurchase regularly. I put in a lot of thought about how to prioritise the things I want and how not to overspend. I try to be objective with my purchasing decisions so I don't have repeats and only buy things that fill a hole in my collection. Over the last few years, I've really honed in on what kind of products I don't like using and just appreciate them from afar instead.
i think this is my new favorite video ever
long story (sorry) i'm sixteen and i just landed my first job a few months ago so my mom let me open a checking account with her. i got my first debit card and all of a sudden its sale and holiday season so i have spent more money than i have maybe ever? even though every package that arrives home never seem to make me happier, i get so excited to get an email from a brand announcing a new sale, reward or coupon etc. i get fomo and the last chance urgency because my family didn't have the means to buy much "stuff" so i always felt like i was missing out on hobbies or the latest trend everyone in my area was wearing for the next few weeks. its a big relief for me to see an adult explaining how to help manage these emotions, sustaining previous purchases and reaffirming "think before you buy" . this video is so helpful and came right at the perfect time for me so thank you so much hannah
I have set a no-buy for myself until January. I always buy Christmas presents for myself at Good Friday...
Ulta is having a Black Friday sale with many mascaras half off. One of my favorites, Tarte Maneater, is on sale. I went to Ulta today, bought two tubes of Maneater and left, (didn’t let myself wander around looking at the gift sets or other Black Friday deals). I will defiantly use these up before I buy more mascara, so I left feeling good about my purchase. These two tubes of mascara may be the only Black Friday purchase I make.
This was such a great resources that I will keep coming back to! This year has been particularly odd because as I am doing my no- buy year I actually have had to buy more things than I ever had before. I have been working on my mental health and body image etc and found that I had no clothes other than my high school clothes that barely fit and were falling apart, on top of just the fact I hadn't been taking care of myself.
So as I have had to rework my budget because of all the unexpected things I needed to actually care for my body I've had to keep reminding myself "You don't need everything all at once" and I've been trying to break it down into sections (ex buying all my basics in sizes that actually fit, then moving on to playing with fashion/makeup etc etc) and being kind to myself as I accept the fact that I am not a particular size etc and I suppose breaking down my own smoke and mirrors for how I think I should look/ how society advertises people should look. So I've been re-watching a lot of your reviews and what's cheering me up videos because they have honestly been such a good starting point for me to break down this large task of essentially building up my self care.
This sale season I risked "the trance" quite often but managed to make just a few well thought purchases.
Practical example: I've been wanting the glass skin primer from Natasha Denona for months and I waited, thinking that I'd get a reasonable deal with the Sephora sale or even Black Friday.
Of course ND rarely goes on sale so, the second I saw the primer was on sale I added it to cart immediately.
A combination of circumstances resulted in me not buying it, because in the end, despite the codes and discounts, the price was still too high for me to justify the buy.
Now I'm thanking whatever entity stopped my hand from adding it to the cart because I just realized the bottle is only 20 ml.
TWENTY ml! I never really checked but I thought it was at least 30 or even 50 ml like other primers.
Glad I didn't buy it! And I also realized I already have a similar (not a proper dupe) product in my collection that deserves more love.
A list of things i use through the year is really helping narrowing it down
Well...this is a pretty great episode. I am not sure what or if my decision process will be but I carried around a few items and put them down. So interesting to see how people think about shopping. Thanks! Xo J
I needed this video, but I already did some damage. I had decided on a sale I wanted to shop weeks ago, but other sales happened first. I was so excited that I shopped them, too. It wasn’t a tragedy, but also not ideal.
Love this!
Over my years of shopping, I noticed if I’m sure about something I’ll order it right away. Whereas if I don’t reaaaally want it I’ll sit on it and end up not buying it
Will admit I love a good deal
Fantastic video as always, Hannah. Your distill common experience down into easy to follow and logical algorithms that the rest of us can reference while shopping!
A few months ago I found myself interested in a product. I signed up for notifications. I figured if they offered a sale I might take advantage. Beginning at midnight on Thanksgiving they sent no less than a dozen texts and emails. I unsubscribed. Fomo has been my biggest hurdle with Black Friday and I finally feel like I'm gradually getting through it. I keep a few companies' updates on for specific items I'd like at some point, but no more just for its own sake, and it feels good.
Every single point you brought up is so relevant to me!! Thanks for bringing some sense to me during this time of year.
Haven't watched yet but I wanted to say thank you for continuing to make this kind of content! You have helped me so much in changing my buying habits, and this Black Friday I allowed myself to buy 5 pieces of makeup and I only bought 4! And I have no desire to buy anything else at this moment.
Your content is invaluable for a lot of people and I know I'm not alone in appreciating the work you do here in the beauty space ❤️
I somehow missed this!? 🥺
I'm super proud of myself during this bf frenzy tbh. Not only have I only broken my nobuy from end of august ONCE but I managed to place just three very small orders from three different brands, of items that have been on my wishlist. I ended up spending a total of $100 (across three indie brands) which is in stark contrast to previous years. 🤗🙌
I participated in black friday this year for the first time in a while, and felt a little weird about it (because it's usually a bit of a point of pride for me to NOT get involved) - but, after watching this video, I'm proud to say I was generally following the philosophies you outlined here :) I bought 2 things I'd been needing and was glad to save money on (a vacuum and a new phone case), and a new watch I'd been thinking about for over a year but hadn't felt ready to pull the trigger on until it fit into my budget better (which, thanks to a sale, it did!). I really enjoy the way you distilled these 2 great questions to ask oneself during The Frenzy; they'll definitely help me be more mindful in the future!
I know this wasn’t the point of the video, but I also ordered linens sheets from Parachute home after watching this! 😆 but to the actual point - I sat on it for three days, asked myself all the questions (linen bedding has been on our list for awhile), and decided not to partake in any other Black Friday deals. Thank you once again for another amazing resource!
Oh yeah.. helpful!
In California we pay 10% sales tax, so 20%.. or even 30% isn’t really that deep of a sale..
I tend to stalk items, so if they go on sale I’ve already done some research..
I also stalk up on skincare during Black Friday or Cyber Monday. One thing I have cut WAY down on is
Impulse purchasing. I don’t feel like I’m missing out at all.
This was brilliant. I'd been thinking about some of those behaviors in myself but the way u put it made it all click. Thank you for this. Excellent job.
I watched you on TFD months ago and what you said really resonated with me. I watched this and yesterday it stopped me in my steps from buying something I truly didn’t want. I was looking for something to want. Turns out I just wanted to look at things and I was able to appreciate it without buying it.
I just wish I saw this video during black friday and not after 😂 oopsie! Luckily the most expensive thing I bought is refundable. However, I still feel shame about it even though it perhaps would be an investment in my hobby. I just don’t like seeing my balance go under a certain amount. (Even though that amount I have left is more than liveable, perhaps 5 months of rent lol)
Also, as an artist, i find that when i feel disatisfied with my art i start buying clothes or stuff. It’s like what you said. Idk, you’re just so spot on! Thank you
I am so grateful for you. Your ability to put words to the consumer mindset and break it down into digestible bits of relatable content...I'm just in awwhhh.
This year's sale got me so bad...I'm very happy with everything that I purchased and got some things I have been wanting for a while at insane discounts, but oh man did I buy more than I thought I would.... Will definitely be using this advice for next year and for any time there's a huge sale!
So wise! I notice you have a Tara Brach playlist. I love how this is applying her teaching around trance. I had never connected that fomo, find something you like feeling as being in trance. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I love this type of video from you. Please make more.
My rule of thumb for Black Friday, or any big "savings event" is that I only purchase items that have been on my wish list for over 6 months. And even then, I'm not buying everything on my wish list, only those couple items that I've reeaaalllly been patiently waiting for to buy. Splurge purchases have led to nothing but regret, because it wasn't something I actually needed or wanted - it was something that seemed like a "good deal" at the time. But "good deals" are only good deals if you would have bought that item at full price. A good deal isn't something that you buy on sale that you never had any intention of purchasing to begin with - that's just wasted money.
NOW. That being said. Yes, I did just buy a Pat McGrath lipstick for $17 (Canadian site) because free shipping and it's something I would never ever buy unless it was heavily discounted.
This is such a helpful video, Hannah, thank you! I had a couple of items in my shopping basket for a couple of days now, waiting for me to decide if I really wanted them or if I would just be buying them because of the sale. I was having a hard time with it, but your questions have helped me to figure it out. (Spoiler alert: I deleted most of them from my shopping basket right after watching this video.)
Love this kind of content, especially from you! Unlike the last black Friday before meeting you(virtually) I bought a replacement for my favorite eye primer since I only had one I hated left and a replacement liquid eyeliner 'cause I opened the last fresh one last month and I tend to run one of them dry every 3-4 months. I may buy a replacement blush but most likely won't cause I'm a new mom, I still have some of it left and plenty other blushes.
Plus...other sales will come again. If I don't buy it now I'll buy it in a few months, and if I wait till the next black Friday nothing will change in my life. I know I will buy a fresh one eventually but the power of personally controlling when that will happen is freeing
I'm going to make a list today with Christmas gifts and a few things for myself to buy tomorrow. I hope that will keep me from spending the entire day on scrolling through sale sections tomorrow
I never shop sales. And I get so sick of everyone and their brother pitching sales to me in the "beauty space" that I simply tune them out.
I made a list of 3 shops where I have wanted items but wasn’t willing to pay full price, I even gave myself a discount minimum. For example I wanted some desk items from muni and said if it was 30% or more I would get them. While I did see a many other emails come through I resisted and stuck to my list. So I didn’t buy anything I wasn’t already eyeing for months and I didn’t get anything outside my budget. I did at one point feel all the trance items you mentioned but managed to click away ❤
and I thought I had total control on my shopping....... so much to learn. I did just get 19 pairs of primaloft level 7 pants but they will go to people who are homeless :) christmas shopping done!
I find I get better discounts outside of Black Friday tbh. I have a cart with Xmas presents that I need to buy anyway. The store announced its “Black Friday discounts”. The items I wanted were discounted to…..the same price as before.😂😂😂
Ooh thank you for this - the babaa sale starts tomorrow and I’m literally feeling queasy trying to decide whether or not to get something and what to get. How crazy, feeling nauseated over a sweater - these events make me feel nutso and I just need to opt out before i truly go bananas. But i still might buy a sweater 🫣
Hmmm the most perfect birthday gift for myself. I will line one whole drawer in cedar just to store it….I think it will need one for itself. I know which one I want….
@@marylhere ooh which one? I still can’t choose - but love the cotton no 18 jumpers
My birthday is next month and BF is always the starting point for treat yourself behavior. I’m very disciplined and thoughtful about my purchases during the rest of the year, but there’s just something about this season that makes me throw caution to the wind. Just a few hours ago I literally stopped myself before hitting the purchase button on a Celine handbag I found a deliciously good deal on via eBay. I was In the Trance! (I might still purchase but gonna give it a few days, and if it’s gone by then, welp it’s gone.)
One of the best Sale behaviour videos you have made. Thank you xx
So many blessings in 2023. Congratulations! I’m trying to preorder, but it seems the site is down from too much traffic. That is a good sign!!!
a little too late to stop me spending a tenner in the steam sale but the perfect time to stop me getting distracted when looking for undercrackers this weekend as i'm sure every clothing site will be enticing me to buy tops i'll never wear instead