Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party...
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- Toxic Parents Who Kicked Me Out at 18 and Cut Me Off, Showed Up at My Son's Birthday Party to Beg for Money and Later Tried to Take Me to Court for $50k I Never Stole.
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Inviting your estranged parents over to your house for your kid’s birthday is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard…
Exactly
Exactly.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
In my opinion, he should apologize to the guests, in the same tone he told the story at the party. He should be apologetic that it was on that event, but not about what he said, and they should know it
Wife is litterly naive. She try to invalidate his feelings and the fact the she told the op that he's "self-invovled." SHE should be the one apologizing, shes sheltered.
No she is being obtuse. Intentionally pretending she doesn't understand. She is toxic
As I recall she DID apologize, on a couple of different levels, and then was 100% behind him when the lawsuit came up.
Uncle Kevin is the type of relative all should strive to be
Uncle Kevin is the best relative ever, may he rest in peace
He's the MVP in the story
Uncle Kevin was the definition of uncle:
Brilliant and kind
It's not really your fault it's your parents fault for kicking you out and accusing you for stealing the money that you didn't steal in the first place they should pay for their actions and go to jail.
Honestly…knowing how these awful people treated Op, just wanting him to INVITE them is bad enough, but the gf actually thinking he should APOLOGIZE for how he acted is just…mindboggling.
Yes its good she saw sense but..still.
I mean he explained his traumatics life story at a 3 year olds birthday party 😂
@@Afrogirrl you didn't have to use that emoji it's giving off the wrong tone
@@ViyonaSankheno no, he’s trying to be condescending and is giving off exactly that tone, just sad he’s gone straight to being condescending rather than trying to explain his thoughts
She’s loco
Wasn't the time nor place. He dragged those guests into his family drama.
I'm absolutely pissed at the fact, that she realized she overreacted, but instead of taking action, accepting responsibility, opening up or literally doing ANYTHING she was ready to die on the hill she, by her own admission, climbed unjustly...
OPs parents are trash and I'm glad everyone will see it.
I was good that they talked but if her anger cooled off she realised her mistake as well she still waited for him to initiate that apology 🤔
Op's wife was very self-involved in this whole situation even to the point of ignoring op's explaining his abusers were trying to abuse him again. 15/100 wife!
These people are scummy as hell
1. They kick their own kid out on their birthday then again they were 18 so it’s legal
2.As soon as they show up they demand money for stuff they don’t deserve
3.they sued their own kid for something that never even happened
His fake azz friends are no better either.
yeah it's easy to be as scummy as these people are when they're entirely fictional
wow, you listened to it, congratulations
@@muhrichard8634fictional? Honestly that’s believable
@@kimberlydanbom4937 Yeah this one is pretty tame compared to other stories and even my own experience. That reply must live a very sheltered life.
The wife sucks imo she’s not respecting boundaries
ya op should have not forgiven her so easy
🎯💯
Op shouldve traveled back to the 1950s to teach her a lesson
@@shortangel333damn right
@@shortangel333 what the fuck is wrong with you
Goes to show that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... unless the tree yeets it a few states away
I choked on my drink at the second part, thank you, that made my day XDD
@@renadu30 glad it brought you some joy.
😂😂😂
That’s brilliant 😂😂
So true
Thank God i have good parents ❤️
Lucky you. Mine sucks.
Lucky you. My dad cared more about his girlfriend (also his cousin which I won’t get into) more than his own children and my mother loves her religion and faith more than her own daughter’s.
@@TDArulesclub4 Mormon or Evangelical? Also, sorry for your situation. Truly saddening
God people can't just keep their bad parents away or tell their SO at the start of the relationship, "hey I have a bad relationship with my parents. Do not talk nor bring them up, this is a divorce-able thing and will result in loss of trust if you do, please respect this if you wish to continue this relationship"
Sometimes It’s not as simple as one may think. He probably didn’t think he’d ever hear from his parents again; what would the point be?
He had told her at least that they kicked him out with no support and they didn’t talk. He was also the one to bring it up with her that they contacted him. She just strongly encouraged it and was biased in her decisions.
Yes some spouses will go out of their way to contact their spouse’s estranged parents but this story is not that.
His wife is someone who has always had people at her birthday, and always has plans on her birthday. Maybe one day, she will get a birthday that nobody shows up, nobody plans anything big, and it's generally just forgotten about, then we can see if she overreacts.
They came to their sences when they found out you were rich.
These stories never make sense. My parents hated me and I hated them and they through me out but one email after a decade and I let them in. Then you have the wife, knew what she did was out of bounds but couldn't bring herself to speak or apologize without him doing it first. He either has horrible taste in people or the AI is just getting ridiculous.
Probably a fake story
They called you every name in the book but they can't call you a liar.
now this is just me but i dont think op should have forgiven the wife so easily form the sounds on it she was forcing op to bond with his family so she can have a family i get her past but trying to Make the op bond with people that ruined his life is not the way
Spot on. Absolutely flabbergasted how this story/comments are completely ignoring wifey's actions. That cold azz'd blanking of op would have drawn a sit-down about immediate separation, without therapy, at the very least
I think she should go to therapy. I don’t think the marriage is doomed or that this calls for divorce since she acknowledged she was wrong though
@cloudydays6374 she acknowledged. AFTER...forcing the situation...blanking op for a week...arguing/fighting with op...you are way more forgiving than me. Therapy at very minimum, and that would not guarantee continuation of the relationship
@@chrismccloskey2502 true
it’s almost like. that’s how arguments work. you acknowledge your mistakes. they’re going to therapy, that’s actually not the minimum. the minimum is saying sorry. actively going to couples consuming is important. none of yall ever get married please because you couldn’t handle it
Nta sever ties with the parents frfr, they are some money leeching back stabber, and Ops wife need to get a grip and op doesn't need to Apologize to his wife, either she gets a grip or get a divorce
feel really sad you jump straight to divorce instead of communication after a fight. never get married.
Do the parents honestly expect their son to lend them money after they kicked him out???
Wife is too sheltered, she dont know better, she just acts like a child. So immature
Once u bring them in they will never leave
Like bed bugs
The wife putting HER feelings about how she feels about HER relationship with HER parents ahead of his feelings, emotionally forcing him to make up with 10 yr estranged parents is a very not ok situation. The fact that she was so stubborn as to not apologize after 6 days, even though it only took 2 for her to realize her wrong doings makes me think that if he said no and stuck to it that she wouldve done the stupid thing of inviting them herself without his knowledge which wouldve nuked the marriage.
8:35 the only birthday i remember from.my childhood was my 7th and that was because i didnt get a party that year (money was tight) and all i got was a pair of shoes i say this because getting mad at someone "ruining" a childs birthday is just stupid while yes kids have fun in that moment they ultimately forget the wife needs to be upset that two parasites just tried to force their way into her family's life
I think he should leave the wife.She was literally invalidating his feelings.He deserves better.
Fight and feud is normal in Married life. There is a kid in the house. They were mature enough not to do it in front of the kid.
If your wife is gonna be like that, take full custody of your son and divorce her
wholesome uncle i aspire to be
When trying to 'reconcile' or have a meeting with a long lost relative/friend, don't invite them to a party. Meet them privately where you can hash everything out in the open and not be distracted by other things happening or ruin the event they've attended.
Such a sheltered little wife. So naive.
She wants him to apologize for shattering the brief guise of them all being one big happy family, not the speech
Saying she spazzed out is an even worse idea.
You should have never allowed them in your house or life ever!! They used you then and now they want to use you again.
Someone let me know when the divorce update drops.
The fact they expected to get away with such a lie and lawsuit just to get the money they wanted shows how greedy, stupid, entitled and vile they are. They didn't change at all. If anything they got worse in order to be dumb to lie for a lawsuit, let alone escalate things to get what they wanted after op denied them. I'm not surprised that they blocked op after getting op to take down the post that exposed them to everyone.
Hiw are husband and wife going to ignore each other over this?!
Uncle Kevin is the epitome of a Gigachnad
OP got that scorched earth policy
I'm I the only one not in therapy? Ironically I need it more than most.
Divorce her
You don’t invite people to try to reconnect to a big event.
yeah, just divorce the wife
How is he self-involved when its HIS parents?
NTA. Your wife literally took those toxic pieces of craps side. You did nothing wrong.
The parents are horrible people for treating OP like garbage. Also I wouldn't trust the wife after she completely disregarded OP's feelings and invalidated his experience with his parents
Tbf Op should have discussed the stunt he was about to pull with his wife.
@@DukerGamerzAgreed
I wouldn't even insult the wife , because the wife too is hurt so ... Yeah ... The only real issue is the parents and the family
I’d have a SERIOUS problem with my wife if she failed to back me like OP’s wife did. I can sort of understand her not liking OP using their son’s birthday to deliver his speech. I was horrified that their first meeting in 10 years was at OP’s son’s birthday. Both of these decisions were idiotic. So OP could have apologized to HER, but no one else.
An eccentric uncle with a heart of gold was what Kevin was. I think the inheritance has a lot to do with the family situation, and that is something I hope the OP investigates. The parents still are bad news and have issues.
No I wouldn't apologize. If you do it makes something that's not a problem into a huge problem
like the song....lalalalallaaaaa 'you can't always get what you waaaant'
try listening these stories with "red sun in the sky-lofi" on loop
NTA… it’s a shame that not only do you have AH parents but your wife is an AH who doesn’t support you or have your back. she’s a horrible excuse for a wife. i’m so sorry OP, it’s a shame you ended up marrying someone just as bad as the abusive parents you had.
These are the parents from Joe Dirt 🤦
That's really selfish of the wife to get mad at him over that. I mean you cannot ever Force somebody to reconcile with people who were horrible to them, I get it her grandparents were nice but that no way in hell means that every set of grandparents is going to be like hers, her logic is ridiculous.
What's good with having horrible people like that back in the family? And just for a 'complete family', its all lies. Family is what you make of it, not looks.
It’s kind of selfish for the wife to expect Op not to shame his parents after SHE invited them when Op didn’t want them at his party.
It paints a clear picture that the wife doesn’t care about past trauma and only cares about letting bygones be bygones, no matter how fake or estranged the relationship is.
I know I've watched too much of these when the background minecraft video feels familiar now
Saaamee 😂😂😂
It is understable how you reacted emotionally. You are a humanbeing. Next time wait for her to calm down and explain her calmly. Write everything before to make sure not to forget what you want to say.
You did great. Good luck
So OP's wife manipulated OP into inviting his shitty parents, then invalidated OP's feelings by freaking out on OP over a gentle roasting of his parents since they were being scumbags, gets offended when he accurately called her out for being self-involved, and then she wasnt even mature enough to stop ignoring him even though she was clearly in the wrong (and she clearly knew it).
OP, are you sure you want to be married to someone like that?
Divorce strait away
This OP and his wife (when they have the time), should consider 'adopting' grandparents for their son. There are a lot of lonely elderly people out there who would love to be close with a family- I know this from experience. I grew up with an additional 'adopted' grandmother, who was a childless, widowed neighbor and we all absolutely loved her.
Why people invite estranged family members on birthdays, weddings , holidays etc and in their own home is beyond me.
The OP of this story should have just told them to kick rocks as well as "you should have thought about wanting to know your grandkids before you threw me out like used cat litter ten years ago." Situation averted.
OP should have discussed this stunt with his wife
I can understand your wife being embarrassed about everyone else being dragged into it, even if they seemed to be laughing, they could've been just being polite. But her demanding you apologize to your parents is an absolute bitch move on her part.
They don't deserve an apology at all after what they did, and your wife demanding you apologize to them after everything is a massive red flag.
why oh why did you try to get in contact with those toxic parents , you understand if you had stayed NC this all my never had happen , hope you learn your lesson, once arseholes always arseholes
tell wifey-poo she can be a single mommy in a few months. wifey-poo is one of these people with their heads up 'sacred famblee' butt so far they can't see the truth. I do think perhaps the party wasn't the time for it.
wtf 5 days without talking about the issue, that woman is terrible.
I understand his parents are garbage, but he used his own son's birthday to involve complete strangers in his drama with his parents. That makes him the ahole. I would have been so uncomfortable if someone did that to me but would have laughed at it to cover that too at the time. He needs to deal with his parents another time. His wife is completely right to be mad. He owes her an apology and some therapy as well.
Dude, inviting your estranged parents was your first mistake. Also, your wife was really siding with them in the beginning and thought you owed them an apology for telling everyone that they kicked you out when you turned 18. At least she understands now. Also, your parents really tried suing you? How dum or they? At least your told everyone in your family how they turned their backs on you when you needed them and now they are trying to get on your good side because of your money and job.
First mistake was allowing the parents back into your life. Wouldn't be in this situation if you had blocked them first.
*DIVORCE THE WIFE!!!*
story 1: divorce the ex-wife....deal with the child support...but at least this will give op peace...
You think every relationship is perfect and all couples that disagree with each other should separate? Hope you never get married and if you are I hope you get divorced.
Sad you jump to divorce instead of talking it out. I will give you a quick advice, Never get married.
Bro liked his own comment.
0:48 wtf would OP use the sons party to reconnect with the parents why would that make sense to them 🤨 I haven’t gotten through the whole story but whatever happened at the party is on OP
If your relationship consists of watching Netflix a couple nights a week between therapy sessions, get the f*** out of it.
Why did this fool invited his parents? Hahaha.
*OP's wife insisted !!!*
@@aleksandarvil5718no i think OP knew after everything that it was stupid inviting his parents and blamed his wife
@@AfrogirrlYou did not listen through the whole thing, 12:04 - 12:18 OP's wife stated that she was trying to nonverbally convince OP to invite parents.
And im pretty sure OP knew before everything that inviting his parents over was stupid since at 3:54 he thought the messages his parents sent were half hearted and almost ignored them
He was not a fool for doing that, he was trying to be considerate towards his wife's feelings cause she wanted a happy extended family since her parents and grandparents past away
The problem was OP's lack of communication that led to this. (12:56)
@@SharockoRAZR oh and OP has no backbone even if she was “non verbally” convincing him?
Somehow reddit seems to be a mean marketing machine for therapy and couples counceling. 90% of the stories mention that. It's like "Big Psycho" is sponsoring them 😅
Having a happy family is not all it's Crack up to be.
The Wife is the biggest AH.
SHE wanted the parents there even after knowing what they did to OP
SHE is the only one offended by OP standing up for himself
SHE is the self involved one
The Wife is a big ass baby 🙄😒
Kevin is his second cousin, not his uncle.
Don't ever let a woman tell you that you have to apologize to anyone for anything
Why do ppl go back to parent's like them once you cut them off should be for ever and your wife is really manipulative and playing the victim red flag.
I agree that uncle kelvin is the goat
why did op let the parents withdraw the case? he could have disproved it, make a counter case and buried his parents in so much debt they would wish they either treated you nicely or kept her legs
You know this probably would’ve all been solved the beginning like if the parents gave you some sort of idea on what’s happening and can actually plan that
heres my personal standing, the guy was pissed because his parents treated him like shit, his wife wanted him to reconcile with his parents, possibly so that way their child can atleast see one set of grandparents, and he kinda boiled over at his own sons party on his parents because they wanted money from him. i think OP is ***kind of*** an asshole here for the main purpose of not finding better timing, and for calling his wife self absorbed, when he was doing exactly that by making a long speech at his sons birthday party that was mostly about himself. but for anything involving OP's parents directly, nah, nta
An uncle in Utah? This seems like they finna escape Amish.
I hope Op kept in contact with uncle.
Uh, the uncle kinda died, so unless OP can speak to the dead, he won't be in contact with the uncle.
@@TheAwkwardGamer uh he lived years before he died and after OP moved out. I know it’s very hard for you to realize that life does continue when you aren’t there. The people you know don’t just sit on their hands when you leave until you come back.
@@user-tq5ff4ck1k I know, but the way you were phrasing it sounded like "I hope OP still keeps in contact". My bad for being unable to read the minds of commenters.
@@TheAwkwardGamer I said kept. Which is past tense of keep. Which means something done in the past.
What is wrong with you! You know they hate you & you let them come to your son's B Day. You did this All to your self.
Op's wife pretty much forced him to
is this even real?
You told your wife that she overreacted and she AGREED?
Marry her again!
The wife sounds rather self-centered because her reaction immediately was "you humiliated your parents for no reason" and then hears the reason and goes "it does not matter why", i think she cannot accept herself being in the wrong about why she's upset and then was too stubborn to come into terms with it.
Ur grown she is not ur mom so she can't make u apologize for anything
I might be making an extreme statement but if your spouse doesn’t have your back when you’re not in the wrong, that’s grounds for divorce
TBH I think I would have left the wife at that point.
The wife was tweaking too
Story was believable until the resolution. "and then I posted about it on facebook and sure, I shit talk most of my family and later they're going to side with my parents, but my parents go so embarrassed that they agreed to drop the 50,000 dollar lawsuit entirely."
Story 1 here what OP should've done if you want my toxic money grubbing parents fine lets separate our finances and you give them money from yours because I fucking won't end of story.
Divorce your wife
Yeah wife’s is self involved, I don’t want to say divorce but I can see this happening later in your life
Wife sounds like an AH as well as the parents.
Your wife is being a witch with a capital b and your feelings matter just as much as anyone so tell her to back off