In my opinion, he should apologize to the guests, in the same tone he told the story at the party. He should be apologetic that it was on that event, but not about what he said, and they should know it
Wife is litterly naive. She try to invalidate his feelings and the fact the she told the op that he's "self-invovled." SHE should be the one apologizing, shes sheltered.
@@19floyed you don’t do all that at your 3 year olds birthday party. A kids party should be about the kid he could’ve set them to the side after the kid went to bed. He’s not wrong for how he feels but nor is the wife. It’s not like she doesn’t love him it’s a disagreement. Reddit has everything thinking we can’t take upon our selves to have accountability, while also not invalidating how we feel. Being justified with your emotions does not always justify actions. That’s both his and his wife’s home. So him choosing to do that in front of everyone on his 3 year olds birthday is a reflection not only on him, but on his wife as well. He his right to feel that way towards his parents and I’m pretty sure the wife( because he did say) has and understanding as well. Now he’s accusing her of not understanding when she has valid reasons to be upset. He had an emotional response which I completely understand to her voicing her feelings. Made him feel invalidated. But you can’t not expect your wife you just understand( even tho it’s stated that she does understand) if you as an man and husband didn’t think about your family (wife and child) before doing that. Communication would’ve probably dissolved all of this.
My uncle Kevin was super nice, unlike the rest of my aunts and uncles. I haven't seen him in 10 years, though, because he married my dad's sister, and they have a terrible relationship. He was going through cancer treatment last time i saw him, so he might have passed now 😢
It's not really your fault it's your parents fault for kicking you out and accusing you for stealing the money that you didn't steal in the first place they should pay for their actions and go to jail.
I'm absolutely pissed at the fact, that she realized she overreacted, but instead of taking action, accepting responsibility, opening up or literally doing ANYTHING she was ready to die on the hill she, by her own admission, climbed unjustly... OPs parents are trash and I'm glad everyone will see it.
Honestly…knowing how these awful people treated Op, just wanting him to INVITE them is bad enough, but the gf actually thinking he should APOLOGIZE for how he acted is just…mindboggling. Yes its good she saw sense but..still.
@@ViyonaSankheno no, he’s trying to be condescending and is giving off exactly that tone, just sad he’s gone straight to being condescending rather than trying to explain his thoughts
Op's wife was very self-involved in this whole situation even to the point of ignoring op's explaining his abusers were trying to abuse him again. 15/100 wife!
These people are scummy as hell 1. They kick their own kid out on their birthday then again they were 18 so it’s legal 2.As soon as they show up they demand money for stuff they don’t deserve 3.they sued their own kid for something that never even happened
The wife is a real piece of work. Her emotions were not important in that moment, and she should have realized that. What mattered was the way the actual victim of parental neglect felt. She pressured her husband to play nice with his abusers and then acted like her feelings on the matter were more than the feeling of the actual victim. Then she decided to do serious damage to the relationship when he stood up for himself. He shouldn't have apologized at all. Instead he should have ordered her to immediately apologize to him, or sign divorce papers. There is no way I would remain married to somebody who would put me through that then have the nerve to treat me like the badguy.
The wife missing out on having her bio parents to natural causes and raised by her grandparents is NOT THE SAME as OP having been TOLERATED all his life then KICKED OUT soon as it was legal. She still had people who loved and raised her. OP had NO ONE, and his own parents made clear they HATED him. If anyone's selfish, besides OPs paerents, its her and her want for the "picture perfect" life instead of being happy with the present and ended up inviting drama when she blatantly ignored the warning of her husband who knew these people she DID NOT. And she's to be trusted to lead their son correctly after stewing for days in the guest room when she knew she was wrong instead of taking accountability till later?? Nah
Dude, she doesn't love you. Who can go that long not speaking with their spouse if they really love them? Not only that, she was supposed to be on his side, but instead, she was letting her emotions, the fact that she no longer has any of her other family, overshadow her bring a good wife. I feel so bad for OP😢😢😢. OP really deserved better, it shouldn't have took her that long to apologize 😂
God people can't just keep their bad parents away or tell their SO at the start of the relationship, "hey I have a bad relationship with my parents. Do not talk nor bring them up, this is a divorce-able thing and will result in loss of trust if you do, please respect this if you wish to continue this relationship"
He had told her at least that they kicked him out with no support and they didn’t talk. He was also the one to bring it up with her that they contacted him. She just strongly encouraged it and was biased in her decisions. Yes some spouses will go out of their way to contact their spouse’s estranged parents but this story is not that.
That's a slippery slope you are on. The SO could easily claim that you making such demands in that particular way. Threatening divorce just for bringing something up. Is controlling and could argue verbal abuse.
His wife is someone who has always had people at her birthday, and always has plans on her birthday. Maybe one day, she will get a birthday that nobody shows up, nobody plans anything big, and it's generally just forgotten about, then we can see if she overreacts.
I gotta love the hypocrisy of the parents… and in come the pearl clutching relatives… if these people/relatives are so concerned about this then why don’t they do it?!
When trying to 'reconcile' or have a meeting with a long lost relative/friend, don't invite them to a party. Meet them privately where you can hash everything out in the open and not be distracted by other things happening or ruin the event they've attended.
I'm honestly more mad at OP's wife than his parents. She fully understood where OP was coming from, she just unilaterally decided that her need for do-over parents superceded the abuse her husband went through.
Nahh, wife saying he needs to apologise to parents. Red flag, she doesn't think his trauma is worth while and is invalidating it. She snaps at him but he gives same energy back and he's the bad guy. Rocky roads there
The wife putting HER feelings about how she feels about HER relationship with HER parents ahead of his feelings, emotionally forcing him to make up with 10 yr estranged parents is a very not ok situation. The fact that she was so stubborn as to not apologize after 6 days, even though it only took 2 for her to realize her wrong doings makes me think that if he said no and stuck to it that she wouldve done the stupid thing of inviting them herself without his knowledge which wouldve nuked the marriage.
Lucky you. My dad cared more about his girlfriend (also his cousin which I won’t get into) more than his own children and my mother loves her religion and faith more than her own daughter’s.
These stories never make sense. My parents hated me and I hated them and they through me out but one email after a decade and I let them in. Then you have the wife, knew what she did was out of bounds but couldn't bring herself to speak or apologize without him doing it first. He either has horrible taste in people or the AI is just getting ridiculous.
The wife isn't just endangering the husband by pressuring him to get sucked back in to his abuser's orbit to be used by them, and also endangering herself and their child but, whatever the age of the survivor, pressuring any victim to spend time with their abusers is Abuse.
The parents are horrible people for treating OP like garbage. Also I wouldn't trust the wife after she completely disregarded OP's feelings and invalidated his experience with his parents
Hell no .....she is totally overreacting b/c of her own sit. She should understand your feelings if she's on the same page as sticking to you for better or for worse.
Nta sever ties with the parents frfr, they are some money leeching back stabber, and Ops wife need to get a grip and op doesn't need to Apologize to his wife, either she gets a grip or get a divorce
Anyone that expects you to apologise to abusive people are living in a delusion and it changes people view of them. The wife is pathetically desperate for a so called family.
now this is just me but i dont think op should have forgiven the wife so easily form the sounds on it she was forcing op to bond with his family so she can have a family i get her past but trying to Make the op bond with people that ruined his life is not the way
Spot on. Absolutely flabbergasted how this story/comments are completely ignoring wifey's actions. That cold azz'd blanking of op would have drawn a sit-down about immediate separation, without therapy, at the very least
@cloudydays6374 she acknowledged. AFTER...forcing the situation...blanking op for a week...arguing/fighting with op...you are way more forgiving than me. Therapy at very minimum, and that would not guarantee continuation of the relationship
it’s almost like. that’s how arguments work. you acknowledge your mistakes. they’re going to therapy, that’s actually not the minimum. the minimum is saying sorry. actively going to couples consuming is important. none of yall ever get married please because you couldn’t handle it
This OP and his wife (when they have the time), should consider 'adopting' grandparents for their son. There are a lot of lonely elderly people out there who would love to be close with a family- I know this from experience. I grew up with an additional 'adopted' grandmother, who was a childless, widowed neighbor and we all absolutely loved her.
My mom did something similar with me. She was still very close to the parents of an ex boyfriend she had overseas. His stepfather was an immigrant from our country and he loved the idea of having a grandchild that could call him grandpa in his native tongue and have that connection with his culture of origin. So he became my long-distance grandpa. I loved him dearly.
8:35 the only birthday i remember from.my childhood was my 7th and that was because i didnt get a party that year (money was tight) and all i got was a pair of shoes i say this because getting mad at someone "ruining" a childs birthday is just stupid while yes kids have fun in that moment they ultimately forget the wife needs to be upset that two parasites just tried to force their way into her family's life
It's not just about the kids. It's also about the guests. She will remember how her husband trauma dumped on a whole bunch of ppl on what was supposed to be a happy celebration. Making everyone uncomfortable. It'll be know as the trauma dump party rather than a birthday party.
I remember plenty of childhood birthdays as someone with the misfortune of being born on XMAS eve. I had so many birthdays where I didn't had a party because no one showed up, I was lucky if even one friend would make it but even I don't remember the ones from when I was 3 because the part of our brains storing memories isn't fully developped yet until you are 7. So yeah, the wife is fucking stupid.
The wife is a bad wife. She was to self interested to relise what she was doing to OP, and OP had a ton of patients to deal with this. On top of that; when she calmed down from being angry, she waited for OP to come to her about it? My girl! You overlooked your in-law's abuse of OP! That's a very crapy thing! Put on your big girl pants and be an adult!
I have a seriously hard time believing that the wife is mad at him after learning that they literally came to ask for money. Nothing here sounds like normal human reactions
NTA… it’s a shame that not only do you have AH parents but your wife is an AH who doesn’t support you or have your back. she’s a horrible excuse for a wife. i’m so sorry OP, it’s a shame you ended up marrying someone just as bad as the abusive parents you had.
The fact they expected to get away with such a lie and lawsuit just to get the money they wanted shows how greedy, stupid, entitled and vile they are. They didn't change at all. If anything they got worse in order to be dumb to lie for a lawsuit, let alone escalate things to get what they wanted after op denied them. I'm not surprised that they blocked op after getting op to take down the post that exposed them to everyone.
@@AfrogirrlYou did not listen through the whole thing, 12:04 - 12:18 OP's wife stated that she was trying to nonverbally convince OP to invite parents. And im pretty sure OP knew before everything that inviting his parents over was stupid since at 3:54 he thought the messages his parents sent were half hearted and almost ignored them
He was not a fool for doing that, he was trying to be considerate towards his wife's feelings cause she wanted a happy extended family since her parents and grandparents past away The problem was OP's lack of communication that led to this. (12:56)
An eccentric uncle with a heart of gold was what Kevin was. I think the inheritance has a lot to do with the family situation, and that is something I hope the OP investigates. The parents still are bad news and have issues.
Jeez what is it with parents kicking their kids out at 18????? They assume these kids already know what to do in life. I can't imagine doing that to my daughter. As a Filipino. We stick with our families longer. We're usually much more closer with our families too. No, we're not without our toxic family members. But at least most of us don't kick our kids out at 18. These shitty parents think they can come back and demand to be taken care of. Don't treat your kids like shit and then expect that of them. 😬😑🙄
8:41 yes I do think he’s the AH for this part and no one can change my mind. He was selfish about this part and you are crazy if you say otherwise. He was self involved and then insulted her
I’d have a SERIOUS problem with my wife if she failed to back me like OP’s wife did. I can sort of understand her not liking OP using their son’s birthday to deliver his speech. I was horrified that their first meeting in 10 years was at OP’s son’s birthday. Both of these decisions were idiotic. So OP could have apologized to HER, but no one else.
Wife: What's that? Husband: Ohhh nothing. Just a lawsuit from my estranged parents claiming I stole $50k before running away years ago. You know the same parents you want me to apologize! Poker Face :D Wife: ...............
The OP of this story should have just told them to kick rocks as well as "you should have thought about wanting to know your grandkids before you threw me out like used cat litter ten years ago." Situation averted.
That's really selfish of the wife to get mad at him over that. I mean you cannot ever Force somebody to reconcile with people who were horrible to them, I get it her grandparents were nice but that no way in hell means that every set of grandparents is going to be like hers, her logic is ridiculous. What's good with having horrible people like that back in the family? And just for a 'complete family', its all lies. Family is what you make of it, not looks.
My only question is like how do you know no one was uncomfortable if you never addressed it with anyone? Like not saying bro is wrong but if you’ve never even asked how can you be so sure
OP's wife is a disappointment. But besides that the lesson from this is to always go NC with toxic people. They destroy everything they touch including other people's relationships.
I would kept the post up and waited for a bit as they have no proof that you owed anything and if they did it would be forged and a skilled enough lawyer could pick apart things and you’d get an easy 50K
Why do ppl go back to parent's like them once you cut them off should be for ever and your wife is really manipulative and playing the victim red flag.
The Wife is the biggest AH. SHE wanted the parents there even after knowing what they did to OP SHE is the only one offended by OP standing up for himself SHE is the self involved one The Wife is a big ass baby 🙄😒
tell wifey-poo she can be a single mommy in a few months. wifey-poo is one of these people with their heads up 'sacred famblee' butt so far they can't see the truth. I do think perhaps the party wasn't the time for it.
@@TheAwkwardGamer uh he lived years before he died and after OP moved out. I know it’s very hard for you to realize that life does continue when you aren’t there. The people you know don’t just sit on their hands when you leave until you come back.
@@BeingMe-t6m I know, but the way you were phrasing it sounded like "I hope OP still keeps in contact". My bad for being unable to read the minds of commenters.
why did op let the parents withdraw the case? he could have disproved it, make a counter case and buried his parents in so much debt they would wish they either treated you nicely or kept her legs
Inviting your estranged parents over to your house for your kid’s birthday is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard…
Exactly
Exactly.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
In my opinion, he should apologize to the guests, in the same tone he told the story at the party. He should be apologetic that it was on that event, but not about what he said, and they should know it
@@RoundShadeswow talking makes me need to say sorry
@@RoundShadesthat’s what everyone agrees on but yea your 3 year olds birthday party ??? Dude come on
Wife is litterly naive. She try to invalidate his feelings and the fact the she told the op that he's "self-invovled." SHE should be the one apologizing, shes sheltered.
No she is being obtuse. Intentionally pretending she doesn't understand. She is toxic
As I recall she DID apologize, on a couple of different levels, and then was 100% behind him when the lawsuit came up.
@@caffeinedelusions By then it was too late, also she moved out the the marital bed, I would have sent her some paperwork after that
@@19floyed you don’t do all that at your 3 year olds birthday party. A kids party should be about the kid he could’ve set them to the side after the kid went to bed. He’s not wrong for how he feels but nor is the wife. It’s not like she doesn’t love him it’s a disagreement. Reddit has everything thinking we can’t take upon our selves to have accountability, while also not invalidating how we feel. Being justified with your emotions does not always justify actions. That’s both his and his wife’s home. So him choosing to do that in front of everyone on his 3 year olds birthday is a reflection not only on him, but on his wife as well. He his right to feel that way towards his parents and I’m pretty sure the wife( because he did say) has and understanding as well. Now he’s accusing her of not understanding when she has valid reasons to be upset. He had an emotional response which I completely understand to her voicing her feelings. Made him feel invalidated. But you can’t not expect your wife you just understand( even tho it’s stated that she does understand) if you as an man and husband didn’t think about your family (wife and child) before doing that. Communication would’ve probably dissolved all of this.
@@19floyedwife beater behaviour.
Uncle Kevin is the type of relative all should strive to be
My uncle's name is Kevin 💀
Uncle Kevin is the best relative ever, may he rest in peace
He's the MVP in the story
Uncle Kevin was the definition of uncle:
Brilliant and kind
My uncle Kevin was super nice, unlike the rest of my aunts and uncles. I haven't seen him in 10 years, though, because he married my dad's sister, and they have a terrible relationship. He was going through cancer treatment last time i saw him, so he might have passed now 😢
@@Netherbead so your uncle married his sister!?
@@Xzudexx he's my uncle because he married my dad's sister. Him and my dad's sister aren't related
It's not really your fault it's your parents fault for kicking you out and accusing you for stealing the money that you didn't steal in the first place they should pay for their actions and go to jail.
I'm absolutely pissed at the fact, that she realized she overreacted, but instead of taking action, accepting responsibility, opening up or literally doing ANYTHING she was ready to die on the hill she, by her own admission, climbed unjustly...
OPs parents are trash and I'm glad everyone will see it.
Honestly…knowing how these awful people treated Op, just wanting him to INVITE them is bad enough, but the gf actually thinking he should APOLOGIZE for how he acted is just…mindboggling.
Yes its good she saw sense but..still.
I mean he explained his traumatics life story at a 3 year olds birthday party 😂
@@Afrogirrl you didn't have to use that emoji it's giving off the wrong tone
@@ViyonaSankheno no, he’s trying to be condescending and is giving off exactly that tone, just sad he’s gone straight to being condescending rather than trying to explain his thoughts
She’s loco
Wasn't the time nor place. He dragged those guests into his family drama.
Op's wife was very self-involved in this whole situation even to the point of ignoring op's explaining his abusers were trying to abuse him again. 15/100 wife!
15 is an overshot tbh
Op's wife is a major AH.
Wife is too sheltered, she dont know better, she just acts like a child. So immature
These people are scummy as hell
1. They kick their own kid out on their birthday then again they were 18 so it’s legal
2.As soon as they show up they demand money for stuff they don’t deserve
3.they sued their own kid for something that never even happened
His fake azz friends are no better either.
yeah it's easy to be as scummy as these people are when they're entirely fictional
wow, you listened to it, congratulations
@@muhrichard8634fictional? Honestly that’s believable
@@jacobdanbom7389 Yeah this one is pretty tame compared to other stories and even my own experience. That reply must live a very sheltered life.
I was good that they talked but if her anger cooled off she realised her mistake as well she still waited for him to initiate that apology 🤔
The wife is a real piece of work. Her emotions were not important in that moment, and she should have realized that. What mattered was the way the actual victim of parental neglect felt.
She pressured her husband to play nice with his abusers and then acted like her feelings on the matter were more than the feeling of the actual victim. Then she decided to do serious damage to the relationship when he stood up for himself.
He shouldn't have apologized at all. Instead he should have ordered her to immediately apologize to him, or sign divorce papers. There is no way I would remain married to somebody who would put me through that then have the nerve to treat me like the badguy.
Yep - she's as big an AH as his parents. She's no different. That poor guy.
Goes to show that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree... unless the tree yeets it a few states away
I choked on my drink at the second part, thank you, that made my day XDD
@@renadu30 glad it brought you some joy.
😂😂😂
That’s brilliant 😂😂
So true
The wife missing out on having her bio parents to natural causes and raised by her grandparents is NOT THE SAME as OP having been TOLERATED all his life then KICKED OUT soon as it was legal.
She still had people who loved and raised her. OP had NO ONE, and his own parents made clear they HATED him.
If anyone's selfish, besides OPs paerents, its her and her want for the "picture perfect" life instead of being happy with the present and ended up inviting drama when she blatantly ignored the warning of her husband who knew these people she DID NOT.
And she's to be trusted to lead their son correctly after stewing for days in the guest room when she knew she was wrong instead of taking accountability till later?? Nah
Dude, she doesn't love you. Who can go that long not speaking with their spouse if they really love them? Not only that, she was supposed to be on his side, but instead, she was letting her emotions, the fact that she no longer has any of her other family, overshadow her bring a good wife. I feel so bad for OP😢😢😢. OP really deserved better, it shouldn't have took her that long to apologize 😂
True.
God people can't just keep their bad parents away or tell their SO at the start of the relationship, "hey I have a bad relationship with my parents. Do not talk nor bring them up, this is a divorce-able thing and will result in loss of trust if you do, please respect this if you wish to continue this relationship"
Sometimes It’s not as simple as one may think. He probably didn’t think he’d ever hear from his parents again; what would the point be?
He had told her at least that they kicked him out with no support and they didn’t talk. He was also the one to bring it up with her that they contacted him. She just strongly encouraged it and was biased in her decisions.
Yes some spouses will go out of their way to contact their spouse’s estranged parents but this story is not that.
That's a slippery slope you are on. The SO could easily claim that you making such demands in that particular way. Threatening divorce just for bringing something up. Is controlling and could argue verbal abuse.
True. Words of Wisdom.
His wife is someone who has always had people at her birthday, and always has plans on her birthday. Maybe one day, she will get a birthday that nobody shows up, nobody plans anything big, and it's generally just forgotten about, then we can see if she overreacts.
I gotta love the hypocrisy of the parents… and in come the pearl clutching relatives… if these people/relatives are so concerned about this then why don’t they do it?!
Exactly.
When trying to 'reconcile' or have a meeting with a long lost relative/friend, don't invite them to a party. Meet them privately where you can hash everything out in the open and not be distracted by other things happening or ruin the event they've attended.
100 bucks that the wife has been talking to OP's parents behind his back
I'm honestly more mad at OP's wife than his parents. She fully understood where OP was coming from, she just unilaterally decided that her need for do-over parents superceded the abuse her husband went through.
True.
Nahh, wife saying he needs to apologise to parents. Red flag, she doesn't think his trauma is worth while and is invalidating it. She snaps at him but he gives same energy back and he's the bad guy. Rocky roads there
Exactly.
Yeah, When I was hearing that part, I just went "Damn, the Double Standards Are CRAZY"
They called you every name in the book but they can't call you a liar.
Why would you ever want to make amends with your parents if they wanted to kick you out at 18
If your wife is gonna be like that, take full custody of your son and divorce her
The wife putting HER feelings about how she feels about HER relationship with HER parents ahead of his feelings, emotionally forcing him to make up with 10 yr estranged parents is a very not ok situation. The fact that she was so stubborn as to not apologize after 6 days, even though it only took 2 for her to realize her wrong doings makes me think that if he said no and stuck to it that she wouldve done the stupid thing of inviting them herself without his knowledge which wouldve nuked the marriage.
Exactly. I'm glad so many people are calling his AH self-absorbed wife out.
They came to their sences when they found out you were rich.
Thank God i have good parents ❤️
Lucky you. Mine sucks.
Lucky you. My dad cared more about his girlfriend (also his cousin which I won’t get into) more than his own children and my mother loves her religion and faith more than her own daughter’s.
@@TDArulesclub4 Mormon or Evangelical? Also, sorry for your situation. Truly saddening
The wife sucks imo she’s not respecting boundaries
ya op should have not forgiven her so easy
🎯💯
Op shouldve traveled back to the 1950s to teach her a lesson
@@shortangel333damn right
@@shortangel333 what the fuck is wrong with you
These stories never make sense. My parents hated me and I hated them and they through me out but one email after a decade and I let them in. Then you have the wife, knew what she did was out of bounds but couldn't bring herself to speak or apologize without him doing it first. He either has horrible taste in people or the AI is just getting ridiculous.
Probably a fake story
Uncle Kevin is a rock star
wholesome uncle i aspire to be
The wife isn't just endangering the husband by pressuring him to get sucked back in to his abuser's orbit to be used by them, and also endangering herself and their child but, whatever the age of the survivor, pressuring any victim to spend time with their abusers is Abuse.
Exactly.
Lol, she can stay in the guest bedroom. 😅
The parents are horrible people for treating OP like garbage. Also I wouldn't trust the wife after she completely disregarded OP's feelings and invalidated his experience with his parents
Tbf Op should have discussed the stunt he was about to pull with his wife.
@@Duker_98Agreed
Once u bring them in they will never leave
Like bed bugs
Hell no .....she is totally overreacting b/c of her own sit. She should understand your feelings if she's on the same page as sticking to you for better or for worse.
Nta sever ties with the parents frfr, they are some money leeching back stabber, and Ops wife need to get a grip and op doesn't need to Apologize to his wife, either she gets a grip or get a divorce
feel really sad you jump straight to divorce instead of communication after a fight. never get married.
@@artemislove2941Marriage isn't worth the headaches you think they are.
Stay in your miserable marriage, if you ever get married
@@shantellakaladypersephone8671 you keep your loveless life to yourself. no one wants your misery.
Such a sheltered little wife. So naive.
She wants him to apologize for shattering the brief guise of them all being one big happy family, not the speech
Why people invite estranged family members on birthdays, weddings , holidays etc and in their own home is beyond me.
Do the parents honestly expect their son to lend them money after they kicked him out???
You should have never allowed them in your house or life ever!! They used you then and now they want to use you again.
Anyone that expects you to apologise to abusive people are living in a delusion and it changes people view of them. The wife is pathetically desperate for a so called family.
now this is just me but i dont think op should have forgiven the wife so easily form the sounds on it she was forcing op to bond with his family so she can have a family i get her past but trying to Make the op bond with people that ruined his life is not the way
Spot on. Absolutely flabbergasted how this story/comments are completely ignoring wifey's actions. That cold azz'd blanking of op would have drawn a sit-down about immediate separation, without therapy, at the very least
I think she should go to therapy. I don’t think the marriage is doomed or that this calls for divorce since she acknowledged she was wrong though
@cloudydays6374 she acknowledged. AFTER...forcing the situation...blanking op for a week...arguing/fighting with op...you are way more forgiving than me. Therapy at very minimum, and that would not guarantee continuation of the relationship
@@chrismccloskey2502 true
it’s almost like. that’s how arguments work. you acknowledge your mistakes. they’re going to therapy, that’s actually not the minimum. the minimum is saying sorry. actively going to couples consuming is important. none of yall ever get married please because you couldn’t handle it
Wife sounds like an AH as well as the parents.
This OP and his wife (when they have the time), should consider 'adopting' grandparents for their son. There are a lot of lonely elderly people out there who would love to be close with a family- I know this from experience. I grew up with an additional 'adopted' grandmother, who was a childless, widowed neighbor and we all absolutely loved her.
My mom did something similar with me. She was still very close to the parents of an ex boyfriend she had overseas. His stepfather was an immigrant from our country and he loved the idea of having a grandchild that could call him grandpa in his native tongue and have that connection with his culture of origin. So he became my long-distance grandpa. I loved him dearly.
When his parents were leaving the party he should’ve smiled and waved. That would’ve topped it
Uncle Kevin is the epitome of a Gigachnad
8:35 the only birthday i remember from.my childhood was my 7th and that was because i didnt get a party that year (money was tight) and all i got was a pair of shoes i say this because getting mad at someone "ruining" a childs birthday is just stupid while yes kids have fun in that moment they ultimately forget the wife needs to be upset that two parasites just tried to force their way into her family's life
It's not just about the kids. It's also about the guests. She will remember how her husband trauma dumped on a whole bunch of ppl on what was supposed to be a happy celebration. Making everyone uncomfortable. It'll be know as the trauma dump party rather than a birthday party.
I remember plenty of childhood birthdays as someone with the misfortune of being born on XMAS eve. I had so many birthdays where I didn't had a party because no one showed up, I was lucky if even one friend would make it but even I don't remember the ones from when I was 3 because the part of our brains storing memories isn't fully developped yet until you are 7. So yeah, the wife is fucking stupid.
Thank god the wife did not overreact 💀
Underrated comment frfr
wtf 5 days without talking about the issue, that woman is terrible.
The wife is a bad wife. She was to self interested to relise what she was doing to OP, and OP had a ton of patients to deal with this. On top of that; when she calmed down from being angry, she waited for OP to come to her about it? My girl! You overlooked your in-law's abuse of OP! That's a very crapy thing! Put on your big girl pants and be an adult!
I have a seriously hard time believing that the wife is mad at him after learning that they literally came to ask for money. Nothing here sounds like normal human reactions
You don’t invite people to try to reconnect to a big event.
NTA… it’s a shame that not only do you have AH parents but your wife is an AH who doesn’t support you or have your back. she’s a horrible excuse for a wife. i’m so sorry OP, it’s a shame you ended up marrying someone just as bad as the abusive parents you had.
The fact they expected to get away with such a lie and lawsuit just to get the money they wanted shows how greedy, stupid, entitled and vile they are. They didn't change at all. If anything they got worse in order to be dumb to lie for a lawsuit, let alone escalate things to get what they wanted after op denied them. I'm not surprised that they blocked op after getting op to take down the post that exposed them to everyone.
No I wouldn't apologize. If you do it makes something that's not a problem into a huge problem
First mistake was allowing the parents back into your life. Wouldn't be in this situation if you had blocked them first.
OP should have discussed this stunt with his wife
Saying she spazzed out is an even worse idea.
Wife needs to be divorced tbh she went days without talking to you WTF
Hey people need space sometimes.
His wife romanticized his parents because she barely know them. Really stupid thing but a lot of people tend to do.
Why did this fool invited his parents? Hahaha.
*OP's wife insisted !!!*
@@aleksandarvil5718no i think OP knew after everything that it was stupid inviting his parents and blamed his wife
@@AfrogirrlYou did not listen through the whole thing, 12:04 - 12:18 OP's wife stated that she was trying to nonverbally convince OP to invite parents.
And im pretty sure OP knew before everything that inviting his parents over was stupid since at 3:54 he thought the messages his parents sent were half hearted and almost ignored them
He was not a fool for doing that, he was trying to be considerate towards his wife's feelings cause she wanted a happy extended family since her parents and grandparents past away
The problem was OP's lack of communication that led to this. (12:56)
@@SharockoRAZR oh and OP has no backbone even if she was “non verbally” convincing him?
How is he self-involved when its HIS parents?
An eccentric uncle with a heart of gold was what Kevin was. I think the inheritance has a lot to do with the family situation, and that is something I hope the OP investigates. The parents still are bad news and have issues.
Jeez what is it with parents kicking their kids out at 18?????
They assume these kids already know what to do in life.
I can't imagine doing that to my daughter. As a Filipino. We stick with our families longer. We're usually much more closer with our families too. No, we're not without our toxic family members. But at least most of us don't kick our kids out at 18. These shitty parents think they can come back and demand to be taken care of. Don't treat your kids like shit and then expect that of them. 😬😑🙄
8:41 yes I do think he’s the AH for this part and no one can change my mind. He was selfish about this part and you are crazy if you say otherwise. He was self involved and then insulted her
I’d have a SERIOUS problem with my wife if she failed to back me like OP’s wife did. I can sort of understand her not liking OP using their son’s birthday to deliver his speech. I was horrified that their first meeting in 10 years was at OP’s son’s birthday. Both of these decisions were idiotic. So OP could have apologized to HER, but no one else.
"but before i could say anything Albin online is a free to play mmorpg"
Wife: What's that?
Husband: Ohhh nothing. Just a lawsuit from my estranged parents claiming I stole $50k before running away years ago. You know the same parents you want me to apologize! Poker Face :D
Wife: ...............
Such delusional entitled parents.
His parents were the only ones who started it.
The OP of this story should have just told them to kick rocks as well as "you should have thought about wanting to know your grandkids before you threw me out like used cat litter ten years ago." Situation averted.
I hate these stories where the spouse never stands by their person and then makes it about them. WTF?
My parents kicked me out of their house cause i won a debate against them, now i live with my grandma saving money for college tuition
That's really selfish of the wife to get mad at him over that. I mean you cannot ever Force somebody to reconcile with people who were horrible to them, I get it her grandparents were nice but that no way in hell means that every set of grandparents is going to be like hers, her logic is ridiculous.
What's good with having horrible people like that back in the family? And just for a 'complete family', its all lies. Family is what you make of it, not looks.
OP got that scorched earth policy
I'm I the only one not in therapy? Ironically I need it more than most.
I would’ve told my wife: good luck never speaking to me again! Problem solved ☺️👍
try listening these stories with "red sun in the sky-lofi" on loop
I wouldn't even insult the wife , because the wife too is hurt so ... Yeah ... The only real issue is the parents and the family
My only question is like how do you know no one was uncomfortable if you never addressed it with anyone? Like not saying bro is wrong but if you’ve never even asked how can you be so sure
Dude just go ahead and get the divorce lawyer.
An uncle in Utah? This seems like they finna escape Amish.
OP's wife is a disappointment. But besides that the lesson from this is to always go NC with toxic people. They destroy everything they touch including other people's relationships.
When the kids are smarter than the parents
I would kept the post up and waited for a bit as they have no proof that you owed anything and if they did it would be forged and a skilled enough lawyer could pick apart things and you’d get an easy 50K
*DIVORCE THE WIFE!!!*
story 1: divorce the ex-wife....deal with the child support...but at least this will give op peace...
Sad you jump to divorce instead of talking it out. I will give you a quick advice, Never get married.
Bro liked his own comment.
Divorce strait away
Why do ppl go back to parent's like them once you cut them off should be for ever and your wife is really manipulative and playing the victim red flag.
Divorce your wife
I know I've watched too much of these when the background minecraft video feels familiar now
Saaamee 😂😂😂
These are the parents from Joe Dirt 🤦
The Wife is the biggest AH.
SHE wanted the parents there even after knowing what they did to OP
SHE is the only one offended by OP standing up for himself
SHE is the self involved one
The Wife is a big ass baby 🙄😒
tell wifey-poo she can be a single mommy in a few months. wifey-poo is one of these people with their heads up 'sacred famblee' butt so far they can't see the truth. I do think perhaps the party wasn't the time for it.
I would divorce that wife asap
I hope Op kept in contact with uncle.
Uh, the uncle kinda died, so unless OP can speak to the dead, he won't be in contact with the uncle.
@@TheAwkwardGamer uh he lived years before he died and after OP moved out. I know it’s very hard for you to realize that life does continue when you aren’t there. The people you know don’t just sit on their hands when you leave until you come back.
@@BeingMe-t6m I know, but the way you were phrasing it sounded like "I hope OP still keeps in contact". My bad for being unable to read the minds of commenters.
@@TheAwkwardGamer I said kept. Which is past tense of keep. Which means something done in the past.
why did op let the parents withdraw the case? he could have disproved it, make a counter case and buried his parents in so much debt they would wish they either treated you nicely or kept her legs
Someone let me know when the divorce update drops.