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Group trip story? If OP were a woman and her boyfriend was like "I don't trust you around men I don't know" you'd be all up in there, calling him controlling. Which OP's girlfriend is. Why a friend group would not want "outsiders" around? Because they are going to catch up, be at ease, be themselves and talk about shared memories. With someone around you don't know this won't work as the whole "letting your guard down" stuff is not something this stranger has earned from these people.
Not sure if he even realizes the double standard or he's just one of those people who ALWAYS bring their significant others to every single occasion and can't be away from them for more than 5 minutes. Those relationships are huge red flags for me, I have no interest in dating someone that wants to be in my presence every waking hour of the day and while I'm asleep, sometimes I want to be alone without a watchdog.
@@TachibanaTengoku Exactly. I mean it's fine in the first few months when you are still in the rose-tinted glasses phase and you see your partner as "practically perfect in every way", but usually once that wears off you usually have your own stuff to take care of.
As a rule of thumb, you should never, EVER lend money to anyone. Even to your friends. Because if they aren't able to repay you, you will be mad and it may affect your friendship. Or they may ask you for more later on. My only exception to this, is if they are in a horrible situation, and you really want to help them out, or if you want to gift them the money. But lending them money to buy random furniture? Absolutely no.
#3 - I don't agree with you. You shouldn't have to involve your partner if you don't want to. Just because you're dating doesn't mean you're one person and have to invite them everywhere. The plans are set, why should they change just because your partner is insecure? It sounds like the OP doesn't really know them super well either. I don't see a reason to take a partner on a trip like that. I also don't see a reason for the girlfriend to want to go. She can go do something with her friends for that time. They're two separate people. She's just being jealous, insecure and has trust issues. Trust issues are your own problem and something you need to work on, not something that your partner has to fix (especially if you've done nothing to warrant them not trusting you).
For the friend trip, completely understand his hesitance. If I were a friend looking forward to reconnecting with someone after awhile, I'd be a bit upset if after everything is planned they asked to invite someone else For fathers day, if the guy's only complaint was not getting some alone time with his wife, that would be valid, but he's just being toxic
Yeah, during the friends trip part he doesn't seem to understand that there's an issue with organization here and isn't just a matter of adding one person. RSVPs are a thing, after all and can be expensive to change.
4th story yes that girl needs to get out of that relationship. The Father's Day restaurant issue, while she can't control if it's open or not, it's also not hard to confirm if something is open or not. That being said with that guys attitude he's lucky he got anything at all.
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"Hey, you guys wanna meet my girlfriend? She's afraid I'm gonna cheat on her with A, B, and C." Don't lie to your friends to conceal your significant other's paranoia. You don't need to be a jerk about it, but don't enable her.
Something similar to the second story happened to me. My and my friends use to go to an anime convention every year, we’d share a hotel room splitting the cost. Well the last year we went to this particular convention we had a “friend” who last minute said he was going to stay at his grandmother’s who lived outside the city the convention was in. We had gone through this agency that rented out apartments and gotten two rooms but due to him canceling at the last second we couldn’t cancel the second room so I figured I would take the second room so my other friend could have the first one to himself. Well the “friend” ended up staying in the second room so I was pissed especially since I covered the cost of the second room so I told the “friend” he owed me for it. He already owed me for buying his girlfriend lunch cause she didn’t have any money and he was busy visiting his grandmother. All in all it was around $200, not a lot of money but at the time I was working part time so to me that was close to a week’s pay. Anyways for the next few years I ask him for my money and he gives it to me at a snails pace making up excuses every time. I only got $100 back before he had to move to Florida. He was a scumbag and a wasteoid and I hope to never see or hear him again.
Re: The group trip. I can understand asking to bring the girlfriend, but wouldn't push it. It sounds like the group wants to reconnect with each other, not with people from outside the group. This sort of thing could easily devolve into the OP and his girlfriend alienating themselves from the group, or the girlfriend just becoming a third wheel. It would be rude to expect to be able to bring her. This is something the OP and his girlfriend needs to have a heart to heart discussion on. If she isn't willing to let him have a fulfilling social life, then they may have to part ways. Re: The tipping story. Absolutely keep the tip! As a paying customer who wants to recognize my server, I would be rather offended to find out part of the tip destined for my server is going to others that may not have performed as well. By the same token, my server would be cheated out by getting potentially reduced tips from the share of those not tipped as well. I despise the idea of compulsory tipping in general (as is expected in the U.S.), but more so the idea of communal tips.
In most states forcing wait staff to put their gratuity for their tables into a shared tip jar is illegal and usually just a ploy from people who have been there longer to rip off the new service employee.
I completely understand why she did this cuz I'm pretty sure that plenty of customers have come in had their their procedure done and then walked out on their on their bills ignoring them when they came in that's probably why they said pay first instead of last
In regards to the third story... the significant other apparently isn't trusting enough and doesn't understand there is always a next time. I would ask of I could come with my significant other the next time they wanted to go out with this group of friends.
(around 9:48) i would have cut off all the money u were supplying her until she paid me back and then charged her a late fee and then doubled the amount of time i waited for my money before she got another cent
Always tip your people with cash and be covert. Some resturaunts will cut paychecks if they get tipped "too much" or they'll redistribute it. It should be up to the employee whether or not they even want to report it. As far as I'm concerned, the overarching business isn't involved with that transaction. They go above and beyond in their service, they show kindness when it's not required, that's not something your workplace instilled in you. That's you and you alone, and that's why I tip. Well, that and I know you get paid a wage just above that of a slave so if you are just a decent person I'll throw you a few bucks for that alone. The service industry sucks.
4th Segment on stealing tips. In the Bible, in the Book of Acts, there is a story about what happens when someone steals community money for themselves. Read about "Sapphira" for the terrifying details.
Story 2 isn't about just asking the friends to ask the girlfriend to come. The problem is either she trusts you or she doesn't. And if she doesn't then that's a problem. If you don't trust someone that much then you shouldn't be with them, and that's the bottom line.
i had someone want me to give them a dollar and they said they would pay me back but they never did. so when they asked again i asked about that dollar they owed me. they didnt have anything to say and just stared at me then turned and walked off
Guys am I the jerk for calling out a Karen to my best friend. So I am a 10 year Old boy. I went to a queens platinum jubilee party and at the party I asked my6year old brother to mind my burger I come back to him telling me how a girl age 7 tried to steal my burger so I ask him who it was he points to a kid I go over and ask her if that happened. Here comes karen saying you know just let her take it there's more burger over at the food stand so I go and tell my brother and best friend about this absolute Karen she approaches and says do you know who I am in one of the party directors and I just walked it off
Break up with him. Nothing you do will ever please him. Bottom line when you try to agree and he say no anyways. Just leave him. And no you do not share that tip. Other tips ya I understand but everyone knows that that personal tip is ment for you.
the second story that where the second girlfriend came from or returned from belongs to the USA it's just a territory and also has a hell of a lot of soldiers
The only time I would talk to a manager is if I have something nice I want to say if I like what I see for example the manager at McDonald's had such cute earrings but I'm too scared to say something because I don't know if he is ever going to have time for me because I really love his earrings because they are so cute and I am afraid of his reaction for wanting to talk to him
When you have money and go out to buy a car which is the only thing that could be understandable since it’s needed but besides that how the hell do you go clothes shopping and furniture craft when you owe money I don’t understand how people think
Tip Story: What is your workplace policy on this, OP? If I did that at my workplace, that's technically theft and grounds for termination. You can't do that willy nilly, you can get fired for that. Tips are paid in a certain way, and many times, waiters are not allowed to take personal tips. I've had a few people hand me over $5-20 in cash tips. My company's policy says that all cash tips from customers go into a tip jar, and then they are distributed via the hours people work (I've seen this process in action several times), and I've had to explain this to the people who insist that I take it for myself. But I can also understand wanting to take it for yourself, especially in the case you are describing. I personally think posting it on the internet is a very stupid thing to do, unless the account is a throwaway one, because companies can and will monitor your social media presence and if they find this out...I wish you good luck. But if it's not against policy, I see no reason to not take it, its perfectly legal and those people were not being competent in their jobs.
As far as most places I go to when they see check they see that I almost never tip. The reason being is that I usually always tip in cash and that I always pay in card and only tip on the card if I'm out of cash so it looks to most businesses that I almost never tip. First I tip in cash because I don't believe the staff who is forced to live off of tips should be taxed on their tips and secondly so that I can specifically tip the person who did the great job. In turn, I would hope the person I tipped would tip out the bussers and whoever else is making it possible for them to give good, fast service. Furthermore, if I see the person waiting on me is busting their ass off while it's super busy even if my service suffers for it I usually give them a bigger tip than normal. The reason being is that I can tell they are a good employee and they still try to give me service despite being overloaded due to shortage of staff. Usually I see that as a management issue not staff issue. However, bad staff who give bad service can easily be found and don't deserve my gratitude.
Trip story: So I can understand the GF’s reluctance since this is not a group of friends OP is typically with. So she is not a jerk for wanting to go with OP to get a feel for the friends. That said, she also has no right. OP is catching up with friends. She either trusts OP or she does not. If a guy said this he would be seen as controlling. Also, going back to the story with the OP that had to do a polygraph test due to a paranoid Bf, OP should not need to change his plans due to his girlfriend’s own insecurities. Like OP said, two of the members are not bringing their significant others…that means it’s pretty much just an in group event. Overall, neither side is the jerk. The way OP describes the GF asking is respectful and honest. OP also has a right to chill with just that group. This is not a case of who is the jerk but can the GF trust OP enough. If she cannot do so than it is best the relationship ends. As for my opinion on AITJ’s opinion. I see the angle he is coming from with introducing the Gf. However, I disagree. This is very much an in group event. OP is not being silly for seemingly not wanting her there. It is also not a red flag if they do not want OP’s gf there. If a trip was planned with the idea of being just for that group of friends than why would they want outsiders? ---- Tip Story: It’s quite simple in my opinion. Keep the tip. The others sounded like they did a on par or subpar performance when compared to OP. So that means that note is specifically for OP. My opinion on tipping aside, if OP did as good as he believed than that is for him. Also, as someone who eats out a decent amount, if I tip someone specifically and learn that they shared it with the others I would feel partially offended. When I tip it is because they did a good job either with speed of service or being patient with me or someone I have with me who does not eat out frequently.
I dont fell like its a red flag for a friend group not to want a random person to join their reunion, even if its your wife, some people can only be their true self with friends, so a stranger getting in would mean their fun vacation now turns into tip toing around to please a person they dont know, runining their fun plans. Infact its quite selfish to think your friends need to deal with other people they never signed on to deal with. What is a red flag tough is that you cant be allowed to ineract with the other half of the human population duo to trust issues.
The story where the girlfriends wants to come on the Trip I’d say ether tell her no (Beacuse this sounds like a trip with the homies) or ask your friends
2. Taking her to the trip should be easy. I would have a cocersation with her about trust after the trip. 3. Yeah, this man dosent want you to be happy. This wont work. If he have a son, then maybe his ex passed away and he is proyecting her into you, with the mentality of "she was better at..."
Yeah no. You're enabling her paranoid behavior if you let her come, addressing it after the fact doesn't fix anything. Imagine if every time your kid whined to get something you gave it to them and then just talked to them about not asking for things in a spoiled manner....clearly if you're giving it to them anyways, they're not gonna learn anything.
If the father's day boyfriend is whining about not going on trips as she does, his first step should be to get a job as she said she's the only one working
Story 3: the excuse of anxiety is bullshit, I know people who suffer from it, my own MUM has it, does my mum get stressed when my dad goes out with his mates, or fishing? No, and they’re married, which should make her more stressed, if I were to guess, the girlfriend has trust-issues, and you should try to communicate with them about it, because at the moment there are no winners in this story.
The girlfriend who wans to go on the group thing....TOTALLY LEGIT. I mean, maybe if the relationship was new an fresh and not that serious it would seem strange, but I or my husband would never go on any trip without the other. We've defined our relationship and respect each other's needs. It's normal to be worried or jealous, even when you trust someone, because we all have baggage and even if I trust my husband, it is completely legit for me to not want him to stay in a hotel with friends if there are other women and I'm not there, and legit for him to not want me to stay at a place with guy friends without him. Of course, we're married, so we're a packaged deal.
@@DarthShadie If your husband is gonna meet up with his friends (none of their significant others are coming) at the bar for a few drinks, and you randomly insert yourself in between that, I think you might have a trust issue. Replace friends with co-workers and the same logic applies. You don't always need to be a packaged deal, idk about you but I know my sister has the same behavior you describe with your BF where she's a packaged deal on his trips, but she can go out during ladies night with just her girlfriends and apparently he doesn't need to come, do you do that too? Sounds like a trust issue to me.
@@TachibanaTengoku This isn't about at a bar for the evening. We meet up with friends like that individually all the time. This is about a weekend or week trip to sleep away from home. My husband and I have defined our relationship and neither of us want to spend the night away from each other. And it's totally legit too for you to not want a relationship like that. That is why each couple should define their relationship and needs at the start of the relationship. Also, my husband and I always apply things to each other. So if it's a weekend trip and I tag along, it's the same when it's my friends and he tags along. There are no double standards that way and it's even. I agree that if I were to demand I tag along but not let him tag along when I went out, it would be a double standard. That is not how we operate, he and I.
The Group Trip: We did something similar and there was a person, who wasnt part of the group(friend of someone from the group), well it didnt end well, so i would be against bringing someone else to it.
Group trip story from the GF's perspective: I'm insecure and don't trust my partner to be around other females without supervision, so I invited myself to join an already organized group reunion trip with his old friends that I don't even know. But he's resisting passing along my self-invite to his friends. He's such a jerk! Why won't this grown man let me supervise him and show his friends that I think he's an untrustworthy scumbag who isn't allowed to have his own life beyond Princess Me?
No you're not the jerk you need to put your foot down and ask her for the money she owes now not tomorrow not next week right now or she can find another place to live
Seems like the gf has self esteem and trust issues. Perhaps she should work on that instead of going on the trip. Unless he has a past of cheating then it's understandable
Could not agree with the narrator LESS about seeing both sides of the girlfriend not trusting the boyfriend to reconnect with his friend group! WTF, NARRATOR???!!! If the girlfriend is so untrusting then that is one huge - since you seem so in love with this phrase - RED FLAG for the future. The guy clearly states he's nervous about reconnecting with this group, and he needs the added burden of an untrusting GF? Excuse me? Dumb dumb dumb. (As an aside, there's only one of the three channel narrators that I really like to listen to, and from now on he's the only one I will. And dude-- you're not him.)
the friend trip one is a little ridiculous to me, not having faith that your S/O will be loyal because there are other women is incredibly shallow and self conscious. i trust my S/Os, and it took a lot of work for us to get there yes, but having such an immediate negative reaction is just... off putting. maybe she's had relationships in the past that ended up that way, and she's just scared of it happening again. the way she's going about it makes me feel like she has some form of trauma regarding loyalty. OP was not the jerk, but neither was the GF in my eyes considering ive been in her shoes before. Then again, i don't know the OP or any details more than the story provided so I might be entirely wrong
in I think the third story, yea he sounds loyal but from the gf's perspective how can she know if he's just hiding it or actualy loyal? she can't, and I don't think the bf said anything about past relationships cuz if your older you probably had relationships and if your whit that person I kinda doubt he's your first so who knows what previous relationship where whit her idk I wouldn't say having trust issues is bad but we don't know they're personalities but again how could she know he's not just hiding being loyal while he's not? she couldn't know so I don't blame her it feel like it would be almost normal and whit the plan like idk if it's allready planed and not a lot of time left or there is still some time left but if you plan something whit a group of friends then someone else gf or friends idk find out at that time and also wants to come then like it makes sense having to change your plan and what you allready planed and who knows maybe even dellay the whatever your at holiday, vacation or idk trip so again just depends of little details
Eventually the dude's going to lose his memory and to be turned into a edgy head hog And then Maria will die And then all the events of Sonic adventure too will have happened
I disagree with the last one, I worked as a dishwasher at the Cheltenham racecourse doing 12+ hour shifts often without breaks I was always the first one there and the last one there and I worked very hard, so hard that they offered me a promotion, we had a shared tip jar and one of the servers stole all the tips I was left with 50p you have no idea how gut wrenching that is and I was on £4.50 an hour and often didn't even get paid for my whole shift!
I can kind get what that girl is going thought this story about a rude Karen employee at moms work so one day my mom came home great story about that Karen for this story I will call her Karen the rude employee so Karen and my mom work at a delivery company not like amazon or FedEx so Karen was delivering stuff to a hospital there were 3 pieces of a cat scanner so the first two pieces were easy bring in but the third piece was heavy very heavy so the manger said to her before she left when she got to that to only bring that in on that run but she put two more box on it and then it happened it was too heavy and she dropped it the two boxes where ok but the 3 cat scan piece broke the company had to pay 3000$ to pay back the hospital and after that my mom took on her shifts because she broke her foot she did because felt bad for her but after her foot half healed Karen she want money for her foot or she sue the company and she brought them to court after she my mom told she was not driving her routes anymore she try's to guilt trip her but it does not work then she try's to threaten her but it did not work but using the security cameras from the hospital and the office of the manger they prove that she was told to only do that one package on the cart so she had to pay 12 000 $ to the company and she was fired
Story #2: Money and friendships don't mix. Some people have horrible spending habits and haven't had a rude awakening yet to teach them why they need to stay on top of paying their debts on time. I have a friend that used to owe money to everybody and him and I actually almost got into a fist fight a few times over it and stopped talking to each other for a few years. We've since reconciled our friendship but he knows better than to ask me for money or to go halves on something with him lol. If money wasn't an issue, we'd make great roommates but I wouldn't trust him to keep up his half of the rent and bills so that's never going to happen. Story #3: The OP should definitely let his girlfriend come along and the fact that he's calling it a "boy's trip" when there's going to be women there is a bit of a red flag. And I don't agree with the narrator that there's anything wrong with her having concerns. I don't know about anybody else but cheating is a dealbreaker for me so having no boundaries with your partner and waiting for somebody to cheat to be uncomfortable about a situation is pretty much a moot point because the relationship's already over 🤦♂️🤷♂️ Idk about anyone else but I go above and beyond to show my gf that she can trust me when I'm in a relationship and would've invited her off top knowing the circumstances.
the 3rd story you are wrong it is weird. I wouldnt like it if I was in a grouplike that and they took other people with them asside from changing the dynamic there is a chance I dont like said person and it would ruin the trip for me. besides I wouldnt wanna re arrange everything either. also that girlfriend in the story clearly ahs trust issues. a friend of mine actualy has an gf and he needs to take her to everything. he cnat do anything alone for the most part. I dont hate his gf or anything but she is a mood killer and no I am not talking about alcohol because I dont drink anyway he doesnt either and my other friend who is always commins as well isnt either
I think you're being unfair about the girl not feeling comfortable with other women going on the trip with her boyfriend. I wouldn't feel comfortable either, I trust my hubby completely but it's other women I don't trust. I don't think it's fair to call her "toxic" when she is legitamately concerned.
Then you're insecure, paranoid and you obviously do not trust your husband? Even if the other girls were as bad as your head is painting them (clearly), your husband is the one with a penis, if he doesn't stick it in them I think you'll be fine.
Per the group trip story, I dont feel the girlfriend was being super controlling. The only reason why is because he stated that he feels like it's just a boys trip, in which she retorted that it wasn't as there was at least more than 1 female going to be on the trip. Now, to give context to my opinion, I am married and my husband and I both dont like the thought of our significant other putting themselves in situations that could lead to certain temptation. The reason for this is because my husband and I believe that everyone is human and WILL make mistakes. So, with this we feel it's best to try and avoid putting yourself in a situation where you could be tempted to do something in the first place. For example: the BF goes on the trip w/o the GF and he's having drinks with his friends. One thing leads to another and him and one of his lady friends end up hooking up. This would be a in the moment decision that wouldn't necessarily mean he was in love with the lady and had intentions of cheating. Had the BF went with the GF the chances of this temptation occurring are significantly lower. Its more of a "why would you want to put yourself in that position in the first place" (1) and (2) "why would you not want to make sure your significant other is comfortable". Just as some others have stated if the roles were reversed the man would also be the same. This being said this kind of team work only works if both the Gf and BF are willing to keep each other accountable equally. I dont think either are a jerk as I can totally understand wanting to take this time to reconnect with a group of friends, but the trip is over several days and so the chances of something happening (not necessarily on purpose, as this is how most women and men feel, they trust their BF/GF but everyone makes stupid decisions occasionally when they're intoxicated or are making a split decision, not necessarily with the intent to harm but would still hurt) are a lot higher. This isn't to say dont trust your bf/gf/spouse etc. Because they're human, but more work together because you're human.
the problem with the girlfriend going together in the second story is that it'll be incredibly uncomfortable if the friends are introverts, taking me and my online friends for example, we have other friends or partners but we get instantly uncomfortable with people we don't know well. My friend has a boyfriend and we don't mind him, we even talked and played together but the boyfriend will never be a part of our private group because there we talk about everything including our RPG and the book my other friend wants to write based off of our RPG, if I ever planned a trip with them or anything, the last thing I would want is to them to bring someone along outside our group, they wouldn't get half our jokes nor would I be comfortable to talk as much as I talk to my friends
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BF: "Go on a trip with your friends."
OP: *plans a trip with her friends*
BF: *surprised Pikachu face*
Lol
Group trip story? If OP were a woman and her boyfriend was like "I don't trust you around men I don't know" you'd be all up in there, calling him controlling. Which OP's girlfriend is.
Why a friend group would not want "outsiders" around? Because they are going to catch up, be at ease, be themselves and talk about shared memories. With someone around you don't know this won't work as the whole "letting your guard down" stuff is not something this stranger has earned from these people.
Not sure if he even realizes the double standard or he's just one of those people who ALWAYS bring their significant others to every single occasion and can't be away from them for more than 5 minutes. Those relationships are huge red flags for me, I have no interest in dating someone that wants to be in my presence every waking hour of the day and while I'm asleep, sometimes I want to be alone without a watchdog.
@@TachibanaTengoku Exactly. I mean it's fine in the first few months when you are still in the rose-tinted glasses phase and you see your partner as "practically perfect in every way", but usually once that wears off you usually have your own stuff to take care of.
As a rule of thumb, you should never, EVER lend money to anyone. Even to your friends. Because if they aren't able to repay you, you will be mad and it may affect your friendship. Or they may ask you for more later on. My only exception to this, is if they are in a horrible situation, and you really want to help them out, or if you want to gift them the money. But lending them money to buy random furniture? Absolutely no.
#3 - I don't agree with you. You shouldn't have to involve your partner if you don't want to. Just because you're dating doesn't mean you're one person and have to invite them everywhere. The plans are set, why should they change just because your partner is insecure? It sounds like the OP doesn't really know them super well either. I don't see a reason to take a partner on a trip like that. I also don't see a reason for the girlfriend to want to go. She can go do something with her friends for that time. They're two separate people. She's just being jealous, insecure and has trust issues. Trust issues are your own problem and something you need to work on, not something that your partner has to fix (especially if you've done nothing to warrant them not trusting you).
I agree with you, she wasn’t invited and she should just deal with it. If it’s going to ruin their relationship, screw her
I don't agree
@@jacekgiera4672 why don't you agree?
@@jaimeebidwell9305 They really need that months to explain that huh lmao
These stories are sad, yet relatable
I don't know why but your voice is calming to me
Same
Ooh this will be good
I just saw a fly rub it’s hands like he was about to do a devious lick
Lol
Lol. That was random. 🤣
lol yeah they do that to clean their hands 😂
Same it's about to take my mom's bath tub apart
Bruh how is it that as soon as I see this, a group of like orange flies starts rubbing their hands together
I red the title and I had to watch it
Red ?? title ??
Well I blue the title. 😋😌🥴
Inferior:
- CALL ME YOUR MANAGER!
Superior:
- CALL ME *YOUR MOM.*
Same
Red? 🔴 Don't you mean [READ]?
If its a trip with friends then thats how it should absolutely stay
For the group trip. If she doesn’t trust him then she has no business dating him. If she can’t manage a few days without him then that’s a her problem
For the friend trip, completely understand his hesitance. If I were a friend looking forward to reconnecting with someone after awhile, I'd be a bit upset if after everything is planned they asked to invite someone else
For fathers day, if the guy's only complaint was not getting some alone time with his wife, that would be valid, but he's just being toxic
Yeah, during the friends trip part he doesn't seem to understand that there's an issue with organization here and isn't just a matter of adding one person. RSVPs are a thing, after all and can be expensive to change.
Narrator:*telling storys*
Me:*just spacing out at the game*
4th story yes that girl needs to get out of that relationship. The Father's Day restaurant issue, while she can't control if it's open or not, it's also not hard to confirm if something is open or not. That being said with that guys attitude he's lucky he got anything at all.
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for the friend trip, were I in the boots of the one not going, I'd trust my s/o
"Hey, you guys wanna meet my girlfriend? She's afraid I'm gonna cheat on her with A, B, and C."
Don't lie to your friends to conceal your significant other's paranoia. You don't need to be a jerk about it, but don't enable her.
Something similar to the second story happened to me. My and my friends use to go to an anime convention every year, we’d share a hotel room splitting the cost. Well the last year we went to this particular convention we had a “friend” who last minute said he was going to stay at his grandmother’s who lived outside the city the convention was in. We had gone through this agency that rented out apartments and gotten two rooms but due to him canceling at the last second we couldn’t cancel the second room so I figured I would take the second room so my other friend could have the first one to himself. Well the “friend” ended up staying in the second room so I was pissed especially since I covered the cost of the second room so I told the “friend” he owed me for it. He already owed me for buying his girlfriend lunch cause she didn’t have any money and he was busy visiting his grandmother. All in all it was around $200, not a lot of money but at the time I was working part time so to me that was close to a week’s pay.
Anyways for the next few years I ask him for my money and he gives it to me at a snails pace making up excuses every time. I only got $100 back before he had to move to Florida. He was a scumbag and a wasteoid and I hope to never see or hear him again.
Re: The group trip.
I can understand asking to bring the girlfriend, but wouldn't push it. It sounds like the group wants to reconnect with each other, not with people from outside the group. This sort of thing could easily devolve into the OP and his girlfriend alienating themselves from the group, or the girlfriend just becoming a third wheel. It would be rude to expect to be able to bring her. This is something the OP and his girlfriend needs to have a heart to heart discussion on. If she isn't willing to let him have a fulfilling social life, then they may have to part ways.
Re: The tipping story.
Absolutely keep the tip! As a paying customer who wants to recognize my server, I would be rather offended to find out part of the tip destined for my server is going to others that may not have performed as well. By the same token, my server would be cheated out by getting potentially reduced tips from the share of those not tipped as well. I despise the idea of compulsory tipping in general (as is expected in the U.S.), but more so the idea of communal tips.
That’s too long can someone say it in a shorter way
@@mella847 two short paragraphs is too long for you???
@@Nareimooncatt yes
My notification sound is an mlg airhorn and when op said you can take it up with my mom I got a notification 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Keep up the work man! I am still progressing through every video!
BF in that father's day story: Go on a trip with your friends then!
OP: Okay
BF: Why are you always leaving me behind??????
In most states forcing wait staff to put their gratuity for their tables into a shared tip jar is illegal and usually just a ploy from people who have been there longer to rip off the new service employee.
Honestly it surprises me to know that there are people like this in the world
I completely understand why she did this cuz I'm pretty sure that plenty of customers have come in had their their procedure done and then walked out on their on their bills ignoring them when they came in that's probably why they said pay first instead of last
Usually you pay for the procedure at the end unless it is an operation or something like that. At least here
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I always watch the videos from am I the jerk
Me too! 👍
In regards to the third story... the significant other apparently isn't trusting enough and doesn't understand there is always a next time. I would ask of I could come with my significant other the next time they wanted to go out with this group of friends.
(around 9:48) i would have cut off all the money u were supplying her until she paid me back and then charged her a late fee and then doubled the amount of time i waited for my money before she got another cent
As long as you give some of the tip into the group, like for the busser, dishwasher, etc.
Always tip your people with cash and be covert. Some resturaunts will cut paychecks if they get tipped "too much" or they'll redistribute it.
It should be up to the employee whether or not they even want to report it. As far as I'm concerned, the overarching business isn't involved with that transaction. They go above and beyond in their service, they show kindness when it's not required, that's not something your workplace instilled in you. That's you and you alone, and that's why I tip. Well, that and I know you get paid a wage just above that of a slave so if you are just a decent person I'll throw you a few bucks for that alone. The service industry sucks.
Oh the poor little rich people!
the fact that you nearlly always managd to get a 2048 in the game is satisfying doe
4th Segment on stealing tips. In the Bible, in the Book of Acts, there is a story about what happens when someone steals community money for themselves. Read about "Sapphira" for the terrifying details.
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Ah yes, relateble.
you should do a video were you do karen stories but when you comment about it you are in karen mode
Story 2 isn't about just asking the friends to ask the girlfriend to come. The problem is either she trusts you or she doesn't. And if she doesn't then that's a problem. If you don't trust someone that much then you shouldn't be with them, and that's the bottom line.
i had someone want me to give them a dollar and they said they would pay me back but they never did. so when they asked again i asked about that dollar they owed me. they didnt have anything to say and just stared at me then turned and walked off
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Perfect landing.
I'm sorry but story 2 if that's me I would say "__ weeks pay it or leave." With a straight stare and serious face
Guys, it's the *original Karen model.*
The one who speaks to the manager.
claim you here in 1 hour ticket
Guys am I the jerk for calling out a Karen to my best friend. So I am a 10 year Old boy. I went to a queens platinum jubilee party and at the party I asked my6year old brother to mind my burger I come back to him telling me how a girl age 7 tried to steal my burger so I ask him who it was he points to a kid I go over and ask her if that happened. Here comes karen saying you know just let her take it there's more burger over at the food stand so I go and tell my brother and best friend about this absolute Karen she approaches and says do you know who I am in one of the party directors and I just walked it off
Break up with him. Nothing you do will ever please him. Bottom line when you try to agree and he say no anyways. Just leave him. And no you do not share that tip. Other tips ya I understand but everyone knows that that personal tip is ment for you.
why allways when I hear past away my brain just says pasta away?
Start charging roommate interest.
the second story that where the second girlfriend came from or returned from belongs to the USA it's just a territory and also has a hell of a lot of soldiers
The only time I would talk to a manager is if I have something nice I want to say if I like what I see for example the manager at McDonald's had such cute earrings but I'm too scared to say something because I don't know if he is ever going to have time for me because I really love his earrings because they are so cute and I am afraid of his reaction for wanting to talk to him
When you have money and go out to buy a car which is the only thing that could be understandable since it’s needed but besides that how the hell do you go clothes shopping and furniture craft when you owe money I don’t understand how people think
Tip Story: What is your workplace policy on this, OP? If I did that at my workplace, that's technically theft and grounds for termination. You can't do that willy nilly, you can get fired for that. Tips are paid in a certain way, and many times, waiters are not allowed to take personal tips. I've had a few people hand me over $5-20 in cash tips. My company's policy says that all cash tips from customers go into a tip jar, and then they are distributed via the hours people work (I've seen this process in action several times), and I've had to explain this to the people who insist that I take it for myself.
But I can also understand wanting to take it for yourself, especially in the case you are describing. I personally think posting it on the internet is a very stupid thing to do, unless the account is a throwaway one, because companies can and will monitor your social media presence and if they find this out...I wish you good luck. But if it's not against policy, I see no reason to not take it, its perfectly legal and those people were not being competent in their jobs.
wtf why does this never happen when im around
As far as most places I go to when they see check they see that I almost never tip. The reason being is that I usually always tip in cash and that I always pay in card and only tip on the card if I'm out of cash so it looks to most businesses that I almost never tip. First I tip in cash because I don't believe the staff who is forced to live off of tips should be taxed on their tips and secondly so that I can specifically tip the person who did the great job. In turn, I would hope the person I tipped would tip out the bussers and whoever else is making it possible for them to give good, fast service. Furthermore, if I see the person waiting on me is busting their ass off while it's super busy even if my service suffers for it I usually give them a bigger tip than normal. The reason being is that I can tell they are a good employee and they still try to give me service despite being overloaded due to shortage of staff. Usually I see that as a management issue not staff issue. However, bad staff who give bad service can easily be found and don't deserve my gratitude.
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Story 3 op is not the jerk
Trip story: So I can understand the GF’s reluctance since this is not a group of friends OP is typically with. So she is not a jerk for wanting to go with OP to get a feel for the friends. That said, she also has no right. OP is catching up with friends. She either trusts OP or she does not. If a guy said this he would be seen as controlling. Also, going back to the story with the OP that had to do a polygraph test due to a paranoid Bf, OP should not need to change his plans due to his girlfriend’s own insecurities. Like OP said, two of the members are not bringing their significant others…that means it’s pretty much just an in group event.
Overall, neither side is the jerk. The way OP describes the GF asking is respectful and honest. OP also has a right to chill with just that group. This is not a case of who is the jerk but can the GF trust OP enough. If she cannot do so than it is best the relationship ends.
As for my opinion on AITJ’s opinion. I see the angle he is coming from with introducing the Gf. However, I disagree. This is very much an in group event. OP is not being silly for seemingly not wanting her there. It is also not a red flag if they do not want OP’s gf there. If a trip was planned with the idea of being just for that group of friends than why would they want outsiders?
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Tip Story:
It’s quite simple in my opinion. Keep the tip. The others sounded like they did a on par or subpar performance when compared to OP. So that means that note is specifically for OP. My opinion on tipping aside, if OP did as good as he believed than that is for him. Also, as someone who eats out a decent amount, if I tip someone specifically and learn that they shared it with the others I would feel partially offended. When I tip it is because they did a good job either with speed of service or being patient with me or someone I have with me who does not eat out frequently.
I agre with you in the Trip story. They need to have a conversation about trust
I dont fell like its a red flag for a friend group not to want a random person to join their reunion, even if its your wife, some people can only be their true self with friends, so a stranger getting in would mean their fun vacation now turns into tip toing around to please a person they dont know, runining their fun plans.
Infact its quite selfish to think your friends need to deal with other people they never signed on to deal with.
What is a red flag tough is that you cant be allowed to ineract with the other half of the human population duo to trust issues.
The story where the girlfriends wants to come on the Trip I’d say ether tell her no (Beacuse this sounds like a trip with the homies) or ask your friends
2. Taking her to the trip should be easy. I would have a cocersation with her about trust after the trip.
3. Yeah, this man dosent want you to be happy. This wont work. If he have a son, then maybe his ex passed away and he is proyecting her into you, with the mentality of "she was better at..."
Yeah no. You're enabling her paranoid behavior if you let her come, addressing it after the fact doesn't fix anything. Imagine if every time your kid whined to get something you gave it to them and then just talked to them about not asking for things in a spoiled manner....clearly if you're giving it to them anyways, they're not gonna learn anything.
@@TachibanaTengoku um
If the father's day boyfriend is whining about not going on trips as she does, his first step should be to get a job as she said she's the only one working
Story 3: the excuse of anxiety is bullshit, I know people who suffer from it, my own MUM has it, does my mum get stressed when my dad goes out with his mates, or fishing? No, and they’re married, which should make her more stressed, if I were to guess, the girlfriend has trust-issues, and you should try to communicate with them about it, because at the moment there are no winners in this story.
Second story gf is just projecting she’s most likely cheating
The girlfriend who wans to go on the group thing....TOTALLY LEGIT. I mean, maybe if the relationship was new an fresh and not that serious it would seem strange, but I or my husband would never go on any trip without the other. We've defined our relationship and respect each other's needs. It's normal to be worried or jealous, even when you trust someone, because we all have baggage and even if I trust my husband, it is completely legit for me to not want him to stay in a hotel with friends if there are other women and I'm not there, and legit for him to not want me to stay at a place with guy friends without him. Of course, we're married, so we're a packaged deal.
If the friends just wanna catch up then its fine if they don't want the gf to be there
@@ijionclifton9148 True. I suppose it also depends how long they've been together and how old they are too. Maybe I'm just old school haha
@@DarthShadie If your husband is gonna meet up with his friends (none of their significant others are coming) at the bar for a few drinks, and you randomly insert yourself in between that, I think you might have a trust issue. Replace friends with co-workers and the same logic applies. You don't always need to be a packaged deal, idk about you but I know my sister has the same behavior you describe with your BF where she's a packaged deal on his trips, but she can go out during ladies night with just her girlfriends and apparently he doesn't need to come, do you do that too? Sounds like a trust issue to me.
@@TachibanaTengoku This isn't about at a bar for the evening. We meet up with friends like that individually all the time. This is about a weekend or week trip to sleep away from home. My husband and I have defined our relationship and neither of us want to spend the night away from each other. And it's totally legit too for you to not want a relationship like that. That is why each couple should define their relationship and needs at the start of the relationship. Also, my husband and I always apply things to each other. So if it's a weekend trip and I tag along, it's the same when it's my friends and he tags along. There are no double standards that way and it's even. I agree that if I were to demand I tag along but not let him tag along when I went out, it would be a double standard. That is not how we operate, he and I.
The Group Trip: We did something similar and there was a person, who wasnt part of the group(friend of someone from the group), well it didnt end well, so i would be against bringing someone else to it.
Uhhh I forgot Father’s Day D:
,,i am in fact the boss's daughter,, what?
Group trip story from the GF's perspective: I'm insecure and don't trust my partner to be around other females without supervision, so I invited myself to join an already organized group reunion trip with his old friends that I don't even know. But he's resisting passing along my self-invite to his friends. He's such a jerk! Why won't this grown man let me supervise him and show his friends that I think he's an untrustworthy scumbag who isn't allowed to have his own life beyond Princess Me?
No you're not the jerk you need to put your foot down and ask her for the money she owes now not tomorrow not next week right now or she can find another place to live
Regarding the trip. She sounds insecure and needs to work on that.
She can't demand to inject herself into his social life, that's not healthy
Seems like the gf has self esteem and trust issues. Perhaps she should work on that instead of going on the trip. Unless he has a past of cheating then it's understandable
Could not agree with the narrator LESS about seeing both sides of the girlfriend not trusting the boyfriend to reconnect with his friend group! WTF, NARRATOR???!!! If the girlfriend is so untrusting then that is one huge - since you seem so in love with this phrase - RED FLAG for the future. The guy clearly states he's nervous about reconnecting with this group, and he needs the added burden of an untrusting GF? Excuse me? Dumb dumb dumb. (As an aside, there's only one of the three channel narrators that I really like to listen to, and from now on he's the only one I will. And dude-- you're not him.)
the friend trip one is a little ridiculous to me, not having faith that your S/O will be loyal because there are other women is incredibly shallow and self conscious. i trust my S/Os, and it took a lot of work for us to get there yes, but having such an immediate negative reaction is just... off putting. maybe she's had relationships in the past that ended up that way, and she's just scared of it happening again. the way she's going about it makes me feel like she has some form of trauma regarding loyalty. OP was not the jerk, but neither was the GF in my eyes considering ive been in her shoes before. Then again, i don't know the OP or any details more than the story provided so I might be entirely wrong
Story 3: The 1st part of your answer is BS. Flip the rolls u would say the man was controlling and a red flag to leave him.
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in I think the third story, yea he sounds loyal but from the gf's perspective how can she know if he's just hiding it or actualy loyal? she can't, and I don't think the bf said anything about past relationships cuz if your older you probably had relationships and if your whit that person I kinda doubt he's your first so who knows what previous relationship where whit her idk I wouldn't say having trust issues is bad but we don't know they're personalities but again how could she know he's not just hiding being loyal while he's not? she couldn't know so I don't blame her it feel like it would be almost normal and whit the plan like idk if it's allready planed and not a lot of time left or there is still some time left but if you plan something whit a group of friends then someone else gf or friends idk find out at that time and also wants to come then like it makes sense having to change your plan and what you allready planed and who knows maybe even dellay the whatever your at holiday, vacation or idk trip so again just depends of little details
Eventually the dude's going to lose his memory and to be turned into a edgy head hog And then Maria will die And then all the events of Sonic adventure too will have happened
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I disagree with the last one, I worked as a dishwasher at the Cheltenham racecourse doing 12+ hour shifts often without breaks I was always the first one there and the last one there and I worked very hard, so hard that they offered me a promotion, we had a shared tip jar and one of the servers stole all the tips I was left with 50p you have no idea how gut wrenching that is and I was on £4.50 an hour and often didn't even get paid for my whole shift!
Did any body else notice a spelling error in the title of the last chapter
I can kind get what that girl is going thought this story about a rude Karen employee at moms work so one day my mom came home great story about that Karen for this story I will call her Karen the rude employee so Karen and my mom work at a delivery company not like amazon or FedEx so Karen was delivering stuff to a hospital there were 3 pieces of a cat scanner so the first two pieces were easy bring in but the third piece was heavy very heavy so the manger said to her before she left when she got to that to only bring that in on that run but she put two more box on it and then it happened it was too heavy and she dropped it the two boxes where ok but the 3 cat scan piece broke the company had to pay 3000$ to pay back the hospital and after that my mom took on her shifts because she broke her foot she did because felt bad for her but after her foot half healed Karen she want money for her foot or she sue the company and she brought them to court after she my mom told she was not driving her routes anymore she try's to guilt trip her but it does not work then she try's to threaten her but it did not work but using the security cameras from the hospital and the office of the manger they prove that she was told to only do that one package on the cart so she had to pay 12 000 $ to the company and she was fired
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something I don't understand about women is that they think when men are even near some girl other than their gf they're cheating
Story #2: Money and friendships don't mix. Some people have horrible spending habits and haven't had a rude awakening yet to teach them why they need to stay on top of paying their debts on time. I have a friend that used to owe money to everybody and him and I actually almost got into a fist fight a few times over it and stopped talking to each other for a few years. We've since reconciled our friendship but he knows better than to ask me for money or to go halves on something with him lol. If money wasn't an issue, we'd make great roommates but I wouldn't trust him to keep up his half of the rent and bills so that's never going to happen.
Story #3: The OP should definitely let his girlfriend come along and the fact that he's calling it a "boy's trip" when there's going to be women there is a bit of a red flag. And I don't agree with the narrator that there's anything wrong with her having concerns. I don't know about anybody else but cheating is a dealbreaker for me so having no boundaries with your partner and waiting for somebody to cheat to be uncomfortable about a situation is pretty much a moot point because the relationship's already over 🤦♂️🤷♂️ Idk about anyone else but I go above and beyond to show my gf that she can trust me when I'm in a relationship and would've invited her off top knowing the circumstances.
Story 3. Yeah, but hear this again, the girlfriend says is a problem because there a other girls there. Thats a trust issue
Bruh i was born on guam
Did you recently delete a vid about "my parents think I'm a loser but I secretly became rich"
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the 3rd story you are wrong it is weird. I wouldnt like it if I was in a grouplike that and they took other people with them asside from changing the dynamic there is a chance I dont like said person and it would ruin the trip for me. besides I wouldnt wanna re arrange everything either. also that girlfriend in the story clearly ahs trust issues.
a friend of mine actualy has an gf and he needs to take her to everything. he cnat do anything alone for the most part. I dont hate his gf or anything but she is a mood killer and no I am not talking about alcohol because I dont drink anyway he doesnt either and my other friend who is always commins as well isnt either
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Story 1:NTA
Story 2: NTA
Story 3: YTA
The young lady sounds very kind and professional but old White lady ? Sad. 🤨
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I think you're being unfair about the girl not feeling comfortable with other women going on the trip with her boyfriend. I wouldn't feel comfortable either, I trust my hubby completely but it's other women I don't trust. I don't think it's fair to call her "toxic" when she is legitamately concerned.
You’re toxic as well
Then you really don't trust your husband. If you don't trust he can't be faithful if others hit on him, then you really don't trust him after all.
Then you're insecure, paranoid and you obviously do not trust your husband? Even if the other girls were as bad as your head is painting them (clearly), your husband is the one with a penis, if he doesn't stick it in them I think you'll be fine.
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Per the group trip story, I dont feel the girlfriend was being super controlling. The only reason why is because he stated that he feels like it's just a boys trip, in which she retorted that it wasn't as there was at least more than 1 female going to be on the trip. Now, to give context to my opinion, I am married and my husband and I both dont like the thought of our significant other putting themselves in situations that could lead to certain temptation. The reason for this is because my husband and I believe that everyone is human and WILL make mistakes. So, with this we feel it's best to try and avoid putting yourself in a situation where you could be tempted to do something in the first place. For example: the BF goes on the trip w/o the GF and he's having drinks with his friends. One thing leads to another and him and one of his lady friends end up hooking up. This would be a in the moment decision that wouldn't necessarily mean he was in love with the lady and had intentions of cheating. Had the BF went with the GF the chances of this temptation occurring are significantly lower. Its more of a "why would you want to put yourself in that position in the first place" (1) and (2) "why would you not want to make sure your significant other is comfortable". Just as some others have stated if the roles were reversed the man would also be the same. This being said this kind of team work only works if both the Gf and BF are willing to keep each other accountable equally. I dont think either are a jerk as I can totally understand wanting to take this time to reconnect with a group of friends, but the trip is over several days and so the chances of something happening (not necessarily on purpose, as this is how most women and men feel, they trust their BF/GF but everyone makes stupid decisions occasionally when they're intoxicated or are making a split decision, not necessarily with the intent to harm but would still hurt) are a lot higher. This isn't to say dont trust your bf/gf/spouse etc. Because they're human, but more work together because you're human.
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the problem with the girlfriend going together in the second story is that it'll be incredibly uncomfortable if the friends are introverts, taking me and my online friends for example, we have other friends or partners but we get instantly uncomfortable with people we don't know well. My friend has a boyfriend and we don't mind him, we even talked and played together but the boyfriend will never be a part of our private group because there we talk about everything including our RPG and the book my other friend wants to write based off of our RPG, if I ever planned a trip with them or anything, the last thing I would want is to them to bring someone along outside our group, they wouldn't get half our jokes nor would I be comfortable to talk as much as I talk to my friends