Why we changed our ADOPTED TWINS names I Foster Family Vlogs I Twins Adoption Story
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- We are foster parents who went through the foster to adopt process and adopted 3, including newborn twins. Welcome to our foster care and adoption life. We are foster family vloggers who share our foster care journey! Changing our adopted twins names was a difficult decision to make. In no way did we want to erase their past. We truly feel that our past is part of our present and part of our life stories. Their birth names will always be remembered and part of their story.
When you said “ who am I to ask...” I thought wow you are their mother now , that’s who you are. You are extremely humble and you put your children before yourself, as any real mother should.
I thought the exact same thing! DNA doesn't necessarily make you a parent!!
Girl I said the same thing. Im like WHAT? They're still calling the kids by their birth names is just not right,1 your kid wasn't stable enough to have the babies 2 they were literally Newborn's and have been taken in by 2 Angel's and you should respect them and be blessed they took the babies and even still let you in their lives and you should respect the names they chose for them and call them by their names,They are still babies kids and thats confusing. Bless your Heart Christy cause I would be telling them to not call them by their names or just not even say a name if thats the issue lol.. You have a bigger heart then I do girl
I said the same thing out loud.
@@tiffanykimes4618 I agree 1,000%. The nerve of some people.. but like Christy said, to each their own lol
@@tiffanykimes4618 Absolutely agree!!
I just love it. They should be named after you & your husband. They're your children.
lisa thompson beautiful
I know someone who adopted an older girl who actually asked for her name to be changed because her original name had such bad memories attached to it.
Mitzi Lee my cousin was adopted at 12 and asked to change her name because of the memories as well.
Katarina Dietz memories of what
Rebecca Turner the life attached to her previous name
That's deep! And sad! She must have gone through a lot!
My three adopted sisters had their names changed.
The oldest added on to her name a name she liked.
The middle one changed her middle name because it was her bio dad's middle name and she changed it to a combo of my name and my other sister's name.
And the youngest was just a baby but her middle name was her bio mom's middle name so my mother changed it to a name she liked that sounds cute with her nick name.
Still sad my mom didn't change the babies name to Beans (in kidding but she is still referred to as Beans by all of us)
I am glad those babies found their way to you...
Stephanie Boudreaux right, it’s like they were birthed just for them! That’s crazy right! But God is amazing, and never is wrong with wat he does! I look @ it as birth mom was their surrogate bc this lady is their real life momma born and birth just for her🤷🏾♀️
Absolutely 🙏🏾
My name was changed also when I was adopted. It’s like a new beginning.
Those are your babies change their names to what you want. That’s nobody’s business. Love your channel.
Tina Chappel well technically they didnt come out of her soooo but yeah she’s their care taker
KayosJay no those are here children she is raising them she’s loving them she’s caring for them she’s not just there caretaker she is there mother giving birth does not make someone mother
“A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being”
@@xomnipresent8913 well technically they are her babies "adoption" technically means they are her kids!!
@@veracorreia4579 adoption is just a label
I would not share their birth names. Just keep that for them :)
“These are our babies and we wanted to have a say in their name”
Period. Nothing at all wrong with that.
Are u the mom
I’m adopting tomorrow and I am really excited.. you are an awesome Mom to all your children.
Congrats! Hope it is going well and you are happy!
God bless your family , adoption is a wonderful thing. I'm from a family of 17 kids and 13 were adopted and my parents are white. My parents changed all of our names to biblical names. They also filled us in on our backgrounds and former names . Love your children and they are blessed to have been chosen !! ♥️
That's amazing! I'd love to have a family with both adopted and biological children, biological is iffy at best but I'd love to have a baby once and many children who would want us as their family
From a family of 8, 3 of us adopted. I was 9.5 when adopted. I was given the choice to pick a new name if I wanted to. I kept my name just took in new last name :) I was happy with my name, and my new family, and my new last name. My biological brothers were adopted too. They also kept their names ( new last name only), though one of his new brothers was a boy with the same first name as one of my brothers. The family decided to call him by his middle name.
This makes my heart melt. I was adopted when I was a little baby. My adoption story is weird my mother who adopted me also adopted my mother and raised her as well. I support adoption. You have a beautiful heart. I am best friends with my biological mother and father .
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How old was your mother? That is odd! But cool :)
Danielle Rangel omg
Floridaaa girl probably a teenager
I love thossssss
I love how assertive you are about your parenting and your decisions. You seem like an amazing mom to the kiddos. ❤️
That's a very sincere compliment. I'm not crying. 😢 I'm sorry, these pregnancy hormones are making me nuts.
Naw don’t tell us their names ppl are weirdos on the internet
You nailed it!!
monica jones same!! People are scary & those kids look happy. People better let them be.
Probubly shouldnt have given their full legal names either!
😂 agreed!
Couldn’t have said this better myself
I just love that your husband suggested the “E” because his name starts with an E 😭
Boom Boom 😭😭😭😭😭
I have the same first initial as my dad, because for family reasons, they couldn't really not name their first daughter after the person I was named for. But after that, a rule was established - no names with the same first initial! There are five of us kids now so it helps cut down on the chaos as health cards, passports and doctor's office letters arrived as we were younger. Even though both my father and I have middle names, and he's a Mr/Dr while I'm Miss/whatever, we still occasionally get mail addressed to initial. Surname that isn't obviously spam mail and we have to guess who should open it.
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Daddy's girl all day!
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My husband and I have 14 children 12 are adopted. All of them had a name change it's a gift from their mother and father US. Our birth children were named by us and so are our adopted children. Adoption is a common word around our home but our children are as equal as our birth children. Seeing that we don't own a human being raising birth children and adopted children feel the same to me. My prayer is they all grow to be wonderful adults and come around and call me Mom❤ God is great!
We saw our birth mama last night❤ A super Hero is amongst us!
Wow! You adopted 12 children? How remarkable is that. God bless your family 💛💙💚💜🧡❤🖤
You are amazing!
The names you choose are very beautiful. You’re a great mother.
Avaya is my niece name. Such a beautiful name, I just found your channel😊
I love that you changed their names. I think EVERYONE should call them by their names. For me, it establishes boundaries you have every right to impose because, " who are you?" You're their parents. God bless. You and your husband are so inspiring.🌻
Those are y’all children, you have every right to name them and I love their names SO much! I love how u don’t hide the bio names and allow an open relationship with their bio families. That speaks volumes of ur character. You’re just such a wonderful and beautiful person. God bless you and your family always!!! 🙏🏽💗👸🏼🤴🏼
I kept my daughters’ first names and will tell them that was a gift from their first mamas that I didn’t want to take away but I also wanted to give them one, so I changed their middle names. I think each foster/adoptive family is different in how they approach this. ❤️
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It’s nobody’s business why you changed those beautiful babies names! It’s easy for someone to spout off their opinions from behind a keyboard when a majority of them have never adopted or foster. So it’s easy for them to maker judgement. Please don’t listen to the bitter haters. You do u and ur beautiful family! And don’t share their birth names. That’s something special for you n the family.
Thank you
Yes.
Christy is amazing. I have NEVER!!! seen a white mother handle black hair so beautifully, taking the knots out from the ends first then gradually detangling the hair up to the roots!!! Someone needs to give this mom a trophy. She’s so amazing. She must have been raised in a black household to have such GREAT understanding of black hair!!! I can’t say enough about Mom of the year… Christy!
As an Adoption Specialist for CPS in NJ I recommend changing all adoptive kid's names. Even if it's only their middle and last names. I just found your channel and love to see the joy from a resource/adoptive parent's perspective.
My husband and I changed the first to the middle and let them pick the first name. We changed first and last for safety reasons. We adopted 6 biologicals through an agency.
@@eunicenealy8663 Right! Better to change the names to give them a new identity, and a new chance at life. Bio parents can misuse their personal info. That is excellent that you've also adopted. I plan on doing the same one day.
Me as an adoptee, doesn’t agree with this at all. Most of my adopted friends neither.
Latoya G Tho I understand when it needs to be done out of safety
Hello, you all are definitely entitled to your feelings about it, and you aren't wrong. However, I can only speak from my personal experience. I've had adoptive parents stating that the biological parents claimed the adopted child on their taxes, used their original birth certificate and social security numbers to open up lines of credit... the list goes on. I also never tell the adoptive parent what to do. It's there choice of course.
I’ve just discovered your channel and I’m obsessed!! You’re kids are so cute❤️❤️. I also love how your husband wanted to name your son as if he was biologically his! You hear so many horror stories about adoption so it’s beautiful to see you and your family’ definitely a life long subscriber
Eliyah is very pretty. I’ve never heard that name. It reminds me of Elijah
indialindsey it’s the same name as Elijah. Look it up...
My name was changed when I was adopted at 6. I kept my birth name as a middle name and took my adoptive mother's last name and a common first name from my adoptive family. My adopted family still called me by my birth name (now middle name) so it got confusing at work or school lol. I find nothing wrong with changing names. You are their parents. Parents name their children 💓
@el I don't care for my first name. It doesn't really go with my personality, but neither did my birth names. If you are of age you can always change it to what you feel fits. Everyone is different but they do say that children who are adopted usually feel more comfortable in homes where they share last names with their adoptive family.
Fallen in love with your channel. The names are beautiful ❤️❤️ God bless you all. X
“Who am I to tell them to call them their adoptive name”? Their mom! I think it honorable that you let their bio family call them their birth names but I def wouldn’t. You are their mothers and that is what it is.
Yes you have all the right to change their names especially with the connected you want to feel you have contributed to their beginnings. Beautifully put.
I love how you incorporated your names into the twins names! And glad you changed their names, that’s your right as the adoptive parents. I hope you are allowed to adopt the 2 little girls!
The way you guys came up with the names are so beautiful. I love how they are so personal to your family. Peace and Blessings to all❣️
I love when you find your soulmate!!! These are 2 amazing people with a amazing heart who is serving God's purpose to be loving kind human beings 🙏 I pray that this family continues to be healthy happy and blessed 🙏❤
My Mother was adopted in 1966, and her name was completely changed. Moreover, she wasn't made aware of her adoption until she was the age of 28. It broke her heart to be made aware so late in life that she had an entire different identity as far as where and whom she came from which hurt me as her child. You guys are doing a great job, and Thank You.
They are your children! So whatever decisions you make on their behalf is important
Just love, protect and teach truth.
Providing them their Family history and their cultural history will help them in their journey in life.
My parents’ changed my sister’s name when she was adopted. They kept her birth name as her middle name✨ you have a beautiful family 🤍✨
We did that too when we adopted our son, although it's his second middle name. He has his first name, his middle name (which is my husband's first name) and then his second middle name which was his birth name
I am an adoptive mom via international and domestic adoption. I too changed one of my child’s names. I moved their first name to a middle name. As their parents I wanted to give them a name that was special from my heart to them. I will let them choose as they get older if they would like to revert back. As a former foster parent myself you all are doing a great job! Much love
I believe it was a great and beautiful decision. it's like they get a new fresh start with their names. they still know of their old names, but when they join a your family they dont have to drag along bad memories associated with their names. the past can never be erased. but love can cover those memories that they dont need to be remembered with their fresh start and loving family. and bonus of new names!
What you and your husband have done for your children is incredible! Putting so much thought into naming them. Such a beautiful family! God bless you all!
I had a step parent adoption with my son and he is so proud of his name many ppl didn’t approve. Though who are they to not approve of someone else’s name??? I support you!!
Changing names when a kid is adopted is actually VERY common :) mine was changed when I was adopted at 2 1/2. Six out of eight were adopted in my family and all of their names were changed.
I'm super new to your channel as in just last night and I've already watched multiple videos. I'm absolutely in love with your family, your kids are beautiful and I love the way that you care for them. I think you're amazing and I'm wishing you all so much love and blessings! Stay encouraged you are doing a wonderful job ❤️❤️
Much respect for what you’ve done and everything you said makes sense .❤️
I just started binge watching your channel. And I think you and your husband are a blessing to those adorable children, I can see the genuine love, and affection ❤️ 💕 you both have for those kids, and how happy they are. So my advice to you is not to care what people think or say that is negative. The kids are happy the and comfortable . You are now their legal parents, so you change their name if you wish too, period!
This just show how much you love these kids and how much you want them to be part of you.
Awww my adoptive mom changed my middle and last name of course. But she kept my first name the same so I had a part of my birth family with me. So sweet ❤️
I’ve always wondered if y’all changed their names. I LOVE the names y’all picked. My husband and I plan to do the same when we adopt. The reason is all of our names go with each other. It would be weird if their name didn’t flow with the rest of us. Plus once we’ve adopted we want that input and say. I love all your content. Keep on posting, lady!!
Cute names! We gave our daughter a new middle name and our last name. After almost 2 years, there was no way we could call her anything other than Kylee so we kept it! I’m glad she will have that name her birth mama gave her though. 😊 We also have an open adoption and 2 more foster littles! ❤️ Glad I found your channel!!
You do not owe No one any explanation on what you choose to do with your children... It is you and your husband's business entirely. I am now subscribed to your channel as I am fostering again and I am strongly considering adoption too. As a Therapist who has worked in the foster care system I know the frustration that a lot of foster parents and adoptive parents face yet instead of being a problem I am part of the solution as a strong advocate. Thank you and your husband for all that you do and bringing light and love to a sensitive matter for many. Your children are happy and well loved. Stay blessed mate!!
I’m so happy they have a family, every child deserves a family, feel safe, someone who takes care of them. Just want to say thank you for giving them all that they need ❤️ May god bless you and your husband for ever.
I love this! 🥰
Edit- no no no you are their mother
You have all the rights to do as you please with your children
The birth people lost all rights to calling them those birth names
I don’t know the back story but those are your babies 🤷🏾♀️
I agreed
Beautiful your open view with your babies. They understand and that's what's important. YOUR family and your babies are loved.
You are their mom so you have every right to tell them to call them the name you named them. You are such an Angel and also their real mother thanks keep it up ma ma'am
If they’re 5 weeks old I don’t really see any harm in changing their names. BUT, once they get to a certain age it can really cause some self identity issues. Just a thought for anyone fostering/adopting older children. Also, their biological family calling them their old name can also cause some identity issues unfortunately.
Completely agree. When they're infants, fine. Not sure how old it would become a problem, but I think our identities start forming from 3 yrs old. So I wouldn't change a kid's name after the first year of life. Unless for safety reasons, etc.
Edit** I see some adoptees in the comments section saying they liked the fact that their names changed, although I dunno how old they were when this happened. I suppose if the kid is old enough to be included in the decision (because their surname will change and do they want a new first name) then that's the most sensible way to go about it.
Unfortunately they will have identity issue regardless. She is their mother now and seems to be a great one. But they will have to work through those issues themselves
Mariah G I think that kids are smart and when done with care the child can feel connected to both their past and their present. If the child is older I think their feelings on the matter should be taken into consideration, but this mom seems to have great dialogue with her kids and fosters a strong sense of family which is SO important to kids with traumatic backgrounds. You can’t ignore their past. It will always be part of them. Teaching them to accept/embrace their past can help them better deal with things as they get older
Thank you. Everyone commenting "these are your babies, you do what you want period" are missing the point. Adopting kids dont give parents the right to mess with their heads/sense of self.
These commenters are centering parents' desires over the kids' best interests.
As to this particular case, i have no opinion. 5 months is very young. we will have to wait until they grow up to know how they feel about it.
I hope the parents made the right choice. 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
We adopted four children, just changed middle and last name of course.
I love that your family supports adoption. Those are your babies so you have a say in everything, everyone needs to address your kids by the names you and your husband gave them. It's disrespectful to address them by their birth names knowing they were changed.
Absolutely nothing wrong in changing their names. Love their names, so unique and beautiful. You seem to be a very kind hearted sincere and loving person. Continue to care for your kids the way you are no need to justify or apologize for doing anything that is for the betterment of these kids.
As an adoptee, I love that your goal is always to love & protect them, keeping some things personal Is necessary for privacy & everyone SHOULD understand that. As long as the kids understand where they come from and their past is not hidden from them, that is all that matters! You're amazingly wonderful
One min in & im already crying! This is so sweet
Your children, your choice. Thank you for sharing! You have a beautiful family! ❤️
I am an adoptee. I spent 2 months in foster care with no name at all. I am shocked at the attitude many adoptees have towards active parents and adoption in general. When you said you were not trying to erase their past, I saw so many comments on fb pages where people were very much of that mindset. Never let those people make you feel like you have to explain your family or decisions. You have a beautiful family and are a great mom.
Just found your channel. I love the kiddo’s names. I can definitely understand the safety reasons. And I’m happy the birth family is in their lives. So many adopted kids have zero info on their background.
Thank you for what you do.
Eliyah is such a beautiful name that struck me even before hearing this video! Love the twins’ names as well and the reasons behind it (although none are needed ❤️) and that you both, as their parents, have named them and contributed to recreating their story in such a beautiful way. Love your channel
Please Do A Video Of What To Expect During Adoption, The Process & Requirements. I'm Really Looking Forward to Adopting Next Year.
Thanks for getting back. Love your videos & I've always wanted to adopt so thank you for sharing with people like me !
I changed my name years ago and it always seems kind of odd when people ask me what my name used to be. I don’t think you ever need to tell anybody what their names used to be. The names they have now are who they are. And I also agree with you when you say it’s kind of personal. It’s actually very personal. Thank you for sharing your story!
Am in love with your children,your love for them is radiating in them,love you for your unconditional love for them😍😘
Such a beautiful family, the children are adorable & beautiful.
They are such blessings from God. 💕
Hey Christy , I’ve been binge watching your videos for the past few days . I love your family and I can’t wait until your channel BLOW! I can feel it coming
changing names is a touchy subject. Protecting your children is def a priority and they know what their birth names were so that's a plus. Also, their birth family calling them by their birth names is actually pretty neat and very mature/secure of you to not allow that gesture to cause fear in you.
Our birth mom was so sweet in allowing us to name our daughter at birth. The only name we changed was her last when we had our court date. We chose Elizabeth because it holds a special place in my heart and it has a beautiful meaning, " Gods Oath, Gods Promise." Everyone in her birth family has a middle name that starts with M, so she also has a name beginning with M. Her birth family lives 12 minutes from us and we try to get together on holidays and 1 weekend a month. They have blessed us with such a gift and my baby girl also has sisters who I want her to bond with. You guys have a beautiful family and a wonderful story!
Gina Carr iam Elizabeth amd my middle name starts with an M that’s so neat
Oma I love you n your husband the Ancestors looks down smiling on y’all 💞🌿🌿💞
When i first saw your channel i instantly adore you and your kids i admire people who got a courage to have kids not their own..in a world that sometimes cruel for some abandoned children you and your husband has a big heart...i enjoy your vlog about your beautiful family❤❤❤
I've changed all my babies names... its because its part of being a mommy and a daddy....names we've always dreamed of! U go gurl
You are an amazing Mom. I know your kids love you so much. Doesn't matter what people say, so long as you all are happy is what matters the most. You have a beautiful heart therefore you are blessed. ❤
Your videos make me smile. Such a welcome journey to trivial time. Thank u for being an awesome mother.
You are AWESOME people you have given of your heart and home to the children . People like you restore faith in good people still exist . Good luck in the future and may GOD bless you all.
Thank you for sharing this. I enjoy watching all of your videos. Love seeing your family grow and your beautiful stories through life.
love lily running in “oh hello sweetie”
Who are you? You're their mother! You have EVERY right to have everyone call them their names. The names you gave them as their parents. But that's very sweet of you to consider their feelings. I wouldn't. God bless you for loving these babies. You two seem very loving.
Yall pick some cool names I love it you and your hubby heart so big thanks for just being a blessing
I LOVE YOU , YOUR A LIFE SAVER .. I LOVE HOW YOU TOOK THESE KIDS IN AND NOW THEY ARE YOURS FOREVER ! ive been watching your videos for days now i love this channel so much , new subscriber !
Beautiful story of how you and your husband named your beautiful kids. Love all their names! Ace is a great boy name. :-) I simply adore you and your husband, Christina. Your kids are so blessed to have wonderful parents like you two. And I know you both feel blessed having these precious kids to love and to cherish forever. By the way, I live in Summerlin, Las Vegas. I hope I run into you guys one day. :-) 💕
I feel their your children and you should definitely have that right to change names! Blessed family their all in! Thank you for loving them❤️😘
Those are your kids and they look happy and are full of love and that’s all that matters.
So happy that your channel was in my feed. Love how u actually ❤ your kids.
They look so happy & full of life ❤️😊🙏🏾 ❤️
I think you and your hubby have created beautiful names that is unique. Bless ur family
I love their names and that you kept a part of their old names and put a peice of you both in them, their your babies now so it seems wonderful to me.
As an adoptee, whose adoption didn't go so well, I thank you. This is indeed God's work.
Peace be upon you all. Enjoy your walk,together.
I love that you are so open about your bra family’s journey. What you are sharing is important for many families that may be in a similar journey ♥️🥰
I’m so in love with your family I came across ur videos today an been trying to catch up lol God bless you and your husband. You guys are amazing your kids are beautiful thank you for sharing your journey
I started following you back a couple months ago, I absolutely love your family
Those Are you're children... You are the protector of their lives and their futures... I wish you all the love and peace in their lives and yours... Peace and Blessings to you... 😃
You love your family and all great decisions flow from love.
.Congratulations on having such a beautiful family. No explanation needed.
I love the fact that they know their birth names and are still called that by some of their birth family
Love there names ..now I better take my butt to BED!! I love it when parents g
ive their kids Unique names!
Anyone can be a mother and a father they don’t have to be biological! I don’t know my biological parents and I’m probably never will! I was adopted at the age of 2-3 years old along with my brother who was 1-1 half years old! My adoptive mother is the only mother I know! I am also glad to call her mom! She gave me and my brother a home and we have a wonderful family that loves us! Keep doing you! Thank you for spreading the message for all of us to hear!
They are your children. You as their parents have every right to change their names!
I start watching your videos; not to long ago; but just love each video you post, your children looking very happy, thank you for sharing
I've recently found your channel and just say I enjoy your content. I ran into this video with an add which is a cartoon 1:20 mins and I really enjoyed it.