"I'd rather drink antifreeze than treat my wife like that." Honestly same, I love my husband so much and being mean to him, especially so casually, would never cross my mind, let alone to show off how mean you are to your spouse *in public*. Like, why even get married if you hate your spouse so much!?? That's why I never identified with the baby boomer "LOL I hate my wife" style of humor.
Sometimes people get married out of boredom, or because it's part of it, or they have family pressure, or you want to claim ownership over your partner. "You are mine now", that is a tool for power over someone else. There are a thousand reasons why people get married who shouldn't get married. Maybe they have a child together? Maybe it's necessary for a new job? or a new apartment? There are landlords who do not rent to unmarried couples because they are living in sin. Or they simply want to save taxes. I don't know how it works in the USA with the taxes but in Germany there are different tax classes and married people get a better tax class. They simply pay less taxes.
And there are people who just love to argue. That is their hobby. It raises the pulse and creates tension in the relationship. I also find it strange, but there are people who explicitly look for partners, where they know exactly, that will create a lot of stress. A man who has 5 children with 5 women and does not care and refuse to pay alimony? Yes, he is perfect, from him I let myself get pregnant. What could go wrong? Oh, a woman who changes her fiancé like some change their socks? She will definitely be open to a long-term relationship
oh, some people are better when they were dating and worse after getting married. They just drop their mask and stop trying once they pass the finish line. Then it's too late to get out since they have to stay together "for the kids" or "because the neighbors are going to gossip." Also staying married comes with government benefits. Divorce and Annulment is a thing but it can also be too much of a hassle.
Same here. My husband and I just love and care about eachother too much to be shitty to eachother whether we had a bad day or not, and even when we slip up, we apologize to eachother because we feel so bad about it. Hell, even in game, when we play characters who don't get along or don't like eachother for whatever reason, we don't go out of our ways to be mean to eachother.
Honestly, with the last story, you put it best Doge. Leaning on disability to excuse vile behavior only harms others, and can enforce stigmas. No one benefits from it. I hope OP and the rest of that group are doing okay after all that. For sure needed more Lucky. Keep up the good work.
Being schizophrenic myself I can only thank Hollywood for how they portray my illness, the very few times I've talked about schizophrenia with irl people they often exclaim how dangerous or monstrous "they" are, so I don't exactly tell them I got it after that.
this is exactly why i hate when parents say "oh he's autistic he doesn't know any better" not only is it demeaning to the kid but it teaches them that they can do whatever they want and get away with it because they can just blame their autism
What’s especially despicable is that as someone on the Spectrum to hear someone weaponizing our disability. The justice that followed was well deserved. Hopefully he’ll get the ass beating of a lifetime when the inmates find out what he did
indeed, and how much you willing to be that he will NEVER take any responsibility for any of his actions. That guy actually acts and sound a bit like Chris Chan.
I hate people like that, I'm also on the spectrum and I don't act like that. In fact most people don't even realize that I am on the spectrum until I tell them.
Hopefully this ended up being his Moral Event Horizon that completely tanked his reputation and he's likely still at home like the Incel he is blaming everyone else, ESPECIALLY OP for why no one wants anything to do with him! His refusal to acknowledge why they really want nothing to do with him, because he was SO Sure he'd be forgiven as usual! Creep is going to TRULY regret nuking OP like that! For him removing it off of social media is another example of he knew EXACTLY what he was doing, and knew he could get in REAL trouble for it! He got what he wanted as word of mouth and such will spread around anyway, even if remove! One day, he's going to play his "I have autism, I can't help it" with the wrong types and get beaten within an inch of his life! Maybe then he'll stop after being traumitized and near death enough to be afraid of going through that a second time!
Story 1: I hope DM didn’t wound up marrying Paladin. That sounded like a DISASTER waiting to happen. Story 2: I am in the spectrum and yes, indulge a bit into adult anime but that is something I keep to myself! I would die if I did speak of it in public! Also, I have never, ever, EVER blamed by condition on bad behavior nor ever blamed my army for being weak or that my character was just a terrible character when I roll bad. These things happen! Now I rarely win battles on the miniature tabletop front; I still have fun. I analyze why I did bad which more often than not ends up pretty much being bad at initial deployment it forgetting unit abilities or not utilizing rules. So far, on the dnd side, I am way more content and happy and when I roll bad, ouch but no big deal. That player; to both use his condition; I refuse to say that it’s a disability, to use it as a shield; and then attack OPs sexuality; dude, you’re just a horrible person whose probably been coddled all his life like a precious snowflake and never had to experience consequences of his actions or was allowed bad things to happen to him. Edit: Ok. I paused the video to type the comment and didn’t finish watching the video. Wow! What the hell! I never had the privilege of having a GF but to post revenge porn for something that I consider sacred, is just bad. Super bad. Also, yay! New kitten.
Yeah. I am on the spectrum too, and the most i will do is let people know about it in advance... so they understand any oddities of mine that spring from it. I also tend to ask them to be blunt (as politely blunt as possible but still blunt) and upfront with me if i do anything that upsets or offends them. This is all so those people can UNDERSTAND me better, and HELP me to DO BETTER whenever i unknowingly fall short. I do NOT use my disabilities as an excuse for bad behaviour. And i also try my best to act properly, and to continually work on improving myself. TLDR: I do not use any of my mental disorders as an excuse for bad behaviour. I just inform people of them so that they can better understand me and help me to improve. People who use their disorders as an excuse for bad behaviour are not good people.
Well, now my blood is boiling. First off, using autism as an excuse for terrible behavior is never acceptable. Then, going as far as he did to try and destroy everyone for his misbehavior is beyond the pale. I'm going to be real, after that second story I'm really mad. And more than a little sick of people like that, they make my life, and everyone's harder for no reason.
Same here I have my own disabilities but saying you have a disability does not give you or anyone the right to be a shitty person sadly it's very common in the disabled community for people to use there disability in this way
It's not the same as autism but I'm schizophrenic, I used to play tabletop RPGs, but as my illness got worse I had to stop, I could tell my behavior made the others disappointed with me. I didn't have the diagnosis at the time and only got in a year later so I had no idea why I was like this. My behavior was a mix of being being extremely sure they were cheating and they were all in on it just to put me down, and not being able to follow the story being too distracted with what I *thought* was happening. Now I have no one, I distanced myself from everyone, I can't stand how I might treat people if I grow paranoid with my antipsychotics (which I often do) or even worse get a psychotic episode. My point is, no matter your difficulties It's YOUR responsibility to not be a horrible friend and ruining it for everyone. Work on yourself first and if you are lucky your friends might help you with that. Throwing your hands up and blame whatever else for your behavior doesn't fly. If you don't even try, don't expect sympathy.
Me whenever Doge says "last story of the Video" and it's almost half the time left: ,,Dafuq is it this time? Blackmail? Incels? Threats against OPs life?"
Up until the outing of the DM, I was about to say, allow an autistic person to play on their phone, so long as they can keep track of the game. While it can be disruptive, you can ask them to keep it muted. For many, having some repetitive app or something to preoccupy them, actually helps them stay grounded in group activities for long periods. It varies from person to person, obviously. I have a second cousin on the high end of the spectrum. During family gatherings, access to a phone completely changes how she interacts with us. With one, she can disengage into whatever nonsense is on the phone for a while, then come back out of it to talk or eat briefly, then go back into the phone. She can have fun with the family in between distractions, and is cheerful. Without it, she gets increasingly anxious, bouncing through the house and messing with stuff, refusing to talk, and begging her mother to leave.
I have autism, you can use it as an explanation for your behaviour and not understanding social cues but it isn't a free pass to not even try to understand people. Socialising is hard and full of complicated rules, I'm can struggle picking up on social cues and knowing when something is inappropriate. I understand it's hard. But when people are complaining about what you're doing you ask what you did wrong, you listen and learn. Don't use autism as an excuse to be an asshole, you give all of us a bad name.
And story two is camp B of my thoughts about Autism. There’s two different camps I view people that say this. There’s camp A, as long as it appears you’re trying to improve, even if it’s difficult or minor improvements, I’ll cut you some slack. I understand there’s things that make it difficult for people to read a room and the like. I do try to understand and put myself in their shoes. Then there’s camp B, You get no quarter because you’re trying to use it as a shield to deflect criticisms about your behavior. I know a guy who had someone firmly in camp B who had convinced everyone else about how it wasn’t his fault and the guy went behind everyone’s back and manipulated the DM into kicking my buddy out. I’m aware it’s still a petty and possibly horrible thing to do but I don’t think it’s fair to Camp A people who are actually trying where Camp B gets to get the benefits from it and still be an ass.
The thing is, those Camp B people? They often aren't even diagnosed professionally; they were just put in special education for being 'problematic' at a young age and find out they can use it as a shield to not improve themselves ever. They often develop sociopathic tendencies and are way more toxic than you'd expect because they DO understand social cues, they just know they can get away with ignoring them and will actively try to manipulate people into defending them from criticism. I should know, I have multiple family members who were 'autistic' and in special education in school, but all professional opinions conclude they aren't on the spectrum at all.
Narcissism can manifest even with neurodiverse conditions. And often, the condition can enhance the narcissism due to people not holding them accountable and making it easier for them to get away with the classic narcissist behavior of manipulating others with emotional abuse and facilitating toxic relationships for their benefit. Don't ask me how I know about this 😕
@@hayvenforpeace Don't confuse neurotypical with civilized. If neurodivergence makes someone feel disrespected, then they are disrespectful. The "toxic" guy's problems were not caused by autism or nonconformity. He just used his alleged autism as an excuse to treat others poorly.
I'm so happy that you have a couple of black kitties. Voids don't get as much recognition as they should, but they're awesome. Keep it up with the daily doses of cat videos between these stories, pls.
Some of my best gaming buddies are on the spectrum and they would never act like that, so I've got no patience for folks who think that sort of thing is a get-out-of-jail-free card.
Hi Lucky, Hi new buddy - you have a Tabby baby! Thanks Doge - you the ma...I mean Doge. And now to the horror stories!!! Oh cool - a Nipsy cameo - and yeah that does look like a nice pillow. And finally - the three little ones - oh it's a good day to see kitties. You should end the videos with your broodlings as every time I see them my blood pressure goes down.
I wouldn't be at all surprised if Problem Player from the last story was "self diagnosed autistic" as its all too common for assholes to use it as a sword and shield these days. Most autistic people I know react to these stories with horror, disgust and genuine anger at being grouped with them
About the second story: man, that problem player is not only toxic person and a piece of crap, but also very evil! And I do agree with people like this used the Dissability card to excuse of their bad behavior and they don't do anything to change. This kind of people are the most awful of all. And all because of the group just kicking him out of the game. He could just let it go and move on and find another group. But, the look of this guy, that's not an option for him. Well, just like the saying: He just drowned in a glass of water himself.
Ok I just gotten to the player with autism story. I as many others, have autism, and while yes it's a pain and can make things difficult, it's not an excuse for bad or rude behaviour. Op isn't the ahole imo. They did the right thing. And as of typing this I got to the FB part...Op is definitely innocent and 1000% valid!
The 2 main issues autistic and non-autistic people have when dealing with each other are the narrow interests of autistic people and a general communication barrier. The narrow interest in this case is the hentai, which you chose to tolerate. The communication barrier is more complicated, like complicated enough to write books about. Him outing someone on the internet can definitely not be explained with the communication barrier.
My husband and I play dnd together. 2 groups we’ve played in have had another couple in them. The first was super toxic and constantly did things in game to antagonize one another. The other is… just a normal couple. Lol.
YES! YES! YES! Finally! We hear all these stories about crappy people doing crappy things (in game and out) but too often those on the receiving are non confrontational, or will rationalize away the awful behavior. When the POS finally gets kicked, it turns out to be "...and he was never seen or heard from again...". But here we have CONSEQUENSES - KARMA-WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I swear to all the gods, from Allah to Zeus that I was a member of that gaming group I would make some preparations. If Mr. Chuckles actually gets some jail time, I would arrange to visit ANY one else serving time at the same facility and have a little chat. Need a few bucks in your prison account? No problem. You have loved ones on the outside that could use some help? I'm on it. Say, do you know about that new fish that just got sent here? Mr. Revenge Porn? Yea, that's the guy. Listen, I'm prepared to up the favor factor if you can see to it that he has a MEMERABLE time while serving his sentence. Don't kill him, don't cripple him, and for gods sake don't put yourself at risk. I just want him to leave here with a VIVID understanding that crappy behavior has a price tag.
I have only ever intimidate as a warpriest of Sarenrae once. We were about to begin combat with a dragon that had frankly been bullying our party and a village for weeks. I rolled intimidate and got a 19+10 for a 29. GM asked what I was saying. I thought for a moment and replied. "Failing my Goddess's mercy you will suffer her light"
Wow. Ousting someone before they're ready to their whole family!? That's just vile. I feel like in someway, hacking someone's social media and doing something like that should be illegal.
I'm autistic, and the problem player in the last story is absolutely using his neurotype to intentionally be manipulative. I hate when other autistic people use autism as an excuse to harm others; it feeds into the stigmas and misinformation that are so rampant around our community and does nothing but harm not just those around him but other autistic people as well. Also, it's totally understandable if you didn't know, but in general (though there are personal exceptions), most autistic people prefer to be referred to as "autistic" / "an autistic person" instead of "person with autism" / "someone who has autism".
Lucky, you make the end of my work week go right. And is that one of the hack and slash Castlevania games? Man, Op in the last story, I'm sorry that happened to you. problem player is an a-hole.
Technically it is yes. It’s Lament of Innocence. It focuses on Leon Belmont and gives the backstory of why the Belmonts hunt monsters, as well as Dracula’s backstory as well (since he was Leon Belmonts best friend and co-general in the company of knights that they worked with), and the Vampire Killer whip that the family uses.
@@BlueTressym hopefully nothing beyond what's gone down so far happens, but since he's a Sorcerer, I can only assume our poor newbie Barbarian is gonna eat a fireball at some point(especially since our Wizard has already been decked with an ice knife that killed his last PC). Our Party is so far: Goliath Totem Barbarian High Elf Bladesinger Wizard Emerald Dragonborn Sorcerer Tiefling Celestial Warlock
Is the number of cats proportional to the amount of evil you will need to counter from reading these stories? If so, Lucky is going to have a lot of new playmates sooner or later. ...which would be awesome. 😺
I'm here for Lucky! which one is it that's the feral rescue? I noticed the clipped ear at the end, mine has a clipped ear, he was a stay that was caught and neutered, went to release him and they saw he was rather affectionate for a feral, they took him back in to find him a home and my now 16lb buddy is a daddy's boy
Last Story AFter Update: I almost was upset that POS was going to get away with just being exiled from the group after outing OP and costing him his grandparents (OP was better off, when he eventually came out on his own, this result was likely going to happen! Better to happen early on where OP has more time to get over it, then later on where he might be more sensitive and vulnerable! It sucks, but it is what it is sadly) But it cost him near everything. To POS I say this with a shit eating smile and toothy grin "I hope it was ALL worth it, you lost everything, all because your fee fees were hurt!" This is what would TRULY happen to Eric Cartman in a non-south park real world scenario! Being a main character is the ONLY reason he's still around as Status Quo is GOD protects him (about as much as it's the reason Kenny hasn't died for good) from TRULY suffering from his shitty actions. Though he does suffer on occasion for it (and when he does, the suffering is WELL WORTH IT! Meaning even Trey and Matt knew letting Eric pull Karma Houdani too much would wear thin)
In response to "When the DM is that guy's fiance:" I'm getting some mixed signals here. OP says the DM is weirdly giving them (OP) all the story interactions and stuff then the fiance gets a nerfed version of a legendary sword and they're immediately calling favoritism. I feel like they were rubbing the DM the wrong way themselves but they either didn't notice or left it out. lol
I hate it when people uses one of their characteristics to excuse everything they do or accuse everyone around them of being evil. I fell OP so much in the last story because it messes up with you. You fear that everything you do will bring that horrible label someone is trying to impose on you. So glad OP had a (mostly) good circle to support them. Also, I need more cats. So much more cats!!!
In all fairness to the Autistic Warhammer player, WH is full of BS where your army can change to be very OP or very weak just because games workshop decided they didn't like that bird they saw on the way to work that day. That is not an excuse to be a sore loser but I understand his frustration and I have seen it get to many people as sometimes the game can be won or lost by a single ability or inch on the table.
Yeah, I stopped playing years ago due to so much flip flopping of rules and abilities. Now I just paint the minis to decorate my shelf and sometimes enter them into painting contests
Like for extra dose of kitty! Sounds like problem player is a combo of narcissist and autistic, which combined together makes a pretty viscious person. I was friends with such a person for a while before I had to cut it off for my own piece of mind
That last story, ohh boils my blood! I'm autistic and gay and that's just sick and twisted! None of that was okay! Just fucking nasty! I'm so glad he's getting his karma
Its like we're going through these stories with the same experience. Where before we go through a dungeon A.K.A Reddit, Doge always starts with his Moral boosting kitty familiars. It's to this point where I ask, mighty Doge, when would be a good time to do fanart of these?
2nd story. If you had a friend who crapped himself spontaneously you might not invite him to your waterslide club. Not his fault, but he's going to leave a brown smear down the slide, they're going to have to close the slide and nobody else is going to have any fun. Same situation here, except my example has a disability with his asshole, and your friends disability is being an asshole.
Third story rings of "and everybody clapped". The justice seems too perfectly like laser guided karma, with things he tried to inflict coming back onto him with exact proportion.
"Constantly complaining that his AC was 18. But we had no idea how he got to that number" Oh yeah. Y'all are playing 5th edition. Such puny AC. Chad PF1e with 31 hit points at level 1 and a 20 AC without even trying.
As a gay man. The last story and update just hurts... I came out to my sister, brother in law and mom a long time ago. But my dad still doesn't know, or at least hasn't really said anything about it yet if he does or just suspects. Don't know if I ever will or not because he's not exactly the most open minded of individuals...
Wow, that last guy. Yea, screw his disability, he knew what he was doing. Multiple accounts, outing to a family, and posting nudes. You know what you are doing after all that.
What an absolutely toxic, trash PoS! (Last story's problem player) Maybe it's a little extreme, but I can't help really hoping he found himself in a VERY hot'n'heavy new "relationship" in jail after pulling all that BS on people who were supposed to be his friends and gf!
DM in the first story is in a relationship that is toxic at best, if not straight-up abusive. She lets him get away with his shit and panders to his narcissism because she lives with him and he makes her life Hell if she doesn't. Textbook case of No Fiance is Better Than Bad Fiance. The autistic player: As someone #ActuallyAutistic this seriously annoys me. I am autistic and yes, social cues are hard. That doesn't mean that I am innately selfish or uncaring, it doesn't mean I don't have empathy - that is an incredibly harmful myth that needs to die - and it doesn't mean that when I get specifically told I'm upsetting people, I think it's OK to claim that my neurological differences are a Get Out of Consequences Free card for being an arse. Some autistic people are just arseholes, just as some allistic people are just arseholes. Tell him bluntly that the way he behaves isn't acceptable. Yes, he damn well CAN help it. Yes, being autistic can make some things harder for us to grasp - we don't have the ability to pick up social norms by osmosis, or witchcraft, or however it is that allistic people do it. That doesn't mean we can't learn when people are straight with us, preferably without being gratuitously nasty about it or claiming we 'should know' things. That said, in all fairness, the 'being on his phone,' may be because he struggles to keep focused when not directly involved and that is something a LOT of people - autistic and allistic - have trouble with. Let him play on his phone, maybe suggest he plays games that are relatively low-focus so he can still pay enough attention to what's going on in the game to not hold up the table by having no idea what's going on when it's his turn in battle or he's being addressed. EDIT: Having finished the video before posting, screw that guy. Homophobia and outing someone with the clear intent to cause them grief is absolutely... *almost explodes with rage*. Then revenge porn... *actually explodes with rage*. Leaving my previous thoughts on it because they may be of use to someone with a problem player that has issues but is otherwise a decent person.
I was struck with meningitis as a kid in the late 70s and I ended up with mild brain damage, this wasn't diagnosed untill I was an adult. But because of the damage I ended up with, I'll say mild Autism, I get confused real easy, learning difficulties, problems remembering names, have problems with social interactions and can't detect sarchasm unless it's over the top and real bad memory yada yada. I also suffered with, ironically, attention deficit disorder or AD&D with bouts of tourettes which starts off with me making silly noises, up to swearing like a sailor when stressed, I also defeated dyslexia, it can be done. The thing is, I sometimes say and do things that make me cringe and facepalm later, but nothing like this idiot did, he kind of sounded more like an immature weeb with the IQ of a vindictive, moody 12 year old with no idea that actions have consequences, while blaming others for whatever he did, and no doubt his legal defense will be "autism".
Holy shit, this guy is one of the most evil players on this channel...and he'd only get a maximum of three years? No wonder people keep posting revenge porn
I think that last story is true, but on Reddit and other places there are a lot of autism bad stories where someone claims to be neuro divergent themselves then tells a story about an irredeemable monster who is autistic, it's made up bigotry mostly.
"I'd rather drink antifreeze than treat my wife like that."
Honestly same, I love my husband so much and being mean to him, especially so casually, would never cross my mind, let alone to show off how mean you are to your spouse *in public*. Like, why even get married if you hate your spouse so much!?? That's why I never identified with the baby boomer "LOL I hate my wife" style of humor.
Sometimes people get married out of boredom, or because it's part of it, or they have family pressure, or you want to claim ownership over your partner. "You are mine now", that is a tool for power over someone else. There are a thousand reasons why people get married who shouldn't get married. Maybe they have a child together? Maybe it's necessary for a new job? or a new apartment? There are landlords who do not rent to unmarried couples because they are living in sin. Or they simply want to save taxes. I don't know how it works in the USA with the taxes but in Germany there are different tax classes and married people get a better tax class. They simply pay less taxes.
And there are people who just love to argue. That is their hobby. It raises the pulse and creates tension in the relationship. I also find it strange, but there are people who explicitly look for partners, where they know exactly, that will create a lot of stress. A man who has 5 children with 5 women and does not care and refuse to pay alimony? Yes, he is perfect, from him I let myself get pregnant. What could go wrong? Oh, a woman who changes her fiancé like some change their socks? She will definitely be open to a long-term relationship
oh, some people are better when they were dating and worse after getting married. They just drop their mask and stop trying once they pass the finish line. Then it's too late to get out since they have to stay together "for the kids" or "because the neighbors are going to gossip." Also staying married comes with government benefits. Divorce and Annulment is a thing but it can also be too much of a hassle.
Same here. My husband and I just love and care about eachother too much to be shitty to eachother whether we had a bad day or not, and even when we slip up, we apologize to eachother because we feel so bad about it. Hell, even in game, when we play characters who don't get along or don't like eachother for whatever reason, we don't go out of our ways to be mean to eachother.
Honestly, with the last story, you put it best Doge. Leaning on disability to excuse vile behavior only harms others, and can enforce stigmas. No one benefits from it. I hope OP and the rest of that group are doing okay after all that. For sure needed more Lucky.
Keep up the good work.
Being schizophrenic myself I can only thank Hollywood for how they portray my illness, the very few times I've talked about schizophrenia with irl people they often exclaim how dangerous or monstrous "they" are, so I don't exactly tell them I got it after that.
i have various mental issues, most folks can't even tell though, cause i learned to counter them, without meds.
this is exactly why i hate when parents say "oh he's autistic he doesn't know any better" not only is it demeaning to the kid but it teaches them that they can do whatever they want and get away with it because they can just blame their autism
Wow that last story just wow. Thanks for the 3 doses of cat I really needed it. That person was a monster and gives a bad name to players everywhere
This is what happens when you use your disability as a crutch instead of trying to be a better person
What’s especially despicable is that as someone on the Spectrum to hear someone weaponizing our disability.
The justice that followed was well deserved. Hopefully he’ll get the ass beating of a lifetime when the inmates find out what he did
indeed, and how much you willing to be that he will NEVER take any responsibility for any of his actions. That guy actually acts and sound a bit like Chris Chan.
Honestly, I had that same thought as I was reading it.
I hate people like that, I'm also on the spectrum and I don't act like that. In fact most people don't even realize that I am on the spectrum until I tell them.
Guy wasn't just an asshole, he was straight up evil. Let's call a spade a spade.
Hopefully this ended up being his Moral Event Horizon that completely tanked his reputation and he's likely still at home like the Incel he is blaming everyone else, ESPECIALLY OP for why no one wants anything to do with him! His refusal to acknowledge why they really want nothing to do with him, because he was SO Sure he'd be forgiven as usual! Creep is going to TRULY regret nuking OP like that!
For him removing it off of social media is another example of he knew EXACTLY what he was doing, and knew he could get in REAL trouble for it! He got what he wanted as word of mouth and such will spread around anyway, even if remove! One day, he's going to play his "I have autism, I can't help it" with the wrong types and get beaten within an inch of his life! Maybe then he'll stop after being traumitized and near death enough to be afraid of going through that a second time!
Story 1: I hope DM didn’t wound up marrying Paladin. That sounded like a DISASTER waiting to happen.
Story 2: I am in the spectrum and yes, indulge a bit into adult anime but that is something I keep to myself! I would die if I did speak of it in public! Also, I have never, ever, EVER blamed by condition on bad behavior nor ever blamed my army for being weak or that my character was just a terrible character when I roll bad. These things happen! Now I rarely win battles on the miniature tabletop front; I still have fun. I analyze why I did bad which more often than not ends up pretty much being bad at initial deployment it forgetting unit abilities or not utilizing rules.
So far, on the dnd side, I am way more content and happy and when I roll bad, ouch but no big deal. That player; to both use his condition; I refuse to say that it’s a disability, to use it as a shield; and then attack OPs sexuality; dude, you’re just a horrible person whose probably been coddled all his life like a precious snowflake and never had to experience consequences of his actions or was allowed bad things to happen to him.
Edit: Ok. I paused the video to type the comment and didn’t finish watching the video. Wow! What the hell! I never had the privilege of having a GF but to post revenge porn for something that I consider sacred, is just bad. Super bad.
Also, yay! New kitten.
Yeah. I am on the spectrum too, and the most i will do is let people know about it in advance... so they understand any oddities of mine that spring from it. I also tend to ask them to be blunt (as politely blunt as possible but still blunt) and upfront with me if i do anything that upsets or offends them.
This is all so those people can UNDERSTAND me better, and HELP me to DO BETTER whenever i unknowingly fall short. I do NOT use my disabilities as an excuse for bad behaviour.
And i also try my best to act properly, and to continually work on improving myself.
TLDR: I do not use any of my mental disorders as an excuse for bad behaviour. I just inform people of them so that they can better understand me and help me to improve.
People who use their disorders as an excuse for bad behaviour are not good people.
Well, now my blood is boiling.
First off, using autism as an excuse for terrible behavior is never acceptable. Then, going as far as he did to try and destroy everyone for his misbehavior is beyond the pale.
I'm going to be real, after that second story I'm really mad.
And more than a little sick of people like that, they make my life, and everyone's harder for no reason.
Same here I have my own disabilities but saying you have a disability does not give you or anyone the right to be a shitty person sadly it's very common in the disabled community for people to use there disability in this way
It's not the same as autism but I'm schizophrenic, I used to play tabletop RPGs, but as my illness got worse I had to stop, I could tell my behavior made the others disappointed with me. I didn't have the diagnosis at the time and only got in a year later so I had no idea why I was like this. My behavior was a mix of being being extremely sure they were cheating and they were all in on it just to put me down, and not being able to follow the story being too distracted with what I *thought* was happening.
Now I have no one, I distanced myself from everyone, I can't stand how I might treat people if I grow paranoid with my antipsychotics (which I often do) or even worse get a psychotic episode.
My point is, no matter your difficulties It's YOUR responsibility to not be a horrible friend and ruining it for everyone. Work on yourself first and if you are lucky your friends might help you with that. Throwing your hands up and blame whatever else for your behavior doesn't fly. If you don't even try, don't expect sympathy.
Me whenever Doge says "last story of the Video" and it's almost half the time left:
,,Dafuq is it this time? Blackmail? Incels? Threats against OPs life?"
"How many cats does Doge have?"
"Yes."
bit enough ;p
That kitty segment really did the trick this video! That last story was rough, there was no excuse for him outing his friend.
Up until the outing of the DM, I was about to say, allow an autistic person to play on their phone, so long as they can keep track of the game. While it can be disruptive, you can ask them to keep it muted. For many, having some repetitive app or something to preoccupy them, actually helps them stay grounded in group activities for long periods.
It varies from person to person, obviously. I have a second cousin on the high end of the spectrum. During family gatherings, access to a phone completely changes how she interacts with us. With one, she can disengage into whatever nonsense is on the phone for a while, then come back out of it to talk or eat briefly, then go back into the phone. She can have fun with the family in between distractions, and is cheerful. Without it, she gets increasingly anxious, bouncing through the house and messing with stuff, refusing to talk, and begging her mother to leave.
I'd suggest finding other activities that won't involve a screen but that's just me though.
The last story, damn OP I'm sorry that what you went through.
*reads the title*
*sighs deeply*
LUCKY! Lend me your strength! 🙌
As rage inducing as these stories are. Getting to see my boy Leon Belmont makes me feel much better.
Cat's are always a good counter to psychic damage.
I have autism, you can use it as an explanation for your behaviour and not understanding social cues but it isn't a free pass to not even try to understand people. Socialising is hard and full of complicated rules, I'm can struggle picking up on social cues and knowing when something is inappropriate. I understand it's hard. But when people are complaining about what you're doing you ask what you did wrong, you listen and learn. Don't use autism as an excuse to be an asshole, you give all of us a bad name.
Precisely. Disabilities aren't so much the issue. Unwillingness to handle your shit on the other hand.. is.
How can you say something so brave?
The more this channel grows the more cat friends the doge can afford
Also I just noticed, Lament of Innocence! This was one of two PS2 games I owned since my older brother rarely let me play his PS2.
"Spoilers for LMoP"
Me who is in the middle of campaign: Well I will skip that one
As for second story, being disabled isn't excuse for being asshole
Hope you're having fun, LMoP was my first ever campaign as a player. Ended up evolving into a year long adventure.
@@LeRodzI have lots of fun, last session I deceived and persuaded green dragon so it's going good
And story two is camp B of my thoughts about Autism. There’s two different camps I view people that say this. There’s camp A, as long as it appears you’re trying to improve, even if it’s difficult or minor improvements, I’ll cut you some slack. I understand there’s things that make it difficult for people to read a room and the like. I do try to understand and put myself in their shoes. Then there’s camp B, You get no quarter because you’re trying to use it as a shield to deflect criticisms about your behavior. I know a guy who had someone firmly in camp B who had convinced everyone else about how it wasn’t his fault and the guy went behind everyone’s back and manipulated the DM into kicking my buddy out. I’m aware it’s still a petty and possibly horrible thing to do but I don’t think it’s fair to Camp A people who are actually trying where Camp B gets to get the benefits from it and still be an ass.
The thing is, those Camp B people? They often aren't even diagnosed professionally; they were just put in special education for being 'problematic' at a young age and find out they can use it as a shield to not improve themselves ever. They often develop sociopathic tendencies and are way more toxic than you'd expect because they DO understand social cues, they just know they can get away with ignoring them and will actively try to manipulate people into defending them from criticism. I should know, I have multiple family members who were 'autistic' and in special education in school, but all professional opinions conclude they aren't on the spectrum at all.
Narcissism can manifest even with neurodiverse conditions. And often, the condition can enhance the narcissism due to people not holding them accountable and making it easier for them to get away with the classic narcissist behavior of manipulating others with emotional abuse and facilitating toxic relationships for their benefit. Don't ask me how I know about this 😕
Improve? Why would they need to improve? You mean conform?
@@hayvenforpeace Don't confuse neurotypical with civilized. If neurodivergence makes someone feel disrespected, then they are disrespectful.
The "toxic" guy's problems were not caused by autism or nonconformity. He just used his alleged autism as an excuse to treat others poorly.
There is never a good excuse to out someone without their permission. No ifs, ands, or buts.
Lucky mentoring the young'un about how to keep wholesome levels up on the channel.
he's doing a fantastic job
I'm so happy that you have a couple of black kitties. Voids don't get as much recognition as they should, but they're awesome. Keep it up with the daily doses of cat videos between these stories, pls.
Every time I see that kitteh, I hit the Like icon while thinking "GIVE THAT CAT TREETOS, DAMMIT!" XD
You got another cat doggie: wow you really love your familiars.
Nipsey having a british tilt to his speach is a neat touch, adds character to him and is kinds funny!
He really does like that pillow
Some of my best gaming buddies are on the spectrum and they would never act like that, so I've got no patience for folks who think that sort of thing is a get-out-of-jail-free card.
Hi Lucky, Hi new buddy - you have a Tabby baby! Thanks Doge - you the ma...I mean Doge.
And now to the horror stories!!!
Oh cool - a Nipsy cameo - and yeah that does look like a nice pillow.
And finally - the three little ones - oh it's a good day to see kitties. You should end the videos with your broodlings as every time I see them my blood pressure goes down.
I wouldn't be at all surprised if Problem Player from the last story was "self diagnosed autistic" as its all too common for assholes to use it as a sword and shield these days. Most autistic people I know react to these stories with horror, disgust and genuine anger at being grouped with them
I like thinking that a kitty can just make a new friend and have a pleasant time
Love the new throne you got there!
THREE DOSES OF CAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh snap, Lament of Innocence?! I knew you were a cool doge.
The new duo dynamic lol
About the second story: man, that problem player is not only toxic person and a piece of crap, but also very evil! And I do agree with people like this used the Dissability card to excuse of their bad behavior and they don't do anything to change. This kind of people are the most awful of all.
And all because of the group just kicking him out of the game. He could just let it go and move on and find another group. But, the look of this guy, that's not an option for him. Well, just like the saying: He just drowned in a glass of water himself.
Ok I just gotten to the player with autism story. I as many others, have autism, and while yes it's a pain and can make things difficult, it's not an excuse for bad or rude behaviour. Op isn't the ahole imo. They did the right thing.
And as of typing this I got to the FB part...Op is definitely innocent and 1000% valid!
The 2 main issues autistic and non-autistic people have when dealing with each other are the narrow interests of autistic people and a general communication barrier.
The narrow interest in this case is the hentai, which you chose to tolerate.
The communication barrier is more complicated, like complicated enough to write books about. Him outing someone on the internet can definitely not be explained with the communication barrier.
My husband and I play dnd together. 2 groups we’ve played in have had another couple in them. The first was super toxic and constantly did things in game to antagonize one another. The other is… just a normal couple. Lol.
I can't imagine not wanting to be apart of something but also wanting all the attention in regards to it.
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Who would win?
DnD Doge, avid gamer, experienced skilled player with years and years of experience in all things.
Or one Octagon?
Well the cat spoke, we all now need to subscribe and like this video
Lucky's new friend looks like my little Who! ❤❤❤😺
Doge finally bought himself a throne with all this youtube dosh
YES! YES! YES! Finally! We hear all these stories about crappy people doing crappy things (in game and out) but too often those on the receiving are non confrontational, or will rationalize away the awful behavior. When the POS finally gets kicked, it turns out to be "...and he was never seen or heard from again...". But here we have CONSEQUENSES - KARMA-WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. I swear to all the gods, from Allah to Zeus that I was a member of that gaming group I would make some preparations. If Mr. Chuckles actually gets some jail time, I would arrange to visit ANY one else serving time at the same facility and have a little chat. Need a few bucks in your prison account? No problem. You have loved ones on the outside that could use some help? I'm on it. Say, do you know about that new fish that just got sent here? Mr. Revenge Porn? Yea, that's the guy. Listen, I'm prepared to up the favor factor if you can see to it that he has a MEMERABLE time while serving his sentence. Don't kill him, don't cripple him, and for gods sake don't put yourself at risk. I just want him to leave here with a VIVID understanding that crappy behavior has a price tag.
The last story is pretty much karma to me!
I have only ever intimidate as a warpriest of Sarenrae once.
We were about to begin combat with a dragon that had frankly been bullying our party and a village for weeks. I rolled intimidate and got a 19+10 for a 29. GM asked what I was saying. I thought for a moment and replied.
"Failing my Goddess's mercy you will suffer her light"
Wow. Ousting someone before they're ready to their whole family!? That's just vile. I feel like in someway, hacking someone's social media and doing something like that should be illegal.
I'm autistic, and the problem player in the last story is absolutely using his neurotype to intentionally be manipulative. I hate when other autistic people use autism as an excuse to harm others; it feeds into the stigmas and misinformation that are so rampant around our community and does nothing but harm not just those around him but other autistic people as well.
Also, it's totally understandable if you didn't know, but in general (though there are personal exceptions), most autistic people prefer to be referred to as "autistic" / "an autistic person" instead of "person with autism" / "someone who has autism".
Thanks 4 all the hard work.
Lucky, you make the end of my work week go right. And is that one of the hack and slash Castlevania games?
Man, Op in the last story, I'm sorry that happened to you. problem player is an a-hole.
It is! It's lament of innocence.
Technically it is yes. It’s Lament of Innocence. It focuses on Leon Belmont and gives the backstory of why the Belmonts hunt monsters, as well as Dracula’s backstory as well (since he was Leon Belmonts best friend and co-general in the company of knights that they worked with), and the Vampire Killer whip that the family uses.
I might have a story in the near future, my party is about to start icewind dale with someone who's turning out to be a problem player
*grimaces* I hope it turns out well for you but if not, we'll be eagerly awaiting the story!
@@BlueTressym hopefully nothing beyond what's gone down so far happens, but since he's a Sorcerer, I can only assume our poor newbie Barbarian is gonna eat a fireball at some point(especially since our Wizard has already been decked with an ice knife that killed his last PC).
Our Party is so far:
Goliath Totem Barbarian
High Elf Bladesinger Wizard
Emerald Dragonborn Sorcerer
Tiefling Celestial Warlock
Is the number of cats proportional to the amount of evil you will need to counter from reading these stories? If so, Lucky is going to have a lot of new playmates sooner or later.
...which would be awesome. 😺
I'm here for Lucky!
which one is it that's the feral rescue? I noticed the clipped ear at the end, mine has a clipped ear, he was a stay that was caught and neutered, went to release him and they saw he was rather affectionate for a feral, they took him back in to find him a home and my now 16lb buddy is a daddy's boy
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On the first story, if they were playing 5th edition the paladin's AC should have been 18 from his chain mail(16) and shield (+2)
I think that was misread. I think he was complaining that the monsters attacks were "too high" and shouldn't have been hitting his AC.
Oh shit! Castlevania Lament of Innocence?!
I am ailurophobic so the moments with Lucky are scarier than most of the stories.
Last Story AFter Update: I almost was upset that POS was going to get away with just being exiled from the group after outing OP and costing him his grandparents (OP was better off, when he eventually came out on his own, this result was likely going to happen! Better to happen early on where OP has more time to get over it, then later on where he might be more sensitive and vulnerable! It sucks, but it is what it is sadly) But it cost him near everything. To POS I say this with a shit eating smile and toothy grin "I hope it was ALL worth it, you lost everything, all because your fee fees were hurt!" This is what would TRULY happen to Eric Cartman in a non-south park real world scenario! Being a main character is the ONLY reason he's still around as Status Quo is GOD protects him (about as much as it's the reason Kenny hasn't died for good) from TRULY suffering from his shitty actions. Though he does suffer on occasion for it (and when he does, the suffering is WELL WORTH IT! Meaning even Trey and Matt knew letting Eric pull Karma Houdani too much would wear thin)
new chair!
Indeed!
In response to "When the DM is that guy's fiance:"
I'm getting some mixed signals here. OP says the DM is weirdly giving them (OP) all the story interactions and stuff then the fiance gets a nerfed version of a legendary sword and they're immediately calling favoritism. I feel like they were rubbing the DM the wrong way themselves but they either didn't notice or left it out. lol
I hate it when people uses one of their characteristics to excuse everything they do or accuse everyone around them of being evil. I fell OP so much in the last story because it messes up with you. You fear that everything you do will bring that horrible label someone is trying to impose on you. So glad OP had a (mostly) good circle to support them.
Also, I need more cats. So much more cats!!!
We love lucky 🍀
Double kitty!
In all fairness to the Autistic Warhammer player, WH is full of BS where your army can change to be very OP or very weak just because games workshop decided they didn't like that bird they saw on the way to work that day. That is not an excuse to be a sore loser but I understand his frustration and I have seen it get to many people as sometimes the game can be won or lost by a single ability or inch on the table.
Yeah, I stopped playing years ago due to so much flip flopping of rules and abilities. Now I just paint the minis to decorate my shelf and sometimes enter them into painting contests
*allegedly autistic
As an autistic person myself, I am personally insulted by the actions of the problem player in that last story.
Like for extra dose of kitty! Sounds like problem player is a combo of narcissist and autistic, which combined together makes a pretty viscious person. I was friends with such a person for a while before I had to cut it off for my own piece of mind
That last story, ohh boils my blood! I'm autistic and gay and that's just sick and twisted! None of that was okay! Just fucking nasty! I'm so glad he's getting his karma
What are you going to name lucky's buddy? Goblin? Not the doge? Sparkle fart mcrainbow demon?
Inquiring minds need to know.
Alley cat
Its like we're going through these stories with the same experience. Where before we go through a dungeon A.K.A Reddit, Doge always starts with his Moral boosting kitty familiars. It's to this point where I ask, mighty Doge, when would be a good time to do fanart of these?
Its always a good time for fan art!
Kiiiiiiitttyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!
I'll do whatever the cat says. Name it, and it is done!
@@cassiemoyles4177 Cat requires food and fussing. Then, more food and more fussing.
2nd story. If you had a friend who crapped himself spontaneously you might not invite him to your waterslide club. Not his fault, but he's going to leave a brown smear down the slide, they're going to have to close the slide and nobody else is going to have any fun.
Same situation here, except my example has a disability with his asshole, and your friends disability is being an asshole.
I only heard he talks about "certain" types of anime stuff. Just for that, boot him 🤣
Third story rings of "and everybody clapped". The justice seems too perfectly like laser guided karma, with things he tried to inflict coming back onto him with exact proportion.
"Constantly complaining that his AC was 18. But we had no idea how he got to that number"
Oh yeah. Y'all are playing 5th edition. Such puny AC. Chad PF1e with 31 hit points at level 1 and a 20 AC without even trying.
I love your kitties 😻 I wish I could share a pic of my kitty in the comments like you can on Facebook.
did you get a new chair? looks good. :D
As a gay man. The last story and update just hurts...
I came out to my sister, brother in law and mom a long time ago. But my dad still doesn't know, or at least hasn't really said anything about it yet if he does or just suspects.
Don't know if I ever will or not because he's not exactly the most open minded of individuals...
Wow, that last guy. Yea, screw his disability, he knew what he was doing. Multiple accounts, outing to a family, and posting nudes. You know what you are doing after all that.
Jesus, I hate shoddy controls. Your gameplay has my sympathy, lol.
Jumping is painful in it, lol
What an absolutely toxic, trash PoS! (Last story's problem player) Maybe it's a little extreme, but I can't help really hoping he found himself in a VERY hot'n'heavy new "relationship" in jail after pulling all that BS on people who were supposed to be his friends and gf!
We love nipsy 🐈⬛
DM in the first story is in a relationship that is toxic at best, if not straight-up abusive. She lets him get away with his shit and panders to his narcissism because she lives with him and he makes her life Hell if she doesn't. Textbook case of No Fiance is Better Than Bad Fiance.
The autistic player: As someone #ActuallyAutistic this seriously annoys me. I am autistic and yes, social cues are hard. That doesn't mean that I am innately selfish or uncaring, it doesn't mean I don't have empathy - that is an incredibly harmful myth that needs to die - and it doesn't mean that when I get specifically told I'm upsetting people, I think it's OK to claim that my neurological differences are a Get Out of Consequences Free card for being an arse. Some autistic people are just arseholes, just as some allistic people are just arseholes.
Tell him bluntly that the way he behaves isn't acceptable. Yes, he damn well CAN help it. Yes, being autistic can make some things harder for us to grasp - we don't have the ability to pick up social norms by osmosis, or witchcraft, or however it is that allistic people do it. That doesn't mean we can't learn when people are straight with us, preferably without being gratuitously nasty about it or claiming we 'should know' things.
That said, in all fairness, the 'being on his phone,' may be because he struggles to keep focused when not directly involved and that is something a LOT of people - autistic and allistic - have trouble with. Let him play on his phone, maybe suggest he plays games that are relatively low-focus so he can still pay enough attention to what's going on in the game to not hold up the table by having no idea what's going on when it's his turn in battle or he's being addressed.
EDIT: Having finished the video before posting, screw that guy. Homophobia and outing someone with the clear intent to cause them grief is absolutely... *almost explodes with rage*. Then revenge porn... *actually explodes with rage*. Leaving my previous thoughts on it because they may be of use to someone with a problem player that has issues but is otherwise a decent person.
Ty for doing this story. I didnt want to watch the critcrab vid, he kinda overtalks.
I was struck with meningitis as a kid in the late 70s and I ended up with mild brain damage, this wasn't diagnosed untill I was an adult. But because of the damage I ended up with, I'll say mild Autism, I get confused real easy, learning difficulties, problems remembering names, have problems with social interactions and can't detect sarchasm unless it's over the top and real bad memory yada yada. I also suffered with, ironically, attention deficit disorder or AD&D with bouts of tourettes which starts off with me making silly noises, up to swearing like a sailor when stressed, I also defeated dyslexia, it can be done. The thing is, I sometimes say and do things that make me cringe and facepalm later, but nothing like this idiot did, he kind of sounded more like an immature weeb with the IQ of a vindictive, moody 12 year old with no idea that actions have consequences, while blaming others for whatever he did, and no doubt his legal defense will be "autism".
new chair?
Holy shit, this guy is one of the most evil players on this channel...and he'd only get a maximum of three years? No wonder people keep posting revenge porn
I think that last story is true, but on Reddit and other places there are a lot of autism bad stories where someone claims to be neuro divergent themselves then tells a story about an irredeemable monster who is autistic, it's made up bigotry mostly.
Great. More main character syndrome.
Last story that guy is BS nothing's wrong with him
I'm not hearing asd I'm hearing entitled AH
You have Two cats?
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