Ah yes. The classic case of "we're super inclusive! Unless you're 'x demographic'." Yeah, maybe that DM has had issues in the past of dudes trying to hook up through D&D, but to advertise a game as lgbt friendly and then immediately exclude someone because they're a guy is super hypocritical.
I am even suspecting that if there was an “incident” it was closer to “bi guy who said from the start he was bi knew Sapphic leaning bi fellow player was probably a no, but made a polite overture that he immediately accepted, and DM being bi-phobic decides he has never actually had a moment’s crush on a male or even thought “that David sculpture has some really nice musculature that I appreciate outside a “I want that on me” way. No, the social media posts with ex boyfriends over a decade were staged to get into women’s spaces. Basically she’s kind of JK Rowling for someone running an LGBTQAI group, in my theory, just attacking the Bs, Ps, and As to start and it goes like kudzu
The fact that the DM kicked the only other man at the table after indeed confirming that he was in fact, a man, really makes me think that he was just getting rid of the competition.
Third Story: In my experience the people who take time to tell you how inclusive they are often turn out to be the most toxic types. OP Is being way to kind to them IMO
I call that fake inclusion. Like writing in a black character for the sake of it. Ive got character ideas from all kinds of life. Like a hispanic social worker who only speaks spanish while fighting crime.
100% The worst racism I've ever encountered(I'm Asian) has been at the hands of people who make a big song and dance out of how progressive and woke they are
First story: That poor guy! I really hope his confidence improves and someone gives him the wake-up call he clearly needs. Second story: Oh, DM… Nobody needs to have all the lore of any setting memorized, but if you’re going to run a game in a setting, you need to prepare at least the basics. Maybe try a premade module? Third story: Good god, what a sexist prick! OP really dodged a bullet with that game. Fourth story: Once again, bullet dodged. If that player was such a nightmare in session zero, imagine how awful she’d be if she actually played.
Maybe, people like that one DM should NOT care so much about sexuality and gender identity. A person's life is much more than just their freaking body parts and who they like to be intimate with
I honestly think the DM just had a fetish for trans / NB people and was doing the whole thing in order to "fish" himself. It makes an odd kind of sense that he would actually be the one doing what he accuses others of. Plus, creeps and predators fetishizing trans or NB people like this is unfortunately a real thing and the respective communities have tried to find ways to defend themselves against that stuff for a while now. Honestly, the entire Story and the DM's really weird and really specific selectiveness just reek of something like this going on.
But this is America in the 2020s. What's between your legs and the color of the skin is more important than what's in your head. So in other words, just like the last 500 years.
That first story hit some things really close to home. My GF is an aspiring writer (a good one too), and she spends a lot of time on writing forums, and they've made her damn near neurotic. There's so many people with the thinnest of skins and biggest of chips on their shoulders in the writing community who will vilify others for the smallest perceived slight that she's terrified of "not offending anyone," to the point of not writing stories she otherwise wanted to. I'm talking stuff like "I wanted to have a character be Native American but I'm not Native American and they were saying on the forums that you shouldn't write a character who's ethnic group you aren't a part of." Or even "I'm not pansexual so I can't have a pansexual character even though I really want to and I've done research and talked with pansexual people for their input." Or even "I'm not sure I should publish this because I'm white and there's too many white authors already." I know it's not exactly the same thing as this story, but the whole paranoia about not upsetting ANYBODY for any reason, no matter how small or unreasonable, is a real problem, especially if you're terminally online.
As someone who’s also an aspiring writer and plans on writing about anything and everything, this mindset pisses me off. It’s not your gf’s fault at all, but I mean, come on! If we only wrote about what we know, there’d be next to none LGBT, ethnic, or gender representation outside of straight white males. And by that logic, should none of us write about fantasy anymore? After all, no one I know has fought a dragon or held a magic wand. Come on. I’m all for standing up against bigots, but so many people take it so far and all it does is close off potential talent.
I am a 27 year old white dude from the UK and I'm writing a story where the lead is a young, darks skinned girl from a desert people who happen to have scorpion tails. If the forums she is frequenting are that toxic, I'd suggest she look elsewhere. Also, you cannot please everyone. Write what you want and fuck anyone who complains. Absolutely nothing you do will ever please people like that, so dont waste your time. Seriously, tell your girlfriend that and then get her to sit down and write what she wants to write. Not wanting to offend people is fine, but not to the point where it actively starts to have a negative impact on you. Just by living, you are probably going to annoy someone for some stupid reason. The only people who you should care about offending are those close to you, not random jackoffs on the internet. Alright, I think thats my irritation at that gone, it infuriates me whenever I see creativity stifled because of racist morons on the internet. And make no mistake, the idea that someone cant do something based on their skin colour IS racist by definition.
I'm so sorry about what your gf is going through. I had this fear for many years as a teen(I still do occassionally but I'm trying to get over it)due to being terminally online as well, and I recommend she does the same thing I did and leave those circles. To paraphrase the classic dnd qoute; No writing circles is better then bad writing circles.
And this shit is why I don't stay terminally online. I got so tired of people coming at me over the slightest shit, making me feel like I am completely responsible for their mental health and am the reason for their 10th breakdown within that hour. Seriously those people need to touch grass
"You shouldn't write a character whose ethnic group you aren't part of" is such strange advice to me precisely because I know where the people saying it are coming from. Obviously, it's not easy to represent the perspective of a very different culture than your own adequately and respectfully, even when you've done your research. But not allowing for that at all is just a death sentence to the demand for representation, and in fact, it'll hit smaller and more marginalized ethnic minorities far harder than larger ones, which really isn't what people interested in good representation should want. I get that the ideal solution is probably consultation, but that might not always be possible either. Maybe there aren't always good solutions for this, but not even trying *definitely* isn't one.
That first story was really sweet. As someone who sits in perpetual fear of becoming "that guy", I greatly empathize with the introvert. For me, having the reassurance that I'm not that way, and even if I crossed a boundary or two, that we could talk about it. Session 0 is the solution to so many of these horror stories, moreover a proper session 0. At least an hour long, with lots of opportunity to get to know yourself, and the other cast of characters in the campaign.
Re. the Star Wars story. There is a lot of pressure 'out there' telling GMs they have to be able to run games without prepping, going on about the importance of improvisation skills, and the like. I'm wondering whether, like the "Anti-That Guy'" in the first story, this GM had taken what he'd read/heard/watched about being a good GM too far and thought that improvising from nothing was something he was expected to do. If you're already anxious, then "Don't over-prepare," and "Improvisation is a key GM skill," can easily warp into "You're a terrible GM unless you can always pull plot, NPCs, and lore out of your arse at a moment's notice."
If anyone says "Oh yes this is super inclusive" (to me, just saying that is a red flag. You can tell alot about someone's way of thinking by the language they use), it becomes "Oh, except you." Honestly, this DM did them a favor. And I'd imagine that game would be cringe
It's like when you see a job opening that specifically says, "We embrace a diverse work force," as opposed to just the general legalese of "we don't discriminate based on race." The legal one is basically just the required statement for a normal company, the former one is implying, "We will discriminate against you if you are not sufficiently 'diverse' for us."
@@professorsponge1554 True 🤦🏻 as a Bi guy, I can tell you this about The Gay Alphabet Gang™: They absolutely HATE us cuz they ain't us. 😑 Ironically enough, I've heard more bigoted/stupid stereotypical comments like: "you're not bi, you're just faking", "Nobody's bi, you just haven't decided yet", "you're gay, you just haven't admitted it to yourself yet" from these holier-than-thou asshats than from straight ppl 😑
@@Zetact_ Yes. As part of the supposed 'diverse' population they supposedly support, I oppose and avoid those places. I want to be included with everyone else, not put in my own corner away from everyone. How am I supposed to be happy at a place that I know would discriminate harshly against my literal brother? Do they think we exist in a bubble and don't care for anyone else?
The Star Wars game story kind of freaked me out because I might have been in a parallel universe version of that game. The being trapped on a damaged ship about to slam into a planet as the first session was the same but the DM we had actually knew what they were doing.
Story 1: Poor guy, this is the same thing that happens when you watch too much Critical Role(the Matt Mercer Effect). To quote a character from Skyrim here: "If you live in fear of what may go wrong, you'll end up doing nothing." I feel really bad for this player as the old sins of previous That Guys cast long shadows over his D&D experience. r/rpghorrorstories is a good guideline of TTRPG Dos and Don'ts, but be sure to just let the pedal go sometimes, if you're doing something wrong, someone will tell you and there's no shame in that. Story 2: There's a couple of things they drill into you when you take Animation/film classes in college. One of them is research, when basing your game in an existing fictional universe, it's important to do your research, as not only does it ensure that you actually know what the actual nerf herder's breakfast you're talking about, but it will help you to build the setting up to make it engaging for your players. As he wasn't a Star Wars expert, making a Star Wars based game was a terrible idea from the start. But I'll give this DM the benefit of the doubt and hope he learns from his mistakes. Story 3: Hypocrites like this make my blood boil wherever they are. As being LBGTQ+ friendly includes Gay men as well, this is most definitely gender discrimination as the DM automatically assumed OP was straight because he wasn't Trans/NB. It's okay to be a hypocrite in some places, especially when it's a matter of changing your mind, but this kind of hypocrisy is just toxic. Story 4: What a muppet. Step number one when joining a D&D game is to read the setting. If the DM isn't forthcoming with a setting, that's a big red flag, but when a player asks to break that setting for their own purposes, that's a completely different red flag. It's always a sigh of relief when these flags appear at session 0 or before that, as having them pop up mid-game can easily kill a campaign.
Thx for reading my story. Had a lot of people comment on my post on how the dm was also bad bc they thought he banned spells when it was just they weren't in the game yet bc he didnt look at them. Also one of the. Said he was trying to save face on his inexperience when hes not at all. Also the dm was designing a dungeon for session 1 and the player knew that
13:55 - THIS is precisely why so many people are getting absolutely SICK of the "inclusivity" movement. It's almost like it's become a smokescreen for a whole bunch of people that are genuinely bigoted and prejudiced against anyone who's NOT part of "the community". It's the kind of thing that doesn't make people MORE tolerant, but LESS tolerant.
regarding the last story: When I had issues with spells when I was new, I just downloaded an app that filtered it out by class / level / etc and made it *super* easy to organize things. Some people try to make things hard. First story: I feel for the guy. We see so many that guy stories were worried about becoming one so we go in the opposite direction. Hope he does get to have fun in the future. Second story: there's nothing wrong with not knowing everything, but if you're going to DM, you should have a plan of some sort and be comfortable with lore in your setting. I've run homebrew campaigns and always had an outline at least. Premade mods are your best friend otherwise. Not everyone is fit to DM. Third story: I don't know if that person can comprehend that women can also be predators. Op being rejected was a blessing, imo. That dm sounds like a nightmare.
Hey. I'm from the last story. It's not that they didnt know the spells it's that they didnt know what ones were allowed and wanted the dm to go through them all from the books and a make a list of which ones were allowed in his game
Yeah, I'm thinking back to the other story where someone wanted to "convert" a straight woman into being gay because they thought her boyfriend was a bigot for being a "blonde haired blue eyed cis white guy"
I remember hearing that first story over on Crispy's Tavern, and I still feel sympathy for the guy. It is so easy to become so worried about something that you go so far in the other direction. Personally I have an overthinking problem that gets me into trouble fairly often. It's a work in progress. 🤦♀
I relate to psyching oneself out. I’ve got a really niche system I want to run, and I’m terrified of 1) screwing up my first attempt at DMing and 2) wanting to play a character who is _equal to_ (not better than) any other party member. I’m used to forum and text messenger RPs where _there is no DM_ and everyone’s equal.
Gate keeping is a very misunderstood concept, it’s not keep anyone new out, those who guard the gates do so to keep those who were thrown out or invading from entering.
@@songbird6414 Everyone gatekeeps to some extent, it's just that the ones who say "we hate gatekeeping" don't acknowledge it when they do it against people they don't like because "they were X, so we were justified in excluding them."
Third story is why I don't join games that advertise as LGBTQIA+ friendly despite being gay myself. First of all. That's the standard for D&D games. Between the demographic of the game and Wizards of the Coast's public rulings, this is the natural state of the game. Second. Anyone that goes out of their way to advertise this is one of two kinds of people. A really wholesome person, or a reactionary pos. It's a coinflip. I get why other people might take the risk, but me personally I can't be fucked to take the risk.
That story about the DM that accused OP of lying rubbed me the wrong way. I'm not even gay and that story still annoyed me, the advertisement said it was LGBT friendly and yet just because OP wasn't trans they weren't welcomed anymore? Wtf? Even if OP WASN'T gay, that DM was hella discriminatory for no reason at all. That was NOT okay behavior, especially if you're trying to advertise how "inclusive" you are.
Story 3: He should probably report what happened to the store with the flyer, and throw in the word homophobic and discrimination. You need to whistleblow as soon as you can.
Ever since I got hooked on tabletop horror stories, I’d been eager to hear one about a person going too far to avoid becoming one. You’d best start believing in D&D horror stories, Miss Turner…
The Star Wars story reminds me of a game I ran as a teenager. It was a Harry Potter based text game with characters from a previous D&D game posing as seventh year students. At the time I knew next to nothing about Harry Potter, but one of the players was really into it and asked for this setting/game. My prep was simply asking them a bunch of questions about houses, teachers, what the school was like exc. Things were definitely off from the actual cannon, particularly in the personalities of the NPCs, but it was still a good time.
First story: I sometimes have these bursts of listening to a ton of these stories, and I always start to reevaluate my own playing. It can be terrifying. xD
All I have to say about one of the stories is this.. just because a table is lbgtq+ friendly doesn't give them the right to discriminate against anybody would there be a game man or someone who's straight. I understand having a safe space but blatantly excluding people is a form of discrimination no matter how you look at it. Equality is not supposed to be a double standard but a lot of the time it seems that way. Also I agree with d&d Doge that the DM for that campaign was probably a very volatile and probably wasn't going to be a fun person to play with anyways.
At least the first story, the guy was self aware vs someone that comes to the table and makes every else miserable lol. That "inclusive" story. WTH? LOL. I have red flags, anytime anyone says safe space, inclusive, diversity, made for a modern audience, they really mean only if you think or feel like them. I don't care about people's sexuality, be you. Just don't use it as your personality/identity or same for your character.
He normal SpongeBob'D! I made a DMPC entirely out of tropes to make my players kick her out so she could become the BBEG. They did the opposite and kept her in the party for a redemption arc instead. Mission failed successfully.
Nipsy - you're right - there's no way I could resist that little punim. Oh and then another little looker - I likes Lucky. Right now I'm at 15:56 so is there a hat trick on this video??? No Alice this vide? Don't be greedy Vince. Yo Doge, I really enjoy your vids, but I love the kitties!
1st Story: Not really a horror-story IMO, the "problem player" was only a problem due to trying not to be a problem, but even the "problem" he was causing wasn't really an issue in and of itself. I hope the next time he plays, he allows himself to relax and just enjoy the experience, though it is a welcome change of pace from the usual horror stories with people who lack self-awareness. 2nd Story: I honestly kinda feel bad for the DM. It's clear that he had no idea what he was doing and even less idea on how to run a game, but by the time he realized he was in over his head, he was in too deep to back out. Running a bad game sucks, even more when it kills a campaign, but I hope that the DM eventually tried another hand at running a game and came out of this learning something to prevent this sorta thing from happening again. 3rd Story: The DM honestly did OP a favor by kicking them before the game even started. Chances are, it'd end up being a horror story either way, but one where the DM advertised his table as being LGBTQ+ friendly and a safe space for women, only for it to end up being the most offensive crap that anyone has ever seen, either because they lack self-awareness or because they made the game specifically to troll people from those specific groups. Any table that advertises itself as "safe" or "inclusive" most likely isn't. 4th Story: As was stated during the story, if they had to encounter someone like that, it's better that it was discovered during session 0 and not during the middle of the campaign. I can't even think of anyone who bothered memorizing each D&D spell and even if they did, trying to list them all during the middle of the campaign was too much to ask for.
I think it more that the DM has a fixed idea of what a gay man should sound and act like, in other words a flaming queen, it Also examples why they asked if op was trance. So anyone who does not fit this stereotype must be faking it to harass women, it also sounds like if op was straight he would have been kicked regardless, for as you know all straight men are evil 😒 What do you think.
I suppose that one Star Wars one could've just read a few things? I've dabbled in a few franchises like that, like Halo. Until recently I'd only really read the occasional wiki page or learned some things via Red vs. Blue (which is semi-related due to using the games to create the show, but very broadstrokes-y.) and I honestly don't know how to pronounce half the alien species names yet. I'd probably botch a Halo-RPG just as bad.
The first game I ever DMed was a Mass Effect ttrpg and I never played any of the Mass Effect games. Of course I made many mistakes, but I did a good research on the lore and I had the help of my friends who played the games. We never finished that campaign, but we had fun and I learned a lot. So it’s just a matter of preparing yourself before the game and doing some research.
Nipsy is a happy house panther. Story 1: Poor guy. I had heard of this before but not the addendum. Story 2: That title made my neck go snap. WHAT!!!!!!! These sound like rookie DM mistakes and he could have asked for help and not put too much pressure on himself. This is sort of my fear in my home-brew that I am writing up. Good luck DM. Just... stick to the basics and keep is simple for your first time as a DM. Story 3: OMG! Like, you sound like a man and not like a feminine male and so, like, you can't join. So p*ss off! This is like the fourth lgbq+ etc of letters that I can't remember story that wasn't all that inclusive despite being saying so. Granted the first one was a genuine trap; the other three had been suite bad. Hello Lucky! Story 4: Title: huh? What is this players problem? I agree with your assessment; self-entitled who was never told no in their life. Too many of those types around nowadays.
Knows nothing of star wars doesn't watch the movies can't even pronounce tatooine "I wanna run a star wars game, don't correct me you gatekeeping nerds!" oh please. I have a hard time believing anyone hasn't seen at least one film, but this player could have watched the movies, could have seen an episode of clone wars, could have browsed the wiki. we live in an era where disney is shilling his media hard and is eager to get people into it despite star wars having lost its soul since it was sold to disney.
I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I know three people that's never watched any of the films; two were women that my parents tried to fix me up to get married to (Indian/Guyanese culture for the curious). One knew what they were, but "had no interest to watch science fiction", and another only watched Indian movies; no Western media at all. The third was an American person I briefly knew in college, but they were hippie/country and willingly didn't own a laptop. They did watch movies, but most of that was stuff like the Notebook, Westerns and romance movies.
Story 1: heart was in a good place, but he commited the sin of being boring. S2: dm should have said star wars INSPIRED generic sci fi.... or watch the 6 movies. S3: dm is rude and possibly a bunch of phobics. S4: something similar happened to me and my egypt game where I dodged a problem player who wanted a special treatment and to ignore the setting.
First story: I somewhat feel the same, normally I don't talk a lot but I play really charismatic character and now I'm talking so much. Sometimes I think I might talk too much but nobody in group said anything
Second story: Getting into DMing from being a player is hard, but you need to go with what you know. You need to start off with a setting that you're comfortable in and going straight into being a DM without being a player first really requires you to hit the ground running. My advice is to first run a one shot or a super sort campaign. Let your hair down a little with your first time because you're going to make some bad calls at some point. DMing even with years of experience isn't easy because you need to constantly run with curveball after curveball. In a one shot there are no long term consequences so you can learn from what terrible calls you made without having to spend ages trying to run a game where those past mistakes can haunt you.
@@DnDDoge You don't have to wait, you can just invite your players on a different day to give it a go. Like I said, I would very strongly advise starting off with a one shot. Plus, there might not be an end in sight to the current campaign. Like the one that I'm running, which is just about to hit the three year mark, I intend to just keep that going for as long as possible.
I sincerely doubt that GM had anything happen before. The odds are insanely slim. They were just bias toward a man joining the group which, he was lucky to avoid and should count his blessings.
Honestly the "inclusive story" person was probably fishing for their own type of hook-ups and didn't want a Man(TM) ruining it. Either that or they have some kind of negative experience that they should really work out before DMing a collaborative game.
Instead of "Go through each and every spell, and make a list of the spells you'll allow," how about, "Are there any spells you will NOT allow?" In my game, the answer is "Nope. However, please note that WISH will be AS WRITTEN, meaning you can use it to cast any spell, level 8 or lower, whether or not you have access to it. It doesn't mean you can carefully word a wish.
Well the thing is the dm didnt know every spell and he didnt want to go through them all just for one player. He simply asked them to send the ones they wanted to use and she over reacted
Last story: Sometimes people don't want to tell their DM what they're doing because they want it to be a surprise. These are people who want to feel like they're outmaneuvering their DM. That can be a thing that works but it takes a really specific type of play style from both the DM and player for it to work well. Otherwise it's just a goddamn nuisance, like it clearly was here.
I know I'm about to sound toxic but how can start star wars game without knowing anything about it. Like you don't need to read every comic or novel to understand that you just watch the actual movies. That DM has a lot of nerve to get defensive when he did that to himself. My point is you don't need to be expert on x to enjoy y. You just need the basics which this DM obviously needs to understand
That last story's title reminds me of a Family Guy ep where a character pretends to be gay to get with a girl. It was a Stewie ep and I think the two characters where presenters or something. Edit: "Griffins Winter Games" and the guy was Johnny Weir who was voiced by himself. Ep was meh. Vaguely remember it.
To an extent I can understand where the DM in the third story was coming from in wanting to make their group a safe space for female and non-binary players, but they needed to specify that in the advertisement. You can’t claim a group is inclusive and then get mad when someone you didn’t expect applies. There was absolutely no reason for their blatant rudeness toward OP after finding out he was a man.
When it comes to Story 3 that DM dose know that just because someone identifies as trans or non binary dosen't mean they won't try to get in a player's pants there logic is bit dumb
The DM wanted a stereotypical flaming queen, it's like the LTGB community is becoming more and more intrenched in the very stereotypes they want to avoid, or be mocked as.
First story has been retold before by other rpghorror storytellers but the followup is new! Good to know the guy may come back! Like seriously the guy need to "chill out" and should turst his friend to called him out should be become "that guy"!
yeah thats sexism pure and simple. and worse yet its the kind of sexism that is tollerated and allowed,i hate to be "that" guy but if a man did something like that and said they didint want woman at thier table that persons life and reputation as a DM would be ruined.
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So third story. Name dropping UA-cam personalities is a red flag at this point. The setting is entirely unverifiable. An online game can be tracked down, but an ad at a nameless local store? Also a red flag. Finally the DM's actions are unbelievable. Not just crazy but counter productive to forming a local game group. I can't really know, but probably fake.
There are times when marginalized communities want a space just for them, free of the straight cis white man. Part of being an ally is letting them have those spaces.
Ah yes. The classic case of "we're super inclusive! Unless you're 'x demographic'." Yeah, maybe that DM has had issues in the past of dudes trying to hook up through D&D, but to advertise a game as lgbt friendly and then immediately exclude someone because they're a guy is super hypocritical.
Honestly I'm not even sure if that is even his motto with that. I'm very close to accuse him of just posing that to get girls in some way or another.
Yeah, it does sound like that DM was running a "bait-and-switch" scam of some kind.
@@pippo17173 *guys
He did say he was gay.
I am even suspecting that if there was an “incident” it was closer to “bi guy who said from the start he was bi knew Sapphic leaning bi fellow player was probably a no, but made a polite overture that he immediately accepted, and DM being bi-phobic decides he has never actually had a moment’s crush on a male or even thought “that David sculpture has some really nice musculature that I appreciate outside a “I want that on me” way. No, the social media posts with ex boyfriends over a decade were staged to get into women’s spaces. Basically she’s kind of JK Rowling for someone running an LGBTQAI group, in my theory, just attacking the Bs, Ps, and As to start and it goes like kudzu
The fact that the DM kicked the only other man at the table after indeed confirming that he was in fact, a man, really makes me think that he was just getting rid of the competition.
That's 100% what he was doing
'How can you resist that face?'
Well...
*looks at own cat, a 6 month old black cat named Friday*
I have experience.
Third Story: In my experience the people who take time to tell you how inclusive they are often turn out to be the most toxic types. OP Is being way to kind to them IMO
I call that fake inclusion.
Like writing in a black character for the sake of it.
Ive got character ideas from all kinds of life. Like a hispanic social worker who only speaks spanish while fighting crime.
100%
The worst racism I've ever encountered(I'm Asian) has been at the hands of people who make a big song and dance out of how progressive and woke they are
DM in 3 sounds more like someone looking for a group to control and/or give him an ego-trip rather than creating a safe-space. Definite bullet dodged.
First story: That poor guy! I really hope his confidence improves and someone gives him the wake-up call he clearly needs.
Second story: Oh, DM… Nobody needs to have all the lore of any setting memorized, but if you’re going to run a game in a setting, you need to prepare at least the basics. Maybe try a premade module?
Third story: Good god, what a sexist prick! OP really dodged a bullet with that game.
Fourth story: Once again, bullet dodged. If that player was such a nightmare in session zero, imagine how awful she’d be if she actually played.
Maybe, people like that one DM should NOT care so much about sexuality and gender identity. A person's life is much more than just their freaking body parts and who they like to be intimate with
I honestly think the DM just had a fetish for trans / NB people and was doing the whole thing in order to "fish" himself. It makes an odd kind of sense that he would actually be the one doing what he accuses others of. Plus, creeps and predators fetishizing trans or NB people like this is unfortunately a real thing and the respective communities have tried to find ways to defend themselves against that stuff for a while now. Honestly, the entire Story and the DM's really weird and really specific selectiveness just reek of something like this going on.
But this is America in the 2020s. What's between your legs and the color of the skin is more important than what's in your head. So in other words, just like the last 500 years.
"Hey, that's me!"
You sounded so excited to finally get mentioned in one of these things :)
that was adorable.
when I first started, I thought of how cool it would be to see myself mentioned. Still a bit surreal.
That first story hit some things really close to home. My GF is an aspiring writer (a good one too), and she spends a lot of time on writing forums, and they've made her damn near neurotic. There's so many people with the thinnest of skins and biggest of chips on their shoulders in the writing community who will vilify others for the smallest perceived slight that she's terrified of "not offending anyone," to the point of not writing stories she otherwise wanted to.
I'm talking stuff like "I wanted to have a character be Native American but I'm not Native American and they were saying on the forums that you shouldn't write a character who's ethnic group you aren't a part of." Or even "I'm not pansexual so I can't have a pansexual character even though I really want to and I've done research and talked with pansexual people for their input." Or even "I'm not sure I should publish this because I'm white and there's too many white authors already."
I know it's not exactly the same thing as this story, but the whole paranoia about not upsetting ANYBODY for any reason, no matter how small or unreasonable, is a real problem, especially if you're terminally online.
As someone who’s also an aspiring writer and plans on writing about anything and everything, this mindset pisses me off. It’s not your gf’s fault at all, but I mean, come on! If we only wrote about what we know, there’d be next to none LGBT, ethnic, or gender representation outside of straight white males. And by that logic, should none of us write about fantasy anymore? After all, no one I know has fought a dragon or held a magic wand. Come on. I’m all for standing up against bigots, but so many people take it so far and all it does is close off potential talent.
I am a 27 year old white dude from the UK and I'm writing a story where the lead is a young, darks skinned girl from a desert people who happen to have scorpion tails. If the forums she is frequenting are that toxic, I'd suggest she look elsewhere. Also, you cannot please everyone. Write what you want and fuck anyone who complains. Absolutely nothing you do will ever please people like that, so dont waste your time. Seriously, tell your girlfriend that and then get her to sit down and write what she wants to write.
Not wanting to offend people is fine, but not to the point where it actively starts to have a negative impact on you. Just by living, you are probably going to annoy someone for some stupid reason. The only people who you should care about offending are those close to you, not random jackoffs on the internet.
Alright, I think thats my irritation at that gone, it infuriates me whenever I see creativity stifled because of racist morons on the internet. And make no mistake, the idea that someone cant do something based on their skin colour IS racist by definition.
I'm so sorry about what your gf is going through. I had this fear for many years as a teen(I still do occassionally but I'm trying to get over it)due to being terminally online as well, and I recommend she does the same thing I did and leave those circles.
To paraphrase the classic dnd qoute;
No writing circles is better then bad writing circles.
And this shit is why I don't stay terminally online. I got so tired of people coming at me over the slightest shit, making me feel like I am completely responsible for their mental health and am the reason for their 10th breakdown within that hour. Seriously those people need to touch grass
"You shouldn't write a character whose ethnic group you aren't part of" is such strange advice to me precisely because I know where the people saying it are coming from. Obviously, it's not easy to represent the perspective of a very different culture than your own adequately and respectfully, even when you've done your research. But not allowing for that at all is just a death sentence to the demand for representation, and in fact, it'll hit smaller and more marginalized ethnic minorities far harder than larger ones, which really isn't what people interested in good representation should want. I get that the ideal solution is probably consultation, but that might not always be possible either. Maybe there aren't always good solutions for this, but not even trying *definitely* isn't one.
That first story was really sweet. As someone who sits in perpetual fear of becoming "that guy", I greatly empathize with the introvert. For me, having the reassurance that I'm not that way, and even if I crossed a boundary or two, that we could talk about it. Session 0 is the solution to so many of these horror stories, moreover a proper session 0. At least an hour long, with lots of opportunity to get to know yourself, and the other cast of characters in the campaign.
Re. the Star Wars story. There is a lot of pressure 'out there' telling GMs they have to be able to run games without prepping, going on about the importance of improvisation skills, and the like. I'm wondering whether, like the "Anti-That Guy'" in the first story, this GM had taken what he'd read/heard/watched about being a good GM too far and thought that improvising from nothing was something he was expected to do. If you're already anxious, then "Don't over-prepare," and "Improvisation is a key GM skill," can easily warp into "You're a terrible GM unless you can always pull plot, NPCs, and lore out of your arse at a moment's notice."
If anyone says "Oh yes this is super inclusive" (to me, just saying that is a red flag. You can tell alot about someone's way of thinking by the language they use), it becomes "Oh, except you."
Honestly, this DM did them a favor. And I'd imagine that game would be cringe
from what I've heard and seen: the first 3 letters in LGBT are becoming less and less welcomed by 'inclusive' people.
It's like when you see a job opening that specifically says, "We embrace a diverse work force," as opposed to just the general legalese of "we don't discriminate based on race." The legal one is basically just the required statement for a normal company, the former one is implying, "We will discriminate against you if you are not sufficiently 'diverse' for us."
@@professorsponge1554 True 🤦🏻 as a Bi guy, I can tell you this about The Gay Alphabet Gang™: They absolutely HATE us cuz they ain't us. 😑
Ironically enough, I've heard more bigoted/stupid stereotypical comments like: "you're not bi, you're just faking", "Nobody's bi, you just haven't decided yet", "you're gay, you just haven't admitted it to yourself yet" from these holier-than-thou asshats than from straight ppl 😑
@@Zetact_ Absolute Fax 🗿 📠
@@Zetact_ Yes. As part of the supposed 'diverse' population they supposedly support, I oppose and avoid those places. I want to be included with everyone else, not put in my own corner away from everyone. How am I supposed to be happy at a place that I know would discriminate harshly against my literal brother? Do they think we exist in a bubble and don't care for anyone else?
The Star Wars game story kind of freaked me out because I might have been in a parallel universe version of that game. The being trapped on a damaged ship about to slam into a planet as the first session was the same but the DM we had actually knew what they were doing.
Kinda reminiscent of the KotOR beginning.
I had this exact experience, but my DM was ALSO incompetent. No prep, no nothing, just wing it and boredom
Story 1: Poor guy, this is the same thing that happens when you watch too much Critical Role(the Matt Mercer Effect). To quote a character from Skyrim here: "If you live in fear of what may go wrong, you'll end up doing nothing." I feel really bad for this player as the old sins of previous That Guys cast long shadows over his D&D experience. r/rpghorrorstories is a good guideline of TTRPG Dos and Don'ts, but be sure to just let the pedal go sometimes, if you're doing something wrong, someone will tell you and there's no shame in that.
Story 2: There's a couple of things they drill into you when you take Animation/film classes in college. One of them is research, when basing your game in an existing fictional universe, it's important to do your research, as not only does it ensure that you actually know what the actual nerf herder's breakfast you're talking about, but it will help you to build the setting up to make it engaging for your players. As he wasn't a Star Wars expert, making a Star Wars based game was a terrible idea from the start. But I'll give this DM the benefit of the doubt and hope he learns from his mistakes.
Story 3: Hypocrites like this make my blood boil wherever they are. As being LBGTQ+ friendly includes Gay men as well, this is most definitely gender discrimination as the DM automatically assumed OP was straight because he wasn't Trans/NB. It's okay to be a hypocrite in some places, especially when it's a matter of changing your mind, but this kind of hypocrisy is just toxic.
Story 4: What a muppet. Step number one when joining a D&D game is to read the setting. If the DM isn't forthcoming with a setting, that's a big red flag, but when a player asks to break that setting for their own purposes, that's a completely different red flag. It's always a sigh of relief when these flags appear at session 0 or before that, as having them pop up mid-game can easily kill a campaign.
Your expression when you said 'hey, that is me' made my day
Thx for reading my story. Had a lot of people comment on my post on how the dm was also bad bc they thought he banned spells when it was just they weren't in the game yet bc he didnt look at them. Also one of the. Said he was trying to save face on his inexperience when hes not at all. Also the dm was designing a dungeon for session 1 and the player knew that
thanks for the permission to share it!
Congratulations on the shout out in the story!! :D
First story - I can relate to that. Fear of being a bad player is part of real.
Is a real part of why I struggle with character ideas, I meant to say.
I, too, used to pronounce it as "Tatoonie".
13:55 - THIS is precisely why so many people are getting absolutely SICK of the "inclusivity" movement. It's almost like it's become a smokescreen for a whole bunch of people that are genuinely bigoted and prejudiced against anyone who's NOT part of "the community".
It's the kind of thing that doesn't make people MORE tolerant, but LESS tolerant.
Nice to have at least one somewhat wholesome story after yesterday's nightmare.
regarding the last story: When I had issues with spells when I was new, I just downloaded an app that filtered it out by class / level / etc and made it *super* easy to organize things.
Some people try to make things hard.
First story: I feel for the guy. We see so many that guy stories were worried about becoming one so we go in the opposite direction. Hope he does get to have fun in the future.
Second story: there's nothing wrong with not knowing everything, but if you're going to DM, you should have a plan of some sort and be comfortable with lore in your setting. I've run homebrew campaigns and always had an outline at least.
Premade mods are your best friend otherwise. Not everyone is fit to DM.
Third story: I don't know if that person can comprehend that women can also be predators. Op being rejected was a blessing, imo. That dm sounds like a nightmare.
Hey. I'm from the last story. It's not that they didnt know the spells it's that they didnt know what ones were allowed and wanted the dm to go through them all from the books and a make a list of which ones were allowed in his game
Yeah, I'm thinking back to the other story where someone wanted to "convert" a straight woman into being gay because they thought her boyfriend was a bigot for being a "blonde haired blue eyed cis white guy"
Honestly lore knowledge wasn’t even the main problem in that SW story.
I remember hearing that first story over on Crispy's Tavern, and I still feel sympathy for the guy. It is so easy to become so worried about something that you go so far in the other direction.
Personally I have an overthinking problem that gets me into trouble fairly often. It's a work in progress. 🤦♀
Wooot so good to wake up to a new video! Always good to see you and Nipsy!
I relate to psyching oneself out. I’ve got a really niche system I want to run, and I’m terrified of 1) screwing up my first attempt at DMing and 2) wanting to play a character who is _equal to_ (not better than) any other party member.
I’m used to forum and text messenger RPs where _there is no DM_ and everyone’s equal.
Seeing that more people know about Rygar: The Lengendary adventure was awesome!
I grew up playing it and have fond memories of it, so thank you!
Gate keeping is a very misunderstood concept, it’s not keep anyone new out, those who guard the gates do so to keep those who were thrown out or invading from entering.
You know I’d love to believe you but I’ve never seen anyone actually act like that so
@@songbird6414 Just because you haven't seen good gatekeepers doesn't mean they don't exist.
@@songbird6414 Everyone gatekeeps to some extent, it's just that the ones who say "we hate gatekeeping" don't acknowledge it when they do it against people they don't like because "they were X, so we were justified in excluding them."
@@songbird6414 Just because you're the one being gatekept out doesn't make the gatekeepers bad.
Ta•TOON•ie...??-oh you poor, poor, Sweet Summer Child...
Yes, in The third story, it sounds like they only wanted a flaming queen stereotype. Not a person just an idealized pronoun.
Nipsy is adorable. Also who the hell excludes someone based on gender?😕
Small, insignificant people.
You'd be surprised...
@@TheScorpion0081 I have to agree
*looks at any number of recent political decisions in America* uhhhh the govt apparently
All his cats including nispy our adorable and he has several of them.
Third story is why I don't join games that advertise as LGBTQIA+ friendly despite being gay myself.
First of all. That's the standard for D&D games. Between the demographic of the game and Wizards of the Coast's public rulings, this is the natural state of the game.
Second. Anyone that goes out of their way to advertise this is one of two kinds of people. A really wholesome person, or a reactionary pos. It's a coinflip. I get why other people might take the risk, but me personally I can't be fucked to take the risk.
I can't think of a time when giving a dangerhair the benefit of the doubt worked out well.
Both Nipsy and Lucky...today will be a good day.
That story about the DM that accused OP of lying rubbed me the wrong way. I'm not even gay and that story still annoyed me, the advertisement said it was LGBT friendly and yet just because OP wasn't trans they weren't welcomed anymore? Wtf? Even if OP WASN'T gay, that DM was hella discriminatory for no reason at all. That was NOT okay behavior, especially if you're trying to advertise how "inclusive" you are.
Story 3: He should probably report what happened to the store with the flyer, and throw in the word homophobic and discrimination.
You need to whistleblow as soon as you can.
Ever since I got hooked on tabletop horror stories, I’d been eager to hear one about a person going too far to avoid becoming one.
You’d best start believing in D&D horror stories, Miss Turner…
Thanks 4 all the hard work.
Lucky's the most adorable little floof
The Star Wars story reminds me of a game I ran as a teenager. It was a Harry Potter based text game with characters from a previous D&D game posing as seventh year students. At the time I knew next to nothing about Harry Potter, but one of the players was really into it and asked for this setting/game. My prep was simply asking them a bunch of questions about houses, teachers, what the school was like exc. Things were definitely off from the actual cannon, particularly in the personalities of the NPCs, but it was still a good time.
Nipsy always has words of wisdom.
Also, DM who ran the Star Wars game when he's not a expert. Hmm, must a be a Star Trek guy. JK.
I like how both the Star Wars and Star Trek fandoms like to still occasionally make fun of the other fandom
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Right!
First story: I sometimes have these bursts of listening to a ton of these stories, and I always start to reevaluate my own playing. It can be terrifying. xD
I remember Rygar. I never finished the game though. Fun game though.
"I SAID I WASN'T A LORE EXPERT" My guy, first movie.
I sympathize with the first story
If you're going to try being a DM for the love of God pick a world you have knowledge on
I remember calling it "Ta-toon-ee" the first time. Thank you Phantom Menace,.
All I have to say about one of the stories is this.. just because a table is lbgtq+ friendly doesn't give them the right to discriminate against anybody would there be a game man or someone who's straight. I understand having a safe space but blatantly excluding people is a form of discrimination no matter how you look at it. Equality is not supposed to be a double standard but a lot of the time it seems that way. Also I agree with d&d Doge that the DM for that campaign was probably a very volatile and probably wasn't going to be a fun person to play with anyways.
self-reflection can often be our harshest enemy
Some people need to have more self reflection, others over do it. The trick is figuring out if your overthinking things or not.
Nipsey is so cute with his little fish
At least the first story, the guy was self aware vs someone that comes to the table and makes every else miserable lol. That "inclusive" story. WTH? LOL. I have red flags, anytime anyone says safe space, inclusive, diversity, made for a modern audience, they really mean only if you think or feel like them. I don't care about people's sexuality, be you. Just don't use it as your personality/identity or same for your character.
4th story oh boy more "males incapable of non sexual interactions" god that mentality makes me want to like 🤮🤮
Trust in the people at your table
I see a lot of what happens in the first story with dms that haven’t been players for a while.
He normal SpongeBob'D!
I made a DMPC entirely out of tropes to make my players kick her out so she could become the BBEG. They did the opposite and kept her in the party for a redemption arc instead. Mission failed successfully.
There’s not being an expert of the lore, and then there’s the ignorance of basic things found in the movies
Last story: it sounds like the dm banned some spells and it's much easier to make a ban list than just go through everyone's spells
Nipsy - you're right - there's no way I could resist that little punim.
Oh and then another little looker - I likes Lucky. Right now I'm at 15:56 so is there a hat trick on this video???
No Alice this vide? Don't be greedy Vince.
Yo Doge, I really enjoy your vids, but I love the kitties!
1st Story: Not really a horror-story IMO, the "problem player" was only a problem due to trying not to be a problem, but even the "problem" he was causing wasn't really an issue in and of itself. I hope the next time he plays, he allows himself to relax and just enjoy the experience, though it is a welcome change of pace from the usual horror stories with people who lack self-awareness.
2nd Story: I honestly kinda feel bad for the DM. It's clear that he had no idea what he was doing and even less idea on how to run a game, but by the time he realized he was in over his head, he was in too deep to back out. Running a bad game sucks, even more when it kills a campaign, but I hope that the DM eventually tried another hand at running a game and came out of this learning something to prevent this sorta thing from happening again.
3rd Story: The DM honestly did OP a favor by kicking them before the game even started. Chances are, it'd end up being a horror story either way, but one where the DM advertised his table as being LGBTQ+ friendly and a safe space for women, only for it to end up being the most offensive crap that anyone has ever seen, either because they lack self-awareness or because they made the game specifically to troll people from those specific groups. Any table that advertises itself as "safe" or "inclusive" most likely isn't.
4th Story: As was stated during the story, if they had to encounter someone like that, it's better that it was discovered during session 0 and not during the middle of the campaign. I can't even think of anyone who bothered memorizing each D&D spell and even if they did, trying to list them all during the middle of the campaign was too much to ask for.
I think it more that the DM has a fixed idea of what a gay man should sound and act like, in other words a flaming queen, it Also examples why they asked if op was trance. So anyone who does not fit this stereotype must be faking it to harass women, it also sounds like if op was straight he would have been kicked regardless, for as you know all straight men are evil 😒 What do you think.
16:03 Blazings word mlp9?!?!?! LOL good one
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I suppose that one Star Wars one could've just read a few things? I've dabbled in a few franchises like that, like Halo. Until recently I'd only really read the occasional wiki page or learned some things via Red vs. Blue (which is semi-related due to using the games to create the show, but very broadstrokes-y.) and I honestly don't know how to pronounce half the alien species names yet. I'd probably botch a Halo-RPG just as bad.
Bro, imagine telling your player that you'd like to have him back in a reddit post, and not just approach him privately.
I feel for the first guy, I have some extreme anxiety in regards of coming off as too annoying or overbearing in games. Hope has having fun now!
The first game I ever DMed was a Mass Effect ttrpg and I never played any of the Mass Effect games. Of course I made many mistakes, but I did a good research on the lore and I had the help of my friends who played the games. We never finished that campaign, but we had fun and I learned a lot. So it’s just a matter of preparing yourself before the game and doing some research.
Nipsy is a happy house panther.
Story 1: Poor guy. I had heard of this before but not the addendum.
Story 2: That title made my neck go snap. WHAT!!!!!!! These sound like rookie DM mistakes and he could have asked for help and not put too much pressure on himself. This is sort of my fear in my home-brew that I am writing up. Good luck DM. Just... stick to the basics and keep is simple for your first time as a DM.
Story 3: OMG! Like, you sound like a man and not like a feminine male and so, like, you can't join. So p*ss off! This is like the fourth lgbq+ etc of letters that I can't remember story that wasn't all that inclusive despite being saying so. Granted the first one was a genuine trap; the other three had been suite bad.
Hello Lucky!
Story 4: Title: huh? What is this players problem? I agree with your assessment; self-entitled who was never told no in their life. Too many of those types around nowadays.
Yes, in The third story, it sounds like they only wanted a flaming queen stereotype. Not a person just an idealized pronoun.
OP´s friend from the first story is a bizarro that guy
Knows nothing of star wars
doesn't watch the movies
can't even pronounce tatooine
"I wanna run a star wars game, don't correct me you gatekeeping nerds!"
oh please. I have a hard time believing anyone hasn't seen at least one film, but this player could have watched the movies, could have seen an episode of clone wars, could have browsed the wiki. we live in an era where disney is shilling his media hard and is eager to get people into it despite star wars having lost its soul since it was sold to disney.
I'm sorry to disappoint you, but I know three people that's never watched any of the films; two were women that my parents tried to fix me up to get married to (Indian/Guyanese culture for the curious). One knew what they were, but "had no interest to watch science fiction", and another only watched Indian movies; no Western media at all. The third was an American person I briefly knew in college, but they were hippie/country and willingly didn't own a laptop. They did watch movies, but most of that was stuff like the Notebook, Westerns and romance movies.
Story 1: heart was in a good place, but he commited the sin of being boring.
S2: dm should have said star wars INSPIRED generic sci fi.... or watch the 6 movies.
S3: dm is rude and possibly a bunch of phobics.
S4: something similar happened to me and my egypt game where I dodged a problem player who wanted a special treatment and to ignore the setting.
First story: I somewhat feel the same, normally I don't talk a lot but I play really charismatic character and now I'm talking so much. Sometimes I think I might talk too much but nobody in group said anything
Second story: Getting into DMing from being a player is hard, but you need to go with what you know. You need to start off with a setting that you're comfortable in and going straight into being a DM without being a player first really requires you to hit the ground running. My advice is to first run a one shot or a super sort campaign. Let your hair down a little with your first time because you're going to make some bad calls at some point. DMing even with years of experience isn't easy because you need to constantly run with curveball after curveball. In a one shot there are no long term consequences so you can learn from what terrible calls you made without having to spend ages trying to run a game where those past mistakes can haunt you.
I haven't DMd yet myself, but do have some ideas bouncing around for my current group once our 3 year (so far) campaign comes to a close.
@@DnDDoge You don't have to wait, you can just invite your players on a different day to give it a go. Like I said, I would very strongly advise starting off with a one shot. Plus, there might not be an end in sight to the current campaign. Like the one that I'm running, which is just about to hit the three year mark, I intend to just keep that going for as long as possible.
I sincerely doubt that GM had anything happen before. The odds are insanely slim. They were just bias toward a man joining the group which, he was lucky to avoid and should count his blessings.
Honestly the "inclusive story" person was probably fishing for their own type of hook-ups and didn't want a Man(TM) ruining it. Either that or they have some kind of negative experience that they should really work out before DMing a collaborative game.
Instead of "Go through each and every spell, and make a list of the spells you'll allow," how about, "Are there any spells you will NOT allow?"
In my game, the answer is "Nope. However, please note that WISH will be AS WRITTEN, meaning you can use it to cast any spell, level 8 or lower, whether or not you have access to it. It doesn't mean you can carefully word a wish.
Well the thing is the dm didnt know every spell and he didnt want to go through them all just for one player. He simply asked them to send the ones they wanted to use and she over reacted
First guy needs to calm down lmfao
Last story: Sometimes people don't want to tell their DM what they're doing because they want it to be a surprise. These are people who want to feel like they're outmaneuvering their DM. That can be a thing that works but it takes a really specific type of play style from both the DM and player for it to work well. Otherwise it's just a goddamn nuisance, like it clearly was here.
Yeah. We figured a little bit later like they were probably going to power game
Would being "the guy" to always bring drinks and snacks and call out for pizza for everyone because I can afford it be too much?
The Chad that guy vs the beta passive apologist.
yeesh, dodged a bullet banned for that group....
I've long obseserved that the more you scream about being inclusive, the less you really are.
I know I'm about to sound toxic but how can start star wars game without knowing anything about it. Like you don't need to read every comic or novel to understand that you just watch the actual movies. That DM has a lot of nerve to get defensive when he did that to himself. My point is you don't need to be expert on x to enjoy y. You just need the basics which this DM obviously needs to understand
New merch Lucky likes stuff lol
That last story's title reminds me of a Family Guy ep where a character pretends to be gay to get with a girl. It was a Stewie ep and I think the two characters where presenters or something.
Edit:
"Griffins Winter Games" and the guy was Johnny Weir who was voiced by himself. Ep was meh. Vaguely remember it.
Yeah, I've noticed a lot of these inclusivity preachers are often flaming hypocrites.
Being "inclusive" usually means excluding normal people
Lgbtq friendly thats a warning sign for me :)), always drama and toxicity and more info about intimate stuff then i wish to have while playing a game
Tatooni! 🥲
To an extent I can understand where the DM in the third story was coming from in wanting to make their group a safe space for female and non-binary players, but they needed to specify that in the advertisement. You can’t claim a group is inclusive and then get mad when someone you didn’t expect applies. There was absolutely no reason for their blatant rudeness toward OP after finding out he was a man.
I've always understood "LGBTQ+-friendly" and "inclusive" to mean "white males not welcome".
When it comes to Story 3 that DM dose know that just because someone identifies as trans or non binary dosen't mean they won't try to get in a player's pants there logic is bit dumb
The DM wanted a stereotypical flaming queen, it's like the LTGB community is becoming more and more intrenched in the very stereotypes they want to avoid, or be mocked as.
lgbt friendly means mean to straight people, ive seen that happen often in mmos
First story has been retold before by other rpghorror storytellers but the followup is new! Good to know the guy may come back! Like seriously the guy need to "chill out" and should turst his friend to called him out should be become "that guy"!
yeah thats sexism pure and simple. and worse yet its the kind of sexism that is tollerated and allowed,i hate to be "that" guy but if a man did something like that and said they didint want woman at thier table that persons life and reputation as a DM would be ruined.
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So third story.
Name dropping UA-cam personalities is a red flag at this point.
The setting is entirely unverifiable. An online game can be tracked down, but an ad at a nameless local store? Also a red flag.
Finally the DM's actions are unbelievable. Not just crazy but counter productive to forming a local game group.
I can't really know, but probably fake.
S4. Congrats you are now limited to PHB +1(just that player)
There are times when marginalized communities want a space just for them, free of the straight cis white man. Part of being an ally is letting them have those spaces.