pro tip for instagram triggers: i know for me, when i go through a rough patch, i start spiralling down a rabbit hole on my explore page and click on a bunch of posts that are triggering, but instagram sadly will keep pushing that type of posts after that on the explore page!!! so therefore, i really recommend going through a few scrolls and clicking on ‘not interested’ or ‘ dont recommend me posts like these’ so you can stay away from these posts, even after a rough patch :) hope this helps someone
I find body positivity pages so helpful too!! Seeing ALL different types of bodies, cellulite, stretch marks, scars, hair etc has really helped me accept my body and i do NOT follow any pages that are triggering.
@@hi-pz5vmsince I deleted Instagram &Co, despite of my very difficult and unsure life situation, I do not so bad like I did with this illusion of making friends and toxic posts
currently trying to recover. it’s so hard, feeling like i’m not “sick enough”, like i’m not underweight enough to deserve recovery. food guilt, body dysmorphia the list goes on. as a victim of csa the restricting was a way to cope and a way to stay emotionally stunted and numb. the hardest thing is trying to love my body right now, when i really truly hate it, thank u for posting this. i also follow u on instagram and ur posts always help me. sending love
yes, i get this. and i feel similarly. what is the measure? is it just if you think you have an ED that you do? or is it a medical diagnosis? i feel like i crossed a line psychologically, but my "metrics" are within "normal" range
I know, I used to feel the same way all the time and still sometimes do, but that's the Eating Disorder talking. I want you to know that you're gorgeous just the way you are and that it takes time to be okay with (or even love) your body. I'm also in recovery and I'm learning that along the way. Some days I dislike what I see in the mirror and other days I can accept my body. Idk if you believe in God, but what's helped me get so far in recovery is God. And realizing that he created me this way has helped me to know that the way I look isn't a mistake. I don't know where you're at now, since you wrote this a year ago, but I want you to know you are not alone, and you CAN get through this.
I feel exactly the same way but working really hard to get better instead of worse. you don’t need to prove to anyone that you’re struggling to deserve to get better. you deserve a good life and so much happiness no matter what I promise ❤
I’ve never thought of my body being similar to a plant, but the idea that it needs the same basic needs (water, food, sunlight, etc) is so mind changing! It honestly made me question my entire thought pattern. Your body needs fuel to flourish, just the same as flowers would. This is such a sweet message🥺 thank you ro
Dear Ro, I am a mental health nurse in Denmark. The patients and I often talk about your video's and how we admire your content. Our patients express how you inspire them on their path to recovery. Thank you so much for that🙏. You are truly a very strong and inspiring young woman and you have an important impact. I would greatly appreciate it, if you could give the patients admitted to ED day treament in Roskilde Denmark, a shoutout in your next video. I would love if you sent our awesome girls some words of encouragement in there battle against Anorexia. Thank you for all your hard work, honesty and great content. Take care😊
Yes...im in recovery at the moment... they wanted me to be hospitalised because so bad... I've asked not to because I have 2 kids on my own. I have loads of help from mum and sis with my girls luckily 💕 but I'm still going to therapy, weekly visits for weight check, taking all my pills and medication they give me and I drink myself the special extra calorie intake formula they usually give you in hospital via tube.. I've only started this a month ago.. its hard..but it does feel easier day by day if you insist on fighting for your goal... you've always helped with your videos and seeing your progress and results has made things easier for me...so thankyou ♥️♥️♥️♥️
You know something? I was chatting to my friend today (who has as far as I’m aware an extremely healthy relationship with food ) and she actually was thinking that things like protein products are unhealthy because they’re ‘so artificial.’ And yet I see other people on social media who act like if u don’t have it with every meal then you’ll keel over and die ! Health is so subjective , it’s different for everyone 💫♥️
Litteraly this has helped me so much. Being constantly triggered by everyone and everything around me is my biggest challenge during recovery, and recently my friend has engadged in a really disordered mindsets, and I really don't know how to deal with it. I love him but it is so hard, so thank you for this, your videos help me very much
Hello Ro, I just wanted to say that you are the person who made me want to recover from my ED. This summer has been the worst patch in my entire life and all the scary changes just reinforced my behaviours. Then I discovered your channel and I watched several videos and it made me realize that my “lifestyle” just wasn’t sustainable. Thank you so much for making these videos showing this process and your incredible progress. ❤❤❤
I just found your channel and I'm so thankful. I'm in a pretty toxic friendgroup regarding food. They constantly make comments like "I didn't eat breakfast" or they eat nothing in our lunch break and they praise all of that. It's so hard to be the only one who is eating lunch, eats breakfast and eats "unhealthy" food. It makes me feel so disgusting and ashamed although everyone of them knows I'm in recovery and I very much know my body needs that food. Also I deal a lot with extreme hunger and although I'm eating enough, I'm still hungry and restricting in a way although I've already had enough and since no one in my environment eats as much as I, I stop although my body still signals hunger. I don't know if that really makes sense. But your video helped me so much thank you for making this channel and talking about your journey
i think you should try to distance yourself from those "friends" you're already struggling and they are making things worse... friends aren't supposed to make your life harder... plus they do know about your recovery and real friends wouldn't make such comments in front of you. and if they are your only friends remember that being alone is better than toxic friendships
This reminds me of a few of my mantras: “If it takes effort to maintain then you’re not meant to be there” And megsy’s saying “your body’s weight is your body’s business” “A serving size is an amount of food that satisfies your physical and mental hunger, not an arbitrary measurement” Cravings serve a purpose. Honour them.
Ro…. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. An eating disorder follows you throughout your life and even when you are 65 (my current age)….I think about what I’m putting into my body every single day. I am a strong, intelligent woman that has come a very long way. Your lives are so helpful and you are helping so many people. Keep up the good work Ro ❤️🥰💃🏼
This is my first time ever making a comment on social media. It's a little scary for me but it just hit a point where I have to. Ro you are absolutely so amazing. Thank you so much for all of your videos. You helped me so much on my journey. I started my journey to recover from anorexia exactly a year ago. It has been so hard and so many ups and downs. But all the empowering messages and videos that you sent had helped me immensely. I have no words to thank you enough. I literally cried from so many of your videos because it really hit home. In some of my lowest moments and feeling so alone I knew that I wasn't the only one. You said all the things that my mind has been bullying me with for so long. You help me understand and recognize that it's not only me struggling with this. Hearing from someone else has the same struggles and thoughts of not being enough, not skinny enough, and not sick enough... Really shows me it's not just me and not about my size it's about my mind that needs to be healed. I don't need to heal my body I need to heal my mind and be comfortable with myself and treat myself with kindness because my body isn't my enemy it's my home I need to give it respect and gratitude. And this video today has been something I've been waiting for for a long time. I've been constantly surrounded with people with eating disorders and distorted eating as well from work colleagues and at home and the social media really ducks everything up to a total extreme. So thank you so so very much for all your help and for coming along with me and helping me on my journey you are such a beautiful and special person with a really kind Spirit. I also wanted to tell you that just a week ago I made the decision to never skip a meal again. I've been trying to recover for a year but in that time I've still been up and down with restriction and skipping and hospital so I made the decision no matter how hard it is to take over my life and start fresh new me I will get my life back I deserve happiness no matter my size I'm worthy and deserve it.
thank u ro!!!! this is the main thing that is holding me back in recovery, other peoples opinions and societys views on body image, and this video is what i need so thank u x
7:30 -8 AMAZING POINT not only should we be focusing on ourselves and our eating but also think that it’s a different situation! They want to lose weight not that they’re scared of a food!
Ro, You are changing the world! I'm so proud of you. I worked in a hospital with patients with ED and I am passionate to help those who suffer to help recover when their ready. I also suffer from Gastroparesis and so sometimes my body literally cannot get the nutrients and it's heartbreaking. Everything you talked about in this video is spot on. I know you are struggle but thank you for sharing your journey on the internet. I know that's not easy! You're changing lives! Thank you 😊 ❤️
wow, this was super helpful!! I’ve had to step back from friendships during recovery because of how unhelpful and triggering they were becoming. My friend and I would compete silently against each other. Now my sister is showing a lot of warning signs and avoiding and restricting a lot of her food and it’s so triggering. I feel extremely defeated and low…I want to give up because at least I was societially “accepted” but do you always encourage me and show me recovery is the way to go!! My mentor also constantly tells me to “run my own race and focus on my own race,” those around me what they’re doing doesn’t have to affect me I just need to focus on myself, and let my friends my sister let all of them do what they want, there’s nothing I can do I can’t control them I can only control my own recovery!! You’re the best UA-camr out there, ily sm xx wish you all the best 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
This video could not be more timely. Both sides of my entire family are either diet focused or have eating disorders themselves, and it makes recovery seem so challenging (especially since I don’t fit the stereotypical body type seen in some people with eating disorders, and people love to criticize my body because of it). You’re incredible, Ro. Thank you so much for this.
I found this so helpful! Especially hearing you talk about comparing yourself to others who are ill, it took me so long to get help because my BMI was still “healthy” so I thought I wasn’t sick enough. It made me feel a lot better to know I wasn’t alone in feeling like that ❤️
The one thing that keeps me going in healing from this horrid disorder is remembering how miserable it made me, how being dangerously underweight and exhausted and fearing for my heart and my skin etc. do I want that? Just to look like a bloody skeleton? No way.
Really needed this rn. My family sent me to a treatment facility but yet everything they talk about is exercise and diets and so on, which makes it harder. Thank you Ro for this video 💓💓💓💓
This is such a helpful video Ro!! I find recovery so tough sometimes because of lots of what recovery is has been challenging diet culture but I’m so proud of you and me both for pushing through and choosing recovery!! Sending lots of love!! 😘
yes this so true and hard for ppl who are recovered especially when other family members are trying to lose weight or have disordered eating and you have to separate from their thoughts. everyone has their own journey and it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself! love u ro xx
Thank you so much for this video I truly have needed this. It's so incredibly hard when I go on pinterest or UA-cam just to see weight loss tips or "flat stomach" tricks and then I live in a family of insecure women obsessed with diet culture. You've helping so much with all of your videos and I truly love you and your channel so much. Thank you
i just. can't. why is it so difficult. i love compliments, i love feeling like i have something in my life that's desirable. if i gained any weight i would stop being praised by my family. i'm not good for anything if not for my physical appearance, how the actual fuck do people recover from this
ro i just wanna thank you so so much you’ve helped me so much since the beginning of my recovery, last year at this time i was at the hospital and i would never imagine that in a year from that i would be where i am today, and that makes me feel so proud and happy, and being able to see your journey since the beginning and where you are today makes me so f happy, i almost feel like we were in this together i know it’s stupid, anyways thank you so much again
I've seen your videos pop on UA-cam but I've never clicked on them. This video caught my eye as literally everyone in my life talks only about calories, weight, new fad diets, etc so I'm around it 24/7 and I can not escape it. Just watching this one video of yours I instantly subscribed and I can tell you're one of the few youtubers who are authentic to themselves, generally caring, and do not preach or spread false information. You had really good advice and as someone who deals with chronic pain as well as an ED I value and appreciate the advice.
Thank you so much for this. I am deep healing my trauma at the moment and this opened my eyes for one of the things that has always kept me back ''People are not going to love you until you're ill'' it applys sooo much to me and my thinking, but I was never able to put a finger on it. I could apply a lot of what you were saying onto my self harming wich was a bigger struggle in my life than the ed, hope you reach a lot (more) of people with your content. You and the sharing of your yourney is incredibly helpful
This was such a great video. I was raised to hate my body in my own home, by my own mother, who I became 'bigger' than when I was about 12. It would have changed my life if I had a video like this to watch during those years that shape you as who you will become. I would give anything in this world to not have the struggles that I know will never really leave me. If anyone relates to this, I'm sorry you understand. We aren't alone.
Love you Ro! I was struggling with an ED for a long time and was about to spiral again a year ago until I came across your channel and I would watch your videos while I ate. You helped me so much. In moments when I'm having negative thoughts your voice comes into my head saying "food is fuel" etc. Thank you so much for being a positive influence on so many people around the world who are struggling!
I just REALLY THANK YOU for this video. For a few weeks i m struggling with these problems so much. I started my recovery after 4/5 months later then you and gained a lot weight. Also my bestie is so much obsessed with her weight these days. She does not eat anything and always tells me to eat. Also everybody around me talking about how they lost weight, how they don't eat etc. Even my sis told me how fat I am when we fight... So I started to make a diet but I don't know how to keep it healthy but no matter what I'm trying to eat but people just hurts :(
your words and reminders always pop up when I struggled, thank you so much. btw I would love to see more videos like this, like the reminders and tips in recovery
Super helpful - Thankyou. Would love to hear more advice as to how to manage the horrible feelings of jealousy which come with an ED when one sees someone else looking thinner/worse than oneself, or being ‘more sick’ than you or struggling more, and that than having the knock on effect of affecting the commitment to and progress in recovery you’re making/have made… aka how to stay focused on the fact that regardless of any/everybody else’s sickness level, pain, struggle, length of ED, body size etc that those things have NO bearing on the validity of your own sickness level/pain/struggle etc which is valid and worthy in and of itself and objectively rather than it being judged comparatively… hope that made sense!
I’ve been in the hospital for almost 2 months now and I still have my moments of wanting to give up. your content has always motivated and inspired me to be a content creator to bring awareness to this deadly Illness. thank you for sharing your story and helping the world
Hi Ro, I just wanted to say what an amazing young woman you are! I have struggled with anorexia for 26 years. I began my 'recovery' when I was 14 but was never able to fully recover because I was always just too scared. It has ruined my life; I have missed out on so much and been so unhappy for so long. I wish I could've been brave like you all those years ago. But now I am doing recovery for real and it has been yourself and others like you who have inspired me and helped me to really dive into it. Well done on beating this hideous disease. I wish you all the happiness in the world; you truly deserve it.
firstly, thank you so much! and secondly, i’m so proud of you. it has ruined a PORTION of your life - remember you have so much more life to live, and recovery is going to give you so much more freedom and happiness, for certain. i’m a big believer in the fact that you can recover no matter how long you’ve struggled for. even when it gets really hard, keep pushing on. you’ve got this lovely ❤️
Hey... I just wanted to come on here and comment something. I've shared this in the past but after I was diagnosed with Ana I got diagnosed with celiac just after I started to learn how to enjoy and like some of my old favourite foods. If I'm being honest, my appetite is gone a lot of the time and I'm not enjoying food. It's like a chore now. It makes me so sad because I worked so hard to get to a place where I loved my old favourites and now I can't eat any of them... anyways I loved this video and it's a great message. Your channel helped me sm around a year ago
i've had an ed for most of my life and i have been thinking about recovery so much lately. it's so scary and my mind keeps pushing me further into my ed and the fact that i don't know how healthy people eat normally it makes recovering even harder and scarier.
Hello, I am going through recovery as well and I've been thinking a lot about this topic (how do healthy people normally eat), and I've come to think that there is no '' normal '' eating, there are only unique and personal ways of eating for everyone I know it's super hard but you can try to understand what is your normal way of eating because there isn't a guide or anything that can tell you that, as we are all different. I'm sending you tons of love and support ❤️
Me and my sister both have anorexia and she doesn't want to recover but I do. So I'm struggling a lot because I'm always eating more than her and now I'm heavier than her despite being lighter before starting recovery. I feel like it's unfair that she gets to workout, eat little and look "beautiful" and it makes me want to eat little and workout myself. But deep down I know I shouldn't because my doctor told me I should me inpatient
i havent watched your videos in a while, but seeing you and the progress youve made in recovery is so inspiring. just seeing how much more life you have in you- its like your glowing....its honestly so beautiful. im working my way towards that and seeing you is so motivating- it reminds me why im choosing recovery and putting in the hard work now:) im also very proud of you ro!
Ro, I´m so happy for your wisdom and your process of recovery. I´m a pre Buddhist nun from México and your reflections have been helpful on my own practice of letting go of certain toxic behaviours towards food. Right now being alone without other monastics in my country, I relate to the pressure from outside to (as women) comply to the ideal body images and many other social mandates... Learning to be happy with my own body, life, values and religious practices and precepts reminds me of what is really supporting my life. I wish you so many blessing and hoping you keep sharing your valuable experience. May you be happy, healthy and safe🙏🙏🙏
Hi Ro! I just wanted to thank you so much for helping me through my eating disorder. Although I am still in recovery, I'm a lot better now. It all started March of 2020, when I was in quarantine. I was at my lowest, and I dropped down to the lowest weight I had ever been. I'm much happier and closer to reaching my goals. I was mainly just wondering how long it's taken you to fully recover. I am currently on my first full year of recovery. Thanks so much for all your help! :)
hi, I dont have an eating disorder but i do struggle with other unhealthy coping mechanisms as well as emotion regulation. Ive been struggling a a lot recently and I really want to change my life but I'm scared how much I will change. I say this because seeing you and your channel and your recovery has helped me make up my mind. I am going to change my life for the better. I am going to try and change how I view myself and the world and you have shown me how good that can be. I am terrified but if i don't start now then when will I? Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for the advice. I hope you know how many people you have helped. :]
i needed this sm, thank u for all these videos !! and thank u for helping spread awareness about mh, eds etc. bc it’s so important to feel understood, and not feeling alone, as well as breaking the stigma around these issues, which can be huge factors in not recovering, and def were for me !! i rly hope u know how much you are loved by all of us in this community :) thank u 🤍🤍
thank you so much. i can’t thank you enough! for HOW MUCH you’ve helped me. i’m 7 months in recovery and you were one of the biggest reasons on why i even started recovery in the first place. truly, you’ve helped so many people struggling. i’m so proud of you and thankful for you. (also this video came at the perfect time😭💕)
You are my number1! Recommended u 2 my phsychologist for all her other clients! You are authentic and gorgeous! A real role-model! A game-changer from my pov! Thank you so, so much.❤️
Thank you so much for this video, I can't tell you how helpful it is. All these thoughts that you said you had I did too and those thoughts are finally starting to go away! I started recovery in the summer and I'm slowly healing (it's a tough journey) But being in recovery is so much better than being trapped in a prison by my ED voice. So thank you again for this video, it's encouraging and a great reminder
I just saw this video and there’s a lot of really good information in this. I’m struggling with my ED right now. My dietitian talked to me about me possibly needing to be hospitalized. I didn’t react well to that. I’m in a bigger body now and my ED has gotten worse and now I’m forcing myself to eat so my dietitian doesn’t bring up hospitalization again. I don’t feel like I’m that bad because I’m not a stick. It’s really hard because of the pain because of restricting so much the last 3-4 weeks. My binge side is coming out more and that’s making things harder too.
Beautiful wise and kind Ro. Your light makes the world more beautiful. Your authenticity is so brilliant and good. I’d love a video discussing some of the ways you are working on your other traumas/severe PTSD. Of course no need to disclose anything you don’t want to. But it’s clear your journey is ongoing and I’d love to hear how you are and the work you are doing and what is helping. I wish the world was as lovely as you deserve. But your courage is inspiring. Love you you always.
Thank you for posting this, I've been struggling a lot more recently because all of my friends have started talking about dieting. This is something that's going to help me and so many other people 💗
thank you so much ro, you have no idea how much i appreciate this video and all of your videos. your hard work has helped so many people and i am so eternally grateful 💗
Had typed out a long comment but got scared and deleted it - will just say a simple ‘thank you so much’ for sharing this video. You’re inspirational Ro. Your content is so relatable, it makes me feel so less alone. Especially this video. It felt like ‘oh my God, someone else in the world understands’. Thank you again.
Wow. I’m in recovery and have gotten to this stuck place where I’m eating but I have soooooo many foods that I don’t eat. My parents have decided to make this push starting tomorrow where I need to eat 2 challenge foods a day. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and anxious about it. This really helped me. I still am not happy about it but I guess this helps me see that that’s the only way to get better. Wish me luck xx
Hello, I'm also in recovery and I send you lots of love ❤️ our journeys are different but I understand what you're struggling with and I can advise you to remember all your motivations, why you want to recover etc to stay motivated! I'm really sending you tons of love I believe in you ❤️
hi, i don’t know your circumstances but how did you explain your ed to your parents or how did you get them to help out? i want to recover so bad but i can’t do it alone and i don’t know how to tell them so that they will understand & help me x
@@kc33337 tbh they just figured it out. I was losing weight really fast and so they saw how sick I looked and started to get involved. I was dying when they stepped in. I’m sorry I can’t really give you advice on how to tell them but just be honest and explain how you need support and if they’re good parents they’ll be on your side
@@katiemeadowcroft4153 thank you! they have definitely noticed my mum knows i’ve lost weight and she wants me to go to the doctors to see if i have anaemia (caused by my ed) and she came in last night and made me have another meal cus she knew i had eaten like the bare minimum all day and threw away the chips she bought me and all that so she knows something is up it’s just telling her i think x
Living with friends, I found it really helpful to make sure I wasn’t spending all my meals with them so that I couldn’t compare. At the end of the day I don’t know exactly how others are living their lives at every minute of the day so how am I supposed to judge myself/compare myself with half the information. Also when people say Im not eating x,y,z they probably don’t actually mean that - they mean they’re eating less of it but as someone with an ED I always take these comments very literally. Idk hope that helps:)
The part of ‘family and friends’ is really really helpfull! I’m indeed scared that I need to eat a lot more of those “unhealthy foods” to not be restrictive anymore but I’m still scared that I will crave sweet/“bad” foods more and more. You go Ro!
How did you know that I needed this? Oh my Gosh, THANK YOU SO MUCH, I kind of have motivation to focus on myself again!! I love you Ro, thank you thank you thank you 🤍
Thank you for this video Ro, you're incredible❤️ It's so hard feeling like my eating disorder is who I am which makes it so much harder to let go. But watching your videos shows how beautiful recovery is and that it is worth it ❤️
This might be a bit late, but I just wanted to say that I got my period back today. I am really happy about it, since it was a big goal in recovery for me. A tip from me is that you just have to focus and believe in yourself. I know it can be really hard when people around you are being triggering, competitive etc. But just believe in your own strength and power. The world out of eating disorder world is so much bigger and brighter. Allow yourself to get there.
Have been in my recovery since 2013, this has always been my weakness as I used other people's eating behaviours/weight loss as a sort of competition with my own. My way to get past it was to accept that other people will do what they wish with their body but my journey with my own is different and can't be compared. I recently started working in an office where colleagues will talk about how certain food is bad and has saturated fats/high calorie/etc which again I have struggled with. I have started to say out loud to them that maybe X food is calorie dense or contains fat but food is fuel and food is enjoyable and it won't stop me from personally eating it. If anything it just makes them roll their eyes and stop talking to me about it and that's fine with me 😅
You’re incredible! It makes me so happy to see How much progress you’ve made😍 i’ve been watching you for sooo long and have been following your journey and you’re so strong and such an inspiration! You’ve always given me hope that you can get out of this restrictive cycle. Whenever i feel like recovery isn’t worth it or when my sister talks about diet shit and i get upset, i always watch your videos and look at your posts because you really help me stay motivated❤️ Thank you Ro!
omg!!! this absolutely comes to a perfect time !!! I'm trying to recover so badly but I'm constantly confronted by diet culture and the obsession of the thin ideal and bodies (I also noticed the other day how this is exacerbated by social media plattforms like instagram, because these plattforms only focus on bodies) . Thank you so much for this, you are awesome
i am actually already recovered, and have been recovered for more than a year, but today I accidentally came across some fatphobic posts on instagram and got extremely triggered. it's been so long since i last felt like this so i didn't know what to do and how to handle all these thoughts. but i watched this video, with the hope that it would help me, and it did. it really did. i feel like myself again, so thank you.
Hi Ro, I haven't commented before but I have been following. You talk so much sense. The word 'diet' is synonymous in our culture with weight loss. But it could mean any kind of diet, meat free, gluten free etc Not just one aimed only at losing weight. We are obsessed. I had an ED in my late teens/ early 20s. It came back in my 30s because I hadn't really dealt with it the first time round. For me it was only when I fully realised that it had no purpose, had never helped me in any way and never would that I recovered. Before that I felt like I was compromising when I went into any treatment or therapy. It wasn't what I wanted but I had to do it. I always went back to my ED. Some of those treatments were wrong for me. Eating a set food plan and being weighed every week by a nurse I particularly hated. I had no control, and an ED is all about control. You have to find the right treatment/ therapy for you. But most of all you have to realise the ED has no purpose for you. It's hurting you and holding you back, never helping you. It's not perfection, that is definitely not a perfect way to be. It is a liar. Always question it, am I right about this, or is it the ED lying yet again? Be 'all in' as well in your recovery, otherwise you are compromising. Just some thoughts that were the basis of my recovery, that might help someone. xxx
my mother and most of my friends have an eating disorder (recovered and not) and its making recovery difficult, especially when they say triggering things (though i know its not meant in a mean way). but i am learning to push through anyway. this video has been so helpful ro, thank you so much!! sending you much love x
Wonderful, Ro. Thank you for normalizing the conversation with folks to say, "I need to avoid this conversation. Please don't talk about it with me." I recently did this with a family member. It wound up well-received
Thank you so much for this video❤️ deffo make more of these I have been recovering from EDNOS on my own for nearly a decade and it's been really hard recently, I fell into a full few days of restricting after seeing a photo of myself and feeling so unworthy of love. I enjoyed the ritual and it felt so calming, but I literally had to lie and pull away from my partner in order to retain it & say horrible things to myself to keep it going. It's been so hard to eat and function and recover even though I'm fat (not a value judgement just a statement) Just wanted to say, fat people deserve ED recovery too & you can be fat and have/have had an ED and restrictive mindsets are damaging af and can lead to bingeing, none of that makes you 'not good at having an ED' and it DOESN'T mean you should restrict. Eating intuitively is surprisingly hard and breaking out of ED dynamics that family, friends and society forces on you is a process- but it's one that will free you from the claws of a cold, distant and painful existence. You can all do it. You deserve to eat. Yes, you. All of you.
One thing I’ve had to deal with was living with my mom. She used to be anorexic too and she always brags about how skinny she used to be. She’s had 6 kids now and she’s unhappy now because she weighs a lot more than she used to. Now all of her kids including me are anorexic and unhealthy underweight but she’s the one who makes dinner and therefore the rest of us are in a forced diet as well. I just turned 18 yesterday and I will be moving out next month but I’ve started my recovery process just last week and I’m hoping to make even more progress when I’m removed from this situation. Stay strong guys 💛
pro tip for instagram triggers: i know for me, when i go through a rough patch, i start spiralling down a rabbit hole on my explore page and click on a bunch of posts that are triggering, but instagram sadly will keep pushing that type of posts after that on the explore page!!! so therefore, i really recommend going through a few scrolls and clicking on ‘not interested’ or ‘ dont recommend me posts like these’ so you can stay away from these posts, even after a rough patch :) hope this helps someone
yes yes yes !!!!! meant to mention that !!!!!
You could also just delete Instagram, it's very helpful
I find body positivity pages so helpful too!! Seeing ALL different types of bodies, cellulite, stretch marks, scars, hair etc has really helped me accept my body and i do NOT follow any pages that are triggering.
@@hi-pz5vmsince I deleted Instagram &Co, despite of my very difficult and unsure life situation, I do not so bad like I did with this illusion of making friends and toxic posts
currently trying to recover. it’s so hard, feeling like i’m not “sick enough”, like i’m not underweight enough to deserve recovery. food guilt, body dysmorphia the list goes on. as a victim of csa the restricting was a way to cope and a way to stay emotionally stunted and numb. the hardest thing is trying to love my body right now, when i really truly hate it, thank u for posting this. i also follow u on instagram and ur posts always help me. sending love
yes, i get this. and i feel similarly. what is the measure? is it just if you think you have an ED that you do? or is it a medical diagnosis? i feel like i crossed a line psychologically, but my "metrics" are within "normal" range
I know, I used to feel the same way all the time and still sometimes do, but that's the Eating Disorder talking. I want you to know that you're gorgeous just the way you are and that it takes time to be okay with (or even love) your body. I'm also in recovery and I'm learning that along the way. Some days I dislike what I see in the mirror and other days I can accept my body. Idk if you believe in God, but what's helped me get so far in recovery is God. And realizing that he created me this way has helped me to know that the way I look isn't a mistake. I don't know where you're at now, since you wrote this a year ago, but I want you to know you are not alone, and you CAN get through this.
I feel exactly the same way but working really hard to get better instead of worse. you don’t need to prove to anyone that you’re struggling to deserve to get better. you deserve a good life and so much happiness no matter what I promise ❤
I’ve never thought of my body being similar to a plant, but the idea that it needs the same basic needs (water, food, sunlight, etc) is so mind changing! It honestly made me question my entire thought pattern. Your body needs fuel to flourish, just the same as flowers would. This is such a sweet message🥺 thank you ro
i’m so glad it helped, sending love x
Dear Ro, I am a mental health nurse in Denmark. The patients and I often talk about your video's and how we admire your content.
Our patients express how you inspire them on their path to recovery. Thank you so much for that🙏. You are truly a very strong and inspiring young woman and you have an important impact.
I would greatly appreciate it, if you could give the patients admitted to ED day treament in Roskilde Denmark, a shoutout in your next video. I would love if you sent our awesome girls some words of encouragement in there battle against Anorexia.
Thank you for all your hard work, honesty and great content.
Take care😊
@@roxxandra aww thanks ❤
how u manage to post these videos exactly when i need them is incredible 😭❤️💕
ahhh 🫶🏻
I'm here for you 💕💕
same here it’s crazy
Yes...im in recovery at the moment... they wanted me to be hospitalised because so bad... I've asked not to because I have 2 kids on my own. I have loads of help from mum and sis with my girls luckily 💕 but I'm still going to therapy, weekly visits for weight check, taking all my pills and medication they give me and I drink myself the special extra calorie intake formula they usually give you in hospital via tube..
I've only started this a month ago.. its hard..but it does feel easier day by day if you insist on fighting for your goal... you've always helped with your videos and seeing your progress and results has made things easier for me...so thankyou ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Literslly 💀💀💀
You know something? I was chatting to my friend today (who has as far as I’m aware an extremely healthy relationship with food ) and she actually was thinking that things like protein products are unhealthy because they’re ‘so artificial.’ And yet I see other people on social media who act like if u don’t have it with every meal then you’ll keel over and die ! Health is so subjective , it’s different for everyone 💫♥️
true ! :)
Litteraly this has helped me so much. Being constantly triggered by everyone and everything around me is my biggest challenge during recovery, and recently my friend has engadged in a really disordered mindsets, and I really don't know how to deal with it. I love him but it is so hard, so thank you for this, your videos help me very much
i’m so so glad it helped ☁️✨
Hello Ro, I just wanted to say that you are the person who made me want to recover from my ED. This summer has been the worst patch in my entire life and all the scary changes just reinforced my behaviours. Then I discovered your channel and I watched several videos and it made me realize that my “lifestyle” just wasn’t sustainable. Thank you so much for making these videos showing this process and your incredible progress. ❤❤❤
this is amazing to hear, i’m so proud of you 🤍 thank you so so much for this comment
I just found your channel and I'm so thankful. I'm in a pretty toxic friendgroup regarding food. They constantly make comments like "I didn't eat breakfast" or they eat nothing in our lunch break and they praise all of that. It's so hard to be the only one who is eating lunch, eats breakfast and eats "unhealthy" food. It makes me feel so disgusting and ashamed although everyone of them knows I'm in recovery and I very much know my body needs that food. Also I deal a lot with extreme hunger and although I'm eating enough, I'm still hungry and restricting in a way although I've already had enough and since no one in my environment eats as much as I, I stop although my body still signals hunger. I don't know if that really makes sense. But your video helped me so much thank you for making this channel and talking about your journey
i think you should try to distance yourself from those "friends" you're already struggling and they are making things worse... friends aren't supposed to make your life harder... plus they do know about your recovery and real friends wouldn't make such comments in front of you. and if they are your only friends remember that being alone is better than toxic friendships
This reminds me of a few of my mantras:
“If it takes effort to maintain then you’re not meant to be there”
And megsy’s saying “your body’s weight is your body’s business”
“A serving size is an amount of food that satisfies your physical and mental hunger, not an arbitrary measurement”
Cravings serve a purpose. Honour them.
the first one.. thank you for sharing this!
My pleasure, I’m pleased it helped you.
Ro…. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. An eating disorder follows you throughout your life and even when you are 65 (my current age)….I think about what I’m putting into my body every single day. I am a strong, intelligent woman that has come a very long way. Your lives are so helpful and you are helping so many people. Keep up the good work Ro ❤️🥰💃🏼
sending you so much love, thanks for being so kind 🦋🤍
This is my first time ever making a comment on social media. It's a little scary for me but it just hit a point where I have to. Ro you are absolutely so amazing. Thank you so much for all of your videos. You helped me so much on my journey. I started my journey to recover from anorexia exactly a year ago. It has been so hard and so many ups and downs. But all the empowering messages and videos that you sent had helped me immensely. I have no words to thank you enough. I literally cried from so many of your videos because it really hit home. In some of my lowest moments and feeling so alone I knew that I wasn't the only one. You said all the things that my mind has been bullying me with for so long. You help me understand and recognize that it's not only me struggling with this. Hearing from someone else has the same struggles and thoughts of not being enough, not skinny enough, and not sick enough... Really shows me it's not just me and not about my size it's about my mind that needs to be healed. I don't need to heal my body I need to heal my mind and be comfortable with myself and treat myself with kindness because my body isn't my enemy it's my home I need to give it respect and gratitude. And this video today has been something I've been waiting for for a long time. I've been constantly surrounded with people with eating disorders and distorted eating as well from work colleagues and at home and the social media really ducks everything up to a total extreme. So thank you so so very much for all your help and for coming along with me and helping me on my journey you are such a beautiful and special person with a really kind Spirit. I also wanted to tell you that just a week ago I made the decision to never skip a meal again. I've been trying to recover for a year but in that time I've still been up and down with restriction and skipping and hospital so I made the decision no matter how hard it is to take over my life and start fresh new me I will get my life back I deserve happiness no matter my size I'm worthy and deserve it.
what a lovely, lovely comment - thank you so much. it means the world. i’m so proud of you, sending you all the love xxx
This couldn’t be a better video for you to post I’m so stuck on how to recover in a world so toxic about weights xx
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thank u ro!!!! this is the main thing that is holding me back in recovery, other peoples opinions and societys views on body image, and this video is what i need so thank u x
i hope it helps x
@@RoMitchell it did x thank u
Im eating rice and double chicken rn and i didn’t think i could do it, i put on this video and it helps so much idk what i would do without you
7:30 -8 AMAZING POINT not only should we be focusing on ourselves and our eating but also think that it’s a different situation! They want to lose weight not that they’re scared of a food!
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You are changing the world! I'm so proud of you. I worked in a hospital with patients with ED and I am passionate to help those who suffer to help recover when their ready. I also suffer from Gastroparesis and so sometimes my body literally cannot get the nutrients and it's heartbreaking. Everything you talked about in this video is spot on. I know you are struggle but thank you for sharing your journey on the internet. I know that's not easy! You're changing lives! Thank you 😊 ❤️
wow, this was super helpful!!
I’ve had to step back from friendships during recovery because of how unhelpful and triggering they were becoming. My friend and I would compete silently against each other. Now my sister is showing a lot of warning signs and avoiding and restricting a lot of her food and it’s so triggering. I feel extremely defeated and low…I want to give up because at least I was societially “accepted” but do you always encourage me and show me recovery is the way to go!!
My mentor also constantly tells me to “run my own race and focus on my own race,” those around me what they’re doing doesn’t have to affect me I just need to focus on myself, and let my friends my sister let all of them do what they want, there’s nothing I can do I can’t control them I can only control my own recovery!!
You’re the best UA-camr out there, ily sm xx wish you all the best 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
This video could not be more timely. Both sides of my entire family are either diet focused or have eating disorders themselves, and it makes recovery seem so challenging (especially since I don’t fit the stereotypical body type seen in some people with eating disorders, and people love to criticize my body because of it). You’re incredible, Ro. Thank you so much for this.
I found this so helpful! Especially hearing you talk about comparing yourself to others who are ill, it took me so long to get help because my BMI was still “healthy” so I thought I wasn’t sick enough. It made me feel a lot better to know I wasn’t alone in feeling like that ❤️
The one thing that keeps me going in healing from this horrid disorder is remembering how miserable it made me, how being dangerously underweight and exhausted and fearing for my heart and my skin etc. do I want that? Just to look like a bloody skeleton? No way.
Really needed this rn. My family sent me to a treatment facility but yet everything they talk about is exercise and diets and so on, which makes it harder. Thank you Ro for this video 💓💓💓💓
This is such a helpful video Ro!! I find recovery so tough sometimes because of lots of what recovery is has been challenging diet culture but I’m so proud of you and me both for pushing through and choosing recovery!! Sending lots of love!! 😘
i’m so glad it helped, all my love 🤍
yes this so true and hard for ppl who are recovered especially when other family members are trying to lose weight or have disordered eating and you have to separate from their thoughts. everyone has their own journey and it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself! love u ro xx
Thank you so much for this video I truly have needed this. It's so incredibly hard when I go on pinterest or UA-cam just to see weight loss tips or "flat stomach" tricks and then I live in a family of insecure women obsessed with diet culture. You've helping so much with all of your videos and I truly love you and your channel so much. Thank you
i just. can't. why is it so difficult. i love compliments, i love feeling like i have something in my life that's desirable. if i gained any weight i would stop being praised by my family. i'm not good for anything if not for my physical appearance, how the actual fuck do people recover from this
Look forward to your videos every week thank you for helping me so much in my recovery last year I wouldn't even believe I would be here xx
i’m super proud of you !! 💌 thanks for being so kind x
genuinely wouldn’t still be here without u ❤️
ro i just wanna thank you so so much you’ve helped me so much since the beginning of my recovery, last year at this time i was at the hospital and i would never imagine that in a year from that i would be where i am today, and that makes me feel so proud and happy, and being able to see your journey since the beginning and where you are today makes me so f happy, i almost feel like we were in this together i know it’s stupid, anyways thank you so much again
I've seen your videos pop on UA-cam but I've never clicked on them. This video caught my eye as literally everyone in my life talks only about calories, weight, new fad diets, etc so I'm around it 24/7 and I can not escape it. Just watching this one video of yours I instantly subscribed and I can tell you're one of the few youtubers who are authentic to themselves, generally caring, and do not preach or spread false information. You had really good advice and as someone who deals with chronic pain as well as an ED I value and appreciate the advice.
thank you for this kind comment, and for subscribing 🥰
Thank you so much for this. I am deep healing my trauma at the moment and this opened my eyes for one of the things that has always kept me back ''People are not going to love you until you're ill'' it applys sooo much to me and my thinking, but I was never able to put a finger on it.
I could apply a lot of what you were saying onto my self harming wich was a bigger struggle in my life than the ed, hope you reach a lot (more) of people with your content. You and the sharing of your yourney is incredibly helpful
This was such a great video. I was raised to hate my body in my own home, by my own mother, who I became 'bigger' than when I was about 12. It would have changed my life if I had a video like this to watch during those years that shape you as who you will become. I would give anything in this world to not have the struggles that I know will never really leave me. If anyone relates to this, I'm sorry you understand. We aren't alone.
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Love you Ro! I was struggling with an ED for a long time and was about to spiral again a year ago until I came across your channel and I would watch your videos while I ate. You helped me so much. In moments when I'm having negative thoughts your voice comes into my head saying "food is fuel" etc. Thank you so much for being a positive influence on so many people around the world who are struggling!
Watching your videos while eating my snacks and meals makes recovery just that bit easier. Love you Ro
I just REALLY THANK YOU for this video. For a few weeks i m struggling with these problems so much. I started my recovery after 4/5 months later then you and gained a lot weight. Also my bestie is so much obsessed with her weight these days. She does not eat anything and always tells me to eat. Also everybody around me talking about how they lost weight, how they don't eat etc. Even my sis told me how fat I am when we fight... So I started to make a diet but I don't know how to keep it healthy but no matter what I'm trying to eat but people just hurts :(
cant tell you how much i needed this. i love you so much ro
all my love
your words and reminders always pop up when I struggled, thank you so much.
btw I would love to see more videos like this, like the reminders and tips in recovery
Haven't watched it yet, but i know it's going to give me the serotonin that i needed today! Thank you, Ro!❤
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Was actually just having a cry about this exact dilemma this morning lol tyty ro sending big love
Super helpful - Thankyou. Would love to hear more advice as to how to manage the horrible feelings of jealousy which come with an ED when one sees someone else looking thinner/worse than oneself, or being ‘more sick’ than you or struggling more, and that than having the knock on effect of affecting the commitment to and progress in recovery you’re making/have made… aka how to stay focused on the fact that regardless of any/everybody else’s sickness level, pain, struggle, length of ED, body size etc that those things have NO bearing on the validity of your own sickness level/pain/struggle etc which is valid and worthy in and of itself and objectively rather than it being judged comparatively… hope that made sense!
I’ve been in the hospital for almost 2 months now and I still have my moments of wanting to give up. your content has always motivated and inspired me to be a content creator to bring awareness to this deadly Illness. thank you for sharing your story and helping the world
Ro having a squirrel moment at the end
Hi Ro, I just wanted to say what an amazing young woman you are! I have struggled with anorexia for 26 years. I began my 'recovery' when I was 14 but was never able to fully recover because I was always just too scared. It has ruined my life; I have missed out on so much and been so unhappy for so long. I wish I could've been brave like you all those years ago. But now I am doing recovery for real and it has been yourself and others like you who have inspired me and helped me to really dive into it. Well done on beating this hideous disease. I wish you all the happiness in the world; you truly deserve it.
firstly, thank you so much! and secondly, i’m so proud of you. it has ruined a PORTION of your life - remember you have so much more life to live, and recovery is going to give you so much more freedom and happiness, for certain. i’m a big believer in the fact that you can recover no matter how long you’ve struggled for. even when it gets really hard, keep pushing on. you’ve got this lovely ❤️
@@RoMitchell thank you💗
Hey... I just wanted to come on here and comment something. I've shared this in the past but after I was diagnosed with Ana I got diagnosed with celiac just after I started to learn how to enjoy and like some of my old favourite foods. If I'm being honest, my appetite is gone a lot of the time and I'm not enjoying food. It's like a chore now. It makes me so sad because I worked so hard to get to a place where I loved my old favourites and now I can't eat any of them... anyways I loved this video and it's a great message. Your channel helped me sm around a year ago
i've had an ed for most of my life and i have been thinking about recovery so much lately. it's so scary and my mind keeps pushing me further into my ed and the fact that i don't know how healthy people eat normally it makes recovering even harder and scarier.
Hello, I am going through recovery as well and I've been thinking a lot about this topic (how do healthy people normally eat), and I've come to think that there is no '' normal '' eating, there are only unique and personal ways of eating for everyone
I know it's super hard but you can try to understand what is your normal way of eating because there isn't a guide or anything that can tell you that, as we are all different. I'm sending you tons of love and support ❤️
it is actually so freaking hard but you're making it feel like its possible, thank u ily Ro
Me and my sister both have anorexia and she doesn't want to recover but I do. So I'm struggling a lot because I'm always eating more than her and now I'm heavier than her despite being lighter before starting recovery. I feel like it's unfair that she gets to workout, eat little and look "beautiful" and it makes me want to eat little and workout myself. But deep down I know I shouldn't because my doctor told me I should me inpatient
i havent watched your videos in a while, but seeing you and the progress youve made in recovery is so inspiring. just seeing how much more life you have in you- its like your glowing....its honestly so beautiful. im working my way towards that and seeing you is so motivating- it reminds me why im choosing recovery and putting in the hard work now:) im also very proud of you ro!
the others with an ed part, i had to replay it because i needed it sm ❤ i love this video
GURL, U LOOKING HEALTHYYYY, SO BEAUTIFULLL
thank you !!
@@RoMitchell THANK U
Ro, I´m so happy for your wisdom and your process of recovery. I´m a pre Buddhist nun from México and your reflections have been helpful on my own practice of letting go of certain toxic behaviours towards food. Right now being alone without other monastics in my country, I relate to the pressure from outside to (as women) comply to the ideal body images and many other social mandates... Learning to be happy with my own body, life, values and religious practices and precepts reminds me of what is really supporting my life. I wish you so many blessing and hoping you keep sharing your valuable experience. May you be happy, healthy and safe🙏🙏🙏
Hi Ro! I just wanted to thank you so much for helping me through my eating disorder. Although I am still in recovery, I'm a lot better now. It all started March of 2020, when I was in quarantine. I was at my lowest, and I dropped down to the lowest weight I had ever been. I'm much happier and closer to reaching my goals. I was mainly just wondering how long it's taken you to fully recover. I am currently on my first full year of recovery. Thanks so much for all your help! :)
hi, I dont have an eating disorder but i do struggle with other unhealthy coping mechanisms as well as emotion regulation. Ive been struggling a a lot recently and I really want to change my life but I'm scared how much I will change. I say this because seeing you and your channel and your recovery has helped me make up my mind. I am going to change my life for the better. I am going to try and change how I view myself and the world and you have shown me how good that can be. I am terrified but if i don't start now then when will I? Thank you for sharing your story and thank you for the advice. I hope you know how many people you have helped. :]
i’m proud of you for making the decision - it’s going to make life so much better 🤍
I didn’t know how much I needed this until I watched it 🥺♥️
Perfect timing, thank you Roooo! 💗
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i needed this sm, thank u for all these videos !! and thank u for helping spread awareness about mh, eds etc. bc it’s so important to feel understood, and not feeling alone, as well as breaking the stigma around these issues, which can be huge factors in not recovering, and def were for me !! i rly hope u know how much you are loved by all of us in this community :) thank u 🤍🤍
thank u so much 🫶🏻🫶🏻
thank you so much. i can’t thank you enough! for HOW MUCH you’ve helped me. i’m 7 months in recovery and you were one of the biggest reasons on why i even started recovery in the first place. truly, you’ve helped so many people struggling. i’m so proud of you and thankful for you. (also this video came at the perfect time😭💕)
gosh Roisin you get me through the days I seriously don't know what would I do without you
Thank you for these words of wisdom
You are my number1! Recommended u 2 my phsychologist for all her other clients! You are authentic and gorgeous! A real role-model! A game-changer from my pov! Thank you so, so much.❤️
oh my gosh, thank you 🥺
I actually also told my therapist about your channel❤️
Thank you so much for this video, I can't tell you how helpful it is. All these thoughts that you said you had I did too and those thoughts are finally starting to go away! I started recovery in the summer and I'm slowly healing (it's a tough journey) But being in recovery is so much better than being trapped in a prison by my ED voice. So thank you again for this video, it's encouraging and a great reminder
I just saw this video and there’s a lot of really good information in this. I’m struggling with my ED right now. My dietitian talked to me about me possibly needing to be hospitalized. I didn’t react well to that. I’m in a bigger body now and my ED has gotten worse and now I’m forcing myself to eat so my dietitian doesn’t bring up hospitalization again. I don’t feel like I’m that bad because I’m not a stick. It’s really hard because of the pain because of restricting so much the last 3-4 weeks. My binge side is coming out more and that’s making things harder too.
OMG a really really helpfull video!! Thank you so much Ro!
ah i’m so glad !! ☁️🫶🏻
Beautiful wise and kind Ro. Your light makes the world more beautiful. Your authenticity is so brilliant and good. I’d love a video discussing some of the ways you are working on your other traumas/severe PTSD. Of course no need to disclose anything you don’t want to. But it’s clear your journey is ongoing and I’d love to hear how you are and the work you are doing and what is helping. I wish the world was as lovely as you deserve. But your courage is inspiring. Love you you always.
You are such a comforting person for me to just rewatch❤ thank you for merely existing (:
Thank you for posting this, I've been struggling a lot more recently because all of my friends have started talking about dieting. This is something that's going to help me and so many other people 💗
thank you so much ro, you have no idea how much i appreciate this video and all of your videos. your hard work has helped so many people and i am so eternally grateful 💗
Had typed out a long comment but got scared and deleted it - will just say a simple ‘thank you so much’ for sharing this video. You’re inspirational Ro. Your content is so relatable, it makes me feel so less alone. Especially this video. It felt like ‘oh my God, someone else in the world understands’. Thank you again.
thank you for this lovely comment. i’m so glad you feel welcome and understood :)🤍
Wow. I’m in recovery and have gotten to this stuck place where I’m eating but I have soooooo many foods that I don’t eat. My parents have decided to make this push starting tomorrow where I need to eat 2 challenge foods a day. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and anxious about it. This really helped me. I still am not happy about it but I guess this helps me see that that’s the only way to get better. Wish me luck xx
Hello, I'm also in recovery and I send you lots of love ❤️ our journeys are different but I understand what you're struggling with and I can advise you to remember all your motivations, why you want to recover etc to stay motivated!
I'm really sending you tons of love I believe in you ❤️
hi, i don’t know your circumstances but how did you explain your ed to your parents or how did you get them to help out? i want to recover so bad but i can’t do it alone and i don’t know how to tell them so that they will understand & help me x
@@kc33337 tbh they just figured it out. I was losing weight really fast and so they saw how sick I looked and started to get involved. I was dying when they stepped in. I’m sorry I can’t really give you advice on how to tell them but just be honest and explain how you need support and if they’re good parents they’ll be on your side
@@katiemeadowcroft4153 thank you! they have definitely noticed my mum knows i’ve lost weight and she wants me to go to the doctors to see if i have anaemia (caused by my ed) and she came in last night and made me have another meal cus she knew i had eaten like the bare minimum all day and threw away the chips she bought me and all that so she knows something is up it’s just telling her i think x
This video felt like chatting with a friend it was so lovely. Thank you always for your words and support 💖
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like i was just needing this video like wth how u do know when a lot of people is needing this thankyou ro ur amazing!!🥰💕
i feel like i'm living in a world i don't fit in
thank you so much for making me feel less alone Ro
sending love x
Living with friends, I found it really helpful to make sure I wasn’t spending all my meals with them so that I couldn’t compare. At the end of the day I don’t know exactly how others are living their lives at every minute of the day so how am I supposed to judge myself/compare myself with half the information. Also when people say Im not eating x,y,z they probably don’t actually mean that - they mean they’re eating less of it but as someone with an ED I always take these comments very literally. Idk hope that helps:)
i really needed this today. thank you so much ro
I absolutely adore these type of your videos!!! They are so helpful and I feel safe while watching it🥰
The part of ‘family and friends’ is really really helpfull! I’m indeed scared that I need to eat a lot more of those “unhealthy foods” to not be restrictive anymore but I’m still scared that I will crave sweet/“bad” foods more and more. You go Ro!
Just hearing you speak about the positive way towards recovery, gives me strength to keep pushing forward to a healthier and happier side of me. ❤
How did you know that I needed this? Oh my Gosh, THANK YOU SO MUCH, I kind of have motivation to focus on myself again!! I love you Ro, thank you thank you thank you 🤍
I think a video on the pros and cons of recovery community could be a good video so proud of you
Thank you for being such a incredible and inspiring person🤍 you have grown so much💕
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Thank you for this video Ro, you're incredible❤️ It's so hard feeling like my eating disorder is who I am which makes it so much harder to let go. But watching your videos shows how beautiful recovery is and that it is worth it ❤️
This might be a bit late, but I just wanted to say that I got my period back today. I am really happy about it, since it was a big goal in recovery for me. A tip from me is that you just have to focus and believe in yourself. I know it can be really hard when people around you are being triggering, competitive etc. But just believe in your own strength and power. The world out of eating disorder world is so much bigger and brighter. Allow yourself to get there.
Have been in my recovery since 2013, this has always been my weakness as I used other people's eating behaviours/weight loss as a sort of competition with my own. My way to get past it was to accept that other people will do what they wish with their body but my journey with my own is different and can't be compared.
I recently started working in an office where colleagues will talk about how certain food is bad and has saturated fats/high calorie/etc which again I have struggled with. I have started to say out loud to them that maybe X food is calorie dense or contains fat but food is fuel and food is enjoyable and it won't stop me from personally eating it. If anything it just makes them roll their eyes and stop talking to me about it and that's fine with me 😅
You’re incredible! It makes me so happy to see How much progress you’ve made😍 i’ve been watching you for sooo long and have been following your journey and you’re so strong and such an inspiration! You’ve always given me hope that you can get out of this restrictive cycle. Whenever i feel like recovery isn’t worth it or when my sister talks about diet shit and i get upset, i always watch your videos and look at your posts because you really help me stay motivated❤️ Thank you Ro!
you're such a star Ro! Uh, just imagine how grim the workplace culture of a diet food company would be, talk about toxic
omg!!! this absolutely comes to a perfect time !!! I'm trying to recover so badly but I'm constantly confronted by diet culture and the obsession of the thin ideal and bodies (I also noticed the other day how this is exacerbated by social media plattforms like instagram, because these plattforms only focus on bodies) . Thank you so much for this, you are awesome
sending so much love, you got this 🤍✨
i am actually already recovered, and have been recovered for more than a year, but today I accidentally came across some fatphobic posts on instagram and got extremely triggered. it's been so long since i last felt like this so i didn't know what to do and how to handle all these thoughts. but i watched this video, with the hope that it would help me, and it did. it really did. i feel like myself again, so thank you.
Hi Ro, I haven't commented before but I have been following. You talk so much sense. The word 'diet' is synonymous in our culture with weight loss. But it could mean any kind of diet, meat free, gluten free etc Not just one aimed only at losing weight. We are obsessed.
I had an ED in my late teens/ early 20s. It came back in my 30s because I hadn't really dealt with it the first time round. For me it was only when I fully realised that it had no purpose, had never helped me in any way and never would that I recovered. Before that I felt like I was compromising when I went into any treatment or therapy. It wasn't what I wanted but I had to do it. I always went back to my ED. Some of those treatments were wrong for me. Eating a set food plan and being weighed every week by a nurse I particularly hated. I had no control, and an ED is all about control. You have to find the right treatment/ therapy for you. But most of all you have to realise the ED has no purpose for you. It's hurting you and holding you back, never helping you. It's not perfection, that is definitely not a perfect way to be. It is a liar. Always question it, am I right about this, or is it the ED lying yet again? Be 'all in' as well in your recovery, otherwise you are compromising. Just some thoughts that were the basis of my recovery, that might help someone. xxx
my mother and most of my friends have an eating disorder (recovered and not) and its making recovery difficult, especially when they say triggering things (though i know its not meant in a mean way). but i am learning to push through anyway. this video has been so helpful ro, thank you so much!! sending you much love x
i’m so glad it helped !! ☁️✨🤍
Happy Sunday Ro
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This video is going to help so many people
Thank you Ro I really needed this video I have been struggling recently and your videos always help :)
so lovely, thank you :)
you are the absolut best
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Wonderful, Ro. Thank you for normalizing the conversation with folks to say, "I need to avoid this conversation. Please don't talk about it with me." I recently did this with a family member. It wound up well-received
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Thank you so so much I needed this a lot today 💜💜 Going to strong but the diet culture influence hurts so much🥺
Thank you i love you, i am trying to recover for 3 years now:/ i am from poland ❤️❤️
you can do this lovely - it will get easier 💌✨
Thank you so much for this video❤️ deffo make more of these
I have been recovering from EDNOS on my own for nearly a decade and it's been really hard recently, I fell into a full few days of restricting after seeing a photo of myself and feeling so unworthy of love. I enjoyed the ritual and it felt so calming, but I literally had to lie and pull away from my partner in order to retain it & say horrible things to myself to keep it going. It's been so hard to eat and function and recover even though I'm fat (not a value judgement just a statement)
Just wanted to say, fat people deserve ED recovery too & you can be fat and have/have had an ED and restrictive mindsets are damaging af and can lead to bingeing, none of that makes you 'not good at having an ED' and it DOESN'T mean you should restrict.
Eating intuitively is surprisingly hard and breaking out of ED dynamics that family, friends and society forces on you is a process- but it's one that will free you from the claws of a cold, distant and painful existence. You can all do it. You deserve to eat. Yes, you. All of you.
you helped me soo much!! please do more videos like this,, keep fighting
From a deep place in my heart I want to say thank you. Just thank you!
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One thing I’ve had to deal with was living with my mom. She used to be anorexic too and she always brags about how skinny she used to be. She’s had 6 kids now and she’s unhappy now because she weighs a lot more than she used to. Now all of her kids including me are anorexic and unhealthy underweight but she’s the one who makes dinner and therefore the rest of us are in a forced diet as well. I just turned 18 yesterday and I will be moving out next month but I’ve started my recovery process just last week and I’m hoping to make even more progress when I’m removed from this situation. Stay strong guys 💛