Parenting with a Disability: My Deaf Parents
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- Parents and teenagers don’t always see eye to eye, but what if they speak a different language? In this episode we meet Monica and her husband who are Deaf and have three boys who are all hearing.
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I believe sign language should be a required class just like spanish or french. So many people are deaf & the school system is just so ignorant & labels them as a disability. They're just can't hear but can still function just like everyone else.
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Ikr! I wish my high school had sign. I would have totally taken that up. I think it's just that there isn't much deaf people where I live so it's not a priority in high school. If and when I get really fluent in sign, I will think about making a proposition of a asl teacher at my high school. I think a lot of students and parents will appreciate it.
Totally, sign language and Braille.
There's a sign language club at my school, but that's as good as it gets.
At my school there is a deaf girl and she is treated like a hearing girl but she has an interpreter but my freaking school has no sign language class. Not alot of us know sign language and when i sign to myself and people see they r like"oh u know sign language?"
I think it would be easier if she turned off the tv so they would pay attention to her signing.
Unknown Timelady ikr.
She's probably done that before and they woulda whined for her to turn it back on. You don't know what's happened all the other days she's been trying to talk to them, besides, it worked, right? She eventually got their attention.
It seems like the children might be trying to block out the world a bit. It can be tough being the ears for a deaf person so sometimes they feel like they want to shut out the world the TV helps. And if your wondering I’ll almost blind and my mother started lipreading in my teens.
Unknown Timelady....I totally agree. But bear in mind hearing parents with hearing children face a similar situation. Videos and TV and any other devices should NEVER override what a parent is saying. Teenagers are always a challenge, but love in words and hugs and kisses and a sense of security are vital to them.
When I was kid (and now) the olny way to get my attention is turn the T.V. off.
"I'm not getting dressed in front of the camera"
Me: 😂😂😂
Iris 1 too bad, right?😂
ARMYYYYY
yes yes get up 😂
Ilovlies xoxo 😂😂😂😂😂
tv is loud AS HECK. I remember my parents always yelling at us to turn down the tv. They're taking full advantage lol. Now I'm deaf in one ear and my kid yells at me to turn the tv down.
Miss.Phoenixx I have two friends who are deaf their whole life
My sister's patient always has her tv volume at 100+. My sister when she speaks at times, she loud as hell. I'm like cool it down a bit, or "can we lower the volume please". Even she says the tv at work being so loud is the cause of her speaking being so loud
oh yeah for real. I've been saying why do they allow the tv so loud but i didn't remember that they dnt hear the tv omg
Miss.Phoenixx ive always been one ear deaf, all my friends found it annoying for them to keep repeating what they said
Emillie 175 Depends on the hearing parent! And indeed the deaf parent.
The father barely appeared and shared his perspective in the video .
Felix-"Sometimes I love them, sometimes I hate them"- spoken like a true teenager!😂😂
They mentioned CODA but without explaining what it stands for:
Children Of Deaf Adults
☀️ Ｓｕｎｎｙ Ｄａｙｓ ☀️ she said it stands for that
Brookelynn Smith Oh no I missed that!
I also missed that, thanks for posting. I was going to ask what's a CODEH lol.
They did explain
Thanks, I did wonder.
1) Turn off the TV.
2) Teen gets to live downstairs, but has to earn it by respectful behavior.
gailsnail56 exactly
how is he being disrespectful lol
He doesn't need to be downstairs anyone, he not grown! No telling what goes on and mom can't hear..
L. jackson What if there’s no room upstairs? You don’t know what their house is like? Don’t judge him, you also don’t know if he’s disrespectful or not? She’s overbearing, I would have walked out so long ago
It's his stepmom
it hurt my heart when he said he Hates his parents sometimes. that was sad, but I get where he's coming from. she's a bit overbearing, and she's his step mom not mom
Matter of fact. I know the mother is trying to control her stepson in a good way but she is too overwhelming. She has to give him some space, and not push him all the time.
Where's his mom?
Olive Dog step moms can still care, and they still deserve respect.
Maria Jackson Where's his Dad. Did not see much participation from him.
I don't think he really meant the word hate. I used the word hate a lot, when I disliked something when I was a teenager. I think it's taken too literally. Even adults use the word hate when they just dislike something. I'm more careful with the word now ^^
I am glad that Felix came around towards the end.
It was really sweet seeing Felix's transformation from a grouchy teen to an elevated young man. Very heartwarming!!
As a non coda or not even having any deaf relatives, just very interested in sign language and learning and knowing a little bit. This looks so much fun!
Same😁
Am Elizabeth and 13years old from Kenya with deaf parents and am soo proud of having them in my life
The most relatable teenager and parent relationship.
I am going to raise a very difficult and controversial topic. I am a CODA. Youngest of 3 girls, and refugee from Eastern Europe.
Despite my parents having achieved the monumental task of escaping a dictator with the 3 of us in toe, they have spent their lives (and ours) dishing out bucket fulls of 'hearing guilt'. My parents did not bond with us. They demanded and expected us to be their assistant. I was put to work from the age of 7 to make all the calls required to run a household. My sister has spent over 30 years taking them to doctor's appointments, finding them work, living with them, being at their beck and call. Sadly none of it bore any fruit. Our whole family has imploded. My parents are convinced that none of their kids ever helped enough. They are so full of self loathing and trauma that they project it onto us. I have never been able to bond with them (and consequently moved to Africa). None of the siblings are speaking. None of us are speaking with our parents either. I have heard of other hearing kids deal with difficult deaf parents but it's SO under the radar. It's whispered and never said aloud. It's very taboo and arguably 'wrong' to judge a disabled person. But the fact of the matter is that deaf people can have personality disorders too. They can be alcoholics, or narcissists or have borderline personality issues. In those cases, where does that leave us? The silence around this topic is breaking my soul. No one understands. I don't know how to explain it. I feel awful for feeling the way I do but I can't continue to squash my needs only to please them and attempt to pay the un-payable debt of being a hearing person.
I am not saying this is true for everyone. But I know it's true for some. I don't care that my parents are deaf. It's such a beautiful form of expression. I speak 4 languages and sign is the one I am most proud of. But it's not my fault they are deaf. They can't be manipulating victims forever. I never needed my parents to be hearing but I needed them to be loving. Now as an adult, I walk around with this knife in my heart that no one can remove or heal.
If you have your own stories please share. I know I'm not alone in here. Worth noting, this is not an invitation to be disparaging or unkind. This is an invitation for those of us that were rejected by our deaf parents for being hearing, to tell our stories.
Knowing I am not alone in this means everything right now.
Thanks for reading, I hope to read some of your experiences.
Difficult deaf parents? Acting like you never helped enough? Well excuse you! You never said whether you had a TTY so your parents could make calls. Maybe it wasn’t around then! You never said whether your parents could speak or read lips in addition to sign.
Oh poor you having to help them. And yes, dear, it probably wasn’t enough. But you’re not deaf! You had to help out more as a kid? a well obviously helping makes you a bit resentful. And maybe your parents put more pressure on you. But again, you’re not deaf! Few if any know sign. As I said maybe TTY didn’t exist when you were a kid so your parents couldn’t call.
You probably don’t know what your parents went through as kids. Who knows what they were taught and weren’t.
Nothing was ever enough for them with your family. But you’re not deaf!
I’m hearing impaired. My parents took me to the doctor a little too late with my ear infections. You’re snarling because your parents never eased up on you with help? Well my parents never even bothered to see how much hearing was taken because of them. I can’t fault them they didn’t know better. But being told I wasn’t listening got to be a drag and at times I wish I was deaf because all they did was command or yell.
I was in my thirties when I got a hearing test. I have what they call high frequency deafness. Without amplification I can’t hear a heartbeat. If someone lowers their voice or whispers it’s just sounds can’t understand a word. Not a great thing when you play the game Telephone! I almost missed a flight once because I couldn’t hear the announcements because the lady I asked for help ignored me! You’re grouching about all the help your parents demanded from you? I got static from a lady at the airport for just ONE THING! Tell me when my flight is called because I can’t hear the announcements!
For a while I struggled. Because when I told people I was hearing impaired they would yell. I told them I’m not deaf! I had to teach myself to do a little lip reading because some letters I can’t distinguish when spoken. I told them to face me when they speak, not lower their voice! Some think if you’re deaf or hard of hearing that we’re somehow stupid which we aren’t!
In an apartment garage years ago I passed by this lady. Next thing I know she jumps in my way and yelled at me for not answering her hello. How dare I she implied. I told her I didn’t hear her for one, second I’m not obligated to talk to her being a stranger. You should’ve seen her turn beet red. I couldn’t hear you I said!
I got hearing aides. And when I took them out I was deaf for a while. You have no clue how scary that is! Many sounds scared the heck out of me I never heard before. I stopped wearing them because they weren’t comfortable and couldn’t use them with a phone. There were no cells back then where I was and with a cell I have to put it on speaker.
I was resentful as heck how people treated me. And then I realized they needed education.
Too demanding of help by your deaf parents? Maybe they had no other choices, ever think of that? Of course not!
For once put yourself in your parents place. Being deaf has its challenges. Intruded on you? Think living in a silent world is great? Your helping them never seemed enough? Try blocking your ears so you can’t hear and go out in the world and see how easy it is! Lip reading isn’t easy. Not everyone signs. If you’re deaf and you were never taught to speak or this speech isn’t clear, It’s not easy.
I sure wish I had people helping me before I had to get myself tested and find out yeah I do a hearing problem! It diminishes each year.
You wanted your parents to be loving? Lots aren’t even hearing parents aren’t. It’s not your fault they’re deaf obviously, but since you aren’t deaf, have a little compassion. Your parents didn’t know any other way. You’re an adult now! Let it go! I did! I stopped hating my parents for leaving me with some deafness. It didn’t solve anything. You being resentful won’t solve anything.
@@lisanidog8178
1 - it's not because there is physical deafness that personality disorders or substance addiction don't apply, because all of these issues can be present in one person at the same time
2 - you might want to see a therapist for all this anger you have against your parents and the world
3 - you are the perfect example of those that cannot hear blame, resent and attack the hearing - congrats, the stereotype fits you well
4 - maybe your parents could have done better, but i had nothing to do with my parents being deaf and i had nothing to do with being born
you don't know me and i don't know you - chill and stay in your lane
@@corinaspfx don’t be lecturing me when you were griping about being imposed upon by your deaf parents having to do things. Yeah I did have a lot of resentment of my parents who waited too long with my ear infections as a kid. Wouldn’t be hearing impaired. But whenever they needed me to do things for them I had no problem like you did. My parents by the way are long dead now. Maybe you shouldn’t have crabbed about all the things you had to do for your deaf parents in the first place. Just told you what you didn’t wanna hear. Get over it.
Newsflash: "Teenage boy is stroppy while stepmother overbearing." Who knew?!
Children learn sign language pretty easily, I was born with Cerebral Palsy and wasn’t expected to speak, so I began talking in sign language!
I have hearing problem witch means I will become deaf I can't hear much now I now sign my birth parents don't want to do anything to help so I got fostered and then addopted into a hearing family but they were so nice I love them they learnt sign language
Thanks for sharing, Sinead. You might be interested in checking out this UA-cam playlist we have created all about people who are Deaf: ua-cam.com/play/PLAPx32oh7H1p0BN4Gqxxm23aeZjWcyWE-.html
AttitudeLive thanks
Sinead Baker I'm really sorry your birth parents couldn't/wouldn't help. And you were sent away, nut glad you found a much better place for you and found your feet. Wishing you all the best! xx
Sinead Baker im hard of hearing as well but ive been signing since i was little. Glad your parents are learning my dad is trying to learn how to sign but not my step mum but i can read lips so its not as difficult
Sinead Baker your a amazing person and I wish you all the best 😄
*”I’m not getting dressed in front of camera.”*
*”Yes. Yes, get up.”*
????? 😂😂
If a parent goes on and on about how difficult teenagers (implied that they're all the same) are, you know that they're the problem. Don't expect your child to trust you if you don't trust them either. The difference between respect and worship, is that one is reciprocated while the other is not.
Also, step parents can't expect older step children to think of them as parents. The ones where this does happen should consider themselves lucky and leave it at that. Having someone move in with you does NOT mean you automatically love them, no matter what age you are. If she's that concerned about her step son, she needs to ask the dad to act on it.
I like and trust my dad's girlfriend, but I would never treat her like a mom, and she respects me as an equal instead of trying to control me. Sometimes she asks me to do things, but she never forces it. (Sure, I'm not a teen anymore, but I feel that people of all ages deserve respect.)
THANK U!! i was hoping someone would say this, you are 100% correct. i understand what her worries are about the internet, but some of the things she was saying, are just generalizations about 'teenagers.' your kids aren't a problem, sure they might cause problems or get into trouble, but if you think of your kid or kids in general as 'problems' you just ostracize them .
This comment needs far more likes than it has!
Absolutely this annoyed me the whole time that step mum would drive me nuts
I have deaf parents as well, but im the only child but i wasn't fully raised by them because I once lived with my grandma who wants me to experience life with normal people and until im 13, i only shifted to live with my parents and i absolutely can relate how felix feel, it gets irritating sometimes when they keep checking on you but we know they love us no matter what
Thank you for sharing your story! Hope you enjoyed the episode !
+Attitude yes I did enjoy!!! Xx
Honestly I don't like when you said that you went to go live with your grandma and tell your 13 you said that your grandma wants you to live with normal people your pants are normal people too they just can't hear
A "normal person" is somebody you don't know yet! ;-) x
I agree with you Dina. Sign language should be required!A sign language talker needing a sign language interpreter....never thought of that, but it makes sense!
I miss signing so much. I studied ASL years ago and worked with deaf kids. It’s a wonderful world.
I have deaf parents as well and my grandpa helped in raising me as well he was the only one who truly understood me unfortunately he passed away 7 years ago, he used to study and talk to me about everything i miss him dearly but By having deaf parents you kinda grow up too fast cause you assist them at a young age in translating to other people and many other things. I treat my parents as if they are normal so i really don't mind anything so like when i say ugh my parents are so embarrassing i mean it in a normal way cause they are overprotective or what not , not because that they are deaf. Its so strange tho my mum cant speak at all even tho dad does a bit, mom understands me way better, without even signing sometimes, in general it gets frustrating at times but i wouldn't trade them for the world
i really understand how difficult is this, one of my friend is deaf and her husband too, when i see them and their daughter i feel proud of her she is doing such a great job
my mom and dad are deaf also its very cool to live with deaf parents. Nice family btw
Thanks for sharing Alper! hope you enjoyed the episode!
I love how informational this documentary is. I love sign language and I never knew there were different types of sign in other countries. I want to learn ASL, it'd be awesome to know it.
Thanks for watching Shae! Hope you enjoyed the episode and you stay tuned for more!
I feel soo bad for Felix, he needs his space I totally understand why he sometimes hates his parents. Like seriously if I had such a mom I would flip out
I'm glad your son is more positive then he seemed in the beginning. I think sign language is awesome and I want my children to learn. thanks for sharing.
So inspiring, what beautiful families. Wow, there are so many things people w/hearing take for granted.
Thanks for watching Deirdre! Hope you enjoyed the episode!
Felix is just a normal teenager. I didn’t have a close relationship with my parents when I was that age either, and I don’t know many people who did.
Good for you mom” teaching your kids ASL 👍
Thank you so much this is really informative. I just love the idea of bringing the CODA kids together so that they can share their experiences. I am sure it really helps.
This was very interesting. This must make me sound like the biggest bumpkin ever, but I've never actually met a deaf person, and so always wanted to learn more about what that is like. I have met a couple blind people though. One was in my class while I was studying communications and media. Everyone wanted to try out his computer, because of course it was very different to ours. He didn't mind. Also, despite being blind he was at the top of the class along with myself and a couple others, and I'm so proud of him for that.
Hope you enjoyed the episode Lars! Thanks for watching!😀
That what worries me. I'm not deaf but I'm mute. So I use asl and right now I'm planning on having a baby. And the thought of her/him not being able to speak worries me. But now I feeling much better after watching your video. I am planning on taking the baby to speech when the time comes. So she/he won't have problems of learning to speak. I know for a fact teaching it to learn asl won't be hard. Because I taught it to my friends kids who I babysat for.
Thanks for sharing that with us Beth. We're so glad that this film was able to inspire you. You might be interested in watching this documentary too: ua-cam.com/video/3iPND6ZTvRs/v-deo.html It's about first time parents who use sign language.
Thanks and you're welcome.
Kids can learn two languages just fine if they spend enough time communicating in each. So if you use ASL at home and make sure your kid spends lots of hours every week around people who will speak with them, they can grow up bilingual, which is awesome.
I think you'll do an amazing job! :) I was born prematurely so I have a learning disability as well as asthma. I struggled quite so in school, My father was in the US Navy, he's now a Veteran, it definitely was hard for me to make friends once we had to leave every few years because of his orders, having my days be split between being in the regular class with normal people and then off to speech and with other special needs children, I felt ashamed to tell people that I struggle with being a special needs student, I struggle even during my first quarter into community college, I studied my hardest but I didn't get good grades. It made me feel so dissapointed and sad because I can't figure how to study well in school. My last year in high school as a senior went great! I felt so proud by the many awards I've accomplished because I never gave up, I kept on reading a lot of books to have a higher vocabulary in speech class, I was so happy to have received the Presidential Educational Award's Program. (Silver) I also wanted to talk about languages, I grew up having English as my first langage, Tagalog as my second, and Japanese as my third. My parents spoke to me both in English and Tagalog (my mom couldn't speak good English at the time when I was 5, she spoke to me in Tagalog, my father is great at speaking English and when my mom couldn't understand the context of what I was saying and talking to her in Tagalog (I had a hard time putting what I thought to be said outloud) because she was speaking to me since I was young at home, I'd understood it. With English, onbase there are many American teachers / etc. people so it went alright except I grew up to slowly catch what was being done in the classroom and I had help both in/out. Japanese, in 4th & 5th grade it was required an hour for us to learn Japanese to teach us their culture (I lived in Japan till I was in my 7th grade) It was then that I got introduced to Anime and I understood what my half Japanese friends were saying my 7th grade, they were shocked! 😅 I took Japanese my 9th - 12th year! It was a struggle but worth it! Now I watch Anime during my free time! :) I believe you can do it and I hope my life story has spread an insight of hope!
I do struggle communicating but try my hardest to get what I want to say across, it's just... being sort of trilingual isn't that easy for a person who's special needs but I'm going to try my best!
I have many issues I'm deaf long distance blindness I have anxiety and depression it's hard so I got a SA (Service Animal) I got a dog I love him his name is ROCCO
Neveahhh UA-cam ....thats great 👍
I feel like this woman has never heard of choosing your battles. Many things you want to your teen to do, go to school, do their homework, clean up after themselves and do their share of chores, make responsible choices that won't negatively effect them for the rest of their lives...hanging out with the family for cheesy activities isn't one.
Yeah she's quite over bearing
Yeah she probably never heard of it
She actually never HEARD because she can hear 😂
Absolutely brilliant program to teach people about children with deaf parents.....I have learned and understood more than I ever knew
Great to see the developments over the last 40 0r 50 years. My best friend's mum was very deaf and our teacher was always telling her off for "shouting" but she had to shout at home. Her older brother had other issues plus he had to comprehend that his mother was deaf. I moved away and did not see my friend for over 35 years - the grooves that had been made from birth were still there. She still spoke very loudly and made sure that others could read her lips. Her older brother should have had a lot of extra external help but his gentle spirit still shone through. They have both succeeded in life in different ways. We can either ignore or pretend issues are not there or we can focus on them as a society and help one another through the mountains and valleys of life. On another note, my other half is blind in one eye, but he sometimes sees more clearly through his one ordinary eye than I do through two middle aged eyes. I am careful not to surprise him from his "blind side" but there have been many occasions when he has surprised me as he has "seen" something, even a tiny speck on the horizon, with his good one eye that now has a cataract that they won't operate on, that I have missed with both of my ordinary eyes.
It's not about "taking responsibility" in the sense that the children are "taking care" of the adults - it's a matter of taking RESPONSE - ABILITY. If I'm able to act as the interpreter because I speak both languages, I'm empowered by bridging the gap. Instead of standing idly by and essentially being helpless because my mother is too prideful to say, "yes - please son, interpret for us."
I have ALOT of respect for the Step-mum in this video. It's so hard being a parent and can be tricky becoming a step-parent to a child at a phase you've never encountered (e.g. teens).
The fact she helps organise this camp too is amazing. Honestly a massive well done🎉🎉
I’m an only child of deaf parents. Wow, sometimes it was difficult
Turn the tv off! Use a little more force when getting the children to pay attention
It’s funny because she is so hard on her stepson.
Heather Quinn You have to bear in mind that having no experience of hearing she doesn’t have that instinctive awareness that it’s much harder to turn one’s attention away from a sound than from an image.
Literally New Zealand accents 🤦🏻♂️, when she said “he’s a teenager so I’m worried about sex” all I heard was “six” 😂
I lost most of my hearing at the age of 20 my parents took a sign language class with me I think they were a little bit over protective after I became Deaf but I understand it and don't resent them for it like Felix seems to. I hope Attitude will do a follow up story on the family would love to see how Felix is coping now since this was form 2016.Curious to see if his attitude has adjusted this was a good episode I love it.
Poor Felix, she's acting like he's his real mother, like it must hurt him that someone is trying to take that place, he seems really uncomfortable with it and it's not really fair on him to force him to take part in these activities if he really doesn't want to
I know she deaf but we can ALL agree that she is a little overwhelming especially to a teen who is going through puberty.
This camp is wonderful. I learned signal from a childhood friend whose mother was deaf. It stuck with me. I would love to see how I could relearn again and help others in my community.
the mom's personality as she signs is funny and adorable...
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I'm very impressed watching how fast the hands make words. Awesome!
Wow! I liked the documentary and it is nice that the mother does a lot of good things with her children. In fact, I believe that she knows New Zealand and American Sign Language. I am the only deaf child in the hearing family. My mom and my brother ALWAYS "Micromanage" me. Yes, I have two hearing children 28 and 25, in which they are CODA. :-) Cheers from Nashville,Tennessee, U.S.A!
DfDrPepper DfDrPepperThanks for watching
What a positive woman.
These kids are so heartwarming ❤
The similarities to BSL are amazing! I'm surprised how much I understood.
Wiki says "New Zealand Sign Language has its roots in British Sign Language (BSL), and may be technically considered a dialect of British, Australian and New Zealand Sign Language (BANZSL)".
Now that's pretty neat!
Drarok I thought asl was worldwide. I though the same sign was everywhere. I wasn't aware it was diff until this video
+Vanity Rae How could that possibly be? Every part of the world has developed its own spoken languages - and before we had books it was even more varied, with a lot of dialects within each language. Sign languages that developed in different parts of the world are like that too. But like spoken languages they spread through travel and politics.
Well ASL originated from French sign language while ours originated from BSL.
I hate when adults control their teenagers and then just say oh when your 18 and live on your own I don't care---- like. Newsflash. Being controlling of your teenager overly means they aren't going to know what to do or how to live on their own. That's one of he reasons so many adults are STAYING home.
My mom used to be an elementary school teacher and once had a student whose parents were deaf. When this kid was born, his parents started living with the grandparents so that the kid would have proper "access" to hearing and speaking. He was still a bit slow on learning to read and write, though...
Thanks for watching Sandra, hope you enjoyed!
Thats pretty sad. You do get people that mock. But never take note of them. They are irrelevant to you and your journey. My nephew had meningitis as a new born and became deaf.. so we quickly picked up basic words. Its such a huge language and If I did know more than basic words and sentences I would definitely speak more in sign. I know two girls whose first language is NZSL both their parents are deaf. And when you see them all converse its just so beautiful to watch. Iknow its rude to stare. But Its just so so fascinating to me.. thank you for sharing this
Hi I am a CODA my parents are profoundly deaf ..ou not alone Felix..I can understand and relate to him...u split between 2 worlds the deaf world and the hearing world...i love my deaf parents very much an feel very protective they were fanastic an lot better than some hearing parents!.. got bullied at school because of having deaf parents...wish I had this camp when I was a child may have helped me alot deal with it all...it has good and bad points ..my parents will never hear my voice but we have love for each other...more help and research is needed for us CODAs
Yes. I am a coda also and only child of deaf parents. I feel they have failed me in life. I was always having to be at their beck and call. My parents were low functioning deaf adults
My friends parents are both deaf and have three kids, two girls, one boy who are all in middle school. All of the kids are hearing
Thanks for sharing. We hope you enjoyed the episode!
"Simple, It's their loss, they will never have access to the language you have. Because they will never have access to the language you have" 21:29
I stumbled upon this video and felt it eye-opening for many reasons. One can really relate to many things but most of it I love that phrase.
I love languages, I have learned that every language comes with its world and culture hand by hand whether you like it or not. Yet still, you never get the full picture unless you live where they speak it. learning sign language has always been on my list of languages to learn.
It's amazing how in one planet we have so many worlds, so many different things and sometimes we get put down just because others don't think the same way we do or haven't experience the same things we have. It's their loss, not ours, they are the ignorant ones. They won't have access to the world you live in and the marvelous and wonderful things that come with it.
I know it’s hard and all but I think it’s cool that the kids learn sign language
The Indian American boy basically proved by his story that most CODAS do naughty things with their deaf parents because they know they can get away with it. It was such an ackward story. He is bragging about taking advantage of his parents deafness. I think the other kids got deep, including Felix and told stories in a way that respected their deaf parents. The other boy that was supposed to lead the discussion just didnt get it.
This is an eye opening experience for me...Very interesting, I'm a subscriber now..
Thanks for subscribing Cheryl!
I am Japanese. And my parents, grandparents and cousins are deaf and I'm a coda. nice to meet you
I feel sorry for Felix, they don´t treat him like he deserves.
Brighter I don't feel for him. the step mum is trying super hard.
that doesn´t mean he´s treating him right, he also has to bear it.
Brighter felix is kind of a shithead in most of this
Brighter bruh
I feel the teenagers boredom with his American teenage ‘friend’. His step mum means well but she would drive me crazy too. But hands off to deaf parents, it must be a tough gig and tough for the kids as well.
“I’m not gettin’ dressed in front o’ the camera.”
Felix is my favorite character in this sitcom
omg !! i started crying when i saw the blue fish that the boy used as a pillow its the same one that my dad gave me before he passed away.. ripliegend❤
The American mother said the same thing that my parents said to me and my brother. Our roof, our rules. Once I said I didn’t like them and dad packed my suitcase. I was 13. I changed my mind. Because my parents did too little with my ear infections am I hard of hearing. So I had to teach myself a lot of things. Like watching people talk so letters I couldn’t distinguish I could lip read. I was always told you just don’t listen. I didn’t know any different. But as an adult I got a hearing test and was so happy to learn that I have high frequency deafness. It was a relief to know that I was listening just couldn’t hear some things. I stopped wearing hearing aides as an adult. Some sounds never heard before scared me. Battery changes. They’d squeal if I put the phone receiver too close and when I took the aides out my ears were blocked and heard nothing and it’s scary.
I encountered many who though being hard of hearing meant you were either ignoring doe you were stupid and I had a lot of resentment over that. I’d often wonder if my speech was clear enough. I realized people just didn’t know what to do and had to tell them. Look at me when you talk. Don’t walk away and talk it’s just a bunch of sounds to me, don’t lower your voice or whisper. Once people learned that no problem. I took some sign classes and my teachers were deaf. In one class we couldn’t use voice and it was hard for me. I only remember a few signs. I don’t know when my hearing will completely go. So anyone CODA that bears resentment, you’re not hard of hearing or deaf. You help of asked. Resentment goes nowhere.
im really proud to be A deaf person!
Me too
It’s so cool how all their children are all fluent in sign language ❤️
I printed out a sign language sheet and glued it to a note book I have... so in case I come across someone who does any type of sign language.. I can hopefully talk to them!!!!!!
My moms death and dad is death and me and my brother and sister are hearing I go to a CODA group 2 times a week for kids with death perants I learnt sign language before I learnt how to speak so I was really behind in class but with the support of my perants and a CODA organisation I'm doing great in school now and so is my little brother and sister and I go to a CODA camp once a year
Thanks for sharing Jenna, glad to hear you and your siblings are doing well. We hope you enjoyed the episode
I saw the title and expected it to be in ASL. But no! I could understand a decent portion of it!! I love it when that happens!!!
I learned sign language in 1973-‐74 because I'm disabled from a car accident I can speak but I had children who were deaf in my class and now I'm glad that I learned sign language
this was really interesting. My dad is fluent is auslan and ive got a few auslan apps to learn. definetly a great skill these kids have and i hope they appreciate it one day.
Felix was honestly a mood this entire time I was watching this
I'm a proud CODA!
Awesome! Thanks for sharing Elizabeth, we hope you enjoyed the episode!
No problem @ all. & Yes, I did.
My wife is deaf, our(hearing)2 boys (16 and 18) are brightest kids in the world, tough they mother-tongue is sign-language. No problem!
I think Felix May have some social anxiety - his step mom forcing him into things won’t help. He needs to get there on his own.
This is so EYE opening! Thank you.
Can we just have sign language lessons at school please? I dont want to learn french i want to learn BSL!
I'd like to learn another language like French. But I can't see why bsl can't be incorporated with general English learning in the classroom
@@tanieshamoore8568 Namely, it's probably much easier to find a teacher in French than it is in BSL. There are millions of French speakers- native and second language/fluent, than their are of BSL (which is maybe a couple hundred thousand). Also, not every deaf person signs or even uses BSL. So it's not as universal as it may seem.
Both my Aunt and Uncle are deaf, but my cousins aren't. My Aunt can speak pretty well but my Uncle not so much. He's a really funny guy!
Thanks for sharing Cat! hope you enjoyed the episode!
The sign for Auckland made me laugh.
WOW. Monica is a real OG. Props to her for putting this together. Very, very cool.
I got scared when he lifted up his middle finger to say Oakland
Lyrabug 33 same 😂😂
😂🤣🤣😂
*Auckland
Sorry to say this, but each school needs to have all students take 2 years of Sign Language. Plus you'll be educating your future cops w/ a language to use, if they ever come face-to-face w/ a deaf individual.
I feel sorry for every deaf individual out. Never know a cop behind you, was stopping you until you look up. Trying to communicate w/ them; one move to get paper and pen to write a note (saying your deaf). Next thing you know, they quickly think your going for something other than paper and pen.
LOL is that really the sign for Auckland?
I think that particular sign is probably slang lol
That auckland sign was L.o.L
I guess the gesture is supposed to be representing the sky tower
I understand where Felix is coming from as a hard of hearing person where you are out of your comfort zone with the deaf people but so are am I as well with hearing who are very closed off and I love being around deaf people as they dont hide. I do think that his mom should take it seriously in where he wants to be with hearing people after putting her needs first, because where she is deaf and her son is hearing, its complicated because both their needs comes first, yet they can benefit from one another in different type of groups.
I'm not saying COAN is not doing any good but what I'm saying is the deaf and hard of hearing did benefits in a lot way through hearing who opened their mind quite a bit with the deaf and hard of hearing people. It's hard to find those hearing people who are. Btw that programs sound great and I wish that I have that in Alberta for both my hearing kids.
That dude just flip the bird to the entire room?! Lol I know the Aussie's probably use two fingers but it was funny to see
I hate those behaviour stars so much they’re so annoying
This mum is just too overbearing the teenager doesn’t care if she’s deaf but it’s normal for teenagers to feel annoyed with their mum esp when they’re like her
A beautiful work of strong souls.
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she knocks so loud lmao
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Lol I think that was the point
that indian kid is teaching those kids how to trick thier def parents
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He looks just like the other teenager, brothers from other mothers??
Hes american
@@gracefarrow312 he was talking about ethnicity
My parents aren't deaf but I grew up with my mom signing to me before I went to bed. She use to always sign "I love my little baby". I never thought anything of it until I went to primary school and they started teaching us the basics of sign language and I already knew it. My mom taught me a lot, and I'm thankful for that. ps. My dad doesn't know sign language at all. Anyways I thought this video was really interesting how all of these kids are coming together because they are CODAs.
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Who doesnt have a love hate realationship with their parents?
If i was that teen i would threaten to leave and run away. Give your step son some space. "He spends all his time on the computer" because you don't let him do shit other than be glued to his family.
elder bro really loves his brothers!💝😊
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The middle one is so gentle and good communicater
im deaf but it is really hard to do all of this even cuz i also litterly live in a weel chair i cant feel my legs i am paralyzed from my hips down and im deaf so.... evey who can hear us lucky but im lucky im even alive i also have deaf siblings
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