Is Selena Gomez fit for fame? Let's talk about her mental health documentary, My Mind & Me 🧠
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- Опубліковано 10 лис 2022
- my mind & me is a compelling mental health narrative, but there are holes in the timeline & a questionable distance between the director and his subject. here's my take on how this compares to other celebrity documentaries, and whether or not it's a successful attempt at depicting mental illness & celebrity.
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I think what’s striking to me is how everybody is against Raquelle for simply speaking the truth to Selena. It goes back to what you said in the beginning of this video where social media has turned mental health journeys into a linear narrative where you are happy and healed at the end, frolicking in the safe haven of your newfound ‘self’ with friends who go “YASS” at every whimsical decision you decide to make. I think that’s what people expected Raquelle to do - go “yasss queen” when Selena said she wanted to stay in Africa. People interpreted her honesty as being an unsupportive friend - this isn’t a Wattpad novel where the main character is healed by going on a journey of self discovery in some exotic land. Let’s call it what it is, Selena went on a holiday and liked it. But making your holiday destination your home isn’t going to magic away your problems, and that’s simply what Raquelle was pointing out. I think the youth of today have a lot to learn about what self-care actually entails, and it is certainly not running away to some random country to play white saviour.
so true!!!
Exactly yes 💗💗💗
I'm against her for her role as a bystander in the abuse that Selena experienced at the hands of Hillsong pastors. She is very invalidating... Imo. And how she can even continue to support that church blows my mind.
@@nfbconnect I don’t really know about any of that tbh, I’m referring to this specific situation categorically not being Raquelle’s fault. Also Selena is a grown ass adult and definitely isn’t Raquelle’s responsibility. She may be more vulnerable than others but ultimately it’s her family who needs to take that responsibility to look out for her.
Why do you have to bring race into it at the very end of your point??? And by the way Selena is not just White if you want to get technical about it😤😤😤
I agree with everything you said, you’re brilliant. My biggest problem with the doc and Selena is that literally no one is forcing her to be a pop star. She’s wealthy enough to completely disconnect from the world, the internet and social media and spend her life doing philanthropy and volunteer work in Kenya. She said herself that that was what she wanted to do, so why is she putting herself through things that are not good for her?
Because she would miss the fame.
As much as I kinda confused with the doc, I think I kinda understand with Sel's thoughts. Like she's currently got everything, but her ultimate goal is not being achieved yet. Like you're so afraid by your own choice, then you may regret it in the future. So you stay in the moment even though you got something good from it, yet you'll be complaining.
@Christopher P. Braxton yes millions of dollars of savings.She’s financially stable. Plus she can continue to work on Rare Beauty behind the scenes.
I honestly think that’s why she started Rare Beauty. It’ll bring in money, fund the Rare Impact Fund for mental health, and when she decides to slow down it can still give her the opportunity to do philanthropy.
@Christopher P. Braxton she’s a world famous mega pop star. She could wipe her ass with 100 dollar bills and it probably wouldn’t even make a dent in her bank account. Selena could retire from music right now and still continue to live out her days in luxury.
I saw SO MANY people say Raquell was a bad friend throughout the doc, and I do see that sometimes, but the Kenya scene she was 100% right. Selena was escaping reality and that would be detrimental to her health in the long run. So glad you picked that up because people are pretty much saying “oh poor thing she has to work” 😅 she went through a lot in those years, but she was wrong at times, including her little meltdown about the interviewer…
Yeah I really do not see how she was a bad friend at all throughout the film. Maybe there’s “receipts” of off camera stuff but judging by this material, I don’t see it
This !!
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Why I don't understand is why Selena hasn't leaned more into her acting career, given that she seems to enjoy acting a lot more than music. It's also a field in which you can be more selective of your projects and are definetely spared of the grind that is touring. Anyway, another really interesting and insightful piece Zach. Congratulations.
Thank you for watching!! I agree, Selena should lean into doing what she loves
I think she mentioned it was because she kept getting typecasted. That was the main reason she focused on music. It wasn’t until her new series on Hulu where she was able to finally find a project she was proud of (I believe she said this during the promotion of the first season)
@@awoosh13 Thank you for your insight. I hope she is finally free to do what she enjoys most.
I believe she’ll be focusing a lot more on acting in the future! She definitely has one album ready to go any time but next year she’s already filming season 3 of Only Murders, is taking Spanish classes for a biopic she’s doing plus has a horror movie with Petra Collins
@@awoosh13 She was in Spring Breakers (where it was her decision to have her character disappear before the film got to its peak Korineness) and a Rainy Day in in New York, with her character being the opposite of what you would typecast a an ex Disney star for.
If Selena didn’t have Raquelle, I don’t think I would have ended up liking Selena. The fact that she has someone to keep her honest means that there is still hope for growth.
I'm hopeful for Selena!
I agree that the trip to Kenya really was voluntourism (ie short term trip focused more on her experience) and it seemed as if Selena was trying to insert her own vision of a mental health curriculum for the school without obtaining input from the community she was trying to serve. I think celebrity advocacy often is self centered bc it hinges on their fame and underdeveloped bc they are coming from a place of such privilege, but I think Selena has a genuine passion for mental health advocacy that stems from her experiences and it was moving to see her talking to people at the mental health gala and with the surgeon general for her campaigns with the White House, so hopefully she continues work in that area. I really enjoyed this analysis Zach great job!!
Thank you for watching!!
Great video! I really liked what you had to say about Selena's friend, Raquelle. I completely agree, Raquelle is needed in Selena's circle. Every single person needs that friend that is critical and tells you the harsh truth when everyone else is constantly sugarcoating and serving you toxic positivity. Raquelle brings Selena back to reality and is the mirror that Selena needs so she can understand her wrong-doings at times.
I was soooo surprised to learn that this opinion we share is very unpopular lol. apparently many think she’s a bad friend simply for not bowing down 24/7 👁️
Selena is the definition of untapped potential. I remember she was on top of the world during Revival. Hit after hit. A working pop princess.
But after she canceled the tour it’s like she wanted to flop. She hates the fame and the celebrity of it all. The fact that she’s still popular after trying so hard to be under the radar goes to show that she’s a true star.
Your analysis of this documentary is incredibly well done. Focusing on necessary empathy AND accountability for what Selena is going through and how she responds is, imo, exactly how the doc should be received. Thank you for putting words to my thoughts!!
thank you Emily!! I wanted to be sensitive about the issue at hand here ❤
Ditto!
This is great - Agree that the very unusual thing (and it’s a credit to Selena Gomez) that she didn’t try to control her image as she shared her story. Her story is stronger for not attempting to turn it into a story of Selena (first) but rather to make it a story of about mental health struggles, which so happened to be happening to Selena Gomez
yes that’s exactly what I liked about it too!
I personally find it very awkward that Francia is not included in the documentary. Also, I totally agree that she is not passionate about music which makes the audience not take her seriously and this negative response translates to her that she is not good enough and cultivates in her this internalized self-hatred.
Her non inclusion is certainly curious
It was not included because the documentary was about mental health, not about her lupus or her daily life, in addition France did not want to be continued to relate to the subject because she did not like to be recognized more for her donation than for her career as an actress, that’s why she asked Selena to stop mentioning her.
As someone that has had kidney disease and someone that has anxiety and panic attacks. If I was making a documentary and I even titled it as 'my mind and me'. I would be talking about my mental health and not my battle with kidney disease. If she'd titled it " my life" and then left her kidney transplant out then some level of criticism would be fair. It's about her mental health though and that alone is exhausting and just day to day a battle in itself
@@karysroberts9008 As a RN with 25 years work experience and as just a human I baffle at the notion one could separate one's mental health from one's other - life threatening no less - health issues.
@@MrsShimmyOnDown As someone that has anxiety and panic attacks and as someone who has also had kidney disease and have now only one kidney myself. I'm here to tell you that's its more than possible. I do it pretty much everyday. But even if Selena doesn't, guess what, it's her right to talk about whatever she wants to talk about and whatever time she's ready to do that and that alone is empowering & good for her mental health & neither you, I or any other random person has zero say and that is as it should be.
I agree that Selena needs someone like Raquelle to push back when she's distorting reality in her head or being a little bit spoiled. The saddest part of this doc to me was that Selena keeps looking outside herself to earn worthiness, but that can only come from within.
we ALL need a grounding friend
I appreciate your sensitivity and respect for Selena and also your criticisms because you are the only person I've seen that was like me, not a stan and not a hater, that saw this film and Selena for both its positives and its negatives.
About Raquelle - I suffer from anxiety. A friend of mine once said very matter-of-factly "you're not being fair to your mom because you're projecting your negative feelings about yourself on her. It's just not nice." At the time, I hated this friend so much because I felt she was making me more insecure, but after a couple hours I realized that her honesty was helpful because not only did it make me aware that I was hurting my mom, it actually helped that I knew I didn't have to feel insecure with this friend because I knew she could be honest with me.
Like you said, having an honest and gently critical friend is essential, and that scene is not one to be pointed out as "a bad friend."
sometimes it takes a bit of distance and perspective to see a good friend's good intentions. I hope Selena will have that realisation soon, if she hasn't already
I saw Selena perform in 2011 and 2012 and I feel like back then she had a youthful confidence that the media and the public broke.
She appeared to enjoy it so much more because the pressure was less and she hadn’t been as scrutinized as she later was.
She also recently posted a video of her working on LYTLM and she’s so hard on herself that she turned off comments before posting just in case and said as a disclaimer that she knew it wasn’t the best. And it’s actually super nice to see her singing and composing but she won’t share more because of how much shit she’s heard about herself and it breaks my heart.
I agree with loads of what you said about the documentary itself.
I think what Selena needs to hear is that she doesn’t owe anything to the world. Yes, she has a platform. But if she wanted to just stop performing and live on a ranch, as a fan I would support her. I’d miss her of course, but I’d support her if it would make her happy.
This video is exactly what I was thinking. You put it into words so perfectly. I’m actually a fan of Selena, but I kept hearing her fans go on and on about how great this documentary was, and I just wasn’t feeling it…it’s also very clear to me that she isn’t passionate about singing, which is fine, but don’t expect the world to love your music. I hope she fully embraces acting and makeup because that’s where her passion is and honestly it’s what she’s good at.
I also think Raquelle is needed, she almost feels more like a mother to me than a friend. Their conversation about Selena’s complaining was similar in tone to convos my mom and I had when I was a teen. Like Taylor, selena does have a girlish and immature side to her because she’s been famous and insulated for so long
Also I wanted to know more about her starting Rare Beauty….the fact that it’s not included makes me think the brand was another obligation project (that she ultimately found purpose in thru rare impact)
I agree Raquell was trying to be a good friend. Everyone came out against her, but she was just telling Selena the truth. Realistically Selena can't just stop working and expect the opportunities to always be there. Also, I love Selena but being around all her emotional breakdowns can't be easy. Hence, Raquel was not coddling her.. I expect she is used to these episodes.
I know I just thought how exhausting it must be to put all that emotional energy towards helping someone. It’s too overwhelming. I honestly couldn’t do it.
She does seem exhausting to be around at times in the film. Raquel is a good friend imo
As a person who doesn't live in the usa i can definitely confirm that Selena Gomez is waaaay successful and popular in the rest of the world than Miley Cyrus she has this universal appeal along with way more international hits than her , Miley to me is almost only exclusive to the usa audience right now for example Selena has a song called calm down with an African singer and it is doing amazing a lot of chart exept us charts
I am scared to agree with you given my history of getting attacked by the smilers but......I do....
As someone with a chronic illness this docu is interesting so I have to say:
1- I have a different illness but I am almost bed bound, so I can say that a lot of her behaviors are a little familiar when she's reacting. I, which had a normal tendency to self regulate emotions, when was at my worst, THAT WENT OUT THE WINDOW. I showed it in a way a bit different to Selena , but trauma or illness based reactions are just that, and shes nice to fans because reactions are brief and it may be what she saves her good face for. its impossible to really be held accountable and expected to "be considerate" when you can't self-regulate and have so much on you, no buts, in my experience. Thats one reason why chronic illness and mental illness are isolating. But Raquelle knows this, and thats why she's still her friend, she doesnt take her attacks personally most of the time.
But shes also not a therapist so she may not know how to word it in a way that it can get through to selena always. and SURE some people are better at it than others as therapist friends, but yeah sometimes they mean well but aren't trained to say it in a gentler way that still gets the desired result if bringing Selena back to her senses.
2- at the same time, while saying two weeks of promo is something you got to do may be true.... your illnesses dont care what you need to do, like period. Selena feels a bit indebted to the music I think, like she doesn't wanna let people down because she knows her music helps people, and she's the type to fall into the Trap of 'well if I help people, I feel good, that means its good for me,' which is not the case every time. Which is what raquele reminds her of in the film at the end.
you are so well spoken, watching you talk about whatever is such a gift
omg thank you Ava!
Wow, I think this was such an excellent and eloquent analysis. I was one of the people that was really put off by Raquelle when watching the documentary, but hearing your insight here has actually changed my mind about her. Also the part you mentioned about the lack of reciprocal friendships with people that have mental illness REALLY stuck a chord with me (ty for the existential crisis), I just thought that was a super interesting thing I'd never thought of before.
I don't usually comment on yt videos but seriously, well done!! I followed you for the swiftian content, but definitely sticking around for more of this :)
Thank you so much Nour!!!! I really appreciate your comment :)
Thanks for being a voice of reason in this sea of nonsense! I thought Raquelle was extremely patient and had Selena's growth at heart. I couldn't believe how people on the internet interpreted their friendship.
My perception of Selena wasn't more positive at the end of this documentary. But she was vulnerable and raw and it was beautiful to watch such authenticity. It made me see all the nuances in her story and THAT is worth so much more than any filtered portrayal we see of most celebrity.
I LOVE that the documentary didn't end with a complete recovery, because that's the reality of mental illness. We have so much pressure to turn a negative experience into a positive one. But the truth is that we never completely recover. This is real life. We only get better once we accept our struggles and learn to live with it, rather than try to erradicate it completely.
I was really moved by this documentary and equally by your commentary. I have mental illness that I’ve been forced to reckon with more intentionally the last few years. I agree it is hard to be a good friend and receive criticism/be emotionally mature when the inner critic in your mind is shatteringly loud. However, if you are able&have the privilege to be on the road of recovery it is so important to have relationships that are reciprocal. It’s vital to the people around you but also to your own mental well-being. You are so insightful especially being so young (I’m 38) and am constantly impressed by your thoughtfulness and ability to clearly articulate your thoughts.
Aw thank you so much Cathy ♥️ sending you love! Always love reading your comments
I also really think you hit the nail on the head when you said how Selena Gomez does not always enjoy something that she is good at. On the outside as an audience, we see that she is really pretty darn good at a lot of things! However, I don’t think all of those things really fulfill her as a person all of the time, and you have to really create this intense balancing act when you have a chronic physical condition and mental health condition.
I have the same things going on where it’s this constant balancing act, and there are many things. I am really good at that I have to think to myself, “does this really make me happy, thou?“ I can’t imagine someone in the spotlight having to do that exact same thing, and I really applaud her for doing as well as she does with everything that she has going on .
Again, thank you so much for talking about this.
Annamarie thank you for all your comments! I read them all and really appreciate your feedback and hope you're feeling good today 💕
Thank you for speaking so beautifully about mental illness. I have trichotillomania and people on both sides of my family have struggled with mental illness.
💕 sending you love!
Yes! Was excited to see this notification, love your style of analysis as always! I really enjoyed the doc, i did find that it was a bit oversold as all of these celeb projects seem to be, it was certainly really revealing but at the same time the large timeline and content gaps that you mentioned made it feel pretty lean at times, especially compared to the way it was promoted. I hope they release an extended cut that has been referenced a few times in interviews, but definitely one of the best celeb docs I've seen!
oooooh I would love to see an extended cut!!
I'm a huge obsessed fan of Selena lol just wanted to say I loved the video and I'm so grateful that you took the time to make a video and discuss mental health because that's exactly what Selena wants. Let them discuss more about, spread more awareness about mental health :)
Great episode! It takes a lot of courage to be this vulnerable. I appreciate your insight and understanding in this review.
thank you for watching!
I just subscribed. I like how much effort and thought you put into these videos. They are not one-sided or just black and white. Good job
Heading down the rabbit hole of your videos I am so thankful that I hit the bell for notifications. Your content is getting me through a lot of hard times and I really appreciate the time and energy and focus you put into your videos. Thank you, Sir Swiftologist!!🥰
You're so smart and thoughtful and I love hearing you talk about this. I'm not particularly invested in Selena, although we are the same age and I've always sort of kept her in my periphery. I feel like she's struggled deeply for a long time and I can relate to some of her mental health stuff. However, I watched this doc and felt myself struggling to truly empathise with her just because of her insane privilege and wealth and while I know money clearly does not fix someone and make them happy, it still awards them so much more grace than 99% of the world.
You made me rethink this, I do genuinely feel for her after this video. She's clearly trapped in a cycle of her own mind's cruel thoughts and self-doubt and it must be awful. She's a grown woman with access to money and connections and could do whatever she wanted, however I really think the age she got famous has left her a little stunted and childlike. She has clear co-dependency issues and needs to be reassured and coddled. She hates being famous yet clearly feels stuck in the cycle of craving validation for her work. It's hard, I don't know how I would manage any differently. Being that famous is truly insane and I think there's a very small few who can handle it and not feel like they're losing their minds.
love reading your comments Francesca, thanks for watching!! it's very clear that Selena is likely not hardwired for this, as you noted that many people just aren't
i am so impressed by and appreciate how well you articulate mental health struggles!!
thanks Emma!! glad it resonated with you
WOW I haven’t seen the doc, but as someone currently in the midst of the deepest and longest lasting depression stage I’ve ever experienced, I found your insight on this & the way in which you spoke of it was so very therapeutic for me. I’m so amazed at your awareness in the mind/body connection as well. I’ve felt so sick for months, very real visceral symptoms, but I do think it’s largely my mind taking my body down. Once your so down for over a year as I have been now it’s such a viscous cycle of typicality feeling too mentally drained to take a step one or even have the awareness to try to recall it or seek it out. Often I come on UA-cam & disappear into others worlds when it’s really bad & I’m the type to normally be active outside & social. I won’t go in too deep on my circumstances, I just wanted to praise your knowledge & awareness ❤ I follow some mental health channels from licensed professionals but you nailed this even moreso! It really helped me today! I truly think you could have a very successful side channel or even segments in this category that many would come here for. I follow a UA-cam who talks about celebrities almost in a gossip about news type of way for the first 15-20% of the episode & then used their experiences to teach how to watch for toxic behaviors & empowering yourself in dating, being single etc. The way you did this video felt very similar but has so much more heart, warmth, empathy & a far deeper understanding on mental health issues. This is also me trying to manifest it too haha. I truly had to pause and write things down that really hit me & that were helpful tools to add to my tool bag. Thank you for this, from the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤
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I love when you go into deep dives of other celebs, hope you keep doing it !!!
thank you!!
Currently binging your entire channel bestie ❤
Yay! Thank you!
I MOVEDD! I’ve been waiting for this one “ZACHARYYYYYYY” (I said that in the Taylor voice as she greeted you at the secret session with a glass of wine 👀😂)
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Ah! Niche jokes
hahaaahaha, I always hear that in my head every time I see his videos 😂😂 so random hahahaaaa
@@lifeisjustaclassroom I feel like from now on, I'll hear that too!
I found your channel just a few days ago and I must say, you gave one of the most thorough analysis out there. Watched the video in full and really enjoyed it. I can tell that you really put in a lot of time and effort into your vids. Just wanted to give a shout out ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about the correlation between having a chronic physical health condition, and a pre-existing mental health condition as well, and how each of them influence each other! More people need to know that this is something that it’s not even the case that one affects the other, but there is a very complicated inter-play among both conditions that people need to be aware of!
I really love your reaction videos and please don’t ever stop doing what you are doing. :-)
This video essay is so good i reached the end even with those 500 commercials that dared to interrupt the swiftologist, phD
thank you!!
I just wanna say, your videos are my absolute favorite. You have such an incredible analysis of this documentary. I couldn’t quite find the words to describe my feelings about it but you described it perfectly!
I loved this video!
Plz keep going what you are doing...
Your mind and your prespective on things is so interesting and incredible!
thank you :)
After listening to more of your video in such detail - and I love the way you put so much detail into this, by the way - I truly enjoy how you make the comparison between how Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift have a completely different creative process. I’ve always admired Taylor Swift’s process and wondered how someone can sit down and write a song or have those ideas come to them the way Taylor seems to do. at the same time, I recognize that I personally am a lot more like Selena Gomez as a personality, and how I would never find something like songwriting a particularly cathartic process. Even if I had that talent deep inside, I think it would stress me out to write a song, and I would sit there, trying to perfect things that don’t come naturally to me. Selena definitely can write a song and I think it does come naturally to her, but versus the way Taylor Swift seems to be able to just need to get things out and onto paper immediately and have hundreds of songs sitting down that she has written, I don’t know how a person can do that, and I completely admire it, but I don’t think that is really the vibe that Selena has, and that is OK! But I don’t think the average person understands that singing in songwriting really isn’t actually Selena Gomez’s first passion in life, either.
Thank you so much for that analysis and comparison, because I think it really helps the average person understand that someone like Selena Gomez doesn’t really “chase the same“ like some people really do. I think the theme really stresses Selena Gomez out on a level that isn’t really natural, but she is a very multitalented person . At the same time, dealing with a disease, like lupus and different mental health struggles really makes the concept of fame in and of itself a difficult thing to grasp, and that is not Selena’s fault but it’s really sad that she can’t do what she loves, like the acting, or anything else involving like her make up line-which I think gives her a lot of joy to develop and curate for other people.
Fame really is kind of like a monster, and I feel bad that it has to come along with sharing your talents with the world and being judged so much, unfortunately.
Thank you for your intellectual, insightful videos. I think you provide a really good example of how people can vocalize their opinions respectfully. In a time where cancel culture is so strong, your videos are very refreshing since you focus on how multifaceted people are and nuanced music/pop culture can be. Love your content. Keep up the good work!
thanks so much gina :)
This video is beyond thoughtful. Your ideas are consistently presented so clearly and I love your incorporation of monetary gain at the end. It is so true that some pop stars outwardly criticize and blame the system in which they work, yet reap the benefit, often financial, of that same system. Thanks for your insight! I love your videos.
thank you so much Blake!! glad you enjoyed it
Loved the vid but I’ll say that no matter what, she’s wealthy af, as someone diagnosed bipolar 2, one of the biggest struggles is to keep a stable income and not ruin your relationships, meds for bipolar aren’t perfect and they change you as a person but Im glad she is taking them and yes! Raquelle is an amazing friend! Someone with such mental struggles HAS to surround themselves with people that are able to tell you yes or no objectively regardless of friendship! I have a few friends that are honest af and it just humbles and grounds you. Finally a pop culture channel with crítical thinking! I can tell you may have done some kinda journalism studies
Zach this was amazing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
I feel like Selena feels a lot of pressure from her team to continue being a celebrity; perhaps she knows that many people's jobs depend on her, though its not as though they won't be able to find work elsewhere having worked for a famous person of her calibre in the past. Again, she has the material wealth and resources to have agency and make these complex decisions but her inner critic is so powerful and malicious from what we can see, I think she has a long way to go in terms of maturing into a healthy adult (an autonomous, self-governing being) before she can be capable of walking away from her life as a pop star. I hope she is in schema therapy.
That was a great a great analysis. I got to your channel by Taylor because I’m a huge fan of her but now I found myself binge watching all your videos about many topics. You’re a great communicator! Also have a lot a fun with some of your comments
Great job! And your new banner/ pic is super cute.
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Have been looking forward to your review! Love your channel btw!
Yay! Thank you!
I truly agree when you talk about how she seems to really enjoy the acting portion of her life at this point professionally. As someone who suffers from rheumatoid arthritis, which is another autoimmune disease, I truly understand the mental and physical exhaustion that comes along with dealing with that alone and also her other mental health issues play a huge role in her ability to handle theme in the way that same seems to not be something she is after as much as just the enjoyment of the work that she truly deserves.
Seeing her on “Only murders in the building“ is awesome because I think she really enjoys that atmosphere at this time relative to the pop community. I’m not saying she doesn’t love singing and writing music, but I think that the physical and mental exhaustion that comes along with that at this point makes that not her first love. And she certainly Must have days where even it is difficult for her to physically deal with things onset when she is acting because lupus can really cause a lot of joint pain and things that people don’t understand unless they have to experience it but I think that is her current passion relative to singing and performing. I love her and want what’s best for her but I completely understand her having acting be her first love at the moment, even though that is a boat ton of physical work as well, but she’s amazing at it, and I think working alongside Steve Martin and Martin Short is also a great experience for her that she does not take for granted, and I think those two guys really are a great friend of hers at this point that keep her smiling and laughing on the days where she is in more pain or a little more worked up from her anxiety and things like that.
I’m sorry that this ended up being so long, but I tend to use the talk to type when I text message because my arthritis in my hands has caused them to be very crooked, so it makes me even more talkative and rambling when I use the talk to text, so thank you for putting up with us and thank you so much for your wonderful reactions to everything! I came across you when I was watching Taylor Swift things, so I enjoy all of that content as Well And I just thank you for putting your all into each video :-).
This is SUCH a great analysis, I’m speechless
You hit the tee on everything for me! Let me just say, selena has so many bops that I grew up with but Im not a major fan. I have a soft spot for her because her hometown is a few miles away from my hometown. One of the dinosaurs from Barney lived on my street!
The documentary was definitely very..broad. The biggest takeaway I got is that she should probably not do music anymore. I think she would be an amazing travel journalist type of person like Zach’s show on Netflix. She looked so happy whenever she was connecting with people. It’s part of her charm. She is also a great creator. Rare beauty is a smash, not many celebrity makeup brains can say that except Rihanna.
It takes a certain person (like the scary genius that taylor is) to twist your darkest emotions into art. For a lot of people, it’s too painful. I also have thoughts on her friendship with taylor but I’ll just keep it to myself lmao. I wish her the best and I hope she does what SHE loves.
Anyway, I love when you analyze other celebrities..I really hope people don’t attack you for analyzing their faves, I think the way you deliver your thoughts is blunt but professional!! It would be really interesting to hear your thoughts on Dua and how she took the criticism from her past performances and turned into one of the most iconic pop stars.
Love your channel!
you are so eloquent and spot on
this was so fascinating! can you imagine taylor ever doing a documentary this honest? it would never happen, but it would be incredible. thanks for this great analysis
no I can't hahahahaha. thank you!!
Great content! You are so incredibly insightful and smart! I would love to see more video essays like this on documentaries from other artists, like the documentary from billie eilish or the one from beyonce pre coachella.
Now I need to finish the doc!
Wow, you are so good at these videos! You made so many good points that I didn't consciously pick up on but agreed with. I also didn't understand all the Raquelle hate I saw online. I have a friend similar to her that helps ground me when I think the world is ending lol. I also agree that the visiting neighbours felt a bit too weird and opportunistic. I still like Selena and I think she has good intentions. Keep up the good content
thank you for watching! grounding friends are very important
Congratulations on another amazing video! You just never miss for me, and I think it’s because all of your videos are heavily backed by thorough research. This is why journalists are godtier! I’ve been trying to find videos about reviewing My Mind and Me, and this was everything I needed. Much love! xx❤
thank you so much bestie
Would love to hear you discuss the idol cause i see so many parallels to selena gomez in it
Excellent analysis! I love your channel, I just discovered it and I've no idea what I'll do with my life when I finish binging all your videos. Thank you for an amazing content and for accepting me on Twitter 🌌
thank you for watching!! more videos coming soon :)
@@theswiftologist Thank you Zach you're a life saver ❤️ 🧣
Wow. Fantastic work, I watched 3 times over!
thank you Cheryl!
I agree with u on that the focus of the documentary from the directors point of view was not very clear to me. I feel Selena as a person is very vague when she talks and even with the music she puts out with what she really wants to say. In interviews you hear her giving an answer but she really doesn't say anything and maybe its her way of protecting herself of people twisting her words or knowing too much about her personal life. Also I think being in Disney caused her an identity crisis because she constantly says I don't want to look young, I feel like a wizard (in her LYTLM press tour) etc. I personally would have love to know what was the reason why her confidence drop so low because even tho she's not the best musician at least back in 2013 you will see her having fun performig and now she doesn't even liked being dancing when back in 2013 it seem to be somethig that she really enjoyed.
I like her voice over and her diary entries even tho sometimes they didn't really matched the scene I think its nice that they did that instead of a confessionary.
Yeah there was definitely a Disney trauma thread that I didn't have time to unpack here, but it seems like a big problem for her.
Really enjoyed your level headed analysis.
thanks Amy :)
I just skipped the whole Kenya trip because there's nothing in this world I hate most than rich persons showing off their "charity". Hated that.
So if you have a lot of money you wouldn’t do anything good for people bc you hate rich people helping needy people.
She actually connected with them actually tbh ❤️
Having been diagnosed as bipolar in February myself I was really looking forward to this film and although I applaud her approach to it it seems like the end product lacked narrative and direction, which is a shame!
Hope you're doing well & that you still found something to enjoy in the film!
Another amazing video ❤
thank you
I haven't seen this documentary, frankly haven't been bothered, but your video made me curious to do so. I like that it brings up really good discussions on mental health which a lot of other documentaries tend to shy away from.
you should DEFINITELY watch it! it's super compelling
i’m so glad you talked about the raquelle stuff because i didn’t think she was evil at all and as a more casual fan of selena’s i don’t really know her timeline but i do know she got a kidney transplant so i was SUPER confused about why none of that process was covered, seems pretty important?
I saw in this film that she doesn’t have agency of her own work. It seemed like she was doing things because she was told to. Because there’s tons of people working with her (and for her) and if she stops working or if she changes paths or ways, there’s the fear that all the company that she has created will crumble.
It seemed to me that all the people surrounding her are just encouraging her by saying that she’s amazing, and none of them are there to actually critic her in a positive way and give a transparent advice. They just want to make her produce and produce.
Specially I got the same vibe from her paid friend. She’s just there to make her do stuff
It’s like they don’t get selena’s point of view in life, they don’t get what she really wants to do, and I think she’s completely numb to take control of her life.
Btw I know very little about selena, i've heard some songs and watched the film, but thats the sense that i’ve got from it form an outside point.
Also I see a person that is very grounded in the sense of wanting deeply to connect with people, and someone that is really struggling with the relations that she has with interviewers or co workers in the industry, whom are there just to make money and that don’t really care about the well-being of the person they have in front of them. It seems to me that she has a big discomfort for the way some mechanisms in the industry of entertainment work. And her team doesn’t seem to notice that. My view is that she’s a very humanitarian person (and even the construction of some scenes in the documentary, like the one where she goes to Kenya, was good by showing the thoughtful mental process of her of being there, in a place that is so different from her reality, but the way in which that was showed by the director was very much Porno miseria).
I just wanted to let you know that you converted me. I used to be a taylor swift hater/ambivalent at best. I love your candor when discussing her. I've only ever encountered rabid swifties in my life who balk at the fact that I couldn't get into her music. I've been listening to your podcast, and you have addressed so many of the issues I had with her in the past. It really won me over, and I've now been going through her discography.
P.s. Unrelated, but what is that candle burning in the background?
BESTTT COMPLIMENT EVER THANK YOU!!!!!!!! it's ash by boy smells :) I don't recommend....
Hi!! As a French person I'd like to give you guys my input about the Selena ''feeling like a product'' thing... Well she was totally right because: french TV hosts/journalists bloody SUCK at interviewing non french celebrities. Most of the time they bring a music or movie star on a 10mn segment of a show and basically ask what we could call ''amusing'', ''light'', ''casual'' questions, or ''funny'' games etc, like she's a f*cking zoo pet. And honestly I think it's almost disrespectful. For example you can google ''Taylor Swift NRJ'' and see by yourself what I mean by that. Not very smart or interesting stuff.
So the part of the documentary where you see Selena upset about the interviews... that's when she was in PARIS soooo voilà quoi, yeah, her feelings are perfectly understandable, she was basically there to ''entertain'', while when she appears on american tv shows the hosts ask real interesting questions!
As a representative of french people I'm sorry that we treat celebrities like that 💀💀💀
Ok, I don't understand why everyone is ignoring the elephant in the room/documentary?? The text overlay even left out one of the biggest issues Selena was going through during that time! And that of course is her off and on dramatic relationship with Justin Bieber!!! He affected her mental health, and insecurities, almost more than anything. We/she can't pretend that just didn't happen. But anyway, great video on her, and the documentary.
these celebs should just hire u to produce these docs with them. you did such a better job explaining mental health than the documentary did ...
i thought it was okay but leaned too heavily into a "poor me i hate being famous" mode which at the end of the day, is like then gurl stop putting yourself in that position the perpetuates behaviors that you clearly hate.
hahah thank you! I can see why you would come away with that impression, but I do think the documentary has a lot of value when it comes to depicting mental health struggles in and of itself
7:45 maybe selena's life during 2018 to 2019 was really dark and far to much for her to share and handle. her life during that time
is definetly hard for her.
12:00 i think that Revival tour was the first time she is touring with an album that she had full creative control with. so maybe she was really putting a lot of anticipation and expectations into this. But nonetheless she is really harsh on herself but revival tour was LEGIT PERFECT
I think Selena has a gift for listening to others. She has been propped up to be a voice holding the mic when perhaps her calling is to be someone who LISTENS and implements change. That seems to be a sweet spot for her because she gets to use her platform to help others without being so thrust into the spotlight. Her scrutiny she aims at herself could actually be turned towards problems people are facing in the world.
I’ve never really been a fan (or hater) of hers, but I’m interested to see if she ends up doing more philanthropic work as she stated, because servitude seems to be something she could really thrive in.
yeah she has a massive capacity for connection which is why I think the public is sooo drawn to her. she seems very open
You're so well spoken darling please write a book or narrate audio books
one day I hope 🥺
I think from the way Selena was saying that in the last few weeks she wasn't sure yet if she was going to release the documentary or not and with this cut from 2h40 to 1h30 that we got to know, I believe the part from the end of 2016 to 2018 ended up being withdrawal. I believe that at the last minute she may not have felt so comfortable sharing this most personal, intimate part of her, despite so many things she shows in the documentary, I think specifically 2017 and 2018 with her near death from the transplant and the psychosis, must have been your worst moments :/
I mean yes she could be a full time philantropist but i see her point also, when she's a pop star and actress more people care about her than just being a philantropist, if she keeps up with music and acting and do philantrophy on top of that it's going to get noticed more because she's still relevant in the media so they will report about that too
Yep it's a rough choice for her, but it's still a choice. She doesn't have to be a pop star.
@@theswiftologist whatever she chooses i'm with her even without music she has given us only bops for like 15 years so it's all forgiven
I would have loved to have a video like this about Demis documentary!
Me, a severely chronically ill dumbass, with no support watching selenas docu and this while still thinking I can be fit to put out music that would fill a stadium (already a FEAT) and survive 🤡
Same as you, I stan Taylor and just like Selena, I've followed them from the beginning of their career.
I don't care about people criticize Selena's personality in this documentary or she didn't mention of kidney event... clearly the whole theme is about awareness of mental health, I feel connected cuz I also have bipolar and my mom had a breakdown once few years ago. Actually many people don't regconize or think they were in it, and the awareness is so important to face and live with it. I actually feel so annoyed when people around her have no idea what the f she saying or acting, and it's so true, I can get it. People have no experience about mental health can hardly understand or even feel you overreact, overthink... that make us feel worse.
I don't really like this documentary (some scenes are quite boring to me) but glad that she made this
it's for sure such a valuable resource to have, whether or not it's the best 'documentary' out there
However, as someone who is mentally unwell, physically unwell and had a significant transplant, you can’t always draw a clear line between physical and mental health. They’re too interconnected. I would’ve liked to see more about her mental and physical health plus transplant. Transplant itself does a number on one’s mental health. I think there’s a huge hole there in the documentary.
I loved MMAM. Thank you.
thanks for watching ♥️♥️
I’m a huge selena stan and I agree with almost everything u said
Let’s goooo ~wow never been this on time for anything in my life :’)
I agree with all the things he said... No criticism for his words... Grt Sir.
My Mind & Me is what Miss Americana wishes she was. This was probably the best celebrity documentary I’ve watched. It was definitely the most candid
it's definitely less flattering!
It may be what you wish it was but it’s clear to me that Miss Americana never intended to paint Taylor in this vulnerable or unflattering light. I also think that even though Miss Americana feels less authentic and raw, seeing Taylor’s struggles would still not elicit the same response as My Mind and Me because Taylor does inherently love what she does. Crafting her music and videos and tours is a joy for her and a worth the parts of fame that she doesn’t like overall. If Taylor was breaking down in a raw way we could still say, at least she has the music, her relationship with her mom, etc. Selena is in a much more dire situation where she doesn’t have these saving graces that make the hard parts worth it which is what’s tragic and so honest.
@@Hannah_jo25 come on, Taylor has enough issues to make a documentary, she just doesn't dare to be imperfect in front of the world
@@lfior her issues aren't the kind that people instantly eat up. they're intuitive and abstract. People wouldn't even get it
@@lifeisjustaclassroom lol what? She's not Hegel or Kant, I'm sure people would get it. They empathise with her because they care
I've always thought Selena loves music and that she wanted to make Revival the best album she has ever done. But she was not in a good headspace after her breakup with Justin. So she needed other people to help her make desicions on her outfits and the general vibe of the tour. That made the tour more "young" and focused on Selena being a babe and not a strong woman. Selena hated that.
Also I don't like that they gave her the bipolar diagnosis when she was having a bad reaction to her lupusmedications. It seems like big pharma propaganda. And I think Selena doesn't have knowlegde about the side effects of medications. She said in an interview that she her mental illness is a chemical imblance in her brain. That's a myth and something they used to say in commericals for pills. As a person with chronical illness I hated the documentary
I think one of the main reasons she isn’t confident enough in herself as a popstar is because she appreciates good vocals and she isn’t great on that department so whatever she does as a singer will never be good enough for her.
I am gonna get fucking slaughtered for this but I think Selena’s only talent is acting. And even that she’s good but not legendary like (thinking of people who have given insane performances) Voila Davis or Jessica Lange. I’ve heard live performances and her voice is not that strong. She’s not a songwriter or someone with that artistic creativity like Taylor Swift. I think she is a great person but her talents aren’t worthy of mega stardom, though that isn’t new. There are many pop stars who are marketable yet not all that talented. I like her trust me! Just my opinion, and I want to add that you are so eloquent. Excellent analysis and I fully agree with everything. While I find her to be sometimes selfish and probably exhausting to be around, it’s a product of her mental health and for that I feel for her. I make an average salary and always think must be nice to not worry about money - however, I think I’d choose my life over some of these celebrities wealth who may be wealthy but aren’t all that happy.
39:00 quoting the Queen Lana del Rey "It turns out everywhere you go, you take yourself, that's not a lie"
What do you think about Selena’s friendship with Taylor? They’re great friends and have a more immature side but are known as public figures.
Would you analyze their connection and question why they work so well?
this is a topic for another video for sure....
@@theswiftologist yes you should put it up got discussion through a video too soon ❤️
both love playing victim and both are phony
@@netgidey8601 Taylor ain’t a phony or a victim card lol. Idk much about Selena aside from being super emotional and is sick 😷
I didn't know that there is such a thing as being a celebrity worthy and celebrity worthy not, then I bet a lot of analysis on celebs needs to be done to point out people who are worthy of being celebrities. Wish people could let Selena rest at this point, she's had enough and just when she thought her work in progress was going well, then boom the world just turned it upside down
Sameee I like Selena and respect her but don’t stan. And yeah I agree completely. I don’t know if she’s fit for this life like why do it if you feel miserable? She’s sooo talented, but like she could do other things.
Maybe she doesn’t want to lose the platform she has to make the change she really wants to make.
I like a lot of what was said here, but along with the infantilization of people with mental health issues, I think her being a child star/Disney kid is another big factor. Growing up in the spotlight and not really having a lot of choices, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to realize at some point you become an adult and can take control of the situation. I think since she’s gotten the Hulu show and really dug into her beauty brand she has gotten better due to the freedom she has granted herself. It’s always nice to see the Disney kids you grew up watching find their footing, because it’s a very hard road
I would be a great pop star! I hope she finds her way:)
My mind plays tricks on me too. This documentary was very relatable 😢
hey Zach! just curious, do u believe raquelle is a friend paid by her staff and that selena is unaware, hired by staff and selena is aware, or hired by selena? she certainly does give off some assistant vibes. thanks!
Can you please do a book review of Jennette McCurdy's book like you did with Prince Harry's please
I watched this the day it came out, and it was immensely relatable for me and my mental health. However, it was a bit fragmented and had weird pacing. Overall, I liked it regardless of its flaws.
I liked it too :)
What I don't understand is, if being famous and the work is so bad for her mental health, why doesn't she retire? She has tons of money to do that. She probably has a lot money invested that she can live comfortably with the profits of those investments. She also has her beauty line, she really doesn't need to be a singer anymore if she hates it so much. She can totally do what Rihanna did.