God bless you girl, I’m determined to get my sister back and have found sound advice in your videos here. My prayers are with you in your mission ❤️ you’ve given me hope
@@PutTheShovelDown me too! What seemed like a totally hopeless situation now seems like a problem to be solved. I can’t imagine the things you’ve dealt with to get here but I hope you know you’re making the world a better place because you stuck it out and are passing your knowledge along wisely…God bless
I here because obviously I'm desperate let's see what you've got....God I wish it was pot...nope I take that back I wish there was no harmful addiction...
Pot is no good either, it can bring someone way down in addiction just as much as any other drug can, it's very addictive and mentally harmful to those who are pronned to mental health conditions
Hello from France, I love your videos, the no-nonsense approach and absence of judgment on all sides really is a blessing! That's why I'd like to ask you this question: my partner is addicted to alcohol and also uses marijuana and cocaine problematically, he is not in denial at all and we often have long, reasoned out discussions about his issues and what he is going to do about it. The problem is, he never actually puts his money where his mouth is, he can even detail a really great recovery plan with a glass of liquor in one hand and a joint in the other. He also has trouble making appointments but doesn't want me to help him (and I respect that, I just give him info). He actually takes steps to go see a counselor or contact a rehab centre once every couple of weeks but always gives up halfway through (whilst talking about the issue relatively rationally as I said above). Could you help me understand why this is the case?
He has has the substance, his body is calm enough to think rationally. It's during this time that he knows something needs to change. When he's not using, he's in withdrawal and it's hard to think straight.
Thank you for this! What method do you think works best for people who aren’t exactly pro therapy or pro counseling? My SO has said many times he doesn’t think therapy would help him for mental health at all even though he knows he needs to cut down drinking.
I am actually curious, have you ever encountered families or spouses, who are just content with the addiction? That it is a "normal" part of life, instead of something needed to be changed?
@@PutTheShovelDown have you seen addicts who are just content being an addict? Like they rather just put up with the addiction for as long as their life is, instead of changing?
A. Ye yes, I’ve seen that but it’s usually because they either don’t realize how much better they’ll feel without it, or they’re scared of getting clean, or they think they’re so bad off that they will never be able to get sober.
I think I'm doing something similar with my SO. We have agreed to an over night so we can have Christmas morning with the baby. I know staying sober for him will be really, REALLY hard. He offered to go to a neighbors house (for our safety/comfort) to spend the night if he just couldn't NOT drink. My first reaction was, "If you're leaving, why are we here?" but then I realized 2 things. 1)he was taking US into account for once, and 2) HE made the plan. So I decided that we would stay to help reinforce that as a POSITIVE step (him thinking about us for once). Am I on the right track? Is that similar to what you were talking about? Any other advice? Thank you for all that you do! For myself, but much more so for his son.
Hi Lisa. Do you mean the Family Recovery Academy? If so, we are going to stop taking Beta Testers in the next 2-3 weeks. (as soon as I get the last section of new videos edited, I'm going to finalize it and it will go out of Beta Test mode). *I just added a new section today that all about Recovery Based on personality. 😁 If you know anyone who might want to be a member, let them know that now is the time to get it as the lower price!
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Thx, you have giving us great ideas for an addictive child.
Please pray for my son jimmy struggling with alcoholism and loneliness your channel is helping me thank you for all you
Sending Prayers!
Your advice is veryy helpful but sadly in the U.K.there is a mile long wating list to get the help needed. So not as simple . .
What if my family member is on drugs and denies it ? And doesn’t listen and becomes dangerous to be around ?
This is so important for families to watch. It can really make or break the choice for the loved one to make the next step.
Thanks Tayler!
made most of these mistakes I have gotton better im expecting a great result for comple healing.
God bless you girl, I’m determined to get my sister back and have found sound advice in your videos here. My prayers are with you in your mission ❤️ you’ve given me hope
I'm so glad these videos are helping you, Albert!
@@PutTheShovelDown me too! What seemed like a totally hopeless situation now seems like a problem to be solved. I can’t imagine the things you’ve dealt with to get here but I hope you know you’re making the world a better place because you stuck it out and are passing your knowledge along wisely…God bless
How about leaving them? I'm so done after over 30 years
Here's a video on that topic. I think it might help: ua-cam.com/video/EE5D8U34cl4/v-deo.html
I here because obviously I'm desperate let's see what you've got....God I wish it was pot...nope I take that back I wish there was no harmful addiction...
Pot is no good either, it can bring someone way down in addiction just as much as any other drug can, it's very addictive and mentally harmful to those who are pronned to mental health conditions
Hello from France, I love your videos, the no-nonsense approach and absence of judgment on all sides really is a blessing! That's why I'd like to ask you this question: my partner is addicted to alcohol and also uses marijuana and cocaine problematically, he is not in denial at all and we often have long, reasoned out discussions about his issues and what he is going to do about it. The problem is, he never actually puts his money where his mouth is, he can even detail a really great recovery plan with a glass of liquor in one hand and a joint in the other. He also has trouble making appointments but doesn't want me to help him (and I respect that, I just give him info). He actually takes steps to go see a counselor or contact a rehab centre once every couple of weeks but always gives up halfway through (whilst talking about the issue relatively rationally as I said above).
Could you help me understand why this is the case?
He has has the substance, his body is calm enough to think rationally. It's during this time that he knows something needs to change. When he's not using, he's in withdrawal and it's hard to think straight.
Thank you for this! What method do you think works best for people who aren’t exactly pro therapy or pro counseling? My SO has said many times he doesn’t think therapy would help him for mental health at all even though he knows he needs to cut down drinking.
I am actually curious, have you ever encountered families or spouses, who are just content with the addiction? That it is a "normal" part of life, instead of something needed to be changed?
A. Ye most definitely! We’ve seen it all, but those types situations are the worst. It’s almost impossible to get someone clean in that circumstance.
@@PutTheShovelDown I mean, are the addicts happy in those situations? If they are truly happy and content with it, why change?
@@PutTheShovelDown have you seen addicts who are just content being an addict? Like they rather just put up with the addiction for as long as their life is, instead of changing?
A. Ye yes, I’ve seen that but it’s usually because they either don’t realize how much better they’ll feel without it, or they’re scared of getting clean, or they think they’re so bad off that they will never be able to get sober.
@@PutTheShovelDown life does take many different forms!
Thanks Amber! Can you do a talk about when your LO is addicted to gambling? I am really struggling with my adult son
Thxs for the info!
Welcome! Glad you liked it.
I think I'm doing something similar with my SO. We have agreed to an over night so we can have Christmas morning with the baby. I know staying sober for him will be really, REALLY hard. He offered to go to a neighbors house (for our safety/comfort) to spend the night if he just couldn't NOT drink. My first reaction was, "If you're leaving, why are we here?" but then I realized 2 things. 1)he was taking US into account for once, and 2) HE made the plan. So I decided that we would stay to help reinforce that as a POSITIVE step (him thinking about us for once). Am I on the right track? Is that similar to what you were talking about? Any other advice? Thank you for all that you do! For myself, but much more so for his son.
My son says he is done with rehab,and or counseling. I guess he has given up.
I wish I could speak with you. I need help with someone I love.
Hi Shawn, we do offer consultation sessions, if you're interested. Here's a link to learn more: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations
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what's the latest I can sign up? (at lower price)
Hi Lisa. Do you mean the Family Recovery Academy? If so, we are going to stop taking Beta Testers in the next 2-3 weeks. (as soon as I get the last section of new videos edited, I'm going to finalize it and it will go out of Beta Test mode). *I just added a new section today that all about Recovery Based on personality. 😁 If you know anyone who might want to be a member, let them know that now is the time to get it as the lower price!
I joined 😁
What is the cost for the Family Recovery Academy now?
hello friend
Hello Gwin!