Two MISTAKES I Made During My Anxiety/DPDR Recovery That Cost Me TIME & FRUSTRATION
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- Опубліковано 3 вер 2020
- In this video, I talk about two mistakes I made during anxiety/DPDR recovery that added time and frustration to my recovery.
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My mistake:
Letting my anxiety dictate what I’m going to do, example: too anxious to go out in public thus I didn’t go out in public (this only reinforces the anxiety)
Avoidance is always going to trigger anxiety because whatever we run away from, our brain assumes is dangerous. I love your attitude!
Find Yourself what do you mean by floaters? What do you see?
@@coachjordanhardgrave - Hey! So I feel like I am not at home even though I am home... it feels so unfamiliar I guess. What can I do? My family feels the same way. I feel like I can't recognize them. :(
You are right. I have been going out now for a few months No matter how I feel. At the start it was so difficult but it is getting a bit better. In fact the better times are getting longer. Have courage it is not easy but it is the only way.
My husband has this. I always took his depersonalization personally and it almost ended our marriage. We have 2 sons together and wow! Keep this videos coming. You're saving people's lives, families, and relationships ❤
Why did it almost break you guys? I recently got married 6 months ago been knowing my wife for 4 years and she seems to be understanding
I have been facing it for 2yrs... The best thing is to neglect all the negativities..... Do meditation and work out.... I know that with consistent work out at some point I will be the in same state as I was before back then...
I feel like I’ve recovered so much, I use to get 10+ panic attacks a day and couldn’t even leave my bed. I can function now but I’m still just not clicking back. Almost like I’ve hit a plateau. Everyone still feels like strangers and unreal. Like I don’t even understand/ remember what normal life is. But I don’t freak out about it. But still not coming back 100%. Frustrating :/
Kinda the same thing
Did you recover?
How are you now
So one of my most disturbing symptoms is the feeling like my brain is almost rewinding? I don’t know if that makes sense lol like I’ll be walking around and then I’ll “snap” into reality almost like my brain is lagging. Very hard to explain the symptom. Does anyone else have this symptom?
Jow dude ! Bought your course and its helping me a lot , had one panic attack after 4 years living in trauma and i got dpdr really bad, my whole life looks like a joke and fake :( but now i got your course and all the symptoms are getting less after every day only thing im struggling still with is the excistential thoughts :(
But wanted to say thank you
You got this! :)
je hebt dit broeder
Hey! Kan ik jou geld betalen en de cursus dan naar mij ook sturen? Ik wil die heel graag maar ik kan niet betalen met Pay pal etc.. :-(
Thank you so much Jordan. You're a blessing 🙏🏼❤
Really helped me, thank you!
"Life is a practice" I belive in every one who is suffer from this or other disorder , you i we all will win.
Idk if you remember me but congrats on 20k subs!!!!
Thanks you so much
Love this shirt Jordan 😉
Great job :) many helpfull information, as usual. Colud you tune up the audio next time? :)
Thanks 🤟🏻
When i first saw you talking about muscle relaxation for dpdr i was like wtf this guy is saying its bullshit but now when i did some research and saw more video of yours i understand how important it is and its just a amazing technique to calm yourself btw thank u soo much...❤❤
You Are The Best Dude!!!
Thank you!
This content is incredible.
Thanks!
Jordan, got this for a long time, worked me out of the intense experience part and learned to live with the last 20% for years (10+). My mindset is focused now to get me out of this last bit. Just a question. I Can cry and laugh easily and authentically, still, don't experience these feelings. I actually do experience a really calm inner background always, also never have an inner monologue. Is this also dissociation? Or adaptation to the long term of having it. I guess my stress is still going, but unfelt, otherwise i would become more bodely aware. Also still disconnected from my surroundings. Is this fake calmness? Bodily and mentally. Thank you. If my own practices don't work, i will be buying your program.
has anyone experienced emotional release/catharsis and this dramatically affected their anxiety/dissociation? Meaning, your symptoms went away or mostly went away after that release, that you felt more reconnected to yourself as well?
Yes totally
This video was exactly what I needed! I had been feeling relief from my dp/dr for a few days, but had a depersonalization episode at the park tonight. I believe it was because it was triggered by being outside around the time I had my weed-induced panic attack. I was able to calm myself, but totally had a reactive approach with my dp. I’m now going to try and have a proactive approach and I’m so encouraged by this video! It’s time I throw my monkey away 😂
You got this bro !
I feel like this showed up on my UA-cam feed for a reason. I did wait until the last moment (right now) I coped instead of fixing and now It's gonna take longer. I was honestly afraid of taking time to try to fix it and it not going away or getting better.
My prayer all day is that my life shall be a testimony !
It all frustrating that weird feeling never knew is a word like this this shit started like 3 weeks ago and it hard honestly I played my voice note to someone and it hard to say if I was the one that sent them or if it was my voice , I knew I had lived this sick life and once happened to me several times but this once seems dangerous and scary what could be the cause please ?
And how much does it cost seeing a therapist I don’t even know if I have that much life seems so meaningless right now I can’t because I got family lost my daddy 8 years ago in front of me don’t know if that why I have this sick feeling I am always strong no matter what I try to keep things in mind don’t know if that’s what got me to this !
I hope I survive this
It hard to concentrate, just in some weeks I never knew I could be like this why me ?
Let us all hang there wish there is someone with this that I can talk to
But please what can be the cause ?
Thank you, but can you please turn the volume up some? The ads are extremely loud
I had my first ever panic attack about 4 years ago, after a horrendous weed experience where I convinced myself I was stuck in a loop, I still have symptoms 4 years later although, I do get much longer times where I do not feel these, the actual symptoms of dpdr itself no longer scare me, it’s more so the anxiety of having anxiety or having a panic attack in public or feeling out my comfort zone, but with that comes dpdr. My life lacks routine and structure even more so with Covid19, my anxiety seems to be heightened at night when watching tv in my bed or walking around with the lights on, could u offer me any advice? Cheers
And can u also tell us how long it took u to completly recover from dpdr and if u ever have the same feelings and anxiegy as before
Subscribed!! Your videos are awesome. Once I fully recover from DP/DR I want to help people too.
Did you recover?
@@hungryburger6195 yes
@@mseskeriastateedu that's awesome! I'm currently having real bad Derealization, do you have any tips
@@hungryburger6195 have you recovered
@@liam14daly73 almost, It went away for a month and it came back last week, but I'm making progress!
What if you’ve let yourself live in this for a long time, and have a lot of amnesia as a result? Do you have any tips for dpdr with depression? Thank you for the things you do🙏 I bought your course the other day and it is helpful but do feel like my case is complex
Hey jordan could u plz explain how to get rid of derealization specifaclly and how it links with dp and anxiety because i have managed to control dp but i still have trouble with dr thank you.
what tipe of psycotherapy model follow your course for overcome from depersonalization? thanks
there is the italian version of the course?
Hi, you need to level up volume next time pls. I'm in max level but its hard to hear still...
Hey Jordan! Quick question... I have severe GAD and possibly headache/vestibular issues causing migraines making anxiety worse. I am very sensitive to stress and anxiety elevated to severe levels very quickly. So a majority of my day I feel right/flight symptoms including, tingling, tension, blurred vision, headache, general pain, dizziness, etc. All these symptoms I tend to hyper focus on automatically which makes me more anxious (even though I know better than to think they’re dangerous symptoms). It’s very hard for me to let go of the fact that I’m anxious. So preventing anxiety in my current state is kind of difficult because I experience it so constantly. Do you recommend the same recovery strategy for me where I am utilizing coping mechanisms consistently to try and keep anxiety/stress down? My body seems to get out of control very quickly and it’s an endless cycle. I’m also trying CBT constantly but I get into a dysfunctional state lots due to these physical symptoms and it’s so difficult to change the way I feel.
Stretch and Move around. Change the diet and start doing fun shit. Also meditating
Guys start guided meditation to calm the mind and start yoga to calm down your body.
Have you ever had a client who experienced dpdr and tinnitus at the same time? (Just bought your course a few weeks ago, you’ve been helping me cope a lot man).
I do, do you also have it
Thats really deep knowledge.... it must have took hours to come up with this....
I have had derealization for almost 2 years and I haven’t really felt like the world isn’t real in a while but the weird eyesight of the derealization like being behind a screen is still here and I’m so tired of it and I feel like it’s never gonna go away like I’m just used to it by now why is that?
Yes man same. I almost ended my life 3 times because of this fucking shit
Faigornx I have hope because I’m pretty sure Jordan (The guy in the video) had derealization for around 2 years before he got out of it
Hey Jordan/ anybody else? Once i became derealized after a traumatic experiece i experieced something very scary. When i woke up on 2 seperate occasions i woke up to hearing a voice in my head saying my name. I'm unsure if this was the result of the constant stress and anxiety i was under. I no long get these but i am still very fearful all the time and on edge i will hear a voice or see something. Do you think hearing something may have been a byproduct of the anxiety caused by depersonaliztion? Does anybody have a similar experience? Do you have any tips on how to get out of this constant take of fear? Thank you! ps just bought youre course and starting it today!
I suggest talking to a professionals but I'm farily sure that is normal if you're stressing a lot. RIght when you wake up your brain is still not fully awake and sometimes you can see something, hear something or think something from a dream was real. Good luck
Hello Jordan! Hope you are doing well. I just wanted to share my story with DP and was hoping if you had any tips to help me. So around the beginning of the year last year, i started smoking a little bit of weed. I wasn't doing it often maybe once every few months and the strains were not strong as well. So when it was around june I was smoking with a friend and after a few minutes i was very overwhelmed with the high feeling. I had never felt like that and it was very scary. It was like i was in a dream and i didn't have control of what i was doing and i was stressed the whole night after that. But when i woke up in the morning i was completely fine and everything felt real. Couple of weeks passed by and i started feeling what i was feeling during the time i smoked and i began to worry. I was very confused and scared and i started researching about it until i came across your channel. First off i want to say thank you because you have helped me a lot. So after i learned that i had DP i tried to stay calm and hope it would go away. But a almost a year and a half has passed and it feels like not much has changed. I have also stopped thinking about my DP because i heard it helps but i feel the same as before. The stress and anxiety isn't there anymore but i still feel like I'm in a dream sometimes. I guess i got used to it over the course of this year but i still feel like i haven't recovered fully. I know that was a long read haha but i was hoping if you would just tell me anything that could help. Thanks
How are you now?
Man I had a very similar story, smoked weed had this really scary overwhelming feeling, was anxious for a few days after, then I kinda calmed down for like 2 weeks until I started thinking about it a lot again and got a panic attack. From then I've been mostly getting better and better, hope you're doing fine aswell.
@@lukav3255 how are you now
@@tmac8893 Much better, Around the time I wrote the comment it started gettin way better because I kinda came to terms with it and just accepted it. Now it still kinda comes here and there and its lingering but I can easily go a day without thinking about it and every time I do think about it its only for a few seconds and doesnt trigger flight or flight like it used to.
@@lukav3255 that’s good to hear did your disoriented memory get better too ?
audio is very low on the video, had to put my volume up a lot. but other than that good video. my problem is that i just forget to self regulate and relax every day and it hinders my recovery a lot. i just hate to do it all the time and see minor results from it. been recovering for like 9months and still expierence it fully... idk anymore
Axel Van Asten use the interval timer app. Yes I realized the audio was low after I uploaded haha
@Find Yourself dpdr/ anxiety are not permanent my friend. You will recover if you work for it. And if you feel like giving up, stay strong and watch every video of jordan or buy his cource..
@Find Yourself look. I haven't recovered yet so i would recomend you ask jordan himself. I can't really help
Can dpdr affect your memory
So let’s just say I struggle with hypoglycemia which causes me to get anxiety when my sugars are low. Does that mean that the hypoglycemia is why I get these outter body feelings. All day everyday 24/7. Cause I noticed I started getting these symptoms when I first smoked weed awhile back but then when I got on some benzos I got hypoglycemia. And it’s hard cause even when I eat I feel better but I still feel like I can’t recognize myself in the mirror or like my vision and hearing is all messed up. Please reply 😔
Everything is going to be okay :) You are never alone. Even though im not right beside you. I think about you, you're in my prayers.
I don’t know if I still have dpdr, I don’t get these dpdr „episodes“ like when I smoked (too much) weed for the first time ever and everything is out of proportion etc. But I do feel like everything I hear sound more realistic than what I see. Somehow it’s like a wall of glass in front of my eyes or something like that, I can’t really describe it.
How can I get rid of that ?
i get that is it’s like you don’t feel real right? Like you know you are but your brain doesn’t accept it
Tanya Denise yes sounds pretty accurate. The weird thing is the hearing, because it sounds extremely real but my vision doesn’t match that level I think.
The first step is to see a trauma specialist (licensed mental health professional that specialized in trauma).
Find Yourself I see some floaters and visual snow when I look in the sky and it’s very bright, or when it’s extremely dark
Find Yourself honestly, I don’t know. I don’t have these weird dpdr/panic attacks anymore and I also don’t really feel like in a dream.
But, like mentioned above, everything I hear sound kind of more real than what I see.
How did you get it ?
Hello people from yt,
(Im from the Netherlands, im sorry if my grammar or spelling is wrong :p)
So ive been Experiencing Derealisation for the past 2 months now and im almost fully recovered, the first month was scary as hell like i tought i was going crazy and stuff you know what i mean but since 3 weeks im (noticing) that im recovering from DR, im not fully recovered yet but i think that the best way to reduce DR is to accept it, the more you fight it the more heavy its gonna get, i know its hard but think of it as a Tree , yes a Tree, the more you come back and water it (the more you think about it) the more it will grow, if you dont water the tree (dont think about it) then it will corode away (ofcourse this will take time and you are gonna have some days where the feeling of dr is stronger then the day after) but once it is gone its gonna feel better
How are you now?
@@iscoma7179 good, btw my dr is gone
@@aghaazahmad4395 ok
@@aghaazahmad4395 how long did it take for you
@@iscoma7179 6 months, but the thing is everybody goed trough their own experience
Sir with your video I am getting better but i am having very scary intrusive thoughts and google upsets that you may have ocd so I lose all my control pls reply I am scared will this all pass and become normal
How are u now?if ur still having these thoughts check out Harris Harrington on UA-cam, he has videos talking about how to deal with these thoughts
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Does the way you got dp/dr effect how long you’ll have it? For example, if you got it from smoking, would you recover faster than someone who got it from childhood trauma?
smoking is only a trigger, the underlying mechanism is still the same regardless of how you believe you got it.
That's a good question. There isn't a concrete answer. It all depends on the person and how consistently they execute a body-based recovery strategy.
Whoa what a nice top!
sebastian langley ☺️
TH C doing great!
@Find Yourself As we age we are going to have to come to terms with the fact we are dying. If you loose a arm, a foot or become deaf, does this mean you would kill yourself for fear? Of course not thats sill, we just get on with it. Dont be so assumed by floaters, everyone gets them. The reason you see them so much is because like me you have become so anxious about your health that you are hyper aware of your body. You see everything as a means (reason) to proove that you are unwell. This is called Health anxiety, it is a confusion of the mind that is so powerful it causes us to think we are very unwell when we arnt. I have this disorder myself and know how hard it is to tell yourself your okay when your manifesting physcial symptoms. I usually get so bad that i end up paralysised and cant leave the house. i get lost in my mind and feel far away because of the fear. research ~"health anxiety." its a real diagnoses, it used to be call hypochondria.
Something that helps me is sitting in the sun for 30 min and enjoy the heat on your skin, getting baths and feeling the water on your skin, and other mind body connections. Your mind has become so detached that its good to focus on unifying the mind with body. That might sound weird or esotericy but people are both mind and body, when the mind fears the body you can detach. So spend time with your senses, hear music and close your eyes, do online self massages, float around in the bath, sit in the sun, hold ice cubes and relax.
Its like a saftey mechanism that the mind does to protect us when we are about to experiance real pain, your so focused on fear of death or being unwell that the mind automatically detaches from the body and then you get trapped in a never ending cycle of sensing your body is not well, then detaching, and on and on it goes. To over come this focus on the senses, and maybe pray to God if you are so inclined, Payer is a powerful tool to help us be at peace and awarness of our creator. It is profoundly relaxing.
I've had this 24/7 for 2 years in January it will be.
I feel hopeless. I read something about brain shutdown... it said..
Genetic makeup is one factor as some people have weaker enzymes that are need to return the brain back to normal functioning after a stressful episode.
Co-author Carolyn Manure added that she had found a relation in her own work between stress exposure and shrinkage in prefrontal grey matter.
I read all this and it increases my hopelessness.
how are u now?
Can we actually change the mind with nueroplasticity
Meep Meep yes
After overcoming depersonalization did you have anxiety and depression
Yes i have, are you feeling better?
Can u plz reply I got it 1 month ago I’m 13 and it’s rlly bad I need ur help plz
It’s kinda the same for me bro, i am also 13 and it is really hard to be so young and deal with it
How do you deal with it when at work it's really hard to be focused I feel so out of my body and in a dream especially when I'm at home it's blocking my life in a big way I'm on the meds I take alpraz and efexor 75 mg
hey bro im dealin w the same shit, my psychologist is recommending effexor and i looked it up and saw really negative things about it howd it work for you? and are u still dealing w this?
@@mikecampbell7535 hello still taking xr 150 mg but nextt month i wil go down sllowly to a 100 mg a day its not easy but will make ity work
dpdr will go away dont worry im alot better these days keep your head up and do alot off things that you don,t want to do it helps and motivation tapes are really good aswell
greetz kenny
When I work out it gets 10x worse?? Why is that??
same. you still struggling?
Working out requires the release of adrenaline and cortisol. It is a sympathetic nervous system stimulant.
Is fatigue part of anxiety
It can be.
Is schizophrenia hereditary? I have been dealing with dissociation and I’m scared that I could be schizophrenic but no one in my family has it.
Dissociation does not lead to anything worse if that makes you feel any better :)
@@vivi-uz7qq it truly does, thank you
You are not schizophrenic bro. Trust me, whatever you're going through does not get worst.
is it normal if I have the fear of illnesses?
Yes called health anxiety
This would be health anxiety.
bro, can I get shizophrenia. I am so afraid to get crazy. I don't want to get crazy. I want to live normal!
no you cant
Relentless God are you sure? I am feeling so weird and I am depressed.
Garry Lazovskis yes
No! DPDR does not turn into anything worse if it makes you feel any better :) How are you feeling now?
No you wont its just not possible at all
I'm doing all the right things and rarely have panic or anxiety much anymore ,but the dpdr is there and just wont go away. Is it usually the last thing to go ?
has it gone away yet?
@@Tyler22601 no . Anxiety and panic has returned. Back to 24/7 again.
@@nicoleduffy8221 sheeshhh. what do you think caused it to return?
@@Tyler22601 stress and overthinking
@@nicoleduffy8221 - I am sorry :( I am going through the same thing right now too :(
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Jordan idk what's going on but my volume is all the way up and I can barely hear this video 🤔 other videos sound loud when my volume is all the way up so idk why this one is hard to hear
His audio is low
In your other video you said to distract yourself but in this one your saying that’s not good??
Sorineee Xox you mean my video from 3 years?
So my really bad trigger spot is the shower how can I become comfortable in there without getting uncontrollably scared lol
Get oils that u like the smell of in the shower so every time u go in there u associate it with positive
So if you take a diaphramic breath every 10 minutes, you will 100% get out of DPDR?
B M That’s one part of recovery. But there is more. You have to live life as normal and also understand dpdr on a scientific level.
Find Yourself which self regulation method did you use to overcome dpdr
Find Yourself I heard working out consistently for weeks/ months specifically cardio like running helps w floaters