He thinks helping out around the house is a one time favor that he has to be asked to do. He doesn’t get what the Judge is saying because he really thinks that’s her job not his.
He's probably very visual and would benefit from seeing a large eraserboard listing all of the household duties and who has each task. That way he can see the board and be reminded of what his duties are without her having to say anything.
This man is slow. You can't convince me otherwise. He doesn't comprehend that as a grown man with children to support, you can't afford to have a seasonal job with no supplemental income. He doesn't understand that creating a child makes you financially responsible for it and that your woman should know the child exists. He doesn't comprehend that a grown woman shouldn't have to tell a grown man what needs to be done around the house routinely. He is a walking L just looking for a woman to take care of him. I would rather be single than have a burden like him. Goodness gracious.
You done already said it. I was about to say he really does seem slow in every since of the word and Literally. Please don’t marry they are on very different levels. Wow
“Yeah it’s been slow.” Sweetie, you had 4 children BEFORE (presumably) you met & decided to marry a woman with 6 kids. Irresponsible. Furthermore, as a woman with 6 kids, I’m not working a damn 2nd job to help a grown man provide. Potential don’t pay bills. Absolutely not. 😒
I don’t know ANY men in my circle that would have even considered marrying her in the first place. No shade, but I don’t know any brothers that would take on more than 2 kids that’s not their own kids.
@@bryanbeeman5256 That's YOUR circle. How many in YOUR circle take care of ALL the kids they've personally produced? I hope ALL. I'll go out on a limb and say that your circle is miniscule compared to the millions of men in the USA. All men do not think or behave alike. As a woman, I probably would think twice or fifty times about marrying a man with a lot of children, but the deciding factor would be the man's character and the depth of my love for him.
She got 6 kids, a special boyfriend, and your 4 kids she’s handling….she in school…and to top that, money is an issue as well… she’s gonna go off often if you not pitching in partner….. get these kids on a chore list schedule… train these older kids to cook… prep meals… get them to set out clothes… washing clothes schedule, and if it’s just her kids (in her house because I KNOW it’s not his), they got to pitch in…. She don’t wanna shack up, but ma’am he may not be your husband. He’s showing you what he’s going to do. And ma’am, if you love it, I like it for you and him…
Ladies, no matter how many children you have you have to understand that just because you are tall and wear pants you can’t call yourself a man. After six children, you should definitely know what a man looks like and how they behave. This is a boy. The trucking business is never been too slow., it’s a hard job and a hustle, but doable.
I do wonder what stimulated the attraction. He is quite handsome and shows intelligence and some ambition. But it just makes me wonder how their relationship started and developed.
@@zebo3531i said the same thing, that's a lot of kids, its all about money when you get with somebody with that many kids ain't no free time she always going to be busy
Yikes! Complete struggle love relationship. Both have dug holes so deep, they can’t help but be with each other which is probably why the judge gave her acceptance. Despite his obvious inability to financially provide and the fact THIS is the example of a man she wants her boys to model by choosing him speaks volumes about HER. So sad
It doesn't make sense to blend a family with 11 children total, if it's not feasible financially. She's the one with the most children actually living in the house. And, I bet she's the one who wanted to start a business together. You're making yourself unhappy. She's talking about what she wants to show her sons. She should have ensured he was ok mentally, physically, emotionally and financially and they were married before they moved in together. She's showing her sons it's ok to shack up with someone, and not be THE provider. And then she chooses to remain with him after he helped "some friends" have a baby, then he's stuck on child support taking care of another child. And, he's been incarcerated before? No wonder he can't keep a consistent check.
They are use to poverty so nothing matters to them its in their DNA I can't bare poverty I had one and after 5 years my husband bought me a dream house so I could give him a second child.
He probably got some violations on his record and his demeanor comes off as having a poor work ethic. Or he just doesn’t want to work, he seems emasculated. I think he is just lazy.
@@sirisaacmormont5445 Just a thought, but since he has a CDL maybe he could consider other sorts of related sources of income, like medical transportation. Even part-time Uber or Lyft, Door Dash, or whatever.
How old are the kids? With that many kids, some of them are probably able to help with something around the house. My brothers & I started helping Mom at ages 5, 6, & 7. I'm not sure how good we were, but we contributed something to the household.
Judge Toler realized explaining herself to the man was like beating a dead horse. 😂 This guy frustrated me just listening and then she's working things out with him to waste more of her time is crazy. I'll stay single before I financially support a man child.
Hi after this man took up with 6 kids you went out and cheat on him do the man you went out Will take you up with your 6 kids this man needs to cut and run out of this relationship my son he would be in serious trouble with me
Wait, he had sex with who in order to give them a baby now hes on child support? Why???? At least sign a contract before the act to protect yourself from being taken to court for support! On the other hand, this is how yall bringing children into the world?? Family just all out of whack.
Strongly disagree..... She seems responsible... He had a 3some and knew they wanted a kid.... Then got surprised when one got pregnant Her only issue is that she loves a dusty bum...
Everyone calling this guy slow… and that may be true… but here’s an extremely good question I want you to think about: If we as the commenters can see how slow he is… we can safely come to the conclusion she sees it as well. Let’s suppose that is indeed the case: she KNOWS he’s slow… Question: Why be with him?
Impairments and disabilities don't stop love. My opinion is that he thinks and acts like an adolescent. She is perhaps operating on the concept of potential and possibility. I do tend to think that there is perhaps some type of neurocognitive issue.
But y’all’s comments place you in theses types of predicaments or worse. Don’t justify giving someone a chance when you can literally see something is wrong…….
Having all those kids its hard for her to get and keep a relationship, he was probably the only 1 wanting something serious with her what man wants to deal with all those kids that's not his 🤷🏽♀️
Depending on the ages of all the kids train them to do their part by doing chores. He can show the boys and she can show the girls then the girls could show the boys. I know what the young lady was talking about. My 4 boys needed the guidance of their dad and it's been a nightmare for me for the last 5 years. My last 2 is twins and they will be 18 in two years. Ask the judge how can a woman start over are there resources out there for woman. I mainly just stayed home majority of the time and took care of my boys to make sure they had two parents in the home. But I don't know if I can keep it peaceful any more. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. So I just want peace we have been together 31 years. You can do the right thing for the wrong reasons if there is any such thing is that. It sounds stupid but that is what people say. I hope I can get guidance because my twins has gotten in trouble with the law and gotten their hands slap. Need help! Don't know if I want to be seen on TV but I need help
Is he checked out mentally and not corresponding and interacting with you and your children? Boys really need their dad to teach them boundaries and what to do with all of that testosterone. Big Brothers, Parks and Rec, even mental health centers have children/adolescent therapists with case managers to help. The boys may not what’s going on with you and your husband, but I bet they can feel the tension. Depending on where you live, there should be similar resources for the boys. BUT, hopefully unless abuse or infidelity is occurring, see if reconciliation is possible. I don’t know how disagreeable he and you are to those options. Family and individual therapy is recommended, but generally, people don’t seek that until it’s almost too late. Hope things work out for you guys, especially for the boys.
You can have all kinds of mental and emotional issues and still have kids, get pregnant or get someone pregnant…. You do know that, right? Like… their mental and emotional status doesn’t dictate whether they can have relations…
Shannon my sister. Train your boys to help around the house. How old are they? How were you guys doing before Shomma came along? And what would you do if he doesn't keep up and leave? I am the father of a blended family. Trust me, you got be wise and very prayerful to get it to work.
If y’all both get second jobs, who’s gonna raise y’all’s kids??? Not me… Let bruh pick up long distance loads (he’s going to be away from home multiple weeks at a time), or get more endorsements if you don’t have them all already, go back to the company you were with, temp services, since you are owner operators- network with other owner operators…Bruh, if you have to put owner operator business on hold, drive for a company until better opportunities arise. I don’t know how old all of these kids are, but unfortunately, at 15, they gonna have to start getting jobs…
To much DRAMA TO MUCH SMART TALK KNOW THE SIGNS SHE TO QUICK TO REACT TO THINGS HE'S QUICK TO SAY OK IM DO ME TO ACTUALLY I DON'T THINK THEY'RE MADE FOR RELATIONSHIP...
A whole entire liar! He had a threescore, got one pregnant and ended up on child support. Those were not lesbian's wanting a baby! He thinks she's dumb smh
She more so acts older than. I would think a 36-year-old man would be more mature. She, IMO, acts like a 40-year-old woman in a relationship with a 20-year-old man.
First off where is your babys daddy or daddies ??second bro you have four kids the LAST thing you should ne doing is trying to marry her you will ALWAYS have financial issues with this woman and youre on child support??? NO NO NO!!! as a trucker myself this is a hard business to start one engine blown one financially damaging move and its over and honestly i think its a case of i got six kids i need a man DUMB enough to marry me cause SHE knows that once he says i do? those six boys AS well as thise four girls are his responsibility as well and on his side women see all these kids and think hes too broke to deal with a relationship with them i wish them well but i would NEVER put myself in a situation like that cause love AINT GOING TO BE ENOUGH!!!
Hi my brother you knock your head how on earth you want to marry to woman with 6 kids I would like to know how baby father she have come on my brother you can't married this woman
@@cadillacdeville5828- then, he had an entanglement with the alphabet community that put him on child support… I mean, you can’t make this stuff up. But I would like to have more background on her to see where these 6 kids father(s) are. And why him??? She talk right, but something not adding up. Why him??? Maybe she just love Pookies
@@bryanbeeman5256 I kind of agree with you on this point. I think he's a tad bit higher than a pookie though. He's a teenager in demeanor. You're right. Something doesn't add up. I for sure don't get it.
He thinks helping out around the house is a one time favor that he has to be asked to do. He doesn’t get what the Judge is saying because he really thinks that’s her job not his.
He drove me crazy on that!
He's probably very visual and would benefit from seeing a large eraserboard listing all of the household duties and who has each task. That way he can see the board and be reminded of what his duties are without her having to say anything.
Judge Toler is stunningly pretty 😊
NEVER, EVER go into a relationship on " Potential "!
This man is slow. You can't convince me otherwise. He doesn't comprehend that as a grown man with children to support, you can't afford to have a seasonal job with no supplemental income. He doesn't understand that creating a child makes you financially responsible for it and that your woman should know the child exists. He doesn't comprehend that a grown woman shouldn't have to tell a grown man what needs to be done around the house routinely. He is a walking L just looking for a woman to take care of him. I would rather be single than have a burden like him. Goodness gracious.
You done already said it. I was about to say he really does seem slow in every since of the word and Literally. Please don’t marry they are on very different levels. Wow
All too common unfortunately
She has 6 kids. Not too many men are going to sign up for that…
@@bryanbeeman5256 good thing she just needs 1.
@@bryanbeeman5256you'd be surprised a real man doesn't worry about all of that
“Yeah it’s been slow.” Sweetie, you had 4 children BEFORE (presumably) you met & decided to marry a woman with 6 kids. Irresponsible. Furthermore, as a woman with 6 kids, I’m not working a damn 2nd job to help a grown man provide. Potential don’t pay bills. Absolutely not. 😒
With that many kids you can't have an inconsistent paycheck. They need to eat and thing no matter what
I don’t know ANY men in my circle that would have even considered marrying her in the first place. No shade, but I don’t know any brothers that would take on more than 2 kids that’s not their own kids.
@@bryanbeeman5256 That's YOUR circle. How many in YOUR circle take care of ALL the kids they've personally produced? I hope ALL. I'll go out on a limb and say that your circle is miniscule compared to the millions of men in the USA. All men do not think or behave alike. As a woman, I probably would think twice or fifty times about marrying a man with a lot of children, but the deciding factor would be the man's character and the depth of my love for him.
That's a village.
This case has DRAINED ME!!! 😩 He is slowwww, and it gave me a headache. 🤦🏽♀️ The slowness has rubbed off on her too!!!
11 kids ? Damn.Kids need to be taken care of regardless and it's up to the guardians to make sure no matter HOW.
Ikr 😮. I only have 2 and they are in tbere 30's. Hallelujah 🙌. I could not imagine 11 😱
She got 6 kids, a special boyfriend, and your 4 kids she’s handling….she in school…and to top that, money is an issue as well… she’s gonna go off often if you not pitching in partner….. get these kids on a chore list schedule… train these older kids to cook… prep meals… get them to set out clothes… washing clothes schedule, and if it’s just her kids (in her house because I KNOW it’s not his), they got to pitch in…. She don’t wanna shack up, but ma’am he may not be your husband. He’s showing you what he’s going to do. And ma’am, if you love it, I like it for you and him…
Ladies, no matter how many children you have you have to understand that just because you are tall and wear pants you can’t call yourself a man. After six children, you should definitely know what a man looks like and how they behave. This is a boy. The trucking business is never been too slow., it’s a hard job and a hustle, but doable.
He doesn't need to be told and the children should be involved in household chores.
He ain't got good sense...PERIOD. 😮😮😮
8:51 lady in audience was ready to clap 😂😂😂😂😂
He's missing the point. Household and children need care and maintenance everyday. He should be on auto pilot with the household.
I wonder what she could've possibly saw in this guy🤔 sounds like theyll have a nice miserable life together 😂
I do wonder what stimulated the attraction. He is quite handsome and shows intelligence and some ambition. But it just makes me wonder how their relationship started and developed.
@@sereneamani1713what makes her not attractive???
I wonder what he saw in a woman with six kids?!? she really must of put that thang on him
@@baesoo3601six damn kids
@@zebo3531i said the same thing, that's a lot of kids, its all about money when you get with somebody with that many kids ain't no free time she always going to be busy
He's slow. I listened at the end. He's slower than I originally stated. Dang.
She got 12 kids plain & simple. He will never be the man that u want ur boys to be. She’s playing “build-a-bae”. Sad
Yikes! Complete struggle love relationship. Both have dug holes so deep, they can’t help but be with each other which is probably why the judge gave her acceptance. Despite his obvious inability to financially provide and the fact THIS is the example of a man she wants her boys to model by choosing him speaks volumes about HER. So sad
Give those six kids chores that rotate every week.
It doesn't make sense to blend a family with 11 children total, if it's not feasible financially. She's the one with the most children actually living in the house. And, I bet she's the one who wanted to start a business together. You're making yourself unhappy. She's talking about what she wants to show her sons. She should have ensured he was ok mentally, physically, emotionally and financially and they were married before they moved in together. She's showing her sons it's ok to shack up with someone, and not be THE provider. And then she chooses to remain with him after he helped "some friends" have a baby, then he's stuck on child support taking care of another child. And, he's been incarcerated before? No wonder he can't keep a consistent check.
They are use to poverty so nothing matters to them its in their DNA I can't bare poverty I had one and after 5 years my husband bought me a dream house so I could give him a second child.
A truck driver who can't find work......that makes no sense.
He probably got some violations on his record and his demeanor comes off as having a poor work ethic. Or he just doesn’t want to work, he seems emasculated. I think he is just lazy.
It does when you’re a contractor and need companies to agree to sign with you for work.
Truck drivers also need contacts,contracts, network and such.
- There was a HUGE trucking company that just went bankrupt
@@sirisaacmormont5445 Just a thought, but since he has a CDL maybe he could consider other sorts of related sources of income, like medical transportation. Even part-time Uber or Lyft, Door Dash, or whatever.
@@sereneamani1713 He obviously should be talking to you.
Such silly answer she came from a large family of 11 so she produced 6 you are broke and overloaded that's a crisis
They got too many kids. No amount of money will take care of them.
He shld've fought that child support. They wanted a baby. He gave them 1. That's y legal paperwork is so important👍🏼👍🏼
He can't... He willingly participated
@@drewhaynes1874 Yes. He cld.
There was no legal paperwork involved
How u decide because u think she cheating u not gon pay the bills wow
What do them children do around the house?
How old are the kids? With that many kids, some of them are probably able to help with something around the house. My brothers & I started helping Mom at ages 5, 6, & 7. I'm not sure how good we were, but we contributed something to the household.
I was wondering also how are the kids too. I'm with you in that comment. They can help out too.
That’s what I was thinking
Why have a bunch of kids and cant afford to have them
Judge Toler realized explaining herself to the man was like beating a dead horse. 😂 This guy frustrated me just listening and then she's working things out with him to waste more of her time is crazy. I'll stay single before I financially support a man child.
Hi after this man took up with 6 kids you went out and cheat on him do the man you went out Will take you up with your 6 kids this man needs to cut and run out of this relationship my son he would be in serious trouble with me
Good looking woman. I hope the best for both of them
Sounds like she got a big son
Hi believe the kids he not father so that why he not helping if that the case he leaves this woman alone
Wait, he had sex with who in order to give them a baby now hes on child support? Why???? At least sign a contract before the act to protect yourself from being taken to court for support! On the other hand, this is how yall bringing children into the world?? Family just all out of whack.
Does he seem like someone who would think of signing a contract beforehand? IJS
I think I missed where the father of the boys were for her to make the moves she made
It wasn't mentioned. They could be deceased or incarcerated. Many reasons.
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say neither one of them can do any better than each other.
I disagree
Strongly disagree..... She seems responsible...
He had a 3some and knew they wanted a kid.... Then got surprised when one got pregnant
Her only issue is that she loves a dusty bum...
Me too.
@@sereneamani1713why?
She's beautiful and level headed but the chance of someone marrying a woman with so many kids is unlikely.
Everyone calling this guy slow… and that may be true… but here’s an extremely good question I want you to think about:
If we as the commenters can see how slow he is… we can safely come to the conclusion she sees it as well. Let’s suppose that is indeed the case: she KNOWS he’s slow… Question: Why be with him?
Impairments and disabilities don't stop love. My opinion is that he thinks and acts like an adolescent. She is perhaps operating on the concept of potential and possibility. I do tend to think that there is perhaps some type of neurocognitive issue.
'Opposites attract' is a very true statement in this case. She's beauty and brains. He's nice looking and they both have business ideas.
But y’all’s comments place you in theses types of predicaments or worse. Don’t justify giving someone a chance when you can literally see something is wrong…….
Having all those kids its hard for her to get and keep a relationship, he was probably the only 1 wanting something serious with her what man wants to deal with all those kids that's not his 🤷🏽♀️
Depending on the ages of all the kids train them to do their part by doing chores. He can show the boys and she can show the girls then the girls could show the boys. I know what the young lady was talking about. My 4 boys needed the guidance of their dad and it's been a nightmare for me for the last 5 years. My last 2 is twins and they will be 18 in two years. Ask the judge how can a woman start over are there resources out there for woman. I mainly just stayed home majority of the time and took care of my boys to make sure they had two parents in the home. But I don't know if I can keep it peaceful any more. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. So I just want peace we have been together 31 years. You can do the right thing for the wrong reasons if there is any such thing is that. It sounds stupid but that is what people say. I hope I can get guidance because my twins has gotten in trouble with the law and gotten their hands slap. Need help! Don't know if I want to be seen on TV but I need help
Is he checked out mentally and not corresponding and interacting with you and your children? Boys really need their dad to teach them boundaries and what to do with all of that testosterone. Big Brothers, Parks and Rec, even mental health centers have children/adolescent therapists with case managers to help. The boys may not what’s going on with you and your husband, but I bet they can feel the tension. Depending on where you live, there should be similar resources for the boys. BUT, hopefully unless abuse or infidelity is occurring, see if reconciliation is possible. I don’t know how disagreeable he and you are to those options. Family and individual therapy is recommended, but generally, people don’t seek that until it’s almost too late. Hope things work out for you guys, especially for the boys.
@@bryanbeeman5256 Such a thoughtful response!
He put the S in stupid.
I want the back stories on all the kids. Yikes eleven children?
One of favorite couples on DC
Hi pretty❤
he kinda slow for a man with 4+ kids
You can have all kinds of mental and emotional issues and still have kids, get pregnant or get someone pregnant…. You do know that, right? Like… their mental and emotional status doesn’t dictate whether they can have relations…
@@bryanbeeman5256 I think the point was the "responsibility".
He ‘s slow and cheating?
Ex convict 😮 no wonder he’s ex ghosted him with all them kids.
She blamed him for her attitude
Incarcerated!! 👀
Shannon my sister. Train your boys to help around the house. How old are they? How were you guys doing before Shomma came along? And what would you do if he doesn't keep up and leave? I am the father of a blended family. Trust me, you got be wise and very prayerful to get it to work.
If y’all both get second jobs, who’s gonna raise y’all’s kids??? Not me… Let bruh pick up long distance loads (he’s going to be away from home multiple weeks at a time), or get more endorsements if you don’t have them all already, go back to the company you were with, temp services, since you are owner operators- network with other owner operators…Bruh, if you have to put owner operator business on hold, drive for a company until better opportunities arise.
I don’t know how old all of these kids are, but unfortunately, at 15, they gonna have to start getting jobs…
Maybe he not the right man 4 her / her boys...
He would be like her seventh child.
Hi just a care free man have no responsibility
Judge know she be looking cute 🥰
How did men get so sensitive?
She got 6 boys hell no !!!
My uncle has been an operator/owner for a while and I know others. What's his problem?
To much DRAMA
TO MUCH SMART TALK
KNOW THE SIGNS
SHE TO QUICK TO REACT TO THINGS HE'S QUICK TO SAY OK IM DO ME TO ACTUALLY I DON'T THINK THEY'RE MADE FOR RELATIONSHIP...
Smh... he's slow 😢
He has to be slow
How old are the kids
Seems to me they are putting to much pressure on each other
Lmao
To me.. he a Lil suspect 😕
A whole entire liar! He had a threescore, got one pregnant and ended up on child support. Those were not lesbian's wanting a baby! He thinks she's dumb smh
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Hi she looks older than him
She more so acts older than. I would think a 36-year-old man would be more mature. She, IMO, acts like a 40-year-old woman in a relationship with a 20-year-old man.
First off where is your babys daddy or daddies ??second bro you have four kids the LAST thing you should ne doing is trying to marry her you will ALWAYS have financial issues with this woman and youre on child support??? NO NO NO!!! as a trucker myself this is a hard business to start one engine blown one financially damaging move and its over and honestly i think its a case of i got six kids i need a man DUMB enough to marry me cause SHE knows that once he says i do? those six boys AS well as thise four girls are his responsibility as well and on his side women see all these kids and think hes too broke to deal with a relationship with them i wish them well but i would NEVER put myself in a situation like that cause love AINT GOING TO BE ENOUGH!!!
Hi my brother you knock your head how on earth you want to marry to woman with 6 kids I would like to know how baby father she have come on my brother you can't married this woman
HE HAS 5
His resume seems to be soooooooooooooo much worse.,… this Pookie and she in love with him. She’s not going anywhere.
@@cadillacdeville5828- then, he had an entanglement with the alphabet community that put him on child support… I mean, you can’t make this stuff up. But I would like to have more background on her to see where these 6 kids father(s) are. And why him??? She talk right, but something not adding up. Why him??? Maybe she just love Pookies
@@bryanbeeman5256 I kind of agree with you on this point. I think he's a tad bit higher than a pookie though. He's a teenager in demeanor. You're right. Something doesn't add up. I for sure don't get it.
UNTIL SHE SUBMIT TO HER HUSBAND AND HUMBLES HERSELF THE BLESSINGS WILL NOT BE THERE..PUT GOD FIRST EVERYTHING ELSE FALLS IN PLACE IN JESUS NAME 🙏