My dad passed in 2003 and I too inherited his tools. Same box. Unfortunately I’m not as good using them as he could. I was a lazy kid that just didn’t soak in what he did when using them. YT helps with minor projects/problems in picking up tips. But the tools make me think of him.
31 years ago I built a 12 foot tall sunflower with the most wonderful gal I’ve ever met. She and our unborn baby were killed in a car accident less than a month later. The sunflower still stands strong along a state highway 650 miles from where I live but I can still occasionally check in on it on google maps street view which makes me happy. My wife isn’t as tolerant as your husband about reminiscing so I don’t have anyone to share those good memories with. You just have to try and have faith that someday maybe we’ll all understand WHY these bad things happen and that there will be a great reunion. This life is short compared to the big picture but we still need to make the best of it. I understand the ache your heart is going through. Try and keep your spirits up🙏 🌻
God I hate having that feeling where you feel misunderstood and alone. I get that feeling all the time KNOWING how many people that love me surround me and then there’s people like you that have been through similar situations! So so incredibly sorry you lost her and in such a tragic way. Life is short and sometimes so cruel. My best way to cope these days is get joy and satisfaction out of little things like that. If you have a picture of that sunflower I would LOVE to see it. Jojonico1992@gmail.com is my business email most of the time but I would love to see that. Ironic enough Kale loved sunflowers and his funeral was insanely lit up with yellow from all the sunflower. Your story made my day ❤
@@JojoSnow01My sweet Jenny loved sunflowers too but also loved blue hydrangeas. She has only been gone for two months but I keep cutting hydrangeas and putting them in vases to surround photos of her. Sometimes I even talk to her saying “ these are for you honey, your favorite blue hydrangeas “ So no, you’re not crazy ( either that or we both are ! )
Jojo I think having your deceased husband's tools and such around is a coping mechanism you have. I think our brains can only tolerate so much grief at a time. To have his things around maybe gives you a sense of comfort and stability while you heal. I still have things of my daughter Lauren and she died 11 years ago. It just takes a while to heal your heart and your brain will only allow so much change to happen in order to keep you functioning. That's the way it is for me anyway. My heart aches for you. Take care. Jim
My young wife lost her 51/2 year battle with breast cancer in May of 2006. The grief grows less over the years, but I still experience “triggers” from time-to-time. A song that we both loved is the most common. I used to try to bury my grief, but talking about it, letting it hit me and pass over me is a lot better than stuffing it inside. Our Heavenly Father’s strength, peace, and, comfort to you as you go through this journey.
My dad passed away 20 years ago. He was a carpenter his whole life and had tons of tools that once he died were passed on to me because I followed in his footsteps and am a carpenter as well. Every time I use them I reflect on the times we worked together and used those tools and brings back fond memories of our time together. Hold them close and remember the good times you had doing those projects. God bless.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you keeping his things close to you and not organizing his tools. It brings you comfort, healing and happiness. Continued prayers of healing for you.
Tools are part of the soul because they were handled and used by the loved one. When my Mother's Father passed, we left his workshop in place and continued to use it. You are doing what your heart says is right.
I am so sorry that your husband passed JoJo, I can not imagine how you feel, but hoarding stuff Is a form of healing and holding on to the memories that you both shared. And there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever.. God bless you, keep the memories alive. We all enjoy your wonderful videos. You are very inspiring..❤
My son passed away a year and 5 months ago at 37 and he had his own shop on my farm near my truck shop. He was very neat and organized, the exact opposit of me. When i use his shop i put everything the same way he left it which takes a bit of effort on my part cause like i said im a slob. My tools on the other hand are like Kale's but if someone moves something of mine i cant find it. What im trying to say is if you leave his stuff the way it is youll learn his filing system, even though it doesnt make sense where things are put it seems to work. As for my sons stuff , ill keep it till i cant anymore and give it to nephews and grandsons that way its always in the family. He also has a 95 mustang and a 14 year old daughter that wants it so ill be holding it back for15 years or so before she gets it.
There is NOTHING wrong with you keeping your late husband’s tools,truck,motorcycle etc. He was such a big part of your life and that is a good way to always remember him by. 3 years is not a long time, you have to do what you have to do so that it doesn’t eat your soul up. Very proud of you that you can even talk about him without breaking down completely!! 👍🏻
I lost my wife of 36 years on June 25 2022. With the exception of what daughters and granddaughters have taken nearly all of her clothes are still in the closet and dresser. I have said I need to give it to charity, but so far have not been able to. When you spoke about woodworking it really got my attention as I am a woodworker myself. The things I made for her are still in the house and I will never part with them. I have been trying to find an old chest to put memories of her in but so far I have not found anything suitable. I guess I will have to build one. God bless you and keep your chin up.
Sorry to hear about your wife. I lost my wife two years ago as well after 38 years of marriage. I have not given anything away including her clothes. I'm a woodworker as well and the stuff I made her is still displayed. Please keep strong and your life time memories a live in your heart 😊😊
Thank you for taking the time to write this! I can’t even begin to imagine your pain. When kids and everything are involved you hold a lot of grief for them as well. It absolutely kills me for Kales parents. I too have been searching for a chest too! Like a memorial chest to put his stuff in but I’m the same way! Nothing I’ve found is good enough! Hahaha I need something rustic, maybe old, good quality, and awesome.
@@JojoSnow01 I really feel for my mother in law as she has lost all 3 of her children. They all went in reverse order of their ages. We speak often. Sometimes we wonder why we are still here. It is simple, God still has a purpose for us here on earth. Enjoy life to its fullest.
Lost a son almost 14 years ago. It's been a journey for sure. I do many things to keep his memory alive. I never let anyone "tell me how to grieve." He was my son. Everyone grieves different. You will know what to do when you get in touch with your inner wisdom. Sit with your feelings, however uncomfortable they may be. Keep asking yourself. And as others here have said, above all things, be kind to yourself. Losing a loved one simply sucks. You are helping so many others by keeping open and honest. I admire you so much for that. Remembering and honoring is just what we do. Grief is the price of love. All the best to you!
This made my day. I am incredibly close to his parents and the pain must be excruciating at times because of how unnatural and wrong this loss is. So sorry you lost him. You seem very level headed and down to earth about everything. I am still coming to terms with staying logical and grounded when sitting with my feelings. It makes me absolutely sick with anger and frustration sometimes. I can’t help it yet
@@JojoSnow01JoJo, understanding your feelings of grief, of anger and everything else is normal. People process their grief differently. Leaving Kale's tools like they were is fine. Some people would not be able to face seeing them again and again. You expressed good memories about using them and how you helped him set up the shop. Perhaps one way of processing your grief is concentrate on remembering the good memories the tools inspire. As you do that, you may find the tools bring more positive than bad memories. Prayers and healing from a fellow Kansan. 🙏🏻♥️
It is what it is, Jo Jo. My philosophy is that you can love someone forever even if they are no longer in your life. I have things that are associated with people I haven’t seen in decades. Some of those things are pictures of the physical objects just so I can retain the memory without the things taking up space in my house. Whatever you do, realize that you have your own timeframe and you don’t need to do anything on the timeframe mentioned by others. Thank you for being open and honest. And I’m glad you are in a place that lets you process your loss at your own pace. Take care.
Tools are a great connection to someone who worked with their hands. Using my grandfathers or father in laws tools keeps that connection for me. I think it’s a healthy way to keep their memories close.
It's baby steps, you take baby steps one step at a time. So God's telling you not to sell those tools is tools is a part of you so it makes your tools. Very special. We never forget and the pain is always there. His workshop this part of you and we never forget we never forget the memories. So be blessed and one day at a time and take baby steps.❤❤
My dad’s been gone for 20 years after passing suddenly and unexpectedly but it seems like yesterday. I have his tools and whenever I need a tool I don’t have I go to his tool box and it’s usually there. You can’t ever forget a loved one, you just have to live on and do the best you can to live a good life and it appears you are doing just that. 🙏🏼
My 19 year old daughter passed august 22, 2020. I was,by her side for 2 days pleading with god to not do,this to take me instead…all to no,avail. Since then I cannot even think about having anyone touch her things. She has bookcases, 3 of them with all,her books. She is voracious when it comes to her books. I still refer to her as still being here. I have not been able to use a past tense when it comes to,her. No body can touch or suggest to do,something about her things. I’ve been in therapy for along time. Originally for ptsd from my 20 years on active duty in the army. Then for grief counseling also. All her tack for her horse Gypsy and her colt Annabelle is here in my house. Some of it has never been used. It keeps me connected with her. No one touch it, don’t suggest it’s time to do something with it. It will be when and if that I will decide, if ever. I enjoy your channel so much. It’s real and there is the connection of loss. Hang in there. Your great!
My dad died in 1968, my brother in law high graded them and took the big spendy tools as i was almost a middle aged teenager, dad was a working boss in a welder-fabricator -specialty shop. Anyway: i still have all his original tools and many of the ones he himself designed and made to do specialty work and welding and fabrication. I still show them off to bewildered mechanics and woodworkers who have never seen tools like he made. 😊, he was my world as a kid. When he died an angry young man was born. ( billy joel song) 😢, but i still connect to him when 😮 i see and use those tools, a part of him is in those tools AND in me.. when i hold them,,, he never died and he gave me a lasting legacy of work, and memory. Peace to you girl! Walk the walk- nothing absolutely nothing, happens in Gods world by mistake. Peace❤
Lost my husband October 2021- there are things of his I still cannot bring myself to touch. He was a mechanic, his tools are still where he left them. All his bathroom stuff is still as he left it as well, & his dirty clothes are still in the hamper. I can’t bring myself to move anything. It hurts sooo bad. Thank you so much for sharing, I don’t feel like it’s just me. 🥰🙏
No one else can, or should, tell you how to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way and in my estimation, you are dealing with everything the best way you can. No one could ask for anything else. I am proud of you Jojo! YOU ARE an AWESOME PERSON! 🤗😘🤗
OMG THE DIRTY CLOTHES THING! I’ve made a TikTok on this before and I might do it again because you made me feel better about this. I have a bag that I sealed up with his last few dirty shirts in it. So freaking WEIRD but you made me feel less alone about it. I can’t bring myself to wash them because that’s the last trace of him wearing his clothes FOREVER. Thank you so much for commenting. I hate that we have this in common so glad we’re not alone though.
@@bobschmidt3610I appreciate you so much. ❤ seriously this is just as good as therapy when I can’t stomach talking to a stranger. Sharing is so healing
I just replaced the power cord on my late Dads circular saw he bought in '53. In the end I had to totally dismantle the thing to get at what needed to be replaced. I noticed that he had done this same job at some point and had been avoiding doing it a second time by the number of cable ties to keep it serviceable. It was in end by far the best time I've spent with my Dad since he was alive. You'll find over time the need to connect with these items will change to desire. It goes to show how worthwhile these feelings are. It is, what it is and don't let that change. These things hug your soul. XO! Thank you for letting me share this with anyone who needs to hear it.
There’s nothing wrong holding on to things or revisiting memories of someone you have loved. It is a tribute of your love to that person. Here is a note I wrote to a close friend that went through a loss. Everyone has losses and will have losses in their life, and everyone deals with it differently. Time….friends….and grieving will help but it will only help. It is always going to hurt any time you think about your loss, and the hurt will eventually ease up, but it will always be there. Life isn’t always fair, and it never will be, but life goes on no matter what. The best thing you can do in life is to love others, and remember those that have also loved you. That love is precious, it is something you should never forget or let go of. Like life, you have to move forward, and in doing so, remember to love others like the ones you have lost.
Dear Jojo, i kept the old lumber tools from my father although i have my own. He passed away 2003. One of my Sisters is a good wood worker and she retired last year. So i took the old tools and his tool cabinet drove to her 300miles and put it on the wall of her shop. Now it is her turn to do keep them and remember him, when she is building something.....It is much easier to keep something in hands and in mind to live a new Day, than put it into a shrine . Kind regards from Germany, Rudi👍🍀❤
My Dad is 82. When he knew his time was starting to shut down, he passed down a lot of his tools and equipment to people he knew could use and take care of whatever he gave them. But I think what you're doing is a great way to memorialize him.❤
Jordan , have been a mechanic for 39 years, I have thousands of dollars of tools, I have lost a lot of Mentors , friends and family along the way some of my most treasured tools are hand me downs given to me by people who are no longer here or widows and family of people who meant a lot to me, I work out of a service truck and pick up a wrench or a hammer and remember whose it was , sometimes Ill discuss the job with them, they are still a part of who. I am and helped me get here. God Bless You, Memories are treasures TJ
I love how you are keeping it the way it is. I believe it is healthy to do it this way. I've been down that road. Lost my Wife 20 Years ago. The Memories help you sustain your Life. Be strong.
My Dad passed away 25 years ago, I still carry his tools and a pair of his coveralls with me everywhere I go, especially when I go on my offroad adventures. He was a mechanic by trade and taught me how to fix things so, it's comforting to know his tools are there to fix what ever needs fixing. My Mom kept his work truck, car and a pair of his coveralls and jacket hanging up in her closet until she passed 18 years later. I really miss them both.
Dearest Jojo one of greatest skills you possess is your ability to guide others through their grief by sharing how you deal with your own you are such an amazing spirit!! I am a tool guy Leslie was a seamstress/knitter and I have kept all her stuff organized exactly the way she kept it! God Bless You guys!!🤗🥰
Remembering a lost loved one seems to be reflected in personal items. Cherish the moment and reflect. I lost my Brother 10 years younger. Seems every day brings back a memory of something we did together. I think the feelings will never go away, nor should they. Wish you peace of heart.
My dad passed away 43 years ago and I'm still using his tools to do things around the house. It puts a smile on my face and in my heart when I can put them to good use. Hang in there! There will come a time when you will be able to think of your late husband and it will not bring you the hurt it does today!
This is your way of dealing and healing Jordan and there is no wrong or right way. Just do you, and you will get through it, do what feels right to you and makes you feel good inside. Blessings to you 🙏
Jojo, Ive been a mechanic/welder for over 40 years, retired, I have acuminated tools over the years(some I only used once or twice), I know where approximately where everthing is, and all my drawers in my various boxes look just like that, Don't change a thing..... Take care
My wife passed away 6 years ago this month. I have also saved many things that were dear to her. My advice to you is, it is important to be true to yourself and your own feelings. Grief is a process that is an individual journey for each person going through it. No one can tell another person how to process the pain you feel. I have found time will never take away the feelings you have about your spouse but it will lighten the load that you currently feel. Bless you on your journey and my you find peace within that journey. I enjoy your posts and believe it will help others heal in their journey.
@UCXlMmwbOZJql84irhM_FBfA Jojo, I am a 77 year old man and had been with my wife for 36 years at the time of her death. Over the last 8 years I have lost my Mother, Father, and Wife so I have had my share of grieving. I have found that at times when you least expect it, emotions will surface that you thought you were beyond. I have learned to just allow that to happen and never be ashamed of your reactions. When you have spent any amount of time with someone you love it hurts deeply to lose them. Give yourself permission to allow the emotion to pour forth from you in what ever form that it take. It is all part of the process and embrace it without guilt. You are a brave person to share your personal journey with the world. Blessings to you.
It's called healing.. keep moving forward one day at time.. it's not called hoarding, it's called a memory. everything you have it's got a good memory attached to it. Keep it... Have a blessed day...
I’m gonna tell you one of the biggest things probably ever, but that is a sign of healing. It’s a sign of you accepting what happened and you keeping memories of something that made you happy in this world and will keep making you happy every time you remember them you’ll get sad but most of it. You’ll be happy about the memories that you get, and those things in your life will always be something to remember the things that keep you happy and remember the best of what you kept you deer. Never forget that.❤❤❤
She's been gone almost 6yrs and when i see my daughter playing with my newborn grandson, I look around and see her with my daughter. Its not hoarding its just cherishing all those wonderful memories and it hurts not being able to make more. "Make every moment a memory" I always say........and umm well thank you!!
It's part of your healing process JoJo and you're doing great. His tools are a very good way to remember he's watching over you. You're not weird you do as you see fit 😊😊😊😊😊
I think it’s wonderful that you’re still using his tools and even finding excuses to use them. You are honoring his memory and the life you had together. My wife Jenny didn’t have any tools but I’ve left all of her clothes where they are and the things she has on her dresser are still in place. It’s only been two months since she passed away and I’m in pain all the time it seems. Thanks for posting another one of these videos- it’s been too long since you have. I can only watch you cold plunge so many times although the CLAAS video you did was EPIC !!! Much love and respect ❤
I love your videos and shorts. I lost my wife 13 years ago. You grief the way you want. Everyone is different. Not the same recipe applies to everyone. I still have bad days, but do have good ones as well. It's strange, the same memory one day will make me smile, then on another day, will bring me to tears. I've been blessed that she left me with so so many beautiful loving memories. She was and still is my soul mate. Hang in there, our lost loved ones would want us to. ❤ From Winnipeg Canada
Jojo, I completely understand this. My father was the exact same way. Very similar situation with my grief process with his loss. You grieve your way. There is no right or wrong. It is healthy to do as you are. Your loyalty to your husband is also admirable.
You are doing so well and handling your new life just look at all the blessings you have to look forward to and reflect on you great memories. Go enjoy life
Never ever forget or move on. It’s a piece of who you are, we heal thru remembrance and by honoring those we love with our actions and the memories we share with others. You’re doing well, and you are moving forward. Lost my best friend, my mom, my birth father, and three riding bros in a three year period, those that were cremated, I carry with me in an necklace urn I wear 24/7, my best friend is in a motorcycle, my mom in a cross. Another one of my bests died in April and deciding what urn to put him in. Stay up JoJo and what you’re doing is healthy for your healing. 🙏🙏🥰
Jojo my wife of 29 yrs died of pancreatic cancer 10 years ago in December. I spent 4 years in a zombie world. When that ended I realized I made a major mess of my life. I'm cleaning it up. I wish I could tell you more. I know how important it is to just have someone be there listening. I have not watched TV in years. I look at news on my phone , stumbled on a beautiful woman and thought I would listen.I really could tell you more.
Everytime you look at or use his tools he's smiling down on you It brings happy thoughts you two had together Enjoy what life you had together and with the new man in your life He's looking down at you seeing you happy and smiling
Surviving is actually pretty hard for us all. Memories is what keeps those people immortal for us. We all handle it in our own way. Tools. Literally get out a legal pad and write down what you have. Think about sorting the stuff by function. Plumbing stuff all goes together. Electrical goes with electrical. Jobs throw a curve to that as some jobs take certain mixes of tools. Most importantly- put stuff back!!!! Try and be organized. There is nothing worse than knowing you have a particular tool, but suddenly when you need it again you can’t find it. None of us are organized enough. And absolutely take care of your tools. Their puppies are expensive-and buying them 2-3 times is no way to operate! Don’t be in a rush-with organizing them, or with forgetting someone who has died. It may be literally decades for you. And just remember you’re not disrespecting them by doing what you need to do. The memories are there to help you get through the difficult times. Your husband taught you many skills for a reason. He wanted you to be able to get along by yourself if you needed to. Clearly, you learned a lot so you’re not some helpless female! Press on!
Lost my wife October 2021. Exact same is happening to me. She was an incredible seamstress. I’ve passed her best Bernina machines to a daughter-in-law and a niece, so far. It’s very, very hard to touch her stuff, though. But, knowing that her legacy will live on at least in a few more generations is comforting for sure. Grief is a lasting punch in the gut and of an intensity commensurate to that of your love for who you lost. Best I can tell you and others is do not suppress grief. Let it process through. That way you’ll better retain all the memories that will eventually dissolve the bitter and retain the sweet.
Keep doing what your heart tells you to do regarding your late husband and all the grief. We all grieve and heal differently and taking care of yourself is what’s most important!…..On one of my many grief journeys, someone once told me that the hurt and pain that we experience with the loss of a loved one should almost never be hidden because ALL the hurt and pain shows how much love there was and still is for that loved one! Blessings on your journey young lady!🙏
We all are different and we move forward on our own way. It's good to have his tools and use them as I am sure he would want you to. You'll know when you're ready to organize or get rid of things whatever you need to do in your life and on your time. I lost a wife to cancer and I am now remarried and I am happy with my new life. She had told me to keep on living and to be happy and not give up. Again we are all different. I'm so glad you are married to a good guy in Zach. Y'all have a good thing and you will always think about your other husband but I am glad you have Zach so you have someone who loves you. That makes life better.
Jojo, please do what YOU would do. I haven’t been through what you have. Just please do what you feel like you need to do. I love that you are sharing with us! I would enjoy seeing you build things! I feel like when you do things that are productive it helps to heal, and using the tools will help you to be productive. Love you Jojo.
It’s nice to sit down and remember the times you had together. Wherever or however that time comes to you is yours. Your loss will never likely be completely forgotten. Continue with your journey and enjoy your life.
Jojo, I have watched a few of your 'grief talks' and you have come a long way. No sweetheart, you keep it the same because it is one of a handful of items that keeps that connection going. I think the biggest part of it has to do with GUILT that if you change anything OR, actually give it away, you are dishonoring his memory somehow like he was unimportant to you. Still wondering what you will do with his motorcycle. I think a dollop of shame gets added on top as well, like 'how can i forget him like he never existed'? But here, you are sharing your memories of him with such joy and detail, THAT, is your healing ongoing and will for years and years. These are all of the emotions I am now feeling in my mid 60's for a sister I lost back in 1970. I actually lost all of my sisters that summer because they never recovered and spent their lives isolated never leaving the house. Our parents were very abusive to me in particular and abandoned us to ourselves and never helped us process her death by pretending she never existed. She was mentioned once at a family reunion a few years back that triggered that unresolved issue in my life. That, formerly unknown, issue only opened up the mother load I have been working through for a few years now. I think these videos help me so much because I can see how a normal person grieves and moves on. When you get to this stage in life and realize the only reason you were able to live a somewhat normal life when your surviving sisters could not, was because you were living it for your sister and not for yourself due to guilt it was not you. That went down like a rat sandwich and I am planning my visit to tell her goodbye after all these years. I might be late to the party, but it is time for me to live for myself now. You never realize how far your childhood trauma has led you until you wake up one day and realize you have never once thought about what you wanted in life. But I can see YOU Jojo, your love for life inspires me because you are awakening a desire in me that has been dormant since I was 13. I didn't know that the conclusions made as a child remain in one's subconscious as an adult unaware and that they manifest in overboard emotional reactions to things that trigger the trauma experienced at a young age. What a hell hole! Grief for the loss, shame when we try to move on. Oh, there's some anger in there as well, all part of the deal every human experiences in life. Those of us who survive need to lean on each other, the day will soon arrive when it will be our absence causing grief for others to overcome. Thank you for sharing your journey Jojo, I thought you would like to know what they mean to me. Haven't taken the plunge yet, going to try to survive without it for now. This Texas man likes warm weather and a swim in a cool lake.
Trust yourself. Keeping your thoughts out of the dark parts of grief becomes a skill you teach yourself. The best thoughts and memories of a loved one make your smile, and warmly remember, not cry. I love that you take the kind thoughts and suggestions from people who have also lost loved ones, while also staying on your own personal path. All that outreach from others can be very helpful. You're such a strong person, or you wouldn't be able to talk about your loss and feeling to what is now a very large group. I wonder if you know how many people you actually help in situations like your's, as you go through your own process of grief? It's a LOT...
My favorite & most shared quote is super helpful and turns such a hard thing into such a valued realization of qualifying a lost ones influences on me . . . & this is it . . . " Grief is appreciation for something wonderful we've lost" When you really think about that one line, it opens up & changes ones pain & hurting into a newly realized positive...
You are EXACTLY like me when it comes to this subject! I believe it is healing and keep a piece of him with you always. Don't second guess it. You 're awesome in the way you heal and wear your heart on your sleeve. And have the courage to put it.out in the universe on your channel,... You totally inspire me
It doesn’t feel like 3 years AT ALL. Sometimes it feels like a week ago doesn’t it! There’s a fine line with me between staying busy and ignoring my feelings 😂
@@JojoSnow01 both are useful at times - feelings can as deceiving as helpful. I know it’s not the same - my father died suddenly when I was teenager the night before thanksgiving and I was glad in retrospect that my mother forced me back to school, clubs, part time work as the the grief can be unbearable and overwhelming if allowed to run unchecked
Sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a loved one and a partner is a terrible sadness. But seeing a woman who likes to work, makes you perfect. Peace and love from Canada.
How you grieve and heal is up to you and is right for you. Every body is different. It's been over 8 years since my wife passed away and I still have some of her clothes around and use the hand cream and bath soap she loved. So what your doing is right for you. God will comfort you and heal you as you continue your journey.
Healing is a process of your own human function it is certainly a process of the mind and soul. Loosing a beloved person and mourning your loved one is certainly not something you can get over very easily. Making small adjustments are tremendously big changes. Keep your husband memories close to your heart. And be sure to only think of the good things. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Chuck
I think its awesome and healthy that you’re keeping and using his tools. After my Father passed away about five years ago, someone broke into our barn and stole almost all of his tools and boxes. It breaks my heart every time I go to work on something and don’t have the tools to get the job done. Those tools were my most valuable possessions and memories of my Father that I hoped to have for the rest of my life. 😢
Good question. When my mother passed away, her closet remained fixed in time for 10 years until my father passed away. He never changed it. I think in someway it gave him comfort or peace.
@@underdog2594 Thanks. I don't feel bad about my wife's stuff still in the closet for 2 years now. I should give it to charity but so far I haven't. My mom still has stuff of my dad's 18 years later. And yes I still use his tools.
Dearest JoJo, I have known a lot of women in my life, but you are the sweetest And most gentle woman I have ever been a witness to. I pray God will deeply heal you 🙏. Thank you for gracing our eyes with your beauty and spirit, I remain spellbound James
Lost my mom and dad years ago. Still have many items of there's. Memories they bring to me are priceless. They make me smile laugh and move on. I still have things to remember all the times together we had. Now married and living a happy life. I wish that for you. Take care. ❤
Hi Hun, you do what ever makes you feel comfortable and what ever makes you happy. My dad has been gone since 2015 and my Grandfather has been gone since 1988, when i was 19. I have my dad's tools and my Grandfather's tools and use them everyday. I wouldn't give them up for any reason. They are priceless in my book, and i will jave for ever. When my time comes i will pass them down to my nephew, my dad's grandson, and my Grandfather's great grandson since i dont have kids of my own. Do what ever makes you happy.
💔 I hear you. Right or wrong healthy or unhealthy you couldn’t do it any other way. It’s all your expression and handling of a very deep and real love. Your videos hit me so hard. I am right there with you.
I inherited my Grandpa's and Daddy's tools and it makes me smile and proud of the time we spent together. It takes time to adjust to someone that you were so close to and learned so much from. I just look back on all the good memories. You are doing Fine thinking like this. Stay strong. ✌
Hello Jordan thank you so much for your message of hope and help. Two weeks ago my youngest daughter passed away aged 38 leaving a three year old boy. We are devastated and have a long road ahead to grieve and raise a young boy. We have packed up where she lived, that was so hard. I have some things of hers that will stay with me and like you, I can and will use daily. I don’t know what else to say or do.
Jojo - the tools bring forward memories of him - memories that you need to keep remembering and telling others about. Using the tools is what he would want and helps you heal and move forward. When you move forward you aren't leaving the past behind you, you are bringing along the good parts. Do what makes you comfortable, using those tools and caring for them gives you happiness and comfort, and helps you continue to remember. You are not a hoarder!!!
Your love for your husband is so obvious. I do hope life gives you everything that you would like for yourself and yes I know your dearest has gone. Hope your healing continues, I love your videos. Prayers from Ireland 🇮🇪
Hey Jojo- first & foremost I want you to understand that doing these vids and sharing your feelings and life and being honest about it is why so many people follow you. Certain people are touched by the emotions you reveal, and each receives a different blessing from you. It also blesses you because when you bless someone(which you do by sharing), that blessing comes back & blesses you multiple. Keep the tools you use and the special ones he used, and sell or give away the rest as that will also be a blessing of you helping people. And when you connect with those special tools, remember & charish good thoughts & memories of the two of you, as it will keep you grounded in this crazy world. Prayers to you for peace, stay safe & BeBlessed🎶🚜🙌🌾🌅
Hey JoJo, I watch all your videos. I feel your pain girl. I hope you are In a better place now even though you still have to remain mentally healthy. I hope LIFE treats you well. We Luv You and continue to support you! 🙏❤️
There is a point as to how much to keep. The fact is you don't need to keep everything to remember and only you can figure that out but there is a limit, and you will find it. Good luck on this journey.
I really appreciate you!! Most women throw their clothes out and all their possessions to say they’re moving on but to me it looks like a cold hearted person who never really cared
I enjoy ALL the videos you send out, but when it comes to a story such as this. I kind of do the same thing with things that I grew up around or inherited from different relatives. I could organize things (most of mine are), but everything else has memories attached to them that only I know. If I use something, it goes back where it came from. Some tools are almost obsolete by today's standard, but they might've been part of a learning legacy they taught me or a tribute to their craftsmanship. Sometimes I'm using a tool that I can remember being past down down to the relative I got it from and everyone had their own way of marking their tools. I'm lucky enough to treasure what I have and the stories they bring me. Sometimes I feel a little sad because I'm the only one that knows mainly for the reason no one else had any interest in learning. I'm lucky to have had time and space for this and then you can do what you want at your own pace or leave it alone. I've known some people that are quick to move on and nothing seems to matter. Others are in a situation where they're forced to make quick decisions without a chance to really grieve. I'd say if you're not pressed for something, do what you want when you feel ready to do so. There's memories, but everyone grieves differently. 😊
My dad passed away 38 years ago. I still use his tools all the time. It just reminds me him. I’m passing them tools to my kids.
It's been 11 years since I lost my dad and I also use his tools, and yes they do remind me of him.
Me too my dad’s tools help keep me connected to him even after 35 years.
My dad passed in 2003 and I too inherited his tools. Same box. Unfortunately I’m not as good using them as he could. I was a lazy kid that just didn’t soak in what he did when using them. YT helps with minor projects/problems in picking up tips. But the tools make me think of him.
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My father gone 23 years
I use his too!!
31 years ago I built a 12 foot tall sunflower with the most wonderful gal I’ve ever met. She and our unborn baby were killed in a car accident less than a month later. The sunflower still stands strong along a state highway 650 miles from where I live but I can still occasionally check in on it on google maps street view which makes me happy. My wife isn’t as tolerant as your husband about reminiscing so I don’t have anyone to share those good memories with. You just have to try and have faith that someday maybe we’ll all understand WHY these bad things happen and that there will be a great reunion. This life is short compared to the big picture but we still need to make the best of it. I understand the ache your heart is going through. Try and keep your spirits up🙏 🌻
When you lose someone this way, you’re still in love with them unlike a divorce. I understand. I had a relationship that they ended. I was left alone.
God I hate having that feeling where you feel misunderstood and alone. I get that feeling all the time KNOWING how many people that love me surround me and then there’s people like you that have been through similar situations! So so incredibly sorry you lost her and in such a tragic way. Life is short and sometimes so cruel. My best way to cope these days is get joy and satisfaction out of little things like that. If you have a picture of that sunflower I would LOVE to see it. Jojonico1992@gmail.com is my business email most of the time but I would love to see that. Ironic enough Kale loved sunflowers and his funeral was insanely lit up with yellow from all the sunflower. Your story made my day ❤
Always remember and he will always be there😢
@@JojoSnow01My sweet Jenny loved sunflowers too but also loved blue hydrangeas. She has only been gone for two months but I keep cutting hydrangeas and putting them in vases to surround photos of her. Sometimes I even talk to her saying “ these are for you honey, your favorite blue hydrangeas “ So no, you’re not crazy ( either that or we both are ! )
Jojo I think having your deceased husband's tools and such around is a coping mechanism you have. I think our brains can only tolerate so much grief at a time. To have his things around maybe gives you a sense of comfort and stability while you heal. I still have things of my daughter Lauren and she died 11 years ago. It just takes a while to heal your heart and your brain will only allow so much change to happen in order to keep you functioning. That's the way it is for me anyway. My heart aches for you. Take care. Jim
Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve. Do it your way. It’s healthy for you if it feels right.
So well said
My young wife lost her 51/2 year battle with breast cancer in May of 2006. The grief grows less over the years, but I still experience “triggers” from time-to-time. A song that we both loved is the most common. I used to try to bury my grief, but talking about it, letting it hit me and pass over me is a lot better than stuffing it inside. Our Heavenly Father’s strength, peace, and, comfort to you as you go through this journey.
Prayers and love. Michael
It’s called “keeping him close” and that is not a bad thing young lady. God is with you.
Grief takes many forms, be kind to yourself 😊
He was your heartbeat and you will always remember him. Nothing unhealthy about reliving your memories.
My dad passed away 20 years ago. He was a carpenter his whole life and had tons of tools that once he died were passed on to me because I followed in his footsteps and am a carpenter as well. Every time I use them I reflect on the times we worked together and used those tools and brings back fond memories of our time together. Hold them close and remember the good times you had doing those projects. God bless.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you keeping his things close to you and not organizing his tools. It brings you comfort, healing and happiness. Continued prayers of healing for you.
Tools are part of the soul because they were handled and used by the loved one. When my Mother's Father passed, we left his workshop in place and continued to use it. You are doing what your heart says is right.
I am so sorry that your husband passed JoJo, I can not imagine how you feel, but hoarding stuff
Is a form of healing and holding on to the memories that you both shared. And there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever.. God bless you, keep the memories alive. We all enjoy your wonderful videos. You are very inspiring..❤
My son passed away a year and 5 months ago at 37 and he had his own shop on my farm near my truck shop. He was very neat and organized, the exact opposit of me. When i use his shop i put everything the same way he left it which takes a bit of effort on my part cause like i said im a slob. My tools on the other hand are like Kale's but if someone moves something of mine i cant find it. What im trying to say is if you leave his stuff the way it is youll learn his filing system, even though it doesnt make sense where things are put it seems to work. As for my sons stuff , ill keep it till i cant anymore and give it to nephews and grandsons that way its always in the family. He also has a 95 mustang and a 14 year old daughter that wants it so ill be holding it back for15 years or so before she gets it.
When you lose someone close, it's like losing a limb, time may heal the anguish of the wound , but the lose can not be repaired .
Exactly!❤
GRIEF TALK...It helps you heal ! NEVER FORGET ! 🥰🥰🥰 That tool box is filled with memories 😊❤
My dad passed away 38 years ago. I still use his tools all the time. It just reminds me him.
Are fathers loved their work. Prayers and love. Michael
I’m sorry for your pain , grief is the toughest thing we’ll ever experience.
There is NOTHING wrong with you keeping your late husband’s tools,truck,motorcycle etc. He was such a big part of your life and that is a good way to always remember him by. 3 years is not a long time, you have to do what you have to do so that it doesn’t eat your soul up. Very proud of you that you can even talk about him without breaking down completely!! 👍🏻
I lost my wife of 36 years on June 25 2022. With the exception of what daughters and granddaughters have taken nearly all of her clothes are still in the closet and dresser. I have said I need to give it to charity, but so far have not been able to. When you spoke about woodworking it really got my attention as I am a woodworker myself. The things I made for her are still in the house and I will never part with them. I have been trying to find an old chest to put memories of her in but so far I have not found anything suitable. I guess I will have to build one. God bless you and keep your chin up.
Sorry to hear about your wife. I lost my wife two years ago as well after 38 years of marriage. I have not given anything away including her clothes. I'm a woodworker as well and the stuff I made her is still displayed. Please keep strong and your life time memories a live in your heart 😊😊
Thank you for taking the time to write this! I can’t even begin to imagine your pain. When kids and everything are involved you hold a lot of grief for them as well. It absolutely kills me for Kales parents. I too have been searching for a chest too! Like a memorial chest to put his stuff in but I’m the same way! Nothing I’ve found is good enough! Hahaha I need something rustic, maybe old, good quality, and awesome.
@@JojoSnow01 I really feel for my mother in law as she has lost all 3 of her children. They all went in reverse order of their ages. We speak often. Sometimes we wonder why we are still here. It is simple, God still has a purpose for us here on earth. Enjoy life to its fullest.
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My wife has been gone 9 years now, I think of her everyday . . . I love and miss you Diane ❤
Lost a son almost 14 years ago. It's been a journey for sure. I do many things to keep his memory alive. I never let anyone "tell me how to grieve." He was my son. Everyone grieves different. You will know what to do when you get in touch with your inner wisdom. Sit with your feelings, however uncomfortable they may be. Keep asking yourself. And as others here have said, above all things, be kind to yourself. Losing a loved one simply sucks. You are helping so many others by keeping open and honest. I admire you so much for that. Remembering and honoring is just what we do. Grief is the price of love. All the best to you!
This made my day. I am incredibly close to his parents and the pain must be excruciating at times because of how unnatural and wrong this loss is. So sorry you lost him. You seem very level headed and down to earth about everything. I am still coming to terms with staying logical and grounded when sitting with my feelings. It makes me absolutely sick with anger and frustration sometimes. I can’t help it yet
@@JojoSnow01JoJo, understanding your feelings of grief, of anger and everything else is normal. People process their grief differently. Leaving Kale's tools like they were is fine. Some people would not be able to face seeing them again and again. You expressed good memories about using them and how you helped him set up the shop. Perhaps one way of processing your grief is concentrate on remembering the good memories the tools inspire. As you do that, you may find the tools bring more positive than bad memories. Prayers and healing from a fellow Kansan. 🙏🏻♥️
It is what it is, Jo Jo. My philosophy is that you can love someone forever even if they are no longer in your life. I have things that are associated with people I haven’t seen in decades. Some of those things are pictures of the physical objects just so I can retain the memory without the things taking up space in my house. Whatever you do, realize that you have your own timeframe and you don’t need to do anything on the timeframe mentioned by others. Thank you for being open and honest. And I’m glad you are in a place that lets you process your loss at your own pace. Take care.
Tools are a great connection to someone who worked with their hands. Using my grandfathers or father in laws tools keeps that connection for me. I think it’s a healthy way to keep their memories close.
It's baby steps, you take baby steps one step at a time. So God's telling you not to sell those tools is tools is a part of you so it makes your tools. Very special. We never forget and the pain is always there. His workshop this part of you and we never forget we never forget the memories. So be blessed and one day at a time and take baby steps.❤❤
My dad’s been gone for 20 years after passing suddenly and unexpectedly but it seems like yesterday. I have his tools and whenever I need a tool I don’t have I go to his tool box and it’s usually there. You can’t ever forget a loved one, you just have to live on and do the best you can to live a good life and it appears you are doing just that. 🙏🏼
My 19 year old daughter passed august 22, 2020. I was,by her side for 2 days pleading with god to not do,this to take me instead…all to no,avail. Since then I cannot even think about having anyone touch her things. She has bookcases, 3 of them with all,her books. She is voracious when it comes to her books. I still refer to her as still being here. I have not been able to use a past tense when it comes to,her. No body can touch or suggest to do,something about her things. I’ve been in therapy for along time. Originally for ptsd from my 20 years on active duty in the army. Then for grief counseling also. All her tack for her horse Gypsy and her colt Annabelle is here in my house. Some of it has never been used. It keeps me connected with her. No one touch it, don’t suggest it’s time to do something with it. It will be when and if that I will decide, if ever. I enjoy your channel so much. It’s real and there is the connection of loss. Hang in there. Your great!
Hearing stuff like this really hits hard. I can't image your pain.
My dad died in 1968, my brother in law high graded them and took the big spendy tools as i was almost a middle aged teenager, dad was a working boss in a welder-fabricator -specialty shop. Anyway: i still have all his original tools and many of the ones he himself designed and made to do specialty work and welding and fabrication. I still show them off to bewildered mechanics and woodworkers who have never seen tools like he made. 😊, he was my world as a kid. When he died an angry young man was born. ( billy joel song) 😢, but i still connect to him when 😮 i see and use those tools, a part of him is in those tools AND in me.. when i hold them,,, he never died and he gave me a lasting legacy of work, and memory. Peace to you girl! Walk the walk- nothing absolutely nothing, happens in Gods world by mistake. Peace❤
Lost my husband October 2021- there are things of his I still cannot bring myself to touch. He was a mechanic, his tools are still where he left them. All his bathroom stuff is still as he left it as well, & his dirty clothes are still in the hamper. I can’t bring myself to move anything. It hurts sooo bad. Thank you so much for sharing, I don’t feel like it’s just me. 🥰🙏
No one else can, or should, tell you how to grieve. Everyone grieves in their own way and in my estimation, you are dealing with everything the best way you can. No one could ask for anything else. I am proud of you Jojo! YOU ARE an AWESOME PERSON! 🤗😘🤗
OMG THE DIRTY CLOTHES THING! I’ve made a TikTok on this before and I might do it again because you made me feel better about this. I have a bag that I sealed up with his last few dirty shirts in it. So freaking WEIRD but you made me feel less alone about it. I can’t bring myself to wash them because that’s the last trace of him wearing his clothes FOREVER. Thank you so much for commenting. I hate that we have this in common so glad we’re not alone though.
@@bobschmidt3610I appreciate you so much. ❤ seriously this is just as good as therapy when I can’t stomach talking to a stranger. Sharing is so healing
@@JojoSnow01they still smell like him… I can’t let that go. ☹️
Seeing someone (therapist) will help you make those steps to keep moving forward. Never give up on yourself!
I just replaced the power cord on my late Dads circular saw he bought in '53. In the end I had to totally dismantle the thing to get at what needed to be replaced. I noticed that he had done this same job at some point and had been avoiding doing it a second time by the number of cable ties to keep it serviceable. It was in end by far the best time I've spent with my Dad since he was alive. You'll find over time the need to connect with these items will change to desire. It goes to show how worthwhile these feelings are. It is, what it is and don't let that change. These things hug your soul. XO! Thank you for letting me share this with anyone who needs to hear it.
Your dad was like mine, probably always busy. They are with us always. Prayers and love. Michael
There’s nothing wrong holding on to things or revisiting memories of someone you have loved. It is a tribute of your love to that person. Here is a note I wrote to a close friend that went through a loss.
Everyone has losses and will have losses in their life, and everyone deals with it differently. Time….friends….and grieving will help but it will only help. It is always going to hurt any time you think about your loss, and the hurt will eventually ease up, but it will always be there. Life isn’t always fair, and it never will be, but life goes on no matter what. The best thing you can do in life is to love others, and remember those that have also loved you. That love is precious, it is something you should never forget or let go of. Like life, you have to move forward, and in doing so, remember to love others like the ones you have lost.
You are a brave sweet woman keeping your man's memory still alive
Dear Jojo, i kept the old lumber tools from my father although i have my own. He passed away 2003. One of my Sisters is a good wood worker and she retired last year. So i took the old tools and his tool cabinet drove to her 300miles and put it on the wall of her shop. Now it is her turn to do keep them and remember him, when she is building something.....It is much easier to keep something in hands and in mind to live a new Day, than put it into a shrine . Kind regards from Germany, Rudi👍🍀❤
My Dad is 82. When he knew his time was starting to shut down, he passed down a lot of his tools and equipment to people he knew could use and take care of whatever he gave them. But I think what you're doing is a great way to memorialize him.❤
Jordan , have been a mechanic for 39 years, I have thousands of dollars of tools, I have lost a lot of Mentors , friends and family along the way some of my most treasured tools are hand me downs given to me by people who are no longer here or widows and family of people who meant a lot to me, I work out of a service truck and pick up a wrench or a hammer and remember whose it was , sometimes Ill discuss the job with them, they are still a part of who. I am and helped me get here. God Bless You, Memories are treasures TJ
I love how you are keeping it the way it is. I believe it is healthy to do it this way. I've been down that road. Lost my Wife 20 Years ago. The Memories help you sustain your Life. Be strong.
My Dad passed away 25 years ago, I still carry his tools and a pair of his coveralls with me everywhere I go, especially when I go on my offroad adventures. He was a mechanic by trade and taught me how to fix things so, it's comforting to know his tools are there to fix what ever needs fixing. My Mom kept his work truck, car and a pair of his coveralls and jacket hanging up in her closet until she passed 18 years later. I really miss them both.
Dearest Jojo one of greatest skills you possess is your ability to guide others through their grief by sharing how you deal with your own you are such an amazing spirit!! I am a tool guy Leslie was a seamstress/knitter and I have kept all her stuff organized exactly the way she kept it! God Bless You guys!!🤗🥰
Remembering a lost loved one seems to be reflected in personal items. Cherish the moment and reflect. I lost my Brother 10 years younger. Seems every day brings back a memory of something we did together. I think the feelings will never go away, nor should they. Wish you peace of heart.
Take your time young lady there's no rush on doing something like this.
My dad passed away 43 years ago and I'm still using his tools to do things around the house. It puts a smile on my face and in my heart when I can put them to good use. Hang in there! There will come a time when you will be able to think of your late husband and it will not bring you the hurt it does today!
This is your way of dealing and healing Jordan and there is no wrong or right way. Just do you, and you will get through it, do what feels right to you and makes you feel good inside. Blessings to you 🙏
Jojo, Ive been a mechanic/welder for over 40 years, retired, I have acuminated tools over the years(some I only used once or twice), I know where approximately where everthing is, and all my drawers in my various boxes look just like that, Don't change a thing..... Take care
My wife passed away 6 years ago this month. I have also saved many things that were dear to her. My advice to you is, it is important to be true to yourself and your own feelings. Grief is a process that is an individual journey for each person going through it. No one can tell another person how to process the pain you feel. I have found time will never take away the feelings you have about your spouse but it will lighten the load that you currently feel. Bless you on your journey and my you find peace within that journey. I enjoy your posts and believe it will help others heal in their journey.
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Jojo, I am a 77 year old man and had been with my wife for 36 years at the time of her death. Over the last 8 years I have lost my Mother, Father, and Wife so I have had my share of grieving. I have found that at times when you least expect it, emotions will surface that you thought you were beyond. I have learned to just allow that to happen and never be ashamed of your reactions. When you have spent any amount of time with someone you love it hurts deeply to lose them. Give yourself permission to allow the emotion to pour forth from you in what ever form that it take. It is all part of the process and embrace it without guilt. You are a brave person to share your personal journey with the world. Blessings to you.
It's called healing.. keep moving forward one day at time.. it's not called hoarding, it's called a memory. everything you have it's got a good memory attached to it. Keep it... Have a blessed day...
What a gem, thanks for sharing! Remember there is no right or wrong when dealing with this kind of grief!
I’m gonna tell you one of the biggest things probably ever, but that is a sign of healing. It’s a sign of you accepting what happened and you keeping memories of something that made you happy in this world and will keep making you happy every time you remember them you’ll get sad but most of it. You’ll be happy about the memories that you get, and those things in your life will always be something to remember the things that keep you happy and remember the best of what you kept you deer. Never forget that.❤❤❤
She's been gone almost 6yrs and when i see my daughter playing with my newborn grandson, I look around and see her with my daughter. Its not hoarding its just cherishing all those wonderful memories and it hurts not being able to make more. "Make every moment a memory" I always say........and umm well thank you!!
I'm sorry for your loss. You never get over somebody being gone. You get used to it.
My wife can’t keep her hands off my stuff she’s constantly moving my things and forgetting what she did with my stuff
It's part of your healing process JoJo and you're doing great. His tools are a very good way to remember he's watching over you. You're not weird you do as you see fit 😊😊😊😊😊
Its called keeping your memories of the love of your life close to you! God bless you, keep him close to you.
I think it’s wonderful that you’re still using his tools and even finding excuses to use them. You are honoring his memory and the life you had together.
My wife Jenny didn’t have any tools but I’ve left all of her clothes where they are and the things she has on her dresser are still in place. It’s only been two months since she passed away and I’m in pain all the time it seems. Thanks for posting another one of these videos- it’s been too long since you have. I can only watch you cold plunge so many times although the CLAAS video you did was EPIC !!!
Much love and respect ❤
I love your videos and shorts.
I lost my wife 13 years ago. You grief the way you want. Everyone is different. Not the same recipe applies to everyone.
I still have bad days, but do have good ones as well. It's strange, the same memory one day will make me smile, then on another day, will bring me to tears.
I've been blessed that she left me with so so many beautiful loving memories.
She was and still is my soul mate.
Hang in there, our lost loved ones would want us to. ❤
From Winnipeg Canada
Jojo, I completely understand this. My father was the exact same way. Very similar situation with my grief process with his loss. You grieve your way. There is no right or wrong. It is healthy to do as you are. Your loyalty to your husband is also admirable.
My mom passed away a while back and my memory still Brings me back to all The Times I caused her grief.
You are doing so well and handling your new life just look at all the blessings you have to look forward to and reflect on you great memories.
Go enjoy life
All acceptable grieving process. Reminds me to go get my garage in order. Enjoy watching the wholesome real life midwestern girl living life.
Never ever forget or move on. It’s a piece of who you are, we heal thru remembrance and by honoring those we love with our actions and the memories we share with others. You’re doing well, and you are moving forward. Lost my best friend, my mom, my birth father, and three riding bros in a three year period, those that were cremated, I carry with me in an necklace urn I wear 24/7, my best friend is in a motorcycle, my mom in a cross. Another one of my bests died in April and deciding what urn to put him in. Stay up JoJo and what you’re doing is healthy for your healing. 🙏🙏🥰
This video brought both a tear to my eye and a smile to my face! I'm sure his memory will live forever in your heart. ❤
Jojo my wife of 29 yrs died of pancreatic cancer 10 years ago in December. I spent 4 years in a zombie world. When that ended I realized I made a major mess of my life. I'm cleaning it up. I wish I could tell you more. I know how important it is to just have someone be there listening. I have not watched TV in years. I look at news on my phone , stumbled on a beautiful woman and thought I would listen.I really could tell you more.
Hang on tight my friend, prayers and love. Michael
Everytime you look at or use his tools he's smiling down on you
It brings happy thoughts you two had together
Enjoy what life you had together and with the new man in your life
He's looking down at you seeing you happy and smiling
Surviving is actually pretty hard for us all. Memories is what keeps those people immortal for us. We all handle it in our own way. Tools. Literally get out a legal pad and write down what you have. Think about sorting the stuff by function. Plumbing stuff all goes together. Electrical goes with electrical. Jobs throw a curve to that as some jobs take certain mixes of tools. Most importantly- put stuff back!!!! Try and be organized. There is nothing worse than knowing you have a particular tool, but suddenly when you need it again you can’t find it. None of us are organized enough. And absolutely take care of your tools. Their puppies are expensive-and buying them 2-3 times is no way to operate! Don’t be in a rush-with organizing them, or with forgetting someone who has died. It may be literally decades for you. And just remember you’re not disrespecting them by doing what you need to do. The memories are there to help you get through the difficult times. Your husband taught you many skills for a reason. He wanted you to be able to get along by yourself if you needed to. Clearly, you learned a lot so you’re not some helpless female! Press on!
Lost my wife October 2021. Exact same is happening to me. She was an incredible seamstress. I’ve passed her best Bernina machines to a daughter-in-law and a niece, so far. It’s very, very hard to touch her stuff, though. But, knowing that her legacy will live on at least in a few more generations is comforting for sure. Grief is a lasting punch in the gut and of an intensity commensurate to that of your love for who you lost. Best I can tell you and others is do not suppress grief. Let it process through. That way you’ll better retain all the memories that will eventually dissolve the bitter and retain the sweet.
Keep doing what your heart tells you to do regarding your late husband and all the grief. We all grieve and heal differently and taking care of yourself is what’s most important!…..On one of my many grief journeys, someone once told me that the hurt and pain that we experience with the loss of a loved one should almost never be hidden because ALL the hurt and pain shows how much love there was and still is for that loved one! Blessings on your journey young lady!🙏
We all are different and we move forward on our own way. It's good to have his tools and use them as I am sure he would want you to. You'll know when you're ready to organize or get rid of things whatever you need to do in your life and on your time. I lost a wife to cancer and I am now remarried and I am happy with my new life. She had told me to keep on living and to be happy and not give up. Again we are all different. I'm so glad you are married to a good guy in Zach. Y'all have a good thing and you will always think about your other husband but I am glad you have Zach so you have someone who loves you. That makes life better.
Jojo, please do what YOU would do. I haven’t been through what you have. Just please do what you feel like you need to do. I love that you are sharing with us! I would enjoy seeing you build things! I feel like when you do things that are productive it helps to heal, and using the tools will help you to be productive. Love you Jojo.
It's his Memorial for you to keep. Try not to over grieve and let some things fade.❤️
It’s nice to sit down and remember the times you had together. Wherever or however that time comes to you is yours. Your loss will never likely be completely forgotten. Continue with your journey and enjoy your life.
Jojo, I have watched a few of your 'grief talks' and you have come a long way. No sweetheart, you keep it the same because it is one of a handful of items that keeps that connection going. I think the biggest part of it has to do with GUILT that if you change anything OR, actually give it away, you are dishonoring his memory somehow like he was unimportant to you. Still wondering what you will do with his motorcycle. I think a dollop of shame gets added on top as well, like 'how can i forget him like he never existed'? But here, you are sharing your memories of him with such joy and detail, THAT, is your healing ongoing and will for years and years.
These are all of the emotions I am now feeling in my mid 60's for a sister I lost back in 1970. I actually lost all of my sisters that summer because they never recovered and spent their lives isolated never leaving the house. Our parents were very abusive to me in particular and abandoned us to ourselves and never helped us process her death by pretending she never existed. She was mentioned once at a family reunion a few years back that triggered that unresolved issue in my life. That, formerly unknown, issue only opened up the mother load I have been working through for a few years now. I think these videos help me so much because I can see how a normal person grieves and moves on. When you get to this stage in life and realize the only reason you were able to live a somewhat normal life when your surviving sisters could not, was because you were living it for your sister and not for yourself due to guilt it was not you. That went down like a rat sandwich and I am planning my visit to tell her goodbye after all these years. I might be late to the party, but it is time for me to live for myself now. You never realize how far your childhood trauma has led you until you wake up one day and realize you have never once thought about what you wanted in life.
But I can see YOU Jojo, your love for life inspires me because you are awakening a desire in me that has been dormant since I was 13. I didn't know that the conclusions made as a child remain in one's subconscious as an adult unaware and that they manifest in overboard emotional reactions to things that trigger the trauma experienced at a young age. What a hell hole!
Grief for the loss, shame when we try to move on. Oh, there's some anger in there as well, all part of the deal every human experiences in life. Those of us who survive need to lean on each other, the day will soon arrive when it will be our absence causing grief for others to overcome.
Thank you for sharing your journey Jojo, I thought you would like to know what they mean to me. Haven't taken the plunge yet, going to try to survive without it for now. This Texas man likes warm weather and a swim in a cool lake.
Trust yourself. Keeping your thoughts out of the dark parts of grief becomes a skill you teach yourself. The best thoughts and memories of a loved one make your smile, and warmly remember, not cry. I love that you take the kind thoughts and suggestions from people who have also lost loved ones, while also staying on your own personal path. All that outreach from others can be very helpful. You're such a strong person, or you wouldn't be able to talk about your loss and feeling to what is now a very large group. I wonder if you know how many people you actually help in situations like your's, as you go through your own process of grief? It's a LOT...
I think it's probably healthy to leave it as it was. You loved this man and it shows and it's refreshing to see this kind of love!
My favorite & most shared quote is super helpful and turns such a hard thing into such a valued realization of qualifying a lost ones influences on me . . . & this is it . . .
" Grief is appreciation for something wonderful we've lost"
When you really think about that one line, it opens up & changes ones pain & hurting into a newly realized positive...
You are EXACTLY like me when it comes to this subject! I believe it is healing and keep a piece of him with you always. Don't second guess it. You 're awesome in the way you heal and wear your heart on your sleeve. And have the courage to put it.out in the universe on your channel,... You totally inspire me
Sorry for your loss - - 3 years goes by so fast. It is good that you keep yourself so busy and you have your dogs
It doesn’t feel like 3 years AT ALL. Sometimes it feels like a week ago doesn’t it! There’s a fine line with me between staying busy and ignoring my feelings 😂
@@JojoSnow01 both are useful at times - feelings can as deceiving as helpful.
I know it’s not the same - my father died suddenly when I was teenager the night before thanksgiving and I was glad in retrospect that my mother forced me back to school, clubs, part time work as the the grief can be unbearable and overwhelming if allowed to run unchecked
Sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a loved one and a partner is a terrible sadness. But seeing a woman who likes to work, makes you perfect. Peace and love from Canada.
How you grieve and heal is up to you and is right for you. Every body is different. It's been over 8 years since my wife passed away and I still have some of her clothes around and use the hand cream and bath soap she loved. So what your doing is right for you. God will comfort you and heal you as you continue your journey.
Healing is a process of your own human function it is certainly a process of the mind and soul. Loosing a beloved person and mourning your loved one is certainly not something you can get over very easily. Making small adjustments are tremendously big changes. Keep your husband memories close to your heart. And be sure to only think of the good things. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Chuck
I think its awesome and healthy that you’re keeping and using his tools. After my Father passed away about five years ago, someone broke into our barn and stole almost all of his tools and boxes. It breaks my heart every time I go to work on something and don’t have the tools to get the job done. Those tools were my most valuable possessions and memories of my Father that I hoped to have for the rest of my life. 😢
Good question. When my mother passed away, her closet remained fixed in time for 10 years until my father passed away. He never changed it. I think in someway it gave him comfort or peace.
@@underdog2594 Thanks. I don't feel bad about my wife's stuff still in the closet for 2 years now. I should give it to charity but so far I haven't. My mom still has stuff of my dad's 18 years later. And yes I still use his tools.
Very sorry for your loss. I think its very cool you respect his tools and cherish the memories. Peace love and light
Dearest JoJo,
I have known a lot of women in my life, but you are the sweetest
And most gentle woman I have ever been a witness to.
I pray God will deeply heal you 🙏.
Thank you for gracing our eyes with your beauty and spirit,
I remain spellbound
James
Lost my mom and dad years ago. Still have many items of there's. Memories they bring to me are priceless. They make me smile laugh and move on. I still have things to remember all the times together we had. Now married and living a happy life. I wish that for you. Take care. ❤
Total legend 🏆
Hi Hun, you do what ever makes you feel comfortable and what ever makes you happy. My dad has been gone since 2015 and my Grandfather has been gone since 1988, when i was 19. I have my dad's tools and my Grandfather's tools and use them everyday. I wouldn't give them up for any reason. They are priceless in my book, and i will jave for ever. When my time comes i will pass them down to my nephew, my dad's grandson, and my Grandfather's great grandson since i dont have kids of my own. Do what ever makes you happy.
💔 I hear you.
Right or wrong healthy or unhealthy you couldn’t do it any other way. It’s all your expression and handling of a very deep and real love.
Your videos hit me so hard.
I am right there with you.
Honey, keep doing what you're doing, and you will be just fine . Your love for him will never go away .
I inherited my Grandpa's and Daddy's tools and it makes me smile and proud of the time we spent together. It takes time to adjust to someone that you were so close to and learned so much from. I just look back on all the good memories. You are doing Fine thinking like this. Stay strong. ✌
Hello Jordan thank you so much for your message of hope and help. Two weeks ago my youngest daughter passed away aged 38 leaving a three year old boy. We are devastated and have a long road ahead to grieve and raise a young boy. We have packed up where she lived, that was so hard. I have some things of hers that will stay with me and like you, I can and will use daily. I don’t know what else to say or do.
God Bless You! It’s not a trip, but a journey. Do what makes you happy!
Jojo - the tools bring forward memories of him - memories that you need to keep remembering and telling others about. Using the tools is what he would want and helps you heal and move forward. When you move forward you aren't leaving the past behind you, you are bringing along the good parts. Do what makes you comfortable, using those tools and caring for them gives you happiness and comfort, and helps you continue to remember. You are not a hoarder!!!
Your love for your husband is so obvious. I do hope life gives you everything that you would like for yourself and yes I know your dearest has gone. Hope your healing continues, I love your videos. Prayers from Ireland 🇮🇪
Hey Jojo- first & foremost I want you to understand that doing these vids and sharing your feelings and life and being honest about it is why so many people follow you. Certain people are touched by the emotions you reveal, and each receives a different blessing from you. It also blesses you because when you bless someone(which you do by sharing), that blessing comes back & blesses you multiple. Keep the tools you use and the special ones he used, and sell or give away the rest as that will also be a blessing of you helping people. And when you connect with those special tools, remember & charish good thoughts & memories of the two of you, as it will keep you grounded in this crazy world. Prayers to you for peace, stay safe & BeBlessed🎶🚜🙌🌾🌅
Hey JoJo, I watch all your videos. I feel your pain girl. I hope you are In a better place now even though you still have to remain mentally healthy. I hope LIFE treats you well. We Luv You and continue to support you! 🙏❤️
There is a point as to how much to keep. The fact is you don't need to keep everything to remember and only you can figure that out but there is a limit, and you will find it. Good luck on this journey.
I really appreciate you!! Most women throw their clothes out and all their possessions to say they’re moving on but to me it looks like a cold hearted person who never really cared
I enjoy ALL the videos you send out, but when it comes to a story such as this. I kind of do the same thing with things that I grew up around or inherited from different relatives. I could organize things (most of mine are), but everything else has memories attached to them that only I know. If I use something, it goes back where it came from. Some tools are almost obsolete by today's standard, but they might've been part of a learning legacy they taught me or a tribute to their craftsmanship. Sometimes I'm using a tool that I can remember being past down down to the relative I got it from and everyone had their own way of marking their tools. I'm lucky enough to treasure what I have and the stories they bring me. Sometimes I feel a little sad because I'm the only one that knows mainly for the reason no one else had any interest in learning. I'm lucky to have had time and space for this and then you can do what you want at your own pace or leave it alone. I've known some people that are quick to move on and nothing seems to matter. Others are in a situation where they're forced to make quick decisions without a chance to really grieve. I'd say if you're not pressed for something, do what you want when you feel ready to do so. There's memories, but everyone grieves differently. 😊
This was a touching tribute to your late husband. It got me in the feels. Thanks for sharing this with us JoJo.
Trust yourself. No one else can or should tell you how you need or should feel. You got this Jojo.
My friends have a joke competition...
_He who dies with the most tools wins._
Kale was such a winner in our eyes!
Bless you young lady, I believe you should trust your own heart and instincts when it comes to a lost loved one!!