When People Keep Letting You Down | Khutbah by Dr. Omar Suleiman
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- Опубліковано 23 вер 2021
- Powerful analogies from the Prophet ﷺ and his companions about navigating betrayal, bad relationships, unreciprocated kindness, and the jadedness that follows.
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“Don’t punish people with the pain that was inflicted on you” Muhammad PBUH
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But y do I feel like to i seriously feel like murdering whoever has hurt me so far and I couldnt even defend myself
@@bangchanswifey1113 you are not alone 😭 sometimes I try my best to just be natural where I accept when things are done then it's done. I'm trying my best to not hurt or doing something bad to them
@@bangchanswifey1113 same. Just like those who bullied me because of the way i dressed up. This is what i hate most of the time. I hate when people tryin to treat me like their lapdog. I just ask Allah one thing. Let me live peacefully. But it just get more wors since i got bullie not only in my real life but also in social media. I know that i dont dress like He want. But this is too much for me. Sometimes i cursed Allah when my own mom gossip with her friends about woman that she saw at mall wearing thight shirt with hijab. People say Allah know that youre strong. He should know that im not that strong. He know my heart better tham anyone. He should stop it. But no. People said its is test from Allah. People cam only act like they know what or how i feel. But, actually, no, they don care about it.
@@iamhijabsterz9556 Please don't curse allah like seriously don't. I understand where ur coming from but this life is just a test. You might have it hard but there's others who have it worse sorry. Just have patience and keep making dua. If u got all u wished for then wouldn't u be attached to the dunya🤍🤍
"Better to be disappointed than to be the one who is disappointing." Beautiful and so very true. I needed to hear this from a sincere and learned person like Sheikh.
Likewise. It has been a long day for me at work and finding this lecture is certainly a help for me.
@@reziachowdhury9816 jam and jam
No. The reverse is true. The disappointee is passively only exerting their free will to to the extent that they can.. there was an expectation. It was unfulfilled. That was between them and Allah. I have no authority to feel upset by or deem something to be . Disappointing. Allah is the only judge.
I feel we can disappoint people even when we are not disappointing sometimes people make you feel very down with this, let’s not forget that we can be wrong in when we are disappointed also. Salam 😊
6:33 Better to be a MAQTOOL not a QATIL
"When the prophet saw helped people is because of who he was and not because of who they were..." this statement is so deep
If you are young and Allah has guided your heart towards lectures like this, say Alhamdulillah. It does not matter what your past is, you are being given a chance to rectify at an early stage. If you are older, say Alhamdulillah. Do not waste the opportunity. When you trip or fall off the track, struggle back up as quickly as you can. It gets easier with time. May Allah guide us all on the right path and forgive our sins and shortcomings. Amen.
Ameen
🙏📿 Allah bless you, for what you have said applies to me and will give me strength in heart inshallah.
"People are like a set of a hundred camels. Out of a hundred, you'll only find one that's good for a journey." - Prophet Muhammed a.s.
All I want are friends who dont hurt and abandon me.
Yea😢
I learnt about Islam since my childhood and tried my best to apply it in my life but there were times i went in self-doubt because nothing went the way it should. I am a lonely person with absolutely no friends. This made me wonder if I am on the wrong. I thank the present day ulemas who talk on practical topics that help to meet the challenges of the modern world by applying Quran and sunah in life. Thank you for refreshing our Iman. May Allah bless you.
Be patient. Surely Allah will soon bless you with good friends and a good environment. May Allah grant you success in this world and the hereafter
Assalamu a'laikum wa rahmatullah. May Allah bless you endlessly for highlighting a topic that most people are generally clueless or ignorant about. As a result they suffer. May Allah help these good people to come to terms to their painful deprivations and uplift them in their taqwa and closeness to Allah and reward them for their pain and patience in both the worlds abundantly. Ameen. Summa Ameen. Jazak Allahu khairan.
Surprising, people spend time watching something they don't like.
Aameen
You are never lonely or alone. Allah SWA is always with you. I will always recall my mothers advice: “Friends are like seasons, they come and go but Allah SWA never leaves you. Make Him SWA your best friend. You will never be disappointed like people can disappoint you” .
I am deflated lately, from all angles i am fighting my right to be treated kindly, courteously, respected and loved- it's so so hard when you apply these qualities to all people but they never absorb and share it- nor do they appreciate you or your presence. Lately it's hit me hard and i've never felt so alone in this World.
Just remember Allah swt will never disappoint you, humans will don’t have too high expectations of others. This life is a test and inshaallah every wrong will be corrected on the day of Judgement. Ask from Allah to grant you patience especially pray tahajjud. This is my outlook through life experiences and Allah swt knows best.
I'm in the same situation as you 😳
I'm with u bro.. im also at a very low point in my life.. the tests just keep on coming.. but then u realise, the real is test is the test of faith.. if we get through it right, we will be closer to Allah.. just keep on doing the right things bro..
Assalamu alaikum brother pls get in touch with me as I know what u mean and we should try to still keep faith in people, where are u from? My name is Sulaiman :)
May Allah make it easy for you brother. I know how it feels. But remember when ALLAH loves you then he qualifies you for the tests. So it also means you are one of his favourites ❤
I needed this. Particularly “don’t betray the ones who have betrayed you.” Bless you both for your work.
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Even if u leave people alone, but they won't leave u alone 😭😭😭 i know this so much
I need to find innocent leaves among the thorny world
Mufti Menk says look within yourself as well. Do not put 100% blame on others, try to do more good on your part as well, if it does not make them leave you alone you are getting good deeds for your hereafter at least and it may also take your mind off of them. 😅
I keep coming back to this particular lecture. It makes me a better person.
Dr.Omar Suliman is that one camel which is better amongs others!
Mash'Allah 😀😃🙂 may Allah make us all among those 1 camel 🐫
Ma Shaa Allah. Wallahi it is true. May Allah SWT reward him with the best of rewards in this Dunya and the Hereafter . Allahouma amine
@@ndeyediouf1101 aameen aameen yarabbal aalameen
We need these lectures to be done in our Arab societies to bring them back to the straight path
Jazak Allah khair shiekh may Allah rewards you with the highest level of Heaven and be among the prophets and their companions
Indeed brother.
@@yasminenazarine1629 لكن سبحان الله انا عربي من السعودية جدة
I agree with you brother 👍💯
I love Arabic language also I don't understand Islamic lecture Arabic language
For me, this video is worth the 50 therapy sessions. May Allah guide us all.
"People like leaves w/o thorns." Those are people who walk 🚶♂️ in forgiveness at all times in their lives, and they do not allow life's bad experiences hearden their hearts.
My Situation exactly with my older family member Sisters and an Aunt. Make Dua for me because at this time I'm tired of trying to be the better person and they don't try it's so bad at this time I don't even want a relationship with them 😔🙁😕☹️ it's like this message was sent to me by Allah. My response was to speak of Allah continuously
Salaam alaikum Wawa barakatuh sister Kaye! Brother Omar has another lecture 'overcoming compassion burnout'.. it will help you, in shaa Allah 🙏🙏🙏. Wassalam
@Kaye Smith just keep your distance. My ENTIRE family betrayed me...even my elderly mom and dad (most possibly connived by my envious siblings and relatives). Allah knows my truth so best it to move away...yes God die this to me because I was blindly making all my decisions based on what they said be it career, friends, self-acceptance and my potential. Family's fangs are most fatal for they are our closest in blood. Sadly, these are all earthly relationships but like he said - don't be the wrongdoer. Bless you.
I'm glad the brother ask this Q because I'm having the same issue..I keep thinking that this world is like a torture for good people.. people who trying hard to be good, do good, & willing to forgive all the time 🤔🤲🙈🙊🙉
I know the feeling when u dont trouble people but they keep coming at you.
May Allah ease your burden and guide u towards some honest and supportive companions Ameen 🤲🏽🙏🏽
Me too
Worst feeling becuz i dont like raising my voice yelling cussing being mean etc but in the past ive done this a lot "matching energy" mentality is toxic in the end only satan ones. When you are patient long term this is bettee because patience is lile a muscle you have to use it for it to increase.
people will show their true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life. You will start loosing your partner/spouse, friends even family. Just stay strong, have faith, and avoid them…until Allah embrace you with unexpected gift…beyond your imagination for your patience.
You just can't imagine how this helped me and gave me strength Jazaka llah khayr
You are never lonely or alone. Allah SWA is always with you. I will always recall my mothers advice: “Friends are like seasons, they come and go but Allah SWA never leaves you. Make Him SWA your best friend. You will never be disappointed like people can disappoint you” .
Don't punish people the pain that was inflicted in you🔆..amen.. Alhamdullilah.... enlightenment...
اللهم انك عفوٌ تحب العفو فعفو عني و لي والديا و لاخواني و اخواتي في الاسلام اللهم ثبت قلوبنا على دينانا آمين
SUBHANALLAH
Prophet Muhammad SAWW helped people because of who HE was,not because who they were. ❤❤❤amazing
Ive been there, and the answer is being brave to be disappointed. So that we can stop and leave. Rasulullah teaches us that disappointment is normal, every story of him and the sahabat also shows that. But the message about being brave to be disappointed is rarely be found
These are reminders that I already know I'm going to revisit over and over again throughout my life. Thank you so much
Islam in all livings days...here is the main point
Mashallah this is what the deen is about 🙏🙏
All of my friends left me when I became Muslim.
May Allah SWT bless you with better than them Ameen.
May Allah bless you with better people than before. I have the highest regards and respect for reverts. Subhanallah you guys sacrifice so much. May Allah keep you all firm upon this deen and grant you sabr to tackle the challenges. Aameen. Barakallahu feek.
Allah is with you .We your sisters and brothers in islam are with you by dua . This is dunya and Allah will reward you for your patience حفظك الله ورعاك
I believe Allah swt is choosing better people to be your friends tt will lead you to Jannah..trust in Allah's plans
Allah is with you forever ♥️
I think it’s also important to maybe mention when it is okay to cut off/ not be a push over…many youth struggle with codependency and a lack of self worth and continue on in friendships that are unfulfilling and often damaging…thoughts?
I think u have a point although I think we should not totally cut off people just make some distance and learn to be the good example and expect our reward with Allah SWT 🙂
Mashallah his points are all validated, but
Most of what he said so beautifully literally is in the theory. In real practical day to day situation
There is only so much a person can be this much subdued and so unworldly patience and understanding to take the high road.
I think in general the Muslims community are so good at sugar coding issues.
What the khateeb is saying or at least what I understood based on my little knowledge and understanding is that try to be an ideal Muslim which is trying to be like our beloved prophet, enduring everything and hoping nothing from anyone beside Allah that's the essence of the khutba I suppose, every Muslim should try to get to that level but Allah knows and prophet knew that its not a possible goal to be achieved by everybody so there are different level choices of imans and this is the highest level of imaan the middle ground of an is returning the favor and the lowest level of Imaan is trying not to hurt anyone.
So to answer your question 👀I believe that if you can't keep being the bigger person and can't be a neutral person either in a relationship you should walk out that's the most you can do
@@hannaha188 agreed that there only so much a person can endure but it's not suger coding but rather setting examples you would find all kind of people even in prophets Era, not everyone was our prophet nor everyone even from his Era could achieve his level of faith and iman so there were people who walked out of relationships and didn't take shit from anybody and they were not criticized 👀the khateeb is talking about the highest level of iman there's the middle ground and lower grounds of actions and imaan too
@@doncotti_certi4ever its sugar coating and 2nd, there's a difference a level you're trying to achieve cs what you actually do. Why set artificially low standards? Lastly, I don't think he's saying keep people in your life, hex saying don't isolate yourself in fear of getting hurt again, which is fair. Remain a person who is helpful and brings positivity to others, even if they don't always return the favour.
It's been happen to me for 40 yrs since I was a kid but I thank God for his help and keeping an on Eye me support keep me safe thank U God
I'm Kurdish but i watch English khotbah your channel is very useful thanks for everything 🤗👏
Uplifting reminder. May Allah guide us to the best standard of character. May Allah heal our hearts. May Allah heal our pain and sadness.
When people keep letting me down, it means I am expecting more from them than I am giving to them. It also means that I am keeping the focus not on my God & Deen, Gratitude included, but rather on my selfish needs/wants/desires...all of which is idolatry, no matter how temporary.
Jazaka Allahu khayran katheeran for this reminder 🙏🙏🙏
Sheikh always amazes us. This khutbah is truly related to our times
This is what I want to hear again n again. الحمد لله for this 😌
Idk how many times I have came back to this lecture
May peace, countless blessings and Mercy be upon the Holy beloved Prophet Muhammad ( S.A.W ).
❤️🌺❤️💐❤️🌷❤️🌹
Allah leads me here. He wants me to hear this as my heart grow weary and disappointed without a break. Alhamdulillah. ❤️❤️🤲🤲
Al Hamdllah for Islam. Nothing makes me feel more ate ease in my life. There is no greater support system Mashallah. Thank you Skeikh for the bars.
There is group of people that tend to:
📝 if you messed with them, they will messed you back.
📝 even if you leave them alone, they'll not leave you alone and make claims about you.
📝 if can get in the game and muscle your capabilities the way people deal with each other, but you won't come out clean.
Advice:
📝 Loan your name for a day, in which you will be impoverished you'll be in poverty.
📝 Let them speak, let them prick, let them do whatever they want.
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📝 in the day of judgement, all deeds will be compensated.
📝 the era of people get hardship to find trustworthy person: rare price.
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Reminder:
📝 Hold the quality in different standard. Be the 1 out of other 99 camels.
📝 Don't justify bad behavior based on others bad behavior.
📝 Don't punish people with the pain that was inflicted within.
📝 Refuse to succumb in nastiness or things that have become acceptable amongst people. Even if it will cost me something of this dunya.
📝 Don't loose the akheerah and seek for Allah's rahmah.
📝 Don't preclude the possibility, even if it needs time.
📝 Lower expectations on people, and grow stronger bond to Allah.
📝 Give yourself: name, reputation, etc. Give all back to Allah.
📝 Don't justify yourself, if messed up and do wrong seek forgiveness to Allah.
Thank you for this amazing video. ✨️
Assalaamu alaikum(wrb).
Masha Allah! I felt Dr Omar Suleiman was talking to me directly. For someone who has been always let down by one after another, this speech was comforting. Jazakallah khairan. May Allah(SWT) bless you always. Ameen.
He is sharing his own life experience, as well as Prophet life experience and companion.
I heard this lecture today by auto play. It's like Allah swt made me hear this right when I needed it. Subhanallah
I really needed to hear this. Definitely patience is necessary with toxic people/fam in todays’ world.
Alhamduillah 🤲 Sub7anAllah I was struggling with this matter this past month.. may Allah heal the hearts and unite the ummah..
سبحان الله و بحمده ,- سبحان الله العظيم💕🌷
اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ وَسَلِّمْ عَلَى نَبِيِّنَا مُحَمَّدٍ
ﷺ💕🌷
It came as recommended at a time, when I needed it the most. SubhanAllah
Amin ya RABBI. Shukraan ya Ustaz.
SubhanaAllah!! JajakAllah khairun for this wonderful talk 🙏
جزاك اللهُ خيرًا 🤲🏻♥️ سبحان الله
Words of wisdom….
Jazak'Allah khair for this speech Sheik. These were the words I needed to hear today
So many gems to unpack here. This was recommended to me exactly when I needed it subhanAllah. JazakAllah khair
Would also really appreciate the Hadith reference in the video description! This video was so powerful and relevant. The best lecture I’ve heard on this subject
MashaAllah I see the Dr. 😍😍 congratulations! Mashaallah TabarakAllah
This is so beautifully explained.
جزاكم الله خيرا
JazakAllah Khair Imam, it really helped me
Jazakallah khairan Dr. Omar for another insightful and a much needed khutbah
JazakAllah Khair. I really needed this 😭
Your weekly khutbas are always the answers to my duas, wallah
Thank you for the encouragement.Blessings
Jazakallahu khairan Brother Omar 👍
Jazakallahu khairan katsiran...
May Allah bless you and your family Dr. oemar...
Your speech soothe my heart...
I fehlt so touched by this lecture. Alhamdulillah
Many thanks to you and all your efforts.
I needed this so bad right now alhamduallah
جزاكم الله خيرا و في ميزان حسناتكم جميعا يوم القيامة
13:14 JazakumuAllahu kheyran May Allah make us amongst them and grant us ikhlas
Mashaa Allah. Thank you for the reminder, I really needed this
Masha Allah Tabarakallah
I needed this SubhanAllah! Thank you so much!!
JazakAllah khair! Needed it so bad. Beautifully put together ❤️
I just got betrayed by friend today and I need some motivations on how to overcome them. Alhamdulillah this is the best. 😢
Sir Omar,beautiful speech.
Ma shaa ALLAH so relevant in these times to be good to all and do ahsan to all
The lecture is truly relatable to us in many ways. May Allah SWT make us amongst the ones who have those high standards. Let us be amongst the ones who forgive others faults for the sake of Allah SWT. Ameen
Excellent khutba.
Learned something beautiful today as someone who struggles alot with dealing people as a result of past experiences.
Assalamu alaikum brother where are u from?
Thank you very much. Jazak Allahu khairan.
I don't have brother. .. I see u as my elder bro.. Guiding me to truth and righteousness... 😎😎 may Allah help u reach levels in jannah masha aAlah
I needed this
I love this message much needed thank you .... all praise is due to Allah
Subhanallah I needed this
One of the most well spoken Scholar. Ma Sha Allah.
May All-Mighty Allah continue to protect Dr Omar Suleiman, amin
Walekum Asalam wr wb.
Ameen to all your Duas.
Jazak Allah khair, Sheikh Omar suleman.
May Allah bless you with more knowledge of His Deen.
Alhamdullilah i found it in the right time. Jazakallah khair.
It would've been much better if the first part of the khutbah was still in the video, part where Cheikh Omar was making dua'a... It was very heart warming masha'Allah
Alhamdullilah. Thanks Sheikh. Everyday I strive to be a better muslim.
Jazakhallah Khairan
Jazakallah Khair. This lecture has helped me so much. Being let down by so many....
This is such a great khutbah. May Allah bless you always, Omar.
Thank you. I needed to hear that.
I love this. Thank you
Jazak Allahu khairan
Jazak Allah khairan brother sheikh Omar Suleiman for clearing this topic...may Allah reward you 🤲🌷
Another very good Khutbah by Sh. Omar Suleiman. May Allah (SWT) bless you and your family, abundantly, Ameen.
Jazak Allah Khairun kaseera dear brother, may Allah SWT reward you in this world and hereafter, ameen sum Ameen Ya'Rabul Alameen.
Subxan’allah. Jazakallah kheyr for this video
Jazakallah sheikh May Allah rewind you for taking the time to reminds us these words it definitely touched my heart n will make big difference in my life inshallah 💜💜
Subhanallah. Thank you, dear Shaykh, for your many thoughtful lectures. May Allah keep showering you and the family and our Ummah with blessings with miracles. Ameen
Masya Allah.Thank you so much.
An eloquent and blessed and intelligent advisory. Many blessings to the speakers and listeners. 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏
Exactly what I needed!