Gifted People In The Workspace

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  • @michaelh7527
    @michaelh7527 2 роки тому +13

    Your video really helped me out immensely. I don't claim to be gifted, smarter, or better than others. But I just know how to do things in a way that gets results, or makes something work. But I struggle with communication and how to explain how I fixed something or what my process was to troubleshoot or diagnose something.
    I also struggle with being social and fitting in. I am quiet, and reserved, but friendly. It's often mistaken as an attitude that I am rude or think I am better than others. But that couldn't be farther from the truth. One small example just happened last month. I was at a group gathering of my wife's friends and coworkers to watch a college football game. They were grilling, laughing, and having a good time. It was discovered they didn't have the correct channel to see the game and the mood went down. I quietly got to thinking and looking for a solution. The tv had wifi connection, wife's phone has unlimited data and mobile hotspot. So I connected the tv with hotspot, pulled up UA-cam, lowered the resolution to 240 so hotspot could keep up. I then found the game Livestream on UA-cam.... I was the hero of the room and felt pretty darn good inside.
    But being the quiet type, I mostly kept to myself. The next day, people were asking my wife if I was mad or didn't like them. She said he had a blast. He is just an introvert.
    I am jumping around lol. But this is how my mind works and it brings out another subject. Of course I love her and she is my rock that I feel secure around. But how in the world I found my wife is beyond me. I am an introvert and she is very much an extrovert. Just imagine a monk and Beyonce together 🤣🤣🤣. I am the one sitting quietly enjoying a drink at her favorite karaoke bar. She is singing her heart out getting a crowd excited lol. We have been together almost 17 years. She says I provide the emotional stability and everything she is missing and that is why she loves me so much... But on occasion, she breaks me out of the shell 👍

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому +3

      Thank you for watching and commenting. I am an introvert and have some similar experiences. No worries with jumping around, that is how I roll! Again, thanks.

  • @chorrellpique4057
    @chorrellpique4057 3 роки тому +43

    It’s very exhausting, because the majority of people won’t ever understand you. You must constantly adapt to others, whilst others can’t adapt to you.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  3 роки тому +5

      Yes, it can be exhausting. This is why I find having people around us who "get us" so helpful. It keeps me going

    • @Ariadne76-k3d
      @Ariadne76-k3d 4 місяці тому +3

      And they won't even try. And they'll be jealous and spiteful.

  • @therealmellyb
    @therealmellyb 2 роки тому +21

    As a gifted person I’ve felt misunderstood my entire life….. perfectionism impostor syndrome fear of failure. I think all gifted kids should get counseling because coping can be sooo hard.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому +1

      Me too. There is so much. I am supporting gifted mentoring for young folks and people just emerging into their giftedness. I think it will ease some of the challenges that are very real. Thanks for watching!

  • @langkarenga3233
    @langkarenga3233 2 роки тому +12

    I’ve unfortunately been in a situation similar to one of the commenters below. I’m thirty two years of age, African American, and a twice exceptional Profoundly Gifted male. I have no “formal education” other than a high school diploma and have worked menial jobs for nearly the entirety of my vocational experience. And you can surmise from your experience with gifted to PG employed folk that this is often a recipe for disaster, not only am I more cognitively different than both my peers and my employers I’m also more emotionally complex, which presents problems when dealing with corporate corruption and status quo.
    I’m a staunch autodidact and an advocate for skilled through alternative route workers and autodidactic practitioners, and as of 2021 I teach students in AP English, AP Biology, and AP World History without having a degree in anything and without having taken any AP classes in my youth. My students range from tenth grade to a college sophomore. I also work at a local CVS as a cashier where I get to employ my skills and interest in linguistics, anthropology, and language.
    I’m the only “bilingual” person on my staff in the front store and aid customers In both Spanish and ASL as well as conversing in at least five different languages at the conversational level.
    My dyscalculia inhibits my mental math as a cashier especially when I’m stressed, but I have a photographic memory, hyperphantasia, synesthesia and a very unorthodox way of solving problems that looks messy and unorganized but works for me. None of my coworkers understand that when I’m over sensed it’s not always bad and it doesn’t equate to mania or drug use.
    Playing the job market schpiel of “the customer is always right” and punctuality equates to diligence and wherewithal it’s almost to the point where I can only swallow as much as I can before I regurgitate in the form of burnout or lashing out when overwhelmed. My relationships are lackluster as well due to only finding intellectual mates in people who are educationally “superior” to me and often times financially which creates a gap.
    Often times even then I don’t find potential partners to offer that much on that deeper wave length, and if I do find a person close to my level I love bomb and scare them away. I don’t make sense to most people bc what I am cant be reduced to generalizations or categorizations that are poorly defined. I can enjoy rap music from my youth while also having debates with PG friends about Pleistocene rewilding, Altaic Hypothesis linguistic theory, and geeking out about an article on Evolutionary psychology. Like you said above it’s extremely hard to “feel heard” and understood, and as a black man my intellectual identity is either overlooked or over emphasized to convince others of my humanity and worth, which has the adverse affect.
    No one understands that my central nervous system and reward centers in my brain are just heightened in a way that they can’t comprehend.
    I don’t learn or do things “just because” and I don’t understand the need to placate to individuals who are a detriment to me. I’ve had existential crisis since I was at least five, so I’m constantly evaluating myself in an ontological, axiological, and epistemological way. And most people even at work can’t be bothered to look beyond what is seen to go to the core of the issue and sometimes the person. But I do enjoy having meaningful interactions with people and brightening up peoples days. I appreciate that you made this video letting others no they aren’t deficient for thinking and experiencing the world differently.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому +3

      Lang, I hear you and I can feel so many emotions while reading. Thank you so much for watching and sharing you story with me. Know that you are not alone in your experience and that often, work colleagues are not the peer group that feeds our unique and profoundly gifted beings. There are many people seeking meaningful interactions while appreciating the deep diversity within each of us. You comments have touched my soul Thank you.

    • @langkarenga3233
      @langkarenga3233 2 роки тому +2

      @Someonegetsme Thank you! It feels very good to be seen and validated, I often feel as if my Giftedness is more of a nuisance than a benefit. In this world of pragmatism and results gifted minds are expected to produce and prove their worth through productivity. I use the languages I know to show solidarity with my various customers of different backgrounds. I also have an unorthodox style of teaching that is hard to explain to the parents of my students. The other day I had an in-depth discussion with my one student about media portrayals, and I had another discussion with a student about allegories and how current events influence entertainment. I used a show called snowfall about the crack epidemic in the eighties to showcase negative portrayals of African Americans that were a byproduct of the 1985 Iran-Contra affair and the Nicaraguan civil war that saw the government using local gang members in inner cities to sell central and South American cocaine to fund the Contras to only turn around and conduct a war on said drug dealers and the drug addicted folks that were a result of the governments mechanizations. I also connected this all with the Cold War and the rise of the Soviet Union and going as far back as the founding of Kiev by Rus Vikings And how it’s being used as a catalyst for this unholy invasion. My style of teaching as well as problem solving is unorthodox bc of my holistic thought process which most people find unnecessary and wasteful. I often get silenced and rushed when speaking bc I’m making connections and reciting the tapestry of connections in my head. I have PG friends who I can connect with but as you said I have to have other outlets to get the meaningful life I desire. Thank you for your advocacy for gifted adults who are a population that is vastly underrepresented and studied by psychologist and psyshometricians.

  • @manvmachable
    @manvmachable Рік тому +3

    One of the best things about being gifted is that most people absolutely dont care and treat me like a normal person. I love that.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  Рік тому

      This is awesome!! What a great workplace for you to thrive! Thanks for watching and sharing.

  • @KNRK379
    @KNRK379 3 роки тому +9

    This was so validating. I feel that I've spent a LOT of time learning how to be socially acceptable and socially desirable in the workplace. It's something I've consciously worked on to make sure I will be successful. And it was really validating to know that my baseline & where I came from is expected due to how my brain is wired. Also, this is the first time I've heard that transitions can be hard for gifted people. I'm interested to learn more about that now. I feel like I've always been expected to have faster transition ability because of my giftedness. But it doesn't work well in practice.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for watching and commenting. Yes, transitions can be very challenging for gifted people. Yes, others, and sometimes we ourselves, are not aware of the need for help with transitions. it can set up inner resentment and misunderstandings. I m glad this video offered you new information to ponder. Feel free to schedule a get to know you call if you wish to speak in person: visionsapplied.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=4017868 Be Well. Dianne

  • @angiecibis
    @angiecibis 8 місяців тому +1

    This video is exactly what I needed. I ended up taking my graphic design skills solo after 15 years of working for companies where many people, to varying degrees, stifled my giftedness and in some cases, blatantly bullied me. As a side note, I think I've stayed in the same role as a graphic designer because I get to dive into a multitude of topics since my clients vary, which keeps things interesting and fun.

    • @benjaminwu5465
      @benjaminwu5465 7 місяців тому

      Good for you. May be I should do the same.

  • @annbrown9273
    @annbrown9273 3 роки тому +7

    I am not sure if I am truly gifted, but I related to some of the situations she described. I feel like almost every day is a performance. I can relate to knowing something isn't right or working, without knowing how to explain it.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  3 роки тому +3

      It sounds like you have a good level of intuitive knowing which is serving you well. I call this being spiritually sensitive which is a form of giftedness in the most functional way! Thank you for watching.

  • @carlkim2577
    @carlkim2577 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you. This was helpful. I instinctively developed multiple support networks at work. It was that they could only understand one piece of the work that I do; so it required multiple people to cover the full range.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 місяці тому

      You are welcome. Thank you for watching. I am happy you got value from this episode.

  • @xedn
    @xedn 3 роки тому +11

    I can see things in very complex views and no one can really understand what I feel it’s very hard to explain what I see and feel to others because it’s constantly forming into new shapes

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  3 роки тому +4

      I completely understand, for me the different channels of thought and emotional intensity have been challenging at times. Thank you for watching. I trust this episode was useful for you.

  • @Ariadne76-k3d
    @Ariadne76-k3d 4 місяці тому +1

    I just found that "relaxing in the staff room" was no fun because people ignored me, interrupted me,and haf no idea what I was talking about a lot of the time.
    And multiple peer groups??? I would be happy to find ONE peer group.
    Also, why would people think that a highly intelligent, dedicated, productive employee was a liability??

  • @hypatia4754
    @hypatia4754 2 роки тому +3

    One of the things I´ve done when I´ve come to a solution through intuition, is to then go back and document my thought process so I can pass that solution on to my managers as well thought out and logical. Time consuming but necessary. The last place I worked at my ideas were completely "stolen" by my supervisor, who left the company and then came back as head of the department and completely implemented my strategy for an overhaul of our IT systems. I´m certain he used this idea as leverage to return as departmental head. This isn´t the first time it´s happened. Meanwhile, I get stuck working with people I can´t stand and called out for being rude to them when I tell them they´re lying (only when provoked, though). It´s too hard to work with people. It´s too disappointing. I work for myself now, with the peace and quiet I need to think, without having to puzzle over why people think I´m mad or sad when I´m simply sitting at my desk thinking.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому

      Oh my. I have had the same thing happen (ideas being stolen). I have learned the "need to know" basis of sharing. I have leaned that it is OK to keep my card close to my chest so to speak and share only what can be understood by the listener. This can also be frustrating and you may not have as many incidents of stolen intellectual property. I had an entire program stolen from me along with over 1K documents. I kept hearing intuitively "There is more where that came from". That intuitive voice was right. There has been much more and I am happier for having moved beyond the old environment. I appreciate your comment so much. Thank you for watching.

  • @danford7532
    @danford7532 7 місяців тому +3

    I am gifted, but by being able to do many things my company took advantage of me, giving me many jobs without any rewards.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 місяці тому

      Oh, i have lived that reality as well. I used to think I was the default person for everything. Setting healthy boundaries is helpful, especially your inner boundaries.

  • @socratesnewell5009
    @socratesnewell5009 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 місяці тому

      You are welcome. Thanks for watching.

  • @INsightfulLH
    @INsightfulLH Рік тому +1

    I understand you completely. Great work that you’re doing.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  Рік тому

      Thank you so much. And thank you for watching.

  • @jacquelinesmith6712
    @jacquelinesmith6712 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this video. I'm not quite sure if I identify myself as gifted as of yet, but I do know that I have high sensitivity, a sharp intuition, and my mind goes faster than I can talk. I also talk faster when I do speak and have had the time to think. In addition I have an impeccable memory that no one will fully comprehend. I've been feeling lost and isolated in the social norm, and everyone that encounters me regards me as the one that "knows everything" and it's frustrating that I keep having to remind everyone that I don't know everything at times. In my work experience and where I currently work now I've had to retreat from social situations and places because I know that I will get cranky for a prolonged period of time in these circumstances in conjunction to feeling awkward around friends and family. I'm slowly beginning to embrace this about me and within time I'll come to terms with it. Thank you again.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому

      Thank you for your comment. From what you describe, you could relate to being gifted and intensely sensitive which includes a keen intuition. I relate to the social situations as well. I am delighted that the episode has served you and I truly appreciate reading your words here.

  • @vcab6875
    @vcab6875 Рік тому +1

    Most folks in hierarchical organization panic when someone under them is in an entirely different intellectual league.
    The mere presence of large strong men intimidates most insecure men.
    Same principle applies to being in the mere presence of powerful minds.

  • @zqxzqxzqx1
    @zqxzqxzqx1 3 роки тому +9

    After 14 years of being completely misunderstood (as a profoundly gifted person,) I'm now being held at the bottom level at work. It's incredibly boring.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  3 роки тому +3

      Thank you for watching. I hope this episode and others are helpful. Sadly this happens to too many profoundly gifted people. Feel free to schedule a discovery call if you think speaking will be helpful.

    • @zqxzqxzqx1
      @zqxzqxzqx1 Рік тому

      @@someonegetsme I appreciate it, but a lifetime in therapy has gained me nothing.

  • @Jamey-d8m
    @Jamey-d8m 7 місяців тому +1

    Everything you said has helped me. How can i get you to be my mentor as a am gifted and struggling 😪

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 місяці тому

      Thank you so much. We can schedule a get to know you call and go from there. visionsapplied.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=4017868

  • @benben-dn1ck
    @benben-dn1ck 8 місяців тому

    Ok i have a question.Can it be said that overexirabilities strongly correlate with giftedness?I mean can the non-gifted feature overexcitability?

  • @user-wb6bw1dc9n
    @user-wb6bw1dc9n 2 роки тому +1

    Idk what I am but am just weird struggling every day and have a lot of emotions. And it confuses me that people around me telling me they see something in me, that I can reach a lot. Yet I didn't reached anything, feels like a failure.

    • @someonegetsme
      @someonegetsme  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for watching. Often, we are the last to really see our own talents and gifts.

  • @HananGrow
    @HananGrow 4 місяці тому

    It's funny how your video and others' comments are rephrased versions of my thoughts or experiences. I wish I could find a reliable confirmation that it's a "gift" more than a "test".

  • @scottjackson163
    @scottjackson163 Рік тому +2

    I find the intuition aspect of “knowing” most troublesome. I don’t like having to explain that which I know in words that will convince others. You always sound like a jerk when you say, in effect (or actually), “I know I’m right.”

    • @Ariadne76-k3d
      @Ariadne76-k3d 4 місяці тому

      I just hate when people try to fool me when I can see right through them.

  • @iamsoogi
    @iamsoogi 2 місяці тому

    This is a suspicious concept because how do we gauge who is gifted and who isn’t? Seems like anyone can call themselves gifted just to feel special about themselves and lead to more narcissistic behavior

  • @user-on2md7gk4b
    @user-on2md7gk4b 3 місяці тому

    We are threatening and get stabed in the back ,people keep being non coopérative, and not give you what you need to get your things done, very hypocritical behavior and energy sucking non stop, takes all of your energy To get things done before you realize that this is all done on purpose.