Too be honest I will just divorce and move on because I don't have the time and patience to fix my broken marriage and promises marriage counseling is just a waste of time
Break Spiritual Laws and your Soul Fractures & Fragments until you die of unknown causes that is when your soul Shatters... A Demon is created. Banished from reincarnating back to the Material Plane. Your Freewill allows you Zero Excuses. No. Then why is it that every time your successful in adultry it greatly impacts your heart only? In the Revelations of Cedric he states "The Heart is the home of the Soul" . Let that sink in. Also [ 21 Grams - Duncan McDougal 1906 ]
It makes me feel I did the right thing. Three months no contact at all!! It was so difficult but once I realized it was becoming so toxic and detrimental to my mental health I had to say, I choose myself. Now I just am trying to heal from the withdrawal of the loss and letting go of the mistakes.
So a sign to you that it’s over is when he starts giving you the same lame excuses he used on his wife to be with you? Fascinating. You don’t say… ? For real?!?!
I can relate almost on 2 year relationship, she recently ended, we were friends for years , both married but she divorced not because of me. I will miss her but i understand i cannot give her my full attention
I was depressed for almost 2 years after we ended our affair and maybe even still a little now 4 years later I am still. I think I will be until we get back together.
Your a Ding Dong,an affair isn't SPECIAL!!!!! It's deceiving, lying, cheating, hurtful, what is so special about this. I can't believe you help people in this. YIKES 😬
@@Gotoworkkk some of us who found this channel wanted help to recognize what affairs look like and how to heal from them even if we divorced our husbands.
I have to disagree. My love for my husband was buried under anger and resentment so I could not feel the emotion of love for him. But love is not just an emotion it is also an action and I was not acting in love towards him I was behaving selfishly. I can't speak for everyone but I know anger and resentment play a huge factor in infidelity.
My experience with my wife and her affair. When I discovered the affair, her affair partner blamed her and called her all kinds of names. Then, he avoided her till he "thought" the cost was clear. At the end of the affair, (10 months later) he maid her fell guilty, and tells her that she has a choice to make as he stays away, and disappears, and of course sleeps around. She still has a soul tie to her partner and we still don't have a marriage. It's been 6 years now from discovery.
@@staceychenevert I can’t truly answer that. She does not hold herself accountable for any of her actions or any wrongdoing. We’ve been to counseling, marriage retreats. She don’t budge. Every day I pray to have a marriage of God. So, I will not count out that she may talk with you. Myself, im getting tired. Thank you for your reply.
It has been terrible for me because I do love her and she says she lives me but having such strong feelings that have to be hidden are not natural or healthy
@@staceychenevert I’ve decided to block her out if my life. One of the hardest decisions I’ve ever emotionally had to make but surprisingly I’m so much happier even though I miss her friendship. She was never ready for me…
The marriage tl I believe the root cause of an affair is unhealed childhood wounds. The marriage problems reveal and trigger those wounds. That's why people have multiple affairs or cheat on every person they are with. Problem is we don't know we have wounds that are controlling our behavior. Unless the unfaithful is willing to do the deeper work to heal nothing will change.
Lack of morals. Thinking that nothing is wrong with an affair. But, later, the affair doesn't work out because marriage is legally binding and married people stay married for good reasons.
@@natashadickson4819 what good is your marriage though if there is no trust. You want to stay married to a roommate and not an actual loving and loyal partner?
I'm so sorry to hear that. You are right the odds are against them. The percentage of them staying together is 30%. I just want you to know that it was not your fault.
@@staceychenevert I got strong and started focusing on myself. I have job interviews lined up, I got my own place to have my own space until we can talk but I started the process of filing for divorce a month ago when his affair really took off. I’m having second thoughts on this and feel like I should just hold off continuing the divorce process. Maybe his affair will end and he might want to work on the marriage. Just such an awful place to be in. No one would support me if I took him back. I strongly feel like we can work this out
@@thenorthface4 that's awesome I know its hard to take those steps but it's so good for YOU. Not many people support marriage reconciliation after infidelity but you have to do what makes you happy and what feels right for you. God saved our marriage and I know not everyone encouraged my husband to fight for me but I'm forever grateful to him for not giving up on me. How long has he been in the affair?
@@staceychenevert as far as I know since august and I caught him in September. This girl he’s seeing has been married 4 years. I just married my husband in July… they have basically run away together since September. Doesn’t seem healthy building their relationship on lies, cheating on spouses and deceit. Doesn’t seem like it will last all that long
@SaystheTruth3 sorry...but a bad marriage isn't the cause of infidelity. Sure, it contributes somewhat...but infidelity is 100% a CHOICE. Research shows that infidelity has more to do with the person's own issues and their own lack of coping skills than it does with problems in their relationship.
@@staceychenevertJesus would never condone infidelity. Yes, he is about forgiveness...but do not use Christ to help justify an unfaithful person's choices. Of course they're human beings and deserve compassion...what ISN'T ok is giving them and their affair partners advice that helps them continue to the infidelity...which a lot of your videos do.
I have been on and off with him for 5 years.. we do all the lovey dovey texting/sexting..meet up, have an amazing few hours in a hotel ( he hasn't taken me out out in about 2 years in case we are seen blah blah but think he is just being lazy ), then something will trigger an argument, like he is backing off or not giving me as much time due to work or family commitments so ,we will argue to the point of not talking for 2/4 months( which suits him and i think he banks on it to be honest).then presto he will initiate a conversation which by this time i'm desperate to hear from him because i am missing him. It starts all over again.. weeks of texting, photos, sexting, an occasional phone call then a meet up. This past year we haven't been getting as far as a meet up due to me calling it off last minute or he may do that also, tit for tat. I have only seen him twice this year. We were so 'in love' up to a couple of days ago until i burst the bubble last night as he has been visiting a dating site so i blew up. Not only a wife, me and now dating site???? It is so toxic and i know this. I have left him twice now and tried with someone available but he is always there in the back of my mind and heart, so i will sabotage these perfectly healthy relationships as soon as he initiates contact. I think i must be mentally deranged. Please help!! A lot of what you have expressed in this video makes perfect sense. i don't know how to get out of this mentally once and for all. When i met him he told me he was seperated so i gave him a chance as felt really attracted to him and he had tried for weeks to get me to say yes to a date, but later found out he is married to his first cousin ( he is Kurdish and it was an arranged marriage which is totally accepted in their community but makes me feel ill) . I am so dissapointed in him but mostly myself for being in this mess. I'm desperate to get out once and for all as i know deep down i can never trust him to love me as i do him. Oh and its always my fault whenever we argue so he says.
Sounds so much like my story, I’m so sorry and I feel for u. I just came out of only a 10 moths affair, and all I do now is run to Jesus. Only Jesus can heal and set me free from this satanic trap 🙏 I’m 3 weeks free - you can do it. Run to Jesus Christ 🙏 only he can break this Bondage. Amen
@@777cretbo yes I broke it off as I really started hating him and couldn’t do that to myself. I was very out of character and having very dark thoughts which is not in my nature at all and didn’t want to have the toxicity effect me anymore. It got to the point where my anxiety was so bad I couldn’t leave the house and that was the last straw. I’ve blocked him on absolutely everything so unless he physically comes to my door which he won’t as he’s too much of a coward thank God, then I have no contact method at all. I deleted all our photos, put the ring he bought me away long before I cut him off as I felt it represented deceit, lies and stupidity. I felt such relief after I decided to walk away for good. I do occasionally miss him but the freedom I feel now is far bigger than missing him now and again. I know It’s such a touchy subject and hits a nerve with some people when you are with a married person, and it opens up an audience who like to judge ,but unless they are in your shoes then no one has a right to judge at all. I’ve learnt a lot through this journey as I know he has too. Life is not black and white, there is colour in between and I believe people come into our life to help us become wiser, more patient, empathy, push buttons etc.. I’m just glad I wasn’t his wife and I was the other woman, as I knew him for what he was doing , lying to her etc.. plus I was able to walk away and be free from him with no strings at all. 🙏 I really hope this helps someone going through this atm. I wish you all peace, love and light Xxx
It's important to recognize these signs when you are having an affair. It will help you stop fighting the ending and causing yourself more pain.
@Jordan Johns thank you 😊
Too be honest I will just divorce and move on because I don't have the time and patience to fix my broken marriage and promises marriage counseling is just a waste of time
Break Spiritual Laws and your Soul Fractures & Fragments until you die of unknown causes that is when your soul Shatters... A Demon is created. Banished from reincarnating back to the Material Plane. Your Freewill allows you Zero Excuses. No. Then why is it that every time your successful in adultry it greatly impacts your heart only? In the Revelations of Cedric he states "The Heart is the home of the Soul" . Let that sink in. Also [ 21 Grams - Duncan McDougal 1906 ]
It makes me feel I did the right thing. Three months no contact at all!! It was so difficult but once I realized it was becoming so toxic and detrimental to my mental health I had to say, I choose myself. Now I just am trying to heal from the withdrawal of the loss and letting go of the mistakes.
That's awesome
He didn’t stay with him, right?
So a sign to you that it’s over is when he starts giving you the same lame excuses he used on his wife to be with you? Fascinating. You don’t say… ? For real?!?!
Bruh 😂😂
The background noise is very distracting
"Hey, let's just be friends" also means "I'm afraid that you'll become a stalker, a bunny boiler, a true Home Wrecker."
Pull off the bandaid immediately and get the hell out of there. It will hurt worse otherwise
Appreciate this Stacey, I was the 3rd wheel and although it ended 2020 still causes pain if she arises, will have to cut it totally off
Yes, it's important to cut it off otherwise we live in a perpetual state of pain.
I can relate almost on 2 year relationship, she recently ended, we were friends for years , both married but she divorced not because of me. I will miss her but i understand i cannot give her my full attention
I know its hard. Hang in there you deserve a healthy relationship.
I just ended it 3 weeks ago - I wish the married man would not had pursued me - now it’s a battle to not doll back into a relapse
I was depressed for almost 2 years after we ended our affair and maybe even still a little now 4 years later I am still. I think I will be until we get back together.
I feel for you . Come on , we can do much better then breadcrumbs. I just ended mine 3 weeks ago
I have been depressed six months. In heavy duty therapy now.
@@katielung6515how is it going
Maybe you should with someone that’s available instead of being a Homewrecker
@@sohae.4062no shame, no repentance, no empathy for the pain caused to the spouse they pretend doesnt exist
Ilike all your videos. Do you have any on monckey branching?
Thanks
Your a Ding Dong,an affair isn't SPECIAL!!!!! It's deceiving, lying, cheating, hurtful, what is so special about this. I can't believe you help people in this. YIKES 😬
Exactly
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽say it’s Louder for the cheats in the back!
Agree! This is disgusting
Yet you’re on here??
@@Gotoworkkk some of us who found this channel wanted help to recognize what affairs look like and how to heal from them even if we divorced our husbands.
don't trust emotion
WOW Spot on ... Stage 5
If someone is cheating on you 90% of the time they don't or never did love/care about you
I have to disagree. My love for my husband was buried under anger and resentment so I could not feel the emotion of love for him. But love is not just an emotion it is also an action and I was not acting in love towards him I was behaving selfishly. I can't speak for everyone but I know anger and resentment play a huge factor in infidelity.
True that 100 💯
My experience with my wife and her affair. When I discovered the affair, her affair partner blamed her and called her all kinds of names. Then, he avoided her till he "thought" the cost was clear. At the end of the affair, (10 months later) he maid her fell guilty, and tells her that she has a choice to make as he stays away, and disappears, and of course sleeps around. She still has a soul tie to her partner and we still don't have a marriage. It's been 6 years now from discovery.
Oh gosh I'm so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately it's common. Would she be willing to talk with me?
@@staceychenevert I can’t truly answer that. She does not hold herself accountable for any of her actions or any wrongdoing. We’ve been to counseling, marriage retreats. She don’t budge. Every day I pray to have a marriage of God. So, I will not count out that she may talk with you. Myself, im getting tired. Thank you for your reply.
It has been terrible for me because I do love her and she says she lives me but having such strong feelings that have to be hidden are not natural or healthy
I understand its not easy to get over.
@@staceychenevert I’ve decided to block her out if my life. One of the hardest decisions I’ve ever emotionally had to make but surprisingly I’m so much happier even though I miss her friendship. She was never ready for me…
If the marriage didn't cause the affair, then what did?
The marriage tl I believe the root cause of an affair is unhealed childhood wounds. The marriage problems reveal and trigger those wounds. That's why people have multiple affairs or cheat on every person they are with. Problem is we don't know we have wounds that are controlling our behavior. Unless the unfaithful is willing to do the deeper work to heal nothing will change.
I know I was shocked as well
Lack of morals. Thinking that nothing is wrong with an affair. But, later, the affair doesn't work out because marriage is legally binding and married people stay married for good reasons.
@@natashadickson4819 affairs sometimes last for years… Who are you trying to kid?
@@natashadickson4819 what good is your marriage though if there is no trust. You want to stay married to a roommate and not an actual loving and loyal partner?
My husband decided to leave me for his affair partner who is also married. It’s so painful but I don’t believe it will last between them.
I'm so sorry to hear that. You are right the odds are against them. The percentage of them staying together is 30%. I just want you to know that it was not your fault.
@@staceychenevert I got strong and started focusing on myself. I have job interviews lined up, I got my own place to have my own space until we can talk but I started the process of filing for divorce a month ago when his affair really took off. I’m having second thoughts on this and feel like I should just hold off continuing the divorce process. Maybe his affair will end and he might want to work on the marriage. Just such an awful place to be in. No one would support me if I took him back. I strongly feel like we can work this out
@@thenorthface4 that's awesome I know its hard to take those steps but it's so good for YOU. Not many people support marriage reconciliation after infidelity but you have to do what makes you happy and what feels right for you. God saved our marriage and I know not everyone encouraged my husband to fight for me but I'm forever grateful to him for not giving up on me. How long has he been in the affair?
@@staceychenevert as far as I know since august and I caught him in September. This girl he’s seeing has been married 4 years. I just married my husband in July… they have basically run away together since September. Doesn’t seem healthy building their relationship on lies, cheating on spouses and deceit. Doesn’t seem like it will last all that long
@@thenorthface4 I agree it may not last long.
Do u have 5 signs that your spouse is having,or had, a physical or an emotional affair?
Not yet
should be titled, 5 reasons you should get ready for Hell (the Destination)
So true
for cheating to begin with
Im curious and you’re fully in your right not to answer. Did you end the affair or did he?
I ended it
Doomed to fail from the start.
Yes they are
Three minutes in and she still hasn't gotten to the point...
Well this isn't tiktok and all the information I share is necessary.
The sound in your background is disturbing
Wow, lets coach the unfaithful real nice. What is this world coming too. There are NO WORDS FOR YOU.
This is real life... She's only trying to help those in need.
There are other videos about keeping your marriage from falling apart to begin with...
It's called the love and saving grace of Jesus.
Thank you 💕 save those hurting in silence
@SaystheTruth3 sorry...but a bad marriage isn't the cause of infidelity. Sure, it contributes somewhat...but infidelity is 100% a CHOICE. Research shows that infidelity has more to do with the person's own issues and their own lack of coping skills than it does with problems in their relationship.
@@staceychenevertJesus would never condone infidelity. Yes, he is about forgiveness...but do not use Christ to help justify an unfaithful person's choices. Of course they're human beings and deserve compassion...what ISN'T ok is giving them and their affair partners advice that helps them continue to the infidelity...which a lot of your videos do.
I have been on and off with him for 5 years.. we do all the lovey dovey texting/sexting..meet up, have an amazing few hours in a hotel ( he hasn't taken me out out in about 2 years in case we are seen blah blah but think he is just being lazy ), then something will trigger an argument, like he is backing off or not giving me as much time due to work or family commitments so ,we will argue to the point of not talking for 2/4 months( which suits him and i think he banks on it to be honest).then presto he will initiate a conversation which by this time i'm desperate to hear from him because i am missing him. It starts all over again.. weeks of texting, photos, sexting, an occasional phone call then a meet up. This past year we haven't been getting as far as a meet up due to me calling it off last minute or he may do that also, tit for tat. I have only seen him twice this year. We were so 'in love' up to a couple of days ago until i burst the bubble last night as he has been visiting a dating site so i blew up. Not only a wife, me and now dating site???? It is so toxic and i know this. I have left him twice now and tried with someone available but he is always there in the back of my mind and heart, so i will sabotage these perfectly healthy relationships as soon as he initiates contact. I think i must be mentally deranged. Please help!! A lot of what you have expressed in this video makes perfect sense. i don't know how to get out of this mentally once and for all. When i met him he told me he was seperated so i gave him a chance as felt really attracted to him and he had tried for weeks to get me to say yes to a date, but later found out he is married to his first cousin ( he is Kurdish and it was an arranged marriage which is totally accepted in their community but makes me feel ill) . I am so dissapointed in him but mostly myself for being in this mess. I'm desperate to get out once and for all as i know deep down i can never trust him to love me as i do him. Oh and its always my fault whenever we argue so he says.
You deserve so much more than this. It's not easy getting out but you can do it. If you like you can send me an email and we can chat more.
Sounds so much like my story, I’m so sorry and I feel for u. I just came out of only a 10 moths affair, and all I do now is run to Jesus. Only Jesus can heal and set me free from this satanic trap 🙏 I’m 3 weeks free - you can do it. Run to Jesus Christ 🙏 only he can break this Bondage. Amen
Did you ever get help and are you free from him?
Separated means "still married". I hope no one ever falls for a "separated" married person.
@@777cretbo yes I broke it off as I really started hating him and couldn’t do that to myself. I was very out of character and having very dark thoughts which is not in my nature at all and didn’t want to have the toxicity effect me anymore. It got to the point where my anxiety was so bad I couldn’t leave the house and that was the last straw. I’ve blocked him on absolutely everything so unless he physically comes to my door which he won’t as he’s too much of a coward thank God, then I have no contact method at all. I deleted all our photos, put the ring he bought me away long before I cut him off as I felt it represented deceit, lies and stupidity. I felt such relief after I decided to walk away for good. I do occasionally miss him but the freedom I feel now is far bigger than missing him now and again. I know It’s such a touchy subject and hits a nerve with some people when you are with a married person, and it opens up an audience who like to judge ,but unless they are in your shoes then no one has a right to judge at all. I’ve learnt a lot through this journey as I know he has too. Life is not black and white, there is colour in between and I believe people come into our life to help us become wiser, more patient, empathy, push buttons etc.. I’m just glad I wasn’t his wife and I was the other woman, as I knew him for what he was doing , lying to her etc.. plus I was able to walk away and be free from him with no strings at all. 🙏 I really hope this helps someone going through this atm. I wish you all peace, love and light Xxx