Do we all have Insecurities? | Fridays with Tab and Chance

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  • @brendaadams9315
    @brendaadams9315 Рік тому +134

    I love what Chance said that "I see what you see but I don't see the way you see it"! That's a profound statement! I love it!

  • @RockStar-ee3jb
    @RockStar-ee3jb Рік тому +580

    I like how chance is so thoughtful before he responds. He doesn't respond quickly but ponders before he speaks.

  • @sunkist3304
    @sunkist3304 Рік тому +129

    I went from 145lbs to 260lbs then down to 174lbs … working my way back down… my husband NEVER told me I was fat or body shamed me. He’s a keeper! I’m my own worst enemy.

  • @candicemessiah7106
    @candicemessiah7106 Рік тому +91

    I love how Chance be looking at her while she's talking about insecurities like "And you can still GET IT."

  • @shawnjones08
    @shawnjones08 Рік тому +205

    When Chance mentioned feeling like another woman was talking about Tab when she would speak negatively about herself I could relate. When my friends talk that way about themselves I’m quick to say “Don’t talk about my YOU like that!” Sometimes we need a reminder of the person we are from out loved one’s perspective. 18:12

  • @ginaloveslife8012
    @ginaloveslife8012 Рік тому +410

    Don’t y’all just love them?!!!! we love y’all because you’re so authentic which is rare nowadays.❤

  • @Reu1985
    @Reu1985 Рік тому +101

    The way Unc takes care with what he says and how Auntie receives it ...sooo much love ❤️

  • @Cam-kv5kx
    @Cam-kv5kx Рік тому +163

    please don’t ever stop Fridays with Tab and Chance. I appreciate the honest and authentic conversations!! You all are doing a great work!!

  • @tracycharnell
    @tracycharnell Рік тому +247

    I met you guys last week at the Image awards. Thank you so much for being authentic and not afraid to engage with your fans.

    • @YolandaK
      @YolandaK Рік тому +8

      How nice🙏🏾❤. I can’t wait for that opportunity. My 7 yr old twin girls want to meet Tab also. They just love Tab Time on YT❤. I explain how positive & uplifting this couple is. We use her hair products, Sunshine etc 😁

    • @KathyYvette
      @KathyYvette Рік тому +5

      I can't wait to meet them too!❤️ my daughter would like to meet choyce too

    • @JoyceDoty
      @JoyceDoty Рік тому +7

      They definitely are authentic. I met them and took pictures with them at the Kale My Name grand opening in LA.

    • @tammyhaynes6728
      @tammyhaynes6728 Рік тому +2

      Same I can’t wait to meet Tab as well

    • @nobuhlegamede9818
      @nobuhlegamede9818 Рік тому

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @vmw12345
    @vmw12345 Рік тому +53

    I wish my ex was like Chance. My ex was a full blown narcissist who got much worse the longer we were married. I always took care of my weight and appearance. Others thought I was good. However, not only did my ex make me feel horrible about my body, but colorism was an issue for him too. He liked them light skin, slim and long "good hair". I was dark skin, nice shape but curvy (after baby), with shoulder length permed hair. I could NEVER measure up in his eyes and he always let me know through his actions. My self-esteem took a huge blow. It has taken a lot post-divorce to feel better about myself. Seeing Tab and Chance gives me hope.

    • @tastenc42
      @tastenc42 Рік тому +1

      I know exactly how you feel I was too was but now separated from a narcissist and I was just telling my friend this morning how he picked me apart and I can't wait to God since me somebody that will just love me for my dimples imperfections and all

    • @alwaysroni8110
      @alwaysroni8110 Рік тому +2

      I’m so happy and proud for you that you were released from that man and that situation and took the steps to heal from that. 💅🏾 I had a narcissist parent and am in the process of healing myself as well.

  • @champagnegold8614
    @champagnegold8614 Рік тому +76

    I sense vulnerability from both of them. I really appreciate their transparency and their courage to open up. This is beautiful.

  • @jacquelineervin457
    @jacquelineervin457 Рік тому +24

    Tab and Chance both have the most beautiful smiles. They demonstrate true FRIENDSHIP with each other.

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston Рік тому +150

    Love that you are talking about body positivity. As a therapist, this is a struggle that more women deal with. The filters on social media definitely does not help. Thanks for bringing awareness to this issue ♥️

  • @dahliavarghese6037
    @dahliavarghese6037 Рік тому +103

    'You're perfect with your imperfections...to me' Chance to Tab 😍 This hit me right in the ❤

  • @rollins216
    @rollins216 Рік тому +15

    These are some grown folks sharing a grown experience and I love it!

  • @elizabethderico6558
    @elizabethderico6558 Рік тому +40

    I wish this episode was longer!! I love how Chance said “it was like a another woman talking about his girl” my husband said something like this and it made me realize I had to get out of my head! Tab showing her stomach was everything! I love this couple! Prayers for God to remain a solid foundation for them. ❤

  • @martij3220
    @martij3220 Рік тому +82

    This also speaks to the type of friends that Chance have. They love and respect their women, and see their true value. Love and Respect!! Thank you for this conversation.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Рік тому +1

      Exactly... Most men are so superficial. We think we have to have a perfect body

    • @oneof7billion627
      @oneof7billion627 Рік тому +2

      I wish he had some single friends in Houston with that mentality.

    • @lynntodd2845
      @lynntodd2845 Рік тому +1

      @@oneof7billion627 Memphis Tennessee also 😂😂

    • @alwaysroni8110
      @alwaysroni8110 Рік тому

      This comment is what I was looking for. Chance and the men he calls friends are what’s the difference here.

  • @discoveringwildflowers
    @discoveringwildflowers Рік тому +69

    I needed to hear this tonight. I've always been "curvy". My whole life! But I lost over 120 pounds and kept it off for 7 years. The last year, I gained back 50 pounds. I've been struggling with the whole image situation. I believe God loves me for me and knows my heart but it's still a struggle! You all are a blessing! Thank you! 🙏

  • @reneah9199
    @reneah9199 Рік тому +43

    Now Tab don’t do caffeine 😂! But I got say , Chance broke this Friday all the down . When I felt confident so did my spouse being with me. Honey this our favorite couple right here ! 🤎🤎

  • @nessjobel9442
    @nessjobel9442 Рік тому +26

    If I could give this episode 10 thumbs up I would! It was just perfect. Everything Chance said was on point. I love how he loves her, and she him. And Tabitha is just so honest and brave. To show her old insecurities and still shine beautifully as she does it 😍 y’all beautiful just the way y’all are. Keep up with the positive content please. We need more of that in todays world

  • @womanofacertainage5892
    @womanofacertainage5892 Рік тому +8

    Chance: "watch how you talk about my girlfriend." I love that.

  • @pamelabillingsley249
    @pamelabillingsley249 Рік тому +14

    Chance thank you, you said, “I haven’t had that type of trauma on my body” amen
    thank you for the shout out to all women!❤❤❤

  • @redefininggrowth7192
    @redefininggrowth7192 Рік тому +64

    I love Chance's responses to EVERYTHING! Tab, I truly hope that you realize the gem that you are & that you have ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️!!! And, vice versa

  • @Franny1980H
    @Franny1980H Рік тому +15

    Words cannot express how happy I am watching this so true ! I’m 42 and the older I get the more I’ve enjoyed embracing who I am. Thank you for being your authentic self ! ❤

  • @kimdean9085
    @kimdean9085 Рік тому +10

    Tabitha I love you for being free. I have a 'Chance' who loves me. You two are called to this....thank you!

  • @tiffanywalker3539
    @tiffanywalker3539 Рік тому +8

    Chance sees you through the eyes of love!! That’s a big difference.

  • @Ajelagba
    @Ajelagba Рік тому +4

    Facts Chance. My husband has the exact same sentiments when it comes to my body. Big up & bless up to all the real men, the Kings out here.

  • @cheche5589
    @cheche5589 Рік тому +26

    Chance thanks for the male perspective. We as women stay in the trenches trying to be perfect when healthy and happy is the real goal.

  • @babygrl2878
    @babygrl2878 Рік тому +14

    Before even listening to the intro, I just want Tab and Chance to know how amazing I believe they are. The transparency and love you have for each other shines brighter than my phone screen. It gives me hope that we all will receive this type of love. I love you both from the east coast (North Carolina). You both are amazing.

  • @crescentmoon4405
    @crescentmoon4405 Рік тому +14

    My son is thin like Thundercat. I always told him he is built for speed . He complains that people don’t mind telling you your skinny or making jokes but it’s not ok to tell someone they are fat. Respect goes both ways . Loved this subject and y’all communicate in such a real way ❤ #sipppp

  • @michellegreen5242
    @michellegreen5242 Рік тому +12

    Tab you bring it all out of hubby,Chance. 25 years in for me I’m finally learning to shut up and let him express himself…pray for a Sista, love y’all!!!

  • @KathyYvette
    @KathyYvette Рік тому +19

    Nobody can beat us up like we beat ourselves up. Sad and we must stop it! Thick is nice just be healthy. You look good Tab...awww Chance that's nice. You a good man.

  • @gwendolynreilly7979
    @gwendolynreilly7979 Рік тому +42

    Yes some men are like Chance. Unfortunately my ex wasn't that way. He would always say you look great except...well saying except just negated that I look great! I took a blow to my self esteem for a while. He always complained about my weight. Meanwhile he was overweight and it never bothered me. Anyway, thanks for all the Fridays!!! Love y'all ❤️

    • @reneah9199
      @reneah9199 Рік тому +4

      Well said ! My narcissist ex made me low so he felt better and higher of himself . My spouse now is my motivation and benefits 😂 we look great honey ! 🤎

  • @Drfeelinu
    @Drfeelinu Рік тому +5

    You’re absolutely right about how our men can love on our bodies and compliment our flaws, but if we don’t believe it ourselves then it can’t fill the void

  • @emekaemmanuel5258
    @emekaemmanuel5258 Рік тому +19

    My Friday isn't complete without Tab and Chance. ❤

  • @keondawashington
    @keondawashington Рік тому +16

    Uncle Chance was ready for this one! Thanks y’all! 🌻

  • @catherinefrye7269
    @catherinefrye7269 Рік тому +3

    Tabitha I can relate to everything that you are saying. My husband is like Chance, he didn't relate to how I was looking like I did. My husband said that he loved me just the way I was fat, skinny, whatever. I just didn't like the way that I looked after I had my last two children. I had 5 in all. But today at 75 years old, I love the way I look! Most people think that I am 45 or 50 years old and I just smile.🤗 This was definitely a great topic to talk about because a lot of people are very insecure about themselves! My husband still calls me his girlfriend and I still call him my boyfriend after being married for 51 years! Peace and Blessings to You and Chance and I truly enjoyed watching this video! God Bless. ❤🙏❤

  • @lisagoldsmith7435
    @lisagoldsmith7435 Рік тому +11

    I regret doing that to my girls about the weight thing!!! There was nothing wrong with me back then or now. Letting people get in my head and myself!!

  • @sabrinadessources1275
    @sabrinadessources1275 Рік тому +5

    I had to chime in when Chance was speaking about us people with high metabolism. I use to be called anorexia or be accused of starving myself...smh. For me, my mood changes when I can't fit into my clothes because of weight loss. Thank you for speaking about this.

  • @JoyceDoty
    @JoyceDoty Рік тому +20

    Tab invented Donna's Recipe and now Chance won't ever have to worry about going bald! 😂

  • @cossetteo7386
    @cossetteo7386 Рік тому +10

    Love y’all!… 😂 “it’s a sip” 😂 Fridays with Tab and Chance keeps getting better and better…👏🏼👏🏼 Thank y’all for being authentic❤

  • @hazelboyce7230
    @hazelboyce7230 Рік тому +9

    Tab and Chance give me a good, healthy laugh every week. Yall playfulness is so organic and sweet. *The quest for all of this perfection is causing women to lose their lives and at very early ages. Thank God I’ve never had an issue with thinking I needed to please anybody, with the look of my body but I have always taken care of myself and have been in the gym for years and eating pretty clean. At the end of the day health is the number one priority.*

  • @fit2bjustme
    @fit2bjustme Рік тому +6

    Tab you have a good one in Chance. The way he communicates his thoughts and feelings towards subjects that can either harm or heal a woman's inner psyche is wonderful. He is so supportive of you not just as a woman but a human and that's amazing. I wish you both continued blessings in all you do. 🙏

  • @antolinzulay105
    @antolinzulay105 Рік тому +10

    Love you guys....alll the way from Cameroon 🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲

  • @jojop0312
    @jojop0312 Рік тому +18

    I love how comfortable chance has become on your channel. When you just started he was a little shy. Love you guys. Congrats to you tab for all your achievements

  • @Treneethomasiz
    @Treneethomasiz Рік тому +11

    Thank you so much Chance! That male perspective as it relates to what my husband may see in regards to what I deem as imperfections on my body (stretch marks, weight gain, cellulite, etc.). He has hinted at this perspective but never broke it down like you did.

  • @tressamorgan1128
    @tressamorgan1128 Рік тому +7

    I hope you are going to continue doing Tab & Chance. In the short time I’ve been watching I’ve learned so much & other people need to hear this stuff & calm down & worry about the most important things. Like where you’re going to spend eternity

  • @Pinesol605
    @Pinesol605 Рік тому +16

    This was so needed Thank you Tab for speaking about how the ladies feel. Growing up my father always talked about weight and men being visual. It made very insecure as a child and even now as a married woman.

  • @SUPERSKIRTS
    @SUPERSKIRTS Рік тому +8

    I was so inspired by this. My last relationship was riddled with my own insecurities and hearing Chance speak to you about how he saw you, it reminded me that there are people in this world who are being loved I spite of their insecurities. I know you both have loved each other this way. Thank you for allowing us into your world in this way 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

  • @Ladybvs
    @Ladybvs Рік тому +8

    I like how Chance is given his perspective. This is a great topic and I experience body shaming as well. But i'm learning to love my curves but each day is a struggle

  • @shelbyspellman3046
    @shelbyspellman3046 Рік тому +14

    I needed this . I laughed through this and felt so much lighter on a topic that can be heavy for me .

  • @annsimmons1326
    @annsimmons1326 Рік тому +11

    Tab, I love your honesty!😂😂

  • @kellymulherron7819
    @kellymulherron7819 Рік тому +6

    Crying on Fridays, watching you two do this show, has become the rule not the exception. Thanks for the real.

  • @staceysharp7401
    @staceysharp7401 Рік тому +6

    Yaw thank you! Thank you ! Yaw were so raw with this one! From the man’s and woman’s perspective. It’s beautiful to hear someone be transparent and real in this world full of fakeness! We all needed this one. I was Tab hiding them stretch marks after my kids.

  • @contentat45able
    @contentat45able Рік тому +21

    I love this couple here. You all seem so authentic. This is a great topic for couples because I also think men need to know women like to hear they are still attracted to us, that we still got it, that our imperfections are perfect to you. The bottom line is men need to see what he can get but imagine what he can have.

  • @aninduvialwithagoodheart
    @aninduvialwithagoodheart Рік тому +6

    Really appreciated this episode and love the transparency both of you shared. They do say we are our worst critique but to know that you have a person cheering you on and loving you regardless of how you don't see yourself in the best light at times is a true treasure.

  • @ASpearmanAndCo
    @ASpearmanAndCo Рік тому +6

    Chance said stretch marks are roads to heaven! 😅😂❤❤

  • @Reu1985
    @Reu1985 Рік тому +6

    The slurp tho ....it took on its own energy lol 😆

  • @candigirl83
    @candigirl83 Рік тому +6

    This conversation was a breath of fresh air😊

  • @thisismylife2222
    @thisismylife2222 Рік тому +1

    I love how they look at each other

  • @Li-Anderson
    @Li-Anderson Рік тому +6

    This right here, was everything we needed. Thank you, all for being open and raw on this one. 🤗❤️

  • @melissamyers9441
    @melissamyers9441 Рік тому +12

    Honestly Tab you said it! I feel that way sometimes. With I feel awful. So if he see what I see he must think I am gross. Thank you for these conversations!

  • @speaklove2643
    @speaklove2643 Рік тому +7

    I loved the convo! The authenticity & vulnerability is absolutely appreciated!

  • @shebapowers7235
    @shebapowers7235 Рік тому +4

    Yes Tab! That part of the arm on a man is my Good Lord have mercy too!..LOL. Love y'all and the love y'all display for one another and the willingness to share ALL the stuff that comes along with relationships.

  • @janicepierce3293
    @janicepierce3293 Рік тому +9

    I really enjoy Fridays with Tab and Chance, what a great topic!!

  • @ambermccoy4922
    @ambermccoy4922 Рік тому +2

    When she said " I almost jumped on you, I felt that!" She's a pretty good actress fr!

  • @mpatreece2726
    @mpatreece2726 Рік тому +9

    I really appreciate this candid and authentic conversation. Thank you both.

  • @rennieshawellington5411
    @rennieshawellington5411 Рік тому +2

    What Chance said about association; who we follow whether intentionally or unintended is very valuable because alot of time that's how we end up in trouble. Acknowledge where you're at in live is leveling up! Thanks for this guys

  • @reneewashington1029
    @reneewashington1029 Рік тому +6

    I LOVE YALL......and these REAL conversations❤️❤️❤️ You all don't realize how this blessed me....

  • @cherylwallace849
    @cherylwallace849 Рік тому +1

    The perspective of “Grown Ass Woman” puts this in the right context. Love that point. Loving me better.❤️

  • @sisterofthepen1714
    @sisterofthepen1714 Рік тому +3

    Tabitha and Chance, you are definitely helping us with our body images..grown men love grown women..bodies

  • @antoineerikascott5022
    @antoineerikascott5022 Рік тому

    This transparency is SO healing! The images and expectations for a woman's body have never been portrayed accurately! Thank you Tab! Show everyone what most of us are working with FOR REAL!

  • @LynnLKing
    @LynnLKing Рік тому +1

    This conversation was very refreshing. It was eye-opening to hear Chance's perspective of how he sees the changes in your body but his 'view', as your husband , is that of appreciation AND protection. Thanks for real topics and real conversations

  • @AllTheBeautyThings
    @AllTheBeautyThings Рік тому +3

    This was a beautiful episode. I love how Chance said “watch how you talk about my girlfriend” or something like that. Because my husband be the same way. We’ve been married going on 7 years and my weight has always fluctuated. No matter my size, I haven’t been kind to myself. He gets offended when I say anything negative about myself. He tells me I’m beautiful many times a day. Deep down I know it too, I just gotta do what makes me feel good and confident. This really spoke to me❤

  • @TeeGeeBee83
    @TeeGeeBee83 Рік тому +1

    Oh my goodness, I can't breath!😂😂😂😂😂 when Chance is COMEDY!!!!! He said she chew loud...real loud...like a horse and did that chew, I lost it!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @kg7032
    @kg7032 Рік тому

    All women need to hear this convo. I am not married but I've dated men who didn't care about my stretch marks.
    Even when I pointed them out, the response was "ain't nothing wrong with your stomache" "you had kids" "you still look good" and my favorite "I love your body, you so soft"
    Men who genuinely love and care for you, ladies, will see that area of weakness (poor body image, low self esteem, & etc...) and encourage you and help to strengthen you.

  • @lovemymuzic1
    @lovemymuzic1 Рік тому +1

    So much goes into what we find attracts us, but I think the healthiest ones include the joy you bring to others, the way your smile lights up the room, the compassion you have for others, the way you up build others (and believes everyone should feel that), that you are brave in the face of adversity, the essence of you, in short.
    How wonderful to be treasured in this way.
    Thank you for a loving discussion 🥰

  • @carolynlong8701
    @carolynlong8701 Рік тому +3

    I love black couples giving encouragement to each other and to all the couples who watch their videos ❤🙏🏾👏🏾👍🏾.Thank you so much and God blessings to your marriage and family.

  • @ashleywhite309
    @ashleywhite309 Рік тому +6

    You both are awesome. This was such a in my house moment. Thanks for bringing this conversation to the table.

  • @Biscuitplease
    @Biscuitplease Рік тому +1

    Chance is so right. It's the confidence level that affects your outlook. A positive attitude, tlc, and confidence is all the things men find most attractive. Most women like the confidence sturdiness and resilience to get things done.

  • @simplytamea8821
    @simplytamea8821 Рік тому +2

    Not the Sunday school arm 🤣🤣🤣 Tab

  • @cynthiahatley6315
    @cynthiahatley6315 Рік тому +6

    Thank you so much for allowing me to laugh with you2!!!!!

  • @sandrastrickland951
    @sandrastrickland951 10 місяців тому

    "What are you feeding yourself." Wow Chance that's deep 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽. I just love y'all ❤️😘

  • @mosue3200
    @mosue3200 Рік тому +5

    A very enlightening conversation! 👏👏 Thank you Tab and Chance!

  • @anitrarice7259
    @anitrarice7259 Рік тому +2

    TAB!!! GIRL! Thank you for this. My whole midsection is stretched out from carrying my babies. I am just now learning to love my body as is.🥰

  • @katrinadodd9015
    @katrinadodd9015 Рік тому +2

    "The perfect image, is whatever you are." I love this 🥰 "He said that thang thangin."🤣😂😂

  • @YolandaK
    @YolandaK Рік тому +17

    Thank you both for another Friday of positivity & uplifting ❤🙏🏾

  • @tammywilliams9335
    @tammywilliams9335 Рік тому +1

    Happy Friday chance & tab! Thanks for always keeping it 💯

  • @KathyYvette
    @KathyYvette Рік тому +8

    That's right Tab!! Black women were never the standard in body, lips or hair. Now others pay to get what we have naturally!

  • @tonayamoQFS
    @tonayamoQFS Рік тому +2

    ❤❤❤They are “The Jefferson Show” of 2023😂😂😂

  • @mjhunter502
    @mjhunter502 Рік тому +3

    Chance said “You betta go to sleep!” 💀💀💀

  • @DaisyMaye15
    @DaisyMaye15 Рік тому +3

    Uncle Chance was not lying. Auntie you do chew loud. 😂

  • @christynheroux1989
    @christynheroux1989 Рік тому +4

    This is one I needed to hear. Thank you Tab & Chance! You both are relationship goals. 💕💕💕

  • @angelas3883
    @angelas3883 Рік тому +3

    Women see ourselves as a flower but men are looking more so at the necter of the flower in addition to the flower... the necter being the unseen treasure...

  • @frediciawestbrook4240
    @frediciawestbrook4240 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for keeping it so real guys!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾

  • @janicevance6981
    @janicevance6981 Рік тому +4

    This is a great episode! I just love you all coversations!

  • @clega0423
    @clega0423 Рік тому +5

    Ya'll are amazing! Always a joy and refreshing to see and listen to ya'll!

  • @winterfresh4208
    @winterfresh4208 Рік тому +1

    Every time yall bring the beat in it just brings a smile to my face I'm smiling the whole time yall are singing 😂❤

  • @cynthiahatley6315
    @cynthiahatley6315 Рік тому +2

    Your laughter does it for me

  • @deethomas2866
    @deethomas2866 Рік тому +4

    Thank you both for sharing yourselves with the world. This is a very necessary conversation. I appreciate y’all.