To my mom who wasn't there to protect me when my dad and brother were abusing me, who made me go grocery shopping, do all my own laundry, cook all my own meals, get myself up and on the bus when I was 8 years old, who never helped me with my homework. Where were you? I needed you. I know you worked hard, but I needed a mother more than I needed new shoes or clothes.
Sean Davidson Going grocery shopping for the whole family and doing all the cooking and laundry at age 8 isn't teaching kids to be self-sufficient, it's neglect. It took a long time for me to see it as neglect, but it was. I was never taught how to do those things, just expected to figure it out. If I didn't cook, I didn't eat. If I didn't wash my clothes I had to wear dirty ones. If I was sick I had to clean up my own puke. If I didn't clean the house for all 4 older people in the house I got the shit beat out of me. What 2nd grader do you know who is mature enough to handle that kind of responsibility? I could barely reach over the top of the stove or washer yet! I had no time to play or be a kid. I didn't even see her during the week, we communicated through notes on the fridge. Teaching kids how to take care of themselves, cook, clean, etc is important and they should have chores, but I was just expected to be everyone's slave and punching bag. And the abuse was physical, sexual and verbal. I was choked, kicked in my stomach until I coughed up blood, hands broken by being slammed in doors, sexually assaulted while I screamed, cried and tried to fight him off. And much more. This lasted from 7 or 8 to age 13. And I was told I was a worthless piece of shit (among other things) every day of my life since I was a toddler. Is that shitty enough for you?
@Sean Davidson that's why you don't make assumptions. And when she said she was 8 years old, that should have been your first clue you fucking clown. Sorry but not sorry. You are an asshole who thinks the world needs your perspective on life.
This is a very old comment but I pray you still see it. Reading what happened to you makes me so sad. My father was in our household but he showed very little love. Some people are demonic or have demons in them and they given themselves over to them. You must have a lot of anger toward them. I encourage you to give it to the Lord. I pray you know the Lord Jesus Christ. Bad things happen in this world because of what sin did when it entered into it. But Jesus made a way through dying in the cross and his blood now covers and saves those who believe in him. I pray you believe in him. I want so much to give you a hug right now. You may not have had a good earthly father but you do have a Heavenly Father who loves and cares for you.
i think the songs about every time you think your particular issue begins to fade and you can finally begin to see the light your old stuffed away issues comeback and you realize the light or the way out was really just the floor or the beginning and you have miles to go..Dont try and hope time will erase the issue naturally.. you must face your issues head on or be prepared to repeat the process/issues over and over
When I was 12, my dad treated me like a dog. Literally. I was forced to stay in a 3x3 kennel all day, stashed away in the laundry room room corner. I ate, slept, and occasionally messed myself. When I had my accidents, my mother would have to clean my cage. She would blame me for everything, and tell me she wished theyd had a real dog instead of me, because then I wouldnt eat so much. I developed a curvature in my spine due to years in a small cage, and now I walk all hunched over. Mom, why didnt you help me? You were always too busy with yourself. Now Im older, and angry, and maybe thanks to this song, I can let some of that anger fade...
This song is another great song by Staind which makes us all think who was wrong them or you...peace to AFL, Staind and whoever thinks rock will never die...great music is great music no matter the genre
I try to breathe Memories overtaking me I try to face them but The thought is too Much to conceive I only know that I can change Everything else just stays the same So now I step out of the darkness That my life became 'cause I just needed someone to talk to You were just too busy with yourself You were never there for me to Express how I felt I just stuffed it down Now I'm older and I feel like I could let some of this anger fade But it seems the surface I am scratching Is the bed that I have made So where were you When all this I was going through You never took the time to ask me Just what you could do
My dad was a workaholic, when he wasn't working he was kicking the shit out of us. Remember he seem the scars on my arm and I shouted at him "i juat needed someone to talk to, you were just to busy with yourself!". It's cringy but it felt so good. One of the few times I actually seen my dad cry. We moved on after that point and never spoke about it but I blame him for some of the problems I have now. I tried to let some of this anger fade, but some of it never will.
Just gotta turn all the negative shit to a positive just look at it as a life lesson of how to not treat others you care about you will mature from the situation bro
@user-qm2vc8bb7c thank you for your kind words my friend. Yes when I feel like going mad at my kids for misbehaving, I remember. It kind of helps now to stop me getting to the point he was at. Every day is a lesson I guess 🙂
Life is hard, all we can do is work on our short comings every day. Don’t look for faults in others because we have plenty of our own to keep us busy for a lifetime.
I had never really have someone to talk to about the things that hurt, my big brother has always avoided me idk why, my parents were always busy, friends were never really that close. Now I'm older and not even my wife listens to me... Cant believe nothing's really changed...
Yeah,where were you when I needed you Russell? You never even tried nor do you try now😢 Too bad it ended this way. There is somebody out there that will love and appreciate me.
Who cheated who of there life did you quit loving him or did you enjoy the ride as it was in motion at the time there was always an emergency break all you had to do was pull it and free you go destiny chooses your path and in the end the lesson is learned Michelle find your happiness but don't jump into any clean car and the guy with the millionaire smile find your type of happiness find YOU Random person you got this
To my ex girlfriend who was constantly talking about herself when I was going through the worst. The chorus sums her up perfectly . I found out she also cheated on me with multiple people after we split
This song reminds me one of my ex-husband psychologically abusing me and physically too...my father was never there bc he died of stomach cancer...and my mom and sisters well...they could've been there for me but were too busy throwing stones at me instead of helping me.
This may not be the intended actual point or subject of this song , but I have always completely associated it with the pain of dealing with a loveless sexless marriage. It's like after the person who wanted to be loved and stuck around waiting and waiting for the other person to finally wake up and see that they are hurting someone who loves them by being cold has finally broken down and sought out comfort outside the marriage. They just needed someone to talk to...just needed to feel like someone could see them...they tried to wait and never meant to fade. But eventually they did, and it sucks because now that they've gained some perspective on the situation and have also done wrong they they dont feel so much like a victim and feel like they could maybe begin to let some of the hurt go, but now its fucked because their partner is angry over the transgression. They feel like they have been betrayed without taking into consideration the way they betrayed their partner by checking out and not being there for them.
A lot of stained songs really hit home for me.
Same
I keep discovering Staind songs. This albums just keeps it coming
at the time they overplayed them on the radio so I have a love/hate relationship with em. take care mate!!! 🤘
Same here bro! I was always a fan of right here and it’s been awhile out of pure nostalgia but this dudes writing skills and lyricism is top tier
i love to listen this song when life kicks too hard,it helps me cope
I feel this
I don't know you but your reply rocks
Beautifully put
Stay strong brother
Definitely. This and Let It Go always does it for me.
Aaron Lewis one of my favorite vocalist. He is truly the goat
Aaron kills it!
After coming back from deployment, and my wife whom I had three kids with left me and took them. This song did really help me through the dark times.
Thank you for your service! I hope you can find happiness.
I'm here for you brother if you need a strangers ear
To my mom who wasn't there to protect me when my dad and brother were abusing me, who made me go grocery shopping, do all my own laundry, cook all my own meals, get myself up and on the bus when I was 8 years old, who never helped me with my homework. Where were you? I needed you. I know you worked hard, but I needed a mother more than I needed new shoes or clothes.
Sean Davidson Going grocery shopping for the whole family and doing all the cooking and laundry at age 8 isn't teaching kids to be self-sufficient, it's neglect. It took a long time for me to see it as neglect, but it was. I was never taught how to do those things, just expected to figure it out. If I didn't cook, I didn't eat. If I didn't wash my clothes I had to wear dirty ones. If I was sick I had to clean up my own puke. If I didn't clean the house for all 4 older people in the house I got the shit beat out of me. What 2nd grader do you know who is mature enough to handle that kind of responsibility? I could barely reach over the top of the stove or washer yet! I had no time to play or be a kid. I didn't even see her during the week, we communicated through notes on the fridge. Teaching kids how to take care of themselves, cook, clean, etc is important and they should have chores, but I was just expected to be everyone's slave and punching bag. And the abuse was physical, sexual and verbal. I was choked, kicked in my stomach until I coughed up blood, hands broken by being slammed in doors, sexually assaulted while I screamed, cried and tried to fight him off. And much more. This lasted from 7 or 8 to age 13. And I was told I was a worthless piece of shit (among other things) every day of my life since I was a toddler. Is that shitty enough for you?
Damn bro, I am really sorry to hear that. That really does sukk! I hope your doing better now...
@Sean Davidson that's why you don't make assumptions. And when she said she was 8 years old, that should have been your first clue you fucking clown. Sorry but not sorry. You are an asshole who thinks the world needs your perspective on life.
Man I feel this.
This is a very old comment but I pray you still see it. Reading what happened to you makes me so sad. My father was in our household but he showed very little love. Some people are demonic or have demons in them and they given themselves over to them. You must have a lot of anger toward them. I encourage you to give it to the Lord. I pray you know the Lord Jesus Christ. Bad things happen in this world because of what sin did when it entered into it. But Jesus made a way through dying in the cross and his blood now covers and saves those who believe in him. I pray you believe in him. I want so much to give you a hug right now. You may not have had a good earthly father but you do have a Heavenly Father who loves and cares for you.
Im still a Staind fan, even long years had gone yet.
Love this song, very relatable.
i think the songs about every time you think your particular issue begins to fade and you can finally begin to see the light your old stuffed away issues comeback and you realize the light or the way out was really just the floor or the beginning and you have miles to go..Dont try and hope time will erase the issue naturally.. you must face your issues head on or be prepared to repeat the process/issues over and over
When I was 12, my dad treated me like a dog. Literally. I was forced to stay in a 3x3 kennel all day, stashed away in the laundry room room corner. I ate, slept, and occasionally messed myself. When I had my accidents, my mother would have to clean my cage. She would blame me for everything, and tell me she wished theyd had a real dog instead of me, because then I wouldnt eat so much. I developed a curvature in my spine due to years in a small cage, and now I walk all hunched over. Mom, why didnt you help me? You were always too busy with yourself. Now Im older, and angry, and maybe thanks to this song, I can let some of that anger fade...
2024 forever staind tank you for music you made
The song absolutely resonates with me it has for so many years
Age doesn't discriminate.
Heal yourself.
Write it all down and read it and pray to let it go.
This song is another great song by Staind which makes us all think who was wrong them or you...peace to AFL, Staind and whoever thinks rock will never die...great music is great music no matter the genre
Wake up call. This song hits hard from both sides. Why does life have to be life….so much of this song is true…
Came here from Smallville. S01, EP12. Feels.
2020 still fucking blasting it
WOW this is mind blowing how I'm hearing my feelings word by word!!!!!😳 much LOVE 4 this song!!!😉😍☺
This album is a bonafied classic, fuck what anyone says.
I love this song for so long, I scream it out as he does
Hamas Mama ❤
This song goes out to my dad .
David Alviso and mom both in my case! Dad a drunk and mom never around to listen
Same bro
@@Truecrimejunky we're all from the same mold 😪
Not getting adequate medical care, witnessing too much violence, losing a loved one...it will do it to any one of us.
I think this song came out around 9/11…so emotional and full of depth.
I try to breathe
Memories overtaking me
I try to face them but
The thought is too
Much to conceive
I only know that I can change
Everything else just stays the same
So now I step out of the darkness
That my life became 'cause
I just needed someone to talk to
You were just too busy with yourself
You were never there for me to
Express how I felt
I just stuffed it down
Now I'm older and I feel like
I could let some of this anger fade
But it seems the surface
I am scratching
Is the bed that I have made
So where were you
When all this I was going through
You never took the time to ask me
Just what you could do
My dad was a workaholic, when he wasn't working he was kicking the shit out of us.
Remember he seem the scars on my arm and I shouted at him "i juat needed someone to talk to, you were just to busy with yourself!". It's cringy but it felt so good. One of the few times I actually seen my dad cry.
We moved on after that point and never spoke about it but I blame him for some of the problems I have now.
I tried to let some of this anger fade, but some of it never will.
Just gotta turn all the negative shit to a positive just look at it as a life lesson of how to not treat others you care about you will mature from the situation bro
@user-qm2vc8bb7c thank you for your kind words my friend. Yes when I feel like going mad at my kids for misbehaving, I remember. It kind of helps now to stop me getting to the point he was at. Every day is a lesson I guess 🙂
Christ, this song is powerful!❤
Awesome song
I love Staind 🎸 love me some Aaron Lewis ❤️🔥🎸❤️🔥🎸❤️🔥🎸❤️🔥
Life is hard, all we can do is work on our short comings every day. Don’t look for faults in others because we have plenty of our own to keep us busy for a lifetime.
Stone cold jam 🎸
2022 Staind hits harder now does it not?
Somethings never change just the people do
Amazing song thnx for this
My career as a firefighter some days.
Staind and Aaron Lewis helped me make it through my deployment! Outside was blaring in my truck every time I left the wire!
When we tend to be deff and blind actions can't speak louder than words
I had never really have someone to talk to about the things that hurt, my big brother has always avoided me idk why, my parents were always busy, friends were never really that close. Now I'm older and not even my wife listens to me... Cant believe nothing's really changed...
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One true love 💘
Yeah,where were you when I needed you Russell? You never even tried nor do you try now😢 Too bad it ended this way. There is somebody out there that will love and appreciate me.
Who cheated who of there life did you quit loving him or did you enjoy the ride as it was in motion at the time there was always an emergency break all you had to do was pull it and free you go destiny chooses your path and in the end the lesson is learned Michelle find your happiness but don't jump into any clean car and the guy with the millionaire smile find your type of happiness find YOU
Random person you got this
I’ve experienced something similar and I exactly know how that feels...💔😭
This song is about a parent
This song is dedicated to parents who weren't there. well, that's my interpretation of it anyhow. To each their own interpretation
My sister loves this song
😂 wait a little while...
To my ex girlfriend who was constantly talking about herself when I was going through the worst. The chorus sums her up perfectly . I found out she also cheated on me with multiple people after we split
❤
Love Aaron or hate him (though not sure why you’d waste precious human time hating, it’s an unnecessary emotion) he writes about real shit.
Aonde é que estavas no momentos em eu mais precisei ti ?
My babies
Fads are so trendy. Be different. Wear a sweater vest with a turtleneck with velcro shoes.
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This song reminds me one of my ex-husband psychologically abusing me and physically too...my father was never there bc he died of stomach cancer...and my mom and sisters well...they could've been there for me but were too busy throwing stones at me instead of helping me.
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November 30, 2021
To my father
Fuck divorces not being cheaper.
Anyone else sing this song so hard their kidnys start to hurt? Or should I see a docter?
I've sang it so hard that I got a bloody nose 😬
And I'll never get to say this to anyone I should have
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Its nt complaint. Its a try 2 fade
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This may not be the intended actual point or subject of this song , but I have always completely associated it with the pain of dealing with a loveless sexless marriage. It's like after the person who wanted to be loved and stuck around waiting and waiting for the other person to finally wake up and see that they are hurting someone who loves them by being cold has finally broken down and sought out comfort outside the marriage. They just needed someone to talk to...just needed to feel like someone could see them...they tried to wait and never meant to fade. But eventually they did, and it sucks because now that they've gained some perspective on the situation and have also done wrong they they dont feel so much like a victim and feel like they could maybe begin to let some of the hurt go, but now its fucked because their partner is angry over the transgression. They feel like they have been betrayed without taking into consideration the way they betrayed their partner by checking out and not being there for them.
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Someone please. Did the band actually write this? Its very good.
Yes, was written by the guitarist and Aaron Lewis
@@katiebiance9554 Thank you.
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People , songs about his dad n hom . No one carrs about your stories ffs !
This is how my son feels..
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