10 things guys do to gain leverage | 10 signs you’re dating a pickup artist

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  • 10 Things guys do to gain leverage. 10 Signs you are dating a pick up artist.
    Before I start I wanna say that this topic isn’t about all men. It’s about users man whores or pick up artists or what ever you like to call them. Some men may naturally have one or two of these habits but a real player will exhibit most of these behaviors. Men who sleep around know what they are doing. Stop falling this stuff.
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    1. They refuse to build a a relationship on the phone. They insist that you go out. Usually for drinks.That’s because they could be trying to accelerate your physical comfort with them. This makes attaining secs easier. A guy that won’t invest in conversation with you doesn’t have any intentions on getting to know you. In order to get to know someone you have to learn about them. And to learn about them you must converse. This is very basic. The first thing a guy usually says when he talks to a woman is some variation of I want to get to know you better. Well How the hell can he do that if he won’t talk on the phone or engage in consistent long form text messaging? He can’t.
    2. The refuse to make emotional connections or show any vulnerability. He may seem like he has the emotional depth of the terminator. If you ask him he doesn’t have any emotions. If you try to share yours he rejects them or dismisses them. He dodges any attempts you make to confide in him. He doesn’t care about listening to your problems or solving them. He makes no attempts to protect you emotionally from his actions or lack of effort. Remember when a man loves a woman he feels responsible for her physical and emotional well being. Some are guys are detached naturally but if you notice this coupled with more than three of the other signs on this list then he may be actively avoiding making a connection with you and or has no plans to care for you in the future.
    3.They run roughshod over your boundaries while sticking close to their own. Mature men have standards for themselves and respect for the standards of others. However Womanizer pick up artist types get all their power from creating a fear in their target of abandonment. Once they see a woman has a heightened level of interest they bare down on their standards to control her actions and behavior. Women in these situations have to “act right” to keep his attention. He may completely disregard any standards of hers but she won’t have enough courage to challenge his behavior between acting right and being easy to deal with. He may rude disorganized inattentive and sexually aggressive. If you can’t make a date or refuse to get physical he’ll punish you with more detachment and space.
    4. They don’t respond to calls or text messages promptly or at all. This is all about and the excitement of stress and mystery. Obsession begins with a thought. PUA understand this. They know if they can make you wander where he’s at, what he’s doing, who he’s doing it with. Eventually feelings will accompany those thoughts. It’s makes you want to work harder to be more important to them. So that they answer your calls and texts more. It makes you more willing to cross your own boundaries. Men recognize when you except this behavior you are vulnerable and manipulatable.
    5. They refuse to wine and dine you to prep you for a minimal effort. A lot of guys like to set the standards for themselves low from the very beginning. Some will even refuse to take you on dates and try to meet at one of your houses for the first date. This is a giant red flag. The home is intimate space. Men invite you to their place for the first date because it’s closer to a bed or couch than a decent restaurant is. Never accept a first date or hang out invitation at a guys house or yours unless your ok with being a casual hookup. Date rate is also a thing ladies so protect yourself. There are a plethora of reasons why you should be meeting a man for the first time in a crowded public space. You also don’t want to meet a guy for drinks on the first date. Guys who try to get you inebriated on the first date only want to smash. They know they have very little they are either willing or capable of offering intellectually so they want to get you buzzed to switch your focus from connecting to frivolous fun and banter.

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  • @sweetythevenin4385
    @sweetythevenin4385 6 років тому +832

    Man you got me blocking people now

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +41

      Sweety Thevenin 😂😂😂

    • @barbaracook4764
      @barbaracook4764 5 років тому +27

      Good! This means there's hope for you. U can b saved from all the bs...stay 4-ever alert

    • @jillianerin4821
      @jillianerin4821 5 років тому +14

      REAAAAALEST TALK though! Blocking my last date as we speak!

    • @yolir.u9452
      @yolir.u9452 5 років тому +2

      😂 😂 😂

    • @user-yj7es4iv2i
      @user-yj7es4iv2i 4 роки тому +17

      I deleted so many niggas on snap 😂😂

  • @GApeech08
    @GApeech08 6 років тому +375

    I went to a relationship seminar and facilitator encouraged us to really think about how you feel about yourself when you are with the other person. If you don't like yourself or the person you are becoming, then it is time to move on.

  • @darknluvly702
    @darknluvly702 6 років тому +600

    "You can't F%ck your way into a cold heart!" 💯✔ Now that's some real truth!! 👊

    • @AyesheIsAlwaysLovely
      @AyesheIsAlwaysLovely 6 років тому +3

      #FACTS

    • @casse1458
      @casse1458 6 років тому

      darknluvly702 yep

    • @proverbsjohnson7594
      @proverbsjohnson7594 6 років тому +6

      darknluvly702 I married my way into a cold heart. As long as he keeps the bills paid and his fucking hands off of me I'm good. I did better on my own anyway

    • @Nisha.Unfiltered
      @Nisha.Unfiltered 5 років тому +10

      You can’t fuck your way into any mans heart. Period

    • @goddessnoir290
      @goddessnoir290 4 роки тому +1

      Needs to be on a shirt

  • @diamondalford2706
    @diamondalford2706 6 років тому +540

    Who is your mother? Tell her I said thank you!!

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +66

      I will😁

    • @N0V3MBER
      @N0V3MBER 4 роки тому +47

      She raised a gentleman. So much respect ❤

    • @TheGoddessCaroline
      @TheGoddessCaroline 4 роки тому +11

      Yes, and from me too.

    • @nicoladouglas3270
      @nicoladouglas3270 4 роки тому +12

      Now with a comment like you have just given...... You are a good woman!!!!!

    • @highvaluelife4971
      @highvaluelife4971 4 роки тому +13

      Your mama won't playing when she raised a real man👏👏🙏

  • @janet2u100
    @janet2u100 6 років тому +638

    Your like the big brother I always needed and wanted 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +59

      Miya Janet 😁that’s exactly my purpose

    • @carolinelala9818
      @carolinelala9818 5 років тому +13

      He's a high quality man who is doing women a world of good service and it works out great for the good man in the end too.

    • @jacobstiktok3515
      @jacobstiktok3515 4 роки тому +8

      Yes just like derrick jaxn

    • @DanielleStarr
      @DanielleStarr 4 роки тому +2

      I was feeling the same except I'm older than Kev but i can always learn from him I don't have a big brother

    • @Jade-Phoenix
      @Jade-Phoenix 4 роки тому +3

      Miya Janet I swear! I discovered him yesterday and been binge watching....

  • @dscwisdom
    @dscwisdom 6 років тому +518

    Why am I watching these videos AFTER I got played? Oh well it's a lesson learned

    • @sweetythevenin4385
      @sweetythevenin4385 6 років тому +17

      Deirdre Hughes right but at least we know what to do in the future

    • @kolakoko.j11
      @kolakoko.j11 6 років тому +14

      Same with me. But the cold hard facts are a good way to realize you are not alone, heal, and learn for the next time.

    • @cinnabun715
      @cinnabun715 5 років тому +7

      Yeah I needed Kevin in my 20's! Now I'm super picky about who I let come around. At first having my daughter set the standard for me and it's high. After being her mom and other self esteem growing experiences, I have high standards for myself. She is the best part of my life for so many reasons. I don't worry about growing old and being alone with my cats (I'm a dog person anyway). I focus on being a positive example of how a woman conducts herself for those little eyes alway on me

    • @babymoon555
      @babymoon555 5 років тому +2

      because we never expect to get played in the beginning. life may be a bitch sometimes, but it's up to us to learn our lessons, move on, and make life our bitch. which entails weeding out these fuckers.

    • @bethdixon62
      @bethdixon62 5 років тому +3

      It happens to the best of us.. lessons learned 😉

  • @softboy5573
    @softboy5573 6 років тому +107

    It works because in the beginning when you're first dating the guy and talking to them they act like such an amazing person. Then within time they act colder to you, belittling everything that you are dealing with.

    • @wickedwanderlust1602
      @wickedwanderlust1602 5 років тому +5

      Yeah I just got out of a relationship like that.

    • @nicoladouglas3270
      @nicoladouglas3270 4 роки тому +1

      This is happening and not even dating the smelly foot!!!!!

    • @HighFrequencyGuru
      @HighFrequencyGuru 6 місяців тому

      Damn so true they belittle because they’re cheating though

  • @nische1175
    @nische1175 6 років тому +303

    I truly wish men and women could stop all these damn games and just be honest. Especially, when one's feelings are involved. Address what you want straight from the beginning to avoid disappointment and heartache in the end. Info is much appreciated Kev!

    • @EgleMakaraite
      @EgleMakaraite 6 років тому +18

      Lmao almost as a rule, every boy I’ve ever dated always says he wants the opposite of whatever I’m looking for. 😴 if I’m looking for a relationship, they want something casual. If I’m looking for something casual, they wanna get married all of a sudden. So boring to play with children. I’m grateful that there’s so much actual good advice online these days that helps me suss out the losers quickly

    • @davon_DaGod
      @davon_DaGod 5 років тому +2

      @Nature Oliver lol You must be from Georgia

    • @phoenixdan8696
      @phoenixdan8696 5 років тому +6

      People does still lie about they want a relationship just to get what they want anyways

    • @davon_DaGod
      @davon_DaGod 5 років тому +1

      @@phoenixdan8696 "People still lie about what they want in a relationship, just to get what they want". Is that what you are trying to say? lol I had to translate your comment so people can understand.

    • @kristierogers52
      @kristierogers52 5 років тому

      Suma...i think its human nature to play with who chase and be chased and we get on the wrong side of it as women sometimes

  • @sandraotero5951
    @sandraotero5951 6 років тому +212

    I'm in my 40s, and I really appreciate your videos. It's a breath of fresh air to know that someone your age cares and will stand for the protection of a woman's heart ! 😍

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +11

      Sandra Otero 😁😁😁Thanks for watching

    • @theSpiritofTamzin
      @theSpiritofTamzin 6 років тому +26

      Same!! I'm 50 and apparently still clueless about men, and what motivates them...

    • @sda9995
      @sda9995 6 років тому +10

      Right where was Kev 25 years ago? We need more people like him on UA-cam!!

    • @sandraotero5951
      @sandraotero5951 6 років тому

      @@sda9995 Yes ! 😃

    • @atama203
      @atama203 5 років тому +4

      That's what I was thinking lol I wish we had something similar when we were growing up

  • @tanyap2838
    @tanyap2838 6 років тому +500

    It's kind of sad that we are still falling for these types of guys. It's even sadder that men are still playing these types of games towards women. The fact that channels like this must exists in order to inform and protect women is shameful. It makes you wonder if dating today is even worth it.

    • @kmc1994
      @kmc1994 6 років тому +6

      Tanya P word

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +48

      It’s worth it unless you plan on dying old and alone with 6 cats 😕

    • @Nic2Blk
      @Nic2Blk 6 років тому +11

      Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls you what...🤣🤣🤣 I need to get on it because im for real allergic as hell to cats!

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 5 років тому +31

      It’s really not worth it either. A majority still end up cheating on us even when they have found “the one”. Fuck romantic love. Just travel and love yourself and the planet 💚

    • @cinnabun715
      @cinnabun715 5 років тому +2

      💯

  • @reedlyanne
    @reedlyanne 6 років тому +151

    I am currently 26 y/o and got married when I was 22 to an amazing guy! I was in 2 previously relationships and made a couple of bad mistakes. All your information is spot on!!! Once I started knowing my worth I attained the man that I wanted. Ladies there are good guys out there you just have to stay grounded and don’t let these men run game on you.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +2

      reedlyanne 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 5 років тому +2

      Make sense we attract what we are !!! I am learning that too!!!

    • @amandaemygoncalves2927
      @amandaemygoncalves2927 3 роки тому +2

      What did you do to love yourself? I came from a very toxic family,specially my father, and all I did was get played by toxic men. This Channel has helped me a lot, I feel I didn't even learn how am I supposed to be treated!😥

  • @vivianacuevas7858
    @vivianacuevas7858 6 років тому +45

    Dating men like this just brings unnecessary stress into a woman’s life. The usual targets are the females whom haven’t learned to love themselves. I was one of them until I finally grew tired of dating an enemy. Love yourselves ladies❤️ it goes a long way trust me.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +2

      You are spot on with this☝🏾☝🏾 Thank you for adding value to the conversation 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @candacecasey5634
      @candacecasey5634 3 роки тому

      Same here. I learned from my mistakes.

  • @passivepayouts1111
    @passivepayouts1111 6 років тому +193

    Interesting, many of these tactics are practiced by narcissistic, Type B personalities. That's probably who many women are dealing with when it comes to certain guys. The good thing is, they are quite predictable once you've been (or almost been) victimized by them. Stir clear of these red flags ppl for your mental and physical safety. Nice video! 👌

  • @clarissalaing6454
    @clarissalaing6454 6 років тому +320

    He may look like a foot.
    My favourite line EVER

  • @jasminedahir9645
    @jasminedahir9645 4 роки тому +66

    How to not be played by a player: Don't sleep with Them
    Ladies the power is in your hands, so don't give it away. Take Care♥️

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix 3 роки тому

      The power is in our laps. P***y is in higher demand than the D any day. All women should remember this.

    • @kitthecat6543
      @kitthecat6543 3 роки тому +3

      Correction lol
      How to not be played by a player: *don't entertain them at all...

    • @kitthecat6543
      @kitthecat6543 3 роки тому +6

      @@SkyePhoenix guys still use and play women even without sex. Meaning for someone to vent to, using their car, money, emotionally, ego boost...not sleeping with them isn't enough.
      It's not entertaining them in general and having self respect that is the key to not getting played

    • @dashphonemail
      @dashphonemail 2 роки тому

      @UCnQzQSX05VwCzAnzSw5f9DA Eh, good 😺 is in high demand. Not a whole lot of y'all got good 😺

  • @DanielleG135
    @DanielleG135 6 років тому +127

    I wish this video came out a month ago...could’ve saved myself a mini-heartbreak. But now I’m armed with knowledge!!!

    • @SonjaElizabethTeal
      @SonjaElizabethTeal 6 років тому +1

      Danielle G That's right!! You got it Now!!!!👍

    • @natalieschannel4508
      @natalieschannel4508 5 років тому +1

      I wish it came out 2 years ago.

    • @Nanneke9
      @Nanneke9 4 роки тому +2

      Knowledge sticks best when you got experiences to resonate with it. I think it came at the right time for you. 🥰 I personally wouldn't have understood many of Kevs messages without the real life examples already in my pocket. You'll do great! 😁❤️🙏🏼

  • @caurinenjiyang9930
    @caurinenjiyang9930 6 років тому +52

    OMG. I'm dealing with a pickup artist right now. It's like the universe wanted me to see your videos. Everything you describe is him. Wow

  • @sonyasviolin
    @sonyasviolin 6 років тому +301

    Friends first and clear boundaries aka standards will help cut through the nonsense. It only takes one man for most of us and there are lots of guys out there-don’t be afraid to move on...great video Kevin!

    • @AngArmstrong2013
      @AngArmstrong2013 6 років тому

      sonyasviolin. #FACTS

    • @davon_DaGod
      @davon_DaGod 5 років тому

      @@AngArmstrong2013 Nope, actually there are alot more women than men. #FACTS

    • @natalieboult4726
      @natalieboult4726 4 роки тому +2

      Davon Da_God still millions .. no need to settle !

    • @candacecasey5634
      @candacecasey5634 3 роки тому

      @@davon_DaGod and? There are still plenty of men to choose from.

    • @candacecasey5634
      @candacecasey5634 3 роки тому +2

      @@davon_DaGod besides having no man is still better than being with a man who gives you grief.

  • @jardainebrown6984
    @jardainebrown6984 6 років тому +121

    Always know your worth as a female!

    • @maryamkim1281
      @maryamkim1281 6 років тому +5

      Or even as a *woman*

    • @n.fer.2596
      @n.fer.2596 5 років тому

      Jardaine Brown updated because of your profile pic

    • @aliciabee2781
      @aliciabee2781 4 роки тому +1

      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😘💘 yourself.

    • @egyptianqueen4007
      @egyptianqueen4007 4 роки тому

      @@maryamkim1281 a woman and a female are the same thing.....

    • @candacecasey5634
      @candacecasey5634 3 роки тому

      @@egyptianqueen4007 not necessarily a female cat is not a woman. A woman is a female human being 😂

  • @ceessimplesecrets
    @ceessimplesecrets 5 років тому +28

    That statement, “You can’t f your way into a cold heart,” gave me the chills. I wish more women knew that. 🙌🏾💯

  • @i3abikay
    @i3abikay 6 років тому +215

    Most definitely what I thought was happening... He would text frequently and then all of sudden stopped and then respond only when I texted (and no phone conversation at all!) when I think he notices that I'm not texting he would send a few lines but very silly stuff and when I know he would be off work he doesn't reach out to meet up. I cut him off because that's not a relationship. So glad I cut things off with no regrets

    • @deleciawilliams8678
      @deleciawilliams8678 6 років тому +23

      i3abikay Good for you! Your time is your most precious commodity. I'm glad you know your worth, keep your head up Queen and keep it moving.

    • @deirdremurray1411
      @deirdremurray1411 5 років тому +9

      Wasteman like we say in U.K lol

    • @darthbaesiannn
      @darthbaesiannn 5 років тому +7

      Can’t believe I fell for a similar situation. Feel so dumb, but at the same time I feel his presence in my life taught me so much at a crucial time and he actually displayed some good qualities and said and did some nice things that made me open to love and to giving it also. I try to see him as a lesson that came into my life for a reason, not a season. It was so short lived, but so impactful

  • @ssmyth1835
    @ssmyth1835 6 років тому +38

    As the woman, I am the prize. If a man is interested he will work for my attention. If not, he's a blip on the screen.

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 5 років тому +5

      Precisely alot of guys act like they're the prize instead of women

    • @nicoladouglas3270
      @nicoladouglas3270 4 роки тому

      A blip on the screen and a blot on the landscape!!!!! For real!!!!!

  • @angeljohnson234
    @angeljohnson234 6 років тому +121

    These are very good tips. Especially, the ones about avoiding a guy's house early on and the potential to be raped. Thanks for reminding us to never let our guard down.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +6

      angeljohnson234 my pleasure 😇

    • @LV2308gmail
      @LV2308gmail 5 років тому +2

      angeljohnson234 I learned the hard way. I allowed a guy to come over,only Because I knew him. He was my ex and my first love. We never had sex prior to that and I was practicing abstinence. The moment I let my guards down....so did my panties. It didn't happen again you can bet that.

  • @najashira2116
    @najashira2116 6 років тому +92

    I think my life was just saved!

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +3

      Ms. Naj 😂😂

  • @Cosmic.Cupcake
    @Cosmic.Cupcake 6 років тому +193

    Your channel is going to save my love life lol thank you 🙏🏽

    • @sweetythevenin4385
      @sweetythevenin4385 6 років тому +7

      Yes this is reminding me of my value n how we let our value go bc of our society

    • @Cosmic.Cupcake
      @Cosmic.Cupcake 6 років тому +9

      Sweety Thevenin yes! I love the fact that he’s a guy giving us advice on how not to get our hearts broken by guys lol I have so much respect for this man 🙌🏽

    • @sweetythevenin4385
      @sweetythevenin4385 6 років тому +3

      Nydia Cabrera so much respect

  • @malinda4963
    @malinda4963 6 років тому +102

    When a message slaps you in the face. Thank you so much. Love the messages and energy u send out.

    • @malinda4963
      @malinda4963 6 років тому +1

      Calisha Reid lol... Man.. Lol

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +5

      Thank you!

  • @ladymaiden2308
    @ladymaiden2308 5 років тому +18

    Another version of them leaving right after sex. They play the relationship game by not leaving immediately after sex, but they always arrive late to your house when you're expecting them, and they always leave earlier than planned the next morning. A subtle difference, but the same energy is behind it.

  • @hcll2495
    @hcll2495 6 років тому +176

    This is the most thorough and informative video I've heard on UA-cam. Thank you so much honestly, this is extremely helpful. Brilliant.

    • @ob8620
      @ob8620 6 років тому +3

      Agree!

    • @hcll2495
      @hcll2495 6 років тому +4

      Dawn Isola you said it perfectly! I mean the delivery and the message are equally effective. Simply incredible. Like I've never watched someone with clear cut, accurate examples.!

    • @Mimi-zg2bh
      @Mimi-zg2bh 5 років тому +1

      @@hcll2495 Exactly!

  • @stesfai
    @stesfai 6 років тому +217

    "He may look like a foot" 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Cosmic.Cupcake
      @Cosmic.Cupcake 6 років тому +13

      Sariye Shaw I wasn’t expecting him to say that 😂😂

    • @stesfai
      @stesfai 6 років тому +8

      Nydia Cabrera me either! Lol

    • @rogers5622
      @rogers5622 4 роки тому +3

      Right! A foot🤣

    • @MetalBere
      @MetalBere 4 роки тому +2

      😄 😄 😄 😄

  • @ShalaynaLynise777
    @ShalaynaLynise777 6 років тому +198

    I totally Messed up by allowing Smoke Sessions & Chill time at My crib wit a dude & His Ass Robbed Me shortly after😡😡😡 Lesson LEARNT....Randoms CANT COME TO THE CRIB....hell No

    • @nuckingfuts3017
      @nuckingfuts3017 6 років тому +63

      Shalayna Beauty damn that's fucked up, but randoms shouldn't be at your home... Shit ain't safe!

    • @Brandi_777
      @Brandi_777 6 років тому +29

      Wow... sorry to hear this happened to you.

    • @sweetythevenin4385
      @sweetythevenin4385 6 років тому +15

      Shalayna Beauty damn that's a hard lesson but we've all been there

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +40

      🎶“Say man, I stop smoking wit haters back in 94, but niggas still thinking a sweet gon get em through my door 🚪”🎶-Pimp C

    • @AyesheIsAlwaysLovely
      @AyesheIsAlwaysLovely 6 років тому +12

      Shalayna Beauty I know like 3 people who had this happen to them. Do u live in Los Angeles?

  • @fediaj9830
    @fediaj9830 5 років тому +21

    He always looks so fed up lmaoo

  • @TiaWasHere11
    @TiaWasHere11 5 років тому +12

    "When you're at work, you're anxious to go on break." FACTS

  • @kolakoko.j11
    @kolakoko.j11 6 років тому +48

    Thanks for promoting to women that our best leverage against these predators is to avoid sleeping with them. Even though you can catch feelings just off the potential of something, those feelings go away much faster then if you had sex with them.

  • @everydaistyle
    @everydaistyle 6 років тому +24

    That look of disgust at the end always has me rolling!

  • @cartierwhite2305
    @cartierwhite2305 6 років тому +176

    I don't even like men anymore...I just play alot of games ..knowing I'm not going to sleep with them or Sweat them ..I'm always out of town ..when I'm right at home looking at TV...I must be the most traveling person in the world lol

    • @Mjcatsnco
      @Mjcatsnco 6 років тому +22

      Bahahaa!! saaaamme. My dealings with men are a joke at this point

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 5 років тому +4

      I love this!!! We need to Skype or something !! You are a fool 😂😂😂💯💯💯#realtalk

    • @jlovesj3335
      @jlovesj3335 5 років тому +6

      Not cool.

    • @Zersul
      @Zersul 5 років тому +4

      Must be a miserable life lol

    • @FA-cx6dt
      @FA-cx6dt 5 років тому +1

      Hahahahaha!!!😂😂😂

  • @biancayoung4143
    @biancayoung4143 6 років тому +61

    So much truth in one video, all Lady's should be subscribed to this channel. Love the content.

  • @pourladentelle
    @pourladentelle 6 років тому +44

    Thanks for clearing that up for me: HOT for sex COLD for emotions!!!

  • @carolblack1795
    @carolblack1795 6 років тому +44

    Wish you were around when I used to crying over men that are not worthy of me. Thanks Kevin God bless you and your family.

  • @onedacangonji7464
    @onedacangonji7464 6 років тому +28

    Dude I wish I had you as an older brother growing up. It sucks being an only child with parents who don't even acknowledge dating. I was never taught any of this. I had to experience it myself. Thank God I have better sense now at 22 than I did at 18.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому

      Oneda Cangonji thank god 😉

    • @godlove5912
      @godlove5912 6 років тому +5

      Oneda Cangonji at least you’re still young!
      Wish I had resources like this back when I was 18!☺️

    • @RobinZipporah
      @RobinZipporah 5 років тому +1

      If fathers bring this reality to their daughters while they're little girls, we'd likely NEVER have these issues. TRULY. But this young man's on point.

  • @nellymo875
    @nellymo875 6 років тому +27

    Damnn can't believe I fell for this shit. I just graduated grad school, grew up in a good home, never been heartbroken, traveled to many countries, and know my worth. I've only been with one guy for 4 years and he treated me so well. That relationship taught me what love was. And still I let a pick up artist use all of these tactics on me. That was the dumbest three months of my life. I'm wiser now. Now that he realizes that I didn't appreciate his behavior he is now making attempts to call me often, text me in the morning and all that. do men like this have the potential to be good partners?

    • @jaijoseph2394
      @jaijoseph2394 6 років тому +24

      Nelly Mo I say leave him alone. I don't think he's changed. He's just putting on the full court press because he's losing access to you. Why would he want to start over with a new woman when he's been working on you for 3 months? He sees you as broken in and doesn't want to lose out on his investment. He'll revert once he has you in check.

    • @mariajones9102
      @mariajones9102 6 років тому +6

      Nelly Mo
      Nope.

    • @i3abikay
      @i3abikay 6 років тому +6

      Nelly Mo what Jai Joseph says. Wise words

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +19

      If he kept this up for 3 months then I would leave that alone. Sometimes good guys get desperate and try this stuff because it works but you can always tell because they reveal themselves much quicker. A good guy doing this because he just wants you to like him wont drag it out. As soon as he sees you really like him he’ll slip up and do something nice 😂.

    • @nellymo875
      @nellymo875 6 років тому +1

      Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls He has a damn good background story (trauma and heartbreak) and that's why I gave him so many chances. I was being kind and patient with him.

  • @bethanystpaul5683
    @bethanystpaul5683 5 років тому +7

    Wow. Thank you Kev Hick! I was in a situationship, was contemplating his actions, which made me feel bad about myself, he highlighted his boundaries but always crossed mine or ignored them completely. I am a beautiful woman but he didn't compliment me-so of course I started thinking maybe I'm not good enough...what the?? The stupid thing is, I failed to act on the bs that was right in front of me. Ignoring the signs because I was attracted to him. I was looking for information and stumbled on your videos, and heard the part that says he finds you attractive if he's contacting you but tries to hide it because it works for him to make you question yourself. I kicked him to the curb. He tried contacting me, finally almost begging to see me again which I found pathetic, told him no thank you and deleted his number. He still tried but I ignored him. You are doing great work here! The lady who told you early in your dating career that you have something special is right. I'll continue to recognize the bad guys while working on myself and changing the way I interact with men. The thing is, it's really simple. There are no hidden messages or codes to decipher. We all show everyone who we are. We just need to pay attention.

  • @jadekwan3920
    @jadekwan3920 6 років тому +49

    Wow...minimum effort from jump! I actually take notes from your segments😶😁😂

    • @sophisticatedmm3632
      @sophisticatedmm3632 5 років тому

      I'm astounded by guys that are lazy, # 5 is ABSURD

    • @LV2308gmail
      @LV2308gmail 5 років тому

      Jade Kwan omg that's the key. Minimum effort =low expectations.

  • @remshjgh2245
    @remshjgh2245 5 років тому +14

    When he was testing his boundary shifting and lack of validation, I deleted him from all social media. MUST be a slap to his face.

  • @iiStrawberry1
    @iiStrawberry1 6 років тому +13

    I've noticed a lot of these signs in the men I have been seeing recently. I've become more confident after this one guy played me for a whole year so the lack of compliment and the hot and cold behavior never really get to me after that but thank you so much for this warning video. :)

  • @missevans626
    @missevans626 6 років тому +42

    “He may look like a foot”.
    *shows picture of a foot*
    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @nuckingfuts3017
    @nuckingfuts3017 6 років тому +56

    The Forf sign lmao

  • @PreppyPrincess777
    @PreppyPrincess777 6 років тому +39

    This was in my newsfeed and I’m glad I clicked on it because I realized my ex exhibited many of these traits and how I just let him go but he claimed I was the one who was “cold hearted”. Huh... nice to have that extra bit of validation that I made the right choice about MARCUS HAMPTON 😂

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +14

      Damn😂😂😂 Expose much!😂 I’m glad you did too😉 Thanks for watching!

    • @LittleMsLibra8
      @LittleMsLibra8 4 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo
    @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo 6 років тому +126

    👀 Totally dated this guy. Then he became a stalker when I was done with his crap. On another note, don’t ever stop putting pics and comments in your videos - they’re hilarious 😂

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +19

      I’m glad your still watching sam. You’re still my only UA-cam friend 😂 I hope all is well. Hows the website and new channel coming? I’ve been so busy managing this youtube that I haven’t had tome to watch and damn UA-cam 😕. Whats the channel name again I couldn’t find it the last time I talked to you. Then our message got BURIED in my dm’s. Whats the website info?
      About the stalker 👀. Thats makes sense. Most of these guys are narcissistic and only care about what they want. Stalking follows closely behind narcissism. 😂

    • @blessed74God
      @blessed74God 6 років тому +2

      Me too, girl. 9MONTHS! Pls some shadiness between me trying to break up with him

    • @blessed74God
      @blessed74God 6 років тому +2

      Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls PLEASE help me understand how a narcissist go out of their way to do the very things they know u abhor, even on ur anniversary, leaving u no choice but to break up with them, then stalk?! Isn't that a psychopath? All I wanted to do was find someone decent to spend my life with. Now that I'm good on dealing with men, still not gay, slightly open with the right situation there's been a sudden influx in harassment with men I done even KNOW?!

    • @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo
      @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo 6 років тому +4

      Thank god I recognized the stalker tendencies QUICK and moved, cut contact with everyone that we knew mutually. It was so scary! Hope you're doing well and staying away from these types of lame men lol

    • @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo
      @EclecticDIYerSamanthaEbreo 6 років тому

      I am! I'm such a youtube creeper though, half the time I never comment lol The website and new channel are on hold because of technical difficulties. Basically, I'm having a bitch of a time figuring out how to film remodeling projects that are entertaining / informative. It's totally different from sitting and filming. My website is www.samanthaebreo.com - there are a few articles up but not nearly what I want. It's so hard being a 1 woman show lol
      I saw a pic of you and your baby on IG - so cute!! Hope your little family is doing well :)

  • @2particlesinapodcast442
    @2particlesinapodcast442 6 років тому +34

    Yea that one 👎 is a pick up artist mad cause Kev just spilled the beans lol 😂 I know someone JUST like this and trust me girls. The best way to deal with this type is .. DON’T!! He’s a waste of ur precious time, thought, and effort. 🏃‍♀️

  • @hatchettharley3186
    @hatchettharley3186 6 років тому +37

    That’s that “ Iceberg slim” mentality my grandmother warned me about lol. I see it much more clearly as I’ve matured. It’s unfortunate that some people feel this is necessary

  • @BeautyLoves88
    @BeautyLoves88 6 років тому +9

    “you can’t f your way into a cold heart” - boyyyyyy!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @maryamkim1281
    @maryamkim1281 6 років тому +28

    Yes, Mr Hicks. Cold-hearted manipulators using women for sex. Break it down for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +2

      My pleasure 😇

  • @shelly155
    @shelly155 6 років тому +41

    Did you say a foot? 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
    Omg, I hollered! Maaaannn.... you're hilarious! I love your vids!

    • @poleprincess5621
      @poleprincess5621 6 років тому +1

      Shelly K. ..Exactly!!!😂😂😂😂😂

  • @kittycat1004
    @kittycat1004 6 років тому +30

    welll, i have just listened to all the bullshit i have been put through and put up with, smbh. i cant even speak. should i laugh cry or get angry. i dont even know.

  • @kittykitcat6932
    @kittykitcat6932 6 років тому +8

    You’re definitely right! I’ve been through all of those things. That’s why all women need to love themselves, and never ever allow anyone to make you feel insecure, or second guess yourself. If that happens, just cut them off and move on to the next!

  • @fatmahamdi3467
    @fatmahamdi3467 6 років тому +32

    This is accurate! Thanks for exposing it!

  • @keiki90034
    @keiki90034 6 років тому +6

    I needed to hear all of this about 20 years ago! I wasted many many years on a guy just like this! 3 years ago I had the courage to confront him and disconnect myself from the insanity. I’m so proud of myself and I’ve never looked back. The freedom and clarity is amazing. Ladies, take note. This information is legit and if taken seriously you can save yourself a lot of pain. Bless up brother. Thanks!

  • @thatlovegirl12
    @thatlovegirl12 6 років тому +36

    That disclaimer applies to 99.9% of all single men 😂😂

  • @kalibrown1498
    @kalibrown1498 6 років тому +11

    This video is by far the best on this subject. Simple and to the point confirming EVERYTHING I am seeing in this person who thinks he is out slicking me. What dude fail to yet realize is that he can't out slick a can of oil. Kev, so glad I discovered your channel. Outstanding advice and videos! Love your humor too! God has given you a true gift to help His daughters. May His favor and blessings be your portion always. 💛

  • @ninavimtoqueen
    @ninavimtoqueen 4 роки тому +15

    My late godmother gave me this advice. " Its always better to wonder (what he'd have been like in bed) without regret, than regretfully know"

  • @vfreeman180
    @vfreeman180 6 років тому +18

    This is my favorite video of yours! eeewww I met a guy just like this.

  • @logikgirl12
    @logikgirl12 4 роки тому +2

    This is both disgusting and eye-opening. Thanks for being 100% forthright.
    I've seen every single one of these behaviors in men. But it's only dishonest, insecure men who do this. The only way to filter them out is to raise and uphold your standards. And otherwise always be prepared to walk away.

  • @ammettacarrillo3728
    @ammettacarrillo3728 3 роки тому +6

    I love that you're so determined to expose this witchcraft that's been going on between men and women. I never really had a relationship with my father so this information is very helpful and healing! What you're Doing here Is very important work and May God continue to bless You and your family🙏

  • @gratitude5740
    @gratitude5740 6 років тому +2

    Your opinion is valued and valid.
    You and pastor RC BLAKES gIve clearly perspectives from man’s point.
    Thanks,
    I have implemented several ones . Lately no sex before marriage. Full stop. Not to manipulate him into marrying me but to see if he really values me for my intellect character and other things BEFORE sex.
    So far it is working.
    Many women need more confidence and know their standards.

  • @queenology1014
    @queenology1014 6 років тому +31

    U are on point, i met one recently that hit on all ten points, i wont be answering anymore of his texts anymore!!!

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +4

      Pink Skittlez 😉

  • @traceylennon1204
    @traceylennon1204 5 років тому +6

    My man said conVERSE..not conversate..very impressive!!!

    • @mandyg5747
      @mandyg5747 5 років тому

      Ha ha...I had to think about that one. Never heard of Conversate lol....

  • @renaissance1763
    @renaissance1763 5 років тому +5

    Kevin got me so head strong like my guy friends it's not even funny..lol but seriously I always listen closely to what a man say then watch their actions..when they don't add up.. I ghost them to never return..as a grown woman who was taught and learned the game from men...I always use the quote "grown women don't argue and stay in bs we get turned off". Thanks a million Kev for all your advice ima force to be reckon with and it sucks at times because I'm truly loving

  • @FightsRightsAlways
    @FightsRightsAlways 5 років тому +3

    Cold emotionally, hot physically. THIS IS IMPORTANT

  • @fatmahamdi3467
    @fatmahamdi3467 6 років тому +116

    Iam disgusted that this works!

  • @sorayanasser558
    @sorayanasser558 4 роки тому +1

    This man has watched his vulnerable mother go through crap with guys from a very early age and as a result was become very wise.

  • @millag93
    @millag93 5 років тому +4

    Thank God there are men like you, educating women on such important topics! THANK YOU

  • @zoejaiattoh1243
    @zoejaiattoh1243 3 роки тому +1

    Wish I knew this stuff .. years ago .. would have saved me a WHOLE LIFETIME OF TROUBLES..
    after my first love and I broke up after 9 years of relationship.. my confidence and self esteem dropped .. and I found myself doing things for men .. I never would have .. now that I’m going back into the dating scene I don’t want to get played like I been getting played .. I’m glad I found ur channel.. all this information is great . Thanks 🙏🏾

  • @paigelovette8156
    @paigelovette8156 6 років тому +3

    "You can't F your way into a cold heart. " Man I swear I love your videos so much. I've been watching you for awhile and you really do school me on what to look out for and remind me why I will never settle. As a 21 yr old girl whos abstinate and just wanting to be in a relationship and have more experience with men but refuses to settle to get it, your videos truly are a blessing. Thank you so much. You help me so much. ♥

  • @mimzers1
    @mimzers1 6 років тому +7

    This video could save lives. Including mine. Thank you this information Kev I am glad to know that not all men are like this but I need to weed them out from the beginning

  • @sisteranonymous3585
    @sisteranonymous3585 6 років тому +15

    "...the emotional depth of the TERMINATOR..." Got damn......lmao lolol #dead

  • @augustrules32
    @augustrules32 6 років тому +9

    I shared this video with me 22yr old daughter! Great advice I'm lacing her with some game and your video will help. Thank you Handsome 🙂!

  • @KeeshRose
    @KeeshRose 6 років тому +12

    My favorite...coming through again. Thank u Kev! This information is needed. I love how you address these issues.

  • @blackgold3800
    @blackgold3800 6 років тому +15

    Always good to hear a honest perspective 😊

  • @ThePrettytexan
    @ThePrettytexan 6 років тому +65

    Why is that men dont want to have telephone conversations anymore?🤔

    • @aquafina6544
      @aquafina6544 6 років тому +52

      ThePrettytexan, bcus they dont have social interaction skills and only see women as a mean to an end. They spend so much time on video games and trolling the internet that they lose touch with human interaction. Its sad but so happening at alarming rates.

    • @ThePrettytexan
      @ThePrettytexan 6 років тому +4

      A-GREE!!!

    • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
      @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 6 років тому +13

      There are a lot who do and if it isn't on the phone, then it's video chat.

    • @bink865
      @bink865 5 років тому +25

      In an actual conversation they might expose themselves as inadequate... but texting can create mystery to make them seem better than they actually are

    • @nissssann
      @nissssann 5 років тому +2

      Because it's much more fun to meet up on real life. I disagree with Kevin here. Dating over phone an text is like a filter. You can not read and feel the other person's body language and energies. Why not save the conversations to real date? Building anticipation, curiosity and attraction is nothing bad.

  • @salsaqueen4911
    @salsaqueen4911 5 років тому +4

    LOVE THIS VIDEO. i CAN ONLY IMAGINE HOW MANY MEN HATE YOU AT THIS MOMENT FOR PUTTING OUT THIS INFORMATION.

  • @tylynn256
    @tylynn256 6 років тому +25

    That Forf one is a doozy... Lol

  • @kayclass4122
    @kayclass4122 6 років тому +17

    Hi Kev,
    i am sitting in the nail salon with tears in my eyes...I always felt some of the things you listed but to actually hear someone else say it made me realize and say to myself "This is me...my
    situation". Thank you very much for speaking on this topic. By the way, how do I donate again?
    Thanks
    Take care

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +1

      Kay Class I hope sticks with you when you need it the most😁. The PayPal link in the description box 📦 is the simplest way. Or cash app or Gofundme. Thank you so much for sharing this moment with me.

  • @msriley5557
    @msriley5557 6 років тому +11

    Wowzers!!! Control techniques I'm very familiar with. smh

  • @queengoblin
    @queengoblin 3 роки тому +1

    You're a breath of fresh air honestly!! I know good men exist and my standards are high because of men like you! Thank you for your service.

  • @yvonnegonzalez7726
    @yvonnegonzalez7726 6 років тому +14

    Oh I am such a sucker !!!!!!!!! You killed it on this video 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

  • @m.ravelo8171
    @m.ravelo8171 5 років тому +1

    You are the best. I recently put a stop to this dude who started doing exactly what you stated in this video. He lied to me about still leaving at home with his kid's mother. My woman's intuition told me he was lying & it also allowed me to keep my guard up. When I exposed him about it and told him that I was not into looking for somone to sleep around especially if they were already involved in a relationship, he stopped speaking to me. He came at me too strong at first trying to kiss me and touch my butt. That was my wake up call that showed me exactly what he was looking for. Listening to your video made me feel like a million dollar baby. He never gave me his number or asked me for mine. That was a big red flag for me. I am proud of myself for not allowing him to use & abuse me. Another loser out of site, out of mind. May God continue to bless you to spread knowledge to us women. You are loved and appreciated.

  • @janetdoll1999
    @janetdoll1999 6 років тому +20

    You're like the big brother i never had lol

  • @giavannascarafiotti3091
    @giavannascarafiotti3091 2 роки тому +1

    I called one of these pick up artist out he blocked me from every social media site and turned all of the girls that I used to hang out with against me. This stuff needs to Be addressed.

  • @theydidthat9223
    @theydidthat9223 6 років тому +6

    Sharing!!! All women need to hear THIS! Thank you Kev!

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому

      Monica Thompson 😊 thank you

  • @funtimes-td6vo
    @funtimes-td6vo 4 роки тому +2

    I'm a female and I've realised not only do I naturally do some of the things on this, I also react opposite to what's expected. Thank you so much I now understand why guys always become super clingy or frustrated with me. I've got to make a conscious effort to reduce these behaviours to prevent clinginess and continue to frustrate these "pickup artist" 😂

  • @ChunSsbbwLi
    @ChunSsbbwLi 6 років тому +6

    I'm sooo hooked I've been binge-watching your videos

  • @racheltoffeepudding7732
    @racheltoffeepudding7732 5 років тому +2

    So much TRUTH!
    " Unfortunately you can't F your way into a COLD HEART!"
    Thanks again Kevin 😊👌

  • @diannaalexander5850
    @diannaalexander5850 6 років тому +6

    New subbie from Jamaica love your content...thank you for looking out for us ladies..may God continue to bless you.

  • @kellysandblom6508
    @kellysandblom6508 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you ❤️ You are so helpful! A lot of what you talk about, women not valuing or respecting themselves and letting men do this to them...has to do with how you’re brought up by your parents. I was raised mainly by my narcissistic mother, who didn’t care about me, my feelings, my existence, so naturally, I thought this was normal, and found a man who did the same to me. I sought counseling, learned and divorced him. Thank you for putting this out there! Thank you for your help! Thank you for your knowledge! Thank you for helping to put a stop to these men that do this to women! THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rprokes1
    @rprokes1 6 років тому +8

    Great video Kevin!!! This video needs to go worldwide.-a new fan

    • @KevHick
      @KevHick  6 років тому +2

      rprokes1 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @LynnTarr
    @LynnTarr 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for these vid. They hurt a lot but it’s good to know that a man like you cares about us women.

  • @Ykhraam
    @Ykhraam 6 років тому +38

    "he may look like a foot" 😂

  • @FH-xw8sf
    @FH-xw8sf 6 років тому +13

    Love it!!!! Excellent video 🙏

  • @cr4228
    @cr4228 4 роки тому +1

    Yes. And his defense of all this is that he doesnt like drama. He creates it by all these behaviors from the beginning.