I went to a relationship seminar and facilitator encouraged us to really think about how you feel about yourself when you are with the other person. If you don't like yourself or the person you are becoming, then it is time to move on.
darknluvly702 I married my way into a cold heart. As long as he keeps the bills paid and his fucking hands off of me I'm good. I did better on my own anyway
I truly wish men and women could stop all these damn games and just be honest. Especially, when one's feelings are involved. Address what you want straight from the beginning to avoid disappointment and heartache in the end. Info is much appreciated Kev!
Lmao almost as a rule, every boy I’ve ever dated always says he wants the opposite of whatever I’m looking for. 😴 if I’m looking for a relationship, they want something casual. If I’m looking for something casual, they wanna get married all of a sudden. So boring to play with children. I’m grateful that there’s so much actual good advice online these days that helps me suss out the losers quickly
@@phoenixdan8696 "People still lie about what they want in a relationship, just to get what they want". Is that what you are trying to say? lol I had to translate your comment so people can understand.
It works because in the beginning when you're first dating the guy and talking to them they act like such an amazing person. Then within time they act colder to you, belittling everything that you are dealing with.
I'm in my 40s, and I really appreciate your videos. It's a breath of fresh air to know that someone your age cares and will stand for the protection of a woman's heart ! 😍
I am currently 26 y/o and got married when I was 22 to an amazing guy! I was in 2 previously relationships and made a couple of bad mistakes. All your information is spot on!!! Once I started knowing my worth I attained the man that I wanted. Ladies there are good guys out there you just have to stay grounded and don’t let these men run game on you.
What did you do to love yourself? I came from a very toxic family,specially my father, and all I did was get played by toxic men. This Channel has helped me a lot, I feel I didn't even learn how am I supposed to be treated!😥
It's kind of sad that we are still falling for these types of guys. It's even sadder that men are still playing these types of games towards women. The fact that channels like this must exists in order to inform and protect women is shameful. It makes you wonder if dating today is even worth it.
It’s really not worth it either. A majority still end up cheating on us even when they have found “the one”. Fuck romantic love. Just travel and love yourself and the planet 💚
Friends first and clear boundaries aka standards will help cut through the nonsense. It only takes one man for most of us and there are lots of guys out there-don’t be afraid to move on...great video Kevin!
Yeah I needed Kevin in my 20's! Now I'm super picky about who I let come around. At first having my daughter set the standard for me and it's high. After being her mom and other self esteem growing experiences, I have high standards for myself. She is the best part of my life for so many reasons. I don't worry about growing old and being alone with my cats (I'm a dog person anyway). I focus on being a positive example of how a woman conducts herself for those little eyes alway on me
because we never expect to get played in the beginning. life may be a bitch sometimes, but it's up to us to learn our lessons, move on, and make life our bitch. which entails weeding out these fuckers.
Interesting, many of these tactics are practiced by narcissistic, Type B personalities. That's probably who many women are dealing with when it comes to certain guys. The good thing is, they are quite predictable once you've been (or almost been) victimized by them. Stir clear of these red flags ppl for your mental and physical safety. Nice video! 👌
Dating men like this just brings unnecessary stress into a woman’s life. The usual targets are the females whom haven’t learned to love themselves. I was one of them until I finally grew tired of dating an enemy. Love yourselves ladies❤️ it goes a long way trust me.
Dawn Isola you said it perfectly! I mean the delivery and the message are equally effective. Simply incredible. Like I've never watched someone with clear cut, accurate examples.!
Most definitely what I thought was happening... He would text frequently and then all of sudden stopped and then respond only when I texted (and no phone conversation at all!) when I think he notices that I'm not texting he would send a few lines but very silly stuff and when I know he would be off work he doesn't reach out to meet up. I cut him off because that's not a relationship. So glad I cut things off with no regrets
Can’t believe I fell for a similar situation. Feel so dumb, but at the same time I feel his presence in my life taught me so much at a crucial time and he actually displayed some good qualities and said and did some nice things that made me open to love and to giving it also. I try to see him as a lesson that came into my life for a reason, not a season. It was so short lived, but so impactful
@@PerrySkyePhoenix guys still use and play women even without sex. Meaning for someone to vent to, using their car, money, emotionally, ego boost...not sleeping with them isn't enough. It's not entertaining them in general and having self respect that is the key to not getting played
Knowledge sticks best when you got experiences to resonate with it. I think it came at the right time for you. 🥰 I personally wouldn't have understood many of Kevs messages without the real life examples already in my pocket. You'll do great! 😁❤️🙏🏼
Sweety Thevenin yes! I love the fact that he’s a guy giving us advice on how not to get our hearts broken by guys lol I have so much respect for this man 🙌🏽
Another version of them leaving right after sex. They play the relationship game by not leaving immediately after sex, but they always arrive late to your house when you're expecting them, and they always leave earlier than planned the next morning. A subtle difference, but the same energy is behind it.
Wow. Thank you Kev Hick! I was in a situationship, was contemplating his actions, which made me feel bad about myself, he highlighted his boundaries but always crossed mine or ignored them completely. I am a beautiful woman but he didn't compliment me-so of course I started thinking maybe I'm not good enough...what the?? The stupid thing is, I failed to act on the bs that was right in front of me. Ignoring the signs because I was attracted to him. I was looking for information and stumbled on your videos, and heard the part that says he finds you attractive if he's contacting you but tries to hide it because it works for him to make you question yourself. I kicked him to the curb. He tried contacting me, finally almost begging to see me again which I found pathetic, told him no thank you and deleted his number. He still tried but I ignored him. You are doing great work here! The lady who told you early in your dating career that you have something special is right. I'll continue to recognize the bad guys while working on myself and changing the way I interact with men. The thing is, it's really simple. There are no hidden messages or codes to decipher. We all show everyone who we are. We just need to pay attention.
These are very good tips. Especially, the ones about avoiding a guy's house early on and the potential to be raped. Thanks for reminding us to never let our guard down.
angeljohnson234 I learned the hard way. I allowed a guy to come over,only Because I knew him. He was my ex and my first love. We never had sex prior to that and I was practicing abstinence. The moment I let my guards down....so did my panties. It didn't happen again you can bet that.
Thanks for promoting to women that our best leverage against these predators is to avoid sleeping with them. Even though you can catch feelings just off the potential of something, those feelings go away much faster then if you had sex with them.
I've noticed a lot of these signs in the men I have been seeing recently. I've become more confident after this one guy played me for a whole year so the lack of compliment and the hot and cold behavior never really get to me after that but thank you so much for this warning video. :)
You’re definitely right! I’ve been through all of those things. That’s why all women need to love themselves, and never ever allow anyone to make you feel insecure, or second guess yourself. If that happens, just cut them off and move on to the next!
I needed to hear all of this about 20 years ago! I wasted many many years on a guy just like this! 3 years ago I had the courage to confront him and disconnect myself from the insanity. I’m so proud of myself and I’ve never looked back. The freedom and clarity is amazing. Ladies, take note. This information is legit and if taken seriously you can save yourself a lot of pain. Bless up brother. Thanks!
Dude I wish I had you as an older brother growing up. It sucks being an only child with parents who don't even acknowledge dating. I was never taught any of this. I had to experience it myself. Thank God I have better sense now at 22 than I did at 18.
If fathers bring this reality to their daughters while they're little girls, we'd likely NEVER have these issues. TRULY. But this young man's on point.
Damnn can't believe I fell for this shit. I just graduated grad school, grew up in a good home, never been heartbroken, traveled to many countries, and know my worth. I've only been with one guy for 4 years and he treated me so well. That relationship taught me what love was. And still I let a pick up artist use all of these tactics on me. That was the dumbest three months of my life. I'm wiser now. Now that he realizes that I didn't appreciate his behavior he is now making attempts to call me often, text me in the morning and all that. do men like this have the potential to be good partners?
Nelly Mo I say leave him alone. I don't think he's changed. He's just putting on the full court press because he's losing access to you. Why would he want to start over with a new woman when he's been working on you for 3 months? He sees you as broken in and doesn't want to lose out on his investment. He'll revert once he has you in check.
If he kept this up for 3 months then I would leave that alone. Sometimes good guys get desperate and try this stuff because it works but you can always tell because they reveal themselves much quicker. A good guy doing this because he just wants you to like him wont drag it out. As soon as he sees you really like him he’ll slip up and do something nice 😂.
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls He has a damn good background story (trauma and heartbreak) and that's why I gave him so many chances. I was being kind and patient with him.
I don't even like men anymore...I just play alot of games ..knowing I'm not going to sleep with them or Sweat them ..I'm always out of town ..when I'm right at home looking at TV...I must be the most traveling person in the world lol
I totally Messed up by allowing Smoke Sessions & Chill time at My crib wit a dude & His Ass Robbed Me shortly after😡😡😡 Lesson LEARNT....Randoms CANT COME TO THE CRIB....hell No
This video is by far the best on this subject. Simple and to the point confirming EVERYTHING I am seeing in this person who thinks he is out slicking me. What dude fail to yet realize is that he can't out slick a can of oil. Kev, so glad I discovered your channel. Outstanding advice and videos! Love your humor too! God has given you a true gift to help His daughters. May His favor and blessings be your portion always. 💛
welll, i have just listened to all the bullshit i have been put through and put up with, smbh. i cant even speak. should i laugh cry or get angry. i dont even know.
I love that you're so determined to expose this witchcraft that's been going on between men and women. I never really had a relationship with my father so this information is very helpful and healing! What you're Doing here Is very important work and May God continue to bless You and your family🙏
That’s that “ Iceberg slim” mentality my grandmother warned me about lol. I see it much more clearly as I’ve matured. It’s unfortunate that some people feel this is necessary
This was in my newsfeed and I’m glad I clicked on it because I realized my ex exhibited many of these traits and how I just let him go but he claimed I was the one who was “cold hearted”. Huh... nice to have that extra bit of validation that I made the right choice about MARCUS HAMPTON 😂
I have listened to 2 of your videos and love the way you tell the truth. I've learned the hardest way and I'm sharing the videos with women who say there aren't any good men. I know they're wrong and need to be helped, work on their self-esteem AND listen to these extremely wonderful videos! Thank you.🌟🌟🌟🌟
This is both disgusting and eye-opening. Thanks for being 100% forthright. I've seen every single one of these behaviors in men. But it's only dishonest, insecure men who do this. The only way to filter them out is to raise and uphold your standards. And otherwise always be prepared to walk away.
This video could save lives. Including mine. Thank you this information Kev I am glad to know that not all men are like this but I need to weed them out from the beginning
Wish I knew this stuff .. years ago .. would have saved me a WHOLE LIFETIME OF TROUBLES.. after my first love and I broke up after 9 years of relationship.. my confidence and self esteem dropped .. and I found myself doing things for men .. I never would have .. now that I’m going back into the dating scene I don’t want to get played like I been getting played .. I’m glad I found ur channel.. all this information is great . Thanks 🙏🏾
You are the best. I recently put a stop to this dude who started doing exactly what you stated in this video. He lied to me about still leaving at home with his kid's mother. My woman's intuition told me he was lying & it also allowed me to keep my guard up. When I exposed him about it and told him that I was not into looking for somone to sleep around especially if they were already involved in a relationship, he stopped speaking to me. He came at me too strong at first trying to kiss me and touch my butt. That was my wake up call that showed me exactly what he was looking for. Listening to your video made me feel like a million dollar baby. He never gave me his number or asked me for mine. That was a big red flag for me. I am proud of myself for not allowing him to use & abuse me. Another loser out of site, out of mind. May God continue to bless you to spread knowledge to us women. You are loved and appreciated.
Kevin got me so head strong like my guy friends it's not even funny..lol but seriously I always listen closely to what a man say then watch their actions..when they don't add up.. I ghost them to never return..as a grown woman who was taught and learned the game from men...I always use the quote "grown women don't argue and stay in bs we get turned off". Thanks a million Kev for all your advice ima force to be reckon with and it sucks at times because I'm truly loving
Your opinion is valued and valid. You and pastor RC BLAKES gIve clearly perspectives from man’s point. Thanks, I have implemented several ones . Lately no sex before marriage. Full stop. Not to manipulate him into marrying me but to see if he really values me for my intellect character and other things BEFORE sex. So far it is working. Many women need more confidence and know their standards.
Yea that one 👎 is a pick up artist mad cause Kev just spilled the beans lol 😂 I know someone JUST like this and trust me girls. The best way to deal with this type is .. DON’T!! He’s a waste of ur precious time, thought, and effort. 🏃♀️
"You can't F your way into a cold heart. " Man I swear I love your videos so much. I've been watching you for awhile and you really do school me on what to look out for and remind me why I will never settle. As a 21 yr old girl whos abstinate and just wanting to be in a relationship and have more experience with men but refuses to settle to get it, your videos truly are a blessing. Thank you so much. You help me so much. ♥
👀 Totally dated this guy. Then he became a stalker when I was done with his crap. On another note, don’t ever stop putting pics and comments in your videos - they’re hilarious 😂
I’m glad your still watching sam. You’re still my only UA-cam friend 😂 I hope all is well. Hows the website and new channel coming? I’ve been so busy managing this youtube that I haven’t had tome to watch and damn UA-cam 😕. Whats the channel name again I couldn’t find it the last time I talked to you. Then our message got BURIED in my dm’s. Whats the website info? About the stalker 👀. Thats makes sense. Most of these guys are narcissistic and only care about what they want. Stalking follows closely behind narcissism. 😂
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls PLEASE help me understand how a narcissist go out of their way to do the very things they know u abhor, even on ur anniversary, leaving u no choice but to break up with them, then stalk?! Isn't that a psychopath? All I wanted to do was find someone decent to spend my life with. Now that I'm good on dealing with men, still not gay, slightly open with the right situation there's been a sudden influx in harassment with men I done even KNOW?!
Thank god I recognized the stalker tendencies QUICK and moved, cut contact with everyone that we knew mutually. It was so scary! Hope you're doing well and staying away from these types of lame men lol
I am! I'm such a youtube creeper though, half the time I never comment lol The website and new channel are on hold because of technical difficulties. Basically, I'm having a bitch of a time figuring out how to film remodeling projects that are entertaining / informative. It's totally different from sitting and filming. My website is www.samanthaebreo.com - there are a few articles up but not nearly what I want. It's so hard being a 1 woman show lol I saw a pic of you and your baby on IG - so cute!! Hope your little family is doing well :)
Hey Kev…. I want to thank you for all that you do. I noticed a couple of signs with this guy I’m talking to now. I blocked him… something in my heart told me not to let him in… he is only showing a few of these signs but I don’t want it to get worse and he shows all of them. Your wife is blessed to have you and you are blessed to have your wife. Please never stop making these videos. So many women without dads or don’t really know how to truly date right ….. you don’t even imagine how this can go from just talking about dating red signs in men to it going to the real root of the problem . This year I have new goals for me and to have more self esteem. I feel so stupid. This guy stopped talking to me for days and I wrote him telling him “thank you for not responding to me it taught me a lesson and I was upset I didn’t see it at first but it showed me patience and not to rush things”. I can’t believe I said that……. I feel so dumb. All because he wasn’t texting beck I thought it was a lesson from the universe . But in my heart I just kept saying idk…:… he is so smooth with words. I just hate keeping my heart closed but I know I have to . My gut tells me he doesn’t like me while my psychic feeds me sick delusions that he does. This year has to be healthy 2023. Thank you God bless
I'm a female and I've realised not only do I naturally do some of the things on this, I also react opposite to what's expected. Thank you so much I now understand why guys always become super clingy or frustrated with me. I've got to make a conscious effort to reduce these behaviours to prevent clinginess and continue to frustrate these "pickup artist" 😂
Thank you ❤️ You are so helpful! A lot of what you talk about, women not valuing or respecting themselves and letting men do this to them...has to do with how you’re brought up by your parents. I was raised mainly by my narcissistic mother, who didn’t care about me, my feelings, my existence, so naturally, I thought this was normal, and found a man who did the same to me. I sought counseling, learned and divorced him. Thank you for putting this out there! Thank you for your help! Thank you for your knowledge! Thank you for helping to put a stop to these men that do this to women! THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️
You are extremely compassionate of women! Thank you many times. You are reminding me of my worth. I just wish i could meet a man as intelligent and gentle as you.
This is by far one of your best videos. And these are spot on. I have been watching your videos for a while now and think you are so real and bring total truth. Thanks for the male perspective. #Following
Hi Kev, i am sitting in the nail salon with tears in my eyes...I always felt some of the things you listed but to actually hear someone else say it made me realize and say to myself "This is me...my situation". Thank you very much for speaking on this topic. By the way, how do I donate again? Thanks Take care
Kay Class I hope sticks with you when you need it the most😁. The PayPal link in the description box 📦 is the simplest way. Or cash app or Gofundme. Thank you so much for sharing this moment with me.
1.) won’t talk on the phone or text. Just wants to meet 2.) doesn’t connect emotionally 3.) disrespects boundaries and threatens abandonment 4.) intentionally ghosts you 5.) no real fist date. Come over to my house or yours... DONT GO OVER TO THE HOUSE OR LET THEM IN YOURS unless you just want to be used 6.) impatient about sex or sexually focused. Testing limits 7.) do not give any indication of attraction to make you self conscious 8.) light put downs- more of 7... throwing shade to be in position to sexually take advantage 9.) hot cold -cold emotions hot sex. He’s playing with you 10.) always leave after sex to remind you of the status of the relationship. More playing on the insecurities
What an outstanding human being you are. Thanks for being an ally and being brave enough to share these unfortunate realities. It's comforting to know there are channels like yours willing to 'betray' the bro code and opt instead for integrity. You're making the world a better place by helping to strengthen the most important things in life; love, mutual respect, and genuine connection with our fellow human beings. Thank you.
I went to a relationship seminar and facilitator encouraged us to really think about how you feel about yourself when you are with the other person. If you don't like yourself or the person you are becoming, then it is time to move on.
GApeech08 great point 😁
Thank you.
Your like the big brother I always needed and wanted 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Miya Janet 😁that’s exactly my purpose
He's a high quality man who is doing women a world of good service and it works out great for the good man in the end too.
Yes just like derrick jaxn
I was feeling the same except I'm older than Kev but i can always learn from him I don't have a big brother
Miya Janet I swear! I discovered him yesterday and been binge watching....
"You can't F%ck your way into a cold heart!" 💯✔ Now that's some real truth!! 👊
#FACTS
darknluvly702 yep
darknluvly702 I married my way into a cold heart. As long as he keeps the bills paid and his fucking hands off of me I'm good. I did better on my own anyway
You can’t fuck your way into any mans heart. Period
Needs to be on a shirt
Man you got me blocking people now
Sweety Thevenin 😂😂😂
Good! This means there's hope for you. U can b saved from all the bs...stay 4-ever alert
REAAAAALEST TALK though! Blocking my last date as we speak!
😂 😂 😂
I deleted so many niggas on snap 😂😂
I truly wish men and women could stop all these damn games and just be honest. Especially, when one's feelings are involved. Address what you want straight from the beginning to avoid disappointment and heartache in the end. Info is much appreciated Kev!
Lmao almost as a rule, every boy I’ve ever dated always says he wants the opposite of whatever I’m looking for. 😴 if I’m looking for a relationship, they want something casual. If I’m looking for something casual, they wanna get married all of a sudden. So boring to play with children. I’m grateful that there’s so much actual good advice online these days that helps me suss out the losers quickly
@Nature Oliver lol You must be from Georgia
People does still lie about they want a relationship just to get what they want anyways
@@phoenixdan8696 "People still lie about what they want in a relationship, just to get what they want". Is that what you are trying to say? lol I had to translate your comment so people can understand.
Suma...i think its human nature to play with who chase and be chased and we get on the wrong side of it as women sometimes
It works because in the beginning when you're first dating the guy and talking to them they act like such an amazing person. Then within time they act colder to you, belittling everything that you are dealing with.
Yeah I just got out of a relationship like that.
This is happening and not even dating the smelly foot!!!!!
Damn so true they belittle because they’re cheating though
I'm in my 40s, and I really appreciate your videos. It's a breath of fresh air to know that someone your age cares and will stand for the protection of a woman's heart ! 😍
Sandra Otero 😁😁😁Thanks for watching
Same!! I'm 50 and apparently still clueless about men, and what motivates them...
Right where was Kev 25 years ago? We need more people like him on UA-cam!!
@@sda-clips Yes ! 😃
That's what I was thinking lol I wish we had something similar when we were growing up
Who is your mother? Tell her I said thank you!!
I will😁
She raised a gentleman. So much respect ❤
Yes, and from me too.
Now with a comment like you have just given...... You are a good woman!!!!!
Your mama won't playing when she raised a real man👏👏🙏
I am currently 26 y/o and got married when I was 22 to an amazing guy! I was in 2 previously relationships and made a couple of bad mistakes. All your information is spot on!!! Once I started knowing my worth I attained the man that I wanted. Ladies there are good guys out there you just have to stay grounded and don’t let these men run game on you.
reedlyanne 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Make sense we attract what we are !!! I am learning that too!!!
What did you do to love yourself? I came from a very toxic family,specially my father, and all I did was get played by toxic men. This Channel has helped me a lot, I feel I didn't even learn how am I supposed to be treated!😥
It's kind of sad that we are still falling for these types of guys. It's even sadder that men are still playing these types of games towards women. The fact that channels like this must exists in order to inform and protect women is shameful. It makes you wonder if dating today is even worth it.
Tanya P word
It’s worth it unless you plan on dying old and alone with 6 cats 😕
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls you what...🤣🤣🤣 I need to get on it because im for real allergic as hell to cats!
It’s really not worth it either. A majority still end up cheating on us even when they have found “the one”. Fuck romantic love. Just travel and love yourself and the planet 💚
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Friends first and clear boundaries aka standards will help cut through the nonsense. It only takes one man for most of us and there are lots of guys out there-don’t be afraid to move on...great video Kevin!
sonyasviolin. #FACTS
@@AngArmstrong2013 Nope, actually there are alot more women than men. #FACTS
Davon Da_God still millions .. no need to settle !
@@davon_DaGod and? There are still plenty of men to choose from.
@@davon_DaGod besides having no man is still better than being with a man who gives you grief.
Why am I watching these videos AFTER I got played? Oh well it's a lesson learned
Deirdre Hughes right but at least we know what to do in the future
Same with me. But the cold hard facts are a good way to realize you are not alone, heal, and learn for the next time.
Yeah I needed Kevin in my 20's! Now I'm super picky about who I let come around. At first having my daughter set the standard for me and it's high. After being her mom and other self esteem growing experiences, I have high standards for myself. She is the best part of my life for so many reasons. I don't worry about growing old and being alone with my cats (I'm a dog person anyway). I focus on being a positive example of how a woman conducts herself for those little eyes alway on me
because we never expect to get played in the beginning. life may be a bitch sometimes, but it's up to us to learn our lessons, move on, and make life our bitch. which entails weeding out these fuckers.
It happens to the best of us.. lessons learned 😉
OMG. I'm dealing with a pickup artist right now. It's like the universe wanted me to see your videos. Everything you describe is him. Wow
Exactly with me now!!! Thanks keV
Interesting, many of these tactics are practiced by narcissistic, Type B personalities. That's probably who many women are dealing with when it comes to certain guys. The good thing is, they are quite predictable once you've been (or almost been) victimized by them. Stir clear of these red flags ppl for your mental and physical safety. Nice video! 👌
Yes this is narcissistic behavior.
So true
Notable Julien Blanc P.U.A controversy 2014
Behave or else ...
@@crownedmelaninqueen Or else WHAT?
Dating men like this just brings unnecessary stress into a woman’s life. The usual targets are the females whom haven’t learned to love themselves. I was one of them until I finally grew tired of dating an enemy. Love yourselves ladies❤️ it goes a long way trust me.
You are spot on with this☝🏾☝🏾 Thank you for adding value to the conversation 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Same here. I learned from my mistakes.
That statement, “You can’t f your way into a cold heart,” gave me the chills. I wish more women knew that. 🙌🏾💯
This is the most thorough and informative video I've heard on UA-cam. Thank you so much honestly, this is extremely helpful. Brilliant.
Agree!
Dawn Isola you said it perfectly! I mean the delivery and the message are equally effective. Simply incredible. Like I've never watched someone with clear cut, accurate examples.!
@@hcll2495 Exactly!
When a message slaps you in the face. Thank you so much. Love the messages and energy u send out.
Calisha Reid lol... Man.. Lol
Thank you!
Most definitely what I thought was happening... He would text frequently and then all of sudden stopped and then respond only when I texted (and no phone conversation at all!) when I think he notices that I'm not texting he would send a few lines but very silly stuff and when I know he would be off work he doesn't reach out to meet up. I cut him off because that's not a relationship. So glad I cut things off with no regrets
i3abikay Good for you! Your time is your most precious commodity. I'm glad you know your worth, keep your head up Queen and keep it moving.
Wasteman like we say in U.K lol
Can’t believe I fell for a similar situation. Feel so dumb, but at the same time I feel his presence in my life taught me so much at a crucial time and he actually displayed some good qualities and said and did some nice things that made me open to love and to giving it also. I try to see him as a lesson that came into my life for a reason, not a season. It was so short lived, but so impactful
He may look like a foot.
My favourite line EVER
clarissa laing 😭😂😂 with the photo insert of a pair of feet!
Hannah Raiyne so subtle yet so effective lol
Mine too!!! I will be using this !!!
@@hcll2495 Ikr #dead
I died lol
How to not be played by a player: Don't sleep with Them
Ladies the power is in your hands, so don't give it away. Take Care♥️
The power is in our laps. P***y is in higher demand than the D any day. All women should remember this.
Correction lol
How to not be played by a player: *don't entertain them at all...
@@PerrySkyePhoenix guys still use and play women even without sex. Meaning for someone to vent to, using their car, money, emotionally, ego boost...not sleeping with them isn't enough.
It's not entertaining them in general and having self respect that is the key to not getting played
@UCnQzQSX05VwCzAnzSw5f9DA Eh, good 😺 is in high demand. Not a whole lot of y'all got good 😺
I wish this video came out a month ago...could’ve saved myself a mini-heartbreak. But now I’m armed with knowledge!!!
Danielle G That's right!! You got it Now!!!!👍
I wish it came out 2 years ago.
Knowledge sticks best when you got experiences to resonate with it. I think it came at the right time for you. 🥰 I personally wouldn't have understood many of Kevs messages without the real life examples already in my pocket. You'll do great! 😁❤️🙏🏼
Your channel is going to save my love life lol thank you 🙏🏽
Yes this is reminding me of my value n how we let our value go bc of our society
Sweety Thevenin yes! I love the fact that he’s a guy giving us advice on how not to get our hearts broken by guys lol I have so much respect for this man 🙌🏽
Nydia Cabrera so much respect
Always know your worth as a female!
Or even as a *woman*
Jardaine Brown updated because of your profile pic
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😘💘 yourself.
@@maryamkim1281 a woman and a female are the same thing.....
@@egyptianqueen4007 not necessarily a female cat is not a woman. A woman is a female human being 😂
So much truth in one video, all Lady's should be subscribed to this channel. Love the content.
I think my life was just saved!
Ms. Naj 😂😂
Another version of them leaving right after sex. They play the relationship game by not leaving immediately after sex, but they always arrive late to your house when you're expecting them, and they always leave earlier than planned the next morning. A subtle difference, but the same energy is behind it.
"When you're at work, you're anxious to go on break." FACTS
That look of disgust at the end always has me rolling!
Wish you were around when I used to crying over men that are not worthy of me. Thanks Kevin God bless you and your family.
Wow. Thank you Kev Hick! I was in a situationship, was contemplating his actions, which made me feel bad about myself, he highlighted his boundaries but always crossed mine or ignored them completely. I am a beautiful woman but he didn't compliment me-so of course I started thinking maybe I'm not good enough...what the?? The stupid thing is, I failed to act on the bs that was right in front of me. Ignoring the signs because I was attracted to him. I was looking for information and stumbled on your videos, and heard the part that says he finds you attractive if he's contacting you but tries to hide it because it works for him to make you question yourself. I kicked him to the curb. He tried contacting me, finally almost begging to see me again which I found pathetic, told him no thank you and deleted his number. He still tried but I ignored him. You are doing great work here! The lady who told you early in your dating career that you have something special is right. I'll continue to recognize the bad guys while working on myself and changing the way I interact with men. The thing is, it's really simple. There are no hidden messages or codes to decipher. We all show everyone who we are. We just need to pay attention.
He always looks so fed up lmaoo
As the woman, I am the prize. If a man is interested he will work for my attention. If not, he's a blip on the screen.
Precisely alot of guys act like they're the prize instead of women
A blip on the screen and a blot on the landscape!!!!! For real!!!!!
These are very good tips. Especially, the ones about avoiding a guy's house early on and the potential to be raped. Thanks for reminding us to never let our guard down.
angeljohnson234 my pleasure 😇
angeljohnson234 I learned the hard way. I allowed a guy to come over,only Because I knew him. He was my ex and my first love. We never had sex prior to that and I was practicing abstinence. The moment I let my guards down....so did my panties. It didn't happen again you can bet that.
"He may look like a foot" 🤣🤣🤣
Sariye Shaw I wasn’t expecting him to say that 😂😂
Nydia Cabrera me either! Lol
Right! A foot🤣
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Thanks for promoting to women that our best leverage against these predators is to avoid sleeping with them. Even though you can catch feelings just off the potential of something, those feelings go away much faster then if you had sex with them.
I've noticed a lot of these signs in the men I have been seeing recently. I've become more confident after this one guy played me for a whole year so the lack of compliment and the hot and cold behavior never really get to me after that but thank you so much for this warning video. :)
You’re definitely right! I’ve been through all of those things. That’s why all women need to love themselves, and never ever allow anyone to make you feel insecure, or second guess yourself. If that happens, just cut them off and move on to the next!
I needed to hear all of this about 20 years ago! I wasted many many years on a guy just like this! 3 years ago I had the courage to confront him and disconnect myself from the insanity. I’m so proud of myself and I’ve never looked back. The freedom and clarity is amazing. Ladies, take note. This information is legit and if taken seriously you can save yourself a lot of pain. Bless up brother. Thanks!
My late godmother gave me this advice. " Its always better to wonder (what he'd have been like in bed) without regret, than regretfully know"
This is accurate! Thanks for exposing it!
Dude I wish I had you as an older brother growing up. It sucks being an only child with parents who don't even acknowledge dating. I was never taught any of this. I had to experience it myself. Thank God I have better sense now at 22 than I did at 18.
Oneda Cangonji thank god 😉
Oneda Cangonji at least you’re still young!
Wish I had resources like this back when I was 18!☺️
If fathers bring this reality to their daughters while they're little girls, we'd likely NEVER have these issues. TRULY. But this young man's on point.
Damnn can't believe I fell for this shit. I just graduated grad school, grew up in a good home, never been heartbroken, traveled to many countries, and know my worth. I've only been with one guy for 4 years and he treated me so well. That relationship taught me what love was. And still I let a pick up artist use all of these tactics on me. That was the dumbest three months of my life. I'm wiser now. Now that he realizes that I didn't appreciate his behavior he is now making attempts to call me often, text me in the morning and all that. do men like this have the potential to be good partners?
Nelly Mo I say leave him alone. I don't think he's changed. He's just putting on the full court press because he's losing access to you. Why would he want to start over with a new woman when he's been working on you for 3 months? He sees you as broken in and doesn't want to lose out on his investment. He'll revert once he has you in check.
Nelly Mo
Nope.
Nelly Mo what Jai Joseph says. Wise words
If he kept this up for 3 months then I would leave that alone. Sometimes good guys get desperate and try this stuff because it works but you can always tell because they reveal themselves much quicker. A good guy doing this because he just wants you to like him wont drag it out. As soon as he sees you really like him he’ll slip up and do something nice 😂.
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls He has a damn good background story (trauma and heartbreak) and that's why I gave him so many chances. I was being kind and patient with him.
Did you say a foot? 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg, I hollered! Maaaannn.... you're hilarious! I love your vids!
Shelly K. ..Exactly!!!😂😂😂😂😂
This is my favorite video of yours! eeewww I met a guy just like this.
I don't even like men anymore...I just play alot of games ..knowing I'm not going to sleep with them or Sweat them ..I'm always out of town ..when I'm right at home looking at TV...I must be the most traveling person in the world lol
Bahahaa!! saaaamme. My dealings with men are a joke at this point
I love this!!! We need to Skype or something !! You are a fool 😂😂😂💯💯💯#realtalk
Not cool.
Must be a miserable life lol
Hahahahaha!!!😂😂😂
I totally Messed up by allowing Smoke Sessions & Chill time at My crib wit a dude & His Ass Robbed Me shortly after😡😡😡 Lesson LEARNT....Randoms CANT COME TO THE CRIB....hell No
Shalayna Beauty damn that's fucked up, but randoms shouldn't be at your home... Shit ain't safe!
Wow... sorry to hear this happened to you.
Shalayna Beauty damn that's a hard lesson but we've all been there
🎶“Say man, I stop smoking wit haters back in 94, but niggas still thinking a sweet gon get em through my door 🚪”🎶-Pimp C
Shalayna Beauty I know like 3 people who had this happen to them. Do u live in Los Angeles?
When he was testing his boundary shifting and lack of validation, I deleted him from all social media. MUST be a slap to his face.
This video is by far the best on this subject. Simple and to the point confirming EVERYTHING I am seeing in this person who thinks he is out slicking me. What dude fail to yet realize is that he can't out slick a can of oil. Kev, so glad I discovered your channel. Outstanding advice and videos! Love your humor too! God has given you a true gift to help His daughters. May His favor and blessings be your portion always. 💛
“He may look like a foot”.
*shows picture of a foot*
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welll, i have just listened to all the bullshit i have been put through and put up with, smbh. i cant even speak. should i laugh cry or get angry. i dont even know.
Wow...minimum effort from jump! I actually take notes from your segments😶😁😂
I'm astounded by guys that are lazy, # 5 is ABSURD
Jade Kwan omg that's the key. Minimum effort =low expectations.
I love that you're so determined to expose this witchcraft that's been going on between men and women. I never really had a relationship with my father so this information is very helpful and healing! What you're Doing here Is very important work and May God continue to bless You and your family🙏
That’s that “ Iceberg slim” mentality my grandmother warned me about lol. I see it much more clearly as I’ve matured. It’s unfortunate that some people feel this is necessary
Hatchett Harley 👏👏👏👏
Yessss. Reading Iceberg Slim's Pimp was life-changing
U are on point, i met one recently that hit on all ten points, i wont be answering anymore of his texts anymore!!!
Pink Skittlez 😉
Thanks for clearing that up for me: HOT for sex COLD for emotions!!!
Omg YEAAAASSSSSSSS
Thank God there are men like you, educating women on such important topics! THANK YOU
This was in my newsfeed and I’m glad I clicked on it because I realized my ex exhibited many of these traits and how I just let him go but he claimed I was the one who was “cold hearted”. Huh... nice to have that extra bit of validation that I made the right choice about MARCUS HAMPTON 😂
Damn😂😂😂 Expose much!😂 I’m glad you did too😉 Thanks for watching!
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I have listened to 2 of your videos and love the way you tell the truth. I've learned the hardest way and I'm sharing the videos with women who say there aren't any good men. I know they're wrong and need to be helped, work on their self-esteem AND listen to these extremely wonderful videos! Thank you.🌟🌟🌟🌟
This is both disgusting and eye-opening. Thanks for being 100% forthright.
I've seen every single one of these behaviors in men. But it's only dishonest, insecure men who do this. The only way to filter them out is to raise and uphold your standards. And otherwise always be prepared to walk away.
My favorite...coming through again. Thank u Kev! This information is needed. I love how you address these issues.
You're a breath of fresh air honestly!! I know good men exist and my standards are high because of men like you! Thank you for your service.
This video could save lives. Including mine. Thank you this information Kev I am glad to know that not all men are like this but I need to weed them out from the beginning
Wish I knew this stuff .. years ago .. would have saved me a WHOLE LIFETIME OF TROUBLES..
after my first love and I broke up after 9 years of relationship.. my confidence and self esteem dropped .. and I found myself doing things for men .. I never would have .. now that I’m going back into the dating scene I don’t want to get played like I been getting played .. I’m glad I found ur channel.. all this information is great . Thanks 🙏🏾
I shared this video with me 22yr old daughter! Great advice I'm lacing her with some game and your video will help. Thank you Handsome 🙂!
You are the best. I recently put a stop to this dude who started doing exactly what you stated in this video. He lied to me about still leaving at home with his kid's mother. My woman's intuition told me he was lying & it also allowed me to keep my guard up. When I exposed him about it and told him that I was not into looking for somone to sleep around especially if they were already involved in a relationship, he stopped speaking to me. He came at me too strong at first trying to kiss me and touch my butt. That was my wake up call that showed me exactly what he was looking for. Listening to your video made me feel like a million dollar baby. He never gave me his number or asked me for mine. That was a big red flag for me. I am proud of myself for not allowing him to use & abuse me. Another loser out of site, out of mind. May God continue to bless you to spread knowledge to us women. You are loved and appreciated.
Kevin got me so head strong like my guy friends it's not even funny..lol but seriously I always listen closely to what a man say then watch their actions..when they don't add up.. I ghost them to never return..as a grown woman who was taught and learned the game from men...I always use the quote "grown women don't argue and stay in bs we get turned off". Thanks a million Kev for all your advice ima force to be reckon with and it sucks at times because I'm truly loving
Your opinion is valued and valid.
You and pastor RC BLAKES gIve clearly perspectives from man’s point.
Thanks,
I have implemented several ones . Lately no sex before marriage. Full stop. Not to manipulate him into marrying me but to see if he really values me for my intellect character and other things BEFORE sex.
So far it is working.
Many women need more confidence and know their standards.
I’m from NOLA an I love Pastor Blake’s!!!
Yea that one 👎 is a pick up artist mad cause Kev just spilled the beans lol 😂 I know someone JUST like this and trust me girls. The best way to deal with this type is .. DON’T!! He’s a waste of ur precious time, thought, and effort. 🏃♀️
"You can't F your way into a cold heart. " Man I swear I love your videos so much. I've been watching you for awhile and you really do school me on what to look out for and remind me why I will never settle. As a 21 yr old girl whos abstinate and just wanting to be in a relationship and have more experience with men but refuses to settle to get it, your videos truly are a blessing. Thank you so much. You help me so much. ♥
That disclaimer applies to 99.9% of all single men 😂😂
Sharing!!! All women need to hear THIS! Thank you Kev!
Monica Thompson 😊 thank you
👀 Totally dated this guy. Then he became a stalker when I was done with his crap. On another note, don’t ever stop putting pics and comments in your videos - they’re hilarious 😂
I’m glad your still watching sam. You’re still my only UA-cam friend 😂 I hope all is well. Hows the website and new channel coming? I’ve been so busy managing this youtube that I haven’t had tome to watch and damn UA-cam 😕. Whats the channel name again I couldn’t find it the last time I talked to you. Then our message got BURIED in my dm’s. Whats the website info?
About the stalker 👀. Thats makes sense. Most of these guys are narcissistic and only care about what they want. Stalking follows closely behind narcissism. 😂
Me too, girl. 9MONTHS! Pls some shadiness between me trying to break up with him
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls PLEASE help me understand how a narcissist go out of their way to do the very things they know u abhor, even on ur anniversary, leaving u no choice but to break up with them, then stalk?! Isn't that a psychopath? All I wanted to do was find someone decent to spend my life with. Now that I'm good on dealing with men, still not gay, slightly open with the right situation there's been a sudden influx in harassment with men I done even KNOW?!
Thank god I recognized the stalker tendencies QUICK and moved, cut contact with everyone that we knew mutually. It was so scary! Hope you're doing well and staying away from these types of lame men lol
I am! I'm such a youtube creeper though, half the time I never comment lol The website and new channel are on hold because of technical difficulties. Basically, I'm having a bitch of a time figuring out how to film remodeling projects that are entertaining / informative. It's totally different from sitting and filming. My website is www.samanthaebreo.com - there are a few articles up but not nearly what I want. It's so hard being a 1 woman show lol
I saw a pic of you and your baby on IG - so cute!! Hope your little family is doing well :)
Always good to hear a honest perspective 😊
Great video Kevin!!! This video needs to go worldwide.-a new fan
rprokes1 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
So much TRUTH!
" Unfortunately you can't F your way into a COLD HEART!"
Thanks again Kevin 😊👌
“you can’t f your way into a cold heart” - boyyyyyy!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽
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Hey Kev…. I want to thank you for all that you do. I noticed a couple of signs with this guy I’m talking to now. I blocked him… something in my heart told me not to let him in… he is only showing a few of these signs but I don’t want it to get worse and he shows all of them. Your wife is blessed to have you and you are blessed to have your wife. Please never stop making these videos. So many women without dads or don’t really know how to truly date right ….. you don’t even imagine how this can go from just talking about dating red signs in men to it going to the real root of the problem . This year I have new goals for me and to have more self esteem. I feel so stupid. This guy stopped talking to me for days and I wrote him telling him “thank you for not responding to me it taught me a lesson and I was upset I didn’t see it at first but it showed me patience and not to rush things”. I can’t believe I said that……. I feel so dumb. All because he wasn’t texting beck I thought it was a lesson from the universe . But in my heart I just kept saying idk…:… he is so smooth with words. I just hate keeping my heart closed but I know I have to . My gut tells me he doesn’t like me while my psychic feeds me sick delusions that he does. This year has to be healthy 2023. Thank you God bless
LOVE THIS VIDEO. i CAN ONLY IMAGINE HOW MANY MEN HATE YOU AT THIS MOMENT FOR PUTTING OUT THIS INFORMATION.
Yes, Mr Hicks. Cold-hearted manipulators using women for sex. Break it down for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
My pleasure 😇
I'm sooo hooked I've been binge-watching your videos
This man has watched his vulnerable mother go through crap with guys from a very early age and as a result was become very wise.
New subbie from Jamaica love your content...thank you for looking out for us ladies..may God continue to bless you.
I'm a female and I've realised not only do I naturally do some of the things on this, I also react opposite to what's expected. Thank you so much I now understand why guys always become super clingy or frustrated with me. I've got to make a conscious effort to reduce these behaviours to prevent clinginess and continue to frustrate these "pickup artist" 😂
Man you got me cryin' laughin'! LMAO!! That part about the first date at their house because it's a bed nearby took me out....lololol.
Thank you ❤️ You are so helpful! A lot of what you talk about, women not valuing or respecting themselves and letting men do this to them...has to do with how you’re brought up by your parents. I was raised mainly by my narcissistic mother, who didn’t care about me, my feelings, my existence, so naturally, I thought this was normal, and found a man who did the same to me. I sought counseling, learned and divorced him. Thank you for putting this out there! Thank you for your help! Thank you for your knowledge! Thank you for helping to put a stop to these men that do this to women! THANK YOU!!! ❤️❤️❤️
"...the emotional depth of the TERMINATOR..." Got damn......lmao lolol #dead
Thanks for these vid. They hurt a lot but it’s good to know that a man like you cares about us women.
I’m so damn happy I’ve found your channel- it’s changed my entire perception and I feel so much more in control. So thank you!!
You are extremely compassionate of women! Thank you many times. You are reminding me of my worth. I just wish i could meet a man as intelligent and gentle as you.
you were raised so right young gentleman.
This is by far one of your best videos. And these are spot on. I have been watching your videos for a while now and think you are so real and bring total truth. Thanks for the male perspective. #Following
Hi Kev,
i am sitting in the nail salon with tears in my eyes...I always felt some of the things you listed but to actually hear someone else say it made me realize and say to myself "This is me...my
situation". Thank you very much for speaking on this topic. By the way, how do I donate again?
Thanks
Take care
Kay Class I hope sticks with you when you need it the most😁. The PayPal link in the description box 📦 is the simplest way. Or cash app or Gofundme. Thank you so much for sharing this moment with me.
Iam disgusted that this works!
That's why we'll be disgusted enough to leave....
I am too
Oh I am such a sucker !!!!!!!!! You killed it on this video 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
1.) won’t talk on the phone or text. Just wants to meet
2.) doesn’t connect emotionally
3.) disrespects boundaries and threatens abandonment
4.) intentionally ghosts you
5.) no real fist date. Come over to my house or yours... DONT GO OVER TO THE HOUSE OR LET THEM IN YOURS unless you just want to be used
6.) impatient about sex or sexually focused. Testing limits
7.) do not give any indication of attraction to make you self conscious
8.) light put downs- more of 7... throwing shade to be in position to sexually take advantage
9.) hot cold -cold emotions hot sex. He’s playing with you
10.) always leave after sex to remind you of the status of the relationship. More playing on the insecurities
Love it!!!! Excellent video 🙏
What an outstanding human being you are. Thanks for being an ally and being brave enough to share these unfortunate realities. It's comforting to know there are channels like yours willing to 'betray' the bro code and opt instead for integrity. You're making the world a better place by helping to strengthen the most important things in life; love, mutual respect, and genuine connection with our fellow human beings. Thank you.
Wowzers!!! Control techniques I'm very familiar with. smh