So have I ! Maybe I need to keep a bitch face on. I'm tired of people thinking I'm a pushover. Or maybe since I'm happy and nice, the haters are jealous because their lives are miserable.
We kind of do tho, Disrespect could be something as stupid as words and the only way to stop that is violence which then backfires and I go to jail. That was the story of my life for a while until I became desensitized and now I just see things like insults as mere vibration and noises of smooth brain humans. I’m not gonna word fight someone, If they really wanna do something they can come find me at my job behind the Wendy’s dumpster 💯
The reason for disrespect is often the miserable state of mind of the disrespecting person. They need a victem and nice people, happy people, offen make them feel bad about themselves.I've been on the receiving end of backhanded compliments more than I can count.People have tried to disrespect me often and knowing, it's them, not me, definitivly helps.But in your own circle, you can't tolerate this behavior. You have to react at once, otherwise you end up feeling bad about yourself, just as the other person intended.
I was out one night with who I thought was my best friend. We were socializing and having drinks when she told me, 'you know, if you lost a few pounds you could have any man in here.' Like, okay, I'll be sure and get right on that. Can you imagine someone saying that to you?
@@lindahandley5267 Yes, of course.She's having a problem with you being attrractive. Men don't notice a woman's weight, the way women do. If a man likes you, he does't care about your weight.If a woman mentiones it in a negative context, she has noticed someone paying attention to you and feels aggression and jealousy.It's a form of passive-aggressive behaviour.If you want to punish her, say: " Luckily for me, guys approach me, no matter what. My extra pounds just add to my charm. If she calls you dellusional, ask her who took her out on a date lately and if it was successfull.It's unlikely she'll give you an answer.
@@charlottepeukert9095 Wow. That's interesting! I have never been hugely obese...at my heaviest, I was about 60 lbs. over, but was much less than that at that time. Unfortunately, several years ago, because of the weight, I was diagnosed with Type 2 and was able to control it completely by my diet. One day we were at lunch and she ordered first...chicken tenders I think, and I ordered a grilled chicken salad. Get this. She said, 'Are you trying to make me look bad?' My mouth dropped open. 😲She knew that I had been diagnosed. I said to her that I was trying to eat right for my health and my life! She kind of laughed. That was one of the determining factors with the change in our friendship...that among many other off-handed things she said to me. I let it slide until she gave me an out. It's a long story, so I'll spare you. Several weeks later, she sent an email stating, 'You probably won't be hearing much from me unless I have something to say. My life is SO boring.' I answered her back with, *You GOT it!* We haven't spoken in 8 years!
@@lindahandley5267 Your experience is common. A former friend of mine declined several invitations to dinners, entertainment and trips to the movies on the grounds that she was too busy. Then, it turned out, that, although she had no time to see me and was in need of a better job, she had the time to renovate her neighbours' house.She hoped, they would help her if she needed help, as they were elderly and unlikely to move away. Furthermore, they were in need of help and distracted her from her own problems ( money, health, child care, job- insecurity, debts, loneliness).When I pointed out that I had always been there for her, she replied that that didn't make her feel good.Of course not, if you're asking your friend critical questions and point out that changes are necessary, you don't make them feel good.Not even, if you're the one who can actually help (not just with nice words but in actual providing oppurtunities to make more money in a better job, get legal help, find friends without tons of problems).But that was not what she wanted, so I haven't heard from her in years and I've learned my lesson.
@@charlottepeukert9095 There's just no understanding some people. I'm sorry that you were treated so shabbily too. We're better off without them. You take care!
Oh man! I'm dealing with a particular individual who does all of these things, especially the part about treating others like royalty while treating me like I'm way less important! This whole video was entirely spot on! Appreciate it!
@Sarah Hurst A friend of mine once told me a good piece of advice that I will share with you. He said, "Go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated." I've remembered that since he told me and followed that advice often...never regretting following his advice.
@@thisisme3238 💯 I’ve heard this pithy piece of advice before, and I love how it encapsulates everything we should always keep at the forefront of our mind, when we’re wondering if we’re supposed to put up w/ treatment that insults our soul. It’s unfortunate that the powers that be don’t want us to know our worth-how could we be good little (unquestioning) workers, if we actually knew our own value, right? 😉
Unfortunately DISRESPECT is a global concern and the best way to deal with it is to make sure you draw boundaries with the disrespectful person to know where you really stand against disrespect 💯
Excellent, Markus. God's Holy Spirit & blessings is certainly not operative n such an atmosphere. Love, kindness, goodness, patience & joy & peace should reign therein. These r the fruitages of God's spirit that should b displayed for sure. Seek God's guidance & advice; He will lead u to True conduct n action. Don't let it heart b discourage, ok? Bestest❤☺️🌹🌹🌹🤗❤🌺🌺🌺
@@kushclarkkent6669I refuse to allow fake religious people to shipwreck my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Religion has nothing to do with faith. If I have nobody on this planet I do have the Lord Jesus Christ. That is something nobody can take for me.
#5 is especially what people do to me. i'm 63 years old, and i was taught to respect your elders and listen to them. people don't do that anymore. PEOPLE ARE GOING TO FIND OUT REAL SOON WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T LISTEN TO SOMEONE WHO'S LIVED LONGER AND KNOWS MORE THAN THEM! This is the reason i don't talk to a lot of people anymore because they're rude and arrogant.
@@riyadougla539 Thank you Riya for your comment. Be at peace because a lot of the people that didn't listen to you are probably going to need something from you one day. Paul
This is true. I also always say for all of us to respect one another. Respect is earned but easy to earn simply by being kind. Treat others the way we want to be treated. There are nasty and rude old and middle aged people just the same.
@@DavidLopez-jl2ug I agree with you 100% Dave. i've met a lot of rude, arrogant, inconsiderate people my age too. i just mentioned my age because it's especially rude to disrespect those older than you. Sad to say Dave, the way society is we're never going to see mutual respect with each other because a lot of people weren't raised with any morals, manners or ethics. Thank you for the awesome comment. Paul
@@paulprophetburkes8736 Hi Paul, it sure is sad. Since the internet and technology, I find there are less and less friendly, humble, and genuine middle aged and young people around. I'm almost 50 (next month) already. I live in NYC and it's not a very friendly place. Was born and raised here as well.
Use to be the kind of person that would not have boundaries & gave people way to many chances because of fear of being alone. Now my standards are high, my self esteem has improved that I do not put up with alot from what I use to. It feels so good to have boundaries in myself.
I’m so glad you make these videos! These aren’t topics that are discussed with any detail or accuracy in the mainstream media, and those of us who are experiencing these types of people in our lives can feel that something negative is occurring, but it’s so insidious that we don’t know why it feels bad to us, even to the extent that we suffer health consequences. I come from a family where everyone else is high on the narcissistic spectrum, so all of these hit home, and they probably will for others who have a similar background. Just being able to verbalize what’s happening is comforting through the validation we receive. Thank you, BRAINY DOSE! 🙏 😊
#9. If they pressure you and are pushy!!! Sign of a controlling person! Very disrespectful. Distancing myself from "friends" who behave this way. They don't seem to realize how unattractive violating others boundaries is.
This video describes most of the people in my life thanks Brainydose ! Experience constant gaslighting , drama , double standards , hostility , passive aggressiveness , backstabbing , backhanded compliments , broken promises or empty promises , having my opinions disregarded etc .
@CJ Bow okay I see 👀 so if this is the case then why ask how is ' it must be nice for or to ....' a jealous jab? It seems 👀 as though you agree with your statement for me but why not with what becka4god84 statement??😐
@CJ Bow I thought wrong alot before and this person you assume is a "jew" but just how sure are you of this ? 🤷♂️ I mean are they not typing like anyone else behind a computer screen?
Sometimes you don't think about what this video says. I can now identify a handful of people who are disrespectful. Another great one Brainy Dose. Thank you. 👍
My biggest pet peeve, is when I’m in a conversation with multiple people, and one person asks another person, “what did he say” or what did HE mean?” Like I’m not in the room
Yep. I recently had a case like this. One of my female coworkers suddenly shifts her attitude to disdain and curtness, despite my always being courteous and careful with her boundaries. I think she thinks I must've wanted more than a coworker relationship, and it's just her way of rejecting me. No explanations, no nothing. It sucks, but oh well. It sucks to know that someone has probably just been tolerating you.
Change ur setting & don't b around unless absolutely necessary. Remember some people r changeable like that. Don't let that type of action devalue u, ok. Try to keep it mind on ur main purpose on ur job; also on ur purpose n life. Then whenever with true, genuine, & caring friends family etc, U can relax, enjoy & let ur hair down, right? So wish them well then go take good care of u. ❤ ☺️🌺🤗🤗🌺🌺
@@lakepzepichi5409 I appreciate the comment! Actually, I'll be changing jobs (for others reasons, but this one factors in too) next months, thought it would've been better to part with the knowledge of what actually happened.
My "TL" team leader is floating on thin ice with me tbh. I honestly thought at one time. Ok, maybe that's just how she is. Don't read into it. Oh no. I was right. Idk how she still has a job to be completely honest. I'm gonna bite my tongue one more time. I don't want any problems at work, I really don't & have np with anyone. But she wow. I definitely figured her out & it wasn't me just ok. Maybe u are just reading into her a bit. Almost like harrament from her & if she doesn't want any problems. Then just stop. I can go on about the things she has said & done & and yes, very sneaky. I'm really over her. I don't have to put up with that. & I won't.
I've been dealing with this a lot in the last decade. I don't feel it's rejection, although it very well could be in your case. It took me awhile to figure it out, it goes much deeper. I feel that these people see a flaw in themselves.
I am an INFJ (a Myers/Briggs personality test) There is something called the INFJ door slam. Once disrespected, INFJs non-person you. No anger, no grudge, just “you no longer exist to me”.
I've had sneaky ppl at work, and it costed me one project, even i did never do _anything_ wrong, seriously. My guts feeling as an INFJ was always being right, about that specific person. Beware of those people into your daily life situations. They are sneaky, pretending to be friendly, smiling at you, but backstabbing you when you are not in the room, and stabbing you in the back...I hate people like that.
My ex who disrespected me told me to be like Jesus, do nothing about it. My uncle and his wife who are his friends were telling me the same advice as my ex was that uncle is a minister. I ain't heeding to that. Some guy came into the catholic church just to kick me and act innocent of the matter. After service, I asked him if he was aware, he kicked me. He acted coy. I see him sometimes after that. Cause I want to. And, I don't. We ride the bus at the same time.
A couple of things that really didn’t take into account neurodivergence. Positioning interruptions, particularly from a person with ADHD or ASD, it’s absolutely not a sign of dis respect, but of awkward enthusiasm and a need to get words out as they come up in the mind before you totally forget. People need to know this can’t be perfectly controlled, and it’s definitely not patronising dismissive disrespect you might get from a person who is neurotypical. The other thing about not returning texts, calls. If a neurodivergent person ghosts, it 99% of the time means they are so overwhelmed they can’t cope with any more communication period, bad, good, neutral, idle. It’s a self protection safety alarm to re group and lower extreme demands across multiple media, from multiple individuals…it’s just too hard to keep 100 balls in the air all the time in social communication , it causes people to shutdown from overwhelming frustration at their inability to give everyone quality time they deserve . A lot of neurodiverse aren’t in love with their phones, and need to be on them 24/7 as it would demolish their mental health, yet some neurotypicals love the buzz of being on phone 24/7, being in demand, juggling 7 different platforms and 1000’s of contacts with ease..so never take it the wrong way if a person with ADHD or ASD isn’t great at communicating, it’s overwhelm and embarrassment they can’t keep up, but they still do value the relationship very much, but when they are in shutdown or severe overwhelm, self care comes first.
Wrote a whole reply without having read this first.😂 But it also addresses chronic lateness and inattentive behavior, so not a total loss. The enthusiasm is right. For me, interesting facts are like beautiful shiny pebbles I want to share with the world. Not to be a know it all, but because at that moment, I seriously believe that hearing about that shiny fun or interesting fact will make the other person happy as well. It's a "look what I found here, isn't it beautiful?" kinda thing. And getting another shiny fact back makes my happiness complete. Also, we tend to be in problem solving mode all the time. This is also often perceived as being a busybody or a know-it-all. 🤷
I agree 💯 it's like it's not really that important for them to care or wanna hear or to be taken seriously the just seem to you kind of brush 🖌️ it off of whatever your saying their attitude is all like ' whatever ' when ever it comes to you speaking 🗣️ almost as if their in back of their mind telling you to Shut up 😒
A coworker laughing at me and teasing me behind my back then this Same guy will speak nice to other ladies at work so I totally ignore him. He is disrespectful! Appreciate the video brain nose
Honestly, this is very true and happens everywhere. Sad though, but like others, already made a firm decision to ignore and get rid of anyone, sibling, firend, whoever that shows sneaky disrespect. Peace of mind is very important for health and well-being plus a purposeful life and making positive impact .
I experienced this almost every day, its annoying when someone is always saying hi but just keeps walking, like hi now goodbye. Truth is every time I share any truth about myself, people look on how to exploit that. You try to show them something or help them they will talk crap or speak in another language so rude. So what i do now is if they want that ok. I have other interest and I just go find other things to do, in the workplace better not to share anything personal about yourself. If you have to talk sports 100% of every conversation that is one way to not share anything personal going on in your life with gossipers.
When you meet up with them, and it's non stop chat coming from them..... They don't give you a chance to speak.... Happened to me today with a family member 🙄
I know people that are like this! My friend always has her husband tagging along when we hangout. It drives me crazy when he goes through my fridge and pantry without asking!
Thanks for posting on this. Where I work, we've had cases of people who act this way. The company is wired a bit differently, and it is frustrating for outsiders who come from environments that are normal in the work place as far as both the office place and in the shop. I've witnessed countless times where we've had brand new employees who last a year, maybe a year and a half who stick out like a sore thumb because they can't settle into their job because of this topic. There is actually one individual who was working with me in crating, and honestly, the longer he was there, the more uncomfortable it was being around him. He was a great worker, but his mannerisms and the way he held himself told me that he was just plain miserable. I brought up something that some people might call offensive with him, and he practically shut the conversation down, calling it inappropriate. Shutting down a conversation is isn't always a bad thing, but when you do it out of personal defense on a topic that needs to be addressed in your life, or someone else's life, similarly to what this video is addressing, this clearly shows self righteousness in the person, and that is never healthy.
Maybe it’s both of you projecting back and forth. Both waiting for the other to change. Calling her that name here, says a lot about your disrespect of her, too. You’re the older supposedly wiser one. You are the example. Remember that.
I have two of these types in my life: my brother, who I have kicked out of my life, and my friend's husband who is an entitled little bitch. They both are also narcissists with the latter also being a mysogynist. My friend who is prertty smart and has a law degree reduces herself to his lackey and always defends him whenever he is antagonising and demeaning people, which is all the time. And she also doesn't understand why people are not coming over anymore or don't get along with her husband.
Yeah pretty sure I have a "friend" who has done almost everything on this video to me. I really believe he's taking my kindness for weakness. I have helped the dude out more times than I can count and for nothing in return. But when he tells me he's gone do me a favor, he don't talk to me for days. People are really fucked up nowadays. I can see how a total stranger could abuse someone's empathy and get all they can from you... But someone who's called you their friend, they'll be there for you when you need, etc, etc... To me, those ppl are worse than the scammer type strangers. Because they also tell you what they think you wanna hear. So when the times come that they ask for something, you think their really your friend. Seriously? What ever happened to what I learned in kindergarten? The golden rule? "Treat others how YOU want to be treated?" Next president should make that an enforceable law, haha.
Two things.... First, we as human Beings have been conditioned to keep giving people the benefit of the doubt even when evidence proves this is not what someone deserves. Second, it's far healthier to commit to being a genuine person than a nice person. Being genuine protects your energy whereas being nice, can leave you open to being taken advantage of due to the foundational meaning of the word, nice being foolish. Foolish being at the foundation of the word, nice, is also why there is the understanding that nice guys come up last.
This still goes on with people, and it's mostly the ones closest to you. It's even happening to me, but it's happening because I'm a threat to these people because I have blessings coming. This is how people despise you when they know that you're simply not like other people, but it doesn't make it right for these people to disrespect and disregard how you feel. And it mostly comes from family and close friends who's close to you. These types of people need to be🙏 so they can see how it feels to be treated this way.
It amazes me how common sense really is not common anymore. Every single thing is very accurate, what is also very common sense, at least for me. One thing that is not necessarily someone trying to disrespect you though, are people who interrupt you midsentence. Of course, context is key, but for someone with ADD like myself, I often find myself having to interject (but I always do yourself and apologize for doing so), not because I disrespected the person or the conversation at all… But because if I don’t say whatever is relevant to what the person is discussing, it will drive me crazyyy…. And then, when it finally comes to me, I will sometimes approach the person to clarify whatever it was, and they’ll often have no clue since the conversation took place earlier in the day. So,they’re truly not intending to be disrespectful, but yes, I understand the act of doing so is not respectful. But often, people aren’t meaning it in an aggressive manner
This is all familiar to me. I wore a nice Hawaiin shirt to a recovery meeting one day. (some girls considered me attractive) This a whole (sic) came up to me after the meeting and said, "Peacocking today?" I didn't understand what that meant so looked at him, he pointed to my shirt. I walked away.
The not responding to simple texts gets me. It creates SO much more needless energy, arguments and carrying on, than if they'd just answered a simple (example) question: "Hey, what time are you guys leaving?" They would rather be hounded and have a highly emotional interaction (by that point) than just answering and moving on with life.
My friend of 35 years calls to vent about everything, but seldom has time to talk if i need to vent. Last week i asked if i could air layer a branch on her pear tree. She cut a look and said " well i should have known you'd know how to do something like that." Accent on you'd. I didn't know what to say! Finally I told her I saw it on UA-cam.
I never tell people about compliments that I receive or good things that have happened to me. It only breeds resentment. Just listen. Have noticed most people are in pain, and they take it out on you.
I don't have much with family anymore and I'm 66 years old. My sister calls me on occasions and when she's on the phone with me, she'd get distracted. I'm in the middle of saying something and then when I finish, there's dead air. She didn't hear anything I said. She got distracted by some birds in the yard or something that her husband or daughter did. And I end up having to repeat myself and I get mad. Unfortunately we don't talk much anymore. It's always frustrating when we talk. Another thing that happens is when I'm in the middle of talking to someone and then someone else just comes along; and then the attention is diverted off of me. And suddenly it's like I don't exist.
I agree with most of these. The not answering calls or texts is not disrespectful to me. No one is required to respond to a message. People may have things going on in their lives or they simply don’t want to be bothered with anyone.
It’s called ghosting. If you don’t respond to their text at some point in time, then just drop them. If I text someone, it’s for a reason. If they don’t respond, it means that I don’t matter to them. So I will never bother them again.
Disrespect is the worst. My issue is, I should have addressed it when it first started but instead I wanted to keep peace and overlook it and then it built up, which is never good. I thought by correcting her each time she made a false statement regarding something I told her would stop her but it didn't. When I would began to talk she would always look down or away. This person has shown control issues, disregard to my feelings and ignoring me when I talk and the last straw was when she was dishonest. I can write a book about all that went on with this person that made me feel uncomfortable and not trust this person but I said my piece to her and now I'm moving forward in peace. I'm okay with building friendships lol says the introvert. I'm just making sure I address things head on going forward. I'm only having such a conversation once, and that's it. My friends I've known for 15-20 years plus call me the cut off Queen. Lol and I concur ❤
The gossiping is the most difficult one. You can't necessarily prove it but you know it's happening. You can feel it. The way people are allover you when they meet you and then they suddenly switch to being hostile, when they become friends with certain people in your circle.
Yes disrespectful when people assume you're upset because honestly I have nothing to be upset about and that really upsets me that people assume that I'm upset when I have so much going on for myself. I have a lot of projects I'm working on a lot of different streams I have no reason to be angry.
They are toxic and projectors. Distance yourself. Ignore when possible. Then, if necessary, use a little judo on them by taking that opportunity to proactively establish a boundary or two. Feel free to be firm at this point. It's difficult to do at times when you are tired.
Most of my acquaintances and family behave this way. If I call them out on their disrespect or attempt to enforce simple boundaries, or expect them to treat me with the same civil courtesies that they treat everyone else with, they get offended and give me the silent treatment or wage a smear campaign against me. It's a no-win situation.
I feel like a lot of these things are symptoms of ADHD. Like people don’t always intentionally disrespect you, and to assume that they are can be harmful. I highly recommend we ask questions like “is there a reason you keep looking at your phone?” I feel like it needs to be paired with a blatant act of disrespect so we don’t became paranoid of something someone might not be able to help.
Sneaky, passive-aggressive 🐂💩 is a sign of the offender's OWN insecurities. It's a shaky ego that nit-picks at those who enjoy stuff they don't understand or can't handle. Bear this in mind when you're on the receiving end of these behaviors. 👍😘💖
I have the same problem, i'm an agreeable person and am always nice to people but i see that people just use me because of that. I really need to work on that but can't change anything : (
sometimes it is terrifying to talk to people based on many past experiences to where you don't know whether to trust if someone is being genuine or sarcastically passive aggressive, not knowing what you are going to get with someone, whether it be genuine or not. so sometimes isolation becomes a defense mechanism that happens and conversation can be exhausting, feeling like you are being put on trial every time you speak, except when it comes to the rare few that break through your barriers. sometimes not responding is not meant as disrespect, but rather fear. i know i should give the benefit of the doubt, which i am not mean to anyone, but i don't like subjecting myself to unfair judgment either. if someone has a poker face or no facial expression, it feels too risky to respond.
I think that just being too nice of a person is going to make most people disrespect you. I've been dealing with it all my life.
Very true. You have to be nice with caution.
Me too but I’m trying hard not to be so nice
@@laurab9518 This is not at all easy when it's your nature to be nice.
Yes me t👀
So have I ! Maybe I need to keep a bitch face on. I'm tired of people thinking I'm a pushover. Or maybe since I'm happy and nice, the haters are jealous because their lives are miserable.
We can't make people respect us but we don't have to put up with being disrespected.
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We kind of do tho, Disrespect could be something as stupid as words and the only way to stop that is violence which then backfires and I go to jail.
That was the story of my life for a while until I became desensitized and now I just see things like insults as mere vibration and noises of smooth brain humans.
I’m not gonna word fight someone, If they really wanna do something they can come find me at my job behind the Wendy’s dumpster 💯
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It's like leaving every door unlocked in your home.
Absolutely true.
I don’t feel like people are “sneaky” about being disrespectful these days. It seems to be a trend to have no respect for yourself or anyone else.
@CJ Bow So am I.
@CJ Bow me too!
Me too!
In reality they have no self respect.
I agree!!
The reason for disrespect is often the miserable state of mind of the disrespecting person. They need a victem and nice people, happy people, offen make them feel bad about themselves.I've been on the receiving end of backhanded compliments more than I can count.People have tried to disrespect me often and knowing, it's them, not me, definitivly helps.But in your own circle, you can't tolerate this behavior. You have to react at once, otherwise you end up feeling bad about yourself, just as the other person intended.
I was out one night with who I thought was my best friend. We were socializing and having drinks when she told me, 'you know, if you lost a few pounds you could have any man in here.' Like, okay, I'll be sure and get right on that. Can you imagine someone saying that to you?
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Yes, of course.She's having a problem with you being attrractive. Men don't notice a woman's weight, the way women do. If a man likes you, he does't care about your weight.If a woman mentiones it in a negative context, she has noticed someone paying attention to you and feels aggression and jealousy.It's a form of passive-aggressive behaviour.If you want to punish her, say: " Luckily for me, guys approach me, no matter what. My extra pounds just add to my charm. If she calls you dellusional, ask her who took her out on a date lately and if it was successfull.It's unlikely she'll give you an answer.
@@charlottepeukert9095 Wow. That's interesting! I have never been hugely obese...at my heaviest, I was about 60 lbs. over, but was much less than that at that time. Unfortunately, several years ago, because of the weight, I was diagnosed with Type 2 and was able to control it completely by my diet.
One day we were at lunch and she ordered first...chicken tenders I think, and I ordered a grilled chicken salad. Get this. She said, 'Are you trying to make me look bad?' My mouth dropped open. 😲She knew that I had been diagnosed. I said to her that I was trying to eat right for my health and my life! She kind of laughed.
That was one of the determining factors with the change in our friendship...that among many other off-handed things she said to me. I let it slide until she gave me an out. It's a long story, so I'll spare you. Several weeks later, she sent an email stating, 'You probably won't be hearing much from me unless I have something to say. My life is SO boring.' I answered her back with, *You GOT it!* We haven't spoken in 8 years!
@@lindahandley5267 Your experience is common. A former friend of mine declined several invitations to dinners, entertainment and trips to the movies on the grounds that she was too busy. Then, it turned out, that, although she had no time to see me and was in need of a better job, she had the time to renovate her neighbours' house.She hoped, they would help her if she needed help, as they were elderly and unlikely to move away. Furthermore, they were in need of help and distracted her from her own problems ( money, health, child care, job- insecurity, debts, loneliness).When I pointed out that I had always been there for her, she replied that that didn't make her feel good.Of course not, if you're asking your friend critical questions and point out that changes are necessary, you don't make them feel good.Not even, if you're the one who can actually help (not just with nice words but in actual providing oppurtunities to make more money in a better job, get legal help, find friends without tons of problems).But that was not what she wanted, so I haven't heard from her in years and I've learned my lesson.
@@charlottepeukert9095 There's just no understanding some people. I'm sorry that you were treated so shabbily too. We're better off without them. You take care!
Most people are like this, unfortunately. It's best to stay true to yourself.
Unfortunately🤷♀️& agreed stay true to yourself 100 percent
And by myself with people like that
But some don't do it on purpose. We can js identify them easily
Oh man! I'm dealing with a particular individual who does all of these things, especially the part about treating others like royalty while treating me like I'm way less important! This whole video was entirely spot on! Appreciate it!
Ignore that person more than he/she ignores you. Then only they will learn a lesson.
@@cynthialobo1500 ❤️
You’ll probably never be able to change them, but at least you know it has nothing to do with you.
@Sarah Hurst A friend of mine once told me a good piece of advice that I will share with you. He said, "Go where you are celebrated, not where you are tolerated." I've remembered that since he told me and followed that advice often...never regretting following his advice.
@@thisisme3238 💯 I’ve heard this pithy piece of advice before, and I love how it encapsulates everything we should always keep at the forefront of our mind, when we’re wondering if we’re supposed to put up w/ treatment that insults our soul.
It’s unfortunate that the powers that be don’t want us to know our worth-how could we be good little (unquestioning) workers, if we actually knew our own value, right? 😉
Unfortunately DISRESPECT is a global concern and the best way to deal with it is to make sure you draw boundaries with the disrespectful person to know where you really stand against disrespect 💯
People love hurting others
My uncle had a cat that constantly dug it's claws into my leg. People with claw ality.
Yes to feel good about themselves
I dealt with this,daily,in a workplace… a church,no less. So glad I woke up to it and quit.
Excellent, Markus. God's Holy Spirit &
blessings is certainly not operative n
such an atmosphere.
Love, kindness, goodness, patience &
joy & peace should reign therein. These r the fruitages of God's spirit that should b displayed for sure.
Seek God's guidance & advice; He will
lead u to True conduct n action.
Don't let it heart b discourage, ok?
Bestest❤☺️🌹🌹🌹🤗❤🌺🌺🌺
And they'll turn around and wonder why people are becoming less religious...
@@kushclarkkent6669 and why staff turnover is so high and why they keep having the same issues.
Einstein’s theory of insanity.
@@kushclarkkent6669I refuse to allow fake religious people to shipwreck my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Religion has nothing to do with faith. If I have nobody on this planet I do have the Lord Jesus Christ. That is something nobody can take for me.
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Don’t let it get to you. “Attitude” only proves their point, and besides, they are revealing their character not yours.
#5 is especially what people do to me. i'm 63 years old, and i was taught to respect your elders and listen to them. people don't do that anymore. PEOPLE ARE GOING TO FIND OUT REAL SOON WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON'T LISTEN TO SOMEONE WHO'S LIVED LONGER AND KNOWS MORE THAN THEM! This is the reason i don't talk to a lot of people anymore because they're rude and arrogant.
Same here.
@@riyadougla539 Thank you Riya for your comment. Be at peace because a lot of the people that didn't listen to you are probably going to need something from you one day. Paul
This is true. I also always say for all of us to respect one another. Respect is earned but easy to earn simply by being kind. Treat others the way we want to be treated. There are nasty and rude old and middle aged people just the same.
@@DavidLopez-jl2ug I agree with you 100% Dave. i've met a lot of rude, arrogant, inconsiderate people my age too. i just mentioned my age because it's especially rude to disrespect those older than you. Sad to say Dave, the way society is we're never going to see mutual respect with each other because a lot of people weren't raised with any morals, manners or ethics. Thank you for the awesome comment. Paul
@@paulprophetburkes8736 Hi Paul, it sure is sad. Since the internet and technology, I find there are less and less friendly, humble, and genuine middle aged and young people around. I'm almost 50 (next month) already. I live in NYC and it's not a very friendly place. Was born and raised here as well.
Use to be the kind of person that would not have boundaries & gave people way to many chances because of fear of being alone. Now my standards are high, my self esteem has improved that I do not put up with alot from what I use to. It feels so good to have boundaries in myself.
I’ve gotten so many backhanded compliments, and I’m always interrupted. So tired of fake people, I got away from those So Called friends.
its not just friends.... but people in general
Yup
Some countries seem to have a very high asshole density.
I’m so glad you make these videos! These aren’t topics that are discussed with any detail or accuracy in the mainstream media, and those of us who are experiencing these types of people in our lives can feel that something negative is occurring, but it’s so insidious that we don’t know why it feels bad to us, even to the extent that we suffer health consequences.
I come from a family where everyone else is high on the narcissistic spectrum, so all of these hit home, and they probably will for others who have a similar background. Just being able to verbalize what’s happening is comforting through the validation we receive.
Thank you, BRAINY DOSE! 🙏 😊
#9. If they pressure you and are pushy!!! Sign of a controlling person! Very disrespectful. Distancing myself from "friends" who behave this way. They don't seem to realize how unattractive violating others boundaries is.
People should be respectful to one another ❤
Respect each other boundaries is a big one and I’m doing that my neighbour & her son is not
Once disrespected I never see that person again.
I don't intend to.
This video describes most of the people in my life thanks Brainydose ! Experience constant gaslighting , drama , double standards , hostility , passive aggressiveness , backstabbing , backhanded compliments , broken promises or empty promises , having my opinions disregarded etc .
“Must be nice,” is a jealous jab .
@CJ Bow it could be a passive aggressive comment .
@CJ Bow the person that have said this to you do you truly consider them your friend??
@CJ Bow okay I see 👀 so if this is the case then why ask how is ' it must be nice for or to ....' a jealous jab? It seems 👀 as though you agree with your statement for me but why not with what becka4god84 statement??😐
@CJ Bow I thought wrong alot before and this person you assume is a "jew" but just how sure are you of this ? 🤷♂️ I mean are they not typing like anyone else behind a computer screen?
When someone says that you can tell them “back off Karen”.
This is why pets and other animals are so much better to be around.
Sometimes you don't think about what this video says. I can now identify a handful of people who are disrespectful. Another great one Brainy Dose. Thank you. 👍
My biggest pet peeve, is when I’m in a conversation with multiple people, and one person asks another person, “what did he say” or what did HE mean?” Like I’m not in the room
I hate when this happens. I don’t even know how to react in this situation. If you call them out then they make it seem like you’re over-reacting.
My girl just disrespected me for no reason and then plays dumb. All I can do is walk away
Never tolerate that.
Absolutely right. I wish I had done this years ago. Run!!
Leave her
Yep. I recently had a case like this. One of my female coworkers suddenly shifts her attitude to disdain and curtness, despite my always being courteous and careful with her boundaries. I think she thinks I must've wanted more than a coworker relationship, and it's just her way of rejecting me. No explanations, no nothing. It sucks, but oh well. It sucks to know that someone has probably just been tolerating you.
Change ur setting & don't b around unless absolutely necessary.
Remember some people r changeable like that. Don't let that type of action devalue u, ok.
Try to keep it mind on ur main purpose on ur job; also on ur purpose n life. Then whenever with true, genuine, & caring friends family etc,
U can relax, enjoy & let ur hair down,
right? So wish them well then go take
good care of u. ❤ ☺️🌺🤗🤗🌺🌺
@@lakepzepichi5409 I appreciate the comment! Actually, I'll be changing jobs (for others reasons, but this one factors in too) next months, thought it would've been better to part with the knowledge of what actually happened.
@@gotinogaden Yo , just to sum it up for you, F her
My "TL" team leader is floating on thin ice with me tbh. I honestly thought at one time. Ok, maybe that's just how she is. Don't read into it. Oh no. I was right. Idk how she still has a job to be completely honest. I'm gonna bite my tongue one more time. I don't want any problems at work, I really don't & have np with anyone. But she wow. I definitely figured her out & it wasn't me just ok. Maybe u are just reading into her a bit. Almost like harrament from her & if she doesn't want any problems. Then just stop. I can go on about the things she has said & done & and yes, very sneaky. I'm really over her. I don't have to put up with that. & I won't.
I've been dealing with this a lot in the last decade. I don't feel it's rejection, although it very well could be in your case. It took me awhile to figure it out, it goes much deeper. I feel that these people see a flaw in themselves.
I am an INFJ (a Myers/Briggs personality test) There is something called the INFJ door slam. Once disrespected, INFJs non-person you. No anger, no grudge, just “you no longer exist to me”.
I've had sneaky ppl at work, and it costed me one project, even i did never do _anything_ wrong, seriously. My guts feeling as an INFJ was always being right, about that specific person. Beware of those people into your daily life situations. They are sneaky, pretending to be friendly, smiling at you, but backstabbing you when you are not in the room, and stabbing you in the back...I hate people like that.
I don't feel bad about myself. I know it's their BS
My ex who disrespected me told me to be like Jesus, do nothing about it. My uncle and his wife who are his friends were telling me the same advice as my ex was that uncle is a minister. I ain't heeding to that. Some guy came into the catholic church just to kick me and act innocent of the matter. After service, I asked him if he was aware, he kicked me. He acted coy. I see him sometimes after that. Cause I want to. And, I don't. We ride the bus at the same time.
I meant, I don't want to see him. And my ex and my relatives are buddies to each other.
Animals are my inspiration and interests.😊
Same here ❤
Dogs don't hurt you they love so unconditionally.
A couple of things that really didn’t take into account neurodivergence. Positioning interruptions, particularly from a person with ADHD or ASD, it’s absolutely not a sign of dis respect, but of awkward enthusiasm and a need to get words out as they come up in the mind before you totally forget. People need to know this can’t be perfectly controlled, and it’s definitely not patronising dismissive disrespect you might get from a person who is neurotypical. The other thing about not returning texts, calls. If a neurodivergent person ghosts, it 99% of the time means they are so overwhelmed they can’t cope with any more communication period, bad, good, neutral, idle. It’s a self protection safety alarm to re group and lower extreme demands across multiple media, from multiple individuals…it’s just too hard to keep 100 balls in the air all the time in social communication , it causes people to shutdown from overwhelming frustration at their inability to give everyone quality time they deserve . A lot of neurodiverse aren’t in love with their phones, and need to be on them 24/7 as it would demolish their mental health, yet some neurotypicals love the buzz of being on phone 24/7, being in demand, juggling 7 different platforms and 1000’s of contacts with ease..so never take it the wrong way if a person with ADHD or ASD isn’t great at communicating, it’s overwhelm and embarrassment they can’t keep up, but they still do value the relationship very much, but when they are in shutdown or severe overwhelm, self care comes first.
Wrote a whole reply without having read this first.😂 But it also addresses chronic lateness and inattentive behavior, so not a total loss.
The enthusiasm is right. For me, interesting facts are like beautiful shiny pebbles I want to share with the world. Not to be a know it all, but because at that moment, I seriously believe that hearing about that shiny fun or interesting fact will make the other person happy as well. It's a "look what I found here, isn't it beautiful?" kinda thing. And getting another shiny fact back makes my happiness complete. Also, we tend to be in problem solving mode all the time. This is also often perceived as being a busybody or a know-it-all. 🤷
@@Jacqueline_Thijsenoh you know my son? We call that the “pretty balloon syndrome”
Damn, I had a relative who did all these things to me with the exception of #3 and #8. Almost 2 years now no contact and I made the right decision
I have noticed people are the absolute WORST to those who are too nice and a bit simple minded. Its tragic.
Disregarding your opinion indicates they are not listening as well
I agree 💯 it's like it's not really that important for them to care or wanna hear or to be taken seriously the just seem to you kind of brush 🖌️ it off of whatever your saying their attitude is all like ' whatever ' when ever it comes to you speaking 🗣️ almost as if their in back of their mind telling you to Shut up 😒
Sometimes it means they invalidate you as a person. It can be rather hurtful.
A coworker laughing at me and teasing me behind my back then this Same guy will speak nice to other ladies at work so I totally ignore him. He is disrespectful! Appreciate the video brain nose
"You teach people how to treat you."--Dr. Phil
People today have lost their manners. Or never got taught them in the 1st place.
Back handed compliments and gaslighting are often used tactics
Let them be your friend for years just make sure you get something out of it while you take notes of their behaviors.
Honestly, this is very true and happens everywhere. Sad though, but like others, already made a firm decision to ignore and get rid of anyone, sibling, firend, whoever that shows sneaky disrespect. Peace of mind is very important for health and well-being plus a purposeful life and making positive impact
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Stand Up For Yourself
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I experienced this almost every day, its annoying when someone is always saying hi but just keeps walking, like hi now goodbye.
Truth is every time I share any truth about myself, people look on how to exploit that. You try to show them something or help them they will talk crap or speak in another language so rude.
So what i do now is if they want that ok. I have other interest and I just go find other things to do, in the workplace better not to share anything personal about yourself. If you have to talk sports 100% of every conversation that is one way to not share anything personal going on in your life with gossipers.
When you meet up with them, and it's non stop chat coming from them..... They don't give you a chance to speak.... Happened to me today with a family member 🙄
My solution is stop dealing with people
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So basically 99% of people?
id say say 95%
80%
My dad has always done this to me and then would act like i was over reacting or making shit up. Actually made me think i was crazy for awhile.
Thank you so much for sharing this video.
This definitely help me keep my guard up and not let anyone bring me down ❤❤❤❤❤❤
No wonder I'm on a social detox this year!!🤣
Same yo
A lot of this sounds like jealousy signs also, and I just cut these kind people away from me
I know people that are like this! My friend always has her husband tagging along when we hangout. It drives me crazy when he goes through my fridge and pantry without asking!
Tell him don’t do that
Living and learning. Thank you.
Thanks for posting on this. Where I work, we've had cases of people who act this way. The company is wired a bit differently, and it is frustrating for outsiders who come from environments that are normal in the work place as far as both the office place and in the shop. I've witnessed countless times where we've had brand new employees who last a year, maybe a year and a half who stick out like a sore thumb because they can't settle into their job because of this topic. There is actually one individual who was working with me in crating, and honestly, the longer he was there, the more uncomfortable it was being around him. He was a great worker, but his mannerisms and the way he held himself told me that he was just plain miserable. I brought up something that some people might call offensive with him, and he practically shut the conversation down, calling it inappropriate.
Shutting down a conversation is isn't always a bad thing, but when you do it out of personal defense on a topic that needs to be addressed in your life, or someone else's life, similarly to what this video is addressing, this clearly shows self righteousness in the person, and that is never healthy.
Respect is earned…my narcissist daughter who greatly disrespects ME, accuses me of disrespecting HER…
Maybe it’s both of you projecting back and forth. Both waiting for the other to change. Calling her that name here, says a lot about your disrespect of her, too. You’re the older supposedly wiser one. You are the example. Remember that.
@@bridaw8557 uhm, no it isn’t “calling her a name”…it’s a fact of psychological assessment, she’s got NPD
Oh yes, people can be sneaky & then u start to catch on. U were right. Been here, done that.
Customer service is lacking in everything. Thats why i look for self serve whenever possible.
If someone makes wise comments about your interests or your passions, they’re usually envious.
I have two of these types in my life: my brother, who I have kicked out of my life, and my friend's husband who is an entitled little bitch. They both are also narcissists with the latter also being a mysogynist. My friend who is prertty smart and has a law degree reduces herself to his lackey and always defends him whenever he is antagonising and demeaning people, which is all the time. And she also doesn't understand why people are not coming over anymore or don't get along with her husband.
"entitled little bitches"...😁👍
Yeah pretty sure I have a "friend" who has done almost everything on this video to me. I really believe he's taking my kindness for weakness. I have helped the dude out more times than I can count and for nothing in return. But when he tells me he's gone do me a favor, he don't talk to me for days. People are really fucked up nowadays. I can see how a total stranger could abuse someone's empathy and get all they can from you... But someone who's called you their friend, they'll be there for you when you need, etc, etc... To me, those ppl are worse than the scammer type strangers. Because they also tell you what they think you wanna hear. So when the times come that they ask for something, you think their really your friend. Seriously? What ever happened to what I learned in kindergarten? The golden rule? "Treat others how YOU want to be treated?" Next president should make that an enforceable law, haha.
Two things.... First, we as human Beings have been conditioned to keep giving people the benefit of the doubt even when evidence proves this is not what someone deserves.
Second, it's far healthier to commit to being a genuine person than a nice person.
Being genuine protects your energy whereas being nice, can leave you open to being taken advantage of due to the foundational meaning of the word, nice being foolish.
Foolish being at the foundation of the word, nice, is also why there is the understanding that nice guys come up last.
Disrespect is basically the norm of society today. Stand up to it and they call you crazy smh...I give up on people...
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This still goes on with people, and it's mostly the ones closest to you. It's even happening to me, but it's happening because I'm a threat to these people because I have blessings coming. This is how people despise you when they know that you're simply not like other people, but it doesn't make it right for these people to disrespect and disregard how you feel. And it mostly comes from family and close friends who's close to you. These types of people need to be🙏 so they can see how it feels to be treated this way.
It amazes me how common sense really is not common anymore. Every single thing is very accurate, what is also very common sense, at least for me. One thing that is not necessarily someone trying to disrespect you though, are people who interrupt you midsentence. Of course, context is key, but for someone with ADD like myself, I often find myself having to interject (but I always do yourself and apologize for doing so), not because I disrespected the person or the conversation at all… But because if I don’t say whatever is relevant to what the person is discussing, it will drive me crazyyy…. And then, when it finally comes to me, I will sometimes approach the person to clarify whatever it was, and they’ll often have no clue since the conversation took place earlier in the day. So,they’re truly not intending to be disrespectful, but yes, I understand the act of doing so is not respectful. But often, people aren’t meaning it in an aggressive manner
This is all familiar to me. I wore a nice Hawaiin shirt to a recovery meeting one day. (some girls considered me attractive) This a whole (sic) came up to me after the meeting and said, "Peacocking today?" I didn't understand what that meant so looked at him, he pointed to my shirt. I walked away.
Nicely done. You're just living your life and indirectly triggering the other guy's inferiority complex. Love it.
I’ve experienced these 12 ways of being disrespected 😞
The not responding to simple texts gets me. It creates SO much more needless energy, arguments and carrying on, than if they'd just answered a simple (example) question: "Hey, what time are you guys leaving?" They would rather be hounded and have a highly emotional interaction (by that point) than just answering and moving on with life.
My friend of 35 years calls to vent about everything, but seldom has time to talk if i need to vent. Last week i asked if i could air layer a branch on her pear tree. She cut a look and said " well i should have known you'd know how to do something like that." Accent on you'd. I didn't know what to say! Finally I told her I saw it on UA-cam.
If we can all get in the habit of thinking more highly of ourselves, we can be far less susceptible to disrespect from others.
Or when they talk to you as if you're a child
Bottom line that people confuse kindness with weakness
Thank you so much for the advice and tips on 12 Sneaky Ways People Are Disrespecting You. I've just send the video to my Mum
Have a nice Day! 🤗
Thank you for the information. I've been though some situations.
You expose signs of schizophrenia
How about when you tell someone something really cool and they say "I'm jealous"!!!! Why not just say oh that's awesome!
I never tell people about compliments that I receive or good things that have happened to me. It only breeds resentment. Just listen. Have noticed most people are in pain, and they take it out on you.
I don't have much with family anymore and I'm 66 years old. My sister calls me on occasions and when she's on the phone with me, she'd get distracted. I'm in the middle of saying something and then when I finish, there's dead air. She didn't hear anything I said. She got distracted by some birds in the yard or something that her husband or daughter did. And I end up having to repeat myself and I get mad. Unfortunately we don't talk much anymore. It's always frustrating when we talk.
Another thing that happens is when I'm in the middle of talking to someone and then someone else just comes along; and then the attention is diverted off of me. And suddenly it's like I don't exist.
That is why I do not "F" with anybody, I only sit down with family and friends😅.
and they are very few
So True! So True! Thank you so much for the Video!
3:46 Yes Cowards
I agree with most of these. The not answering calls or texts is not disrespectful to me. No one is required to respond to a message. People may have things going on in their lives or they simply don’t want to be bothered with anyone.
It’s called ghosting. If you don’t respond to their text at some point in time, then just drop them. If I text someone, it’s for a reason. If they don’t respond, it means that I don’t matter to them. So I will never bother them again.
That's bad communication. It's obvious you want to continue doing this so you are making excuses.
@@ravenmeyer3740 well I’m not talking about ghosting. I’m talking about not answering calls or texts and reaching back out when you are ready.
@@kingmoney05 sounds personal. Hope u seek help
@angelicapickles_ i will after you do.
90% of people I’ve encountered are disrespectful, horrible people.
I get this all the time mid sentence talking to someone they cut you off when another person shows up very rude
Stay true to yourself
Facts right here facts🙌🏾
Thank you 😊
Disrespect is the worst. My issue is, I should have addressed it when it first started but instead I wanted to keep peace and overlook it and then it built up, which is never good. I thought by correcting her each time she made a false statement regarding something I told her would stop her but it didn't. When I would began to talk she would always look down or away. This person has shown control issues, disregard to my feelings and ignoring me when I talk and the last straw was when she was dishonest. I can write a book about all that went on with this person that made me feel uncomfortable and not trust this person but I said my piece to her and now I'm moving forward in peace. I'm okay with building friendships lol says the introvert. I'm just making sure I address things head on going forward. I'm only having such a conversation once, and that's it. My friends I've known for 15-20 years plus call me the cut off Queen. Lol and I concur ❤
The gossiping is the most difficult one. You can't necessarily prove it but you know it's happening. You can feel it. The way people are allover you when they meet you and then they suddenly switch to being hostile, when they become friends with certain people in your circle.
My friend wanted something, now I haven't heard from her for a month.
Yes disrespectful when people assume you're upset because honestly I have nothing to be upset about and that really upsets me that people assume that I'm upset when I have so much going on for myself. I have a lot of projects I'm working on a lot of different streams I have no reason to be angry.
They are toxic and projectors. Distance yourself. Ignore when possible. Then, if necessary, use a little judo on them by taking that opportunity to proactively establish a boundary or two. Feel free to be firm at this point. It's difficult to do at times when you are tired.
Most of my acquaintances and family behave this way. If I call them out on their disrespect or attempt to enforce simple boundaries, or expect them to treat me with the same civil courtesies that they treat everyone else with, they get offended and give me the silent treatment or wage a smear campaign against me. It's a no-win situation.
I feel like a lot of these things are symptoms of ADHD. Like people don’t always intentionally disrespect you, and to assume that they are can be harmful. I highly recommend we ask questions like “is there a reason you keep looking at your phone?” I feel like it needs to be paired with a blatant act of disrespect so we don’t became paranoid of something someone might not be able to help.
Thanks
Disrespect is subjective. However, I agree with these points.
I am dealing with the problem of being too nice
So.... you are basically a doormat,then.
When you say hello to someone and they just stare at you and look away not saying anything back 😢
Sneaky, passive-aggressive 🐂💩 is a sign of the offender's OWN insecurities. It's a shaky ego that nit-picks at those who enjoy stuff they don't understand or can't handle. Bear this in mind when you're on the receiving end of these behaviors. 👍😘💖
great video and the music was great 👍
My mother has done all this my whole life. Needless to say, I don’t feel good around her. I love her but I don’t like her.
I have the same problem, i'm an agreeable person and am always nice to people but i see that people just use me because of that. I really need to work on that but can't change anything : (
sometimes it is terrifying to talk to people based on many past experiences to where you don't know whether to trust if someone is being genuine or sarcastically passive aggressive, not knowing what you are going to get with someone, whether it be genuine or not. so sometimes isolation becomes a defense mechanism that happens and conversation can be exhausting, feeling like you are being put on trial every time you speak, except when it comes to the rare few that break through your barriers. sometimes not responding is not meant as disrespect, but rather fear. i know i should give the benefit of the doubt, which i am not mean to anyone, but i don't like subjecting myself to unfair judgment either. if someone has a poker face or no facial expression, it feels too risky to respond.
Wow. Everything
I loved the advice here…
Welcome to America.
Wow just wow