Toddler Tantrums part 2: How do I deal with them?
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
- To say parenting is hard is an understatement. Add to it a toddler who has just found a voice, and all hell breaks loose. I have dealt (still dealing) with my share of tantrums and here I share everything I've learnt about this sensitive period of my child's life, where they are discovering their emotions and figuring our their place in the world.
The turbulence they face is kind of like the teenage years, but less understood, because we dismiss our kids as being naughty or spoilt. I invite you to take a closer look at your toddler and be there when they need you the most.
Please see my previous video on this topic as well. Seems like I have a lot to say about it, can you tell my child has a strong personality?!
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A little about me:
I'm Vidya, a mom to a 3 year old little boy. When I'm not talking about trucks and cleaning up messes, I make videos about pregnancy and new mommyhood. I would love for you to join me on this journey!
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Thanks for watching!!
You are amazing! So calm and composed and it reflects in your content. Thank you for walking us through this awfully tough psychology of our toddlers during a tantrum. Gave me a whole new perspective on understanding and dealing with my child's emotional needs. Thank you 🙏
Thanks! I have hard days all the time, the key is bringing back the calm when I realize it. I know it's not easy all the time. but all we can do is try!
Thinking about my fears is the biggest trigger for my anxiety. The last 3 mins is exactly what needs to be reconciled.
I can absolutely relate with that, and it's so hard to be aware of it in the moment. Thank you for writing Sujitha
You are a super mom. Look forward to keep these things in mind. My baby is just 6month old now but have seen so many kids' tantrums and people passing judgements on parenting..I get nervous.
1. Language of emotions
2. Reasoning
3. Using vocabulary
4. Giving chance to toddler to show emotions
5. Satisfaction
6. Reinforcement
7. Cracking jokes / story making
8. Playing with imagination
9. Bring up choices
10. Spend time together
Hi Vidya.. loving your videos.. watching randomly though.. amazing to see you put so much thought into child’s activities..
one rhing to ask u or u can make a video.. how to introduce/ teach emotions to child like my daughter is 1 year 5 month old it is difficult to calm her etc
its so beautiful to see the amount of effort you put in parenting☺️you are so intelligent and you prefer to be an SAHM is such a unique thing,,Vikrant will be forever grateful😁
Thank you so much for your sweet words :) I did not plan it this way, but very grateful that I get to spend all this time with him.
Thank you so much for different perspective towards kids tentrums.
Glad it was helpful!
Hi Vidya this is so nicely explained here, thanks and hello to Vikrant
I would also love to know where did you get jujube bag from? I find it little pricey so is there a way to get it on a deal?
I m so glad I came across ur channel!!! Thanks a lot😊
So glad you joined the tribe!
Great tips!!
A very good one again.. absolutely enjoyed listening to you in this video .. really appreciate your effort to consolidate a huge topic into a small duration and it still makes sense and achieved the purpose.. I am going to save and watch this again and it’s worth it.. I can remind myself about each of the ways mentioned .. very happy to follow you vidya.. thanks for the wonderful content again :) good on you :)
Thank you so much Sangeetha for the kind words, I'm so glad it makes sense and you could relate :)
U r so very right, I can feel everything u say. Thank u for bringing a clear insight., 😍
Thank you, glad it resonates with you!
Thank you so much for your calm and super informative videos.... Ys just like u said its really hard to handle adult tantrums 🤣🤣 Following your videos from the day I was pregnant with my angel... Your videos are so helpful.... Keep up the great job 😍
Your video s are really useful. U have spent so much into parenting. I learn from you.
Beautifully explained.
Thankyou so much.
Pls do a video on how you manage to put vikranth to sleep.
My children even though sleepy refuses to sleep make lot of chaos. Really frustrating to put them to sleep
Your videos have been always helpful to me.. 😊😍
Hi vidya, off topic question but can you make a video on preschool for kids- age they start preschool, when to start looking and applying, etc specifically in bay area since i believe you are here too?
Nervous first time mom-to-be here. Thanks a ton!
Really awesome video.. very helpful
Thanks a lot for sharing this video.. M glad to listen this.. Wonderful.. My baby is 2.5 year old and all my questions about tantrum is solved.. Thank you so much.
Hi, am currently in my 20th week or pregnancy. Can you do a video on what all to purchase before the baby arrives (baby seat stroller , diaper table etc) ?
Really informative..looking forward to practice what I heard from u mam..thank u so much..💝
Hi Vidya, I have watched almost all your videos and have been following you since last two years now. I have a two year old girl, and your thoughts puts many things in perspective. Thank you for taking out time for providing good content!
An unrelated question, I find your sofas and sofa cover really nice. And always think how u upkeep a white decor with a toddler. Do you remember the brand of sofa and sofa cover? I am in the middle of deciding something new for my house and it would give me few more choices before I decide on it.
Will wait for your reply. Thank you!
Sorry for the late reply Shweta, the sofa is Ikea, and the covers are from Amazon. I wash them about once in 2 months and they've held up well.
Very detailed explanation and you covered every aspect. Using imagination as a tool to satisfy toddler's cravings is new to me. I will try it.
Glad it was helpful!
sooo relatable😍
lve u soo much vidya.... i luv to watch u
Love hearing from you, hope you are doing better!
Really helpful video....Thank u...
Thank you :)
You are amazing...! Please guide me for handling twin sons. Younger snatches toys from elder, whatever in his hand. I don't understand how do I deal with this, because elder would definitely get frustrated with this. Younger cries if I oppose him, may be he doesn't understand this. I don't understand how to make him understand that don't snatch things from his brother.
Great and mature words.. 👏👏👏
;) just trying to understand our little ones!
Hi Vidya, I really like your videos since my pregnancy!!! now my son is 8 months old, need your advice! please reply. My son started eating well at 6 months, ate for few days then started rejecting every food offered. I do not force food into his mouth but i am really worried as it has been nearly 2 months since he started rejecting. Is it because of teething? when and how will he start eating. Pls reply, m really stressed out.
Hi vidya, my baby has just completed 3 months. Can u help with the video about baby essentials for 3-6 months
Great video. Thanks for sharing ur experience. Spending Quality time with kids before to-do list, i think , i should work on it. Can u please make video on healthy routine ideas for toddlers?
I need to work on it too! Thanks, mostly I just follow his lead for routine. Thanks.
Can you please do a video on bottle weaning?
Very helpful video.. can you make a video on books for toddler ( for 2 years)
That one's on my list for a while!
Wonderful information!!! Please help me how can I keep my one year old boy busy as he hardly plays with toys. Want me to be with him every time. N that becomes difficult. So he cries badly hit his head...what should I do.
All videos are too good Vidya. Your speech is so good it just flows.
Can I just ask you one thing though? If you could mention Vikrant's age at the video's start or if you are telling some past experience then his age at that time. This will help me visualise even better as my LO is 1 year now and I will certainly benefit from your first hand tips!
Lots of love !
Yes, that would make more sense, will keep it in mind in my next videos, thanks Priya
Hi Vidya. Very meaningful video. Pls share your opinion.. when does it get easier.. did you think think 3 was easier than 2 than 1? How was it for you?
My son is almost 21 months and I just want to know what to look fwd to and how best to love him. I'm also expecting another in a month.
Omg vidhya, look at the level of patience u have man! 😅Do you meditate regularly to ensure your calm and composed? If u do , tell us how u do that too please coz your patience is off different level. 🤗
Missed your comment sorry Saranya, can't believe it has been a year! I am not patient all the time, so I have to remind myself of many of the things I mentioned in this video ;)
Amazing 👍well explained... I m gonna implement from now onwards... Thanks... Plz make some more videos on how to make toddlers sit n study.... Specially making them write without scolding them, n loosing our patience....
I don't know this one either, haha 😊
So nice video.. So true.. And makes all sense.. Too many things from learn from you... This tool too much relate to what I have read in Book " The Whole Brain Child".
Glad it was helpful!
Please 1 video 6 month baby k solid food kaise bnaye uspe bnaiye.. its a humble request to you
My Son 18months screams at the topppp of his voice along with Night terrors fornother stuffs as welk (all these started from last 2months) if I don't lift him up and make him touch thhings which I have hidden because of safety issues...like kitchen knives, bathroom cleaners, acids, pesticides... How to deal with it when the house is small and we can't put all things inside...PLEASEEEE. HELP...WE ARE GETTING HEADACHES BECAUSE OF THE LOUDDDDDS SCREAM AND CONTINUOUS CRY... HOUSEOWNER WILL TELL US TO LEAVE IF IT CONTINUES🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm sorry you're going through this tough time. It is pretty difficult for toddlers at this age to understand why we stop them from doing certain things. They will come out of this in a few months but your reaction will affect his behavior, please try to be patient and understand that this is harder for him than it is for you.
Give him plenty of everyday objects play with, without you interrupting, like boxes, spoons, bowls, small brush and mop etc. I know if seems hard, but this phase does pass soon enough.
Very informative vidya.its awesome.
Glad you liked it
Well explained.......👌👍🏼Luking pretty
Thank you so much :)
If we are having a change in routine i tell my child what to expect and what we are going to do. In that way it dont give her frustration. It really worked for us. And also initially she used to cry a lot over a broken toy. I tried to console her and i try to fix the toys. It kind of built a confidence in her that later she started to console herself saying mom will fix it. And later when i try to tell her about something i cannot fix, she started to accept that too. Your videos help me a lot. I will definitely try to do better with my second little one.
Thats awesome! Congratulations on your second!
Wonderful! Do you think toddlers can have temper tantrums. I really think my 1.5 yr old has a temper🤣
Ppl say tht boys are too naughty and girls are very quiet and listen to parents...is tht really true?
I can't speak for everyone but my boy is a ball of energy, I wouldn't call him naughty, just active!
plzzz do more videos
Thanks will do!
Hi very nice video, my baby is 16 months old, she always want me in her plays, could you please provide a video on how to train independent play? Thank you
I noticed after turning 3, my son got more independent in his play.
I now I'm late in replying to the comment.Ive been wanting to ask you alot of advice since I saw the video ..As a first time mama it does get overwhelming.My child just turned 2 and for the past few weeks tantrums are only increasing..it mainly is usually not wanting to eat on the table but rather ask to watch something or play durng that time.Would rather not eat.very picky..i stopped running behind and giving and started making her sit on her high chair.The new drama is she only wants to be fed she won't eat and she wants to watch sumthing or be entertained when on high chair.I need a way to tackle this situation.
Seconly if grand parents feel sorry and give her to watch for a little while she'll pull tantrum if u off it.
thirdly potty training has turned into a game she only goes no.1 in potty and not no.2 and if she is in her own whole shell just pee on the floor.
Fourthly getting her to eat by herself.mouth will open if there is something sweet...
Fifthly she can't do independant play for 5 min.i need to be in the same room often she wants me to play...
I know all is wrong i need your advice pls..
With lots of love from India
One more issue is I can't answer any calls from phone in her presence.she wants the phone then and pulls tantrums.If u give and she was not able to get what she wants shell throw the phone. I would love if u reply.Pls give advice on how to deal with tantrums in public.
Just a request from one mom to another
Will these tools work on adults too ? Husbands specifically? (Asking for a friend) 😄
What an enlightening video.!
How do you keep ur cool everytime.....atleast u wait and try to rationalize ur son's behaviour....how do you manage to respond and not react.......pls let us know how to handle our inner stress.... thanks and keep up the good work......God bless you and your family
Dear Vidya....I have one query...me n my husband has different mindset in raising our child....I used to follow the tricks as you explained in this video.... however my husband is bit into old ways of parenting where parents behaved like they are there boss.. I tried to make him learn to do parenting in your ways.... Sometimes he does sometime not. So I finally realised that my kid will get this parenting from his mother only not from father....because his father think that someone should be there in family from whom child should scared kind of.... Any thoughts on this situation ?? Pls advise what should we do...is he doing right ?
Will child remain satisfy when he groan up thinking that my mother understood me ...father is nice but not in way of my(kid) way
oh i was missing ur videos ..u r exactly right ...my baby is almost same age of urs
Nice!
Best video ..completely agree...want to follow dot to dot...my daughter is 22 months ..and she recently started to be stubborn..have more specific choices..nd get angry if we don't agree with her
Thanks Rupali! I remember the phase so well, it does pass so hang in there!
Beauty with brain
Arey wah, thanks!
One suggestion Vidya. If you are fluent in Hindi, then make videos in Hindi also . I like your content but disappointed with your subscriber count. May be Hindi videos will attract more subscribers.
Your views match with Dr. Shefali Tsabary. You are a conscious parent Vidya.
I love Dr. Shefali, and I try to show practical ways to implement her teachings. Even if one parent raises their child consciously I'll be happy. Thank you so much, spread the word!