If someone is grieving PLEASE do not ask them how r u doing? When my mom passed I really avoided this question when people kept asking me. Just say I’m praying for you or I’m here if you need to talk…in my opinion this is much better.
SO TRUE. I was 27 when I lost my mom and people would ask that, and I just remember thinking...'Are you serious right now?'. I know they didn't know what to say or were trying to be helpful but that was one question I almost snapped on. To make matters worse, I would say 'I'm ok' and the follow-up would be, 'I know you're not'...😮 I'm still amazed I had self-control back then.
“Grown men who are men of God, we don’t want to hurt you. We don’t want to belittle you. We don’t want to talk down to you. What we want to do is put our head in a pillow and scream at the top of our lungs, and cry our eyes out. But we don’t feel like we can do that…So what we will do is we will bottle it up, we will internalize, and we will lash out at our woman, being disrespectful or condescending or rude because we are not releasing those emotions… It’s okay for you to say, ‘hey it’s okay to show emotions…to cry…to scream…to like feel…I’m not judging you.’ …Give him a hug.” - Tony Gaskins Jr. THIS PART!❤️🔥
I worked at the MAC counter in the late 90’s. This was before social media . The men would bring their wives in for a makeover. Some women would even have a beard or mustache grow. These days I’m hired out for consulting. The husband will show me a photo of what is wife looked like when they were married. He knows that they are older and things change. He just wants her to take care of herself by wearing a little makeup when they go out, get the dirt out of her fingernails, etc. I commend the men for trying.
Nice insight, and also they are older too so & women are hardly receiving ANY training to be wives esp for the long term…but these issues are totally valid to address.
Bro Tony you're right on time with this message because am feeling Distant from my Boyfriend i feel like something just ain't right. But he's the type of man that doesn't want you to question him . This is on time message.
Truth Tony! I'm 54 size 6/8 ONLY bcuz when I was 25 I was determined to keep my weight down. I didn't like how the generation b4 me seem to let themselves go after age 40. So I became a gym rat & now enjoying the benefits
This message is so golden and true Tony. I’ve incorporated this kind of communication with men for about 3+ years now and everything. You’ve said about communicating with a man is spot on. Thanks again for yet another amazing video full of gems 💎😁
Tony, amazing podcast. I've been talking about the lack of biblical man and mental health in America. I would love to come in and share my testimony, how The Heavenly Father is shaping me as a man, husband, and father. God bless you and your family.
I took my man for granted not realizing I was doing it..which has caused us to split. He felt like I didn't appreciate him although I do. Is there a way to reconcile
You are so right with your points of view Tony, they are very sensible and grounded - a breath of fresh air compared to the other advice out there. Thank you, Tony
Sir TG.... This was very enlightening, although this is simplistic alot don't operate in simplicity. Selfish Acts if you will. I now know why my Dad calls me on a deeper level. Continue being the outlet TG, please Continue to allow the Lord to use you. You may lose some for speaking the Hard TRUTH, but gain in the Kingdom 🙏🏽✝️💜
I know you did a topic once about a man's wandering eye, can you do an update about that. I see a lot of men with this problem and from a women's perspective I just find it disrespectful. I do know a man or 2 that love their wives and do not have this problem, so what is the difference between these men.
Omg!! Tony This message really recignated in me. When we started dating. He told me that he promised his dad. He will take care of his mother. Due to his promise. We are still friends. Hes a man of God. That's what I love about him. So I'm working on me. But we stay in touch. One day at a 🙏🏽
Great video! Tony, do you know if older men in their 50s snd 60s are more accepting of women slacking in relationships? Are they more forgiving in your experience?
Tony, thank you for the video, as always, a blessing. I do have a question, if you are an open space and comforting space for your man, yet he still says things like “men don’t cry” “men shouldn’t show emotion”, what do I do then? What is the cause for this? Even though I keep reassuring and encouraging to share and be open. We’ve been married 2 1/2 years, so maybe it’s time? Anything he shares with me that seems vulnerable, he’s shared with other people in his family.
2 minutes ago Hey Tony, I have a question. I've been talking to a guy you barely see 3 times a year, and when we see each other, all we do is have s3x, and we made it clear when we started talking that we wanted to be in a situationship but a year later now I want something different and I explained that to him randomly because he's been acting more interested me, but he never responded to my text that I sent on 2nd of this month. I'm about to change my number, and I don't know if I should give it to him. (he's a football player at a D1 college, my type , family likes him, has money and spends it on me without questions) WHAT DO I DO?
A man ckning hime everyday is to be put on a pedestal?! Im confused. Isn't he supposed to? Im not going ro mistreat him for coming home but when i describe my husband him coming home and not hitting me wont be kn the description. It will include his qualities, his integrity, his character. Like do we give student an A for showong up to class, come on now.
What if you know he is grieving from losing a friend. We had a huge argument before the funeral, he was extremely disrespectful. Despite being hurt, I've tried to reach out and communicate by saying sorry for what I did to offend him, also asking how he his and sending encouraging words on the day of the funeral and after. He's still lashing out at me even though I am sending positive words of affirmation. I went silent after and its been days since we spoke. I dont know what to do anymore. I am beyond hurt
I have a question for you Tony.... What if your husband of 1 year (recently married) hardly wants to have sex with you? I always want it, but he doesn't as much. If we have sex twice a week, he's good. And the kicker... we have a long-distance marriage. But whenever he's in town (which is often), he stays with his sister and not me, so we're having sex less and less. I'm so frustrated!!!
Is there a reason you’ve agreed to such an arrangement rather a spouse you live with and have daily access to physically, emotionally, and spiritually? I’ve never heard of such. I pray you find clarity on your union.
@cw8365 It's a long story, and there are many layers to it, but the short version is... my apartment is very small, so he'd rather have the space and freedom staying with his sister. Plus, shortly after we met, he went to live with his nephew in Texas, so he goes back and forth. Another thing is I'm helping him get his green card. Now I know what people will immediately think, but if he's playing me, he's a good actor, because we dated a while before that was even a topic of conversation, but I'm not nieve to think that it's not possible. If it is, then he can go because I'm already one foot in and one foot out! Thanks for your well wishes, though 🙏
If someone is grieving PLEASE do not ask them how r u doing? When my mom passed I really avoided this question when people kept asking me. Just say I’m praying for you or I’m here if you need to talk…in my opinion this is much better.
So true. ❤
Blessings 2 u n family. I hated the "if u need anything, let me kno"...drove me crazy
SO TRUE. I was 27 when I lost my mom and people would ask that, and I just remember thinking...'Are you serious right now?'. I know they didn't know what to say or were trying to be helpful but that was one question I almost snapped on. To make matters worse, I would say 'I'm ok' and the follow-up would be, 'I know you're not'...😮 I'm still amazed I had self-control back then.
@TINAVTATUM it got to a point where I couldn't even fake the funk. I've learned to say, "I'm not ok but I will be."
Yes people don’t understand that you never get over the loss you learn to live with it. 😢
“Grown men who are men of God, we don’t want to hurt you. We don’t want to belittle you. We don’t want to talk down to you. What we want to do is put our head in a pillow and scream at the top of our lungs, and cry our eyes out. But we don’t feel like we can do that…So what we will do is we will bottle it up, we will internalize, and we will lash out at our woman, being disrespectful or condescending or rude because we are not releasing those emotions…
It’s okay for you to say, ‘hey it’s okay to show emotions…to cry…to scream…to like feel…I’m not judging you.’ …Give him a hug.” - Tony Gaskins Jr.
THIS PART!❤️🔥
Lashing out at his woman IS hurting her. Make it make sense.
I worked at the MAC counter in the late 90’s. This was before social media . The men would bring their wives in for a makeover. Some women would even have a beard or mustache grow. These days I’m hired out for consulting. The husband will show me a photo of what is wife looked like when they were married. He knows that they are older and things change. He just wants her to take care of herself by wearing a little makeup when they go out, get the dirt out of her fingernails, etc. I commend the men for trying.
Ooohh this is beautiful ❤ I can visualize every portion 😊
Nice insight, and also they are older too so & women are hardly receiving ANY training to be wives esp for the long term…but these issues are totally valid to address.
@@MindsetolympicsAbsolutely!
“My presence is good enough.” I will remember that. 🙏🏽
Newly married here. Appreciate these videos! Please keep em coming ❤
Thank you Tony for the Wisdom!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🕊️🕊️🕊️❤️❤️❤️
Yep, single is best for me because imma be blunt and I expect him to be blunt too. No sugar coating or manipulation in my speech
Yes please do more for wives! I have an amazing husband but I can admit sometimes I need some help 😅
I LITERALLY needed to hear this!! Thank youu
Tony your sessions just excite me with knowing I’m going to gain new knowledge to guide me correct me and direct me .
Bro Tony you're right on time with this message because am feeling Distant from my Boyfriend i feel like something just ain't right. But he's the type of man that doesn't want you to question him . This is on time message.
Truth Tony! I'm 54 size 6/8 ONLY bcuz when I was 25 I was determined to keep my weight down. I didn't like how the generation b4 me seem to let themselves go after age 40. So I became a gym rat & now enjoying the benefits
Dropping gems as always Brother Tony!
You haven’t been wrong so far, even when it’s hard to hear. I needed this.
This message is so golden and true Tony. I’ve incorporated this kind of communication with men for about 3+ years now and everything. You’ve said about communicating with a man is spot on. Thanks again for yet another amazing video full of gems 💎😁
Tony, amazing podcast. I've been talking about the lack of biblical man and mental health in America. I would love to come in and share my testimony, how The Heavenly Father is shaping me as a man, husband, and father. God bless you and your family.
That shirt is sharp Tony haha
I took my man for granted not realizing I was doing it..which has caused us to split. He felt like I didn't appreciate him although I do. Is there a way to reconcile
“Just because you don’t like them doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love them.” TG
Tony, Thank you for your encouraging words.
This is a 💎
I always learn something new with Tony!🎉
Excited to buy the bundle 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
You are so right with your points of view Tony, they are very sensible and grounded - a breath of fresh air compared to the other advice out there. Thank you, Tony
Oohhh Tony
You are reminding me more and more to enjoy being single. Not necessarily in a bad way. But fr !!!! 3 Bs and the LORD only right now!
Sir TG....
This was very enlightening, although this is simplistic alot don't operate in simplicity. Selfish Acts if you will. I now know why my Dad calls me on a deeper level. Continue being the outlet TG, please Continue to allow the Lord to use you. You may lose some for speaking the Hard TRUTH, but gain in the Kingdom 🙏🏽✝️💜
That's my Aunt's and my Birthday I can't wait, my husband's Birthday is on Thanksgiving 👏🏾👩🏾💻🙏🏾.
May The Holy God bless you Brother !!!!!!!!
Golden.
Preach .. 🐝 Bee Blessed!
Great video! 👍
Thank you God and thank you Tony for allowing God to use you. I need this….read bad!
I know you did a topic once about a man's wandering eye, can you do an update about that. I see a lot of men with this problem and from a women's perspective I just find it disrespectful. I do know a man or 2 that love their wives and do not have this problem, so what is the difference between these men.
Great knowledge thank you
Omg!! Tony
This message really recignated in me. When we started dating. He told me that he promised his dad. He will take care of his mother. Due to his promise. We are still friends. Hes a man of God. That's what I love about him. So I'm working on me. But we stay in touch. One day at a 🙏🏽
Thank you Tony! I needed this video today
This is video is GOOD!!!!
So good 👏
Going to talk to **i mean…. let my hubby talk to me right now!
Nice shirt Tony
Great video! Tony, do you know if older men in their 50s snd 60s are more accepting of women slacking in relationships? Are they more forgiving in your experience?
No. They’re less tolerant.
Tony, thank you for the video, as always, a blessing. I do have a question, if you are an open space and comforting space for your man, yet he still says things like “men don’t cry” “men shouldn’t show emotion”, what do I do then? What is the cause for this? Even though I keep reassuring and encouraging to share and be open. We’ve been married 2 1/2 years, so maybe it’s time? Anything he shares with me that seems vulnerable, he’s shared with other people in his family.
Keep pressing it. He’s asking for you to keep trying.
@ thank you sir.
2 minutes ago
Hey Tony, I have a question. I've been talking to a guy you barely see 3 times a year, and when we see each other, all we do is have s3x, and we made it clear when we started talking that we wanted to be in a situationship but a year later now I want something different and I explained that to him randomly because he's been acting more interested me, but he never responded to my text that I sent on 2nd of this month. I'm about to change my number, and I don't know if I should give it to him. (he's a football player at a D1 college, my type , family likes him, has money and spends it on me without questions) WHAT DO I DO?
Godsend!! Trying to understand something right now
I needed to hear this Tony.🙏🏾
Accountability ❤
Can we gift a course?
If I broke up with my man due to him being distant should I try to make amends ?
Did you
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A man ckning hime everyday is to be put on a pedestal?! Im confused. Isn't he supposed to? Im not going ro mistreat him for coming home but when i describe my husband him coming home and not hitting me wont be kn the description. It will include his qualities, his integrity, his character. Like do we give student an A for showong up to class, come on now.
What if you know he is grieving from losing a friend. We had a huge argument before the funeral, he was extremely disrespectful. Despite being hurt, I've tried to reach out and communicate by saying sorry for what I did to offend him, also asking how he his and sending encouraging words on the day of the funeral and after. He's still lashing out at me even though I am sending positive words of affirmation. I went silent after and its been days since we spoke. I dont know what to do anymore. I am beyond hurt
Let him go. People show you who they are in moments of high stress.
I think you should let that go that’s not good.
@@hellothere8347 thank u
@@anissaholmes4495 thank you
It is also what Tony said in the video. You dont have to be a doormat. Disrespect is not acceptable.
I have a question for you Tony.... What if your husband of 1 year (recently married) hardly wants to have sex with you? I always want it, but he doesn't as much. If we have sex twice a week, he's good. And the kicker... we have a long-distance marriage. But whenever he's in town (which is often), he stays with his sister and not me, so we're having sex less and less. I'm so frustrated!!!
Girl. Sounds sketch
@ThePinkPillOfficial I know right? People tell me he sounds weird.
Is there a reason you’ve agreed to such an arrangement rather a spouse you live with and have daily access to physically, emotionally, and spiritually? I’ve never heard of such. I pray you find clarity on your union.
@cw8365 It's a long story, and there are many layers to it, but the short version is... my apartment is very small, so he'd rather have the space and freedom staying with his sister. Plus, shortly after we met, he went to live with his nephew in Texas, so he goes back and forth. Another thing is I'm helping him get his green card. Now I know what people will immediately think, but if he's playing me, he's a good actor, because we dated a while before that was even a topic of conversation, but I'm not nieve to think that it's not possible. If it is, then he can go because I'm already one foot in and one foot out!
Thanks for your well wishes, though 🙏
Please do not eat another woman’s food.
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The more he talks to you the more he falls in love🥹😍❤️💯❗️