Struggles of Coming from a Conservative Family
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
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"I understand that she had dreams for me but I also have dreams for myself"
As a mother I will practice and remind this to my self. I have many dreams for my Eva but this hit me deep.
Simple is her life not mine and I want her to live her dreams and life with out remorse.
*throws themselves on the floor*
"I want to die! I want to die!"
(sterotypical) immigrant mothers when their child does something they disagree with😂
Bajajaja asi es😔
I am the father of CurlyV and I don’t have any problems with him being gay whatsoever. I am very supportive of whom he is. As for the folks within this video, I am happy that some of you have overcome these struggles, while others may be working on these matters, please remember you are loved and surround yourselves with people that know you are worthy as any other human being. And I wish you a happy life whether your family understands you and loves you, or they themselves haven’t gotten over their very own issues, not yours. Signed el tío Carlos
Why did you let him get molested?
My Durenguense ex's family; mom, dad, uncles, cousins always would say to me "we're so glad he has you, you're part of the family too, we love you! " but he refused to acknowledge it. He insisted I was "just a friend" until we broke up after 6.5 years. It's a shame. I am so proud of the younger generation for their bravery, honesty, and intersectionality.
I'm really sorry hon, it would kill me if my son thought he had to hide who he is from me. *hugs*
Coming from a family who is very homophobic and quite religious, I agree with these struggles. I have to dress in a way that makes them happy, and when they found out I was gay, they were NOT happy.
I'm not gay or anything like that but my mom controls my haircut for sum reason...
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
My parents are socially conservative, but over time I've been able to convince my mother that gay marriage is okay, or at least acceptable.
It took my grandma years to accept that my sister was gay so I understand and feel for you
@@recoil53 I 2ND THAT & IM A MOTHER, & YOU SHOULD ❤YOUR CHILDREN UNCONDITIONAL, I DO😊
I HOPE YOUR PARENTS ARE ACCEPTING & 💞 YOU UNCONDITIONAL 😊 & STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF 😊
My dad was super religious and conservative. When I told him I was an Atheist he didn't talk to me for a month.😂 Now he is more open minded.
As a gay Latino I can totally relate!!!!! Thank god my parents are more open minded then they were when I came out at 19. I'm thankful i moved out right after coming out, it was extremely challenging but I'm so glad I did. I get along with my parents better now than I used to. ❤💚💙💛💜💗 🌈
3:05 "I understand that she had dreams for me but I also have dreams for myself" So many parents have kids so that they can have free caretakers when they get old, have little copies of themselves to show off to others or to live vicariously through them - they forget that their kids are individuals too with hopes and dreams of their own. It's a sad day when kids grow up having to choose between their own happiness and their parents', who have a responsibility to ensure their child's happiness but are just adding to their misery.
Good point
I'd like to see the people that talked in the video more on Pero Like. They seem to have an interesting perspective
I love Curly! I can imagine this being so difficult. Thank you for being yourself and I'm glad your family members came around better if not all the way.
Brezy Rivas My son CurlyV knows how much I love him. Sin ninguna condición. Sencillamente lo quiero como el es.
i love your story Sebastian, i will remember you when i get out from this bubble. you're strong and you have a new admirer.
Ayyyy Sebastian! My oldest son is named Sebastián también. Fortunately for mi hijos their momma is bisexual and is more open minded to non-hetero ideas about life. My husband and I both have conservative family members and it's hard, but we already agreed that if our kids ever come home with a same sex partner or if they're trans or just curious, that we support them no matter what and make them feel as "normal" as possible because that's exactly what they are.
Like I would rather my kids didnt have to come out at all. If one of them or both of them is gay, I would rather they just bring a boy home and be like "él es mi novio!" and that will be that. Like... idk. I just love them so much, and I never want them to feel like they are disappointing me because of what other people in the family might think of them.
Sebastian you really inspired me, there’s nothing like being yourself ❤️
realizing that your personal happiness outweighs making or keeping other peoples expectations of you is everything ... life is fickle and sometimes short af so live and let live.
AMEN 💜
Theres a difference between being conservative and being a rude (idk if that's the right word) conservative. I would consider myself conservative, but I love everyone no matter their opinion or views. I would never treat them any different. Unfortunately you just meet the wrong people.😕
Alexa Perez There are two different meanings to being conservative
Wen I told my mom I was dating a girl she was yelling at me and telling me it's not right and that the bible doesnt say this and that. And my dad didn't talk to me for almost 3 months which was really hard since we were somewhat close. But now time as gone by I think my parents are "ok" with it but they just don't talk about and I dont either cause that's just how things are, you know? But I'm also pretty sure they think it was a fase and that I'm fully straight now 😭😂😂
IM SORRY TO HEAR THAT😞 & I HOPE YOUR PARENTS ARE ACCEPTING & 💜 YOU unconditionally 😊 IM A MOTHER & I 💜 MY DAUGHTER UNCONDITIONALY☺ STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF & GOD💞 YOU🙏
😂😂 bro growing up in latin conservative family is sooo annoying but your love for family allows you to tolerate their bs a lil more. Just cuz your lame dont mean i have too
it’s totally true what this sebastian boy says many times the Latino community lives in a bubble 🤨🧐🤓
3:33 that a mood!!!! Play Britney and live your life Queen!!!
My family is also half liberal and half conservative. When my sister came out she was really scared and didnt know what would happen, but when she did my mom said to her "you are my child, i carried your for 9 months and it hurt to birth you, I will love you no matter what" then my mom proceeded to tell everyone in the family that my sister is a lesbian and threatened them with bodily harm if they said any homophobic or disparaging comments about my sister. I love my mom so much.
Wow watching this makes me apreciate mine more (I already apreciated them) and thankful of how.open minded my parents are. They never restricted my sister on anything (that wasnt bad).
I'm a 17 girl , I'm not allowed to hang out at night . My dad is f**** authoritarian, my mom is abused by my dad and no less conservative . Sometimes my family is happy , however i feel my fam is just so toxic . I don't want to live here . At first i thought I'm just a impulsive teen , now i really want to live on my own
I'm so sorry to hear that. Wdym ur dad abuses ur mom? Does he physically or mentally hurt her? I hope ur situation improves soon. Just hang in there ok?
My parents are very Catholic Polish immigrants to Germany, and I'm a gay trans protestant leftist.... Basically everything they hated
My dad is getting along with me in terms of gender and wexuality, but politics and religion are still heated topics, but with my mum its the other way roynd
My hispanic moms a liberal (and my moms side), my hispanic dads a conservative (and my dads side). I don’t know how my parents still love each other till this day lol. Mom hates trump, dad loves trump. 😂
Alia Velasco thats... disappointing. does your dad know trump would spit on him? does he know what’s going on right now?
Javier Hernandez he would and if you’re denying that well. he has PEOPLE.. CHILDREN in cages. even if they’re US citizens, they’re locked up. barley any food, they sleep on the floors, no showers or any room to do anything. damn i guess you would say trump would welcome her dad with a big hug! watch the news kids.
Javier Hernandez for the love of god i can’t even look at your name and question everything😭 i can’t do this. imagine rooting for a man that does nothing but put your people down /:
Javier Hernandez you’re right, already knew that. but he’s also made up for it(?) quite questionable, as everything is in politics are. you didn’t say anything about being supportive of trump, but the op comment did.
funny thing, i obviously didn’t mean it literal. it’s the things he’s said and done that’s shown a lot of the kind of person he is. that’s all.
Woah. Didn’t expect a lot of comments from this lol. But my dad is really engaged in politics and so does my mom. Although my parents are political opposites, it’s really great how they respect each other’s beliefs. They have been married for 21 years and still going strong. Many people usually tease me because of my conservative dad but in the end, he still loves me and provides so much for our family. Although I do not support his views on Trump, i still support his character.
Thank you for this video. I also come from a conservative family.
4:40 yes sir, say it louder for the people in the back.
3:30 HAD ME LAUGHING SO HARD! I do the same!
There's a lot of snowflakes in the comment section... and I ain't talking about liberals. 🙃
For me the most annoying thing is that my conservative parents say that have to live in the same city that I live in. AND THEY EXPECT ME TO HAVE TO HAVE CHILDREN WHEN I AM GAY! Someone HELP me.
Genial!! Sebastian el mejor!! 💪💪💪💪! You look amazing! 😍😍
This is the blurriest I've seen 1080p 👀🧐?
... nevermind, it was just Curly's intro that wasn't crisp. 🤷🏾♀️😣
Be you everyone. 👍🏼
My mom and her family are conservative and religious. Her siblings are quite liberal. My father's side is not as conservative and religious. Luckily, my grandfather and father are liberal. When I came out to my mom, she was in denial and now refuses to acknowledge it. I lost a lot of family but with the one that matters now, my mom is the only one who prevents me from being me (tbh, we've been having this struggle since I was in elementary, *but* she has less to stress about knowing I like men).
I feel like this video is attacking people who are conservative and in a way saying that they’re wrong, even if they didn’t say that. How about we do the other side, coming from a liberal family?
Goddd!😂 it’s so hard when you’re supporting Bernie Sanders... man the comments I get from my family about Bernie!
thank you so much for making this video
My family is no where near conservative my family is so damn family disoriented
So fricking true
all i can think about when i hear "conservative family" is "eso que no puedes ver,en tu casa lo has de tener"
Y’all actin like being Latino and conservative is bad, not every conservative person that is Latino is disrespectful and arrogant.
Please challenge Dominican Republic and Mexico swap snack or food?
Hahaa my sister in law is Mexican and she loves dominican food and candies. She always asks for snacks from DR
anchornomore really? Oh I’m Mexican and didn’t try taste Dominican Republic snack or food
@@ragsmontez1326 do you live in NYC? it's easy to find snacks/sweets from the island there. :)
beautiful video ...
I married an atheist, and my grandparents tell my cousins, "they're not really married because they didn't marry through the church."
Church is an evil place of that's what they're making you think.
According to my legal document, I sure as hell am married!
I have a crush on Johnny
HOW SWEET☺👏👏
This is the first time I don't like one of your videos, not because I'm a conservative guy means that I don't respect gay, lesbian or whatever, is not my problem what you do with your life, and all you do in this video is demonize conservative people. Just because we don't agree in many things that doesn't mean we are bad we just have different opinions
Vicente Cancel how did they demonize conservatives? There were points where they said it’s okay to have different view points.
ammmmm i dont know what you saw but this video is about the struggle of comming out in a conservative family!!! which is something many many lgbtq people have to deal with specially in latino communities!
so is he saying sexuality and gender are opinions.....lol pajaro
Hi Curly
I understand these perspectives yet don't resonate with them. As a 2nd generation Hispanic that comes from a household where conservatism expanded as I grew older, I must say I am very conservative and a God-fearing woman. I expected this video to go in the direction of a strict parenting household rather than a more political/cultural route. Although many Hispanics may relate to this, not all do. I think the main point is to respectfully disagree and not shy away from conversation unless they become hostile.
There should be a “problems growing up in a liberal family” video
"My family accepted me as I was and encouraged me to explore who I was without judging me"
Yeah sounds awful 🤣😂
@@PRDreams I agree. The only thing that gets on a liberal's nerves is conservatives, things that get on conservatives nerves is liberals, LGBTQ, atheists or other religions, science based facts, I could go on
@@cjcman87 Could be summed up as conservatives don't like anything that isn't them or inconveniences their profits/goals.
Like when the Pope said that business people should think about morals and not just profits, American conservative said "Ha ha . . . NO".
@@recoil53 the pope is just a man. He also said, there are many ways to get to heaven, which is completely opposite of what Jesus said, in:
John 14:6 Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
*The catholic church contradicts a lot of what the bible says.
In Mathew 23:9 (Jesus said)
And do not call anyone on earth 'father,' for you have one Father, and he is in heaven.
*So why does the catholic church make people call the priest, fathers?
Exodus 20:4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth
So why are there so many idols (carvings,) in the catholic churches?
The 1rst and 2nd commandments are:
(1.) You shall have no other gods before Me.
(2.) You shall make no idols
*Why do they pray to statues and saints if the commandments are plain, simple and specific?
@@dg-zl1ct So when American Protestants don't want to put morals ahead of profits, they are right and the Pope is wrong?
Because money before Christ is ignoring the Bible.
They all disappointed their family 🤣
Pretty much, but they seem happy
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Lit
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Oh shit my first time being first
pero like should be more inclusive and have some conservative or at least more centrist ppl on here all we get is super liberal left wing latinos and they do not represent many latino and it often feels like propaganda one sided ....maye yall could get latino intellectuals musicians etc from both sides to get their views too like bookwriter agustin laje or the chilean singer mon laferte
Ojberretta Berretta find me a conservative that is pro LGBTQ+ and not religious and id agree with you
@@KingDannyT did you know that trump is the FIRST president who was PRO GAY marriage when obama was against it when entering office trump was for it when entering office also before obama entered office....and besides that why cant the person be religious?
Ojberretta Berretta first of all i didn’t mention trump. Second of all no he wasnt, he repeatedly stated that he was going to appoint conservative judges whom he would trust to make laws. Third of all cause religion is a bunch of hocus pocus bullshit that is used to launder money and justify bigotry
Ojberretta Berretta on top of that, conservative doesnt have to do anything with religion because in the states there is a separation of church and state. You want to show me somebody who doesnt think college should be free? Thats fine. If you think that welfare should be cut, thats fine lets talk about that. If youre gonna throw a book at me then gtfo
@@KingDannyT you started talking about religion not me i didnt say welfare should be cut thats your assumption of me i also didnt talk about college you brought that up u seem very upset and not nice
Yooo
can we see the "struggles of growing up with liberal families"
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Latinos for Trump 2020
“We’re still evolving....progressive...right leaning side...”
Yeah sure.....
Enough said
HELL NO😧