I just had a weird incident happen to me I was dating a guy that I’ve liked for 2 years from my last job the feelings were mutual we just started dating 3 months ago but he suddenly dropped me because he believed someone he’s very close to about something I said when I didn’t say it he chose to believe this guy he calls his brother I am utterly shocked and confused that he did that 💔
I would be mad. Ok, he doesn't know you as well as that guy but he should give you a benefit of doubt (or how it's called in English, it's not my native language). If a guy breaks up because such a thing. How should you rely on a him in other situations in life. Trust is fundamentally to have a relationship. I don't know what he said but if it was cheating or similar he's projecting his past at you which is unfair.
All these points are spot on. But the last and most important one is missing. And that's your attachment style. We tent to feel attracted to guys who are avoidant. Most women always want to get that guys who seems to make them chase or don't want commitment. It's all points together somehow. So instead on focusing on the side effects we should cure the "illness": Past traumas. People who always have the feeling to attract the wrong ones need therapy if it's a pattern. I'm happy married and these kind of videos help me to find my man. But that's just the beginning. If you think you find the guy and everything is now fixed is totally wrong. If you haven't heal then problems will come because you won't be happy. You need to heal inside (in my case it happened with my husband besides me which wasn't easy for him) or you start before a relationship. Another person isn't the source of happiness. It's your own job...
great advice thank you Ismael. And especially the last thing you said about revisiting videos... that's such a good idea, i couldn't agree more. Have a beautiful day :)
Dating men isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about finding someone who meets your values while staying true to yourself. I always say is like planting seeds-you’ll only see growth if you know what to water and what to weed out.
Hey Ismael-was the last one my suggestion, when I asked you (at your short videos) how about the past-that I have to tell every new potential boyfriend that I was a sex worker (prostitute, escort) and that I went on a lot of swinger parties. I was really owesharing all this, because I wanted to be honest. And I wanted that they hear this from me, not from some other person. After this video I will tell them only the facts (swinger, prostitite) - for all the details they will have to ask me. No more oversharing hot juicy stories from my past, if they don"t ask me for the details...but if they will, I still want to be honest ❤
Hmm...if I tell it too late (when is both side emotional connection) I risk that it will hurt me, if he will not accept it and if he will change his behavior because of that information (from consistency to inconsistency, it allready happened to me). My opinion in that I want to tell it as soon as possible-just to feel relaxed and burden free (within 5 dates to find the right moment, firs check his opinion about prostitutes, ask him if he allready tried this...and than tell the whole facts about my past). Than he can decide if he wants to contunue the dates or not. For my opinion is more fair like this than waiting, that we are in love and than tell him something what can destroy our relationship. What do you think, Ismael ?
Hm...I made the experience, men want to hear a lot of your past love life immediatelly and are shocked or get bored when you don't have much to tell about. One didn't want a relationship bc he assumed there were a lot of men before him, instead of just asking me. So I never told him its not true what he was thinking and that was it... 😒
I'm sorry but then you just met the wrong ones. You're not their entertainment subject. It doesn't matter if you haven't had lot's of experience. It's the attitude which you bring unconsciously to the table. Some men are really insecure or broken. One kind only wants women with lot's of experience (only for entertainment) and others with almost or no experience (very insecure ones). So in the end you need to find a guy who wants you a person not an object. Also you'll met lot's of guys who are simply not the one. When I was dating I went on many dates until I found my husband and lot's of weirdos too. Not every men you met is the right guy. And BTW I also hadn't much experience. I just dated a lot in a small time frame when I was ready for a relationship.
Hey Ismael, you’re not getting much views on your videos even after 140K+ subs. Audience gets bored of raw and unedited videos. I’m willing to edit videos for your channel and I’m re-editing a video of yours, I’ll point out a few mistakes too, as I’m an experienced editor myself. So if you actually want to hire an editor and take your content to the next level, kindly provide me a way to reach out to you so I can show you my skills and we can discuss further. Peace.
Amazing advice. Best dating coach on UA-cam!!
Thank you. I'm humbled.
Dating a mature man who is secure, emotionally available and ready for a serious relationship is easy if he is not this it is difficult dating men.
I just had a weird incident happen to me I was dating a guy that I’ve liked for 2 years from my last job the feelings were mutual we just started dating 3 months ago but he suddenly dropped me because he believed someone he’s very close to about something I said when I didn’t say it he chose to believe this guy he calls his brother I am utterly shocked and confused that he did that 💔
There must have been more red flags he was dealing with. A man who truly loves you wouldn’t do this so you dodged a bullet.
I agree. To me, that sounds like an excuse to walk away.
I would be mad. Ok, he doesn't know you as well as that guy but he should give you a benefit of doubt (or how it's called in English, it's not my native language). If a guy breaks up because such a thing. How should you rely on a him in other situations in life. Trust is fundamentally to have a relationship. I don't know what he said but if it was cheating or similar he's projecting his past at you which is unfair.
Happy holidays! Your videos helped me so much, thank you ♥
All these points are spot on. But the last and most important one is missing. And that's your attachment style. We tent to feel attracted to guys who are avoidant. Most women always want to get that guys who seems to make them chase or don't want commitment. It's all points together somehow. So instead on focusing on the side effects we should cure the "illness": Past traumas. People who always have the feeling to attract the wrong ones need therapy if it's a pattern.
I'm happy married and these kind of videos help me to find my man. But that's just the beginning. If you think you find the guy and everything is now fixed is totally wrong. If you haven't heal then problems will come because you won't be happy. You need to heal inside (in my case it happened with my husband besides me which wasn't easy for him) or you start before a relationship. Another person isn't the source of happiness. It's your own job...
great advice thank you Ismael. And especially the last thing you said about revisiting videos... that's such a good idea, i couldn't agree more. Have a beautiful day :)
Thank you. This is really helpful. I am missing the boat on so many of these points. 😅
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Thank you Ismael for your wise advise and honesty about yourself. Very humble and meaningful. ❤
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Dating men is easy if you have awful standards. Dating men is impossible if you actually have any kind of self respect.
I disagree, it's easier bc you'll spot the red flags sooner and not allow them to continue
Dating men isn’t about lowering your standards. It’s about finding someone who meets your values while staying true to yourself. I always say is like planting seeds-you’ll only see growth if you know what to water and what to weed out.
Hey Ismael-was the last one my suggestion, when I asked you (at your short videos) how about the past-that I have to tell every new potential boyfriend that I was a sex worker (prostitute, escort) and that I went on a lot of swinger parties. I was really owesharing all this, because I wanted to be honest. And I wanted that they hear this from me, not from some other person. After this video I will tell them only the facts (swinger, prostitite) - for all the details they will have to ask me. No more oversharing hot juicy stories from my past, if they don"t ask me for the details...but if they will, I still want to be honest ❤
Wait with that information until the guy is emotionally connected to you. Most guys are really insecure.
Hmm...if I tell it too late (when is both side emotional connection) I risk that it will hurt me, if he will not accept it and if he will change his behavior because of that information (from consistency to inconsistency, it allready happened to me). My opinion in that I want to tell it as soon as possible-just to feel relaxed and burden free (within 5 dates to find the right moment, firs check his opinion about prostitutes, ask him if he allready tried this...and than tell the whole facts about my past). Than he can decide if he wants to contunue the dates or not. For my opinion is more fair like this than waiting, that we are in love and than tell him something what can destroy our relationship. What do you think, Ismael ?
Absolutely informative! Thanks for sharing such amazing tips, Ismael ! ❤✨
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Hm...I made the experience, men want to hear a lot of your past love life immediatelly and are shocked or get bored when you don't have much to tell about. One didn't want a relationship bc he assumed there were a lot of men before him, instead of just asking me. So I never told him its not true what he was thinking and that was it... 😒
I'm sorry but then you just met the wrong ones. You're not their entertainment subject. It doesn't matter if you haven't had lot's of experience. It's the attitude which you bring unconsciously to the table. Some men are really insecure or broken. One kind only wants women with lot's of experience (only for entertainment) and others with almost or no experience (very insecure ones). So in the end you need to find a guy who wants you a person not an object. Also you'll met lot's of guys who are simply not the one. When I was dating I went on many dates until I found my husband and lot's of weirdos too. Not every men you met is the right guy. And BTW I also hadn't much experience. I just dated a lot in a small time frame when I was ready for a relationship.
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Hey Ismael, you’re not getting much views on your videos even after 140K+ subs. Audience gets bored of raw and unedited videos. I’m willing to edit videos for your channel and I’m re-editing a video of yours, I’ll point out a few mistakes too, as I’m an experienced editor myself. So if you actually want to hire an editor and take your content to the next level, kindly provide me a way to reach out to you so I can show you my skills and we can discuss further. Peace.