Let it go and it will come back (power of detachment)
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
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00:00 The fear of letting go
01:43 Intention vs. Outcome
02:47 The power of vulnerability
05:16 The energy of resistance
05:59 Be who you prefer to be
08:15 Trust yourself & the universe
10:18 Why we do attach
12:59 How to connect with the divine
14:21 The universe doesn't make mistakes
17:14 Inner child meditation
The fear is, if I let this thing go, then it's not gonna come around. If I let go of the outcome of something, then I'm not actually going to receive it.
I'm not actually gonna be able to get what I want. But see, that's the furthest thing from the truth. What actually happens is the more attachment we have to outcome, the more attachment we have to people.
The more attachment we have to certain situations, the more resistance we also have. And think about it. Think to your own life, the more you've wanted something, the more you've tried to control the situation, the more energetically people can feel that.
And the more off putting it is to people as well. So it's actually like imagine the universe is conspiring to give you what is in vibrational alignment to you.
But if we're hammering in the vibration and the energy of, "I hope this thing goes well. I hope this thing goes well. I hope this person gets back to me. I hope this happens. I hope this happens."
Then there's resistance created. And also the energy is that right here in the present moment right now, there's resistance. It's not what I want it to be. So the thing is, is the belief that's there, is I must control what other people are doing.
I must control how other people perceive me. And then what'll happen is everything will work out. The thing is, is it's not how it works. You must actually let go to then allow things to happen smoothly.
You can still have an intention by the way. You can have an intention, but when the intention is also on a means to an end, that also causes problems.
For example, if I have this intention that I'm going to be vulnerable to someone else, because there's a conversation I need to have, maybe it's even a hard conversation to have.
If the intention is I want this person to come around and understand me and I want this person to act and be a certain way, that's attachment to outcome.
And that is also a form of control. It's a form of manipulation that other people can feel by the way too. People can feel when someone else wants something from them.
But instead, if my intention is I'm going to be vulnerable, I'm gonna lead with vulnerability, and share something that is kind of uncomfortable to share and see how this person responds.
That's an end of itself. I am being vulnerable because it's who I choose to be, not because of the result it will get me. Now the interesting thing is that when you are vulnerable, that normally is a heart opening experience.
Other people can also feel that. And a lot of times when you lead with vulnerability, you create an opening for someone else to have an opening and you go deeper with a connection.
Now, in an interesting way, I'll share something with you that's somewhat vulnerable, but it has to do with, it has to do with some people on my team. It has to do with a certain area of my business.
And there were certain things that, there was this situation that was happening to where things just felt very much out of alignment. And basically what happened is the team and I got together and we decided that something was out of alignment and we had to have this hard conversation with someone.
And it was a conversation that was not comfortable. And the intention was, let's be vulnerable and let's see what happens. Because we just have to get it out. We can't let this energy go underneath.
There's something that feels out of alignment. So the interesting thing was there was certain people on the team that wanted certain outcome and there's certain people that wanted a different outcome out of this.
Like they had their own opinions about it. The funny thing is there was like this budding of heads on the team and it was almost like the more attached to our positions we were, the more the other people could feel that.
And the more this like tension was created. What eventually happened is all of us let go of the outcome. We let go and said, "Whatever's happened will happen but we need to have this conversation."
And we had this vulnerable conversation, and the interesting thing was that the moment we let go is the moment everything began to smooth out.
The more we were able to open up. The more we were able to express this in a conversation, and it brought us all a lot closer.
But the funny thing is, is there was like on, because we had different perspectives of this situation, which I'm not gonna go into the details of. It was like as long as we were attached to positions, we were each like in our own way. - Розваги
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Thank you Aaron ❤ ( so crazy ... you wearing your jumper saying " Saints & London, where I want to Live 😂) Beautiful signs from Spirit
Great video. Great hair as well 👌
God I’m so grateful for your content.
I adore you ❤
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to all who read this, and all who don't...sending you infinite peace, perfect health, abundant wealth, joyous freedom, and unconditional love...💚💚💚💚💚
Thank you. Sending the same to you.
@chereeelliott7474 you're welcome...i appreciate you, and love you...😘
Thank you! And to you as well. I love you ❤
@@paige8361 you're welcome, and thank you, i love you too 😘😘😘
Thank you same to you brother
"The universe doesn't make mistakes" powerful statement.
But it does.
So many wars...
@@orionstarlord8651 if the world was nothing but sunshine and rainbows, what would there be to learn?
Very true. The Word of GOD says, "..be anxious for nothing,.."
I discovered that the more I detach myself from something, the more it attaches to me. One of Newton's law states that "For every reaction, there's an equal and opposite reaction."
Thanks for sharing. 👍
"For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction."
Hes 100% correct. I detach and let go and ex calls back wanting to take things slow and misses me
The thing is to be OK with the outcome, even if it's not what I want. The right person would want to be there, even if they sensed, you want something from them. Plus seeking win win solutions.
This is so true… it’s like the world has come up all these words such as “validation” and all that, but sometimes we all need a little extra love. The right one will give that to you, whilst others will make you feel ashamed for it, that you don’t need to seek validation… Though I agree it can’t be something you constantly ask for expecting someone else to keep making you happy. That’s ownership you need to take in finding yourself and loving yourself.
"Attachment always comes from the means to an end" that hit me
So true. I was "redpilleed" about women, and for a while i didnt want anyone or care, and a lot of women were attracted to me during this phase..
Lol isn't that weird?
I’ve been watching your videos the past few months - I finally let go of a situation with a man who didn’t want to commit to me. I previously had convos with him, but I couldn’t let go of him - so I fell into this pattern of being scared to let him go so tried to show him how “good” I was to commit to, or I would try and move on with my life - but he would come back and I couldn’t detach properly. I was scared to end it because I was scared of losing him and scared of the unknown.
But I realised, I was controlling the situation by not letting him go. And even if I had him as a friend, I would hold on.
So I finally ended our communication, in a kind and loving way. And let him go. It’s strange, I’m grieving the connection but I finally feel free - after 9 months, to face my fear or being alone and losing him (but I realised I never had him anyway). And although I am sad, I feel liberated and free in a way - hopeful and trusting into what the universe has.
Wow! Amazing for you. An incredible step.
@@kelseyjane8515 thank you so much 🙏 💜
Thank you for sharing. I am in a similar situation. You touched in everything I feel. This was so well said and I am now choosing to let go.
@@namoramichelle9960 good for you! It’s been a few weeks now, and I can honestly say I feel SO much lighter and happier. More time spent on me, my hobbies, work, friends, and dating new people who actually want to invest in me.
You can do it! I know it’s so hard. I didn’t think I could. But once I made the choice, and let go, it got easier week on week.
You’ve got this ❤️
Feel you on so many levels, so glad you finally let go and are moving on, it's not easy.
Letting go and detaching was always how I manifested the things that I really wanted in life ironically lmao. I tried to control things in recent years, and it ultimately led me to LOSING control even more haha 😂 Let go and let flow. Letting go seems like such cliché advice, but it's something we're going to have to learn eventually, whether we are consciously manifesting or not. We're going to lose people we love, the world is going to change, people we admire will pass away. We have to let go. Thanks again Aaron. Also I love that you wear All Saints, I used to work there aha
How to let it go effectively ?
Hey Aaron!!!I discovered your channel some two years back and wow.This way of looking at things changed a lot of things in my life..Thank you for helping us get in alignment.
This came at the right time, I'm holding onto the past which spirals me down into anger, resentment, sadness, and I'm worried about the future which causes anxiety and panic. All of yesterday and this morning I've dwelled in both which has put me into real distress.ive prayed through it. I just feel numb now which is an improvement at least. . I know it's because I have to LET Go of these stories. They are not who I am, I know that. But why am I holding on? No closure, no accountability, no apology. So how do we let go without those things?
Please don't feel alone. We are human and we can't help the feelings and emotions that hit us. All we can do is keep on going. We will come out of this. It's hard when the person can just shut down and not feel. It makes you think what was I? Why do we hold on?? We're worth much more.💫👍✨️💫
I like to ask myself this question. Will it matter in 10 years?.... holding on to the past is restricting today's blessings. I am not judging you at all. I'm a year and a half out from my divorce and it took me way to long to get to the point I am at today. Try to focus on your now. Actions today can greatly improve your future. Every day is a brick you are laying while building your future. Today IS a turning point. Keep moving forward
@@bryanspennies Thanks, I've gained some perspective again through prayer and enjoying the present moment again. I have my moments every once in awhile that last 2 days to a week , we all get dragged down sometimes when things are not the way we think it should be or should have been, that's what's happening for me. But I remind myself I just need to accept what is, that's when I'm happiest and I can access joy.
You can both know you are worth of an apology and realize those who hurt you may not be emotionally mature or have the emotional capacity to offer it. Taking back your authority of yourself and realizing that you can heal when you realize that you didn't deserve that hurt even if those other ppl don't see it. A big question you can ask is.. what end emotion would an apology bring me? Then you can focus on meeting that need and starting to go towards experiences that will bring more of it.. The person who hurt you isn't the only way to bring you that end emotion and you are worthy to experience it regardless of their future action. Hope this helps!
@@AbbyRuston helped me and the other replies are good perspectives to think on
If you're reading this, know you're loved, valued and cared for. You deserve the absolute best life has to offer. Just thought you should know. 😉💕✨️
Thanks for saying that and same to you!
Thank u
your vulnerability really is your power brother. I love the authenticity and willingness to use your own life examples to share the perspective
I struggled so much with letting go in my business. A commitment to meditation and splitting my biz into 3 different niches really helped me surrender. I feel creatively fulfilled but never too attached because my attention is divided and I no longer obsess over it.
Awesome video man. You are right that everything just is and that the universe doesn’t make mistakes. We are all here for a reason
I've been watching your videos for a couple of years now Aaron , probably about 3 years. You have been helping me heal my childhood which was like yours & just helping me in life in general. A massive THANKYOU. All my life Ive had a gentle hippys mindset & this is who I am to my soul. Watching this video tonight for some reason has now inspired me to get out and meet my tribe of like minded people , people that understand me & are on the same level spiritually with thinking, caring for the planet, kind & loving etc etc. Alot of materialistic people around me who are not ascended souls don't understand me. I also hope I can meet a soul mate partner just like you ,but my age. Thankyou for all your help & inspiration. Love you xxx😁🌟💜
Thank you🙏I recently was given new parents in spirit as I am an orphan and I realized I lost trust in my parents but my new parents are holding me anyway and then I realized we all will have new parents as we evolve ,we all we grow in reincarnated future lives with new parent and parenting.💜
My angels are wanting me to hear this. I’ve been working on letting expectations go. Thank you ❤
This man never misses! Convinced I manifested this video. Thank you so much Aaron
Appreciate everything you do man
This dude’s vibe is on point. I’ll definitely listen to him!
Your videos have helped me so much over the last year! I recommend your videos to my friends all the time!! Keep them coming!!
the quality of my life gets better when these videos come out forreal
You always say the things I need to hear, when I need to hear them. I see you. 👍
You changed my life
Aaron has been my Guide for 2 years now. :)
Loved this video ❤ thank you Aaron
Aaron I would hate to have never known you because you are so kind, loving and knowledgeable. You have a gift and it has helped me tremendously. Ive had so much resistance because of being unsure of myself
I was 15 minutes old and discovered your channel. Let's do this!
I always feel better after your videos. Thank you.
One of best!!trust process!!trust Universe!!be !!becoming aware!!
Thank you very much for each and every video, so grateful ❤
ty A aron. Needed this, also love this bikery look
I want to thank you Aaron for these kind of videos.🙏 you helped me a lot, I was going thru a hard breakup, and 3 days I was listening hours and hours to your videos. I’m an anxious and my ex was an avoidant, he offered me his friendship in the end and I refused,went in NC and now I’m letting him go and detach from him. I don’t want somebody that doesn’t care and is not fighting for me and the relationship. I value myself more this time.
I'm on day 5 of a breakup. She wants to be friends,but friends don't hurt each other like she did to me. You did the right thing and will find that secure attachment when you're open to it. I know I will too. From one anxious to another,good luck out there.
@@thejeff2469 You will have bad days and good days , just need to be strong, I went in hard times , it’s been over a month now , I’m still holding myself to not text him, I have days when I miss him like crazy but then I remember how he acted with me. Just respect yourself and not accept to be friends. Thanks for your encouragement 😊 we need to change in the secure type.
THANK YOU. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for this video, inspiration, insight, divine reminders, everything. I’m so deeply grateful. Thank you.
This changed my life.all of his videos defiantly work and real. Love yourself first and everything will fall into place
The November Ayawaska trip is on my goal board! See you soon and THANK YOU FOR EVERY SINGLE VIDEO AARON! Absolutely everything has changed… Reading Power vs. Force now and will have read the whole set by November. ❤🙏🏽☀️
The remote analogy was spot on. Needed this insight this morning. Thank you❤
This is my favorite youtube channel based on spiritual context. Aaron is really articulate and he improves my mood immediately.
I needed this. Thank you so much. I need to let go.
Thank you Aaron. I explained my true feelings to him today. Not sure he could not handle the honesty. I let him go. I feel better now. I am more in my power.
Thank you Aaron! This one really impacted me
Great video my friend. Lately I've been wondering why everyone around me seems to be pulling away from me and not talking to me anymore. It's so easy to overthink and get too attached to the outcome you want. Detachment is freedom. Let go and just be yourself and move forward.
This video is briliant! Truly! Thank you! ❤
SUPER GOOD AND SPOT ON AARON
Aaron I’ve been watching your videos for a couple months as been coming out a year long affair and also learning these past 12 months of the childhood neglect I experienced. A lot of the stuff you talk about in your vids resonates with me (even though my therapist and myself have tried to explore the same ideas I couldn’t really take it on board). Despite knowing what I should do etc I kept making the same mistakes, but knowing why I was doing it and ultimately hurting the ones I love most. I guess I needed to really hit rock bottom to be able to fully let go. I think, I hope I am now ready to let go of what has become toxic in my life and stopping me from experiencing the happiness I deserve. I am ready to be a be better person. To be the real me. Thank you
Wonderful ! Have no words ! Thank you ! Aaron
Thanks for this video. I now know why a lot of things kept not working out.
Man i love these videos
It was an awesome talk, thanks man!
Adore your videos your vibe and the content ❤
I really needed this message.. thank you so much🫶🏾
Starting watching this on 14:14. Beautiful confirmation. 🧙👁️I'm out of alignment with my job 🙏🕊️
Yes! No more wants just listen to your guide 😊
Thank you for a beautiful video
Loved it
"When you bring yourself to the present moment, everything just is." Felt this. I ruminate far too much within my own scewed perception and internal messages. Time to live outside of that. I am in control of my own thoughts and behaviours. I always have been.
Good to see you back right meow with this vibe,JJ..all well❤😅
Yesss!!resistence is ready to come in alert from somewhere let it go so lighter should be aware!!
I love this clarification
Beautiful. Amazing.
Love your concept ❤
Powerful segment...🤝🏻👍🏻
It's quite right trust ourselves&trust Universe!!
Good job Aaron!
I opened UA-cam at 11:11 and this video popped up. Timely
You rock, bro!!!
I can attest to your teachings because I have followed these very rules about a year ago and all the negative energy that I put on everything doesn't exist anymore because of "letting go."
Tons of Blessings! Great 👌🎯 🎥
Absolutely incredible thank u
Needed this 🤍
Highlights:
5:08
5:59
8:14 ~ I LOVE THIS PART 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
9:05 ~ magicK, beyond imagination; infinite possibilities
9:20 ~ divine, beyond imagining
12:42 ~ develop trust in higher power, divine mother and divine father
I remember when you came on this you tube Plat forum..Wow you came so far and doing amazingly great! ..
On of your best videos!!!
One lol
Thank you Aaron for showing me; Araya Sunshine Research; different angles of your filming to see how it's done!
Also this new video is just what I needed to hear from you today!! Blessings to you.
Excellent video thanks
Thank you a lot 🎈
Lol, joined this channel around 200k and went away for a while, come back at 1.4 milly! Congrats bro
I like that retro fridge
Thank you 🙏❤
Aaron, that's one of the coolest kitchens I've ever seen!
You're right Aaron
Hey Aaron! I'm going through my own purgatory atm. Started when I began with your Frame technique meditation about 2 weeks ago. I broke up with the "love of my life" shortly before you posted this vid (no coicindence for me), because of my abandonment patterns... got clarity about my patterns during the traumatic emotions that came up during the past days and nights. So right now letting go is the BIG thing for me - Thank you so much 🙏🏼 You've helped me more in the past months than any other coach I've ever had/followed
Letting go is the new point of view.🆒️💪
Connect with divine&trust the Universe in process!!
Power Vs Force Dr David Hawkins... A book hitting on this topic.... For the readers ❤
Thank you soooo much
Thank you Jason Momoa :)
I love your kitchen!
Righteous.🔥🥇
Completely self developed upgraded man !
I keep watching these kind of videos all the time that are so full of wisdom but somehow I am unable to apply these teachings to my life ahah!!
attaching is so easy yet detaching is so hard, it's scary how much a man I barely met 3 weeks ago can have a toll on my mental health.
LOVE your kitchen!
I was just watching one of your reality transurfing videos and you have changed so much .. I wonder why you stopped making videos onRT . Please start again .. much love ❤ Monaz from india / mumbai
Thank you
I am loving the long hair! :)
Thank you for explaining that the way you did. I get it but I don’t think I could re-explain it ! It sunk in tho
firing on a cylinders aaron 👌🏼👌🏼🤙🏼🤙🏼
Nice green refrigerator! 💚