C.S. Lewis Reveals: The Hidden Danger of Narcissists Among Us
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- Опубліковано 13 вер 2024
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I was married to a narcissist for 32 years. Praise God I am no longer a slave! I am free! I live a simple and very happy life that I never knew could be mine! How grateful I am to God Our Father who loves me. I love God so much!
How did you break free?
I'd like to know, too. @@charlesford7588
I know you weren't talking to me, but in case the author doesn't see your question: 3 months ago I told my husband to either start living up to his marriage vows again or follow through with his constant threats of divorce. He chose divorce. 44 years of marriage meant nothing to him. But at least my torment is over. I wish you well... ask God for wisdom. Each situation has its own nuances of how to be handled.❤
33 years for me, but he turned our son, my only child, against me by setting me up to look incompetent or crazy. He gaslit me, he turned my son into an informant even though I had nothing to hide. I stayed in the marriage to keep my son safe from being torn away from me legally as he threatened to do when he was 5 years old. Now my son is 21 and speaks to me with bitterness and contempt even though I had loved him, was present in his life, school, and sports. He blames me for all his unhappiness as if he is my ex-husband's proxy. I feel as though there was a demon transfer! I don't feel liberated or joyful after the divorce. I feel punished for leaving.
@@CeliaRios-cd4pi It's bittersweet when I read about so many who have walked, or still are, on a path with a narc, but, it thrills my soul when people encounter our amazing God, on that path, & know Him more deeply out of that pain. Praise God, indeed!
I was the one kneeling and begging and crying. It’s like seeking sympathy from a lizzard. It just fed his ego even more
Hmmmmmm.
Dr Les Carter bluntly calls narcissists "alligators."
Chameleons
snakes!
I feel your pain, I had to beg her for intimacy and had to just through 100 hoops to get it, however it I missed a single one, she would get angry and would be rejected… nothing hurts more than being rejected after you do everything for the narcissist…
Growing up being the only girl in the family with a narcissist Mother,and weak father, 4 siblings . B y the age of 12, I did not desire to live anymore. I read among numerous bible readings ,Jesaja 43,God said to me:I called you by name, you are Mine... and I started clinging to God, the rest of my life. I have been so blessed and carried through all my life. I cannot walk 1 step without Jesus, my Saviour till old age!
God Bless You🙏
Amen❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Your journey is a beautiful testament to God’s faithfulness. His love truly never fails, and I’m so glad you found strength in Him through it all. May He continue to bless and carry you. 🙌
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@@LR-yu3mx I'm so sorry that's how life was, but I love, love, love the fact it pushed you to Jesus, & you know His love & care for you. I can "hear" it, passionately, in your writing! Amen, to everything you said. He's so very good, compassionate, & everything we need to find healing & victory!
I was a narcissist. God delivered me from this spirit and the shame which has allowed me to be free to admit it. The love of God is amazing. Everyone has been possessed or oppressed by evil of the heart. This was mine.
So grateful for you and your healing. A narcissist is made not born, and all are worthy of love, mercy, compassion and forgiveness.
We must stop demonizing the individuals who have experienced so much trauma that the only way they could survive was to become self protective. Thank you for sharing!!❤
You were never a narcissist. You probably had narcissistic tendencies. Anyone with full blown narcissistic personality disorder is a reprobate. I’m glad God delivered you from your narcissistic tendencies.
Not all narcissistic are narcissist due to trauma some are just overindulged as children and self-centeredness becomes a way of life for them … they are given over to evil for their own gain….
Lucifer is a great example…. and he had no previous trauma!
He and narcissist have the same life model ….. I’ll do as I want !
Many people don’t believe a narcissist can be cured. Thank you for your testimony. You should share it wherever you can. God bless
Your right its demon possession. Welcome to a life in Christ .
When you are sick, that they caused through stress, they leave you without any help ! No compassion !!!!!!!!!!😮
Evil beyond comprehension
True
Yes
True
That is your experience..they don't abuse the same way. Some will stay and try to kill you secretly in that sickness by keeping you stressed. Probably laces the food with low grade poisens you name. It...
This message has incredibly touched me. I was a narcissist myself and didnt realize it. I lost a dear friend because of this trait. I truly repent amd ask that you pray for me. I really want a true relationship with God. And i want others to also be touched by His grace and mercy. Even when the encounter me. Praying too for others. The Lord is faithful.
I went through a narcissistic relationship, it was the most deeply humiliating experience of my life, and no one will understand unless they have been through it.. it broke me in every way mentally spiritually and even physically.. there was life before the relationship and after it. It dose get better and different, but you will never be the same.. no one can ever get you like that again. God bless 🙏🏻
I completely understand. You will never be the same but so grateful to be out of it! ❤️🙏Praise the Lord
I hear you. I went through it. But God.
Oh yes, I know !!!!!! They are evil !😮
I know what it is to live under such pressure, specially if our feelings are genuine. These narcisists are totally unable to reciprocate affecction or express or feel gratitude. They are so selfish that are truly convinced that everything is about themselves and no one else.
I’m so Happy since he left me~ especially when my heart & Faith couldn’t Deny that it was really all about him, & how he wanted to be perceived was more important then me~ why I ignored & forgave & forgave & turned the other cheek~ to him it was always my fault ~ Eyes Wide Opened when the last time I came home in a wheelchair ~ He offered NO support or help~I depended only JESUS & His Strength to Rise from that wheelchair & moved Forward ~ to Healing my mind body & heart. I grieved the loss of a Love that was one sided & years wasted~ LORD answered my prayers to let Not a Root of bitterness towards him allow to grow in my heart~ to Let the LORD JESUS handle his moral failures~or lack of them~ Not me~ It set me Completely Free~ after 26.5 years of Mental & some physical abuse~ Whom The Son sets FREE is FREE INDEED…I Praise the Lord & Dance in Gratitude ~ I can Laugh Again ~No more tears ~ I’m happy & I owe No Apologies for it❣️ I’ve come too far… GBY & I pray 🙏 Lord Jesus give someone the Courage to move on pass the pain 🙏❤️🔥✝️🕊️
ThankYou. Sooooo correct. I lived with one with 60years till he died. God helped me keep my family together. I’m now a widow 80 years old And not yet over it. It’ll come some day. People like you help me understand. I try to hand it back to God he will help me he always has.
It’s always about what the Narcissist lost or is losing, rather than about the pain they were causing.
@@Sandyo-wy7nk Amen!!!!!!!
What they do they accuse you of
The wheats and the weeds grew together. God will separate the goats from the sheep.
Love thy Lord thy God with All your Heart All your mind All your soul and strength.
@@Sandy-tr9cq Yes the Lord will do that.
Hopefully the Narcissist can change their character someday before it’s too late.
I know I need to do some changing of my character to.
My mom is 99 and still going strong as a hateful narcissist person .. she recently disowned me and cut off my inheritance because I found out she has been lying to me all along and using me. I even tried to bring her closer to Jesus reading the word with her and praying .. but she always fell back her evil self .. she only got worst. She drained my spirit .. but I’m free from her and have a much better connection with God! Thank you Jesus!!
We walk in the same shoes! My mother is 79. Pure EVIL!
If I saw her at the store, I would walk right on by her!
Nothing positive comes from a relationship with these soulless individuals!
The best thing that could happen to you is that you're now free of her! 🙏
@@rickyrack7 I'm sorry to hear of your struggles and heartache with your mother. The narcissist will suck the life out of you.
Your experience very much matches my own. 🙏
I used to feel so alone.. my mother possessed by the same demonic spirit; now I see it is a plague throughout the world. May Jesus come swiftly...
@inkythinker They're the evil that walk among us. 40% of society are narcissists & that number is climbing.
This most aptly describes my 62 yrs. Having trusted Jesus, at 18, I'm ever thankful He patiently showed me His great love & compassion, & that He is not like my narc mom or spouse. He cares, sees me, listens, provides, blesses, & carries me through. He woke me up, taught me boundaries, I am learning to live a life unencumbered by narcissists. The hardest part is grief over what feels like so much wasted time. Thank you, for this, it's validating.
Yes, I am around your age and I see the time passing fast. Staying close to JESUS is my lifeline. GOD is truly our refuge and strength ! GOD Bless You !🎉❤
Yes, sad over what could have been but hopeful of what is still possible:)
@@susanbenson3232 Amen!!
I am still trying to break free. I am in same situation: mother & spouse. Just realizing it at such a late time in my life. I was always believing the lie that was fed to me: I am always at fault and always a problem and never good enough and guilt. My mother is a chameleon. I called her that when I was young, not even realizing the damage it was creating in my soul- she is good at turning people against me because Nonone in my family could ever face themselves- I was scapegoated and it has only become more evident now and painful. I was ignorant. And I am 59. I try always to love because Jesus says to love even our enemies and I’ve loved my mother since birth despite she has harmed me my entire life and stopped my success in life often.
@@gracegrace1896 awh, Grace, I'm so sorry. I hear your pain, & relate to everything you're saying. I didn't fully realize until I was about 60. I, too, had grief over so many "lost" years. When we're born into it, we just can't see it (rather like Helen Keller). We try to get along with & please them because we think it's us, until we realize the truth. And, I also thought about loving my enemies. But then, God also tells us to love others *as we love ourselves*. For me, I realized boundaries, for myself, are not against, or unloving to, them, but for me! I no longer tolerate being lied to, put down, walked on verbally, blamed, etc. I walk away. I used to try to explain to them, argue, hope spouse would understand hurting me & stop (that's what adults raised by narcs do, until we learn not to, instead of walking away...I guess because we can't walk away as a kid) I pray you get through the grief of lost yrs & unrealized hopes, & make a better life for yourself with God & other healthy people! God is filling the holes in my heart & life, & He'll do it for you, too! He cares so deeply about & for you, Grace. Stick closely by Him, & never give up on healing! Pour your heart out to Him, & ask Him for whatever you need. Countless nights I could only utter, God, please, help me! And, you know, He does! Big hugs, Grace. I'm stopping to pray for you, now.
Once the mask slips, and you see beneath it, it is so disturbing. You realize that your gut was right. You should’ve trusted it rather than them. You realize that you were very vulnerable with a stranger. It is such a feeling of violation. It leaves you doubting yourself and everything else. It is devastating. They just move on and manipulate a new person and don’t even glance back at the wreckage they caused. It’s robotic as if they lack the ability to connect emotion and consequences or accountability to their actions.
Very disturbing, heartbreaking when it involves your children and grandchildren.
So true😢
A narcissist stole my company, accomplishments, life savings and even my identity. It's been twenty years and I am still trying to heal from the trauma.
You are not alone. God bless and keep you.
@@trayseebee6413 Thank you. I didn't even realize that was what happened to me until just recently after receiving some more information about all of it. So I blamed myself for a lot of it. This entire time I was missed diagnosed with "treatment resistant Bipolar Disorder" instead of C-PTSD and that diagnosis of being uncurable left me feeling totally helpless. At least I finally know the truth and am seeing a Christian councilor who specializes in trauma.
@@gandglv ya I've been played by worship leader pastor who envied the compositions Holy Spirit gave...... Amongt other things...... I was vulnerable coz my dad similar and you genuinely have blind spots in these areas when your first authority figure is so damaged..... The false charm is scary..... Church totally fooled and I've been cast out....
Many ministries like this too....... Someone in Andrew Wommack staff admitted to me that he bullied his staff and didn't like weak people...... Not what you would glean from the surface shiny website etc "image"....... Scary.....
God protect the poor, needy, fatherless, gullable, untaught...
@@normadaly7506 Yeah, these evil people love churches because of all the vulnerable people. It's also a great place for them to get their "supply"!
It’s heartbreaking to hear about the trauma you’ve endured. I hope that, with time, you find more healing and the strength to rebuild what was lost. Praying for you. 🌟
C.S. Lewis has become quite ahead of his time if you ask me.
Best description I've heard in a long time. 18 years with a narcissist. When you're in it you can't see it. But once you escape? Wow! Thank God I am free and safe. Thank you for your video. Too many of these devils out there. I wish they came with a warning label. However, looking back on it all. I think deep down I knew something was off. Didn't listen to my intuition.
@@kalena26 I too am guilty of NOT listening to my gut instincts and the red flags 51 years ago. I have had to deal with it ever sense.
Listen to those gut feelings and red flags.
I was just too young to understand that.
You got to remember that your value was never based on the abusers ability to recognize your worth.
@johntuohy1867 Thank you. It's interesting because he resented a lot of qualities about me, the beliefs I had, and the books i read. In the end, he ended up taking many of those on himself.
Wow… I myself lived your life 18yrs.. ouch!
Saved by Jesus ! Moving on! Xo
Wow, 18 years is a long time to endure that. I’m so glad you escaped and are now safe. You’re right-trusting your intuition is so important. 🙏💫
I read these books years ago, long before I married a man who is a narcissist. A pastor. ☹️. Nearly 17 years. And yes, as long as I was completely focused on him and HIS needs, we were “good.” I was exhausted. Boundary setting SEEMED to be at least 50% effective in the moment-but I have learned that actually, his contempt for me was building at that time of my sticking to a boundary. This video affirms and reminds me that God GETS it. And 3 years out, I am still healing and releasing it. Thank you for sharing this video!
@@afterthestorm9355 the older they get the worse. My sister has done me a favor. In fact, I think I will send her a thank you note.
You are lovely. I’m still stuck but at least living away from him most the time now
@@liezebartsch-wx2wf thank goodness you are living apart. I will pray for God to give you the strength to leave completely.
Thank you for sharing your heart🙏❤️
I married one who claimed to want to be a follower... A seventh day adventist... He abused me so much. I am free now.
This was Divine Providence that this video popped up in my feed today. My husband of 32 years just abandoned me. I have nothing. His only income is $1600. He left me for my sister who is a millionaire and has two boob jobs. They deserve each other. They are both Narcissists who profess to being Christians. This gave me so much insight into the literal hell the two of them have brought upon me the past 10 months. I couldn't prove it in court, so they successfully turned my whole family against me.
God knows the truth and God is the only one who will never leave nor forsake you. You just got rescued! When the pain subsides you will feel free!!!! Sending you prayers ❤
I'm so sorry for the horrible pain you must be in at this moment. Cling to the fact that that as a bride of Christ, you will never be betrayed by Him.
So sorry God be the strength of your heart. They will destroy each other and probably split up very quickly. That is just so wrong 2 people to betray you but God will not abandon you. Prayers✝️
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❤so sad and traumatic,but Jesus endured all this too and can relate to us so well! You are set free to find your true identity in Christ,when the pain and healing are done! You are loved by our Creator and He will never fail you! The best is yet to come! Gods peace surpasses all understanding! He will use all we have suffered and endured for good! Nothing is wasted and He has great plans for your future! Onwards and upwards,don’t look back and delight yourself in the Lird and He will give you the desires of your heart! Align your will with Gods will and you will be safe and well cared for!
I was married to one. I never understood why God allowed us to marry and then divorce. But during the end of the marriage, I began seeing questionable signs. I later learned he matched all these personality traits of a narcissist along with one other Cluster B disorder. My heart is still broken, but I dont hate him. I never went along with the drama of arguments, and he hated it by saying my unengaged behavior was a sign of not caring or not loving him. I felt that maintaining my peace was the best thing to do at the time. I am learning to lean on God for healing, wisdom, and understanding. This message, along with a message called "Why God removes people from your life," really spoke to. I still pray for his healing and deliverance because nothing is impossible for God. He really needs God in his life.
You say you never know why god allowed you both to marry each other and then divorce. I did the same thing to and it is when we step past god and do what we wish to with out ever bringing god in to the relationship. I never asked god anything about marrying the last man because I went past god and did what I wanted only to suffer later and go through a divorce, perhaps this is the same thing you did as well you never allowed God to be a part of your marriage you went past him and did what you wanted only to suffer later. You know god does not stop us he allows you to do what you want and find out what you did was wrong.
Exactly! @@reginamay2767
@reginamay2767 Actually, I did involve God from the beginning. I truly believed it was an answered prayer. I saw a change and we attended church. After a few years, I noticed changes. Come to find out something triggered his disorder and he completely change unbeknownst to me, he quit taking meds. Long after our separation, he is still displaying symptoms. Without going into details, it let to doctors involved that confirmed a diagnosis. I think the enemy can attack a family in many forms. He pulled away from prayer and church, so he was an easy target. It was such a horrible situation that I wish no one ever goes through it.
Generally true, but not always. I thought God was leading me into the marriage and my Christian friends all concurred. I thought I was following the Lord's Will, but I was too young to see the red flags. Biggest one - I really didn't want to marry him, but I thought God did. God wouldn't do that to a person and I was influenced by some Extreme Christians.
My narcissistic wife has been hiding behind bipolar disorder for years. However after being diagnosed and treated, the ups and downs got better and the clear narcissistic traits became clearer… still waiting for a miracle 35 years later…
This is one of the best videos I have heard from C S Lewis.. one will appreciate if you ever been in a relationship with Narcissistic, especially Covert.. But I firmly believe nothing is impossible to God and only Jesus can heal Narcissist..🙏🙏
This teaching is a GIFT!
Amen
Interesting video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go,i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Don't do this. This is part of the trick if the devil! @@Jonathanjackobson
I keep hanging on, maintaining a relationship with my brother, taking his insults and abuse because he is 65 yrs old physically sick and has nobody. He is truly alone in the world. He even claims to be a Christian, quoting a random feel good verse now and then, but his life and actions show he is just going through the motions, and does not believe. I know only the Holy Spirit can open his heart, but I can't get rid of the guilt if I abandon him. In the meantime, every time I talk with him, I am drained of strength and peace.
Guilt. This is the reason Lewis used scripture to teach that God doesn't want us to allow evil to continue by feeding it. If you don't understand this behavior is of Satan you can't possibly understand what action is required of you. I sincerely hope you will prevail.
@sagrammyfour Unless you walk away, you are co-dependent and subject to continued abuse. Walk-away. He'll figure it out. No guilt and no contact.
there is a podcast which says they die how tey lived. it by palative catr nurses
@sagrammyfour You know, just got an idea. Call your County Department of Social Services. They'll get involved and remedy the situation. You are not helping yourself, brother or situation. Not your responsibility. Abuse should never be tolerated from anyone. God 🙌 bless him. Surely, he's scared and miserable underneath. What you can do is pray and cast your care. Jesus will provide. He's promised, too.
Thank you for this anointed message. Every sign happened to me. Thank you Lord Jesus for waking me up and getting me through it, how I love you.`Charm is deceitful, beauty is passing, But a Man/ Woman who fears The Lord shall be praised.🙏Amen.
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AMEN 🙏 ❤
I am in that place where I have been discarded because I’ve provided all my abusive husband needed when it was required. He is on his way to forming another attachment, and nothing, nothing I do or say will resurrect those heady days when we were first married. I pray for the strength & fortitude to survive. Oh God Almighty, in Your infinite mercy & compassion, I ask for the wherewithal to overcome all evil, now & always, Amen
You re in a hard spot but you will come through this. Stay in prayer❤
Prayers✝️
You will feel so free and his hard heart will not be held against you in any way.
Please also watch some Marcus Aurelius videos too.
Stoicism plus allowing God free and total reign in my life has made me completely free.
That type of person is an energy vampire and you will not longer be depleted.
@@ChristinaFromUA-cam Praying for you
@@christinereilly8829 God wants you to be free and happy again. So move far away from the toxic people and enjoy the life you have left to live.
This video was an eye opener. O LORD help me not to be foolish and believe the person who tries to manipulate instead create true friendship. Help me to find a person I can trust and deliver me from throwing my pearls to swine. I ask it all in Jesus' Name. Amen
Amen
Amen
Oh my gosh this really nailed it. My husband of 21 years was a narcissist. He was so cruel to me. A lot of the time it was masked in "humor." He committed suicide a year ago and I still find myself saying if only I was more compassionate, understanding, tried harder..... I know it wouldn't have changed a thing. Thank you for this beautiful message. God placed this in front of me this morning because he knew how much I've been struggling and would healing from these words. God bless you 🙏
@MsFuneralhome Not to sound insensitive, but it surprises me that a narcissist would commit suicide. I would think they love themselves too much....
@@StephanieWhitley-bg1tk I understand what you are saying. We thought the same thing.
I am evolving. I was born into a family of narcissism, married narcissists, and now at 68 am learning to recognize and acknowledge traits much quicker and 2023 was learning to walk away quickly. If it doesn't feel right it isn't. Saying that, my heart opened to a man similar to my brother. I didn't recognize it at first because my heart cracked open after being closed for so long. This relationship has accelerated my growth. Since 2015 being ostracized by family, I have always believed that God was working something out in me. Had to learn to lean on God's guidance totally. Perhaps it was the narcissistic traits in myself that I learned as a child. Clarity is key. God's love never fails. I learned to be still and pause for guidance. Do I fall, yup, yet i get up stronger.🙏 💯❤️
This is worth listening to many times. Such wisdom 🙌
Easy to say if you have a home or family to support you, not so easy when you end up vulnerable and homeless 😪✝️🙏🏽
@@heatherhall3452 I was homeless but God has given me a 30 year old mobile home. Now, at least i have a roof over my head. No car, but a roof. I get food stamps too. And now, they put me on medicaid so I have medical care.
" painful but also liberating".
Liberating enough to realize that your value was never based on any abusers ability to recognize your worth.
Thank you.
That spirit looks to either render you powerless or make you like it.
Exactly!!
Never play by its game. Be yourself, be the best version of yourself through Christ Jesus, never give in to their destructive ways, you are an overcomer, a child of God, made to prosper and to succeed.May God render all narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths destructive ways useless, in Jesus's name I pray, Amen.
@@MaryamIskander-or6zq thank you. Amen. 🙏
These days I refer to them as cluster B. Narcissism most often come with part histrionic (pretend acting/drama), antisocial (psychopathy) and borderline (volatile emotions) facets.
The cluster B mindset is what runs the entire Woke movement, in fact it's almost institutionalized by now in politics, on campuses, and the HR departments.
Cluster Bs are called personality disorders today, but I believe we used to call them character flaws.
The Woke sometimes hide this under the guise of claiming to be "neuro atypical". It's just a modern, dumb, ironic way of saying "the devil made me do it", and thus they assume no responsibility for their behavior. Which is giving license to themselves to sin.
I've begun reading the Bible, and boy does Jesus speak against narcissism.
@hrvad - Pathological Narcissism and other Cluster B personality disorders are just as prevalent among Conservatives as well, if not more so. Ironically, it's extremely prevalent among Christians - the majority of Christians and their children (in the U.S.) test very low to no on empathy. I say this as a conservative Christian. Thank God Jesus saved me supernaturally. I was open to Him at various times in my life, but because of Christians (of all denominations) and the evil they have committed throughout the past 2000 years, I just couldn't believe He is real. The devil is crafty - infiltrate and corrupt from within, but thank God Jesus is real, and He already won🦁👑
Thank you for explaining the Cluster Bs. Very insightful.
Very informative thank you. By design higher education has taught people WHAT to think not HOW to think. This was inevitable. Lies replaced reality. So here we are in the U.S. about to see the end of true freedom, our history proved. God being removed from the culture, God's word cast aside and trampled underfoot, Biblical principles ignored, and finally God being mocked brings chaos and the end of the freedoms God blessed America with. The Bible out, metal detectors in......Great to hear you seeking God through His proven word. Since Jesus conquered sin and death, He is all that matters in this life and forever. God Bless, B. 🙏 👋
I had to disengage from a friend of over 25 years due to repeated lies and slander. After my father died I gained a spiritual clarity and I am grateful to the Holy Spirit for that.
It’s hard to let go of long friendships, but sometimes it’s necessary for our peace. I’m so glad the Holy Spirit has guided you through this. Stay strong! 🌟🙏
Very hard and painful when the narcissist is one of your parents. Lots of damage is done. I am dealing with lots of guilt for not being able to be there for them in their old age. Thank you for the video and for the prayer at the end. God bless!
What I've been going through many years and still am, gotta deal with my stepfather and I'm tired of it and tired of my mom guilt tripping me into not leaving I don't want to deal with him never
If a boat wants to drown and it wants to drown you, save yourself, you are not responsible that they want to drown, if you have love in your heart towards them pray for them but do not risk your safety, health, and well being in the process. Do not feel guilty, it is not your fault. May God give you wisdom, discernment, and peace, in Jesus's name I ask and pray, Amen. Please pray for me as I am dealing with a sociopathic and narcisistic parent, pray that God protects me and my younger sister and delivers us from this evil, I need many prayers please that God gives us peace, a future and a hope far way from this person, in Jesus's name I ask and pray, Amen.🙏
@@MaryamIskander-or6zq I'll pray for you I know you was talking to voia but I'll still pray for you God knows we all needed
Same 😞
can relate! My dad's narcissism is unbearable to be around - thankfully I live away from my family, but what truly bothers me today no matter how much distance I get from them, is that my mum still puts up with it. And then wants me home for Christmas 😫😫
Father, thank you for the wisdom and your love that is above and beyond anything we have ever faced or will ever face. Your love and presence in our lives are all we need! In Jesus’s precious name, we thank you, glorify you and honor you for your love and grace of just being who you are, the creator of the Heaven and the Earth, THE LOVE itself! Amen! ✝️🙏❤️🕊️✝️
I have said it's Demonic from day one. This time it's my sister breaks my heart. The wheats and the weeds grew together. Don't forget yom Kippur.
My siste has been evil since she was born !
Ooooweee God's confirmation. So grateful I am no longer afraid to walk away. I'm not in prison with any group or person whose own plan is mine. Not anymore. God speaks to me as well and I will continue to walk alone if I have to. I've accomplished more in the Kingdom alone than any church I've ever attended. Why? Because I don't fit their frame and have to wait years hoping they see I am an Evangelist or a competent minister. When a person has their own individuality it can become a threat or problem. I always needed to move with the wind, never meaning to be disrespectful. I just cannot do repetition or fall into tradition, especially when I become stuck!!! My work comes from the voice of Holy Spirit. When it does not, it doesn't happen and I start over...Abba Father is kind and a gentleman. Blessings to this very true teaching. Since I'm no longer in the whirlwind, you see it more quickly. Blessings to you all and walk in your God given Freedom. You owe no one any room to hurt you!!!❤
I truly understand and have been in your walk... I needed time with God alone - away from the church that I was going to that had more noise than praise... This time has alone has created an intimacy with God that I did not have - that has allowed me to do God's work, God's way...
I totally relate and have several individual ministries that God uses and blesses my uniqueness, blessed others and myself. I do belong also to a local Calvary Chapel In Cleveland Ohio which is still solid in the word and our fellowship is precious to me also. We soooo often see the "love and good works" stirred up as we gather, even a new ministries forming this very day, as we share ideas. But I did remove myself from one outreach ministry as my preference for Gospel Literature and Tracts to hand out was frowned upon by the leader, although we 100% agreed doctrinally. My approach was more gentle. New helpers took my place and that's great!! No hard feelings.😁 The Holy Spirit must be free to use you and me. God Bless, B. 🙏👋
amen this is exactly the lesson i am going through right now! At the start of my salvation I fell prey to feeling like I should act or be a certain way, or do certain things now that I am Christian. I had a 'Christian' friend who I now see is very legalistic and has many narcissistic traits, who inserted herself in my walk with Christ very closely but ultimately led me astray from the true meaning; God's grace + salvation through faith in Christ. Letting CHRIST in you lead the way and not creating the definitions yourself.
Now I am breaking away from the legalism and relying entirely on the Holy Spirit leading the way. I love seeing my authenticity coming back and I LOVE the freedom in Christ.
What is so sad is that the narcissist who was in my life was the pastor of the church I attended.. I will continue to pray for Dowdy , that his heart will be softened, that he will repent, and show the true love of Jesus Christ. I pray for his family, I pray for the Church of the living God, that any and all lies, or deceptions will fall flat on the floor. That those who attend will seek the truth, and seek God thru prayer and study of His word..
Thank you for your encouragement.
He will never change. Find a better church❤
He will be judged much harsher than a person who is not a pastor of a church, the most evil deception to be evil to the core and sit in a position of trust and faith and be an evil fraud 🙏🏽✝️💕🫂 May God Bless you and me ❤️😪
Thanks so much for doing this video. The narcissist is a viscous predator, wearing a mask to manipulate supply and love from their victims. I was married to such a character. He was amazing for a couple of years, but then the mask came off. I can say with absolute certainty that this was the most horrific experience of my life. I was told by my Christian pastor that psychological torture and abuse were not biblical grounds for divorce. I strongly disagree that God values the institution of marriage more than the individuals involved. I left my husband and went no contact. He filed for divorce a year later. If he had not filed, I would have, regardless as to what the church's stance was on the matter. This experience nearly destroyed me and my faith in Jesus. I will never be the same person again. Thanks be to God!
Free and thankful 🙏
I've recently left my husband after 14 years of this horrific abuse. My husband is pretending to be a Christian and has a whole church convinced. All rallying round him and I'll look like the cruel, crazy one while he gets all the sympathy 😢 oh my goodness, it'll take a long time to recover 😞
Peace to you Debbie. I am sure you are more at peace now than before. Where there’s peace there’s God and Narcissists are not children of peace.
You are of more value to God than any precious metal.
God please help us Battered women. The church has turned their back on us. Come Jesus and take us home.
@@paigecoogle6412amen🙏🙏
After meeting my covert female narc, I lost my job, my car, my house and I'm still unemployed. It's been 2 years.
So sorry. Don’t give up.
Sin must be renounced not just repented of.
Thank you so much for these teachings. I has helped me understand that I was not wrong. Alrhough it was not clear to me, I put up with the cruelty until it became unbearable. Jesus set me free! Praise God!
I am not a Christian I was for 30 years of my life. This is Powerful ! Ty for sharing
I was a child of a narcissist father who shun on Christ. Thank you for clarifying how I need not be abused even though I suppose to “love him” no matter what because he’s my dad. I’ll honor him as the commandment says but that’s all I will do. Whatever his opinion of me, especially being devoted Christian will not matter nor affect me. He’s 81 years old and I hope one day he’ll surrender his ego and meet God.
I have had a encounter with my brother in law with this attitude God help me get through this unforgivness.amen
Of all the videos about narcissism that I have watched, this simply is the BEST. Thank you Lord for this spiritually enlightening piece of video that You have let me watched. I pray that your Holy Spirit continue to live in me and guide me anywhere that I go; to help me in everything that I do and save me from the manipulations of the enemy. Lord God, bring in me back the spirit of LOVE, JOY and PEACE that I was once had in You. Please, let me feel your closeness and presence in my life. I pray in Jesus mighty name…AMEN🙏🙏🙏
Thanks you ✨✨✨
But I didn’t hear where it explains narcissism is demon possession- the denial of God, it was good but I wouldn’t say it’s the best… look up the 7 demons behind Narcissism
The only difference I've noticed in all this is my narcissist doesn't make excuses, bold or otherwise. He stonewalls, maybe thinking he doesn't need to explain his behavior because in his mind he's above reproach.
EGO on STEROIDS.
We're all narcissists to a degree, until we show love as Christ showed Love, and are
are made perfect in Christ and released from this corrupted form, into the incorruptible as Christ was raised by The Living Father.
Yes God's love is from above not caused or maintained by anything earthly. So His love is supernatural, and so the Christian's love is the same. John 17.
I have to disagree with your 1st sentence!! There's an ocean of difference between sometimes (or even oftentimes) falling short and being a Narcissist. Not remotely comparable in my opinion, hence the actual clinical label of 'Narcissism'.
I have forgive people always in my life. I have now discover a friend who i thought was my friend is a narcissist, i forgive her action and decide to move on and seek healthy relationship of friendship.
As the word says, "ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free" amen. This video is very good.
Yes! The truth sets us free, and I’m so glad the video spoke to you. Thank you for watching! 🙏💫
You kinda know what I went through so I went through that situation most of my life and probably won’t continue because I don’t have any place to live, but at least I can cook and clean the house and wash the dishes. Thank you, Jesus.
Yes my home is my life we must do what we love 😘
Very helpful. This reinforces that we are on the right track to forgive & keep praying for the narcs we know. But we're also on the right track to have NO contact with the narcs ... due to their repetitive abuse.
I was a narcissist and a sociopath. Jesus restored me and delivered me from that spirit . I had to humble myself , I started going to church and bible study , praying and reading the word of God Looking back I can see so clearly now Jesus took the scales of my eyes . If Jesus did it for me he can do it for you . Praise God hallelujah
How did this happen? Did you come to some realisation that something was wrong? We're you praying or were the other people praying for you? Sorry I'm just very interested to know.
Encouraging, pray for my husband
I believe God can do as he did for u
@@Gigi0408me too
Great, Great Video! ❤. I had no idea that CS Lewis talked about this. You folks might like Dr. Les Carter's channel, called Surviving Narcissism. Kris Reece has a helpful (also Christian) take on practical ideas and issues relating to the tangled mess of dealing with (Covert) Narcissists. Blessings to all.
Thank you
Dr. David Clarke
Also Shaneen Megji on UA-cam. She’s a strong believer in Christ also using wisdom and insight along with practical steps and prayer.
I love Kris Reece!!
They do not want meaningful relationships, they want cheerleaders
good one!! helped me compartmentalize what exactly felt 'off' about my ex-friend
Thank you so much. This inspiration was very much an answer to my prayers.
26 years now-and feeling shame for wanting out. This is soul saving for me. I keep thinking about our children who are grown but will suffer if I leave.
it took a year, long illness and recovery and the loss of finances because of it and then the loss of my car for his evil side to come out so much that I finally noticed.
I’m trying to establish boundaries and it is not going over well as we still live together .
Thank you again for your enlightenment that is totally in line with God’s word .
The Lord has a mission to show us the truth we cannot comprehend anyone could be so evil, especially someone we loved and trusted with our heart 🙏🏽✝️💞🫂
Praying for God to give you strength to walk away!
This describes some of the christians that I have met in groups. They defend the abuser and reject the victim. Same in my family. Only talking about forgiveness to the victim, but not repentance to the abuser.
I was brought up in a very secure family. We are still very close, i look after my ageing parents and my family was everything children etc. i had a bout of ill health and it was then he discarded me, going to the children with stories but they were lies. Thankfully we are still all together as they take no notice. Hes worse now as hes older absolutely no feelings like a block of wood. I have to stop reacting but i react because i feel disappointed that life is so wonderful and its easy but he makes everything sordid. I threw something in a temper and his reply "i am not taking you out now" married 40 years, buti will keep caring for loved ones it is something he can never take away from me. Only people who are in it can understand the trauma of the mind their words and actions which hurt and confuse.
@@love-by2of when a man says he won’t take you out anymore…get in the car and take yourself out.
If he won’t go on vacations with you anymore….make plans and go on a vacation with yourself or with a good friend.
I had to do that and finally….while making a plan to go visit my family in another state….my husband asked if he could go. I said yes, but he had to be on his best behavior.
I am a needy person and love to cuddle but he seemed to enjoy withholding it from me and see me wilt.The Holy Spirit has comforted me and when He does I am able to intercede for others; children, wives, husbands etc who are going through emotional torture or even physical abuse and trauma. The last days are truly difficult
Prayed for you.
Amen, thank you Heavenly Father for this message today and everyday. Bless the Narristist in my life. Bring them closer to you. In Jesus name Amen 🙏😇♥️🙏😇♥️
Exactly that I've been going though for decades. I spent literally the half of my life with this man but only the last 8years did I realise that he is also cheating on me very regularly. My hair started to fall out and I cried many tears. Initially I thought he would feel sorry for me but he didn't. He is not the best looking man on earth but somehow he attracts women. He keeps up a good job and has an intelligence but has no emotional intelligence. Much of his behaviour is what he learned from seeing others do and mimics. It is as if he doesnt realy have a soul but he had me fooled for so long. I'm still stuck but at least he's living on site now and we are separate most of the time.
Thank you so much for the words of wisdom coming through prayer It seems God's directly speaking and guiding us to our true path. Thank you so much. 🙏
Thank you so much for this. The ending prayer brought tears to my eyes. It was beautiful.
God blessed me with Larry, Jay and Greg.
Thank you. A powerful and helpful message ❤❤
Thanks be to God . I am free from the narcissist . And they are not coming back . There could be a new supply . But she is a narc too. Like attracts like . I am gone . I still have this ability to love and because of this the ability i am more loving , but cautious . My love will be valued . There is so many good people around an abundance of them and one is msking themselves known . Time to think about moving forward . God is good .
This was such a good video. I'm so happy to hear that I'm not an apostate for leaving my narc husband of 20 yrs. He nearly destroyed me. I became frightened and ran. Now my church family, family of pure hearts, are supporting HIM. I left because i had to and i am living too far away to attend there. My heart is broken and i miss my church family as they were all i had all those years
Try to arrange a meeting with as many of these people, most of all, the pastor and other church officers, as possible. Have your account of what happened to you carefully written out, all your ducks in a row, as the expression goes. You can make printouts of your account, one for each person who will be there, and sit with them patiently as they read what you have written. Alternatively, you can read your account out loud to them. Whichever you pick, tell them that at any time, you will be happy to answer any questions.
Don't give up. Fight back. And obviously, keep your husband uninformed about the meeting. If you have a good, intelligent friend who understands the truth, who is articulate and will stand by you, take this person with you.
Now that I mull it over, it might be best if you and a possible ally could have this meeting with just the pastor and the other church officers, at least at first.
You're the best judge. I will pray that you have discernment about how to proceed.
The reason I want you to have everything carefully written out is that it will anchor you. Talking about this kind of abuse can be an embittering experience. You need to keep your emotions as controlled as possible.
@@bobtaylor170 Honestly, I would find another church. I would let it go. You can never win against their lies and their charm. I wouldn't even try. My narcissistic husband of 32 years abandoned me on August 12. He moved back home to be with his new lover, my sister. I have so much peace. I have surrendered it to the Lord. The battle is His not ours. Let it go and you will find peace. You will find peace in God alone, not in winning the battle.
@@paigecoogle6412 in some cases, I agree. But if you are in the kind of fellowship a church should be, one which wants to vindicate the wrongly accused and which has been a source of great blessing to you, then you should try to fight back. But I concede that it can be difficult. People need evidence. In this era in which everyone has a small computer in his hand, obtaining a recording of one of these monsters in action is possible. I'm for it. I don't believe in letting evil win.
In some cases there really is no hope of such a thing, I know.
@@bobtaylor170 I have a wonderful church now. They saw thru my husband lies in just one meeting with the Pastor. I going to write my sister a thank you note for taking him away from me. LOL
See of there is a Calvary Chapel near you, some are still solid. Ours in Cleveland Ohio is. God Bless You, B.
Forgive and set free ❤❤❤
Right on target, narcs cruelty is much darker then this
*I'm glad you made this video,* it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love..
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
Thank you 🙏 The book of Lewises The Screw Tape Letters is amazing ! ✨💖✨
Amen. Thank you for sharing.
This is a wonderful teaching. I love C.S. Lewis. It's too bad you don't have a real human doing the narration. How weird it feels to be prayed for by a robot!
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Amazing Video and Prayer. I wrote it out. Thank you. Divine Timing. 🎉
Spot on.
Thanks you❤❤
Amen and Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
Pray for David and Bridgette
This was beautiful, honest n so very helpful! Thank you!!💗💗
I am married to a narcissist 44 years. Every single word in this video is my life still .
He lied to me from the moment I met him. I just didn't know it.
I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and he couldn't care less. I had 18 months of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, and he never came with me once. It was as if I didn't exist.
One time, I was so poorly I couldn't get off the sofa and had to stay there for 4 days without food , I managed to drag myself to the kitchen for water . He went with a trade union group off for a long weekend away in a hotel he volunteered for and refused to cancel.
I have been left with heart and lung problems. I was admitted to CCU , my husband complained that I should have had a bag packed, ready so he wouldn't have to go back and forth to collect my PJs dressing gown, etc
All the time, he's telling me that I'm in the wrong and hateful because I won't forgive him and that he thinks he has been a good husband. 😢
I pray to God for help and support.
If you wish to preserve your health and life, you should consider leaving him. My health dramatically improved after I left my ex.
Wonderful insight
Thank you for this valuable video ❤
Wow.. too bad i didn't read this book way back then..it was going around..i heard the title but never read it. It might have spated me alot of grief.
Wow, what a video--wish I'd read the book a long time ago!
I listen to NARCDAILY,,AND HE'S HELPED ME AS WELL.
ThankYou!!!
I believe the Holy Spirit led me to this lesson. Romans 8:28 & 29. My husband is a covert narcissist. He is so evil, angry, never pleased, complains, he manipulates, gaslights, cheats, is addicted to porn, lies, steals, is envious, prejudiced, hypocritical (takes God's name in vain), causes chaos, fakes illness, steals, and destroys my personal belongings, projects, never takes accountability, blames others, not wise with money, wears a "mask" of goodness and kindness in public but is different at home, deceives, and is cruel! I could go on and on! I will listen to this lesson more than once and pray the prayer. Please, pray that I and my precious pets can get out, safely, from this ungodly and abusive relationship.🙏
My husband gas hot narcissistic spirit .please pray for hus deliverence. .
Could not have said it better myself AMEN
There is new research showing the power of gratitude and how it can transform one’s life. AND it’s even shown promising results in treating narcissism. Past research has shown again and again that narcissism cannot be treated 🤷♀️.
The power of gratitude. Take the lessons and be grateful for them, yes dealing with a narcissist or 10 will transform you and your life in ways you would have never wished for but maybe just maybe these were lessons that will lead you and carry you through your destiny.
The world has become a treacherous place. Our rose coloured glasses have gone and we are awake.
If I only knew about this as a school age child.
Oddly enough, my ex-friend turned cyber-bully, a covert narc, is fascinated with Screwtape and any evil character really.
I have only very recently come to see that I am married to a husband. I have been manipulated time & time again to go along with his decisions even though they are against my own conscience. Against my own godly convictions. He justifies his actions. I don’t want to enable him. I have been in grief over his decisions. Then he is so angry with me and says I’m so consumed with him and not my own stuff. He has said to me, ‘have a talk with yourself and decide who’s the head of this home?’ He spiritualises his accusations against me, saying that I am self righteous. He pours shame & condemnation on me when I share my convictions about the decisions he has made, and tells me that I’m not his conscience.
Well Said..Amen
God bless you ❤
@@C.S.Lewis.Insights And Blessings To you.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for ever for this vidéo. Amen to the prayer. Thank You Father for your daily bred, i was very angry for this Word from You! So blessed i seek and trust You💕💕💕💕💖🐑💕💕💕
AMEN 🙏
Amen! Praise Christ. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Dear sir,
you describe 2 narcissists ME / MYSELF
and my EX!
Relationship expectations seem to be the main problem!!!
Is it better to stop expecting anything from the other person, and instead find a respectful way to ask what they need, and present our needs?
FACT: humans will let us down
SOLUTION: Seek God fulfillment first, then wait to receive the help you need, which often comes from humans. Be thankful for it.
But rely on God, not humans first and foremost.
Amen
Amen🔥🙏🏻
"Don't be thinking that I am going to help you...."
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