I married a Christian woman. She changed immediately. It was so bad, that I left her. Now I know I must be alone for the rest of my life. Too afraid to be an adulterer.
My marriage didn’t last long my husband didn’t want me to get a divorce buy I wanted to get a divorce. He wanted to save the marriage I didn’t want to save the marriage. So now I’m throwing the marriage away for good.
Michael, brother, you May have been married to a "Christian" instead of a Christian....not sure, I don't know enough of your story. Some people are extremely good at faking it.
My husband and I have been going through a rough and tough time in our relationship for the past several months, and we are now seeking Christian counsel, Praise Jesus I can already tell it's making a difference in a relationship! The Bible says that love covers a multitude of all sins and I believe that with all my heart.
Divorce is very painful. My ex wife divorced me in 2016 and it is 2020 and I have not gotten over her and still cry thinking about our marriage ending up in divorce and remembering seeing her in that white wedding dress on the day we got married. My ex wife's smile was amazing. I love that beautiful smile she had on her face the day we got married. She is gone and my kids are gone. Divorce is like being at a never ending funeral. Just a song me and my ex wife would listen to comes on the radio it makes me cry.
My heart breaks for you brother 😢. I lost a woman I love as well, the heartbreak is still there. I’d give anything to have her back. I pray the LORD bring your ex-wife back into your arms, gives you both the strength to work through your problems, and restores the full splendor and glory of your marriage, in Jesus name, amen 🙏🏽
Attempts at reconciliation are all well and good. But it takes two and if only one party is willing to commit or admit fault or sin (if you will) it'll never work out. One party constantly hitting their head against an implacable brick wall is not only pointless and futile, but ultimately self-destructive.
You nailed it. If the leaving spouse feels as though they have done everything they can, counselling, bible work, tried talking to their spouse, and the receiving spouse doesn't want/intend/can't budge for whatever reason, then ultimately, what does one do? I need sex and attention. My wife, due to past trauma, claims she is unable to give me this. Where's the sin?
@@cre8ivjay The sin is here: "And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her." - Mark 10:11
My wife and I married 36 years ago,this is a remarriage.We will divorce be great celibate friend and live separate.However we will talk to each other daily see our grandchildren and keep on loving one another just separately.
@@cre8ivjay For anyone reading this comment: Love your wife the way Christ loves the church and laid his life down for it! The same spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in you and will give you everything you need for life and godliness!
Thank you so much for this! There was a time in my marriage, and I have a hard time even admitting it to this day, that I was close to divorce. I deserved it. I did the actions that lead to that possibility (pornography and sexual immorality). My wife turned to Christian counsel and God and because of that we were able to seek help together and renew our marriage to a place where it is so much stronger today. This was only because of laying our lives before the cross and letting Jesus take care of the details. There were times, I will be honest, we both wanted to call it quits. The therapy sessions dug up deep-rooted issues on both sides that really were uncomfortable to talk about and deal with. I had to face the severity of what I had been doing and see the destruction it was causing. My wife had to dig deep to refind her faith in God and say some scary things out loud that cut me to the ground. But we both, with the strength of the Holy Spirit were able to come back to each other and reconcile the broken pieces back together. And because of it we are able to withstand the devils advances to this day with more confidence and strenghth than ever before. Praise the Lord for knowing what is best for us!
Divorce is a real bad cancer. At first, it seems divorce is the solution - a lie from the pit out of hell. It damages everyone around them & in their lives. Putting away the divorce thought of ” I’m not happy in this marriage or I fell out of love” It’s ALWAYS, always, always best to work it out. No marriage is perfect or ever will be. Two imperfect people will never make a perfect marriage. Do everything possible to hang on to the marriage.
I have a sister in faith that chose to abide in God’s word that are shared in this video. Even though her husband is currently still held by sin due to his hardness of heart, she stayed by his side up until now..continuing her walk with God learning surrender of pain, pride, forgiveness, radical love, patience. She says she feels the peace now more than ever and still continues to keep their marriage and feels the growth of her faith in God 🙌🏻 Because of faith and obedience, I see her happiness through her suffering overcoming sin that satan caused in their marriage
“Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.” I Corinthians 7:10-11
I agree with this but what if they file and serve you and you still have done all they can and they have 2 other women ? Do you still stay?? I cant fathom living in this nonsense I want out ! It's too toxic and the sexual betrayal is too painful
Im.moving forward with the divorce paperwork I've tried to make it work for the last 8months,but will not stay married to a man who blatantly has another woman he is calling, emailing and visiting ,yet telling me lies ! I do not want to be reconciled at all ever!
Most christians I know are divorced and have beautiful wonderful godly 2nd marriages. I do not want to stay in a marriage with someone who has never loved me.
God does not want anyone to stay outside of marriage Marriage is encouraged by God and divorce is possible under Adultery and two other reasons. Remarriages are blessed buy God in certain circumstances because he wants people to enjoy marriage not suffer in it. So happy for you 😀 God bless
It is not what we can see on the outside but what is right in God's eyes. this life will all pass away one day but our eternal life is what it is eternally, the risk is much too big.
@@jonanamar9931 no , the Bible does not allow divorce after adultery. we must make sure we have a good translation of the Bible in our hands , the word is fornication not adultery, fornication is sex outside marriage .It is only used in Matthew because the book of Matthew was written in view of the Jewish nation whose betrothal (engagement) was an official marriage where in the case of a man finding out that his wife (who we would call fiancee , because they would be still during their engagement period before coming together )committed fornication, he could get a divorce . Unfortunately both translators of the Bible and pastors and leaders and teachers within the Church have misinterpreted such a delicate subject.
I’m okay with divorce, but before u get married u need to be 100% sure. I promise you that almost all people can find red flags before marriage. If u marry someone after 3 months well... there was ur first problem. If I stopped feeling loved or if my husband did something that showed me he didn’t truly love and respect me I would absolutely divorce him but my goal is to marry someone that I truly feel I can be with forever❤️ that should be everyone’s goal that’s why there’s a period before marriage called dating.
Sometimes it's not that easy, there's a lot of unpredictable things that can happen after marriage even if you do know the person well. God intended marriage to endure those hardships.
My husband committed adultery multiple times I've prayed kept to God's word tried to keep going even when I was miserable but I kept praying and believing. But he wouldn't care about anything I'd say regarding the adultery he kept fighting with me. Later he apologized after 2 years I thought we were going to finally make it but then he committed adultery again this time for longer than before because he blames me for falling out of love for me and he continued to lie all this time each time I needed proof when I obtained all the proof I needed he not once apologized and doesn't believe he did anything wrong because he didn't sleep with the other women but taking her out to places lying to me that he is at work or doing something else is something I need to keep enduring? He would eventually freely tell me that he would hang out with her after work everyday and does not feel remotely bad about it because they wouldn't speak about anything inappropriate (which was a lie) that it was okay even after I expressed that I was not at all comfortable with that. He continued to do what he wanted and acted like I was overreacting? I prayed over the years and kept finding him cheating & im not talking about him looking at other women & lusting over them but having inappropriate relationships with them. So I will not continue to put myself through that stress & all that I've fought for just for him to continue what he wants without a care. Nope 7 years married been with him for 10 years not consecutively & have known him for 13 years. God has really been helping me throughout this process w/o him I'd be in so much pain! 🙏
My soon to be ex chose to stop loving me. Chose to stop wanting to be married because I put my foot down and refused to keep changing to fit his ideal of what he wanted me to be. I never asked him to change. He chose to fall in love with someone else he though he could more easily manipulate. No, I will not remain married to someone like that. I deserve a Godly man that I can respect and be happy to be led by.
Pray for his salvation and spiritual maturity and keep praying. Pray everyday. The right one for you is out there , you can pray it for him too. Also, tythe means God's law of 10% of our income belonging to the Lord. You can try tything to CBN's 700 Club ( www.CBN.com). People's testimonies on the website explain how tything to this ministry has healed their relationships and marriages. I believe it is helping me cuz when I started tything to it my family decided to move back to MN where I live and my household gets along much better. And it heals us physically. I believe trying this will bless you so much. God bless!
@@asiandod325 No, tythe is actually a biblical term which means 10% of our income should be given to the Lord. Meaning it should be given to those in need. Its God's biblical law and we must be obedient to Him.
y'all are a blessing. God bless you all on the show and all the viewers and those who read this comment. I feel like this pastor is highly inspired by the holy spirit. My instinct tells me this pastor is def. trying to spread the truth and I like the way he clarifies the scriptures. He doesn't change the scriptures He just gives clarification from Jesus teachings. Thank you for this show!
Great way to approach this question. Christians are always infatuated with finding ways to go around God’s teaching. Instead of asking what are the steps they should take to save a marriage, they’re asking when it’s possible to divorce. That second part isn’t necessarily wrong, but more often than not, Christians want to feel justified and take the easy way out.
why did you not mention that there are three options and not two. it's not get divorced or stay married, but get God involved. my marriage is not possible without Jesus involved. there are many timed when I had to pray that she would have a change of heart or forgive me or that I need to change. but we had to rely on God. I tried solving problems without Gods involvement and it got me nowhere. I apologized to God because I thought I could fix our marriage on our own, It has to involve Jesus.
Joe Absolutely! A marriage where is the Creator is the foundation is a life long marriage. This doesn’t only apply to marriage. It applies to everything. Put the Creator first and all will be well. Learnt that the hard way and still learning. God bless your marriage Joe!
Christianity marriages are satanic and demonic covenant. It's only demonic convenant that you can't withdraw. If your life is at risk and u no longer have security in ur marriage, leave. It only God who knows who shall go to heaven if truly it exists.
Yes. Mathew is clear about this. Jesus’s words do not ignore his words. Anyone who preaches that divorce is impossible is of the devil and destroying marriage.Divorce is not a unforgivable sin. Adultery is a clear reason to be released from a marriage and remarry. God wants us to have relationships in Holy matrimony not outside of it. If your spouse has screwed around on you you can divorce and remarry. To remarry is trying once again to do things right before God.
Wrong Jonan Amar. Why bother to get married in the first place if you believe that divorce follows adultery, don't bother with marriage in the first place. Marriage is for life. Anyone who does not like God's plan should not get married but stay single but make sure they do not fornicate!
"So that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].". God Bless this man!
Sometimes it is because two people are totally different, it’s not fair to say that is always sin.I tried to do everything I could to save my marriage.If a person married a good compatible person for them they wouldn’t of had the problems, so there lies the problem.If you don’t have the same sex drive, or the same goals, you fight about sex, money and if you don’t agree with the parenting you fight about that too, big time. Dreams etc.
I've been divorced for 2 and 1/2 years was due to lack of trust antabuse are those legal reasons to be divorced in God's eyes cuz I'm a True Believer I have not moved on with anyone yet but my ex has already remarried
You said it’s permissible to divorce because of ‘physical ‘ abuse .. well I’m here to tell you that continual emotional abuse is shocking and just bad as physical abuse except that you don’t physically see the scars and it’s so damaging for the children . I’m sure God doesn’t want the wife and children to be dominated , controlled .. raged at constantly like I was for 20 years before I got divorced. After more then 20 years my ex husband still hasn’t dealt with all his dysfunction and emotional issues !! We are both Christians by the way I remarried to a wonderful man but after 3 years of marriage my 2 nd husband had a massive stroke and now is incapacitated ( brain damage )because of it and is in care so I am on my own now ( for 17 years ) even though I am still married to him. I actually have prayed and asked Gods forgiveness for divorcing my ex husband ... I’m sure though he would’ve divorced me after some time of seperation anyway but that would have been his decision I suppose . I’d be still married to my original husband if he wasn’t an abuser. I loved him . It’s very sad actually. I don’t really understand why God would want us women to be without a companion and partner in life after divorce .. why would He want us to be lonely on this earth and unhappy . He made us to need a partner and if a abusive male husband kills the marriage why is she the one who should be alone and sad all her life . I’m sorry but you who are sitting there are men and don’t even have a clue of what abused women and children suffer at the hands of their husbands .
Hi, personally I couldn't live with an abusive man. I would separate and not divorce, I think. You are fortunate you have had two husbands because I'm still waiting for my first husband and I'm in my 50s. There are alot of single women these days, Christian and non Christian who have not married. What is the answer..there aren't alot of committed Christian men..there seems to be more women. Also, I don't believe it's right for me to marry a divorced man if his wife is still alive and at my age..I can tell you most Christian men are divorced. So..yes..sometimes you are alone n lonely..cos we want to obey his word.
TheEndIsHere FinalWarning Exactly! Marriage is not for all and sure seems hard. I’ve witnessed too many fail ones to know singleness is the way to be. Jesus Chris is enough!
I got my son separated from his wife, not devoice yet,I always pray for both of them because I know that god hate devoice.Please pray for my son and the rest of the children of God who has a problem that they can not solve.
What about disobedience? Should we stay with a partner that we are unequally yoked with, when we married them while being a Chriatian? Ezra Chapter 9 and 10 says when we marry outside of the will of God, we must divorce to get back with God.
What about when an unbeliever walks away? I didnt want a divorce, he walked away. I've tried reconciling to no avail. I believe I'm free to remarry.This happened 20 years ago.
Darlenespencer777 marriage is more than a contract, it is a covenant meaning there is someone greater and that is God who laid down what marriage means. Jesus calls all those who marry the innocent party within a marriage an adulterer so whether guilty or innocent marriage is until one of the two dies.
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
@@lpl433 The word bondage in 1 Cor 7:15 means that a person is not a slave or servant, it is not talking about the bond of marriage because that is s different word ..deo..not doulos ..as in Rom 7:2; 1 Cor 7:27 & 39 which is talking about the bond of marriage.
darlenespencer777 To the Lord a day is like a 1000years and a 1000 yes is like one day. Where does it say in the Bible a person is free to remarry? It doesnt. Nowhere. Marriage is covenant not a contract.
I think the binding phrase is “ what God has joined together “. There are some marriages it’s not God that joined them together. For example, if the spouse has hidden some very important personal information from you and you married before you discovered it, will you say God has joined you together? I don’t think so. You were joined by deceit, and God cannot be in deceit. Also, if you’re the type who does Not prayerfully get God’s direction about a potential spouse and after marriage you become aware he/she is a witch/wizard or a mermaid, would you still remain married to such a person?. You probably met such a person in church, as has happened to some people. I think if you are able to divorce such a person, you should be grateful to God, else you would be destroyed; and I don’t think it’s God who joined you together. You probably went for him/her because of physical beauty/attraction alone, and later realized you’re married to an agent of darkness. These things do happen, and have happened to some Christians. One brother saw the lady in church. It was during praises time in church when he spotted a beautiful woman in the congregation also praising God. Then after church approached her and she consented to get married to him. He informed the church Pastor who told him he doesn’t feel comfortable about the lady so he let her go and look for another woman. Because of her physical beauty the brother could not let go of her. They left that church and went to marry in another church. He started having problems upon problems threatening his very life. So he had to go to his first Pastor and tell him all his troubles. The Pastor organized some praying people in the church and went to the brother’s home to pray. The Pastor asked for the wife to join them and she refused and was in the bedroom. In the heat of the prayer the Pastor asked the brother to check on his wife and when he went, lo and behold he saw what he saw. The wife has turned to a huge Python on the bed with a human head having his wife’s face. Will you say it’s God who joined them together and therefore shouldn’t divorce her and run for his life?
hey guys, when a woman suffer abuse from his husband, and feel threatened up to a point of even his look shows hatred towards her. So, she finally decides to tell her parents and friends to help her, then, she starts a divorce having proof of all this hard situation. Then, does a woman has rights, and deserve divorce to protect herself??? I just listen u guys discussing from a man points and it seems biased. how is this Gods will to let a woman be in this situacion???
@@grant2149 so, abuse is not a reson enough to protect a human, rules are rules right? or do not you think God made exceptions, a room for every situation of life?
@@philipbuckley759 so, abuse is not a reson enough to protect a human, rules are rules right? or do not you think God made exceptions, a room for every situation of life?
My wife is a believer but insists on getting divorced! She will NOT listen to the word of God! She says she’s good with God! Her and God are good, she says…. We don’t have biblical grounds for divorce! Is there anything else I can do besides pray?
My husband 24 yrs wanted me murdered , screamed in my face, hed cause me to vomit inc extreme chest pains, held me hostage , cut phone wires etc. Rarely wanted sex or romance. I was his emotional punchbag for 24 yrs 😭😭 I fled 4 my life nearly 2 yrs ago.Divorce almost finalized now. Am i free 2 remarry one day?
@Connie Long - I would refrain from even thinking about remarriage. If your husband was as bad as you have written, then you have a lot of mental and emotional trauma from being with a man like that for 24 years that likely hasn't been fixed in 2-4 years. Really, really work on yourself and your relationship with Christ. I do not know if I believe remarriage under those circumstances would be a sin (I'm still praying/reading Scripture about that) but I can tell you, I don't think 2-4 years in enough time for you to fix all the trauma you faced in a 24 year abusive marriage.
There should be NO ROOM FOR DIVORCE at alll!!! This is why persons go into it blindly. It's not a boyfriend , girlfriend thing, where you can just get up and feel to be 'unmarried' NOOO ONLY DEATH SHOULD SEPERATE YOU so no matter what happenes you have to find a way to work it out. if you, trying to make it work does not happen then you should seperate from your wife/husband. But ONLY if you agree to remain alone (by yourself) otherwise do the necessary,(RECONSILE) with him/her. and thats accordingto the bible
It's 😢😢 I pray by the grace of God that I remain single there is no reconciliation for me going back is losing my soul. We honor God's word not many want to see themselves unhappy
I find it funny that in every aspect of christian life the concept of "second chances" is preached. I'll bet no pastor alive would say. Since you didn't fully tithe last week you can no longer give to the church. Or how's this one. Have you ever taught something that you thought was true but wasn't? Does that disqualify you from ever teaching or preaching? So in every aspect of life you get a Do-Over except marriage. Marriage is the one thing that you only get one shot at. Never mind the fact that God made Eve to be a help meet to Adam and that was a COMPLETE failure. She helped him get his ass kicked out of the garden. With that kind of help who needs an enemy???
The only difference is that marriage is a Covenant and tithing or having a certain understanding about something is not so you cannot compare a Covenant which God made to human reasoning.
My husband have no respect for me he stand by and let my daughter abuse me and I begged him to help me and say something but he turned his back to me and walk away. There is more........ how can I stay with someone that treats me like I am in his way .
I have been married to a covert narcissist for 30 years. He goes to church and claims to be a Christian. I am so tired of the manipulation. Has anyone else been here? I am a born again follower of Jesus Christ. Should I divorce?
No don't divorce him. Just keep getting closer to God, and being a faithful wife. Don't let anything in this life make you deviate from the path of righteousness.
How do I reconcile with a non believer? I am in this position, and I am not angry with God, I am in awe, and kicking myself for my ignorance. I was not a true believer when I married, and for the 7 years that we've been separated it's only been 7 months since I leaped off the fence into Jesus's arms. (we havent actually divorced, but I have had two partners since him in 7 years, and a child by one. Hes been with many, and had 2 children by one) It's clear, and yet confusing because it's not super detailed in the Bible. Except to say that I am to basically be perfect now. My walk has become more trying in this, and I dont feel the mercy in it. I'm getting that I must accept that if the marriage cannot be reconciled, i can never have a man head of the house, and must remain single, and celibate for the rest of my years. It is such a tough pill to swallow.
my husband had an affair,abandon me and divorce me.We both were serving the Lord since we were dating.I know God has told me to stand and never to remarry and I have to forgive him and love him as christ loves us and forgave us.I just having a hard time dealing with the pain of the abandonment... the affair was easy the divorce is not.i ask God what kind of testimony can I have now that i a christian woman divorced..
+Covenant Life I am sorry to hear about what you went through, my sister. I pray that God may heal your heart and hold you in His arms and restore your joy and peace. I pray that He may grant you wisdom and direction. I believe there is always hope and there is power in prayer. I have heard incredible stories of marriages restored, even after divorce, even after an affair. (there are many testimonies also on youtube. Just look for "marriage restored after divorce"). So, I would say... don't give up.Continue to pray for your husband to repent and to be touched by God. Pray for the miracle of reconciliation and restoration. I am praying for you too.
i heard they can get be restores, it will take a miracle after all he done and how he has hardened his heart against me. i do forgive him i just left with the emptiness he left
Covenant Life....I'm in the exact same boat as you...was married for 31yrs loved him and tried to please him in every possible way, to no avail had 4 beautiful children but had a massive breakdown which literally brought me to my knees, both mentally and physically damaged and still am.......today I remain seperated because my spouse divorced me, and remarried....True, it hurts!!!! But all I can do now is pour-out all my love into my service to God and my children, family and friends.... I have so much joy and peace and contentment in yielding my life, my all to God...This lifetime here on this Earth is so short compared to Eternity which is forever and forever and forever and I'm not going to lose my Salvation for self-satisfaction in this life......I've had sorrow and remorse, sadness and loneliness and everything else that goes with a break-up... it was like a death to me I actually cried signing the divorce papers !!! But from it I've been able to heal....Spiritually, mentally and physically and to put my Faith and trust, hope, and my whole life in the hand of God, he's my everything and more, he is truly my first-love!!! AND I'm freéee😉
@@letmeexplain1816 so blessed with your testimony...we need to pray for more standers in such situations . such a good testimony to your children too because how can we expect to teach what is right to our children if we cannot resist the flesh ?
…8AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9"What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." clearly no divorce allowed...
Patrick B The two literally become one flesh with the production of offspring. Children are the one flesh result of two becoming one. "Whatsoever God has joined together, let no man tear asunder." This is more to do with abortion and killing offspring than divorce. Abortion is the literal tearing apart of the one flesh that resulted from the to joining together in a process called sexual reproduction. As for divorce, Jesus reaffirmed the Mosaic law by stating divorce should not take place with the exception of adultery. Another words, the presence of adultery was justification, the only justification, for divorce. Likewise, a writ of divorcement was never an indication of remarriage, only separation of the current marriage.
Your body is one flesh. You should not shave or cut your hair or fingernails you are dividing your flesh. You should not pop blisters as they are part of your flesh. You should not cut out or try to damage warts as they are part of your flesh. If you have an issue with disease and a finger or toe or foot becomes gangrenous you should not cut it off. It is part of your one flesh. If you do you are adulterating the body and temple God created. Matthew 5:30 Corruption is corruption Jesus said to put corruption away from you. If your relationship leads you to sin then you may need to divorce. When a spouse wants an open relationship and goes out to experience that regardless of what you do you let them go. Not my circus not part of my life or consequences anymore. I'm not interested in who she is or what she does anymore.
What about persons who marry young without thinking through what it means to be husband and wife. E.g at age 16 or 20 even. Or forced to be married in arrangements made by abusive parents at a young age. Must they spend the rest of their lives alone if they're divorced. What about child marriages? Where they're rescued. Is there no ability to allow another individual to now care for them the way they should have or the right to have a family/children.
This is a perfect example of why people leave churches, no one will preach the word, instead they give beliefs and opinions. The only reason to divorce is if the woman has committed fornication before marriage (Matt.19:9) Sex is marriage but it is between a husband and a wife. If a woman is defiled she can't return to her husband even though they are bound together as long as he lives if she has not been divorced for her fornication. This is Understanding!
please help me answer this, I am married to a narcissist, what does the word of God says about divorcing a narcissist. I love God a born-again Christian and want's do only what God allow, please help
What if one of the believing spouses became an alcoholic (causing him anger, physical threats, & refusing to admit there was a problem)? After receiving counseling from our pastor, I went to Al-Anon meetings, and prayed for 4 years before deciding to leave him. This was an attempt to shock him into realizing he needed to return to the Lord & ditch the vodka...but instead, he divorced me for leaving him (not adultery). We've been divorced for 5 years and he still drinks. Are you saying that God want's me to stay single, because I'm divorced?
+bethbagley *Yes you must stay single or be reconciled back to your husband* 1 Cor.7:[10] And unto the married I command, *yet not I, but the Lord,* Let not the wife depart from her husband: [11] But and *IF SHE DEPART, [LET HER REMAIN UNMARRIED], OR BE RECONCILED TO HER HUSBAND*: and let not the husband put away his wife.
yes... it seems so unfair... he is part of you that can not be unjpined to his dies...or you die... this is not a contract with loop holes just in case.... my daughter has the same thinking and i hoping before she ever marries she thinks twice as marriage is a life time no matter what happenes..
Covenant life, so help me answer these questions, 1) If one marries a divorcee what should one do, as clearly now it seems one is living in adultery? 2) If you put away such a divorcee, what are you supposed to do? stay single as well? 3) Is a marriage without parental knowledge or consent lawful in the eyes of the LORD? Would appreciate your response
cooljc26 - Yes - we have to live with our consequences. These are consequences of sin. I have been in a bad marriage for many years - but I cannot leave even though my husband does not claim to be Christian or serve the LORD. My parents both told me not to marry him - I did not honor my parents and now this is my consequence of sin by not honoring my parents. But I will not focus on my bad marriage - I am focusing on the LORD and eternity - Glory To GOD!!!
It is never God'will for marriages to break down but we have to understand that God'ways our not our ways. Marriage is not a contract, -it is more than a contract, it is a covenant . A contract is between 2 equal parts but a covenant is among 3..there is someone greater than the two and that is God who he himself instituted marriage according to Gen 2:24 . Matt 5:32 and 19:9 makes it clear that it would be a case of adultery for anyone to marry the innocent part ( some translations leave out the latter part of the verse) Rom 7:3 also says that a eoman is bound in marriage until death...referring to a covenant marriage...not remarriage as it would defeat the very context.
The exception is not for divorce of a one flesh marriage. The exception is for a marriage that God has not joined together. This can be seen by the literal translation of the Greek. Also when the exception is used for unfaithfulness the innocent wife is made to be adulterous and doesn't work for the exception intened.
the church does not have any clear idea on this and has skipped over this issue not wanting to offend people.Me personally knowing we are living in the days like Noah I can understand why people no longer have the same goals.Divorce is only done after very carefull consideration and trial and I do not think God is going to hold you to a dead contract.l
Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse, Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!! May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all, ●●●●●●●●●●●●● Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage* ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER! ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● *MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV* “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. *LUKE 16:18 NKJV* 18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■ *1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV* 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? *1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV* 39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. *MALACHI **2:16** NKJV* 16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously. *MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV* Jesus' Teaching on Divorce 19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. 2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. 3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" 4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● These Scriptures apply to 1. a male and female marriage only 2. those who are married to their very first spouse ☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses V/R
The Bible says that God is forgiving, shows mercy ,gives grace. For everyone has sinned and will sin till the day they die. God WILL forgive divorce as he also forgives murder, gossip, judging others etc. Tell me when does He stop forgiving? If we repent and don’t CONTINUE in our sin . If you think remarried people are going to hell your going to be very surprised 😯 in heaven!
Perhaps you do not understand the biblical view of marriage. Marriage is two becoming one and is effectively ended when a party becomes one with someone else (adultery). This is why divorce is allowed for adultery. Think of it as person B shooting the arm off of person C. It is good and necessary for person C to forgive person B but person B still has to live with the injury of losing an arm. Adultery effectively ends a marriage and this aspect is unaffected by forgiveness.
shadowmist The Bible teaches us that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is unforgivable. All other sins are forgivable. Matthew 12:31-32. What about a man lusting on women and committing adultery in they’re heart is that forgiven? Yes it is. We all sin and need forgiveness. We repent and turn from repeating that sin.
@@Angela-co7nm Absolutely all other sins are forgivable. But your implication is that forgiveness is dependent on whether or not the severed arm grows back. Regarding divorce allowance by Jesus, his allowance for divorce for adultery would be referring to the action of adultery which severs the oneness. Otherwise everyone would be able to divorce for simply looking at someone the wrong way.
I would agree with you when it comes to marriages between believers. However, when two are unequally yolked Paul addresses in such a way that permits divorce and remarriage in 1 Cor 7:15. And, if neither are believers in a marriage, I posit the question, "Were they ever truly married to begin with?" For they didn't believe and surely weren't making vows to Yahweh in Whom they don't have faith.
+Samantha DeVoir hi Samantha, 1 Cor. 7:15 simply gives an allowance to *let go*, in case the unbeliving spouse wants to leave. (This is simply because you cannot force someone to STAY against their free will.). But it does not imply automatically that this means automatically allowance for divorce. In the same chapter, in fact, just a few verses earlier Paul says that divorce is not God's will, but if a divorce has occurred, the believing spouse should remain single and/or seek reconciliation. In 1 cor 7:15 Paul says "in that case we are not bound, but we are called to peace". The word "bound" is often misinterpreted as "the bond of marriage", meaning that if the unbeliving spouse departs, the marital bond is automatically broken. this is a false interpretation. The word "bound" in that passage means "enslaved". And it is NOT the same word that Paul uses for describing bound, in the sense of a marriage bond. Like he does in 1 Cor 7:39. there the world "bound" *is* a different one than used in 1 for 7:15. and it means "bound in marriage". Note that Paul never mentions remarriage being an option in the verse you quote (1 for 7:15). Even if you interpret the passage as an allowance for divorce, you can't just jump to conclusion that "therefore remarriage is ok". That would contraddict what Paul teaches just a few verses earlier. (in case of divorce,...either remain single or seek reconciliation). If a non believer abandons theri christian spouse, and the Christian remarries, that would not be a very christian response, because it would be like saying "I don't believe that my previous spouse can ever repent and ever become a christian and come back to me". We - as christians - are called to display the love of God through out our marriage and even within a divorce that has been forced upon us - God forbid - in case of abandonment. We are to love our spouses as Christ loved the church. We - the church- are often unfaithful to Jesus, we often abandon him or depart...but he patiently remains faithful to us, He seeks after the lost sheep and leaves the 99 who are safe, and He is willing to take us back and forgive us as soon as we repent. h'ope this helps. Blessings
Samantha DeVoir I agree and this is not addressed. Many folks get married who are not believers and even marry for ungodly reasons, ie, to pay the bills, because they don't have anyone to be supportive, or for even the sharing of duties. All of which is a violation of what calls you to be. You are to trust in the Lord to meet your needs; have an equally yoked mate; and pray and ask God is this person who you would have me to be with. For these reasons, when someone disobey God, there will always be divorce. This video falls short of complete bible teachings.
There are well-known teachers and evangelists, both men and women, who are divorced and remarried. The Father has blessed their second marriages and their ministries. If these people were living in perpetual adultery, I don't think that their lives and ministries would still be functioning.
My husband planned our divorce since 2006! He was waiting for our youngest to turn 18 to divorce me. And he was a Christian who had an affair early in our marriage. I FORGAVE HIM. She came to our house looking for him. Twenty six years later he divorced me for another woman. He refused to reconcile even during separation and started dating. Told OUR kids he had divorced me in HIS heart while married to me. Real Christian man right? Not.
Definitely not signs of a regenerated christian. Just because many claim to be one bible's very clear evidence must show forth of a true christian (James 2:18) so sorry to hear about your story.
Im a christian and i divorced my wife of 8 years i tried to lead my family by the fathers hand but she cheated on me left right and side ways shes now still with the same guy she cheated on me with she now haveing his baby i lost my faith and my church because of her and this man will god avenge me will he judge the man that came in and took away my family will he judge her will god defend me in all this
The bible never assumes permission to remarry ? (Deuteronomy 24:2 KJV) And when she is departed out of his house, "she may go" and be another man’s wife. That scripture alone gives permission to remarry !!!!
But she’ll be called adulteress because a woman cannot marry again while his husband is still alive Romains 7-3 Matthew 5:32 but I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is put away commits adultery.
@@danielshama3097 Romans 7:1-3, Paul isnt really talking about the terms of being married, divorced, remarriage in these verses. He is using the concept of marriage as a means to describe how we were once bond to the law, but now dead to the law, by the body of Christ being sacrificed so that we are free from the bondage of the law. This is mentioned in verse 4. (Romans 7:4 KJV) Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God. Even if you was to use this verse as a means to determine rather or not it is right to remarry, notice that it only implies a marriage that is without a reason of fornication. Christ himself said "except that of fornication". Besides that, "putting away" and "divorce" arent the same thing. As a matter of fact, they they aren't even the same word in Hebrew or in Greek. Strong's Greek #630 Apoluo * The common word Apoluo translated as: " put away" or "putteth away" is (the same as the Hebrew equivalent of the word shalach) which means" to send, separate, send away or leave," NOT divorce. * Used 94 times in the New Testament. * 18 times related to a separation in marriage or intimate relationship (not divorce). * 76 times used in other ways. * Apoluo NEVER meant divorce, but a "separation." Even Paul also said that if someone leaves, let them leave, and you are no longer under the boandage of marriage. (1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. If you are divorced, then how can you still be under the bondage of a marriage ? Also, (1 Corinthians 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound(married) unto a wife? seek not to be loosed(divorced). Art thou loosed(divorced) from a wife? seek not a wife [stay single]. This verse first refers to those who are married to not get a divorce. The second part refers to those who have divorced. (1 Corinthians 7:28 KJV) But and if thou marry [again], thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. The first part of this verse is still referring to those who are divorced, that if they get married, meaning married again, have not sinned. The second part is referring to those who have never been married and get married, they have not sinned.
Once you understand the basic truth about marriage in the bible from beginning to end, the question of remarriage is a simple one to answer. Marriage is the two becoming one and adultery effectively severs the oneness. Therefore the party that was offended by remarry so long as it is with someone who would not be committing adultery by joining with them.
Suyapa - Pray for Him that his heart changes. Ezekiel 36:24-27 is a good prayer for that. Dont give up on him, KEEP PRAYING FOR HIM WITHOUT CEASING!! God will honor your Obedience. Marriage is for Life no matter what "any men" shall say or do. Romans 7:2-3 1 Corinthians 7:38 Mark 10:9 Stand firm on these biblical Truths. God bless 🙏
let's go to the beginning, in Genesis 2: 20-25 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for man there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. The NT confirms that in 1 Corinthians 11:8-9 For man is not of the woman, but woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man. Going back to Genesis 2: 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one FLESH. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Unfortunately, many marriages end up in divorce without seeking nor searching the scriptures in the Old and New Testament to find out how unpleasant the answers for loopholes and accommodations to please the flesh will be. We start with Mathews 5:31-32; 19:3-9, Mark 10:1-12; and Luke 16:18 Jesus, commanded man (AND NOT WOMAN) the only grounds to put away his wife was for the cause of fornication. (AND the only scriptural mentioning a wife is found in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 where we have Paul giving adivce and regulations concerning MARRIED CHRISTIANS: And unto the married, I command, yet not I, but the lord, let not the WIFE DEPART from her husband: But if she DEPART, let her remain UNMARRIED or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife) That can easily be understood to mean a caution to the born again husband or wife who would want to depart from the unbelieving husband or wife is further explained in verses 12-16. Going back to what Jesus was answering the Pharisees and scribes was reaffirming the exact law Moses suffered man in the Gospels and to do away with "for any and every cause" man was exercising, but from the beginning it was not so. Sadly, Man was divorcing his wife for many unfounded dissatisfying and unhappy reasons. They had twisted and distorted the truth in Deuteronomy 24:1-3 "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it came to pass that she hath found no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some UNCLEANNESS in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife:" These scriptures were easily misinterpreted to mean a betrothed by husbands even today, but a betrothed was a customary practice among the Jews to contract a matrimony till fulfillment and after the festivities were held the bridegroom then brought his bride home, these men conveniently believed to mean "for any or every cause." Today, the very same thing is being practice between husbands and wives divorcing "for any and every cause." Congregations filled with illegal marriages becuse ministers avoid preaching about the truth on divorce to avoid losing pupils; UA-cam, podcasts, and books filled with indept analysis, many assertions are not dogmatic, with plenty of historical perspectives from a variety of differing theologians and scholars who are filled with doubt, that don't seem to have an answer available to us. However, UNCLEANNESS is well defined in Numbers 5:19, (in fact, read from verses 11-31, The law of jealousy): And the priest shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to UNCLEANNESS with ANOTHER instead of thy HUSBAND, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth the curse." Although, Moses law of divorce was allowing a wife to remarry to avoid the hardships a wife endured and forced into like committing adultery, cursed, or killed, and not "for any and every cause" man had tempted Jesus with, it was an unpleasant answer for divorcing his wife, that was not originally in God's will. Again, the only biblical ground in the NT for the wife to be put away and allowed to remarry without committing fornication while her husband remains alive is a devoted believing wife's work of faith and labor of love for Jesus, that the unbelieving husband rejects and wants nothing to do with, and decides to divorce her can be found in 1 Corinthians 7: 10-16. Other than that, there are no scriptural grounds [where Jesus gives a wife a right to (if her husband commits fornication) to put him away (nor for abandonment nor for abuse as is in some unfortunate cases today). All we have is If she does depart she must remain unmarried]-not one scriptural. Our Lord Jesus knew a wife is bound to the law of her husband till he dies and her curse; thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee. In fact, there are no provisions for a wife to have the rights to divorce her husband! Reread and search the scriptures. Women don't be deceived! Proverbs 6: 34-35 For Jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou gives many gifts. AND Numbers 5: 29-31 This is the law of JEALOUSIES, when a WIFE goeth ASIDE TO ANOTHER instead of her husband, and is DEFILED; Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before the LORD, and the priest shall execute upon her ALL THIS LAW. Then shall the man be GUILTLESS from INIQUITY, and this woman shall BEAR HER INIQUITY. Man is clearly given provisions to divorce his wife if she commits fornication to dissolve the marriage covenant, and the only arguable debate many have is who is endorsed or qualified to remarry without committing adultery. Many argue only the innocent and meaning, the HUSBAND, but not the guilty in this case, the WIFE. Matthew 5: 31-32 and 19:3-12 Jesus said unto them, whomsoever shall put away his wife, (saving for the cause of) or except it be for fornication, (causeth her to) or shall marry another, committeth adultery: and (whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commiteth) or whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Our Lord and Savior meant, except for fornication one must not divorce his wife; except for fornication, if one puts away his wife he causes her to commit adultery; and except for fornication dissolving a marriage, one who marries her that is put away commits adultery. Consequently, men avoid divorce "for any and every cause" which is clearly illegal.
This divorce thing is much more trickier when you realise that the person you married is not even your type. How do you deal with living with someone who cannot really make you happy even if tried?
The simple biblical truth of what marriage is - is not complicated and doesn't alter based on varying moments in time and varying situations. Adultery effectively severs the oneness. These truths do not change based on your situation however complicated it may be. Separation may be the remedy in your situation however divorce and re-marriage would not be possible unless the other party commits adultery.
@@shadowmist1246 wow, this is serious. I really have respect for God's word, if not, I would easily go for the divorce. if I knew marriage is this serious, I would have waited till now that I am 35. I wish I knew the things I know now
The problem is that people lie in divorce cases. A church will never know what really went on, nor a courtroom. Only God does. In the Bible I can't see there being religious ceremonies as we have today. We know Jesus changed water into wine at a wedding feast and we know women were given in marriage by their fathers to their spouses. So commitment was there, but it was not the responsibility of a priest/elder/pastor to marry the person as far as I'm aware. We are all accountable to God as he is the fair judge.
I would say a divorce is very devastating and ugly especially when there's children involved there was quite a few things I didn't know back then what I know now if you can reconcile the marriage then by all means do so but for whatever reason you can't reconcile marriage and it ends I reckon it is what it is at that point I won't get into detail what happened to me but all I will say it was ugly devastating it cost me some money
Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse, Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!! May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all, ●●●●●●●●●●●●● Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage* ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER! ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● *MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV* “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. *LUKE 16:18 NKJV* 18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■ *1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV* 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? *1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV* 39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. *MALACHI **2:16** NKJV* 16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously. *MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV* Jesus' Teaching on Divorce 19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. 2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. 3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" 4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● These Scriptures apply to 1. a male and female marriage only 2. those who are married to their very first spouse ☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses V/R
@@nextlevelamazing7865 I do not agree with this theology on no remarriage for the two exceptions. I suggest people read this book on the three theological views of remarriage and have the Holy Spirit guide them. www.amazon.com/Remarriage-after-Divorce-Todays-Church-ebook/dp/B0050O6P1O/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=Remarriage+Christian&qid=1609420916&sr=8-5
Let me explain something to these guys...when you marry there are 4 standing there saying "I do" ..you ..your partner..the government...and maybe God. The government partner adds to the end of the vows in most states "and for any reason you are unhappy.. ignore what this God guy says..because I have final say in this arrangement not you two or God. You need not even speak with your partner Or struggle at all...you can just come to me and file a no fault divorce, and I will decide how when and how much." This aught to be manditory added to the end if the vows. I am serious. Do you all understand now the weight God actually holds in all this?
If the man and woman marries without understanding what they are doing and decides to get a divorce will god still punish or condemn them? Because when you are young it’s possible to make poor choices not knowing?
My spouse and I have been separated for over a year he chose to leave the marriage as far as I know there was no proof of adultery but I recently found out he was on a dating site... I stood and prayed for my marriage for about a year in hopes of reconciliation however, God also gives us free will and it really takes two willing individuals for reconciliation I was told that his mind is made up many times which broke my heart and the divorce has been filed. If an unbelieving spouse wants to leave you must let them Go. God has called us to live in peace. I am just going to focus on living in peace and who knows what God has in store for my future wether we are reconciled or not only God knows the plans he has for me and I’m perfectly okay with that !
I will pray for you, and if you were the one to file for divorce I encourage you to rescind it and require him to be the one to do so since he is the one who abandoned the marriage. It's interesting that he left for a year but never filed in that time, which shows he wanted to stay married to you even if he is covering up his low self-esteem by seeking out other women. I pray and hope that you two can reconcile and that he comes back to God and fulfills his vows as God has called him to do.
Hello Zabdi! Please see 1 Corinthians 7 for help on this topic. From Paul's words, there are a couple of applicable truths for your situation. If an unbeliever desires separation, you are called to freedom from the bondage of living a married life. But, as verse 39 says, you are bound as long as you both are alive. You should pursue God, and be open to God changing the heart of your partner and perhaps full reconciliation one day. But if that never happens, Paul says that he perceives that you are happier being single. Use that gift to live for God!
@@yodasoja2011 she is free to remarry. To be young and single isn't really good either for the burning in lust is another issue Paul talks about. Sadly Christians dont realise the truth is some marriages break down causing a bitterness towards God because they think its secured already! and every marriage is different. We cannot control our spouses neither does God.
At 5:11-12 you bring in the term "the exception clause" and even claims Yeshua taught that: This is simply not the truth! And when you later on argue that abuse etc. give justifiable reason(s) for divorce, you deceive many people. Of course it's ok to hide or live in different places etc. but that doesn't in any way require or even mean divorce!
Dont let there oppion upset you. Im sure these men are trying to live out there conviction to the best of there experience and understanding of Scripture. Just as im sure you do as well. Let us each try to honor Jesus with our lives and do all things in faith.
Remember the cross is what makes our obedience & right standing with God (Romans 4:8) (Ephesians 2:15) "by abolishing in His flesh the law of commandments and decrees....." (Colossians 2:14) "having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemns us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross." 1 John 4:1 ....believe not everyone and try every SPIRIT by the word but JUDGE NO ONE BY ANY STANDARD OF RIGHTEOUSNESS ..... Matthew 7:1 DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE ADULTERY Matthew 5:31-32, Deuteronomy 24:2-4, Mark 10:11-12 CONSENT TO THE WORD AND AGREE THAT IT IS GOOD, AND THAT THERE IS NO GOOD THING IN YOUR FLESH. THESE LAWS OF MORALITY IN MARRIAGE REVEALS THE PERFECT STANDARD BY WHICH MARRIAGE WAS MEANT TO SERVE AND PROVES MORE OF THE IMPERFECTIONS OF MEN WHEN THEY DON'T MEET THAT STANDARD AND HIS INDEBTEDNESS TO THE LAW, The Sermon on the Mount, that includes the Law of DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE, beginning in (Matthew 5:20 - 48) represents a perfect standard of true righteousness and a mirror to reveal how far we fall short of it, if not at one point surely in another, for instance while most would agree that murder deserves judgment, but in the perfect standard of true righteousness just being angry with one another deserves judgement also, HOW MANY REPENT FOR JUST BEING ANGRY WITH THEIR SPOUSE OR ANYONE. BUT THIS AS WELL AS THE OTHER PERFECT ACTS OF TRUE RIGHTEOUSNESS DESCRIBED IN THIS SERMON BY JESUS, INCLUDING THOSE OF DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE, FURTHER ESTABLISHES OUR DESPERATE NEED FOR A SAVIOR AND TO BE JUSTIFIED & ETERNALLY REDEEMED BY FAITH IN CHRIST'S RIGHTEOUSNESS NOT OUR OWN RIGHTEOUSNESS BY ANY LAW (Philippians 3:9) (Luke 18:13-14) (Romans 7:24-25) (1 Peter 1:18-19) (Hebrews 9:12) IF YOU FIND THAT YOU DID LIVE UP TO GOD'S PERFECT STANDARD, REJOICE WITHIN YOURSELF AND MAYBE BEFORE OTHERS (Romans 4:2) BUT NOT BEFORE GOD, BECAUSE THEN IT TURNS YOUR HEART INTO SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS (Galatians 2:21)(John 15:10, 12) (Galatians 5:14) KNOW THAT IT IS CHRIST THAT MAKES US WITHOUT SPOT OR WRINKLE (1 Peter 1:18-19)
I want to obey God. Alcoholic, and diagnosed schizophrenic husband of 18 months has left the marriage because he will not stop drinking. Even after extensive rehab and under psychiatric care and medication, he still will not stop drinking (which counter acts his medication), so what your saying is after extensive therapy and exhausting every medical intervention and spiritual counseling, he has left and I am to.........just stay alone, abandoned for the rest of my life? Or do I have to wait for him to find another woman and divorce me?
What do you mean by abandonment? What if you've already divorced and remarried, are you saying that there's second marriage isn't honored by God as a true marriage?
Did u become a Christian after your second marriage if so u are now a new creation in Christ Jesus also if u are truly sorry for your mistakes u can always ask for forgiveness that’s why Jesus died for us x we are not perfect but if we truly seek forgiveness through Christ Jesus then we can know that we are forgiven x John1:9 if we confess our sins he is faithful to forgive us.... I too am struggling in my marriage i hope our Heavenly Father guides u please put your trust in him in Jesus name I pray x
@@edithl348 how do you know that God did not seperate the two people that are married? Because they are not good for each other? You have to remember one flesh also means spiritually.
What if my married life is severe pain, what if I actually look forward to death because there seams like there IS no legitimate reason to divorce, but the unhappiness is as thick as mudd,..& everything is just ugly, how come nobody ever gets real about this?
It is truly sad when marriages don't work but many a time other marriages who looked just as bad did not go through divorce. What I am trying to say is that it does not mean that if the marriage is bad divorce is the solution. There could be instances where separation is advisable but divorce and remariage is not part of God's plan.
I HATE Divorce because GOD hates divorced. I so agree with all you say. It's ALL biblical. Thank you. Can hardly find anyone who upholds His Word anymore.
Actually noone does, when I met my wife I was in a very bad spot in my life after an accident and being homebound for 4 years, she was running away from her husband who tried to kill her 2 times after becoming possessed by demons & choking her unconscious and trying to throw her off the top floor of the building....we met and we are married and we serve the lord....it isnt akways as cut and dry as you make it sound bud.....make sure you take the log out of your eye before you take the twig out of someone elses.
@@chaboi7 There are basic truths in the bible about marriage, adultery, and divorce and they do not alter based on the complexities of circumstances. The fact of the matter is unless there was adultery by your wife's former husband, your wife would have committed adultery by marrying you. If he did commit adultery, then she was likely free to marry you. Granted, separation/legal separation/police would have been necessary for her but these situations do not alter the definition of marriage.
@@shadowmist1246 I know how you feel but again, I fell, she fell and now we're 7 years together, don't forget that king david not only committed adultery but he also had the woman's husband killed but david was still a man are God's own heart.... I'm not saying what we did was correct, I'm saying there's hope for those who haven't lived a perfect life
But Jesus said, "Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn't for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked-or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it." (Matthew 19:11, 12 MSG)
I married a narcissist who was addicted to porn, dealt with mental issues, chose food over me. Degraded and humiliated. Me. He took me through HELL. I got out! Im glad and will never look back. God will send me the man he chooses for me. Who just sent me this video as a guilt trip. Narcissistic at its finest. Jeremy dont tag me in nothin else!
I don't know who Jeremy is, but I hope you don't try to get remarried while your first spouse is still alive, because if you do then you'll be considered an adulterer. Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Please pray for me and my marriage, my dear wife wants a divorce cause I failed her miserable in the past. I believe in reconciliation and I have changed my ways and want my marriage🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Matthew 5:32 (NKJV) But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:10-15 (NKJV) 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
So because I committed sin on getting married to a woman that had been married before had children before our marriage and left me for a man she was cheating on me with and has children with him all this before I knew Jesus Christ I have to stay in sin and reconcile with her or stay single for the rest of my life now that I know Jesus and be all alone ??
@Lori Navel I'm sorry to hear that your husband was physically abusive towards you, but if this husband of yours, as unfit as he might have been, was your first lawful spouse, then as long as he is still alive, you cannot remarry, if you intend to make heaven that is. Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Part of a verse should not be considered in isolation. Those who are being judgemental have been ignoring 3 parts. Firstly , in order for them to be one flesh, the husband / wife shall leave their parents, secondly there must be some cleavage ( sexual intercourse) and thirdly God must have united them. Part 1. What about a husband who won't move away from his parents' house (or bad and ungodly influence) and the latter are abusing his wife verbally and physically like in a family which went to the extent of burning their daughter in law? Since there was no (leaving) , there couldn't be one flesh. Part 2. Someone mentioned a case whereby the 'husband' left the one he married (I won't call it his wife without all the components mentioned in the verse) to be with another man without having any sexual intercourse with her. Do you considered them as a married couple meeting the criteria? Part 3. Someone got married in an arranged wedding (as it's often the case in Asian families) and is now suffering or a man married a woman because of her belongings. Do you consider that it is God who has joined them together and that the person should keep on suffering? Now consider the Samaritan lady, Jesus said that she had 5 husbands and considered the one she was living with as a concubine (not her husband). Note that he did not say one husband and 5 concubines. I also believe that God is a God who can restore a family but not everybody is open to changes. I have seen Him restoring families but also godly women becoming a wreck under abusive husbands. What we need to do is to ask for God's guidance. Why don't you ask God to help you to see things the way he sees and for the Holy Spirit to guide you in the truth? It's true that the traditional view of marriage is to stay till death. But at the beginning was there 'one flesh'?
God restored my marriage by coming together seeking God for help she wanted human therapy but we chose God me being the man I had to take the lead as priest which is not easy I could not be who she wanted and needed to me to be on my own merit I was sinful to the core In prayer alone I decided to wholeheartedly seek the Lord and wholeheartedly submit to His will which began the sanctification of our marriage I had to forgive she had to forgive we both had to look in within at our own faults and make changes and not bring everything that upset us to each other but bring it to God in prayer so the other is not overwhelmed like they do nothing right and no partner does nothing wrong bring problems with a compliment of what is done right and what needs some work and let it be done in love we had to fix defense mechanisms the way one acted out when angered that are dangerous to a marriage and when the flesh or devil creeps in you pray together immediately. The man must stand his ground in Christ no matter what and leave room for error for the other whom you committed similar sins together giving grace and prayer to God and leading by example or shall I say spouse Because sometimes it's opposite its so much I can say but this is my experience.
So let me get this straight if for example a husband steps out of the marriage after a month of getting married starts a life with his mistress and after 2 years he comes back what should the wife do??
I hope emotional abuse from narcissists can be recognized by church as abuse. My husband cheats, lie, emotionally distant, hate intimacy and hate commitment. He wants to be free and he victimized other girls
Sounds like my husband and he hides under religion and his image and wants me to stay quiet about his affair. I have not stayed quiet and so he has filed papers but will not put adultery as grounds wants the easy way out.its very frustrating and he wont go to counseling either
@@christalhardy8771 I remember my aunt her husband had children outside of their marriage and she still took him back, at end of his life he was struck with cancer and regretted everything he had committed - sin will take its toll it is a punishment within itself. I pray that you stay sane and recieve help you need.
@@lpl433 thanks for the encouraging words it almost took me out when he confessed of the affair of 3 years out of our 11 years together. I just had a miscarriage in jan but now at peace ,God had given me dreams about him and another woman always around us, for months prior and then he confessed this July. I dont wish him harm but the lying of the affair on paper is what angers me. I am praying for total healing of my heart. Thanks for sharing her story,and for the prayers
@@christalhardy8771 thanks for sharing your story, completely undertstand as I was raised in this type of environment. May the Lord give you peace, sometimes when we are reminded that God Himself loves us more than anyone it helps us to move ahead in life knowing that this life will pass away. Love and prayers to you.
This preacher does not understand marriage and divorce. Divorce is permitted for adultery. That's because they are no longer one by the adultery. Forgiveness is necessary but it doesn't repair the marriage. Kind of like person B shoots the arm of person C and person C forgives (and should forgive) person B --- person B still has to live with an amputated arm. As for abuse and abandonment, separation without re-marriage is the remedy for that. This is marriage/divorce 101 folks.
please pray for my husband Curtis, he wants to divorce me because of my trust issues, he no communicating he locks himself in bedroom. what should I do please help?
Pray for God to intervene in your marriage on your behalf, and be sure to make God number 1 in your life. Other people in our lives are, in fact, human after all. People may fail us, but God who loves us, unconditionally, will never fail us.
This guy clearly has not experienced a spouse leaving them, and dissolving a marriage.. This talk focuses SO much of the ideal and not enough on how to respond if your spouse breaks their marriage vows,.. It doesn not give hope to those crushed by the choice of another.. A loving Father does not require his children to continue submitting themselves to an unrepentant abusive spouse. Reconciliation is not the goal of Christianity, it is belief in a loving Father (faith) that leads to righteousness (obedience) through progressive sanctification. This message is unbalanced..
Does truth change depending on what you've experienced? Isn't it interesting how people understand God's stance on things like divorce and homosexuality with good consensus, but once someone close to them comes out as homosexual or divorced these same people "suddenly see" the "true interpretation"? Obviously it is hard to reconcile God's Word when you're hurt by something, but the correct course is not to trash the Word. Do you believe the moral law is set up to make you happy? Isn't its purpose to make you holy? God is way more concerned with your holiness than your happiness. And besides, Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that he finds people to be happier single. Marriage isn't the end-all-be-all to life. God is. I'm sorry you've been hurt by divorce. That is definitely one of the toughest pains (and God knows it, which is why He hates divorce like Todd said in this video). God does not require you to submit to an abusive spouse (obviously an unbeliever, thus falling under one condition given by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7). You are free to live a single life, pleasing to God! What you are not free to do is whatever you want that makes you feel good.
I believe it does love, for more clarification and action steps i suggest the read. One more try by Gary Chapman. It also addresses abusive spouses as well. Separation from abuse is good. And building yourself up during that separation is what would be asked of the believing spousing, praying that God will bring either peace to the divorced or reconciliation
These guys have an unbiblical view of reconciliation. Would you reconcile an elder in the church back to his position of leadership after he repented of his abuse or moral failing? No you wouldn't but you would be reconciled to him as a brother in Christ. Seriously? The ministry of reconciliation? That is what you are standing on? Meanwhile, how many of these elders are taking an active fatherly role in the children of single women? They better back up this crazy view with some real support to the children because at the end of the day, its the fatherless that should be lovingly at the forefront of this conversation. Christian Moms generally don't remarry because they want to have sex all day. They generally have their children in mind.
Can someone help me understand how Matthew 19:9 doesn't contradict Mark 10:11? Please tell me which premise you disagree with and why. Premise 1. The statement “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her”(Mark 10:11) means that ANY man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. Premise 2. If Matthew 19:9 is true, then there are men who have divorced their wives and married another without committing adultery. - “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.” Premise 3. If there are men who have divorced their wives and remarried without committing adultery, then it cannot be true that ANY man who divorces his wife and remarries commits adultery. Conclusion: Therefore, if Matthew 19:9 is true, then Mark 10:11 must be false.
libtech98 "Both passages say the same thing only in Matthew it gives a possible reason for the grounds of divorce." Consider the following two statement : 1. All birds can fly. 2. All birds can fly except for penguins. Both sentences say the same thing, only the second one includes an exception. Do you think that both of those sentences can be true at the same time? _______ "But even in the case of sex immorality Gods will and heart is always forwards reconciliation. Sin in one form or another is always the hinderance of progress." Can you explain how that's relevant to whether Mark 10:11 and Matthew 19:9 contradict? _______ "And in either case you each passage looks at both the marriage history of both the man and woman. Meaning that if a man on a supposedly biblical basis for leaving his wife remarried a formerly divorced woman he still commits adultery." Can you explain how that's relevant to whether Mark 10:11 and Matthew 19:9 contradict?
No the scriptures are not false but our interpretations of thwm are inherently flawed and that is why it is always best to let scripture interpret scripture. One passage speaks to "remarriage" and one speaks to "divorce". So in Mark, Jesus says in essence: To "divorce and remarry" you commit adultery. In Matthew Jesus is saying in essence: "I realise that your spouse cheating on you is something that you may not get over in the heat of it all so divorce, but DO NOT marry another as this is adultery." Remember that Christ's best is for reconcilliation of our covenant spouse and who knows sonewhere down the line whether this will happen....I like the Pastor's explanation for us and God's best in this situation as explained in Jeremiah 3.
Chad Ellis Matthew is speaking to the Jews as their custom in betrothal, they were considered man and wife. Betrothal is before they said vows and consummated their marriage. This was the case with Joseph who was going to put away Mary when he thought she was with someone else, committed fornication.
There are two ways: 1. The exception is redundant. Jesus never said if he divorces his wife for porneia and remarried he does NOT commit adultery. 2. The porneia is a defect in the joining together process, i.e. premarital unchastity (Not adultery which is a different word) so that the divorce does not separate what God has joined together. Contextually the second option is more likely, as a post-valid-marriage sin as an exception completely destroys the solid argument developed up to that point, as well as addresses the case of Mary and Joseph that Matthew alone said was intended to be resolved by the divorce by the just man. Porneia is the sexual sin of the unmarried woman and it is distinct from adultery, which is the sexual sin of the married woman with a man not her husband. It is not 'sexual immortality' it is narrowly prostitution and broadly the sexual sin of or with the unmarried woman.
I am a believer that married a none believer. He ended up goin to prison for selling drugs, I married him while he was in prison over the telephone. I knew I should’ve married him, I believe the SPIRIT of the LORD was warning me. Of course, I disobeyed. After, he was released from prison, he was deported. I left the USA to go live with him. After about 2 years, I came back here to have my son, he tried to sneak back into this country & got four more years in prison. I beg him not to, after 2 yr of him being in prison, I became frustrated and committed adultery & asked him for a divorce. After that i began to live an adulterous life. We were married 9yrs & 8 he spent in prison. Being married to him all that time, he never gave me a dime. By the grace of JESUS CHRIST, I was always the bread winner working& providing for us. I ended up remarrying. Also, while we were married he called me another woman’s name 2/3 x, I caught him emailing the same woman. Although, she lived in England & he lived in Jamaica. They were in constant communication. To add after he got of prison once we divorced, they married. My life situation is a mess. The 2nd husband asked me for a divorce Because he got into a strange religion while we were married. Now, before the divorce was final, he asked if we can stop it, but I let it go through, because I was under the conviction of divorcing my first husband & always felt like an adulterer for being married to my 2nd husband. Now the second husband wants us to remarry, but he’s not a believer. Can someone help me, i have totally messed up my life. Also husband number one is back in prison for selling drugs again.
if a guy and woman marries, but through behaving badly on both sides and one ends up moving away and no intention of moving back, and,,, the marriage license was never sent to confirm marriage... are they still married or will they have to go through legal divorce. i am asking for a friend
Jeanie Kelley U need to double check this but the unbelieving spouse can leave and u can let them leave .... please please check this for yourself and always ask our Heavenly Father x God bless you and your family x
I am a Christian women my husband is a Christian man he has left me about 7 months ago he has a other woman in his life and he still goes to church the pastor knows about it but the pastor said there is nothing he can do about it I have two children to him and we are still married to each other I don't go to church where my husband's go's to i go to other church
I believe pastors are not moving according to God's word when they allow such situations in Church. If I was a pastor I will not allow a married man in adultery with another person in Church until he repents and goes back to his wife.
Based on the information you provided, in God's eyes you are no longer married with this man as the oneness you once had has been severed by adultery committed by him. You may legitimately obtain a divorce. There may also be a pastoral/church discipline matter that has to be dealt with regarding your "husband" that is separate from your situation.
I'm presently dating someone that is divorced. This video just answered the question I was asking myself on the way home from work. I am a true believer!
@Oluwajoba Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse, Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!! May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all, ●●●●●●●●●●●●● Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage* ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER! ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● *MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV* “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. *LUKE 16:18 NKJV* 18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery. ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■ *1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV* 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? *1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV* 39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. *MALACHI **2:16** NKJV* 16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously. *MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV* Jesus' Teaching on Divorce 19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. 2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. 3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" 4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● These Scriptures apply to 1. a male and female marriage only 2. those who are married to their very first spouse ☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture ●●●●●●●●●●●●●●● God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses V/R
If someone cheats, admits it to the spouse - really regrets it, then the spouse wants a divorce but the cheater actually wants to stay together, WHO is the marriage breaker?
It’s a tricky question, but it isn’t. Taking what you say at face value, given that God never wants a wife to separate from her husband, as long as the cheater is contrite, the breaker is the one who refuses to accept the apology. To go further, Jesus told us to forgive our offender just as God has done to us.
Todd Wagner leaves out that Jesus said "except for fornication" in MT 19:9. Why? Is he unaware of this? Also, Jesus does not say "Divorce his wife" it says "put away his wife". Please explain the difference.
It is sad how often Matt 19: 9 & Matt 5 is misinterpreted. Jesus only gave that 'exception clause' if you want to call it that in Matt because the book of Matthew was not intended for Greeks and Romans or if you like Gentiles , it was directed for Jews and Jews had a tradition where betrothal was like an official marriage so Jesus allowed divorce in the case of fornication because the couple had not yet come together, in other words they had not yet slept together.
I married a Christian woman. She changed immediately. It was so bad, that I left her. Now I know I must be alone for the rest of my life. Too afraid to be an adulterer.
I fill your pain.
I admire those who follow God word - i too as woman alone - need a wonderful partner - may God bring us close
My marriage didn’t last long my husband didn’t want me to get a divorce buy I wanted to get a divorce. He wanted to save the marriage I didn’t want to save the marriage. So now I’m throwing the marriage away for good.
Michael, brother, you May have been married to a "Christian" instead of a Christian....not sure, I don't know enough of your story. Some people are extremely good at faking it.
Did your former wife end up remarrying?
My husband and I have been going through a rough and tough time in our relationship for the past several months, and we are now seeking Christian counsel, Praise Jesus I can already tell it's making a difference in a relationship! The Bible says that love covers a multitude of all sins and I believe that with all my heart.
How are y'all now?
I hope and pray you are both healing, together. God bless you both.
Peace, Lynne 🍃 💜 🍃
Divorce is very painful. My ex wife divorced me in 2016 and it is 2020 and I have not gotten over her and still cry thinking about our marriage ending up in divorce and remembering seeing her in that white wedding dress on the day we got married. My ex wife's smile was amazing. I love that beautiful smile she had on her face the day we got married. She is gone and my kids are gone. Divorce is like being at a never ending funeral. Just a song me and my ex wife would listen to comes on the radio it makes me cry.
I'm so sorry about that.
Idk how u frrl my brother but u hope god takes away ur pain n return ur wife back
My heart breaks for you brother 😢. I lost a woman I love as well, the heartbreak is still there. I’d give anything to have her back. I pray the LORD bring your ex-wife back into your arms, gives you both the strength to work through your problems, and restores the full splendor and glory of your marriage, in Jesus name, amen 🙏🏽
My husband left me for another women and kills me everday after 24 years together i felll your pain i hope he wakes up someday. His family needs him
I'm sorry the Lord is comfort 🌿
Please pray for my wife Rachel and I to be restored.
Update..... was it restored?
@@MrThockett how are things with your wife now?
remember what GOD JOINS TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASAUNDER
Attempts at reconciliation are all well and good. But it takes two and if only one party is willing to commit or admit fault or sin (if you will) it'll never work out. One party constantly hitting their head against an implacable brick wall is not only pointless and futile, but ultimately self-destructive.
You nailed it. If the leaving spouse feels as though they have done everything they can, counselling, bible work, tried talking to their spouse, and the receiving spouse doesn't want/intend/can't budge for whatever reason, then ultimately, what does one do? I need sex and attention. My wife, due to past trauma, claims she is unable to give me this. Where's the sin?
@@cre8ivjay The sin is here: "And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her." - Mark 10:11
@@Ssethtzeentach_enjoyer Yeah no.
My wife and I married 36 years ago,this is a remarriage.We will divorce be great celibate friend and live separate.However we will talk to each other daily see our grandchildren and keep on loving one another just separately.
@@cre8ivjay For anyone reading this comment: Love your wife the way Christ loves the church and laid his life down for it! The same spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in you and will give you everything you need for life and godliness!
I believe that we as humans before marriage , get lost in the idea of love and marriage without truly understanding the true meaning of unity .
Please pray for my husband Carlos that he will be saved and our marriage restored! Thanks
Praying for you and agreeing with you!
Thank you so much for this! There was a time in my marriage, and I have a hard time even admitting it to this day, that I was close to divorce. I deserved it. I did the actions that lead to that possibility (pornography and sexual immorality). My wife turned to Christian counsel and God and because of that we were able to seek help together and renew our marriage to a place where it is so much stronger today. This was only because of laying our lives before the cross and letting Jesus take care of the details. There were times, I will be honest, we both wanted to call it quits. The therapy sessions dug up deep-rooted issues on both sides that really were uncomfortable to talk about and deal with. I had to face the severity of what I had been doing and see the destruction it was causing. My wife had to dig deep to refind her faith in God and say some scary things out loud that cut me to the ground. But we both, with the strength of the Holy Spirit were able to come back to each other and reconcile the broken pieces back together. And because of it we are able to withstand the devils advances to this day with more confidence and strenghth than ever before. Praise the Lord for knowing what is best for us!
So you didn't repent, just let Jesus take care of it. No, it's not how that works.
@@CC..Jeremiah9_24 Seems to me he repented of his sin .
Great stuff congratulations
@@CC..Jeremiah9_24 So you are God now, ok I get it 👌
Aaron God Bless you and your family Lord Bless Love the Testimony.
Thank you for preaching pure, unaltered biblical truth on this subject! So refreshing!
Divorce is a real bad cancer. At first, it seems divorce is the solution - a lie from the pit out of hell. It damages everyone around them & in their lives. Putting away the divorce thought of
” I’m not happy in this marriage or I fell out of love” It’s ALWAYS, always, always best to work it out. No marriage is perfect or ever will be. Two imperfect people will never make a perfect marriage. Do everything possible to hang on to the marriage.
Irene i agree 👍🇿🇦🙏
I have a sister in faith that chose to abide in God’s word that are shared in this video. Even though her husband is currently still held by sin due to his hardness of heart, she stayed by his side up until now..continuing her walk with God learning surrender of pain, pride, forgiveness, radical love, patience. She says she feels the peace now more than ever and still continues to keep their marriage and feels the growth of her faith in God 🙌🏻 Because of faith and obedience, I see her happiness through her suffering overcoming sin that satan caused in their marriage
“Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.”
I Corinthians 7:10-11
This bible verse always gets no response. I wonder why?
I agree with this but what if they file and serve you and you still have done all they can and they have 2 other women ? Do you still stay?? I cant fathom living in this nonsense I want out ! It's too toxic and the sexual betrayal is too painful
@@christalhardy8771the bible says that u can get a divorce if your partner commits adultery
@@mambuchaa thank you .
Im.moving forward with the divorce paperwork I've tried to make it work for the last 8months,but will not stay married to a man who blatantly has another woman he is calling, emailing and visiting ,yet telling me lies ! I do not want to be reconciled at all ever!
Most christians I know are divorced and have beautiful wonderful godly 2nd marriages. I do not want to stay in a marriage with someone who has never loved me.
Kari Franci right. Im confused now
I say balony, those kind of people I despise
God does not want anyone to stay outside of marriage Marriage is encouraged by God and divorce is possible under Adultery and two other reasons. Remarriages are blessed buy God in certain circumstances because he wants people to enjoy marriage not suffer in it. So happy for you 😀 God bless
It is not what we can see on the outside but what is right in God's eyes. this life will all pass away one day but our eternal life is what it is eternally, the risk is much too big.
@@jonanamar9931 no , the Bible does not allow divorce after adultery. we must make sure we have a good translation of the Bible in our hands , the word is fornication not adultery, fornication is sex outside marriage .It is only used in Matthew because the book of Matthew was written in view of the Jewish nation whose betrothal (engagement) was an official marriage where in the case of a man finding out that his wife (who we would call fiancee , because they would be still during their engagement period before coming together )committed fornication, he could get a divorce . Unfortunately both translators of the Bible and pastors and leaders and teachers within the Church have misinterpreted such a delicate subject.
I’m okay with divorce, but before u get married u need to be 100% sure. I promise you that almost all people can find red flags before marriage. If u marry someone after 3 months well... there was ur first problem. If I stopped feeling loved or if my husband did something that showed me he didn’t truly love and respect me I would absolutely divorce him but my goal is to marry someone that I truly feel I can be with forever❤️ that should be everyone’s goal that’s why there’s a period before marriage called dating.
Sometimes it's not that easy, there's a lot of unpredictable things that can happen after marriage even if you do know the person well. God intended marriage to endure those hardships.
My husband committed adultery multiple times I've prayed kept to God's word tried to keep going even when I was miserable but I kept praying and believing. But he wouldn't care about anything I'd say regarding the adultery he kept fighting with me. Later he apologized after 2 years I thought we were going to finally make it but then he committed adultery again this time for longer than before because he blames me for falling out of love for me and he continued to lie all this time each time I needed proof when I obtained all the proof I needed he not once apologized and doesn't believe he did anything wrong because he didn't sleep with the other women but taking her out to places lying to me that he is at work or doing something else is something I need to keep enduring? He would eventually freely tell me that he would hang out with her after work everyday and does not feel remotely bad about it because they wouldn't speak about anything inappropriate (which was a lie) that it was okay even after I expressed that I was not at all comfortable with that. He continued to do what he wanted and acted like I was overreacting? I prayed over the years and kept finding him cheating & im not talking about him looking at other women & lusting over them but having inappropriate relationships with them. So I will not continue to put myself through that stress & all that I've fought for just for him to continue what he wants without a care. Nope 7 years married been with him for 10 years not consecutively & have known him for 13 years. God has really been helping me throughout this process w/o him I'd be in so much pain! 🙏
My soon to be ex chose to stop loving me. Chose to stop wanting to be married because I put my foot down and refused to keep changing to fit his ideal of what he wanted me to be. I never asked him to change. He chose to fall in love with someone else he though he could more easily manipulate. No, I will not remain married to someone like that. I deserve a Godly man that I can respect and be happy to be led by.
Pray for his salvation and spiritual maturity and keep praying. Pray everyday. The right one for you is out there , you can pray it for him too.
Also, tythe means God's law of 10% of our income belonging to the Lord. You can try tything to CBN's 700 Club ( www.CBN.com). People's testimonies on the website explain how tything to this ministry has healed their relationships and marriages. I believe it is helping me cuz when I started tything to it my family decided to move back to MN where I live and my household gets along much better. And it heals us physically. I believe trying this will bless you so much. God bless!
@@sierrasiennasavahnadesertn6605 10%? Is he trying to sue me?
@@asiandod325 No, tythe is actually a biblical term which means 10% of our income should be given to the Lord. Meaning it should be given to those in need. Its God's biblical law and we must be obedient to Him.
@@sierrasiennasavahnadesertn6605 Yeah, no.
@@asiandod325 I used to not take tythe seriously either so I understand.
y'all are a blessing. God bless you all on the show and all the viewers and those who read this comment. I feel like this pastor is highly inspired by the holy spirit. My instinct tells me this pastor is def. trying to spread the truth and I like the way he clarifies the scriptures. He doesn't change the scriptures He just gives clarification from Jesus teachings. Thank you for this show!
Lune Miel - May GOD bless you too!
Great way to approach this question. Christians are always infatuated with finding ways to go around God’s teaching. Instead of asking what are the steps they should take to save a marriage, they’re asking when it’s possible to divorce. That second part isn’t necessarily wrong, but more often than not, Christians want to feel justified and take the easy way out.
why did you not mention that there are three options and not two. it's not get divorced or stay married, but get God involved. my marriage is not possible without Jesus involved. there are many timed when I had to pray that she would have a change of heart or forgive me or that I need to change. but we had to rely on God. I tried solving problems without Gods involvement and it got me nowhere. I apologized to God because I thought I could fix our marriage on our own, It has to involve Jesus.
Joe Allen Barniak Amen brother Amen, We can't do nothing with God, because our strength comes from Jesus Christ.
Joe Absolutely! A marriage where is the Creator is the foundation is a life long marriage.
This doesn’t only apply to marriage. It applies to everything. Put the Creator first and all will be well. Learnt that the hard way and still learning.
God bless your marriage Joe!
Joe i agree 100% because i am a christian but maybe they didn’t add that because they know not all of their viewers believe in God. (Atheists).
Christianity marriages are satanic and demonic covenant. It's only demonic convenant that you can't withdraw. If your life is at risk and u no longer have security in ur marriage, leave. It only God who knows who shall go to heaven if truly it exists.
Danladi Ojito wtf are you going on about bro
Yes. Mathew is clear about this. Jesus’s words do not ignore his words. Anyone who preaches that divorce is impossible is of the devil and destroying marriage.Divorce is not a unforgivable sin. Adultery is a clear reason to be released from a marriage and remarry. God wants us to have relationships in Holy matrimony not outside of it. If your spouse has screwed around on you you can divorce and remarry. To remarry is trying once again to do things right before God.
Wrong Jonan Amar. Why bother to get married in the first place if you believe that divorce follows adultery, don't bother with marriage in the first place. Marriage is for life. Anyone who does not like God's plan should not get married but stay single but make sure they do not fornicate!
"So that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].". God Bless this man!
Sometimes it is because two people are totally different, it’s not fair to say that is always sin.I tried to do everything I could to save my marriage.If a person married a good compatible person for them they wouldn’t of had the problems, so there lies the problem.If you don’t have the same sex drive, or the same goals, you fight about sex, money and if you don’t agree with the parenting you fight about that too, big time. Dreams etc.
It is fair to say it’s always sin, because that’s literally what Jesus said it is
@@iamjulian2810 I've reconsidered and you are right.👍
I've been divorced for 2 and 1/2 years was due to lack of trust antabuse are those legal reasons to be divorced in God's eyes cuz I'm a True Believer I have not moved on with anyone yet but my ex has already remarried
You said it’s permissible to divorce because of ‘physical ‘ abuse .. well I’m here to tell
you that continual emotional abuse is shocking and just bad as physical abuse except that you don’t physically see the scars and it’s so damaging for the children . I’m sure God doesn’t want the wife and children to be dominated , controlled .. raged at constantly like I was for 20 years before I got divorced. After more then 20 years my ex husband still hasn’t dealt with all his dysfunction and emotional issues !! We are both Christians by the way
I remarried to a wonderful man but after 3 years of marriage my 2 nd husband had a massive stroke and now is incapacitated ( brain damage )because of it and is in care so I am on my own now ( for 17 years ) even though I am still married to him. I actually have prayed and asked Gods forgiveness for divorcing my ex husband ... I’m sure though he would’ve divorced me after some time of seperation anyway but that would have been his decision I suppose .
I’d be still married to my original husband if he wasn’t an abuser. I loved him . It’s very sad actually. I don’t really understand why God would want us women to be without a companion and partner in life after divorce .. why would He want us to be lonely on this earth and unhappy . He made us to need a partner and if a abusive male husband kills the marriage why is she the one who should be alone and sad all her life . I’m sorry but you who are sitting there are men and don’t even have a clue of what abused women and children suffer at the hands of their husbands .
Hi, personally I couldn't live with an abusive man. I would separate and not divorce, I think. You are fortunate you have had two husbands because I'm still waiting for my first husband and I'm in my 50s. There are alot of single women these days, Christian and non Christian who have not married. What is the answer..there aren't alot of committed Christian men..there seems to be more women. Also, I don't believe it's right for me to marry a divorced man if his wife is still alive and at my age..I can tell you most Christian men are divorced. So..yes..sometimes you are alone n lonely..cos we want to obey his word.
Emotional abuse is worser thn physical one...plz people let's talk bout this cause many end up getting sick and die because of this
too complicated! just take Pauls advice stay single focus on the Lord and preach the gospel. its the most simple route to heaven :)
TheEndIsHere FinalWarning Exactly! Marriage is not for all and sure seems hard. I’ve witnessed too many fail ones to know singleness is the way to be. Jesus Chris is enough!
Paul is not Jesus
Jonan Amar Absolutely! No one said was nor did he claim to be. John repeated what Jesus had once said.
TheEndIsHere FinalWarning....I couldn't help smiling at your response 😃😃😃
@@letmeexplain1816 ha ha me too :))
I got my son separated from his wife, not devoice yet,I always pray for both of them because I know that god hate devoice.Please pray for my son and the rest of the children of God who has a problem that they can not solve.
Did you mean to say , YOU , got your Son separated?
What about disobedience? Should we stay with a partner that we are unequally yoked with, when we married them while being a Chriatian? Ezra Chapter 9 and 10 says when we marry outside of the will of God, we must divorce to get back with God.
What about when an unbeliever walks away? I didnt want a divorce, he walked away. I've tried reconciling to no avail. I believe I'm free to remarry.This happened 20 years ago.
Darlenespencer777 marriage is more than a contract, it is a covenant meaning there is someone greater and that is God who laid down what marriage means. Jesus calls all those who marry the innocent party within a marriage an adulterer so whether guilty or innocent marriage is until one of the two dies.
Liz Cutajar does it not say in scripture that In this case , the believer is called to peace ?
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
@@lpl433 The word bondage in 1 Cor 7:15 means that a person is not a slave or servant, it is not talking about the bond of marriage because that is s different word ..deo..not doulos ..as in Rom 7:2; 1 Cor 7:27 & 39 which is talking about the bond of marriage.
darlenespencer777 To the Lord a day is like a 1000years and a 1000 yes is like one day. Where does it say in the Bible a person is free to remarry? It doesnt. Nowhere. Marriage is covenant not a contract.
I think the binding phrase is “ what God has joined together “. There are some marriages it’s not God that joined them together. For example, if the spouse has hidden some very important personal information from you and you married before you discovered it, will you say God has joined you together? I don’t think so. You were joined by deceit, and God cannot be in deceit. Also, if you’re the type who does Not prayerfully get God’s direction about a potential spouse and after marriage you become aware he/she is a witch/wizard or a mermaid, would you still remain married to such a person?. You probably met such a person in church, as has happened to some people. I think if you are able to divorce such a person, you should be grateful to God, else you would be destroyed; and I don’t think it’s God who joined you together. You probably went for him/her because of physical beauty/attraction alone, and later realized you’re married to an agent of darkness. These things do happen, and have happened to some Christians. One brother saw the lady in church. It was during praises time in church when he spotted a beautiful woman in the congregation also praising God. Then after church approached her and she consented to get married to him. He informed the church Pastor who told him he doesn’t feel comfortable about the lady so he let her go and look for another woman. Because of her physical beauty the brother could not let go of her. They left that church and went to marry in another church. He started having problems upon problems threatening his very life. So he had to go to his first Pastor and tell him all his troubles. The Pastor organized some praying people in the church and went to the brother’s home to pray. The Pastor asked for the wife to join them and she refused and was in the bedroom. In the heat of the prayer the Pastor asked the brother to check on his wife and when he went, lo and behold he saw what he saw. The wife has turned to a huge Python on the bed with a human head having his wife’s face. Will you say it’s God who joined them together and therefore shouldn’t divorce her and run for his life?
hey guys, when a woman suffer abuse from his husband, and feel threatened up to a point of even his look shows hatred towards her. So, she finally decides to tell her parents and friends to help her, then, she starts a divorce having proof of all this hard situation. Then, does a woman has rights, and deserve divorce to protect herself??? I just listen u guys discussing from a man points and it seems biased. how is this Gods will to let a woman be in this situacion???
separate, or perhaps divorce, but the only two options are to remain single or reconcile....
No divorce seperate only. Not a biblical reason for divorce. Remain single or reconcile.IF NOT REMAIN SINGLE NO REMARRIAGE
@@grant2149 so, abuse is not a reson enough to protect a human, rules are rules right? or do not you think God made exceptions, a room for every situation of life?
@@philipbuckley759 so, abuse is not a reson enough to protect a human, rules are rules right? or do not you think God made exceptions, a room for every situation of life?
SEPARATION!! READ YOUR BIBLE. NOT DIVORCE!! REMAIN SINGLE OR RECONCILE. BIBLICAL REASONS!!!
My wife is a believer but insists on getting divorced! She will NOT listen to the word of God! She says she’s good with God! Her and God are good, she says….
We don’t have biblical grounds for divorce! Is there anything else I can do besides pray?
My husband 24 yrs wanted me murdered , screamed in my face, hed cause me to vomit inc extreme chest pains, held me hostage , cut phone wires etc. Rarely wanted sex or romance. I was his emotional punchbag for 24 yrs 😭😭
I fled 4 my life nearly 2 yrs ago.Divorce almost finalized now.
Am i free 2 remarry one day?
No.
@Connie Long - I would refrain from even thinking about remarriage. If your husband was as bad as you have written, then you have a lot of mental and emotional trauma from being with a man like that for 24 years that likely hasn't been fixed in 2-4 years. Really, really work on yourself and your relationship with Christ. I do not know if I believe remarriage under those circumstances would be a sin (I'm still praying/reading Scripture about that) but I can tell you, I don't think 2-4 years in enough time for you to fix all the trauma you faced in a 24 year abusive marriage.
There should be NO ROOM FOR DIVORCE at alll!!! This is why persons go into it blindly. It's not a boyfriend , girlfriend thing, where you can just get up and feel to be 'unmarried' NOOO ONLY DEATH SHOULD SEPERATE YOU so no matter what happenes you have to find a way to work it out. if you, trying to make it work does not happen then you should seperate from your wife/husband. But ONLY if you agree to remain alone (by yourself) otherwise do the necessary,(RECONSILE) with him/her. and thats accordingto the bible
It's 😢😢 I pray by the grace of God that I remain single there is no reconciliation for me going back is losing my soul. We honor God's word not many want to see themselves unhappy
I find it funny that in every aspect of christian life the concept of "second chances" is preached. I'll bet no pastor alive would say. Since you didn't fully tithe last week you can no longer give to the church. Or how's this one. Have you ever taught something that you thought was true but wasn't? Does that disqualify you from ever teaching or preaching? So in every aspect of life you get a Do-Over except marriage. Marriage is the one thing that you only get one shot at. Never mind the fact that God made Eve to be a help meet to Adam and that was a COMPLETE failure. She helped him get his ass kicked out of the garden. With that kind of help who needs an enemy???
The only difference is that marriage is a Covenant and tithing or having a certain understanding about something is not so you cannot compare a Covenant which God made to human reasoning.
My husband have no respect for me he stand by and let my daughter abuse me and I begged him to help me and say something but he turned his back to me and walk away. There is more........ how can I stay with someone that treats me like I am in his way .
I have been married to a covert narcissist for 30 years. He goes to church and claims to be a Christian. I am so tired of the manipulation. Has anyone else been here? I am a born again follower of Jesus Christ. Should I divorce?
No don't divorce him. Just keep getting closer to God, and being a faithful wife. Don't let anything in this life make you deviate from the path of righteousness.
How do I reconcile with a non believer?
I am in this position, and I am not angry with God, I am in awe, and kicking myself for my ignorance. I was not a true believer when I married, and for the 7 years that we've been separated it's only been 7 months since I leaped off the fence into Jesus's arms.
(we havent actually divorced, but I have had two partners since him in 7 years, and a child by one. Hes been with many, and had 2 children by one)
It's clear, and yet confusing because it's not super detailed in the Bible. Except to say that I am to basically be perfect now. My walk has become more trying in this, and I dont feel the mercy in it.
I'm getting that I must accept that if the marriage cannot be reconciled, i can never have a man head of the house, and must remain single, and celibate for the rest of my years.
It is such a tough pill to swallow.
I'm heading in the same boat as you. And I'm so sad
Pray for Her Anthony. Without ceasing that her heart would be changed by The Lord. Don't give up!!
Luke 1:37
I'm sorry, I misred,...Pray for HIM Amber. Again, sorry for the above mistake
miguel jaime how are things going in your situation?
How are you doing in your situation ?
Couldn't have posted this on FB at a more needed time in my life!!! I'll be in touch very soon!!! Thank you
my husband had an affair,abandon me and divorce me.We both were serving the Lord since we were dating.I know God has told me to stand and never to remarry and I have to forgive him and love him as christ loves us and forgave us.I just having a hard time dealing with the pain of the abandonment... the affair was easy the divorce is not.i ask God what kind of testimony can I have now that i a christian woman divorced..
+Covenant Life I am sorry to hear about what you went through, my sister. I pray that God may heal your heart and hold you in His arms and restore your joy and peace. I pray that He may grant you wisdom and direction. I believe there is always hope and there is power in prayer. I have heard incredible stories of marriages restored, even after divorce, even after an affair. (there are many testimonies also on youtube. Just look for "marriage restored after divorce"). So, I would say... don't give up.Continue to pray for your husband to repent and to be touched by God. Pray for the miracle of reconciliation and restoration. I am praying for you too.
my friends husband had an affair, and they got back together. people make mistakes
i heard they can get be restores, it will take a miracle after all he done and how he has hardened his heart against me. i do forgive him i just left with the emptiness he left
Covenant Life....I'm in the exact same boat as you...was married for 31yrs loved him and tried to please him in every possible way, to no avail had 4 beautiful children but had a massive breakdown which literally brought me to my knees, both mentally and physically damaged and still am.......today I remain seperated because my spouse divorced me, and remarried....True, it hurts!!!! But all I can do now is pour-out all my love into my service to God and my children, family and friends....
I have so much joy and peace and contentment in yielding my life, my all to God...This lifetime here on this Earth is so short compared to Eternity which is forever and forever and forever and I'm not going to lose my Salvation for self-satisfaction in this life......I've had sorrow and remorse, sadness and loneliness and everything else that goes with a break-up... it was like a death to me I actually cried signing the divorce papers !!! But from it I've been able to heal....Spiritually, mentally and physically and to put my Faith and trust, hope, and my whole life in the hand of God, he's my everything and more, he is truly my first-love!!! AND I'm freéee😉
@@letmeexplain1816 so blessed with your testimony...we need to pray for more standers in such situations .
such a good testimony to your children too because how can we expect to teach what is right to our children if we cannot resist the flesh ?
…8AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9"What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
clearly no divorce allowed...
Patrick B
The two literally become one flesh with the production of offspring. Children are the one flesh result of two becoming one.
"Whatsoever God has joined together, let no man tear asunder."
This is more to do with abortion and killing offspring than divorce. Abortion is the literal tearing apart of the one flesh that resulted from the to joining together in a process called sexual reproduction.
As for divorce, Jesus reaffirmed the Mosaic law by stating divorce should not take place with the exception of adultery. Another words, the presence of adultery was justification, the only justification, for divorce. Likewise, a writ of divorcement was never an indication of remarriage, only separation of the current marriage.
THANK YOU! Divorce is not allowed.
Your body is one flesh. You should not shave or cut your hair or fingernails you are dividing your flesh. You should not pop blisters as they are part of your flesh. You should not cut out or try to damage warts as they are part of your flesh. If you have an issue with disease and a finger or toe or foot becomes gangrenous you should not cut it off. It is part of your one flesh. If you do you are adulterating the body and temple God created. Matthew 5:30
Corruption is corruption Jesus said to put corruption away from you. If your relationship leads you to sin then you may need to divorce. When a spouse wants an open relationship and goes out to experience that regardless of what you do you let them go. Not my circus not part of my life or consequences anymore. I'm not interested in who she is or what she does anymore.
Patrick you are correct Sir!
Romans 7:2-3
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
Mark 10:2-12
1 Corinthians 7:39
Matthew 19:5-6
Very very helpful and well said. God bless y’all. Amen
What about persons who marry young without thinking through what it means to be husband and wife. E.g at age 16 or 20 even. Or forced to be married in arrangements made by abusive parents at a young age. Must they spend the rest of their lives alone if they're divorced. What about child marriages? Where they're rescued. Is there no ability to allow another individual to now care for them the way they should have or the right to have a family/children.
Great questions , as I am fasting and praying now , I will pray for you .
This is a perfect example of why people leave churches, no one will preach the word, instead they give beliefs and opinions.
The only reason to divorce is if the woman has committed fornication before marriage (Matt.19:9)
Sex is marriage but it is between a husband and a wife.
If a woman is defiled she can't return to her husband even though they are bound together as long as he lives if she has not been divorced for her fornication.
This is Understanding!
please help me answer this, I am married to a narcissist, what does the word of God says about divorcing a narcissist. I love God a born-again Christian and want's do only what God allow, please help
heinz namibia i want to know too
heinz namibia - Hi! Pray to GOD! Let the HOLY SPIRIT lead you!
Abuse is abuse.
Says you, what does your spouse say
heinz namibia Pray to the Creator!
What if one of the believing spouses became an alcoholic (causing him anger, physical threats, & refusing to admit there was a problem)? After receiving counseling from our pastor, I went to Al-Anon meetings, and prayed for 4 years before deciding to leave him. This was an attempt to shock him into realizing he needed to return to the Lord & ditch the vodka...but instead, he divorced me for leaving him (not adultery). We've been divorced for 5 years and he still drinks. Are you saying that God want's me to stay single, because I'm divorced?
+bethbagley *Yes you must stay single or be reconciled back to your husband*
1 Cor.7:[10] And unto the married I command, *yet not I, but the Lord,* Let not the wife depart from her husband:
[11] But and *IF SHE DEPART, [LET HER REMAIN UNMARRIED], OR BE RECONCILED TO HER HUSBAND*: and let not the husband put away his wife.
yes... it seems so unfair... he is part of you that can not be unjpined to his dies...or you die... this is not a contract with loop holes just in case.... my daughter has the same thinking and i hoping before she ever marries she thinks twice as marriage is a life time no matter what happenes..
Covenant life, so help me answer these questions, 1) If one marries a divorcee what should one do, as clearly now it seems one is living in adultery? 2) If you put away such a divorcee, what are you supposed to do? stay single as well? 3) Is a marriage without parental knowledge or consent lawful in the eyes of the LORD? Would appreciate your response
cooljc26 - Yes - we have to live with our consequences. These are consequences of sin. I have been in a bad marriage for many years - but I cannot leave even though my husband does not claim to be Christian or serve the LORD. My parents both told me not to marry him - I did not honor my parents and now this is my consequence of sin by not honoring my parents.
But I will not focus on my bad marriage - I am focusing on the LORD and eternity - Glory To GOD!!!
It is never God'will for marriages to break down but we have to understand that God'ways our not our ways. Marriage is not a contract, -it is more than a contract, it is a covenant . A contract is between 2 equal parts but a covenant is among 3..there is someone greater than the two and that is God who he himself instituted marriage according to Gen 2:24 .
Matt 5:32 and 19:9 makes it clear that it would be a case of adultery for anyone to marry the innocent part ( some translations leave out the latter part of the verse)
Rom 7:3 also says that a eoman is bound in marriage until death...referring to a covenant marriage...not remarriage as it would defeat the very context.
The exception is not for divorce of a one flesh marriage. The exception is for a marriage that God has not joined together.
This can be seen by the literal translation of the Greek.
Also when the exception is used for unfaithfulness the innocent wife is made to be adulterous and doesn't work for the exception intened.
This is the best divorce teaching I’ve heard
the church does not have any clear idea on this and has skipped over this issue not wanting to offend people.Me personally knowing we are living in the days like Noah I can understand why people no longer have the same goals.Divorce is only done after very carefull consideration and trial and I do not think God is going to hold you to a dead contract.l
Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse,
Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!!
May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all,
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Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage*
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DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER!
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*MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV*
“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
*LUKE 16:18 NKJV*
18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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*1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV*
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
*1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV*
39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
*MALACHI **2:16** NKJV*
16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.
*MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV*
Jesus' Teaching on Divorce
19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,'
5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
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These Scriptures apply to
1. a male and female marriage only
2. those who are married to their very first spouse
☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture
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God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses
V/R
The Bible says that God is forgiving, shows mercy ,gives grace. For everyone has sinned and will sin till the day they die. God WILL forgive divorce as he also forgives murder, gossip, judging others etc. Tell me when does He stop forgiving? If we repent and don’t CONTINUE in our sin . If you think remarried people are going to hell your going to be very surprised 😯 in heaven!
Perhaps you do not understand the biblical view of marriage. Marriage is two becoming one and is effectively ended when a party becomes one with someone else (adultery). This is why divorce is allowed for adultery. Think of it as person B shooting the arm off of person C. It is good and necessary for person C to forgive person B but person B still has to live with the injury of losing an arm. Adultery effectively ends a marriage and this aspect is unaffected by forgiveness.
shadowmist The Bible teaches us that blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is unforgivable. All other sins are forgivable. Matthew 12:31-32. What about a man lusting on women and committing adultery in they’re heart is that forgiven? Yes it is. We all sin and need forgiveness. We repent and turn from repeating that sin.
@@Angela-co7nm Absolutely all other sins are forgivable. But your implication is that forgiveness is dependent on whether or not the severed arm grows back. Regarding divorce allowance by Jesus, his allowance for divorce for adultery would be referring to the action of adultery which severs the oneness. Otherwise everyone would be able to divorce for simply looking at someone the wrong way.
I would agree with you when it comes to marriages between believers. However, when two are unequally yolked Paul addresses in such a way that permits divorce and remarriage in 1 Cor 7:15. And, if neither are believers in a marriage, I posit the question, "Were they ever truly married to begin with?" For they didn't believe and surely weren't making vows to Yahweh in Whom they don't have faith.
+Samantha DeVoir hi Samantha, 1 Cor. 7:15 simply gives an allowance to *let go*, in case the unbeliving spouse wants to leave. (This is simply because you cannot force someone to STAY against their free will.). But it does not imply automatically that this means automatically allowance for divorce. In the same chapter, in fact, just a few verses earlier Paul says that divorce is not God's will, but if a divorce has occurred, the believing spouse should remain single and/or seek reconciliation.
In 1 cor 7:15 Paul says "in that case we are not bound, but we are called to peace".
The word "bound" is often misinterpreted as "the bond of marriage", meaning that if the unbeliving spouse departs, the marital bond is automatically broken. this is a false interpretation. The word "bound" in that passage means "enslaved". And it is NOT the same word that Paul uses for describing bound, in the sense of a marriage bond. Like he does in 1 Cor 7:39. there the world "bound" *is* a different one than used in 1 for 7:15. and it means "bound in marriage". Note that Paul never mentions remarriage being an option in the verse you quote (1 for 7:15). Even if you interpret the passage as an allowance for divorce, you can't just jump to conclusion that "therefore remarriage is ok". That would contraddict what Paul teaches just a few verses earlier. (in case of divorce,...either remain single or seek reconciliation). If a non believer abandons theri christian spouse, and the Christian remarries, that would not be a very christian response, because it would be like saying "I don't believe that my previous spouse can ever repent and ever become a christian and come back to me". We - as christians - are called to display the love of God through out our marriage and even within a divorce that has been forced upon us - God forbid - in case of abandonment. We are to love our spouses as Christ loved the church. We - the church- are often unfaithful to Jesus, we often abandon him or depart...but he patiently remains faithful to us, He seeks after the lost sheep and leaves the 99 who are safe, and He is willing to take us back and forgive us as soon as we repent. h'ope this helps. Blessings
Samantha DeVoir I agree and this is not addressed. Many folks get married who are not believers and even marry for ungodly reasons, ie, to pay the bills, because they don't have anyone to be supportive, or for even the sharing of duties. All of which is a violation of what calls you to be. You are to trust in the Lord to meet your needs; have an equally yoked mate; and pray and ask God is this person who you would have me to be with.
For these reasons, when someone disobey God, there will always be divorce.
This video falls short of complete bible teachings.
There are well-known teachers and evangelists, both men and women, who are divorced and remarried. The Father has blessed their second marriages and their ministries. If these people were living in perpetual adultery, I don't think that their lives and ministries would still be functioning.
My husband planned our divorce since 2006! He was waiting for our youngest to turn 18 to divorce me. And he was a Christian who had an affair early in our marriage. I FORGAVE HIM. She came to our house looking for him. Twenty six years later he divorced me for another woman. He refused to reconcile even during separation and started dating. Told OUR kids he had divorced me in HIS heart while married to me. Real Christian man right? Not.
I would love to be part of YOUR church to HOLD people accountable to the WORD.
Definitely not signs of a regenerated christian. Just because many claim to be one bible's very clear evidence must show forth of a true christian (James 2:18) so sorry to hear about your story.
1 Cor 7.11 11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
How do u restore trust?
little, by little.....
RECONCILIATION & RESTORATION = NOT 3 BUT 1
Im a christian and i divorced my wife of 8 years i tried to lead my family by the fathers hand but she cheated on me left right and side ways shes now still with the same guy she cheated on me with she now haveing his baby i lost my faith and my church because of her and this man will god avenge me will he judge the man that came in and took away my family will he judge her will god defend me in all this
The bible never assumes permission to remarry ?
(Deuteronomy 24:2 KJV) And when she is departed out of his house, "she may go" and be another man’s wife.
That scripture alone gives permission to remarry !!!!
But she’ll be called adulteress because a woman cannot marry again while his husband is still alive Romains 7-3 Matthew 5:32 but I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for the cause of sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is put away commits adultery.
@@danielshama3097 Romans 7:1-3, Paul isnt really talking about the terms of being married, divorced, remarriage in these verses. He is using the concept of marriage as a means to describe how we were once bond to the law, but now dead to the law, by the body of Christ being sacrificed so that we are free from the bondage of the law. This is mentioned in verse 4.
(Romans 7:4 KJV) Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
Even if you was to use this verse as a means to determine rather or not it is right to remarry, notice that it only implies a marriage that is without a reason of fornication. Christ himself said "except that of fornication".
Besides that, "putting away" and "divorce" arent the same thing. As a matter of fact, they they aren't even the same word in Hebrew or in Greek.
Strong's Greek #630 Apoluo
* The common word Apoluo translated as: " put away" or "putteth away" is (the same as the Hebrew equivalent of the word shalach) which means" to send, separate, send away or leave," NOT divorce.
* Used 94 times in the New Testament.
* 18 times related to a separation in marriage or intimate relationship (not divorce).
* 76 times used in other ways.
* Apoluo NEVER meant divorce, but a "separation."
Even Paul also said that if someone leaves, let them leave, and you are no longer under the boandage of marriage.
(1 Corinthians 7:15 KJV) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
If you are divorced, then how can you still be under the bondage of a marriage ?
Also,
(1 Corinthians 7:27 KJV) Art thou bound(married) unto a wife? seek not to be loosed(divorced). Art thou loosed(divorced) from a wife? seek not a wife [stay single].
This verse first refers to those who are married to not get a divorce. The second part refers to those who have divorced.
(1 Corinthians 7:28 KJV) But and if thou marry [again], thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
The first part of this verse is still referring to those who are divorced, that if they get married, meaning married again, have not sinned. The second part is referring to those who have never been married and get married, they have not sinned.
Once you understand the basic truth about marriage in the bible from beginning to end, the question of remarriage is a simple one to answer. Marriage is the two becoming one and adultery effectively severs the oneness. Therefore the party that was offended by remarry so long as it is with someone who would not be committing adultery by joining with them.
How do you iníciate reconciliation if the other spouse doesn’t even want to wave hi 👋🏼 to you? He avoids me at all cost. 🤷♀️
Suyapa - Pray for Him that his heart changes. Ezekiel 36:24-27 is a good prayer for that. Dont give up on him, KEEP PRAYING FOR HIM WITHOUT CEASING!! God will honor your Obedience. Marriage is for Life no matter what "any men" shall say or do.
Romans 7:2-3
1 Corinthians 7:38
Mark 10:9
Stand firm on these biblical Truths. God bless 🙏
I know the feeling, just keep the faith and pray for a change of heart
let's go to the beginning, in Genesis 2: 20-25 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for man there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. The NT confirms that in 1 Corinthians 11:8-9 For man is not of the woman, but woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man. Going back to Genesis 2: 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one FLESH. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Unfortunately, many marriages end up in divorce without seeking nor searching the scriptures in the Old and New Testament to find out how unpleasant the answers for loopholes and accommodations to please the flesh will be. We start with Mathews 5:31-32; 19:3-9, Mark 10:1-12; and Luke 16:18 Jesus, commanded man (AND NOT WOMAN) the only grounds to put away his wife was for the cause of fornication. (AND the only scriptural mentioning a wife is found in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 where we have Paul giving adivce and regulations concerning MARRIED CHRISTIANS: And unto the married, I command, yet not I, but the lord, let not the WIFE DEPART from her husband: But if she DEPART, let her remain UNMARRIED or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife) That can easily be understood to mean a caution to the born again husband or wife who would want to depart from the unbelieving husband or wife is further explained in verses 12-16. Going back to what Jesus was answering the Pharisees and scribes was reaffirming the exact law Moses suffered man in the Gospels and to do away with "for any and every cause" man was exercising, but from the beginning it was not so. Sadly, Man was divorcing his wife for many unfounded dissatisfying and unhappy reasons. They had twisted and distorted the truth in Deuteronomy 24:1-3 "When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it came to pass that she hath found no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some UNCLEANNESS in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife:" These scriptures were easily misinterpreted to mean a betrothed by husbands even today, but a betrothed was a customary practice among the Jews to contract a matrimony till fulfillment and after the festivities were held the bridegroom then brought his bride home, these men conveniently believed to mean "for any or every cause." Today, the very same thing is being practice between husbands and wives divorcing "for any and every cause." Congregations filled with illegal marriages becuse ministers avoid preaching about the truth on divorce to avoid losing pupils; UA-cam, podcasts, and books filled with indept analysis, many assertions are not dogmatic, with plenty of historical perspectives from a variety of differing theologians and scholars who are filled with doubt, that don't seem to have an answer available to us. However, UNCLEANNESS is well defined in Numbers 5:19, (in fact, read from verses 11-31, The law of jealousy): And the priest shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to UNCLEANNESS with ANOTHER instead of thy HUSBAND, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth the curse." Although, Moses law of divorce was allowing a wife to remarry to avoid the hardships a wife endured and forced into like committing adultery, cursed, or killed, and not "for any and every cause" man had tempted Jesus with, it was an unpleasant answer for divorcing his wife, that was not originally in God's will. Again, the only biblical ground in the NT for the wife to be put away and allowed to remarry without committing fornication while her husband remains alive is a devoted believing wife's work of faith and labor of love for Jesus, that the unbelieving husband rejects and wants nothing to do with, and decides to divorce her can be found in 1 Corinthians 7: 10-16. Other than that, there are no scriptural grounds [where Jesus gives a wife a right to (if her husband commits fornication) to put him away (nor for abandonment nor for abuse as is in some unfortunate cases today). All we have is If she does depart she must remain unmarried]-not one scriptural. Our Lord Jesus knew a wife is bound to the law of her husband till he dies and her curse; thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee. In fact, there are no provisions for a wife to have the rights to divorce her husband! Reread and search the scriptures. Women don't be deceived! Proverbs 6: 34-35 For Jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou gives many gifts. AND Numbers 5: 29-31 This is the law of JEALOUSIES, when a WIFE goeth ASIDE TO ANOTHER instead of her husband, and is DEFILED; Or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before the LORD, and the priest shall execute upon her ALL THIS LAW. Then shall the man be GUILTLESS from INIQUITY, and this woman shall BEAR HER INIQUITY. Man is clearly given provisions to divorce his wife if she commits fornication to dissolve the marriage covenant, and the only arguable debate many have is who is endorsed or qualified to remarry without committing adultery. Many argue only the innocent and meaning, the HUSBAND, but not the guilty in this case, the WIFE. Matthew 5: 31-32 and 19:3-12 Jesus said unto them, whomsoever shall put away his wife, (saving for the cause of) or except it be for fornication, (causeth her to) or shall marry another, committeth adultery: and (whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commiteth) or whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Our Lord and Savior meant, except for fornication one must not divorce his wife; except for fornication, if one puts away his wife he causes her to commit adultery; and except for fornication dissolving a marriage, one who marries her that is put away commits adultery. Consequently, men avoid divorce "for any and every cause" which is clearly illegal.
This divorce thing is much more trickier when you realise that the person you married is not even your type. How do you deal with living with someone who cannot really make you happy even if tried?
The simple biblical truth of what marriage is - is not complicated and doesn't alter based on varying moments in time and varying situations. Adultery effectively severs the oneness. These truths do not change based on your situation however complicated it may be. Separation may be the remedy in your situation however divorce and re-marriage would not be possible unless the other party commits adultery.
@@shadowmist1246 so if we separate and one of us commits adultery along the line, is that a pass to divorce and remarry?
@@chordkeys A pass to divorce? Yes, of course. A pass to re-marry? Yes for the innocent party and no for the party that committed adultery.
@@shadowmist1246 wow, this is serious. I really have respect for God's word, if not, I would easily go for the divorce. if I knew marriage is this serious, I would have waited till now that I am 35. I wish I knew the things I know now
@@chordkeys Yep, we're all in the boat of "if I only knew then what I know now.
The problem is that people lie in divorce cases. A church will never know what really went on, nor a courtroom. Only God does. In the Bible I can't see there being religious ceremonies as we have today. We know Jesus changed water into wine at a wedding feast and we know women were given in marriage by their fathers to their spouses. So commitment was there, but it was not the responsibility of a priest/elder/pastor to marry the person as far as I'm aware. We are all accountable to God as he is the fair judge.
I would say a divorce is very devastating and ugly especially when there's children involved there was quite a few things I didn't know back then what I know now if you can reconcile the marriage then by all means do so but for whatever reason you can't reconcile marriage and it ends I reckon it is what it is at that point I won't get into detail what happened to me but all I will say it was ugly devastating it cost me some money
Divorce is the appropriate remedy for adultery. But yes - very messy especially when children and/or courts are involved.
Tho I never been married I feel like I have been divorced!
I quit going to church for the third time. I'm sick of this world of deceit! 💔😩
I hope you started going back
Why did you stop going??
Change Churches, but don’t give up on God. He has plans to Bless You!!
I see no verse that divorce is allowed for abuse. Only sexual immorality and abandonment
Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse,
Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!!
May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all,
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Since God Is The Authority* *Over All Scripturual Marriages* *Let's us see what The* *Authority God Himself says* *about Marriage*
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DIVORCE IS SCRIPTURALLY NEVER EVER APPROVED BY GOD, NEVER!
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*MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV*
“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
*LUKE 16:18 NKJV*
18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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*1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV*
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
*1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV*
39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
*MALACHI **2:16** NKJV*
16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.
*MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV*
Jesus' Teaching on Divorce
19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,'
5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
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These Scriptures apply to
1. a male and female marriage only
2. those who are married to their very first spouse
☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture
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God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses
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@@nextlevelamazing7865 I do not agree with this theology on no remarriage for the two exceptions. I suggest people read this book on the three theological views of remarriage and have the Holy Spirit guide them. www.amazon.com/Remarriage-after-Divorce-Todays-Church-ebook/dp/B0050O6P1O/ref=sr_1_5?dchild=1&keywords=Remarriage+Christian&qid=1609420916&sr=8-5
Let me explain something to these guys...when you marry there are 4 standing there saying "I do" ..you ..your partner..the government...and maybe God. The government partner adds to the end of the vows in most states "and for any reason you are unhappy.. ignore what this God guy says..because I have final say in this arrangement not you two or God. You need not even speak with your partner Or struggle at all...you can just come to me and file a no fault divorce, and I will decide how when and how much." This aught to be manditory added to the end if the vows. I am serious. Do you all understand now the weight God actually holds in all this?
Interesting! I noted how you put maybe God. You are right though because come divource time God gets pushed completely out of the picture
If the man and woman marries without understanding what they are doing and decides to get a divorce will god still punish or condemn them? Because when you are young it’s possible to make poor choices not knowing?
My spouse and I have been separated for over a year he chose to leave the marriage as far as I know there was no proof of adultery but I recently found out he was on a dating site... I stood and prayed for my marriage for about a year in hopes of reconciliation however, God also gives us free will and it really takes two willing individuals for reconciliation I was told that his mind is made up many times which broke my heart and the divorce has been filed. If an unbelieving spouse wants to leave you must let them Go. God has called us to live in peace. I am just going to focus on living in peace and who knows what God has in store for my future wether we are reconciled or not only God knows the plans he has for me and I’m perfectly okay with that !
I will pray for you, and if you were the one to file for divorce I encourage you to rescind it and require him to be the one to do so since he is the one who abandoned the marriage. It's interesting that he left for a year but never filed in that time, which shows he wanted to stay married to you even if he is covering up his low self-esteem by seeking out other women. I pray and hope that you two can reconcile and that he comes back to God and fulfills his vows as God has called him to do.
But what if the other person doesn't want to make it work with God? I am only 20 am I suppose to stay single once the divorce goes through
Hello Zabdi!
Please see 1 Corinthians 7 for help on this topic. From Paul's words, there are a couple of applicable truths for your situation.
If an unbeliever desires separation, you are called to freedom from the bondage of living a married life. But, as verse 39 says, you are bound as long as you both are alive.
You should pursue God, and be open to God changing the heart of your partner and perhaps full reconciliation one day. But if that never happens, Paul says that he perceives that you are happier being single. Use that gift to live for God!
Michael Arnold have you ever been divorced ?
@@yodasoja2011 she is free to remarry. To be young and single isn't really good either for the burning in lust is another issue Paul talks about. Sadly Christians dont realise the truth is some marriages break down causing a bitterness towards God because they think its secured already! and every marriage is different. We cannot control our spouses neither does God.
Please pray for reconciliation in my marriage
Same
Update....still praying.
At 5:11-12 you bring in the term "the exception clause" and even claims Yeshua taught that: This is simply not the truth! And when you later on argue that abuse etc. give justifiable reason(s) for divorce, you deceive many people. Of course it's ok to hide or live in different places etc. but that doesn't in any way require or even mean divorce!
Dont let there oppion upset you. Im sure these men are trying to live out there conviction to the best of there experience and understanding of Scripture. Just as im sure you do as well. Let us each try to honor Jesus with our lives and do all things in faith.
Remember the cross is what makes our obedience & right standing with God (Romans 4:8) (Ephesians 2:15) "by abolishing in His flesh the law of commandments and decrees....."
(Colossians 2:14) "having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemns us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross."
1 John 4:1 ....believe not everyone and try every SPIRIT by the word but
JUDGE NO ONE BY ANY STANDARD OF RIGHTEOUSNESS ..... Matthew 7:1
DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE ADULTERY
Matthew 5:31-32, Deuteronomy 24:2-4, Mark 10:11-12
CONSENT TO THE WORD AND AGREE THAT IT IS GOOD, AND THAT THERE IS NO GOOD THING IN YOUR FLESH. THESE LAWS OF MORALITY IN MARRIAGE REVEALS THE PERFECT STANDARD BY WHICH MARRIAGE WAS MEANT TO SERVE AND PROVES MORE OF THE IMPERFECTIONS OF MEN WHEN THEY DON'T MEET THAT STANDARD AND HIS INDEBTEDNESS TO THE LAW,
The Sermon on the Mount, that includes the Law of DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE, beginning in (Matthew 5:20 - 48) represents a perfect standard of true righteousness and a mirror to reveal how far we fall short of it, if not at one point surely in another, for instance while most would agree that murder deserves judgment, but in the perfect standard of true righteousness just being angry with one another deserves judgement also, HOW MANY REPENT FOR JUST BEING ANGRY WITH THEIR SPOUSE OR ANYONE.
BUT THIS AS WELL AS THE OTHER PERFECT ACTS OF TRUE RIGHTEOUSNESS DESCRIBED IN THIS SERMON BY JESUS, INCLUDING THOSE OF DIVORCE & REMARRIAGE, FURTHER ESTABLISHES OUR DESPERATE NEED FOR A SAVIOR AND TO BE JUSTIFIED & ETERNALLY REDEEMED BY FAITH IN CHRIST'S RIGHTEOUSNESS NOT OUR OWN RIGHTEOUSNESS BY ANY LAW (Philippians 3:9) (Luke 18:13-14) (Romans 7:24-25) (1 Peter 1:18-19) (Hebrews 9:12)
IF YOU FIND THAT YOU DID LIVE UP TO GOD'S PERFECT STANDARD, REJOICE WITHIN YOURSELF AND MAYBE BEFORE OTHERS (Romans 4:2) BUT NOT BEFORE GOD, BECAUSE THEN IT TURNS YOUR HEART INTO SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS (Galatians 2:21)(John 15:10, 12) (Galatians 5:14)
KNOW THAT IT IS CHRIST THAT MAKES US WITHOUT SPOT OR WRINKLE (1 Peter 1:18-19)
Never! But the bible does permit separation, but you are to remain single
THANK YOU! The Bible does not permit divorce it only permits separation. Thank you!!!! 🙏🏾
no... better to marry then to sin
I want to obey God. Alcoholic, and diagnosed schizophrenic husband of 18 months has left the marriage because he will not stop drinking. Even after extensive rehab and under psychiatric care and medication, he still will not stop drinking (which counter acts his medication), so what your saying is after extensive therapy and exhausting every medical intervention and spiritual counseling, he has left and I am to.........just stay alone, abandoned for the rest of my life? Or do I have to wait for him to find another woman and divorce me?
What do you mean by abandonment?
What if you've already divorced and remarried, are you saying that there's second marriage isn't honored by God as a true marriage?
Remarriage is considered as adultery biblically.
1st Corinthians 7 :39 this means your still joined to your 1st spouse so the second marriage isn't called by God
Absolutely
Did u become a Christian after your second marriage if so u are now a new creation in Christ Jesus also if u are truly sorry for your mistakes u can always ask for forgiveness that’s why Jesus died for us x we are not perfect but if we truly seek forgiveness through Christ Jesus then we can know that we are forgiven x
John1:9 if we confess our sins he is faithful to forgive us....
I too am struggling in my marriage i hope our Heavenly Father guides u please put your trust in him in Jesus name I pray x
@@edithl348 how do you know that God did not seperate the two people that are married? Because they are not good for each other? You have to remember one flesh also means spiritually.
What if my married life is severe pain, what if I actually look forward to death because there seams like there IS no legitimate reason to divorce, but the unhappiness is as thick as mudd,..& everything is just ugly, how come nobody ever gets real about this?
It is truly sad when marriages don't work but many a time other marriages who looked just as bad did not go through divorce. What I am trying to say is that it does not mean that if the marriage is bad divorce is the solution. There could be instances where separation is advisable but divorce and remariage is not part of God's plan.
Screw that divorce them Gadon! It’s not worth it! Watermark is a cult lol
God ultimately wants us to be happy.
Wrong. God cares more about our holiness than He does about our happiness.
@@best5345 excatly
I HATE Divorce because GOD hates divorced. I so agree with all you say. It's ALL biblical. Thank you. Can hardly find anyone who upholds His Word anymore.
Actually noone does, when I met my wife I was in a very bad spot in my life after an accident and being homebound for 4 years, she was running away from her husband who tried to kill her 2 times after becoming possessed by demons & choking her unconscious and trying to throw her off the top floor of the building....we met and we are married and we serve the lord....it isnt akways as cut and dry as you make it sound bud.....make sure you take the log out of your eye before you take the twig out of someone elses.
@@chaboi7 There are basic truths in the bible about marriage, adultery, and divorce and they do not alter based on the complexities of circumstances. The fact of the matter is unless there was adultery by your wife's former husband, your wife would have committed adultery by marrying you. If he did commit adultery, then she was likely free to marry you. Granted, separation/legal separation/police would have been necessary for her but these situations do not alter the definition of marriage.
@@shadowmist1246 I know how you feel but again, I fell, she fell and now we're 7 years together, don't forget that king david not only committed adultery but he also had the woman's husband killed but david was still a man are God's own heart.... I'm not saying what we did was correct, I'm saying there's hope for those who haven't lived a perfect life
But Jesus said, "Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn't for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked-or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you're capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it." (Matthew 19:11, 12 MSG)
I married a narcissist who was addicted to porn, dealt with mental issues, chose food over me. Degraded and humiliated. Me. He took me through HELL. I got out! Im glad and will never look back. God will send me the man he chooses for me. Who just sent me this video as a guilt trip. Narcissistic at its finest. Jeremy dont tag me in nothin else!
I don't know who Jeremy is, but I hope you don't try to get remarried while your first spouse is still alive, because if you do then you'll be considered an adulterer. Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
@@Chriskindle1excatly
Please pray for me and my marriage, my dear wife wants a divorce cause I failed her miserable in the past. I believe in reconciliation and I have changed my ways and want my marriage🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Matthew 5:32 (NKJV) But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:10-15 (NKJV) 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
So because I committed sin on getting married to a woman that had been married before had children before our marriage and left me for a man she was cheating on me with and has children with him all this before I knew Jesus Christ I have to stay in sin and reconcile with her or stay single for the rest of my life now that I know Jesus and be all alone ??
Were you husband number 1 or number 2? Just trying to get an understanding of your situation.
@Lori Navel I'm sorry to hear that your husband was physically abusive towards you, but if this husband of yours, as unfit as he might have been, was your first lawful spouse, then as long as he is still alive, you cannot remarry, if you intend to make heaven that is. Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
@Lori Navel You're welcome and God bless
Part of a verse should not be considered in isolation. Those who are being judgemental have been ignoring 3 parts. Firstly , in order for them to be one flesh, the husband / wife shall leave their parents, secondly there must be some cleavage ( sexual intercourse) and thirdly God must have united them. Part 1. What about a husband who won't move away from his parents' house (or bad and ungodly influence) and the latter are abusing his wife verbally and physically like in a family which went to the extent of burning their daughter in law? Since there was no (leaving) , there couldn't be one flesh. Part 2. Someone mentioned a case whereby the 'husband' left the one he married (I won't call it his wife without all the components mentioned in the verse) to be with another man without having any sexual intercourse with her. Do you considered them as a married couple meeting the criteria? Part 3. Someone got married in an arranged wedding (as it's often the case in Asian families) and is now suffering or a man married a woman because of her belongings. Do you consider that it is God who has joined them together and that the person should keep on suffering?
Now consider the Samaritan lady, Jesus said that she had 5 husbands and considered the one she was living with as a concubine (not her husband). Note that he did not say one husband and 5 concubines.
I also believe that God is a God who can restore a family but not everybody is open to changes. I have seen Him restoring families but also godly women becoming a wreck under abusive husbands. What we need to do is to ask for God's guidance. Why don't you ask God to help you to see things the way he sees and for the Holy Spirit to guide you in the truth? It's true that the traditional view of marriage is to stay till death. But at the beginning was there 'one flesh'?
God restored my marriage by coming together seeking God for help she wanted human therapy but we chose God me being the man I had to take the lead as priest which is not easy I could not be who she wanted and needed to me to be on my own merit I was sinful to the core In prayer alone I decided to wholeheartedly seek the Lord and wholeheartedly submit to His will which began the sanctification of our marriage I had to forgive she had to forgive we both had to look in within at our own faults and make changes and not bring everything that upset us to each other but bring it to God in prayer so the other is not overwhelmed like they do nothing right and no partner does nothing wrong bring problems with a compliment of what is done right and what needs some work and let it be done in love we had to fix defense mechanisms the way one acted out when angered that are dangerous to a marriage and when the flesh or devil creeps in you pray together immediately. The man must stand his ground in Christ no matter what and leave room for error for the other whom you committed similar sins together giving grace and prayer to God and leading by example or shall I say spouse Because sometimes it's opposite its so much I can say but this is my experience.
Reading you is painful because of the lack of punctuation.
So let me get this straight if for example a husband steps out of the marriage after a month of getting married starts a life with his mistress and after 2 years he comes back what should the wife do??
Seek wise counsel, because the marriage has been violated.
If you are divorcing but leaving the door open for reconciliation, why wouldn't you just get a legal separation?
I hope emotional abuse from narcissists can be recognized by church as abuse. My husband cheats, lie, emotionally distant, hate intimacy and hate commitment. He wants to be free and he victimized other girls
Yes that comes under adultery and must be dealt with.
Sounds like my husband and he hides under religion and his image and wants me to stay quiet about his affair. I have not stayed quiet and so he has filed papers but will not put adultery as grounds wants the easy way out.its very frustrating and he wont go to counseling either
@@christalhardy8771 I remember my aunt her husband had children outside of their marriage and she still took him back, at end of his life he was struck with cancer and regretted everything he had committed - sin will take its toll it is a punishment within itself. I pray that you stay sane and recieve help you need.
@@lpl433 thanks for the encouraging words it almost took me out when he confessed of the affair of 3 years out of our 11 years together. I just had a miscarriage in jan but now at peace ,God had given me dreams about him and another woman always around us, for months prior and then he confessed this July. I dont wish him harm but the lying of the affair on paper is what angers me. I am praying for total healing of my heart. Thanks for sharing her story,and for the prayers
@@christalhardy8771 thanks for sharing your story, completely undertstand as I was raised in this type of environment. May the Lord give you peace, sometimes when we are reminded that God Himself loves us more than anyone it helps us to move ahead in life knowing that this life will pass away. Love and prayers to you.
This preacher does not understand marriage and divorce. Divorce is permitted for adultery. That's because they are no longer one by the adultery. Forgiveness is necessary but it doesn't repair the marriage. Kind of like person B shoots the arm of person C and person C forgives (and should forgive) person B --- person B still has to live with an amputated arm. As for abuse and abandonment, separation without re-marriage is the remedy for that. This is marriage/divorce 101 folks.
please pray for my husband Curtis, he wants to divorce me because of my trust issues, he no communicating he locks himself in bedroom. what should I do please help?
Pray for God to intervene in your marriage on your behalf, and be sure to make God number 1 in your life. Other people in our lives are, in fact, human after all. People may fail us, but God who loves us, unconditionally, will never fail us.
This guy clearly has not experienced a spouse leaving them, and dissolving a marriage.. This talk focuses SO much of the ideal and not enough on how to respond if your spouse breaks their marriage vows,.. It doesn not give hope to those crushed by the choice of another.. A loving Father does not require his children to continue submitting themselves to an unrepentant abusive spouse. Reconciliation is not the goal of Christianity, it is belief in a loving Father (faith) that leads to righteousness (obedience) through progressive sanctification. This message is unbalanced..
Does truth change depending on what you've experienced?
Isn't it interesting how people understand God's stance on things like divorce and homosexuality with good consensus, but once someone close to them comes out as homosexual or divorced these same people "suddenly see" the "true interpretation"? Obviously it is hard to reconcile God's Word when you're hurt by something, but the correct course is not to trash the Word.
Do you believe the moral law is set up to make you happy? Isn't its purpose to make you holy? God is way more concerned with your holiness than your happiness.
And besides, Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that he finds people to be happier single. Marriage isn't the end-all-be-all to life. God is.
I'm sorry you've been hurt by divorce. That is definitely one of the toughest pains (and God knows it, which is why He hates divorce like Todd said in this video). God does not require you to submit to an abusive spouse (obviously an unbeliever, thus falling under one condition given by Paul in 1 Corinthians 7). You are free to live a single life, pleasing to God! What you are not free to do is whatever you want that makes you feel good.
I believe it does love, for more clarification and action steps i suggest the read. One more try by Gary Chapman. It also addresses abusive spouses as well. Separation from abuse is good. And building yourself up during that separation is what would be asked of the believing spousing, praying that God will bring either peace to the divorced or reconciliation
These guys have an unbiblical view of reconciliation. Would you reconcile an elder in the church back to his position of leadership after he repented of his abuse or moral failing? No you wouldn't but you would be reconciled to him as a brother in Christ. Seriously? The ministry of reconciliation? That is what you are standing on? Meanwhile, how many of these elders are taking an active fatherly role in the children of single women? They better back up this crazy view with some real support to the children because at the end of the day, its the fatherless that should be lovingly at the forefront of this conversation. Christian Moms generally don't remarry because they want to have sex all day. They generally have their children in mind.
Can someone help me understand how Matthew 19:9 doesn't contradict Mark 10:11? Please tell me which premise you disagree with and why.
Premise 1. The statement “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her”(Mark 10:11) means that ANY man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her.
Premise 2. If Matthew 19:9 is true, then there are men who have divorced their wives and married another without committing adultery. - “I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the grounds of sexual immorality, and marries another commits adultery.”
Premise 3. If there are men who have divorced their wives and remarried without committing adultery, then it cannot be true that ANY man who divorces his wife and remarries commits adultery.
Conclusion: Therefore, if Matthew 19:9 is true, then Mark 10:11 must be false.
libtech98 "Both passages say the same thing only in Matthew it gives a possible reason for the grounds of divorce."
Consider the following two statement :
1. All birds can fly.
2. All birds can fly except for penguins.
Both sentences say the same thing, only the second one includes an exception. Do you think that both of those sentences can be true at the same time?
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"But even in the case of sex immorality Gods will and heart is always forwards reconciliation. Sin in one form or another is always the hinderance of progress."
Can you explain how that's relevant to whether Mark 10:11 and Matthew 19:9 contradict?
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"And in either case you each passage looks at both the marriage history of both the man and woman. Meaning that if a man on a supposedly biblical basis for leaving his wife remarried a formerly divorced woman he still commits adultery."
Can you explain how that's relevant to whether Mark 10:11 and Matthew 19:9 contradict?
No the scriptures are not false but our interpretations of thwm are inherently flawed and that is why it is always best to let scripture interpret scripture. One passage speaks to "remarriage" and one speaks to "divorce". So in Mark, Jesus says in essence: To "divorce and remarry" you commit adultery. In Matthew Jesus is saying in essence: "I realise that your spouse cheating on you is something that you may not get over in the heat of it all so divorce, but DO NOT marry another as this is adultery." Remember that Christ's best is for reconcilliation of our covenant spouse and who knows sonewhere down the line whether this will happen....I like the Pastor's explanation for us and God's best in this situation as explained in Jeremiah 3.
Chad Ellis Matthew is speaking to the Jews as their custom in betrothal, they were considered man and wife. Betrothal is before they said vows and consummated their marriage. This was the case with Joseph who was going to put away Mary when he thought she was with someone else, committed fornication.
There are two ways:
1. The exception is redundant. Jesus never said if he divorces his wife for porneia and remarried he does NOT commit adultery.
2. The porneia is a defect in the joining together process, i.e. premarital unchastity (Not adultery which is a different word) so that the divorce does not separate what God has joined together.
Contextually the second option is more likely, as a post-valid-marriage sin as an exception completely destroys the solid argument developed up to that point, as well as addresses the case of Mary and Joseph that Matthew alone said was intended to be resolved by the divorce by the just man.
Porneia is the sexual sin of the unmarried woman and it is distinct from adultery, which is the sexual sin of the married woman with a man not her husband. It is not 'sexual immortality' it is narrowly prostitution and broadly the sexual sin of or with the unmarried woman.
I am a believer that married a none believer. He ended up goin to prison for selling drugs, I married him while he was in prison over the telephone. I knew I should’ve married him, I believe the SPIRIT of the LORD was warning me. Of course, I disobeyed. After, he was released from prison, he was deported. I left the USA to go live with him. After about 2 years, I came back here to have my son, he tried to sneak back into this country & got four more years in prison. I beg him not to, after 2 yr of him being in prison, I became frustrated and committed adultery & asked him for a divorce. After that i began to live an adulterous life. We were married 9yrs & 8 he spent in prison. Being married to him all that time, he never gave me a dime. By the grace of JESUS CHRIST, I was always the bread winner working& providing for us. I ended up remarrying. Also, while we were married he called me another woman’s name 2/3 x, I caught him emailing the same woman. Although, she lived in England & he lived in Jamaica. They were in constant communication. To add after he got of prison once we divorced, they married. My life situation is a mess. The 2nd husband asked me for a divorce Because he got into a strange religion while we were married. Now, before the divorce was final, he asked if we can stop it, but I let it go through, because I was under the conviction of divorcing my first husband & always felt like an adulterer for being married to my 2nd husband. Now the second husband wants us to remarry, but he’s not a believer. Can someone help me, i have totally messed up my life. Also husband number one is back in prison for selling drugs again.
if a guy and woman marries, but through behaving badly on both sides and one ends up moving away and no intention of moving back, and,,, the marriage license was never sent to confirm marriage... are they still married or will they have to go through legal divorce. i am asking for a friend
What if the spouse is not a Christian and not willing to reconcile or restore the marriage?
Jeanie Kelley
U need to double check this but the unbelieving spouse can leave and u can let them leave .... please please check this for yourself and always ask our Heavenly Father x God bless you and your family x
You let them leave..you can't force them to stay..I am not sure if you can remarry though. The spouse may come back..but of course, they may not.
@@flinryder7119 they can leave but the marriage is still until death.
I am a Christian women my husband is a Christian man he has left me about 7 months ago he has a other woman in his life and he still goes to church the pastor knows about it but the pastor said there is nothing he can do about it I have two children to him and we are still married to each other I don't go to church where my husband's go's to i go to other church
I believe pastors are not moving according to God's word when they allow such situations in Church. If I was a pastor I will not allow a married man in adultery with another person in Church until he repents and goes back to his wife.
Natasha Goolagong. His pastor should not allow sin in the church
Based on the information you provided, in God's eyes you are no longer married with this man as the oneness you once had has been severed by adultery committed by him. You may legitimately obtain a divorce. There may also be a pastoral/church discipline matter that has to be dealt with regarding your "husband" that is separate from your situation.
I'm presently dating someone that is divorced. This video just answered the question I was asking myself on the way home from work. I am a true believer!
I dated someone who was divorced to. Knowing the truth definitely helps. Still hurts, but it helps. Eventually all will be well.
@Oluwajoba Very Respectfully With All Due Respect Good Gods Day, 1st Scripturally you both must be each other's first spouse ever, If you happen to be a 2nd, 3rd spouse Scripturally God does not even see the marriage because no divorced person is Scripturally they "CAN NOT" re-marry no one new, they Scripturally "MUST" go back to their very first spouse,
Separation is "THE ONLY" authorized resolve that God The Heavenly Father Scripturally allows for marital problems that exist within a marriage that Scripturally consist of the marriage being the "VERY FIRST" marriage for both parties, Scripturally God "DOES NOT" authorize divorce "NOT AT ALL" but Sctipturally God The Heavenly Father Authorizes A separation "BUT!!!!" Scripturally the separation has to be for the purpose of "RECONCILLING THE MARRIAGE", while you both are seperated you both are Scripturally Commanded to be "WORKING ON RESOLVING YOUR MARITAL PEOBLEMS TO THEN EVENTUALLY YOU BOTH COMING BACK TOGETHER, THE LORD KNOWS THAT SOME THINGS DO TAKE TIME BUT GOD COMMANDS RECONVILIATION OF THE MARRIAGE, BOTTOM-LINE!!
May Gods Holy Scriptures In Gods Love Enlighten all,
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*MATTHEW 5:31-32 NKJV*
“Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
*LUKE 16:18 NKJV*
18 “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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*1 CORINTHIANS 7:10-16 NKJV*
10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
*1 CORINTHIANS 7:39 NKJV*
39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
*MALACHI **2:16** NKJV*
16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one's garment with violence," Says the Lord of hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.
*MATTHEW 19:1-9 NKJV*
Jesus' Teaching on Divorce
19 1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"
4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,'
5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."
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These Scriptures apply to
1. a male and female marriage only
2. those who are married to their very first spouse
☆Only a spouse that is deceased from the one living spouse is Scripturally allowed to remarry, no one else is allowed to be remarried according to Scripture
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God does not Scripturally authorize nor does God even acknowledge 2nd-second 3rd-third and 4th-fourth spouses
V/R
If someone cheats, admits it to the spouse - really regrets it, then the spouse wants a divorce but the cheater actually wants to stay together, WHO is the marriage breaker?
It’s a tricky question, but it isn’t. Taking what you say at face value, given that God never wants a wife to separate from her husband, as long as the cheater is contrite, the breaker is the one who refuses to accept the apology. To go further, Jesus told us to forgive our offender just as God has done to us.
Todd Wagner leaves out that Jesus said "except for fornication" in MT 19:9. Why? Is he unaware of this? Also, Jesus does not say "Divorce his wife" it says "put away his wife". Please explain the difference.
It is sad how often Matt 19: 9 & Matt 5 is misinterpreted. Jesus only gave that 'exception clause' if you want to call it that in Matt because the book of Matthew was not intended for Greeks and Romans or if you like Gentiles , it was directed for Jews and Jews had a tradition where betrothal was like an official marriage so Jesus allowed divorce in the case of fornication because the couple had not yet come together, in other words they had not yet slept together.