Yes, I started asking for more from my husband and while it's definitely been a treacherous, bumpy and slowly moving roller-coaster ride, I'm glad I started standing up for myself and sharing with him that I needed more from him. He's since headed uphill full steam ahead and is definitely doing the work to work on and save our marriage. And, yes, I've got work to do and am currently working on my issues as well. ❤😊❤😊❤😊❤
ONE MORE THING, do you know why men do not ask? Bc for men asking is equal to making a DEBT, so when they ask something they are in debt with the person that gave them something. So, you ask? They are giving, BUT EVERYTHING ask, they are counting in their heads as though you OWE them! That is their mentality, pretty much everywhere in the world.
@@inkagarden8939exactly they moved a bunch of homeless guys off the street up the road from us and put them in hotels but I get the feeling some of them still didn't listen and they stayed outside pushing there carts full of stuff up the road they dont like charity places like that because a lot of times there is some kind of catch to it and they wont be able to do their drugs or get drunk. It also emasculate them especially if it was a woman that proposed the bill for them.
I think she'd be better off divorcing him, then she'd not have to deal with 4 children, but the 3. It's sad he fooled her into getting himself into the gene pool with that mindset. Disgusting.
This is what i tell any woman who says they want a rich man. Marrying rich is no guarantee that that man won't be stingy, wasteful or financially abusive. Choose wisely...
The issue is theyre seeking rich men and have no othet standards. It should be: 1. Rich. 2. Generous 3. Protector 3. Good father 4. Respectful 5 GOOD man. Those are the non negotiables, being rich is just one ☝️
So true… Showing you care and respect and being a man with emotional intelligence is more important. The sharing of wealth and generosity should be an extension of that intelligence.
I have dated so many 7 figure men. All of them were immediately stingy, informing you that any future will include a prenuptial, and see every ask as a sign they're being used. Meanwhile, I found a wonderful life with a man who earns barely more than I do, but is ready and willing to give me everything he can. I let him marry me, and because I also have my own bag I bought us a house. So I guess I wasn't a gold digger.
@@Lala-lw6pitrue, that does happen sometimes; however some women do look for all of those traits in rich men, but can’t find them because A. Not a lot of super wealthy bachelors just walking around B. As mentioned by other commenters, a lot of people that make that much money tend to have those stingy personalities regardless
@@galek75 You’re in the wrong channel if you think sex is casual. Women of worth will only have sex with men who have continuously demonstrated his willingness to protect and take care of his woman
This just waters relationships down to a sex/money transaction... which is really sad. Sex shouldn't be a "favor" a woman does for a man; both of you should be getting enjoyment out of it, and if you aren't, it's because he sucks in bed or is selfish.
My bf earns only slightly more than me. Still every month he buys me new clothes, makeup or accessories. He often comes home with chocolate that I like. He also likes to take me out. It’s ok for us to be a little bit materialistic I think. My bf said that he grew up seeing how his father would buy his mom expensive gifts from luxurious brands all the time and he’d think about how nice it is to love a woman and be able to spoil her and make her look and feel nice. Stop lowering your value by dating crappy men… let them be single and lonely 👀
@@-Clarence-i can see from your comment history you are going through something painful at home and are tying to make yourself feel better by spreading that pain to others. I wish you all the best, Clarence in your journey of life. I truly hope you can realize one day that rudeness is never the answer, life is so much better when you only speak when in good faith ❤ take care bro
This woman is spitting out some gems Alot of times these men who ask for 50/50 will usually be saving their money to give to a future side chick woman.
I would love to reap the benefit of being a side chick, so I can get extra $$$ and send him home so I can enjoy that extra money. But Karma and God would come knocking eventually....a lesson I've already learned YEARS ago. The wife never found out...but my spirit knew it was wrong after I cut it off he became stalkerish. I eventually moved due to a better career/opportunity ... God was like I saved you because you didn't understand what you were doing. Now I have more than enough $$$, very grateful. A man's extra...is no match when it comes to God's supernatural abundance. Be careful ladies, I knew a few gold diggers paying a hefty price after being used & discarded ❤
If a “low income” guy ($100,000 or less) doesn’t do small acts to make you feel better when you’re suffering. He’s also a hard NO. I was sad the other day and my BF who is in another state for work, door dashed me ice cream, candy and flowers. He’s spends countless hours on the phone with me having meaningful conversations. He’s generous whenever he can be!
Be careful of this though. Many men do long distance because they are low-effort relationships. They like it because it isn't full commitment. It's much different living with someone and sharing their space.
FYI in many Native American cultures boys were raised to be good hunters for others. When a young man wanted a wife he had to prove to her family he was a good provider. He had to bring deer meat, horses, etc. And he had lots of older male guidance to be a good man, too. This is bare minimum stuff! If a man wants his genes passed on and someone keeping house for him and his offspring then he NEEDS to provide. I’m so glad younger women are waking up. I hope it’s a global movement because we need to be more discerning about who we let into our lives and who gets to pass on DNA.
Women should really become more selective so there would be less struggling single mothers or abused women. Not every man deserves to have woman and children.
@@nobodyelse7911 in the eastern world, confucius ruined it all - or rather his followers who skewed his words to benefit men. apparently confucius was not staunchly in favour of having sons to the point of abusing a daughter in law for not birthing a son.
It’s funny how this is the “spoiled girlie support group” because the bar is so low that when men actually invest the same effort into their relationship and family that women do, a woman feels spoiled.
Both genders are complaining that the other is spoiled, but as a man i wanna put it out there that the lowest a woman could really go is to be a housewife or do sex work but for a man its homelessness or jail. Its waaaay tougher for us, the only reason you gals think we have it easy is because of our scaling. Men have higher scaling stats but women have higher base stats.
@ddp47297 Too many women living in abject poverty right along with the men in third world countries for that to be true. There's nothing an impoverished man faces that an impoverished woman does not also face except for increased rape risks and post-partum deaths after child birth. So that's actually more. I think people who make comments like yours really don't know how the world works.
No problem identifying and labelling a man to be inferior/less/down/lower/beneath....based on income However I have yet to hear the language be used to identify a superior/more/up/higher/above man... The language is *partner*... "There are plenty of men below women yet no man above women" is the consensus that I am gathering...which is insane. What an interesting time of revelation .
My bf is not fatherless but he still wants a superwoman like his mom. And she looks super-tired trying to maintain positive attitude every time. Be carefully, girls
My ex lived rent-free with me in the house I bought before we were married, and he'd still complain about not going 50/50 on utilities. Like, sir, I already paid up front. My wallet is now forever closed.
I just turned 30. I’m in a place in my life that I don’t have a lot of female friends rn. I moved across the country during the pandemic and have suffered extreme solitary. Your channel has been the girlfriend I need in as advice and proving myself that I’m not crazy in my feelings. I don’t normally comment on videos but I just want to thank you for your perspective.
I’ll be 30 in a few months and same, I have like one female friend who’s busy living her best life with a good boyfriend. Though that means we aren’t hanging out as much and being in a male dominated industry (R&D in physics) doesn’t help…
This title is everything. We are not rich, but we don't struggle. I have stay home mom friends whose husbands make more money than mine and they have to lie about things they've purchased or defend everything they buy. Once I left my part time job I told my husband, I will never break the bank, I respect our mortgage, bills, etc, but I have expenses and I never want to be questioned or shamed about them and he's always honored that. And YES, fatherless men are absolutely yellow flags for various reasons. Seeing women as lazy if they're not working outside the home and possible mama's boy syndrome needs to be investigated.
You are right. However, with the fatherless men, depends on the society. In southeastern Europe where I live, fatherless men are usually better providers (" so my kids& wife don't suffer like Mom& myself& my siblings did") than men with " traditional" fathers, who were either taught that " it's a woman's job to spoil us", or the father was physically there, but emotionally absent, and the son acts the same after he gets married. I saw that many times. When dating, they boast of their " traditional" family ( it turned into a yellow flag for me to hear that) but when you go to visit his family you see that the reality is what I have described above.
@@CS-bu7lo I am actually married to a fatherless man. He had the same mentality. He will never have his wife or child struggle. Yellow flag, not always red.
I had a date with a rich man years ago who took me to a picnic at the park, made me split the bill from the supermarket and carry the items in my hands to the park because he said it was a waste of money to spend 10 cents on a bag. My current partner is not rich but he is the most generous man I have ever met. He doesn't go to the corner shop without bringing me something.
Majority of rich men inherited their wealth or scammed their way to the top. Rare to find a rich man who built his wealth independently. You will see this in their behaviour. Very stingy because they are living in fear and lack.
My fiancé absolutely had my back when I got made redundant. Nothing was an issue for him. We are on comfortable money but certainly not raking it in, and we're also currently mid wedding planning. It still wasn't a problem. I decided I wanted to look into different types of work. He had no issue with whatever my pay was going to end up being. The only thing he was adamant about was that any job role I took had to be good for my mental health. I am very grateful to have found a fantastic man, and I hope all the other spoiled girlies here get to experience the same should they want it!!
Dudes will ALWAYS BETRAY YOU. Just NEVER rely on a man for anything. Make sure you can always take care of yourself. Even if they are a perfect partner, you never know what could happen.
. @nardip4999 That mindset is why you'll be betrayed. How can you find a decent man if you don't have any high standards for them? If you assume the bar for men is the ground, you're gonna settle for men below the dirt. Get higher standards and be picky You're basically saying "were all gonna die anyways, so why bother living?"
My partner does not have a lot of money but he is a kind and generous man. He got a small inheritance, and i mean small, and i haven't had to work since. While i haven't been working, I've been able to land a job that i love through my volunteer efforts for after the first of the year. I wouldn't have had the time or energy to do that without his generosity. Thankful for my generous man!
"When a hard winter comes, the lone wolf dies, but the pack survives"-- Game of Thrones by GRRM Martin. In nature, lone wolves are the grown male pups that need to find another wolf pack ,in order not to mate with their sisters and female cousins of their origin pack. However, they are lonely briefly, if they are capable, they are received by a new pack, where they can find their mate ( wolves mate for life).
I was reading Yuval Noah Harari’s Sapiens and he made a point that the best male in animal communities are often those that are well-liked and knows how to properly communicate with others. The media likes to romanticise lone wolves when that’s not how it works either in nature or in real life.
I’m a successful Alpha female , I run alone .I’m individual and I don’t conform .i attract rich successful alpha males .i don’t run in a female pack , I chose my own value and direction .
This is the quote!! I’m going to say this from now on- cause it’s sooo true. 🫶🏽🙏🏽💯 “Remember, in nature, a lone wolf is a failed wolf. Successful wolves are in packs” ~ Brisket Tacos
@@dianebell8677yup all that too - but networking is still needed for real success. No one can be successful by themselves. We live in a world that requires networks run by ppl. Not pressuring ppl to not be alone (it’s healthy and needed) But No real successful person is a lone wolf. They are a lone wolf because they are unable to connect to ppl. They will never be able to reach their true heights. This doesn’t mean one needs to be in a relationship romantically - but it does mean that one needs to know how to connect to ppl to build connections.
I recently dated the cheapest, stingiest and greediest rich man. I was purely disgusted by him and confronted him. He was shocked and had zero awareness.
I feel so blessed that I have a fiancé who talked to me about these things because bringing it up makes me a little bit uncomfortable. Like finances and stuff. He just straight up said “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of everything.” He is a very frugal no nonsense type of guy, and I was really surprised that he is very generous when it is with me or his friends.
The way men raise their daughters and women raise their sons is sooo diffrent. My mom was more absent than my dad. My dad taught me to work hard. I looked up to him as he came from nothing and work hard to go to University and get a well paying job while supporting yourself without help from others. Looking up to my dad taught me to push through, set goals and reach them. While my ex who was raised by a single mom was exactly how you described: His mom worked hard, did everything for him, never learned him how to be independent and thought the was justified in doing nothing for me, because his mom sacrificed everything for him without ask for anything in return.
@@Maggiebenjeepartly yes, but not completely. I do see many men that were raised by single moms being coddled more. Their mom often raises them to expect things to come to them and not work hard. Whereas my dad explicitly taught me to work hard for things, because you are the only way who can achjeve your goals. This was a part of my upbringing and I was taught to be hardworking and independent.
So true. Mine told me to work hard. So hard that once I turned 17, he saw fit to quit his job and expect ME to support HIM from there on out! I had just had summer jobs at that point, and when I turned 17 he stole the money from my account and transferred it to his without warning. Crazy
I have a family member that apparently insisted on 50/50 while his wife was pregnant and then still on maternity leave. I was both baffled and appalled. Thankfully, they don't do that anymore, but people do not give pregnancy and child birth the reverence it's due. They treat it as if women don't die in either state. As if this isn't an emotionally, physically and mentally challenging time for most women. This is insanity to me. I passed a human being through me and now you wanna stress me out about finances? Bring back _shame_ . 😤😤
I literally had this convo with a man who saw his single mom work 3 jobs and told me that he would resent a woman sitting at home all day long while he is gone making all of the money….. asked him if he thought that domestic work (which he expected his wife to do)was valuable because there are entire careers built on domestic work and you don’t plan to pay her to do that work? Literally our last conversation.
100%. My ex lied to our mutual friends/community and let them think he was paying for my expenses while I went back to school. He made enough money to support me, he just didnt want to.
Oh mine too! He came with me to buy a car, telling the people there he was going to be making the payments, which was news to me. Then after I bought it and had it for a few months, he marched up to the dealer a couple times with a check in hand he delivered IN PERSON to them to make it look like he was paying. Of course it was only those 2 times. I paid the other bazillion months. He also liked to make fun of how "old" my car was, and how I should just "leave it unlocked because no one would ever care to steal it anyway". Nevermind he had newer cars that he kept letting get repo'd for non payment. Which was weird because he had the money (I saw it) to make the payments, he just "didn't like to pay them". So bizarre
My culture is RAMPED with pickmeishas and baby mothers it is so normalized. I get into fights with my father because I told him I was not going to live like my deceased mother in a 50/50 relationship. Your channel helps me keep my sanity thank you so much 🙏🏼
@@haahmayan9637 I’d let my corpse be eaten by my 40 cats than give the average dusty man in my culture a chance. Thank you for the good wishes! I’ve been with provider men before and I am never looking back especially if I decide to have children.
It’s true that generosity and wealth don’t always correlate. Some of the most generous people I know didn’t have an abundance of money but still gave everything they could, which imo means more because it’s more of a big deal for them than someone who is wealthy or rich.
I was a trophy "wife" and a victim of abuse simultaneously. One of these was financial, which made it VERY hard to escape the abuse. The big house and all they the other glitz made it look glamorous on the outside, but inside, it was absolutely hell. It was all a facade. It is so important to have your own financial stability. I physically got out, but I'm still fighting the legal battles against a powerful man. This is the single hardest battle I ever faced, and my child is involved. That financial safety net is super important. Especially when you factor in that the professions that attract narcissists are CEOs and surgeons.
Oh my goodness I am so so sorry. Fighting legal battles with a wealthy man in a rigged system… Please look for any support you can. And remember shame belongs to abusers, not victims. Any shame you’re made to feel should be his! Other women have gone through similar things and there’s groups that exist to help women in situations like this in a lot of places. You don’t have to fight alone, our greatest strength as women is our ability to connect with others and to build strength from and for our communities
This is horrifying! As a middle aged woman, I would never put up with this. It was just a given that men support their wives and children. The woman is turning to their family? My family would lose their mind if I turned to them with this problem. I also say this as someone who’s mother worked, and my parents always had separated accounts their entire 45 year marriage. They never went 50/50. My dad paid all the bills and my mom paid for her car, and us kids. But if either one needed money they made it happen. The bills still got paid, and we were taken care of. I never saw my parents fight about money. Ever.
your dad was a true provider. a real man. Sadly, these days, if a woman, whether she's a gf or a wife, makes it known to man, that she wants man to be "manning'" as Elle once put it, in financial regard, most men will be like - oh that means you are a good digger who wants to live in my expense like a leech. !
Sounds like my German ex husband and wondered why I didn't wanna have his children. Got remarried to a Russian man and couldn't be MORE HAPPIER! Great video!
ha, wow, so some stereotypes are true. My current, soon to be ex bf is Dutch....well, some stereotypes are true sometimes, I have had front row seat experience now. I come from other kind of culture, further up in Europe and although we are far from Latino warm and cheerful temper, we are generous toward our family, friends, loved ones. It gives joy to give 💛 So the opposite is hard for me to understand.
Coco!! I've been following your UA-cam channel for years for skater girl content, and I'm shook that you're a spoiled girlie too! It makes me love you even more! I'd love to skate with you some day. Blessings to you and happy nuptuals, sis! ❤🎉🥰🥳
@@AmericanDreamerThe Dutch are notoriously stingy and will charge you back just from breathing the same air as them. If y'all want a provider man, then avoid Dutch men and Scandinavians, as they all have a culture of 50/50. Ofc there are exceptions to the rule but I think it holds true for most of them
Coming from a German woman - German men are some of the stingiest men out there while literally expecting EVERYTHING from you. Good to hear that he's your ex-husband now!
It's much harder for women to make money in the first place being sexually harassed and not deemed as capable just because of gender so 50/50 is not actually 50/50
Absolutely! I was sexually harassed at a job, left, went to another and it happened again! I had just transitioned out of modelling and into corporate. I left the work force for 3 years(COVID was a blessing in that way). Mentally and financially it was bad. I’m back to my career now and financially recouped but the PTSD is real. I’m always worried when I’m in the office alone or too close to a guy (I work in a co working office and the kitchen is squish. Yeah. Your comment is just spot on.
The sexual harassment is real, i always make sure to work with women or mostly women. It is impossible to stay in the feminine in the workplace which is very draining. I am still not able to tell this reason to men or family when it comes to why i want to stay home.
Girl I encountered worse, a man I dated actually HAD a sahm when he was growing up, and he said because she was unhappy she never “achieved” anything he wouldn’t want his wife to be one…
@@yzma6142yes! I spoke to a man like that. I Don't mind working part-time but I shouldn't forced to. I'm definitely taking a very long break once I get pregnant 😅 why rush to work?
There's nothing worst than a stingy rich man. I've seen them in action, their partner would be better off with someone with less money cause they were living like they were in poverty. The same kind of man to stop you from working just to give you nothing. Edit: 12/9
My grandma is married to a man like this! Not super rich, but I’d assume they have a $1-2 million net worth at least. He gives her an ALLOWANCE from HER retirement money when she was a nurse, significantly less than what he made bc she was a stay at home mom for a while with their 3 kids. The AUDACITY. That’s financial abuse!!
@schuylergeery-zink1923 smh, taking care of my lil brother for a summer was enough to know I'm not fit to be a SAHM, the work is never over. They are not appreciated enough. That's absolutely financial abuse.
I haven’t even watched the video yet, but from the title alone, I can already say that I completely agree. I’ve had men who work at Amazon be better providers than men who were doctors. 🥴
This is literally true. My boyfriend is both well off AND his biggest pleasure comes from seeing me happy and making me feel fulfilled. That’s what motivates his giving to me! He loves to feel useful and needed! And loves when I use and need him!
I had to tell my husband IDGAF what your momma did im not your momma! 😂 she worked while the dad worked … she even told me she was mad that she couldn’t be home with her babies. I told my husband IM NOT DOING IT 🤷🏻♀️ I’m A SAHM mom since the third month of pregnancy. He pays for everything. NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN NO!!!!
There's no way a person can love someone, when they would rather see that person suffering and exhausting themselves working 3 jobs right after literally giving BIRTH, while they are waving the 1 million that they make. That is plain sadism. I am amazed how far that man's greed reaches. Besides he is hurting his child too by forcing the mom to exhaust herself and deprave herself of precious time that she could've spent with HIS child. Wtf his greed is affecting his entire family
Went out for dinner w my mom the other day & we were seated next to what was obviously a first date. When the check came, the man asked how the woman would like to pay & she offered to pay 50/50. Once they both paid, he had the audacity to announce loudly, "Usually, when it's just one or two drinks like this, I don't mind just throwing it on my card." She laughed it off awkwardly & after they left, my mom & I were like WTAF. Our server also heard the whole thing & said she hopes there isn't a second date. 😂😭
Holy shit. I wished your channel was around when I was younger. I would've saved myself much heartache. Even now as a married woman, your videos make me think. I think every woman needs to watch your channel.
Elle, I am floored because of the past two videos. I finally realized I wasted too much time dating "feminist" men who had absent fathers and praised their moms because she did everything. I am sad but also glad that I see that now.
I've always felt the same about about rich men. Who cares unless they spend money on you? But it really makes me feel disgusted to think about "giving him a lineage" when he doesn't support you. I can't even imagine the awful feeling of carrying a man's child like that. It seriously grosses me out.
If you have the finances to do so, if not they need to appreciate the wife and treat her like she is amazing for doing what is essentially multiple jobs at once
My man and I were dating for one month (one month!!), and I had to move from my place, and he invited me to live with him without hesitation. I asked how much he wanted me to pay for rent, and he said he is going to cover it of course, and it is what he wants to do. I said that’s so generous, how can I help to make your life easier then? I will do the cooking and the cleaning. He always tells me he still expects himself to do at least 50% of the house work. I got so lucky! I love to spoil him
I am a single mom with 2 boys and I hope they will grow up to be GREEN FLAGS. I’m teaching them to clean, cook, take on mental load, empathy, how to communicate, coping mechanisms, anger management, generosity, etc. We even have weekly discussions where we can communicate things that are bothering us in the house and how to resolve it. Being married to a below bare minimum low effort man taught me how important good men are. Love your content and everything you stand for. Thank you for removing XY comments because for some of us, they are painful and sharp. Thank you for paving the way for this new wave of feminism ❤
With all respect, geniuenly. Just make sure that they also learn how to be masculine in a non toxic way. It is important for a men to learn how to be a men. I have seen some men be raised by women and they were litteraly just less hard working women, which actually disadvantaged them. Make sure they grow up to be a wonderfull man. Again, I mean this with all respect.
Also, teach them how to take care of women like you expect your man to take care of you. ❤ Provide you gifts and teach them to initiate helping you in tasks. Lift their masculine spirit up by praising their masculine skills and tasks ❤
@@ilsedemolder3973teach them not too listen too this women for starters. This women teaches women on how to be lonely. Same with red pill for men. Both equally awful ideas on how to be successful in love.
He chooses not to provide because he does not like her. He thinks that he settled for someone temporarily who will service him and incubate his children for him. She made a mistake getting married to him and having his kids. She should figure out a way to get on birth control, siphon some money aside in order to leave him after the child turns 6. I say 6 because the first several years in a child’s life are crutial to have both parents around. After that, it’s best not to be around a father who mistreats and financially abuses the mother. It would set a wrong example for later life behavioral patterns for the child.
Definitely true 😉 Generosity is a must have trait in a potential partner.. sure all women want a good life and it's tempting to go for the rich ones especially when you're young.. but once you realise the weight of a man's value isn't in their pockets but in their character and the security of knowing you landed with someone who will have your back is the one who looks out for you not in the good times but in times of challenges and lack that's gold
My daily brain washing session is done thank you :)) since I have found your channel I have changed a lot! I was a pickmisha that dated with all the looser guys... Now I have left all of my male friends, locked my instagram and only accept girls there! Also I am treating men out soooo freezing cold and giving all my warmth to my sisters 😊😊 what I learned here is so meaningful to me and I watch every episode so that I wouldnt forget who men are or go back to my stupid self
Omg same 😭 it’s so embarrassing for me to remember how I’d talk about myself and other women just to appeal to the lowest type of males. The real men don’t expect you to degrade yourself and your femininity in order for them to like you and to respect you
I think a woman should always have her own separate bank account so she can get away from abuse. But the rest I agree with ! A shared bank account it good too :) but don't get rid of your own
That man won't even help his own mother. There's no way hes going to provide for her. As far as hes concerned the women in his life arent virtuous, less they're working hard. And even if they do that, they're not worthy of being taken care of according to him. This man and his money are better off left alone. She'll be better off for it.
My ex is a fatherless man and he expected me to do everything and pay more than 50/50. I started asking him to do more and pay for more and he argued with me about it every time. We had to agree that we wanted different things and went our separate ways
In America, at least, the word "generous" is now synonymous with sxxxual connotations when it comes to relationships. Benevolent is what I'm looking for. An open-handed and benevolent man who is doing his best to make coin is the coolest. It makes me want to help him. In my worst relationships I was flush with cash and then men also made big salaries. They would only spend money to show off at dinner (I always picked up the tip though because I was afraid they wouldn't give the servers enough) and at Christmas. But for Christmas they usually demanded MORE in the way of pricy gifts and would get me tons of small cheap gifts from Ikea just so it made it LOOK like they gave me many gifts. Much more interested in men who give freely. Sadly, the cute and nice ones like that settle down so young! You young females are very lucky if your eyes are opened that quickly.
Elle, you are the guidance that I needed. Thank you ❤ From the video: This pathetic “man” not providing for his MOTHER of all people and his PREGNANT partner is f-ing CRIMINAL
If a man can support you and doesnt, when you are his wife and the mother of his child, that means he does not love, cherish or value you. You are not his wife or his woman, you are his homie. Its not a real relationship to him, its a deal. Please, either talk to him and set your boundaries or leave
This! My boyfriend is so generous and im extremely grateful. He's become more generous over the years. He makes more than me in his career but he knows im pursuing my dream of building my own business. He's purchased my equipment, tools, and really invested in me. Sometimes i think of giving up and he tells me to continue following my dream and that i inspire him. Hes not rich by any means but he covers extra bills so i can pursue this dream and its bc of him that my business is finally taking off. The biggest blessing ever in my life.
First off I want to say I’m proud of you for sticking to the mission and deleting male comments instead of leaving them up for engagement purposes. I dig the integrity. Also , I want to leave words of encouragement for women who maybe didn’t have this game given to them growing up or in their young adult lives and maybe made the mistake of allowing a below minimum effort man to come and mess their life up. I am a single mother bc I was young and dumb and wasn’t taught how to vet for the right man but I have STILL found my generous man! He put a ring on my finger and we don’t even live together yet and he helps me pay my bills and he says things like “that’s what a man is supposed to do” instead of “what do you bring to the table” . It’s still possible ladies so don’t feel like you have to settle just bc you settled in the past. Men are still an option , you can still find the right one . 😘
Hey elle I love you sm you talked sense into me.... Ashamed to admit I used to be a bigggg pick me gurl but not anymore thanks to you.... I hope you know you are out here on social media giving very real advice and we love love love you for that.... God forbid but if you ever feel bad about yourself and find yourself searching for strength just know that I am cheering for you just know that I know you and above that i believe in you💖💖💖💖💖
The first time I saw you was on tiktok, dating around the world series. I found it quite entertaining, then I kept consuming your content more, truly eyes opening. God sent you my way 💜
I was with a guy who provided but as soon as i started making Money, he stopped providing.. he said well you have money, even though it wasnt a lot of money. So annoying. I couldn't even save my money to leave him and i was in a big heap of crap. But we try our best and keep it moving. My love for him was never going to grow anyways because he was incapable of growing or making any fight or situation better. Man child but he saved me from homelessness so i felt loyal for years. When i realized that when i left that he barely cared then i felt no guilt at all. He said he'd never be with anyone else ever again because i was the best hed ever get, yet he wouldn't even grow or change at all. I mean change like take better care of himself and stop gaining all the weight and actually smell good for once lol. Its embarrassing for me that i was in this situation but life can be hard and fighting for a better life is all we can do. ❤
So incredibly true. My husband has never been rich but he makes a stable good living. I am always cared for first...I drive the nicer car, I've always got the nicest coat etc. Because he's generous and loves to share with me. I work as well which is important too. Anyone can get money being generous of spirit naturally can't be forced.
I feel like what’s worse than a man whose father left, is the man with married parents where the mother literally did EVERYTHING. Some men of single mothers actually want to make women’s lives better because in a way it honours their mother and they wish they were able to “save” their mother in this way. But I agree 100% it takes a LOT of due diligence and discernment to figure it out. I met a man whose mother was a SAHM, but she always seemed to regret it and talk down on herself because they didn’t have much money. He couldn’t even fathom a woman wanting this lifestyle. Also he knew he couldn’t really afford it so I could tell he would eventually be stingy.
Thank you! That explains so much for why my husband was the way he was. I never could have measured up to his mom who raised six kids by herself. He regularly told me how she went to work very sick but I was lazy because I just had the flu
She’s an icon, She is a legend, and she is the moment. Now, come on, now. You got to give it up 💐 About Lone wolves- 100% true. Men who are loners cannot bear the literal shame and embarrassment of having to compete among other men. These men will have accomplishments and the loner will have lint or less in his pocket, there is no sympathy for the lone wolf in packs because the patriarchy is unsympathetic to men. This is why these loners try to cling to women guised as "friendships" because they know most women will coddle their inadequacy, feel sorry for their past childhood issue (even though they are fully grown) and buy the multitude of their excuses. Bestie- wake up!
Ya even at low income as a woman I’ve been generous in one way or another. I’ve known people with high income who are extremely stingy and won’t pay for others meals or anything. It’s truly baffling. Generosity is in one’s energy. It’s true wealth. How much income one makes is not true wealth unless it’s shared
I love how the videos are edited, like, some parts are so funny and all of them relexing to watch. For me I especially like the sound effect everytime Elle mentions men in their "divine receiving feminine mode", everytime it pops out i just can't lol.
YES! A generous man will be generous no matter what because that just who he is! My man provides me with anything no matter what because that's just his character.
I’m a housewife myself. My husband provides me with everything without any expectations. I appreciate him a lot so I always make sure that he has clean stuff to wear, has a clean home to come back to, and has what he likes to eat everyday. If you want a man to provide for you, you have to be a traditional woman yourself as well.
It is true, how a man grows up shapes him. My lil brother grew up with a mom who was disabled and as such he doesn't expect his wife to be able to ever do anything alone and is always doing everything for her. My step bro's bio mom was emotionally abusive and used my dad (step dad) and now my step bro thinks every single woman is a gold digger who'll cheat on him. My hubby was raised back and forth between his split family. His dad worships his step mom and supports her and doesn't expect a dime of the successful money she had to be his and as a high earner still supported her like she was a stay at home mom. Whereas his bio mom was a hard working single mom. This led to my hubby supporting me but also be attracted to the fact that I'm insanely independent. Which can be frustrating sometimes because I want to do things on my own but he wants to be a provider and I sometimes have to remind myself to let him care for me because that's how he expresses love.
My sister's husband is doing this. He is having her spend her own savings during maternity leave. She almost went on temporary disability just to cover the expenses. He's a military officer making six figures and she makes like $60K. She won't listen to any of us and won't shame him.
NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN THAT YOU WILL NOT HAVE THIER BABIES UNLESS YOU CAN STAY HOME!! I did!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤and laugh in their face if they call you a gold digger. Say “sorry I’m not used to this .. this is normal to you?” With a smile on your face . Hurt their ego
I'm a homemaker. I remember my husband and I talking to our nieces dad who's a multi-millionaire. When he asked me what I do I said I'm a homemaker. He was flabbergasted he said he would NEVER let his girl not work (homemaking is work btw and he's a cheater who's never had a relationship last very long.) My husband said "maybe you've never been happy enough in a relationship to provide for your girl."
I love your videos I wanted to ask you if you could please make a video about the trauma women have to go through in jobs/ in their careers. Some of us have had to go through SA, being bullied by male coworkers and more. I feel like this isn’t discussed on UA-cam but it’s something a lot of women have faced in their lives because of perhaps absent or non providing fathers. I for one have been left awake at night with flashbacks of horrible mistreatment in the workplace and more specifically by male coworkers and when i have reported it nothing has been done about it and some of us don’t have the luxury of our parents financial support so we have had to work in horrible places with horrible people when we really didn’t want to.
So please make a video discussing this and shedding light on how women being in positions where they have to work and don’t have financial support from their fathers can affect them I hope you see my message and respond thank you ❤
@@fatemad4012 teasing me bullying trying to make fun of me when I’m the only young attractive racial minority in the work place it’s usually the white guys that want to make jokes and try to “banter” but it’s just bullying, trying to sabotage me at work trying to make sexual innuendos it’s disgusting
@@marycash183 at least you're not raped They tried to rape me encountering with men is so dangerous but I over come it it's very bad they always do this to women you have bad experiences you can too we women should be strong overcome these hardships
I personally love your content because you naturally align with the majority of my values. I'm more spiritual by nature so ofc it's different but sometimes you even bring up your own spiritual beliefs to explain something and I love it! I quote you on my channel cuz I often used these phrases for the exact reason an now that I'm actively bingeing for information on my current stances on life matters, I OFTEN have your phrases in my mouth. I honestly hope you don't mind❤❤. You're definitely doing Gods work here. I'm so thankful to hear people making sense.✔️✔️✔️ Thank you. I personally am a fan of you as a person as much as I see here. I can tell you're different off screen, but I can tell that you live by what you learn! I genuinely appreciate you and the women that learn from you.
He won't do it to make you suffer either, he'll think there's something wrong with you for suffering. That's why it's potentially a bad situation. Or maybe he'll have contempt for you when you complain. Run from those men. In the beginning of a relationship, bring up a random complaint and if he immediately says well you, run fast. I love this girl and that other girl vikita for bringing back my common sense. It was already coming back but it's good to feel some comfort from validation. I've been gaslit Into being a lower version of myself from abusive family and obviously that brings lower people in your life that will also mistreat you and because you haven't felt safe in so long, you ghost actual good people because I didn't think I was in a good place and I was so embarrassed. Anyways, we need videos like this in this abusive world filled with narcissists and gaslighters and hateful people. Also a lot of people are having bad days so they also make the world seem more hateful than it is lol. Uhh the struggle. You're killing it girlie 😻
Dating with intention❤❤❤ thank you for you advice, Elle!! I’ve been on exciting & fun dates recently! The dinner date last night I was on with an established entrepreneur was lovely. A middle aged lady interrupted our dinner to compliment my dress & beauty… needless to say this pleased the man I was on a date with! That was my reminder to do the same for other ladies on dinner dates to keep these men knowing we are these prize ❤❤❤
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a rich man may stop being a rich man, but a generous man remains a generous man regardless of his income. PERIOD.
Period. My bf was laid off at work and while he was working part time he’d still buy me gifts
THIS ☝🏼🤌🏽
facts
Preach! 👏
That partttttt
NEVER BE AFRAID TO ASK, they’re never afraid to ask you for anything!!!!
Yes, I started asking for more from my husband and while it's definitely been a treacherous, bumpy and slowly moving roller-coaster ride, I'm glad I started standing up for myself and sharing with him that I needed more from him. He's since headed uphill full steam ahead and is definitely doing the work to work on and save our marriage. And, yes, I've got work to do and am currently working on my issues as well.
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@@The_Mimsame. He thinks I am becoming more mean. No boy, I just voice my needs. 😢
dont even ask, just tell....
he chose this life he deal with it
ONE MORE THING, do you know why men do not ask? Bc for men asking is equal to making a DEBT, so when they ask something they are in debt with the person that gave them something. So, you ask? They are giving, BUT EVERYTHING ask, they are counting in their heads as though you OWE them! That is their mentality, pretty much everywhere in the world.
@@inkagarden8939exactly they moved a bunch of homeless guys off the street up the road from us and put them in hotels but I get the feeling some of them still didn't listen and they stayed outside pushing there carts full of stuff up the road they dont like charity places like that because a lot of times there is some kind of catch to it and they wont be able to do their drugs or get drunk. It also emasculate them especially if it was a woman that proposed the bill for them.
He makes $975,000 and she can’t stay home taking care of her child! 😭😭😭😭😭😭
I think she'd be better off divorcing him, then she'd not have to deal with 4 children, but the 3. It's sad he fooled her into getting himself into the gene pool with that mindset. Disgusting.
Growing up, my dad made 200,000-300,000 a year, leaving plenty of resources for my parents to raise me and my three siblings.
I wish my husband would make me work and he makes that much stingy man is the Same as a BROKE man! WTF 😳🤧
Almost a million a year, can provide the best of the best for his family, and yet… no. All that money is his.
@@JusticeBajaj The MAID! 🙄
This is what i tell any woman who says they want a rich man. Marrying rich is no guarantee that that man won't be stingy, wasteful or financially abusive. Choose wisely...
Actually statistically they are more likely to be like that TBH
The issue is theyre seeking rich men and have no othet standards. It should be: 1. Rich. 2. Generous 3. Protector 3. Good father 4. Respectful 5 GOOD man. Those are the non negotiables, being rich is just one ☝️
So true… Showing you care and respect and being a man with emotional intelligence is more important. The sharing of wealth and generosity should be an extension of that intelligence.
I have dated so many 7 figure men. All of them were immediately stingy, informing you that any future will include a prenuptial, and see every ask as a sign they're being used. Meanwhile, I found a wonderful life with a man who earns barely more than I do, but is ready and willing to give me everything he can. I let him marry me, and because I also have my own bag I bought us a house. So I guess I wasn't a gold digger.
@@Lala-lw6pitrue, that does happen sometimes; however some women do look for all of those traits in rich men, but can’t find them because
A. Not a lot of super wealthy bachelors just walking around
B. As mentioned by other commenters, a lot of people that make that much money tend to have those stingy personalities regardless
Men have no problem asking women for sex , but all of a sudden develop morals when you ask for stability.
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@@galek75 that sex should come with you expecting that there will be expectations of you as well.
@@galek75 You’re in the wrong channel if you think sex is casual. Women of worth will only have sex with men who have continuously demonstrated his willingness to protect and take care of his woman
@@Laura-Yulets not forget that going 50/50 before marriage is financial mistreatment :)
Lol
This just waters relationships down to a sex/money transaction... which is really sad. Sex shouldn't be a "favor" a woman does for a man; both of you should be getting enjoyment out of it, and if you aren't, it's because he sucks in bed or is selfish.
975k a year and she’s scared to ask?!!!!! 😮
Unbelievable
He sounds abusive. There's a reason she's afraid. She should have never had a baby by that clown.
@@TxHoneyBee for real. Lots of gaslighting in that house. Wouldn't be shocked if they were going 50/50 split with her pay being far less than his.
That was me😢
@@truffaut650truffaut6 I’m sorry to hear that 💗 I hope you’re in a better spot
$975000 and he wants her to work after having a baby? He might as well tell her he doesn't like her. Forget love does he like her?
My bf earns only slightly more than me. Still every month he buys me new clothes, makeup or accessories. He often comes home with chocolate that I like. He also likes to take me out. It’s ok for us to be a little bit materialistic I think. My bf said that he grew up seeing how his father would buy his mom expensive gifts from luxurious brands all the time and he’d think about how nice it is to love a woman and be able to spoil her and make her look and feel nice.
Stop lowering your value by dating crappy men… let them be single and lonely 👀
If I ever get a bf for some reason, this is what I want 🤧😫🙇🏻♀️ u go girl!!!!
This comment melted my heart
And yall wonder why you can’t find good men 🤦
@@-Clarence-i can see from your comment history you are going through something painful at home and are tying to make yourself feel better by spreading that pain to others. I wish you all the best, Clarence in your journey of life. I truly hope you can realize one day that rudeness is never the answer, life is so much better when you only speak when in good faith ❤ take care bro
@@julieperez7505 keep the commenting to the topic. I’m not the topic, woman.
This woman is spitting out some gems
Alot of times these men who ask for 50/50 will usually be saving their money to give to a future side chick woman.
exactly!!! 💯Or rather - poor 50/50 woman will become a side chick to his new main "gig" and eventually will cease to "exist" for him.
off topic - I love your channel name 💯🔥🔥🔥💛🙌
Nah, 100/100 is better
50 50 doesn't really exist the woman always ends up giving more
I would love to reap the benefit of being a side chick, so I can get extra $$$ and send him home so I can enjoy that extra money. But Karma and God would come knocking eventually....a lesson I've already learned YEARS ago. The wife never found out...but my spirit knew it was wrong after I cut it off he became stalkerish. I eventually moved due to a better career/opportunity ... God was like I saved you because you didn't understand what you were doing. Now I have more than enough $$$, very grateful. A man's extra...is no match when it comes to God's supernatural abundance. Be careful ladies, I knew a few gold diggers paying a hefty price after being used & discarded ❤
If a “low income” guy ($100,000 or less) doesn’t do small acts to make you feel better when you’re suffering. He’s also a hard NO. I was sad the other day and my BF who is in another state for work, door dashed me ice cream, candy and flowers. He’s spends countless hours on the phone with me having meaningful conversations. He’s generous whenever he can be!
He is so sweet
Low income 100,000 or less😂😂🤡 you must be smoking that expired weed
Be careful of this though. Many men do long distance because they are low-effort relationships. They like it because it isn't full commitment. It's much different living with someone and sharing their space.
Why the hell is his mom still working three jobs? She shouldn't be working any if he makes nearly 1mil a year. Bruh.
FORREALLLL
"As someone who has so much to give, you actually need to start repelling people." This sentence hit me hard. Thank you.
"a man's money does not matter unless it's in your pocket" those are words of wisdom and that shall be my motto
FYI in many Native American cultures boys were raised to be good hunters for others.
When a young man wanted a wife he had to prove to her family he was a good provider. He had to bring deer meat, horses, etc. And he had lots of older male guidance to be a good man, too.
This is bare minimum stuff! If a man wants his genes passed on and someone keeping house for him and his offspring then he NEEDS to provide.
I’m so glad younger women are waking up. I hope it’s a global movement because we need to be more discerning about who we let into our lives and who gets to pass on DNA.
So true! Our world desperately needs that
Women should really become more selective so there would be less struggling single mothers or abused women. Not every man deserves to have woman and children.
This!!
Yup. It's the lack of rites of passage to manhood that's a contributor to things like this.
@@nobodyelse7911 in the eastern world, confucius ruined it all - or rather his followers who skewed his words to benefit men. apparently confucius was not staunchly in favour of having sons to the point of abusing a daughter in law for not birthing a son.
As the City Girls said “Give a f*** what a man got if he ain't givin' it” 💃
YES I thought of the same line 🤣
PERIODDDDD 💁🏾♀️
Period
It’s funny how this is the “spoiled girlie support group” because the bar is so low that when men actually invest the same effort into their relationship and family that women do, a woman feels spoiled.
Wow😮 bc they are the ones who were spoiled... at our expense. Makes so much sense
It’s their mamas doing due to how awful the older generation was to their wives
Both genders are complaining that the other is spoiled, but as a man i wanna put it out there that the lowest a woman could really go is to be a housewife or do sex work but for a man its homelessness or jail. Its waaaay tougher for us, the only reason you gals think we have it easy is because of our scaling. Men have higher scaling stats but women have higher base stats.
@ddp47297 Too many women living in abject poverty right along with the men in third world countries for that to be true. There's nothing an impoverished man faces that an impoverished woman does not also face except for increased rape risks and post-partum deaths after child birth. So that's actually more. I think people who make comments like yours really don't know how the world works.
No problem identifying and labelling a man to be inferior/less/down/lower/beneath....based on income
However I have yet to hear the language be used to identify a superior/more/up/higher/above man...
The language is *partner*...
"There are plenty of men below women yet no man above women" is the consensus that I am gathering...which is insane.
What an interesting time of revelation .
My bf is not fatherless but he still wants a superwoman like his mom. And she looks super-tired trying to maintain positive attitude every time. Be carefully, girls
Shouldn’t you be telling that to yourself? Lol
@@MystiqueSubliminals__ i am, actually, that's why i am on this channel to finally wake up noticing these details
@@vitaminka012 I'm glad you're waking up! How are you now? Did you break up?
My ex lived rent-free with me in the house I bought before we were married, and he'd still complain about not going 50/50 on utilities. Like, sir, I already paid up front. My wallet is now forever closed.
Bruh he’s crazy
OH NAWWWW the opportunism is so sickening wtf
😂😂 girl im embarrassed for u. I hope u learned ur lesson and evolved to have better choices and self respect
Some men have nothing but they will still have the audacity.
I'm guessing, that is a big reasons he's an ex
I just turned 30. I’m in a place in my life that I don’t have a lot of female friends rn. I moved across the country during the pandemic and have suffered extreme solitary. Your channel has been the girlfriend I need in as advice and proving myself that I’m not crazy in my feelings. I don’t normally comment on videos but I just want to thank you for your perspective.
your comment is so genuine and sweet.
sending you virtual hugs, sis ❤
same! she is my only and well girlfriend and I am feeling lucky to "have" her
Pay attention BESTIE!!!
Hi girls! Same here. Elle and this community are a godsend
I’ll be 30 in a few months and same, I have like one female friend who’s busy living her best life with a good boyfriend. Though that means we aren’t hanging out as much and being in a male dominated industry (R&D in physics) doesn’t help…
This title is everything. We are not rich, but we don't struggle. I have stay home mom friends whose husbands make more money than mine and they have to lie about things they've purchased or defend everything they buy. Once I left my part time job I told my husband, I will never break the bank, I respect our mortgage, bills, etc, but I have expenses and I never want to be questioned or shamed about them and he's always honored that. And YES, fatherless men are absolutely yellow flags for various reasons. Seeing women as lazy if they're not working outside the home and possible mama's boy syndrome needs to be investigated.
You are right. However, with the fatherless men, depends on the society. In southeastern Europe where I live, fatherless men are usually better providers (" so my kids& wife don't suffer like Mom& myself& my siblings did") than men with " traditional" fathers, who were either taught that " it's a woman's job to spoil us", or the father was physically there, but emotionally absent, and the son acts the same after he gets married. I saw that many times. When dating, they boast of their " traditional" family ( it turned into a yellow flag for me to hear that) but when you go to visit his family you see that the reality is what I have described above.
@@CS-bu7lo I am actually married to a fatherless man. He had the same mentality. He will never have his wife or child struggle. Yellow flag, not always red.
I had a date with a rich man years ago who took me to a picnic at the park, made me split the bill from the supermarket and carry the items in my hands to the park because he said it was a waste of money to spend 10 cents on a bag.
My current partner is not rich but he is the most generous man I have ever met. He doesn't go to the corner shop without bringing me something.
Majority of rich men inherited their wealth or scammed their way to the top. Rare to find a rich man who built his wealth independently. You will see this in their behaviour. Very stingy because they are living in fear and lack.
@@millieconsultancynope most rich guy fear that women will marry them to steal their money
@@SereneLongPier-op5en only poor men who scammed their way to wealth think like that.
My fiancé absolutely had my back when I got made redundant. Nothing was an issue for him. We are on comfortable money but certainly not raking it in, and we're also currently mid wedding planning. It still wasn't a problem. I decided I wanted to look into different types of work. He had no issue with whatever my pay was going to end up being. The only thing he was adamant about was that any job role I took had to be good for my mental health. I am very grateful to have found a fantastic man, and I hope all the other spoiled girlies here get to experience the same should they want it!!
Thanks for sharing ❤
I am so happy for you! When you were dating, what criteria did you set to find a man like this?
Dudes will ALWAYS BETRAY YOU. Just NEVER rely on a man for anything. Make sure you can always take care of yourself. Even if they are a perfect partner, you never know what could happen.
I am in the same situation and I thank the heavens I met such a wonderful man everyday.
. @nardip4999 That mindset is why you'll be betrayed. How can you find a decent man if you don't have any high standards for them? If you assume the bar for men is the ground, you're gonna settle for men below the dirt. Get higher standards and be picky
You're basically saying "were all gonna die anyways, so why bother living?"
My partner does not have a lot of money but he is a kind and generous man. He got a small inheritance, and i mean small, and i haven't had to work since. While i haven't been working, I've been able to land a job that i love through my volunteer efforts for after the first of the year. I wouldn't have had the time or energy to do that without his generosity. Thankful for my generous man!
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Remember, in nature, "A lone wolf is a failed wolf." Successful wolves are in packs, carrying their share of the group dynamic.
"When a hard winter comes, the lone wolf dies, but the pack survives"-- Game of Thrones by GRRM Martin. In nature, lone wolves are the grown male pups that need to find another wolf pack ,in order not to mate with their sisters and female cousins of their origin pack. However, they are lonely briefly, if they are capable, they are received by a new pack, where they can find their mate ( wolves mate for life).
I was reading Yuval Noah Harari’s Sapiens and he made a point that the best male in animal communities are often those that are well-liked and knows how to properly communicate with others. The media likes to romanticise lone wolves when that’s not how it works either in nature or in real life.
I’m a successful Alpha female , I run alone .I’m individual and I don’t conform .i attract rich successful alpha males .i don’t run in a female pack , I chose my own value and direction .
This is the quote!! I’m going to say this from now on- cause it’s sooo true. 🫶🏽🙏🏽💯
“Remember, in nature, a lone wolf is a failed wolf.
Successful wolves are in packs”
~ Brisket Tacos
@@dianebell8677yup all that too - but networking is still needed for real success.
No one can be successful by themselves. We live in a world that requires networks run by ppl.
Not pressuring ppl to not be alone (it’s healthy and needed)
But No real successful person is a lone wolf.
They are a lone wolf because they are unable to connect to ppl. They will never be able to reach their true heights.
This doesn’t mean one needs to be in a relationship romantically - but it does mean that one needs to know how to connect to ppl to build connections.
I recently dated the cheapest, stingiest and greediest rich man. I was purely disgusted by him and confronted him. He was shocked and had zero awareness.
Was he willing to change?
I feel so blessed that I have a fiancé who talked to me about these things because bringing it up makes me a little bit uncomfortable. Like finances and stuff. He just straight up said “Don’t worry. I’ll take care of everything.” He is a very frugal no nonsense type of guy, and I was really surprised that he is very generous when it is with me or his friends.
A generous man will also be a generous dad. That's so important !
The way men raise their daughters and women raise their sons is sooo diffrent.
My mom was more absent than my dad. My dad taught me to work hard. I looked up to him as he came from nothing and work hard to go to University and get a well paying job while supporting yourself without help from others. Looking up to my dad taught me to push through, set goals and reach them.
While my ex who was raised by a single mom was exactly how you described: His mom worked hard, did everything for him, never learned him how to be independent and thought the was justified in doing nothing for me, because his mom sacrificed everything for him without ask for anything in return.
@@Maggiebenjeepartly yes, but not completely.
I do see many men that were raised by single moms being coddled more. Their mom often raises them to expect things to come to them and not work hard.
Whereas my dad explicitly taught me to work hard for things, because you are the only way who can achjeve your goals. This was a part of my upbringing and I was taught to be hardworking and independent.
So true. Mine told me to work hard. So hard that once I turned 17, he saw fit to quit his job and expect ME to support HIM from there on out! I had just had summer jobs at that point, and when I turned 17 he stole the money from my account and transferred it to his without warning. Crazy
I have a family member that apparently insisted on 50/50 while his wife was pregnant and then still on maternity leave. I was both baffled and appalled. Thankfully, they don't do that anymore, but people do not give pregnancy and child birth the reverence it's due. They treat it as if women don't die in either state. As if this isn't an emotionally, physically and mentally challenging time for most women. This is insanity to me. I passed a human being through me and now you wanna stress me out about finances? Bring back _shame_ . 😤😤
I agree with you. Other men should shame him and keep him accountable.
You're ignoring the real problem, the state should be providing paid maternity leaves to every women, that's how it work in other countries
I literally had this convo with a man who saw his single mom work 3 jobs and told me that he would resent a woman sitting at home all day long while he is gone making all of the money….. asked him if he thought that domestic work (which he expected his wife to do)was valuable because there are entire careers built on domestic work and you don’t plan to pay her to do that work? Literally our last conversation.
100%. My ex lied to our mutual friends/community and let them think he was paying for my expenses while I went back to school. He made enough money to support me, he just didnt want to.
Oh mine too! He came with me to buy a car, telling the people there he was going to be making the payments, which was news to me. Then after I bought it and had it for a few months, he marched up to the dealer a couple times with a check in hand he delivered IN PERSON to them to make it look like he was paying. Of course it was only those 2 times. I paid the other bazillion months. He also liked to make fun of how "old" my car was, and how I should just "leave it unlocked because no one would ever care to steal it anyway". Nevermind he had newer cars that he kept letting get repo'd for non payment. Which was weird because he had the money (I saw it) to make the payments, he just "didn't like to pay them". So bizarre
Oh hellll naw the lying is crazy because he KNEW he was wrong!!
My culture is RAMPED with pickmeishas and baby mothers it is so normalized. I get into fights with my father because I told him I was not going to live like my deceased mother in a 50/50 relationship. Your channel helps me keep my sanity thank you so much 🙏🏼
Trust me sis you deserve a nice man to take care of you and provide! TMH made a way for me and I’m so grateful never give up ❤
@@haahmayan9637 I’d let my corpse be eaten by my 40 cats than give the average dusty man in my culture a chance. Thank you for the good wishes! I’ve been with provider men before and I am never looking back especially if I decide to have children.
@@avarosalia4309which country are you from?
Which culture or country is that, if i may ask?
please tell me what culture,so I can avoid these dustys
It’s true that generosity and wealth don’t always correlate. Some of the most generous people I know didn’t have an abundance of money but still gave everything they could, which imo means more because it’s more of a big deal for them than someone who is wealthy or rich.
I was a trophy "wife" and a victim of abuse simultaneously. One of these was financial, which made it VERY hard to escape the abuse. The big house and all they the other glitz made it look glamorous on the outside, but inside, it was absolutely hell. It was all a facade.
It is so important to have your own financial stability. I physically got out, but I'm still fighting the legal battles against a powerful man. This is the single hardest battle I ever faced, and my child is involved.
That financial safety net is super important. Especially when you factor in that the professions that attract narcissists are CEOs and surgeons.
That is super super important for women to have, your own financial stability! I can't imagine the hell you were living.
Wow I’m so sorry you’re going through that. In hindsight, do you think there were signs or did he switch up after marriage?
@yzma6142 Thanks. It was "lovebombing," I believe. Once there were legal ties, the entire personality switched up, and the dynamic changed completely.
Oh my goodness I am so so sorry. Fighting legal battles with a wealthy man in a rigged system… Please look for any support you can. And remember shame belongs to abusers, not victims. Any shame you’re made to feel should be his! Other women have gone through similar things and there’s groups that exist to help women in situations like this in a lot of places. You don’t have to fight alone, our greatest strength as women is our ability to connect with others and to build strength from and for our communities
This is horrifying! As a middle aged woman, I would never put up with this. It was just a given that men support their wives and children. The woman is turning to their family? My family would lose their mind if I turned to them with this problem. I also say this as someone who’s mother worked, and my parents always had separated accounts their entire 45 year marriage. They never went 50/50. My dad paid all the bills and my mom paid for her car, and us kids. But if either one needed money they made it happen. The bills still got paid, and we were taken care of. I never saw my parents fight about money. Ever.
your dad was a true provider. a real man. Sadly, these days, if a woman, whether she's a gf or a wife, makes it known to man, that she wants man to be "manning'" as Elle once put it, in financial regard, most men will be like - oh that means you are a good digger who wants to live in my expense like a leech. !
Yeah, well, so what. He can go find his old college roommate Craig and go 50/50.
@@redleeks6253 exactly, if he made his wife paid for his kids then he isn't 100% providing.
Sounds like my German ex husband and wondered why I didn't wanna have his children. Got remarried to a Russian man and couldn't be MORE HAPPIER! Great video!
ha, wow, so some stereotypes are true. My current, soon to be ex bf is Dutch....well, some stereotypes are true sometimes, I have had front row seat experience now. I come from other kind of culture, further up in Europe and although we are far from Latino warm and cheerful temper, we are generous toward our family, friends, loved ones. It gives joy to give 💛 So the opposite is hard for me to understand.
Coco!! I've been following your UA-cam channel for years for skater girl content, and I'm shook that you're a spoiled girlie too! It makes me love you even more! I'd love to skate with you some day. Blessings to you and happy nuptuals, sis! ❤🎉🥰🥳
My X was a nigerian man. I suffered. I was a married single mom with all responsibilities and 50/50 and below. I am out now. 😂
@@AmericanDreamerThe Dutch are notoriously stingy and will charge you back just from breathing the same air as them. If y'all want a provider man, then avoid Dutch men and Scandinavians, as they all have a culture of 50/50. Ofc there are exceptions to the rule but I think it holds true for most of them
Coming from a German woman - German men are some of the stingiest men out there while literally expecting EVERYTHING from you. Good to hear that he's your ex-husband now!
It's much harder for women to make money in the first place being sexually harassed and not deemed as capable just because of gender so 50/50 is not actually 50/50
Facts!
Absolutely! I was sexually harassed at a job, left, went to another and it happened again! I had just transitioned out of modelling and into corporate. I left the work force for 3 years(COVID was a blessing in that way). Mentally and financially it was bad. I’m back to my career now and financially recouped but the PTSD is real. I’m always worried when I’m in the office alone or too close to a guy (I work in a co working office and the kitchen is squish. Yeah. Your comment is just spot on.
The sexual harassment is real, i always make sure to work with women or mostly women. It is impossible to stay in the feminine in the workplace which is very draining. I am still not able to tell this reason to men or family when it comes to why i want to stay home.
Military..construction...firefighting...police work..surgeons..electricians,plumbing...
And when you ask them “do you wish your mom didn’t work so she could stay home and be more present with you?” They say yes….but expect you to work 🤪
Oop!
Girl I encountered worse, a man I dated actually HAD a sahm when he was growing up, and he said because she was unhappy she never “achieved” anything he wouldn’t want his wife to be one…
@@yzma6142 😭 sounds like you dodged a bullet
Some people are jealous even of their offspring ☹️ emotional poverty
@@yzma6142yes! I spoke to a man like that. I Don't mind working part-time but I shouldn't forced to. I'm definitely taking a very long break once I get pregnant 😅 why rush to work?
There's nothing worst than a stingy rich man. I've seen them in action, their partner would be better off with someone with less money cause they were living like they were in poverty. The same kind of man to stop you from working just to give you nothing.
Edit: 12/9
My grandma is married to a man like this! Not super rich, but I’d assume they have a $1-2 million net worth at least. He gives her an ALLOWANCE from HER retirement money when she was a nurse, significantly less than what he made bc she was a stay at home mom for a while with their 3 kids. The AUDACITY. That’s financial abuse!!
@schuylergeery-zink1923 smh, taking care of my lil brother for a summer was enough to know I'm not fit to be a SAHM, the work is never over. They are not appreciated enough. That's absolutely financial abuse.
I haven’t even watched the video yet, but from the title alone, I can already say that I completely agree. I’ve had men who work at Amazon be better providers than men who were doctors. 🥴
This is literally true. My boyfriend is both well off AND his biggest pleasure comes from seeing me happy and making me feel fulfilled. That’s what motivates his giving to me! He loves to feel useful and needed! And loves when I use and need him!
I had to tell my husband IDGAF what your momma did im not your momma! 😂 she worked while the dad worked … she even told me she was mad that she couldn’t be home with her babies. I told my husband IM NOT DOING IT 🤷🏻♀️ I’m A SAHM mom since the third month of pregnancy. He pays for everything. NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN NO!!!!
There's no way a person can love someone, when they would rather see that person suffering and exhausting themselves working 3 jobs right after literally giving BIRTH, while they are waving the 1 million that they make.
That is plain sadism.
I am amazed how far that man's greed reaches.
Besides he is hurting his child too by forcing the mom to exhaust herself and deprave herself of precious time that she could've spent with HIS child. Wtf his greed is affecting his entire family
Get yourself a man that doesn't say "wow you're expensive" but instead "do you want anything else, my love?" 🥰I know I got one
A rich man can have a lot of money and still be stingy so choose a generous provider man , love your gold advices 💗💗💗
To make things worse, the man can have a father in the household, and still act this way. Not every father still married is a man-man and a provider…
Went out for dinner w my mom the other day & we were seated next to what was obviously a first date. When the check came, the man asked how the woman would like to pay & she offered to pay 50/50. Once they both paid, he had the audacity to announce loudly, "Usually, when it's just one or two drinks like this, I don't mind just throwing it on my card."
She laughed it off awkwardly & after they left, my mom & I were like WTAF. Our server also heard the whole thing & said she hopes there isn't a second date. 😂😭
Nothing better than a generous man with a provider mindset, bestie! 🥰 the glow is real!
Holy shit. I wished your channel was around when I was younger. I would've saved myself much heartache. Even now as a married woman, your videos make me think.
I think every woman needs to watch your channel.
Elle, I am floored because of the past two videos. I finally realized I wasted too much time dating "feminist" men who had absent fathers and praised their moms because she did everything. I am sad but also glad that I see that now.
I've always felt the same about about rich men. Who cares unless they spend money on you?
But it really makes me feel disgusted to think about "giving him a lineage" when he doesn't support you. I can't even imagine the awful feeling of carrying a man's child like that. It seriously grosses me out.
Same!! Those types of men seriously disgust me
If you pay for daycare, cleaners, and cooks, it’s not unreasonable to pay your wife for getting all those done for you
If you have the finances to do so, if not they need to appreciate the wife and treat her like she is amazing for doing what is essentially multiple jobs at once
My man and I were dating for one month (one month!!), and I had to move from my place, and he invited me to live with him without hesitation. I asked how much he wanted me to pay for rent, and he said he is going to cover it of course, and it is what he wants to do. I said that’s so generous, how can I help to make your life easier then? I will do the cooking and the cleaning. He always tells me he still expects himself to do at least 50% of the house work. I got so lucky! I love to spoil him
hmmm
I am a single mom with 2 boys and I hope they will grow up to be GREEN FLAGS. I’m teaching them to clean, cook, take on mental load, empathy, how to communicate, coping mechanisms, anger management, generosity, etc. We even have weekly discussions where we can communicate things that are bothering us in the house and how to resolve it. Being married to a below bare minimum low effort man taught me how important good men are.
Love your content and everything you stand for. Thank you for removing XY comments because for some of us, they are painful and sharp. Thank you for paving the way for this new wave of feminism ❤
With all respect, geniuenly. Just make sure that they also learn how to be masculine in a non toxic way.
It is important for a men to learn how to be a men. I have seen some men be raised by women and they were litteraly just less hard working women, which actually disadvantaged them.
Make sure they grow up to be a wonderfull man.
Again, I mean this with all respect.
Do you have a daughter( or daughters)?
Also, teach them how to take care of women like you expect your man to take care of you. ❤ Provide you gifts and teach them to initiate helping you in tasks.
Lift their masculine spirit up by praising their masculine skills and tasks ❤
@@Cyhcg5uhgbWhat should be done to raise boys to become good men?
@@ilsedemolder3973teach them not too listen too this women for starters.
This women teaches women on how to be lonely.
Same with red pill for men.
Both equally awful ideas on how to be successful in love.
I agree 50/50 is financially mistreating women! ❤❤❤
He chooses not to provide because he does not like her. He thinks that he settled for someone temporarily who will service him and incubate his children for him. She made a mistake getting married to him and having his kids. She should figure out a way to get on birth control, siphon some money aside in order to leave him after the child turns 6. I say 6 because the first several years in a child’s life are crutial to have both parents around. After that, it’s best not to be around a father who mistreats and financially abuses the mother. It would set a wrong example for later life behavioral patterns for the child.
If he won't provide why do I need a man?
Definitely true 😉 Generosity is a must have trait in a potential partner.. sure all women want a good life and it's tempting to go for the rich ones especially when you're young.. but once you realise the weight of a man's value isn't in their pockets but in their character and the security of knowing you landed with someone who will have your back is the one who looks out for you not in the good times but in times of challenges and lack that's gold
My daily brain washing session is done thank you :)) since I have found your channel I have changed a lot! I was a pickmisha that dated with all the looser guys... Now I have left all of my male friends, locked my instagram and only accept girls there! Also I am treating men out soooo freezing cold and giving all my warmth to my sisters 😊😊 what I learned here is so meaningful to me and I watch every episode so that I wouldnt forget who men are or go back to my stupid self
Omg same 😭 it’s so embarrassing for me to remember how I’d talk about myself and other women just to appeal to the lowest type of males. The real men don’t expect you to degrade yourself and your femininity in order for them to like you and to respect you
@@TragicHeroine-kd6uy we are learning sister! We are learning... 🥲
Just inspired me to make a purge. Always been a woman's woman. Gotta keep the space clear.
I think a woman should always have her own separate bank account so she can get away from abuse. But the rest I agree with ! A shared bank account it good too :) but don't get rid of your own
He needs to be jumping through hoops to get me what I want 💞
He’ll love you for it! 🎉
Had to learn this myself! I wanted to NOT stress him out . WHO'DA THUNK IT??!🎉✔️💀🧐🥰🙏
he be enjoying himself working hard to make me smile too 😹🙏
That man won't even help his own mother. There's no way hes going to provide for her. As far as hes concerned the women in his life arent virtuous, less they're working hard. And even if they do that, they're not worthy of being taken care of according to him. This man and his money are better off left alone. She'll be better off for it.
The lone wolf point is really important, and it’s something I never knew before. But it explains so much.
My ex is a fatherless man and he expected me to do everything and pay more than 50/50. I started asking him to do more and pay for more and he argued with me about it every time. We had to agree that we wanted different things and went our separate ways
In America, at least, the word "generous" is now synonymous with sxxxual connotations when it comes to relationships. Benevolent is what I'm looking for. An open-handed and benevolent man who is doing his best to make coin is the coolest. It makes me want to help him. In my worst relationships I was flush with cash and then men also made big salaries. They would only spend money to show off at dinner (I always picked up the tip though because I was afraid they wouldn't give the servers enough) and at Christmas. But for Christmas they usually demanded MORE in the way of pricy gifts and would get me tons of small cheap gifts from Ikea just so it made it LOOK like they gave me many gifts. Much more interested in men who give freely. Sadly, the cute and nice ones like that settle down so young! You young females are very lucky if your eyes are opened that quickly.
Elle is the sister i never had but 100% deserved
Elle, you are the guidance that I needed. Thank you ❤
From the video: This pathetic “man” not providing for his MOTHER of all people and his PREGNANT partner is f-ing CRIMINAL
If a man can support you and doesnt, when you are his wife and the mother of his child, that means he does not love, cherish or value you. You are not his wife or his woman, you are his homie. Its not a real relationship to him, its a deal. Please, either talk to him and set your boundaries or leave
so basically provider mindset men 🔛🔝
This! My boyfriend is so generous and im extremely grateful. He's become more generous over the years. He makes more than me in his career but he knows im pursuing my dream of building my own business. He's purchased my equipment, tools, and really invested in me. Sometimes i think of giving up and he tells me to continue following my dream and that i inspire him. Hes not rich by any means but he covers extra bills so i can pursue this dream and its bc of him that my business is finally taking off. The biggest blessing ever in my life.
First off I want to say I’m proud of you for sticking to the mission and deleting male comments instead of leaving them up for engagement purposes. I dig the integrity. Also , I want to leave words of encouragement for women who maybe didn’t have this game given to them growing up or in their young adult lives and maybe made the mistake of allowing a below minimum effort man to come and mess their life up. I am a single mother bc I was young and dumb and wasn’t taught how to vet for the right man but I have STILL found my generous man! He put a ring on my finger and we don’t even live together yet and he helps me pay my bills and he says things like “that’s what a man is supposed to do” instead of “what do you bring to the table” . It’s still possible ladies so don’t feel like you have to settle just bc you settled in the past. Men are still an option , you can still find the right one . 😘
Thank you!
@@ElmoBiotech yw 🫶🏼
Hey elle I love you sm you talked sense into me.... Ashamed to admit I used to be a bigggg pick me gurl but not anymore thanks to you.... I hope you know you are out here on social media giving very real advice and we love love love you for that....
God forbid but if you ever feel bad about yourself and find yourself searching for strength just know that I am cheering for you just know that I know you and above that i believe in you💖💖💖💖💖
The first time I saw you was on tiktok, dating around the world series. I found it quite entertaining, then I kept consuming your content more, truly eyes opening. God sent you my way 💜
This channel legitimately made me realize how wonderful my husband actually is. Holy wow.
975k and making his mom and wife work... L
I was with a guy who provided but as soon as i started making Money, he stopped providing.. he said well you have money, even though it wasnt a lot of money. So annoying. I couldn't even save my money to leave him and i was in a big heap of crap. But we try our best and keep it moving. My love for him was never going to grow anyways because he was incapable of growing or making any fight or situation better. Man child but he saved me from homelessness so i felt loyal for years. When i realized that when i left that he barely cared then i felt no guilt at all. He said he'd never be with anyone else ever again because i was the best hed ever get, yet he wouldn't even grow or change at all. I mean change like take better care of himself and stop gaining all the weight and actually smell good for once lol. Its embarrassing for me that i was in this situation but life can be hard and fighting for a better life is all we can do. ❤
So incredibly true. My husband has never been rich but he makes a stable good living. I am always cared for first...I drive the nicer car, I've always got the nicest coat etc. Because he's generous and loves to share with me.
I work as well which is important too. Anyone can get money being generous of spirit naturally can't be forced.
bring shame culture BACK!!
Ideally we get a rich and generous man.
The man here simply doesn't want any responsibility towards his family. Period.
A generous man who loves you will find a way and do it gladly
I feel like what’s worse than a man whose father left, is the man with married parents where the mother literally did EVERYTHING. Some men of single mothers actually want to make women’s lives better because in a way it honours their mother and they wish they were able to “save” their mother in this way. But I agree 100% it takes a LOT of due diligence and discernment to figure it out. I met a man whose mother was a SAHM, but she always seemed to regret it and talk down on herself because they didn’t have much money. He couldn’t even fathom a woman wanting this lifestyle. Also he knew he couldn’t really afford it so I could tell he would eventually be stingy.
I absolutely love watching you every day. Only speaking the truth. Your videos made me stand my ground so much more with men.❤
Thank you! That explains so much for why my husband was the way he was. I never could have measured up to his mom who raised six kids by herself. He regularly told me how she went to work very sick but I was lazy because I just had the flu
She’s an icon,
She is a legend,
and she is the moment. Now, come on, now. You got to give it up 💐
About Lone wolves- 100% true. Men who are loners cannot bear the literal shame and embarrassment of having to compete among other men. These men will have accomplishments and the loner will have lint or less in his pocket, there is no sympathy for the lone wolf in packs because the patriarchy is unsympathetic to men. This is why these loners try to cling to women guised as "friendships" because they know most women will coddle their inadequacy, feel sorry for their past childhood issue (even though they are fully grown) and buy the multitude of their excuses. Bestie- wake up!
100% truth. I learned this the hard way. Don't be like me.
The vibrational energy here is just IT. this whole channel.
Ya even at low income as a woman I’ve been generous in one way or another. I’ve known people with high income who are extremely stingy and won’t pay for others meals or anything. It’s truly baffling. Generosity is in one’s energy. It’s true wealth. How much income one makes is not true wealth unless it’s shared
I love how the videos are edited, like, some parts are so funny and all of them relexing to watch. For me I especially like the sound effect everytime Elle mentions men in their "divine receiving feminine mode", everytime it pops out i just can't lol.
This makes me cry for my mom. My dad sees her as a super woman for doing everything, even going to work after a C-section.
YES! A generous man will be generous no matter what because that just who he is! My man provides me with anything no matter what because that's just his character.
I’m a housewife myself. My husband provides me with everything without any expectations.
I appreciate him a lot so I always make sure that he has clean stuff to wear, has a clean home to come back to, and has what he likes to eat everyday. If you want a man to provide for you, you have to be a traditional woman yourself as well.
It is true, how a man grows up shapes him. My lil brother grew up with a mom who was disabled and as such he doesn't expect his wife to be able to ever do anything alone and is always doing everything for her. My step bro's bio mom was emotionally abusive and used my dad (step dad) and now my step bro thinks every single woman is a gold digger who'll cheat on him. My hubby was raised back and forth between his split family. His dad worships his step mom and supports her and doesn't expect a dime of the successful money she had to be his and as a high earner still supported her like she was a stay at home mom. Whereas his bio mom was a hard working single mom. This led to my hubby supporting me but also be attracted to the fact that I'm insanely independent. Which can be frustrating sometimes because I want to do things on my own but he wants to be a provider and I sometimes have to remind myself to let him care for me because that's how he expresses love.
My sister's husband is doing this. He is having her spend her own savings during maternity leave. She almost went on temporary disability just to cover the expenses. He's a military officer making six figures and she makes like $60K. She won't listen to any of us and won't shame him.
NORMALIZE TELLING THESE MEN THAT YOU WILL NOT HAVE THIER BABIES UNLESS YOU CAN STAY HOME!! I did!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤and laugh in their face if they call you a gold digger. Say “sorry I’m not used to this .. this is normal to you?” With a smile on your face . Hurt their ego
I'm a homemaker. I remember my husband and I talking to our nieces dad who's a multi-millionaire. When he asked me what I do I said I'm a homemaker. He was flabbergasted he said he would NEVER let his girl not work (homemaking is work btw and he's a cheater who's never had a relationship last very long.) My husband said "maybe you've never been happy enough in a relationship to provide for your girl."
I love your videos I wanted to ask you if you could please make a video about the trauma women have to go through in jobs/ in their careers. Some of us have had to go through SA, being bullied by male coworkers and more. I feel like this isn’t discussed on UA-cam but it’s something a lot of women have faced in their lives because of perhaps absent or non providing fathers. I for one have been left awake at night with flashbacks of horrible mistreatment in the workplace and more specifically by male coworkers and when i have reported it nothing has been done about it and some of us don’t have the luxury of our parents financial support so we have had to work in horrible places with horrible people when we really didn’t want to.
So please make a video discussing this and shedding light on how women being in positions where they have to work and don’t have financial support from their fathers can affect them I hope you see my message and respond thank you ❤
What happened to you with male coworkers? Could I know please
@@fatemad4012 teasing me bullying trying to make fun of me when I’m the only young attractive racial minority in the work place it’s usually the white guys that want to make jokes and try to “banter” but it’s just bullying, trying to sabotage me at work trying to make sexual innuendos it’s disgusting
@@marycash183 at least you're not raped They tried to rape me encountering with men is so dangerous but I over come it it's very bad they always do this to women you have bad experiences you can too we women should be strong overcome these hardships
I personally love your content because you naturally align with the majority of my values. I'm more spiritual by nature so ofc it's different but sometimes you even bring up your own spiritual beliefs to explain something and I love it! I quote you on my channel cuz I often used these phrases for the exact reason an now that I'm actively bingeing for information on my current stances on life matters, I OFTEN have your phrases in my mouth. I honestly hope you don't mind❤❤. You're definitely doing Gods work here. I'm so thankful to hear people making sense.✔️✔️✔️ Thank you. I personally am a fan of you as a person as much as I see here. I can tell you're different off screen, but I can tell that you live by what you learn! I genuinely appreciate you and the women that learn from you.
He won't do it to make you suffer either, he'll think there's something wrong with you for suffering. That's why it's potentially a bad situation. Or maybe he'll have contempt for you when you complain. Run from those men. In the beginning of a relationship, bring up a random complaint and if he immediately says well you, run fast. I love this girl and that other girl vikita for bringing back my common sense. It was already coming back but it's good to feel some comfort from validation. I've been gaslit Into being a lower version of myself from abusive family and obviously that brings lower people in your life that will also mistreat you and because you haven't felt safe in so long, you ghost actual good people because I didn't think I was in a good place and I was so embarrassed. Anyways, we need videos like this in this abusive world filled with narcissists and gaslighters and hateful people. Also a lot of people are having bad days so they also make the world seem more hateful than it is lol. Uhh the struggle. You're killing it girlie 😻
Dating with intention❤❤❤ thank you for you advice, Elle!! I’ve been on exciting & fun dates recently! The dinner date last night I was on with an established entrepreneur was lovely. A middle aged lady interrupted our dinner to compliment my dress & beauty… needless to say this pleased the man I was on a date with! That was my reminder to do the same for other ladies on dinner dates to keep these men knowing we are these prize ❤❤❤