I know that line was haunting, I feel that having lost my Mother and Father recently but I was blessed to have them both to old age! I cannot imagine for the life of me what it must feel like to bury your Children and to have them murdered and taken so cruelly by the man you once loved! The heartbreaking fact of this matter is this all could have been prevented had the Judge and the Law listened to this Mother and her Son’s, she really is such an inspiration, fighting for change and telling her story. Her beloved Boy’s, god rest their sweet souls, are so very proud of their Mum and I hope she is proud of herself, she really should be!! ❤️🩹
Judges have to work within the law, they are supposed to be impartial; they don't get to treat people differently because of they way they feel about a case, they have to base it on the law, the evidence and the precedent. Obviously, I'm not saying it was happening in this particular case but parental alienation is also a thing which happens to separated partners and the law at the time was in place to also protect parents from that situation. It's unbelievably heartbreaking but I'm not the judge on this case so I don't know what options they had available to them within the law, but I just think blaming that one person for this situation is not helpful; what the mum is doing, in campaigning to change the law, that is helping.
That judge should be jailed. Mom would know better than anyone that her boys were not safe with their Dad, and they vehemently said they didn’t want to see him. What gives the judge the right to ignore that? Is he stating that the father had parental rights? Sorry to burst your bubble, judge, but that bastard gave up his “rights” the moment he laid hands on those sweet boys and their Mom. My God, they suffered for years, finally escape and you threw them into the lion’s den. How do you sleep?
It makes me so angry and 9 and 12 year old children know what they want. I have heard other stories too where the child has begged to not have to see their parent that they are scared but the judges have not listened and forced the child to be with the abuser (saying the other parent is lying and manipulating) and the child have been murdered. Cruelty to force a child who doesn't want to see a parent. When will it change.
I'm sure the psychopath ex husbands lawyer claimed parental alienation which is a bogus syndrome made up by a creepy old man for men who are fighting ex wives. They claim women will lie about abuse in order to get custody on such a large scale that it skews custody disputes. Its all not true. The guy coming up with these crackpot theories should be in jail
Some parents make their kids say things that aren't true. My step dad had this issue with his ex wife; who was a drunk and abusive. He tried to fight for full custody, but she taught the kids to say that they didn't love him. They're fully grown now and have absolutely nothing to do with their mother. They hate her. They also have kids of their own, and don't want them to know their grandmother. So, I can understand why this wouldn't work. If the judge had listened to the kids, my step dad would have never seen them, even though he was the most stable and loving parent in their lives. It's such a tricky situation. How do you know the kids aren't being forced to say things? But in the same instance, these boys would still be alive if they had been listened to.
This is common in family court in the UK. It's a depraved system. My nephew was forced to see his abusive father and when he refused they tried to accuse his mother of parental alienation rather than believe my nephew and acknowledge his wishes
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My heart goes out to this Lady ❤ i was 9 yrs old when i packed my bags and waited on the side of a road for bus that never came to escape a violent home. Had my beautiful grandparents not stepped in and saved me, i would've been dead. When children say they dont want to be somwhere out of fear, ppl need to listen.
I just left, packed my bags and I slowly moved my belongings out of the house, my parents had no clue but my dad was awful and I wasn’t staying there anymore. My boyfriends mom was having a garage sale so when my mom would ask me to take stuff for the garage sale, I was sneaking my belongings out too. I left and didn’t go back…
Hell indeed exists. And there is a God who sits on His throne and is an impartial judge. Seek Him while you can. Seek the Lord Jesus Christ. Who will heal every bit of your pain and give you peace you can’t imagine. I had a vision of me being in hell when I wanted to take my life. “No peace. No love. No GOD.” We’re the words I heard. Never. Ever. Should you want to go there.
I have signed the petition. I was left with an abusive father for 7 years.I got removed out of the house when I was 13 years old.I prayed and begged for help where I could but the judge wanted me to stay with him.I wasn't left a choice.Children should be able to choose who the want to see and where they want to live.
The judge should have to be held responsible for their horrendous decision. My heart hurts for this poor lady. Can I sign the petition even if I live in Canada?
I firmly believe in children having a say... And not forced to go.... When they are older and can see the truth, then they can decide for themselves....
Either you see your kids for a day/weekend every other week (aka, you're a safe parent), or you get supervised visits. What's the point in a 5 hour unsupervised visit???
It’s truly heartbreaking to imagine the depth of pain and loss in such a situation. Sometimes, it feels impossible to comprehend how someone can endure such tragedy and still find the strength to move forward. What do you think helps people carry on after such unimaginable heartbreak?
I will never understand how a judge can make children go with their abuser. This is completely heartbreaking and this happens so many times. I hear the stories over and over again. I just don’t understand.
how? just simply on o recommendation of some people in local authorities . but their is really no excuse as all of them are trained therefore they know what is the real risk and what is the right way. However they chose opposite for personal gain, each if them. they do not treat children as children in family court neither mother as mother. You are slaves. and it is literally how you are perceived by them. This treatment is culture in most of Courts . Only few judges are exceptions and it is very time related.
The bit about her dad being her protector is spot on. These guys are cowards and will not offend if there is someone there to retaliate, which is why they prey on vulnerable women. I would also say this man is triggered by becoming a father, and that NEEDS to be looked at, as part of the analysis of their pathology. Very sorry for this lady but what a strong woman. And yes, we die when our children are taken and we only exist, waiting for the day to leave this planet and very cruel world.
Exactly! They are often only deterred if there's another male presence. Abusers play the long game and it's terrible for the vulnerable women and children that become their prey.
I’m a mother of two little boys…my heart is shattered for this woman. Those angels are out there somewhere together, watching and waiting to hold their mommy again. 💔
I will never understand it either, it's depressing. It's well beneath being "low" to end a child's life. (Especially your OWN kids lives.) It is 100 percent EVIL. People who abuse children in any way are heartless and cruel.
These judges who knowingly put children in harm’s way need to be held accountable. This makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. This poor mother. I am so sorry for your loss. The legal system failed you and your boys and this was not your fault.
Abusers are all the same; they always put the blame on the victims using the same excuse: 'look at what you made me do'. Too many women have heard these exact words over & over again. What a sad state of affairs.
What a courageous woman. To say “I can lay down and die or I can stand up and fight” reminds me so much of the strength in her boy Jack to try and save his brother in that attic. You can tell they got their hearts from their mother. May the boys rest in peace.
Who is the judge ? Name and shame him !!! That judge has blood on his hands... a family social worker should have been brought in to talk to the boys and access the situation.. great, you are speaking up to others, so they choose to leave when abuse occurs rather than stick around and endure it.. sticking around is the worst possible thing for the children.. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious boys
Right?! Between 2005 and 2015 charity Women’s Aid reported that “unsafe child contact arrangements had led to the killing of 19 children by their fathers.” Between 2004 and last year, the NSPCC has found that 63 children had been killed by their parents, after warning signs were ignored by authorities. This man beat his wife and children, he threatened his wife and children, he assaulted neighbours and had a criminal record for doing so. His wife even told authorities that “There was a case a year before where a man killed his children and shot himself. I remember him (Sykes) saying, “That Father’s got every right to do that.” Despite this and other testimony about the abuse, the judge ruled that the violent and erratic father of two should be permitted to see his sons for five hours of unsupervised contact every week. It didn’t take him even five hours to kill both boys and himself, after he lured them into the house’s attic with the promise of a train set, locked them in there, then set fire to the house in 16 different places using gasoline. Despite all of this, a ‘serious case review’ published a finding that “The deliberate and devastating actions of a newly divorced father who killed his two sons in a house fire could not have been predicted.” Biggest load of horse$h!t I’ve ever heard in my life!
Poor poor lady. I lost my daughter just over two years ago. I’m still devastated and feel lost without my beautiful girl. I accept I will always feel like this until we meet, when I go home too. The circumstances of those poor children’s passing are just simply horrific. This woman is inspirational. I totally agree the children should choose who they see and not see. I will be signing the petition. All children should have a voice. Well done lady, what a wonderful way to honour your two beautiful boys who will FOREVER be in your heart and mind. Sending you healing, love and hugs xxxxx❤️💞❤️
Sorry for your loss also. My fiancé lost a son 12yrs ago. Watching him fall to the ground and run into the woods to wanna kill himself was horrible. Thank God he had 2 sons still here who went and talked him back. I watch the sadness on a daily
Claire speaks absolutely beautifully about her beautiful boys and her love. As a mother I can only imagine her immense pain and grief and my heart aches so much for her. What a strong amazing woman to be able to turn such pain into something good. Petition signed ❤
So sorry for this ladies loss.❤😢.it is so heartbreaking. Someone who does that to his own children is beyond evil!! Evil personified!!!He is the devil....Hope he rots in hell where he truly belongs!!!😭 🤬🤬
Another story of where children are not listened to and then get murdered. If a child is scared and doesn't want to see a parent that should be it, makes me so mad. A 12 year old knows what they want, cruelty to force him to be with an abusive parent.
This poor mother. This is one of the most heart breaking things I've ever heard. Far too often, the folks in charge seem to care too much about what an abusive adult wants and put the feelings of children to the wayside. This has to stop. We have to put the children first and save them from their abusers.
This woman is like living poetry. She expresses herself in a way that is so deep and profound. It's moving and breaks your heart to listen to at the same time.
How can anybody force the kids to see somone they do not want to see? This judge needs to be held accountebale. All the strength to this woman. What a heartbreaking Story.
Im sharing this, not to take away from this strong womans bravery and immense pain, that i could never imagine. But just to share for those who think that judges may have learnt from cases like this. My sons donor, I shall call him; was abusive to me and our disabled son I'm every manner. When I saw a mark on my son, that was the last straw. Despite all the evidence of financial, physical, s-ual abuse, emotional abuse towards me (and later evidence came out and was convicted of underage r towards 2 girls).. the man still has "parental rights" from inside a prison cell. For context: my son is severely disabled, he will need 24 hour life long care. And when I had to change his school from primary to secondary, the council still wanted "dads opinion" on what school to send him. I have also had full custody for the last 7+ years. YET that man still has rights, while on a 20+year stretch. Absolutely wild.
OMG, this is just horrendous what this woman has had to suffer and go through. I am crying as I read this. Innocent lives lost. Mother totally destroyed and devastated. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
There should also be a bill that puts any judge on trial (by jury) who makes a determination relevant to a criminal's behavior without any professional psychological opinions. The judge isn't a psychologist. In this case, because he didn't seek professional opinion, he should be held liable for the children's deaths. This is only one of many cases where a bone-headed judge is arbitrary in decision making about a criminal's behavior. What I can't understand is how someone guilty of abuse can be within 1000 yards of their victims. He should have had to undergo counseling, psychological evaluations, and time spent in therapy until he was deemed "safe," with the understanding that could mean "never." Judges aren't psychologists so they have no business making decisions regarding criminal behavior without professional evaluations.
"my life stopped and my existence began" - everything about her demeanor makes it so apparent. I hope she finds solace in the difference she's making for others.
I fought my ex tooth and nail. Our daughter would cry and said her dad said he would keep her for good. He would play these emotional mind games. After 6 to 7 years of trying to work with ex on visitation, I shut it completely off. At one point the court ordered supervised visits for him. It cost him $50 each visit. That was the first and last visit he made because he didn't want to pay. I prayed and moved. He never found us. He stopped the child support and the healthcare. That was great. It gave me leverage. Leave us alone, I'll never ask for either as I said to myself. I've always worked and paid my own bills. Due to God's grace, I was able to have healthcare thru my job. Own a home. Was never on welfare. I would go after advancements to make more money. Never told my daughter anything bad about her dad. When she grew up she figured it out herself. As her dad has gotten older he's apologized to her. But she deals with him when she wants. She's 26 now.
im sure its still not easy and the after effects are sometimes as strong as ever. But you showed real strength when strength was needed and changed the outcome for you and your daughter forever. That's courage. I hope you and your daughter receive therapy because there's no shame in receiving help when it's needed
Oh my goodness those poor babies 😭😭😭 I lost it when she said going away in the ambulance was the furthest they had ever been apart. My thoughts are with this beautiful lady
Claire, my heart feels your pain. My daughter with Down syndrome was brutally attacked, raped and murdered over a two hour period by a stranger when she'd gone out for a walk. To lose both your children and the judge not to have taken you serious. Thankyou for sharing the beautiful legacy of your boys, and Jack's bravery to help his brother. What amazing boys. Our kids legacy of how they lived and drive for change to systems ensures their legacy continues and helps others. You are a strong, brave lady. Loving Lena with faith f27 ✏️ 💖 ✝️ 🌈
So sorry this happened to you and your daughter, I can't imagine anything worse than this happening to a parent. And people with down syndrome are so innocent too how can anyone harm them, I just don't understand how some people become so evil, how can a human being have zero empathy.
.Never have I ever heard a survivor of DV tell her story with such courage her words hit me hard, crying as I type ,no more words just hanging my head ,when will life be safe for woman and children when????
The judge should be 100% accountable he knew damn well that father was a monster. This woman is scarred forever as a mother for myself of a lost child that was born sleeping as an infant. I am scarred for myself.
What a woman! This is heart wrenching. It makes me so angry that strangers in law can force contact. My thoughts are with you, stay strong you will see your sons again. Petition signed x
I was falsely accused of parental alienation. They will NEVER listen to the children. All the men need to do is mention parental alienation and whatever your kids say or do it’s not believed. I’m sorry to say but they will never believe the children. When they realised they were wrong they covered it up and kind of just dropped the case, but there was no justice for my child - the one they damaged.
I never cry at stories like this. But for some reason I got so emotional with this story, I cried. And I cried for your two boys. I can’t imagine what hell you have been through. The fact it could have been so easily avoided is beyond me. May that judge be condemned.
I lost my daughter and watched her die in my arms too. There is no way to explain the depths of that type of grief. I totally understand everything she is saying. This poor woman to lose all of her babies. I hope the rest of her life treats her gently
There are no words. I have to believe you‘ll see them again. And if there is a hell, their father is in it. Thank you for working to protect children like Jack and Paul.
You were put on this earth for a purpose. Bigger than you imagine. If you give up on you. You give up on and betray the one who gave you life… God.i know it can be so hard. I wish you so much strength.
Being forced to give up your child to someone who you know could kill them. I can't even imagine. What can you do? You can ignore the order, go to jail and then their abuser has them for longer and you're even less capable of protecting them. It's just horrendous. I hope the courts - or at least the judge - learned something from this case.
Poor woman, her words saying she just exists, I feel for her soo much , this is sooo tragic, what a monster her ex husband he is! Hope the law she is trying to win , wins.
@@carladean6117 of course anyone can feel her pain. You can literally feel it through watching her. What I meant is as a mother to a boy myself I couldn’t even comprehend how much hurt she feels. I would be devastated to lose my baby. It’s unimaginable. My heart really breaks for her.
My heart has been ripped from my chest listening to this. The thought of that happening to my little ones and how scared and hurt they would be in the moment has me bawling my eyes out. Her story is such a powerful advocate for future children’s safety in similar situations that I hope what she is doing is successful. With all my heart
My 12 year old niece was murdered by her "stepfather" 3 years in Feb. I cry for you and my sister. I am so sorry. The pain of losing her myself is immense. I cannot imagine as a mom.
How absolutely devastating. I cannot even fathom what you have been through. I will keep you in my prayers, always. You’re a strong woman to keep on going.
Dear claire one day as you say ,you'll meet your boys again ,in the meanwhile they're watching over you with all the immense love they feel for you. No one can take away that love .they're so much loved and you are so much loved.
Absolutely heartbreaking. I have signed the petition. This should never have been allowed to happen in the first place. Thinking of you and your lovely boys. Xx
I knew someone who survived a situation like this. All her children were shot and one survived but was so damaged he committed suicide later. She was a wonderful woman and a caretaker. I have no words for what this woman has gone through except to offer my sincerest sympathies.
The strength of this woman, so so heartbreaking for the loss she has suffered, those beautiful boys; shame on the judge and system that failed them all….
This is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that poor lady suffers yet she’s still trying to fight to get the law changed. What an unbelievable human she is.
Being a DV survior as well that's a classic line "look what you make me do" I've heard it myself 😢 - Also as an EMT I've seen the eyes your talking about it's 1000% real - also as a mother of 2 boys and I cannot fathom the pain you must try to numb every day. God bless you ❤
I’ve never not been able to finish watching a UA-cam video before, but this is beyond what any mother should have to go through. I’m so sorry I couldn’t finish it but I listened to 8 minutes of the love you have for your children and hope you find peace with them one day ❤😢
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m incredibly angry that that judge didn’t listen to your warnings & that his poor decision resulted in the tragic loss of your 2 sons. I’m sure they’d be so proud to see what their mum is doing to try prevent this happening to other little boys & girls. I’ve signed your petition & shared it too!
It’s unbelievable that your still standing’ what an amazing lady you are to share with others what men are capable of to hurt there wife’s in away no other could 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I don't think I've ever cried this much cause of a UA-cam video. This lady must be so traumatized that she's not even crying while telling this. This was my worst fear growing up. My stepdad was an abusive, narcissist tiran. I slept in the attic and I was afraid many nights he'd set the house on fire one day and I worried about not being able to escape. But my tears now are for this mom and her boys. Please know this wasn't your fault, you did the right thing by leaving this mad man. The judge needs to be held accountable.
Ma'am.... I recognize a level of this agony. Leaving with my 3 children because my husband was sexually violating my son, the judge gives him all 3 of my children makes me pay child support and then arrested me when I was breaking down and could not work for a short season. Then after 10 years of fighting in the courts I was made to sign the rights away to my children. They do not even know me, for I am older now. I am familiar with the life of existence. My heart is with you and the Lord gives the strength to bear all things and continue forward even if it is on broken legs.
What an absolutely tragic and heartbreaking story. My ❤ goes out to this poor brave lady. How anyone can kill their own children in revenge towards their Ex is cruel and evil beyond belief. Love and prayers to this sad mother. May she eventually find peace 🙏😢
The judge concluded the same thing for me and my sister. Although my dad was never physically abusive to me and my sister he was to his partner at the time and the emotional and mental damage it caused us as children could have been completly avoided if we were listened to. As a 28 year old i still struggle with the toll it had on me as a kid and it should never have been allowed
Oh momma. I'm so sorry. Your handsome boys are so proud of the changes you are making. Everything you said had tears streaming down my face but this hit so hard... "And they will know that their friends children and other generations to come will be safe and happy" 😢 Essentially the grand children you never got to meet 😭 big hugs to you.
This woman, the law she made might’ve saved my childhood because I wasn’t in a great position with my father and he wasn’t the greatest man to be a parent, I chose my mom at the age of 12. I think about it and this woman is doing miracles.
The judge that basically signed these boys' death warrant should be held accountable
Yes, with his history the judge should have at least required that the visits be supervised.
I agree
Yeah I agree too!!
These people are rarely held accountable, it seems impossible for justice anymore.
Yes
"My life ended, and my existence began." What a way to put it.
I think she meant she is gonna tell her story from the beginning
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@@megalou6567 She means that she feels like she is only existing now without her children :(
I know that line was haunting, I feel that having lost my Mother and Father recently but I was blessed to have them both to old age! I cannot imagine for the life of me what it must feel like to bury your Children and to have them murdered and taken so cruelly by the man you once loved! The heartbreaking fact of this matter is this all could have been prevented had the Judge and the Law listened to this Mother and her Son’s, she really is such an inspiration, fighting for change and telling her story. Her beloved Boy’s, god rest their sweet souls, are so very proud of their Mum and I hope she is proud of herself, she really should be!! ❤️🩹
glad im not only one who noticed the way she said that lol
I’m bawling. I hope that judge thinks of this woman every single day for the rest of his life.
Trust me they don't, this isn't an isolated case
That judge won’t blink an eye ‘ there emotionless
@@clareoconnor5648They’re
Pure evil entered this woman's life when she met him, Evil cruel monster, I hope he rots in hell, and I pray God will grant this mother peace.
Judges have to work within the law, they are supposed to be impartial; they don't get to treat people differently because of they way they feel about a case, they have to base it on the law, the evidence and the precedent. Obviously, I'm not saying it was happening in this particular case but parental alienation is also a thing which happens to separated partners and the law at the time was in place to also protect parents from that situation. It's unbelievably heartbreaking but I'm not the judge on this case so I don't know what options they had available to them within the law, but I just think blaming that one person for this situation is not helpful; what the mum is doing, in campaigning to change the law, that is helping.
The judge who made this decision needs to be held accountable
That judge should be in prison!
Absolutely.
@@LilySaintSin😅😅😅😅😅 Helloìok
I hope that judge resigned. He’s not fit to have such power.
Just children, just a woman. Judges actually judge based on this at times and far too often. “Wouldn’t want to ruin his future” comes to mind.
this woman speaks so beautifully and poetically. my heart aches for her and her boys.
Immediately what I thought. She has a gift with words and how she illustrates her truth.
you put in words what i thought as well
That judge should be jailed. Mom would know better than anyone that her boys were not safe with their Dad, and they vehemently said they didn’t want to see him. What gives the judge the right to ignore that? Is he stating that the father had parental rights? Sorry to burst your bubble, judge, but that bastard gave up his “rights” the moment he laid hands on those sweet boys and their Mom. My God, they suffered for years, finally escape and you threw them into the lion’s den. How do you sleep?
It makes me so angry and 9 and 12 year old children know what they want. I have heard other stories too where the child has begged to not have to see their parent that they are scared but the judges have not listened and forced the child to be with the abuser (saying the other parent is lying and manipulating) and the child have been murdered. Cruelty to force a child who doesn't want to see a parent. When will it change.
And I'm sick or parental rights, what about the childs rights to safety and to not be mentally damaged for life or murdered.
I'm sure the psychopath ex husbands lawyer claimed parental alienation which is a bogus syndrome made up by a creepy old man for men who are fighting ex wives.
They claim women will lie about abuse in order to get custody on such a large scale that it skews custody disputes.
Its all not true. The guy coming up with these crackpot theories should be in jail
@@teijaflink2226This is why children are the most UNDERREPRESENTED portion of the population. No one to ever speak for them.
Some parents make their kids say things that aren't true. My step dad had this issue with his ex wife; who was a drunk and abusive. He tried to fight for full custody, but she taught the kids to say that they didn't love him. They're fully grown now and have absolutely nothing to do with their mother. They hate her. They also have kids of their own, and don't want them to know their grandmother. So, I can understand why this wouldn't work. If the judge had listened to the kids, my step dad would have never seen them, even though he was the most stable and loving parent in their lives. It's such a tricky situation. How do you know the kids aren't being forced to say things? But in the same instance, these boys would still be alive if they had been listened to.
It's heartbreaking what the judge allowed to happen. My heart goes out to this mother.
This is common in family court in the UK. It's a depraved system. My nephew was forced to see his abusive father and when he refused they tried to accuse his mother of parental alienation rather than believe my nephew and acknowledge his wishes
@@KingUsyk Unfortunately, it happens here in the US, as well. It seems like the actual, real, welfare of children is barely considered.
It sounds like a relaxing routine, doesn’t it? It’s interesting to think about how we all dream of the simple, peaceful life sometimes, but there’s also something fascinating about those moments where we are challenged to do more. What do you think makes us yearn for such simplicity? Could it be a desire to escape the pressures of the world, or is there more to it, like the need to reconnect with ourselves? Would love to hear your thoughts!
My heart goes out to this Lady ❤ i was 9 yrs old when i packed my bags and waited on the side of a road for bus that never came to escape a violent home. Had my beautiful grandparents not stepped in and saved me, i would've been dead. When children say they dont want to be somwhere out of fear, ppl need to listen.
I’m so sorry that things were so bad, and I’m glad your grandparents were there for you. ❤ I hope you’re doing well. 😊❤
So very sorry
My grandparents saved me too from both of my degenerate parents.
It’s been a hard road but I’m ok.
❤
I just left, packed my bags and I slowly moved my belongings out of the house, my parents had no clue but my dad was awful and I wasn’t staying there anymore. My boyfriends mom was having a garage sale so when my mom would ask me to take stuff for the garage sale, I was sneaking my belongings out too. I left and didn’t go back…
😢😢
I could tell she had nothing left. My heart is so heavy for her loss of her sweet brave boys.
If judges were held accountable for this bs, I bet a lot more of them would be imposing the harshest and longest punishments possible.
Absolutely bang on comment
This 👏 mine was absolutely awful. TBH they literally just want you out of their system. They couldn’t care less.
There’s a special place in hell for the man who did this to his own children.
To all the men who do this to their children. It happens too much.
Hell doesn’t exist
@Cats-lm8jn you're already in it, love.
Hell indeed exists. And there is a God who sits on His throne and is an impartial judge. Seek Him while you can. Seek the Lord Jesus Christ. Who will heal every bit of your pain and give you peace you can’t imagine. I had a vision of me being in hell when I wanted to take my life. “No peace. No love. No GOD.” We’re the words I heard. Never. Ever. Should you want to go there.
@@Cats-lm8jn It does. That reality will hit many upon the soul departing from this dimension.
I have signed the petition. I was left with an abusive father for 7 years.I got removed out of the house when I was 13 years old.I prayed and begged for help where I could but the judge wanted me to stay with him.I wasn't left a choice.Children should be able to choose who the want to see and where they want to live.
The judge should have to be held responsible for their horrendous decision. My heart hurts for this poor lady. Can I sign the petition even if I live in Canada?
You can, I did. Just use any of the areas local postal codes (E1 7EB, EC1A 2AL, E1 8BX etc)
I'm in Australia. Can I have the link please?
@@annabahatska1433
Yes as I pur my name down as anonymous, with my anonymous email attached x
I firmly believe in children having a say... And not forced to go.... When they are older and can see the truth, then they can decide for themselves....
100%
Its because male judges see themselves in these men.
Either you see your kids for a day/weekend every other week (aka, you're a safe parent), or you get supervised visits. What's the point in a 5 hour unsupervised visit???
@@9395gb What about women judges who make decisions like this?
If only malicious parents didn't ruin this for the bunch.
A mother with no children has got to be one of the most gut wrenching, most tragic things in existence. My heart breaks and aches for you, mama.
❤❤❤ lovely tribute ❤
This 💔
It's the worst feeling... I cry every day over my girls....
@@thevegandragon_ I will pray for you and I am so sorry for your loss.
It’s truly heartbreaking to imagine the depth of pain and loss in such a situation. Sometimes, it feels impossible to comprehend how someone can endure such tragedy and still find the strength to move forward. What do you think helps people carry on after such unimaginable heartbreak?
I will never understand how a judge can make children go with their abuser. This is completely heartbreaking and this happens so many times. I hear the stories over and over again. I just don’t understand.
how? just simply on o recommendation of some people in local authorities . but their is really no excuse as all of them are trained therefore they know what is the real risk and what is the right way. However they chose opposite for personal gain, each if them. they do not treat children as children in family court neither mother as mother. You are slaves. and it is literally how you are perceived by them. This treatment is culture in most of Courts . Only few judges are exceptions and it is very time related.
This woman, this mum isn't just standing up and fighting for her own children but the children of many.
The bit about her dad being her protector is spot on. These guys are cowards and will not offend if there is someone there to retaliate, which is why they prey on vulnerable women. I would also say this man is triggered by becoming a father, and that NEEDS to be looked at, as part of the analysis of their pathology. Very sorry for this lady but what a strong woman. And yes, we die when our children are taken and we only exist, waiting for the day to leave this planet and very cruel world.
Exactly! They are often only deterred if there's another male presence. Abusers play the long game and it's terrible for the vulnerable women and children that become their prey.
I’m a mother of two little boys…my heart is shattered for this woman. Those angels are out there somewhere together, watching and waiting to hold their mommy again. 💔
I’m sobbing!!!! The judge INSISTED!!!!! I can’t even believe this woman had to endure. Her ex husband did this just to hurt those woman.
This is so devastating. This poor woman. Those poor boys. I will never understood being so cruel that you take a childs life.
I will never understand it either, it's depressing. It's well beneath being "low" to end a child's life. (Especially your OWN kids lives.) It is 100 percent EVIL. People who abuse children in any way are heartless and cruel.
These judges who knowingly put children in harm’s way need to be held accountable. This makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. This poor mother. I am so sorry for your loss. The legal system failed you and your boys and this was not your fault.
Abusers are all the same; they always put the blame on the victims using the same excuse: 'look at what you made me do'. Too many women have heard these exact words over & over again. What a sad state of affairs.
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My mom would say this (in other words) to me all the time. She was very abusive in her own right.
I have heard this so many times
What a courageous woman. To say “I can lay down and die or I can stand up and fight” reminds me so much of the strength in her boy Jack to try and save his brother in that attic. You can tell they got their hearts from their mother. May the boys rest in peace.
She's not courageous just for saying something.
Who is the judge ? Name and shame him !!! That judge has blood on his hands... a family social worker should have been brought in to talk to the boys and access the situation.. great, you are speaking up to others, so they choose to leave when abuse occurs rather than stick around and endure it.. sticking around is the worst possible thing for the children.. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious boys
Right?! Between 2005 and 2015 charity Women’s Aid reported that “unsafe child contact arrangements had led to the killing of 19 children by their fathers.” Between 2004 and last year, the NSPCC has found that 63 children had been killed by their parents, after warning signs were ignored by authorities.
This man beat his wife and children, he threatened his wife and children, he assaulted neighbours and had a criminal record for doing so. His wife even told authorities that “There was a case a year before where a man killed his children and shot himself. I remember him (Sykes) saying, “That Father’s got every right to do that.”
Despite this and other testimony about the abuse, the judge ruled that the violent and erratic father of two should be permitted to see his sons for five hours of unsupervised contact every week. It didn’t take him even five hours to kill both boys and himself, after he lured them into the house’s attic with the promise of a train set, locked them in there, then set fire to the house in 16 different places using gasoline.
Despite all of this, a ‘serious case review’ published a finding that “The deliberate and devastating actions of a newly divorced father who killed his two sons in a house fire could not have been predicted.” Biggest load of horse$h!t I’ve ever heard in my life!
Shame on this judge. Shame!
0:19 "..how my life ended and my existence began". That was powerful! 😳
Poor poor lady. I lost my daughter just over two years ago. I’m still devastated and feel lost without my beautiful girl. I accept I will always feel like this until we meet, when I go home too. The circumstances of those poor children’s passing are just simply horrific. This woman is inspirational. I totally agree the children should choose who they see and not see. I will be signing the petition. All children should have a voice. Well done lady, what a wonderful way to honour your two beautiful boys who will FOREVER be in your heart and mind. Sending you healing, love and hugs xxxxx❤️💞❤️
Incredibly sorry to hear this.😢❤
Sorry for your loss also. My fiancé lost a son 12yrs ago. Watching him fall to the ground and run into the woods to wanna kill himself was horrible. Thank God he had 2 sons still here who went and talked him back. I watch the sadness on a daily
So so sorry for your loss.😢
Im so very sorry for your loss hugs
Much love to you 😢
I lost my only child. The house didn't breathe anymore, it felt dead. We moved.
I’m so sorry 🙏🏽
Claire speaks absolutely beautifully about her beautiful boys and her love. As a mother I can only imagine her immense pain and grief and my heart aches so much for her. What a strong amazing woman to be able to turn such pain into something good. Petition signed ❤
So sorry for this ladies loss.❤😢.it is so heartbreaking. Someone who does that to his own children is beyond evil!! Evil personified!!!He is the devil....Hope he rots in hell where he truly belongs!!!😭 🤬🤬
Another story of where children are not listened to and then get murdered. If a child is scared and doesn't want to see a parent that should be it, makes me so mad. A 12 year old knows what they want, cruelty to force him to be with an abusive parent.
She speaks so eloquently. I hope she finds peace.
"my life ended and my existance began" heartwrenching😢
I'm in floods of tears, this is absolutely horrific, how can that judge sleep at night? These boys deserved so much better, I'm so sorry❤
I knew Jack and Paul growing up. Such lovely boys. Such a tragic story so close to everyone around me.
Please forgive me for asking; but what happened to them? What did their father do to them?
@@Adrienne-wv7qodid you watch the story? It’s in the video.
This poor mother. This is one of the most heart breaking things I've ever heard. Far too often, the folks in charge seem to care too much about what an abusive adult wants and put the feelings of children to the wayside. This has to stop. We have to put the children first and save them from their abusers.
Yes!!! And abuse ALWAYS escalates. That Judge should be in prison. I don’t know why they don’t listen when people say there is risk.
This woman is like living poetry. She expresses herself in a way that is so deep and profound. It's moving and breaks your heart to listen to at the same time.
It's amazing.
How can anybody force the kids to see somone they do not want to see? This judge needs to be held accountebale. All the strength to this woman. What a heartbreaking Story.
Unfortunately some people don’t see children as actual people whose feelings should be respected 💔
Im sharing this, not to take away from this strong womans bravery and immense pain, that i could never imagine. But just to share for those who think that judges may have learnt from cases like this.
My sons donor, I shall call him; was abusive to me and our disabled son I'm every manner. When I saw a mark on my son, that was the last straw.
Despite all the evidence of financial, physical, s-ual abuse, emotional abuse towards me (and later evidence came out and was convicted of underage r towards 2 girls).. the man still has "parental rights" from inside a prison cell.
For context: my son is severely disabled, he will need 24 hour life long care. And when I had to change his school from primary to secondary, the council still wanted "dads opinion" on what school to send him. I have also had full custody for the last 7+ years. YET that man still has rights, while on a 20+year stretch.
Absolutely wild.
I've heard a similar story. A lady who's baby went to her ex husband who then murdered the infant
OMG, this is just horrendous what this woman has had to suffer and go through. I am crying as I read this. Innocent lives lost. Mother totally destroyed and devastated. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
There should also be a bill that puts any judge on trial (by jury) who makes a determination relevant to a criminal's behavior without any professional psychological opinions. The judge isn't a psychologist. In this case, because he didn't seek professional opinion, he should be held liable for the children's deaths.
This is only one of many cases where a bone-headed judge is arbitrary in decision making about a criminal's behavior.
What I can't understand is how someone guilty of abuse can be within 1000 yards of their victims. He should have had to undergo counseling, psychological evaluations, and time spent in therapy until he was deemed "safe," with the understanding that could mean "never." Judges aren't psychologists so they have no business making decisions regarding criminal behavior without professional evaluations.
Excellent comment…thank you!😢
"my life stopped and my existence began" - everything about her demeanor makes it so apparent. I hope she finds solace in the difference she's making for others.
I signed the petition. That judge needs to see justice and should not be working. This woman is so strong
I fought my ex tooth and nail. Our daughter would cry and said her dad said he would keep her for good. He would play these emotional mind games. After 6 to 7 years of trying to work with ex on visitation, I shut it completely off. At one point the court ordered supervised visits for him. It cost him $50 each visit. That was the first and last visit he made because he didn't want to pay. I prayed and moved. He never found us. He stopped the child support and the healthcare. That was great. It gave me leverage. Leave us alone, I'll never ask for either as I said to myself. I've always worked and paid my own bills. Due to God's grace, I was able to have healthcare thru my job. Own a home. Was never on welfare. I would go after advancements to make more money. Never told my daughter anything bad about her dad. When she grew up she figured it out herself. As her dad has gotten older he's apologized to her. But she deals with him when she wants. She's 26 now.
Even if he should have payed child support rather keep your children safe than fight with the abuser, that's the most important thing.
She could keep away he is a pig
You're a good Mother!🧡💐
im sure its still not easy and the after effects are sometimes as strong as ever. But you showed real strength when strength was needed and changed the outcome for you and your daughter forever. That's courage. I hope you and your daughter receive therapy because there's no shame in receiving help when it's needed
you aren’t superior to other survivors just cause you were fortunate enough to not need welfare. not a flex.
I can’t imagine the pain of having your child die in your arms. I’m so sorry. 💔
Oh my goodness those poor babies 😭😭😭 I lost it when she said going away in the ambulance was the furthest they had ever been apart. My thoughts are with this beautiful lady
Claire, my heart feels your pain. My daughter with Down syndrome was brutally attacked, raped and murdered over a two hour period by a stranger when she'd gone out for a walk. To lose both your children and the judge not to have taken you serious. Thankyou for sharing the beautiful legacy of your boys, and Jack's bravery to help his brother. What amazing boys. Our kids legacy of how they lived and drive for change to systems ensures their legacy continues and helps others. You are a strong, brave lady.
Loving Lena with faith f27 ✏️ 💖 ✝️ 🌈
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. ❤️🩹🥲🕊️
Oh my goodness😭That’s pure evil🤯So sorry what you have to went trough🙏❤️🙏
So sorry this happened to you and your daughter, I can't imagine anything worse than this happening to a parent. And people with down syndrome are so innocent too how can anyone harm them, I just don't understand how some people become so evil, how can a human being have zero empathy.
@@teijaflink2226 maybe this monster isn't human. Demons take people over 😢
Omg 😱 I don’t think I could survive if I lost my daughter with DS. She lives to love others. I can’t even imagine your pain
.Never have I ever heard a survivor of DV tell her story with such courage her words hit me hard, crying as I type ,no more words just hanging my head ,when will life be safe for woman and children when????
Your courage, dignity and your quest to prevent this happening again is commendable. Will certainly sign the petition.
She described being gaslit and abused so well. This poor woman, r.i.p to her sons 😢
The judge should be 100% accountable he knew damn well that father was a monster. This woman is scarred forever as a mother for myself of a lost child that was born sleeping as an infant. I am scarred for myself.
What a woman! This is heart wrenching. It makes me so angry that strangers in law can force contact. My thoughts are with you, stay strong you will see your sons again. Petition signed x
I was falsely accused of parental alienation. They will NEVER listen to the children. All the men need to do is mention parental alienation and whatever your kids say or do it’s not believed. I’m sorry to say but they will never believe the children. When they realised they were wrong they covered it up and kind of just dropped the case, but there was no justice for my child - the one they damaged.
I never cry at stories like this. But for some reason I got so emotional with this story, I cried. And I cried for your two boys. I can’t imagine what hell you have been through. The fact it could have been so easily avoided is beyond me. May that judge be condemned.
What an amazing strong woman. My heart goes out to her.
I struggled to get through this. Poor kids. She is so strong. That man is evil.
I lost my daughter and watched her die in my arms too. There is no way to explain the depths of that type of grief. I totally understand everything she is saying. This poor woman to lose all of her babies. I hope the rest of her life treats her gently
I simply cannot imagine what she's gone through not even in the slightest. My heart goes out to you
There are no words. I have to believe you‘ll see them again. And if there is a hell, their father is in it. Thank you for working to protect children like Jack and Paul.
I lost my husband when I was 29 and he was 33. My life stopped that day and my existence began
He is waiting for you, untill than, you must live your live, he would want you to...❤
You were put on this earth for a purpose. Bigger than you imagine. If you give up on you. You give up on and betray the one who gave you life… God.i know it can be so hard. I wish you so much strength.
Seek Him and He will heal you
Being forced to give up your child to someone who you know could kill them. I can't even imagine. What can you do? You can ignore the order, go to jail and then their abuser has them for longer and you're even less capable of protecting them. It's just horrendous. I hope the courts - or at least the judge - learned something from this case.
So painful
Poor woman, her words saying she just exists, I feel for her soo much , this is sooo tragic, what a monster her ex husband he is! Hope the law she is trying to win , wins.
I’ve just signed the petition, you are so brave and strong and I know you’re making your two boys proud up in heaven ❤️
I just want to hug her so much. As a mother to a son I can’t even begin to imagine how much pain she’s in. 😢 signed
You don't have to be a mother to feel her pain, just a human being
@@carladean6117 of course anyone can feel her pain. You can literally feel it through watching her. What I meant is as a mother to a boy myself I couldn’t even comprehend how much hurt she feels. I would be devastated to lose my baby. It’s unimaginable. My heart really breaks for her.
I knew what you meant, but anyone with an ounce of empathy's heart will break for this poor woman.
Oh such a horrific loss of 2 beautiful sons ... I am speechless My heart breaks for this woman. God Bless her.
This is absolutely devastating. I'm so sorry Claire x
My heart has been ripped from my chest listening to this. The thought of that happening to my little ones and how scared and hurt they would be in the moment has me bawling my eyes out. Her story is such a powerful advocate for future children’s safety in similar situations that I hope what she is doing is successful. With all my heart
Signed. What is the name of the judge? He should be named, shamed, and charged with the deaths of these boys!!!!!
I am so very sorry for you, there are no words but I hope you will be reunited with your boys one day…☹️
I hope that judge never knows peace. I hope all of this poor woman’s pain is given to all of the people that failed her and her children.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful children 😢May they R.l.p.😢
My 12 year old niece was murdered by her "stepfather" 3 years in Feb. I cry for you and my sister. I am so sorry. The pain of losing her myself is immense. I cannot imagine as a mom.
How absolutely devastating. I cannot even fathom what you have been through. I will keep you in my prayers, always. You’re a strong woman to keep on going.
My god … 😢 I’m so sorry. I’ve got three boys myself. Crying here. Sending you all my love x
Dear claire one day as you say ,you'll meet your boys again ,in the meanwhile they're watching over you with all the immense love they feel for you. No one can take away that love .they're so much loved and you are so much loved.
Absolutely heartbreaking. I have signed the petition. This should never have been allowed to happen in the first place. Thinking of you and your lovely boys. Xx
I knew someone who survived a situation like this. All her children were shot and one survived but was so damaged he committed suicide later. She was a wonderful woman and a caretaker. I have no words for what this woman has gone through except to offer my sincerest sympathies.
The strength of this woman, so so heartbreaking for the loss she has suffered, those beautiful boys; shame on the judge and system that failed them all….
This is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that poor lady suffers yet she’s still trying to fight to get the law changed. What an unbelievable human she is.
Being a DV survior as well that's a classic line "look what you make me do" I've heard it myself 😢 - Also as an EMT I've seen the eyes your talking about it's 1000% real - also as a mother of 2 boys and I cannot fathom the pain you must try to numb every day. God bless you ❤
I’ve never not been able to finish watching a UA-cam video before, but this is beyond what any mother should have to go through. I’m so sorry I couldn’t finish it but I listened to 8 minutes of the love you have for your children and hope you find peace with them one day ❤😢
😢 I'm so sorry for your loss, you're a very strong lady x
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m incredibly angry that that judge didn’t listen to your warnings & that his poor decision resulted in the tragic loss of your 2 sons. I’m sure they’d be so proud to see what their mum is doing to try prevent this happening to other little boys & girls. I’ve signed your petition & shared it too!
It’s unbelievable that your still standing’ what an amazing lady you are to share with others what men are capable of to hurt there wife’s in away no other could 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I don't think I've ever cried this much cause of a UA-cam video. This lady must be so traumatized that she's not even crying while telling this. This was my worst fear growing up. My stepdad was an abusive, narcissist tiran. I slept in the attic and I was afraid many nights he'd set the house on fire one day and I worried about not being able to escape. But my tears now are for this mom and her boys. Please know this wasn't your fault, you did the right thing by leaving this mad man. The judge needs to be held accountable.
God bless you Claire 🙏🏼
Your story reminds me of the Powell boys who were murdered by their father during a custody visit. So sad 😢
Ma'am.... I recognize a level of this agony. Leaving with my 3 children because my husband was sexually violating my son, the judge gives him all 3 of my children makes me pay child support and then arrested me when I was breaking down and could not work for a short season. Then after 10 years of fighting in the courts I was made to sign the rights away to my children. They do not even know me, for I am older now. I am familiar with the life of existence. My heart is with you and the Lord gives the strength to bear all things and continue forward even if it is on broken legs.
Absolutely heartbreaking. Those dear boys and their mother. Can't imagine your pain. Sending heartfelt prayers 🙏
Her strength is amazing. I am so so sorry you have to bear this loss
What an absolutely tragic and heartbreaking story. My ❤ goes out to this poor brave lady. How anyone can kill their own children in revenge towards their Ex is cruel and evil beyond belief. Love and prayers to this sad mother. May she eventually find peace 🙏😢
The judge concluded the same thing for me and my sister. Although my dad was never physically abusive to me and my sister he was to his partner at the time and the emotional and mental damage it caused us as children could have been completly avoided if we were listened to. As a 28 year old i still struggle with the toll it had on me as a kid and it should never have been allowed
This is so incredibly sad, the strength this woman has shown is breathtaking.
I’m almost 70 years old, and this is the most heart wrenching story I’ve ever heard.
You beautiful suffering woman! My heart cries out on pain with you. Thank you for sharing the memory of your beautiful and brave boys.
Oh momma. I'm so sorry. Your handsome boys are so proud of the changes you are making. Everything you said had tears streaming down my face but this hit so hard...
"And they will know that their friends children and other generations to come will be safe and happy" 😢
Essentially the grand children you never got to meet 😭 big hugs to you.
That judge should feel guilt and shame everyday for the decision they made.
She is stronger than i would be in that situation. My heart breaks for this brave lady.
There will be a special place in heaven for this incredible woman. Her boys will meet her and take her to that special place for eternity ❤❤❤
This is heartbreaking. A mum and two lovely boys knew how dangerous that monster was and nobody listened. 💔💔💔
Petition signed. Hope it makes a difference.
This woman, the law she made might’ve saved my childhood because I wasn’t in a great position with my father and he wasn’t the greatest man to be a parent, I chose my mom at the age of 12. I think about it and this woman is doing miracles.
This is one of the most heartbreaking interviews ive ever seen/heard… Terrible terrible terrible what this poor woman has had to live.
Respect and love to you❤ Your beautiful boys are helping you get thru this heinous act.
This is your legacy 😢❤