I know that line was haunting, I feel that having lost my Mother and Father recently but I was blessed to have them both to old age! I cannot imagine for the life of me what it must feel like to bury your Children and to have them murdered and taken so cruelly by the man you once loved! The heartbreaking fact of this matter is this all could have been prevented had the Judge and the Law listened to this Mother and her Son’s, she really is such an inspiration, fighting for change and telling her story. Her beloved Boy’s, god rest their sweet souls, are so very proud of their Mum and I hope she is proud of herself, she really should be!! ❤️🩹
That judge should be jailed. Mom would know better than anyone that her boys were not safe with their Dad, and they vehemently said they didn’t want to see him. What gives the judge the right to ignore that? Is he stating that the father had parental rights? Sorry to burst your bubble, judge, but that bastard gave up his “rights” the moment he laid hands on those sweet boys and their Mom. My God, they suffered for years, finally escape and you threw them into the lion’s den. How do you sleep?
It makes me so angry and 9 and 12 year old children know what they want. I have heard other stories too where the child has begged to not have to see their parent that they are scared but the judges have not listened and forced the child to be with the abuser (saying the other parent is lying and manipulating) and the child have been murdered. Cruelty to force a child who doesn't want to see a parent. When will it change.
I'm sure the psychopath ex husbands lawyer claimed parental alienation which is a bogus syndrome made up by a creepy old man for men who are fighting ex wives. They claim women will lie about abuse in order to get custody on such a large scale that it skews custody disputes. Its all not true. The guy coming up with these crackpot theories should be in jail
Some parents make their kids say things that aren't true. My step dad had this issue with his ex wife; who was a drunk and abusive. He tried to fight for full custody, but she taught the kids to say that they didn't love him. They're fully grown now and have absolutely nothing to do with their mother. They hate her. They also have kids of their own, and don't want them to know their grandmother. So, I can understand why this wouldn't work. If the judge had listened to the kids, my step dad would have never seen them, even though he was the most stable and loving parent in their lives. It's such a tricky situation. How do you know the kids aren't being forced to say things? But in the same instance, these boys would still be alive if they had been listened to.
My heart goes out to this Lady ❤ i was 9 yrs old when i packed my bags and waited on the side of a road for bus that never came to escape a violent home. Had my beautiful grandparents not stepped in and saved me, i would've been dead. When children say they dont want to be somwhere out of fear, ppl need to listen.
I just left, packed my bags and I slowly moved my belongings out of the house, my parents had no clue but my dad was awful and I wasn’t staying there anymore. My boyfriends mom was having a garage sale so when my mom would ask me to take stuff for the garage sale, I was sneaking my belongings out too. I left and didn’t go back…
This is common in family court in the UK. It's a depraved system. My nephew was forced to see his abusive father and when he refused they tried to accuse his mother of parental alienation rather than believe my nephew and acknowledge his wishes
It sounds like a relaxing routine, doesn’t it? It’s interesting to think about how we all dream of the simple, peaceful life sometimes, but there’s also something fascinating about those moments where we are challenged to do more. What do you think makes us yearn for such simplicity? Could it be a desire to escape the pressures of the world, or is there more to it, like the need to reconnect with ourselves? Would love to hear your thoughts!
I firmly believe in children having a say... And not forced to go.... When they are older and can see the truth, then they can decide for themselves....
Either you see your kids for a day/weekend every other week (aka, you're a safe parent), or you get supervised visits. What's the point in a 5 hour unsupervised visit???
The judge should have to be held responsible for their horrendous decision. My heart hurts for this poor lady. Can I sign the petition even if I live in Canada?
I will never understand how a judge can make children go with their abuser. This is completely heartbreaking and this happens so many times. I hear the stories over and over again. I just don’t understand.
I’m a mother of two little boys…my heart is shattered for this woman. Those angels are out there somewhere together, watching and waiting to hold their mommy again. 💔
I will never understand it either, it's depressing. It's well beneath being "low" to end a child's life. (Especially your OWN kids lives.) It is 100 percent EVIL. People who abuse children in any way are heartless and cruel.
Poor poor lady. I lost my daughter just over two years ago. I’m still devastated and feel lost without my beautiful girl. I accept I will always feel like this until we meet, when I go home too. The circumstances of those poor children’s passing are just simply horrific. This woman is inspirational. I totally agree the children should choose who they see and not see. I will be signing the petition. All children should have a voice. Well done lady, what a wonderful way to honour your two beautiful boys who will FOREVER be in your heart and mind. Sending you healing, love and hugs xxxxx❤️💞❤️
Sorry for your loss also. My fiancé lost a son 12yrs ago. Watching him fall to the ground and run into the woods to wanna kill himself was horrible. Thank God he had 2 sons still here who went and talked him back. I watch the sadness on a daily
What a courageous woman. To say “I can lay down and die or I can stand up and fight” reminds me so much of the strength in her boy Jack to try and save his brother in that attic. You can tell they got their hearts from their mother. May the boys rest in peace.
The bit about her dad being her protector is spot on. These guys are cowards and will not offend if there is someone there to retaliate, which is why they prey on vulnerable women. I would also say this man is triggered by becoming a father, and that NEEDS to be looked at, as part of the analysis of their pathology. Very sorry for this lady but what a strong woman. And yes, we die when our children are taken and we only exist, waiting for the day to leave this planet and very cruel world.
Abusers are all the same; they always put the blame on the victims using the same excuse: 'look at what you made me do'. Too many women have heard these exact words over & over again. What a sad state of affairs.
Claire speaks absolutely beautifully about her beautiful boys and her love. As a mother I can only imagine her immense pain and grief and my heart aches so much for her. What a strong amazing woman to be able to turn such pain into something good. Petition signed ❤
So sorry for this ladies loss.❤😢.it is so heartbreaking. Someone who does that to his own children is beyond evil!! Evil personified!!!He is the devil....Hope he rots in hell where he truly belongs!!!😭 🤬🤬
These judges who knowingly put children in harm’s way need to be held accountable. This makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. This poor mother. I am so sorry for your loss. The legal system failed you and your boys and this was not your fault.
Who is the judge ? Name and shame him !!! That judge has blood on his hands... a family social worker should have been brought in to talk to the boys and access the situation.. great, you are speaking up to others, so they choose to leave when abuse occurs rather than stick around and endure it.. sticking around is the worst possible thing for the children.. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious boys
Right?! Between 2005 and 2015 charity Women’s Aid reported that “unsafe child contact arrangements had led to the killing of 19 children by their fathers.” Between 2004 and last year, the NSPCC has found that 63 children had been killed by their parents, after warning signs were ignored by authorities. This man beat his wife and children, he threatened his wife and children, he assaulted neighbours and had a criminal record for doing so. His wife even told authorities that “There was a case a year before where a man killed his children and shot himself. I remember him (Sykes) saying, “That Father’s got every right to do that.” Despite this and other testimony about the abuse, the judge ruled that the violent and erratic father of two should be permitted to see his sons for five hours of unsupervised contact every week. It didn’t take him even five hours to kill both boys and himself, after he lured them into the house’s attic with the promise of a train set, locked them in there, then set fire to the house in 16 different places using gasoline. Despite all of this, a ‘serious case review’ published a finding that “The deliberate and devastating actions of a newly divorced father who killed his two sons in a house fire could not have been predicted.” Biggest load of horse$h!t I’ve ever heard in my life!
This poor mother. This is one of the most heart breaking things I've ever heard. Far too often, the folks in charge seem to care too much about what an abusive adult wants and put the feelings of children to the wayside. This has to stop. We have to put the children first and save them from their abusers.
Another story of where children are not listened to and then get murdered. If a child is scared and doesn't want to see a parent that should be it, makes me so mad. A 12 year old knows what they want, cruelty to force him to be with an abusive parent.
How can anybody force the kids to see somone they do not want to see? This judge needs to be held accountebale. All the strength to this woman. What a heartbreaking Story.
Im sharing this, not to take away from this strong womans bravery and immense pain, that i could never imagine. But just to share for those who think that judges may have learnt from cases like this. My sons donor, I shall call him; was abusive to me and our disabled son I'm every manner. When I saw a mark on my son, that was the last straw. Despite all the evidence of financial, physical, s-ual abuse, emotional abuse towards me (and later evidence came out and was convicted of underage r towards 2 girls).. the man still has "parental rights" from inside a prison cell. For context: my son is severely disabled, he will need 24 hour life long care. And when I had to change his school from primary to secondary, the council still wanted "dads opinion" on what school to send him. I have also had full custody for the last 7+ years. YET that man still has rights, while on a 20+year stretch. Absolutely wild.
Claire, my heart feels your pain. My daughter with Down syndrome was brutally attacked, raped and murdered over a two hour period by a stranger when she'd gone out for a walk. To lose both your children and the judge not to have taken you serious. Thankyou for sharing the beautiful legacy of your boys, and Jack's bravery to help his brother. What amazing boys. Our kids legacy of how they lived and drive for change to systems ensures their legacy continues and helps others. You are a strong, brave lady. Loving Lena with faith f27 ✏️ 💖 ✝️ 🌈
So sorry this happened to you and your daughter, I can't imagine anything worse than this happening to a parent. And people with down syndrome are so innocent too how can anyone harm them, I just don't understand how some people become so evil, how can a human being have zero empathy.
I have signed the petition. I was left with an abusive father for 7 years.I got removed out of the house when I was 13 years old.I prayed and begged for help where I could but the judge wanted me to stay with him.I wasn't left a choice.Children should be able to choose who the want to see and where they want to live.
OMG, this is just horrendous what this woman has had to suffer and go through. I am crying as I read this. Innocent lives lost. Mother totally destroyed and devastated. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
.Never have I ever heard a survivor of DV tell her story with such courage her words hit me hard, crying as I type ,no more words just hanging my head ,when will life be safe for woman and children when????
What a woman! This is heart wrenching. It makes me so angry that strangers in law can force contact. My thoughts are with you, stay strong you will see your sons again. Petition signed x
"my life stopped and my existence began" - everything about her demeanor makes it so apparent. I hope she finds solace in the difference she's making for others.
There should also be a bill that puts any judge on trial (by jury) who makes a determination relevant to a criminal's behavior without any professional psychological opinions. The judge isn't a psychologist. In this case, because he didn't seek professional opinion, he should be held liable for the children's deaths. This is only one of many cases where a bone-headed judge is arbitrary in decision making about a criminal's behavior. What I can't understand is how someone guilty of abuse can be within 1000 yards of their victims. He should have had to undergo counseling, psychological evaluations, and time spent in therapy until he was deemed "safe," with the understanding that could mean "never." Judges aren't psychologists so they have no business making decisions regarding criminal behavior without professional evaluations.
This woman is like living poetry. She expresses herself in a way that is so deep and profound. It's moving and breaks your heart to listen to at the same time.
I fought my ex tooth and nail. Our daughter would cry and said her dad said he would keep her for good. He would play these emotional mind games. After 6 to 7 years of trying to work with ex on visitation, I shut it completely off. At one point the court ordered supervised visits for him. It cost him $50 each visit. That was the first and last visit he made because he didn't want to pay. I prayed and moved. He never found us. He stopped the child support and the healthcare. That was great. It gave me leverage. Leave us alone, I'll never ask for either as I said to myself. I've always worked and paid my own bills. Due to God's grace, I was able to have healthcare thru my job. Own a home. Was never on welfare. I would go after advancements to make more money. Never told my daughter anything bad about her dad. When she grew up she figured it out herself. As her dad has gotten older he's apologized to her. But she deals with him when she wants. She's 26 now.
im sure its still not easy and the after effects are sometimes as strong as ever. But you showed real strength when strength was needed and changed the outcome for you and your daughter forever. That's courage. I hope you and your daughter receive therapy because there's no shame in receiving help when it's needed
I was falsely accused of parental alienation. They will NEVER listen to the children. All the men need to do is mention parental alienation and whatever your kids say or do it’s not believed. I’m sorry to say but they will never believe the children. When they realised they were wrong they covered it up and kind of just dropped the case, but there was no justice for my child - the one they damaged.
I never cry at stories like this. But for some reason I got so emotional with this story, I cried. And I cried for your two boys. I can’t imagine what hell you have been through. The fact it could have been so easily avoided is beyond me. May that judge be condemned.
Being forced to give up your child to someone who you know could kill them. I can't even imagine. What can you do? You can ignore the order, go to jail and then their abuser has them for longer and you're even less capable of protecting them. It's just horrendous. I hope the courts - or at least the judge - learned something from this case.
Poor woman, her words saying she just exists, I feel for her soo much , this is sooo tragic, what a monster her ex husband he is! Hope the law she is trying to win , wins.
The judge should be 100% accountable he knew damn well that father was a monster. This woman is scarred forever as a mother for myself of a lost child that was born sleeping as an infant. I am scarred for myself.
I lost my daughter and watched her die in my arms too. There is no way to explain the depths of that type of grief. I totally understand everything she is saying. This poor woman to lose all of her babies. I hope the rest of her life treats her gently
@@carladean6117 of course anyone can feel her pain. You can literally feel it through watching her. What I meant is as a mother to a boy myself I couldn’t even comprehend how much hurt she feels. I would be devastated to lose my baby. It’s unimaginable. My heart really breaks for her.
My heart has been ripped from my chest listening to this. The thought of that happening to my little ones and how scared and hurt they would be in the moment has me bawling my eyes out. Her story is such a powerful advocate for future children’s safety in similar situations that I hope what she is doing is successful. With all my heart
There are no words. I have to believe you‘ll see them again. And if there is a hell, their father is in it. Thank you for working to protect children like Jack and Paul.
Absolutely heartbreaking. I have signed the petition. This should never have been allowed to happen in the first place. Thinking of you and your lovely boys. Xx
How absolutely devastating. I cannot even fathom what you have been through. I will keep you in my prayers, always. You’re a strong woman to keep on going.
I’ve never not been able to finish watching a UA-cam video before, but this is beyond what any mother should have to go through. I’m so sorry I couldn’t finish it but I listened to 8 minutes of the love you have for your children and hope you find peace with them one day ❤😢
This is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that poor lady suffers yet she’s still trying to fight to get the law changed. What an unbelievable human she is.
Dear claire one day as you say ,you'll meet your boys again ,in the meanwhile they're watching over you with all the immense love they feel for you. No one can take away that love .they're so much loved and you are so much loved.
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m incredibly angry that that judge didn’t listen to your warnings & that his poor decision resulted in the tragic loss of your 2 sons. I’m sure they’d be so proud to see what their mum is doing to try prevent this happening to other little boys & girls. I’ve signed your petition & shared it too!
What an absolutely tragic and heartbreaking story. My ❤ goes out to this poor brave lady. How anyone can kill their own children in revenge towards their Ex is cruel and evil beyond belief. Love and prayers to this sad mother. May she eventually find peace 🙏😢
It’s unbelievable that your still standing’ what an amazing lady you are to share with others what men are capable of to hurt there wife’s in away no other could 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Jesus Marie, I am bawling my eyes out. How she describes how they were her hearth and the emptiness nothing can fill. The missing of the voices you want to hear most. I am so sorry mama.
What a strong person - stories like this most be remembered - if you ever feel sorry for yourself remember people who have gone through things like this
I knew someone who survived a situation like this. All her children were shot and one survived but was so damaged he committed suicide later. She was a wonderful woman and a caretaker. I have no words for what this woman has gone through except to offer my sincerest sympathies.
This woman, the law she made might’ve saved my childhood because I wasn’t in a great position with my father and he wasn’t the greatest man to be a parent, I chose my mom at the age of 12. I think about it and this woman is doing miracles.
The strength of this woman, so so heartbreaking for the loss she has suffered, those beautiful boys; shame on the judge and system that failed them all….
As an attorney please let me say that it is absurd that family law judges have no special training in the US and probably here too. A judge could be handling contract disputes and then simply be reassigned to family court.
Prayers for you dear sister. My heart aches for you. I too was a victim of domestic violence and I will never understand The decisions made by people who obviously don't know or don't care how devastating those rulings are. GOD SPEED. Jesus holds your boys close.
There are no words that a stranger can say to make you feel better but you're a strong lady and i wish you peace in some form. Your boys are in heaven and will be in your arms one day.
"My life ended, and my existence began." What a way to put it.
I think she meant she is gonna tell her story from the beginning
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@@megalou6567 She means that she feels like she is only existing now without her children :(
I know that line was haunting, I feel that having lost my Mother and Father recently but I was blessed to have them both to old age! I cannot imagine for the life of me what it must feel like to bury your Children and to have them murdered and taken so cruelly by the man you once loved! The heartbreaking fact of this matter is this all could have been prevented had the Judge and the Law listened to this Mother and her Son’s, she really is such an inspiration, fighting for change and telling her story. Her beloved Boy’s, god rest their sweet souls, are so very proud of their Mum and I hope she is proud of herself, she really should be!! ❤️🩹
glad im not only one who noticed the way she said that lol
The judge that basically signed these boys' death warrant should be held accountable
Yes, with his history the judge should have at least required that the visits be supervised.
I agree
Yeah I agree too!!
These people are rarely held accountable, it seems impossible for justice anymore.
Yes
I’m bawling. I hope that judge thinks of this woman every single day for the rest of his life.
Trust me they don't, this isn't an isolated case
That judge won’t blink an eye ‘ there emotionless
@@clareoconnor5648They’re
@@clareoconnor5648 just about to say that.
Pure evil entered this woman's life when she met him, Evil cruel monster, I hope he rots in hell, and I pray God will grant this mother peace.
The judge who made this decision needs to be held accountable
That judge should be in prison!
Absolutely.
@@LilySaintSin😅😅😅😅😅 Helloìok
I hope that judge resigned. He’s not fit to have such power.
Just children, just a woman. Judges actually judge based on this at times and far too often. “Wouldn’t want to ruin his future” comes to mind.
this woman speaks so beautifully and poetically. my heart aches for her and her boys.
Immediately what I thought. She has a gift with words and how she illustrates her truth.
you put in words what i thought as well
That judge should be jailed. Mom would know better than anyone that her boys were not safe with their Dad, and they vehemently said they didn’t want to see him. What gives the judge the right to ignore that? Is he stating that the father had parental rights? Sorry to burst your bubble, judge, but that bastard gave up his “rights” the moment he laid hands on those sweet boys and their Mom. My God, they suffered for years, finally escape and you threw them into the lion’s den. How do you sleep?
It makes me so angry and 9 and 12 year old children know what they want. I have heard other stories too where the child has begged to not have to see their parent that they are scared but the judges have not listened and forced the child to be with the abuser (saying the other parent is lying and manipulating) and the child have been murdered. Cruelty to force a child who doesn't want to see a parent. When will it change.
And I'm sick or parental rights, what about the childs rights to safety and to not be mentally damaged for life or murdered.
I'm sure the psychopath ex husbands lawyer claimed parental alienation which is a bogus syndrome made up by a creepy old man for men who are fighting ex wives.
They claim women will lie about abuse in order to get custody on such a large scale that it skews custody disputes.
Its all not true. The guy coming up with these crackpot theories should be in jail
@@teijaflink2226This is why children are the most UNDERREPRESENTED portion of the population. No one to ever speak for them.
Some parents make their kids say things that aren't true. My step dad had this issue with his ex wife; who was a drunk and abusive. He tried to fight for full custody, but she taught the kids to say that they didn't love him. They're fully grown now and have absolutely nothing to do with their mother. They hate her. They also have kids of their own, and don't want them to know their grandmother. So, I can understand why this wouldn't work. If the judge had listened to the kids, my step dad would have never seen them, even though he was the most stable and loving parent in their lives. It's such a tricky situation. How do you know the kids aren't being forced to say things? But in the same instance, these boys would still be alive if they had been listened to.
My heart goes out to this Lady ❤ i was 9 yrs old when i packed my bags and waited on the side of a road for bus that never came to escape a violent home. Had my beautiful grandparents not stepped in and saved me, i would've been dead. When children say they dont want to be somwhere out of fear, ppl need to listen.
I’m so sorry that things were so bad, and I’m glad your grandparents were there for you. ❤ I hope you’re doing well. 😊❤
So very sorry
My grandparents saved me too from both of my degenerate parents.
It’s been a hard road but I’m ok.
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I just left, packed my bags and I slowly moved my belongings out of the house, my parents had no clue but my dad was awful and I wasn’t staying there anymore. My boyfriends mom was having a garage sale so when my mom would ask me to take stuff for the garage sale, I was sneaking my belongings out too. I left and didn’t go back…
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It's heartbreaking what the judge allowed to happen. My heart goes out to this mother.
This is common in family court in the UK. It's a depraved system. My nephew was forced to see his abusive father and when he refused they tried to accuse his mother of parental alienation rather than believe my nephew and acknowledge his wishes
@@KingUsyk Unfortunately, it happens here in the US, as well. It seems like the actual, real, welfare of children is barely considered.
It sounds like a relaxing routine, doesn’t it? It’s interesting to think about how we all dream of the simple, peaceful life sometimes, but there’s also something fascinating about those moments where we are challenged to do more. What do you think makes us yearn for such simplicity? Could it be a desire to escape the pressures of the world, or is there more to it, like the need to reconnect with ourselves? Would love to hear your thoughts!
I could tell she had nothing left. My heart is so heavy for her loss of her sweet brave boys.
I firmly believe in children having a say... And not forced to go.... When they are older and can see the truth, then they can decide for themselves....
100%
Its because male judges see themselves in these men.
Either you see your kids for a day/weekend every other week (aka, you're a safe parent), or you get supervised visits. What's the point in a 5 hour unsupervised visit???
@@9395gb What about women judges who make decisions like this?
If only malicious parents didn't ruin this for the bunch.
There’s a special place in hell for the man who did this to his own children.
To all the men who do this to their children. It happens too much.
Hell doesn’t exist
@Cats-lm8jn you're already in it, love.
The judge should have to be held responsible for their horrendous decision. My heart hurts for this poor lady. Can I sign the petition even if I live in Canada?
You can, I did. Just use any of the areas local postal codes (E1 7EB, EC1A 2AL, E1 8BX etc)
I'm in Australia. Can I have the link please?
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Yes as I pur my name down as anonymous, with my anonymous email attached x
A mother with no children has got to be one of the most gut wrenching, most tragic things in existence. My heart breaks and aches for you, mama.
❤❤❤ lovely tribute ❤
This 💔
It's the worst feeling... I cry every day over my girls....
@@thevegandragon_ I will pray for you and I am so sorry for your loss.
I will never understand how a judge can make children go with their abuser. This is completely heartbreaking and this happens so many times. I hear the stories over and over again. I just don’t understand.
I’m a mother of two little boys…my heart is shattered for this woman. Those angels are out there somewhere together, watching and waiting to hold their mommy again. 💔
This is so devastating. This poor woman. Those poor boys. I will never understood being so cruel that you take a childs life.
I will never understand it either, it's depressing. It's well beneath being "low" to end a child's life. (Especially your OWN kids lives.) It is 100 percent EVIL. People who abuse children in any way are heartless and cruel.
If judges were held accountable for this bs, I bet a lot more of them would be imposing the harshest and longest punishments possible.
Absolutely bang on comment
This 👏 mine was absolutely awful. TBH they literally just want you out of their system. They couldn’t care less.
Poor poor lady. I lost my daughter just over two years ago. I’m still devastated and feel lost without my beautiful girl. I accept I will always feel like this until we meet, when I go home too. The circumstances of those poor children’s passing are just simply horrific. This woman is inspirational. I totally agree the children should choose who they see and not see. I will be signing the petition. All children should have a voice. Well done lady, what a wonderful way to honour your two beautiful boys who will FOREVER be in your heart and mind. Sending you healing, love and hugs xxxxx❤️💞❤️
Incredibly sorry to hear this.😢❤
Sorry for your loss also. My fiancé lost a son 12yrs ago. Watching him fall to the ground and run into the woods to wanna kill himself was horrible. Thank God he had 2 sons still here who went and talked him back. I watch the sadness on a daily
So so sorry for your loss.😢
Im so very sorry for your loss hugs
Much love to you 😢
This woman, this mum isn't just standing up and fighting for her own children but the children of many.
What a courageous woman. To say “I can lay down and die or I can stand up and fight” reminds me so much of the strength in her boy Jack to try and save his brother in that attic. You can tell they got their hearts from their mother. May the boys rest in peace.
The bit about her dad being her protector is spot on. These guys are cowards and will not offend if there is someone there to retaliate, which is why they prey on vulnerable women. I would also say this man is triggered by becoming a father, and that NEEDS to be looked at, as part of the analysis of their pathology. Very sorry for this lady but what a strong woman. And yes, we die when our children are taken and we only exist, waiting for the day to leave this planet and very cruel world.
Abusers are all the same; they always put the blame on the victims using the same excuse: 'look at what you made me do'. Too many women have heard these exact words over & over again. What a sad state of affairs.
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Claire speaks absolutely beautifully about her beautiful boys and her love. As a mother I can only imagine her immense pain and grief and my heart aches so much for her. What a strong amazing woman to be able to turn such pain into something good. Petition signed ❤
So sorry for this ladies loss.❤😢.it is so heartbreaking. Someone who does that to his own children is beyond evil!! Evil personified!!!He is the devil....Hope he rots in hell where he truly belongs!!!😭 🤬🤬
These judges who knowingly put children in harm’s way need to be held accountable. This makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. This poor mother. I am so sorry for your loss. The legal system failed you and your boys and this was not your fault.
I’m sobbing!!!! The judge INSISTED!!!!! I can’t even believe this woman had to endure. Her ex husband did this just to hurt those woman.
Who is the judge ? Name and shame him !!! That judge has blood on his hands... a family social worker should have been brought in to talk to the boys and access the situation.. great, you are speaking up to others, so they choose to leave when abuse occurs rather than stick around and endure it.. sticking around is the worst possible thing for the children.. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious boys
Right?! Between 2005 and 2015 charity Women’s Aid reported that “unsafe child contact arrangements had led to the killing of 19 children by their fathers.” Between 2004 and last year, the NSPCC has found that 63 children had been killed by their parents, after warning signs were ignored by authorities.
This man beat his wife and children, he threatened his wife and children, he assaulted neighbours and had a criminal record for doing so. His wife even told authorities that “There was a case a year before where a man killed his children and shot himself. I remember him (Sykes) saying, “That Father’s got every right to do that.”
Despite this and other testimony about the abuse, the judge ruled that the violent and erratic father of two should be permitted to see his sons for five hours of unsupervised contact every week. It didn’t take him even five hours to kill both boys and himself, after he lured them into the house’s attic with the promise of a train set, locked them in there, then set fire to the house in 16 different places using gasoline.
Despite all of this, a ‘serious case review’ published a finding that “The deliberate and devastating actions of a newly divorced father who killed his two sons in a house fire could not have been predicted.” Biggest load of horse$h!t I’ve ever heard in my life!
Shame on this judge. Shame!
She speaks so eloquently. I hope she finds peace.
"my life ended and my existance began" heartwrenching😢
This poor mother. This is one of the most heart breaking things I've ever heard. Far too often, the folks in charge seem to care too much about what an abusive adult wants and put the feelings of children to the wayside. This has to stop. We have to put the children first and save them from their abusers.
Yes!!! And abuse ALWAYS escalates. That Judge should be in prison. I don’t know why they don’t listen when people say there is risk.
I'm in floods of tears, this is absolutely horrific, how can that judge sleep at night? These boys deserved so much better, I'm so sorry❤
I knew Jack and Paul growing up. Such lovely boys. Such a tragic story so close to everyone around me.
Please forgive me for asking; but what happened to them? What did their father do to them?
@@Adrienne-wv7qodid you watch the story? It’s in the video.
Another story of where children are not listened to and then get murdered. If a child is scared and doesn't want to see a parent that should be it, makes me so mad. A 12 year old knows what they want, cruelty to force him to be with an abusive parent.
How can anybody force the kids to see somone they do not want to see? This judge needs to be held accountebale. All the strength to this woman. What a heartbreaking Story.
Unfortunately some people don’t see children as actual people whose feelings should be respected 💔
Im sharing this, not to take away from this strong womans bravery and immense pain, that i could never imagine. But just to share for those who think that judges may have learnt from cases like this.
My sons donor, I shall call him; was abusive to me and our disabled son I'm every manner. When I saw a mark on my son, that was the last straw.
Despite all the evidence of financial, physical, s-ual abuse, emotional abuse towards me (and later evidence came out and was convicted of underage r towards 2 girls).. the man still has "parental rights" from inside a prison cell.
For context: my son is severely disabled, he will need 24 hour life long care. And when I had to change his school from primary to secondary, the council still wanted "dads opinion" on what school to send him. I have also had full custody for the last 7+ years. YET that man still has rights, while on a 20+year stretch.
Absolutely wild.
I've heard a similar story. A lady who's baby went to her ex husband who then murdered the infant
Claire, my heart feels your pain. My daughter with Down syndrome was brutally attacked, raped and murdered over a two hour period by a stranger when she'd gone out for a walk. To lose both your children and the judge not to have taken you serious. Thankyou for sharing the beautiful legacy of your boys, and Jack's bravery to help his brother. What amazing boys. Our kids legacy of how they lived and drive for change to systems ensures their legacy continues and helps others. You are a strong, brave lady.
Loving Lena with faith f27 ✏️ 💖 ✝️ 🌈
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. ❤️🩹🥲🕊️
Oh my goodness😭That’s pure evil🤯So sorry what you have to went trough🙏❤️🙏
So sorry this happened to you and your daughter, I can't imagine anything worse than this happening to a parent. And people with down syndrome are so innocent too how can anyone harm them, I just don't understand how some people become so evil, how can a human being have zero empathy.
@@teijaflink2226 maybe this monster isn't human. Demons take people over 😢
Omg 😱 I don’t think I could survive if I lost my daughter with DS. She lives to love others. I can’t even imagine your pain
I have signed the petition. I was left with an abusive father for 7 years.I got removed out of the house when I was 13 years old.I prayed and begged for help where I could but the judge wanted me to stay with him.I wasn't left a choice.Children should be able to choose who the want to see and where they want to live.
OMG, this is just horrendous what this woman has had to suffer and go through. I am crying as I read this. Innocent lives lost. Mother totally destroyed and devastated. 🙏🙏❤️❤️
I can’t imagine the pain of having your child die in your arms. I’m so sorry. 💔
.Never have I ever heard a survivor of DV tell her story with such courage her words hit me hard, crying as I type ,no more words just hanging my head ,when will life be safe for woman and children when????
I lost my only child. The house didn't breathe anymore, it felt dead. We moved.
What a woman! This is heart wrenching. It makes me so angry that strangers in law can force contact. My thoughts are with you, stay strong you will see your sons again. Petition signed x
Your courage, dignity and your quest to prevent this happening again is commendable. Will certainly sign the petition.
"my life stopped and my existence began" - everything about her demeanor makes it so apparent. I hope she finds solace in the difference she's making for others.
There should also be a bill that puts any judge on trial (by jury) who makes a determination relevant to a criminal's behavior without any professional psychological opinions. The judge isn't a psychologist. In this case, because he didn't seek professional opinion, he should be held liable for the children's deaths.
This is only one of many cases where a bone-headed judge is arbitrary in decision making about a criminal's behavior.
What I can't understand is how someone guilty of abuse can be within 1000 yards of their victims. He should have had to undergo counseling, psychological evaluations, and time spent in therapy until he was deemed "safe," with the understanding that could mean "never." Judges aren't psychologists so they have no business making decisions regarding criminal behavior without professional evaluations.
Excellent comment…thank you!😢
This woman is like living poetry. She expresses herself in a way that is so deep and profound. It's moving and breaks your heart to listen to at the same time.
I fought my ex tooth and nail. Our daughter would cry and said her dad said he would keep her for good. He would play these emotional mind games. After 6 to 7 years of trying to work with ex on visitation, I shut it completely off. At one point the court ordered supervised visits for him. It cost him $50 each visit. That was the first and last visit he made because he didn't want to pay. I prayed and moved. He never found us. He stopped the child support and the healthcare. That was great. It gave me leverage. Leave us alone, I'll never ask for either as I said to myself. I've always worked and paid my own bills. Due to God's grace, I was able to have healthcare thru my job. Own a home. Was never on welfare. I would go after advancements to make more money. Never told my daughter anything bad about her dad. When she grew up she figured it out herself. As her dad has gotten older he's apologized to her. But she deals with him when she wants. She's 26 now.
Even if he should have payed child support rather keep your children safe than fight with the abuser, that's the most important thing.
She could keep away he is a pig
You're a good Mother!🧡💐
im sure its still not easy and the after effects are sometimes as strong as ever. But you showed real strength when strength was needed and changed the outcome for you and your daughter forever. That's courage. I hope you and your daughter receive therapy because there's no shame in receiving help when it's needed
you aren’t superior to other survivors just cause you were fortunate enough to not need welfare. not a flex.
I was falsely accused of parental alienation. They will NEVER listen to the children. All the men need to do is mention parental alienation and whatever your kids say or do it’s not believed. I’m sorry to say but they will never believe the children. When they realised they were wrong they covered it up and kind of just dropped the case, but there was no justice for my child - the one they damaged.
I struggled to get through this. Poor kids. She is so strong. That man is evil.
What an amazing strong woman. My heart goes out to her.
She described being gaslit and abused so well. This poor woman, r.i.p to her sons 😢
10:42 I wish you would sue the court/government agencies involved
I never cry at stories like this. But for some reason I got so emotional with this story, I cried. And I cried for your two boys. I can’t imagine what hell you have been through. The fact it could have been so easily avoided is beyond me. May that judge be condemned.
Being forced to give up your child to someone who you know could kill them. I can't even imagine. What can you do? You can ignore the order, go to jail and then their abuser has them for longer and you're even less capable of protecting them. It's just horrendous. I hope the courts - or at least the judge - learned something from this case.
So painful
I lost my husband when I was 29 and he was 33. My life stopped that day and my existence began
He is waiting for you, untill than, you must live your live, he would want you to...❤
Poor woman, her words saying she just exists, I feel for her soo much , this is sooo tragic, what a monster her ex husband he is! Hope the law she is trying to win , wins.
I simply cannot imagine what she's gone through not even in the slightest. My heart goes out to you
This is absolutely devastating. I'm so sorry Claire x
The judge should be 100% accountable he knew damn well that father was a monster. This woman is scarred forever as a mother for myself of a lost child that was born sleeping as an infant. I am scarred for myself.
I lost my daughter and watched her die in my arms too. There is no way to explain the depths of that type of grief. I totally understand everything she is saying. This poor woman to lose all of her babies. I hope the rest of her life treats her gently
I just want to hug her so much. As a mother to a son I can’t even begin to imagine how much pain she’s in. 😢 signed
You don't have to be a mother to feel her pain, just a human being
@@carladean6117 of course anyone can feel her pain. You can literally feel it through watching her. What I meant is as a mother to a boy myself I couldn’t even comprehend how much hurt she feels. I would be devastated to lose my baby. It’s unimaginable. My heart really breaks for her.
I knew what you meant, but anyone with an ounce of empathy's heart will break for this poor woman.
I’ve just signed the petition, you are so brave and strong and I know you’re making your two boys proud up in heaven ❤️
My heart has been ripped from my chest listening to this. The thought of that happening to my little ones and how scared and hurt they would be in the moment has me bawling my eyes out. Her story is such a powerful advocate for future children’s safety in similar situations that I hope what she is doing is successful. With all my heart
There are no words. I have to believe you‘ll see them again. And if there is a hell, their father is in it. Thank you for working to protect children like Jack and Paul.
Oh such a horrific loss of 2 beautiful sons ... I am speechless My heart breaks for this woman. God Bless her.
My god … 😢 I’m so sorry. I’ve got three boys myself. Crying here. Sending you all my love x
I hope that judge never knows peace. I hope all of this poor woman’s pain is given to all of the people that failed her and her children.
Absolutely heartbreaking. I have signed the petition. This should never have been allowed to happen in the first place. Thinking of you and your lovely boys. Xx
I am so very sorry for you, there are no words but I hope you will be reunited with your boys one day…☹️
That judge should feel guilt and shame everyday for the decision they made.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful children 😢May they R.l.p.😢
Her strength is amazing. I am so so sorry you have to bear this loss
How absolutely devastating. I cannot even fathom what you have been through. I will keep you in my prayers, always. You’re a strong woman to keep on going.
God bless you Claire 🙏🏼
Your story reminds me of the Powell boys who were murdered by their father during a custody visit. So sad 😢
I’ve never not been able to finish watching a UA-cam video before, but this is beyond what any mother should have to go through. I’m so sorry I couldn’t finish it but I listened to 8 minutes of the love you have for your children and hope you find peace with them one day ❤😢
Absolutely heartbreaking. Those dear boys and their mother. Can't imagine your pain. Sending heartfelt prayers 🙏
This is one of the saddest stories I have ever heard. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that poor lady suffers yet she’s still trying to fight to get the law changed. What an unbelievable human she is.
😢 I'm so sorry for your loss, you're a very strong lady x
Dear claire one day as you say ,you'll meet your boys again ,in the meanwhile they're watching over you with all the immense love they feel for you. No one can take away that love .they're so much loved and you are so much loved.
You beautiful suffering woman! My heart cries out on pain with you. Thank you for sharing the memory of your beautiful and brave boys.
I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m incredibly angry that that judge didn’t listen to your warnings & that his poor decision resulted in the tragic loss of your 2 sons. I’m sure they’d be so proud to see what their mum is doing to try prevent this happening to other little boys & girls. I’ve signed your petition & shared it too!
This is so incredibly sad, the strength this woman has shown is breathtaking.
What an absolutely tragic and heartbreaking story. My ❤ goes out to this poor brave lady. How anyone can kill their own children in revenge towards their Ex is cruel and evil beyond belief. Love and prayers to this sad mother. May she eventually find peace 🙏😢
So incredibly sad. My heart just breaks for her. That judge needs accountability.
It’s unbelievable that your still standing’ what an amazing lady you are to share with others what men are capable of to hurt there wife’s in away no other could 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Jesus Marie, I am bawling my eyes out. How she describes how they were her hearth and the emptiness nothing can fill. The missing of the voices you want to hear most.
I am so sorry mama.
What a strong person - stories like this most be remembered - if you ever feel sorry for yourself remember people who have gone through things like this
Respect and love to you❤ Your beautiful boys are helping you get thru this heinous act.
This is your legacy 😢❤
I knew someone who survived a situation like this. All her children were shot and one survived but was so damaged he committed suicide later. She was a wonderful woman and a caretaker. I have no words for what this woman has gone through except to offer my sincerest sympathies.
This woman, the law she made might’ve saved my childhood because I wasn’t in a great position with my father and he wasn’t the greatest man to be a parent, I chose my mom at the age of 12. I think about it and this woman is doing miracles.
She is stronger than i would be in that situation. My heart breaks for this brave lady.
When she said, "Their friend's children," I couldn't hold my tears any longer.
I’m so sorry for your loss!
Sending love and strength to you Claire
Absolutely horrific! Those poor boys God Bless them, such sweet angels. Sincere condolences x 😪💔🙏
The strength of this woman, so so heartbreaking for the loss she has suffered, those beautiful boys; shame on the judge and system that failed them all….
As an attorney please let me say that it is absurd that family law judges have no special training in the US and probably here too. A judge could be handling contract disputes and then simply be reassigned to family court.
I’m just thinking about her dad dying and her dad looking after them boys in heaven 😣 how absolutely heartbreaking for this lady 😢
Prayers for you dear sister.
My heart aches for you.
I too was a victim of domestic violence and I will never understand
The decisions made by people who obviously don't know or don't care how devastating those rulings are.
GOD SPEED.
Jesus holds your boys close.
The way you describe things is so poetic. Bless you❤
This is heartbreaking. A mum and two lovely boys knew how dangerous that monster was and nobody listened. 💔💔💔
Petition signed. Hope it makes a difference.
Brave lady living with so much sadness but fighting for justice.
There are no words that a stranger can say to make you feel better but you're a strong lady and i wish you peace in some form. Your boys are in heaven and will be in your arms one day.