Thank you for being a Hospice Nurse- you are all my Hero’s and I so wish I went back to school for nursing. I was there for my mom too. Funeral is tomorrow. Losing your mom and speaking to someone else who has is so therapeutic to me for some reason, because you’re both in a club no one wants to be in.
I know exactly how u feel I was there laying in bed and holding my mamas hand when she passed it was so very hard but I know she knew I was there with her I was also there last yr when my sister died it's so hard to watch......GOD BLESS YOU!!!!❤️❤️
Thank you. It's a very painful situation when one's been caring for a patient/friend for 14 years and then find her lifeless body. It's just happened to me. Thank you for your recognition and comment. God bless
I could only hope that there's a team of compassionate hospice nurses around me when my time comes. I'm petrified of the thought of dying alone and in pain.
Watching my mother deteriorate right before my eyes was the most painful thing I've ever seen. Glad she is no longer in any pain. We need to get a cure for cancer as fast as we created a vaccine for Covid.
I lost my aunt to cancer 4 days ago, she didn’t have kids, me and my two sisters were her kids, she was like a mother to us. She deteriorated as well to a point she was unrecognizable, it was very painful to watch, we are all devastated, im sorry for your loss, this is so hard😭
@@elbjasyal My condolences to you and your family. Sorry for your loss. You never get over it, you just learn to live with it. I have my mother's eyes. So everytime I look in the mirror I still see her.
Unfortunately it is very complicated but I’m sure in the future we will get better treatments and eventually find multiple cures for the different kinds. Bless you and your family, I hope you are doing well in spite of your loss.
Jesus is very hard I remember my grandma mother she raised me while my mother left me and I still remember the last days My life some how stopped there I always feel like the age I lost her Isn't easy
Watching this made me well up. I was told in June 2014 I'd be dead in 3months or less. I'm still here 5 years later, but the care I was given by my local hospice was incredible. These people are very special. God bless them. 🙏🙏🙏
I was told I had between 3 and 6 months to live . Went to talk to my wife she listened then said, no, I'm not going to let this happen. 28 years have passed and I ambvb clear of any cancer. We celebrated our 53 rd. wedding anniversary this year.
My dad passed away last night, he had interstitial lung disease, 81yrs old, he took a shower, got back to bed, the nurses found him on the floor. I love you dad. RIP 😭
My mum died in my dads arms he thanked her for giving him 50years of a wonderful marriage told her he loved her she looked at him and then passed away.
This is the realest thing you can tell people about watching someone die, especially your mother. I was with my mother until her last breath. Its been 4 years and I still see and hear her last hours like it was yesterday. There's no way I would of been anywhere else besides by her side holding her hand, but the reality is.. It forever changes who you are as a person.
@marlys mcgregor That's so beautiful all her children. Were there....I left.because my youngest sister picked such a time.to start a argument.I absolutely would not do that .in my mom's state.but my oldest sister was there to hold her hand as she passed.I'm just glad she wasn't alone
@marlys mcgregor true but I remember her last words( to me) were where are you going.&who's gone stay here with me.I know in my heart she wanted me there.I had plans of playing the gospel music softly.but my daughter said you did the right thing.to not argue.in that room.I broke down uncontrollably outside.I'm just glad my other sister held her hand till the end...so she wasn't alone
Sharron Pettis agreed!! My mom passed away comfortably in our home on Dec 16th 2019. I can’t let go of the image 💔 She was under hospice care for 10days 😢 Sending everyone that’s gone through this experience love and light 💕🕯🙏🏽
I'm so glad I worked in a hospital and knew how to help my husband have a painless death. He was in hospice. He didn't suffer unnessarily. I hate cancer.
You should hate SUGAR & CHEMICALS -thats what caused cancer. Research how sugar steals oxygen from cells making them cancerous !! Cancer shows up that your body wasnt able to overcome like an infection ON ITS OWN -so cancer shows you that. So disappointed all the processed sugar garbage food humans put in their grocery cart. Hate Sugar , hate chemo - cancer is your last ditch effort TO CHANGE YOUR DIET IMMEDIATELY ! Chemo is not the answer -Why do Doctors go to Mexico when THEY are diagnosed with cancer...Peace
@@pilarq7886 SHAME ON YOU for using this platform for your preaching, when the kind lady whom commented above you, is grieving! Instead of being an insensitive j e r k, learn some compassion when someone else is hurting. How dare you!
Dont be scare of death...God has better plans for us...I know and I feel it....my mother gave me the biggest smile minutes before she died ..a peaceful smile...a smile I will never forget
Maybe it was the drugs she was probably on ,,to help with the pain.. Or it could've been she was trying to make you feel better which sounds more like it... Our plan in life ,,, you live life the best you can and we all have an expiration date... Sooner or later we all go ,,,hopefully it's quick,And we don't see it coming... slow drawn out death is horrible ....To me anybeing like a god Puts life forms through what they have to go through is inconceivable if it is really true... nothing exists after ,, It's all to make us feel more comfortable . Because death is final anyway you look at it
@@helpmefixthis9117 I want you to know there is hope for perfect peace. God never promised life would be easy without trials. In fact l, he promises us MANY trials and tribulation. But he says take heart for I have overcome the world . Death is the result of everything we’ve done wrong. But he says we will live perfectly with him as He is perfect in heaven.
@@helpmefixthis9117 Allah created death and life in order to see which one of us is best in deed. Life is a trial and we are all seating in an exam: the rich, the poor, the healthy, the sick, the strong, the weak, etc. The manual and instructions for dealing with this trial and showing us the right way came to us in the form of Prophets and Revelations. When we pass over to the other side then will we see individually how we did. For disbelief and actions that deviated from the Supreme Creator's way the reward will be eternal damnation. For belief and righteous actions, the reward will be an eternal bliss in the presence of the Most High.
I am terminal. I see my passing as peaceful especially after seeing this. I have a wonderful pallative Dr with the ALS team I have. I do have modeling happening - feet up to my knees and hands. I have 3 conditions that I will die from - ALS/Lou Gehrigs, Heart disease and a brain Tumor. I am ready for this journey.
Saw my mom go through this and seeing her take her last breath holding her hand and saying goodbye is probably the hardest thing I been through I’m only 19 fuck cancer
We most certainly have a spirit that leaves our bodies when we die. My son died aged 16 months, 12 days after transplant surgery. The day before he passed I could no longer 'feel' him with me, it was like his body was there but his spirit had left. I was practically atheist back then but that feeling was very real. I now look back 21 years later with different beliefs on death and the afterlife. I truly believe our souls/energy or whatever you want to call it, leaves our body and continues on x
Islam is the true religion that everyone is supposed to be. There is an afterlife, paradise and hell do exist and that’s a fact and a one true god. that we will all go back to when we die. Please look into the religion of truth which is Islam and I promise u that u will have earned your salvation Don’t wait until your dying to see that Islam is the only true religion and the only religion accepted by god who created you. But then it will be too late. U have to use intellect to see the truth of your existence so don’t wait till it’s too late and then there will be no second chances and there will only be regret
My daughter is a palliative care doctor, I'm so proud that she has chosen this speciality, she fits it perfectly, she's fun but such a care bear, a great asset to her hospice (I know I'm her mum, so I'm not biased).
These people that work with end of life care are angels on earth. They have a special talent and it's a calling. Blessed be these wonderful,caring people...
I am a carer I have cared for end of life patients also I cared for my dad when he was dying it's the one selfless thing you can do for someone as they prepare to leave this earth
Yes, they have to do from the hearts not for a money They like to have paid check to ,but more important is the good care for the Humans And the work with no looking on clock I did Paliative care for the Humans ,my weeks many times where 70 or 80 h,,,a week ,, I am RETIRE now ,but I still have many bad dreams and good dreams 😢😢😢😢😊
I hope help out I'm caretaker damisha I watch her 3week she fell broke heap she has pins she's always pain she saying sees husband mom dad she wants go home sighs ready go hope get feedback thank you God bless sick careing love one
@@donnadexter3098 Just know that someone will be there for you at your time and they'll be just as caring as you Donna. You have my TOTAL respect for performing a very difficult task.
I asked the hospice nurse to help me get into the hospital bed, in our bedroom, so that I could be close to my beloved husband who was on oxygen. I did not know he was going to diie, but I just needed to be close tor him and told him how much I adored him, and spoke of our firsf beautiful loving together which continued throughout our loving marriage. He took three normal breaths and then his breathing stopped. No struggle, no discomfort. then end was as beautiful as the beginning. I lay on his dear chest and slept for a while, and then told the nurse. I am still deeply I love with him after three half years since he died. I adore him and have boxes of our wonderful love letters,which sustain me.forever. I cannot wait to put my arms around him again..I am so glad I accompanied him in death.
@@newtoublue1451 What a thing to say. She's sharing a story that might be helpful to someone, and that's all you can think of to say? You strike me as someone very young; if that's not the case, then I don't know what your excuse might be.
@@Lionforaday . That's the bottom line from what I gather for a sensible helpful remark . Dead spouses if they loved one would want u to have love not just memories. She is still here -maybe for decades more. * andI'm old. Ha!: can't type.
I signed my mom's papers to release her from aggressive treatment... It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life... I was killing someone who gave birth to me... I fed her her last meal, and held her hand as she looked into my eyes and left the earth....... I hope she is happy wherever she is❤️
Tenaz Shah if you helped her with love and the doctors gave her adequate medication to relieve pain (but certainly not to kill her), sometimes aggressive treatment that holds no hope of recovery is a lot more cruel. If it were I, I certainly would prefer to be home with someone who loved me and took good care of me than to suffer in the cold unempathetic world of the hospital. The one I was in was hell on earth. I had a massive pulmonary embolism which should have killed me. I went to a wonderful rehab center after 11 days in that torture chamber, unfeeling hospital and was treated with love and great care. Your mother was fortunate to have you care for her. You did the right thing. You made her last days a joy.
my grandma was in a coma and well i swear she was waiting for my family to leave because as soon as we got home we got a call from the hospital saying that she died i felt bad but when we went to the funeral i didnt cry but when i got in the car to go home i just couldn't hold it in anymore for a while i was a emotional wreak this was 2 years ago and i am still crying over this
It doesn’t get easier necessarily but you learn to cope with it better, hopefully. Being there for people during their final moments, particularly when their family cannot be there or they don’t have anyone. It’s a great gift to be able to carry that as it’s not something you can leave at work although you have to learn to be able to give up control if you know you did everything you could for them. I considered hospice care because I admire those who do this work so much. They help people to die with dignity and grace and show love and compassion and humanity in their final hours and remember them. They listen to their fears and share their hopes and dreams hear their memories ain’t many cases. I think hospice care is different. I ended up in a different branch of medicine where if we lose someone I feel it is my fault as they come to us for healing not an easier transition out of this world. Maybe I could learn a lot to They say it passes and gets easier but it hasn’t a decade later so maybe I should speak with someone. I have learned to detach and to do all I can and accept the result but I still have this weight of wondering if maybe I had done something differently would their families still have them by their side? I don’t know and I don’t mean to scare you. Honestly I think it is natural to feel personally affected by this and many will tell you to guard yourself by distancing yourself professionally and in some respects that may be wise and necessary to do your work. However never lose your heart for people even when you must compartmentalize in order to save your sanity and focus on the task at hand. Your heart for people is what will give you fuel to go that extra mile and to selflessly give your time and energy and hope to each patient and will help you to not burn out if done moderately. Remember to prioritize your patients you must first look after your own mental and physical health. You cannot be of use to anyone if you are sleep deprived or not able to focus or control your emotions when necessary to help others. Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others, just like on an airplane. Best of luck to you and make your own luck by being tenacious and lionhearted! I believe in you and I hope that six months later you feel that you have grown and have gained confidence in your abilities. We are not saviors obviously but it’s amazing the effects your actions can have on those around you, in and out of a healthcare setting...we are just lucky enough to get paid to try to heal people.. anybody regardless of what they’ve done, anyone who needs it and we don’t have to make any judgements on anyone. Hope your work is rewarding for you and your patients.
During COVID it has been stressful and hard for everyone to see patients who are unable to see family.... it is heart wrenching to have to enforce that no matter how necessary!!!
Your kindness to one now gone is a thing to know as special. This is a debt no one pays, but you can carry. When my Dad passed the staff that cared for him were all the kindest souls I have ever met. The diligence and dedication they gave my Dad will be what I remember.
I have terminal Cancer and this have been helpful. I was with my Father when he passed. I hope I have someone with me when the time comes. Rite now I have no one. Facing death alone is scary, even as a Christian. Thank you.
My dad passed away from Brain Cancer last year. He was at home in bed with all his kids round him. He was unconscious for the last week, and the rattle and mottling of his skin changed about a day before he passed. His breathing dramatically changed around 15 minutes before, and while he was unconscious for the last week, he opened his eyes for his final 2 breaths. It is painful even to type this as he was a wonderful dad and I'm only 27, but I believe he passed peacefully. Love to all
Ryan Hastie your father will forever be with you, even more so now than before he passed; you will carry him wherever you go, his thoughts, what he taught you by example, his ways, I am sure you were a wonderful son to him and he is proud of you, you most definitely will be reunited in spirit someday but just not now because it is not your time and you have work left to do.... be at ease, you will be with him eventually
Hi, Ryan, I deeply sympathize with your pain. Bless you for being by his side during his last hours--the memory must be hard. You will no doubt always miss him and wish you could have had more time. Know that others have walked in your shoes, and that they understand how painful it is. All the best.
Father God, I just want to pray for all your children here in this comment section. I want to pray that you would bring them peace and comfort if they're anxious or if they're going through a time loss and suffering. I pray Father that they would come to know you during this time of chaos, and that they would allow you to be their joy and hope. In Jesus's name I pray, Amen!
I am a CNA for one of the top 10 nursing homes in Missouri, and may I just say I love all my residents and hearing and seeing these signs can really break YOURE heart. We care for these people everyday and you really do build a bond with them. We are their family right now because of covid and it means the world to me that someone’s last look was at me and I was able to help them Rest In Peace ❤️
Thanks for the reply John Boy. My late mother suffered horribly with MS and the last year of her life was horrid. Blind, incontinent, slurred speech, confined to a wheelchair and with the use of only one hand. She begged us to "let her go." But, back then, we could not find a physician to help. Things are changing now, thank goodness. Death is not to be feared. It is simply another stage in our ongoing journey.
God decides when he wants to take us. We are all here to give lessons and learn lessons. It is not our prerogative to choose when we die. If we are suffering we join that to Jesus's suffering on the cross. God bless us all 🙏🙏🙏 May your Mom RIP.
My dad has had MS since 2010. He is now in a nursing home, slurred speech, poor memory, no capacity, he's incontinent, visually impaired and no mobility other than the use of one arm which has no strength to feed himself or hold a cup of water. Do you mind asking how the end was and if it was quick? My dad is suffering so bad and I can't get any answers as to how long he will be suffering for
> _[Death] is simply another stage in our ongoing journey._ Sorry to burst your bubble, but we simply don't know this! People should stop treating it as a fact.
Just went through all of this with my beloved grandma. It was heartbreaking and good. She passed away last weekend, but last Wednesday she had a clear moment as I left the hospital. She smiled at me, waved, we told each other I love you, hugged, and blew each other kisses as I left the room. She slept from Thursday to Friday, and during the night before Saturday her heart stopped. I was with her until around 9 the night her heart stopped. I miss her so terribly much, but I'm glad I powered through the last few days of her life, and also that I had already read up on what to expect. She took one last breath, let it out, and then she entered her eternal sleep. 💜
I know what the final hour's & minutes of Dying looks like. I watched my Daughter Die.. I've watched other people die... Their last hours & minutes.. What isaw was Amazing , their orb , spirit, soul leave their body. I've seen my Daughter s Angle.... Peace of mind !
Hospice was wonderful for my Mom's passing. The lady doctor and nurses were perfect for their calling. I was a policeman for 34 years and saw a lot of dead people, some dying people. When it's your Mom and mine wasn't easy to get along with, it's overwhelming (over the three days, there were times I felt like I was going to faint) and I thank God for those wonderful ladies.
The hardest job on the planet is dealing with the dying. Whether you are a nurse, doctor or family member making certain end of life decisions is heart breaking. Prayers for all dealing with death at this time of year. You are all true heroes.
I don't think death is hard if you have been fortunate enough to feel energy. We are only shells. Energy can not die. It's an attitude and an education process. Life is fatal. Energy is forever!
Julie don't listen to these people. I'm a nurse and work for hospice. Best job I've ever had. Yes it is hard seeing and caring for end of life. But I tell you it's the most rewarding job I've ever had. If we HAVE to die we should go peacefully.
My mom was diagnosed with esophagus cancer and the Doctor has given her 2 months time frame. I am still in shock. This will be a sad time for our little family.
I watched my older brother die and this describes it almost perfectly. As his breathing paused, his skin turned pale, then he would take a sudden deep breath back in and the colour would come back for a moment. The heart outlasts most of the body and I noted that it seemed to struggle to keep him alive. Very disturbing, yet also educational. Watched my mother die of cancer, but she was well medicated and it wasn't as pronounced. Now my wife is dying of cancer (brain etc) and I am starting to see certain symptoms and don't expect her to last too much longer to be honest. Married 36 years, I don't know what I will do without her. We almost never argued and were practically joined at the hip. This is the only downside to living a longer life, you see those you care about the most all die off. I wished so badly that I had died and she had lived instead. I don't wish this on my worst enemy.
@D Frazier I am struggling and crying daily. My wife died a couple weeks after I posted this. She only lasted four months from her initial diagnosis to her death. It was so fast, I feel lost and alone. Been praying A LOT for help. Thanks for asking anyhow.
@@NeilRoy. PLEASE💚💚💚 ANSWER 💚💚✝️ME 💚non Small Cell Stage 4 lung cancer Adenocarcinoma. How long do I get to live. How fast does it grow. How long does it take to metastasize? ..NO ONE WILL TELL ME IVE ASKED FOR 4 MONTHS NO ONE WILL TELL ME THE TRUTH
@@godschild3640 It could be any length of time. You could totally beat it. With faith, obedience and prayer, you could be healed with it. With my wife, it suddenly showed up on a scan for something else and she was dead within four months. My mother on the other hand learned she had cancer, done all the treatment and lived for many many years longer, well over 5 years, and I know people who totally beat it that are still alive today. Obey God, pray to Him and if you have faith that He will heal you, than you may just be healed. The truth is, nobody really knows. Cancer is the result of putting unclean,m unhealthy things into our bodies which God tells us not to do for this very reason. Things like smoke, drugs and unclean meats like pork all contribute to poor health like this.
Keeping Up With The Wrig- Our body dies but we do go somewhere. We go to Heaven with Jesus or we go to hell with Satan. I can lead you in a prayer to know FOR SURE that you will go to Heaven.😊 Believe with your heart and tell God you are a sinner (we all are) ask Him to forgive you of your sins and tell Him that you believe that Jesus is His Son. If you do this with a believing heart He will reveal Himself to you and you will find a peace and a love that no human being can ever give you you have ever felt before ❤️
I just went through all of this my 89 year old Father. He died today at 6:20 in the morning. Every thing they discussed is what father went through. I am so heartbroken. But so grateful for hospice and the angels that work with them. They kept my dad comfortable and that was the most important thing. But I wish they could keep me comfortable right now and I am so broken.🙏
My father was one of the luckiest ones he came home dad discharged himself from hospital a day before he passed over 2 years ago at his own home and bed with close family by his side from a very aggressive form of stage 4 prostate cancer. It was nothing I've experienced before he went into cardiac arrest in minutes I touched his hand said daddy it's okay just let go now it's okay it's not goodbye daddy I'll see you later! He went to peace not long afterwards. Miss you dearly.
Medical personnel are making that far more possible today, than in the past. It is psychologically, far better for the patient to be at home in comforting and familiar surroundings than in the sterile atmosphere of a hospital. Home-health (hospice) nurses are very helpful with that, they are so kind and understanding of all the needs of a patient at that important end of life time. It is truly a kindness for the patient, and often, the family as well.
My dad suffered with COPD, he caught a leg infection and was taken to hospital and put in with COVID patients. We received a phone call saying “don’t worry, your Dad hasn’t got COVID”. We were terrified that he was mixed with COVID patients, given the fact that he suffered with COPD. Days later he was diagnosed with COVID 19. Days later he died. Me and my brother were allowed to visit him a day before wearing PPE. DO NOT MIX COPD PATIENTS WITH COVID PATIENTS! miss you Dad, always be remembered x
I always think of the hospice nurses that helped my mother and I get through her passing. They were brought from God to us. No matter how angry my mother was they showed such great compassion and help me heal also
I know a lot of hospice care providers don't like to take a patient's vital signs much or at all when death is near, but elevated blood pressure and heart rate can also be a response to pain. I noticed that often a patient's earlobes will lay flat to the head when death is imminent....strange, I know....but I learned to look for it.
My uncle is in the hospice, he has brain cancer and no medicine could help. I want to be there on his last day. I hope he goes onto heaven and is a guardian angel to my cousins, not me, my cousins. I already have my guardian angel. My dad who past when I was turning 3. RIP. much love
3 days my mother was on life support after a brain aneurysm burst. 3 days for dad to come to terms with letting her go. She was the leader of our family. Dad would say "My name is Peter - but She is the Rock" . When it was time everyone left the room but me. I stayed with my mom - listening to the heart monitor gradually slowing, until. I miss you every day mom. Please meet me when I arrive.
oh she is definitely gonna be waiting for you. with a big smile and a hug that only a mother can give! she’s at peace now. she’s resting. all pain and fear is just a memory. she’s taking a nap so she’ll be ready for you when your time comes! i’m sorry for your loss.
My brother passed away September 2017 with cancer of the pancreas I was with him when he took his last breath everybody had gone it was not scary I found it a relief tbh it might sound harsh but I felt he was ready to go to a new destination 😢❤️❤️
I cared for my partner through his last days. The stages these ladies describe is accurate, particularly about the slow breathing. One interesting thing did happen the day before my Tom passed... he suddenly rose up from his bed and looked at me and said that he could see his friend from years ago standing at the end of his bed... of course I saw nothing. He looked at me, then said "Oh... Frank is the one who's going to take me to the other side". His eyes fluttered and he went back into a deep deep sleep... those were the last words he ever said and he passed the next morning. I asked the hospice nurse why this happened and she told me it was not unusual at all. Tom had not been in any pain and I had not given him any morphine or other drugs so I do not think it was something drug induced... but it was certainly a comfort to him and to me to think there is a presence there with them when they pass on.
That’s a normal process God gives us to not be afraid when crossing over. Our friends and relatives are told that we are coming. They gather to welcome us.
That is fascinating, David. I remember a workmate of mine, his wife died of cancer....just before she died she said to him , something strange is happening to my body.......then, no more....she was gone. It seems to me that there is definitely something that transcends death....maybe it's nothing to be afraid of....natural and peaceful..let's hope so..good luck to you, friend.....
Today, patients who are terminal are usually given pain and anti-anxiety drugs to aid them in the dying process. Depending, of course on WHY they are dying, a patient is usually unconscious for a while before they die, as their vital systems are shutting down. It is incumbent on the staff (or even family) to see to it that their passing is the easiest it can be for them. Nothing we do at a hospital or hospice center, that we can do for them, is wrong if it eases their passing (and remains within legal bounds, of course).
This is exactly how it was for my Mother. She was unconscious from meds they gave her and after about 2 days they took her off the oxygen and eventually she just peacefully stopped breathing.There was no distress or suffering ..just peace and serenity.It gives me some solace that she went this way .
Honestly both of my mom’s grandmas passed away from Heart failure and stroke! They were both in their 80s Rip to them I miss them everyday! 😢 I love you Velvet and Gram! You grandmas will be missed!
I was with my grandfather for his last 2 weeks of life. I had to watch him struggle and finally give up. Than wait 6 hours for them to pick him up. It's a miserable experience.
My mum has been gone for 7 years now she died of cancer but I was in the room with her when she passed away it is a funny feeling seeing someone just lying there like that.
Thank you so much for this such comforting information. Just amazing young women. The caretakers who do this service work are truly doing the most important work in this life. Real angels on earth.😇
This is all true, my father passed away from ALS today and everything that was said in this video is accurate. Irregular breathing and slipping in and out of consciousness yesterday along with breathing having a slight rattle to it at times. My father was a strong man and made it to 70 years of age and passed days after.
My best friend of 24 years /the last 11 years as brothers . 2017 was a horrible year his best days was in hospice though himself talking,laughing he wanted to matter, he did to many. He was pain free when he went to home hospice then after a day home his pain came back with a vengeance. I knew it change from his voice , his cancer wound was bleeding bad. I then heard him through the night talking in his sleep. We called the hospice nurse in the middle of the night b/c his chest was hurting so bad we were told to open the kit for the adevant. I got him to sleep for a minute then in the morning hospice nurse came out, told us take him back to the hospice facility. I did he was stabilize by staff , he wanted a fan. I got one the next day totally unconscious he heard me calling him but he tried to respond but couldn't he passed away 5.5hours later ,in no pain. I miss my best friend 💔.
Allah borrowed you that life and only he is allowed to take it. It is not yours to decide. Their exam isn't done yet and you don't know if they could have survived. Read the Quran once in your lifetime and you will know what I mean.
@@gulsguls8488 , Hmmm, there are certain sects, denominations and/or factions of Islam that would disagree with that sentiment. It is a pitty that more individuals of those faiths do not take your prospective. However, with all monotheistic religions the principal doctrine is that the self perpetuation of utilizing the early delete button, is a hell worthy trespass. Yet, when personally seeing the terror and suffering of death, with the convulsions, the screaming and the slow unwinding of the mortal coil, that is unintervened with the benefit of medicine and science, one wonders what the word mercy truly means in the eyes of the creator(s). Affording individuals a level of comfort prior to passing appears to be more just and merciful,... from my prospective. If my many medical conditions qualified, under the law, I would gladly opt to take the cocktail and end it, despite the creators dogma on the subject. There is not much more hell that can bestowed upon an individual in the afterlife, than what I am enduring at the present juncture.
I agree. My father, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, wants this, but we are in Florida, and it’s not legal. This is inhumane. And for those that say it is not our right to take away what (insert name of deity) has given, not everyone is religious or a believer of a deity and afterlife. The individual is suffering and should decide for themselves.
Currently watching these videos as my grandfather is at home on hospice and aside from my full-time job, I am his part-time caregiver and my boyfriend is his full-time caregiver. I believe we are reaching the end and these videos and others have been helping me for the past two or three months. I know we have done what we could and continue doing what we can to make this transition as peaceful as possible. Thank you for these videos.
My 82 yo father has just had a significant stroke though he can breathe on his own and is semi responsive. He loves life and does not want to die. My sister however has other plans and is on a bedside vigil to make sure he slowly starves and dehydrates to death with no assessment of his condition by hospital doctors and no iv fluids or other intervention. I can’t override the DNR paperwork she had put in place when he had pneumonia five years ago and nearly died. Dad has had previous TIAs and I warned that he needed to be on stroke prevention meds, but that wasn’t allowed to happen either. Now I wish I’d caught in court to revoke her DNR paper and ensure him better care. Funny thing is that previously she wouldn’t visit for more than 20 mins a few times a year but now is happy to go on death watch. He never trusted her and is probably well aware she’s sitting there while he starves to death. It is sickening. Any advice would be welcome.
my husband was grimacing when they moved him slightly.. He also was in a coma state as mentioned.. He was breathing quite heavy too.. I left the room and when the dr called me back he had gone .. happened within minutes.. I believe this is quite common for someone to go when someone leaves the room..
same with my mother.. my sister had to use the bathroom and said to our mother "Mom, Dont go anywhere, I will be right out in 2 minutes"... Our mother died between the time she left her bedside and when she returned... Also, I had been in Maui on a family vacation when my mothers Emphysema turned to the worse and she was hospitalized. My sister reached out to our hotel and only told my husband who chose not to tell me allowing the family to stay on vacation 3 days longer. When we landed at SFO my sister picked us up but no one was talking. I asked why she was so quiet. I sensed something was wrong. Then I asked, "Where is mom?" She said, "Kathy, we have to hurry. She has been waiting for you." My mother was my best friend. She dropped off my husband and three girls at a friends house and we proceeded to the hospital, no words spoken. I remember it was 10:30 pm and the hospital seemed deserted and those fluorescent lights were on in the corridor. Longest walk of my life. I walked into my mother's hospital room and went to her side, held her hand. My sister said that she had not awoke in days. I said, "Mom, I am here, I love you..." I felt her squeeze my hand and she opened her eyes, they were blue as always but glassy. She pulled me close and whispered, "Kathy, I love you..." I left to get a cup of coffee, my sister went to the bathroom. Those were the last words she said. Mom had left this world... and yes, she was in a much better place. And I firmly believe she found the strength to wait and see me one last time. Emphysema is a horrific way to die. It is a slow painful death and your caregivers and family go through it WITH you. My father was her care giver and he was exhausted. If you smoke, please quit. I had the best mother any girl could ask for except she refused to give up smoking. That is until the doctor said she had 6 months to live...she quit that day....
I TRIED TO HANG IN THERE UNTIL MY MOM PASSED --SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL----AS SOON AS I LEFT AND WALKED THRU MY FRONT DOOR I GOT A CALL FROM THE HOSPITAL--SHE HAD PASSED. I ASKED THE NURSE WHAT WAS GOING ON---SHE SAID ---SOMETIMES THEY DONT WANT U TO SEE THEM DIE ---SO THEY LEAVE BEFORE YOU COME BACK. NOT SURE ABOUT THAT BUT I WISH I HAD BEEN THERE.
Yes, my son waited till my daughter and i were out of the room maybe seconds.His Girlfriend called us back quickly,then she said,i saw him go,Geoff was always protective, and thought of others.Iwill See him in heaven.will Always miss him.
This is something that my family just experienced twice in 33 days everything that you say is exactly what happened and our hospice palliative care people helped us through this and for that we thank you
Bless you for helping dying people and holding the families together. I wish we could pay hospice all the profits that blue cross blue shield takes annually
I watched my mom die slowly for 2 weeks. I know how it is and it was terrible to be there. I wish that on no one ever. I LL never forget leaving her 3 days before she passed. I will never do that again and I became a hospice volunteer after she passed
My dad passed in April and had dementia before getting mesothelioma. One day he had rosary beads in his hands, so I asked who gave them to him, and he said his mother. I said that was great and asked if she was there at that moment, but he said no. Later that day, he was sitting up, staring into the yard. I asked what he was looking at, and he said his father. A Hospice worker was there at that time, and he said he heard that all the time from patients close to death. I like to think my grandparents DID come for my dad at his end.
They Did come for him. 6 years ago this April I lost my father in law, I was there for his last breath. He out of nowhere said “I know Iris I’ll be there soon” (this was his mums name) .. he was focusing at the end of his bed when speaking too her.. it was heartbreaking but we knew his mum had come to take him home into gods arms
A lot of cultures believe that when a person is at the very end, he/she starts calling out the names of their dead loved ones. Also, a lot of them instinctually yell at some of them, because they are coming to get them, and they tell them to go away, because they are not ready to go. I’ve seen it happen, and I believe it, too.
The thoughts of my sister in her final days I think of often. I always watch these types of videos. Not sure why, we lost her last year. RIP to all those that left us here in the physically world. 💕
People are born in to this area, you are blessed with generous caring hearts. Bless you for what you do. It's so necessary and so important for medical personal (who are certainly treating the family members as much as the loved one who is dying) to be cut-out for the field. You ladies, and those in other places will be heavily pressed to the loved ones memories. You will occupy a coveted place in their minds
Thank you for sharing this video. You two women are very brave to do the job that you do in making people comfortable in their last months, weeks or days of life. 😇🙏🏼
It is never easy to be with a dying person, it just goes against human's grain, but life does end in time and there are ways of making it easier, it's called palliative (comfort) care, and it makes the process easier for all. Thank you for describing what happens when someone dies, as most people have no idea unless they have been involved with it in the medical profession. It's never easy. At some point their breathing is going to stop and without oxygen to the brain, the heart will soon stop also. Normally, a person will become unconscious shortly before death. They may stop talking, but remember, that a person's sense of hearing is the last to go, so be careful what you are saying. Above all, they need your support in the end, whether it's holding their hand or whatever. We've had some instances of people singing to their loved one or playing certain relaxing music for them. Whatever you can do is nice, but often, (depending on why they're dying) just being there for them is enough. I keep seeing the picture in my mind of President Bush, whom we lost Friday, holding Barbara's hand until she died. It was precious.
Usually morphine kills them first. Then there is massive heart attacks, strokes etc Most all longterm deaths the drugs will kill you first . If one had to watch a loved one die from say cancer without morphine ( especially near the end), you would have nightmares .
@@emmaatwell3195 Any opioid (which is a CNS depressant) can cause respirations to slow and even cease if the drug is strong enough. Many terminal patients will die that way, they are given e.g., morphine to stem extreme pain, and it relaxes them to the point they can stop breathing. Sometimes, medication to help them when they are very agitated is combined with pain meds, and the combination is synergistic (which means one drug can interact with the second drug which makes them more potent), so if that reaction is strong and they are weak or near death, their breathing will stop (due to the CNS, central nervous system, being depressed, then their heart stops. (Some States are condoning the practice of medicating a patient that way, knowing that they will likely die, that's called "assisted suicide" and the patient either takes a oral solution or opens an IV stopcock, which increases the flow of a medicine which puts them to sleep, permanently, usually something like pentothal or pentobarbital, so that the patient is causing the overdose of the drug by himself, not by the medical personnel.
I'm a carer and I have helped to make end of life clients as comfortable as possible including my dad last year giving someone their dignity and been there for family is the one selfless thing you can give someone near the end
I know what dying looks like in it’s final days. It’s my grandmas health conditions getting worse and worse. It’s my grandma pleading for someone to sleep with her because she’s scared to be alone. It’s this heavy presence in the air. A feeling of dreadfulness and anxiety as you wait. You’re not sure exactly what moment you’re waiting for but once it arrives you know. It’s the end.
I've had a near death experience on a cold winter night on rider side long ago. I recall the utter darkness. The light. The sky was beautiful blue. The clouds seemed to tower in the sky as far as I could see. I remember clearly the feeling of no weight on my feet or legs. It was wonderful. I man stood beside me I believe was an angel and asked me ... friends it's all ways a good time to be baptised under the water. And don't let anyone try to talk you into another way.
I remember some of these signs very well with my mom, especially when she slipped into unconsciousness. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to face. Thank you so much to all the staff who help with family and patients during end-of-life care.
In many cases ( I live in a care home) I feel death is a heavenly passport, they are free from pain ,away from the constraints of earth and in a much better place
My mother in law pointed out how the tip of the nose gets pointy and brighter when a patient is close to passing away - this seems due to the modeling effect and the retraction of blood in the body as described here. My father in law died within an hour after she made that observation, which was the reason we did stay around a bit longer. Few year later my grand dad was in palliative care. We received a few calls of “this is it” - each time I checked his nose and it looked fine. On another day we knew he didn’t eat or drink anymore, I went to his bed talking to him. Saw his white pointy nose and expected it would be my final farewell with him - he died the same night. I found knowing this and having something to go by helping a lot in these final days. There could be this guilt creeping up for not appreciating your last moment with someone sufficiently.
My grandma just died today this afternoon. She was 86 and had 5 children. She was put in hospice care on Saturday. 😞 I was there every minute that I could be. These signs are pretty accurate. I’m am glad that I was there at the end of the day and I know she was happy as well. Even thought she couldn’t SAY anything to me I saw it in here eyes. ❤️❤️❤️
I was with my mom in her final weeks...and saw her take her last breath...that was 25 years ago...I watch these videos and think I how do people deal with this...then I think..hey I did live through this..
Momma died 3 days ago after 9.5 years of fighting multiple myeloma cancer and she was paralyzed and mute. It's killing me because I asked her to squeeze my finger if in pain, and she did!. 😢
She wouldn’t have wanted you to suffer for her. She’s no longer in pain... live your life to the fullest, keep her in you thoughts, speak of her to all you know, do things that make you happy. As long as you are alive, so is she.
I'm writing this message with tears, because of my health condition, the doctor told me this morning that i will not survive my health condition due to my cancer diagnosing, so i have decided to offer my fund to the orphanage children, homeless less privilege there in your country to enable them to always pray for me even am if I'm know more alive as the doctor has told me that i can not survive my health condition
When both my mom and grandma were dying I noticed the change in their breathing. It was nothing I’ve seen before so of course I was worried. I never wanted to let them go and they stuck around me until I told them it was okay to go; so they did😞I’m 22 my mom was gonna be 36 but passed away a week before so she was 35, grandma was 69 when she passed which I found to be normal but I only got to know both of them for a short time. God has such horrible timing when he decides to take my parents home away from me.
Yup, its not unheard of for a 13 year old to get pregnant and have a child. While the circumstances are unclear, and obviously none of our business, I am thankful that it appears that you and your mother were close and it seems that there was no indication of resentment on her part. My condolences for your loss as she was far too young to pass.
My Mother passed in 2017, her wake was on a Saturday, her birthday, and she was buried on a Sunday which was Mothers Day of that year. Thank you so much to the Hospice workers and to all the people all over who specializes in end of life care. No one looks forward to these events but these professionals (Angels no doubt) manage them with grace and class and my family and I would have been lost without them. Read the Hospice blue book, I'm glad I did, it made all the difference and served as a guide as the information helped us recognize the different stages my mother went through as she transitioned to the other side. God Bless.
My son died at home, hospuce provided pain meds. It was the hardest thing i have erve lived through. Wstching him die and wondering if i did the right thjng in callung hospuce. He wanted to be home but maybe they could have pulled him through ine more time. Said he was so tired of fighting. The hospice nurse wasent arround much and it fell on me to take care if him and guve him his paun medicine.wish they had told me what to look for.i remember hearing him say i want to go home. I am ready to go hkme now
Ruth Goddard Actually there’s a book that they give you when a love one enters hospice care. It’s referred to as the ‘ little blue book ‘. Depending on the particular hospice services you used, makes all the difference in the knowledge they were to share with you upon intake. Ex: what to expect, when to call them and any changes to meds. Alive Hospice was amazing when it came to my mothers care. Within 24hrs we met the Chaplin, social worker, nurse and cna. Unfortunately the responsibility of administering meds and other things are the family members responsibility. That’s the whole point in going home to die. I pray your sons spirit is flying free in the next life ♥️ Thank you for giving him life and helping him back over to the other side, Amen 🙏🏽
As a hospice nurse I have held many hands while my patients crossed over but nothing prepared me for watching my mom die in my arms.
Amen, Jeanette. Hang in there, and know you're loved.
Thank you for being a Hospice Nurse- you are all my Hero’s and I so wish I went back to school for nursing. I was there for my mom too. Funeral is tomorrow. Losing your mom and speaking to someone else who has is so therapeutic to me for some reason, because you’re both in a club no one wants to be in.
When you hold someone in your arms & feel the ice flow thro their life. It haunts your soul . God bless you young ladies @ 71+ 🇨🇦 expat
I know exactly how u feel I was there laying in bed and holding my mamas hand when she passed it was so very hard but I know she knew I was there with her I was also there last yr when my sister died it's so hard to watch......GOD BLESS YOU!!!!❤️❤️
same ,,,Sad thing is when my time comes I will have no one
To all the men and women that work in end of life care, I say a big big thank you to you. You are very very special people.
Yes you are speial people indeed!
Thank you. It's a very painful situation when one's been caring for a patient/friend for 14 years and then find her lifeless body. It's just happened to me. Thank you for your recognition and comment. God bless
Tryna score heaven points lol
“Hospice” I only know bc my grandma is in it
I could only hope that there's a team of compassionate hospice nurses around me when my time comes. I'm petrified of the thought of dying alone and in pain.
Watching my mother deteriorate right before my eyes was the most painful thing I've ever seen. Glad she is no longer in any pain. We need to get a cure for cancer as fast as we created a vaccine for Covid.
I lost my aunt to cancer 4 days ago, she didn’t have kids, me and my two sisters were her kids, she was like a mother to us. She deteriorated as well to a point she was unrecognizable, it was very painful to watch, we are all devastated, im sorry for your loss, this is so hard😭
@@elbjasyal My condolences to you and your family. Sorry for your loss. You never get over it, you just learn to live with it. I have my mother's eyes. So everytime I look in the mirror I still see her.
Sorry, but we haven't cured Covid
Unfortunately it is very complicated but I’m sure in the future we will get better treatments and eventually find multiple cures for the different kinds. Bless you and your family, I hope you are doing well in spite of your loss.
Jesus is very hard I remember my grandma mother she raised me while my mother left me and I still remember the last days
My life some how stopped there
I always feel like the age I lost her
Isn't easy
Watching this made me well up. I was told in June 2014 I'd be dead in 3months or less. I'm still here 5 years later, but the care I was given by my local hospice was incredible. These people are very special. God bless them. 🙏🙏🙏
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How are you?
Stephen Reeve I’m so sorry... if you are still here I wish you luck in the future
I was told I had between 3 and 6 months to live . Went to talk to my wife she listened then said, no, I'm not going to let this happen. 28 years have passed and I ambvb clear of any cancer. We celebrated our 53 rd. wedding anniversary this year.
My dad passed away last night, he had interstitial lung disease, 81yrs old, he took a shower, got back to bed, the nurses found him on the floor. I love you dad. RIP 😭
I'm so sorry
My 2 year old baby brother died April 12th at 8:31 and I’m so heartbroken a piece of me has been shattered
@@jaaythegreat7849 I'm so sorry to hear this, my condolences to you and your family and may he rest in peace bless him x
God bless you. And your Dad.
RIP
My mum died in my dads arms he thanked her for giving him 50years of a wonderful marriage told her he loved her she looked at him and then passed away.
omg god bless her
R.I.P. your mother
RIP your mother. How sad. I welled up reading your post.
I hope you all are ok.
@@victoriawilliams8343 yes, thank you for your kind words she's gone bless her but she most definitely has not be forgotten xx
Oh gosh im so sorry that must be really hard 😢
Those last moments you witness NEVER leave your memory, I can testify to THAT! NO WORDS DESCRIBE IT! Especially when it s your MOTHER!
This is the realest thing you can tell people about watching someone die, especially your mother. I was with my mother until her last breath. Its been 4 years and I still see and hear her last hours like it was yesterday. There's no way I would of been anywhere else besides by her side holding her hand, but the reality is.. It forever changes who you are as a person.
@marlys mcgregor That's so beautiful all her children. Were there....I left.because my youngest sister picked such a time.to start a argument.I absolutely would not do that .in my mom's state.but my oldest sister was there to hold her hand as she passed.I'm just glad she wasn't alone
@marlys mcgregor true but I remember her last words( to me) were where are you going.&who's gone stay here with me.I know in my heart she wanted me there.I had plans of playing the gospel music softly.but my daughter said you did the right thing.to not argue.in that room.I broke down uncontrollably outside.I'm just glad my other sister held her hand till the end...so she wasn't alone
Sharron Pettis agreed!! My mom passed away comfortably in our home on Dec 16th 2019. I can’t let go of the image 💔 She was under hospice care for 10days 😢 Sending everyone that’s gone through this experience love and light 💕🕯🙏🏽
My mother wouldn't see me before she died
Not the most sensitive family
I'm so glad I worked in a hospital and knew how to help my husband have a painless death. He was in hospice. He didn't suffer unnessarily. I hate cancer.
You should hate SUGAR & CHEMICALS -thats what caused cancer. Research how sugar steals oxygen from cells making them cancerous !! Cancer shows up that your body wasnt able to overcome like an infection ON ITS OWN -so cancer shows you that. So disappointed all the processed sugar garbage food humans put in their grocery cart. Hate Sugar , hate chemo - cancer is your last ditch effort TO CHANGE YOUR DIET IMMEDIATELY ! Chemo is not the answer -Why do Doctors go to Mexico when THEY are diagnosed with cancer...Peace
@@pilarq7886 SHAME ON YOU for using this platform for your preaching, when the kind lady whom commented above you, is grieving! Instead of being an insensitive j e r k, learn some compassion when someone else is hurting. How dare you!
Dont be scare of death...God has better plans for us...I know and I feel it....my mother gave me the biggest smile minutes before she died ..a peaceful smile...a smile I will never forget
Maybe it was the drugs she was probably on ,,to help with the pain.. Or it could've been she was trying to make you feel better which sounds more like it... Our plan in life ,,, you live life the best you can and we all have an expiration date... Sooner or later we all go ,,,hopefully it's quick,And we don't see it coming... slow drawn out death is horrible ....To me anybeing like a god Puts life forms through what they have to go through is inconceivable if it is really true... nothing exists after ,, It's all to make us feel more comfortable . Because death is final anyway you look at it
@@helpmefixthis9117 I want you to know there is hope for perfect peace. God never promised life would be easy without trials. In fact l, he promises us MANY trials and tribulation. But he says take heart for I have overcome the world . Death is the result of everything we’ve done wrong. But he says we will live perfectly with him as He is perfect in heaven.
@@Victoria-xu2nj very well put amen 🙏🏿
@@helpmefixthis9117 we will see when we die
@@helpmefixthis9117 Allah created death and life in order to see which one of us is best in deed.
Life is a trial and we are all seating in an exam: the rich, the poor, the healthy, the sick, the strong, the weak, etc. The manual and instructions for dealing with this trial and showing us the right way came to us in the form of Prophets and Revelations. When we pass over to the other side then will we see individually how we did.
For disbelief and actions that deviated from the Supreme Creator's way the reward will be eternal damnation.
For belief and righteous actions, the reward will be an eternal bliss in the presence of the Most High.
I am terminal. I see my passing as peaceful especially after seeing this. I have a wonderful pallative Dr with the ALS team I have. I do have modeling happening - feet up to my knees and hands. I have 3 conditions that I will die from - ALS/Lou Gehrigs, Heart disease and a brain Tumor. I am ready for this journey.
Bless you...🖤
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Saw my mom go through this and seeing her take her last breath holding her hand and saying goodbye is probably the hardest thing I been through I’m only 19 fuck cancer
How sad. I fear the day I lose my parents 😞
Thanks to corona, I didn’t get to visit my grandmother who died because of cancer. I’m 13 fuck both corona and cancer
@@lilia6727 incredibly sorry for your loss dear. So sorry you had to go through that. I wish I could take your pain away. God bless you
I hear yah bud, I'm with you on that, my Father died of lung cancer, my mother has stage 4 now, her Dr gave her 3 to 6 months
@@raypotter1440 is she ok?
My grandpa was my source of humor and comfort. He passed a day ago and I can’t stop crying. My head hurts so bad. :(
Yeah. The headaches as a result of continuous crying. That takes me back to a dark place.
We most certainly have a spirit that leaves our bodies when we die.
My son died aged 16 months, 12 days after transplant surgery. The day before he passed I could no longer 'feel' him with me, it was like his body was there but his spirit had left. I was practically atheist back then but that feeling was very real.
I now look back 21 years later with different beliefs on death and the afterlife. I truly believe our souls/energy or whatever you want to call it, leaves our body and continues on x
Stay strong!
Islam is the true religion that everyone is supposed to be. There is an afterlife, paradise and hell do exist and that’s a fact and a one true god. that we will all go back to when we die. Please look into the religion of truth which is Islam and I promise u that u will have earned your salvation
Don’t wait until your dying to see that Islam is the only true religion and the only religion accepted by god who created you. But then it will be too late. U have to use intellect to see the truth of your existence so don’t wait till it’s too late and then there will be no second chances and there will only be regret
I wonder if your son gives you some now where he is in the after life?
Praise Jesus 🙏
@@Dinaafaneh92you need to get over your religious dogma. Islam is the most biased and incorrect belief system that I know.
My daughter is a palliative care doctor, I'm so proud that she has chosen this speciality, she fits it perfectly, she's fun but such a care bear, a great asset to her hospice (I know I'm her mum, so I'm not biased).
My grandpa just died less than a month ago in hospice. I was there to hold his hand and sing to him as he entered the Lords arms. 🕊❤️
These people that work with end of life care are angels on earth. They have a special talent and it's a calling. Blessed be these wonderful,caring people...
I am a carer I have cared for end of life patients also I cared for my dad when he was dying it's the one selfless thing you can do for someone as they prepare to leave this earth
Yes, they have to do from the hearts not for a money
They like to have paid check to ,but more important is the good care for the Humans
And the work with no looking on clock
I did Paliative care for the Humans
,my weeks many times where 70 or 80 h,,,a week ,,
I am RETIRE now ,but I still have many bad dreams and good dreams 😢😢😢😢😊
I hope help out I'm caretaker damisha I watch her 3week she fell broke heap she has pins she's always pain she saying sees husband mom dad she wants go home sighs ready go hope get feedback thank you God bless sick careing love one
Yes yes bless them
@@donnadexter3098 Just know that someone will be there for you at your time and they'll be just as caring as you Donna. You have my TOTAL respect for performing a very difficult task.
I asked the hospice nurse to help me get into the hospital bed, in our bedroom, so that I could be close to my beloved husband who was on oxygen. I did not know he was going to diie, but I just needed to be close tor him and told him how much I adored him, and spoke of our firsf beautiful loving together which continued throughout our loving marriage. He took three normal breaths and then his breathing stopped. No struggle, no discomfort. then end was as beautiful as the beginning. I lay on his dear chest and slept for a while, and then told the nurse. I am still deeply I love with him after three half years since he died. I adore him and have boxes of our wonderful love letters,which sustain me.forever. I cannot wait to put my arms around him again..I am so glad I accompanied him in death.
My heart breaks for you... I lost my hubby a year ago....
Time to get on with life.
That's a beautiful story, I wish I had such a love in my life. Thanks for sharing
@@newtoublue1451 What a thing to say. She's sharing a story that might be helpful to someone, and that's all you can think of to say? You strike me as someone very young; if that's not the case, then I don't know what your excuse might be.
@@Lionforaday .
That's the bottom line from what I gather for a sensible helpful remark .
Dead spouses if they loved one would want u to have love not just memories. She is still here -maybe for decades more.
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I signed my mom's papers to release her from aggressive treatment... It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life... I was killing someone who gave birth to me... I fed her her last meal, and held her hand as she looked into my eyes and left the earth....... I hope she is happy wherever she is❤️
Me too . She wanted this but I still ,5 years later. feel guilty .
When we make decisions based on love we cannot be wrong. I had to do same for both my dad and mom. So I know. Be at peace
@@jinhan5129 thanks Linda.
I know she's happy. You did the right thing♡♡♡
Tenaz Shah if you helped her with love and the doctors gave her adequate medication to relieve pain (but certainly not to kill her), sometimes aggressive treatment that holds no hope of recovery is a lot more cruel. If it were I, I certainly would prefer to be home with someone who loved me and took good care of me than to suffer in the cold unempathetic world of the hospital. The one I was in was hell on earth. I had a massive pulmonary embolism which should have killed me. I went to a wonderful rehab center after 11 days in that torture chamber, unfeeling hospital and was treated with love and great care. Your mother was fortunate to have you care for her. You did the right thing. You made her last days a joy.
I just want to say, before I die..... I love my children... and all my wonderful grandchildren. 💝💝💝💐
Well how are you now....
are you ok
Bless you
My father is dying tonight or tomorrow. He is now non responsive and I am waiting for the call from the hospice.
These videos help so much.
my grandma was in a coma and well i swear she was waiting for my family to leave because as soon as we got home we got a call from the hospital saying that she died i felt bad but when we went to the funeral i didnt cry but when i got in the car to go home i just couldn't hold it in anymore for a while i was a emotional wreak this was 2 years ago and i am still crying over this
I lost my first patient today. It was tough. This video is accurate.
Hello serena😀
It doesn’t get easier necessarily but you learn to cope with it better, hopefully. Being there for people during their final moments, particularly when their family cannot be there or they don’t have anyone. It’s a great gift to be able to carry that as it’s not something you can leave at work although you have to learn to be able to give up control if you know you did everything you could for them. I considered hospice care because I admire those who do this work so much. They help people to die with dignity and grace and show love and compassion and humanity in their final hours and remember them. They listen to their fears and share their hopes and dreams hear their memories ain’t many cases. I think hospice care is different. I ended up in a different branch of medicine where if we lose someone I feel it is my fault as they come to us for healing not an easier transition out of this world. Maybe I could learn a lot to They say it passes and gets easier but it hasn’t a decade later so maybe I should speak with someone. I have learned to detach and to do all I can and accept the result but I still have this weight of wondering if maybe I had done something differently would their families still have them by their side? I don’t know and I don’t mean to scare you. Honestly I think it is natural to feel personally affected by this and many will tell you to guard yourself by distancing yourself professionally and in some respects that may be wise and necessary to do your work. However never lose your heart for people even when you must compartmentalize in order to save your sanity and focus on the task at hand. Your heart for people is what will give you fuel to go that extra mile and to selflessly give your time and energy and hope to each patient and will help you to not burn out if done moderately. Remember to prioritize your patients you must first look after your own mental and physical health. You cannot be of use to anyone if you are sleep deprived or not able to focus or control your emotions when necessary to help others. Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others, just like on an airplane. Best of luck to you and make your own luck by being tenacious and lionhearted! I believe in you and I hope that six months later you feel that you have grown and have gained confidence in your abilities. We are not saviors obviously but it’s amazing the effects your actions can have on those around you, in and out of a healthcare setting...we are just lucky enough to get paid to try to heal people.. anybody regardless of what they’ve done, anyone who needs it and we don’t have to make any judgements on anyone. Hope your work is rewarding for you and your patients.
During COVID it has been stressful and hard for everyone to see patients who are unable to see family.... it is heart wrenching to have to enforce that no matter how necessary!!!
@@drmantistobboggangonzodr3961 hello how are you doing today
Your kindness to one now gone is a thing to know as special. This is a debt no one pays, but you can carry. When my Dad passed the staff that cared for him were all the kindest souls I have ever met. The diligence and dedication they gave my Dad will be what I remember.
I have terminal Cancer and this have been helpful. I was with my Father when he passed. I hope I have someone with me when the time comes. Rite now I have no one. Facing death alone is scary, even as a Christian. Thank you.
Take heart. God is always with you : )
God be with you......i pray for you. I wish i can be with you
Do you need a care person ..I can help you ..I'm Muslim
My dad passed away from Brain Cancer last year. He was at home in bed with all his kids round him. He was unconscious for the last week, and the rattle and mottling of his skin changed about a day before he passed. His breathing dramatically changed around 15 minutes before, and while he was unconscious for the last week, he opened his eyes for his final 2 breaths. It is painful even to type this as he was a wonderful dad and I'm only 27, but I believe he passed peacefully. Love to all
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Ryan Hastie your father will forever be with you, even more so now than before he passed; you will carry him wherever you go, his thoughts, what he taught you by example, his ways, I am sure you were a wonderful son to him and he is proud of you, you most definitely will be reunited in spirit someday but just not now because it is not your time and you have work left to do.... be at ease, you will be with him eventually
Hi, Ryan, I deeply sympathize with your pain. Bless you for being by his side during his last hours--the memory must be hard. You will no doubt always miss him and wish you could have had more time. Know that others have walked in your shoes, and that they understand how painful it is. All the best.
I'm so sorry for your loss. He was lucky to have you. Bless you and your family.
So sorry , I am sure your Dad was Grateful you were there and Proud of You as Well.
Blessings and love to all of you who have experienced the loss of a loved one xx
I lost my Grandmother last year in August...
Father God, I just want to pray for all your children here in this comment section. I want to pray that you would bring them peace and comfort if they're anxious or if they're going through a time loss and suffering. I pray Father that they would come to know you during this time of chaos, and that they would allow you to be their joy and hope. In Jesus's name I pray, Amen!
Amen!
What a Beautiful and peaceful thing to say in the coments section, thanku so much for it, and God Bless you sweet lady
Amen sis😇🙏🔥❤️
Amen and God Bless!
Amen
I am a CNA for one of the top 10 nursing homes in Missouri, and may I just say I love all my residents and hearing and seeing these signs can really break YOURE heart. We care for these people everyday and you really do build a bond with them. We are their family right now because of covid and it means the world to me that someone’s last look was at me and I was able to help them Rest In Peace ❤️
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Respect and appreciation to you.
I’m an LPN, and I agree with you completely. These last 2 years have been very challenging, we really were the family! God bless you sister ❤️
Thanks for the reply John Boy. My late mother suffered horribly with MS and the last year of her life was horrid. Blind, incontinent, slurred speech, confined to a wheelchair and with the use of only one hand. She begged us to "let her go." But, back then, we could not find a physician to help. Things are changing now, thank goodness. Death is not to be feared. It is simply another stage in our ongoing journey.
Sad so sorry
God decides when he wants to take us. We are all here to give lessons and learn lessons. It is not our prerogative to choose when we die. If we are suffering we join that to Jesus's suffering on the cross. God bless us all 🙏🙏🙏 May your Mom RIP.
My dad has had MS since 2010. He is now in a nursing home, slurred speech, poor memory, no capacity, he's incontinent, visually impaired and no mobility other than the use of one arm which has no strength to feed himself or hold a cup of water. Do you mind asking how the end was and if it was quick? My dad is suffering so bad and I can't get any answers as to how long he will be suffering for
> _[Death] is simply another stage in our ongoing journey._
Sorry to burst your bubble, but we simply don't know this! People should stop treating it as a fact.
Just went through all of this with my beloved grandma. It was heartbreaking and good. She passed away last weekend, but last Wednesday she had a clear moment as I left the hospital. She smiled at me, waved, we told each other I love you, hugged, and blew each other kisses as I left the room.
She slept from Thursday to Friday, and during the night before Saturday her heart stopped. I was with her until around 9 the night her heart stopped.
I miss her so terribly much, but I'm glad I powered through the last few days of her life, and also that I had already read up on what to expect. She took one last breath, let it out, and then she entered her eternal sleep. 💜
*gosh that made me tearful.*
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I know what the final hour's & minutes of Dying looks like. I watched my Daughter Die.. I've watched other people die... Their last hours & minutes.. What isaw was Amazing , their orb , spirit, soul leave their body. I've seen my Daughter s Angle.... Peace of mind !
Amen
Yes it's the most beautiful thing I have seen my Dad's spirit
Hospice was wonderful for my Mom's passing. The lady doctor and nurses were perfect for their calling. I was a policeman for 34 years and saw a lot of dead people, some dying people. When it's your Mom and mine wasn't easy to get along with, it's overwhelming (over the three days, there were times I felt like I was going to faint) and I thank God for those wonderful ladies.
The hardest job on the planet is dealing with the dying. Whether you are a nurse, doctor or family member making certain end of life decisions is heart breaking. Prayers for all dealing with death at this time of year. You are all true heroes.
Prayers NEVER work. You'd have better luck rubbing a magic lamp!
I don't think death is hard if you have been fortunate enough to feel energy. We are only shells. Energy can not die. It's an attitude and an education process. Life is fatal. Energy is forever!
Julie don't listen to these people. I'm a nurse and work for hospice. Best job I've ever had. Yes it is hard seeing and caring for end of life. But I tell you it's the most rewarding job I've ever had. If we HAVE to die we should go peacefully.
CHRISTMAS meant nothing to me in 2018 as my mother passed at 92. Glad it's over as she suffered with ALZHEIMER'S for years.
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My mom was diagnosed with esophagus cancer and the Doctor has given her 2 months time frame. I am still in shock. This will be a sad time for our little family.
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I'm sorry for what you are going through..may the Lord sustain you all
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Hello kjc😀
I watched my older brother die and this describes it almost perfectly. As his breathing paused, his skin turned pale, then he would take a sudden deep breath back in and the colour would come back for a moment. The heart outlasts most of the body and I noted that it seemed to struggle to keep him alive. Very disturbing, yet also educational. Watched my mother die of cancer, but she was well medicated and it wasn't as pronounced. Now my wife is dying of cancer (brain etc) and I am starting to see certain symptoms and don't expect her to last too much longer to be honest. Married 36 years, I don't know what I will do without her. We almost never argued and were practically joined at the hip. This is the only downside to living a longer life, you see those you care about the most all die off. I wished so badly that I had died and she had lived instead. I don't wish this on my worst enemy.
I’m so sorry Roy, I myself I’m dying of cancer. I feel so bad for my husband. We have no kids and it’s just us. We are close too. Death sucks.
@D Frazier I am struggling and crying daily. My wife died a couple weeks after I posted this. She only lasted four months from her initial diagnosis to her death. It was so fast, I feel lost and alone. Been praying A LOT for help.
Thanks for asking anyhow.
@@NeilRoy. PLEASE💚💚💚 ANSWER 💚💚✝️ME 💚non Small Cell Stage 4 lung cancer Adenocarcinoma. How long do I get to live. How fast does it grow. How long does it take to metastasize? ..NO ONE WILL TELL ME IVE ASKED FOR 4 MONTHS NO ONE WILL TELL ME THE TRUTH
@@godschild3640 It could be any length of time. You could totally beat it. With faith, obedience and prayer, you could be healed with it. With my wife, it suddenly showed up on a scan for something else and she was dead within four months. My mother on the other hand learned she had cancer, done all the treatment and lived for many many years longer, well over 5 years, and I know people who totally beat it that are still alive today. Obey God, pray to Him and if you have faith that He will heal you, than you may just be healed.
The truth is, nobody really knows. Cancer is the result of putting unclean,m unhealthy things into our bodies which God tells us not to do for this very reason. Things like smoke, drugs and unclean meats like pork all contribute to poor health like this.
Never be afraid of dying. We are all energy and never die.
Namispond Jamispond thanks for this comment. I needed it. I’ve always been afraid of death
Keeping Up With The Wrig- Our body dies but we do go somewhere. We go to Heaven with Jesus or we go to hell with Satan. I can lead you in a prayer to know FOR SURE that you will go to Heaven.😊 Believe with your heart and tell God you are a sinner (we all are) ask Him to forgive you of your sins and tell Him that you believe that Jesus is His Son. If you do this with a believing heart He will reveal Himself to you and you will find a peace and a love that no human being can ever give you you have ever felt before ❤️
@@joecharles7081 We're what?
@@grateful1929 yes exactly. God is the answer. He controls everything.
@@grateful1929 or we go nowhere.but we suffer no.more.we all die..
I just went through all of this my 89 year old Father. He died today at 6:20 in the morning. Every thing they discussed is what father went through. I am so heartbroken. But so grateful for hospice and the angels that work with them. They kept my dad comfortable and that was the most important thing. But I wish they could keep me comfortable right now and I am so broken.🙏
Hello Mary how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family
God bless you for comforting and caring for terminally ill patients.
My father was one of the luckiest ones he came home dad discharged himself from hospital a day before he passed over 2 years ago at his own home and bed with close family by his side from a very aggressive form of stage 4 prostate cancer. It was nothing I've experienced before he went into cardiac arrest in minutes I touched his hand said daddy it's okay just let go now it's okay it's not goodbye daddy I'll see you later! He went to peace not long afterwards. Miss you dearly.
When I was at my mother's bedside talking to her, I told her I loved her and many other nice things. When I was leaving I said , "Later, Mummy".
She died later that day.
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Nice of u to stick around that day. !
Medical personnel are making that far more possible today, than in the past. It is psychologically, far better for the patient to be at home in comforting and familiar surroundings than in the sterile atmosphere of a hospital. Home-health (hospice) nurses are very helpful with that, they are so kind and understanding of all the needs of a patient at that important end of life time. It is truly a kindness for the patient, and often, the family as well.
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I'm so
My dad suffered with COPD, he caught a leg infection and was taken to hospital and put in with COVID patients. We received a phone call saying “don’t worry, your Dad hasn’t got COVID”.
We were terrified that he was mixed with COVID patients, given the fact that he suffered with COPD. Days later he was diagnosed with COVID 19. Days later he died. Me and my brother were allowed to visit him a day before wearing PPE. DO NOT MIX COPD PATIENTS WITH COVID PATIENTS! miss you Dad, always be remembered x
I always think of the hospice nurses that helped my mother and I get through her passing. They were brought from God to us. No matter how angry my mother was they showed such great compassion and help me heal also
God bless you, ladies. You have one of the most difficult jobs on the planet.
Ivory Turner It's really not dealing with death is a big deal
I know a lot of hospice care providers don't like to take a patient's vital signs much or at all when death is near, but elevated blood pressure and heart rate can also be a response to pain. I noticed that often a patient's earlobes will lay flat to the head when death is imminent....strange, I know....but I learned to look for it.
Hey, I just wanted to know how imminent exactly is at where the earlobes lay flat?
I notice that my fathers ears look that way today…
My mother is in the death stage right now. Thank you for your teachings. I wish all who are watching this are blessed with peace.
My uncle is in the hospice, he has brain cancer and no medicine could help. I want to be there on his last day. I hope he goes onto heaven and is a guardian angel to my cousins, not me, my cousins. I already have my guardian angel. My dad who past when I was turning 3. RIP. much love
my head was on my brother's chest as he took his last breath....I still remember, I remember his last breath sounding as almost a sign of relief.
3 days my mother was on life support after a brain aneurysm burst. 3 days for dad to come to terms with letting her go. She was the leader of our family. Dad would say "My name is Peter - but She is the Rock" . When it was time everyone left the room but me. I stayed with my mom - listening to the heart monitor gradually slowing, until. I miss you every day mom. Please meet me when I arrive.
THX 1138 - She'll be waiting there for you when your time comes but in the meantime, fulfil your own mission; we all have one🙏❤
you will meet again
THX 1138 You make me cry because I know that it’s true. I believe that she’s waiting just like my parents wait for me.
oh she is definitely gonna be waiting for you. with a big smile and a hug that only a mother can give! she’s at peace now. she’s resting. all pain and fear is just a memory. she’s taking a nap so she’ll be ready for you when your time comes! i’m sorry for your loss.
Wow! I am impressed by these two young ladies that they can deal with such a difficult situation on a professional level. I'm not sure I could.
My brother passed away September 2017 with cancer of the pancreas I was with him when he took his last breath everybody had gone it was not scary I found it a relief tbh it might sound harsh but I felt he was ready to go to a new destination 😢❤️❤️
my neighbor has it and i ust lost a friend to it. sorry for your loss.
you are correct. it’s not harsh. he’s out on his next great adventure. i’m sorry for your loss.
@@boygoddess1394 thank you and yep i believe that too ❤
@Voice of truth aw thank you
I feel your pain, my father died of a heart attack that same month and year 😔
I cared for my partner through his last days. The stages these ladies describe is accurate, particularly about the slow breathing. One interesting thing did happen
the day before my Tom passed... he suddenly rose up from his bed and looked at me and said that he could see his friend from years ago standing at the end of
his bed... of course I saw nothing. He looked at me, then said "Oh... Frank is the one who's going to take me to the other side". His eyes fluttered and he went back
into a deep deep sleep... those were the last words he ever said and he passed the next morning. I asked the hospice nurse why this happened and she told me it
was not unusual at all. Tom had not been in any pain and I had not given him any morphine or other drugs so I do not think it was something drug induced... but it
was certainly a comfort to him and to me to think there is a presence there with them when they pass on.
That’s a normal process God gives us to not be afraid when crossing over. Our friends and relatives are told that we are coming. They gather to welcome us.
That is fascinating, David. I remember a workmate of mine, his wife died of cancer....just before she died she said to him , something strange is happening to my body.......then, no more....she was gone.
It seems to me that there is definitely something that transcends death....maybe it's nothing to be afraid of....natural and peaceful..let's hope so..good luck to you, friend.....
Thanks for sharing that David. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure Tom knows you did the very best you could and he was loved. 💗
Today, patients who are terminal are usually given pain and anti-anxiety drugs to aid them in the dying process. Depending, of course on WHY they are dying, a patient is usually unconscious for a while before they die, as their vital systems are shutting down. It is incumbent on the staff (or even family) to see to it that their passing is the easiest it can be for them. Nothing we do at a hospital or hospice center, that we can do for them, is wrong if it eases their passing (and remains within legal bounds, of course).
This is exactly how it was for my Mother. She was unconscious from meds they gave her and after about 2 days they took her off the oxygen and eventually she just peacefully stopped breathing.There was no distress or suffering ..just peace and serenity.It gives me some solace that she went this way .
Honestly both of my mom’s grandmas passed away from Heart failure and stroke! They were both in their 80s Rip to them I miss them everyday! 😢 I love you Velvet and Gram! You grandmas will be missed!
The hardest part of dying is not having friends and family by your side. It also makes dying easier as I have nothing to cling to.
😥 yes having to pass alone w/o family shouldn't be allowed.
God bless you. I believe there's an organization called no one dies alone, look into it❤
I hope you’re still here- a hug to you from one medical professional to another- holding your hand from afar! ❤️
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Thank you for this information. My grandfather is dying of pancreatic cancer. Some how knowing what to expect is very comforting.
Make sure Grand Dad has quality hospice, and therefore pain support. Thoughts and prayers, sir.
I was with my grandfather for his last 2 weeks of life. I had to watch him struggle and finally give up. Than wait 6 hours for them to pick him up. It's a miserable experience.
My mum has been gone for 7 years now she died of cancer but I was in the room with her when she passed away it is a funny feeling seeing someone just lying there like that.
Thank you so much for this such comforting information. Just amazing young women. The caretakers who do this service work are truly doing the most important work in this life. Real angels on earth.😇
This is all true, my father passed away from ALS today and everything that was said in this video is accurate. Irregular breathing and slipping in and out of consciousness yesterday along with breathing having a slight rattle to it at times. My father was a strong man and made it to 70 years of age and passed days after.
My best friend of 24 years /the last 11 years as brothers . 2017 was a horrible year his best days was in hospice though himself talking,laughing he wanted to matter, he did to many. He was pain free when he went to home hospice then after a day home his pain came back with a vengeance. I knew it change from his voice , his cancer wound was bleeding bad. I then heard him through the night talking in his sleep. We called the hospice nurse in the middle of the night b/c his chest was hurting so bad we were told to open the kit for the adevant. I got him to sleep for a minute then in the morning hospice nurse came out, told us take him back to the hospice facility. I did he was stabilize by staff , he wanted a fan. I got one the next day totally unconscious he heard me calling him but he tried to respond but couldn't he passed away 5.5hours later ,in no pain. I miss my best friend 💔.
I feel that when a person is at this stage they should be given medication to end it all; we don't allow animals to suffer, why do we make humans?
If they receive good palliative care they don’t suffer.
My fur baby suffered with uthanasia ,I was horrified.
Allah borrowed you that life and only he is allowed to take it. It is not yours to decide. Their exam isn't done yet and you don't know if they could have survived. Read the Quran once in your lifetime and you will know what I mean.
@@gulsguls8488 , Hmmm, there are certain sects, denominations and/or factions of Islam that would disagree with that sentiment. It is a pitty that more individuals of those faiths do not take your prospective. However, with all monotheistic religions the principal doctrine is that the self perpetuation of utilizing the early delete button, is a hell worthy trespass. Yet, when personally seeing the terror and suffering of death, with the convulsions, the screaming and the slow unwinding of the mortal coil, that is unintervened with the benefit of medicine and science, one wonders what the word mercy truly means in the eyes of the creator(s). Affording individuals a level of comfort prior to passing appears to be more just and merciful,... from my prospective. If my many medical conditions qualified, under the law, I would gladly opt to take the cocktail and end it, despite the creators dogma on the subject. There is not much more hell that can bestowed upon an individual in the afterlife, than what I am enduring at the present juncture.
I agree. My father, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, wants this, but we are in Florida, and it’s not legal. This is inhumane. And for those that say it is not our right to take away what (insert name of deity) has given, not everyone is religious or a believer of a deity and afterlife. The individual is suffering and should decide for themselves.
Currently watching these videos as my grandfather is at home on hospice and aside from my full-time job, I am his part-time caregiver and my boyfriend is his full-time caregiver. I believe we are reaching the end and these videos and others have been helping me for the past two or three months. I know we have done what we could and continue doing what we can to make this transition as peaceful as possible. Thank you for these videos.
I'm going through this right now with my mother - this was very comforting! Thank you so much
When my daddy was in the hospital dying I felt him hold my hand
My 82 yo father has just had a significant stroke though he can breathe on his own and is semi responsive. He loves life and does not want to die. My sister however has other plans and is on a bedside vigil to make sure he slowly starves and dehydrates to death with no assessment of his condition by hospital doctors and no iv fluids or other intervention. I can’t override the DNR paperwork she had put in place when he had pneumonia five years ago and nearly died. Dad has had previous TIAs and I warned that he needed to be on stroke prevention meds, but that wasn’t allowed to happen either. Now I wish I’d caught in court to revoke her DNR paper and ensure him better care. Funny thing is that previously she wouldn’t visit for more than 20 mins a few times a year but now is happy to go on death watch. He never trusted her and is probably well aware she’s sitting there while he starves to death. It is sickening. Any advice would be welcome.
experienced hearing a residents death rattle for the first time tonight.... I can say I will never forget my first
my husband was grimacing when they moved him slightly.. He also was in a coma state as mentioned.. He was breathing quite heavy too.. I left the room and when the dr called me back he had gone .. happened within minutes.. I believe this is quite common for someone to go when someone leaves the room..
same with my mother.. my sister had to use the bathroom and said to our mother "Mom, Dont go anywhere, I will be right out in 2 minutes"... Our mother died between the time she left her bedside and when she returned...
Also, I had been in Maui on a family vacation when my mothers Emphysema turned to the worse and she was hospitalized. My sister reached out to our hotel and only told my husband who chose not to tell me allowing the family to stay on vacation 3 days longer.
When we landed at SFO my sister picked us up but no one was talking. I asked why she was so quiet. I sensed something was wrong. Then I asked, "Where is mom?" She said, "Kathy, we have to hurry. She has been waiting for you." My mother was my best friend.
She dropped off my husband and three girls at a friends house and we proceeded to the hospital, no words spoken. I remember it was 10:30 pm and the hospital seemed deserted and those fluorescent lights were on in the corridor. Longest walk of my life. I walked into my mother's hospital room and went to her side, held her hand. My sister said that she had not awoke in days. I said, "Mom, I am here, I love you..." I felt her squeeze my hand and she opened her eyes, they were blue as always but glassy. She pulled me close and whispered, "Kathy, I love you..."
I left to get a cup of coffee, my sister went to the bathroom. Those were the last words she said. Mom had left this world... and yes, she was in a much better place. And I firmly believe she found the strength to wait and see me one last time.
Emphysema is a horrific way to die. It is a slow painful death and your caregivers and family go through it WITH you. My father was her care giver and he was exhausted. If you smoke, please quit. I had the best mother any girl could ask for except she refused to give up smoking.
That is until the doctor said she had 6 months to live...she quit that day....
Janice Smith This is true, I had pushed the wheelchair out to the dining room and the minister called me. In those few seconds, my husband left us.
I TRIED TO HANG IN THERE UNTIL MY MOM PASSED --SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL----AS SOON AS I LEFT AND WALKED THRU MY FRONT DOOR I GOT A CALL FROM THE HOSPITAL--SHE HAD PASSED. I ASKED THE NURSE WHAT WAS GOING ON---SHE SAID ---SOMETIMES THEY DONT WANT U TO SEE THEM DIE ---SO THEY LEAVE BEFORE YOU COME BACK. NOT SURE ABOUT THAT BUT I WISH I HAD BEEN THERE.
Yes, my son waited till my daughter and i were out of the room maybe seconds.His
Girlfriend called us back quickly,then she said,i saw him go,Geoff was always protective, and thought of others.Iwill
See him in heaven.will
Always miss him.
@@katherinemcminn7988 beautiful 💜 memories of your mum.Godbless
I'm going through this now with my dad :(
I'm going through this with my Opa and it's so hard:(
This is something that my family just experienced twice in 33 days everything that you say is exactly what happened and our hospice palliative care people helped us through this and for that we thank you
I just found this channel today, and I'm very grateful. My Dad started end of life care two days ago. This was very comforting, thank you 🙏💖🏴
Jehovah bless you young ladies. Thank you so much for caring. It is noticed.
Bless you for helping dying people and holding the families together. I wish we could pay hospice all the profits that blue cross blue shield takes annually
I watched my mom die slowly for 2 weeks. I know how it is and it was terrible to be there. I wish that on no one ever. I LL never forget leaving her 3 days before she passed. I will never do that again and I became a hospice volunteer after she passed
Thank goodness for the hospice nurses. The one who was with when my niece cried with us. I am forever grateful for them. They were so caring.
My dad passed in April and had dementia before getting mesothelioma. One day he had rosary beads in his hands, so I asked who gave them to him, and he said his mother. I said that was great and asked if she was there at that moment, but he said no. Later that day, he was sitting up, staring into the yard. I asked what he was looking at, and he said his father. A Hospice worker was there at that time, and he said he heard that all the time from patients close to death. I like to think my grandparents DID come for my dad at his end.
Patricia Bilinkas They did. ❤️
They Did come for him. 6 years ago this April I lost my father in law, I was there for his last breath. He out of nowhere said “I know Iris I’ll be there soon” (this was his mums name) .. he was focusing at the end of his bed when speaking too her.. it was heartbreaking but we knew his mum had come to take him home into gods arms
A lot of cultures believe that when a person is at the very end, he/she starts calling out the names of their dead loved ones. Also, a lot of them instinctually yell at some of them, because they are coming to get them, and they tell them to go away, because they are not ready to go. I’ve seen it happen, and I believe it, too.
Great video - when my mother was dying 20 years ago I wished I had seen this video beforehand.
The thoughts of my sister in her final days I think of often. I always watch these types of videos. Not sure why, we lost her last year. RIP to all those that left us here in the physically world. 💕
People are born in to this area, you are blessed with generous caring hearts. Bless you for what you do. It's so necessary and so important for medical personal (who are certainly treating the family members as much as the loved one who is dying) to be cut-out for the field. You ladies, and those in other places will be heavily pressed to the loved ones memories. You will occupy a coveted place in their minds
Thank you for sharing this video. You two women are very brave to do the job that you do in making people comfortable in their last months, weeks or days of life. 😇🙏🏼
Hello Leslie how are you doing hope you’re having a great time with your family may God bless you and your family
It is never easy to be with a dying person, it just goes against human's grain, but life does end in time and there are ways of making it easier, it's called palliative (comfort) care, and it makes the process easier for all. Thank you for describing what happens when someone dies, as most people have no idea unless they have been involved with it in the medical profession. It's never easy. At some point their breathing is going to stop and without oxygen to the brain, the heart will soon stop also. Normally, a person will become unconscious shortly before death. They may stop talking, but remember, that a person's sense of hearing is the last to go, so be careful what you are saying. Above all, they need your support in the end, whether it's holding their hand or whatever. We've had some instances of people singing to their loved one or playing certain relaxing music for them. Whatever you can do is nice, but often, (depending on why they're dying) just being there for them is enough. I keep seeing the picture in my mind of President Bush, whom we lost Friday, holding Barbara's hand until she died. It was precious.
He was evil...
Usually morphine kills them first. Then there is massive heart attacks, strokes etc
Most all longterm deaths the drugs will kill you first . If one had to watch a loved one die from say cancer without morphine ( especially near the end), you would have nightmares .
@@gussygatlin3093 ....She was worst, the daughter of Aleister Crowley !
She was evil like GHB
@@emmaatwell3195 Any opioid (which is a CNS depressant) can cause respirations to slow and even cease if the drug is strong enough. Many terminal patients will die that way, they are given e.g., morphine to stem extreme pain, and it relaxes them to the point they can stop breathing. Sometimes, medication to help them when they are very agitated is combined with pain meds, and the combination is synergistic (which means one drug can interact with the second drug which makes them more potent), so if that reaction is strong and they are weak or near death, their breathing will stop (due to the CNS, central nervous system, being depressed, then their heart stops.
(Some States are condoning the practice of medicating a patient that way, knowing that they will likely die, that's called "assisted suicide" and the patient either takes a oral solution or opens an IV stopcock, which increases the flow of a medicine which puts them to sleep, permanently, usually something like pentothal or pentobarbital, so that the patient is causing the overdose of the drug by himself, not by the medical personnel.
These are the real Rockstars! Thank You. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I have no words to express my thanx to those 👨🔬👩🔬 who work for patients in their final days.... Salute for such Kind hearted people🙋♂️❤❤
I'm a carer and I have helped to make end of life clients as comfortable as possible including my dad last year giving someone their dignity and been there for family is the one selfless thing you can give someone near the end
How are you doing 😊😊👋
I know what dying looks like in it’s final days. It’s my grandmas health conditions getting worse and worse. It’s my grandma pleading for someone to sleep with her because she’s scared to be alone. It’s this heavy presence in the air. A feeling of dreadfulness and anxiety as you wait. You’re not sure exactly what moment you’re waiting for but once it arrives you know. It’s the end.
Believe in God and His Mercy. Jesus I place my trust in Thee 🙏🙏🙏
Exactly what I'm going through right now, I'm waiting...
@@bripierce how you doing
I've had a near death experience on a cold winter night on rider side long ago. I recall the utter darkness. The light. The sky was beautiful blue. The clouds seemed to tower in the sky as far as I could see. I remember clearly the feeling of no weight on my feet or legs. It was wonderful. I man stood beside me I believe was an angel and asked me ... friends it's all ways a good time to be baptised under the water. And don't let anyone try to talk you into another way.
I remember some of these signs very well with my mom, especially when she slipped into unconsciousness. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to face. Thank you so much to all the staff who help with family and patients during end-of-life care.
In many cases ( I live in a care home) I feel death is a heavenly passport, they are free from pain ,away from the constraints of earth and in a much better place
My mother in law pointed out how the tip of the nose gets pointy and brighter when a patient is close to passing away - this seems due to the modeling effect and the retraction of blood in the body as described here. My father in law died within an hour after she made that observation, which was the reason we did stay around a bit longer. Few year later my grand dad was in palliative care. We received a few calls of “this is it” - each time I checked his nose and it looked fine. On another day we knew he didn’t eat or drink anymore, I went to his bed talking to him. Saw his white pointy nose and expected it would be my final farewell with him - he died the same night. I found knowing this and having something to go by helping a lot in these final days. There could be this guilt creeping up for not appreciating your last moment with someone sufficiently.
What sweet young ladies ,bless you
I am a Nurse that just returned back to LTC and your info helped to educate me in what end of life may look like for the residents I care for.
My grandma just died today this afternoon. She was 86 and had 5 children. She was put in hospice care on Saturday. 😞 I was there every minute that I could be. These signs are pretty accurate. I’m am glad that I was there at the end of the day and I know she was happy as well. Even thought she couldn’t SAY anything to me I saw it in here eyes. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm very sorry. God bless and comfort
Well done ladies. Thank you :)
I was with my mom in her final weeks...and saw her take her last breath...that was 25 years ago...I watch these videos and think I how do people deal with this...then I think..hey I did live through this..
My gram was in hospice for the last 3 days. She passed about an hour ago. Everyone at hospice was so unbelievably sweet.
Momma died 3 days ago after 9.5 years of fighting multiple myeloma cancer and she was paralyzed and mute. It's killing me because I asked her to squeeze my finger if in pain, and she did!. 😢
She wouldn’t have wanted you to suffer for her. She’s no longer in pain... live your life to the fullest, keep her in you thoughts, speak of her to all you know, do things that make you happy. As long as you are alive, so is she.
@@mamagrace3416 I can do that, thank you ma'am..
My mam died 14 years ago with myloma never seen any one suffer like she did ,she was only 74 had it for 9 years what a horrible death xx
Watching this as I'm doing nursing placement in palliative care this week. Thanks for sharing 🌈 ⭐️
How are you doing 😊😊😊
I'm writing this message with tears, because of my health condition, the doctor told me this morning that i will not survive my health condition due to my cancer diagnosing, so i have decided to offer my fund to the orphanage children, homeless less privilege there in your country to enable them to always pray for me even am if I'm know more alive as the doctor has told me that i can not survive my health condition
Wonderfully observant and courageous workers ! Hats off to hospice staff, across the board !
People say only smokers get the breathing issues and death rattle. People who think they know nothing. Happens to almost everyone
When both my mom and grandma were dying I noticed the change in their breathing. It was nothing I’ve seen before so of course I was worried. I never wanted to let them go and they stuck around me until I told them it was okay to go; so they did😞I’m 22 my mom was gonna be 36 but passed away a week before so she was 35, grandma was 69 when she passed which I found to be normal but I only got to know both of them for a short time. God has such horrible timing when he decides to take my parents home away from me.
U were 22 and ur mom 35 when she passed away
Yup, its not unheard of for a 13 year old to get pregnant and have a child. While the circumstances are unclear, and obviously none of our business, I am thankful that it appears that you and your mother were close and it seems that there was no indication of resentment on her part. My condolences for your loss as she was far too young to pass.
Thank you for giving the greatest gift of all. Your time to be with the patients especially when they have no family.
My Mother passed in 2017, her wake was on a Saturday, her birthday, and she was buried on a Sunday which was Mothers Day of that year. Thank you so much to the Hospice workers and to all the people all over who specializes in end of life care. No one looks forward to these events but these professionals (Angels no doubt) manage them with grace and class and my family and I would have been lost without them. Read the Hospice blue book, I'm glad I did, it made all the difference and served as a guide as the information helped us recognize the different stages my mother went through as she transitioned to the other side. God Bless.
My son died at home, hospuce provided pain meds. It was the hardest thing i have erve lived through. Wstching him die and wondering if i did the right thjng in callung hospuce. He wanted to be home but maybe they could have pulled him through ine more time. Said he was so tired of fighting. The hospice nurse wasent arround much and it fell on me to take care if him and guve him his paun medicine.wish they had told me what to look for.i remember hearing him say i want to go home. I am ready to go hkme now
God bless you 💜🇦🇺
@@marleneholloway7775 thank you
Ruth Goddard Actually there’s a book that they give you when a love one enters hospice care. It’s referred to as the ‘ little blue book ‘. Depending on the particular hospice services you used, makes all the difference in the knowledge they were to share with you upon intake. Ex: what to expect, when to call them and any changes to meds. Alive Hospice was amazing when it came to my mothers care. Within 24hrs we met the Chaplin, social worker, nurse and cna. Unfortunately the responsibility of administering meds and other things are the family members responsibility. That’s the whole point in going home to die. I pray your sons spirit is flying free in the next life ♥️ Thank you for giving him life and helping him back over to the other side, Amen 🙏🏽
So sorry for your loss x
@@musicalityrush thank you that means so much