Every episode with Lauren I am reminded of how much I love Lauren. She articulates things so well and seems like an absolute ride-or-die best friend. What an awesome human being 🥺
It would have been hilarious if OP or OP’s husband stayed home alone with the dogs and got a nice picture of the bridezilla’s reaction as she tried to kidnap the dogs.
Me too!! 😂 But I’m kinda skeptical that this is a true story. It just seems sooooo outrageous and absurd to be true. lol I genuinely hope for the sake of those dogs that it’s not a real scenario. 😭 But man! To be a fly on the wall during that whole thing if it was real. 😂😂😂
I swear, "the original" co-hosts like Lauren, Alejandra, Jerry and Justin, as well like Matt and Amy, are THE BEST co-hosts that were on the show. As much as I liked some guests, but the family is just the best!!!
The family that does not celebrate birthdays and then get upset if someone does gives me such a cultish vibe. Prohibiting something that brings fun and joy is a very weird way to pay tribute to a loved one that passed idk it's like trying to perpetuate and extend the misery of that loss. edit: Laureeeen watch mamma mia it's so fun!
I’m so curious if OP had been the one to have passed, would the family also stop celebrating birthdays? Also how long has it been since he passed? It gives me golden child vibes
@@clairesmallwood2953 omg i thought so too!! didn't want to get into that territory because it is a delicate issue, but it definitely crossed my mind 😳
It’s just so odd how can you take away everyone’s birthday because someone was lost on thier birthday surely you would appreciate birthdays more, maybe he died traumatically celebrating his birthday.
THE LAST STORY! I’ve traveled to many countries and in many countries in South East Asia as well as Latin American countries. The white button down shirt is a common uniform for MIDDLE & HIGH SCHOOL !!! Struggling people in developing countries rarely attend university, the people who do, typically have a lot of family financial support and would be less likely to enter that arrangement.
The evil bride stealing the dogs and then the family gaslighting the couple whos recovering dogs were stolen pissed me off so much i had to run here from spotify and tell you
My mother is getting open heart surgery today so I've been listening to this in the hospital to help calm me down. So glad you uploaded a longer episode and such a good episode 🥰🥰🥰🥰
For the last story here in India a person sued his parents for being born 😂😂 the headlines were (Indian man plans to sue his parents for giving birth to him without his consent.)
With the boat story, I also figured that out when I was a teenager. My dog had a seizure in the middle of the night, and I ran into my parents’ room to find my mom bent over the bed about to faint and my dad on the floor crying over the dog. I asked what happened and I said, “okay, let’s call the emergency vet and find out what to do.” I ended up becoming her main caretaker for the rest of her life, about 4 years, in which she suffered from seizures for a week every month. I now live with my parents and do the vetting for our current animals. They’re just bad at dealing with important medical things.
I had to stop the car cause I did not expect to bawl like this at the beginning of the episode. Lots of love to you and your family, Morgan ♥️ I’m sorry you’re all going through this, treasure the moments you get ❤️🩹
Hi Morgan! I’m 23 and in med school, I love your content and all the people that are in it! I understand what you’re going through as I have an uncle who died of cancer. We love you and we appreciate your content so thank for making me feel like im talking to my friends and good luck to your family!
Story 5 bugs me because my grandmother died on my father’s (her son’s) birthday. We got the call as we were walking into a museum. He had to fly back the next day to help his father take care of the funeral plans. And we still celebrate his birthday every year on the day of. She wouldn’t have wanted her son to suffer or never celebrate again and the fact that this is literally affecting child relatives that the brother never met goes to show that this is gonna a perpetual cycle of trauma. They aren’t healing, they’re intentionally stopping the healing process with this continued practice.
I don’t agree with the birthday story opinion - if I were a kid and it was my birthday and they used it to celebrate someone else… it would ruin it for a child to know that they weren’t the focal point of their own birth day
Wow this episode from the start hit the spot. One my good friends just passed away at such a young age and it was a harsh reminder tomorrow is not guaranteed. Love your episodes and sending all my love to your fam. ❤
I got a colonoscopy in 2021 due to some issues and they found a polyp. It was the kind that could at some point turn cancerous so I have to get them every 5 years now. I’m a bit of a hypochondriac so this really stressed me out. I was convinced it would get worse. But when you had Amy on and she said that getting regular colonoscopies is the way to go because it’s the only form of cancer that can be removed before it happens gave me so much peace of mind. You have no idea what that did for me. Thank you so much for bringing it up and continuing to talk about it. I’m sending you and you’re family so much love and good thoughts. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Thank you for advocating getting colonoscopies and helping so many people. ❤
About the girl panicking and screaming, one point you kinda talked about with the kitten comment is that if they were to have children later and one was in danger, her screaming would not help AT ALL, you have to be able to think and react quickly with children's emergencies.
I already commented about my colonoscopy experience before but Im happy to say after a few weird looks from my friends when telling them about my colonoscopy I convinced them to ALSO get colonoscopies!! Two of them found polyps and got them removed! Im so sorry to hear about Rob take anytime you need we will all be here when you get back
My bf at the time was changing my oil in my car. The tire jack failed with him under it and my car landed on him! I had to ACT immediately. I lifted the car as much as I could by the wheel well so he could turn his head then I had to get in my car and drive it off of him. I saved his life and turns out this caused him to need heart surgery. Saved his life 100% I was a fucking wreck but I did what I had to in the moment. I didn’t freak out it until AFTER I got the car off of him. Paramedics were trying to get me to calm down but they didn’t understand how long I held all that in for until they got there. That’s what I told them and they finally understood why I was so worked up. A few weren’t helpful but there was two that were incredible. Made me feel better that I saved him but he wasn’t out of the dark yet. Rode with him in the ambulance to the hospital and stayed with him for over a week in the hospital.
Don’t apologize girl. You did so well keeping it together. I just lost my mom to cancer. She had her whole life ahead of her. Finally got divorced from a terrible man (my step dad), moved, started dating and went back to school. She ha it all planned out and she was only 52. Cancer is a terrible thing and it’s so hard to see a loved one go through this and have nothing work. We are all here for you and if you need time, take it.
40:22 Love the show! I just want to mention that people with personality disorders are often treated as if they have a personality flaw, rather than mental health issues stemming from trauma. A lot of mental health researchers say it’s time we change the disorder’s name for that reason. So to say its a “personality issue” that cannot be “fixed” perpetuates the misunderstanding about how much these people can heal with trauma informed treatment.
2 hour episode... yesss! I'm nursing a hangover and need some comfort content. ❤ Edit: Morgan, I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Your family will always come first and we will all support you no matter what. ❤️
Lauren, you mentioned your aunt texting your mom for your sisters birthday and that’s totally a thing in other countries to celebrate the mother on their children’s birthdays. My aunt is from the Netherlands and every year she sends my mom flowers and a nice note celebrating her bringing me into the world. ❤ I think it’s a beautiful gesture!
Im so excited for this episode, i love to listen to them when walking to school. Hope life calms down for you, take all the time you need. My granpa has skin cancer so i know how you feel. sending love ❤❤ Edit: my mum told me my grandpa just died... from a heart attack
@@AllisterTheOnion sending a big hug for you and your mom. That’s a lot of loss for the heart to handle. Glad you’ve found something even if small to bring you a little joy and peace.
I need more information on the first story! Why was the brother OK with his sister not being at his wedding? Were the parents invited? How did they not say anything? Why do they have the code to the house if they aren’t close enough to go to the wedding? Sooooo many questionssssss!!
Morgan, I hope you and your family are doing well. I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time with your stepfather’s diagnosis. I lurk a lot on this show and never really comment, but I love your show and you have gotten me through so many tough times: breakups, tough moves, family dynamic issues, leaving jobs, starting new ones. You’re always there to comfort us and I just wanted to let you know we all love you and I’ll be praying for you and your family as you go through this 🙏🏻 take the time you need, if episodes come out late, we'll understand! Take care of yourself and your family, time is precious, spend it with those who matter most 💜💜💜
My dad also has colon cancer and currently is being told hes cancer free while not seeming cancer free at all, still as sick as he ever was, and this is all after botched surgery left him nearly dying in critical condition for weeks. His doctor has also told him all his kids are high risk.
❤❤ my uncle in MN passed away from lung cancer this year. It’s so hard when the treatment doesn’t do what it’s supposed to. Life really does suck. I really appreciate your outlook!
Adding to the birthday story, as someone who works at a funeral home and has seen families loose their 1 or 2 year old baby, those birthday pictures can be EXTREMELY comforting, sometimes it's the only pictures besides the birth pictures that the family has. As you guys said you don't know when you'll go and sadly that's very true, you should always celebrate life events because you might not get to celebrate them later.
I’m writing this right after watching the intro. Morgan, I want to say I’m so sorry for what you and your family are going through. Your family seems like they’re beautiful people from what I’ve heard you mention in this and other videos. Life can get so crazy out of nowhere. I myself am healing from losing my grandma this past January. It was so sudden. She raised me, and a huge reason i am who i am is because of her. My heart hurts a lot. Your channel rly helps me find moments to decompress, and focus on people’s “AITA” craziness for a little bit lol. Thank you for your channel and your vulnerability. ❤ Sending love and strength to you and your family. Also, I loved your message about living for today and spending time with family. Reminds me of the saying “Carpe Diem” ✨
The SIL in the first story should have to reimburse OP for any extra expenses since one of the dogs opened her spay wound. I’ve seen a spay surgery up close and the recovery after. The dogs healing process shouldn’t be messed with
The first story infuriated me!!! I've also adopted a dog, and when they first come to a whole new home they actually need a lot of time to just get used to their new environment. The organization I adopted from recommends that you don't introduce your adopted dog to either new people or new places from several weeks upto several months, and allow them to get to know their new family and close surroundings and feel really secure with those before gradually introducing more. An adopted dog, especially from a place like a puppy mill, can be really traumatized! Not only by their background, but from the abrupt change and from life in a cage at a chaotic rescue, they need time to heal and to understand that they are now in their forever home, that they're safe and loved and there to stay. So someone basically kidnapping them, apart from the obvious physical injuries, can be damaging to the dogs mental health and sense of security! A dog with that kind of history comes with baggage, and needs to be handled with care and introduced to their new life slowly.
I'm sorry you are going through that. I know exactly how you feel ❤ I lost my step dad a few years ago to cancer. He had just beat cancer the year before and got married to my mom a year before that. My siblings and I were very close to him, and miss him every day... 😢
I’m so sorry Morgan. I lost my brother in 2019 to colon cancer, and still had to fight to get a colonoscopy. It’s brutal. My brother went from a 39 year old, 6’ 230lb body builder to 90 lbs when he passed. It is horrible to watch. Take all the time you need, family comes first ❤
That birthday story made absolutely no sense at all. Why would they not celebrate ANYONES birthday because the person that passed away loved birthdays so much?! … These fake reddit stories are getting worse and worse
Here for Morgan popping off about using inclusive language (e.g. "birth givers" and "people with periods"). Always appreciate you challenging gendered ideas that crop up in these stories and the resulting conversations. "Don't invalidate people while trying to create a space for yourself." 👏
Story 1: I grew up on the Mississippi, sandbars, tubing, boats, etc. When my Dad's pontoon broke down last year we were right Infront of a barge. If you know anything about barges & under current you would understand how bad that is. I have never lost my shit on the river until that day... Meanwhile my husband & Dad are trying to look at the battery, engine, fuses, etc. I know I wasn't helpful in that situation but that was the first time something like that has happened while our daughter was with, so that played a MAJOR factor. I think he needs to take a minute & understand why she was freaking out. HOWEVER, freaking out on them was ridiculous.
I was diagnosed with glioblastoma (terminal brain cancer) at the start of the year. My world was flipped upside down (again) I was widowed at 28 and now have cancer at 32. I told my mom that I wanted to fly home to PA for the PSU white out game. God forbid, I wouldn't be well enough next year, or not on this earth anymore. Take the trips.
acknowledging trans people exist and respecting them by using inclusive language doesn't invalidate me as a woman at all. i don't get women who think that saying "birthgivers" is anti-woman. i'm a woman and i will never be a birth giver lol. i'm a woman regardless of the ability of my body to do that or not. "people who have periods" wouldn't offend me either--women who've been through menopause don't have periods and they're still women. i think it's more reductive to claim a woman is solely what her body can do related to birthgiving. i just don't get terfs who get mad about that. (contrapoints has a some really good video talking about this (her videos on jk rowling))
If you don't like the outdoors, put a blanket on the floor and eat/talk. Watch something you both haven't seen or put on music in the background while you talk. Or grab your girl/guy and slow dance with or without music. That's what my husband does, and it means so much to me because he doesn't like to dance, but when he does this, it reminds me of our wedding day and makes me cry of pure happiness and joy.
I just recently came across your podcast and I’m hooked! I’m becoming such a big fan of Lauren with each episode I watch, she seems like such a cool person and her opinions are always so well articulated! Keep up the great work both of you and I wish you both nothing but success and happiness!
I feel ya on the fact that we’re not guaranteed tomorrow. My father died, ultimately of hypothermia, after an unexpected car crash, and shortly before we were to find out if he had lymphoma. His death was such a surprise. I think most people picture losing their parents after lengthy illness where you can spend all sorts of time saying goodbye,bedside, but you’re not guaranteed that that’s the way it will be. I’m thinking about wrapping my mom in bubble wrap and setting her in a corner to keep her safe, this may be an overreaction, but the thought of losing her leaves me thinking I want to die when she does. I’m rooting for us to be in a plane crash together, or stray meteorite falling on our heads. Just to say life is unpredictable. I love you guys. Keep up the good work.❤❤❤❤btw, my doc sent me a notice and kit that it’s time for colon/rectal screening. I will actually do it, thanks to your advocacy. Both my sisters are good about doing colonoscopies, but I’ve been too scared. My family history states I really need to do the colonoscopy route, but until I find a GI doc and get it scheduled, I think I’m gonna do this at home test to tide me over. The first story-The fact that one of the dogs was literally bleeding should be enough proof to family and friends that OP was right to call the police and press charges. The person who got made about her husband posting the birthday party pics of their daughter’s first birthday, I can kinda see the viewpoint of the family. When I was 22, the events of my birthday resulted in my parents getting separated, and I hate my birthday with a passion. But, the woman had a child and that the husband, who was the child’s father, should be able to celebrate a new life, instead of dwelling on the passing of a sibling far in the past.
50:28 hey @twohottakes Morgan, I have no idea if you're going to read a comment on a year old post but: something I learned in Sea Cadets as a trick to remember Port is left and Starboard is right is port and left both have four letters. It's ridiculously simplistic but it works especially for an ADHD brain. I haven't been in Sea Cadets for almost 10 years and I still remember that.... you know just in case you happen to be in an emergency on a boat where someone is yelling out ship terms. Ps. These are left and right specifically when facing the bow (front of the ship); the sides don't change when you're facing the stern. Pss. Thank you two for keeping me company while I worked late alone on the office!
The story about the girlfriend getting hysterical on the boat was so annoying. Someone like that isn't just not helpful in a crisis, they are Actively Dangerous. One person panicking like that can cause others to panic, and an already fraught or precarious situation can unravel into chaos so quickly. I wouldn't want to do anything with a person like that. Not boat rides, not driving in a car with them, nothing. The chances they would turn a small mishap into a life or death dire situation with their panic is too high. I'm someone who leads with emotion too, but to me it's a question of what you're prioritizing in a crisis: your own temporary emotions, or the safety of yourself and everyone else who's with you.
01:30 i'm learning so much already! i grew up in the country and my mom used to pay me to go into the neighbor's pasture with a bucket and shovel and collect cow patties for our compost pile. i got one dollar per cow patty i would bring back.
“…But you are my friend, so you should hate them too” Thank you for mentioning this because I had a situation where I went through a similar situation, and it would cause issues with a friendship because I created the boundary of not involving myself in situations that had nothing to do with me. I didn’t want to treat someone badly just to please another person. Especially when the root issue was a friend’s new partner, that they previously had a situation-ship with. It would constantly become a problem because I was seen as not being a true friend or having their back just because I didn’t ice the other person (the new partner) out. It was an issue of “Loyalty VS taking it at face Value” like Morgan mentioned. I’m glad im not the only person that feels like this. I would always second guess myself and wonder if I was actually in the wrong or being a bad friend.
I do think is wrong to stay indiferent when someone wrongs your friend. You're supposed to care about them. What do you consider as "involving yourself"? To completely ice them out or be rude would require a big reason. But keeping space is most times a fair request. And if you don't want to do that because you think that what the other person did is not that bad, i'd say communicate that. But if you simply don't believe your friend's version, reconsider the friendship
@@alysonnataliavasquezsolano8066 of course. I understand and agree with you. I can’t go into too many details for anonymity but what this person “did” was start dating the guy she was interested in. She caught feelings for our friend/my roommate and he didn’t feel the same toward her. “Involving myself” is not being someones personal spy. I do care about her but its not ok to be rude to someone just because of who they are dating. She didn’t like her so I was supposed expected to dislike her and never talk to her, which was impossible especially living in the same household. Its not that i didn’t believe her feelings were true, i understood where she was coming from and never unvalidated her but expecting me to act a certain way towards this person and then make making me feel bad for not doing what they wanted because it didn’t fit their definition of what a “real” friend is supposed to do wasnt okay either.
The over reacting situation. I have adhd and I am an over thinker. So in a dangerous situation I shut it down to think. But, but I am like this with bugs. All out running and leaving children behind, screaming, but only after I attempt to stay calm and the attempt doesn't work and it won't leave me alone. 😂😂😂
oh morgan 🥺 hearing you tear up made me tear up! im so sorry you and your family are going through so much right now. we all love you so much and please know that we want you to do whatever you need to do. focus on you and your loved ones, we know you’ll be back when you’re ready if you need a break! sending you all the love in the whole wide world, you and your family will be kept in my thoughts (and i will be looking into a colonoscopy because i have ibs!)
I would like to chime in on the topic of inclusivity that was mentioned after the boat story. Fist, I'm very much pro-trans visibility, pro feminism, pro human rights in general. I view the world from a very humanitarian and equalitarian perpective but I completely agree with Lauren. Even though many of my ideals fall left, I do think so many people nowadays are too eager to catastrophise and categorise what they perceive as injustice. To willining smear lables over a person or situtation without pausing to gauge the situation with nuance. I find this aspect about modern day culture as recessive rather than progressive. Furthermore, I would like to point out that that as a woman I don't want to be exclusively called a 'birthgiver' or 'someone who has a period'. I find both terms extremely clinical and I don't indentify with either of them in any way. I'm proud to be a woman. I support your inclusive outlook Morgan, I think like that too. Everyone deserves a place at the table right? But I don't believe in replacing the word woman entirely. It takes away the power of our own femininity and indentity just to appease a very small minority. However I am very aware that there are indviduals who fall under categories such as trans and nonbinary and they absolutely do deserve recgonition and respect also. That's why a term such as 'birthgiver' is incredibly useful to have in situatuions that call for it. To give the person the grace of empathy and recgonition. But I do not believe or support the eradication of terms such as 'woman' and 'mother' entirely. That in my opinion, does a diservivce to our own injutices and experiences we go through as women. I want to feel as seen and heard as the next person. Anwyays, we all live in a very interesting period where things can seem to move so fast and evolve at such a complex rate at times it feels impossible to keep up with. But its important to have these converations so everyone feels they can be included.
ooof now I'm crying. thanks for being so open about your personal life stuff though, means a lot, especially getting the message out there to everyone, no matter age or gender, GO GET YOUR ANNUAL PHYSICAL! go get that check-up you've been putting off for months! please! I've been dealing with ovarian cancer the past couple months and I've told like, 4 people, besides my parents lol. as isolating as it feels, I'm also too anxious/nervous to talk about it with people. idk. life is fucking weird. but thanks for making it a bit more bearable 💚🎗
In the panic one, he’s NTA. It probably was an authentic response that she was having, but it is a real danger for herself and those around her. If they are getting married and may even be having kids, she has a responsibility to get her stress response under control in order to be a trusted partner/parent. That may be in the form of anxiety meds, therapy, regular exercise, breathing meditation, etc. but she needs to get it under control and she probably needed that tough love in order to do it. The fight-or-flight response is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system and there’s a ton of research on ways that you can reduce stress and have a more level-headed response in threatening situations.
i was thinking the same abt therapy. i think they both should probably see a trauma counselor and she should defo go to a therapist for her fear and anxiety. couples therapy wouldn’t hurt either lol
love you so so so much Morgan! take all the time you need whenever you need a break. ❤ we will be waiting & sending you love, support & prayers to you, your mom & family.
My boyfriends parents met in his mom's home country of brazil when his father was travellin in his late 20s. They got pregnant with him, she migrated to canada and raised him. Theyre some of the happiest married people I know, its really sweet.
She DID NOT RUIN THAT WEDDING!!!!!!!!! Her dog opened up there stitches! I’d be pissed. I would have beat that sister in law down. She should of been charged with animal cruelty too!!!!!!!
The thing that stuck with me from the last story is that OP mentioned in the beginning that she didn't have time to invest in a relationship with a man. But somehow she had time to take care of a baby/child? huh? and the fact that her mom moved in with her and seems to be doing a lot of the parenting (like making sure the son kept up with schoolwork during the pandemic and such) makes it seem like OP didnt actually have the time to have a baby or take care of one and only had one for the fantasy of being a mom and having a baby to idk dress up/do fun things with
The last story: I know someone who did something like this. She wanted a baby, a mixed baby specifically. She was on a trip abroad and found someone who agreed to her terms (get me pregnant, no strings attached) and she has a daughter (who's an adult now) that she loves dearly. She doesn't regret her decision, she wrote her own story. More power to her, and OP of the story, I guess. 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Glad everyone is happy!!!!
i'm never the person who say a situation or relationship needs an ultimatum but in the 4th story OP needs to say "its me or its her" because that just not okay
Regarding the birthday story: my mom died 2 hours after my son was born. I decided when we got back to that day that I needed to celebrate my son MORE than we needed to mourn her.
The tradeoff is I tend to get depressed between her birthday April 10 and the time until my son's birthday roughly a month later. And by depressed please know it's not major. I just get less motivated overall. It's grief. I acknowledge it.
What sort of family unilaterally cancels birthday celebrations? I understand that loss of a loved one is devastating; to me, it's not productive to quit living life & isn't honoring the loved one who has passed.
The "no birthdays ever again" is awful. The family is coping in an incredibly unhealthy way and they ALL need therapy. The wife is the AH for insisting the new baby not get birthdays when she never even knew the deceased family member. Don't take away others joy forever as a way to cope with loss. Move on with your lives. Wow.
I lost my dad last year and my first birthday without him was soo so hard. But it would be hard and painful if I have a party or not. So why would I make it harder on me? Of course I have a birthday party and get some love in from my people so it gets easier.
To Morgan I feel u so much my step mom is going tough chemo and dialysis and she has no hopes to recover and it's so hard I just don't know what to say or do sometimes ugh
It is extremely unhealthy to not celebrate anyone’s birthday anymore because someone died on their birthday. That family needs counseling because that’s not ok.
I lost my grandfather to stage 4 esophageal cancer about 10 years ago. Cancer is a horrible thing and I’m so sorry you’re all having to go through this. Sending love and light to all of you. Enjoy the time you guys get to spend together, because those memories will help in the future. 💜 and OF COURSE we’re going to be just fine if you have to delay videos or something. We adore you.
I was tearing up hearing about the first story. The poor dogs were probably in pain, and so so scared. PLUS they’re rescues, so they may have past trauma . Those poor baby angels.
The panic on the boat story reminded me of another Reddit story (TBH I’m not sure if they have done this so listen to too many Reddit podcasts). In the story the father, OP, came home to his son, having broken his arm and the wife freaking out about it. She wasn’t doing anything to comfort the son, was not calling anyone ambulances, just panicking. So OP had to take his son to the hospital and the wife refused to come and continued to panic at home. They left, she called her sister to calm her self down, but didn’t try to come to the hospital or even go pick up their other child who was at school, so OP had to leave the hospital without his son, who is begging for him to stay, to pick up the other child and when he gets home, she still on the couch talking to her sister. He lays into her about her being useless in a high stress situation where their children are on the line. OP’s wife is what the guy in today’s episode’s story fears, and this is another example on how at a certain point you need to conquer that panic and anxiety if not for yourself for the others around you.
My Mom was someone who would panic in emergencies, she managed to raise 5 children while my father traveled for months on end. It sucks, but this isn't something that could be fixed by someone telling them they need to do better, stress just mentally shut her down and then she would panic. We found ways to adapt to an unsolvable problem. The OP in that story needs to decide if this is someone he wants to partner with and if he does they need to create a plan for stuff triggering a panic response.
Hmm that’s what happens if marry with useless person. They have to set the radical and realistic expectations that their partners are useless, they’re alone dealing with the issues.
That's exactly what I was thinking, how is this woman going to react when she has a child and something bad happens, such as a broken arm? Will she be able to get proper help or will she freak out screaming and crying, unable to comfort or help said child in any way? That would be my fear and I assume it is the OP's fear as well.
The best advice I ever hear (probably from reddit) was that your boundaries can only be enforced by you. If your boundaries are cheating, you can't force your partner not to cheat. But if your partner cheats you can enforce your boundary and leave. That's how I live my life regarding boundaries
@@elizabethconley4996 the example never states that the person is okay with cheating, what?? this example means that, while other people might be able to stay in a relationship after cheating, this person WILL leave if they get cheated on.
@@isak7753 I'm not saying it was. I'm just saying I've met people who are 100% ok with cheating, but the second their partner even looks at another person there's a problem.
@@elizabethconley4996 it's because they don't fully want them but they don't want anyone else to have you either. It happens ALOT, best examples are: guy asks for open relationship, turns out not that many ppl are interested in him. Whereas his lady is getting a ton of attention from other men. All of a sudden the guy wants you more and doesn't want anyone else to have you. Your right, those ones will cheat on you constantly and then trip out on you for even looking in someone else's direction. It's almost like a toddler that only wants a toy to keep it from others but doesn't actually wanna play with it. Also I'm sorry if there's any typos or whatever, I did talk to text. I'm in between appts, hope that makes sense
I think the "no birthday" story is a good example on how generational traumas can be born. Cause like, with no one allowed birthdays, it may have started in solidarity with one generational group of family members, but then it effects other generations and gets passed down. Passing down a trauma for others to carry, when they probably dont even know the brother/reason for said trauma/tradition. And a good example on how some traditions arent good ones nor healthy for families.
YES! This is exactly how it starts. I can understand waiting a year or 2 before doing these types of celebrations again but saying you can never celebrate a birthday EVER?! That's creating so many more issues around what should be a happy time and turning it into a traumatic event. Babies may not remember everything but once a child is in school and sees classmates doing birthday celebrations, the conversation of "How come I don't get to celebrate my birthday?" at home will be more than awkward.
I agree. Banning birthdays just because it’s the day he died isn’t a healthy way to grieve. What if the cause of death was drowning or car accident. Would they never get into a vehicle or a bath ever again?
@@Musicalsfangirl100% agree. It’s an unhealthy way of grieving and will inevitably lead to social isolation when the daughter gets into school, and maybe even some resentment towards the uncle that she’s never met. It’s insane to make all birthdays a somber affair because of a tragedy.
No longer celebrating birthdays is such a stupid way to remember someone’s memory. you should celebrate even more and harder to show your loved ones how much you love them while they are still alive!
This first story has me SO LIVIDDD!! I am physically hot with anger typing this right now. Nobody fucks with my animals period. I'd do the same exact thing.
Same! Omg, I was so shocked and actually shouted out loud listening to this. I would like to think I would have done the same thing, by calling the police and pressing changes, but I feel like I'd also show up at the wedding with a bat looking to take out a leg of hers and to get my dogs back!
The second story had my jaw on the floor! My partner and me are both studying to be mechanics and live with our parents, so spending a lot of money on dates is not possible for us. Instead of not going on dates at all, we go on rock picking dates, picnics and go to car meets. Love doesn’t need money to grow
The second they said they went out of the house I knew she was going to steal the dogs. 😯 Stealing someone’s dogs will ruin the “vibe” of your wedding. I’m so glad the puppers are okay.
@@greenginger6668 you do paint a picture, Ginger! But srsly this story was NUTS! If you care about the dogs enough to STEAL them for your wedding, how can you not care about their health AT ALL? I know, I know, she is clearly one if those HORRIBLE people who see animals and pets as just OBJECTS and props. I know people like that exist and I STILL CAN'T WRAP MY MIND AROUND IT! So glad she got arrested. 😂😹😹🐕 Now that we know the pups were okay, One of the best arrest stories I ever heard! 🐕😹💞
@@JW-vd4il I am glad she got arrested and it sounds like the OP isn’t dropping charges (I wouldn’t either, she needs to learn her lesson). If someone did this with my cats I’d actually get violent ha. They are my children and I cannot even fathom what my reaction would be.
@@JW-vd4il I only say it because I’ve seen it, I work in vet med. Some dogs and cats will lick and chew at their incisions until they are completely reopened and then they will continue to do so until there’s no fixing it… there’s a reason cones are required at all times after surgery and it’s a good thing they got there when they did. I hope they sue the 💩 out of them for the vet bills because all of them should have their incisions checked and cleaned after this, I’m so glad they’re ok.
It’s so terrible how some people see animals as objects or a prop for their wedding. I can’t imagine how scary it is for someone to have their dogs stolen especially when they’re healing from surgery. I’ve luckily never had to deal with that. She deserved to be arrested. I felt immense relief when they got to the end of the story and the dogs were okay, after an emergency vet visit.
for the third story: i was raised by a women who reacts VERY emotionally to every minor situation, let alone a terrible one. it can be very damaging to be raised by someone like this if they can’t learn to manage it. for example, i cracked my head open when i was 3 and my mom could not handle the sight of it and all she did was scream, so my 9 yr old sister had to call our neighbor to take me to the emergency room. i definitely see OPs pov about it but if she learned to manage it, she can be a good partner!
LOVE YOU GUYS THANK YOU ALL ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I was nervous about this episode lolol if it seems like I got a little too tipsy towards the end… it’s because I did 😅😅
Every episode with Lauren I am reminded of how much I love Lauren. She articulates things so well and seems like an absolute ride-or-die best friend. What an awesome human being 🥺
Wow I love you
We all need a Lauren 🥰
Lauren is adorable I love her
I’m new to this podcast but I genuinely like her!!!!
I love when Lauren cries with Morgan. It's so sweet. She is soo empathetic 🥺💙💙
They always make me cry. She is such a great friend.
For the first story: I’d pay good money to see that absolute disaster of a human be arrested on her WEDDING DAY 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Exactly; just to watch her from breaking in to getting ready at the wedding and everyone freaking out 😂😂
It would have been hilarious if OP or OP’s husband stayed home alone with the dogs and got a nice picture of the bridezilla’s reaction as she tried to kidnap the dogs.
Same. Wish it was filmed and put on yt
same lmao
Me too!! 😂 But I’m kinda skeptical that this is a true story. It just seems sooooo outrageous and absurd to be true. lol I genuinely hope for the sake of those dogs that it’s not a real scenario. 😭 But man! To be a fly on the wall during that whole thing if it was real. 😂😂😂
I swear, "the original" co-hosts like Lauren, Alejandra, Jerry and Justin, as well like Matt and Amy, are THE BEST co-hosts that were on the show. As much as I liked some guests, but the family is just the best!!!
Agreed! The vibes are always different when it's a guest much prefer the og's
truth!! the afualo sisters and sarah schauer are the only guests i've ever liked lmao
@@jane_wants_to_feel those are the only guests i’ve enjoyed too, tbh
I liked greyson and the sisters too!
I liked Uncle Jimmy :))
The family that does not celebrate birthdays and then get upset if someone does gives me such a cultish vibe. Prohibiting something that brings fun and joy is a very weird way to pay tribute to a loved one that passed idk it's like trying to perpetuate and extend the misery of that loss.
edit: Laureeeen watch mamma mia it's so fun!
I’m so curious if OP had been the one to have passed, would the family also stop celebrating birthdays? Also how long has it been since he passed? It gives me golden child vibes
@@clairesmallwood2953 omg i thought so too!! didn't want to get into that territory because it is a delicate issue, but it definitely crossed my mind 😳
It’s just so odd how can you take away everyone’s birthday because someone was lost on thier birthday surely you would appreciate birthdays more, maybe he died traumatically celebrating his birthday.
It's giving Encanto/We Dont Talk About Bruno 😅
THE LAST STORY! I’ve traveled to many countries and in many countries in South East Asia as well as Latin American countries. The white button down shirt is a common uniform for MIDDLE & HIGH SCHOOL !!!
Struggling people in developing countries rarely attend university, the people who do, typically have a lot of family financial support and would be less likely to enter that arrangement.
This was my first thought. It was probably a minor 🥴
The evil bride stealing the dogs and then the family gaslighting the couple whos recovering dogs were stolen pissed me off so much i had to run here from spotify and tell you
My mother is getting open heart surgery today so I've been listening to this in the hospital to help calm me down. So glad you uploaded a longer episode and such a good episode 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Hope it went well! 🩵 I remember being in the hospital when my dad had his. Sending you guys strength! 💓
Early post AND it’s a Lauren episode??? We have truly been blessed by the THT Gods this week 🙏🏻
Yes! I opened UA-cam and was like “Yes!!! I can start the day with THT!!” 😂
You’re the best ☺️☺️☺️
For the last story here in India a person sued his parents for being born 😂😂 the headlines were (Indian man plans to sue his parents for giving birth to him without his consent.)
Morgan just blinking and listening while Lauren pops-off has me in tears 😭😂
With the boat story, I also figured that out when I was a teenager. My dog had a seizure in the middle of the night, and I ran into my parents’ room to find my mom bent over the bed about to faint and my dad on the floor crying over the dog. I asked what happened and I said, “okay, let’s call the emergency vet and find out what to do.” I ended up becoming her main caretaker for the rest of her life, about 4 years, in which she suffered from seizures for a week every month. I now live with my parents and do the vetting for our current animals. They’re just bad at dealing with important medical things.
I had to stop the car cause I did not expect to bawl like this at the beginning of the episode. Lots of love to you and your family, Morgan ♥️ I’m sorry you’re all going through this, treasure the moments you get ❤️🩹
Hi Morgan! I’m 23 and in med school, I love your content and all the people that are in it! I understand what you’re going through as I have an uncle who died of cancer. We love you and we appreciate your content so thank for making me feel like im talking to my friends and good luck to your family!
Story 5 bugs me because my grandmother died on my father’s (her son’s) birthday. We got the call as we were walking into a museum. He had to fly back the next day to help his father take care of the funeral plans.
And we still celebrate his birthday every year on the day of. She wouldn’t have wanted her son to suffer or never celebrate again and the fact that this is literally affecting child relatives that the brother never met goes to show that this is gonna a perpetual cycle of trauma. They aren’t healing, they’re intentionally stopping the healing process with this continued practice.
FINALLY THE ADAM AND EVE SPONSORSHIP IVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER FOR AN AD READ I’m so happy for you Morgan you don’t get it it was DUE
Hahaha I love you
as a non-binary person i just wanted to say i appreciate all the effort you guys do to try and be inclusive ❤️
I love how sweet yet firm Lauren is. Like the emobodiment of do no harm but take no shit.
I don’t agree with the birthday story opinion - if I were a kid and it was my birthday and they used it to celebrate someone else… it would ruin it for a child to know that they weren’t the focal point of their own birth day
Wow this episode from the start hit the spot. One my good friends just passed away at such a young age and it was a harsh reminder tomorrow is not guaranteed. Love your episodes and sending all my love to your fam. ❤
Morgan and her idea of the senior dog from the shelter is making me cryyyy! What a great idea! and so sweet! !!
Two years ago in May I lost my mom to a stage four glioblastoma, I’m only 26, she was my soul parent- I feel this
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️🥹
I lost my mother to the same thing in 2012 when I was 18.. it was so.. complicated and painful. I am so sorry for your loss.
I got a colonoscopy in 2021 due to some issues and they found a polyp. It was the kind that could at some point turn cancerous so I have to get them every 5 years now. I’m a bit of a hypochondriac so this really stressed me out. I was convinced it would get worse. But when you had Amy on and she said that getting regular colonoscopies is the way to go because it’s the only form of cancer that can be removed before it happens gave me so much peace of mind. You have no idea what that did for me. Thank you so much for bringing it up and continuing to talk about it. I’m sending you and you’re family so much love and good thoughts. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Thank you for advocating getting colonoscopies and helping so many people. ❤
About the girl panicking and screaming, one point you kinda talked about with the kitten comment is that if they were to have children later and one was in danger, her screaming would not help AT ALL, you have to be able to think and react quickly with children's emergencies.
The girl on the boat might have PTSD from something completely different, but anything can trigger you for years. She may benefit from therapy.
I already commented about my colonoscopy experience before but Im happy to say after a few weird looks from my friends when telling them about my colonoscopy I convinced them to ALSO get colonoscopies!! Two of them found polyps and got them removed!
Im so sorry to hear about Rob take anytime you need we will all be here when you get back
My bf at the time was changing my oil in my car. The tire jack failed with him under it and my car landed on him! I had to ACT immediately. I lifted the car as much as I could by the wheel well so he could turn his head then I had to get in my car and drive it off of him. I saved his life and turns out this caused him to need heart surgery. Saved his life 100% I was a fucking wreck but I did what I had to in the moment. I didn’t freak out it until AFTER I got the car off of him. Paramedics were trying to get me to calm down but they didn’t understand how long I held all that in for until they got there. That’s what I told them and they finally understood why I was so worked up. A few weren’t helpful but there was two that were incredible. Made me feel better that I saved him but he wasn’t out of the dark yet. Rode with him in the ambulance to the hospital and stayed with him for over a week in the hospital.
omg morgan i can’t believe you’re sponsored by skims!! this podcast has come soo far
Don’t apologize girl. You did so well keeping it together. I just lost my mom to cancer. She had her whole life ahead of her. Finally got divorced from a terrible man (my step dad), moved, started dating and went back to school. She ha it all planned out and she was only 52. Cancer is a terrible thing and it’s so hard to see a loved one go through this and have nothing work. We are all here for you and if you need time, take it.
40:22 Love the show! I just want to mention that people with personality disorders are often treated as if they have a personality flaw, rather than mental health issues stemming from trauma. A lot of mental health researchers say it’s time we change the disorder’s name for that reason. So to say its a “personality issue” that cannot be “fixed” perpetuates the misunderstanding about how much these people can heal with trauma informed treatment.
Just something to keep in mind ❤
2 hour episode... yesss! I'm nursing a hangover and need some comfort content. ❤
Edit: Morgan, I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Your family will always come first and we will all support you no matter what. ❤️
Lauren, you mentioned your aunt texting your mom for your sisters birthday and that’s totally a thing in other countries to celebrate the mother on their children’s birthdays. My aunt is from the Netherlands and every year she sends my mom flowers and a nice note celebrating her bringing me into the world. ❤ I think it’s a beautiful gesture!
Im so excited for this episode, i love to listen to them when walking to school. Hope life calms down for you, take all the time you need. My granpa has skin cancer so i know how you feel. sending love ❤❤
Edit: my mum told me my grandpa just died... from a heart attack
so sorry for your loss :(
@@jennagrace7295 Its been a lot, I lost my dad, great uncle and granpa now.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
@@Lauren-ib3ok thank you, I've been so overwhelmed by all the death around me but this podcast has been my escape from reality.
@@AllisterTheOnion sending a big hug for you and your mom. That’s a lot of loss for the heart to handle. Glad you’ve found something even if small to bring you a little joy and peace.
I need more information on the first story!
Why was the brother OK with his sister not being at his wedding?
Were the parents invited? How did they not say anything?
Why do they have the code to the house if they aren’t close enough to go to the wedding?
Sooooo many questionssssss!!
Morgan, I hope you and your family are doing well. I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time with your stepfather’s diagnosis. I lurk a lot on this show and never really comment, but I love your show and you have gotten me through so many tough times: breakups, tough moves, family dynamic issues, leaving jobs, starting new ones. You’re always there to comfort us and I just wanted to let you know we all love you and I’ll be praying for you and your family as you go through this 🙏🏻 take the time you need, if episodes come out late, we'll understand! Take care of yourself and your family, time is precious, spend it with those who matter most 💜💜💜
My dad also has colon cancer and currently is being told hes cancer free while not seeming cancer free at all, still as sick as he ever was, and this is all after botched surgery left him nearly dying in critical condition for weeks. His doctor has also told him all his kids are high risk.
❤❤ my uncle in MN passed away from lung cancer this year. It’s so hard when the treatment doesn’t do what it’s supposed to. Life really does suck. I really appreciate your outlook!
Adding to the birthday story, as someone who works at a funeral home and has seen families loose their 1 or 2 year old baby, those birthday pictures can be EXTREMELY comforting, sometimes it's the only pictures besides the birth pictures that the family has.
As you guys said you don't know when you'll go and sadly that's very true, you should always celebrate life events because you might not get to celebrate them later.
Halfway through the the day yesterday, I thought it was Thursday and was just waiting for THT to drop. 😂❤
Same!
Omg just got to the part about your stepdad. 😭 I’m so sorry to you and your family. Sending you guys so much love!
I’m writing this right after watching the intro. Morgan, I want to say I’m so sorry for what you and your family are going through. Your family seems like they’re beautiful people from what I’ve heard you mention in this and other videos. Life can get so crazy out of nowhere. I myself am healing from losing my grandma this past January. It was so sudden. She raised me, and a huge reason i am who i am is because of her. My heart hurts a lot. Your channel rly helps me find moments to decompress, and focus on people’s “AITA” craziness for a little bit lol. Thank you for your channel and your vulnerability. ❤ Sending love and strength to you and your family. Also, I loved your message about living for today and spending time with family. Reminds me of the saying “Carpe Diem” ✨
The SIL in the first story should have to reimburse OP for any extra expenses since one of the dogs opened her spay wound. I’ve seen a spay surgery up close and the recovery after. The dogs healing process shouldn’t be messed with
The first story infuriated me!!!
I've also adopted a dog, and when they first come to a whole new home they actually need a lot of time to just get used to their new environment.
The organization I adopted from recommends that you don't introduce your adopted dog to either new people or new places from several weeks upto several months, and allow them to get to know their new family and close surroundings and feel really secure with those before gradually introducing more.
An adopted dog, especially from a place like a puppy mill, can be really traumatized! Not only by their background, but from the abrupt change and from life in a cage at a chaotic rescue, they need time to heal and to understand that they are now in their forever home, that they're safe and loved and there to stay.
So someone basically kidnapping them, apart from the obvious physical injuries, can be damaging to the dogs mental health and sense of security!
A dog with that kind of history comes with baggage, and needs to be handled with care and introduced to their new life slowly.
I'm sorry you are going through that. I know exactly how you feel ❤ I lost my step dad a few years ago to cancer. He had just beat cancer the year before and got married to my mom a year before that. My siblings and I were very close to him, and miss him every day... 😢
we love you morgan, never stress about the podcast when you have personal stuff going on. we’ll be here when you get back
I’m so sorry Morgan. I lost my brother in 2019 to colon cancer, and still had to fight to get a colonoscopy. It’s brutal. My brother went from a 39 year old, 6’ 230lb body builder to 90 lbs when he passed. It is horrible to watch.
Take all the time you need, family comes first ❤
That birthday story made absolutely no sense at all. Why would they not celebrate ANYONES birthday because the person that passed away loved birthdays so much?! … These fake reddit stories are getting worse and worse
Here for Morgan popping off about using inclusive language (e.g. "birth givers" and "people with periods"). Always appreciate you challenging gendered ideas that crop up in these stories and the resulting conversations. "Don't invalidate people while trying to create a space for yourself." 👏
it’s such a breath of fresh air. u can tell she cares imo
Those terms are so demeaning. I'm not just a "birth giver" "person with a period" (which makes you a woman btw) just call me what I am. A women.
comfort podcast here for me when i need it most. love you all
Story 1: I grew up on the Mississippi, sandbars, tubing, boats, etc. When my Dad's pontoon broke down last year we were right Infront of a barge. If you know anything about barges & under current you would understand how bad that is. I have never lost my shit on the river until that day... Meanwhile my husband & Dad are trying to look at the battery, engine, fuses, etc. I know I wasn't helpful in that situation but that was the first time something like that has happened while our daughter was with, so that played a MAJOR factor. I think he needs to take a minute & understand why she was freaking out. HOWEVER, freaking out on them was ridiculous.
I was diagnosed with glioblastoma (terminal brain cancer) at the start of the year. My world was flipped upside down (again) I was widowed at 28 and now have cancer at 32. I told my mom that I wanted to fly home to PA for the PSU white out game. God forbid, I wouldn't be well enough next year, or not on this earth anymore.
Take the trips.
I like drunk Morgan you can tell she’s herself not afraid of the comment section
My grandpa had colon cancer. I feel your pain and hope things are ok a year later 💖
acknowledging trans people exist and respecting them by using inclusive language doesn't invalidate me as a woman at all. i don't get women who think that saying "birthgivers" is anti-woman. i'm a woman and i will never be a birth giver lol. i'm a woman regardless of the ability of my body to do that or not. "people who have periods" wouldn't offend me either--women who've been through menopause don't have periods and they're still women. i think it's more reductive to claim a woman is solely what her body can do related to birthgiving. i just don't get terfs who get mad about that. (contrapoints has a some really good video talking about this (her videos on jk rowling))
If you don't like the outdoors, put a blanket on the floor and eat/talk. Watch something you both haven't seen or put on music in the background while you talk. Or grab your girl/guy and slow dance with or without music. That's what my husband does, and it means so much to me because he doesn't like to dance, but when he does this, it reminds me of our wedding day and makes me cry of pure happiness and joy.
I just recently came across your podcast and I’m hooked! I’m becoming such a big fan of Lauren with each episode I watch, she seems like such a cool person and her opinions are always so well articulated! Keep up the great work both of you and I wish you both nothing but success and happiness!
I just wanted to say I love hearing your podcast and being here for the journey with you 🙂
I feel ya on the fact that we’re not guaranteed tomorrow. My father died, ultimately of hypothermia, after an unexpected car crash, and shortly before we were to find out if he had lymphoma. His death was such a surprise. I think most people picture losing their parents after lengthy illness where you can spend all sorts of time saying goodbye,bedside, but you’re not guaranteed that that’s the way it will be. I’m thinking about wrapping my mom in bubble wrap and setting her in a corner to keep her safe, this may be an overreaction, but the thought of losing her leaves me thinking I want to die when she does. I’m rooting for us to be in a plane crash together, or stray meteorite falling on our heads. Just to say life is unpredictable. I love you guys. Keep up the good work.❤❤❤❤btw, my doc sent me a notice and kit that it’s time for colon/rectal screening. I will actually do it, thanks to your advocacy. Both my sisters are good about doing colonoscopies, but I’ve been too scared. My family history states I really need to do the colonoscopy route, but until I find a GI doc and get it scheduled, I think I’m gonna do this at home test to tide me over. The first story-The fact that one of the dogs was literally bleeding should be enough proof to family and friends that OP was right to call the police and press charges. The person who got made about her husband posting the birthday party pics of their daughter’s first birthday, I can kinda see the viewpoint of the family. When I was 22, the events of my birthday resulted in my parents getting separated, and I hate my birthday with a passion. But, the woman had a child and that the husband, who was the child’s father, should be able to celebrate a new life, instead of dwelling on the passing of a sibling far in the past.
50:28 hey @twohottakes Morgan, I have no idea if you're going to read a comment on a year old post but: something I learned in Sea Cadets as a trick to remember Port is left and Starboard is right is port and left both have four letters. It's ridiculously simplistic but it works especially for an ADHD brain. I haven't been in Sea Cadets for almost 10 years and I still remember that.... you know just in case you happen to be in an emergency on a boat where someone is yelling out ship terms.
Ps. These are left and right specifically when facing the bow (front of the ship); the sides don't change when you're facing the stern.
Pss. Thank you two for keeping me company while I worked late alone on the office!
Screaming, Lauren and I TO A TEE said “…3 months ago??” at the same time hahaha!
The story about the girlfriend getting hysterical on the boat was so annoying. Someone like that isn't just not helpful in a crisis, they are Actively Dangerous. One person panicking like that can cause others to panic, and an already fraught or precarious situation can unravel into chaos so quickly. I wouldn't want to do anything with a person like that. Not boat rides, not driving in a car with them, nothing. The chances they would turn a small mishap into a life or death dire situation with their panic is too high. I'm someone who leads with emotion too, but to me it's a question of what you're prioritizing in a crisis: your own temporary emotions, or the safety of yourself and everyone else who's with you.
01:30 i'm learning so much already! i grew up in the country and my mom used to pay me to go into the neighbor's pasture with a bucket and shovel and collect cow patties for our compost pile. i got one dollar per cow patty i would bring back.
“…But you are my friend, so you should hate them too” Thank you for mentioning this because I had a situation where I went through a similar situation, and it would cause issues with a friendship because I created the boundary of not involving myself in situations that had nothing to do with me. I didn’t want to treat someone badly just to please another person. Especially when the root issue was a friend’s new partner, that they previously had a situation-ship with. It would constantly become a problem because I was seen as not being a true friend or having their back just because I didn’t ice the other person (the new partner) out. It was an issue of “Loyalty VS taking it at face Value” like Morgan mentioned. I’m glad im not the only person that feels like this. I would always second guess myself and wonder if I was actually in the wrong or being a bad friend.
I do think is wrong to stay indiferent when someone wrongs your friend. You're supposed to care about them. What do you consider as "involving yourself"? To completely ice them out or be rude would require a big reason. But keeping space is most times a fair request. And if you don't want to do that because you think that what the other person did is not that bad, i'd say communicate that. But if you simply don't believe your friend's version, reconsider the friendship
@@alysonnataliavasquezsolano8066 of course. I understand and agree with you. I can’t go into too many details for anonymity but what this person “did” was start dating the guy she was interested in. She caught feelings for our friend/my roommate and he didn’t feel the same toward her. “Involving myself” is not being someones personal spy. I do care about her but its not ok to be rude to someone just because of who they are dating. She didn’t like her so I was supposed expected to dislike her and never talk to her, which was impossible especially living in the same household. Its not that i didn’t believe her feelings were true, i understood where she was coming from and never unvalidated her but expecting me to act a certain way towards this person and then make making me feel bad for not doing what they wanted because it didn’t fit their definition of what a “real” friend is supposed to do wasnt okay either.
1:08:12 Laurens "absofuckinlutly nawwht!!" 🤣
Agagagagaghhaha 😂😂🤣😭
The over reacting situation. I have adhd and I am an over thinker. So in a dangerous situation I shut it down to think. But, but I am like this with bugs. All out running and leaving children behind, screaming, but only after I attempt to stay calm and the attempt doesn't work and it won't leave me alone. 😂😂😂
oh morgan 🥺 hearing you tear up made me tear up! im so sorry you and your family are going through so much right now. we all love you so much and please know that we want you to do whatever you need to do. focus on you and your loved ones, we know you’ll be back when you’re ready if you need a break! sending you all the love in the whole wide world, you and your family will be kept in my thoughts (and i will be looking into a colonoscopy because i have ibs!)
I would like to chime in on the topic of inclusivity that was mentioned after the boat story. Fist, I'm very much pro-trans visibility, pro feminism, pro human rights in general. I view the world from a very humanitarian and equalitarian perpective but I completely agree with Lauren. Even though many of my ideals fall left, I do think so many people nowadays are too eager to catastrophise and categorise what they perceive as injustice. To willining smear lables over a person or situtation without pausing to gauge the situation with nuance. I find this aspect about modern day culture as recessive rather than progressive.
Furthermore, I would like to point out that that as a woman I don't want to be exclusively called a 'birthgiver' or 'someone who has a period'. I find both terms extremely clinical and I don't indentify with either of them in any way. I'm proud to be a woman. I support your inclusive outlook Morgan, I think like that too. Everyone deserves a place at the table right? But I don't believe in replacing the word woman entirely. It takes away the power of our own femininity and indentity just to appease a very small minority. However I am very aware that there are indviduals who fall under categories such as trans and nonbinary and they absolutely do deserve recgonition and respect also. That's why a term such as 'birthgiver' is incredibly useful to have in situatuions that call for it. To give the person the grace of empathy and recgonition. But I do not believe or support the eradication of terms such as 'woman' and 'mother' entirely. That in my opinion, does a diservivce to our own injutices and experiences we go through as women. I want to feel as seen and heard as the next person.
Anwyays, we all live in a very interesting period where things can seem to move so fast and evolve at such a complex rate at times it feels impossible to keep up with. But its important to have these converations so everyone feels they can be included.
Finally, pausing to listen to this, my favorite thing all week
ooof now I'm crying. thanks for being so open about your personal life stuff though, means a lot, especially getting the message out there to everyone, no matter age or gender, GO GET YOUR ANNUAL PHYSICAL! go get that check-up you've been putting off for months! please!
I've been dealing with ovarian cancer the past couple months and I've told like, 4 people, besides my parents lol. as isolating as it feels, I'm also too anxious/nervous to talk about it with people. idk. life is fucking weird. but thanks for making it a bit more bearable 💚🎗
In the panic one, he’s NTA. It probably was an authentic response that she was having, but it is a real danger for herself and those around her. If they are getting married and may even be having kids, she has a responsibility to get her stress response under control in order to be a trusted partner/parent. That may be in the form of anxiety meds, therapy, regular exercise, breathing meditation, etc. but she needs to get it under control and she probably needed that tough love in order to do it. The fight-or-flight response is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system and there’s a ton of research on ways that you can reduce stress and have a more level-headed response in threatening situations.
i was thinking the same abt therapy. i think they both should probably see a trauma counselor and she should defo go to a therapist for her fear and anxiety. couples therapy wouldn’t hurt either lol
i love the ft.Lauren videos
The number one indicator of future criminality is lack of father in the household that makes the last story absolutely horrific
56:55, your mental health is not your fault but it IS your responsibility 💖
love you so so so much Morgan! take all the time you need whenever you need a break. ❤ we will be waiting & sending you love, support & prayers to you, your mom & family.
My boyfriends parents met in his mom's home country of brazil when his father was travellin in his late 20s. They got pregnant with him, she migrated to canada and raised him. Theyre some of the happiest married people I know, its really sweet.
lauren gave me a jump scare in story 4 but it was my inner reaction as well sooo... loved it😂😂😂
She DID NOT RUIN THAT WEDDING!!!!!!!!! Her dog opened up there stitches! I’d be pissed. I would have beat that sister in law down. She should of been charged with animal cruelty too!!!!!!!
SHE KIDNAPPED THE DOGS!! what the heck!
The thing that stuck with me from the last story is that OP mentioned in the beginning that she didn't have time to invest in a relationship with a man. But somehow she had time to take care of a baby/child? huh? and the fact that her mom moved in with her and seems to be doing a lot of the parenting (like making sure the son kept up with schoolwork during the pandemic and such) makes it seem like OP didnt actually have the time to have a baby or take care of one and only had one for the fantasy of being a mom and having a baby to idk dress up/do fun things with
The last story: I know someone who did something like this. She wanted a baby, a mixed baby specifically. She was on a trip abroad and found someone who agreed to her terms (get me pregnant, no strings attached) and she has a daughter (who's an adult now) that she loves dearly. She doesn't regret her decision, she wrote her own story. More power to her, and OP of the story, I guess. 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ Glad everyone is happy!!!!
that last one is UNHINGED
1:16:23 “let the trash take itself out” 😂
Lauren is one of the best recurring guests hands down
i'm never the person who say a situation or relationship needs an ultimatum but in the 4th story OP needs to say "its me or its her" because that just not okay
Regarding the birthday story: my mom died 2 hours after my son was born. I decided when we got back to that day that I needed to celebrate my son MORE than we needed to mourn her.
The tradeoff is I tend to get depressed between her birthday April 10 and the time until my son's birthday roughly a month later. And by depressed please know it's not major. I just get less motivated overall. It's grief. I acknowledge it.
What sort of family unilaterally cancels birthday celebrations? I understand that loss of a loved one is devastating; to me, it's not productive to quit living life & isn't honoring the loved one who has passed.
The "no birthdays ever again" is awful. The family is coping in an incredibly unhealthy way and they ALL need therapy. The wife is the AH for insisting the new baby not get birthdays when she never even knew the deceased family member. Don't take away others joy forever as a way to cope with loss. Move on with your lives. Wow.
The first one is freakin insane. If anything they need to pay the emergency vet bill.
I lost my dad last year and my first birthday without him was soo so hard. But it would be hard and painful if I have a party or not. So why would I make it harder on me? Of course I have a birthday party and get some love in from my people so it gets easier.
don’t worry lauren, i also haven’t watched mama mia lmaooo
To Morgan I feel u so much my step mom is going tough chemo and dialysis and she has no hopes to recover and it's so hard I just don't know what to say or do sometimes ugh
It is extremely unhealthy to not celebrate anyone’s birthday anymore because someone died on their birthday. That family needs counseling because that’s not ok.
I lost my grandfather to stage 4 esophageal cancer about 10 years ago. Cancer is a horrible thing and I’m so sorry you’re all having to go through this. Sending love and light to all of you. Enjoy the time you guys get to spend together, because those memories will help in the future. 💜 and OF COURSE we’re going to be just fine if you have to delay videos or something. We adore you.
I was tearing up hearing about the first story. The poor dogs were probably in pain, and so so scared. PLUS they’re rescues, so they may have past trauma . Those poor baby angels.
plus one was like bleeding out THE DOG COULD HAVE DIED TO
Also, the cones are very important, dogs have eaten their own insides without them before.
The panic on the boat story reminded me of another Reddit story (TBH I’m not sure if they have done this so listen to too many Reddit podcasts). In the story the father, OP, came home to his son, having broken his arm and the wife freaking out about it. She wasn’t doing anything to comfort the son, was not calling anyone ambulances, just panicking. So OP had to take his son to the hospital and the wife refused to come and continued to panic at home. They left, she called her sister to calm her self down, but didn’t try to come to the hospital or even go pick up their other child who was at school, so OP had to leave the hospital without his son, who is begging for him to stay, to pick up the other child and when he gets home, she still on the couch talking to her sister. He lays into her about her being useless in a high stress situation where their children are on the line. OP’s wife is what the guy in today’s episode’s story fears, and this is another example on how at a certain point you need to conquer that panic and anxiety if not for yourself for the others around you.
THATS JUST SO RUDICULOUS
My Mom was someone who would panic in emergencies, she managed to raise 5 children while my father traveled for months on end. It sucks, but this isn't something that could be fixed by someone telling them they need to do better, stress just mentally shut her down and then she would panic. We found ways to adapt to an unsolvable problem. The OP in that story needs to decide if this is someone he wants to partner with and if he does they need to create a plan for stuff triggering a panic response.
Hmm that’s what happens if marry with useless person.
They have to set the radical and realistic expectations that their partners are useless, they’re alone dealing with the issues.
That's exactly what I was thinking, how is this woman going to react when she has a child and something bad happens, such as a broken arm? Will she be able to get proper help or will she freak out screaming and crying, unable to comfort or help said child in any way? That would be my fear and I assume it is the OP's fear as well.
The best advice I ever hear (probably from reddit) was that your boundaries can only be enforced by you. If your boundaries are cheating, you can't force your partner not to cheat. But if your partner cheats you can enforce your boundary and leave. That's how I live my life regarding boundaries
Not only that but it isn't fair if in your example you are ok worth chatting but not on with your partner cheating
@@elizabethconley4996 the example never states that the person is okay with cheating, what?? this example means that, while other people might be able to stay in a relationship after cheating, this person WILL leave if they get cheated on.
@@isak7753 I'm not saying it was. I'm just saying I've met people who are 100% ok with cheating, but the second their partner even looks at another person there's a problem.
@@elizabethconley4996 it's because they don't fully want them but they don't want anyone else to have you either. It happens ALOT, best examples are: guy asks for open relationship, turns out not that many ppl are interested in him. Whereas his lady is getting a ton of attention from other men. All of a sudden the guy wants you more and doesn't want anyone else to have you. Your right, those ones will cheat on you constantly and then trip out on you for even looking in someone else's direction. It's almost like a toddler that only wants a toy to keep it from others but doesn't actually wanna play with it.
Also I'm sorry if there's any typos or whatever, I did talk to text. I'm in between appts, hope that makes sense
@@angelabarnes1675 it makes sense. I genuinely can't tell u how many times I've heard this, and every time it clicks again
I think the "no birthday" story is a good example on how generational traumas can be born. Cause like, with no one allowed birthdays, it may have started in solidarity with one generational group of family members, but then it effects other generations and gets passed down. Passing down a trauma for others to carry, when they probably dont even know the brother/reason for said trauma/tradition. And a good example on how some traditions arent good ones nor healthy for families.
YES! This is exactly how it starts. I can understand waiting a year or 2 before doing these types of celebrations again but saying you can never celebrate a birthday EVER?!
That's creating so many more issues around what should be a happy time and turning it into a traumatic event. Babies may not remember everything but once a child is in school and sees classmates doing birthday celebrations, the conversation of "How come I don't get to celebrate my birthday?" at home will be more than awkward.
I agree. Banning birthdays just because it’s the day he died isn’t a healthy way to grieve. What if the cause of death was drowning or car accident. Would they never get into a vehicle or a bath ever again?
@@Musicalsfangirl100% agree. It’s an unhealthy way of grieving and will inevitably lead to social isolation when the daughter gets into school, and maybe even some resentment towards the uncle that she’s never met. It’s insane to make all birthdays a somber affair because of a tragedy.
I completely agree!
No longer celebrating birthdays is such a stupid way to remember someone’s memory. you should celebrate even more and harder to show your loved ones how much you love them while they are still alive!
This first story has me SO LIVIDDD!! I am physically hot with anger typing this right now. Nobody fucks with my animals period. I'd do the same exact thing.
I'd end someone if they stole my cat
It made me sick to my stomach. Specially knowing that the baby’s stitches came off!!!
Same! Omg, I was so shocked and actually shouted out loud listening to this. I would like to think I would have done the same thing, by calling the police and pressing changes, but I feel like I'd also show up at the wedding with a bat looking to take out a leg of hers and to get my dogs back!
Ngl. If someone stole my cats and mishandled them, I will probably go to jail when I find them. Idgaf. Those are MY BABIES
I`M LITERALLY SCREAMING AS I WATCH
The second story had my jaw on the floor! My partner and me are both studying to be mechanics and live with our parents, so spending a lot of money on dates is not possible for us. Instead of not going on dates at all, we go on rock picking dates, picnics and go to car meets. Love doesn’t need money to grow
The second they said they went out of the house I knew she was going to steal the dogs. 😯 Stealing someone’s dogs will ruin the “vibe” of your wedding. I’m so glad the puppers are okay.
Also they took the cones off, leading to reopening stitches. If stealing dogs won’t ruin your wedding, a dog eating her own intestines will.
@@greenginger6668 you do paint a picture, Ginger!
But srsly this story was NUTS! If you care about the dogs enough to STEAL them for your wedding, how can you not care about their health AT ALL?
I know, I know, she is clearly one if those HORRIBLE people who see animals and pets as just OBJECTS and props. I know people like that exist and I STILL CAN'T WRAP MY MIND AROUND IT!
So glad she got arrested. 😂😹😹🐕 Now that we know the pups were okay, One of the best arrest stories I ever heard! 🐕😹💞
@@JW-vd4il I am glad she got arrested and it sounds like the OP isn’t dropping charges (I wouldn’t either, she needs to learn her lesson). If someone did this with my cats I’d actually get violent ha. They are my children and I cannot even fathom what my reaction would be.
@@JW-vd4il I only say it because I’ve seen it, I work in vet med. Some dogs and cats will lick and chew at their incisions until they are completely reopened and then they will continue to do so until there’s no fixing it… there’s a reason cones are required at all times after surgery and it’s a good thing they got there when they did. I hope they sue the 💩 out of them for the vet bills because all of them should have their incisions checked and cleaned after this, I’m so glad they’re ok.
It’s so terrible how some people see animals as objects or a prop for their wedding. I can’t imagine how scary it is for someone to have their dogs stolen especially when they’re healing from surgery. I’ve luckily never had to deal with that. She deserved to be arrested. I felt immense relief when they got to the end of the story and the dogs were okay, after an emergency vet visit.
for the third story: i was raised by a women who reacts VERY emotionally to every minor situation, let alone a terrible one. it can be very damaging to be raised by someone like this if they can’t learn to manage it. for example, i cracked my head open when i was 3 and my mom could not handle the sight of it and all she did was scream, so my 9 yr old sister had to call our neighbor to take me to the emergency room. i definitely see OPs pov about it but if she learned to manage it, she can be a good partner!
LOVE YOU GUYS THANK YOU ALL ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I was nervous about this episode lolol if it seems like I got a little too tipsy towards the end… it’s because I did 😅😅
we love you tipsy too 😂🖤
@@kitteegrande5998 hahahaha 🙏❤️😅
I kind of like when you guys are a little tipsy, it feels like wine night with friends 🤣❤️
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