Tipping Culture is OUT OF CONTROL
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I get dirty looks for not tipping when ordering takeout. They can keep giving me the stink eye. I’m not tipping for picking up my own food.
I Love hitting that NO TIP button on the screen when I'm picking up my own pizza : )
Yeah I don't tip for takeout. That's why I'm getting take out right?!
@@paul_domici And they can stare at me all they want 😂
@@aokiQ Yep! I just stare right back! : )
Solidarity in hitting that “No Tip” on takeout button!
It’s not a tip per se, but my grocery store always asks if I want to make a donation to a charity on their behalf. Groceries are expensive enough as it is and I’m still expected to give extra so they can claim a tax deduction??! The greed is unbelievable!
South Park has a hilarious bit about this. Search "Randy Marsh Whole Foods"
Yeah and then the store manager is pictured in the local paper handing over a giant novelty cheque to whatever charity. They get the good PR, meanwhile it's the customers that paid the money. It's infuriating.
Yes!!! Fast food, groceries,etc...all basically "pan handling" in my opinion. Begging for my change...nope not happening. I can donate myself. I don't need some corporation doing it on my behalf for their advertisement.
I don't go to this store anymore, but I would go to this chain store just a little higher up than the dollar stores. They were doing a campaign for some charity, and every time a customer said they would give a dollar or two, the cashier would ring this loud bell and the crew was supposed to sing a stupid song to thank them. Talk about trying to force people to donate! When they asked me, I said, "No", and it was nice and quiet. I didn't care. I didn't need a bunch of strangers knowing that I was suckered into donating in order to get attention.
@@cmcordoYT That would force me to NOT donate.
We stopped going out due to tipping, high food prices, bad food and bad service.
Me too - I am done
Good on you. You did the right thing. If you don’t tip, stay home so people don’t have to endure the horror of your personalities.
At Panera (casual dining) I walk up to the counter and order my food, fill up my beverage cup, pick up my food at another counter, get my own beverage refill, get my own napkins and condiments, bus my own table and they still "ask a few questions". I'm not against tipping but feel it's gotten out of hand.
Do you mean that they ask questions when you don't tip? That's so strange
@@wonderland1911 No...my comment is in reference to when I pay and they turn the tablet around and say it is "asking a few questions" and it is asking what amount I want to tip.
A few years ago at a food bank, I received 2 large bags of frozen soup labeled Panera. Panera charges out the nose, then aggressively expects a tip when some/most(?) of their offerings are simply warmed over. Nope!
@@wonderland1911”Ask a few questions “ is referring to the tip screen.
Not to mention you pay premium prices to serve yourself at Panera.
I went with a coworker to get a small iced coffee with almondmilk my order took a minute I could not believe it cost me 6 dollars and they charged extra for almondmilk and then wanted a tip on top of that. This is why I always make coffee at home and never eat out. My coworker said this is normal. The coffee was terrible.
Yeah. I think all the extra fees will just make people not go out anymore. Tips make people with less money feel bad that they don't want to pay it. I am trying to save for a home, but I only make 65000 per year. Therefore, I need to save a lot for a down payment because I can't get enough of a loan ( lol 😑). I realized tips were a huge expense and try to cut them out when I go out with friends to coffee shops. However, it makes me feel bad! I'm not trying to be cheap, but i don't have a lot of money to throw at people...
Yet all the cool kids wanna walk around with Starbucks cups. It's a dangerous circle
I know we started tipping “extra” during Covid for businesses that were a bit hard done by. Now it is just expected. It’s ridiculous. It honestly makes me angry.
Not the only thing Covid normalized. I don't even get packages to my door anymore. I just get a slip saying that no one was home, even though I was literally sitting at the door waiting for them to knock so I could sign.
Took a few times of that happening for me to realize they just don't bother anymore.
It's pretty bad when restaurants that customers staunchly supported during "flu restrictions" are repaid with punitive tip requirements.
Agreed. You know, Covid was the excuse everybody used for increases in everything. Look, if we didn't frequent those businesses they wouldn't get a salary at all. We were all hit but the prices didn't go down yet tips were still expected. I don't tip extra or otherwise (don't judge, I'm less than 1% but tipping is customary not obligatory). America has gotten out of hand with tips and "would-you-like-to-donate-to-Save the whatever foundation"? at the register, or round up and donate to the whatever for whomever cause? STOP IT. Once prices start going back down to normal (now that covid has subsided to a great extend), let's get those prices back down to affordable because if they don't tips are going to be a thing of the past. It's ridiculous.
@@buyerbware25 ...just don't go to them.
Yup and many big businesses made record number profits and still want to pass the wage increase to their employees in the form of consumer tipping, its infuriating
Thank you for making this video. Its absolutely insane! We stopped going out and patronizing any business that expects me to tip for you putting in a few cupcakes into a box and handing it to me.
We did the same. We are not going out as much as we used to. With the increased prices at restaurants and tipping being crazy, it just isn't worth it going out to eat.
Yesterday i tipped 15% on a take out order just for them to forget half of it and no way to contact them to get my money back 🙃 i learned my lesson.
Oof
my take out order at Bob Evans consisted of sausage gravy instead of syrup for my pancakes! I refuse to tip on take out orders now--not even sure it's correct until you get home.
@@SLLoo-lg7ot You should check it when you get it there and not wait until you get home with it.
@@kevinc6097they’re still not getting a tip idc. They can’t even do their job Right
Yupppp, whats funny is you should get a discount for ordering carryout. Its making their job wayyy easier, clearing up more table space and minimilizing their cleanup thus lowering alot of overhead cost. To ask for more money is insulting
It's just a way for businesses to underpay their employees.
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I wish I could find a good breakdown video on this because I genuinely don't understand ao I'm not arguing. But if the business had to pay more, wouldn't they charge more also.
She said that in Canada the servers get full pay regardless but still expect the tip. That seems to cancel your point. With that said, I agree that tipping has went way to far. I simply won't go if I'm expected to tip and I whine and complain to anyone that will listen. Lol.
Yup, in the wake of record making profits they want to pass the wages onto the consumer, BULLSHIT
No it’s not ! It’s a hidden tax and it San Francisco has their own minimum wage
Doesn’t work there
Then boycott these businesses so we can have less of them.
People need too learn too say no! Not tipping someone i.e. cashier for literally doing their job
I'm too frugal to go out to eat, the whole time I'm just thinking about how much more I could get out of this money. I'm just waiting for the Walmart employees who watch you scan your items to ask for a tip.
Love this. I am waiting too 😂
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I am waiting as well, they already don't have to scan our items.
@@sandradowd6732 ...yeah and some store want to charge you for a plastic bag in the self check out line....You've earned that bag...you scanned it, bagged it, you've earned the bag,,,,when the options on the screen says how many bags,,,I ALWAYS press 0 and use as many bags as I want.
@@Samiam173 there you go.
Went to a food truck last night and paid over $41 for a philly sandwich, burger, one fry and two cans of coke- and then they did that thing where they asked for a tip! Like what?! Whatd you do beyond take my order and also forgot to hand me my cokes til i asked? Its so obnoxious.
Should have asked them what aspect of their service they thought was over and above thereby deserving a tip.
I never tip and neither should anyone else. There is not really a tipping culture where I live, but they are trying to implement it here as well. It is important to fight it, it is disgraceful and tacky.
Its disband tacky to not tip
In USA, servers are TAXED on tips, whether they receive them or not! If you don’t tip your server, they literally lose money to the government, bc tips are “figured into” their reduced wage. I was a server who made $200 per day in tips, but got paid $3.25 an hour, full time job, no benefits.
@@jqstjohna employees pay isn’t a customers problem😂.
@@jqstjohn Then advocate for better wages or stop complaining.
@@andreabellini6796 - Tipping is stupid. I am a social worker and never get tipped and still do my job, just like other professions. Teachers, engineers, street sweepers all don't get tipped. Perhaps the service industry should start paying decent wages instead of forcing people to tip.
Great topic! As a 61 year old I agree 100% with everything you said. My son, who is your age, complains about this all the time too. Tipping has become insane but in my opinion so many things in this world have gone insane!
I find they attempting to use "guilt" for the customer to help pay the employees.
I've worked as a Nurse, Cashier & kitchen staff. None of these jobs did I ever get any tips. The tip culture needs to disappear
I'm from Australia, and tipping is practically unheard of here, and I hope it stays that way! So much less confusing.
That sound so ideal!
yeah that's why your simple meals are $20+. I've been to NZ and I'd rather tip and pay far less than NZ/Australia exorbitant food prices
@@cheery-hexI'll take the $20. I mean $20 I pretty ridiculous, but it's better than tipping.
Yes, when my son and I went to Australia, I tried to tip and they forced me to take my money back. I guess I should have looked that up before going there.
Same here in uk! I’ll tip but only if someone does a super special job! Which is generally the case with most people here.
I agree with all your points in this video. And I also been packing my lunch and eating dinner at home. This is to avoid the awkwardness. We shouldn't have to supplement wages as consumers. It should be the businesses. They shouldn't be making less.
I just press the "no tip" button whenever they're asking for me to tip on the pinpad machine...
I mean, the food is already expensive. Why do I have to pay for their service?
The pressure to tip is the reason I drive to the restaurant and pick up take-out meal myself. The cost of the gas is less than the cost of tips.
You forget about the wear and tear on your vehicle. Everybody thinks only of the cost of gas.
Except when they pressure you to tip on the takeout 😂 😂
One time I went to a restaurant where my brother in law was the chef so we left a huge tip because the food was delicious and made with love! And it turns out the waitress got all the tip money just for bringing it over to us and He got nothing! I was pissed!
Brutal
Chefs are paid greatly. Why would a server tip the chef?
@@andreabellini6796 This was a pub/restaurant My brother in law was not getting paid greatly! He was making less than the waitress! I'm glad he left that shit show!
Waitresses are supposed to tip out the kitchen staff - they’re not supposed to get it all. That said, I was a line cook at OG and we weren’t tipped out. Definitely not fair.
@@karenobana4255 If I was the owner of a restaurant I would split All the tips within All the staff!!! Yes the service is important buy I go to a good restaurant for the good food!
Hope this one blows up. I’m in the UK so it’s nowhere near as bad over here but still happens. It’s a very annoying form of entitlement imo.
I feel exactly like you do. I'm from Europe, thankfully there is no such strong tipping culture here! But the whole tipping situation is one of the things putting me off visiting North America. Gives me way too much anxiety to keep thinking about who expects tips and how much! And frankly, like you, I just think that employers should pay a fair wage!
I've been to Japan recently and loved - you don't tip at all in Japan.
i feel like it's getting here, in Europe, more and more. everyone wants a tip for everything. bad, good, no matter, tip them like they deserve it, even if nothing was really done to improve your experience.
Nicole, tipping is "out of contol" and pick-up it is outrageous. I believe in tipping in a restaurant or for taxi cab service, but not for self pick-up or cashier taking my order for coffee.
Yaaaaas girl! I have been complaining about this for years. I live in Washington where servers get $15.00 an hour. I’ve decided to only tip for services I used to tip for 20 years ago. I went to a concert and bought a tshirt at the merch table and paid on one of those “ask you questions” machines. It was asking for a tip to hand me a tshirt. I did not tip. When I looked at my bank account, there was a tip added. The merch guy added a tip without my consent. Ask for a receipt people. I did not.
I had this happen in a restaurant once after I had already left a cash tip. Get a receipt!
If you paid with a credit card, maybe bring it up to your cc company as a potential chargeback?
Not tipping to pick up my own food. No extra service was provided. Table service now a days is mediocre and tipping 20-24 % is insane. I say BIG NO
When I was growing up tipping , was a way to award a person for a good job done.
Yes! I have no issue with giving someone a little something extra for providing great service but I hate this feeling of it being an expected thing - especially the inflated 'suggested amounts' on payment terminals. You know it's out of control when Tim Horton's is putting a tip cup on the counter. It's takeout, ffs.
I recall when tipping was a gesture of appreciation for exceptional service; however, in today's landscape, it seems like tipping has become ubiquitous. I recently came across a video where someone purchased a simple PB&J from a store, went through self-checkout, and still felt compelled to tip. The question arises: why should one tip for a transaction they essentially handled entirely on their own? It reflects a shift from rewarding exceptional service to what appears as an expectation. It's indicative of a broader issue - companies relying on customer tips rather than providing adequate wages to their employees. This shift, fueled by what some may perceive as corporate greed, raises concerns about fair compensation and the extent to which businesses pass their labor costs onto the public.
This is why I very rarely eat out or do activities (cruises) where tipping is expected.
I hate at burger places that, when you order to go, you pay when you order and get asked for a tip. I always wonder, if I don't tip, will they tell the cook to spit in my burger?
These corporations are getting RICH while we’re paying THEIR employees
Yeah, I feel the same way. I'm glad this conversation is starting. The pressure has gotten so intense that I don't enjoy going to coffee shops as much anymore. I think one of the biggest reasons tipping culture is getting this way is that the credit card companies get commission based on each sale. So if like 10,000,000 people are tipping $1 each day, it adds up to insane profits for these credit card companies. I think it's more the credit card companies pushing this out on everyone and nobody even thinks about that.
I never let any tip go into a system to allow any opportunity for management, the state, CC companies, etc., to take a cut before distributing to staff. I always have enough cash for at least the tip. this way I still get appreciation too even when generally tipping "normal."
It’s a hidden tax
It’s a hidden tax
I very rarely eat out because I cant stand the tipping. It's just so expensive. I always do tip if I am going out to eat but I will NEVER tip if I'm picking up an order or a coffee or something like that. They didnt do anything special but hand me a cup. sorry but I get salty about it. I'm a nurse I barely have time to eat or sit the entire day not only taking care of patients that actually need me, but also the rude family members that do nothing but want me to wait on them hand and foot all day as they yell at me. I feel like I deserve a tip. lol
Coming from Virginia, USA, I couldn't agree with you more!!! Delivery service like instant cart and Walmart, ask for a tip every time. Hold up, I pay a monthly/yearly service to use this service, why do I need to leave a tip. When I do get a take out order, I gladly pick up my food and leave! It’s getting to the point that I don’t want to go out to eat, which is fine with me
Because it's more than just a delivery service - you have someone going to a store, shopping for you, getting substitutes, bagging it themselves and then delivering it to your door (and I've seen fellow shoppers deliver heavy things like cases of water.) Absolutely for these types of services you should tip. Otherwise, don't use it and do your own grocery shopping. Instacart and Shipt don't pay their shoppers as well as you might think...
@@PositivelyPam woo the nasty tone. You must be one of the shoppers. I tip but they ask several times! And trust me, they get paid, I know ppl that personally works for these services! Hmmm, just yesterday I received rotten banana, so tell me, do they deserve av2nd tip? But thanks for your comment! There's ppl in here that stated they never tip. What do you think about that?
@@PositivelyPam Maybe they should get better jobs, but don't tell people where and how to spend their money. Money is earned, just like respect. Earn it and you'll get it.
Without a tip for instacart the worker earns less than minimum wage. I know because I used to do it
@@liannestephensen5729 Hey, it is what it is. Tipping is not an obligation, and people shouldn't be trying to make it an obligation. Customers already pay for their food and deliveries of the things they order, there's no need, no reason to try and make customers tip.
I was in Miami Beach ordering two beers in a bar on Lincoln Mall. The bartender was very slow and acted like he was doing me a favor. I purposely didn't leave a tip and he called me out. I replied that TIP means"To Insure Promptness" and he was anything but. In fact, his service and attitude were shite. That shut him up.
I was at the bowling alley. I went up to the counter and said “can I get a size 11 shoe and two hours on bowling.” The cashier clicked some numbers and gave me my shoes and flipped the iPad saying how much would you like to tip? That was the moment I said I am no longer tipping anyone who isn’t a waiter and only when I sit down. No fast food workers no takeout orders and especially no cashiers.
I just got back from visiting the UK. One thing I love about that country is that tipping in restaurants is not expected. The debit machines don't prompt for it, the waiting staff don't expect it. Also the fact that prices are actually honest to begin with there (since taxes are included in the price), you can feel confident that when your meal says it's 19 pounds sterling on the menu it really is 19 pounds, not + tax, not + tip.
Not like this anymore at restaurants
It's true, I'm always shocked if shown a price without tax included here and feel genuinely disgruntled if I am prompted by a card machine to tip! 'Service fees' are getting more common at chains though, and it's a real scam as is the way it's worded does not make it clear whether this is optional or not - it sometimes is, but not always apparently, which seems like terrible practice!
I'm at a point where I'm just going to stay home and cook my own meals. Can't do grocery delivery, uber eats, pizza delivery, coffee shops and I'm saving eating out for special occasions, because I'm so done with paying extra money for an expected tip when they have done the bare minimum.
I completely agree with you. I live in England. I’ve always said “no one gives me a tip at work” when I’m busting a gut as a nurse. We have a local petrol station that when you pay by card it asks you if you want to leave a tip. The staff don’t put fuel in the car for you they are just standing at the till waiting for you to pay just doing their job. I rarely leave anyone a tip!
They had better be checking my tire pressure and oil level if they are even thinking about getting a tip. But gas station workers doing all that died out way before I was even born.
In Mexico City tips for petrol station guys is like $0.25 they put gas clean the windshield and check tyre pressure if you ask for it. 😮
Tipping should be banned. Companies will adapt. You can say thank you to the waiter verbally if they did well
I was in Edinburgh as a tourist (I'm American), and habitually left a British pound coin on the bar after buying a pint. The barkeep stared at it in confusion for a moment, grabbed it, then leaned on the bar in front of me and made ridiculous small talk for about two minutes. He had assumed that I was paying for some kind of tourist "chat with the locals" experience. It was then that I realized how insanely illogical and ingrained tipping is in North American culture.
I was at a sit down casual restaurant and I was there just for dessert (I got a slice of pie and a coffee at most costing $10) and when I got the bill, I was really surprised at the total something like $15. At the bottom of the receipt, it stated that $5 dollars was added as a tip and it would be pooled for all the waitstaff. As a former employee of the restaurant industry, I was appalled. I looked at the menu and in small print, that $5 add on was stated there also. So this restaurant not only wanted me to tip the server, but to tip the rest of the staff. I did not tip and I did not go back. I wonder how many other people realize this was going on.
SO MUCH TRUTH HERE NICOLE 💯👌🏼 thank you!!!
In Europe, it is an insult to tip your service workers, exactly for the reason that you said- they don’t want to imply that they need our charity. They are proud of their job and are just doing their job. I’ve experienced it myself, and I totally respect that.
To avoid tipping, I don't do business with business where tipping takes place. this includes restaurants. learn to cook people.
It's not just restaurants tho is the main problem
I think the majority of people think this way but yet nothing is being done about it. 😔 I worked retail for 7 years in high school and college and was offered a tip once, in which I had to decline because it was against policy. 🤦♀️
While working retail I once had an obviously very wealthy older woman hand me $2 after I carried a big heavy item out to her car for her. My manager saw and told me I had to put it in the charity jar at the register. I laughed in his face and told him he was free to donate $2 on my behalf if he felt so inclined. Then I walked away.
@@AccordingtoNicole beautiful. 👏👏👏
It's so awkward and over the top now, that i've stopped ordering take-out and going to coffee shops.
They jacked up all the prices to absurd levels, exploiting the Pandemic, and now they have added the
dreaded iPad "tip" percentage.
1000 percent agreed with everything you said.
You hit a cord with me on the delivery TIP‼️We ordered pizza from a family pizza restaurant and put a small tip on the card so I could give cash at delivery. The daughter brought my pizza and actually flipped it upside down ‼️. I didn’t know that until after she left,with my generous CASH tip. We were extremely pissed and never bought pizza there again.
I'm in Australia. We don't tip at all for anything. Everybody gets a good wage. The only time I have was at a fancy restaurant and I didn't have the correct money and it was really good food and service. It is not a normal thing to do. I wouldn't know how to behave in America. I'd be waiting there for my change. People would probably hate me, and no way would I pay that much without knowing what the hell I was getting.
Begging everywhere! Companies expect consumers to supplement pay through tipping when they should be paying better wages up front. Panhandling at its best!! Tipping is 100% out of hand!!!
I 💯 agree. I have noticed that if I pay with cash at certain takeout places, they won’t pressure you for tips.
Imagine the awkwardness of paying cash for take out and the cashier slides a tip jar towards you and says, "It's going to ask you a question" and the tip jar has a sign asking how much you'd like to tip 😂
A tip is a way to say thank you for a great job done if you have the money they have turned it to something else and it's a disgrace.
Some vendors at farmers markets are asking for tips now too. A $25-30 chicken is already outrageous, but the lowest tip on their card device is 15%? Its a bad look.
Checkers had a tip on the receipt at a drive thru for over 10 years now. How about charge me for the food enough that you can pay your employees.
I’m in agreement with the problems with tipping. Employers need to start paying their staff a living wage. Recently I noticed Panera order takers are requesting a tip. Once your order is taken and you’ve paid up front the rest is up to you. You get your own drink, pick up your order at the counter, and clear your own table afterwards. I get to tip the person who entered my order and took my money!!!
Most restaurants in my area don’t have great service, the reason is always due to the lack of staff. If the owners would pay the staff a decent wage and train their staff properly I believe more of us would go out to eat and the owners, staff, and customers would all benefit.
My European friends say that they feel like whenever they are in the US and servers are “nice” to them, they wonder if it’s disingenuous because they are just doing it for the tip. This is so disgusting to me. I much rather have a person be real and authentic to me than be fake nice.
Imagine tipping a server $25.00 for bringing a $100 bottle of wine to your table. Absolutely insane.
I’m with you on this! It irritates me to no end that I’m expected to tip on takeout! And when someone hands me a coffee and expects a tip! That is just wrong!
The only time I tip for take out is at my favorite Mexican place because they include chips & salsa & they always make my order correctly (veggie burrito no dairy or beans). Yes, I’m a vegan who doesn’t like beans- judge away.
I don’t go out to eat as often as I did a few years ago. I’d feel more comfortable tipping based on the weight of the tray, how many plates they have to carry, & if they are polite & attentive. If my water glass is close to empty I do expect it to be refilled without having to flag someone down.
I think tipping is bs, but I do it if someone earned it. I recently picked up a loaf of bread at a cafe & the iPad spun around asking for a tip. They didn’t have to bag it, just walk 10 feet to pick it up and set it in front of me. No tip, but thank you have a good day.
My friends, it's real simple. Tip if you wish, and tip what you wish. A tip is a generosity, not an obligation. I believe in being generous, but I will not be extorted to do so.
Baby, you should get a Nobel Prize for this!
You nailed it here. It's a "bribe". Like we're gonna get bad or spitty food by not greasing a wheel. Tipping cashiers and baggers. Im not doing it anymore. I tip heavily for great service. Honestly I do. I live in the southeast US and everything here is an ipad begging for tips now. And it IS a culture. Places do it that I worked at as a kid and I certainly wasn't tipped in my time. Nor would I have expected it given the position.
I have NO problem looking someone right in the eye and pushing the 'no tip'. And I stare at them a little aggressively as if to say 'yes, do you have something to say to me? Cuz I'm ready for it'
Relatively new follower and I love your honesty and rationale on tipping. In many countries tipping is unusual and is only done if you have a huge party of people or the waitperson did something special. Our Australian friends make fun of us and once commented when we passed a statue with its hand facing out… “ go ahead and be a good American. Leave him some money too!” Obviously he was joking about tipping in the US. It is TOTALLY out of hand!
💯 Mary.
Tipping is a joke. Just price goods and services appropriately (with tax inbuilt) as we do down here.
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I love in Los Angeles and tipping here is OUT OF CONTROL. I have contributed to it and everything you've said Nicole has clarified so much for me. ESPECIALLY that part of tipping people as service butlers. WTF!! Thank you once again for providing clarity.
Story #1) US, Pacific Northwest: A sort of patisserie (take away, no indoor seating) with high-end baked goods. I order one chocolate chip cookie. The employee doesn't have to walk a single step. She uses tongs to transfer the cookie from the glass jar to a a wax paper sack and hand it to me. That took about 5 seconds, maybe less. It was a 3 dollar cookie. She flips the iPad and the first suggested tip was $5 . It went up from there. I think I had to choose "other" to get to a zero tip option.
Story #2) Same US city. In a department store is a robotic coffee barista. I type my name and order in the iPad for a latte and yes, they ask for a tip! I look around, there are no humans visible in the coffee bar. It's 100% automated (and very cool too!). I felt bad thinking maybe the robot was a single parent with little toasters and vacuums to raise and maybe a big student loan and dreams of getting a a nicer job, I don't know, making cars? But no, I didn't tip.
Story #3) Same US city. A deli/supermarket. They have some "grab and go" sandwiches and salads and things that you pick up from the fridge aisle and take to the cashier (you have to stand in line a few minutes usually). The system always asks for a tip. I never give one. I'm buying groceries. No one "served" me other than the cashier who is doing their job as a cashier!
~~~Yeah, you're right. Tipping culture *is* out of control, but we let it get that way. I used to be a super extra generous tipper when it came to sit-down restaurants, but now I'm starting to see "tipping" more as "bribing" since, as you point out, it's often asked for before the service is actually rendered, and I'm becoming ever more reluctant to tip for anything. I've stopped going to places that have a too-aggressive tip-asking system.
*On a bright note,* more and more food places in my area (like pizza by the slice type places) don't do tips! Yes, they post signs that inform the customers that a reasonable tip (like 10%) is built into all their prices (maybe 50 cents per slice) and they don't ask for or have a system to beg or shame you for more.
I can't stand when they expect tips for takeout.
Since the tipping couture has gone way out of control, I do not go to places where I’m being asked to tip. If I do I pay cash and keep my change. Of course at a sit down restaurant I will gladly tip. But picking up my dry cleaning? Give me a break!! The best tip I can give someone is don’t smoke in bed!!
Right!?? Loved the “don’t smoke in bed” tip. 😂😂😂😂
I make sure i pay cash, that way they can't flip that monitor towards me. I refuse to pay tip except for a sit down dinner.
Thank God i make all my food and coffee, but the other day i went for a quick coffee with a friend. I just ordered a muffin that she grabbed from case. She flipped the monitor towards me just for grabbing a muffin and hand it to me. I refused to give her a tip for that.
It's no longer a tip. It's entitlement and expected which I don't like. Have you seen the tip buckets hanging out of the drive thru windows? It's gotten that ridiculous.
Agreed. This tipping crap is out of control. Not only does everyone want a tip. They want a ridiculous percentage/amount of money.
thank you im so happy someone else is talking about this topic! I have stopped dining out and will only pay in cash so I can avoid tipping more than I should. (I do tip) but these people need to stop expecting me to pay their bills and not put an attitude when I tip less than how much they want. I feel like tips should be optional and should be given if they really want to. I am also noticing this reoccurring pattern of having to scan a QR code to buy things at the restaurant and these waiters will still expect a tip? (when I literally did all the work) Also, Canada is not like America these people are making a decent wage (just like any other customer service or retail employee would make) I have worked in customer service and fast food before and I never expected a single thing I feel like people are being too greedy and some restaurants even set their minimum as 18 percent tips? that's insane because I feel like they just did their job.
Phew, glad you got that off your chest?!
This is absolutely true ... its sad that we are required to tip on every service now a days. I just find myself not delivering food or eating out really at all because I dont want to feel guilty when I dont tip enough! 😔
Work on your self esteem and do what you want. Don’t let that hold you back from eating out
I live in the US and yes, tipping is out of control. We went to France a few years and had a fantastic dinner. Our server was so kind and we enjoyed the evening tremendously. So decided to tip him American style. In France, servers earn a living wage. Tipping is only expected for extraordinary service and at that only like 10%. Anyway, we have him 25% tip and left the restaurant. He ran after us and thanked us sincerely.
I live in the US. It used to be that wait staff made a small amount of money per hour. Around $3.00 per hour. In the 90's they started getting taxed on the amount of the sales they made. They got tipped 8% on the sales. So if they got shorted there tip they still had to pay tax on that. This has all started to change. The business is being required to pay at least minimum wage. I am really tired of being expected to pay a tip every where I go. I tend to not go out much . I agree with every thing you said!
Last time in NYC, I started a tab in a bar on 7th Ave and some guy near me was angry with the bar keep about expecting an unreasonably large tip for the service provided. Anyway, the bar keep looked at me for reassurance and asked me what I thought was a good tip...so I replied; well here's a really good tip...never cross the road at 7th and 54th with your eyes shut.
Not sure about Canada, but the US is so controlled by the Corporatocracy that food service employees necessarily count on tips to fill in the gap between their pay and an attempt at making a living wage.
And as Nicole pointed out, that means the corporations should pay a living wage, not try and guilt their customers into making up the difference.
Agree 100%, I rarely go anywhere where tips are expected. I think a lot of people stay away from places that tips are expected and it reduces the amount of business in these places.
Pay in cash. Avoid the iPad guilt trip. Take your change. Walk out. Enjoy.
I agree with you 1000%!!! Tipping is out of control. Thank you for putting this out there. Very well stated!
I use to cut my hair at a salon and i started to notice the gals would charge me 2 to 4 above the listed price and the console would still ask for tip. At first i thought it was an old price, then i noticed they were inconsistent; they were tipping themselves!! And still expecting tip; i was loyal for years, i felt duped. Ive learned to cut my own hair faster, better and easier and have saved tons of money for the past 4 yrs
Yeah you’re right. A year ago I went for a haircut and it cost me $30.00. Then the tip came into play on their tablet 20, 25, 30 percent. I am leaning to cut my own hair and apply color.
@@PBC2520 yeah its crazy, some things jus dont correlate with inflation. I mean its not like our heads get bigger the more money is made lol
SOUTH FLORIDA HERE....AND THE TIPPING DEMAND IS REALLY OUT OF CONTROL HERE!!!
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I live in California where wait service is paid minimum wage of 15.50. I have come to realize that I’ve been suckered into “emotional blackmail”.
I’ve reduced my patronage to restaurants due to the select a tip %. I’ve been a great tipper in the past because I’m of an age when I remember when wait staff were paid less than $2.
However, I’m rethinking tips. I’m now thinking if I do tip it should be based on quality of service and a dollar amount per person at my table. I was in a sandwich shop recently and saw the ladies hustling to make the sandwiches with a great attitude and I did tip because they weren’t just serving but preparing, same for a coffee shop. I think a dollar per drink is adequate whether it’s a small or large cup it shouldn’t matter.
Love this.
For home deliveries it never dawned on me not to tip. I keep fives and tens handy always for pharmacy and grocery deliveries. But in self-serve coffee shops and the like, I seldom feel obliged to pay extra. Guess it's a generational thing? I'm learning a few things here.
BRAVO.. all good points. It’s gotten out of hand. Makes me really mad that restaurants make HUGE profits, but can’t pay their employees who do all the work!! Not right at all. Also.. ice cream shop wanted a tip? For doing their job making a cone?!?! I’m in Ohio.
I completely agree. Here in Europe, no tipping is compulsory. If you think you have been well served, you leave something, if you want.
When I was young, I did this job, and I remember being able to live on tips.
So it's a good plan to do this job. You can make almost two salaries and declare only one.
I don't know the cost of living in Canada, but it seems correct 15$50 per hour.
Last summer I traveled to Germany, Austria and Italy. At checkout paid nothing but the bill. I might leave a Euro or two at the table and the wait staff was fine with that. It was so refreshing. When I do takeout I only pay the bill. I never tip. Here in Texas it has become so in your face with tipping. The card machines only display 15-20-25% options but I now figured out how to decline any tip. Once I was at a bakery in line getting a loaf of bread. At checkout there it was 15-20-25%. I declined without guilt. I am now a free man. I'm in my mid 70's so sue me.
I don't enjoy eating out anymore and this is part of the reason. I try to do everything I can myself.
This is why I don't eat out much, tired of all this tipping nonsense and I will pay in cash when I do. You are correct Nicole, most European and Asian countries find it an insult if you do tip. However when I had been stationed in Korea I found out if you tip the service improves greatly(Typically service had great to begin with) and they remember you so next time you visit you get the best seats and food in the restaurant. Unlike the USA when you tip service doesn't improve sometimes it gets worse. If I do pay by credit card at a restaurant, I will select "no tip" than hand the waitress/waiter a cash tip.
I've NEVER tipped take out food, and plan never to.
I went through an automatic carwash and the guy standing there doing absolutely nothing wanted a tip!
It’s not just tips, every time we make an in-store purchase we also are asked to donate to cancer, children’s cancer, save the pets, save the vets, etc and the list goes on. Then if that not bad enough I had a store that I go to occasionally ask me if I wanted to sign up for their “subscription program “ for $9.99 a month.
Where does it end?
I agree 100%. I love to visit the US but, it is expensive because my local currency is very weak so, I always carefully budget my trips. However, the tax is added on top of the cost and now they actually bully you into tipping. I only go to have a sit down dinner as a treat. I do not tip for take out or fast food either. As for Starbucks? No thanks. I would rather go get my cup of joe at a gas station which serves better coffee anyway.
This is one of many reasons I don't leave my house much and prepare all my own food. The other big one is all the terrible unhealthy ingredients/oils being used in abundance because they're cheaper.
I don't tip when asked to tip. I tip, when I'm happy with the service provided to me and if the person went beyond what's expected from him/her.
I’m in Ontario Canada too and I hate tipping, it’s but because I don’t like to give but it’s so obligatory now. I went for lunch and my bill was $13.45 and I gave her a $20 and let her keep the change, after I thought how much did I just tip her?? Ugh. Also I hate at the cash register anywhere you go they’re asking for donations for some charity, I stopped giving to those along time ago. I know that’s different from roping but still someone asking for our hard earned money.
I do agree it's very out of control! I live in Pennsylvania, and I stopped to top off my gas tank last night and put $10 in my tank. I was actually SURPRISED to see a full service station since that's only a thing in New Jersey, so I gave the guy a couple bucks. It was crazy to see, and I didnt mind, but in other places, tipping expectations is very high.
So glad you brought this up- I agree- I am doing restaurants, take out, etc much less, because I do not want the emotional blackmail-
I’m from the UK & it’s so different over here. We tip if we wish & certainly don’t if we get bad service. When we visited Florida in 2021 we were shocked about how often you need to tip- we expected to at table service but not for Ubers, quick service restaurant, etc. We had a money off voucher for a particular restaurant, when I mentioned it to the server his attitude changed as he assumed he’d get a lower tip. We tipped him based on the meal before the money off voucher as we were told Brits are known for bad tipping so felt pressured to prove we weren’t miserly. However we did find it crazy how we had to tip so much
I wouldn't know about this. I don't tip anymore
Did I say that you are a 1000% correct?!!!
Thank you for explaining it so precisely 👍